May 8, 2025 • 34 mins
Through sickness and in health, Erin and Charissa deliver the latest episode of Calm Down. Erin apologizes for getting Charissa sick but also why explains another loved one in her life needs to toughen up a bit. Charissa tries to figure out how it’s possible she is an adult who runs her own business but doesn’t seem to own a potato peeler and an “Anonymous Follow Up” reminds Erin of the time her and her sister “needed some more Mike’s Hard Lemonade to get through this one”.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Are you okay?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And then leaves the door wide open as we're sitting
in the living room and we're just.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Like, it must have been college. I was in because
I was thinking.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I looked at my sister. I'm like, we're gonna need
some more mics. Let me get through this one.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
You know, Oh God. Calm Down with Erin and Chrissa
is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Welcome everybody to the Calm Down Podcast. We are hydrating.
What isn't that little beaker of yours right there, scrudder,
It's a broth.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
You've been really into the broth.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
I got Chris Is, Steve and Jarrett sick and now
this starts a whole tangent I was feeling. I thought
it was just allergies. Then it turned into a cough.
Then it was like a cold.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
But then I was fine.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
And unfortunately I'm a super spruder and I gave it
to those guys.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
CHRISA.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
I don't know how Steve's handling it, but this is
my rant. My husband is one of the toughest people
I know. Played in the Stanley Cup finals with his
leg hanging off his hip. You know, I was played
in the league for so many years, like it just
always injured. You never knew about it. My guys got
a cold and you would think it was pneumonia. It
(01:21):
was full blown. I didn't see him for two days.
We are locked up in the guest room.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I'm like, you.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Good, can you walk Howie to help me out. I'm
not going to do impressions because that's mean. I just
we are just going. No, we are just a tad different.
I was sick last week.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
But I'm still functioning. Like what we got stuff to do?
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I did the past, I did I walk the dog.
I'm all over the place. I'm running errands. I just
don't understand. And it comes to find out there's many
other women.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
That deal with this too, Chris men men are And
I'll say that Steve hasn't been locked up in the
guest room. But Steve refuses to take any medicine that
will help him with the situation. So it's like we're sneezing,
we're coughing. I was like, have you taken the day? Well,
I'll take it. I'll take it. Have you taken the Clarendon?
Like we're out in the great wide open, take a Clarenon?
(02:13):
Help with the other. I don't know what he's resistant to.
The medication is not me. It says take take you know,
describe or prescribe take two. I'm like, I'll take six
because I like to get on with things. And I
actually don't know. I don't feel that sick though. Actually
I don't feel sick at all. I should say I
just have like a cough, but I don't feel bad.
But I'm not interested in prolonging any of these things
like let's get in, let's get out, let's keep it moving.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
No, I can't say that. He's like acting like that,
but he and for me, I'm very into my symptoms.
I'm like, I've said to Jared, what are your symptoms?
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Well?
Speaker 1 (02:44):
I have a little bit of a cold I have
I need to stop imitating him. I have body aches. Okay, great.
Have you texted doctor Cindy? Have you asked her? Should
you be on TAMA flud? Do you feel like you
have the flud? Do you have a fever? Well, where's
the thermometer?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
What? Why don you guys have a thermometer?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Oh you have a baby.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
We have to and you have a thermometer before because
when you do IVF, you have to like constantly take
your temperature to see you when you're wondering anything. I
was like trying to have like babies and stuff like that,
so yeah, I had like a thermometer everywhere. It was
always this is so crazy for my acupuncture. When I
was trying to have a baby myself or do my eggs.
(03:21):
She would try to figure out each week, like the
teas the Chinese orbal teas to do. So you'd have
to take your temperature before you got up and pete
in the morning. You know how hard that was to remember,
like and so you're like, oh god.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I'm already paying I didn't take my big temperature. I
can't remember that.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
The alarms on. Do you know how many times I
set the alarm off. I open up the door every
time to let the dogs go to the bathroom, and
the alarm goes off. I've gotten seventeen different notices from
the City of Los Angeles with the false alarm situation,
because now after being robbed, you have like seven hundred alive.
But no, I don't have a thermometer. And in fact
I've realized and again this is the person. Okay, I'm
(04:01):
in two minds here about this. Sometimes I feel like
I'm an uber adult right between mortgages and insurance and wills,
and I've got the real estate lawyer, and you're like,
I'm like, I am a fucking adult. I got a briefcase,
I got multiple jobs, I'm moving, i'm shaking, I'm doing things.
And then other times I look at myself like this
(04:22):
with a backwards hot I'm like, I'm five years old
and I don't know. I don't have anything that I'm
supposed to have in a house. Half the time, my
mom went to go do a to whatever what do
you call it? When you have potatoes like peel potatoes,
She goes, there's your potato peeler. I go, I don't
have a potato peeler, Like why would I? Why would
I have a potato peeler? Like there's certain things because
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I don't cook in a kitchen that I don't have.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
There's certain things in my house I don't have. And
I'm like, I'm forty.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Three years in houses. Oh you're adorable. No, I just
know I don't have a four to oh one K.
I just I'm like, I don't know. Sometimes I just
I don't know if anyone else feels like this, you must,
don't you feel like you're such an adult, especially with
the child that's a different level of adulthood. And then
other times I'm like, how am I allowed to even
drive a vehicle? Like oh yeah, this is like when
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did it happen that we're in charge of our own lives?
And I don't even have basic kitchen utensils like a
potato peeler. I don't even know what the fuck they're called,
carrot peeler, potato peeler whatever.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
I just always like back pillar pelor yeah, but like
who tells you to buy these things? Like why do
you have half the stuff that you have in your kitchen?
Because like did you was it on your wedding registry,
which is a whole other thing. By the way, I'm
the person will remain nameless, that's in Steven I's life.
But there is a what a wedding registry out there
right now that is cuckoo cocoa puffs. It is so
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wild that these items are being asked for, And I'm like,
you gotta.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Cashe give us an idea cash.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Cash and like or like this, like I know who
has for is that? Like a normal thing. And I'm
not trying to be insensitive, I know, but that's what
I'm saying. I don't care what socio economic get, but
I would never of course. I mean literally my mom
for my birthdays? Like, what do you want my mother?
I'm too old for birthday presents? But cash is always king.
But on a wedding registry? Is that weird?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Huh? We're not twenty years old.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Like I get it if you're just starting out in
life and you got married really young. But like these
are adults asking for money. That seems weird? No, am
I rude? Is that insensitive of me? Because I mean, yeah,
we all need money. I mean that's always what they
are working for a decanter that's like seven hundred and
fifty dollars, Like that's still crazy. No, Like I could
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go to Home Goods and get you a decanter for
twenty four to ninety nine. Now it's going to be
a problem taking that. Where are the tagared?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
It's just wild anyways, I registered it, Okay, Right, this
is a good question from Ryan. Does it literally say
cash or does it say honeymoon?
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Fine?
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Because I've given a wedding present as a honeymoon fund.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
No, it says cash donations, donations. I know, I know.
Bryan just wrote that's a wow. I know.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
And then I'm like, wait, am I rude? And this
is my friend? So but this sounds like I.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Need to say I'm dying. You know who? Definitely not
my friend. No, no, it would not be your friend.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
And this person will probably figure out who I'm talking
about them anyways, back to us, So.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
No, really, that's a good point. I'm trying to think
what that is in my life? You would you could
probably figure out quicker than I could. What is that
in my life? I've got a business, I've got a baby.
I travel all over the United States.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
You get me in an airport.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
I can figure out how to get you on another
flight with a meal and a drink before you have
to board.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
But I can't.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Do what You don't have that because you are very great.
