March 20, 2025 • 23 mins
Erin and Charissa wrap up their up event with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers and the “She is Football Summit” by answering questions from the audience! They share some of the best advice they’ve ever received and why it’s important to give yourself grace.
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Work smarter, not harder. Don't cheat, that's not good. I
have no clue what you're talking about. Valedictorian over here
doesn't know what I'm talking about. Calm Down with Erin
and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio. Oh my God,
don't leave, don't leave. I'm telling it's gonna get better.
(00:22):
I'll say, all right, we have about twenty minutes left.
We could talk all day, clearly, but we would love
to get to some audience questions, and some individuals have
been nice enough to volunteer. Question you guys want, Tristan, Mike,
thank you, Erin and I. On the podcast, we do
(00:45):
something called pregame, and is anyone here written a question
for pregame? Thank you so much for listening to the podcast. No,
I'm kidding, but we love taking questions from audience members.
So shall we get into it? Bam? I love it? Okay,
great Madison to Finelli, where are you hi? If I'm
pronouncing that correctly? Yeah? Close enough. I find that the
(01:09):
agent people call Shirissa call me the Sharissa, So how
do I pronounce it correctly? To Toughinelli? I love that? Okay,
what's your question? Bab? How have you seen the landscape
for women in sports evolved since you started, and what
changes would you still like to see? Great question, Well,
I'm older and listen. I think what it's nice to
(01:31):
see is women, more women in broadcasting. But when I'm
on the sidelines, it's really cool to see them coaching.
It's great to see them as athletic trainers, as doctors.
I love going you know, and seeing women in the
front office, yep, making the decisions at the meeting, at
the draft table. That's my favorite thing. It definitely has
(01:53):
gotten better and it's going to continue to get better.
Just have to keep the momentum going. As cliche as
that sounds, what I like to see more of front office,
what you know, and especially with the league as well.
It's going to and there are women there now. But
I think that's what I would love. Is it not
to be a shock when I'm on the sidelines and
I see my other ladies, you know, working as assistant
(02:16):
coaches or as athletic trainers and so forth, to be like, Hi,
how are you just old hat? You know? That's a
great point I think in the industry itself, in broadcasting,
what we're seventeen ish years into this thing again, lucky
enough to be doing this. It's just there's so many
more opportunities. I mean, when we started, it was, you know,
(02:37):
the the legacy broadcasting channels. You got CBS, ABC, NBC, Fox,
and then you know, ESPN and Cable came around. But
now it's just there's so many more opportunities, which is awesome.
And just want to continue to support. I always say,
you know, eventually we're not going to be able to
do this, but want to help people along the way.
(02:58):
So when the young, you know, ladies that would like
to do this job one day, when they ask for advice,
help them. You're not going to take our jobs yet,
but I want to make sure that we continue to
support other women that want to do this the same
way that Aaron and I. My first day at ESPN,
I'm not really I didn't really know Aaron that well.
We worked you know, in different places, but I got
(03:18):
hired at ESPN and I was so nervous walking onto
campus as we called it, and I was like, oh
my god, oh my god, oh my god, I'm finally here.
This is where I wanted to be. And she came
flying out the front door and she was like, I'm
here for you, whatever you need, I'm here to support you.
And that will make me cry. But that was what
fourteen years ago or whatever it was, so just three
(03:39):
yes minutes ago. I just continue to support other women
in any capacity that you can. All right, we're going
to move it along, is Sarah Parks Bold. I hope
I said, oh, hi, Hi, you said it correctly, Sarah Parksfold.
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
My question is what is the best piece of advice
you've ever received.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
I'll go back to Cinderella James. Have courage and be kind.
There's a million different pieces of advice. My father is
like the king of all of them. I've gotten great
advice from coaches and players along the way in the industry,
but truly it's that simple for me. Have courage and
be kind, you know, go after what you want, and
while you're doing it, be nice. I got it from
(04:19):
a former Tampa Bay Lightning head coach, John Truro, who
help them when their first Stanley Cup. It was when
I was sitting on the plane ride we were either
going to a game or coming home. That was my
first official job out of college. I was the ringside
traveling reporter with the lightning, and I started reading a
little thing called the message boards. That's before there were
all these other websites. And they were talking about my
(04:41):
nose being too big, my voice being obnoxious, and not
knowing anything about hockey. And he saw me there crying
in my seat, and he said, I gotta be honest.
You gotta have thick skin. If you want to do this,
you have to thick skin. Doesn't matter if you're on television,
if you're a mom, if you are leading in any
other fashion. We all all know we're women. We have
(05:01):
to have thick skin. We can cry and be upset
to those that we need to, even those that are
in charge or you know, feeding us information or saying
things we don't want to hear. But you have to
have thick skin. We're in these positions for a reason.
It's not always easy to get some of the comments.
Or I was on a suicidal path to Frumpyville was
the headline that dead Spin for those of you that
(05:23):
know that, Yeah, that's the headline. When I decided to
dye my hair black and wear glasses, they were like
Lisa Lobe. I was like rude, good song though, And
then I went back to blonzo here right, That's why
it fell out. That's why I have no hair. But
enough about that, but yes, having thick skin, Nicole tim
Ha's a question, Hi, Hi, Could you tell me about
a time that you had to step out of your
(05:44):
comfort zone to fight or push for something that you
wanted in your career? Hmm? I know that face you go.
