March 14, 2025 • 23 mins
We don't know about you, but we are feelin' 22!
Jess & Camilla share what they'd tell their younger selves over a cup of coffee if they could today and urge their younger listeners from the Call It Crew to enjoy their youth.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington,
an iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello Call It crew. Welcome to another episode of Short
and Sweet, brought to you by BMWW.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
For all our female listeners. We hope you are treating
yourselves the month of March.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
And don't forget we are celebrating women's history months. So
treat yourself, ladies.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
You don't need to keep it to Jesus month, by
the way, treat yourself all the time.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
A double treat this month. Yeah, all the tree why
know the treads.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Sonny even double them, triple quadriple. Who cares all of them?
So we're getting a little is going TikTok you We're
going TikTok trendy tis TikTok trend nostalgia.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Yeah, and instead of doing this on TikTok, we thought
we'd do it on here. Yeah yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
So the TikTok trend that we are talking about is
getting coffee with your younger self, which is a way
to reflect on your life and appreciate, I appreciate how
far you come and uh it might even help you
reckon with how far you've come, right, who you were
then and who you are now and see some growth.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
According to Alice to, this trend is hitting a nerve
because it allows you to mentally reconnect with the past
version of you who was once insecure or struggling, likely
because they didn't have direction, knowledge or support.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Go to a cafe and you have coffee with your
younger self and you can pick well, I guess you
could pick all of them, but your thirty year old you,
your twenty five year old you, or even.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Your eight whatever, I think, whatever age you are. Okay,
So which age have you picked?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Me? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:57):
I think I'm fudging this. I'm picking twenty two year
old me for a reason. Oh okay, I'm going brogue.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Such okay, Well then great, you know exactly what you're doing.
You pick your you go?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Should I go first? Yes?
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I think so.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Okay. So I'm meeting twenty two year old me yep,
and I would love I want to say that I
would love to meet for coffee at like nine thirty.
That's good for me. Have to drop off twenty two
year old Kmila is not awake, So this is going
to be like an eleven am coffee and I'm going
(02:35):
to show up in like kind of you know, like
sweatpanties sort of situation, sweatshirt and probably no makeup, hair
pulled back. Twenty two year old me was always done up.
I would not leave the house without makeup, very very rare.
I'm thinking like a full fresh spray tan, a lot
(02:57):
of makeup, a lot of liner. And I know what
I would order. Twenty two year old me orders a
one of those green tea frappuccinos that you can get
from Starbucks, the ice ones, yep. And then I would say, no, sugar,
can you not do the extra pump of sugar? And
then I would take about fifty of the equals and
(03:23):
I would dump those bad boys in because you know,
I was doing a low carb and this was better.
And I honestly, i'm surprised I don't have a third arm.
And I would just order a regular coffee and I'd
only have one because otherwise I get and I will
that's my that's my first part. I think you should
do your first part and then we'll go back and forth.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Okay, I would I would meet well, just to make
it different, let's meet my I. Let's do eighteen eighteen.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
That's fun.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
My eighteen year old self. She slept in, but she
she also could bake an early morning meeting if need be,
and we would meet at Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf
for the lended mocha Chuka latte whatever that was.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
You're both doing that or just she's doing that.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
She's doing that. I'm ordering a whole milc late.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, she's.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Gonna want to go next door to the Noah's Bagels
and grab and everything bagel with cream cheese. But she's
gonna feel guilty about it. I'm gonna go and get
it and feel zero guilt about it.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Oh my god, I love this. I love this. Oh
my god, But I like, you know what's funny you
saying this right now? I have such warmth for eighteen
year old jesss already, I'm like, I love her.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Oh, she's cute. She's wearing likely some sort of like
nineties early nineties, like low slung, juicy cature linen pant
with a draw string.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
A kids in situation.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Uh yeah, hey but yeah baby yeah, and then like
a baby tea.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
So cute.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
She was cute.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Yeah, there was almost like a cargo pant era.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yes, and she had huge boobs. Oh she had I
mean enormous, like good dunga dungas. Oh they were like
a I mean I think I bought a double D,
but I think they really were like good eat.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Were you in the were you in the Victorious Secret?
Also remember that bra that happed like rocks in the
side of it so that you get told, please, this is.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
How you know that. I actually didn't even see them
as an asset. I saw them as a liability. I
was wearing like away col like minimize her.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
God, oh my god.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
I was just trying to harness them.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
God, okay, wait, let me go, let me go back
to twenty two. You were me because little Camilla is
definitely wearing the Victoria, the wonderbra, the wonderbra that had.
