August 27, 2024 • 22 mins
Erin and Charissa connect to answer your questions! Quitting my job, how should I handle the exit interview? Kid going away for college, how do you handle transitions in life? My BFF’s brother and I like each other, should I go for it? Plus, another edition of ANONYMOUS Follow Up!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All he said to me is it's from Europe. Can't
keep it on the shelf, And I'm like, I'm in
calm down with Erin and Carissa. Is a production of iHeartRadio.
When was the last time that we recorded? I don't know,
but are you okay? Oh my god, no, I'm not.
(00:20):
I wish you could see this setup that I've got
going on right now because I forgot my computer, I
forgot my headphones. We haven't recorded a podcast in what
feels like a month, so I obviously don't know what
I'm doing. So you are a patient friend. I know.
I was just catching up on everything in how many
I saw in prety days. We'll be back thirteen days
(00:41):
for the NFL season, which means my hair is on fire.
Yours looks great. This is my new move now everything
I think I'm an unpregnant Haley Beaver. I just you're
my hairberry and it's so bad. But welcome to the pregame. Guys.
You know what this means. We have a lot to
talk about in the big show, But do you want
(01:03):
to get to the pregame questions first? Before we get
this announcement with the little foot and then all I
could look at which I know we're celebrating the arrival
of the baby. Is I act like I know them.
I don't. It's her nails. I was like, should I
do that with my nails? The French tip. I think
the gossip was that Justin picked out the Polish. I mean,
(01:25):
oh my god. You know it really is a group effort,
all right. My husband loves a Pinterest, but he doesn't
love a Polish. I thought save that for the big show.
The emails and I get because I'm on Jarrett's Pinterest
page because obviously I asked to be a part of it,
are amazing. I know. I feel so invasive, like I
know every step of what you guys are doing. Okay,
(01:46):
we'll discuss that later. Welcome everyone, free game. We're back
sort of and more frazzlin than ever. Go for it, sister, okay,
melodied ten twelve. Will you not go into a store
if you see someone you know walking in question mark?
It depends on who it is. You got to be
on it, so that's it. I know it's going to
(02:08):
be the same for both of us. That means about
ninety percent of the time, if we know them, we
won't walk in. There's a ten percent chance that we
walk in because there's ten percent of the people that
we know that we like smellulator. I for sure have
done the whole like go the other way. You know,
you got to be in the mood, you know, like
(02:28):
are we doing the small talk, we're catching up. I
haven't seen you in forever. What are you doing here? No?
And it also depends on how like much time you
have where It's like I wanted to get in, I
wanted to get out. I don't have time. I left
my car double parked in a frickin area that I shouldn't. No, no, no, no,
so yes. I got to be honest. I was going
through something last week, and you were doing fifty thousand
(02:52):
things in like home good stores, not home goods, but
home good stores, grabbing coffee, table books, grabbing i don't know, appliances, television,
you even were setting them up. And here I was
like crying about shit that was happening in my life,
and you're like, oh, yeah, I'll just wrap them up.
I know it's okay, Erin, it's gonna be fine. You're
amazing with that. Well, because the truth of that is,
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I'd rather be talking to you than doing what I
was doing. So Melanie, will you go No, we're not
going in to the store. If we know anybody anonymous
quitting my job in a week? How honest should I
be in the exit interview regarding my Miranda Priestley in
quotes boss who is disregarding our team and others? It's
a good question, how honest should you be? Grading Hi?
(03:35):
It was an eronism. What did I say disregarding did
so much? Yeah? That was an Aaron Andrews. I think
God that I'm out of it. I can't wait for
the teleprompter in eleven days or be on television that'll
be good, stay tuned, can't wait for the season degrading? Wow,
(03:56):
read a book, CHRISA. I don't know what the question
was now putting how honest should I be in an
exit interview? I always believe that you should not burn
bridges that you need to walk back over. So if
this is an industry that you plan on staying in,
if there is enough people in your respective profession, even
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if you're exiting, that you respect or that you know
you'll cross paths with again, I would not be too
honest about stuff unless you want to just burn it
down system then have at it. But very rarely do
I encourage that because I think in a world that
ends up being six degrees sometimes three degrees of separation,
(04:38):
careful what you end up doing, because it may burn
you in the butt later, bite you and the ass
later you. This is pretty timely for me. My bosses
aren't Miranda Priestley, but I've had to have some real
honest discussions with them lately, and I found a couple
of things. Vent to the people in your life, get
a ton of advice. Yeah, Like I mean I to
(05:00):
say two things, walking in and not being what is
the word not demonstrative? That's not the right word. That's
I don't know, degrading. So nowell unarming Is that a word?
Did I just make that? Disarming? Good? I can't wait
to be on television maybe also disarming. I liked that.