Aaron is better at this and I am, and I'm
learning from her. You are you will speak up more
(06:04):
than I will. You are, and it does it encourages
me to do it because I'll just be like, Okay, well,
I just don't want to make anyone mad. She's like, no,
fight for what you want, and that I'm my own agent.
I don't have an agent. I don't have a manager.
I negotiate my own contracts. And a lot of that
was because my agent that I had, who I absolutely loved,
he left the business and I was afraid to go
with someone else. So a lot of times I probably
(06:27):
don't fight for as much as I should. But I
just don't want to make one anyone mad. And she's
my biggest advocate for that. So I guess that were
you know, uh, not underestimating my own value I guess
would be the thing that I need to continue to
work on and know that hey not you know, my
dad always has an expression, pigs get fat, hogs get slaughtered.
(06:47):
Don't be gluttonous. I could say and own I own
a pig and I own a ranching, and I'm not
killing my pig, Okay, But no, I just think that
it's a it's a matter of like, just know your value,
but also understand a landscape in which you can negotiate,
but just don't underestimate yourself. It's hard. It's a battle
to be very honest with you. You don't want to
ruffle any feathers, but you also want to stick up
(07:09):
for yourself to be honest with you. I think we're
always kind of in a constant fight. I mean, we
work in an industry where it's very very male dominated.
We're so excited to have a seat at the table.
But we also know we're good at what we do,
and we've really tried very hard. I've never studied this
much in my entire life, which is a bummer for
my parents, because I could have had those great sashes
(07:31):
that my graduation that everybody else had. But no, and
we do know we belong and we do know there's
a reason why we're here, and you know why we're
on the network that we're on. But yeah, it's a honestly,
it's a battle, but it is for a lot of people. Yeah,
all of you guys have your own stories of what
you've had exactly, and I would love to hear them
if I ever shut up. So let's ask Jessica Shulman
(07:54):
what her question is. Hi there, what habits or mental
practices have contributed most to your success? I love that
what habits or mental practices working out is helpful, I
think mentally for like, uh, when I get nervous, right,
there's that a little bit of an element of like,
(08:16):
you know, getting the nerves out. Preparation is the number
one the biggest thing. Not preparation, h Although I stopped
using the deodorant that has the aluminum in it because
I know it's bad, but I feel like I stink
so bad, so I won't hug you. But I think, yeah, preparation.
The more prepared you are, the less nervous that you are.
And knowing that you're going into for us broadcast or
(08:37):
game or whatever it is, and being like whatever happens.
I've done my research and I've done my homework and
hopefully it shows. So for me, preparation is the number
one and that includes the mental you know, the mental
part of that. Yeah, I would say the same thing.
I Like I mentioned studying I and especially now with
the news cycle and the fact everything you can get
it on x and on Facebook and on instag and
(09:02):
preparing for a game is so much harder now than
it ever was because of just the twenty four hour
news cycle. What did Tristan say it as press conference?
What did Baker say it as scrum? What did so
and so say at an event last night? And you're
always just trying to stay on top of it. Going
back to being a female in this industry, there are
(09:22):
being forty seven. I kind of passed the point where
I think when I was younger, I was very worried
about people thinking, I, you know, I really do know sports.
I know what I'm talking about. I'm over it now.
To get the respect from players like that, from the coaches,
from the rest of the team, from the ownership, that's
what means the most to me now because these are
the people that we are, you know, telling everybody about
(09:45):
their team, their storylines, what they're going through as an organization.
That's what means the most. But yeah, preparations. So we're
on live television. You never know what could happen, and
you don't want to be caught in a moment. They're like,
now I don't know what to say. So, yeah, preparation
is massive. I think before you, I think you did. No,
(10:06):
it was funny. It was like I can't remember what
it was, but you did and it's great. Okay, Taylor Sidwell, Yes, Hi,
either of you ever dealt with imposter syndrome? And if so,
(10:27):
how have you overcome it? What is imposters? I'm just
gonna ask it, But can I have like the definition
of it? I know, what do you talk about it?
But this is another thing when you get well, just
accepting that we don't know exactly what.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Love audience feedback on this, But for me personally, I
think we get given advice fake it till you make it.
There's oftentimes we walk into a room and we feel
like we're not faking it well, and we question if
we're supposed to be at the table.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Oh okay, I like that, you know a little bit
to Aaron's previous point. I maybe I used to feel like,
oh God, I'm just so lucky to be here. Now
I'm like I am, I will always lead with gratitude always,
because the cemetery is full of irreplaceable people, as Tristan
he was there cleaning the headstones, like, you are replaceable.
(11:13):
I don't mean to be morbid when I say that,
but I do either. You're always replaceable, right, your contracts
are up, and then you could you know, somebody else
can take your job, whatever the situation is. The minute
that you think that you always are going to have
a seat at that table, you shall probably be a
little careful because now you're a little too comfortable. So
it's for me, it's a balancing act of like, I
know I belong here, but also I'm really grateful and
(11:34):
I'm gonna work even harder to stay here. So I
don't know if that fits the exact definition of imposter syndrome,
but I think that for me, it's a balance of
like knowing you belong but then continuing to work hard
to stay there. I think too, and I agree wholeheartedly
with that, and I feel like that's where we are
in our life in my twenties. It was all about
I was just so excited to have the job that
(11:55):
I put everything into it. I was working two college
football games a week, college day, three college basketball games
a week two majorly, I just wanted to do as
much as I could because I was so excited. But
I also kind of had the mindset when I get
to my forties, I'm just not going to work as much. What. Okay,
So now it's I think it'll slow down, or it
(12:15):
was again, I did everything I wanted to do. Now
I just want to do everything. This doesn't answer your question,
but yeah, I I don't know. I don't even know
what imposter syndrome is. I don't get it. What is it?
