March 21, 2025 • 18 mins
Camilla’s hubby Matt is back and shares why they debated eloping… do they regret it?
Plus, they take some questions from the Call It Crew about their wedding days, one member may have had an accident in their pants.
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
Hello, Hello, Hello, call it crew, and welcome to another
episode of College Short and Sweet. Now, last time my
side piece was on the show, I promised you guys
that he wouldn't be back, and yet here we are.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Matt, he's back.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
He's back, just can't be with us here today. So
I had to scrounge.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
You had to scrape from the bottom the bottom of
the barrel, and you end up with me.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
But you know what, this is kind of perfect because today,
you guys, we're going to dive straight and we are
talking about weddings, wedding stress and anxiety, and this is real.
So actually you are the perfect person to really because
we can dive into our own wedding. But I'm gonna
read some stuff first. Okay, this is from the New
York Post proof that wedding planning is hell planning. Wedding
(01:00):
is so expensive and stressful that six in ten couples
married in the last year seriously considered eloping.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
We did too, Yeah, because it was so overwhelming. It's
at many points we were like, let's just consider this.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Also, my family are so annoying. Silence, He's beings so
diplomatic right now, his eye, his eyeballs are agreeing that
his mouth is a math. Come on, I'm not going
to say that we were going to lope to remember where.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Why we were tell the story of why though, like
after the whole first venue and.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Okay, well even before that. Okay, but this is true.
So Matt and I we I had I'd seen a
picture of this place in like a magazine and it
was like a house in Malibu, and I thought, instead
of going to like a big hotel and spending all
that money, maybe we just vrbo rent sort of airbnb,
rent a house for a week, and that allows for
(02:00):
a party to make it really small.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
I'm just very close friends and family have a big
party on the beach.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
And we found the place and we went to go
see it and we and it was like, U unbelievable,
so beautiful look down on the beach. I just wanted
to see the water. And we got we got it.
We got a date in and we sent out invites
very you.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Know, we got we got kind of far along.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yeah, we started like planning, like how the food was
going to go, and how I was going to walk
down the like how I had walked down that version
of an aisle and then and.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
We had worked on our synchronized dance for like months.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
And months, flying off the roof of it.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Yeah, it was gonna be agnized dance. Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
But it burned down yep, which probably was an omen
when you think about it, do you ever wonder I.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Don't think we ever saw that, as did we ever
discuss once. Like I'm saying it.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Right now, it could be it could have been a
bad sign. As we'll see, that took a downer. We
weren't prepared for that, okay anywhere anyway. So yes, it
burnt down in a horrible omen. And so then we decide,
then we considered a looping Yeah, and I was into it.
(03:13):
Why why was I into it? What was my main reason?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Because you you were worried and stressed about your family.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Were any of my concerns realized?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
But that was the reason I didn't want to elope.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Yeah, because of the entertainment.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
What the potential was and what could happen.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Well, let me just just so you guys understand listening
to this, because I've never told this story before. My
concerns were valid. My dad somehow we were at a
beautiful resort. My dad somehow found some sort of weed situation, right,
I didn't know. I don't know who he was talking to.
(03:51):
He wasn't He was talking to everybody, but people, not
even at the wedding. So somehow my dad from England,
where weed is not legal, got really excited in Goodall, California,
where we'd is legal. He had a little puff puffs
at some point in the wedding, and then I never
saw him again. From like ten pm onwards, my dad
had gone, but I wasn't worried because I was like, whatever,
he's probably gone to bed. Okay, So at ten pm,
(04:15):
do you remember what happened?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Your dad disappeared?
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Yep? And where was he?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
No one knows, no one.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
No one knows exactly.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
He had a little two stoned and just walked away.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
No, he couldn't find his room.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
He couldn't find his room. He wandered from room to
room trying to find it for a while, hours. Hours.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Is what was reported back to me the next day.
My dad went missing at the resort. We don't we
don't quite know. It's almost like an alien abduct shap.
There's a gap, missing missing timeline. There's a missing timeline
that not even he's really aware, can't be accounted for,
and he wondered the resort, not remembering where his room was.
(04:55):
For as he put it.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Hours, your dad had a great night.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I don't know, I mean possibly, possibly, who knows.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
They were also traveling and there was a lot of
you know, there's a lot of moving parts.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
And yes, it's tempting to do an elope.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
And here's why I still think, if be honest, if
we could do it again, I think we had the
most beautiful wedding in the world, but I would consider
it eloping. I think there's something romantic and sexy about
it too.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
There is and do you know what it is too?