And it was like, I was trying to rally those girls. Yes,
but I you know that, my little bees. I was
trying to rally them so quickly.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You said, yes, I love that.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
I did. I listen.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I know you know perfect.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Little boobies I had little, I had some great Yeah,
I had some great little boobs, but I needed them
to be wonderbroad.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
You wanted them.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
You wanted them to be perfect.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Just in greater volume and closer to your chin.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Yes, I want a hundred person He inches up in.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
The middle.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Like no one, like everyone would think that that was
how they naturally were.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Yeah, yeah, of course.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Okay, okay, so you're ordering that, that's the food you're getting.
Uh So, twenty two year old little me is gonna I'm.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Gonna see what I was wearing.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Oh yeah, what are you wearing? Okay, so she's wearing
she's wearing wearing the cargoes and she's got the.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Not gonna say cargoes. I don't like car.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah yeah, using the linen, the linen yea.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, okay, So I'm wearing I'm so boring. Now I'm
wearing some like cute high waisted jean with a cute
little T shirt tucked in and like a sweater over
my shoulders and some hoop earrings.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Yeah that's yeah, that is you lots of yummy jewelry.
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. Little Me would definitely be
scanning the bakery situation at Starbucks and being like, oh, no,
you're not gonna get me carbs.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
And God forbid one of those carbs jumps out of
that thing and absolutely not not.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
When the South Beach diet book just came out.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
The dieting when we were younger, so gross. It was
such a kick in the teeth every day, having to
live in a world where you felt not enough.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Yeah, I don't miss that. I don't miss it at all.
I probably still wouldn't. I'm not a super breakfast person.
I probably still wouldn't order something to eat, but I'm
I'm always down for potentially a blueberry muffin. And I
feel no guilt over any garbs in my life.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Great. So a younger me and I. Younger me would say,
eighteen year old me would say how much she loved
(08:27):
her family, how excited she was about going to college,
how nervous she was about going to college, and how
nervous she was about leaving home. And she would talk
about whether or not she should even go to college.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Oh really need to be a Hollywood star? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Yeah, for me and me now would talk about how
much I love my family. Yeah, how excited I am
when I think about the new things that I can do.
How I do get nervous about everyone in my life
(09:08):
being okay. I just want everyone to be okay. Yeah,
and uh yeah, that'd be that part.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Would you tell would you be like, go to college,
You're still going to be a movie, You're going to
be a star still.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I would have told myself to Yeah, I really did
enjoy college, but it did take me a minute. You
work so hard to get into college, and then I
think there's this promise of your freshman year being some
golden experience because you've worked so hard for the year before,
and your freshman year is kind of hard. I don't
(09:44):
know who you are, you want any friends, You're not
at home anymore. So freshman year was not easy for me.
I was grateful to get through it. I made a
lot of great friends. I made a lot of friends
that I didn't keep. I made a lot of friends
that I did keep. Sophomore year is a lot more
exciting for me. But I really did enjoy college. And
(10:04):
I would have told myself back then, just give it
a minute. Doesn't happen, give it a minute.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
I love this, Okay. Twenty two year old me had
just been dumped. Yeah, and uh, I was feeling very
lost in a new city. But I had made a
new friend and had made would have made that year
a dream board manifesting all the things I want. I
(10:31):
cut a bunch of stuff out of the magazine. And
I know that little me, I would believe that I
would someday meet somebody, but would not be sure. And
so I would tell little me that the friendship that
I just made was going to be a great friendship
for that period of my life, and I could lean
(10:52):
on that person for that period. And I would say,
guess what, You're going to meet a guy and he's
going to be amazing, and you're going to talk about
sharding and farting on the podcast with your You know
that their best this is not and it's going to
be true love. No, But I would also you know,
(11:12):
I don't mean to bring that up. I know it
that for it is a hard one for you. And
I don't mean.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Said aggressive farting.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
You don't.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
You didn't just talk about farting. You talked about aggressive
farting the question. The question was about farting in a relationship. Yeah,
but you brought up ripping butt.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I don't understand that different to be ripping button, ripping ass.
Somebody explained it to me.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Somebody explained to me how you could say rip butt
or rip ass?
