May 22, 2025 • 34 mins
While Charissa is away, producer Ryan Musick joins Erin for this week’s episode of the Calm Down podcast. They answer your questions, give you their in-car essentials and share their differing views about long distance relationships. Then Erin can’t hold it in any longer as she shares some devastating news.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I think one of the things I'm so sad about
is I'm going to have to do a better job
with dealing with my feelings with this, because the last
time we had such loss, I didn't and I suffered
with it. I've been sitting here thinking about Taylor Swift song.
I can do it with a broken heart. I'm really
good at doing this ship with a broken heart. Calm
Down with Aaron and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Honestly I have.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
I don't know where she is, so I think to
welcome you to Calm Down Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
That's how we do it. Sometimes sometimes we know where
she is. Sometimes we don't know where she is, and
that's okay. That's how I think. I think we do
this like that sounds like a good time to me. Listen.
I'm just happy to be here.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
You know, are we starting?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I guess we can.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
This is it?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Hi, guys, Welcome to the Calm Down Podcast. I am
right now with our producer, slash perfect husband, slash greatest
guy and greatest guy to find things quickly. In a
chat our main man Ryan, we just said it perfectly.
(01:08):
We don't know where Carisa is. There's no need to
take out a missing person's ad. We've seen the internet
with Lauren Bezos at her bachelorette Oh sorry, Lauren Sanchez,
I call her Besos at her bachelorette party. But from
from here to can to Paris, we don't know where
she is right now.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Listen, we've talked about in the past. People have, you know,
made comments about you on social media? What you wear
your hat on the sidelines. Maybe you're Carmen san Diego,
but I think for this week it's Carissa's Carmen san Diego.
Because where in the world is Carissa Thompson. Nobody really knows.
But she is safe, so we don't need to be
concerned about that. She's having a good time. We're letting
her do her thing. And yeah, I am very grateful
(01:49):
to be stepping in this week.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Yeah, I love you for that and thank you so
much for that. Yeah, I feel like you did your hair.
You put on a golf shirt and everything.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Yeah, I combed my hair. Yeah, put on a collared
shirt for you the times. Yeah, I had to make
the bed, you know classics hotel?
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Is that? Oh you're in a hotel room?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Oh yeah, oh yeah, are.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Right?
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Will you let people know what your real job is,
so people can appreciate your hours and the fun person
that you get to work with. That's more OCD. And
add he's actually not a d D. He's OCD right.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Yeah. So yeah, look, my as with you and Carissa,
you have what you would say are sort of your
primary jobs with NFL on Fox. What my primary job
would be is I am the producer for The Herd
with Colin Cowherd. So that's our daily show nine to
noon Pacific noon to three Eastern Monday through Friday, FS
(02:53):
one and iHeart so yeah. Every day, I wake up
about four am. Our prep meeting starts about six am.
We do prep for about two hours, then Colin goes
to hair and makeup, myself and the rest of the
production team continue to put the show together. Then we
go live at nine am and we run that till noon,
(03:13):
and then on Mondays, I have the great pleasure of
jumping in the car heading home from the studio, doing
it with you lovely ladies, and then working the podcast
in the hours that I'm not working The Herd. And
so that's why sometimes in those crazy weeks during the
NFL season or in the off season, when things are
moving around. I'm not always able to make the recording
(03:35):
sessions because you want to move it up into earlier
in the day, and unfortunately I got to be with
Colin during that time. So yeah, that's sort of how
things work for me, is I do that show in
the morning and then work with you guys in the afternoon.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
He deals with three different types of media personality, which
I don't envy you at all, but you do stuch
your great job.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
You're newly married, can we still say that? Or you
newly married?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Married almost five years? So I don't know what the
time gone, right, I know, right, tell me about it. Yeah,
we actually, let's see in about a month. What are
we in May? Yeah, a month from now is when
we started dating ten years ago, and so that's sort
of how we feel, is we're like, have we been
together a decade now? That's hard to believe. So yeah,
(04:23):
but yeah, that's that's where we're at. So not so
much newly what news, but it feels like it. We'll
we'll go ahead and say that it feels like it.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
I'll explain much later why I'm my body is completely
numb right now. So you've been together for ten years,
but been married for five Jared and I will be
celebrating seven years, and then two thousand right after the
twenty twelve Stanley Cup is when we met.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
So how many years is that?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Two thousand and twenty ten after the twenty twelve cop
twenty twelve, so that's thirteen years?
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Oh wow? Yeah, So year five marriage? What does that bring?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Like?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
What what?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Not? Complications? But what are we dealing with your five
in a marriage?
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Well, for us, it's mostly that sort of trying to
grow our family type of phase. So that's where we're
at our whole thing. So obviously, if you do the
simple math, five year marriage means that we were right
in the thick of twenty twenty pandemic when we were
trying to get married. So we had these grand pictures
of you know, hey, our wedding's going to be in May.
(05:32):
We have our house that we're getting, we're going to
close on in June, we're gonna have our honeymoon. It's
going to be great, and then that got all blown up.
We still got our house, but then our wedding ended
up being in October. My god, honeymoon had to be
in twenty twenty one, you know, everything's great, first world problems,
you know, all things considered, everything's great. But you know,
so that sort of delayed our timeline on how we
thought being married, having a honeymoon, grow in a family,
(05:55):
everything sort of pushed back a year or two or so.
So that's sort of the fay that we're entering in now.
And you know that brings its own challenges of as
you've well laid out that you just got to kind
of take it as it comes. And we're just working
through that and everything's been great. We're you know, it's
(06:16):
funny because people will ask, like, what's your biggest fight? Look,
we've had fights over the years, but like you really
have to sit there and think about like, oh, okay, wow,
what would be our biggest fight? And it's like maybe
three years ago now you know something, and and it's
always something trivial, right, You're always like, well you said
this and it made me think or feel this, and
(06:36):
it's never as big of a deal. Like you can't
even half the time, you can't even remember, you're just no,
I mean, like, what were we even so upset about?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Okay, so what what do we what do we can
we even give us insight you know what, Chrison, I
fight with Jared and Steve about what are you guys fighting?
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Yeah, your wife annoyed?
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Oh totally, I mean like that. That's always it's it's
very similar to what you guys will say, right, is
I see so much of myself and Stephen Jarrett to
where it's like, I'm a patient, I'm a patient person, right,
And so it's always I think it was Steve who
may have hit on this when you guys did the
(07:15):
Plus one episode where it's it's not as much what
you say, it's how you say it.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
And so my dad preaches, Jared preaches, I need to
understand that a lot better than I do.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
And so that's so often where we'll have a disagreement
is it's just I have, like my patient's threshold is
very high. But then if that's been surpassed, because it's
I've no longer willing to just be patient with the
fact that it's like, Okay, you know what, we don't
need to have this attitude or we don't need to
(07:47):
be saying it like this, or hey, we even considered this.
So that's yeah, more often than not, and to what
we were saying is like at the core of what
we think the disagreement is. You're like, this isn't even
an issue, like why are we arguing about it? But
it's you've said it a certain way, and now I'm upset,
and now I've responded to you, and now you're even
more upset by the way that I've responded to you.
