February 25, 2025 • 21 mins
It's the Pregame edition of the Calm Down podcast with anonymous questions aplenty! This week, Erin and Charissa talk about favorite trips to take with your best friend, what to do if your friend starts dating your ex-husband, how to integrate back into the day-to-day after football season, game-day makeup routines, how to break up with a friend and much more.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Her hormones are good. I am back, I'm working out.
I'm really My hormones are good. Her hormones are good.
And she's going for a lunch meeting. And she's on
the Kareem Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a
production of iHeartRadio. Welcome to the Calm Down Podcast. Pregame
(00:24):
Erin and I just said, because our sweet producer Kurt
is at the combine, I'm like, how are we already?
What I thought this season just ended?
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Well?
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I got a first of all, full disclosure, Hi, how
are you? I've missed you? And when I see that,
it's because I haven't talked to her in a week
and I'm not doing well with it. There's been random
text messages. She's having an affair with a ranch and
really pissing me. And he's a great lover. This ranch
is a great lover. Let me tell you it works
(00:56):
for you exactly. That seems weird because there's our animals involved,
but that's not the kind we're talking about. Oh yeah,
I disappear up here in the middle of nowhere, and
it's so great because there really isn't service in a
lot of places. So it's my built an excuse to
not get back to people, except there's the list of
people I want to talk to. It was already the
(01:17):
small and you're always at the top of it. You
were gone. I'm coming back into reality in a couple
of days. But it's it's nice to just disappear for
a while. You know. We'll talk about all of this
on the Big Show. I want to talk to you
about a book I started, and when I say it started,
it I got through the introduction last night. It's time
for some help ladies and gentlemen, and I'm all in
(01:39):
what book? It's a Mel Robbins. We talked about it,
but I'll tell you and I yes, that's it. Did
you read it? Yeah, I'm reading it. Oh, this is
we're the introduction. Yeah, isn't it great? Can we talk
about it on the Big Show a little bit? Okay,
I'm sure anyone that you know in the world of
(02:00):
Instagram or anything social media, she's everywhere. Mel Robin's self
help guruage. Her story is incredible. But yeah, I'm glad
my niece got the tattoo. I was like, whoa, she's committed.
I'm not going that far. Wow, I know I'm not
going that far. I already have enough tattoos and another
in my ear, and maybe I will get that when
we get back from your lover the ranch. Well, I
(02:23):
need a hole in my head if I don't get
back to see you soon enough. Okay, pregame situation. What
was happening in our lives? We'll discuss, as Aaron said,
all of that on the Big Show. But we've got
some questions. I'm pull up him because I am delayed
in that. Go ahead, Okay, here we go. Mikayla Emerson.
You two remind me of my best friend and I. Ah.
(02:43):
We meet on early morning news at our first job. Okay, sorry,
my reading is shit. We met on early morning news
at our first job. Nothing bonds you more than putting
makeup on at four am and craving Chaseburgers by nine am.
Now we're planning a girl's trip. What's your favorite trip together?
And any advice that is so cute? I love that.
(03:06):
I love that too. Favorite trip, I would say it
would have to be well. I can do anything with Chris.
I can go to London with a broken heart. I
can go to the mountains in Montana, or I can
go to a cabana in Mexico, but it has Here's
where I am in my life. I just don't want
to travel because I've traveled so much. I don't want
(03:28):
to go anywhere. So if I'm going to do a
trip with her, I want to make sure. Yeah, we
have some plans, but I need some downtime in comfy
cozy's a lot of a lot of coffee. Not at
the same time, and actually yeah, at the same time.
The Bailey's in the coffee some mornings. That's good, But
that's kind of what I'm looking at. I like that.
I don't want to be rushed anywhere, agreed, because again,
(03:52):
to Aaron's point, we could sit anywhere and do anything.
I think that's also the testament of like a great friendship,
is that you don't need to do anything to have
a good time. We can just sit there. And although
I do really love our Montana trips because that's like
the perfect combination where we go out, have a little
night auxiliary cord who's cord fun? But then yeah, I
(04:15):
really I'm going to put the pressure on us though
this summer. We have to do something, yeah wherever, I
don't care if it's actually have news of what we
may be doing, which is great, fantastic. I love finding
things out when we finally have a catchup. When people
ask us, why why do you guys decide to do
a podcast, I'm like for this because when we haven't
(04:36):
caught up during the week, then we at least get
an hour to find out things. Okay, great, that's a take.
Let me tell you the plus ones will be very
happy and very busy. Wow. Okay, you got to call
this morning the call from the bullpen. Put that relief
picture in. Let's get it out and keep it moving, Mikayla.
