December 2, 2025 • 18 mins
Our listener says her boyfriend is TOO PERFECT, and it might be all her fault! It’s causing a problem that she wants to fix in a brand new Awkward Tuesday Phone Call!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to a brand new Awkward Tuesday episode. It's Brooke
and Jeffrey and you have found the Second Day podcast.
Today's really a lesson and the grass is not always
greener my friends. You know, on the other side, she
wanted something before she fully thought it out.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Yeah, and I'd be the first woman to ever change
a man successfully. That's all right.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
What do we got in the comments?
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Jazz A lou Baby said, I finally learned how to
leave a rating and comment after listening for years.
Speaker 4 (00:30):
I listened to.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Y'all every day, and one time I hugged Jose outside
in the parking lot of a casino.
Speaker 5 (00:39):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I think I lugged Jose in a parking lot outside
of casino before that thing you.
Speaker 6 (00:44):
Do with Jose.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Hey, thanks for leaving your comments and figuring them out.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Yeah, your brand new Awkward Tuesday starts right now.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
One of our listeners came on the show to complain
about her boy friend, saying he is super hot, super successful,
and super put together. And I know what you're all thinking,
but no, she's not dating me. You're all thinking. The
(01:16):
thing is her boyfriend. It's he's kind of too perfect
and she says it's all her fault because it's causing
actual problems in their relationship. You're going to understand why
she had no choice but to reach out and ask
for help the problems. You'll hear it in your brand
new Awkward Tuesday phone call. Next It's Awkward Tuesday. It's
(01:42):
awkward Tuesday phone call. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,
and I just want to ask my co host Brooke
real quick, is it ever okay for a woman to
try and change a man. I don't know if.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
It's okay or not.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
It doesn't work, just I mean it wasted energy.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Well, yeah, what if I told you one of our
listeners tried it and it did work immediately wrong?
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Would she be on the phone with us?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Well, if it works, that's a fair question. I'm a
firm believer in that women always know what's best for
a guy. Oh, yes, you do, jeff Okay do all
of life. And our listener Alexandra did the impossible. She
changed her man and regrets it, and she's coming to
us for help. Alexandra, Luckily you've come to the right place.
(02:34):
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 7 (02:36):
Thank you built them up.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
He's too good.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Now he's doing too many dishes and fling too much laundry,
too productive.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
It's a hard life, I'm sure, but we don't know
the details of your situation. Tell us what's going on
with you and your guy.
Speaker 6 (02:49):
So I've been dating my boyfriend for like two years now.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
What's his name?
Speaker 6 (02:54):
Ted?
Speaker 5 (02:55):
Ted?
Speaker 8 (02:56):
Ted?
Speaker 7 (02:57):
Okay, And I realized six months ago he was like
too comfortable in the relationship, like he wasn't working out anymore.
He was dressing kind of sloppy, and I was like.
Speaker 6 (03:06):
I have to do something here.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
That's not You don't want a man to be comfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I always like to fatten my man up a little
bit because I don't want them to be hotter than
me with me.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Always try to sneak some butter into my husband's meal.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
Yeah all right, And I mean it's not like I'm
not saying like you weren't attracted to him anymore, but
it's like he was becoming a different type of boyfriend
than you wanted.
Speaker 6 (03:28):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 7 (03:30):
So I told him I had a special birthday.
Speaker 8 (03:32):
Plan for him, like a birthday gift, and.
Speaker 7 (03:34):
I gave him a full makeover.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
So, oh wow, he used to.
Speaker 6 (03:38):
Cut his own hair Oh, you got it.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
That's resourceful. Yeah. He took him to like a nice barber.
Speaker 8 (03:46):
I got him like a real actual barber.
Speaker 7 (03:48):
I got him a spaw treatment, I got him new clothes.
I even got.
Speaker 5 (03:53):
Him like four sessions with a personal trainer.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Oh my god.
Speaker 9 (03:57):
It'd be one thing if you said, hey, honey, you
gotta hit the But if you were like, here's a
plethora of gifts to improve your life.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I would love that, wouldn't you feel? I mean, you
would make you feel really taken care of.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
I don't know, it's a little bit insulted. If I'm like,
by the way I set you up with a personal trainer,
you're welcome.
Speaker 10 (04:15):
Have you ever watched a.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Make over show?
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Nobody's insulted ever excited about him?
Speaker 4 (04:20):
We should ask how did Ted take it when you
were basically showing him how to be a different person.
Speaker 7 (04:25):
I mean, he was fine, He's like, yeah, I'll do it.
He was excited.