Does anyone anyone don't? Oh? Yeah, I mean, but sometimes
I feel that you feel that now sometimes where you
(12:37):
feel bad about yourself. I mean Tristan even talked about it.
With learning a new role, you don't want to let
anybody down. Yeah, I mean, I think it goes in waves.
But honestly, coming to something like this, we said it
last night, the people that were talking to us on
the plane last night at dinner, we've made a joke
about your colon Oscoby seven thousand times drink. If you've
heard us say it, it has made us. I called
(12:58):
my best friend who's my manager, this morning and I
just said, you have no idea like what people have
said to us over the last twenty four hours. This
is so nice. And we work really, really hard, and
I think sometimes we just get in a world where
we don't really see what's going on outside. So outside
it's cool. I should grab your jack, Yeah, you should.
(13:19):
Tristan was sweating. Oh, Caitlin m kellen has a question.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Hello ladies, Hey, how do you guys manage work life balance?
Speaker 1 (13:28):
And what advice do you have for all of us?
You start, it's so hard, I mean it really really is.
And then my better half works in the hockey world
and so his season is going on at the same time.
This was a really really hard yer. I'll get emotional
about it. The first year, when he was a newborn,
it was fine, right, it was like smellulator, But now
(13:49):
it's like and I wasn't really saying smell you lator,
but it was like, okay, bye. It was so funny
when we worked so hard to have Mac and you know,
it took us forever to have him, and then we
faced a lot of loss, and then he finally came.
I had this attitude that I was going to be like, well,
you know, I have this career and it's this is
the way it's going to be. And then he starts
talking and realizing you're leaving, and it was just really
(14:12):
really hard. And then I felt like the time that
I wasn't studying or on calls with players or on zooms,
that I had to be with him and not worrying
about the clothing line or the podcast. And I just
would have multiple meltdowns with Chris saying, I feel like
I am not giving one hundred percent of myself to
my son or my job or my you know, clothing
line or all that, and I don't. I feel like
(14:34):
I am barely above water. And then you know, your
relationships start to suffer. I didn't see any of my
girlfriends all football season, and then I got through it,
and I've had a couple of weeks off and I've
said to her, I don't know, excuse me how the
f I did that this year because I'm also traveling too.
You know, it was just really really hard, and I
didn't do myself any favors with how hard on myself
(14:55):
I was. I just I didn't. But I'm excited about
next year. I'm excited to take what I've learned with
everything and apply it to this year. I need to
go easier on myself. And I've realized that I was
so worried I wasn't giving all of myself to both things.
That I was doing the best I could, and everybody's fine,
(15:17):
and I think I just need to give myself a
little bit of grace and but it was really really hard.
That's why I was excited to talk to Tristan and
why I love reading about these men and what they've
gone through because their moms did work four different jobs
and they did so much. Look at these guys, they're
fantastic and they're so grateful for their mother, and she
did a great job this year. Trying to tell me, look,
your kid's gonna love it. He's gonna be okay. I
(15:39):
came on TV and he's in his high chair and
he's pointing at you. He knows who you are. It's
very very sweet. Just quickly. I don't have children, but
I think, just like in general, it's about my dad
made me do an exercise, make a pie chart of
your life, allocate what percentage goes to what thing, and
if that pied chart's out of balance, then you need
to start moving some of those pieces into on another.
(16:00):
If it's ninety percent work. My dad, you know, again,
I joke about divorce and whatnot, and I was like,
I'm just not gonna, you know, even go date or
do anything anymore. He's like, You're gonna end up alone.
And He's like, and what is it all for if
you're alone? But if you want to be alone and
that makes you happy, great, It's allocate the percentage in
your life to what is the most important and if
and those lines will move. Maybe it's ninety percent work.
I mean it was for us, and now you're having
(16:22):
to divide that. And doesn't mean that you're not as
great at your job. You're just having to be more
precise with the time that you do allocate towards your job.
So uh, continue to know that it will evolve and
how you change, and so uh, pie charts, really, guys,
that's really what it comes down to. I love a dollar,
I love a bar graph, I love pie charts. How
about those TI eighty three calculators, you know, I really
(16:42):
rig the system. What TI eighty three calculators? You know,
the one are like one hundred bucks. I had to
babysit to go get one hundred dollars to go get this.
But I hacked the system and they had an alpha function,
and so like I take the calculator into my history
class and you put notes in there, and the history
teachers like, why are you have your calculator? I'm like, ah,
world War two minus. No, I was reading out of
(17:03):
the alpha section. Work smarter, not harder. Don't cheat. That's
not good. I have no clue what you're talking about.
Valedictorian over here doesn't know what I'm talking about. Rachel Marshlack, Hi, Hi.
(17:24):
My question for you all is what moment in your
careers are you most proud of? Oh, that's really sweet
being up here. I'm not kidding. I really, I'm not
trying to be like funny, No, I like doing having
the invitation and the privilege to sit in front of
you guys. It's really oh my god, look at me crying. Cute,
(17:46):
she has emotions after all, ladies. Yeah, I'm really I'm
really proud that I get to go on this journey
with you. And to do the podcast and to meet
wonderful people like Jen and Dane and McKenzie and all
of you guys. I'm really proud out of where you know,
this job has taken me and the opportunities it's given me.
