June 2, 2025 • 17 mins
We watched Kate Hudson teach us how to lose a guy in 10 days, but what about the gal?
Jess & Camilla share their #1 ways to ditch an unwanted female and reversing a vibe you’re not vibing with.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Lettington,
an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Well, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello call It crew, and welcome
to another episode of Short and Sweet, based on a
true story, how to.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Lose a girl in ten minutes.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
We have learned that someone close to us has been
lost in a ten minute situation by somebody else less
than ten minutes, less than ten This is basically the
X right, yes, but it's like the opposite of the dues.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
It is kind of a don'ts It is an episode
about it's a reverse dating tips guide. It is don't
do this, Please, don't do this.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
If if we were we're subjected to the dating world
right now, what would be something that could lose you
in ten minutes? I'm gonna tell you right now, mine,
if you showed up a little real late to the date,
it's done.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Oh, done, done, Like you're not even well okay, well,
let me ask you how long are you waiting?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
No more than fifteen minutes and then just leave? Yeah, yeah,
I agree with that. And even then I'd be like,
we're kind of sight eying the rest of the date.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
You mean, if they got there fourteen minutes late.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, I'd be like, that's not it's a negative for
sure that you'd have to really win me back on.
Mm hmm, okay, I think it says a lot. What
about you.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
The number one thing came to mind was smell. If
you don't smell like something I like at the beginning
of a date, it's sort of a no go. I can't.
I can't can because physically, I truly can't get over
it because you have to assume that someone's coming to
a date with their A game, right. You have to
assume that they've done everything that they possibly can to
(02:01):
be the most attractive, which would include all the things,
and if they had a smell that was not patible
with my nose mm hmm, we would have, it would
be a no go.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Yeah, because that that's the A game smell. Wait for
the C game, smell D game. I don't want to know.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You don't want to know.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
That's the best they got.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
You know, as an X sometimes you would bring your
X game and uh huh, nope.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Oh yeah. Once you're in a relationship, you you you
experienced the X game exactly?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Have you?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Back in the Jurassic era when we were dating, did
you ever go on a date where you wanted to
disappear after like five minutes. I'm really, oh you did.
I don't think I did have quite that bad of
an experience. What was it?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
He was very arrogant. He was very arrogant, and he
was just like everything was about him, and he was
just so full of himself. And I was really I
was very very repelled by it, Like I didn't. Everything
he was saying, I think was intended to seem attractive,
(03:11):
like look at how great I am, and everything he
said made me feel unattracted to him.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Oh God, sometimes are so clueless.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, And I didn't, and I'm not so great. I mean,
I'm better now, but back then I would have just
sort of suffered through it.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Your cutthroat.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah. I mean. Also, I think all these people dating
now have like, you know, they've figured out the tips
and tricks, right, They've got a friend that you know,
may day may day texts them or calls them and
is like I need you if it's if they get
the word right, Well, you don't.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Have a may Day back in back in the Jurassic era,
I had a may Day?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You did, I didn't say for work?
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Yeah? Yeah, yeah, it's just a little It would be
like you go to the bathroom and then you're like
texting and you're like, just you gotta call me and
be like, oh my god, the apartment's flooded and you
got to come home, and I you know, but I
never used a may day, but there was definitely a
version of it. Can a vibe be reversed or is
(04:08):
it over in ten minutes?
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Well, like, let's take this that example if well, well
I was gonna take the really arrogant guy, but oh yeah, yeah,
I don't think smell. I don't think smell guy is
gonna all of a sudden like change his smell intim
because that's the a game smell. And then arrogant guy
in less a minute ten he was like just kidding
(04:31):
or I was being somehow punked and it wasn't really his.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Truth annoying I'd be like, why am I being punked
on a day?