(08:09):
And you don't even remember what you're arguing about.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Anymore exactly, and in the grain scheme of things, it's
not even friggin' worth it anyway.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
You feel so dumb.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Now take me to dinner and let's get you know.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
And that's and that's marriage, right is you have to
go through those things. And then you're just like, well,
it looks like we're going to continue to be around
each other all the time, so I guess we'll just
get over this.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Very true, very true.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Hey, do you want to do some pregame questions? Since
you're the producer? Is that when we do this year?
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Should we do it? That's right?
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Right?
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I'll take the first one and then you can you
can play the role of Chris and read the second
Our Essentials. I just recently got a new car and
trying to figure out what I need.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
I know, I like a big SUV, but I have
to be careful about an suv. I don't know if
they mean type of car what you need in it.
I need a good sound system, I need a ride
where I feel like I'm up high, and I need
something durable.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (09:18):
So, I when I saw this one, I took it
as what do you need inside the car with you?
Which is something that Yeah, it's something that's like really
it's something that's really changed over the years, right because
the whole bluetooth thing, like it used to be like
you had to have like the CDs or the ox
cord or all of those things to get you through
(09:39):
actually driving. Now, as long as you have your phone,
all of that stuff's provided. I'm a big You gotta
have an emergency water like tucked into the door somewhere. Yeah,
I gotta have that because although you never need it,
you never end up actually using the emergency water. It
is important to have the emergency water available in case
(10:02):
there's a situation, especially when you're in LA you're constantly
being stuck in traffic. What you think is supposed to
take forty five minutes ends up taking an hour. And
a half and you're just parched beyond belief. So I'm
big on the emergency water definitely, because you're never sure
when in LA the drive's going to take twice as
long as you expect. True, and you just got the
dry mouth. As you're sitting in traffic, the frustration starts
(10:25):
to build, and that's never a good situation.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Can I tell you another thing my dad got.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
My dad is so great with Christmas gifts and he
always does the scene on TV or you know, as
advertised or whatever. He got those like kind of they're
almost like an extra cushion to put in between your
seat and the console. So like the random pistachio that
I'm eating doesn't go down there. The French fry, you know,
(10:51):
my Bobby Pin things like that.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I love that thing, so you know, so that way
it makes the clean up easier, or that you're just
not concerned learned that the French fry is now sitting
under the seat for the next twenty four months.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
I get that, Yes, yes, where you can get your
phone a lot easier.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
It has because that's space there. I mean, it's a
death trap. It's gone forever, and now you're just concerned
because as you're driving in on the four or five
and stuck in traffic, you're like, well, I don't know,
maybe i'll find my phone, maybe I won't, And then
what's going to happen if I lose my phone? And
now you're just now you're just frustrated. You're concerned about
the lost phone. It's a problem. It's funny you talk
about parents and car essentials. It made me think of
(11:29):
I remember when I first started driving and your parents
would give you the Thomas Guide. Did you guys have no?
Speaker 3 (11:35):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
It was like the Toma Guide. It was like an
actual like book of maps. And like my dad was adamant,
he goes in your car, you have to have a
Thomas Guide because you need to know where you're going.
And you want to talk about something. I mean like
ox cords and Thomas Guides, things you don't need anymore
in terms of car essentials. But now that technology, obviously
with the phone, has totally made that obsolete.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Yeah, very true, very true.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
I'm big into having an extra pair of sunglasses in
the car as well. Gum a snack would be great,
but you never know if it's going to melt but
those are or in a chapstick as well. That would
I always kind of like am asking my husband, do
you have a chopstick? Do you have an extra set
of glasses?
Speaker 3 (12:17):
All the things?
Speaker 2 (12:18):
What's the shelf life on gum in the car, because
sometimes if that gets hot and then yeah, you're like, oh,
I have that emergency gum and then you have it
and you're like ooh, hell old.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Yeah is this yes? Yes?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Ooh.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
And hand sanitizer too, good one.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Always a good one post gas station, need that one?
All right? We got Eileen dot v O. Where do
I meet a hockey player husband at a bar? At
a bar?
Speaker 3 (12:44):
That's not where I met mine. Mine was set up
with Michael Strahan. But they like bars.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
They really like bars, especially postgame or if you I
don't know, where do you meet them?
Speaker 3 (12:57):
They like bars?
Speaker 2 (12:59):
For sure, I would say, obviously, you know, I myself
was not seeking a hockey husband, but sure to your
point about bars, there are Kings players. I remember growing
up in the South Bay area, ver Dondo Beach, Torrents area,
Her Beach, her Mosta beach pier, big time Kings players.
(13:22):
Oh yeah, yeah. So if you live in the southern
California area. You know, maybe frequent some of those establishments,
or find the local watering hole based off of your
current market that you're living in. And hockey players have
been known to have a good time much like football players,
I mean.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Off watering hole too.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
I've heard stories from Baker and Tristan Wurf's about local
watering holes. Sweet babies, Okay, Anonymous, how do you let
your friend know when she's overstepped in a situation? I
feel like Chris and I would both answer the same.
It's you have to tell them, but it's how you
tell them. It's all about the messaging, right Like how
(14:05):
you say it seems to be a theme.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
On this podcast.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
How you say now, what you say? Yeah, totally. I
mean I think a lot of it is just if
they're that good of a friend, and you and Carissa
talk about this a lot, is you should be able
to just give it to them straight and just go, hey, listen,
I know your intentions were in the right place, or
you thought you were doing the right thing, but I
(14:29):
just really didn't appreciate that. Or hey, next time when
it comes to something that's going on between me and
my husband, or you know, because I'm guessing overstepped in
a situation between me and my husband, or me and
my wife, or me and my parents, or me and
my brother. You know, it's just like you, maybe next time,
that wasn't the spot for you to step in, right, No, Hey,
(14:52):
I appreciate you, and I know you're always looking out
for me, but like now wasn't the time. But yeah, agree,
That's always the big thing is, if they're that close
to you, it really shouldn't be that much of an issue.
They're clearly they're clearly given it to you straight, so
you should be able to give it back to them.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Ooh I like that, Yeah, I like that.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
I also think like it's good to take a beat,
right to let everybody cool off, or let you cool
off if you're frustrated, But don't go too long of
a beat because then it gets awkward and weird.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
And all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Definitely, Oh, it's good to take a second, But you
don't want it to love that. You don't want to defester,
Never want to defester, all right. Gator gal four two
to two. What is Mac's favorite book? Gater and Mac's
favorite book?
Speaker 3 (15:39):
Mac has so many books. He is a big book.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Guy. Ok, we see as you did. Jenna and Friends.
They did a great video with Jared and Mack and
they had his book there with him. Oh yeah, it
was what's so adorable?
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Thank you? He had?
Speaker 1 (15:57):
He loves the Jimmy Fallond Dot book. I really wish
Mama would get more into the rotation kind of cool.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
I don't know. I got to look.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
It's like the ABC's of like legends, right, they have
like a golf book.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
They've had basketball.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
He had Celtics the other day and he was really
stuck on the red r back like a page, and
I was so excited taking pictures. He glossed over l
which kind of pissed me off. I'm like, listen, Larry Bird, like,
let's got gloss over it.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
I get it.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
We're going right to you know, Robert Parrish here, but
let's not gloss over el Coo. So those are cool. Yeah.
