December 17, 2025 • 17 mins
The most annoying part of dating apps is all the wasted energy you put in, only to never actually meet up in person… But our listener on the phone says he has a method to eliminate that headache!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We've counted, we've talented, and we came up with some numbers.
All right, Yeah, the top ten second date updates of
twenty twenty five. These are the most downloaded, the most loved,
the most commented on.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Yay, So they came up with the numbers.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Yeah, he did, got it, got it stretch for us, Yes,
but today we're on to number eight in our countdown.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
And for sure, the most annoying part of the dating
apps isn't the constant scrolling or the inappropriate DMS, or
even coming across Brooks secret cougar match profile again and
again and again.
Speaker 5 (00:33):
I don't have that, Jeff.
Speaker 6 (00:37):
Every time.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
The thing is, it's all the wasted energy you have
to put in getting to know somebody only to never
actually meet up with them in person. And one of
our listeners is on the phone saying he's been there
way too many times. So now he has a method
to eliminate that headache for good.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
You're gonna hear it in your number eight second date
update of the year. Yeah, next second date of day.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
If you ask me and Brook you'll probably agree with this.
The dating world needs more ultimatums.
Speaker 5 (01:11):
No job, yes, no, not ever.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Good.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
I think maybe we need them because the more listeners
we talk to, everybody seems so indecisive, so wishy washy, like,
oh maybe I'll date her, or maybe that other hot girl,
or maybe I'll just stick with my wife.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I don't really know what fence here? Ultimatum suddenly sounding good?
Speaker 5 (01:36):
Stick to your wife? What is happening?
Speaker 4 (01:40):
That's why I appreciate somebody who's actually willing to lay
all their cards down on the table and say this
is it, Take it or leave it. And apparently that's
how our listener, Dustin rolls ultimatum style.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Well that's the vibe I got from his email, Dustin,
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 6 (01:59):
Hey, how's it going on?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
You sound like such a nice guy for being such
a badasshole.
Speaker 5 (02:04):
It's a made a maker.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Yeah, tell me if I was wrong.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
But it sounds like you like to play the dating
game a little bit more straightforward.
Speaker 6 (02:11):
Yeah, totally, let's go, man. I mean I don't have
that much time left. I'm not going to sit down
and text all day.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Okay, what I want to extend?
Speaker 7 (02:20):
Do you do this?
Speaker 6 (02:20):
Here's my new rule. Now when I talk to people,
it's like if I don't meet up with them, right away,
it pretty much just kind of sizzles out.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (02:28):
I mean I can see how that could happen.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
If you don't do that, you'll get strung along for
weeks and months and maybe never even any person.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
What is right away to you? What does that mean?
Speaker 6 (02:38):
Yeah? I think like forty eight to seventy two hours,
we should at least have like some kind of plan
to hang out. But like if that plan's not established,
and it's probably never gonna work out.
Speaker 7 (02:47):
Okay, that's actually kind of a rule.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I kind of like that rule, like it's respecting everybody's time.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Yeah, dating runs on deadlines, and so that's good. Jess
you gave Jessica the dating deadline?
Speaker 6 (02:59):
Well, I don't know. She I ended up just getting
her number and then I pretty much like kind of
took the conversation elsewhere off the app and then started
texting from there.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
I feel like that's an important step because otherwise the app,
you don't open it, you know, you don't reply check.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
So once it got off of the apps, how did
you and Jessica vibe?
Speaker 6 (03:19):
She's really really funny, So she pretty much was just saying, like, hey,
one time, no chat.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Okay, Okay, did you turn it into an in person
date pretty quickly?
Speaker 6 (03:30):
Yeah, we went out for pizza. I love pizza. Oh
you want to know the crazy part about that?
Speaker 5 (03:37):
Yes, that's the only part I want to know.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
We'll start with the crazy part first. Start there.
Speaker 6 (03:44):
She looked really different from the photos that one on
the profile. Different, not like a cat fish. I mean
she was still like super cute, like for sure, but
like different, different, like different.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Wait again, no, do you mean like she colored her
hair a different color.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Maybe a full face tattoo that wasn't there before.
Speaker 6 (04:09):
No, nothing like that, but that would have been like
totally cool.
Speaker 4 (04:12):
Okay, overall though you liked what you saw in person.