Because I feel like you can elope and have like
a honeymoon at the same.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Time, it feels a little more selfish.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Okay, we're going to talk about the biggest anxiety. Did
you know the wedding planning is more stressful for men?
According to the Huffington Post. According to a survey, twenty
three percent of men said they found planning the big
day to be the most stressful life event, while only
sixteen percent of women said the same. Why do you
think it is an exclusive?
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Matt, there's a good question. Why is it more stressful
for men. Yeah, why, I do think there's an expectation
like that you show up, no for the wedding itself,
and I feel like a lot of these situations, Yeah,
the bride has an expectation of what the day will
look like and the things involved, and it's you know,
(06:18):
to this level of perfection that as a partner. Wait, wait,
you're worried that it's not going to meet though you
know it's not going to be perfect, it's and so
that's what I'm here as well.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Well, I just interpreted the girl has a lot of expectations,
which is stressful for the men.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Okay, thanks for thanks for doing that. To what I said, Well,
what are you saying? I'm saying, And in most cases,
I think that expectation is being dictated by the bride.
Is that? Can I say that?
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Oh God, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I'll say something else.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I don't know. No, no, no, no no. That was what came
out of your mouth, and you'll get canceled for it.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
But are we gonna have a talk later?
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Probably?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I mean, I trying to make sense of someone.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
What's interesting, though, is do you not feel that twenty
three percent? Because I think Okay, so both partners want
it to be perfect. Yes, you're saying it's but women
are like only sixteen percent of women feel that way,
that it's like the most stressful life event, but more
men feel that way. And you're saying is because they
feel more pressure from the girls.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
No, I don't think it's pressure from the girls. I
think as a partner. I just think as a partner
as a whole. Whether it's male or female, you want
your partner, you know, if your partner has plans for something,
you want those plans to read the expectations of your partner.
So if one of the partners is more into it
than the other, you're still both wanted to do.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
What I'm hearing now, though the women are more into
a wedding than the men, that was not the case
for us.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Yeah, I actually had thoughts and opinions of things.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Hayden was at our wedding too.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Yeah, it was cool.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Yeah, she was two. Do you remember what we gave
her so that she would zip it through the Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
At the time, she had a lot to say, way
too much and way too many opinions. Yeah, and we
were just trying to figure out how to get through
this ceremony. Yeah, so we gave her the largest lollipop.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
It was about the size of her head.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
And she just sat there looking at the whole time.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
We said, zip I.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Remember, I remember when we walked with her down the
aisle afterwards. Her hands were all sticky in blue.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
And and you walked down the aisle with her. That
was really cute. I like that we did it a
little bit different.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I liked her being a part of the day. It
was very cool.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Okay, so we do have some call it crew submissions.
Are you ready for this? So we threw it out
to them and we said, what is your experience where
things were stressful? What are moments you had? All the things.
Ellianna said, We pretty much missed the whole reception because
pictures took so long. Do you remember what we did
(08:51):
with pictures for this exactly?
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Didn't we do it at a certain time while other
people were doing something so that it wasn't.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
No, we were worried that we were miss that like hour,
the cocktail hour, and we wanted to be like in
the mix with everybody, and so we put like a
very short time limit on it. I remember we were like,
we only have thirty minutes.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
I do feel like at weddings that period when you're
waiting from the end of the wedding to when they're
done with the pictures.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
And making them entro on forever.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Sometimes it can be like two hours. No, it's insane,
But Yeah, I thought we were pretty good with.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
The Yeah, I say, put a little parameter on it
if you can.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Yeah. I feel like there's so much going on. There's
so many people that you you know, that are there.
It feels like that always takes longer than it should.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yeah, Okay, you read Hailey Ayley.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Although my wedding was perfect, I re grit trying to
please everyone. We talked about this recently because I feel
like the majority of the first half of our reception,
I was so worried about, yeah, making everyone happy and
making sure Hayden was good and you know, buddies I
hadn't seen in a while, and you know my family.
(10:04):
You know, you're checking on people because you're technically hosting. Yeah,
but I wish I wouldn't have focused so much on that, yeah,
because I feel like I didn't even see you for
like the first half.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
You see me one minute.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
I was at a different wedding.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
You know that, Molly said, grease stains on the bottom
of my wedding dress from getting out of the car.