That's also adorable that you guys got to work on
(04:58):
your first job in morning news. Hi Erin also Aaron
and I also have an affinity for local news. There's
going to be a time in our lives. I hope
it's a retirement community in Florida or somewhere where they
can roll us out and we can work like a
couple days a week and the morning news can or
any time like the evening news. Can you imagine? I
(05:19):
can't imagine. I think we should have a ten o'clock
morning show I do on a national network. I do.
There you go, ladies and gentlemen listening. I do. I
just I think we should. It'd be great the Plus
ones could come in for a segment. It'd be a time.
If I hear any more about the fucking plus one podcast.
(05:40):
He keeps talking about it, and I was like, you
know what, you're not allowed to talk about it exactly.
I was like, you don't get to keep talking about
things you're not actually going to do. Okay, I'm going
to go to space. I mean, I just bring that
up every day. I mean, at some point we have
to have our tickets booked to these events. How your podcast,
the Michael strayhand story about outer space? Mm hmm. We
(06:02):
went on a really fun little trip last year and
got to go see Stray's gorgeous house, yeah, in an
undisclosed location, and he was giving us the grand tour
and we were looking at all the art and you
were so wonderful to be like, hey, Stray, where did
you find this piece of art? And I thought, wow,
that's very smart to ask this, And he said, you know,
when I was in outer space, I talked to this
(06:25):
guy and we're like, only only effing Strake could go.
You know when I was in you can't be mad
at when I was on Mars, I was able to
find this art curator. You're like I'm saying when I'm
in Culver City, not outer space. God, what a fucking
guy that he is? Such a dream. I can't wait.
(06:47):
We're also doing that trip again. I didn't say anything. Oh,
and we're writing things down for later. Okay, anonymous friend
is now dating my ex husband?
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Whoa?
Speaker 1 (06:59):
What kind of frime? Oh my god, Jesus, you still
are friends on a scale of one to ten, ten
being the worst. How messed up is this? Well my
reaction should elicit that it's straight to a tend. What
happened to girl code? Okay, girlfriend, this is not your
friend anymore. If she's dating your ex husband. I would
(07:21):
wish that on my worst enemy, let alone a friend
to date my ex husband. God, oh my god. It's
not great. It's not great. It's not great. One of
my favorite it's not great. Oh that we talk about
(07:41):
it like a game, so and so with sacks seven times. Yeah,
that's not great. It's not it's not good, Anonymous, This
is terrible. And none of my friends would date my
ex husband, So I know this. Anonymous ain't someone I
know Hey, Anonymous, if you could get back to us,
I'm interested to know how good of a friend this was?
Oh oh my god, I need more information? Yeah sure, yeah. Next,
(08:07):
Also we got a new category. Oh, multiple people asking
what happened with Gillian and the guy from Seattle in
the elevator. It went nowhere because I'll say it, I
don't think Jillian really wanted was excited about us playing detective.
So if anybody else wants, I'm excited about that. It died.
(08:28):
It was da dead on arrival. It was a lot
of talk and then fizzled, you know what I mean.
I don't know Jillian. I was having this conversation with
my girlfriend Jen the other night. She came and was
hanging out with me. And Jen is beautiful, she's fun,
she's funny, she's all of these things right and not Jen, Jen?
(08:49):
Not Jen shut up a friend of the podcast, and
she talked about like how shitty these dating apps are.
This is a common theme, like it's so hard to
find some one, and Jen is an easy person to
set up. And so I said, girl, you just got
to put yourself out there. Okay, you guys try to
dare to d M game. You got to do whatever.
She goes, we're watching the show that Jake Jillen Hall
(09:10):
was in, which, by the way, is fantastic. Presumed when
writing it down, Write it down on Apple Jake Jillen
Hall presumed innocent. Great, Okay, I love a series. I
don't want to wait that. I thought I heard that
there's a lot of like flashback of sex scenes, but
not like grotesque nudity, like not like it's like tasteful like.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
That.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Is there a lot of nudity in that? So anyways,
so she goes, you know, we're watching this show she
or her mom had watched it, and her mom's like,
you know who you should date, Jake Chillenhall. And Jen's like, okay, mom,
I'll get right on top of that. What do you
want me to do? How am I supposed to meet
Jake Jyllen onto him? Is what her mom wants him
(09:57):
to her to do? Presumed guilty, Oh this is what
I said. I go, DMM. You know I'm not afraid
of a dare to DM. So we're sitting there on
the couch and m Jake jill and Hall, and she goes,
my mom told me to reach out to you because
she thinks that you would be she thinks that you
and I would be great together. And I was like, yeah,
(10:18):
I was writing it for her. I was like, let's go.