Speaker 6 (04:18):
Yeah, she was cute, it was just different than what
I expected. But could this be my perspective? A lot
of the photos she had she was wearing sunglasses, so
it could be misjudged through that.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
Oh yeah, sunglasses now cover like seventy percent of the
face they are.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
So now that we've covered.
Speaker 5 (04:36):
The crazy eyes, that was the crazy part.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Now that we've covered all the crazy parts of the date,
bring us to the boring, you know, mushy stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Oh yeah, yeah, that's my favorite. Jose wants to know
how the rest of the date went.
Speaker 6 (04:48):
Everything was normal about the date, but then there was
like this one part that was really weird.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Oh okay, going back to crazy again.
Speaker 6 (04:55):
It wasn't like super crazy, but it was just like
one of those another different things.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
And I thought, okay, what happened.
Speaker 6 (05:03):
Well, on her profile, like she talks about like pilates,
and a bunch of like Pilates stuff is on her profile,
all right, Yeah, so I was kind of I thought
that was kind of cool about her. But every time
I would talk to her about Pilates, I swear she
would just kept redirecting the conversation into something else.
Speaker 5 (05:22):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
So it's either like you no, it feels like she
either lied on her bio or you're talking to a
different person than what you're thinking.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
That's what.
Speaker 5 (05:33):
I mean confusing girls.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
But Alexis you put stuff in your profile that you
don't actually care much about.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
It's more of like a I love sports. I do
like a.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Collegiate athletes, more athletic than you, Jack.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
But she also says that she enjoys baseball even though
she thinks it has a halftime. I enjoyed the half
times in the game accurate halftime in the second inning, Jen,
I'm just saying maybe she isn't fully into pilates as
much as she claims on.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Easier to put on there.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, and I will say there is there is a
phenomenon right now that if you aren't a die hard
fan of something, you're not allowed to say that you
like it.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
How long has it been since you last spoke to Jessica.
Speaker 6 (06:22):
It's been like six days.
Speaker 5 (06:24):
Oh no, which is a long time.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
When you were moving so quick, you know, you had
a pacing going, and it's dead.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
I don't understand because we both had such a great time.
She said she had a great time. I had a
great time. You know.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Let's try and keep the great times going.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
And we come back and we give this girl another ultimatum, saying,
I am it's either go out with Dustin now or
lose him forever.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
Well that's always the Yeah, that's just like or not.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Yeah, it just sounds more scary if you say ultimatum.
We're going to come back and do it with your
second date right.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
After this one.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Today's second date update begs the question can you fully
trust what you see in someone's dating profile? Because our
listener Dustin met up with a woman from Bumble who
looked a little different than her picture.
Speaker 5 (07:16):
Not bad though, just different.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yeah, like a good, good different.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
And even though her bio talked about pilates a lot,
she didn't really want to discuss it much on their date,
which is.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Kind of strange.
Speaker 4 (07:28):
To be fair, My old dating profile said I'm Jewish,
but any woman who met up with me would discover
I'm not kosher and not good with money, so probably
equally confusing. That's a really good point, Jeff, Yeah, I
mean you can't trust it fully from the dating profile.
The good news is Dustin, despite the differences, really had
(07:50):
a good time with her. He felt like they vibed
in ways he hasn't in the two years that he
has spent on this half before.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
God, I really want this to work out for you,
justin just because you've put in the time and the
effort and you seem like a good guy.
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Yeah, thanks a lot, Brooke. I really do appreciate that
about Youah.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Oh, you appreciate that she compliments you well her her
fingers are crossed right now when she said that.
Speaker 5 (08:12):
So yeah, you wanted to tell everybody everything.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
Okay, God, I feel like there is some part of Brook,
that really is rooting for you today.
Speaker 5 (08:19):
Jess Yeah, I am.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I think this is going to be a simple like
miscommunication or something.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
You know, I mean, yeah, possibly, I mean, I don't know,
as long as you guys get me another date.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yeah, all right, all right, Well, let's style Jessica right now.
We'll see if she picks up and hopefully has a
simple explanation for why she hasn't hit you back colin
her right now here we go.
Speaker 7 (08:47):
Huo, hey is this Jessica?
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (08:51):
Hey, Joe, she's so cute. I know.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
It's so nice to talk to someone who's like positive
and perky when we're talking to them. Because we're doing
a second Date Update.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Most of our listeners are like, who is this?