(10:39):
Why do we have to wear white? It really doesn't help. Yeah,
I think we can, you know what, No, but not
even wear like a blush or something. I agree. White
is very difficult and it is stressful, like you're kind
of drinking your champagne like away from your body, or
like you can't feel like you can eat any because
of dress.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Again, I feel like all the elements are so worried
about being perfect. That's hard to enjoy stuff in the moment. Yeah,
And the more you can kind of let go of
that stuff, I think it's it's easier.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
This is why I feel like eloping would be good though,
because it's like, if you're eloping and you spill something
on your dress, you might be a little more like, well, yeah,
whatever now the two of you, like you can edit
it out of pictures, like you yes? Okay?
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Anonymous because my husband would kill me. My husband has
such bad anxiety. He had diarrhea before the ceremony. I
haven't read this yet, guys, I'm sorry. My husband had
such bad anxiety. He had diarrhea because ceremony and sharded
(11:43):
at the altar? Oh, can I.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Ask you a question?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
They were like guy, oh my okay. So if they
were like Matt, do you take him on to be
but light? At that moment there was a shark mine
or yours? I don't know, would you let's just say mine, like.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
At the moment, Like literally, I can't.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Do podcasts with you because it just gets you proposed
this question, I know, but I'm regretting it, like it
just takes a turn.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
What's question you gotta finish?
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Okay, would you have would there have been would you
have taken a minute to think, like, wait a second,
I'm not sure about this now because.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
You're shared because you sharded. I'm gonna say this because
you sharded at the altar.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
You didn't. You don't have to repeat it, but yeah,
I just make sure that No, that is the Seriously,
I can't do this with anything. I mean.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
No, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. It would be
really funny it you.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Like, it would have been endearing. Remember that moment that
Kmilla sharted, Like you would have like said that as
a I don't know, I don't know. This is like
stressing me out.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Honestly, you did not shark, do I. So we're good.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
I really, I'm seriously I don't know if I can
honestly do this with you.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
You said I can just sit here and be honest.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I know you, I know, but it's like I'm regretting it. Okay,
Kareine said, I have wedding days stress without having a
wedding myself.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Again, I feel like the expectation is of the day
itself is too much.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Consider eloping. Ask yourself a question, would you enjoy it?
Would you be more present if maybe you were kind
of selfish with it?
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Yeah? I think being present is a big thing because
it's very hard to be present when there's so many
you are.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
You do feel like you have to please everybody, and
I do. I think both of us worried that everyone
was having a good time.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Yeah, And it's a destination, and you know it's you know,
you want to make sure the pictures aren't taken long,
and you know, well it wasn't it.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Technically a destination, but it's a destination for other people.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yeah exactly. So yeah, people are.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Flying in Yeah, yeah exactly. Yeah. I could have done
without the speeches. Too.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I love the speeches.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
What speech are you specifically talking just all of them? No,
you know which one I'm talking about that you My
dad did a speech, you guys. He had done an
absolute disastrous speech at my brother's wedding, my older brother
when he got married. It started his speech with Daniel
meant the love of his life eight years to go today.
Unfortunately she can't be here today. Okay. So it was
(14:18):
like that and it went downhill from there. So I
so I said to you, my dad absolutely cannot do
a speech at my wedding. It's not going to happen.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
And you were like, he's your dad. Let didn't do
a speech.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yes, that feels very sympathetic towards my dad. So he
was like, you have to give him something. And so
I said, fine, he could have the welcome speech and
he can literally stand up and he can say hi, everyone,
welcome to the wedding, and he can sit back down,
and that was going to be the parameters of his
of his Okay, that's not what happened, was it. No,
he got up, he sang can you feel of love today?
(14:58):
Then he pretended to get a phone call from Snoop
Dogg congratulating us, which was completely random and so ridiculous,
and he literally pulled out his phone and pretend he
was on the phone with Snoop pone. Nobody knew what
was going on. It was absolutely terrible.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I would not take it back at all.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Are you joking?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
If we Elope, I would still in by your dad
to do that, and I would ask him to do
that exactly. It's one of the few things I would
honestly not say I was dying.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Honestly, I would have rather someone sharded. I would have
regretted someone's charting on the day than my dad's speech. Anyway,
I'm just saying, maybe consider a lopeing. Okay, you read Poppy.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Poppy, I'm eighteen and single, but I stress about wedding.