That was some advice I got. Also, my boss had
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an idea last week. We took a walk around the block,
which I liked that better than sitting in his office
yep and chatter wronging with him. So yeah, I don't
think it's good to just burn it down because you
never know who's going to be your boss again, or
where you're going to run or who they're going to
tell it that you may or may not unloaded on them.
(05:42):
I just don't think it's a smart move, not a
good move, not a good move. And this is not
the question. But to add to what you're talking about,
and we obviously talked about it at length, it's just
I wait for this phrase at the end of the day.
There keep wait for the end of the day. I
feel like it's the end of the day. Where's my wine?
What time is it? Jesus Rois? Maybe I can read then.
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I think you should just treat people, even if they're
your boss's superiors whatever, they're human, and the more honest
you are without being burn it down, I think it
proves to be beneficial. So being honest doesn't always mean
being so cuckoo, you know what I mean? Does that
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make sense? Probably not, It makes a ton of sense.
I think another thing, and I believe that this was
advice from you. If you just show in the end
how much you love the gig and you love where
you are, that's I think the most important message. Now.
If you don't love where you are and you hate
the gi yeah, that's important exactly. We could go on
(06:46):
and on about this because or maybe we should in
the larger conversation, because I want to keep at it
in our hollies. Kimmy and nineteen oh, this is you Stster,
go for it. Yep, Kimmy and nineteen seventy nine. My
son is leaving for college soon. Any advice for coping
with transitions? This is hard. I was actually just talking
to my friend about this, who dropped his daughter off
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at Michigan his son at Florida State. I remember when
my dad dropped me off at school. It was a
big family hug in the middle of my dorm room.
We were bawling our brains out. My parents only had
to drive two hours back to Tampa from the University
of Florida, but that felt so long now. When Kendra
was sent to school and we dropped her off, my
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dad was so upset because that was his baby. And
I don't really remember what happened, but something got locked
in our house, like we couldn't get back in. We
didn't have the key. I don't know what in the
hell happened. Obviously we didn't have an automatic garage either,
but or the garage door wasn't working. My dad had
to break away. That's how dramatic it was. Yeah, so
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there was a lot going on for the Andrews that day.
I would just say this, there's a couple of people
that I had known or just that time maybe, or
people going back to school, and as we get older,
all the kids of the people that we know get older.
And a couple of conversations I've had where they've been like, oh,
I had to drop my kid off at college arm
an empty nester. I'm always like, good for you, you did it,
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because I remember my parents had this thing where it's
our job to raise you and when you turn eighteen,
like you're on your own. So if you've gotten them
to that point, I know obviously you're not, you know,
not being a parent anymore. But hopefully the job that
you did prepared them to go out into the world,
So you should actually be excited for them to go
off to college because now they get to put to
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use all of the skills that you've taught them. So
for coping with transition, I would just say, if you
like your spouse, hopefully you do you get to reconnect
with them, or if you now have only a couple
other kids in the house, you get to spend more
time with them. I think I'm always a big, big
believer in different chapters in your life, so this is
a new chapter where you even also can maybe put
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more focus on yourself. So be proud of the job
you've done it as a parent. They're off to school,
off to college, and applaud them because you know what.
Also to I don't mean my parents crying when I leave,
which but my parents didn't. They were like, see yah,
she's gone. Because it's like then I feel guilty if
like my parents are so sad, Like I want my
parents to be like, go get them kids, So save
(09:18):
the tears. Oh see, we balled our brains out. Okay,
I drove. I drove my parents took me down in
a U hall. They dropped me off in California, and
then they said good luck to you kid. No, they
were not crying. I love this. Next question, Yeah, read
it anonymous? What do you do when read it? Would
you do good luck? Is this a test? What do
(09:40):
you do when your children's dad gets married and she
wears my son's jersey's name a jersey name. So I
have a story about this different. And then wait, she
wrote you I love it, So this is different. My
sister got was cheated on. Maybe she doesn't want me
(10:00):
to say it. She doesn't care. My sister doesn't care.
We're long past it. She has been remarried and has
the most amazing husband. What up, Chris, we love you.
Her first marriage she got cheated on, and the person
that cheated on my old brother in law cheated on
with They ended up getting married, and my sister and
them all still worked together, which is so freaking nuts,
because there's no chance in hell I could have went
(10:22):
to the same office with my ex husband and his
new bride. But there's like that whole thing where you
share kids in the name and all that stuff. I
would not be as classy as my sister was with
that whole thing. I would definitely need to be restrained.
I would not want to see that. Yeah, I mean,
we have no idea if Anonymous was cheated on, this
(10:45):
was an affair, but the dad got married, yeah, and
the new woman is wearing the son's name on her jersey,
So yeah, I don't know if i'd handle it well either.