Speaker 5 (04:28):
He did it, and it was the worst possible thing
that I could have ever done.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Oh no, is he hooking up with a trainer?
Speaker 6 (04:36):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (04:36):
Well, he just like he looks really good. He's getting
a lot of attention from a lot of people. He
kind of just.
Speaker 6 (04:43):
Ran with it.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
So he's like buying himself more new clothes, he's working
out on his own.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
God what ay, I get it that was your whole
goal though. He sounds like he's confident, Like isn't that
the type of man you want to be with?
Speaker 7 (04:59):
Yeah? I just I kind of even to like tourne
it back and go back to being like sloppy, Like
maybe he could just do like sloppy weekends or like
I don't know, he's even dressing really nice on the
weekends and going for runs at six.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
Am on Saturdays.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
Like we used to.
Speaker 7 (05:14):
Go to the bakery and get stones and coffee and I.
Speaker 6 (05:17):
Missed that and we can't do that anymore.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Oh wow, is.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
He getting you up to to go on runs with him?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
For you're not like a fit couple now? No?
Speaker 6 (05:27):
No, God, no, absolutely not.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
It takes a shower trying to get a stone.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Okay, have you talked to him about this at all
to this point?
Speaker 7 (05:39):
No? No, I don't even know how to tell him
because it's like it's so awkward.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
That I accidentally created this, Like how do I reverse
what I just did?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Wait, so that's the advice that you're looking to get
from us here is how do you get him to
backtrack on the progress that he's made.
Speaker 6 (05:58):
Yes, and just be normal again.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
It feels like it's going to backfire.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
I mean if you're putting all this energy into making
yourself what you think is a better person, and then
your partner comes and says, eh, don't.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Like, well, maybe if to take Brooks tactic and go
a little sneaky with it, put some butter into his
food and not looking at cooked with large.
Speaker 5 (06:20):
It's not that I don't like the new version of him.
I just need him to like take his foot off
the gas a little bit.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Okay. It's like it's like if you renovated the kitchen
of your house and it looks great, and then your
husband's like, oh, well, let's also redo the living room
and let's add in a pool, and let's like the
whole other second house.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
He's doing all good things.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
Well, I know, it's like he's taking the project too
far out, like I want a pool. I mean, sure,
maybe it was a bad metaphor, but he's gone farther
than what she wanted.
Speaker 9 (06:49):
Do we need to talk, like, are you maybe just
like a little insecure at this point?
Speaker 5 (06:53):
No, I just want to get my coffee and my
stones on the weekend.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
Okay, good, okay ask Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
I understand that was like, it sounds like one of
the precious moments of your guys' relationship or those like
lazy Sunday.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Yeah, and they just aren't happening anymore.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
And we're gonna try to bring those back for you
when we give you solid advice.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Is that what we're gonna get.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
Yeah, We'll figure out a way to get your boyfriend
Ted to go back to his old ways.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Yeah, just a little bit.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
Yeah, yeah, Yes, we made ten steps forward, we need
to take two steps back when we do an awkward
Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call. They say you can't change
a man, Well they were wrong, and our listener Alexandra
is living proof because after a couple of years together,
she wanted to help her boyfriend Ted just lock.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
It up a little bit, that's a good way to
say it.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
And you'll get in a better shave, take care of
himself a little more. So. She set him up with
a haircut, spa treat, mints, a few sessions with a
personal trainer, and now she regrets it of sort of
because she's happy that he's making positive changes, but her
feeling is maybe he's taken this to the extreme, to
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the point he's jogging at six am every Saturday.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Who likes a person like that? Right?
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I like running, and even I don't like that.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
That's why Alexandra wants our help on how to convince
her boyfriend to just balance out his new persona a
little bit with the old, sloppy ones she fell in
love with. So it just needs a little balance. Is
it possible? We don't know, but we're going to try
to give her a little bit of advice. Brooke, what
do you think?
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Okay, I think you need to make him a little
jealous of what you're doing. What do you mean, well,
I mean I think that you tell him that the
guys at work have started this brunch boys club and
you are finally invited. And since he's busy on a
run every Saturday morning, I can't get scones with you.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
You might as well join the hotties from work for
their bottomless mimosas.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Then he'll want to stay home and snuggle you and
get you scones again.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
I was kind of sold on brunch Boys.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
The group.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
I don't know, but what do you think, Alexandra?
Speaker 6 (09:18):
You know what, I'm desperate. I'll go with anything at
this point.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
I'm going to take that as a compliment for my advice.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
Yeah, I love a little desperation on the show, Jose
any advice for her?