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Yeah? Yeah, yeah no yeah. Anyways, so we went to
go dig up a little relationship expert advice and uh
and and and they shared common mistakes that they see
people making, you know that doesn't get them past the
like you know, yeah, we should do this again.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Sometime.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Yeah, and by some time, I mean never, never, never,
ever again, not even your face and sent across from
you lose my number, maybe fall off the planet.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
There were four points. There were four expert points.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Yeah and they honestly, if any of these surprise you,
I'm worried. Okay, Number one, When meeting your first date,
it's key to not overwhelm them with your childhood trauma
or who your favorite middle school teacher was. Favorite middle
school teacher actually could be a funny story, but your
childhood trauma I would definitely maybe not bring out on
(05:32):
a first date.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I think it's hard. I think for someone like me,
it's hard because it's always like where does your dad live?
Speaker 3 (05:38):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Here, how does your mom lived? Well, there's no way
I can be like Kentucky. I have to say my
mom died, and then they're a follow up question and
so it's like I feel bad for people like me
because you just organically make it awkward with the truth.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Yeah yeah, yeah, you just move.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
On, you know, and it's like there's no way to
like make it. I don't know, it's awkward. Okay, fine,
you're right, no way, I understand voluntarily you're not gonna
you shouldn't be, like I just I would like to
talk about my second grade billy right now, Like it's
not the time. You know the ways to avoid certain things.
Number two, avoid being This is a big one.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
By the way, I've heard this from many, many, many
different people.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
This would have been my problem. You could go go
to avoid being fixated on whether there is chemistry or
not with the person you're on a date with.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Yes, because people can really miss out on really great
people because you're so focused on the instant chemistry and
sometimes there isn't. Is that what you're gonna say, I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
Yes, No, I agree that that's probably true. But back
when I was dating in the Jurassic era, this would
have been like, we should do this again sometime. Cop
out line, like there was if I felt no chemistry
on that date, there was no second date and I
was looking for it. That's also the problem. Yeah, like
I was like digging in the day.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
It often we but often we mistake chemistry, or we
we we mistake we mistake being hot for someone with chemistry.
I get that they can be intertwined, but like you
can't see personality from across the room so often you
don't necessarily out in the world.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I don't think, I know. I just agree, I don't.
I when I'm thinking about this, I'm not necessarily thinking
about like hot steamy chemistry. I'm thinking like way more
personality chemistry.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Actually, okay, all right, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, all right.
Well I earlier in one of the episodes, I spoke
about someone who was not was a different height than
me and it was shorter, and I gave them. It's
like I gave them. I don't mean to gift them
a second day.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Yeah, gift is a second day. It is what it is.
It was a gift. It was a gift. Did they
get gifted.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
The third No, because I couldn't push through the fact
there was no chemistry.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yeah, that's where the gifts ended. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Okay. Number three very common mistake people make on first
dates is bringing up past relationships in a negative way.
I understand that, Oh.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Can I tell you what, like set would have sent
alarm bells for me? Is when and I still judge
this when my hair guys say this is when they're
like my ex was crazy. I'm instantly like, what did
you do? And or you are That's what I'm saying,
what did you? You are the reason? Yeah, I don't
believe the X was crazy. I'm like, you're undtable. Yeah
(08:38):
for sure, I have sat with this girl that I
don't even know.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
For Another big mistake is talking too much about yourself
and not asking your date any questions. That's hard because
sometimes that comes out of you. I did, but sometimes
I think you can. Sometimes nerves do that, like you're
trying to like push conversation and you it's kind of
an accident.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Yeah, I get that, but you shouldn't do it. I'll
tw you lose a girl in ten minutes.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
The crew have submissions.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Yeah, well they've got submissions and I cannot wait. Are
you ready for it? Mary said, talk about only yourself?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Yeah, true story. Ooh, Lacy pull out your phone mid conversation.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
That's a move.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Don't do That's not good.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
I'm gone.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Olivia rude to the waiter, No kidding. Oh it's so embarrassing.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
It's awful. Gabby slurp their drink, pick Cecy talk about
their ex. Yeah yeah, Bianca bringing up politics is a
no for me.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yeah, it's not safe place to talk. Yeah, Amanda mentioning
they don't like animals. My dogs are my kids.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Oh yeah, that's too.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Who doesn't like animals?
Speaker 2 (10:10):
That's weird?
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Yeah, yeah, why you don't need to be a down
and date with them?