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Well, why do I.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Need to talk about the difference when I just really
want to tell you should talk about it.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Neither. Can I talk to my little me, attorney? Can
I just talked to my little self? Thanks, Jess. And
I would also say everything you made on your dream
but everything you made on your trip, No, seriously, after
that many equals, you know, know what could happen? That's
my point, exactly my point. But I would say everything
(12:06):
on your dream board literally comes true. Oh yeah, this
is actually a very cute exercise.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
I would tell my younger self that it was going
to take longer to get where she wanted to get
than she thought, and she would really not like to
hear that. Wow. I in the in the entire course
of my career, I have had to wait a lot
longer than I wanted to to get to the places
(12:41):
that I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
I have to say, though, you are one of the
most humble, grateful, truly. I mean this people that I know,
and I think what's really interesting about you? It makes
me love you so much. I mean I could like
literally cry because I love you so much, Like it
makes me emotional. You guys, I'm getting emotional. But like
meeting you, I had no idea who your family were,
(13:05):
and I think that people would like you're I think
there are some people that could come out of like
the circumstances that you're raised in and be totalles right,
like have such an ego about it all, and you
just you have none of that. And I just, I
just I almost feel like the waiting for you maybe
(13:27):
has has been part of why you're so lovely too.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
You would have been lovely if you've gotten it in
the first five minutes anyway, But I just have who knows,
I could have been a monster, could.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Be an it would have all gone wrong.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I still would have loved you.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
YEA would have monsters, I would think I would have
I would have told her to to let it, to
let it, I think I guess I would have told
her that don't worry, it's going to happen. It's just
it's just going to take longer than you want.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
It's a journey.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Yeah. And I got to say myself now, I would
say the same thing, like it's it's all, it all happens.
You just it doesn't happen according to your plan. And
I think along the lines of you know, you and
I have discussed this and We both do very much
believe in manifesting things and having vision boards and thinking
(14:23):
about the things you want and attracting them. But here's
the funny thing, just because you want it doesn't mean
you get to control when you get it. It's the wanting,
it's the attracting. There is there's no sidebar or you know,
fine print that says you get to say when. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I love that you said that. I think that's a
really important thing to tell your kids. But I just
love the way that you said that.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
I probably can't say it again like that, You'll never
say it again. No.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
The Call It Crew also chimed in with some of
the things that they would have said to themselves. And
I want to read of you because I think it's
really touching. Actually, Liz said, spend more time with your parents.
I'm thirty seven and lost my mom to pancreatic cancer. Yeah, yeah,
I get that.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
That's also a hard one because you can't live with
fear of it. Yeah, you can't be like, oh my gosh,
I gotta be with my mom all the time, because
there's a healthy balanced to all the right Yeah. Sally
wrote in It's okay to not be in control. Amen.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Mary said, your academics don't define you. That's a good one.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah, Jillian said, leave that group of friends. They are
not good for you.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Gabby. There's no rush to be older. Take your time
and enjoy it. That is so true.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
And by the way, this is spoken as someone who
went out in some outfits that were way above my
age grade.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Yeah, but do you actually regret it, Jess, because you've
sells me so those pitch look.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
I mean, all due respect, she got an Academy Award
for it, but I was one hundred percent Jodie Foster
and taxi driver in certain situations.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Were I felt that I never wore a hat.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Maybe not the hat that but yeah, full yeah, whatever,
And maybe, by the way, don't worry. It's all coming
back to me in spades. My daughters bring out outfits
that I think they're trying to say their skirts, and I'm.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
Like, oh, and I'm trying to be like chill about it.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
And again going back to you know, Sally, it's okay
to not be in control of everything, but.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
You're undoing that hem at midnight.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Well, okay, so here's my new move.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Don't tell that, okay, squirts, Oh I love a squirt.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Yeah, then you fine, make it a sh short as
you want. Just make sure there's some short. Yeah, exactly.
My grandma used to say when I wore my short skirts.
May she rest in peace. She's not here anymore. Grandma above,
I mean full blown, used to say to me. She's like, Jesse,
would you that skirt is too short? You're just gonna
show everybody at your playground?
Speaker 2 (17:19):
No?
Speaker 1 (17:20):
Yeah, And I was like, what what does that mean?
My play is that's probably wrong to say, but you
know what, you're probably laughing that. I just don't. You
know what, though it's we talked about.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
I mean, it's a way to say it.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Reese, it's better to open up than bottle it all up.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
True story, Taylor, go watch Gray's Anatomy sooner.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
Ok Yeah, Kim, open your eyes you're gay, Yes, open
your eyes. It's okay to be gay. Let's be gay.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
This is a good one, Felicia. Not everyone you meet
is a good person. Oh really? Trusting when you're younger.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I do that sometimes. And when they're bad, they're so disappointing.