Speaker 5 (09:03):
Yeah, I'm sorry what.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Yeah, Sorr, I've got threw a lot at you. We're
a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning,
which you're on right now. Congratulations. Hi, okay, Hi, And
this segment is called second Date Update. I don't know
if you've heard it before, but it's a thing where
if somebody blows you off and you're not sure why,
we can try to call that person for you to
(09:28):
maybe figure out if there's a reason for it.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Okay, I didn't blow anyone off.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
What Yeah, I mean I guess talking she said sick.
I mean he said six days. So maybe that's not
blowing someone off to you. Maybe that's not enough time.
Speaker 4 (09:45):
Yeah, because six days ago you went out with a
guy who, at least according to him, felt like you
had a really good connection. Afterwards, he feels like you've
been pulling away a little bit.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
His name is Dustin.
Speaker 6 (09:58):
Oh my gosh, I.
Speaker 5 (09:59):
Forgot about that one. Huh.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
I'm not trying to blow him off. I just don't
know what to do.
Speaker 5 (10:11):
I think it's pretty simple. You should text him and
go out with him again.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
No, I mean, like I don't know how much she
told you or what you know. But I actually matched
with Dustin a year and a half ago.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
A year and a half, he said that you guys
just met on the app.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
And that you Yeah. So when I got a text
from him like a week ago, I was kind of
confused because it was like, wait, this is weird, just
kind of out of the blue. But I was just
like whatever, and I was just like, long time to chat.
Speaker 5 (10:40):
Oh yeah. He said that you made a joke that
you were joking because you had just been chatting with him.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
It wasn't a joke. It really was a long time.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Oh my god, confused.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
So you hadn't talked to Dustin in a year and
a half on an app at all, is what you're saying.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Right, it was just a half ago. You never replied
to one of my texts, and then all of a sudden, Yeah,
I get a text from him.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
And then you guys went to pizza, right, you did
meet up?
Speaker 6 (11:08):
Right?
Speaker 3 (11:09):
We got pizza, And I was kind of like, I
wonder why all of a sudden he wants to talk
to me now, But I was like, I remember he
and I got along really well on Bumble, and so
I was just like, yeah, sure, let's get pizza.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
And is it you're in a coma for a year
and a half and he doesn't remember told us he
went from the ap to that, Yes, he made a
year and a half.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
And that seems like a big miscommunication. What about that?
Speaker 5 (11:30):
It has to be the same person.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
It's the same He kept talking about pilates and how
like he kept asking about it, and I was like plate,
He's like, I don't have that in my bio.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
That's the other girl.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
Yeah. Oh no, But then I was like, oh my gosh,
Jessica is a really common name and thinking about it,
and I was like, oh, shoot.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
You think that he went out with the wrong Jessica
or texted the wrong Jessica in his fea.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
I mean, it makes sense.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
It could have been another Jessica from Bumble.
Speaker 6 (12:04):
Wait.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
Wait, then you have him as Dustin Bumble.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
He probably has multiple Jessica Bumbles. That makes so much sense.
Speaker 5 (12:09):
Did you have fun with them? I did?
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Yeah, No, I had a lot of fun with him,
even though you had to keep dodging his questions about pilates.
Speaker 6 (12:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
I mean, honestly, I didn't know what to say. I
was kind of embarrassed, but like, we were really enjoying ourselves.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
So this makes sense why Dustin told us that she
didn't look like the pictures from the girl that he
matched with a.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Couple of weeks.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Wait he said that, yeah, but he added that you
were super cute. Oh, it's not like it was a disappointment.
I think that's important to know.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
I also say, you're both in the same spot, because
he's like, I don't know where to go from here,
and she just said, I don't know where to go
from here.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Yeah, they're both in limbo.
Speaker 7 (12:49):
This is kind of perfect.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Well, yeah, I guess that's it. Sorry, No, she tell her.
Speaker 5 (12:55):
Jeff tell her. She doesn't know how to tell him,
and now she doesn't even have to.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
I guess the other option is if you are interested.
Dustin has been listening to this call on the other
phone line.
Speaker 5 (13:04):
Yeah, he knows everything.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Oh my gosh, if he hasn't fainted already, Dustin you there.