But if you saw a mac's name, it got a
bit you never will if you and Jerik Gott divorce,
if somebody was wearing Max's name on their like you know,
(11:07):
whatever soccer thing or something, you would fricking lose your shit.
Oh for sure. I just love how she ended it
with you. I have the utmost respect for people that
can harmoniously conscious uncoupling and like make it all work,
because I am tom petty with that kind of stuff.
Like I've never even had to like share a dog
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in a breakup or I'm just like bear mine, Like
there's the idea of having to share children and obviously,
you know there's the mature side of that where you're
doing it for the kids because they see it all
and that kind of stuff. Like, good for you if
you can be amicable with that, because that is easier
said than done. Thank God I didn't have children in
my uh divorce situations. Yeah, we may not be the
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person for this question. Jewels, Jewels, I EQ sorry, micro
needling or lasers. I haven't done micro needling before, but
I'd love to try it. Here's my issue right now.
(12:13):
From the girl we just got her next shot up
with doctor Daniel Poor. He did a number on me. Wow,
I got my face Brozen yesterday ready to go for
this season. We're back, baby, I don't want to see anything.
You would get off an international flight and go straight
to a boat. Holy shit, your shit had done in
your like twelve hours hard. But anyways, he shot my
(12:37):
neck up with because you know how we are about
our next with this botox, but it also kind of
has a filler, but it's not filler, but it's also hydrating,
so on camera it'll look plumper. I mean, can you imagine,
like what was the what was the movie with Gwyneth Paltrow, Like, well,
that would be what my neck looks like on TV.
I don't know, but this is what I was saying
(12:59):
to some Oh. I was saying this to Kylie, Daniella
and Julian on a text chain as I was driving
home from doctor Daniel Poor's office. I said to them,
they go, what is this thing you put in your neck?
All he said to me is it's from Europe. Can't
keep it on the shelf. And I'm like, I'm in yeah, sorry, Julie,
We'll get to your question in a second. We're making
this about us. I went to doctor Daniel Board's office.
(13:22):
This was like a month ago. And I asked them
for botox or whatever filler in my neck because you
said to do that, and they said I was not
allowed to get that, so they did the I don't know,
I wasn't a candidate forard or something, so they gave
me what So, what you're saying is you have a
better neck than I. They also agreed to give me
(13:42):
surgery on that said neck if I would have had
enough time. But they the hydro filler thing or whatever
is that they also gave me. Did it? Look I
need more. It's not hydroing enough. I gotta tell you.
I didn't know myself. And he's like, all over me.
I will like the chick for beetlejuice right now with
the like the slash neck and like the smoke coming
(14:05):
out of it. It hurts so bad. And he was like, wow,
you're so good. You're not even flinching. And then it
turned into a game with myself, like I had a
tear coming down and I'm like, oh, I'm going to
get through this. I'm going to get through this. And
I was like hit and argy. My favorite thing is
with those when they're like, oh, we'll need to numb
you and I'm like, oh no, I'm I'm pain tolerance.
I'm good, and halfway through it, I'm like, yeah, exactly,
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but I don't. Of course, you and I are the same.
We're competitive and we don't want to say that we
actually needed the numbing cream. So Julie, to answer your
question in a very circuitous way, micro needling or lasers.
I don't know what micro needling either. Clearly I need
to figure that out because I'll try everything once. Lasers
are the best thing ever. I've lasered a lot of things,
(14:48):
and I swear by it. In fact, sometimes I forget
that I've lasered everything, and then I'll like, look underneath
my arms. I'm like, wow, forgot about that, because it'll
come in. Hair will come in every now and then,
So laser it up. Girl. Are we at a time? No,
Bridget bert One, how do you deal with the egos
of players and coaches? Bridget I'm just gonna say this
(15:10):
right now, a Bridge Burt look at me making up names? Now, Hey,
brit Bridge, Burt Bridge. They never are dear the Bridge
Burt one. I will speak for myself because Aaron's obviously
have different experiences, but I think she's going to say
something similar. There have been over the almost twenty years
(15:32):
we've been doing this, very very very very very very
few I'm talking like five percent that have ego or arrogance.
That is just they all have ego, but they don't
us good to us. I don't know. I feel like
I've just been so lucky that these guys, players, coaches,
(15:55):
colleagues have all been unbelievable. I actually experienced this way
more in my Hollywood days. I don't know if you
did with the Dancing with the Stars tenure of yours,
but I felt like Hollywood, Hollywood definitely had the arrogance
way more than athletes, because athletes are used to being
(16:17):
part of a team. So that's where I found the difference.