I know, I mean bad, but just not when they
disappoint be brave like Joe and strong like Arizona. I
like that.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I could have used that too.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
Do you ever take compliments about your character like they're
for you? I'm like, thank you for saying I'm so strong?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Yeah, no, I did just then I was like thanks, Yeah,
that's very Leo of you.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Though.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Well, yeah, by the way.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
You know what we get to we get closer to
every day.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
What oh god, that time of you you're so far away.
What are you talking about? Literally, you're so it's not
it's everyone. It's August is when her birthday is closer
to it. What my god, it's the most Leo thing
(18:52):
you've said. Ida. Most of the things you feel now
are temporary and small in the big picture.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
True. Yeah. I like that cartoon where it's like it's
like three balls and one's big, ones meetium, one's small,
and the big one is how it feels today, and
the medium ones yes in a week, and the small
one is how he feels in two weeks. Alice said,
don't waste your time pretending to be someone you aren't.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
No, Nicholas said, don't resist the anti depressants. They really
do help. Nicholas. I feel you.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Yes, Mandy, you are more than your weight.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
Yeah, twenty two year old Camilla should have heard that
and should have gotten the muffin. Matt said, in the
words of Mel Robbins, let them.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Yeah, we love that. Mary, put down the hair scissors
and box of bleach. I was gonna say, put down
the hair scissors, don't cut your bangs. Bangs are the worst.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Laurence, get tickets to more than one Eras tour concert.
Well she changed, I know, but she changed it up
on us and she added that whole other album, and
we did not know that was going to happen. So
I understand that.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Then you want the redo, Catherine said, don't cling and
cry over boys who don't want you, and when they
crawl back say noo.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Yeah it's true, Celeste, for the love of God, eat
the damn chocolate cake. Dude. I used to like on
my birthday, like, cut the tiniest Lottinis signs. What the heck,
eat the cake, eat the whole thing, dude.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Okay, Claire, they know to things you don't want to do,
you know what. I almost feel like we need to
end on this because it's the most important one.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Yes, no, no, If you don't want to.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Do it, there's a kind way to say no, you
don't have to do you don't want to do.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
I have always been really good at that.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Yes, I agree with you, and I mean that in
the bestest way, and that it's something that i've I'm
envious of.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Yeah, when you're like, let's go for a walk and
it's I don't want to I'm not envious.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
That's not when I like the application of that rule.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
But I do tell I am honest with you. If
I don't want to do it, you're to know about it.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Yeah, Yeah, you know what. The only thing I have
going for me is such a short amount of time
that I just strong arm you into it. I don't
really care about I do everything that I tell you
not to do on this podcast. I don't take I
don't take account for your feelings. I don't definitely not
give what you want with me.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
But I'll let you know the whole time that I
don't want to be doing. It's all I'm saying. I'm
still I'm on the walk, but I'm letting you know
I don't want to be on it.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Yeah, but it's all made better by at the end
of the walk, you're saying how much you.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Loved the walk. Sometimes no, no, you did.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
There's been a couple of times. No, that's not true.
I'm not saying no no, no, no, no no no.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Anyway, for God's sake, we should do this again when
we're much much older and go back and talk to ourselves.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Now.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
Yeah, that interesting.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Yeah, well if you're Yeah, there's got to be something
that I'm definitely not recalling right now. But there's definitely
a saying about Oh, isn't there one about like if
you're not failing, you're not growing, If you're not learning,
you're not.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
I don't know, yeah, whatever, whatever.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
I just think that every year doesn't mean that the
year is easy, but I think we all learn.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
I actually think that could be. I know it's a
TikTok trend right now and we're we're wrapping this up,
but I actually think it's quite an interesting little exercise
to do maybe every birthday, because there are things that
I could have told myself last birthday and the birthday
before that. It's a good way to have like a
little conversation with your.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
Hair, like write yourself a little letter.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Yeah mm hm.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
My daughter Poppy is so good at journaling. Oh, I
don't have that gift.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
Wait what I think I saw. Josie also ur like
have a little diary, you know.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
It's just so cute.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
Yeah, they're cute.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
I see, get to that too. Anyway, I actually really
like this TikTok exercise. Yeah, by the way, I want
you all to do it and send us yours. Yes,
and thank you for the submissions. But let's call it
the end of the episode.
Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington,
an iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello Call It crew. Welcome to another episode of Short
and Sweet, brought to you by BMWW.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
For all our female listeners. We hope you are treating
yourselves the month of March.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
And don't forget we are celebrating women's history months. So
treat yourself, ladies.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
You don't need to keep it to Jesus month, by
the way, treat yourself all the time.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
A double treat this month. Yeah, all the tree why
know the treads.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Sonny even double them, triple quadriple. Who cares all of them?
So we're getting a little is going TikTok you We're
going TikTok trendy tis TikTok trend nostalgia.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Yeah, and instead of doing this on TikTok, we thought
we'd do it on here. Yeah yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
So the TikTok trend that we are talking about is
getting coffee with your younger self, which is a way
to reflect on your life and appreciate, I appreciate how
far you come and uh it might even help you
reckon with how far you've come, right, who you were
then and who you are now and see some growth.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
According to Alice to, this trend is hitting a nerve
because it allows you to mentally reconnect with the past
version of you who was once insecure or struggling, likely
because they didn't have direction, knowledge or support.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Go to a cafe and you have coffee with your
younger self and you can pick well, I guess you
could pick all of them, but your thirty year old you,
your twenty five year old you, or even.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Your eight whatever, I think, whatever age you are. Okay,
So which age have you picked?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Me? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:57):
I think I'm fudging this. I'm picking twenty two year
old me for a reason. Oh okay, I'm going brogue.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Such okay, Well then great, you know exactly what you're doing.
You pick your you go?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Should I go first? Yes?
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I think so.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Okay. So I'm meeting twenty two year old me yep,
and I would love I want to say that I
would love to meet for coffee at like nine thirty.
That's good for me. Have to drop off twenty two
year old Kmila is not awake, So this is going
to be like an eleven am coffee and I'm going
(02:35):
to show up in like kind of you know, like
sweatpanties sort of situation, sweatshirt and probably no makeup, hair
pulled back. Twenty two year old me was always done up.
I would not leave the house without makeup, very very rare.
I'm thinking like a full fresh spray tan, a lot
(02:57):
of makeup, a lot of liner. And I know what
I would order. Twenty two year old me orders a
one of those green tea frappuccinos that you can get
from Starbucks, the ice ones, yep. And then I would say, no, sugar,
can you not do the extra pump of sugar? And
then I would take about fifty of the equals and
(03:23):
I would dump those bad boys in because you know,
I was doing a low carb and this was better.
And I honestly, i'm surprised I don't have a third arm.
And I would just order a regular coffee and I'd
only have one because otherwise I get and I will
that's my that's my first part. I think you should
do your first part and then we'll go back and forth.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Okay, I would I would meet well, just to make
it different, let's meet my I. Let's do eighteen eighteen.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
That's fun.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
My eighteen year old self. She slept in, but she
she also could bake an early morning meeting if need be,
and we would meet at Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf
for the lended mocha Chuka latte whatever that was.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
You're both doing that or just she's doing that.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
She's doing that. I'm ordering a whole milc late.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, she's.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Gonna want to go next door to the Noah's Bagels
and grab and everything bagel with cream cheese. But she's
gonna feel guilty about it. I'm gonna go and get
it and feel zero guilt about it.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Oh my god, I love this. I love this. Oh
my god, But I like, you know what's funny you
saying this right now? I have such warmth for eighteen
year old jesss already, I'm like, I love her.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Oh, she's cute. She's wearing likely some sort of like
nineties early nineties, like low slung, juicy cature linen pant
with a draw string.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
A kids in situation.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Uh yeah, hey but yeah baby yeah, and then like
a baby tea.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
So cute.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
She was cute.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Yeah, there was almost like a cargo pant era.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yes, and she had huge boobs. Oh she had I
mean enormous, like good dunga dungas. Oh they were like
a I mean I think I bought a double D,
but I think they really were like good eat.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Were you in the were you in the Victorious Secret?
Also remember that bra that happed like rocks in the
side of it so that you get told, please, this is.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
How you know that. I actually didn't even see them
as an asset. I saw them as a liability. I
was wearing like away col like minimize her.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
God, oh my god.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
I was just trying to harness them.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
God, okay, wait, let me go, let me go back
to twenty two. You were me because little Camilla is
definitely wearing the Victoria, the wonderbra, the wonderbra that had.