But also standing on the sideline for a super Bowl
(18:09):
encouraging Aaron when she's about to do her hit, working
a pregame, sitting on the set this year at the
Super Bowl, and Saquon Barkley comes up with the trophy,
the Lombardi Trophy, and we get to sing Happy Birthday
to him, and his daughter's on his lap and she's like,
I'm proud of you, daddy, And I'm like, oh, and
as a daddy's girl, like and having my dad at
the super Bowl there and he's like, I'm proud of you, Carissa.
Like all of these like full circle moments of if
(18:30):
you get to live out your dream and you get
to do it with people you love, it's pretty freaking awesome. Yeah,
I agree, this is amazing, and thank you guys so
much again for all this. Yeah, super Bowl Right for
a kick, I got to interview Patrick Mahomes as he's
warming up and basically racing to him, and he's like me,
and I'm like, who else am I trying to grab?
I's heeled right now. That's pretty special and something that
(18:53):
hits close to home here is, you know, having an
opportunity to call Tom Brady a teammate. That was a
pretty cool moment. I think for all of us at
Fox this year, you spend so much time covering these
guys and then when they come and are on your
side of things and in a production meeting with you,
or just out to sushi during a preseason game is
(19:14):
super fun. We have such a great We've talked about
it over and over, a great group at Fox NFC Championship.
When we're all together on the sidelines with Gronk and
Julian and you know, the rest of our pregame get
along gang, it's really really special. And that is when
we are so proud of the work that we've put
in and that we do have a seat at the table.
We love that. Holly Stallings, Hi.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
Hello, I was wondering how you handle pressure when it's
at its peak.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Hm, it's good. Great. You should get nervous. Oh my god,
I get nervous all the time. I just I don't
know I don't get nervous because of like being on
live television, Like I love live television. Give me awkward,
I am all about awkward, or give me some thing
that like I got to like triple axel out of
I love that. It's just more about like I don't
(20:04):
want it to Tristan's point and when he moved, you know, positions.
I don't want to disappoint my employers. I don't want
to embarrass my parents or the people that I work with.
I want to make sure that I do a good
job because I want people not that I need their
you know, but I just want them to be proud
of me. So when it comes to pressure, I think
it's embracing the opportunity is the biggest thing of like
(20:26):
I get to do this right. And also like if
I mess up, like that's okay. Like when Jennifer Lawrence
fell up the stairs going to get her oscar, You're like,
she's awesome and makes a joke of it. It's like
the biggest moment where most people try to be perfect.
If you mess up, embrace it because I hope that
that makes me more endearing and human to everyone else.
(20:46):
Because we're going to mess up. It's not what happens
to you, it's how you handle what happens to you.
That has also taken me quite some time to get
to that point. I memorization, so I only really get
fifteen seconds to try to get out what I need
to say. And even sometimes that's get screwed up. There
could be a cannon that goes off. There could be
(21:07):
that he's got a shot came mascot that's behind me
going like this, and I know it, and I'm so
pissed and I want to cuss him out. I did
after and then or you know, I could mess up,
or you know, there's so many things that could happen.
I get nervous. Every first hit that I do it
is I'm shaking. I sometimes have to go like this.
(21:28):
I always have to hold my mic in this hand
because if I do it in this I start thinking
about it during the hit. I'm a psycho. Yeah, but
you're right. Now that I've kind of gotten older, I
realized it's not brain surgery. I'm gonna be okay. It's
live television. If I screw up, I'll fix it. But
it took me a while to get there. But how
do I handle it. I practice seven thousand times before
(21:50):
I go on air. I call my dad. I talk
to my dad a lot about like my storylines and
things like that. But yeah, my kind of vibe and
outlook on it has really changed since I'm I'm ninety
five years old. But she's going to work on being
nicer to herself. We're gonna both do that, and we
hope that everyone in the room is also gives yourself
some grace. We have to wrap up, unfortunately, but just
(22:12):
I don't want to speak for you, but I will
on behalf of both of us. Thank you, guys, guys,
let's make this about me, No, seriously, thank you for
coming along on this journey with us, sitting here and
listening to us, and just being part of this community
that is football. Thank you again to the Bucks for
having us. She is football, ladies and gentlemen. Love you,
(22:33):
love you, Thank you guys, Thank you so much, the Glazers,
Thank you, guys. Appreciate it. Oh that suits back. I
don't know if you knows. Also have that available in
blue if you want it. Haha. I already wore that one.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
I actually was a bummed accent it back to you
because I was like, oh, we gott to go bright
orange nake real quickly on one housekeeping thing.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
I want to tell you guys before we wrap this up.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
We started to day Chris and Aaron weren't here art
of the day, and we wanted a picture of everyone.
And I can promise you, even if you didn't see
it up on the screen here because it only shows
the first couple of rows, it is a picture of everyone.
So if you're in the way way way way back,
you're in this picture. And we want to be told
you this is about being inclusive and we want everyone involved.
So we want Aaron and Chrissa to get in a picture.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
With everyone here.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
The picture looks awesome. I'm going to stay in their seats.
They're gonna come down. We're gonna do one picture and
then we're gonna wrap this thing up.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
So hang with us. Calm down with Erin and Chrissa
is a production of iHeartRadio. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio,
visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get
your podcasts.