I was like, what's the worst that can happen? He
writes back? He did, this is no, no, no, no no.
I said, what's the worst that can happen? He writes back.
I mean, you're already going into it assuming like he's
never going to see this, He's never going to write back. Well,
you know, I've had some luck with the old random
dms on the thing. Now they don't go anywhere, but
like it's fun to get, you know, the response. So
(10:39):
I showed her. I said, look, we're going to do
at least once a week, you have to randomly DM
somebody that just may seem out of this world. We'll
bring it back to the space conversation. And I was
like why not, you know, if anything else, it just
keeps it exciting. So then of course Steve gets involved.
Steve's like, has he responded yet? Like thirty seconds later,
I was like, okay, Steve. I was like, I want
(11:01):
to be the service up here. It's terrible. I'm sure
you'll melt Robins do the five seconds like thing five
four three one blast, damn it exactly. So I don't
know where this took. Oh back to Jillian is that
I know she hasn't d Aaron's points. I don't know
if she wanted that. But anybody that wants us to
get again need I remind you. We love love we do.
(11:25):
I still want to officiate a wedding. If anyone out
there is getting married, well, no, because I'm not getting married.
We've had this conversation. If anyone wants us to officiate
a wedding, I think it would be fantastic. You're not
gonna do it, ladies and gentlemen. No, I was thinking
of our opening line, are we doing it together? I
just invited myself. So it's a calm down wedding. What
(11:49):
do you mean? Yeah, we're what what didn't you hear about?
We are officiating. If anybody wants us to officiate a wedding.
That's a big fee though for us to do that,
because it's going to catch on and you know, okay, fine,
I will do it for free. If you want to
pay Aaron, she'll do it. We're not charging people. The
first one is free. Anything after that is a day rate.
(12:18):
What do we got? Oh J nine caras? Okay, apologies,
we're terrible with these names. Is it harder on you
or your families to integrate back into the day to
day after football? Well, our plus ones are going to
start a podcast, and I'm sure they'd love to tell
you how easy or hard it is. No, I think
(12:39):
it's both, don't you think. Yeah? I think it's growth. Yeah,
we'll talk more about this on the big show. I
want to know how re entry is going for you.
I got a lot going on, I really, but I
think it's just the week I think. Yeah, hormones are good.
I am back. I'm working out my hormones. Oh you know,
(13:02):
it's not that time. I feel happy. I don't feel
like emotional, So my hormones are okay. Right now, back
on the peptides. I need to do it, nad Iv.
I'm really trying to on screen. Yeah no, Yeah, started
my little ocean right here on the old good Free Yeah.
I'm trying to. I'm going for a meeting, a lunch
(13:23):
meeting today. Her hormones are good, and she's going for
a lunch meeting and she's on the cream. The cream,
by the way, is we're a pre cancer thing.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Not for an STD. Let's relax the upper lip, that'd
be an issue. Third and four, Oh oh god, we're
in the red zone. That's a different kind of red zone.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Next, we love our anonymous Anonymous, how do you break
up with a friend her lifestyle is toxic to my
inner peace? Smell you later. I don't know. I just
I'm in a real, real dude. Let them. I haven't
even started a book yet, and I'm saying it, you know,
let them, Let them. Yeah, I think I mentioned this before.
(14:08):
I've had to do this. I've been doing inventory for
the last couple of years of my life, and sometimes
it's very Yeah. Sometimes, well the cupboards are bare because
I've been throwing a lot of things out. It's very
cathartic for me to I actually did this. I cleaned
out the pantry down there the other day. I love it.
I love throwing things out. And once I'm on a roll,
(14:30):
like once I start, it's game on, and the same
for my life. Things happen in our lives that allow
or force us to take some inventory, and again, those
people will weed themselves out anyways. But I would say,
in this particular case, yeah, you need to do what's
best for you. And I I'm with Aaron, I'm kind
(14:52):
of well, I shouldn't say I'm with Aaron. I don't
know if she's in a selfish stage of her life.
I'm in a very selfish stage of my life. I'm
anapaul about doing what I want to do, whether that's
not going to a dinner because other people are going,
or canceling plans, or just wanting to be alone, or
just wanting to hang out with Aaron. Like, I'm okay
(15:13):
with all that. And if this person is toxic to you,
why are you going to subject yourself to something that's
not the best thing for you? And I think there's
sometimes you work through friendships that are really important. Aaron
stood buy me through a lot of stuff that she's
like to use this enough of this, but I say
it a lot. I would probably still be in a
bad place if it wasn't for the ultimatum that she
(15:34):
gave me. So with that said, if this person means
enough to you, then fight for it and really be
honest with her about where you're at. But if she's
kind of a peripheral friend, then just stop texting back
and stop calling she'll get the message, and if she doesn't,
well that's on her. I'm in a real moment in
(15:54):
time Whitney Houston great song where lie you have to
tolerate some things because other people are around, and I'm just
not doing it. I'm like, yeah, I'm good. I'm going
to hang back here. I don't need to go there.