And how did I deal with it. I didn't deal
with it very well, which is why that entertainment gig
was short lived because I had a hard time with
that where people acted like they were better than me,
and I was like, we're cool here, relax, Okay, your movie, Yeah,
your movie sucks, and you're lucky we're even promoting it.
(16:38):
But you we are so lucky with our relationships that
we have with these players and coaches. I think you know.
A great example of that was we were in San
Francisco together for preseason game, You, myself, Julian, Tom Brady,
Kevin Burkhart. We had a I had a blast walking
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up on the sidelines with you. You know, George Kittle
in the middle of the game, he's not playing, comes over,
gives us a hug. We were in the center of
the field talking to guys, you know, you know Penner
about his new baby. Congratulations exactly to Mario Davis, Like
just so, we're so fortunate, and I think a lot
of the time, the guys in the league that we
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are so fortunate to cover understand we are there to
do a job, but we're also there not to make
them look bad. We respect the hell out of what
they do, and we're huge fans of theirs. And it's
just cool, Like it was so fun, like just standing
there both that comes by, we give him a huge hug.
John Lynch his wife. It's it actually turns out to
be a big family. So we're grateful for that, very
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very grateful. Last, but not least, Anonymous, my bff's brother
and I like each other. Do I chance ruining the
friendship and go for it? Yeah, this is so because
the risk award is huge. Imagine it works out and
you get to be like family with your best friend.
Aaron doesn't have a brother, and my brother was married
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is happily married with children, so that was never a
case for Aaron and I. But like, oh my god,
if you and here's the thing, you, if she's your
best friend, you can obviously gauge what her reaction will
be if she like has like a super close protective
relationship with her brother and she I don't know. I
feel like you'll you'll definitely know if she would be
(18:26):
for it or against it. But if you're her best friend,
why wouldn't she want you to be with her brother too,
because she would want the best for you. And if
she has a great really unless unless the brother's bad
news bears and she's like he's gonna hurt you and
you're gonna end up being upset, and like, don't even
go down that road. But I think that you definitely
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know if your girlfriend, your best friend, would be into
it or not. So yeah, in the words of Steve Candarry,
hell yeah, helly, hell yah, hell yeah, see Candary, it's
me right now. Steve Candary is out in the one
hundred and fifteen degrees hate with my father, my father,
Mom's your father building an equestrian center. I'm not even
(19:07):
a horse scalp. Okay, I finally owed my first horse
at the age of forty two and act as if
I need the goddamn you know FIP setup for the
equestrian center because he can hell, I mean, my god,
I wish. But yeah, they're doing their due diligence out there,
and I shouldn't say due diligence. I can't even talk.
(19:28):
They're doing me a solid by building this thing. So
Steve hates me, and the last thing he's going to
say next time I ask him to do something as
hell Yeah, hell yeah. But as for this, Anonymous, go
for it and keep us posted. We love an anonymous
follow up. So we have your studio host your transitions. Yeah,
well I need to transition from the off season to
(19:49):
the season with the way that I'm speaking today. Here
we go anonymous follow up. Okay, you guys. The original
question last year from August was Aaron go caught close
friend cheating on her husband? Confront or stay quiet? We
told her to confront it. So here's the update. Aaron.
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She did not confront her friend about it. I'm still
friendly with the person, however, we're nowhere near as close
as we used to be. The guy is still in
the picture, and she only mentions him when her husband
isn't around, to include a recent weekend when we were
on a day trip with a couple other law I'm
confused already, what's going on? Okay, so the guy is
(20:29):
still in the picture. So the guy because she caught
a close friend cheating on her husband. Okay, so the
other guy is still in the picture. She only talks
about that guy when her husband isn't around. She's given
an example a recent weekend when we were on a
day trip with another couple of girlfriends. I reached out
to a therapist and worked through the unresolved stuff I
had going on that came back up going through this
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doing much better now, and I recognize that it's her
problem to figure out and not and fix or not.
So basically, she's like, I'm not going to met in
this person's business, like that's her deal. She's cheating on
her husband. I'm not going to confront it and get
in the middle of this nasty stuff, which I got
to tell you. You know exactly what I'm about to say.
(21:13):
I can't say it, but god, I wish I could.
I know something right now about someone, and I want
so bad to call this person who I've never met
in my entry. I know that, oh you know them.
I want to call them and be like, hey, by
the way, your so and so has this and this
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and this and this. He's not telling you. But I'm
not going to do it because it is not my
problem and it is none of my business. And you
know what, I'm not trying to do bring any drama
into my little peaceful life. So this person, oh, Aaron Andrews,
Not only do you know this person? We have talked
so much about this, although I haven't talked to you
(22:00):
so long, you might have forgot while you were swimming
in Lake Homo without me. Congratulations to the Purcells. It's wild,
but knowing information that could totally help someone else, like
I want to tell her, but it is I don't
know this person, and I can't call her. I can't
be involved in the drama. Oh my god. All right,
we will continue this conversation and more on the Big
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All he said to me is it's from Europe. Can't
keep it on the shelf, And I'm like, I'm in
calm down with Erin and Carissa. Is a production of iHeartRadio.