Work smarter, not harder. Don't cheat, that's not good. I
have no clue what you're talking about. Valedictorian over here
doesn't know what I'm talking about. Calm Down with Erin
and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio. Oh my God,
don't leave, don't leave. I'm telling it's gonna get better.
(00:22):
I'll say, all right, we have about twenty minutes left.
We could talk all day, clearly, but we would love
to get to some audience questions, and some individuals have
been nice enough to volunteer. Question you guys want, Tristan, Mike,
thank you, Erin and I. On the podcast, we do
(00:45):
something called pregame, and is anyone here written a question
for pregame? Thank you so much for listening to the podcast. No,
I'm kidding, but we love taking questions from audience members.
So shall we get into it? Bam? I love it? Okay,
great Madison to Finelli, where are you hi? If I'm
pronouncing that correctly? Yeah? Close enough. I find that the
(01:09):
agent people call Shirissa call me the Sharissa, So how
do I pronounce it correctly? To Toughinelli? I love that? Okay,
what's your question? Bab? How have you seen the landscape
for women in sports evolved since you started, and what
changes would you still like to see? Great question, Well,
I'm older and listen. I think what it's nice to
(01:31):
see is women, more women in broadcasting. But when I'm
on the sidelines, it's really cool to see them coaching.
It's great to see them as athletic trainers, as doctors.
I love going you know, and seeing women in the
front office, yep, making the decisions at the meeting, at
the draft table. That's my favorite thing. It definitely has
(01:53):
gotten better and it's going to continue to get better.
Just have to keep the momentum going. As cliche as
that sounds, what I like to see more of front office,
what you know, and especially with the league as well.
It's going to and there are women there now. But
I think that's what I would love. Is it not
to be a shock when I'm on the sidelines and
I see my other ladies, you know, working as assistant
(02:16):
coaches or as athletic trainers and so forth, to be like, Hi,
how are you just old hat? You know? That's a
great point I think in the industry itself, in broadcasting,
what we're seventeen ish years into this thing again, lucky
enough to be doing this. It's just there's so many
more opportunities. I mean, when we started, it was, you know,
(02:37):
the the legacy broadcasting channels. You got CBS, ABC, NBC, Fox,
and then you know, ESPN and Cable came around. But
now it's just there's so many more opportunities, which is awesome.
And just want to continue to support. I always say,
you know, eventually we're not going to be able to
do this, but want to help people along the way.
(02:58):
So when the young, you know, ladies that would like
to do this job one day, when they ask for advice,
help them. You're not going to take our jobs yet,
but I want to make sure that we continue to
support other women that want to do this the same
way that Aaron and I. My first day at ESPN,
I'm not really I didn't really know Aaron that well.
We worked you know, in different places, but I got
(03:18):
hired at ESPN and I was so nervous walking onto
campus as we called it, and I was like, oh
my god, oh my god, oh my god, I'm finally here.
This is where I wanted to be. And she came
flying out the front door and she was like, I'm
here for you, whatever you need, I'm here to support you.
And that will make me cry. But that was what
fourteen years ago or whatever it was, so just three
(03:39):
yes minutes ago. I just continue to support other women
in any capacity that you can. All right, we're going
to move it along, is Sarah Parks Bold. I hope
I said, oh, hi, Hi, you said it correctly, Sarah Parksfold.
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
My question is what is the best piece of advice
you've ever received.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
I'll go back to Cinderella James. Have courage and be kind.
There's a million different pieces of advice. My father is
like the king of all of them. I've gotten great
advice from coaches and players along the way in the industry,
but truly it's that simple for me. Have courage and
be kind, you know, go after what you want, and
while you're doing it, be nice. I got it from
(04:19):
a former Tampa Bay Lightning head coach, John Truro, who
help them when their first Stanley Cup. It was when
I was sitting on the plane ride we were either
going to a game or coming home. That was my
first official job out of college. I was the ringside
traveling reporter with the lightning, and I started reading a
little thing called the message boards. That's before there were
all these other websites. And they were talking about my
(04:41):
nose being too big, my voice being obnoxious, and not
knowing anything about hockey. And he saw me there crying
in my seat, and he said, I gotta be honest.
You gotta have thick skin. If you want to do this,
you have to thick skin. Doesn't matter if you're on television,
if you're a mom, if you are leading in any
other fashion. We all all know we're women. We have
(05:01):
to have thick skin. We can cry and be upset
to those that we need to, even those that are
in charge or you know, feeding us information or saying
things we don't want to hear. But you have to
have thick skin. We're in these positions for a reason.
It's not always easy to get some of the comments.
Or I was on a suicidal path to Frumpyville was
the headline that dead Spin for those of you that
(05:23):
know that, Yeah, that's the headline. When I decided to
dye my hair black and wear glasses, they were like
Lisa Lobe. I was like rude, good song though, And
then I went back to blonzo here right, That's why
it fell out. That's why I have no hair. But
enough about that, but yes, having thick skin, Nicole tim
Ha's a question, Hi, Hi, Could you tell me about
a time that you had to step out of your
(05:44):
comfort zone to fight or push for something that you
wanted in your career? Hmm? I know that face you go.
Aaron is better at this and I am, and I'm
learning from her. You are you will speak up more
(06:04):
than I will. You are, and it does it encourages
me to do it because I'll just be like, Okay, well,
I just don't want to make anyone mad. She's like, no,
fight for what you want, and that I'm my own agent.