Oh no, okay, there's something I yes, it's why.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Okay, this is what I will say about you. You
are the most responsible, by far friend I have most responsible.
You are all yes, yes you don't, there's no rebuttal
here you are. You always have a solution for any problem,
like whether it's the sickness, whether it's the thing that
we were you know, wanting to we want to talk
(08:25):
about health and wellness. You have seven hundred answers for that.
If it's we're going on a trip, here's the travel
agent like you have. You are, which is probably why
you get frustrated, rightfully so with other people that don't
keep up as fast, because you're moving at one thousand
miles an hour and you always have a solution for
the problems, and you're someone if you don't have a
(08:45):
solution for the problem, then you'll ask like you have
no problem asking. This is my issue, and I brought
it up with Steve before. Not to make this about
our plus ones, because we love them, we will be
the first to praise them over and over again. But
I am someone that if I don't know the answer
to something, I ask. For example, here at the ranch,
there are seven thousand fucking things I don't know about
(09:06):
running a ranch. I've never owned a ranch, I've never
worked on a farm, I've never done anything. I've never
had farm animals before.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
So I ask questions.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
I love Steve, Steve, maybe this is a guy thing
and I hate to stereotype, but like he won't ask questions,
he'll just pretend like he knows, and he's like, oh, yeah, yeah,
yeah I know. And I'm like, no, you don't know.
You have no fucking idea what you're talking about. So
in that situation, I just think that we, you and I,
particularly with our personalities, we're okay with not knowing, but
we want to find the answer and then let's keep
(09:35):
it moving. Let's not just guess and keep making mistakes.
So whether that's sickness or whether that's in sickness and
in health, till death do us part and I'm going
to kill you, So who knows. But yeah, let's go
back to that cash registry.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
AnyWho, I got a thing too with sicknesses that you
just brought up, sickness and health. I need to know
the symptoms from everybody. You have a cough for kind
of cough, Just gonna ask you. You said you're coughing. Are
you coughing stuff up?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Are you spitting it out? Yeah? What color?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (10:06):
White? Yellow? Green? Yeah? Mine was green. I left it
in too long.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
I thought I had pneumonia, but I was fine because
I did something about it had the doctor come over.
Doctor Cindy checked my chest. Good Cindy's great rolled in
an ivy. I could have gotten that guy a vitamin ivy.
Guess who wouldn't have been sleeping for two days. Also,
sleeping for two days isn't helping get up, walk around?
Speaker 1 (10:26):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
A virus hates fluid and exercise, get help. Sounds so
fun to be married to me. I hear myself nagging,
and I say to him, I don't want to nag.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
I said the same thing to Steve today. I looked
at him and I go, do you like me? And
he goes, yeah, Why do you ask that? I go,
I don't know, because I just felt myself like I
kept saying things over and over. Why am I having
to say them? I might want to have to be
this way. You're making me this, you are making maybe
this way like I'll say it. Yesterday it was our birthday.
(11:05):
I am, I am so sorry, you're sick. I am fine.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
We did not go to dinner.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
He had a lovely reservation set up at Felix, one
of my favorite places to go.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
I love Felix great. I love that he made the reservation.
I don't want gifts. I don't want anything.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
He was too sick. But the problem is the way
he went about it. I'm great, I gave you the sickness.
I get it. Go go get it out of you. Go.
Deal comes up.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
I'm supposed to take my kid to a hockey birthday
party with my husband because it's the hockey families.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Well, I don't know if I should. I shouldn't, I
shouldn't do impressions. I don't know if I should go
to the kid birthday because there's a lot of kids
there and I don't want to get them sick. Okay,
So I have a question, why have you been breathing
all over our kid today? If you're gonna declare this,
go breathe some declare. I do declare. So he took.
(12:07):
I took the kid, had a great time.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Shout out to my gym, Mickey Mouse, party, mommy ware
mouth shirt.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
I felt it. It was great. Come on, dad for
the first.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Hour because it was in the middle of the nap time.
You give that guy a cupcake. He's a fucking life
of the party. Ready to go. We come home, we're sleeping. Okay,
I need to not do an impression.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
We get up.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
How you doing not great? Okay, get in there. I'll
deal with Mac. You could help me take the dog
for a walk. It's outside. But I got it fine.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
All good.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Now comes the lingering, because it's time to either make
a decision.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
About going to the restaurant or not. I'm fully prepared.
We're not going. I got my show, we're watching. We're fine.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
You already knew it wasn't gonna happen. Well, i'd really
still like to take you to dinner. I don't understand
you didn't come to the birthday party. You have fever,
and you claim you have a fever, but I don't
know if I have a paper because I don't know
where the thermometer is, and I have the chills.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Dinner, We're just not going to dinner. I'm good with it.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Go.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
I ordered my bottle in, I had seven pieces of
garlic bread. I had an Italian wedding soup. I watched
your friends and your neighbors and your lovers or whatever
it's called.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
And I'm good. But I don't shout out to Apple.
We shout out to Apple, shout out to our guy.
Just go deal. So how would you have liked him
to handle that.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Babe, I feel like shit, here are my symptoms this
I feel What should I do? Great, let's call doctor
Cindy if he needs some meds, which now he declares
he did. He could have been on him yesterday. Okay,
we're just we're laying around. I don't think laying around
is doing anything.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
You don't like the in between, like if there's a problem,
what's the solution, and at least you know that you're
working towards it, not this like I don't like the
vote to do we got stuff new?
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Yeah, but I get it.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
It's like you just wanted him to make it seemed
like he was finding a solution to his problem, not
the in between of like he also got.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
A baby, like and now Mac is probably going to
get this, which it's my fault. I brought it into
the Stop.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
You need to stop acting like your patient number one
of COVID. Okay, Like, this is it's a cold, this
is a common cold.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
This is not you don't even know what I have.
You have a cold?
Speaker 3 (14:21):
Okay, cheers out there dealing with men who have cold. Yeah,
this is this is why women though have children. This
is why women are you know, yes exactly. And also menopause.
I always thought for the longest time it was metopause.
News flash, it's menopause and here the whole time. Who
(14:43):
knew I would have missed that in the spelling Bee.
There's a lot of jobs that we've had over our
great twenty year career that we've been fortunate enough to
have the job that I have. Two jobs that you
had that I wish I would have had at some point.
I would have loved to work on college game Day
and the spelling Bee. That's spelling me, gig I. You
and I have never talked about it. I so stupid
(15:05):
allude to the TV and thinking to myself, I could
be on that. No, you cannot, I before except after
c What are you talking about, Carissa? Was it as
magical as it appeared? Because I just wanted to hug
all of those children.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Hug all of them. They were so much smarter, obviously
than I'll ever be. Scholastic scholar? What made it so great?
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Scholastic scholar was that shout out to Jeter forgetting his degree.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Yes, and I love that, Jeet. It's cute the best.
My tailboom's killing me. What was I gonna say that that. Oh,
Tom Bergeron. I hosted it with Tom Bergeron.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
He made it so much fun because he was so
he's so dry, so sarcastic. And you have to be
with those kids because you know, they're so intense and
so intense. You know, you're interviewing a thirteen year old
that just spelled a word that I've never heard of,
and you're making fun of yourself and them, and I
mean not making fun of them, but the environment.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Course, yeah, I always I don't know, let me think
of that. Just I love the spell and be Also,
did you ever watch those shows? I know you did,
actually the cheerleading competitions? Yeah, speaking what.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Yeah, you were like they do they still have those? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:14):
Those like Fly in the Air was always on ESPN
two and I was like these people the tumbling competitions
or whatever they were.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Oh yeah, fire UK really good. L's a good dance team,
Ohio State. It's a good dance team.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
I forgot I.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
Think seven eight so good. Oh so that's a trip.