I'm in because I already know my mood, I know
my facial expressions, I know the vibe I'm gonna give,
(16:16):
and it ain't going to be comfortable for anyone. So
what I'm really happy for the first time in my
life is not having fomo for what other people are doing.
I already know I'm not going to be able to
tolerate it and it's not going to be good for anyone.
So I have removed myself from a couple of situations
and I'm really enjoying it. I'm god from the real
health I've felt lake. I'm trying to read Mel Robbins. Yeah,
(16:40):
doing skincare I shouldn't be doing. It's great. Do you
know where What the problem is for me is that
I'm almost too comfortable with how small the circle is.
It's like where if you if I'm going to be bad. No, okay,
because I'm like, oh should I like not isolate so much,
because you know, you don't want to get to a
place where you're just like a hermit and then you
(17:01):
don't want to do anything like I think it's important,
Like we talk about this, we're proud of ourselves once
we get out and we go to a dinner date
with each other. Yeah, you're like, oh, I'm proud of
us for getting out of the house and scheduling things.
So I just need to I remember. This reminds me
of my dad where I was single because I've always
been relationship dependent. I like being in a relationship. I
like having a partner, I like having a teammate. And
(17:23):
there was a time where I was in a little
bit of a lull and I was just like okay
with being single, and I said to my dad. I
was like, I'm okay if I'm single forever. And he goes, WHOA,
relax on that, I'm okay if you're single forever. He's like,
because then you're going to get too comfortable being single,
and then you're gonna have a really hard time meeting
someone because you're so set in your own ways that
you're not willing to like open up space for someone else. Anyways.
(17:45):
That's a whole ted talk in and of itself on
relationships that we don't have time for in this free game.
But I just think that, yeah, I need to just
balance the isolation versus obligation. I've just ide here, I
don't have time for I don't have time for sloppiness.
I work too hard and you're not gonna You're not
(18:07):
gonna waste my time with sloppiness, and I'm not going
to tolerate it. I'm good, I'm done playing. I'm obsessed.
Oh my god, I sack. Oh my god, I already know.
I already know. I've got reasons behind that. Oh yeah,
what are your intentions? My god, cruel intentions, as I
like to say, you're a loser. Anonymous said, okay to you.
(18:34):
Oh sorry, I skipped one, deb deb loje coo. I'm
so sorry. Deb. Do you have to do hair and
makeup multiple times before a game or is it just
once pregame? Good question? Uh, just once for me for pregame.
I mean, Dominique is my sweet angel that I have
(18:55):
actually both Box and Amazon, but touch ups for halftime
and for post game. But yeah, although I will say
sometimes I do early, not sometimes every week I do
an early morning draft Kings hit shout out the Crown
is yours use promo code, Carissa, I do that at
seven am. I do that early, and I'll do like
(19:17):
a light hair and makeup, and then our game is
not until nights, So sometimes I I'll go like work
out in the afternoon whatever, and then do it again.
But very rarely. I guess it's the succinctuated that you girl.
You only do it once before the game and then
touch ups yeah, yeah, yeah, unless I decide to poposit
in the third quarter and then we really got to
(19:38):
do a touch up in the fourth. It's nuts. You're
You're up? Is that it okay? Anonymous? I don't know
what this means. Is it okay to use chat GPT
to help talk to girls? I have no clue what
that means. Oh okay, well, so it's your AI. It's
(19:59):
basically like there you type in something into chat GBT
and they come up with a response for you that's
like getting funny and whatever. Yeah, like a fake assistant?
Exactly is this thing on? I can't seem to find
those pink leather pants, So anonymous is it? Okay? No,
don't do that, because what's gonna happen is then you
(20:19):
meet this person in real life where you go on
a date and they're gonna be like, Wow, you were
so much better on text because the text wasn't you.
So I think there's a time and a place for
chat GBT, Like if you come up with like a
show idea and you need a summary, like, they're fantastic
for that. I love those things. Steve uses that shit
all the time because he'll like, uh, come up with
different ideas and then you need it chat GBT to
(20:41):
like round out the edges. But don't do it when
it comes to correspondence. It feels fraudulent and that's then
you're gonna give it out pretty quick too, especially if
you don't words and all of a sudden you're using
big words like stop. That'd be like me to summarize
that's not even a big word. Wonder if you wrote
(21:02):
on an email or a text to summarize this conversation.
