June 9, 2025 • 10 mins
Erin and Charissa are on fire in this Pregame edition of the Calm Down podcast, giving hard advice to those in need. They talk about Father’s Day gifts, advice for making career changes, what to do if you love your partner, but hate their friends and how to be a roommate with your best friend.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I feel like he's the one, but I don't want
to beg for what I deserve. He ain't the one
if you're saying that, sorry, Calm Down with Aaron and
Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Aaron.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
This segment is brought to us, not just you us.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
See here we go Michelle Mrie.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Any advice for a gallon her fifties who just made
a career change overwhelmed? Congrats for doing it. That's Jajone's sister.
That's awesome. Give yourself some grace, as you like to say,
how could you not be overwhelmed if you're doing something
for the first time in your twenties thirties. Just know
that making a career change at any age is a
(00:45):
big deal, So give yourself some grace. I also think
that I always go back to this thing that my
dad always says to me. You're the author of your
own story. If you don't like the way that things
are going, then start rewriting. So be very proud of
yourself that this is a new chapter. And who knows
what could happen, Because my biggest fear in life is
(01:08):
just rereading my same thing and then being like God,
my life is so boring or I'm so stuck, so
for you to have, you know, in Aaron's words, the
cojones to do that at any age. I mean, you
really should be very proud of yourself and remember that, like, hey,
if that doesn't go, well, make another change. Like you're
(01:29):
not stuck unless you think you are. So congratulations to you.
Michelle on that anonymous dating again, Oh sorry.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Babe, you read it? Oh you go ahead?
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Dating again says He says he sees a future, but
he's scared to commit and it not work out. Any advice.
I feel like he's the one, but I don't want
to beg for what I deserve. He ain't the one
if he's saying that. Sorry, uh uh uh huh, I'm
sorry if I.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
If they I I always adhere to this.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
If they want to, they will, whether that's when you're dating,
if they're not calling you, if they're not texting you,
if they're not taking you out on dates, if they're
not doing certain things, it's because they don't want to
like a guy. And you know how we are. If
you want to do something, you're gonna do it. So
he sees the future, but he's scared to commit Okay, well, hello,
that's a red flag right there if you're just starting out,
(02:25):
like I don't know what age or you know, maybe
you guys are younger and he's like, hey, like this
is fun cool, But like if you're doesn't matter what
age you are and you want a commitment and you're
not getting.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
That, I agree. I agree.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
It's hard to hear sometimes, but I think that's so
well said. Also, you don't want to waste your time now,
like you already waste it a little bit, So move on, sister,
there's better stuff out there. Move on all right, Christina, Kay,
it's Father's Day, and know both of you are daddy's girls.
Where do we start on Father's Day gifts for our
dads and our husbands?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Right now? For me, it's pretty easy.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
I feel like, and I've said this, with gifts for
Mother's Day, you can't get enough frame photos of my
dad or my husband with my child and their grandson
and also child. So for me, it's frames anything I
can do because I feel like we get great ones
all the time and it's just updating it. So things
like that I think are perfect. And I know Macy's
has a great, great selection on that. What about you
(03:26):
for your dad? Qte ol scott One stop shopping. Macy's
does have everything. I love doing a gift basket. I
love doing things that I know that the individual will like. So,
for example, my dad likes working outside, my dad likes running,
my dad likes you know, different projects. So get a
gift basket. Go buy him some running shorts, Go buy
(03:48):
him running shoes. Things like that that sort of will
feel very specific to the individual. Also, cards, I am
a big like, don't just give the gift and not
have a card. I growing up, my mom was like,
do not open that present until you read the card first,
because that is the most sentimental thing. So just be
(04:09):
thoughtful and intentional about it. And if it's from the heart,
then the person that you're giving it to we'll know
love it. Anonymous, how do I balance loving my boyfriend
but hating his best friend who's a bad nun.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
I have a problem with this. That's hard for me.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I don't know how to do that. That would be
my question too. I think I would just have honest communication.