I'm emoryily Okay. We also have some headlines here that
I would love. So we always ask you guys, and
we appreciate the anonymous questions that we give for our pregame.
We have an anonymous follow up which is very exciting.
So the original question was from January seventh. The question
was weekend ski trip with a boy I've never been
(16:53):
on a date with.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Go for it.
Speaker 3 (16:55):
Mutual friends says he's a great guy. We said, yes,
yours surely. Aaron and I said, do it. Go for it,
have a great time, see what happens, you know all
the things. Here's the follow up. I took the trip,
had an absolute blast. We had the most perfect weekend.
It felt like we'd known each other for years. Only
issue in parentheses exactly what you brought up was the
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bathroom situation we had brought up. If you have to
go to the bathroom you're sharing a room, it's always like,
oh God. Felt like I didn't go the entire weekend
to anyone doubting whether to take a trip or to
go on a date with that person. Do it? Anonymous.
First of all, thank you for following up. I'm so
happy that you went for it, and who cares where
it goes after that? If it ends up being like
a you know for everything, great, then invite us to
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your wedding. If it doesn't, at least you like, you know,
tried something different instead of just being afraid and then
always wondered like what could have?
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Would have should of? I love that, And I.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Know doctors wouldn't endoorse being a back up Betty and
not being able to go when you need to.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
But hey, risky for the biscuit.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
You know, when you met body, I think in track,
when you get home, your body definitely knows that.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
It's like, hey, now is not the time that we're
going to have. I mean, we're trying to blow out
the weekend with fun, not the bathroom, you know, my god,
But the move in that situation is always the go
get coffee, go get out of the room, because then
you're either in a public bathroom, which no one.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Needs going to public bathroom.
Speaker 3 (18:23):
But I'm saying for him too. I'm saying for him too.
Maybe he's guys are routine. They go to the bathroom please,
you know, are saying anywhere others every morning. I remember
my daddy's like grabbed the newspaper and we're always like,
oh God, but like men do that. Men are so
regular and whatever, like girls just we don't even go.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
So we used to call it. In our house, dad's
thinking about the Red Sox. Depending on how long he's
thinking about the Red Sox. Are they going to the
World Series? Is this finally the year?
Speaker 3 (18:53):
We don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
What's Dad doing. He's thinking about but always.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Grabbed this sports page too, and then we're like, oh
my god, who wants to read the sports page after
it's been in there for an hour? And then the
sprang the air freshener, like we know what happened, and
that stale, like you know, a low hall Hawaiian smell
that's in the air fresher is not helping things.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Just light a match, keep it moving. I'll make her
as a child, I'll tell this story. I don't care
my grandmother. I don't know why she died to decide.
She was living in this.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Adorable retirement home community in o'calla. Then she laughed after
my grandfather.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
Passed, married some guy and then lived in like a trailer,
not like a bad trailer, but I don't know, Okalla,
like it was like a bigger trailer, like I don't
know those interesting choice. We took her out, I think
for her eightieth birthday. I was in college. I came
home for it, or maybe I was.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Just out of college.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
My cousin bo blew up the bathroom right by where
we were sitting in the living room, and it was
one of those like are you okay like and then
leaves the door wide open as we're sitting in the
living room and we're just like, I I it must
have been college I was in because I was thinking.
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I looked at my sister. I'm like, we're gonna need
some more mics. I let me get through this one,
you know. Oh god, true story.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Okay, not the mics are lemonade.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
Yeah, holy shit. Literally, Oh that's funny, that's good stuff.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
People are crazy away from common decency. Okay, I'm just
gonna leave her. What is this about me?
Speaker 3 (20:57):
No, it is about with me, like OCD, like cleaning
bathrooms because before guests that we've had at our house
at different times, to make sure that like the toilets
and everything is always clean and anything they need. Here's
the white, here's the spray, here's this whatever, like matches.
It's like, let me stay on this conversation way too long,
but like that is bathroom etiquette in general is just
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like come on, wake up, everybody, but nothing is worse, Honestly,
nothing is worse that when you go into the bathroom
and somebody else has been in there before you and
you know that they've done it, and then you go
in right after, like let's say you're at a party
or whatever it is, and you're like, they're gonna think
it's me, because now the next person in the bathroom
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is gonna go in there and smell, and they're gonna
look at me, and I'm gonna be like, I did it.
That was not me, that was the person in front.
So I like make a car, I like make a
whole scene of it. I'm like, I'm walking up the bathroom.
If I see I'm like, oh my god, who I'll.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Do the thing, or I'll be like go ahead and
you can go ahead. I'll wait for the next one.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
No, right, because I'm like, I am not, I'm not
going to be accused of that first degree murder that
just happened there because they killed that toilet and I
am not.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I'm not wanting to go to jail over that.
Speaker 3 (22:10):
So I will stand over here absolutely not. Murder was
the case that they gave me.
Speaker 4 (22:15):
Murder, she wrote, and that's all she wrote.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Moving right along. Hey, you want to do some headlines, babe?
I would love to Number one tips for moms and
wives kidding who are feeling overwhelmed. This is from the
Today Show. I actually saw some of this. It was
really good.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Lean on one or two people in your life who
can be your support system. You don't need hours and
hours of their time unless you're me.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Research show.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
Research shows you only need one hour per week to
connect with someone who can validate your feelings.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Oh that's us.
Speaker 3 (22:55):
This is my podcast is one hour a day, and
this is you and I. The whole impetus of this
podcast was because we spend hours talking on the phone,
or an hour or even you know, fifteen minute long
voice notes.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Being able to vent.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
Yeah, I think I it's very cathartic for me to
get everything out. You are the person that I do
that the most with. And once I say it, I
automatically feel better or I hear myself say it, and
it's either one of two things. Either not as bad
as I thought it was, or it's that bad and
I'm justified in feeling the way that I am. So
(23:31):
a lot of sometimes people are like, oh, I journal
to get my feelings out. No, not me. I'm like
to you or on this podcast or whatever. Mind I'm
able to like step you do journal, No, you're my journal.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
I mean I do like I will manifest things like
a lot of stuff, but I need to do it
a little bit more consistently about it.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
But I can't. There are people going to write it
any read it. It's too hard to remember. I can
barely remember to put by cast or oil in my
belly button. You tell you have a lot of things.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Too many, and now it's turned into O C D
at this point, it's a psycho.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Have you been doing the peptide? Yeah, no, not the peptid,
the spray? Well, have you been doing your shot?
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (24:14):
The shot?
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Yeah, that's thought. We were talking about the peptide the
like thing. Yeah no, that's fine, the spray and the peptid.
So Aaron's got a dreamt a peptide. We've got a
we got a spray, we got a peptide. But what
And I don't I don't know how I feel about
you saying belly button.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
So there's that. What do you call it? The hole
in your belly?
Speaker 3 (24:31):
No, I just don't like belly, like belly and general
belly button, belly button, and like when you put you.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Put castro, what does that make you go to the bathroom?
All conversations with their toxins. But then I saw something
on Instagram that said, it's not so. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Basically, I have too many things going on. I have
my supplements that I take. I have my castor oil
in my hole in my belly and then or stomach.
I have our glutathion spray. I have our peptide shot.
I have my peptide under my tongue. I'm I'm like glod.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
But you look young? How about yesterday?
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Remember when remember when Jared said to you, like, oh,
you look a lot younger than you are. Guess what
Steve said to me the morning of my forty third birthday.