I don't have an agent. I don't have a manager.
I negotiate my own contracts. And a lot of that
was because my agent that I had, who I absolutely loved,
he left the business and I was afraid to go
with someone else. So a lot of times I probably
(06:27):
don't fight for as much as I should. But I
just don't want to make one anyone mad. And she's
my biggest advocate for that. So I guess that were
you know, uh, not underestimating my own value I guess
would be the thing that I need to continue to
work on and know that hey not you know, my
dad always has an expression, pigs get fat, hogs get slaughtered.
(06:47):
Don't be gluttonous. I could say and own I own
a pig and I own a ranching, and I'm not
killing my pig, Okay, But no, I just think that
it's a it's a matter of like, just know your value,
but also understand a landscape in which you can negotiate,
but just don't underestimate yourself. It's hard. It's a battle
to be very honest with you. You don't want to
ruffle any feathers, but you also want to stick up
(07:09):
for yourself to be honest with you. I think we're
always kind of in a constant fight. I mean, we
work in an industry where it's very very male dominated.
We're so excited to have a seat at the table.
But we also know we're good at what we do,
and we've really tried very hard. I've never studied this
much in my entire life, which is a bummer for
my parents, because I could have had those great sashes
(07:31):
that my graduation that everybody else had. But no, and
we do know we belong and we do know there's
a reason why we're here, and you know why we're
on the network that we're on. But yeah, it's a honestly,
it's a battle, but it is for a lot of people. Yeah,
all of you guys have your own stories of what
you've had exactly, and I would love to hear them
if I ever shut up. So let's ask Jessica Shulman
(07:54):
what her question is. Hi there, what habits or mental
practices have contributed most to your success? I love that
what habits or mental practices working out is helpful, I
think mentally for like, uh, when I get nervous, right,
there's that a little bit of an element of like,
(08:16):
you know, getting the nerves out. Preparation is the number
one the biggest thing. Not preparation, h Although I stopped
using the deodorant that has the aluminum in it because
I know it's bad, but I feel like I stink
so bad, so I won't hug you. But I think, yeah, preparation.
The more prepared you are, the less nervous that you are.
And knowing that you're going into for us broadcast or
(08:37):
game or whatever it is, and being like whatever happens.
I've done my research and I've done my homework and
hopefully it shows. So for me, preparation is the number
one and that includes the mental you know, the mental
part of that. Yeah, I would say the same thing.
I Like I mentioned studying I and especially now with
the news cycle and the fact everything you can get
it on x and on Facebook and on instag and
(09:02):
preparing for a game is so much harder now than
it ever was because of just the twenty four hour
news cycle. What did Tristan say it as press conference?
What did Baker say it as scrum? What did so
and so say at an event last night? And you're
always just trying to stay on top of it. Going
back to being a female in this industry, there are
(09:22):
being forty seven. I kind of passed the point where
I think when I was younger, I was very worried
about people thinking, I, you know, I really do know sports.
I know what I'm talking about. I'm over it now.
To get the respect from players like that, from the coaches,
from the rest of the team, from the ownership, that's
what means the most to me now because these are
the people that we are, you know, telling everybody about
(09:45):
their team, their storylines, what they're going through as an organization.
That's what means the most. But yeah, preparations. So we're
on live television. You never know what could happen, and
you don't want to be caught in a moment. They're like,
now I don't know what to say. So, yeah, preparation
is massive. I think before you, I think you did. No,
(10:06):
it was funny. It was like I can't remember what
it was, but you did and it's great. Okay, Taylor Sidwell, Yes, Hi,
either of you ever dealt with imposter syndrome? And if so,
(10:27):
how have you overcome it? What is imposters? I'm just
gonna ask it, But can I have like the definition
of it? I know, what do you talk about it?
But this is another thing when you get well, just
accepting that we don't know exactly what.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Love audience feedback on this, But for me personally, I
think we get given advice fake it till you make it.
There's oftentimes we walk into a room and we feel
like we're not faking it well, and we question if
we're supposed to be at the table.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Oh okay, I like that, you know a little bit
to Aaron's previous point. I maybe I used to feel like,
oh God, I'm just so lucky to be here. Now
I'm like I am, I will always lead with gratitude always,
because the cemetery is full of irreplaceable people, as Tristan
he was there cleaning the headstones, like, you are replaceable.
(11:13):
I don't mean to be morbid when I say that,
but I do either. You're always replaceable, right, your contracts
are up, and then you could you know, somebody else
can take your job, whatever the situation is. The minute
that you think that you always are going to have
a seat at that table, you shall probably be a
little careful because now you're a little too comfortable. So
it's for me, it's a balancing act of like, I
know I belong here, but also I'm really grateful and
(11:34):
I'm gonna work even harder to stay here. So I
don't know if that fits the exact definition of imposter syndrome,
but I think that for me, it's a balance of
like knowing you belong but then continuing to work hard
to stay there. I think too, and I agree wholeheartedly
with that, and I feel like that's where we are
in our life in my twenties. It was all about
I was just so excited to have the job that
(11:55):
I put everything into it. I was working two college
football games a week, college day, three college basketball games
a week two majorly, I just wanted to do as
much as I could because I was so excited. But
I also kind of had the mindset when I get
to my forties, I'm just not going to work as much. What. Okay,
So now it's I think it'll slow down, or it
(12:15):
was again, I did everything I wanted to do. Now
I just want to do everything. This doesn't answer your question,
but yeah, I I don't know. I don't even know
what imposter syndrome is. I don't get it. What is it?