True story for me, I wasn't really crazy about some
of my husband's friends, and then honestly, recently one of
his really good friends and I were at a wedding
together may or may not have been overserved, and we
both started crying, probably from the wine. But listen, people
(04:58):
are different, people go about things, different people have instances
in their lives. But like I look at him now
in such a different eye or light or whatever.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
That Yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Probably wasn't the easiest on him, but I wouldn't know
how to do with it.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
How did that happen?
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Did you say, like there's always been tension with us?
And because yeah, so finally like we're at such a
good point of our relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
It was great.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
And he said to me, which I really appreciated. He said,
I knew I would break you, like I knew you
would like me. You just had to give me a chance.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Yeah, yeah, Well it sounds like you both are stubborn.
I mean, I know, like we're stubborating. Yeah, we don't
like something, But I also like having a change. I
like an opportunity to change someone's opinion where it's like
I'm in a real place of like full transparency. I
haven't had a situation where I like went straight to
(05:58):
the source and I was like, look, you have not
been very nice to me since I've met you, and
I don't know what your deal is, but what what
is it? Have I done something to you? You know whatever?
And then once we hashed it out like it was
actually so nice. Now I have a different opinion of
the person too.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
I can't wait to hear who this is. Oh yeah,
you're gonna like this story.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Oh okay, yeah, click on the link, swipe up for more.
But yeah, I think in general there's something to be
said because I like directness as I've gotten older, like
don't I always say, don't waste my time, don't make
me do the mask. So if you've got a problem
with the best friend, I actually think your boyfriend too
will respect this. If you say to your boyfriend, do
(06:37):
you mind if I talk to Ted Billy and you
go straight to Ted or Billy Bill and Ted's excellent adventure.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Here's an adventure.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
You go, Hey, I know you don't like me. I
don't like you, but we both love the same person.
So how can we make this work? Because it's not
fair to him. It's not fair to your boyfriend to
as a referee between two people he cares about. And
I said this, Thank god, thank god, my best friend
(07:07):
on this podcast here and my boyfriend are closer than
her and I even are, because it makes my life.
I learned so much, so much easier to have that relationship.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Because advice Eartha that you and Garrett are close.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Yeah, I've never had a relationship where you have liked
the other person is actually a word disdain. Don't come
to my side of my town and come to my
fucking instaurant. Ever, you got a lot of her, a
lot of nerve. Griswold, missus Stormer. Are Steve and Jarrett
against throwing pillows on the bed? Seems like all husbands are.
(07:44):
Oh no, you can't be with us if you don't
if you can't handle the pillows. You know what I
got Steve for Christmas last year was pillows.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Pillows. I actually bought Steve pillows.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
He sleeps with six fucking pillows, Okay, two on the head,
one in front, one in back, one on his knees.
I'm like, you met the right girl then, because we
are Macy's Home store with as many pillows.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
As we're there. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
No, Sarrett loves a good fluffy situation. He's into it. Yep,
he loves us at least. Okay, Anonymous about to be
roommates with my best friend. Any tips to make sure
we stay friends. All I've been watching here is Friends
because it makes me miss home, don't I know.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I was just going to say it, don't do it?
Do it.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
I love you so much. I would never want to
live with you. No, I don't want to live with me.
There's stuff No I'm saying like this about there would
be stuff that I do that I don't even know
I'm doing that's going to annoy you, and.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
It's not fair. Don't do it. Do it. But but
since you already are on the least, go to Macy's
to furnish your new apartment. Go to Macy's to furnish
your new apartment.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
But also I would say this, it's all about managing expectations.
And as my father says, which I did not adhere
to have the divorce before the wedding. So you need
to sit down with your best friend now roommate and say, hey,
let's do some non negotiables here. What are things that
I'm going to do that's going to drive you nuts,
(09:22):
Like don't clean up around the sink, don't do this,
don't write down all the things that you know already
are going to just drive you fucking nuts, so that
you can go okay. She doesn't like if I leave
you dishes in the sink, so try to get in
front of any potential arguments. And then I would also
say this too, make sure that you guys like have
(09:44):
your own alone time in the house, because if you're
on top of each other, you're going to resent the person.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
They're not going to be your best friend. So good luck.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I would love a follow up in six months, say
to reach out and touch someone, and reach out and
go to Macy's dot com.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
This singer was dropt to.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
You by Macy shotmasons dot com for all your knees,
whether it's Father's Day, whether it's home decor, or whether
it's an I'm sorry gift. Because you and your roommate
are now not best friends, we love you Macy's and
I love you. Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is
a production of iHeartRadio. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit
(10:21):
the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
I feel like he's the one, but I don't want
to beg for what I deserve. He ain't the one
if you're saying that, sorry, Calm Down with Aaron and
Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Aaron.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
This segment is brought to us, not just you us.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
See here we go Michelle Mrie.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Any advice for a gallon her fifties who just made
a career change overwhelmed? Congrats for doing it. That's Jajone's sister.