Speaker 9 (09:28):
Well, if you think about it, six months ago, when
you asked him to change, he was open to it,
and that's really rare with guys.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
So that's why you just have to feel.
Speaker 9 (09:36):
Positive in this conversation because you're asking him to just
slightly change, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
Which is a way easier convo than the first one.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
So you just wanted to openly ask, Yeah.
Speaker 9 (09:46):
Be confident if he if he received the first one,
well he'll receive this one.
Speaker 8 (09:49):
Great.
Speaker 4 (09:50):
Okay, maybe if you bring up the first change.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Yeah, and the first.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
One came with like one hundreds of dollars worth of stuff.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
So okay, do a little Yeah, So al Xandra, this
advice comes with a little bit more scones, maybe, do
you think, Yeah, maybe you could toss that in there. Yeah,
just asking him to change, yeah, well and bringing up
how how much he has changed the first time you asked?
And how proud you are of him?
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Did she ask him? She kind of sneakily.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
I mean you forced him, but that's okay.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
Yeah, I mean I can definitely bring up his change
because it is dramatic, but I am proud of him. Yeah.
Speaker 9 (10:26):
Tickets like an anti fitness camp, you know what I mean? Wait?
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Yeah, they force you to eat cakes every Yeah, all right,
that'll be our backup plan, plane.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
I want to go to that camp.
Speaker 4 (10:37):
Yeah, it's not for you, cake camp. Yes, it's right
after the brunch boys made all right, great, we gave
you all the device that we have. You can choose
to use as much of it as you want or
none of it. It's up to you. But I'm going
to dial your boyfriend's number. Let you make your awkward
call here.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
Good luck, thank you?
Speaker 7 (10:56):
All right, here we go?
Speaker 8 (11:04):
Hellop, Hey Dan? Sorry, who's what it's me?
Speaker 10 (11:13):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (11:14):
Oh? Sorry? Your phone cut out? And I don't know
you're not calling from your numbers.
Speaker 6 (11:20):
What's going on? Oh that's weird. I don't know.
Speaker 10 (11:24):
What do you do?
Speaker 8 (11:27):
I am at the moment, making lunch and getting ready
for my afternoon jag.
Speaker 6 (11:34):
You're going for a run again, didn't you go this morning?
Speaker 8 (11:39):
So I've been reading something online that says you can
kind of do shorter runs more often, kind of boost
your endurance. I'm experimenting with that this week.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Oh no, wow, Okay, you're really going for with this
healthcare kong?
Speaker 4 (11:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (11:56):
Yeah, I mean you get me started on something that
has really a good change my life, you know the
best word.
Speaker 5 (12:03):
And you have worked so hard and I am so
proud of you, and you were doing so good. But
what if you just did like the same but like less?
Speaker 8 (12:20):
What I don't get it, like.
Speaker 5 (12:22):
Instead of two runs a day, maybe like two runs
a week or like two runs a month, you know,
stuff like that.
Speaker 8 (12:32):
Maybe what's what's going on? What is this?
Speaker 5 (12:36):
Like you're just always so busy with this health thing?
Like do you even remember that we used to have scones?
Like do you know what that tastes like?
Speaker 4 (12:42):
Still?
Speaker 6 (12:43):
Did you forget?
Speaker 5 (12:44):
Like they were so buttery and they had like blueberries
and chocolate chips and like.
Speaker 6 (12:49):
They were warm and you put jam on them, Like
do you know that?
Speaker 7 (12:52):
Like did you do you forget?
Speaker 8 (12:55):
I haven't forgotten, but I mean the way you just
described that sounds awful.
Speaker 5 (13:00):
At this point, the blueberries are organic, like, get over it.
Speaker 8 (13:05):
Whoa, Oh, I feel like I've kind of hit a
stride in this sort of new, less butter more vegetables
part of my life.
Speaker 5 (13:15):
You know.
Speaker 8 (13:15):
They say like look good, feel good, and man, I
feel real good. I mean I might getting compliments from people,
you know, like even your sister said, I look really cute.
Speaker 6 (13:27):
Oh wait what.
Speaker 8 (13:30):
When we were at your cousins for the baby shower
of and he texted me after her said it was
like nice to meet me and I looked really cute.
Speaker 6 (13:38):
No, she did not, she did no, she no, she
did not. She never said that to anyone.
Speaker 8 (13:46):
What are you talking about here? She never says anybody's attractive.
Speaker 6 (13:50):
Nobody, no, nobody, Like she is up to something.
Speaker 8 (13:55):
Are you serious? What's going on?
Speaker 7 (13:57):
You don't know her like I know her? Okay.
Speaker 10 (13:59):
In high school they called her the Medusa of men.
