Episode 291: Pregame - Go for The Guy in His 20’s

Erin and Charissa are ready to Pregame by answering your questions!

• How do you handle judgy, nosy neighbors?
• Dating in your 40s
• Christmas Traditions

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Go for the twenties, have a little fun. Good for you.
I don't see any issue with any of this. Calm
Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio
touching her eyebrows. By the way, there's just so thick whispits. Okay,
but you got to answer. Hi, everybody, Welcome to the

(00:21):
Calm Down podcast free game. I had asked Aaron before
I accidentally muted my mic if she did her hair
this morning, because it looks real, but this is left
over from yesterday. Well it looks great, Kyleie. You have
to answer the question on Kylie. We love Kylie. People
want to know what, don't I didn't even know there's
a term gatekeeping. What the serum is that you bogie

(00:46):
boi be a oh boi ay i and a fall
up to all that is. I went to my facialist
girl who recommended it to me and said, oh, yeah,
I've heard this stuff can make them grow in thicker,
which they did. They did. They're very much sticker and darker.
And then again, not to reiterate, I know Ryan Fitzpatrick
left the thing. We know you died your eyebrows. I

(01:07):
wish I had died that because then I'd be scraping
the die off. This is how dark they came in.
That's kind of by the way I'm I'm I might
get in on this Obaji situation. Not a mad wish
it was because I have to go dark in mine.
Lynn puts the like die on it every week and
it goes away in two seconds. I want mine thicker acre,

(01:27):
So maybe we get on the Obagi train. Why not?
So I'm going to get back on it once they
die down and fall out a little bit, and not
be so religious like I'm doing it every day. You're
very disciplined. I'm not just going about anything. So it's
gonna be fine for me every like two months. I
wish I was like that, but I'm not. Let's just
be honest. Welcome to the pregame, everyone. First question for

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our gal from camber Schlag is Aaron, do you ice skate?
I can stand up on skates, I can push off
a little bit. I have a I have trouble stopping.
I guess this is coming from the pictures that I
posted from the Los Angeles King's family skate, which was
very sweet and a very fun thing that they do
every year. I was so stupid. I wasn't thinking I

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hadn't been to one of those in a while because
I'm usually never home for them. And luckily they worked
it worked out that it was on a Thursday and
I was home. I was so stupid. I wore boots
and everybody's yeah, we were your skates did get so anyways,
I can kind of ice skate, but nothing to write
home about. We were walking Steve and I were walking
by somewhere and they were doing some a bunch of

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guys like roller like playing what is it called street
hockey rollerblades and Steve's like, oh, I'm an excellent skater,
and I was like, excuse me what, I go, what
from all your days growing up in Wisconsin? What do
you mean you're an excellent skater? And he goes, oh, yeah,
he goes, Jared'd be very impressed. You should see, he goes.
I got to get out on the ice with him
and go, Okay, you're gonna stand next to the two

(02:56):
times Stanley Cup champion and your days in New Jersey.
You're really gonna can't wait to see that. So we
did to get that going. That would be amazing. Well,
I'll be in the boots in the stands. There's no
way my ass is out on that, I state. I
remember my neighbor growing up. Her name was Nikki DeLong.
I don't know where she is these days, but her

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family was rich and we were not. And her mom
always put her in ice skating and she had on
the like to to the whole outfit and these beautiful
white skates. And they took me ice skating one time
with her, and I looked like Tanya Harding from the
trailer park next to Nancy Kerrigan. I was like, I
could not ice skate. I couldn't anything. I had like

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little rags on. It was so humiliating. That was the
last time I ever went ice skating. Well, we will
take you blue mind living. How do you handle judgy,
noisy neighbors? I don't know. We don't really talk to
many people. I'm gonna be honest. It's not because we
don't want to, but we barely talk to each other
because I'm never home, so judging. I'm sure our neighbors

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are judging us. Yes, our whatever. People seem to know
our business around here. Our problem is where we live.
All the houses are so close, so even if you're
kind of looking at you're mister and missus, like on
a walk with your dog. Jared's always like sh like
people can hear us in the street, Like okay, oh yeah, yeah,

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I am. My neighbors are right on top of us.
And I told you the couple weeks ago and my
car got hit out in front of my house. First
time I met the neighbors to the right of me
right here was because they came running out and didn't
know what happened, and she was like, oh, your car
is totaled, and I was like, look, lady, I don't
need that right now. That was the introduction to my neighbors.
After living here for seven years, I am very close

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with the one on the backside because like when I leave,
especially after the break and I'm like, hey, Jerry, keep
some eyes out, eyes and ears Jerry on the old
neighborhood patrol. But yeah, no, I don't have nosy neighbors.
I definitely have that thing where it's like if the
door's open or sometimes like my bedroom window faces out
to the neighbors too, and I'm like, can we close
the car. They don't need to see everything that's going on.