Does anyone anyone don't? Oh? Yeah, I mean, but sometimes
I feel that you feel that now sometimes where you
(12:37):
feel bad about yourself. I mean Tristan even talked about it.
With learning a new role, you don't want to let
anybody down. Yeah, I mean, I think it goes in waves.
But honestly, coming to something like this, we said it
last night, the people that were talking to us on
the plane last night at dinner, we've made a joke
about your colon Oscoby seven thousand times drink. If you've
heard us say it, it has made us. I called
(12:58):
my best friend who's my manager, this morning and I
just said, you have no idea like what people have
said to us over the last twenty four hours. This
is so nice. And we work really, really hard, and
I think sometimes we just get in a world where
we don't really see what's going on outside. So outside
it's cool. I should grab your jack, Yeah, you should.
(13:19):
Tristan was sweating. Oh, Caitlin m kellen has a question.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Hello ladies, Hey, how do you guys manage work life balance?
Speaker 1 (13:28):
And what advice do you have for all of us?
You start, it's so hard, I mean it really really is.
And then my better half works in the hockey world
and so his season is going on at the same time.
This was a really really hard yer. I'll get emotional
about it. The first year, when he was a newborn,
it was fine, right, it was like smellulator, But now
(13:49):
it's like and I wasn't really saying smell you lator,
but it was like, okay, bye. It was so funny
when we worked so hard to have Mac and you know,
it took us forever to have him, and then we
faced a lot of loss, and then he finally came.
I had this attitude that I was going to be like, well,
you know, I have this career and it's this is
the way it's going to be. And then he starts
talking and realizing you're leaving, and it was just really
(14:12):
really hard. And then I felt like the time that
I wasn't studying or on calls with players or on zooms,
that I had to be with him and not worrying
about the clothing line or the podcast. And I just
would have multiple meltdowns with Chris saying, I feel like
I am not giving one hundred percent of myself to
my son or my job or my you know, clothing
line or all that, and I don't. I feel like
(14:34):
I am barely above water. And then you know, your
relationships start to suffer. I didn't see any of my
girlfriends all football season, and then I got through it,
and I've had a couple of weeks off and I've
said to her, I don't know, excuse me how the
f I did that this year because I'm also traveling too.
You know, it was just really really hard, and I
didn't do myself any favors with how hard on myself
(14:55):
I was. I just I didn't. But I'm excited about
next year. I'm excited to take what I've learned with
everything and apply it to this year. I need to
go easier on myself. And I've realized that I was
so worried I wasn't giving all of myself to both things.
That I was doing the best I could, and everybody's fine,
(15:17):
and I think I just need to give myself a
little bit of grace and but it was really really hard.
That's why I was excited to talk to Tristan and
why I love reading about these men and what they've
gone through because their moms did work four different jobs
and they did so much. Look at these guys, they're
fantastic and they're so grateful for their mother, and she
did a great job this year. Trying to tell me, look,
your kid's gonna love it. He's gonna be okay. I
(15:39):
came on TV and he's in his high chair and
he's pointing at you. He knows who you are. It's
very very sweet. Just quickly. I don't have children, but
I think, just like in general, it's about my dad
made me do an exercise, make a pie chart of
your life, allocate what percentage goes to what thing, and
if that pied chart's out of balance, then you need
to start moving some of those pieces into on another.
(16:00):
If it's ninety percent work. My dad, you know, again,
I joke about divorce and whatnot, and I was like,
I'm just not gonna, you know, even go date or
do anything anymore. He's like, You're gonna end up alone.
And He's like, and what is it all for if
you're alone? But if you want to be alone and
that makes you happy, great, It's allocate the percentage in
your life to what is the most important and if
and those lines will move. Maybe it's ninety percent work.
I mean it was for us, and now you're having
(16:22):
to divide that. And doesn't mean that you're not as
great at your job. You're just having to be more
precise with the time that you do allocate towards your job.
So uh, continue to know that it will evolve and
how you change, and so uh, pie charts, really, guys,
that's really what it comes down to. I love a dollar,
I love a bar graph, I love pie charts. How
about those TI eighty three calculators, you know, I really
(16:42):
rig the system. What TI eighty three calculators? You know,
the one are like one hundred bucks. I had to
babysit to go get one hundred dollars to go get this.
But I hacked the system and they had an alpha function,
and so like I take the calculator into my history
class and you put notes in there, and the history
teachers like, why are you have your calculator? I'm like, ah,
world War two minus. No, I was reading out of
(17:03):
the alpha section. Work smarter, not harder. Don't cheat. That's
not good. I have no clue what you're talking about.
Valedictorian over here doesn't know what I'm talking about. Rachel Marshlack, Hi, Hi.
(17:24):
My question for you all is what moment in your
careers are you most proud of? Oh, that's really sweet
being up here. I'm not kidding. I really, I'm not
trying to be like funny, No, I like doing having
the invitation and the privilege to sit in front of
you guys. It's really oh my god, look at me crying. Cute,
(17:46):
she has emotions after all, ladies. Yeah, I'm really I'm
really proud that I get to go on this journey
with you. And to do the podcast and to meet
wonderful people like Jen and Dane and McKenzie and all
of you guys. I'm really proud out of where you know,
this job has taken me and the opportunities it's given me.