Speaker 6 (13:13):
Holy I can't believe this happened. I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 5 (13:17):
I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 6 (13:20):
You guys were talking about it. I was looking through
my phone and I saw all the different Jessica bumbles.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
Oh how many Jessica even talking to I don't know.
Speaker 6 (13:35):
I mean, I'm embarrassed though, I mean, I'm I'm so sorry. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
When you cut springing up Pilates, I was like, what
why did he bringing this up?
Speaker 6 (13:45):
Like?
Speaker 3 (13:45):
Did you want to see him move? I wasn't sure
what you're talking about, But I.
Speaker 6 (13:50):
Know, I know now. I just I thought it was
very interesting at the time, that's all.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
He was only asking because he thought that you were
super interested in it.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
But that was a different Jessica Bumble.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
I mean, now you need to maybe tell him what
are your hobbies in interest because he has no idea.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I actually love soccer and I love hiking and I
speak a little French and.
Speaker 6 (14:15):
Yeah, I think I remember that from a year and
a half ago.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Or was that the other Jessica Bumble like Jessica Bumble
number four?
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Oh, that's right.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
You could have saved so much time and headache in
your life if you would have just gone out a
year and a half ago.
Speaker 6 (14:33):
Brooke, You're so right again. I'm just such an idiot.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
Women do like hearing that, So that's a good thing
for you to start saying. So, now that we've cleared
up the big misunderstanding and you realize who each other are,
you like each other at least it seems that way
from our perspective, we'd like to offer to send you
out on another date, Jessica, and we would pay for
it if you say yes.
Speaker 6 (14:56):
Maybe this could be like a mistake that was meant
to be.
Speaker 5 (15:00):
See, that's why you need to turn it around. Come on, Dustin.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
I want to hear something from Dustin, and depending on
what he says, maybe.
Speaker 6 (15:09):
I'll say yes, Oh, what is it?
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Out of all those Jessica's which one do you like best?
Speaker 4 (15:18):
If he's tough an answer here, he's like Jessica eighteen.
Speaker 6 (15:21):
Well, to be honest, Look to be honest, Jessica, You're
the only Jessica I had a real connection with all
the other jessicays I never even hung out with.
Speaker 5 (15:29):
Look at that, you're the od.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
You're the only one that would talk to me.
Speaker 7 (15:35):
He's too honest.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Did that answer your question?
Speaker 3 (15:39):
Jessica, it did. Yeah, I'll go out again.
Speaker 5 (15:45):
I think they're so cute.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
Well, congratulations you two. You're going out again, and it's
probably a good lesson for you.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Dustin. You got to put the year that you matched with.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
The person next to their names in your contact I'm always.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Like today, I'm hoping after this he doesn't have any
more matches like this is it.
Speaker 6 (16:02):
I think after this, I'm not going to use the
dating apps for a while.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yeah, after two years, bro you need a break.
Speaker 6 (16:08):
Yes, Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
See, that's why we do the second date updates. Jessica
said she didn't.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Know what to do.
Speaker 4 (16:18):
She was caught mid date with a guy who thought
that she was somebody else.
Speaker 5 (16:22):
That is so it's my worst nightmare.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
It would be a turn off obviously, but it was
like super awkward, Like, how do you even bring that up?
The thing is that she wasn't a total stranger. They'd
matched eighteen months before then, and like we heard, they
seemed to be actually pretty cute together.
Speaker 5 (16:39):
I mean, sometimes it's all about timing. You know, maybe
eighteen months ago he would have thought, oh, I just
got on the dating apps, it's gonna be awesome, And
then now he's two years in, he's like, wait, it's
not yah.
Speaker 4 (16:51):
Is there a part of me that thinks Dustin is
texting the other Jessica right now, the one that he
ghosted a week ago?
Speaker 5 (16:57):
How dare you even bring that up?
Speaker 4 (17:00):
Let's remember he is a guy, and we're addicted to
the chase. Hey, hopefully he can just focus on the
current Jessica and the good thing that they have going.
Speaker 5 (17:09):
Why would you even put that in his head? If
he's listening, if.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
You're listening, change the other Jessica's to do, not text?
Speaker 5 (17:15):
Yeah, just for now, just delete their number. That's even easier.