I like reading this book called Goodnight Gorilla to him.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
There's not really a.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
Lot of words.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
It's about a zoo keeper that the gorilla takes the
keys out and he's letting all his friends out, like
the elephant, the hyena, the giraffe, and they all go
back with the zoo keeper and the zookeeper doesn't see
them following him, and they all get into his bedroom
to go to sleep, and then of course his wife
wakes up and sees and there's no words, but I've
like created words where like her eyes are wide open
and I go ah, and then the ma uh and
(17:01):
then the gorilla like is awake, and so she's like,
come on, gorilla, good night gorilla.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
So Mac now every time he reads good night, Gorilla
goes ah.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
That's adorable.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
I'm a book writer, you know, obviously that's great.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Yeah, all right, Wendy Alfred Meadows, Oh, explain the peptide
shot please? Is this the NAD plus or something else?
So full disclosure. I don't want to get in trouble
with anything. I am not a doctor, but I am
so into nad's and peptides right now.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
It is my jam. Actually, Carrisa.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Came over and did this at my house with Steve
as well, and I can't wait till she gets back
and we can talk about it.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Any D is not the same as peptide. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
I can't really explain in a medical term what they do.
I know I'm obsessed with them. I would actually love
to propose that I have my doctor come on and
talk about this one time. It is sweeping the nation
and the world. It is you're writing it down to
remind yourself I am.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
I am taking a little note Aaron. Aaron doctor guests.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
On the show.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Sure partaken in any Na, dear peptides, you know I
am not.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
I am like the opposite of you and Carissa with
the whole like going so above and beyond with trying
to maximize the immunity to counteract all of the travel
and everything, which I totally understand with how imperative it
is for you for especially the football season and a
(18:32):
lot of the events and whatnot that you have to
do in the off season, Like getting sick is just
not an option, So I totally get it. But I'm
I'm more along the lines of a take a vitamin
C in the morning, drink a lot of water, and
like that's about it. So the whole idea of all
these extra steps that you guys are always venturing off
(18:56):
and looking into, like I know, a big thing, and
I think you've talked about an other people will be
like they do like to be twelve shot and things
like that, Like, I just look at that and I go,
I don't know, that's not really for me. I'm not
it doesn't. I'm not big on shots, right, Like, you know,
it's fine. I'll do the things that I got to do.
But to intentionally go out of my way, I'm like,
(19:17):
I don't know. I'd like to avoid that if I can. So, Yeah,
I get it. I get the benefits, but not for me.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
You do a multi vitamin.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
It's a good question, Kirk, Yeah, Kirk, Kirk with a
great question. I do vitamin C and vitamin D, so should.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
Be doing a multi vitamin. That's not a multi vitamin.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Ryan, all right, listen, all right, get better one day
at a time. Here we go's be doing a ten.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
We should also be doing We should also be doing magnesium.
You should be doing creatine. It's great for your brain.
I like to think I'm a doctor, and I'm not.
I can't tell you the difference between anything. But you
give me a supplement. I'm taking it.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
Coloss Frum, I'm in. I'm into it.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
All wow. Okay, well listen, multi vitamin koreatine. I got
a lot of things I got to look into here.
All right, we are on Delaney, favorite summer activity and
place to go.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
Your excitement, by the way, is adorable. I love you
so much and you're exactly what I need today.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
All right, you got It's what I'm here for. Favorite
summer activity and place to go.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
You know, I'm a big beach guy. I do love
the beach, so I will hit the beach. I could
be there all day if I have to. You know,
my wife she's more fair skinned, so we you know,
we got to pick the umbrella. Yeah, she does not
handle the sun well. And also as the opposite of Chris.
(20:43):
As you know, you try to be very mindful of
not spending too much time in the sun. My wife does.
Chris is like every time she just thinks, hey, it's fine, Yeah,
I'll just bake, and then she's surprised that she gets sunburned,
which I'm not sure exactly how that's the case. So, yeah,
I love the beach. I'll spend and all sorts of
time at the beach, play beach, volleyball, body, serf, whatever
(21:04):
the case. I'm I'm a big time Oh yeah love
look getting in the waves a little bit and getting
tossed around. Why not?
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Okay, okay, I like a good cabo situation. I love
a casida. I love the chips and guac, the tequila,
the sunshine. I'm a little bit more anal about the
sun now because HOWI long has scared the crap out
of me about skin cancer.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Right, we am not dying.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
I obviously had something, but I've spent some money on
some lasers to help with pigmentation. So now I'm like
walking around with that hat that covers all sides of
my face, which is smart and I wish I had
done it twenty years ago. We love to go to
Montana in this summer and spend time out there. We're
going to really crush it this year. So yeah, kind
(21:52):
of I say all this, but in the end, I
don't like to do anything because we have six months
of doing so much that when it's time for summer,
I already feel like summer is already over now. And
we'll explain more why in a minute. But uh, yeah,
I hate traveling because I do it so much during
the year.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
I mean, look, it makes sense that when you actually
have a small portion of the calendar to you know,
spend time at home, you're not ready to just jet
set off to somewhere, but I can imagine how much
of mental strain, if you will, that would be. Is
that by the time like July rolls around, you're thinking, oh,
I could go on vacation. Doesn't that sound nice? And
(22:32):
you're like, oh, wait, I know it's all over. I'm
actually going to be on a plane for the next
eight months. So you are no you, I imagine you
guys are going to be but it's not over yet.
You got a couple of mons.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
I hate packing. I hate preparing to pack, and I
hate unpacking. It's just the worst part of travel for me.
So that's I feel like, what ruins it? Already going somewhere.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Yeah, that's it's this may be because you're just more experienced.
I just I the airports is what's killer. And that's
mostly a me thing that I'm like, the whole i'll
get there way too early kind of thing, and then
even though I have tsa pre check and the whole thing,
and then I just end up sitting there for forty
(23:18):
five minutes to an hour, and then I'm annoyed that
I'm like, wow, I didn't need to be here. I
should have spent more time doing other things. But then inevitably,
when a time comes, time to order the uber to
go to the airport, you sure to get those nerves
and I'm like, oh, I'm going to be late. I
need to be able to go.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
But I know, see I thrive in that situation in
an airport. You give me an airport. We've talked about
it on this show all the time. Give me ten minutes.
I can get you a beverage and potentially an appetizer
and you're at the gate ready to board.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
You give me a canceled flight.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
I got your hotel where you're going to stay, or
I'm going to try to get you on another flight
to get you home.
Speaker 3 (23:52):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
It's a game.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Sure for me, it's a competition.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Yeah, always ready, always prepared, always has the answer. That's
EA for you.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Well, I don't think it's always me, but I try. Right.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
When it comes to travel logistics, you're pa.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
Oh, yeah, okay, what's next, producer, you are going to
host this show?
Speaker 2 (24:19):
I think we got one more right Anonymous? Oh shit, oh.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Yes, Anonymous. I haven't a crush and we know mutual people,
but in different states. Thoughts.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
So you've done the long distance thing. Well, I guess
they must have some sort of mutual connection with someone
because they know each other and he's crushing on her,
but he's like, can or she actually have no idea?
They are wondering is it worth reaching out and saying, hey,
you know, let's start this conversation if we live in
(24:49):
different states, thoughts. I mean, so, I've never done the
super long distance quite like of how you and Jarrett
have done when you were in New York and he
was in LA. So it's hard for me. If I
were to look at that situation, I would probably just
(25:09):
let that one be. I would go, you know what,
we live in different states. We don't really know each other.