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yeah no, Los Sierra chew with their mouth open.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Ten minutes, dude, minutes Tasha.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Ordering for me or telling me what I would like. Oh,
I don't even know what I would do.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
I can't. Oh, that has to be an invitation, Like
I'd be like, hey, Jessica, what's good here? You know,
and and that would that would be fine. But if
you're like you will, well, I don't know. There is
a version of this where press someone's like at a
new restaurant and the other person's been here and you're like,
oh my god, you'll love the steak here, it's so good.
There's a version of this. It's not what I think.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Ordering for me, like when the waiter comes they say
what your order is without asking you.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
No, that part of it is gross, But the second
part of this is also telling me what I would like,
And I think that there's you know, there's a way
to maybe suggest like you might love this, but I
do you'll you'll know, you would know the difference Marie
pulling what pulling out his vate right in front of
my face? Made conversation you guys, Well, between.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
That and the zins, I think that it's probably entered
the dating.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Oh god, it but happens all the time.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
What gros, Jamie says, cussing excessively. I get that. Yeah, yeah,
I do like to throw a good ground.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Yeah, well, but this is excessive.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
You know.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
It's a lot. It's been thrown around. And one time
a guy picked me up for the first date and
I knew immediately he was not my man when I
saw him have a road rage.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I con't safe for you kidding, Get out of the car.
Call nine one one, Yeah there nine okay, Brandy said,
checking out, Oh come gone in less than ten seconds,
checking out another girl while talking to you.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Yeah, that's a ten second bye, Laurie for me personally,
he says off the bat. He doesn't want kids, okay bye. Yeah,
well go that's important for.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
You, Megan said, talking about themselves the whole time and
not having interest in you.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Yeah. Ooh, Miley, look at Miley coming in saying they
don't like Taylor Swift. Wow, okay, that's all.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Right, Reagan, I went on a date and he right
away smelled like mildew I couldn't do it. I'm with you.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
That was his a smell. That was his eight game smile.
The mildew Aaron controversial maybe, but I do not like
when a man asked me or right off the bat,
what I do for work? We are more than our job. Okay, huh, Yeah,
I guess it's a conversation starter though. That's what's hard
about that.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah, I guess Lauren talks about their mom.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
I don't know how annoying is the mom. Some of
us said, you know, who knows. Maybe you leave that
for like a later date, you know, like ten dates,
and you're like, my mom kind of sucks. Olivia show
up late immediately, will lose me, Olivia and me and you.
I said this earlier.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Yeah, mom said, it's a no no for me.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
If a guy talks about how he was in a frat, wow,
that's a that's a lot of America. That's going to
take some some guys out of your dating pool. Yeah, Sarah,
I wonder if there's like a well known frat. I
don't know this answer, because like this is not you know,
I was not a part of the American college scene.
But I wonder if there's a certain frat too that
carries like a I was in Delta Kepa Sigma tell
(13:43):
yeah that you're but there's a certain one also that
just carries known for being naughty. Yeah, it's just bad vibe. Yeah, Sarah,
discuss who is Oh god, Sarah said, discuss who is
paying before we even decide where we're going to dinner.
Do people really do that?
Speaker 1 (14:04):
I mean, talk about the Jurassic era. I don't even remember.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
That's so Jurassic era. Oh god, Please know what is
happening people?
Speaker 1 (14:13):
But do you know?
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:14):
But you know what a lot? You know what the
kids do these days? They just they venmo each other
and stuff. They go out and then like they go
split skis.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
They do split skis. It's always an awful conversation with
split skis on a date.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
It's well, I guess I'm going to be jurrassicy and
tell you that. Back in the day when I was dating, I.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Would just the assumption is that you're paying for dinner.
Yeah yeah, yeah, because I've gifted you with this date.
But what I mean, yeah, yeah, you gift the date.