Speaker 4 (17:18):
You never know, never say never, but remember you can
listen to all of our second Date updates on Spotify,
Apple
Speaker 2 (17:25):
Or wherever you get your podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey
We've counted, we've talented, and we came up with some numbers.
All right, Yeah, the top ten second date updates of
twenty twenty five. These are the most downloaded, the most loved,
the most commented on.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Yay, So they came up with the numbers.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Yeah, he did, got it, got it stretch for us, Yes,
but today we're on to number eight in our countdown.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
And for sure, the most annoying part of the dating
apps isn't the constant scrolling or the inappropriate DMS, or
even coming across Brooks secret cougar match profile again and
again and again.
Speaker 5 (00:33):
I don't have that, Jeff.
Speaker 6 (00:37):
Every time.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
The thing is, it's all the wasted energy you have
to put in getting to know somebody only to never
actually meet up with them in person. And one of
our listeners is on the phone saying he's been there
way too many times. So now he has a method
to eliminate that headache for good.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
You're gonna hear it in your number eight second date
update of the year. Yeah, next second date of day.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
If you ask me and Brook you'll probably agree with this.
The dating world needs more ultimatums.
Speaker 5 (01:11):
No job, yes, no, not ever.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Good.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
I think maybe we need them because the more listeners
we talk to, everybody seems so indecisive, so wishy washy, like,
oh maybe I'll date her, or maybe that other hot girl,
or maybe I'll just stick with my wife.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I don't really know what fence here? Ultimatum suddenly sounding good?
Speaker 5 (01:36):
Stick to your wife? What is happening?
Speaker 4 (01:40):
That's why I appreciate somebody who's actually willing to lay
all their cards down on the table and say this
is it, Take it or leave it. And apparently that's
how our listener, Dustin rolls ultimatum style.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Well that's the vibe I got from his email, Dustin,
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 6 (01:59):
Hey, how's it going on?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
You sound like such a nice guy for being such
a badasshole.
Speaker 5 (02:04):
It's a made a maker.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Yeah, tell me if I was wrong.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
But it sounds like you like to play the dating
game a little bit more straightforward.
Speaker 6 (02:11):
Yeah, totally, let's go, man. I mean I don't have
that much time left. I'm not going to sit down
and text all day.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Okay, what I want to extend?
Speaker 7 (02:20):
Do you do this?
Speaker 6 (02:20):
Here's my new rule. Now when I talk to people,
it's like if I don't meet up with them, right away,
it pretty much just kind of sizzles out.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (02:28):
I mean I can see how that could happen.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
If you don't do that, you'll get strung along for
weeks and months and maybe never even any person.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
What is right away to you? What does that mean?
Speaker 6 (02:38):
Yeah? I think like forty eight to seventy two hours,
we should at least have like some kind of plan
to hang out. But like if that plan's not established,
and it's probably never gonna work out.
Speaker 7 (02:47):
Okay, that's actually kind of a rule.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I kind of like that rule, like it's respecting everybody's time.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Yeah, dating runs on deadlines, and so that's good. Jess
you gave Jessica the dating deadline?
Speaker 6 (02:59):
Well, I don't know. She I ended up just getting
her number and then I pretty much like kind of
took the conversation elsewhere off the app and then started
texting from there.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
I feel like that's an important step because otherwise the app,
you don't open it, you know, you don't reply check.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
So once it got off of the apps, how did
you and Jessica vibe?
Speaker 6 (03:19):
She's really really funny, So she pretty much was just saying, like, hey,
one time, no chat.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Okay, Okay, did you turn it into an in person
date pretty quickly?
Speaker 6 (03:30):
Yeah, we went out for pizza. I love pizza. Oh
you want to know the crazy part about that?
Speaker 5 (03:37):
Yes, that's the only part I want to know.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
We'll start with the crazy part first. Start there.
Speaker 6 (03:44):
She looked really different from the photos that one on
the profile. Different, not like a cat fish. I mean
she was still like super cute, like for sure, but
like different, different, like different.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Wait again, no, do you mean like she colored her
hair a different color.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Maybe a full face tattoo that wasn't there before.
Speaker 6 (04:09):
No, nothing like that, but that would have been like
totally cool.
Speaker 4 (04:12):
Okay, overall though you liked what you saw in person.