Sure we have a mutual connection, but it just sounds
like a big hurdle to clear to start off the
relationship already in different states. But it's worked for you
and Jared. That's just in my experience. My wife and
I were both living in LA. We met in LA,
(25:29):
continue to live in LA, and that's how it's been.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Look I think it's hard to date in the same
city in a different state. It's also hard to find
the right person. I think if you have a crush
and they live in another state, I don't think that
should deter you from not moving forward.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
It just makes things a.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Little bit more complicated, but it also makes things kind
of fun when you see each other sure and hot
and exciting and all that, and I just think, give
it a whirl and see what happens. I look, it's
freaking hard to meet people, and it's hard when you're.
Speaker 3 (26:02):
Around them all the time.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
So it's like, if you have the means, if you
have the patience, if you are interested in each other
that much, see where it goes.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Yeah, I mean, it's clearly worked for you and a
lot of other people. So don't let me be the
curmudgeon in the room that's telling me not to not
to pursue a crush. I know, let's get look at memudgeon. Yeah,
we're here to celebrate positivity and look at the optimistic
side of things. So yeah, go ahead. You know what
I changed my answer, Go ahead and pursue that crush.
(26:33):
Tell them you're into them. Let's see where we can
get things going regardless of state lines. Who cares? You
can make that.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
I love it perfect.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
Absolutely, And with that, I'm going to get emotional because
I do need to get home and go see my family.
I've been sitting here writing notes about this. I didn't
want to do this podcast today, but I've realized throughout
my life, with everything that I've gone through an adversity,
sometimes this is such a great safe space. From my
(27:03):
having surgery the week of having NFL game cervical cancer surgery,
to dealing with trials, to my infertility issues. For Ryan,
he's in and Chris doesn't even know this yet. We
got some real shitty news today that our Sarahate had miscarried.
So I have dealt with this before, but things were
(27:27):
going really, really well, and her little heartbeat and her
numbers were really good, so much so I even told
you guys a couple of weeks ago because we thought
we had such good news.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
But yeah, I have.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Ryan, you did such a bang up job with this
podcast today. I've been trying really hard to pay attention.
I've just been tearing up the.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
Whole time and trying to stay focused.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
But I'm also really really good at suppressing my feelings,
and work really helps me with that. So I think
one of the things I'm so sad about is I'm
going to have to do a better job with deal
with my feelings with this because the last time we
had such loss, I didn't and I suffered with it.
I've been sitting here thinking about Taylor Swift song. I
(28:08):
can do it with a broken heart. I'm really good
at doing this shit with a broken heart. But you
had said to me, you go, you don't have to
do this today.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
You don't have to.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
But I think I kind of made a promise to
myself that when I was really open with how shitty
fertility infertility has been and our you know, our journeys
with two sarrogates, because we did lose. We had lost
with our first sarrogate and then luckily with our second one,
we had mac that I was just going to be
(28:38):
honest with people because this you've talked about trying to
have a family, and I don't know what's going on
with you guys, but it's really really hard. I just
said that to one of my girlfriends down there, down
in my office. When I told her, She's like, God,
it's so freaking hard to have a baby. So I
decided I would be honest about this. People you have
no idea what they're dealing with, and people deal more
(29:01):
with loss than they do with what the reward or
with I don't even know. I can't even think right.
But this whole thing is so shitty, and I don't
envy people that are going through it, but I envy
all the moms and the families that have to deal
with this, and you know, put on a happy face.
(29:21):
So I know my husband's having a difficult time, and
I'm going to go home and be with him, and
then we're going to throw our little two year old
in a pool and I feel like squeezes are going
to feel a little different from him today. But yeah,
like I said when I was first dealing with all
these infertility issues and loss, that I just wanted to
(29:41):
let other people know that we're dealing with them, that
I get it and I understand, and I'm going to
do that again. This really really sucks, but so many
people are dealing with it. So if you feel alone
and you feel like a failure, I do too. But
you're not the only one. So it really really sucks.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
So thank you for being such a good host today
getting my mind off of this.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Well, honestly, you're far too kind for something that I'm
just doing my best here to try and help lift
you up and listen at what you're able to do
and push through that the situation that unfortunately you're having
to face, and obviously so sorry for that loss in
these difficult times that I mean, look, we talk a
(30:28):
lot on this show, specifically about people that you come
across in the industry that are greater than what your
expectations are, and it wouldn't be more fitting than on
this episode to talk about what it is that you
do on this show and in your job and in
your role and exceeding all expectations of how successful you are,
(30:51):
what an awesome person you are, And I mean you
laid it out. You wanted to talk real quick before
we were supposed to schedule to do this. You said, hey,
I got some terrible news, and I just said, look,
we don't have to do this, let's move on from it.
But I'm glad that this provides you some sort of
comfort and openness to share these types of things on
this platform. And I mean people talk about being a
(31:13):
pros pro and that's exactly what you are, and the
vulnerability to open up and share this type of thing
and connect with people, because yeah, I mean, there's so
many people that have to deal with this on a
day to day basis, and you provide them to feel
like they are seen and heard and they're not alone,
and that's incredible.
Speaker 3 (31:33):
So yeah, I just feel like people always see, like,
you know, the success.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
And we have our baby now and I've had a
lot of people DM me about you know, I'm struggling
and I don't know what to do, and I get
you and I see you and listen just because people
you know, do different jobs and you.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
Know, or in and out of the spotlight or whatever.
I mean.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
In the end, we're all human and loss is loss,
and I get it. Like I said, Ryan, I don't
know what you guys are dealing with, but these fertility
clinics are packed and people are trying so hard to
have babies, and a lot of time you hear more
of this success than you do failure. And that's why
it was so important to me when we had gone
through so much of it and had so much loss,
(32:17):
I just wanted to be open with people and be
like this sucks and today this really does suck. So
it makes you really realize you when I have my
little boy and today he was throwing a fit royale
with us.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
It's like, you know what it doesn't matter, so would
be good.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
I just I was saying to Jarrett today, I just
don't this is like the hardest part. Well, of course
it's the hardest part, but it's like I just didn't
want to be back here, you know, in the lost
column So that's the hard part.
Speaker 3 (32:47):
But I love you for dealing with it with me.
You were so great at this.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Well thanks. I'm just I'm just here doing what I can,
not just to try and co host a podcast, but
to try and lift you know that your love and
support it the entire way. And this may feel awful
in the short term, but you're definitely not a loser
or in the lost columns. I know. Yeah, one little unfortunate,
(33:15):
awful situation, but as you said, putting your focus on
Mac is where it is, and you'll be able to
move past this. And there are so so many people
that are so grateful yeah for you shining a light
on this and making them feel like they're more normal.
And this is something that happens with a lot of people,
(33:36):
and it's not something that makes you feel like less
than and it's just the challenges that many people have
to face. So it's really incredible each and other time
that you're willing to be open about it.
Speaker 3 (33:46):
Sometimes it's easier to do the work stuff than the
real life stuff.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
You know.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
Sure you can like wear a mask and just be
talking about you know, the man flu. That's right, you
have to go home and deal with it. So yeah,
but I love you guys. Thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
I love you. And this has been incredible. So I
played but a small role to step out here today.