When was the last time that we recorded? I don't know,
but are you okay? Oh my god, no, I'm not.
(00:20):
I wish you could see this setup that I've got
going on right now because I forgot my computer, I
forgot my headphones. We haven't recorded a podcast in what
feels like a month, so I obviously don't know what
I'm doing. So you are a patient friend. I know.
I was just catching up on everything in how many
I saw in prety days. We'll be back thirteen days
(00:41):
for the NFL season, which means my hair is on fire.
Yours looks great. This is my new move now everything
I think I'm an unpregnant Haley Beaver. I just you're
my hairberry and it's so bad. But welcome to the pregame. Guys.
You know what this means. We have a lot to
talk about in the big show, But do you want
(01:03):
to get to the pregame questions first? Before we get
this announcement with the little foot and then all I
could look at which I know we're celebrating the arrival
of the baby. Is I act like I know them.
I don't. It's her nails. I was like, should I
do that with my nails? The French tip. I think
the gossip was that Justin picked out the Polish. I mean,
(01:25):
oh my god. You know it really is a group effort,
all right. My husband loves a Pinterest, but he doesn't
love a Polish. I thought save that for the big show.
The emails and I get because I'm on Jarrett's Pinterest
page because obviously I asked to be a part of it,
are amazing. I know. I feel so invasive, like I
know every step of what you guys are doing. Okay,
(01:46):
we'll discuss that later. Welcome everyone, free game. We're back
sort of and more frazzlin than ever. Go for it, sister, okay,
melodied ten twelve. Will you not go into a store
if you see someone you know walking in question mark?
It depends on who it is. You got to be
on it, so that's it. I know it's going to
(02:08):
be the same for both of us. That means about
ninety percent of the time, if we know them, we
won't walk in. There's a ten percent chance that we
walk in because there's ten percent of the people that
we know that we like smellulator. I for sure have
done the whole like go the other way. You know,
you got to be in the mood, you know, like
(02:28):
are we doing the small talk, we're catching up. I
haven't seen you in forever. What are you doing here? No?
And it also depends on how like much time you
have where It's like I wanted to get in, I
wanted to get out. I don't have time. I left
my car double parked in a frickin area that I shouldn't. No, no, no, no,
so yes. I got to be honest. I was going
through something last week, and you were doing fifty thousand
(02:52):
things in like home good stores, not home goods, but
home good stores, grabbing coffee, table books, grabbing i don't know, appliances, television,
you even were setting them up. And here I was
like crying about shit that was happening in my life,
and you're like, oh, yeah, I'll just wrap them up.
I know it's okay, Erin, it's gonna be fine. You're
amazing with that. Well, because the truth of that is,
(03:12):
I'd rather be talking to you than doing what I
was doing. So Melanie, will you go No, we're not
going in to the store. If we know anybody anonymous
quitting my job in a week? How honest should I
be in the exit interview regarding my Miranda Priestley in
quotes boss who is disregarding our team and others? It's
a good question, how honest should you be? Grading Hi?
(03:35):
It was an eronism. What did I say disregarding did
so much? Yeah? That was an Aaron Andrews. I think
God that I'm out of it. I can't wait for
the teleprompter in eleven days or be on television that'll
be good, stay tuned, can't wait for the season degrading? Wow,
(03:56):
read a book, CHRISA. I don't know what the question
was now putting how honest should I be in an
exit interview? I always believe that you should not burn
bridges that you need to walk back over. So if
this is an industry that you plan on staying in,
if there is enough people in your respective profession, even
(04:16):
if you're exiting, that you respect or that you know
you'll cross paths with again, I would not be too
honest about stuff unless you want to just burn it
down system then have at it. But very rarely do
I encourage that because I think in a world that
ends up being six degrees sometimes three degrees of separation,
(04:38):
careful what you end up doing, because it may burn
you in the butt later, bite you and the ass
later you. This is pretty timely for me. My bosses
aren't Miranda Priestley, but I've had to have some real
honest discussions with them lately, and I found a couple
of things. Vent to the people in your life, get
a ton of advice. Yeah, Like I mean I to
(05:00):
say two things, walking in and not being what is
the word not demonstrative? That's not the right word. That's
I don't know, degrading. So nowell unarming Is that a word?
Did I just make that? Disarming? Good? I can't wait
to be on television maybe also disarming. I liked that.