Like you look at her once and you're done.
Speaker 8 (14:09):
What is going on? What was that?
Speaker 4 (14:13):
That's a sound effect that we played because you're on
the radio right now, Ted, why.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
Well, we're trying to save you from the Medusa of men.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
Apparently, I guess that.
Speaker 6 (14:23):
Wasn't the that's a real thing.
Speaker 7 (14:25):
She wants you Ted?
Speaker 4 (14:27):
Well, yeah, yeah, you're jumping to a lot of conclusions here, Alexandra. First,
we need to tell Ted that this is a segment
we do. It's called an awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5 (14:35):
That doesn't matter. Okay, It matters that he's gotten too
hot and he knows it and she knows it.
Speaker 4 (14:40):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Do you really think your sister's trying to steal your man?
Speaker 5 (14:45):
Why would she text him and not have me on
the thread and then tell him that he's cute?
Speaker 8 (14:51):
Question? Why are we on the radio?
Speaker 3 (14:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (14:59):
Do you want want me to explain to Alexandra or
do you want to tell.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
You can tell him it's fun.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Well, yeah, it's like a group chat.
Speaker 5 (15:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (15:07):
So Alexandra reached out to us because, first of all,
she is so proud of you on the progress that
you've made in the last six months in the lifestyle changes,
like obviously you're looking good and everybody's noticing. She does, though,
miss a little bit of your relationship before when you
used to, like she said, go get scones together, and the.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Relaxed part of your relationship is missing.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
You may have over indexed just like a touch for her.
Speaker 8 (15:35):
But I mean isn't it better to avoid the process
cards than the all that craft?
Speaker 1 (15:40):
No, but it's like everything in moderation, right, like a
little bit here, a little bit there.
Speaker 8 (15:44):
Yeah, So I don't know. I said, you want me
to go back to the way I was.
Speaker 5 (15:49):
I mean a little bit because I'm getting asked up
by these people called like the brunch boys, and I
don't think you want me to go out with them?
Speaker 8 (16:01):
Always deduced? Are these real things?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
She just wants you to hang out on a Saturday
morning and be lazy with her for.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
A little bit. She would you be so serious about
the working out?
Speaker 3 (16:12):
Apparently she also doesn't want you to text her sister now.
Speaker 8 (16:14):
Yeah, I'm not trying to be like the sidon do
anything over here?
Speaker 4 (16:18):
Whoa drake mccaldi went too far? She can make up
words and he can't.
Speaker 8 (16:25):
Yeah, what the hell? Man?
Speaker 4 (16:26):
Well we're on the radio, is all that? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Have we accomplished anything here?
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Like?
Speaker 3 (16:31):
Where are we at?
Speaker 5 (16:33):
I just want to hang out and have a scone
without veggies on the side.
Speaker 4 (16:39):
And without her sister present anywhere nearby.
Speaker 8 (16:42):
Yes, I will come home. We will block your sister
on all of the social media. We will I will
eat the pastry with you and enjoy the heck out
of it.
Speaker 4 (16:53):
Okay, Well, we set out trying to find the healthy
balance in the life that you were going to words
in the life that you had, Alexandra. Do you feel
like we found it?
Speaker 6 (17:03):
I think we're good.
Speaker 5 (17:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
You a really awesome boyfriend.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Yeah, so like a great dude.
Speaker 8 (17:10):
Bro.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
Oh no, Brooks trying to slide in. Hang Up, Hang
Up the Men Part two, look Out Part number. Brook
and Jeffrey in the morning. It's Brook and Jeffrey in
the morning. Can someone remind me to make my reservation
for six with the brunch Boys this weekend? I would
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really hate to miss it.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Is it a brunch Boys club? Because it just is
such a good name.
Speaker 4 (17:38):
Don't Yeah? I think we need to start it if
it doesn't exist.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
Can I be invited to?
Speaker 4 (17:43):
Absolutely? Not only the hot guys of the studio get in?
Brook You gave the best advice you've given in years.
I did what Yeah? The brunch Boys? Oh okay, that
was amazing. It didn't help them at all, but it
sounds like they didn't need it anyway. They're one of
those couples that actually listens to each other. Can compromise,
and plus they're getting scones together. I mean it's pretty.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Much pertinct they just called to be on the phone
and brag about themselves.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
He seemed Humblefolt. That was the gross thing.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
Yeah, you know, although I do picture him at the
bakery secretly spitting out his chocolate scone into his napkin
underneath the table.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Yeah, he's not going to actually like eating it.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
No he's not, oh man. But you know what actually
makes every relationship better is hitting subscribe wherever you listen
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Speaker 3 (18:26):
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Speaker 4 (18:28):
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Welcome to a brand new Awkward Tuesday episode. It's Brooke
and Jeffrey and you have found the Second Day podcast.