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Her hormones are good. I am back, I'm working out.
I'm really My hormones are good. Her hormones are good.
And she's going for a lunch meeting. And she's on
the Kareem Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a
production of iHeartRadio. Welcome to the Calm Down Podcast. Pregame
(00:24):
Erin and I just said, because our sweet producer Kurt
is at the combine, I'm like, how are we already?
What I thought this season just ended?
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Well?
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I got a first of all, full disclosure, Hi, how
are you? I've missed you? And when I see that,
it's because I haven't talked to her in a week
and I'm not doing well with it. There's been random
text messages. She's having an affair with a ranch and
really pissing me. And he's a great lover. This ranch
is a great lover. Let me tell you it works
(00:56):
for you exactly. That seems weird because there's our animals involved,
but that's not the kind we're talking about. Oh yeah,
I disappear up here in the middle of nowhere, and
it's so great because there really isn't service in a
lot of places. So it's my built an excuse to
not get back to people, except there's the list of
people I want to talk to. It was already the
(01:17):
small and you're always at the top of it. You
were gone. I'm coming back into reality in a couple
of days. But it's it's nice to just disappear for
a while. You know. We'll talk about all of this
on the Big Show. I want to talk to you
about a book I started, and when I say it started,
it I got through the introduction last night. It's time
for some help ladies and gentlemen, and I'm all in
(01:39):
what book? It's a Mel Robbins. We talked about it,
but I'll tell you and I yes, that's it. Did
you read it? Yeah, I'm reading it. Oh, this is
we're the introduction. Yeah, isn't it great? Can we talk
about it on the Big Show a little bit? Okay,
I'm sure anyone that you know in the world of
(02:00):
Instagram or anything social media, she's everywhere. Mel Robin's self
help guruage. Her story is incredible. But yeah, I'm glad
my niece got the tattoo. I was like, whoa, she's committed.
I'm not going that far. Wow, I know I'm not
going that far. I already have enough tattoos and another
in my ear, and maybe I will get that when
we get back from your lover the ranch. Well, I
(02:23):
need a hole in my head if I don't get
back to see you soon enough. Okay, pregame situation. What
was happening in our lives? We'll discuss, as Aaron said,
all of that on the Big Show. But we've got
some questions. I'm pull up him because I am delayed
in that. Go ahead, Okay, here we go. Mikayla Emerson.
You two remind me of my best friend and I. Ah.
(02:43):
We meet on early morning news at our first job. Okay, sorry,
my reading is shit. We met on early morning news
at our first job. Nothing bonds you more than putting
makeup on at four am and craving Chaseburgers by nine am.
Now we're planning a girl's trip. What's your favorite trip together?
And any advice that is so cute? I love that.
(03:06):
I love that too. Favorite trip, I would say it
would have to be well. I can do anything with Chris.
I can go to London with a broken heart. I
can go to the mountains in Montana, or I can
go to a cabana in Mexico, but it has Here's
where I am in my life. I just don't want
to travel because I've traveled so much. I don't want
(03:28):
to go anywhere. So if I'm going to do a
trip with her, I want to make sure. Yeah, we
have some plans, but I need some downtime in comfy
cozy's a lot of a lot of coffee. Not at
the same time, and actually yeah, at the same time.
The Bailey's in the coffee some mornings. That's good, But
that's kind of what I'm looking at. I like that.
I don't want to be rushed anywhere, agreed, because again,
(03:52):
to Aaron's point, we could sit anywhere and do anything.
I think that's also the testament of like a great friendship,
is that you don't need to do anything to have
a good time. We can just sit there. And although
I do really love our Montana trips because that's like
the perfect combination where we go out, have a little
night auxiliary cord who's cord fun? But then yeah, I
(04:15):
really I'm going to put the pressure on us though
this summer. We have to do something, yeah wherever, I
don't care if it's actually have news of what we
may be doing, which is great, fantastic. I love finding
things out when we finally have a catchup. When people
ask us, why why do you guys decide to do
a podcast, I'm like for this because when we haven't
(04:36):
caught up during the week, then we at least get
an hour to find out things. Okay, great, that's a take.
Let me tell you the plus ones will be very
happy and very busy. Wow. Okay, you got to call
this morning the call from the bullpen. Put that relief
picture in. Let's get it out and keep it moving, Mikayla.