Oh take up about my wedding a lot. But if
I get my period on the day, I think.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
A lot of girls stress about this because we're wearing white.
And I think that if you know your cycle really well,
maybe take into consideration with you when you're planning the wedding.
I never thought about that. I'm thinking about that. Poppy's
making me think about it right now. If you are
timing out your cycle and it's pretty consistent, like you
definitely sort of kind of know like a period of
(16:14):
time while you're maybe good to go.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
But what if the only available date for the wedding day.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Is day one of your period.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Literally right at the beginning. What do you do?
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Listen, you need reinforcements. You wear the pad and you
wear the tampon and you you figure it out. You
can't let it be something you think about on the day. Okay, Kiki,
we had a guest ask if they could bring their
girlfriend three hours before the wedding. Absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
That seems like this, No.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
That seems crazy. Okay, now you.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Each and Ala. When I was seven, I was the
flower girl in my aunt's wedding and I passed out
from my nerves. Oh at seven, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
It is nerve wracking. I have to say. She was
so young. I don't think she realized what was going on.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
But I feel like if you're aware of all of
the people, and I just feel like it's a very
if for anybody.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Even as an adult, Like walking down the aisle as
an adult getting married, like there is that feeling of
like oh my, it's like otherwise.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
All these eyes looking at you, everyone's you know dressed.
It's it's it's a lot.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yes, well, once again, kind of regret you coming on.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
I think I did a little better this time.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I don't know if you did. We you know, it's
like we got a I don't know.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
It's I feel like I was doing well until the shark.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Question that did send us off course a little bit
in our defense, that kind of really literally jumped down.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
It through me, It threw me through me.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Yeah, you don't come across those kind of questions.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Kind of a story, to be honest. Of all the
stresses I had on the day that I married you,
it never crossed my mind once that I would shot
at the all.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
No, no, no, I never worried about a diarrhea situation. But
now I would.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
People do well, watch out, watch out. That's Camille's advice.
Watch out.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
No, maybe's packed some pepto advice. That is actually good
advice because you never know what can.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Happen, never having oysters prepared. That's the.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Seriously, Okay, clearly you're never coming back on again.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
I'll be back, thank you, definitely coming.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Back you guys, Thank you once again for tuning in.
I hope you don't regret this as much as I do,
but we will be calling this the end of the episode.
Hello, Hello, Hello, call it crew, and welcome to another
episode of College Short and Sweet. Now, last time my
side piece was on the show, I promised you guys
that he wouldn't be back, and yet here we are.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Matt, he's back.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
He's back, just can't be with us here today. So
I had to scrounge.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
You had to scrape from the bottom the bottom of
the barrel, and you end up with me.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
But you know what, this is kind of perfect because today,
you guys, we're going to dive straight and we are
talking about weddings, wedding stress and anxiety, and this is real.
So actually you are the perfect person to really because
we can dive into our own wedding. But I'm gonna
read some stuff first. Okay, this is from the New
York Post proof that wedding planning is hell planning. Wedding
(01:00):
is so expensive and stressful that six in ten couples
married in the last year seriously considered eloping.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
We did too, Yeah, because it was so overwhelming. It's
at many points we were like, let's just consider this.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Also, my family are so annoying. Silence, He's beings so
diplomatic right now, his eye, his eyeballs are agreeing that
his mouth is a math. Come on, I'm not going
to say that we were going to lope to remember where.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Why we were tell the story of why though, like
after the whole first venue and.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Okay, well even before that. Okay, but this is true.
So Matt and I we I had I'd seen a
picture of this place in like a magazine and it
was like a house in Malibu, and I thought, instead
of going to like a big hotel and spending all
that money, maybe we just vrbo rent sort of airbnb,
rent a house for a week, and that allows for
(02:00):
a party to make it really small.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
I'm just very close friends and family have a big
party on the beach.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
And we found the place and we went to go
see it and we and it was like, U unbelievable,
so beautiful look down on the beach. I just wanted
to see the water. And we got we got it.
We got a date in and we sent out invites
very you.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Know, we got we got kind of far along.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yeah, we started like planning, like how the food was
going to go, and how I was going to walk
down the like how I had walked down that version
of an aisle and then and.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
We had worked on our synchronized dance for like months.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
And months, flying off the roof of it.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Yeah, it was gonna be agnized dance. Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
But it burned down yep, which probably was an omen
when you think about it, do you ever wonder I.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Don't think we ever saw that, as did we ever
discuss once. Like I'm saying it.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Right now, it could be it could have been a
bad sign. As we'll see, that took a downer. We
weren't prepared for that, okay anywhere anyway. So yes, it
burnt down in a horrible omen. And so then we decide,
then we considered a looping Yeah, and I was into it.