They gift the dinner. You're gifting your time. It's you know,
it's like a gifting site. Yeah, I'm gifting you me.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
But although I do actually have a fate memory, I
can't remember who it was or what, but I do
remember there being a situation where I it wasn't the
the really bad guy, but I did there was a
date that was going particularly bad lee bad. How do
you say that there was a There was a date
that was not going well. There was a date and
I remember being like, I don't want to owe this
(15:11):
guy anything. And I was like, okay.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Your card was out before I pay to get out
of your appetizers. I was like, look, I have a
question really quick before you go okay. When you're when
dressic era dating, the guy goes like the check arrives
at the table, did you do the fake like I'll
reach from my purse and you better stop me.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
I hated that. I still feel that way when I'm
like out with someone who's like more senior or or
that I like work with, and they're in a situation
where it would be more customary for them to pay,
and it's assumed that they probably will, But at the
same time, I don't want to not offer. Yeah, so
you do like the foe move to the wallet, the
hand to the yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
If you're if you're like having a meeting though with like,
you know, a Jeff Bezos, though, are you even doing
a reach? Are you doing I would do I would
still do a reach.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
I think it's right to do a reach. But I
think probably I'm imagining this, but probably most people don't
listen if your net worth, if your net worth is published,
I think that likely you're probably thinking that. Everyone assumes
you're paying for whatever meal you're head.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
But I don't like from me, my person, just from me.
It's a pride thing.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
That's what I mean. I think, Yeah, I get that,
I get that. Yeah, we've digressed. Okay, So these are
the things. These are just some of the things that
might lose you a girl.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
But this is ten minutes, it's not ten days. This
is a short amount of time. This is a short
amount of time.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
So bring your a game, your a game, smell your
a game, conversation your a game, just your a game.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Bring your a game. If girls are gifting you a date,
oh you know.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
One of my biggest turn offs is actually you could
add to this how to Lose How to Lose a
Girl in ten minutes. Yeah, Apathy when people don't care,
like when they don't care about anything, whether it's just
not I appreciate people who care.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you can kind of smell that
vibe from a mile away too, yep, I sure do.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
All right, Well, this has been highly enjoyable, well, walk
down Memory Lane.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
I also just love it when the crew give us submissions,
because they tell us stuff that I wouldn't even think about,
and then I'm like, yeah, you're so right, You're out
in ten minutes. Okay, let's call it the end of
the episode.
Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Lettington,
an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Well, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello call It crew, and welcome
to another episode of Short and Sweet, based on a
true story, how to.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Lose a girl in ten minutes.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
We have learned that someone close to us has been
lost in a ten minute situation by somebody else less
than ten minutes, less than ten This is basically the
X right, yes, but it's like the opposite of the dues.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
It is kind of a don'ts It is an episode
about it's a reverse dating tips guide. It is don't
do this, Please, don't do this.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
If if we were we're subjected to the dating world
right now, what would be something that could lose you
in ten minutes? I'm gonna tell you right now, mine,
if you showed up a little real late to the date,
it's done.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Oh, done, done, Like you're not even well okay, well,
let me ask you how long are you waiting?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
No more than fifteen minutes and then just leave? Yeah, yeah,
I agree with that. And even then I'd be like,
we're kind of sight eying the rest of the date.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
You mean, if they got there fourteen minutes late.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, I'd be like, that's not it's a negative for
sure that you'd have to really win me back on.
Mm hmm, okay, I think it says a lot. What
about you.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
The number one thing came to mind was smell. If
you don't smell like something I like at the beginning
of a date, it's sort of a no go. I can't.
I can't can because physically, I truly can't get over
it because you have to assume that someone's coming to
a date with their A game, right. You have to
assume that they've done everything that they possibly can to
(02:01):
be the most attractive, which would include all the things,
and if they had a smell that was not patible
with my nose mm hmm, we would have, it would
be a no go.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Yeah, because that that's the A game smell. Wait for
the C game, smell D game. I don't want to know.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You don't want to know.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
That's the best they got.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
You know, as an X sometimes you would bring your
X game and uh huh, nope.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Oh yeah. Once you're in a relationship, you you you
experienced the X game exactly?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Have you?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Back in the Jurassic era when we were dating, did
you ever go on a date where you wanted to
disappear after like five minutes. I'm really, oh you did.