Speaker 6 (04:18):
Yeah, she was cute, it was just different than what
I expected. But could this be my perspective? A lot
of the photos she had she was wearing sunglasses, so
it could be misjudged through that.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
Oh yeah, sunglasses now cover like seventy percent of the
face they are.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
So now that we've covered.
Speaker 5 (04:36):
The crazy eyes, that was the crazy part.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Now that we've covered all the crazy parts of the date,
bring us to the boring, you know, mushy stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Oh yeah, yeah, that's my favorite. Jose wants to know
how the rest of the date went.
Speaker 6 (04:48):
Everything was normal about the date, but then there was
like this one part that was really weird.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Oh okay, going back to crazy again.
Speaker 6 (04:55):
It wasn't like super crazy, but it was just like
one of those another different things.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
And I thought, okay, what happened.
Speaker 6 (05:03):
Well, on her profile, like she talks about like pilates,
and a bunch of like Pilates stuff is on her profile,
all right, Yeah, so I was kind of I thought
that was kind of cool about her. But every time
I would talk to her about Pilates, I swear she
would just kept redirecting the conversation into something else.
Speaker 5 (05:22):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
So it's either like you no, it feels like she
either lied on her bio or you're talking to a
different person than what you're thinking.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
That's what.
Speaker 5 (05:33):
I mean confusing girls.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
But Alexis you put stuff in your profile that you
don't actually care much about.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
It's more of like a I love sports. I do
like a.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Collegiate athletes, more athletic than you, Jack.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
But she also says that she enjoys baseball even though
she thinks it has a halftime. I enjoyed the half
times in the game accurate halftime in the second inning, Jen,
I'm just saying maybe she isn't fully into pilates as
much as she claims on.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Easier to put on there.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, and I will say there is there is a
phenomenon right now that if you aren't a die hard
fan of something, you're not allowed to say that you
like it.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
How long has it been since you last spoke to Jessica.
Speaker 6 (06:22):
It's been like six days.
Speaker 5 (06:24):
Oh no, which is a long time.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
When you were moving so quick, you know, you had
a pacing going, and it's dead.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
I don't understand because we both had such a great time.
She said she had a great time. I had a
great time. You know.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Let's try and keep the great times going.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
And we come back and we give this girl another ultimatum, saying,
I am it's either go out with Dustin now or
lose him forever.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
Well that's always the Yeah, that's just like or not.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Yeah, it just sounds more scary if you say ultimatum.
We're going to come back and do it with your
second date right.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
After this one.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Today's second date update begs the question can you fully
trust what you see in someone's dating profile? Because our
listener Dustin met up with a woman from Bumble who
looked a little different than her picture.
Speaker 5 (07:16):
Not bad though, just different.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yeah, like a good, good different.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
And even though her bio talked about pilates a lot,
she didn't really want to discuss it much on their date,
which is.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Kind of strange.
Speaker 4 (07:28):
To be fair, My old dating profile said I'm Jewish,
but any woman who met up with me would discover
I'm not kosher and not good with money, so probably
equally confusing. That's a really good point, Jeff, Yeah, I
mean you can't trust it fully from the dating profile.
The good news is Dustin, despite the differences, really had
(07:50):
a good time with her. He felt like they vibed
in ways he hasn't in the two years that he
has spent on this half before.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
God, I really want this to work out for you,
justin just because you've put in the time and the
effort and you seem like a good guy.
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Yeah, thanks a lot, Brooke. I really do appreciate that
about Youah.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Oh, you appreciate that she compliments you well her her
fingers are crossed right now when she said that.
Speaker 5 (08:12):
So yeah, you wanted to tell everybody everything.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
Okay, God, I feel like there is some part of Brook,
that really is rooting for you today.
Speaker 5 (08:19):
Jess Yeah, I am.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I think this is going to be a simple like
miscommunication or something.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
You know, I mean, yeah, possibly, I mean, I don't know,
as long as you guys get me another date.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yeah, all right, all right, Well, let's style Jessica right now.
We'll see if she picks up and hopefully has a
simple explanation for why she hasn't hit you back colin
her right now here we go.
Speaker 7 (08:47):
Huo, hey is this Jessica?
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (08:51):
Hey, Joe, she's so cute. I know.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
It's so nice to talk to someone who's like positive
and perky when we're talking to them. Because we're doing
a second Date Update.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Most of our listeners are like, who is this?