(03:13):
Why why was I into it? What was my main reason?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Because you you were worried and stressed about your family.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Were any of my concerns realized?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
But that was the reason I didn't want to elope.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Yeah, because of the entertainment.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
What the potential was and what could happen.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Well, let me just just so you guys understand listening
to this, because I've never told this story before. My
concerns were valid. My dad somehow we were at a
beautiful resort. My dad somehow found some sort of weed situation, right,
I didn't know. I don't know who he was talking to.
(03:51):
He wasn't He was talking to everybody, but people, not
even at the wedding. So somehow my dad from England,
where weed is not legal, got really excited in Goodall, California,
where we'd is legal. He had a little puff puffs
at some point in the wedding, and then I never
saw him again. From like ten pm onwards, my dad
had gone, but I wasn't worried because I was like, whatever,
he's probably gone to bed. Okay, So at ten pm,
(04:15):
do you remember what happened?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Your dad disappeared?
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Yep? And where was he?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
No one knows, no one.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
No one knows exactly.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
He had a little two stoned and just walked away.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
No, he couldn't find his room.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
He couldn't find his room. He wandered from room to
room trying to find it for a while, hours. Hours.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Is what was reported back to me the next day.
My dad went missing at the resort. We don't we
don't quite know. It's almost like an alien abduct shap.
There's a gap, missing missing timeline. There's a missing timeline
that not even he's really aware, can't be accounted for,
and he wondered the resort, not remembering where his room was.
(04:55):
For as he put it.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Hours, your dad had a great night.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I don't know, I mean possibly, possibly, who knows.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
They were also traveling and there was a lot of
you know, there's a lot of moving parts.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
And yes, it's tempting to do an elope.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
And here's why I still think, if be honest, if
we could do it again, I think we had the
most beautiful wedding in the world, but I would consider
it eloping. I think there's something romantic and sexy about
it too.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
There is and do you know what it is too?
Because I feel like you can elope and have like
a honeymoon at the same.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Time, it feels a little more selfish.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Okay, we're going to talk about the biggest anxiety. Did
you know the wedding planning is more stressful for men?
According to the Huffington Post. According to a survey, twenty
three percent of men said they found planning the big
day to be the most stressful life event, while only
sixteen percent of women said the same. Why do you
think it is an exclusive?
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Matt, there's a good question. Why is it more stressful
for men. Yeah, why, I do think there's an expectation
like that you show up, no for the wedding itself,
and I feel like a lot of these situations, Yeah,
the bride has an expectation of what the day will
look like and the things involved, and it's you know,
(06:18):
to this level of perfection that as a partner. Wait, wait,
you're worried that it's not going to meet though you
know it's not going to be perfect, it's and so
that's what I'm here as well.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Well, I just interpreted the girl has a lot of expectations,
which is stressful for the men.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Okay, thanks for thanks for doing that. To what I said, Well,
what are you saying? I'm saying, And in most cases,
I think that expectation is being dictated by the bride.
Is that? Can I say that?
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Oh God, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I'll say something else.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I don't know. No, no, no, no no. That was what came
out of your mouth, and you'll get canceled for it.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
But are we gonna have a talk later?
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Probably?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I mean, I trying to make sense of someone.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
What's interesting, though, is do you not feel that twenty
three percent? Because I think Okay, so both partners want
it to be perfect. Yes, you're saying it's but women
are like only sixteen percent of women feel that way,
that it's like the most stressful life event, but more
men feel that way. And you're saying is because they
feel more pressure from the girls.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
No, I don't think it's pressure from the girls. I
think as a partner. I just think as a partner
as a whole. Whether it's male or female, you want
your partner, you know, if your partner has plans for something,
you want those plans to read the expectations of your partner.
