April 11, 2025 • 16 mins
For SURE, the most ANNOYING part of dating apps….. is all the wasted energy you put in, getting to know someone really ONE… Only to never ACTUALLY meet up with them in person… And our listener on the phone says he has a method to eliminate that headache…. You’ll hear it in your Second Date Update!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The second data date.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
If you ask me and Brook, you'll probably agree with this.
The dating world needs more ultimatums.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
No job, yes are not ever good.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Ever, I think maybe we need them because the more
listeners we talk to, everybody seems so indecisive, so wishy washy, like, oh,
maybe I'll date her, or maybe that other hot girl,
or maybe I'll just stick with my wife.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
I don't really know the fence here. Ultimatum suddenly sounding good?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, they stick to your wife?
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Like, what is happening the ultimatum?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
That's why I appreciate somebody who's actually willing to lay
all their cards down on the table and say this
is it.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Take it or leave it.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
And apparently that's how our listener, Dustin rolls ultimatum style.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Well that's the vibe I got from his email, Dustin,
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
Hey, how's it going, guys?
Speaker 5 (01:00):
You sound like such a nice guy for being such
a bad assholes made a maker?
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yeah, tell me if I was wrong.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
But it sounds like you like to play the dating
game a little bit more straightforward.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
Yeah, totally let's go, man. I mean I don't have
that much time left. I'm not going to sit down
and text all day.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Oh I want to do you do this?
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Here's my new rule. Now when I talk to people,
it's like, if I don't meet up with them right away,
it pretty much just kind of sizzles out.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Okay, I mean I can see how that could happen.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
If you don't do that, you'll get strung along for
weeks and months and maybe never even dating that person.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
What is right away to you? What does that mean?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Yeah? I think like forty eight to seventy two hours,
we should at least have like some kind of plan
to hang out. But like if that plan's not established,
and it's probably never gonna work out.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Okay, that's actually kind of a rule.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
I kind of like that rule, Like it's respecting everybody's time.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Yeah, dating runs on deadlines, and so that's good. Jess
you gave Jessica the dating deadline.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Well, I don't know. She I ended up just getting
her number and then I pretty much like kind of
took the conversation elsewhere off the app and then started
texting from there.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
I feel like that's an important step. So there is
the app. You don't open it, you know, you don't reply. Yeah,
I don't check this.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
So once it got off of the apps, how did
you and Jessica vibe?
Speaker 4 (02:18):
She's really really funny. So she pretty much was just
saying like, hey, one time, no chat.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Okay, okay. Did you turn it into an in person
date pretty quickly?
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Yeah, we went out for pizza. I love pizza. Oh
you want to know the crazy part about that?
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Yes, that's the only part I want to know.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Let's start with the crazy part first. Start there.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
She looked really different from the photo is that one
on the profile?
Speaker 6 (02:48):
Different?
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Not like a cat fish. I mean she was still
like super cute, like for sure, but like different different,
like different.
Speaker 5 (02:58):
Okay again, no, do you mean like she colored her
hair a different color.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Maybe a full face tattoo that wasn't there before.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
No, nothing like that, but that would have been like
totally cool.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Overall though you liked what you saw in person.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Yeah, she was cute. It was just different than what
I expected. But could this be my perspective? A lot
of the photos she had she was wearing sunglasses, so
it could be misjudged through that.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Oh yeah, sunglasses now cover like seventy percent of the
face they are, so now that we've covered the.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Crazy eyes, yeah, that was a crazy part.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Now that we've covered all the crazy parts of the date,
bring us to the boring, you know, mushy stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Oh yeah, yeah, that's my favorite. Jose wants to know
how the rest of the date went.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
Everything was normal about the date, but then there was
like this one part that was really weird.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Oh okay, going back to crazy again.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
It wasn't like super crazy, but it was just like
one of those another different things than I thought.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Okay, what happened?
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Well, on her profile, like she talks about like pilates,
and a bunch of like pilates stuff is on her profile,
all right, Yeah, so I was kind of I thought
that was kind of cool about her. But every time
I would talk to her about pilates, I swear she
would just kept redirecting the conversation into something else.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Huh.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
So it's either, like, you know, it feels like she
either lied on her bio or you're talking to a
different person than what you're thinking.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
That's what I think. But I mean, are you confusing girls.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
About Alexis you put stuff in your profile that you
don't actually care much about. It's more of like a
I love sports.