Today's really a lesson and the grass is not always
greener my friends. You know, on the other side, she
wanted something before she fully thought it out.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Yeah, and I'd be the first woman to ever change
a man successfully. That's all right.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
What do we got in the comments?
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Jazz A lou Baby said, I finally learned how to
leave a rating and comment after listening for years.
Speaker 4 (00:30):
I listened to.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Y'all every day, and one time I hugged Jose outside
in the parking lot of a casino.
Speaker 5 (00:39):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I think I lugged Jose in a parking lot outside
of casino before that thing you.
Speaker 6 (00:44):
Do with Jose.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Hey, thanks for leaving your comments and figuring them out.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Yeah, your brand new Awkward Tuesday starts right now.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
One of our listeners came on the show to complain
about her boy friend, saying he is super hot, super successful,
and super put together. And I know what you're all thinking,
but no, she's not dating me. You're all thinking. The
(01:16):
thing is her boyfriend. It's he's kind of too perfect
and she says it's all her fault because it's causing
actual problems in their relationship. You're going to understand why
she had no choice but to reach out and ask
for help the problems. You'll hear it in your brand
new Awkward Tuesday phone call. Next It's Awkward Tuesday. It's
(01:42):
awkward Tuesday phone call. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,
and I just want to ask my co host Brooke
real quick, is it ever okay for a woman to
try and change a man. I don't know if.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
It's okay or not.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
It doesn't work, just I mean it wasted energy.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Well, yeah, what if I told you one of our
listeners tried it and it did work immediately wrong?
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Would she be on the phone with us?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Well, if it works, that's a fair question. I'm a
firm believer in that women always know what's best for
a guy. Oh, yes, you do, jeff Okay do all
of life. And our listener Alexandra did the impossible. She
changed her man and regrets it, and she's coming to
us for help. Alexandra, Luckily you've come to the right place.
(02:34):
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 7 (02:36):
Thank you built them up.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
He's too good.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Now he's doing too many dishes and fling too much laundry,
too productive.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
It's a hard life, I'm sure, but we don't know
the details of your situation. Tell us what's going on
with you and your guy.
Speaker 6 (02:49):
So I've been dating my boyfriend for like two years now.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
What's his name?
Speaker 6 (02:54):
Ted?
Speaker 5 (02:55):
Ted?
Speaker 8 (02:56):
Ted?
Speaker 7 (02:57):
Okay, And I realized six months ago he was like
too comfortable in the relationship, like he wasn't working out anymore.
He was dressing kind of sloppy, and I was like.
Speaker 6 (03:06):
I have to do something here.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
That's not You don't want a man to be comfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I always like to fatten my man up a little
bit because I don't want them to be hotter than
me with me.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Always try to sneak some butter into my husband's meal.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
Yeah all right, And I mean it's not like I'm
not saying like you weren't attracted to him anymore, but
it's like he was becoming a different type of boyfriend
than you wanted.
Speaker 6 (03:28):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 7 (03:30):
So I told him I had a special birthday.
Speaker 8 (03:32):
Plan for him, like a birthday gift, and.
Speaker 7 (03:34):
I gave him a full makeover.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
So, oh wow, he used to.
Speaker 6 (03:38):
Cut his own hair Oh, you got it.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
That's resourceful. Yeah. He took him to like a nice barber.
Speaker 8 (03:46):
I got him like a real actual barber.
Speaker 7 (03:48):
I got him a spaw treatment, I got him new clothes.
I even got.
Speaker 5 (03:53):
Him like four sessions with a personal trainer.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Oh my god.
Speaker 9 (03:57):
It'd be one thing if you said, hey, honey, you
gotta hit the But if you were like, here's a
plethora of gifts to improve your life.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I would love that, wouldn't you feel? I mean, you
would make you feel really taken care of.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
I don't know, it's a little bit insulted. If I'm like,
by the way I set you up with a personal trainer,
you're welcome.
Speaker 10 (04:15):
Have you ever watched a.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Make over show?
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Nobody's insulted ever excited about him?
Speaker 4 (04:20):
We should ask how did Ted take it when you
were basically showing him how to be a different person.
Speaker 7 (04:25):
I mean, he was fine, He's like, yeah, I'll do it.
He was excited.
Speaker 5 (04:28):
He did it, and it was the worst possible thing
that I could have ever done.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Oh no, is he hooking up with a trainer?