So if one of the partners is more into it
than the other, you're still both wanted to do.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
What I'm hearing now, though the women are more into
a wedding than the men, that was not the case
for us.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Yeah, I actually had thoughts and opinions of things.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Hayden was at our wedding too.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Yeah, it was cool.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Yeah, she was two. Do you remember what we gave
her so that she would zip it through the Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
At the time, she had a lot to say, way
too much and way too many opinions. Yeah, and we
were just trying to figure out how to get through
this ceremony. Yeah, so we gave her the largest lollipop.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
It was about the size of her head.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
And she just sat there looking at the whole time.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
We said, zip I.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Remember, I remember when we walked with her down the
aisle afterwards. Her hands were all sticky in blue.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
And and you walked down the aisle with her. That
was really cute. I like that we did it a
little bit different.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I liked her being a part of the day. It
was very cool.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Okay, so we do have some call it crew submissions.
Are you ready for this? So we threw it out
to them and we said, what is your experience where
things were stressful? What are moments you had? All the things.
Ellianna said, We pretty much missed the whole reception because
pictures took so long. Do you remember what we did
(08:51):
with pictures for this exactly?
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Didn't we do it at a certain time while other
people were doing something so that it wasn't.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
No, we were worried that we were miss that like hour,
the cocktail hour, and we wanted to be like in
the mix with everybody, and so we put like a
very short time limit on it. I remember we were like,
we only have thirty minutes.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
I do feel like at weddings that period when you're
waiting from the end of the wedding to when they're
done with the pictures.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
And making them entro on forever.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Sometimes it can be like two hours. No, it's insane,
But Yeah, I thought we were pretty good with.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
The Yeah, I say, put a little parameter on it
if you can.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Yeah. I feel like there's so much going on. There's
so many people that you you know, that are there.
It feels like that always takes longer than it should.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yeah, Okay, you read Hailey Ayley.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Although my wedding was perfect, I re grit trying to
please everyone. We talked about this recently because I feel
like the majority of the first half of our reception,
I was so worried about, yeah, making everyone happy and
making sure Hayden was good and you know, buddies I
hadn't seen in a while, and you know my family.
(10:04):
You know, you're checking on people because you're technically hosting. Yeah,
but I wish I wouldn't have focused so much on that, yeah,
because I feel like I didn't even see you for
like the first half.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
You see me one minute.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
I was at a different wedding.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
You know that, Molly said, grease stains on the bottom
of my wedding dress from getting out of the car.
(10:39):
Why do we have to wear white? It really doesn't help. Yeah,
I think we can, you know what, No, but not
even wear like a blush or something. I agree. White
is very difficult and it is stressful, like you're kind
of drinking your champagne like away from your body, or
like you can't feel like you can eat any because
of dress.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Again, I feel like all the elements are so worried
about being perfect. That's hard to enjoy stuff in the moment. Yeah,
And the more you can kind of let go of
that stuff, I think it's it's easier.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
This is why I feel like eloping would be good though,
because it's like, if you're eloping and you spill something
on your dress, you might be a little more like, well, yeah,
whatever now the two of you, like you can edit
it out of pictures, like you yes? Okay?
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Anonymous because my husband would kill me. My husband has
such bad anxiety. He had diarrhea before the ceremony. I
haven't read this yet, guys, I'm sorry. My husband had
such bad anxiety. He had diarrhea because ceremony and sharded
(11:43):
at the altar? Oh, can I.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Ask you a question?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
They were like guy, oh my okay. So if they
were like Matt, do you take him on to be
but light? At that moment there was a shark mine
or yours? I don't know, would you let's just say mine, like.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
At the moment, Like literally, I can't.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Do podcasts with you because it just gets you proposed
this question, I know, but I'm regretting it, like it
just takes a turn.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
What's question you gotta finish?
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Okay, would you have would there have been would you
have taken a minute to think, like, wait a second,
I'm not sure about this now because.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
You're shared because you sharded. I'm gonna say this because
you sharded at the altar.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
You didn't. You don't have to repeat it, but yeah,
I just make sure that No, that is the Seriously,
I can't do this with anything. I mean.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
No, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. It would be
really funny it you.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Like, it would have been endearing. Remember that moment that
Kmilla sharted, Like you would have like said that as
a I don't know, I don't know. This is like
stressing me out.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Honestly, you did not shark, do I. So we're good.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
I really, I'm seriously I don't know if I can
honestly do this with you.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
You said I can just sit here and be honest.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I know you, I know, but it's like I'm regretting it. Okay,
Kareine said, I have wedding days stress without having a
wedding myself.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Again, I feel like the expectation is of the day
itself is too much.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Consider eloping. Ask yourself a question, would you enjoy it?
Would you be more present if maybe you were kind
of selfish with it?