That's also adorable that you guys got to work on
(04:58):
your first job in morning news. Hi Erin also Aaron
and I also have an affinity for local news. There's
going to be a time in our lives. I hope
it's a retirement community in Florida or somewhere where they
can roll us out and we can work like a
couple days a week and the morning news can or
any time like the evening news. Can you imagine? I
(05:19):
can't imagine. I think we should have a ten o'clock
morning show I do on a national network. I do.
There you go, ladies and gentlemen listening. I do. I
just I think we should. It'd be great the Plus
ones could come in for a segment. It'd be a time.
If I hear any more about the fucking plus one podcast.
(05:40):
He keeps talking about it, and I was like, you
know what, you're not allowed to talk about it exactly.
I was like, you don't get to keep talking about
things you're not actually going to do. Okay, I'm going
to go to space. I mean, I just bring that
up every day. I mean, at some point we have
to have our tickets booked to these events. How your podcast,
the Michael strayhand story about outer space? Mm hmm. We
(06:02):
went on a really fun little trip last year and
got to go see Stray's gorgeous house, yeah, in an
undisclosed location, and he was giving us the grand tour
and we were looking at all the art and you
were so wonderful to be like, hey, Stray, where did
you find this piece of art? And I thought, wow,
that's very smart to ask this, And he said, you know,
when I was in outer space, I talked to this
(06:25):
guy and we're like, only only effing Strake could go.
You know when I was in you can't be mad
at when I was on Mars, I was able to
find this art curator. You're like I'm saying when I'm
in Culver City, not outer space. God, what a fucking
guy that he is? Such a dream. I can't wait.
(06:47):
We're also doing that trip again. I didn't say anything. Oh,
and we're writing things down for later. Okay, anonymous friend
is now dating my ex husband?
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Whoa?
Speaker 1 (06:59):
What kind of frime? Oh my god, Jesus, you still
are friends on a scale of one to ten, ten
being the worst. How messed up is this? Well my
reaction should elicit that it's straight to a tend. What
happened to girl code? Okay, girlfriend, this is not your
friend anymore. If she's dating your ex husband. I would
(07:21):
wish that on my worst enemy, let alone a friend
to date my ex husband. God, oh my god. It's
not great. It's not great. It's not great. One of
my favorite it's not great. Oh that we talk about
(07:41):
it like a game, so and so with sacks seven times. Yeah,
that's not great. It's not it's not good, Anonymous, This
is terrible. And none of my friends would date my
ex husband, So I know this. Anonymous ain't someone I
know Hey, Anonymous, if you could get back to us,
I'm interested to know how good of a friend this was?
Oh oh my god, I need more information? Yeah sure, yeah. Next,
(08:07):
Also we got a new category. Oh, multiple people asking
what happened with Gillian and the guy from Seattle in
the elevator. It went nowhere because I'll say it, I
don't think Jillian really wanted was excited about us playing detective.
So if anybody else wants, I'm excited about that. It died.
(08:28):
It was da dead on arrival. It was a lot
of talk and then fizzled, you know what I mean.
I don't know Jillian. I was having this conversation with
my girlfriend Jen the other night. She came and was
hanging out with me. And Jen is beautiful, she's fun,
she's funny, she's all of these things right and not Jen, Jen?
(08:49):
Not Jen shut up a friend of the podcast, and
she talked about like how shitty these dating apps are.
This is a common theme, like it's so hard to
find some one, and Jen is an easy person to
set up. And so I said, girl, you just got
to put yourself out there. Okay, you guys try to
dare to d M game. You got to do whatever.
She goes, we're watching the show that Jake Jillen Hall
(09:10):
was in, which, by the way, is fantastic. Presumed when
writing it down, Write it down on Apple Jake Jillen
Hall presumed innocent. Great, Okay, I love a series. I
don't want to wait that. I thought I heard that
there's a lot of like flashback of sex scenes, but
not like grotesque nudity, like not like it's like tasteful like.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
That.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Is there a lot of nudity in that? So anyways,
so she goes, you know, we're watching this show she
or her mom had watched it, and her mom's like,
you know who you should date, Jake Chillenhall. And Jen's like, okay, mom,
I'll get right on top of that. What do you
want me to do? How am I supposed to meet
Jake Jyllen onto him? Is what her mom wants him
(09:57):
to her to do? Presumed guilty, Oh this is what
I said. I go, DMM. You know I'm not afraid
of a dare to DM. So we're sitting there on
the couch and m Jake jill and Hall, and she goes,
my mom told me to reach out to you because
she thinks that you would be she thinks that you
and I would be great together. And I was like, yeah,
(10:18):
I was writing it for her. I was like, let's go.
I was like, what's the worst that can happen? He
writes back? He did, this is no, no, no, no no.
I said, what's the worst that can happen? He writes back.