So it was overcast here at the ranch, and so
I was like, let's just use this as a day.
We'll be cozy, we'll be inside, it's Sunday, we'll light
a fire, we'll just like knock it off. So I
sit down on the couch and he goes, well, you're old,
now get on over here. First of all, who said
(25:30):
you're old? Now get on over here. It's like my
house what are you talking about? Don't say you're old?
Now get on over here. How about I don't want
to be anywhere near you now?
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Like what we should have been together for a pace,
Because that's not what I meant. I'm confused. How should
I interpret you're old?
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Now get on over here, Come sit on, sit on
daddy's lape.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Yeah, what are you talking about?
Speaker 4 (25:54):
Hey?
Speaker 3 (25:54):
This leads us right into the next one, divorce something
I know something about. Divorce lawyer reveals the four mistakes
couples make prioritizing your work or kids over your marriage.
One of the main reasons why couples separate is the
other person doesn't have a job.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Oh that's that's not what it says. But that's what
I said.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Is that they lose focus on their relationship and they
put the others, typically their work or kids, ahead of
their marriage. Look, there's a myriad of different reasons why
people get divorced, but I will only speak from my
experience that we just didn't align in work ethic. But
in this particular case was as it pertains to kids
or marriage. I for my dad used to have a
(26:31):
thing where he would always say he still does actually
even though I've been out of the house for twenty
something years now. He's like, your mother is my first priority.
She was here before you, she'll be here after you.
She always comes before you, guys. So growing up I
just always heard him say that, like we never superseded
her in everything. So I think that you know, for you,
(26:51):
you could speak to this more because you're married with
a child. But like, how easy it is to put
back before your relationship because he's a baby and need
you and all that stuff.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
So just good to think about. I guess.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Yep, there's more other reasons for common mistakes communicating but
not comprehending. I actually really like this one. As the
saying goes, communication is key, but it's more than that.
Couples need to not only communicate, but also comprehend what
their partner is saying.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
Yeah, so there's all my therapy. There was a very
and I need to remember this because again we you
and I are not adverse. And I believe a lot
of people listening to these podcasts or any podcasts for example,
or like open to whether they want to be entertained
or informed or whatever. I'm not adverse to getting better
(27:40):
in areas that I'm deficient. For example, I'm not a
great communicator. I fly off the handle and then I
apologize after the fact. I need to slow down. I
need to take in the information and not react so quickly.
So one of the things that I learned in therapy
that I still need to sharpen my skills on is
this idea. So let me So, let's say you say
(28:02):
something to me like, pretend like you're Steve and you
are annoyed with me. Say something that you're annoyed.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
By I'm saying something annoying to you. Yeah, you know
you're Steve and you're annoyed with me at something. So
say something like, oh, I don't like when you do
da da da da da. I don't like when you
tell me to slow down.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Okay, So let me understand what you're saying, because I
want I want to hear you. So you're saying that
you don't like what I tell you to slow down.
So you repeat back what the person is saying, Okay,
And then it's what can I do to make what's
a better way for me to tell you things? Like
basically like what how should I say it to you?
(28:44):
How would you like me to say slow down? Because
the current way I'm saying it is not true. So yeah,
you take in the information, you repeat it back so
that you understand they understand, you know that your messaging
is the same, and then ask them how they would
like you to say it does something that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
I just get through with that, I know.
Speaker 3 (29:03):
And it's all about like, because it's everything is not
what you say, it's how you say it. Think about it.
All of us are like this, you know, right where
we're like you're a fucking loser, and it's like, no,
you're not a loser, but like I'm annoyed with you
right now, frustrating me.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
You're frustrating me.
Speaker 3 (29:18):
So I wonder if we even just said things like that,
like this is not realistic because like, who's going to
do this in a moment of panic, be like, well, see,
you're frustrating me right now because you're moving so fast.
So if you would mind, wouldn't mind slowing down a
little bit? I think it would be better for our relationship,
don't you Steve He'd be like, yeah, bab you.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
Got it, no problem.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Meanwhile, I'm like slow the fuck down and screaming like
a psychopath.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
But like and then you should end it by saying
and coming up after the break, we'll have more dedications
and love letters on Delilah after dark.
Speaker 3 (29:51):
Seriously, but the other ones rushing into romance, I am
so guilty of that. I like think that because you
say you like me, we're in love. Uh, and then
falling into the temptation of social media. I'm not sure
about this one. Instagram past, Facebook albums, TikTok, TikTok, videos,
TikTok keep us connected. Sometimes seeing the highlights of someone's
life being one clickway, isn't that great for our relationship?
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (30:13):
I mean you might know, like that, you think that
that person's so great based off their social media or something.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
Maybe it's not real, not real, it's not real. And
the people that you see we're sun love, No, they're not.
They're probably a month away from divorce. Stop it.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
We always had a thing like the more people post
about how they are, the the least like, the least
likely they are to succeed.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
Which leads me into this what number five.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
I'm leaving berries on the morning of the birthday, our
birthday yesterday, and I'm scrolling through Instagram because I shouldn't,
and it's a guilty pleasure, and I see Happy birthday
to my wife. You want to know why our life's
not perfect because look at the photo posted me. You
(31:01):
can't because I asked him to take it down. I
am the hunchback of Notre Dame. I have a jowy
puss on my face, not because I'm trying to because
Mac doesn't feel good.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
In the photo.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
We're easter egg hunting at a at Underwood Farm. Shout out,
what a great place, adorable. Mac didn't feel well, so
I'm trying to navigate him. He's whining he doesn't feel good,
but I'm getting him what a concept out for the
day so he can forget about being sick.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
Happy birthday to my wife. We love you so much.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
I'm like this, why why just don't post? So then
you have to call him. You called him and said
take that down.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
I said, what's going on? Why are you doing this
to me? Like? I understand you don't feel good, but
has that impaired your brain? I like the photo? No,
you like the photo of Mac. Mac looks adorable in
his basket. He's like raw his mother. But oh, I thought,
(32:06):
I like this picture. You don't? Oh God? And now Steve,
it's not time for you to come in yet, Steve,
how are you feeling? I'm so sorry. He just goes,
I'm hungry. You know. It's to record from two to
three thirty.
Speaker 3 (32:25):
Okay, Well, I'm gonna talk about you and you're either
gonna listen to it or you're gonna.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
He just goes go for it.
Speaker 3 (32:32):
Well, no, it's actually not talking shit because at this
point Steve knows to only post pictures of me that
he knows that I would like. Of Blonda, there's there's
no there's no pictures that like he's going to be like,
you know, you know who does that already? The Google
searches we have of ourselves already have enough pictures of
us that are the whole reds.
Speaker 4 (32:52):
You have provided us a great life.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Happy birthday?
Speaker 3 (33:02):
Does Hey, you want to end this on a positive
note because we both got we both got gifts from
our significant other that were so meaningful, that we're so meaningful,
and that he's really all that you really loved. You
got two pictures of you with Howie and look with Steve.
This is I told Steve, I said I don't want
any I literally looked a him. I said I don't
(33:23):
want a goddamnthday. I said, I'll tell you why. We're
going on a really nice trip soon. I said, let's
not try to get goofy and spend it on that right,
I said, you know what I want? I said, I
want a card from all the animals here at the ranch.
So he shout out to Steve. Actually, look, you can listen.
I'm not talking about you. He went to the store
and body card that had a cow on it, a
(33:44):
sheep on it, a dog on it, a cat on it,
wrote like they were each from one of the animals. Hysterical,
and then he made this photo it is the last
supper with all of my animals, and willis like he's
Jesus Christ in the middle of the table. Amenah, I
mean hasty with you and also with those animals. Yeah,
(34:06):
I'm like great, that's all I wanted. So anyways, they're
not perfect, but there.