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Yeah? I think being present is a big thing because
it's very hard to be present when there's so many
you are.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
You do feel like you have to please everybody, and
I do. I think both of us worried that everyone
was having a good time.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Yeah, And it's a destination, and you know it's you know,
you want to make sure the pictures aren't taken long,
and you know, well it wasn't it.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Technically a destination, but it's a destination for other people.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yeah exactly. So yeah, people are.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Flying in Yeah, yeah exactly. Yeah. I could have done
without the speeches. Too.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I love the speeches.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
What speech are you specifically talking just all of them? No,
you know which one I'm talking about that you My
dad did a speech, you guys. He had done an
absolute disastrous speech at my brother's wedding, my older brother
when he got married. It started his speech with Daniel
meant the love of his life eight years to go today.
Unfortunately she can't be here today. Okay. So it was
(14:18):
like that and it went downhill from there. So I
so I said to you, my dad absolutely cannot do
a speech at my wedding. It's not going to happen.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
And you were like, he's your dad. Let didn't do
a speech.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yes, that feels very sympathetic towards my dad. So he
was like, you have to give him something. And so
I said, fine, he could have the welcome speech and
he can literally stand up and he can say hi, everyone,
welcome to the wedding, and he can sit back down,
and that was going to be the parameters of his
of his Okay, that's not what happened, was it. No,
he got up, he sang can you feel of love today?
(14:58):
Then he pretended to get a phone call from Snoop
Dogg congratulating us, which was completely random and so ridiculous,
and he literally pulled out his phone and pretend he
was on the phone with Snoop pone. Nobody knew what
was going on. It was absolutely terrible.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I would not take it back at all.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Are you joking?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
If we Elope, I would still in by your dad
to do that, and I would ask him to do
that exactly. It's one of the few things I would
honestly not say I was dying.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Honestly, I would have rather someone sharded. I would have
regretted someone's charting on the day than my dad's speech. Anyway,
I'm just saying, maybe consider a lopeing. Okay, you read Poppy.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Poppy, I'm eighteen and single, but I stress about wedding.
Oh take up about my wedding a lot. But if
I get my period on the day, I think.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
A lot of girls stress about this because we're wearing white.
And I think that if you know your cycle really well,
maybe take into consideration with you when you're planning the wedding.
I never thought about that. I'm thinking about that. Poppy's
making me think about it right now. If you are
timing out your cycle and it's pretty consistent, like you
definitely sort of kind of know like a period of
(16:14):
time while you're maybe good to go.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
But what if the only available date for the wedding day.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Is day one of your period.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Literally right at the beginning. What do you do?
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Listen, you need reinforcements. You wear the pad and you
wear the tampon and you you figure it out. You
can't let it be something you think about on the day. Okay, Kiki,
we had a guest ask if they could bring their
girlfriend three hours before the wedding. Absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
That seems like this, No.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
That seems crazy. Okay, now you.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Each and Ala. When I was seven, I was the
flower girl in my aunt's wedding and I passed out
from my nerves. Oh at seven, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
It is nerve wracking. I have to say. She was
so young. I don't think she realized what was going on.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
But I feel like if you're aware of all of
the people, and I just feel like it's a very
if for anybody.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Even as an adult, Like walking down the aisle as
an adult getting married, like there is that feeling of
like oh my, it's like otherwise.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
All these eyes looking at you, everyone's you know dressed.
It's it's it's a lot.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yes, well, once again, kind of regret you coming on.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
I think I did a little better this time.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I don't know if you did. We you know, it's
like we got a I don't know.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
It's I feel like I was doing well until the shark.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Question that did send us off course a little bit
in our defense, that kind of really literally jumped down.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
It through me, It threw me through me.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Yeah, you don't come across those kind of questions.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Kind of a story, to be honest. Of all the
stresses I had on the day that I married you,
it never crossed my mind once that I would shot
at the all.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
No, no, no, I never worried about a diarrhea situation. But
now I would.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
People do well, watch out, watch out. That's Camille's advice.
Watch out.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
No, maybe's packed some pepto advice. That is actually good
advice because you never know what can.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Happen, never having oysters prepared. That's the.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Seriously, Okay, clearly you're never coming back on again.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
I'll be back, thank you, definitely coming.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Back you guys, Thank you once again for tuning in.
I hope you don't regret this as much as I do,
but we will be calling this the end of the episode.
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