Speaker 5 (04:42):
I do like a collegiate athletes more athletic than you, Jack.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
But she also says that she enjoys baseball even though
she thinks it has a halftime in.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Enjoyed the half times in the game, not halftime after
instruction the second inning. Y.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
I'm just saying maybe she isn't fully into pilates as
much as she claims on her way.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Easier to put on there yea, And I will.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
Say there is there is a phenomenon right now that
if you aren't a die hard fan of something, you're
not allowed to say that you like it.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
You know, how long has it been since you last
spoke to Jessica.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
It's been like six days.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Oh no, which is a long time.
Speaker 5 (05:25):
When you were moving so quick, you know, you had
a pacing going, and it's dead.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
I don't understand because we both had such a great time.
She said she had a great time. I had a
great time.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
You know, let's try and keep the great times going.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And we come back and we give this girl another ultimatum, saying,
I am it's either go out with Dustin now or
lose him forever.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
Well, that's always the Yeah, that's just like or not.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
It just sounds more scary if you say ultimatum, We're
gonna come back and do it.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
With your second date right after this hold on.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Today's second date update begs the question can you fully
trust what you see in someone's dating profile, because our
listener Dustin met up with a woman from Bumble who
looked a little different than her picture.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
Not bad though, just different.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah, like a good, good different.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
And even though her bio talked about pilates a lot,
she didn't really want to discuss it much on their date,
which is.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Kind of strange.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
But to be fair, my old dating profile said I'm Jewish,
but any woman who met up with me would discover
I'm not kosher and not good with money, so probably
equally confusing that.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
That's a really good point, Jeff.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, I mean you can't trust it fully from the
dating profile. The good news is Dustin, despite the differences,
really had a good time with her. He felt like
they vibed in ways he hasn't in the two years
that he has spent on this happ before.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
God, I really want this to work out for you,
justin just because you have put in the time and
the effort and you seem like a good guy.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Thanks, a lot, Brooke, I really do appreciate that about Youah.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Oh, you appreciate that she compliments you well her her
fingers are crossed right now when she said that.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
So, yes, you wanted to tell everybody everything.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Okay, I feel like there is some part of Brook
that really is rooting for you today, jess Yeah, I am.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
I think this is going to be a simple like
miscommunication or something, you know.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
I mean, yeah, possibly, I mean, I don't know, as
long as you guys get me another date.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah, all right, all right, Well, let's style Jessica right now.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
We'll see if she picks up and hopefully has a
simple explanation for why she hasn't hit you back.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Callin her right now. Here we go, huo, hey is
this Jessica?
Speaker 7 (07:49):
Yeah, huh hey, Jill.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
She's so cute.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
I know.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
It's so nice to talk to someone who's like positive
and perky. When we're talk to them. Because we're doing
a second date update, most of our listeners are like,
who is this?
Speaker 6 (08:02):
Yeah, I'm sorry?
Speaker 4 (08:04):
What? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Sorr threw a lot at you. We're a radio show
called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning, which you're on
right now. Congratulations, Hi, Okay, Hi, and this segment is
called second date Update. I don't know if you've heard
it before, but it's a thing where if somebody blows
you off and you're not sure why, we can try
to call that person for you to maybe figure out
(08:28):
if there's a reason for it.
Speaker 6 (08:31):
Okay, I didn't blow anyone off.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
What Yeah, I.
Speaker 5 (08:37):
Mean, I guess talking she said sick. I mean he
said six days. So maybe that's not blowing someone off
to you. Maybe that's not enough time.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Yeah, because six days ago you went out with a
guy who, at least according to him, felt like you
had a really good connection. Afterwards, he feels like you've
been pulling away a little bit. His name is Dustin.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Oh my gosh, I forgot about that one.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Huh gosh.
Speaker 6 (09:05):
I'm not trying to blow him off. I just don't
know what to do.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
I think it's pretty simple. You should text him and
go out with him again.
Speaker 6 (09:13):
No. I mean, like, I don't know how much she
told you or what you know, but I actually matched
with Dustin a year and a half ago.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
A year and a half he said that you guys
just met on the app.
Speaker 6 (09:26):
And that you Yeah, So when I got a text
from him like a week ago. I was kind of
confused because it was like, wait, this is weird, just
kind of out of the blue. But I was just
like whatever, and I was just like, long time no chat.