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Speaker 2 (00:02):
And then leaves the door wide open as we're sitting
in the living room and we're just.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Like, it must have been college. I was in because
I was thinking.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I looked at my sister. I'm like, we're gonna need
some more mics. Let me get through this one.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
You know, Oh God. Calm Down with Erin and Chrissa
is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Welcome everybody to the Calm Down Podcast. We are hydrating.
What isn't that little beaker of yours right there, scrudder,
It's a broth.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
You've been really into the broth.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
I got Chris Is, Steve and Jarrett sick and now
this starts a whole tangent I was feeling. I thought
it was just allergies. Then it turned into a cough.
Then it was like a cold.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
But then I was fine.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
And unfortunately I'm a super spruder and I gave it
to those guys.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
CHRISA.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
I don't know how Steve's handling it, but this is
my rant. My husband is one of the toughest people
I know. Played in the Stanley Cup finals with his
leg hanging off his hip. You know, I was played
in the league for so many years, like it just
always injured. You never knew about it. My guys got
a cold and you would think it was pneumonia. It
(01:21):
was full blown. I didn't see him for two days.
We are locked up in the guest room.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I'm like, you.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Good, can you walk Howie to help me out. I'm
not going to do impressions because that's mean. I just
we are just going. No, we are just a tad different.
I was sick last week.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
But I'm still functioning. Like what we got stuff to do?
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I did the past, I did I walk the dog.
I'm all over the place. I'm running errands. I just
don't understand. And it comes to find out there's many
other women.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
That deal with this too, Chris men men are And
I'll say that Steve hasn't been locked up in the
guest room. But Steve refuses to take any medicine that
will help him with the situation. So it's like we're sneezing,
we're coughing. I was like, have you taken the day? Well,
I'll take it. I'll take it. Have you taken the Clarendon?
Like we're out in the great wide open, take a Clarenon?
(02:13):
Help with the other. I don't know what he's resistant to.
The medication is not me. It says take take you know,
describe or prescribe take two. I'm like, I'll take six
because I like to get on with things. And I
actually don't know. I don't feel that sick though. Actually
I don't feel sick at all. I should say I
just have like a cough, but I don't feel bad.
But I'm not interested in prolonging any of these things
like let's get in, let's get out, let's keep it moving.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
No, I can't say that. He's like acting like that,
but he and for me, I'm very into my symptoms.
I'm like, I've said to Jared, what are your symptoms?
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Well?
Speaker 1 (02:44):
I have a little bit of a cold I have
I need to stop imitating him. I have body aches. Okay, great.
Have you texted doctor Cindy? Have you asked her? Should
you be on TAMA flud? Do you feel like you
have the flud? Do you have a fever? Well, where's
the thermometer?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
What? Why don you guys have a thermometer?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Oh you have a baby.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
We have to and you have a thermometer before because
when you do IVF, you have to like constantly take
your temperature to see you when you're wondering anything. I
was like trying to have like babies and stuff like that,
so yeah, I had like a thermometer everywhere. It was
always this is so crazy for my acupuncture. When I
was trying to have a baby myself or do my eggs.
(03:21):
She would try to figure out each week, like the
teas the Chinese orbal teas to do. So you'd have
to take your temperature before you got up and pete
in the morning. You know how hard that was to remember,
like and so you're like, oh god.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I'm already paying I didn't take my big temperature. I
can't remember that.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
The alarms on. Do you know how many times I
set the alarm off. I open up the door every
time to let the dogs go to the bathroom, and
the alarm goes off. I've gotten seventeen different notices from
the City of Los Angeles with the false alarm situation,
because now after being robbed, you have like seven hundred alive.
But no, I don't have a thermometer. And in fact
I've realized and again this is the person. Okay, I'm
(04:01):
in two minds here about this. Sometimes I feel like
I'm an uber adult right between mortgages and insurance and wills,
and I've got the real estate lawyer, and you're like,
I'm like, I am a fucking adult. I got a briefcase,
I got multiple jobs, I'm moving, i'm shaking, I'm doing things.
And then other times I look at myself like this
(04:22):
with a backwards hot I'm like, I'm five years old
and I don't know. I don't have anything that I'm
supposed to have in a house. Half the time, my
mom went to go do a to whatever what do
you call it? When you have potatoes like peel potatoes,
She goes, there's your potato peeler. I go, I don't
have a potato peeler, Like why would I? Why would
I have a potato peeler? Like there's certain things because
(04:43):
I don't cook in a kitchen that I don't have.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
There's certain things in my house I don't have. And
I'm like, I'm forty.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Three years in houses. Oh you're adorable. No, I just
know I don't have a four to oh one K.
I just I'm like, I don't know. Sometimes I just
I don't know if anyone else feels like this, you must,
don't you feel like you're such an adult, especially with
the child that's a different level of adulthood. And then
other times I'm like, how am I allowed to even
drive a vehicle? Like oh yeah, this is like when
(05:08):
did it happen that we're in charge of our own lives?
And I don't even have basic kitchen utensils like a
potato peeler. I don't even know what the fuck they're called,
carrot peeler, potato peeler whatever.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
I just always like back pillar pelor yeah, but like
who tells you to buy these things? Like why do
you have half the stuff that you have in your kitchen?
Because like did you was it on your wedding registry,
which is a whole other thing. By the way, I'm
the person will remain nameless, that's in Steven I's life.
But there is a what a wedding registry out there
right now that is cuckoo cocoa puffs. It is so
(05:43):
wild that these items are being asked for, And I'm like,
you gotta.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Cashe give us an idea cash.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Cash and like or like this, like I know who
has for is that? Like a normal thing. And I'm
not trying to be insensitive, I know, but that's what
I'm saying. I don't care what socio economic get, but
I would never of course. I mean literally my mom
for my birthdays? Like, what do you want my mother?
I'm too old for birthday presents? But cash is always king.
But on a wedding registry? Is that weird?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Huh? We're not twenty years old.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Like I get it if you're just starting out in
life and you got married really young. But like these
are adults asking for money. That seems weird? No, am
I rude? Is that insensitive of me? Because I mean, yeah,
we all need money. I mean that's always what they
are working for a decanter that's like seven hundred and
fifty dollars, Like that's still crazy. No, Like I could
(06:38):
go to Home Goods and get you a decanter for
twenty four to ninety nine. Now it's going to be
a problem taking that. Where are the tagared?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
It's just wild anyways, I registered it, Okay, Right, this
is a good question from Ryan. Does it literally say
cash or does it say honeymoon?
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Fine?
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Because I've given a wedding present as a honeymoon fund.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
No, it says cash donations, donations. I know, I know.
Bryan just wrote that's a wow. I know.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
And then I'm like, wait, am I rude? And this
is my friend? So but this sounds like I.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Need to say I'm dying. You know who? Definitely not
my friend. No, no, it would not be your friend.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
And this person will probably figure out who I'm talking
about them anyways, back to us, So.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
No, really, that's a good point. I'm trying to think
what that is in my life? You would you could
probably figure out quicker than I could. What is that
in my life? I've got a business, I've got a baby.
I travel all over the United States.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
You get me in an airport.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
I can figure out how to get you on another
flight with a meal and a drink before you have
to board.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
But I can't.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Do what You don't have that because you are very great.
Oh no, okay, there's something I yes, it's why.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Okay, this is what I will say about you. You
are the most responsible, by far friend I have most responsible.