Speaker 3 (34:07):
Got my mind off for a few minutes.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
So I'm grateful, and you're awesome and you're incredible, and
nothing but love for you and Jared and Mac right now.
Speaker 3 (34:16):
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I think one of the things I'm so sad about
is I'm going to have to do a better job
with dealing with my feelings with this, because the last
time we had such loss, I didn't and I suffered
with it. I've been sitting here thinking about Taylor Swift song.
I can do it with a broken heart. I'm really
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Speaker 2 (00:26):
Honestly I have.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
I don't know where she is, so I think to
welcome you to Calm Down Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
That's how we do it. Sometimes sometimes we know where
she is. Sometimes we don't know where she is, and
that's okay. That's how I think. I think we do
this like that sounds like a good time to me. Listen.
I'm just happy to be here.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
You know, are we starting?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I guess we can.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
This is it?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Hi, guys, Welcome to the Calm Down Podcast. I am
right now with our producer, slash perfect husband, slash greatest
guy and greatest guy to find things quickly. In a
chat our main man Ryan, we just said it perfectly.
(01:08):
We don't know where Carisa is. There's no need to
take out a missing person's ad. We've seen the internet
with Lauren Bezos at her bachelorette Oh sorry, Lauren Sanchez,
I call her Besos at her bachelorette party. But from
from here to can to Paris, we don't know where
she is right now.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Listen, we've talked about in the past. People have, you know,
made comments about you on social media? What you wear
your hat on the sidelines. Maybe you're Carmen san Diego,
but I think for this week it's Carissa's Carmen san Diego.
Because where in the world is Carissa Thompson. Nobody really knows.
But she is safe, so we don't need to be
concerned about that. She's having a good time. We're letting
her do her thing. And yeah, I am very grateful
(01:49):
to be stepping in this week.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Yeah, I love you for that and thank you so
much for that. Yeah, I feel like you did your hair.
You put on a golf shirt and everything.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Yeah, I combed my hair. Yeah, put on a collared
shirt for you the times. Yeah, I had to make
the bed, you know classics hotel?
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Is that? Oh you're in a hotel room?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Oh yeah, oh yeah, are.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Right?
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Will you let people know what your real job is,
so people can appreciate your hours and the fun person
that you get to work with. That's more OCD. And
add he's actually not a d D. He's OCD right.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Yeah. So yeah, look, my as with you and Carissa,
you have what you would say are sort of your
primary jobs with NFL on Fox. What my primary job
would be is I am the producer for The Herd
with Colin Cowherd. So that's our daily show nine to
noon Pacific noon to three Eastern Monday through Friday, FS
(02:53):
one and iHeart so yeah. Every day, I wake up
about four am. Our prep meeting starts about six am.
We do prep for about two hours, then Colin goes
to hair and makeup, myself and the rest of the
production team continue to put the show together. Then we
go live at nine am and we run that till noon,
(03:13):
and then on Mondays, I have the great pleasure of
jumping in the car heading home from the studio, doing
it with you lovely ladies, and then working the podcast
in the hours that I'm not working The Herd. And
so that's why sometimes in those crazy weeks during the
NFL season or in the off season, when things are
moving around. I'm not always able to make the recording
(03:35):
sessions because you want to move it up into earlier
in the day, and unfortunately I got to be with
Colin during that time. So yeah, that's sort of how
things work for me, is I do that show in
the morning and then work with you guys in the afternoon.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
He deals with three different types of media personality, which
I don't envy you at all, but you do stuch
your great job.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
You're newly married, can we still say that? Or you
newly married?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Married almost five years? So I don't know what the
time gone, right, I know, right, tell me about it. Yeah,
we actually, let's see in about a month. What are
we in May? Yeah, a month from now is when
we started dating ten years ago, and so that's sort
of how we feel, is we're like, have we been
together a decade now? That's hard to believe. So yeah,
(04:23):
but yeah, that's that's where we're at. So not so
much newly what news, but it feels like it. We'll
we'll go ahead and say that it feels like it.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
I'll explain much later why I'm my body is completely
numb right now. So you've been together for ten years,
but been married for five Jared and I will be
celebrating seven years, and then two thousand right after the
twenty twelve Stanley Cup is when we met.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
So how many years is that?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Two thousand and twenty ten after the twenty twelve cop
twenty twelve, so that's thirteen years?
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Oh wow? Yeah, So year five marriage? What does that bring?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Like?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
What what?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Not? Complications? But what are we dealing with your five
in a marriage?
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Well, for us, it's mostly that sort of trying to
grow our family type of phase. So that's where we're
at our whole thing. So obviously, if you do the
simple math, five year marriage means that we were right
in the thick of twenty twenty pandemic when we were
trying to get married. So we had these grand pictures
of you know, hey, our wedding's going to be in May.
(05:32):
We have our house that we're getting, we're going to
close on in June, we're gonna have our honeymoon. It's
going to be great, and then that got all blown up.
We still got our house, but then our wedding ended
up being in October. My god, honeymoon had to be
in twenty twenty one, you know, everything's great, first world problems,
you know, all things considered, everything's great. But you know,
so that sort of delayed our timeline on how we
thought being married, having a honeymoon, grow in a family,
(05:55):
everything sort of pushed back a year or two or so.
So that's sort of the fay that we're entering in now.
And you know that brings its own challenges of as
you've well laid out that you just got to kind
of take it as it comes. And we're just working
through that and everything's been great. We're you know, it's
(06:16):
funny because people will ask, like, what's your biggest fight? Look,
we've had fights over the years, but like you really
have to sit there and think about like, oh, okay, wow,
what would be our biggest fight? And it's like maybe
three years ago now you know something, and and it's
always something trivial, right, You're always like, well you said
this and it made me think or feel this, and
(06:36):
it's never as big of a deal. Like you can't
even half the time, you can't even remember, you're just no,
I mean, like, what were we even so upset about?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Okay, so what what do we what do we can
we even give us insight you know what, Chrison, I
fight with Jared and Steve about what are you guys fighting?
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Yeah, your wife annoyed?
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Oh totally, I mean like that. That's always it's it's
very similar to what you guys will say, right, is
I see so much of myself and Stephen Jarrett to
where it's like, I'm a patient, I'm a patient person, right,
And so it's always I think it was Steve who
may have hit on this when you guys did the
(07:15):
Plus one episode where it's it's not as much what
you say, it's how you say it.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
And so my dad preaches, Jared preaches, I need to
understand that a lot better than I do.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
And so that's so often where we'll have a disagreement
is it's just I have, like my patient's threshold is
very high. But then if that's been surpassed, because it's
I've no longer willing to just be patient with the
fact that it's like, Okay, you know what, we don't
need to have this attitude or we don't need to
(07:47):
be saying it like this, or hey, we even considered this.
So that's yeah, more often than not, and to what
we were saying is like at the core of what
we think the disagreement is. You're like, this isn't even
an issue, like why are we arguing about it? But
it's you've said it a certain way, and now I'm upset,
and now I've responded to you, and now you're even
more upset by the way that I've responded to you.
(08:09):
And you don't even remember what you're arguing about.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Anymore exactly, and in the grain scheme of things, it's
not even friggin' worth it anyway.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
You feel so dumb.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Now take me to dinner and let's get you know.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
And that's and that's marriage, right is you have to
go through those things. And then you're just like, well,
it looks like we're going to continue to be around
each other all the time, so I guess we'll just
get over this.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Very true, very true.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Hey, do you want to do some pregame questions? Since
you're the producer? Is that when we do this year?