And it was like, I was trying to rally those girls. Yes,
but I you know that, my little bees. I was
trying to rally them so quickly.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You said, yes, I love that.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
I did. I listen.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I know you know perfect.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Little boobies I had little, I had some great Yeah,
I had some great little boobs, but I needed them
to be wonderbroad.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
You wanted them.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
You wanted them to be perfect.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Just in greater volume and closer to your chin.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Yes, I want a hundred person He inches up in.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
The middle.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Like no one, like everyone would think that that was
how they naturally were.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Yeah, yeah, of course.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Okay, okay, so you're ordering that, that's the food you're getting.
Uh So, twenty two year old little me is gonna I'm.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Gonna see what I was wearing.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Oh yeah, what are you wearing? Okay, so she's wearing
she's wearing wearing the cargoes and she's got the.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Not gonna say cargoes. I don't like car.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah yeah, using the linen, the linen yea.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, okay, So I'm wearing I'm so boring. Now I'm
wearing some like cute high waisted jean with a cute
little T shirt tucked in and like a sweater over
my shoulders and some hoop earrings.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Yeah that's yeah, that is you lots of yummy jewelry.
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. Little Me would definitely be
scanning the bakery situation at Starbucks and being like, oh, no,
you're not gonna get me carbs.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
And God forbid one of those carbs jumps out of
that thing and absolutely not not.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
When the South Beach diet book just came out.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
The dieting when we were younger, so gross. It was
such a kick in the teeth every day, having to
live in a world where you felt not enough.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Yeah, I don't miss that. I don't miss it at all.
I probably still wouldn't. I'm not a super breakfast person.
I probably still wouldn't order something to eat, but I'm
I'm always down for potentially a blueberry muffin. And I
feel no guilt over any garbs in my life.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Great. So a younger me and I. Younger me would say,
eighteen year old me would say how much she loved
(08:27):
her family, how excited she was about going to college,
how nervous she was about going to college, and how
nervous she was about leaving home. And she would talk
about whether or not she should even go to college.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Oh really need to be a Hollywood star? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Yeah, for me and me now would talk about how
much I love my family. Yeah, how excited I am
when I think about the new things that I can do.
How I do get nervous about everyone in my life
(09:08):
being okay. I just want everyone to be okay. Yeah,
and uh yeah, that'd be that part.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Would you tell would you be like, go to college,
You're still going to be a movie, You're going to
be a star still.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I would have told myself to Yeah, I really did
enjoy college, but it did take me a minute. You
work so hard to get into college, and then I
think there's this promise of your freshman year being some
golden experience because you've worked so hard for the year before,
and your freshman year is kind of hard. I don't
(09:44):
know who you are, you want any friends, You're not
at home anymore. So freshman year was not easy for me.
I was grateful to get through it. I made a
lot of great friends. I made a lot of friends
that I didn't keep. I made a lot of friends
that I did keep. Sophomore year is a lot more
exciting for me. But I really did enjoy college. And
(10:04):
I would have told myself back then, just give it
a minute. Doesn't happen, give it a minute.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
I love this, Okay. Twenty two year old me had
just been dumped. Yeah, and uh, I was feeling very
lost in a new city. But I had made a
new friend and had made would have made that year
a dream board manifesting all the things I want. I
(10:31):
cut a bunch of stuff out of the magazine. And
I know that little me, I would believe that I
would someday meet somebody, but would not be sure. And
so I would tell little me that the friendship that
I just made was going to be a great friendship
for that period of my life, and I could lean
(10:52):
on that person for that period. And I would say,
guess what, You're going to meet a guy and he's
going to be amazing, and you're going to talk about
sharding and farting on the podcast with your You know
that their best this is not and it's going to
be true love. No, But I would also you know,
(11:12):
I don't mean to bring that up. I know it
that for it is a hard one for you. And
I don't mean.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Said aggressive farting.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
You don't.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
You didn't just talk about farting. You talked about aggressive
farting the question. The question was about farting in a relationship. Yeah,
but you brought up ripping butt.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I don't understand that different to be ripping button, ripping ass.
Somebody explained it to me.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Somebody explained to me how you could say rip butt
or rip ass?