Speaker 5 (09:39):
Oh yeah, he said that you made a joke that
you were joking because you had just been chatting with him.
Speaker 6 (09:45):
It wasn't a joke. It really was a long time.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Oh my god, I'm confused.
Speaker 5 (09:51):
So you hadn't talked to Dustin in a year and
a half on an app at all, is what you're saying.
Speaker 6 (09:57):
Right, it was just a year and a half ago.
He never replied to one of my texts and then
all of a sudden, yeah, I get a text from him.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
And then you guys went to pizza, right, You didn't
meet up, right?
Speaker 6 (10:08):
We got pizza, And I was kind of like, I
wonder why all of a sudden he wants to talk
to me now. But I was like, I remember he
and I got along really well on Bubble, and so
I was just like, yeah, sure, let's get pizza, and
is it na.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Cooma for a year and a half and he doesn't remember.
He went from the a yes, he met a year
and a half.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
And that seems like a big miscommunication.
Speaker 7 (10:28):
What about that it has to be the same person,
it's the same He kept talking about Pilates and how
like he kept asking about it, and I was like plate,
He's like, I don't have that in my bioen.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
That's the other girl. Oh no.
Speaker 6 (10:43):
But then I was like, oh my gosh, Jessica is
a really common name and thinking about it, and I
was like, oh, shoot.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
You think that he went out with the wrong Jessica
or texted the wrong Jessica in his fam.
Speaker 6 (10:58):
I mean, like it it could have been another Jessica
from Bumble.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Wait. Wait, then you have him as Dustin Bumble. He
probably has multiple Jessica Bumbles. That makes so much sense.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Did you have fun with them?
Speaker 4 (11:10):
I did?
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Yeah, No, I had a lot of fun with them,
even though you had to keep dodging his questions about Pilates.
Speaker 5 (11:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (11:17):
I mean, honestly, I didn't know what to say. I
was kind of embarrassed, but like, we were really enjoying ourselves.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
So this makes sense why Dustin told us that she
didn't look like the pictures from the girl that he
matched with a.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Couple of weeks.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
Wait he said that.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
Yeah, but he added that you were super cute. Oh,
it's not like it was a disappointment. I think that's
important to know.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I also say, you're both in the same spot, because
he's like, I don't know where to go from here,
and she just said I don't know where to go
from here.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Yeah, they're both in limbo. This is kind of perfect. Well, yeah,
I guess that's it. Sorry, well, no tell.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Her, Jeff tell her. She doesn't know how to tell him,
and now she doesn't even have to.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I guess the other option is, if you are interested.
Dustin has been listening to this call on the other
phone line.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Yeah, he knows everything.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Oh my gosh, if he hasn't fainted already, Dustin you there.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Holy I can't believe this happened. I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
Wait, you guys were talking about it. I was looking
through my phone and I saw all the different Jessica bumbles.
Speaker 6 (12:25):
Oh how many Jessica's even talking to?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
I mean, I'm embarrassed, though, I mean, I'm I'm so sorry.
Speaker 6 (12:39):
Yeah, when you kept bringing up Pilates, I was like,
what why did he bringing this up? Like, did you
want to see a move? Like, I wasn't through what
you're talking about.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
But I know, I know now. I just I thought
it was very interesting at the time. That's all.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
He was only asking because he thought that you were
super interested in it. But that was a different Jessica Bumble.
Speaker 5 (13:01):
I mean, now you need to maybe tell him what
are your hobbies and interest because he has no idea.
Speaker 6 (13:07):
I actually love soccer and I love hiking, and I
speak a little French, and.
Speaker 4 (13:14):
Yeah, I think I remember that from a year and
a half.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Ago, or was that the other Jessica Bumble Like Jessica
Bumble number four.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Well, oh that's right.
Speaker 5 (13:24):
You could have saved so much time and headache in
your life if you would have just gone out a
year and a half ago.
Speaker 4 (13:32):
Brook, You're so right again. I'm just such an idiot.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Women do like hearing that, So that's a good thing
for you to start saying. So, now that we've cleared
up the big misunderstanding and you realize who each other are,
you like each other at least it seems that way
from our perspective, We'd like to offer to send you
out on another date, Jessica, and we would pay for
it if you say yes.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
Maybe this could be like a mistake that was meant
to be.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
Oh, I see that. You need to turn it around.
Come on, Dustin.