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Should we do it? That's right?
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Right?
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I'll take the first one and then you can you
can play the role of Chris and read the second
Our Essentials. I just recently got a new car and
trying to figure out what I need.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
I know, I like a big SUV, but I have
to be careful about an suv. I don't know if
they mean type of car what you need in it.
I need a good sound system, I need a ride
where I feel like I'm up high, and I need
something durable.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (09:18):
So, I when I saw this one, I took it
as what do you need inside the car with you?
Which is something that Yeah, it's something that's like really
it's something that's really changed over the years, right because
the whole bluetooth thing, like it used to be like
you had to have like the CDs or the ox
cord or all of those things to get you through
(09:39):
actually driving. Now, as long as you have your phone,
all of that stuff's provided. I'm a big You gotta
have an emergency water like tucked into the door somewhere. Yeah,
I gotta have that because although you never need it,
you never end up actually using the emergency water. It
is important to have the emergency water available in case
(10:02):
there's a situation, especially when you're in LA you're constantly
being stuck in traffic. What you think is supposed to
take forty five minutes ends up taking an hour. And
a half and you're just parched beyond belief. So I'm
big on the emergency water definitely, because you're never sure
when in LA the drive's going to take twice as
long as you expect. True, and you just got the
dry mouth. As you're sitting in traffic, the frustration starts
(10:25):
to build, and that's never a good situation.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Can I tell you another thing my dad got.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
My dad is so great with Christmas gifts and he
always does the scene on TV or you know, as
advertised or whatever. He got those like kind of they're
almost like an extra cushion to put in between your
seat and the console. So like the random pistachio that
I'm eating doesn't go down there. The French fry, you know,
(10:51):
my Bobby Pin things like that.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I love that thing, so you know, so that way
it makes the clean up easier, or that you're just
not concerned learned that the French fry is now sitting
under the seat for the next twenty four months.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
I get that, Yes, yes, where you can get your
phone a lot easier.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
It has because that's space there. I mean, it's a
death trap. It's gone forever, and now you're just concerned
because as you're driving in on the four or five
and stuck in traffic, you're like, well, I don't know,
maybe i'll find my phone, maybe I won't, And then
what's going to happen if I lose my phone? And
now you're just now you're just frustrated. You're concerned about
the lost phone. It's a problem. It's funny you talk
about parents and car essentials. It made me think of
(11:29):
I remember when I first started driving and your parents
would give you the Thomas Guide. Did you guys have no?
Speaker 3 (11:35):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
It was like the Toma Guide. It was like an
actual like book of maps. And like my dad was adamant,
he goes in your car, you have to have a
Thomas Guide because you need to know where you're going.
And you want to talk about something. I mean like
ox cords and Thomas Guides, things you don't need anymore
in terms of car essentials. But now that technology, obviously
with the phone, has totally made that obsolete.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Yeah, very true, very true.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
I'm big into having an extra pair of sunglasses in
the car as well. Gum a snack would be great,
but you never know if it's going to melt but
those are or in a chapstick as well. That would
I always kind of like am asking my husband, do
you have a chopstick? Do you have an extra set
of glasses?
Speaker 3 (12:17):
All the things?
Speaker 2 (12:18):
What's the shelf life on gum in the car, because
sometimes if that gets hot and then yeah, you're like, oh,
I have that emergency gum and then you have it
and you're like ooh, hell old.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Yeah is this yes? Yes?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Ooh.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
And hand sanitizer too, good one.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Always a good one post gas station, need that one?
All right? We got Eileen dot v O. Where do
I meet a hockey player husband at a bar? At
a bar?
Speaker 3 (12:44):
That's not where I met mine. Mine was set up
with Michael Strahan. But they like bars.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
They really like bars, especially postgame or if you I
don't know, where do you meet them?
Speaker 3 (12:57):
They like bars?
Speaker 2 (12:59):
For sure, I would say, obviously, you know, I myself
was not seeking a hockey husband, but sure to your
point about bars, there are Kings players. I remember growing
up in the South Bay area, ver Dondo Beach, Torrents area,
Her Beach, her Mosta beach pier, big time Kings players.
(13:22):
Oh yeah, yeah. So if you live in the southern
California area. You know, maybe frequent some of those establishments,
or find the local watering hole based off of your
current market that you're living in. And hockey players have
been known to have a good time much like football players,
I mean.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Off watering hole too.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
I've heard stories from Baker and Tristan Wurf's about local
watering holes. Sweet babies, Okay, Anonymous, how do you let
your friend know when she's overstepped in a situation? I
feel like Chris and I would both answer the same.
It's you have to tell them, but it's how you
tell them. It's all about the messaging, right Like how
(14:05):
you say it seems to be a theme.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
On this podcast.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
How you say now, what you say? Yeah, totally. I
mean I think a lot of it is just if
they're that good of a friend, and you and Carissa
talk about this a lot, is you should be able
to just give it to them straight and just go, hey, listen,
I know your intentions were in the right place, or
you thought you were doing the right thing, but I
(14:29):
just really didn't appreciate that. Or hey, next time when
it comes to something that's going on between me and
my husband, or you know, because I'm guessing overstepped in
a situation between me and my husband, or me and
my wife, or me and my parents, or me and
my brother. You know, it's just like you, maybe next time,
that wasn't the spot for you to step in, right, No, Hey,
(14:52):
I appreciate you, and I know you're always looking out
for me, but like now wasn't the time. But yeah, agree,
That's always the big thing is, if they're that close
to you, it really shouldn't be that much of an issue.
They're clearly they're clearly given it to you straight, so
you should be able to give it back to them.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Ooh I like that, Yeah, I like that.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
I also think like it's good to take a beat,
right to let everybody cool off, or let you cool
off if you're frustrated, But don't go too long of
a beat because then it gets awkward and weird.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
And all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Definitely, Oh, it's good to take a second, But you
don't want it to love that. You don't want to defester,
Never want to defester, all right. Gator gal four two
to two. What is Mac's favorite book? Gater and Mac's
favorite book?
Speaker 3 (15:39):
Mac has so many books. He is a big book.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Guy. Ok, we see as you did. Jenna and Friends.
They did a great video with Jared and Mack and
they had his book there with him. Oh yeah, it
was what's so adorable?
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Thank you? He had?
Speaker 1 (15:57):
He loves the Jimmy Fallond Dot book. I really wish
Mama would get more into the rotation kind of cool.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
I don't know. I got to look.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
It's like the ABC's of like legends, right, they have
like a golf book.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
They've had basketball.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
He had Celtics the other day and he was really
stuck on the red r back like a page, and
I was so excited taking pictures. He glossed over l
which kind of pissed me off. I'm like, listen, Larry Bird, like,
let's got gloss over it.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
I get it.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
We're going right to you know, Robert Parrish here, but
let's not gloss over el Coo. So those are cool. Yeah.