I mean, you're already going into it assuming like he's
never going to see this, He's never going to write back. Well,
you know, I've had some luck with the old random
dms on the thing. Now they don't go anywhere, but
like it's fun to get, you know, the response. So
(10:39):
I showed her. I said, look, we're going to do
at least once a week, you have to randomly DM
somebody that just may seem out of this world. We'll
bring it back to the space conversation. And I was
like why not, you know, if anything else, it just
keeps it exciting. So then of course Steve gets involved.
Steve's like, has he responded yet? Like thirty seconds later,
I was like, okay, Steve. I was like, I want
(11:01):
to be the service up here. It's terrible. I'm sure
you'll melt Robins do the five seconds like thing five
four three one blast, damn it exactly. So I don't
know where this took. Oh back to Jillian is that
I know she hasn't d Aaron's points. I don't know
if she wanted that. But anybody that wants us to
get again need I remind you. We love love we do.
(11:25):
I still want to officiate a wedding. If anyone out
there is getting married, well, no, because I'm not getting married.
We've had this conversation. If anyone wants us to officiate
a wedding, I think it would be fantastic. You're not
gonna do it, ladies and gentlemen. No, I was thinking
of our opening line, are we doing it together? I
just invited myself. So it's a calm down wedding. What
(11:49):
do you mean? Yeah, we're what what didn't you hear about?
We are officiating. If anybody wants us to officiate a wedding.
That's a big fee though for us to do that,
because it's going to catch on and you know, okay, fine,
I will do it for free. If you want to
pay Aaron, she'll do it. We're not charging people. The
first one is free. Anything after that is a day rate.
(12:18):
What do we got? Oh J nine caras? Okay, apologies,
we're terrible with these names. Is it harder on you
or your families to integrate back into the day to
day after football? Well, our plus ones are going to
start a podcast, and I'm sure they'd love to tell
you how easy or hard it is. No, I think
(12:39):
it's both, don't you think. Yeah? I think it's growth. Yeah,
we'll talk more about this on the big show. I
want to know how re entry is going for you.
I got a lot going on, I really, but I
think it's just the week I think. Yeah, hormones are good.
I am back. I'm working out my hormones. Oh you know,
(13:02):
it's not that time. I feel happy. I don't feel
like emotional, So my hormones are okay. Right now, back
on the peptides. I need to do it, nad Iv.
I'm really trying to on screen. Yeah no, Yeah, started
my little ocean right here on the old good Free Yeah.
I'm trying to. I'm going for a meeting, a lunch
(13:23):
meeting today. Her hormones are good, and she's going for
a lunch meeting and she's on the cream. The cream,
by the way, is we're a pre cancer thing.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Not for an STD. Let's relax the upper lip, that'd
be an issue. Third and four, Oh oh god, we're
in the red zone. That's a different kind of red zone.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Next, we love our anonymous Anonymous, how do you break
up with a friend her lifestyle is toxic to my
inner peace? Smell you later. I don't know. I just
I'm in a real, real dude. Let them. I haven't
even started a book yet, and I'm saying it, you know,
let them, Let them. Yeah, I think I mentioned this before.
(14:08):
I've had to do this. I've been doing inventory for
the last couple of years of my life, and sometimes
it's very Yeah. Sometimes, well the cupboards are bare because
I've been throwing a lot of things out. It's very
cathartic for me to I actually did this. I cleaned
out the pantry down there the other day. I love it.
I love throwing things out. And once I'm on a roll,
(14:30):
like once I start, it's game on, and the same
for my life. Things happen in our lives that allow
or force us to take some inventory, and again, those
people will weed themselves out anyways. But I would say,
in this particular case, yeah, you need to do what's
best for you. And I I'm with Aaron, I'm kind
(14:52):
of well, I shouldn't say I'm with Aaron. I don't
know if she's in a selfish stage of her life.
I'm in a very selfish stage of my life. I'm
anapaul about doing what I want to do, whether that's
not going to a dinner because other people are going,
or canceling plans, or just wanting to be alone, or
just wanting to hang out with Aaron. Like, I'm okay
(15:13):
with all that. And if this person is toxic to you,
why are you going to subject yourself to something that's
not the best thing for you? And I think there's
sometimes you work through friendships that are really important. Aaron
stood buy me through a lot of stuff that she's
like to use this enough of this, but I say
it a lot. I would probably still be in a
bad place if it wasn't for the ultimatum that she
(15:34):
gave me. So with that said, if this person means
enough to you, then fight for it and really be
honest with her about where you're at. But if she's
kind of a peripheral friend, then just stop texting back
and stop calling she'll get the message, and if she doesn't,
well that's on her. I'm in a real moment in
(15:54):
time Whitney Houston great song where lie you have to
tolerate some things because other people are around, and I'm just
not doing it. I'm like, yeah, I'm good. I'm going
to hang back here. I don't need to go there.