I don't think I did have quite that bad of
an experience. What was it?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
He was very arrogant. He was very arrogant, and he
was just like everything was about him, and he was
just so full of himself. And I was really I
was very very repelled by it, Like I didn't. Everything
he was saying, I think was intended to seem attractive,
(03:11):
like look at how great I am, and everything he
said made me feel unattracted to him.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Oh God, sometimes are so clueless.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, And I didn't, and I'm not so great. I mean,
I'm better now, but back then I would have just
sort of suffered through it.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Your cutthroat.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah. I mean. Also, I think all these people dating
now have like, you know, they've figured out the tips
and tricks, right, They've got a friend that you know,
may day may day texts them or calls them and
is like I need you if it's if they get
the word right, Well, you don't.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Have a may Day back in back in the Jurassic era,
I had a may Day?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You did, I didn't say for work?
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Yeah? Yeah, yeah, it's just a little It would be
like you go to the bathroom and then you're like
texting and you're like, just you gotta call me and
be like, oh my god, the apartment's flooded and you
got to come home, and I you know, but I
never used a may day, but there was definitely a
version of it. Can a vibe be reversed or is
(04:08):
it over in ten minutes?
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Well, like, let's take this that example if well, well
I was gonna take the really arrogant guy, but oh yeah, yeah,
I don't think smell. I don't think smell guy is
gonna all of a sudden like change his smell intim
because that's the a game smell. And then arrogant guy
in less a minute ten he was like just kidding
(04:31):
or I was being somehow punked and it wasn't really his.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Truth annoying I'd be like, why am I being punked
on a day?
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Yeah? Yeah, yeah no yeah. Anyways, so we went to
go dig up a little relationship expert advice and uh
and and and they shared common mistakes that they see
people making, you know that doesn't get them past the
like you know, yeah, we should do this again.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Sometime.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Yeah, and by some time, I mean never, never, never,
ever again, not even your face and sent across from
you lose my number, maybe fall off the planet.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
There were four points. There were four expert points.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Yeah and they honestly, if any of these surprise you,
I'm worried. Okay, Number one, When meeting your first date,
it's key to not overwhelm them with your childhood trauma
or who your favorite middle school teacher was. Favorite middle
school teacher actually could be a funny story, but your
childhood trauma I would definitely maybe not bring out on
(05:32):
a first date.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I think it's hard. I think for someone like me,
it's hard because it's always like where does your dad live?
Speaker 3 (05:38):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Here, how does your mom lived? Well, there's no way
I can be like Kentucky. I have to say my
mom died, and then they're a follow up question and
so it's like I feel bad for people like me
because you just organically make it awkward with the truth.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Yeah yeah, yeah, you just move.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
On, you know, and it's like there's no way to
like make it. I don't know, it's awkward. Okay, fine,
you're right, no way, I understand voluntarily you're not gonna
you shouldn't be, like I just I would like to
talk about my second grade billy right now, Like it's
not the time. You know the ways to avoid certain things.
Number two, avoid being This is a big one.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
By the way, I've heard this from many, many, many
different people.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
This would have been my problem. You could go go
to avoid being fixated on whether there is chemistry or
not with the person you're on a date with.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Yes, because people can really miss out on really great
people because you're so focused on the instant chemistry and
sometimes there isn't. Is that what you're gonna say, I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
Yes, No, I agree that that's probably true. But back
when I was dating in the Jurassic era, this would
have been like, we should do this again sometime. Cop
out line, like there was if I felt no chemistry
on that date, there was no second date and I
was looking for it. That's also the problem. Yeah, like
I was like digging in the day.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
It often we but often we mistake chemistry, or we
we we mistake we mistake being hot for someone with chemistry.
I get that they can be intertwined, but like you
can't see personality from across the room so often you
don't necessarily out in the world.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I don't think, I know. I just agree, I don't.
I when I'm thinking about this, I'm not necessarily thinking
about like hot steamy chemistry. I'm thinking like way more
personality chemistry.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Actually, okay, all right, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, all right.