Speaker 6 (14:04):
I want to hear something from Dustin, and depending on
what he says, maybe.
Speaker 4 (14:08):
I'll say yes, Oh, what is it.
Speaker 6 (14:12):
Out of all this? Jessica's which one do you like best?
Speaker 1 (14:17):
If you tough an answer here, he's like Jessica.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Eighteen, Well, to be honest. Look to be honest, Jessica,
You're the only Jessica I had a real connection with
all the other Jessicas I never even hung out with.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Look at that, you're the.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
You're the only one that would talk to me. He's
too honest. Did that answer your question? Jessica?
Speaker 6 (14:39):
It did. Yeah, I'll go out again.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
I think they're so cute.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Well, congratulations you two. You're going out again, and it's
probably a good lesson for you.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Dustin. You got to put the year that you matched
with the.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Person next to their names in your contact I'm always.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Like to I'm hoping after this he doesn't have any
more matches. This is it.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
I think after this, I'm not going to use the
dating apps for a while.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Yeah, after two years, Bro, you need a break.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Yes, Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
See that's why we do the second date updates. Jessica
said she didn't know what to do.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
She was caught mid date with a guy who thought
that she was somebody else.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
God that is so it's my worst nightmare.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
It would be a turnoff obviously, but it was like
super awkward, Like, how do you even bring that up?
Speaker 1 (15:30):
The thing is that she wasn't a total stranger.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
They'd matched eighteen months before then, and like we heard,
they seem to be actually pretty cute together.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
I mean, sometimes it's all about timing, you know. Maybe
eighteen months ago he would have thought, oh, I just
got on.
Speaker 5 (15:44):
The dating apps, it's gonna be awesome, And then now
he's two years in, he's like, wait, it's not yah.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
Is there a part of me that thinks Dustin is
texting the other Jessica right now, the one that he
ghosted a week ago?
Speaker 3 (15:56):
How dare you even bring that up?
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Let's remember he is a guy and we're addicted to
the chase. Hey, hopefully he can just focus on the
current Jessica and the good thing that they have going.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Why would you even put that in his head? If
he's listening, if you're.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Listening, change the other Jessica's to do, not text.
Speaker 3 (16:14):
Yeah, or just for now, just delete their number. That's
even easier.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
You never know, never say never yeah, but remember you
can listen to all of our Second Date updates on Spotify, Apple,
or wherever you get your podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey
The second data date.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
If you ask me and Brook, you'll probably agree with this.
The dating world needs more ultimatums.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
No job, yes are not ever good.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Ever, I think maybe we need them because the more
listeners we talk to, everybody seems so indecisive, so wishy washy, like, oh,
maybe I'll date her, or maybe that other hot girl,
or maybe I'll just stick with my wife.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
I don't really know the fence here. Ultimatum suddenly sounding good?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, they stick to your wife?
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Like, what is happening the ultimatum?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
That's why I appreciate somebody who's actually willing to lay
all their cards down on the table and say this
is it.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Take it or leave it.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
And apparently that's how our listener, Dustin rolls ultimatum style.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Well that's the vibe I got from his email, Dustin,
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
Hey, how's it going, guys?
Speaker 5 (01:00):
You sound like such a nice guy for being such
a bad assholes made a maker?
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yeah, tell me if I was wrong.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
But it sounds like you like to play the dating
game a little bit more straightforward.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
Yeah, totally let's go, man. I mean I don't have
that much time left. I'm not going to sit down
and text all day.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Oh I want to do you do this?
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Here's my new rule. Now when I talk to people,
it's like, if I don't meet up with them right away,
it pretty much just kind of sizzles out.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Okay, I mean I can see how that could happen.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
If you don't do that, you'll get strung along for
weeks and months and maybe never even dating that person.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
What is right away to you? What does that mean?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Yeah? I think like forty eight to seventy two hours,
we should at least have like some kind of plan
to hang out. But like if that plan's not established,
and it's probably never gonna work out.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Okay, that's actually kind of a rule.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
I kind of like that rule, Like it's respecting everybody's time.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Yeah, dating runs on deadlines, and so that's good. Jess
you gave Jessica the dating deadline.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Well, I don't know. She I ended up just getting
her number and then I pretty much like kind of
took the conversation elsewhere off the app and then started
texting from there.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
I feel like that's an important step. So there is
the app. You don't open it, you know, you don't reply. Yeah,
I don't check this.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
So once it got off of the apps, how did
you and Jessica vibe?