Speaker 5 (09:03):
Yeah, I'm sorry what.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Yeah, Sorr, I've got threw a lot at you. We're
a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning,
which you're on right now. Congratulations. Hi, okay, Hi, And
this segment is called second Date Update. I don't know
if you've heard it before, but it's a thing where
if somebody blows you off and you're not sure why,
we can try to call that person for you to
(09:28):
maybe figure out if there's a reason for it.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Okay, I didn't blow anyone off.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
What Yeah, I mean I guess talking she said sick.
I mean he said six days. So maybe that's not
blowing someone off to you. Maybe that's not enough time.
Speaker 4 (09:45):
Yeah, because six days ago you went out with a
guy who, at least according to him, felt like you
had a really good connection. Afterwards, he feels like you've
been pulling away a little bit.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
His name is Dustin.
Speaker 6 (09:58):
Oh my gosh, I.
Speaker 5 (09:59):
Forgot about that one. Huh.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
I'm not trying to blow him off. I just don't
know what to do.
Speaker 5 (10:11):
I think it's pretty simple. You should text him and
go out with him again.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
No, I mean, like I don't know how much she
told you or what you know. But I actually matched
with Dustin a year and a half ago.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
A year and a half, he said that you guys
just met on the app.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
And that you Yeah. So when I got a text
from him like a week ago, I was kind of
confused because it was like, wait, this is weird, just
kind of out of the blue. But I was just
like whatever, and I was just like, long time to chat.
Speaker 5 (10:40):
Oh yeah. He said that you made a joke that
you were joking because you had just been chatting with him.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
It wasn't a joke. It really was a long time.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Oh my god, confused.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
So you hadn't talked to Dustin in a year and
a half on an app at all, is what you're saying.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Right, it was just a half ago. You never replied
to one of my texts, and then all of a sudden, Yeah,
I get a text from him.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
And then you guys went to pizza, right, you did
meet up?
Speaker 6 (11:08):
Right?
Speaker 3 (11:09):
We got pizza, And I was kind of like, I
wonder why all of a sudden he wants to talk
to me now, But I was like, I remember he
and I got along really well on Bumble, and so
I was just like, yeah, sure, let's get pizza.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
And is it you're in a coma for a year
and a half and he doesn't remember told us he
went from the ap to that, Yes, he made a
year and a half.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
And that seems like a big miscommunication. What about that?
Speaker 5 (11:30):
It has to be the same person.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
It's the same He kept talking about pilates and how
like he kept asking about it, and I was like plate,
He's like, I don't have that in my bio.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
That's the other girl.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
Yeah. Oh no, But then I was like, oh my gosh,
Jessica is a really common name and thinking about it,
and I was like, oh, shoot.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
You think that he went out with the wrong Jessica
or texted the wrong Jessica in his fea.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
I mean, it makes sense.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
It could have been another Jessica from Bumble.
Speaker 6 (12:04):
Wait.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
Wait, then you have him as Dustin Bumble.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
He probably has multiple Jessica Bumbles. That makes so much sense.
Speaker 5 (12:09):
Did you have fun with them? I did?
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Yeah, No, I had a lot of fun with him,
even though you had to keep dodging his questions about pilates.
Speaker 6 (12:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
I mean, honestly, I didn't know what to say. I
was kind of embarrassed, but like, we were really enjoying ourselves.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
So this makes sense why Dustin told us that she
didn't look like the pictures from the girl that he
matched with a.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Couple of weeks.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Wait he said that, yeah, but he added that you
were super cute. Oh, it's not like it was a disappointment.
I think that's important to know.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
I also say, you're both in the same spot, because
he's like, I don't know where to go from here,
and she just said, I don't know where to go
from here.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Yeah, they're both in limbo.
Speaker 7 (12:49):
This is kind of perfect.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Well, yeah, I guess that's it. Sorry, No, she tell her.
Speaker 5 (12:55):
Jeff tell her. She doesn't know how to tell him,
and now she doesn't even have to.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
I guess the other option is if you are interested.
Dustin has been listening to this call on the other
phone line.
Speaker 5 (13:04):
Yeah, he knows everything.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Oh my gosh, if he hasn't fainted already, Dustin you there.
Speaker 6 (13:13):
Holy I can't believe this happened. I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 5 (13:17):
I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 6 (13:20):
You guys were talking about it. I was looking through
my phone and I saw all the different Jessica bumbles.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
Oh how many Jessica even talking to I don't know.