That was some advice I got. Also, my boss had
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an idea last week. We took a walk around the block,
which I liked that better than sitting in his office
yep and chatter wronging with him. So yeah, I don't
think it's good to just burn it down because you
never know who's going to be your boss again, or
where you're going to run or who they're going to
tell it that you may or may not unloaded on them.
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I just don't think it's a smart move, not a
good move, not a good move. And this is not
the question. But to add to what you're talking about,
and we obviously talked about it at length, it's just
I wait for this phrase at the end of the day.
There keep wait for the end of the day. I
feel like it's the end of the day. Where's my wine?
What time is it? Jesus Rois? Maybe I can read then.
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I think you should just treat people, even if they're
your boss's superiors whatever, they're human, and the more honest
you are without being burn it down, I think it
proves to be beneficial. So being honest doesn't always mean
being so cuckoo, you know what I mean? Does that
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make sense? Probably not, It makes a ton of sense.
I think another thing, and I believe that this was
advice from you. If you just show in the end
how much you love the gig and you love where
you are, that's I think the most important message. Now.
If you don't love where you are and you hate
the gi yeah, that's important exactly. We could go on
(06:46):
and on about this because or maybe we should in
the larger conversation, because I want to keep at it
in our hollies. Kimmy and nineteen oh, this is you Stster,
go for it. Yep, Kimmy and nineteen seventy nine. My
son is leaving for college soon. Any advice for coping
with transitions? This is hard. I was actually just talking
to my friend about this, who dropped his daughter off
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at Michigan his son at Florida State. I remember when
my dad dropped me off at school. It was a
big family hug in the middle of my dorm room.
We were bawling our brains out. My parents only had
to drive two hours back to Tampa from the University
of Florida, but that felt so long now. When Kendra
was sent to school and we dropped her off, my
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dad was so upset because that was his baby. And
I don't really remember what happened, but something got locked
in our house, like we couldn't get back in. We
didn't have the key. I don't know what in the
hell happened. Obviously we didn't have an automatic garage either,
but or the garage door wasn't working. My dad had
to break away. That's how dramatic it was. Yeah, so
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there was a lot going on for the Andrews that day.
I would just say this, there's a couple of people
that I had known or just that time maybe, or
people going back to school, and as we get older,
all the kids of the people that we know get older.
And a couple of conversations I've had where they've been like, oh,
I had to drop my kid off at college arm
an empty nester. I'm always like, good for you, you did it,
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because I remember my parents had this thing where it's
our job to raise you and when you turn eighteen,
like you're on your own. So if you've gotten them
to that point, I know obviously you're not, you know,
not being a parent anymore. But hopefully the job that
you did prepared them to go out into the world,
So you should actually be excited for them to go
off to college because now they get to put to
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use all of the skills that you've taught them. So
for coping with transition, I would just say, if you
like your spouse, hopefully you do you get to reconnect
with them, or if you now have only a couple
other kids in the house, you get to spend more
time with them. I think I'm always a big, big
believer in different chapters in your life, so this is
a new chapter where you even also can maybe put
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more focus on yourself. So be proud of the job
you've done it as a parent. They're off to school,
off to college, and applaud them because you know what.
Also to I don't mean my parents crying when I leave,
which but my parents didn't. They were like, see yah,
she's gone. Because it's like then I feel guilty if
like my parents are so sad, Like I want my
parents to be like, go get them kids, So save
(09:18):
the tears. Oh see, we balled our brains out. Okay,
I drove. I drove my parents took me down in
a U hall. They dropped me off in California, and
then they said good luck to you kid. No, they
were not crying. I love this. Next question, Yeah, read
it anonymous? What do you do when read it? Would
you do good luck? Is this a test? What do
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you do when your children's dad gets married and she
wears my son's jersey's name a jersey name. So I
have a story about this different. And then wait, she
wrote you I love it, So this is different. My
sister got was cheated on. Maybe she doesn't want me
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to say it. She doesn't care. My sister doesn't care.
We're long past it. She has been remarried and has
the most amazing husband. What up, Chris, we love you.
Her first marriage she got cheated on, and the person
that cheated on my old brother in law cheated on
with They ended up getting married, and my sister and
them all still worked together, which is so freaking nuts,
because there's no chance in hell I could have went
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to the same office with my ex husband and his
new bride. But there's like that whole thing where you
share kids in the name and all that stuff. I
would not be as classy as my sister was with
that whole thing. I would definitely need to be restrained.
I would not want to see that. Yeah, I mean,
we have no idea if Anonymous was cheated on, this
(10:45):
was an affair, but the dad got married, yeah, and
the new woman is wearing the son's name on her jersey,
So yeah, I don't know if i'd handle it well either.