You are all yes, yes you don't, there's no rebuttal
here you are. You always have a solution for any problem,
like whether it's the sickness, whether it's the thing that
we were you know, wanting to we want to talk
(08:25):
about health and wellness. You have seven hundred answers for that.
If it's we're going on a trip, here's the travel
agent like you have. You are, which is probably why
you get frustrated, rightfully so with other people that don't
keep up as fast, because you're moving at one thousand
miles an hour and you always have a solution for
the problems, and you're someone if you don't have a
(08:45):
solution for the problem, then you'll ask like you have
no problem asking. This is my issue, and I brought
it up with Steve before. Not to make this about
our plus ones, because we love them, we will be
the first to praise them over and over again. But
I am someone that if I don't know the answer
to something, I ask. For example, here at the ranch,
there are seven thousand fucking things I don't know about
(09:06):
running a ranch. I've never owned a ranch, I've never
worked on a farm, I've never done anything. I've never
had farm animals before.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
So I ask questions.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
I love Steve, Steve, maybe this is a guy thing
and I hate to stereotype, but like he won't ask questions,
he'll just pretend like he knows, and he's like, oh, yeah, yeah,
yeah I know. And I'm like, no, you don't know.
You have no fucking idea what you're talking about. So
in that situation, I just think that we, you and I,
particularly with our personalities, we're okay with not knowing, but
we want to find the answer and then let's keep
(09:35):
it moving. Let's not just guess and keep making mistakes.
So whether that's sickness or whether that's in sickness and
in health, till death do us part and I'm going
to kill you, So who knows. But yeah, let's go
back to that cash registry.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
AnyWho, I got a thing too with sicknesses that you
just brought up, sickness and health. I need to know
the symptoms from everybody. You have a cough for kind
of cough, Just gonna ask you. You said you're coughing. Are
you coughing stuff up?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Are you spitting it out? Yeah? What color?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (10:06):
White? Yellow? Green? Yeah? Mine was green. I left it
in too long.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
I thought I had pneumonia, but I was fine because
I did something about it had the doctor come over.
Doctor Cindy checked my chest. Good Cindy's great rolled in
an ivy. I could have gotten that guy a vitamin ivy.
Guess who wouldn't have been sleeping for two days. Also,
sleeping for two days isn't helping get up, walk around?
Speaker 1 (10:26):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
A virus hates fluid and exercise, get help. Sounds so
fun to be married to me. I hear myself nagging,
and I say to him, I don't want to nag.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
I said the same thing to Steve today. I looked
at him and I go, do you like me? And
he goes, yeah, Why do you ask that? I go,
I don't know, because I just felt myself like I
kept saying things over and over. Why am I having
to say them? I might want to have to be
this way. You're making me this, you are making maybe
this way like I'll say it. Yesterday it was our birthday.
(11:05):
I am, I am so sorry, you're sick. I am fine.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
We did not go to dinner.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
He had a lovely reservation set up at Felix, one
of my favorite places to go.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
I love Felix great. I love that he made the reservation.
I don't want gifts. I don't want anything.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
He was too sick. But the problem is the way
he went about it. I'm great, I gave you the sickness.
I get it. Go go get it out of you. Go.
Deal comes up.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
I'm supposed to take my kid to a hockey birthday
party with my husband because it's the hockey families.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Well, I don't know if I should. I shouldn't, I
shouldn't do impressions. I don't know if I should go
to the kid birthday because there's a lot of kids
there and I don't want to get them sick. Okay,
So I have a question, why have you been breathing
all over our kid today? If you're gonna declare this,
go breathe some declare. I do declare. So he took.
(12:07):
I took the kid, had a great time.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Shout out to my gym, Mickey Mouse, party, mommy ware
mouth shirt.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
I felt it. It was great. Come on, dad for
the first.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Hour because it was in the middle of the nap time.
You give that guy a cupcake. He's a fucking life
of the party. Ready to go. We come home, we're sleeping. Okay,
I need to not do an impression.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
We get up.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
How you doing not great? Okay, get in there. I'll
deal with Mac. You could help me take the dog
for a walk. It's outside. But I got it fine.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
All good.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Now comes the lingering, because it's time to either make
a decision.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
About going to the restaurant or not. I'm fully prepared.
We're not going. I got my show, we're watching. We're fine.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
You already knew it wasn't gonna happen. Well, i'd really
still like to take you to dinner. I don't understand
you didn't come to the birthday party. You have fever,
and you claim you have a fever, but I don't
know if I have a paper because I don't know
where the thermometer is, and I have the chills.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Dinner, We're just not going to dinner. I'm good with it.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Go.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
I ordered my bottle in, I had seven pieces of
garlic bread. I had an Italian wedding soup. I watched
your friends and your neighbors and your lovers or whatever
it's called.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
And I'm good. But I don't shout out to Apple.
We shout out to Apple, shout out to our guy.
Just go deal. So how would you have liked him
to handle that.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Babe, I feel like shit, here are my symptoms this
I feel What should I do? Great, let's call doctor
Cindy if he needs some meds, which now he declares
he did. He could have been on him yesterday. Okay,
we're just we're laying around. I don't think laying around
is doing anything.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
You don't like the in between, like if there's a problem,
what's the solution, and at least you know that you're
working towards it, not this like I don't like the
vote to do we got stuff new?
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Yeah, but I get it.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
It's like you just wanted him to make it seemed
like he was finding a solution to his problem, not
the in between of like he also got.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
A baby, like and now Mac is probably going to
get this, which it's my fault. I brought it into
the Stop.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
You need to stop acting like your patient number one
of COVID. Okay, Like, this is it's a cold, this
is a common cold.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
This is not you don't even know what I have.
You have a cold?
Speaker 3 (14:21):
Okay, cheers out there dealing with men who have cold. Yeah,
this is this is why women though have children. This
is why women are you know, yes exactly. And also menopause.
I always thought for the longest time it was metopause.
News flash, it's menopause and here the whole time. Who
(14:43):
knew I would have missed that in the spelling Bee.
There's a lot of jobs that we've had over our
great twenty year career that we've been fortunate enough to
have the job that I have. Two jobs that you
had that I wish I would have had at some point.
I would have loved to work on college game Day
and the spelling Bee. That's spelling me, gig I. You
and I have never talked about it. I so stupid
(15:05):
allude to the TV and thinking to myself, I could
be on that. No, you cannot, I before except after
c What are you talking about, Carissa? Was it as
magical as it appeared? Because I just wanted to hug
all of those children.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Hug all of them. They were so much smarter, obviously
than I'll ever be. Scholastic scholar? What made it so great?
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Scholastic scholar was that shout out to Jeter forgetting his degree.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Yes, and I love that, Jeet. It's cute the best.
My tailboom's killing me. What was I gonna say that that. Oh,
Tom Bergeron. I hosted it with Tom Bergeron.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
He made it so much fun because he was so
he's so dry, so sarcastic. And you have to be
with those kids because you know, they're so intense and
so intense. You know, you're interviewing a thirteen year old
that just spelled a word that I've never heard of,
and you're making fun of yourself and them, and I
mean not making fun of them, but the environment.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Course, yeah, I always I don't know, let me think
of that. Just I love the spell and be Also,
did you ever watch those shows? I know you did,
actually the cheerleading competitions? Yeah, speaking what.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Yeah, you were like they do they still have those? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:14):
Those like Fly in the Air was always on ESPN
two and I was like these people the tumbling competitions
or whatever they were.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Oh yeah, fire UK really good. L's a good dance team,
Ohio State. It's a good dance team.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
I forgot I.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
Think seven eight so good. Oh so that's a trip.