Speaker 6 (13:35):
I mean, I'm embarrassed though, I mean, I'm I'm so sorry. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
When you cut springing up Pilates, I was like, what
why did he bringing this up?
Speaker 6 (13:45):
Like?
Speaker 3 (13:45):
Did you want to see him move? I wasn't sure
what you're talking about, But I.
Speaker 6 (13:50):
Know, I know now. I just I thought it was
very interesting at the time, that's all.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
He was only asking because he thought that you were
super interested in it.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
But that was a different Jessica Bumble.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
I mean, now you need to maybe tell him what
are your hobbies in interest because he has no idea.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I actually love soccer and I love hiking and I
speak a little French and.
Speaker 6 (14:15):
Yeah, I think I remember that from a year and
a half ago.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Or was that the other Jessica Bumble like Jessica Bumble
number four?
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Oh, that's right.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
You could have saved so much time and headache in
your life if you would have just gone out a
year and a half ago.
Speaker 6 (14:33):
Brooke, You're so right again. I'm just such an idiot.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
Women do like hearing that, So that's a good thing
for you to start saying. So, now that we've cleared
up the big misunderstanding and you realize who each other are,
you like each other at least it seems that way
from our perspective, we'd like to offer to send you
out on another date, Jessica, and we would pay for
it if you say yes.
Speaker 6 (14:56):
Maybe this could be like a mistake that was meant
to be.
Speaker 5 (15:00):
See, that's why you need to turn it around. Come on, Dustin.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
I want to hear something from Dustin, and depending on
what he says, maybe.
Speaker 6 (15:09):
I'll say yes, Oh, what is it?
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Out of all those Jessica's which one do you like best?
Speaker 4 (15:18):
If he's tough an answer here, he's like Jessica eighteen.
Speaker 6 (15:21):
Well, to be honest, Look to be honest, Jessica, You're
the only Jessica I had a real connection with all
the other jessicays I never even hung out with.
Speaker 5 (15:29):
Look at that, you're the od.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
You're the only one that would talk to me.
Speaker 7 (15:35):
He's too honest.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Did that answer your question?
Speaker 3 (15:39):
Jessica, it did. Yeah, I'll go out again.
Speaker 5 (15:45):
I think they're so cute.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
Well, congratulations you two. You're going out again, and it's
probably a good lesson for you.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Dustin. You got to put the year that you matched with.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
The person next to their names in your contact I'm always.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Like today, I'm hoping after this he doesn't have any
more matches like this is it.
Speaker 6 (16:02):
I think after this, I'm not going to use the
dating apps for a while.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yeah, after two years, bro you need a break.
Speaker 6 (16:08):
Yes, Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
See, that's why we do the second date updates. Jessica
said she didn't.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Know what to do.
Speaker 4 (16:18):
She was caught mid date with a guy who thought
that she was somebody else.
Speaker 5 (16:22):
That is so it's my worst nightmare.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
It would be a turn off obviously, but it was
like super awkward, Like, how do you even bring that up?
The thing is that she wasn't a total stranger. They'd
matched eighteen months before then, and like we heard, they
seemed to be actually pretty cute together.
Speaker 5 (16:39):
I mean, sometimes it's all about timing. You know, maybe
eighteen months ago he would have thought, oh, I just
got on the dating apps, it's gonna be awesome, And
then now he's two years in, he's like, wait, it's
not yah.
Speaker 4 (16:51):
Is there a part of me that thinks Dustin is
texting the other Jessica right now, the one that he
ghosted a week ago?
Speaker 5 (16:57):
How dare you even bring that up?
Speaker 4 (17:00):
Let's remember he is a guy, and we're addicted to
the chase. Hey, hopefully he can just focus on the
current Jessica and the good thing that they have going.
Speaker 5 (17:09):
Why would you even put that in his head? If
he's listening, if.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
You're listening, change the other Jessica's to do, not text?
Speaker 5 (17:15):
Yeah, just for now, just delete their number. That's even easier.
Speaker 4 (17:18):
You never know, never say never, but remember you can
listen to all of our second Date updates on Spotify,
Apple
Speaker 2 (17:25):
Or wherever you get your podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey
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Brooke Fox
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