Speaker 6 (04:36):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (04:36):
Well, he just like he looks really good. He's getting
a lot of attention from a lot of people. He
kind of just.
Speaker 6 (04:43):
Ran with it.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
So he's like buying himself more new clothes, he's working
out on his own.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
God what ay, I get it that was your whole
goal though. He sounds like he's confident, Like isn't that
the type of man you want to be with?
Speaker 7 (04:59):
Yeah? I just I kind of even to like tourne
it back and go back to being like sloppy, Like
maybe he could just do like sloppy weekends or like
I don't know, he's even dressing really nice on the
weekends and going for runs at six.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
Am on Saturdays.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
Like we used to.
Speaker 7 (05:14):
Go to the bakery and get stones and coffee and I.
Speaker 6 (05:17):
Missed that and we can't do that anymore.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Oh wow, is.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
He getting you up to to go on runs with him?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
For you're not like a fit couple now? No?
Speaker 6 (05:27):
No, God, no, absolutely not.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
It takes a shower trying to get a stone.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Okay, have you talked to him about this at all
to this point?
Speaker 7 (05:39):
No? No, I don't even know how to tell him
because it's like it's so awkward.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
That I accidentally created this, Like how do I reverse
what I just did?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Wait, so that's the advice that you're looking to get
from us here is how do you get him to
backtrack on the progress that he's made.
Speaker 6 (05:58):
Yes, and just be normal again.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
It feels like it's going to backfire.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
I mean if you're putting all this energy into making
yourself what you think is a better person, and then
your partner comes and says, eh, don't.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Like, well, maybe if to take Brooks tactic and go
a little sneaky with it, put some butter into his
food and not looking at cooked with large.
Speaker 5 (06:20):
It's not that I don't like the new version of him.
I just need him to like take his foot off
the gas a little bit.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Okay. It's like it's like if you renovated the kitchen
of your house and it looks great, and then your
husband's like, oh, well, let's also redo the living room
and let's add in a pool, and let's like the
whole other second house.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
He's doing all good things.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
Well, I know, it's like he's taking the project too
far out, like I want a pool. I mean, sure,
maybe it was a bad metaphor, but he's gone farther
than what she wanted.
Speaker 9 (06:49):
Do we need to talk, like, are you maybe just
like a little insecure at this point?
Speaker 5 (06:53):
No, I just want to get my coffee and my
stones on the weekend.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
Okay, good, okay ask Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
I understand that was like, it sounds like one of
the precious moments of your guys' relationship or those like
lazy Sunday.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Yeah, and they just aren't happening anymore.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
And we're gonna try to bring those back for you
when we give you solid advice.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Is that what we're gonna get.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
Yeah, We'll figure out a way to get your boyfriend
Ted to go back to his old ways.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Yeah, just a little bit.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
Yeah, yeah, Yes, we made ten steps forward, we need
to take two steps back when we do an awkward
Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call. They say you can't change
a man, Well they were wrong, and our listener Alexandra
is living proof because after a couple of years together,
she wanted to help her boyfriend Ted just lock.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
It up a little bit, that's a good way to
say it.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
And you'll get in a better shave, take care of
himself a little more. So. She set him up with
a haircut, spa treat, mints, a few sessions with a
personal trainer, and now she regrets it of sort of
because she's happy that he's making positive changes, but her
feeling is maybe he's taken this to the extreme, to
(08:14):
the point he's jogging at six am every Saturday.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Who likes a person like that? Right?
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I like running, and even I don't like that.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
That's why Alexandra wants our help on how to convince
her boyfriend to just balance out his new persona a
little bit with the old, sloppy ones she fell in
love with. So it just needs a little balance. Is
it possible? We don't know, but we're going to try
to give her a little bit of advice. Brooke, what
do you think?
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Okay, I think you need to make him a little
jealous of what you're doing. What do you mean, well,
I mean I think that you tell him that the
guys at work have started this brunch boys club and
you are finally invited. And since he's busy on a
run every Saturday morning, I can't get scones with you.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
You might as well join the hotties from work for
their bottomless mimosas.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Then he'll want to stay home and snuggle you and
get you scones again.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
I was kind of sold on brunch Boys.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
The group.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
I don't know, but what do you think, Alexandra?
Speaker 6 (09:18):
You know what, I'm desperate. I'll go with anything at
this point.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
I'm going to take that as a compliment for my advice.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
Yeah, I love a little desperation on the show, Jose
any advice for her?
Speaker 9 (09:28):
Well, if you think about it, six months ago, when
you asked him to change, he was open to it,
and that's really rare with guys.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
So that's why you just have to feel.