I'm emoryily Okay. We also have some headlines here that
I would love. So we always ask you guys, and
we appreciate the anonymous questions that we give for our pregame.
We have an anonymous follow up which is very exciting.
So the original question was from January seventh. The question
was weekend ski trip with a boy I've never been
(16:53):
on a date with.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Go for it.
Speaker 3 (16:55):
Mutual friends says he's a great guy. We said, yes,
yours surely. Aaron and I said, do it. Go for it,
have a great time, see what happens, you know all
the things. Here's the follow up. I took the trip,
had an absolute blast. We had the most perfect weekend.
It felt like we'd known each other for years. Only
issue in parentheses exactly what you brought up was the
(17:16):
bathroom situation we had brought up. If you have to
go to the bathroom you're sharing a room, it's always like,
oh God. Felt like I didn't go the entire weekend
to anyone doubting whether to take a trip or to
go on a date with that person. Do it? Anonymous.
First of all, thank you for following up. I'm so
happy that you went for it, and who cares where
it goes after that? If it ends up being like
a you know for everything, great, then invite us to
(17:38):
your wedding. If it doesn't, at least you like, you know,
tried something different instead of just being afraid and then
always wondered like what could have?
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Would have should of? I love that, And I.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Know doctors wouldn't endoorse being a back up Betty and
not being able to go when you need to.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
But hey, risky for the biscuit.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
You know, when you met body, I think in track,
when you get home, your body definitely knows that.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
It's like, hey, now is not the time that we're
going to have. I mean, we're trying to blow out
the weekend with fun, not the bathroom, you know, my god,
But the move in that situation is always the go
get coffee, go get out of the room, because then
you're either in a public bathroom, which no one.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Needs going to public bathroom.
Speaker 3 (18:23):
But I'm saying for him too. I'm saying for him too.
Maybe he's guys are routine. They go to the bathroom please,
you know, are saying anywhere others every morning. I remember
my daddy's like grabbed the newspaper and we're always like,
oh God, but like men do that. Men are so
regular and whatever, like girls just we don't even go.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
So we used to call it. In our house, dad's
thinking about the Red Sox. Depending on how long he's
thinking about the Red Sox. Are they going to the
World Series? Is this finally the year?
Speaker 3 (18:53):
We don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
What's Dad doing. He's thinking about but always.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Grabbed this sports page too, and then we're like, oh
my god, who wants to read the sports page after
it's been in there for an hour? And then the
sprang the air freshener, like we know what happened, and
that stale, like you know, a low hall Hawaiian smell
that's in the air fresher is not helping things.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Just light a match, keep it moving. I'll make her
as a child, I'll tell this story. I don't care
my grandmother. I don't know why she died to decide.
She was living in this.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Adorable retirement home community in o'calla. Then she laughed after
my grandfather.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
Passed, married some guy and then lived in like a trailer,
not like a bad trailer, but I don't know, Okalla,
like it was like a bigger trailer, like I don't
know those interesting choice. We took her out, I think
for her eightieth birthday. I was in college. I came
home for it, or maybe I was.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Just out of college.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
My cousin bo blew up the bathroom right by where
we were sitting in the living room, and it was
one of those like are you okay like and then
leaves the door wide open as we're sitting in the
living room and we're just like, I I it must
have been college I was in because I was thinking.
(20:19):
I looked at my sister. I'm like, we're gonna need
some more mics. I let me get through this one,
you know. Oh god, true story.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Okay, not the mics are lemonade.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
Yeah, holy shit. Literally, Oh that's funny, that's good stuff.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
People are crazy away from common decency. Okay, I'm just
gonna leave her. What is this about me?
Speaker 3 (20:57):
No, it is about with me, like OCD, like cleaning
bathrooms because before guests that we've had at our house
at different times, to make sure that like the toilets
and everything is always clean and anything they need. Here's
the white, here's the spray, here's this whatever, like matches.
It's like, let me stay on this conversation way too long,
but like that is bathroom etiquette in general is just
(21:20):
like come on, wake up, everybody, but nothing is worse, Honestly,
nothing is worse that when you go into the bathroom
and somebody else has been in there before you and
you know that they've done it, and then you go
in right after, like let's say you're at a party
or whatever it is, and you're like, they're gonna think
it's me, because now the next person in the bathroom
(21:40):
is gonna go in there and smell, and they're gonna
look at me, and I'm gonna be like, I did it.
That was not me, that was the person in front.
So I like make a car, I like make a
whole scene of it. I'm like, I'm walking up the bathroom.
If I see I'm like, oh my god, who I'll.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Do the thing, or I'll be like go ahead and
you can go ahead. I'll wait for the next one.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
No, right, because I'm like, I am not, I'm not
going to be accused of that first degree murder that
just happened there because they killed that toilet and I
am not.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I'm not wanting to go to jail over that.
Speaker 3 (22:10):
So I will stand over here absolutely not. Murder was
the case that they gave me.
Speaker 4 (22:15):
Murder, she wrote, and that's all she wrote.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Moving right along. Hey, you want to do some headlines, babe?
I would love to Number one tips for moms and
wives kidding who are feeling overwhelmed. This is from the
Today Show. I actually saw some of this. It was
really good.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Lean on one or two people in your life who
can be your support system. You don't need hours and
hours of their time unless you're me.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Research show.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
Research shows you only need one hour per week to
connect with someone who can validate your feelings.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Oh that's us.
Speaker 3 (22:55):
This is my podcast is one hour a day, and
this is you and I. The whole impetus of this
podcast was because we spend hours talking on the phone,
or an hour or even you know, fifteen minute long
voice notes.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Being able to vent.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
Yeah, I think I it's very cathartic for me to
get everything out. You are the person that I do
that the most with. And once I say it, I
automatically feel better or I hear myself say it, and
it's either one of two things. Either not as bad
as I thought it was, or it's that bad and
I'm justified in feeling the way that I am. So
(23:31):
a lot of sometimes people are like, oh, I journal
to get my feelings out. No, not me. I'm like
to you or on this podcast or whatever. Mind I'm
able to like step you do journal, No, you're my journal.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
I mean I do like I will manifest things like
a lot of stuff, but I need to do it
a little bit more consistently about it.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
But I can't. There are people going to write it
any read it. It's too hard to remember. I can
barely remember to put by cast or oil in my
belly button. You tell you have a lot of things.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Too many, and now it's turned into O C D
at this point, it's a psycho.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Have you been doing the peptide? Yeah, no, not the peptid,
the spray? Well, have you been doing your shot?
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (24:14):
The shot?
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Yeah, that's thought. We were talking about the peptide the
like thing. Yeah no, that's fine, the spray and the peptid.
So Aaron's got a dreamt a peptide. We've got a
we got a spray, we got a peptide. But what
And I don't I don't know how I feel about
you saying belly button.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
So there's that. What do you call it? The hole
in your belly?
Speaker 3 (24:31):
No, I just don't like belly, like belly and general
belly button, belly button, and like when you put you.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Put castro, what does that make you go to the bathroom?
All conversations with their toxins. But then I saw something
on Instagram that said, it's not so. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Basically, I have too many things going on. I have
my supplements that I take. I have my castor oil
in my hole in my belly and then or stomach.
I have our glutathion spray. I have our peptide shot.
I have my peptide under my tongue. I'm I'm like glod.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
But you look young? How about yesterday?
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Remember when remember when Jared said to you, like, oh,
you look a lot younger than you are. Guess what
Steve said to me the morning of my forty third birthday.
So it was overcast here at the ranch, and so
I was like, let's just use this as a day.