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Well, why do I.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Need to talk about the difference when I just really
want to tell you should talk about it.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Neither. Can I talk to my little me, attorney? Can
I just talked to my little self? Thanks, Jess. And
I would also say everything you made on your dream
but everything you made on your trip, No, seriously, after
that many equals, you know, know what could happen? That's
my point, exactly my point. But I would say everything
(12:06):
on your dream board literally comes true. Oh yeah, this
is actually a very cute exercise.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
I would tell my younger self that it was going
to take longer to get where she wanted to get
than she thought, and she would really not like to
hear that. Wow. I in the in the entire course
of my career, I have had to wait a lot
longer than I wanted to to get to the places
(12:41):
that I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
I have to say, though, you are one of the
most humble, grateful, truly. I mean this people that I know,
and I think what's really interesting about you? It makes
me love you so much. I mean I could like
literally cry because I love you so much, Like it
makes me emotional. You guys, I'm getting emotional. But like
meeting you, I had no idea who your family were,
(13:05):
and I think that people would like you're I think
there are some people that could come out of like
the circumstances that you're raised in and be totalles right,
like have such an ego about it all, and you
just you have none of that. And I just, I
just I almost feel like the waiting for you maybe
(13:27):
has has been part of why you're so lovely too.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
You would have been lovely if you've gotten it in
the first five minutes anyway, But I just have who knows,
I could have been a monster, could.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Be an it would have all gone wrong.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I still would have loved you.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
YEA would have monsters, I would think I would have
I would have told her to to let it, to
let it, I think I guess I would have told
her that don't worry, it's going to happen. It's just
it's just going to take longer than you want.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
It's a journey.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Yeah. And I got to say myself now, I would
say the same thing, like it's it's all, it all happens.
You just it doesn't happen according to your plan. And
I think along the lines of you know, you and
I have discussed this and We both do very much
believe in manifesting things and having vision boards and thinking
(14:23):
about the things you want and attracting them. But here's
the funny thing, just because you want it doesn't mean
you get to control when you get it. It's the wanting,
it's the attracting. There is there's no sidebar or you know,
fine print that says you get to say when. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I love that you said that. I think that's a
really important thing to tell your kids. But I just
love the way that you said that.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
I probably can't say it again like that, You'll never
say it again. No.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
The Call It Crew also chimed in with some of
the things that they would have said to themselves. And
I want to read of you because I think it's
really touching. Actually, Liz said, spend more time with your parents.
I'm thirty seven and lost my mom to pancreatic cancer. Yeah, yeah,
I get that.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
That's also a hard one because you can't live with
fear of it. Yeah, you can't be like, oh my gosh,
I gotta be with my mom all the time, because
there's a healthy balanced to all the right Yeah. Sally
wrote in It's okay to not be in control. Amen.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Mary said, your academics don't define you. That's a good one.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah, Jillian said, leave that group of friends. They are
not good for you.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Gabby. There's no rush to be older. Take your time
and enjoy it. That is so true.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
And by the way, this is spoken as someone who
went out in some outfits that were way above my
age grade.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Yeah, but do you actually regret it, Jess, because you've
sells me so those pitch look.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
I mean, all due respect, she got an Academy Award
for it, but I was one hundred percent Jodie Foster
and taxi driver in certain situations.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Were I felt that I never wore a hat.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Maybe not the hat that but yeah, full yeah, whatever,
And maybe, by the way, don't worry. It's all coming
back to me in spades. My daughters bring out outfits
that I think they're trying to say their skirts, and I'm.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
Like, oh, and I'm trying to be like chill about it.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
And again going back to you know, Sally, it's okay
to not be in control of everything, but.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
You're undoing that hem at midnight.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Well, okay, so here's my new move.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Don't tell that, okay, squirts, Oh I love a squirt.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Yeah, then you fine, make it a sh short as
you want. Just make sure there's some short. Yeah, exactly.
My grandma used to say when I wore my short skirts.
May she rest in peace. She's not here anymore. Grandma above,
I mean full blown, used to say to me. She's like, Jesse,
would you that skirt is too short? You're just gonna
show everybody at your playground?
Speaker 2 (17:19):
No?
Speaker 1 (17:20):
Yeah, And I was like, what what does that mean?
My play is that's probably wrong to say, but you
know what, you're probably laughing that. I just don't. You
know what, though it's we talked about.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
I mean, it's a way to say it.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Reese, it's better to open up than bottle it all up.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
True story, Taylor, go watch Gray's Anatomy sooner.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
Ok Yeah, Kim, open your eyes you're gay, Yes, open
your eyes. It's okay to be gay. Let's be gay.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
This is a good one, Felicia. Not everyone you meet
is a good person. Oh really? Trusting when you're younger.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I do that sometimes. And when they're bad, they're so disappointing.