Speaker 9 (09:36):
Positive in this conversation because you're asking him to just
slightly change, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
Which is a way easier convo than the first one.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
So you just wanted to openly ask, Yeah.
Speaker 9 (09:46):
Be confident if he if he received the first one,
well he'll receive this one.
Speaker 8 (09:49):
Great.
Speaker 4 (09:50):
Okay, maybe if you bring up the first change.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Yeah, and the first.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
One came with like one hundreds of dollars worth of stuff.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
So okay, do a little Yeah, So al Xandra, this
advice comes with a little bit more scones, maybe, do
you think, Yeah, maybe you could toss that in there. Yeah,
just asking him to change, yeah, well and bringing up
how how much he has changed the first time you asked?
And how proud you are of him?
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Did she ask him? She kind of sneakily.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
I mean you forced him, but that's okay.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
Yeah, I mean I can definitely bring up his change
because it is dramatic, but I am proud of him. Yeah.
Speaker 9 (10:26):
Tickets like an anti fitness camp, you know what I mean? Wait?
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Yeah, they force you to eat cakes every Yeah, all right,
that'll be our backup plan, plane.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
I want to go to that camp.
Speaker 4 (10:37):
Yeah, it's not for you, cake camp. Yes, it's right
after the brunch boys made all right, great, we gave
you all the device that we have. You can choose
to use as much of it as you want or
none of it. It's up to you. But I'm going
to dial your boyfriend's number. Let you make your awkward
call here.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
Good luck, thank you?
Speaker 7 (10:56):
All right, here we go?
Speaker 8 (11:04):
Hellop, Hey Dan? Sorry, who's what it's me?
Speaker 10 (11:13):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (11:14):
Oh? Sorry? Your phone cut out? And I don't know
you're not calling from your numbers.
Speaker 6 (11:20):
What's going on? Oh that's weird. I don't know.
Speaker 10 (11:24):
What do you do?
Speaker 8 (11:27):
I am at the moment, making lunch and getting ready
for my afternoon jag.
Speaker 6 (11:34):
You're going for a run again, didn't you go this morning?
Speaker 8 (11:39):
So I've been reading something online that says you can
kind of do shorter runs more often, kind of boost
your endurance. I'm experimenting with that this week.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Oh no, wow, Okay, you're really going for with this
healthcare kong?
Speaker 4 (11:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (11:56):
Yeah, I mean you get me started on something that
has really a good change my life, you know the
best word.
Speaker 5 (12:03):
And you have worked so hard and I am so
proud of you, and you were doing so good. But
what if you just did like the same but like less?
Speaker 8 (12:20):
What I don't get it, like.
Speaker 5 (12:22):
Instead of two runs a day, maybe like two runs
a week or like two runs a month, you know,
stuff like that.
Speaker 8 (12:32):
Maybe what's what's going on? What is this?
Speaker 5 (12:36):
Like you're just always so busy with this health thing?
Like do you even remember that we used to have scones?
Like do you know what that tastes like?
Speaker 4 (12:42):
Still?
Speaker 6 (12:43):
Did you forget?
Speaker 5 (12:44):
Like they were so buttery and they had like blueberries
and chocolate chips and like.
Speaker 6 (12:49):
They were warm and you put jam on them, Like
do you know that?
Speaker 7 (12:52):
Like did you do you forget?
Speaker 8 (12:55):
I haven't forgotten, but I mean the way you just
described that sounds awful.
Speaker 5 (13:00):
At this point, the blueberries are organic, like, get over it.
Speaker 8 (13:05):
Whoa, Oh, I feel like I've kind of hit a
stride in this sort of new, less butter more vegetables
part of my life.
Speaker 5 (13:15):
You know.
Speaker 8 (13:15):
They say like look good, feel good, and man, I
feel real good. I mean I might getting compliments from people,
you know, like even your sister said, I look really cute.
Speaker 6 (13:27):
Oh wait what.
Speaker 8 (13:30):
When we were at your cousins for the baby shower
of and he texted me after her said it was
like nice to meet me and I looked really cute.
Speaker 6 (13:38):
No, she did not, she did no, she no, she
did not. She never said that to anyone.
Speaker 8 (13:46):
What are you talking about here? She never says anybody's attractive.
Speaker 6 (13:50):
Nobody, no, nobody, Like she is up to something.
Speaker 8 (13:55):
Are you serious? What's going on?
Speaker 7 (13:57):
You don't know her like I know her? Okay.
Speaker 10 (13:59):
In high school they called her the Medusa of men.
Like you look at her once and you're done.
Speaker 8 (14:09):
What is going on? What was that?