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Not like that, but just like in life, like close
the curtains, lock it up a bit. So yeah, I
don't know what to tell you, Blue Mind Living. How
do we deal with nosy judging neighbors? Oh my god, actually, wait,
hold on, I totally forgot. I was the neighborhood patrolled
the other day. I heard my again, I have four
neighbors that I can see from right here. I heard

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a dog. The dog in the neighbor was barking and
barking and it has and kind of has like a
whiny bark of like, oh yeah, is it hurt? So
I said to Steve, I go throw a treat over
the fence, and he goes, well, wonder if they're allergic?
I go, oh God, then the dog's gonna die and
we're gonna be responsible. And then we're getting cameras out.
Who threw the treat back? Share the dog die? So,
I said, you wrote, I said, I'm just going to
go over there and knock on that door and see

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what's going on, because anything that has to do with
an animal like I can't handle. If this animal is
being harmed. And I've been like privy to this for
weeks and not done anything about it. So I marched
my ass right over there, and I'm the nosy neighbor
and I knock on that door. I heard talking in there.
They didn't answer the door, and I was like, I'll
come back next time. So, like a couple days later,
I went back over. Knock, knock, knock. She answers the

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door couldn't have been nicer. I said, look, I'm your
neighbor over here, and I hear your dog crying. Is
everything okay? She was like, oh, yeah, he plays with
this ball and he likes this ball, and so then
he gets so excited. And I was like, okay. Turns
out she works at the animal shelter. So I'm the
nosy neighbor that's making sure the dog's like not her
and she's saving dogs. So all is right in the neighborhood.
But look, you gotta do your job. Are you writing

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about me? You gotta get out on the streets. Anonymous, yep, No.
Divorced forty three. What do I do when men in
their sixties and twenties are wanting to date? What's my issue?
Go for the twenties, have a little fun. Good for you.
I don't see any issue with any of this. Actually,
at least somebody wants to hang out. You know. That's great.

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By the way, you have cast that net girl, and
you are just taking in all the fish in the
sea twenties to sixties. No, I think you're looking at
this all wrong. I think there's real possibilities here, especially
since you're newly divorced. Go out there. To Aaron's point,
have some fun with the twenty year olds. I also
liked the idea. I ended up dating someone younger than me,

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but I liked the idea of somebody older who had
already dealt with their shit, had already been maybe divorced.
Like when I was thinking about having to go back
out there again, I didn't. I was totally open to
the idea of somebody having like older kids that were
out of the house. They'd already been divorced, they'd already
gone through all that crap. So I don't think you know,
unless you have like real non negotiables in terms of age,

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I don't think anything is off the table. I love
that go get it girl, get it girl. And speaking
of girl, Midwest gal, do you work for the networks
in the off season? No, I'll do the Belmont Steaks

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because I love the Yes racing, I do that for Fox.
I've done that the last couple of years. I really
enjoyed doing that. But yeah, that's I'll do my NFL
Films long form features that I do for NFL Films Presents.
But no, as far as for Fox, No, we don't
do any other coverage. You used to do baseball and football,

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but now it's all college basketball. That's right. Nope, nope, nope.
And if we trying to have a life central focused
on that, yup, go ahead. See Jasinski CJ. Sinski sixty five.

(08:34):
What is the most fun time slash event you have
had together? PS? Love you guys so much. Well, first
of all, thank you. I'm sorry if I butchered your handle.
I was just thinking about it today actually since the
Eras tour culminated last night in Vancouver. Very jealous of
my sister and my niece who went to it. My
niece and my brother went to the one the night before,
of course, being from Seattle, that was the close proximity

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for them. I am so glad that we pulled the
trigger and we made that happen. Because you can always
have a million excuses of schedule and this and that.
But we made it happen in London back in June,
and it was so awesome. I mean we went for
forty eight hours whatever it was seventy two hours. But
I think that that's up there on my list of

(09:18):
fun adventures with you what about you? Yeah, that was
a good time. We've had a good time in Montana.
We've had good times in where the hell did we
go with the seaweed? Oh to Loom? Went to Loom
chilling Snafford for hosting all of us. No, that was

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really fun. We also have we're trying to get a
vacation on the books for this off season, because if
you don't plan it, then it doesn't happen. But yeah,
I think we're doing a better job of that than
we have we asked. We usually have a pretty good
time everywhere we go. I mean, it could be some Shenanigans,
it's fun, okay. Blake Johnson to eight nine eight favor

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Christmas tradition your family had when you were a kid
growing up, There was a neighborhood and I guess, like whatever,
families do it all the time, there was a neighborhood
right where we live that was kind of like the
ritzy neighborhood, and so we'd go and turn in and
go around and look at the life. Wait, yeah, look
at the lights. And that was always a big deal.