I know, I mean bad, but just not when they
disappoint be brave like Joe and strong like Arizona. I
like that.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I could have used that too.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
Do you ever take compliments about your character like they're
for you? I'm like, thank you for saying I'm so strong?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Yeah, no, I did just then I was like thanks, Yeah,
that's very Leo of you.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Though.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Well, yeah, by the way.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
You know what we get to we get closer to
every day.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
What oh god, that time of you you're so far away.
What are you talking about? Literally, you're so it's not
it's everyone. It's August is when her birthday is closer
to it. What my god, it's the most Leo thing
(18:52):
you've said. Ida. Most of the things you feel now
are temporary and small in the big picture.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
True. Yeah. I like that cartoon where it's like it's
like three balls and one's big, ones meetium, one's small,
and the big one is how it feels today, and
the medium ones yes in a week, and the small
one is how he feels in two weeks. Alice said,
don't waste your time pretending to be someone you aren't.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
No, Nicholas said, don't resist the anti depressants. They really
do help. Nicholas. I feel you.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Yes, Mandy, you are more than your weight.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
Yeah, twenty two year old Camilla should have heard that
and should have gotten the muffin. Matt said, in the
words of Mel Robbins, let them.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Yeah, we love that. Mary, put down the hair scissors
and box of bleach. I was gonna say, put down
the hair scissors, don't cut your bangs. Bangs are the worst.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Laurence, get tickets to more than one Eras tour concert.
Well she changed, I know, but she changed it up
on us and she added that whole other album, and
we did not know that was going to happen. So
I understand that.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Then you want the redo, Catherine said, don't cling and
cry over boys who don't want you, and when they
crawl back say noo.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Yeah it's true, Celeste, for the love of God, eat
the damn chocolate cake. Dude. I used to like on
my birthday, like, cut the tiniest Lottinis signs. What the heck,
eat the cake, eat the whole thing, dude.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Okay, Claire, they know to things you don't want to do,
you know what. I almost feel like we need to
end on this because it's the most important one.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Yes, no, no, If you don't want to.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Do it, there's a kind way to say no, you
don't have to do you don't want to do.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
I have always been really good at that.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Yes, I agree with you, and I mean that in
the bestest way, and that it's something that i've I'm
envious of.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Yeah, when you're like, let's go for a walk and
it's I don't want to I'm not envious.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
That's not when I like the application of that rule.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
But I do tell I am honest with you. If
I don't want to do it, you're to know about it.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Yeah, Yeah, you know what. The only thing I have
going for me is such a short amount of time
that I just strong arm you into it. I don't
really care about I do everything that I tell you
not to do on this podcast. I don't take I
don't take account for your feelings. I don't definitely not
give what you want with me.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
But I'll let you know the whole time that I
don't want to be doing. It's all I'm saying. I'm
still I'm on the walk, but I'm letting you know
I don't want to be on it.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Yeah, but it's all made better by at the end
of the walk, you're saying how much you.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Loved the walk. Sometimes no, no, you did.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
There's been a couple of times. No, that's not true.
I'm not saying no no, no, no, no no no.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Anyway, for God's sake, we should do this again when
we're much much older and go back and talk to ourselves.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Now.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
Yeah, that interesting.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Yeah, well if you're Yeah, there's got to be something
that I'm definitely not recalling right now. But there's definitely
a saying about Oh, isn't there one about like if
you're not failing, you're not growing, If you're not learning,
you're not.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
I don't know, yeah, whatever, whatever.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
I just think that every year doesn't mean that the
year is easy, but I think we all learn.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
I actually think that could be. I know it's a
TikTok trend right now and we're we're wrapping this up,
but I actually think it's quite an interesting little exercise
to do maybe every birthday, because there are things that
I could have told myself last birthday and the birthday
before that. It's a good way to have like a
little conversation with your.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
Hair, like write yourself a little letter.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Yeah mm hm.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
My daughter Poppy is so good at journaling. Oh, I
don't have that gift.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
Wait what I think I saw. Josie also ur like
have a little diary, you know.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
It's just so cute.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
Yeah, they're cute.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
I see, get to that too. Anyway, I actually really
like this TikTok exercise. Yeah, by the way, I want
you all to do it and send us yours. Yes,
and thank you for the submissions. But let's call it
the end of the episode.
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