Speaker 4 (02:18):
She's really really funny. So she pretty much was just
saying like, hey, one time, no chat.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Okay, okay. Did you turn it into an in person
date pretty quickly?
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Yeah, we went out for pizza. I love pizza. Oh
you want to know the crazy part about that?
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Yes, that's the only part I want to know.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Let's start with the crazy part first. Start there.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
She looked really different from the photo is that one
on the profile?
Speaker 6 (02:48):
Different?
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Not like a cat fish. I mean she was still
like super cute, like for sure, but like different different,
like different.
Speaker 5 (02:58):
Okay again, no, do you mean like she colored her
hair a different color.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Maybe a full face tattoo that wasn't there before.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
No, nothing like that, but that would have been like
totally cool.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Overall though you liked what you saw in person.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Yeah, she was cute. It was just different than what
I expected. But could this be my perspective? A lot
of the photos she had she was wearing sunglasses, so
it could be misjudged through that.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Oh yeah, sunglasses now cover like seventy percent of the
face they are, so now that we've covered the.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Crazy eyes, yeah, that was a crazy part.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Now that we've covered all the crazy parts of the date,
bring us to the boring, you know, mushy stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Oh yeah, yeah, that's my favorite. Jose wants to know
how the rest of the date went.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
Everything was normal about the date, but then there was
like this one part that was really weird.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Oh okay, going back to crazy again.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
It wasn't like super crazy, but it was just like
one of those another different things than I thought.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Okay, what happened?
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Well, on her profile, like she talks about like pilates,
and a bunch of like pilates stuff is on her profile,
all right, Yeah, so I was kind of I thought
that was kind of cool about her. But every time
I would talk to her about pilates, I swear she
would just kept redirecting the conversation into something else.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Huh.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
So it's either, like, you know, it feels like she
either lied on her bio or you're talking to a
different person than what you're thinking.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
That's what I think. But I mean, are you confusing girls.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
About Alexis you put stuff in your profile that you
don't actually care much about. It's more of like a
I love sports.
Speaker 5 (04:42):
I do like a collegiate athletes more athletic than you, Jack.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
But she also says that she enjoys baseball even though
she thinks it has a halftime in.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Enjoyed the half times in the game, not halftime after
instruction the second inning. Y.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
I'm just saying maybe she isn't fully into pilates as
much as she claims on her way.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Easier to put on there yea, And I will.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
Say there is there is a phenomenon right now that
if you aren't a die hard fan of something, you're
not allowed to say that you like it.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
You know, how long has it been since you last
spoke to Jessica.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
It's been like six days.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Oh no, which is a long time.
Speaker 5 (05:25):
When you were moving so quick, you know, you had
a pacing going, and it's dead.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
I don't understand because we both had such a great time.
She said she had a great time. I had a
great time.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
You know, let's try and keep the great times going.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And we come back and we give this girl another ultimatum, saying,
I am it's either go out with Dustin now or
lose him forever.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
Well, that's always the Yeah, that's just like or not.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
It just sounds more scary if you say ultimatum, We're
gonna come back and do it.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
With your second date right after this hold on.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Today's second date update begs the question can you fully
trust what you see in someone's dating profile, because our
listener Dustin met up with a woman from Bumble who
looked a little different than her picture.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
Not bad though, just different.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah, like a good, good different.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
And even though her bio talked about pilates a lot,
she didn't really want to discuss it much on their date,
which is.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Kind of strange.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
But to be fair, my old dating profile said I'm Jewish,
but any woman who met up with me would discover
I'm not kosher and not good with money, so probably
equally confusing that.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
That's a really good point, Jeff.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, I mean you can't trust it fully from the
dating profile. The good news is Dustin, despite the differences,
really had a good time with her. He felt like
they vibed in ways he hasn't in the two years
that he has spent on this happ before.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
God, I really want this to work out for you,
justin just because you have put in the time and
the effort and you seem like a good guy.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Thanks, a lot, Brooke, I really do appreciate that about Youah.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Oh, you appreciate that she compliments you well her her
fingers are crossed right now when she said that.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
So, yes, you wanted to tell everybody everything.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Okay, I feel like there is some part of Brook
that really is rooting for you today, jess Yeah, I am.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
I think this is going to be a simple like
miscommunication or something, you know.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
I mean, yeah, possibly, I mean, I don't know, as
long as you guys get me another date.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah, all right, all right, Well, let's style Jessica right now.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
We'll see if she picks up and hopefully has a
simple explanation for why she hasn't hit you back.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Callin her right now. Here we go, huo, hey is
this Jessica?