But if you saw a mac's name, it got a
bit you never will if you and Jerik Gott divorce,
if somebody was wearing Max's name on their like you know,
(11:07):
whatever soccer thing or something, you would fricking lose your shit.
Oh for sure. I just love how she ended it
with you. I have the utmost respect for people that
can harmoniously conscious uncoupling and like make it all work,
because I am tom petty with that kind of stuff.
Like I've never even had to like share a dog
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in a breakup or I'm just like bear mine, Like
there's the idea of having to share children and obviously,
you know there's the mature side of that where you're
doing it for the kids because they see it all
and that kind of stuff. Like, good for you if
you can be amicable with that, because that is easier
said than done. Thank God I didn't have children in
my uh divorce situations. Yeah, we may not be the
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person for this question. Jewels, Jewels, I EQ sorry, micro
needling or lasers. I haven't done micro needling before, but
I'd love to try it. Here's my issue right now.
(12:13):
From the girl we just got her next shot up
with doctor Daniel Poor. He did a number on me. Wow,
I got my face Brozen yesterday ready to go for
this season. We're back, baby, I don't want to see anything.
You would get off an international flight and go straight
to a boat. Holy shit, your shit had done in
your like twelve hours hard. But anyways, he shot my
(12:37):
neck up with because you know how we are about
our next with this botox, but it also kind of
has a filler, but it's not filler, but it's also hydrating,
so on camera it'll look plumper. I mean, can you imagine,
like what was the what was the movie with Gwyneth Paltrow, Like, well,
that would be what my neck looks like on TV.
I don't know, but this is what I was saying
(12:59):
to some Oh. I was saying this to Kylie, Daniella
and Julian on a text chain as I was driving
home from doctor Daniel Poor's office. I said to them,
they go, what is this thing you put in your neck?
All he said to me is it's from Europe. Can't
keep it on the shelf. And I'm like, I'm in yeah, sorry, Julie,
We'll get to your question in a second. We're making
this about us. I went to doctor Daniel Board's office.
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This was like a month ago. And I asked them
for botox or whatever filler in my neck because you
said to do that, and they said I was not
allowed to get that, so they did the I don't know,
I wasn't a candidate forard or something, so they gave
me what So, what you're saying is you have a
better neck than I. They also agreed to give me
(13:42):
surgery on that said neck if I would have had
enough time. But they the hydro filler thing or whatever
is that they also gave me. Did it? Look I
need more. It's not hydroing enough. I gotta tell you.
I didn't know myself. And he's like, all over me.
I will like the chick for beetlejuice right now with
the like the slash neck and like the smoke coming
(14:05):
out of it. It hurts so bad. And he was like, wow,
you're so good. You're not even flinching. And then it
turned into a game with myself, like I had a
tear coming down and I'm like, oh, I'm going to
get through this. I'm going to get through this. And
I was like hit and argy. My favorite thing is
with those when they're like, oh, we'll need to numb
you and I'm like, oh no, I'm I'm pain tolerance.
I'm good, and halfway through it, I'm like, yeah, exactly,
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but I don't. Of course, you and I are the same.
We're competitive and we don't want to say that we
actually needed the numbing cream. So Julie, to answer your
question in a very circuitous way, micro needling or lasers.
I don't know what micro needling either. Clearly I need
to figure that out because I'll try everything once. Lasers
are the best thing ever. I've lasered a lot of things,
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and I swear by it. In fact, sometimes I forget
that I've lasered everything, and then I'll like, look underneath
my arms. I'm like, wow, forgot about that, because it'll
come in. Hair will come in every now and then,
So laser it up. Girl. Are we at a time? No,
Bridget bert One, how do you deal with the egos
of players and coaches? Bridget I'm just gonna say this
(15:10):
right now, a Bridge Burt look at me making up names? Now, Hey,
brit Bridge, Burt Bridge. They never are dear the Bridge
Burt one. I will speak for myself because Aaron's obviously
have different experiences, but I think she's going to say
something similar. There have been over the almost twenty years
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we've been doing this, very very very very very very
few I'm talking like five percent that have ego or arrogance.
That is just they all have ego, but they don't
us good to us. I don't know. I feel like
I've just been so lucky that these guys, players, coaches,
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colleagues have all been unbelievable. I actually experienced this way
more in my Hollywood days. I don't know if you
did with the Dancing with the Stars tenure of yours,
but I felt like Hollywood, Hollywood definitely had the arrogance
way more than athletes, because athletes are used to being
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part of a team. So that's where I found the difference.
And how did I deal with it. I didn't deal
with it very well, which is why that entertainment gig
was short lived because I had a hard time with
that where people acted like they were better than me,
and I was like, we're cool here, relax, Okay, your movie, Yeah,
your movie sucks, and you're lucky we're even promoting it.