I'm in because I already know my mood, I know
my facial expressions, I know the vibe I'm gonna give,
(16:16):
and it ain't going to be comfortable for anyone. So
what I'm really happy for the first time in my
life is not having fomo for what other people are doing.
I already know I'm not going to be able to
tolerate it and it's not going to be good for anyone.
So I have removed myself from a couple of situations
and I'm really enjoying it. I'm god from the real
health I've felt lake. I'm trying to read Mel Robbins. Yeah,
(16:40):
doing skincare I shouldn't be doing. It's great. Do you
know where What the problem is for me is that
I'm almost too comfortable with how small the circle is.
It's like where if you if I'm going to be bad. No, okay,
because I'm like, oh should I like not isolate so much,
because you know, you don't want to get to a
place where you're just like a hermit and then you
(17:01):
don't want to do anything like I think it's important,
Like we talk about this, we're proud of ourselves once
we get out and we go to a dinner date
with each other. Yeah, you're like, oh, I'm proud of
us for getting out of the house and scheduling things.
So I just need to I remember. This reminds me
of my dad where I was single because I've always
been relationship dependent. I like being in a relationship. I
like having a partner, I like having a teammate. And
(17:23):
there was a time where I was in a little
bit of a lull and I was just like okay
with being single, and I said to my dad. I
was like, I'm okay if I'm single forever. And he goes, WHOA,
relax on that, I'm okay if you're single forever. He's like,
because then you're going to get too comfortable being single,
and then you're gonna have a really hard time meeting
someone because you're so set in your own ways that
you're not willing to like open up space for someone else. Anyways.
(17:45):
That's a whole ted talk in and of itself on
relationships that we don't have time for in this free game.
But I just think that, yeah, I need to just
balance the isolation versus obligation. I've just ide here, I
don't have time for I don't have time for sloppiness.
I work too hard and you're not gonna You're not
(18:07):
gonna waste my time with sloppiness, and I'm not going
to tolerate it. I'm good, I'm done playing. I'm obsessed.
Oh my god, I sack. Oh my god, I already know.
I already know. I've got reasons behind that. Oh yeah,
what are your intentions? My god, cruel intentions, as I
like to say, you're a loser. Anonymous said, okay to you.
(18:34):
Oh sorry, I skipped one, deb deb loje coo. I'm
so sorry. Deb. Do you have to do hair and
makeup multiple times before a game or is it just
once pregame? Good question? Uh, just once for me for pregame.
I mean, Dominique is my sweet angel that I have
(18:55):
actually both Box and Amazon, but touch ups for halftime
and for post game. But yeah, although I will say
sometimes I do early, not sometimes every week I do
an early morning draft Kings hit shout out the Crown
is yours use promo code, Carissa, I do that at
seven am. I do that early, and I'll do like
(19:17):
a light hair and makeup, and then our game is
not until nights, So sometimes I I'll go like work
out in the afternoon whatever, and then do it again.
But very rarely. I guess it's the succinctuated that you girl.
You only do it once before the game and then
touch ups yeah, yeah, yeah, unless I decide to poposit
in the third quarter and then we really got to
(19:38):
do a touch up in the fourth. It's nuts. You're
You're up? Is that it okay? Anonymous? I don't know
what this means. Is it okay to use chat GPT
to help talk to girls? I have no clue what
that means. Oh okay, well, so it's your AI. It's
(19:59):
basically like there you type in something into chat GBT
and they come up with a response for you that's
like getting funny and whatever. Yeah, like a fake assistant?
Exactly is this thing on? I can't seem to find
those pink leather pants, So anonymous is it? Okay? No,
don't do that, because what's gonna happen is then you
(20:19):
meet this person in real life where you go on
a date and they're gonna be like, Wow, you were
so much better on text because the text wasn't you.
So I think there's a time and a place for
chat GBT, Like if you come up with like a
show idea and you need a summary, like, they're fantastic
for that. I love those things. Steve uses that shit
all the time because he'll like, uh, come up with
different ideas and then you need it chat GBT to
(20:41):
like round out the edges. But don't do it when
it comes to correspondence. It feels fraudulent and that's then
you're gonna give it out pretty quick too, especially if
you don't words and all of a sudden you're using
big words like stop. That'd be like me to summarize
that's not even a big word. Wonder if you wrote
(21:02):
on an email or a text to summarize this conversation.
Love you and We'll see you for the big show.
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