But also standing on the sideline for a super Bowl
(18:09):
encouraging Aaron when she's about to do her hit, working
a pregame, sitting on the set this year at the
Super Bowl, and Saquon Barkley comes up with the trophy,
the Lombardi Trophy, and we get to sing Happy Birthday
to him, and his daughter's on his lap and she's like,
I'm proud of you, daddy, And I'm like, oh, and
as a daddy's girl, like and having my dad at
the super Bowl there and he's like, I'm proud of you, Carissa.
Like all of these like full circle moments of if
(18:30):
you get to live out your dream and you get
to do it with people you love, it's pretty freaking awesome. Yeah,
I agree, this is amazing, and thank you guys so
much again for all this. Yeah, super Bowl Right for
a kick, I got to interview Patrick Mahomes as he's
warming up and basically racing to him, and he's like me,
and I'm like, who else am I trying to grab?
I's heeled right now. That's pretty special and something that
(18:53):
hits close to home here is, you know, having an
opportunity to call Tom Brady a teammate. That was a
pretty cool moment. I think for all of us at
Fox this year, you spend so much time covering these
guys and then when they come and are on your
side of things and in a production meeting with you,
or just out to sushi during a preseason game is
(19:14):
super fun. We have such a great We've talked about
it over and over, a great group at Fox NFC Championship.
When we're all together on the sidelines with Gronk and
Julian and you know, the rest of our pregame get
along gang, it's really really special. And that is when
we are so proud of the work that we've put
in and that we do have a seat at the table.
We love that. Holly Stallings, Hi.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
Hello, I was wondering how you handle pressure when it's
at its peak.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Hm, it's good. Great. You should get nervous. Oh my god,
I get nervous all the time. I just I don't
know I don't get nervous because of like being on
live television, Like I love live television. Give me awkward,
I am all about awkward, or give me some thing
that like I got to like triple axel out of
I love that. It's just more about like I don't
(20:04):
want it to Tristan's point and when he moved, you know, positions.
I don't want to disappoint my employers. I don't want
to embarrass my parents or the people that I work with.
I want to make sure that I do a good
job because I want people not that I need their
you know, but I just want them to be proud
of me. So when it comes to pressure, I think
it's embracing the opportunity is the biggest thing of like
(20:26):
I get to do this right. And also like if
I mess up, like that's okay. Like when Jennifer Lawrence
fell up the stairs going to get her oscar, You're like,
she's awesome and makes a joke of it. It's like
the biggest moment where most people try to be perfect.
If you mess up, embrace it because I hope that
that makes me more endearing and human to everyone else.
(20:46):
Because we're going to mess up. It's not what happens
to you, it's how you handle what happens to you.
That has also taken me quite some time to get
to that point. I memorization, so I only really get
fifteen seconds to try to get out what I need
to say. And even sometimes that's get screwed up. There
could be a cannon that goes off. There could be
(21:07):
that he's got a shot came mascot that's behind me
going like this, and I know it, and I'm so
pissed and I want to cuss him out. I did
after and then or you know, I could mess up,
or you know, there's so many things that could happen.
I get nervous. Every first hit that I do it
is I'm shaking. I sometimes have to go like this.
(21:28):
I always have to hold my mic in this hand
because if I do it in this I start thinking
about it during the hit. I'm a psycho. Yeah, but
you're right. Now that I've kind of gotten older, I
realized it's not brain surgery. I'm gonna be okay. It's
live television. If I screw up, I'll fix it. But
it took me a while to get there. But how
do I handle it. I practice seven thousand times before
(21:50):
I go on air. I call my dad. I talk
to my dad a lot about like my storylines and
things like that. But yeah, my kind of vibe and
outlook on it has really changed since I'm I'm ninety
five years old. But she's going to work on being
nicer to herself. We're gonna both do that, and we
hope that everyone in the room is also gives yourself
some grace. We have to wrap up, unfortunately, but just
(22:12):
I don't want to speak for you, but I will
on behalf of both of us. Thank you, guys, guys,
let's make this about me, No, seriously, thank you for
coming along on this journey with us, sitting here and
listening to us, and just being part of this community
that is football. Thank you again to the Bucks for
having us. She is football, ladies and gentlemen. Love you,
(22:33):
love you, Thank you guys, Thank you so much, the Glazers,
Thank you, guys. Appreciate it. Oh that suits back. I
don't know if you knows. Also have that available in
blue if you want it. Haha. I already wore that one.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
I actually was a bummed accent it back to you
because I was like, oh, we gott to go bright
orange nake real quickly on one housekeeping thing.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
I want to tell you guys before we wrap this up.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
We started to day Chris and Aaron weren't here art
of the day, and we wanted a picture of everyone.
And I can promise you, even if you didn't see
it up on the screen here because it only shows
the first couple of rows, it is a picture of everyone.
So if you're in the way way way way back,
you're in this picture. And we want to be told
you this is about being inclusive and we want everyone involved.
So we want Aaron and Chrissa to get in a picture.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
With everyone here.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
The picture looks awesome. I'm going to stay in their seats.
They're gonna come down. We're gonna do one picture and
then we're gonna wrap this thing up.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
So hang with us. Calm down with Erin and Chrissa
is a production of iHeartRadio. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio,
visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get
your podcasts.
Hosts And Creators
Erin Andrews
Charissa Thompson
Popular Podcasts
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com