We'll be cozy, we'll be inside, it's Sunday, we'll light
a fire, we'll just like knock it off. So I
sit down on the couch and he goes, well, you're old,
now get on over here. First of all, who said
(25:30):
you're old? Now get on over here. It's like my
house what are you talking about? Don't say you're old?
Now get on over here. How about I don't want
to be anywhere near you now?
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Like what we should have been together for a pace,
Because that's not what I meant. I'm confused. How should
I interpret you're old?
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Now get on over here, Come sit on, sit on
daddy's lape.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Yeah, what are you talking about?
Speaker 4 (25:54):
Hey?
Speaker 3 (25:54):
This leads us right into the next one, divorce something
I know something about. Divorce lawyer reveals the four mistakes
couples make prioritizing your work or kids over your marriage.
One of the main reasons why couples separate is the
other person doesn't have a job.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Oh that's that's not what it says. But that's what
I said.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Is that they lose focus on their relationship and they
put the others, typically their work or kids, ahead of
their marriage. Look, there's a myriad of different reasons why
people get divorced, but I will only speak from my
experience that we just didn't align in work ethic. But
in this particular case was as it pertains to kids
or marriage. I for my dad used to have a
(26:31):
thing where he would always say he still does actually
even though I've been out of the house for twenty
something years now. He's like, your mother is my first priority.
She was here before you, she'll be here after you.
She always comes before you, guys. So growing up I
just always heard him say that, like we never superseded
her in everything. So I think that you know, for you,
(26:51):
you could speak to this more because you're married with
a child. But like, how easy it is to put
back before your relationship because he's a baby and need
you and all that stuff.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
So just good to think about. I guess.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Yep, there's more other reasons for common mistakes communicating but
not comprehending. I actually really like this one. As the
saying goes, communication is key, but it's more than that.
Couples need to not only communicate, but also comprehend what
their partner is saying.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
Yeah, so there's all my therapy. There was a very
and I need to remember this because again we you
and I are not adverse. And I believe a lot
of people listening to these podcasts or any podcasts for example,
or like open to whether they want to be entertained
or informed or whatever. I'm not adverse to getting better
(27:40):
in areas that I'm deficient. For example, I'm not a
great communicator. I fly off the handle and then I
apologize after the fact. I need to slow down. I
need to take in the information and not react so quickly.
So one of the things that I learned in therapy
that I still need to sharpen my skills on is
this idea. So let me So, let's say you say
(28:02):
something to me like, pretend like you're Steve and you
are annoyed with me. Say something that you're annoyed.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
By I'm saying something annoying to you. Yeah, you know
you're Steve and you're annoyed with me at something. So
say something like, oh, I don't like when you do
da da da da da. I don't like when you
tell me to slow down.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Okay, So let me understand what you're saying, because I
want I want to hear you. So you're saying that
you don't like what I tell you to slow down.
So you repeat back what the person is saying, Okay,
And then it's what can I do to make what's
a better way for me to tell you things? Like
basically like what how should I say it to you?
(28:44):
How would you like me to say slow down? Because
the current way I'm saying it is not true. So yeah,
you take in the information, you repeat it back so
that you understand they understand, you know that your messaging
is the same, and then ask them how they would
like you to say it does something that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
I just get through with that, I know.
Speaker 3 (29:03):
And it's all about like, because it's everything is not
what you say, it's how you say it. Think about it.
All of us are like this, you know, right where
we're like you're a fucking loser, and it's like, no,
you're not a loser, but like I'm annoyed with you
right now, frustrating me.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
You're frustrating me.
Speaker 3 (29:18):
So I wonder if we even just said things like that,
like this is not realistic because like, who's going to
do this in a moment of panic, be like, well, see,
you're frustrating me right now because you're moving so fast.
So if you would mind, wouldn't mind slowing down a
little bit? I think it would be better for our relationship,
don't you Steve He'd be like, yeah, bab you.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
Got it, no problem.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Meanwhile, I'm like slow the fuck down and screaming like
a psychopath.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
But like and then you should end it by saying
and coming up after the break, we'll have more dedications
and love letters on Delilah after dark.
Speaker 3 (29:51):
Seriously, but the other ones rushing into romance, I am
so guilty of that. I like think that because you
say you like me, we're in love. Uh, and then
falling into the temptation of social media. I'm not sure
about this one. Instagram past, Facebook albums, TikTok, TikTok, videos,
TikTok keep us connected. Sometimes seeing the highlights of someone's
life being one clickway, isn't that great for our relationship?
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (30:13):
I mean you might know, like that, you think that
that person's so great based off their social media or something.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
Maybe it's not real, not real, it's not real. And
the people that you see we're sun love, No, they're not.
They're probably a month away from divorce. Stop it.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
We always had a thing like the more people post
about how they are, the the least like, the least
likely they are to succeed.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
Which leads me into this what number five.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
I'm leaving berries on the morning of the birthday, our
birthday yesterday, and I'm scrolling through Instagram because I shouldn't,
and it's a guilty pleasure, and I see Happy birthday
to my wife. You want to know why our life's
not perfect because look at the photo posted me. You
(31:01):
can't because I asked him to take it down. I
am the hunchback of Notre Dame. I have a jowy
puss on my face, not because I'm trying to because
Mac doesn't feel good.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
In the photo.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
We're easter egg hunting at a at Underwood Farm. Shout out,
what a great place, adorable. Mac didn't feel well, so
I'm trying to navigate him. He's whining he doesn't feel good,
but I'm getting him what a concept out for the
day so he can forget about being sick.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
Happy birthday to my wife. We love you so much.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
I'm like this, why why just don't post? So then
you have to call him. You called him and said
take that down.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
I said, what's going on? Why are you doing this
to me? Like? I understand you don't feel good, but
has that impaired your brain? I like the photo? No,
you like the photo of Mac. Mac looks adorable in
his basket. He's like raw his mother. But oh, I thought,
(32:06):
I like this picture. You don't? Oh God? And now Steve,
it's not time for you to come in yet, Steve,
how are you feeling? I'm so sorry. He just goes,
I'm hungry. You know. It's to record from two to
three thirty.
Speaker 3 (32:25):
Okay, Well, I'm gonna talk about you and you're either
gonna listen to it or you're gonna.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
He just goes go for it.
Speaker 3 (32:32):
Well, no, it's actually not talking shit because at this
point Steve knows to only post pictures of me that
he knows that I would like. Of Blonda, there's there's
no there's no pictures that like he's going to be like,
you know, you know who does that already? The Google
searches we have of ourselves already have enough pictures of
us that are the whole reds.
Speaker 4 (32:52):
You have provided us a great life.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Happy birthday?
Speaker 3 (33:02):
Does Hey, you want to end this on a positive
note because we both got we both got gifts from
our significant other that were so meaningful, that we're so meaningful,
and that he's really all that you really loved. You
got two pictures of you with Howie and look with Steve.
This is I told Steve, I said I don't want
any I literally looked a him. I said I don't
(33:23):
want a goddamnthday. I said, I'll tell you why. We're
going on a really nice trip soon. I said, let's
not try to get goofy and spend it on that right,
I said, you know what I want? I said, I
want a card from all the animals here at the ranch.
So he shout out to Steve. Actually, look, you can listen.
I'm not talking about you. He went to the store
and body card that had a cow on it, a
(33:44):
sheep on it, a dog on it, a cat on it,
wrote like they were each from one of the animals. Hysterical,
and then he made this photo it is the last
supper with all of my animals, and willis like he's
Jesus Christ in the middle of the table. Amenah, I
mean hasty with you and also with those animals. Yeah,
(34:06):
I'm like great, that's all I wanted. So anyways, they're
not perfect, but there.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
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