Speaker 4 (14:13):
That's a sound effect that we played because you're on
the radio right now, Ted, why.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
Well, we're trying to save you from the Medusa of men.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
Apparently, I guess that.
Speaker 6 (14:23):
Wasn't the that's a real thing.
Speaker 7 (14:25):
She wants you Ted?
Speaker 4 (14:27):
Well, yeah, yeah, you're jumping to a lot of conclusions here, Alexandra. First,
we need to tell Ted that this is a segment
we do. It's called an awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5 (14:35):
That doesn't matter. Okay, It matters that he's gotten too
hot and he knows it and she knows it.
Speaker 4 (14:40):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Do you really think your sister's trying to steal your man?
Speaker 5 (14:45):
Why would she text him and not have me on
the thread and then tell him that he's cute?
Speaker 8 (14:51):
Question? Why are we on the radio?
Speaker 3 (14:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (14:59):
Do you want want me to explain to Alexandra or
do you want to tell.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
You can tell him it's fun.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Well, yeah, it's like a group chat.
Speaker 5 (15:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (15:07):
So Alexandra reached out to us because, first of all,
she is so proud of you on the progress that
you've made in the last six months in the lifestyle changes,
like obviously you're looking good and everybody's noticing. She does, though,
miss a little bit of your relationship before when you
used to, like she said, go get scones together, and the.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Relaxed part of your relationship is missing.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
You may have over indexed just like a touch for her.
Speaker 8 (15:35):
But I mean isn't it better to avoid the process
cards than the all that craft?
Speaker 1 (15:40):
No, but it's like everything in moderation, right, like a
little bit here, a little bit there.
Speaker 8 (15:44):
Yeah, So I don't know. I said, you want me
to go back to the way I was.
Speaker 5 (15:49):
I mean a little bit because I'm getting asked up
by these people called like the brunch boys, and I
don't think you want me to go out with them?
Speaker 8 (16:01):
Always deduced? Are these real things?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
She just wants you to hang out on a Saturday
morning and be lazy with her for.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
A little bit. She would you be so serious about
the working out?
Speaker 3 (16:12):
Apparently she also doesn't want you to text her sister now.
Speaker 8 (16:14):
Yeah, I'm not trying to be like the sidon do
anything over here?
Speaker 4 (16:18):
Whoa drake mccaldi went too far? She can make up
words and he can't.
Speaker 8 (16:25):
Yeah, what the hell? Man?
Speaker 4 (16:26):
Well we're on the radio, is all that? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Have we accomplished anything here?
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Like?
Speaker 3 (16:31):
Where are we at?
Speaker 5 (16:33):
I just want to hang out and have a scone
without veggies on the side.
Speaker 4 (16:39):
And without her sister present anywhere nearby.
Speaker 8 (16:42):
Yes, I will come home. We will block your sister
on all of the social media. We will I will
eat the pastry with you and enjoy the heck out
of it.
Speaker 4 (16:53):
Okay, Well, we set out trying to find the healthy
balance in the life that you were going to words
in the life that you had, Alexandra. Do you feel
like we found it?
Speaker 6 (17:03):
I think we're good.
Speaker 5 (17:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
You a really awesome boyfriend.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Yeah, so like a great dude.
Speaker 8 (17:10):
Bro.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
Oh no, Brooks trying to slide in. Hang Up, Hang
Up the Men Part two, look Out Part number. Brook
and Jeffrey in the morning. It's Brook and Jeffrey in
the morning. Can someone remind me to make my reservation
for six with the brunch Boys this weekend? I would
(17:33):
really hate to miss it.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Is it a brunch Boys club? Because it just is
such a good name.
Speaker 4 (17:38):
Don't Yeah? I think we need to start it if
it doesn't exist.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
Can I be invited to?
Speaker 4 (17:43):
Absolutely? Not only the hot guys of the studio get in?
Brook You gave the best advice you've given in years.
I did what Yeah? The brunch Boys? Oh okay, that
was amazing. It didn't help them at all, but it
sounds like they didn't need it anyway. They're one of
those couples that actually listens to each other. Can compromise,
and plus they're getting scones together. I mean it's pretty.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Much pertinct they just called to be on the phone
and brag about themselves.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
He seemed Humblefolt. That was the gross thing.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
Yeah, you know, although I do picture him at the
bakery secretly spitting out his chocolate scone into his napkin
underneath the table.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Yeah, he's not going to actually like eating it.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
No he's not, oh man. But you know what actually
makes every relationship better is hitting subscribe wherever you listen
to this podcast.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
That's how you get a perfect relationship.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
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