Speaker 7 (07:49):
Yeah, huh hey, Jill.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
She's so cute.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
I know.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
It's so nice to talk to someone who's like positive
and perky. When we're talk to them. Because we're doing
a second date update, most of our listeners are like,
who is this?
Speaker 6 (08:02):
Yeah, I'm sorry?
Speaker 4 (08:04):
What? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Sorr threw a lot at you. We're a radio show
called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning, which you're on
right now. Congratulations, Hi, Okay, Hi, and this segment is
called second date Update. I don't know if you've heard
it before, but it's a thing where if somebody blows
you off and you're not sure why, we can try
to call that person for you to maybe figure out
(08:28):
if there's a reason for it.
Speaker 6 (08:31):
Okay, I didn't blow anyone off.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
What Yeah, I.
Speaker 5 (08:37):
Mean, I guess talking she said sick. I mean he
said six days. So maybe that's not blowing someone off
to you. Maybe that's not enough time.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Yeah, because six days ago you went out with a
guy who, at least according to him, felt like you
had a really good connection. Afterwards, he feels like you've
been pulling away a little bit. His name is Dustin.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Oh my gosh, I forgot about that one.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Huh gosh.
Speaker 6 (09:05):
I'm not trying to blow him off. I just don't
know what to do.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
I think it's pretty simple. You should text him and
go out with him again.
Speaker 6 (09:13):
No. I mean, like, I don't know how much she
told you or what you know, but I actually matched
with Dustin a year and a half ago.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
A year and a half he said that you guys
just met on the app.
Speaker 6 (09:26):
And that you Yeah, So when I got a text
from him like a week ago. I was kind of
confused because it was like, wait, this is weird, just
kind of out of the blue. But I was just
like whatever, and I was just like, long time no chat.
Speaker 5 (09:39):
Oh yeah, he said that you made a joke that
you were joking because you had just been chatting with him.
Speaker 6 (09:45):
It wasn't a joke. It really was a long time.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Oh my god, I'm confused.
Speaker 5 (09:51):
So you hadn't talked to Dustin in a year and
a half on an app at all, is what you're saying.
Speaker 6 (09:57):
Right, it was just a year and a half ago.
He never replied to one of my texts and then
all of a sudden, yeah, I get a text from him.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
And then you guys went to pizza, right, You didn't
meet up, right?
Speaker 6 (10:08):
We got pizza, And I was kind of like, I
wonder why all of a sudden he wants to talk
to me now. But I was like, I remember he
and I got along really well on Bubble, and so
I was just like, yeah, sure, let's get pizza, and
is it na.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Cooma for a year and a half and he doesn't remember.
He went from the a yes, he met a year
and a half.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
And that seems like a big miscommunication.
Speaker 7 (10:28):
What about that it has to be the same person,
it's the same He kept talking about Pilates and how
like he kept asking about it, and I was like plate,
He's like, I don't have that in my bioen.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
That's the other girl. Oh no.
Speaker 6 (10:43):
But then I was like, oh my gosh, Jessica is
a really common name and thinking about it, and I
was like, oh, shoot.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
You think that he went out with the wrong Jessica
or texted the wrong Jessica in his fam.
Speaker 6 (10:58):
I mean, like it it could have been another Jessica
from Bumble.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Wait. Wait, then you have him as Dustin Bumble. He
probably has multiple Jessica Bumbles. That makes so much sense.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Did you have fun with them?
Speaker 4 (11:10):
I did?
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Yeah, No, I had a lot of fun with them,
even though you had to keep dodging his questions about Pilates.
Speaker 5 (11:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (11:17):
I mean, honestly, I didn't know what to say. I
was kind of embarrassed, but like, we were really enjoying ourselves.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
So this makes sense why Dustin told us that she
didn't look like the pictures from the girl that he
matched with a.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Couple of weeks.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
Wait he said that.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
Yeah, but he added that you were super cute. Oh,
it's not like it was a disappointment. I think that's
important to know.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I also say, you're both in the same spot, because
he's like, I don't know where to go from here,
and she just said I don't know where to go
from here.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Yeah, they're both in limbo. This is kind of perfect. Well, yeah,
I guess that's it. Sorry, well, no tell.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Her, Jeff tell her. She doesn't know how to tell him,
and now she doesn't even have to.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I guess the other option is, if you are interested.