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I forgot what it was called Bearingly Oaks. Oh we
had one of those two ours was English Hill and
all my friends lived in English Hill but I didn't,
but they always had like the cool lights. Another tradition
is my dad and I always watched It's a Wonderful
Life on Christmas Eve. I'd go to church with my
grandma and my mom and they come home and watch

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that with my dad. Always made cookies, Christmas cookies with
my grandma and my mom. We'd have a big Christmas
bakeoff thing and then Christmas vacation. That movie was on
repeat and still is. Yeah. You know what I was
thinking about the other day too, is now was a mother.
You're like all of these traditions and all of these

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things like that was all our moms and dads. Like,
think about it. Traditions don't happen if they don't initiate
it or start something, and so it's so fun like
when you think about, like my mom still to this
day does stock it. We talked about it when we
were on the phone and you were going to get
stocking stuff ers, like all of that stuff requires effort,
as I just got back from Christmas shopping, so did you.

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It's exhausting. And it's like when you think about all
of the things that our parents did and you don't
even realize like what they're doing. You're just like, oh,
this happens, like wrapping all of that crap. And it's
if they don't do them, then you don't have traditions.
It's very sweet, it is. And I my mom had
a full time job, my dad at a full time job,
like I have help in all areas, and I'm still

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my problem is right now, in the middle of the night,
I am waking up laying there going shit, who did
I not buy? For? Shit? When am I going to
finish this? It's like I cannot shut that down right
now in my brain. Crap, what are we serving for
Christmas dinner? I just really another thing I have to
write down the lobster guys that want to send stuff
like it just rich. Yeah, no, I actually we can

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talk about this on the Big Show. I have a
whole as the holiday season, you know, is now upon us.
I thought I had, I was like, real coffee. The
tree's been up since October. I thought I did all
the shopping early, and now I'm doing what you're doing.
I'm like, and this is always that thing again. I'll
save it for the big show. But here's the tease.
Wonder if someone gets you a gift and you didn't

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get them one those auxiliary gifts that you have to
have lying around, we'll talk about it. Oh yeah, next Anonymous,
how do I get over feeling guilty about an upcoming
plan my husband and I have? My dear husband has
been very supportive of my career once we became empty nesters.
My husband and I plan to move from our current
home in Alabama to Lexington, Kentucky, so I can pursue

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a job. He insists he's fine with it and looks
forward to the eventual change. Yet I can't get past
feeling like it's a lot to ask of him. What
do you guys think? And can you give me some
prospective perspective on this conundrum? What a fantastic question. Okay,
So she's feeling guilty about moving for her job and
because she doesn't want her husband to have to move,

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even though he says she's okay with it, you have
any thoughts, go ahead. I would say that if he
says he's okay with it, then you have to trust
that he's okay with him. And if he comes back
around after you guys have moved and he gets resentful,
you have to say, then you should have been honest

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about this from the beginning. But don't you know, It's
like if, like anything in life, if the guy's like, oh, no,
I'm fine, you picked the movie, and then the whole
time you're on the way to the movie, you're like, well,
you did you really want to pick the movie? You
should have picked the movie. Then he's like, I said
I was fine. Men are so much more direct than
the women are that if he says he's okay with it,
I would say that you have to trust that and

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don't overanalyze it and go in with a great attitude,
because then if you're like constantly questioning him, he's like Jesus,
I can't win. I said I was fine with it,
and now you're still questioning it. So lean into the
fact that he was all on board, and good luck
with your new job. I think you thank you, embrace it.
I think it's cool too, that you guys are empty nesters.

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This is kind of a new chapter in your lives,
and I think it sounds like a great time to
do it. It's not like you have kids and you're
pulling them out of their school and putting them in
a new one and you have to deal with letting
all of them down. Like it's your husband and it's
you and it's a new start. And Alabama Kentucky not
that far from each other. If it doesn't work out,

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or if he wants to go back and visit some people.
So I believe in what Churis says. I think men
are very direct. I don't think that they are wishy
washy or worry about Oh I shouldn't have said that.
Did I make the right decision? That's very much a
female thing. Own it, Go for it, it's a new chapter.
Enjoy it all and congrat And I would also say
to you just say to your husband, thank you, like

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that's awesome that he's like so willing to support you
and something that you want to do. I think you
have a good one, and good luck with the new job.
I love that. Also, using the word conundrum is very lumage.
That's like a Taylor Swift song. She always uses all
these words, and I'm like, I know. We had to
look at you on the new album when it came out,
because you and I were looking upwards when it came out.

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We were like, I don't know that one. All right,
you guys, We have a lot to discuss. Week fourteen
was great for both of us. Our games were incredible.
We both have a lot of exciting things happening. Week fifteen.
The holidays are here, everyone's miserable. Join us on the
big show. Calm Down with Aaron and Carissa is a
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