(16:38):
But you we are so lucky with our relationships that
we have with these players and coaches. I think you know.
A great example of that was we were in San
Francisco together for preseason game, You, myself, Julian, Tom Brady,
Kevin Burkhart. We had a I had a blast walking
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up on the sidelines with you. You know, George Kittle
in the middle of the game, he's not playing, comes over,
gives us a hug. We were in the center of
the field talking to guys, you know, you know Penner
about his new baby. Congratulations exactly to Mario Davis, Like
just so, we're so fortunate, and I think a lot
of the time, the guys in the league that we
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are so fortunate to cover understand we are there to
do a job, but we're also there not to make
them look bad. We respect the hell out of what
they do, and we're huge fans of theirs. And it's
just cool, Like it was so fun, like just standing
there both that comes by, we give him a huge hug.
John Lynch his wife. It's it actually turns out to
be a big family. So we're grateful for that, very
(17:43):
very grateful. Last, but not least, Anonymous, my bff's brother
and I like each other. Do I chance ruining the
friendship and go for it? Yeah, this is so because
the risk award is huge. Imagine it works out and
you get to be like family with your best friend.
Aaron doesn't have a brother, and my brother was married
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is happily married with children, so that was never a
case for Aaron and I. But like, oh my god,
if you and here's the thing, you, if she's your
best friend, you can obviously gauge what her reaction will
be if she like has like a super close protective
relationship with her brother and she I don't know. I
feel like you'll you'll definitely know if she would be
(18:26):
for it or against it. But if you're her best friend,
why wouldn't she want you to be with her brother too,
because she would want the best for you. And if
she has a great really unless unless the brother's bad
news bears and she's like he's gonna hurt you and
you're gonna end up being upset, and like, don't even
go down that road. But I think that you definitely
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know if your girlfriend, your best friend, would be into
it or not. So yeah, in the words of Steve Candarry,
hell yeah, helly, hell yah, hell yeah, see Candary, it's
me right now. Steve Candary is out in the one
hundred and fifteen degrees hate with my father, my father,
Mom's your father building an equestrian center. I'm not even
(19:07):
a horse scalp. Okay, I finally owed my first horse
at the age of forty two and act as if
I need the goddamn you know FIP setup for the
equestrian center because he can hell, I mean, my god,
I wish. But yeah, they're doing their due diligence out there,
and I shouldn't say due diligence. I can't even talk.
(19:28):
They're doing me a solid by building this thing. So
Steve hates me, and the last thing he's going to
say next time I ask him to do something as
hell Yeah, hell yeah. But as for this, Anonymous, go
for it and keep us posted. We love an anonymous
follow up. So we have your studio host your transitions. Yeah,
well I need to transition from the off season to
(19:49):
the season with the way that I'm speaking today. Here
we go anonymous follow up. Okay, you guys. The original
question last year from August was Aaron go caught close
friend cheating on her husband? Confront or stay quiet? We
told her to confront it. So here's the update. Aaron.
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She did not confront her friend about it. I'm still
friendly with the person, however, we're nowhere near as close
as we used to be. The guy is still in
the picture, and she only mentions him when her husband
isn't around, to include a recent weekend when we were
on a day trip with a couple other law I'm
confused already, what's going on? Okay, so the guy is
(20:29):
still in the picture. So the guy because she caught
a close friend cheating on her husband. Okay, so the
other guy is still in the picture. She only talks
about that guy when her husband isn't around. She's given
an example a recent weekend when we were on a
day trip with another couple of girlfriends. I reached out
to a therapist and worked through the unresolved stuff I
had going on that came back up going through this
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doing much better now, and I recognize that it's her
problem to figure out and not and fix or not.
So basically, she's like, I'm not going to met in
this person's business, like that's her deal. She's cheating on
her husband. I'm not going to confront it and get
in the middle of this nasty stuff, which I got
to tell you. You know exactly what I'm about to say.
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I can't say it, but god, I wish I could.
I know something right now about someone, and I want
so bad to call this person who I've never met
in my entry. I know that, oh you know them.
I want to call them and be like, hey, by
the way, your so and so has this and this
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and this and this. He's not telling you. But I'm
not going to do it because it is not my
problem and it is none of my business. And you
know what, I'm not trying to do bring any drama
into my little peaceful life. So this person, oh, Aaron Andrews,
Not only do you know this person? We have talked
so much about this, although I haven't talked to you
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so long, you might have forgot while you were swimming
in Lake Homo without me. Congratulations to the Purcells. It's wild,
but knowing information that could totally help someone else, like
I want to tell her, but it is I don't
know this person, and I can't call her. I can't
be involved in the drama. Oh my god. All right,
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