Dustin has been listening to this call on the other
phone line.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Yeah, he knows everything.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Oh my gosh, if he hasn't fainted already, Dustin you there.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Holy I can't believe this happened. I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
Wait, you guys were talking about it. I was looking
through my phone and I saw all the different Jessica bumbles.
Speaker 6 (12:25):
Oh how many Jessica's even talking to?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
I mean, I'm embarrassed, though, I mean, I'm I'm so sorry.
Speaker 6 (12:39):
Yeah, when you kept bringing up Pilates, I was like,
what why did he bringing this up? Like, did you
want to see a move? Like, I wasn't through what
you're talking about.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
But I know, I know now. I just I thought
it was very interesting at the time. That's all.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
He was only asking because he thought that you were
super interested in it. But that was a different Jessica Bumble.
Speaker 5 (13:01):
I mean, now you need to maybe tell him what
are your hobbies and interest because he has no idea.
Speaker 6 (13:07):
I actually love soccer and I love hiking, and I
speak a little French, and.
Speaker 4 (13:14):
Yeah, I think I remember that from a year and
a half.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Ago, or was that the other Jessica Bumble Like Jessica
Bumble number four.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Well, oh that's right.
Speaker 5 (13:24):
You could have saved so much time and headache in
your life if you would have just gone out a
year and a half ago.
Speaker 4 (13:32):
Brook, You're so right again. I'm just such an idiot.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Women do like hearing that, So that's a good thing
for you to start saying. So, now that we've cleared
up the big misunderstanding and you realize who each other are,
you like each other at least it seems that way
from our perspective, We'd like to offer to send you
out on another date, Jessica, and we would pay for
it if you say yes.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
Maybe this could be like a mistake that was meant
to be.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
Oh, I see that. You need to turn it around.
Come on, Dustin.
Speaker 6 (14:04):
I want to hear something from Dustin, and depending on
what he says, maybe.
Speaker 4 (14:08):
I'll say yes, Oh, what is it.
Speaker 6 (14:12):
Out of all this? Jessica's which one do you like best?
Speaker 1 (14:17):
If you tough an answer here, he's like Jessica.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Eighteen, Well, to be honest. Look to be honest, Jessica,
You're the only Jessica I had a real connection with
all the other Jessicas I never even hung out with.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Look at that, you're the.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
You're the only one that would talk to me. He's
too honest. Did that answer your question? Jessica?
Speaker 6 (14:39):
It did. Yeah, I'll go out again.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
I think they're so cute.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Well, congratulations you two. You're going out again, and it's
probably a good lesson for you.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Dustin. You got to put the year that you matched
with the.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Person next to their names in your contact I'm always.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Like to I'm hoping after this he doesn't have any
more matches. This is it.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
I think after this, I'm not going to use the
dating apps for a while.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Yeah, after two years, Bro, you need a break.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Yes, Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
See that's why we do the second date updates. Jessica
said she didn't know what to do.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
She was caught mid date with a guy who thought
that she was somebody else.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
God that is so it's my worst nightmare.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
It would be a turnoff obviously, but it was like
super awkward, Like, how do you even bring that up?
Speaker 1 (15:30):
The thing is that she wasn't a total stranger.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
They'd matched eighteen months before then, and like we heard,
they seem to be actually pretty cute together.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
I mean, sometimes it's all about timing, you know. Maybe
eighteen months ago he would have thought, oh, I just
got on.
Speaker 5 (15:44):
The dating apps, it's gonna be awesome, And then now
he's two years in, he's like, wait, it's not yah.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
Is there a part of me that thinks Dustin is
texting the other Jessica right now, the one that he
ghosted a week ago?
Speaker 3 (15:56):
How dare you even bring that up?
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Let's remember he is a guy and we're addicted to
the chase. Hey, hopefully he can just focus on the
current Jessica and the good thing that they have going.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Why would you even put that in his head? If
he's listening, if you're.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Listening, change the other Jessica's to do, not text.
Speaker 3 (16:14):
Yeah, or just for now, just delete their number. That's
even easier.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
You never know, never say never yeah, but remember you
can listen to all of our Second Date updates on Spotify, Apple,
or wherever you get your podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey
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