Well I earlier in one of the episodes, I spoke
about someone who was not was a different height than
me and it was shorter, and I gave them. It's
like I gave them. I don't mean to gift them
a second day.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Yeah, gift is a second day. It is what it is.
It was a gift. It was a gift. Did they
get gifted.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
The third No, because I couldn't push through the fact
there was no chemistry.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yeah, that's where the gifts ended. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Okay. Number three very common mistake people make on first
dates is bringing up past relationships in a negative way.
I understand that, Oh.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Can I tell you what, like set would have sent
alarm bells for me? Is when and I still judge
this when my hair guys say this is when they're
like my ex was crazy. I'm instantly like, what did
you do? And or you are That's what I'm saying,
what did you? You are the reason? Yeah, I don't
believe the X was crazy. I'm like, you're undtable. Yeah
(08:38):
for sure, I have sat with this girl that I
don't even know.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
For Another big mistake is talking too much about yourself
and not asking your date any questions. That's hard because
sometimes that comes out of you. I did, but sometimes
I think you can. Sometimes nerves do that, like you're
trying to like push conversation and you it's kind of
an accident.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Yeah, I get that, but you shouldn't do it. I'll
tw you lose a girl in ten minutes.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
The crew have submissions.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Yeah, well they've got submissions and I cannot wait. Are
you ready for it? Mary said, talk about only yourself?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Yeah, true story. Ooh, Lacy pull out your phone mid conversation.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
That's a move.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Don't do That's not good.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
I'm gone.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Olivia rude to the waiter, No kidding. Oh it's so embarrassing.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
It's awful. Gabby slurp their drink, pick Cecy talk about
their ex. Yeah yeah, Bianca bringing up politics is a
no for me.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yeah, it's not safe place to talk. Yeah, Amanda mentioning
they don't like animals. My dogs are my kids.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Oh yeah, that's too.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Who doesn't like animals?
Speaker 2 (10:10):
That's weird?
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Yeah, yeah, why you don't need to be a down
and date with them?
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yeah no, Los Sierra chew with their mouth open.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Ten minutes, dude, minutes Tasha.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Ordering for me or telling me what I would like. Oh,
I don't even know what I would do.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
I can't. Oh, that has to be an invitation, Like
I'd be like, hey, Jessica, what's good here? You know,
and and that would that would be fine. But if
you're like you will, well, I don't know. There is
a version of this where press someone's like at a
new restaurant and the other person's been here and you're like,
oh my god, you'll love the steak here, it's so good.
There's a version of this. It's not what I think.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Ordering for me, like when the waiter comes they say
what your order is without asking you.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
No, that part of it is gross, But the second
part of this is also telling me what I would like,
And I think that there's you know, there's a way
to maybe suggest like you might love this, but I
do you'll you'll know, you would know the difference Marie
pulling what pulling out his vate right in front of
my face? Made conversation you guys, Well, between.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
That and the zins, I think that it's probably entered
the dating.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Oh god, it but happens all the time.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
What gros, Jamie says, cussing excessively. I get that. Yeah, yeah,
I do like to throw a good ground.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Yeah, well, but this is excessive.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
You know.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
It's a lot. It's been thrown around. And one time
a guy picked me up for the first date and
I knew immediately he was not my man when I
saw him have a road rage.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I con't safe for you kidding, Get out of the car.
Call nine one one, Yeah there nine okay, Brandy said,
checking out, Oh come gone in less than ten seconds,
checking out another girl while talking to you.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Yeah, that's a ten second bye, Laurie for me personally,
he says off the bat. He doesn't want kids, okay bye. Yeah,
well go that's important for.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
You, Megan said, talking about themselves the whole time and
not having interest in you.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Yeah. Ooh, Miley, look at Miley coming in saying they
don't like Taylor Swift. Wow, okay, that's all.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Right, Reagan, I went on a date and he right
away smelled like mildew I couldn't do it. I'm with you.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
That was his a smell. That was his eight game smile.