I like reading this book called Goodnight Gorilla to him.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
There's not really a.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
Lot of words.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
It's about a zoo keeper that the gorilla takes the
keys out and he's letting all his friends out, like
the elephant, the hyena, the giraffe, and they all go
back with the zoo keeper and the zookeeper doesn't see
them following him, and they all get into his bedroom
to go to sleep, and then of course his wife
wakes up and sees and there's no words, but I've
like created words where like her eyes are wide open
and I go ah, and then the ma uh and
(17:01):
then the gorilla like is awake, and so she's like,
come on, gorilla, good night gorilla.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
So Mac now every time he reads good night, Gorilla
goes ah.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
That's adorable.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
I'm a book writer, you know, obviously that's great.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Yeah, all right, Wendy Alfred Meadows, Oh, explain the peptide
shot please? Is this the NAD plus or something else?
So full disclosure. I don't want to get in trouble
with anything. I am not a doctor, but I am
so into nad's and peptides right now.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
It is my jam. Actually, Carrisa.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Came over and did this at my house with Steve
as well, and I can't wait till she gets back
and we can talk about it.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Any D is not the same as peptide. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
I can't really explain in a medical term what they do.
I know I'm obsessed with them. I would actually love
to propose that I have my doctor come on and
talk about this one time. It is sweeping the nation
and the world. It is you're writing it down to
remind yourself I am.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
I am taking a little note Aaron. Aaron doctor guests.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
On the show.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Sure partaken in any Na, dear peptides, you know I
am not.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
I am like the opposite of you and Carissa with
the whole like going so above and beyond with trying
to maximize the immunity to counteract all of the travel
and everything, which I totally understand with how imperative it
is for you for especially the football season and a
(18:32):
lot of the events and whatnot that you have to
do in the off season, Like getting sick is just
not an option, So I totally get it. But I'm
I'm more along the lines of a take a vitamin
C in the morning, drink a lot of water, and
like that's about it. So the whole idea of all
these extra steps that you guys are always venturing off
(18:56):
and looking into, like I know, a big thing, and
I think you've talked about an other people will be
like they do like to be twelve shot and things
like that, Like, I just look at that and I go,
I don't know, that's not really for me. I'm not
it doesn't. I'm not big on shots, right, Like, you know,
it's fine. I'll do the things that I got to do.
But to intentionally go out of my way, I'm like,
(19:17):
I don't know. I'd like to avoid that if I can. So, Yeah,
I get it. I get the benefits, but not for me.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
You do a multi vitamin.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
It's a good question, Kirk, Yeah, Kirk, Kirk with a
great question. I do vitamin C and vitamin D, so should.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
Be doing a multi vitamin. That's not a multi vitamin.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Ryan, all right, listen, all right, get better one day
at a time. Here we go's be doing a ten.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
We should also be doing We should also be doing magnesium.
You should be doing creatine. It's great for your brain.
I like to think I'm a doctor, and I'm not.
I can't tell you the difference between anything. But you
give me a supplement. I'm taking it.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
Coloss Frum, I'm in. I'm into it.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
All wow. Okay, well listen, multi vitamin koreatine. I got
a lot of things I got to look into here.
All right, we are on Delaney, favorite summer activity and
place to go.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
Your excitement, by the way, is adorable. I love you
so much and you're exactly what I need today.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
All right, you got It's what I'm here for. Favorite
summer activity and place to go.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
You know, I'm a big beach guy. I do love
the beach, so I will hit the beach. I could
be there all day if I have to. You know,
my wife she's more fair skinned, so we you know,
we got to pick the umbrella. Yeah, she does not
handle the sun well. And also as the opposite of Chris.
(20:43):
As you know, you try to be very mindful of
not spending too much time in the sun. My wife does.
Chris is like every time she just thinks, hey, it's fine, Yeah,
I'll just bake, and then she's surprised that she gets sunburned,
which I'm not sure exactly how that's the case. So, yeah,
I love the beach. I'll spend and all sorts of
time at the beach, play beach, volleyball, body, serf, whatever
(21:04):
the case. I'm I'm a big time Oh yeah love
look getting in the waves a little bit and getting
tossed around. Why not?
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Okay, okay, I like a good cabo situation. I love
a casida. I love the chips and guac, the tequila,
the sunshine. I'm a little bit more anal about the
sun now because HOWI long has scared the crap out
of me about skin cancer.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Right, we am not dying.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
I obviously had something, but I've spent some money on
some lasers to help with pigmentation. So now I'm like
walking around with that hat that covers all sides of
my face, which is smart and I wish I had
done it twenty years ago. We love to go to
Montana in this summer and spend time out there. We're
going to really crush it this year. So yeah, kind
(21:52):
of I say all this, but in the end, I
don't like to do anything because we have six months
of doing so much that when it's time for summer,
I already feel like summer is already over now. And
we'll explain more why in a minute. But uh, yeah,
I hate traveling because I do it so much during
the year.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
I mean, look, it makes sense that when you actually
have a small portion of the calendar to you know,
spend time at home, you're not ready to just jet
set off to somewhere, but I can imagine how much
of mental strain, if you will, that would be. Is
that by the time like July rolls around, you're thinking, oh,
I could go on vacation. Doesn't that sound nice? And
(22:32):
you're like, oh, wait, I know it's all over. I'm
actually going to be on a plane for the next
eight months. So you are no you, I imagine you
guys are going to be but it's not over yet.
You got a couple of mons.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
I hate packing. I hate preparing to pack, and I
hate unpacking. It's just the worst part of travel for me.
So that's I feel like, what ruins it? Already going somewhere.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Yeah, that's it's this may be because you're just more experienced.
I just I the airports is what's killer. And that's
mostly a me thing that I'm like, the whole i'll
get there way too early kind of thing, and then
even though I have tsa pre check and the whole thing,
and then I just end up sitting there for forty
(23:18):
five minutes to an hour, and then I'm annoyed that
I'm like, wow, I didn't need to be here. I
should have spent more time doing other things. But then inevitably,
when a time comes, time to order the uber to
go to the airport, you sure to get those nerves
and I'm like, oh, I'm going to be late. I
need to be able to go.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
But I know, see I thrive in that situation in
an airport. You give me an airport. We've talked about
it on this show all the time. Give me ten minutes.
I can get you a beverage and potentially an appetizer
and you're at the gate ready to board.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
You give me a canceled flight.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
I got your hotel where you're going to stay, or
I'm going to try to get you on another flight
to get you home.
Speaker 3 (23:52):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
It's a game.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Sure for me, it's a competition.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Yeah, always ready, always prepared, always has the answer. That's
EA for you.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Well, I don't think it's always me, but I try. Right.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
When it comes to travel logistics, you're pa.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
Oh, yeah, okay, what's next, producer, you are going to
host this show?
Speaker 2 (24:19):
I think we got one more right Anonymous? Oh shit, oh.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Yes, Anonymous. I haven't a crush and we know mutual people,
but in different states. Thoughts.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
So you've done the long distance thing. Well, I guess
they must have some sort of mutual connection with someone
because they know each other and he's crushing on her,
but he's like, can or she actually have no idea?
They are wondering is it worth reaching out and saying, hey,
you know, let's start this conversation if we live in
(24:49):
different states, thoughts. I mean, so, I've never done the
super long distance quite like of how you and Jarrett
have done when you were in New York and he
was in LA. So it's hard for me. If I
were to look at that situation, I would probably just
(25:09):
let that one be. I would go, you know what,
we live in different states. We don't really know each other.
Sure we have a mutual connection, but it just sounds
like a big hurdle to clear to start off the
relationship already in different states. But it's worked for you
and Jared. That's just in my experience. My wife and
I were both living in LA. We met in LA,
(25:29):
continue to live in LA, and that's how it's been.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Look I think it's hard to date in the same
city in a different state. It's also hard to find
the right person. I think if you have a crush
and they live in another state, I don't think that
should deter you from not moving forward.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
It just makes things a.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Little bit more complicated, but it also makes things kind
of fun when you see each other sure and hot
and exciting and all that, and I just think, give
it a whirl and see what happens. I look, it's
freaking hard to meet people, and it's hard when you're.
Speaker 3 (26:02):
Around them all the time.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
So it's like, if you have the means, if you
have the patience, if you are interested in each other
that much, see where it goes.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Yeah, I mean, it's clearly worked for you and a
lot of other people. So don't let me be the
curmudgeon in the room that's telling me not to not
to pursue a crush. I know, let's get look at memudgeon. Yeah,
we're here to celebrate positivity and look at the optimistic
side of things. So yeah, go ahead. You know what
I changed my answer, Go ahead and pursue that crush.
(26:33):
Tell them you're into them. Let's see where we can
get things going regardless of state lines. Who cares? You
can make that.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
I love it perfect.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
Absolutely, And with that, I'm going to get emotional because
I do need to get home and go see my family.
I've been sitting here writing notes about this. I didn't
want to do this podcast today, but I've realized throughout
my life, with everything that I've gone through an adversity,
sometimes this is such a great safe space. From my
(27:03):
having surgery the week of having NFL game cervical cancer surgery,
to dealing with trials, to my infertility issues. For Ryan,
he's in and Chris doesn't even know this yet. We
got some real shitty news today that our Sarahate had miscarried.
So I have dealt with this before, but things were
(27:27):
going really, really well, and her little heartbeat and her
numbers were really good, so much so I even told
you guys a couple of weeks ago because we thought
we had such good news.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
But yeah, I have.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Ryan, you did such a bang up job with this
podcast today. I've been trying really hard to pay attention.
I've just been tearing up the.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
Whole time and trying to stay focused.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
But I'm also really really good at suppressing my feelings,
and work really helps me with that. So I think
one of the things I'm so sad about is I'm
going to have to do a better job with deal
with my feelings with this because the last time we
had such loss, I didn't and I suffered with it.
I've been sitting here thinking about Taylor Swift song. I
(28:08):
can do it with a broken heart. I'm really good
at doing this shit with a broken heart. But you
had said to me, you go, you don't have to
do this today.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
You don't have to.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
But I think I kind of made a promise to
myself that when I was really open with how shitty
fertility infertility has been and our you know, our journeys
with two sarrogates, because we did lose. We had lost
with our first sarrogate and then luckily with our second one,
we had mac that I was just going to be
(28:38):
honest with people because this you've talked about trying to
have a family, and I don't know what's going on
with you guys, but it's really really hard. I just
said that to one of my girlfriends down there, down
in my office. When I told her, She's like, God,
it's so freaking hard to have a baby. So I
decided I would be honest about this. People you have
no idea what they're dealing with, and people deal more
(29:01):
with loss than they do with what the reward or
with I don't even know. I can't even think right.
But this whole thing is so shitty, and I don't
envy people that are going through it, but I envy
all the moms and the families that have to deal
with this, and you know, put on a happy face.
(29:21):
So I know my husband's having a difficult time, and
I'm going to go home and be with him, and
then we're going to throw our little two year old
in a pool and I feel like squeezes are going
to feel a little different from him today. But yeah,
like I said when I was first dealing with all
these infertility issues and loss, that I just wanted to
(29:41):
let other people know that we're dealing with them, that
I get it and I understand, and I'm going to
do that again. This really really sucks, but so many
people are dealing with it. So if you feel alone
and you feel like a failure, I do too. But
you're not the only one. So it really really sucks.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
So thank you for being such a good host today
getting my mind off of this.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Well, honestly, you're far too kind for something that I'm
just doing my best here to try and help lift
you up and listen at what you're able to do
and push through that the situation that unfortunately you're having
to face, and obviously so sorry for that loss in
these difficult times that I mean, look, we talk a
(30:28):
lot on this show, specifically about people that you come
across in the industry that are greater than what your
expectations are, and it wouldn't be more fitting than on
this episode to talk about what it is that you
do on this show and in your job and in
your role and exceeding all expectations of how successful you are,
(30:51):
what an awesome person you are, And I mean you
laid it out. You wanted to talk real quick before
we were supposed to schedule to do this. You said, hey,
I got some terrible news, and I just said, look,
we don't have to do this, let's move on from it.
But I'm glad that this provides you some sort of
comfort and openness to share these types of things on
this platform. And I mean people talk about being a
(31:13):
pros pro and that's exactly what you are, and the
vulnerability to open up and share this type of thing
and connect with people, because yeah, I mean, there's so
many people that have to deal with this on a
day to day basis, and you provide them to feel
like they are seen and heard and they're not alone,
and that's incredible.
Speaker 3 (31:33):
So yeah, I just feel like people always see, like,
you know, the success.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
And we have our baby now and I've had a
lot of people DM me about you know, I'm struggling
and I don't know what to do, and I get
you and I see you and listen just because people
you know, do different jobs and you.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
Know, or in and out of the spotlight or whatever.
I mean.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
In the end, we're all human and loss is loss,
and I get it. Like I said, Ryan, I don't
know what you guys are dealing with, but these fertility
clinics are packed and people are trying so hard to
have babies, and a lot of time you hear more
of this success than you do failure. And that's why
it was so important to me when we had gone
through so much of it and had so much loss,
(32:17):
I just wanted to be open with people and be
like this sucks and today this really does suck. So
it makes you really realize you when I have my
little boy and today he was throwing a fit royale
with us.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
It's like, you know what it doesn't matter, so would
be good.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
I just I was saying to Jarrett today, I just
don't this is like the hardest part. Well, of course
it's the hardest part, but it's like I just didn't
want to be back here, you know, in the lost
column So that's the hard part.
Speaker 3 (32:47):
But I love you for dealing with it with me.
You were so great at this.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Well thanks. I'm just I'm just here doing what I can,
not just to try and co host a podcast, but
to try and lift you know that your love and
support it the entire way. And this may feel awful
in the short term, but you're definitely not a loser
or in the lost columns. I know. Yeah, one little unfortunate,
(33:15):
awful situation, but as you said, putting your focus on
Mac is where it is, and you'll be able to
move past this. And there are so so many people
that are so grateful yeah for you shining a light
on this and making them feel like they're more normal.
And this is something that happens with a lot of people,
(33:36):
and it's not something that makes you feel like less
than and it's just the challenges that many people have
to face. So it's really incredible each and other time
that you're willing to be open about it.
Speaker 3 (33:46):
Sometimes it's easier to do the work stuff than the
real life stuff.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
You know.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
Sure you can like wear a mask and just be
talking about you know, the man flu. That's right, you
have to go home and deal with it. So yeah,
but I love you guys. Thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
I love you. And this has been incredible. So I
played but a small role to step out here today.
Speaker 3 (34:07):
Got my mind off for a few minutes.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
So I'm grateful, and you're awesome and you're incredible, and
nothing but love for you and Jared and Mac right now.
Speaker 3 (34:16):
I love you, guys. Calm down with Erin and Carissa
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