The mildew Aaron controversial maybe, but I do not like
when a man asked me or right off the bat,
what I do for work? We are more than our job. Okay, huh, Yeah,
I guess it's a conversation starter though. That's what's hard
about that.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah, I guess Lauren talks about their mom.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
I don't know how annoying is the mom. Some of
us said, you know, who knows. Maybe you leave that
for like a later date, you know, like ten dates,
and you're like, my mom kind of sucks. Olivia show
up late immediately, will lose me, Olivia and me and you.
I said this earlier.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Yeah, mom said, it's a no no for me.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
If a guy talks about how he was in a frat, wow,
that's a that's a lot of America. That's going to
take some some guys out of your dating pool. Yeah, Sarah,
I wonder if there's like a well known frat. I
don't know this answer, because like this is not you know,
I was not a part of the American college scene.
But I wonder if there's a certain frat too that
carries like a I was in Delta Kepa Sigma tell
(13:43):
yeah that you're but there's a certain one also that
just carries known for being naughty. Yeah, it's just bad vibe. Yeah, Sarah,
discuss who is Oh god, Sarah said, discuss who is
paying before we even decide where we're going to dinner.
Do people really do that?
Speaker 1 (14:04):
I mean, talk about the Jurassic era. I don't even remember.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
That's so Jurassic era. Oh god, Please know what is
happening people?
Speaker 1 (14:13):
But do you know?
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:14):
But you know what a lot? You know what the
kids do these days? They just they venmo each other
and stuff. They go out and then like they go
split skis.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
They do split skis. It's always an awful conversation with
split skis on a date.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
It's well, I guess I'm going to be jurrassicy and
tell you that. Back in the day when I was dating, I.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Would just the assumption is that you're paying for dinner.
Yeah yeah, yeah, because I've gifted you with this date.
But what I mean, yeah, yeah, you gift the date.
They gift the dinner. You're gifting your time. It's you know,
it's like a gifting site. Yeah, I'm gifting you me.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
But although I do actually have a fate memory, I
can't remember who it was or what, but I do
remember there being a situation where I it wasn't the
the really bad guy, but I did there was a
date that was going particularly bad lee bad. How do
you say that there was a There was a date
that was not going well. There was a date and
I remember being like, I don't want to owe this
(15:11):
guy anything. And I was like, okay.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Your card was out before I pay to get out
of your appetizers. I was like, look, I have a
question really quick before you go okay. When you're when
dressic era dating, the guy goes like the check arrives
at the table, did you do the fake like I'll
reach from my purse and you better stop me.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
I hated that. I still feel that way when I'm
like out with someone who's like more senior or or
that I like work with, and they're in a situation
where it would be more customary for them to pay,
and it's assumed that they probably will, But at the
same time, I don't want to not offer. Yeah, so
you do like the foe move to the wallet, the
hand to the yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
If you're if you're like having a meeting though with like,
you know, a Jeff Bezos, though, are you even doing
a reach? Are you doing I would do I would
still do a reach.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
I think it's right to do a reach. But I
think probably I'm imagining this, but probably most people don't
listen if your net worth, if your net worth is published,
I think that likely you're probably thinking that. Everyone assumes
you're paying for whatever meal you're head.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
But I don't like from me, my person, just from me.
It's a pride thing.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
That's what I mean. I think, Yeah, I get that,
I get that. Yeah, we've digressed. Okay, So these are
the things. These are just some of the things that
might lose you a girl.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
But this is ten minutes, it's not ten days. This
is a short amount of time. This is a short
amount of time.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
So bring your a game, your a game, smell your
a game, conversation your a game, just your a game.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Bring your a game. If girls are gifting you a date,
oh you know.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
One of my biggest turn offs is actually you could
add to this how to Lose How to Lose a
Girl in ten minutes. Yeah, Apathy when people don't care,
like when they don't care about anything, whether it's just
not I appreciate people who care.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you can kind of smell that
vibe from a mile away too, yep, I sure do.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
All right, Well, this has been highly enjoyable, well, walk
down Memory Lane.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
I also just love it when the crew give us submissions,
because they tell us stuff that I wouldn't even think about,
and then I'm like, yeah, you're so right, You're out
in ten minutes. Okay, let's call it the end of
the episode.
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