That's awesome. Give yourself some grace, as you like to say,
how could you not be overwhelmed if you're doing something
for the first time in your twenties thirties. Just know
that making a career change at any age is a
(00:45):
big deal, So give yourself some grace. I also think
that I always go back to this thing that my
dad always says to me. You're the author of your
own story. If you don't like the way that things
are going, then start rewriting. So be very proud of
yourself that this is a new chapter. And who knows
what could happen, Because my biggest fear in life is
(01:08):
just rereading my same thing and then being like God,
my life is so boring or I'm so stuck, so
for you to have, you know, in Aaron's words, the
cojones to do that at any age. I mean, you
really should be very proud of yourself and remember that, like, hey,
if that doesn't go, well, make another change. Like you're
(01:29):
not stuck unless you think you are. So congratulations to you.
Michelle on that anonymous dating again, Oh sorry.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Babe, you read it? Oh you go ahead?
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Dating again says He says he sees a future, but
he's scared to commit and it not work out. Any advice.
I feel like he's the one, but I don't want
to beg for what I deserve. He ain't the one
if he's saying that. Sorry, uh uh uh huh, I'm
sorry if I.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
If they I I always adhere to this.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
If they want to, they will, whether that's when you're dating,
if they're not calling you, if they're not texting you,
if they're not taking you out on dates, if they're
not doing certain things, it's because they don't want to
like a guy. And you know how we are. If
you want to do something, you're gonna do it. So
he sees the future, but he's scared to commit Okay, well, hello,
that's a red flag right there if you're just starting out,
(02:25):
like I don't know what age or you know, maybe
you guys are younger and he's like, hey, like this
is fun cool, But like if you're doesn't matter what
age you are and you want a commitment and you're
not getting.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
That, I agree. I agree.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
It's hard to hear sometimes, but I think that's so
well said. Also, you don't want to waste your time now,
like you already waste it a little bit, So move on, sister,
there's better stuff out there. Move on all right, Christina, Kay,
it's Father's Day, and know both of you are daddy's girls.
Where do we start on Father's Day gifts for our
dads and our husbands?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Right now? For me, it's pretty easy.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
I feel like, and I've said this, with gifts for
Mother's Day, you can't get enough frame photos of my
dad or my husband with my child and their grandson
and also child. So for me, it's frames anything I
can do because I feel like we get great ones
all the time and it's just updating it. So things
like that I think are perfect. And I know Macy's
has a great, great selection on that. What about you
(03:26):
for your dad? Qte ol scott One stop shopping. Macy's
does have everything. I love doing a gift basket. I
love doing things that I know that the individual will like. So,
for example, my dad likes working outside, my dad likes running,
my dad likes you know, different projects. So get a
gift basket. Go buy him some running shorts, Go buy
(03:48):
him running shoes. Things like that that sort of will
feel very specific to the individual. Also, cards, I am
a big like, don't just give the gift and not
have a card. I growing up, my mom was like,
do not open that present until you read the card first,
because that is the most sentimental thing. So just be
(04:09):
thoughtful and intentional about it. And if it's from the heart,
then the person that you're giving it to we'll know
love it. Anonymous, how do I balance loving my boyfriend
but hating his best friend who's a bad nun.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
I have a problem with this. That's hard for me.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I don't know how to do that. That would be
my question too. I think I would just have honest communication.
True story for me, I wasn't really crazy about some
of my husband's friends, and then honestly, recently one of
his really good friends and I were at a wedding
together may or may not have been overserved, and we
both started crying, probably from the wine. But listen, people
(04:58):
are different, people go about things, different people have instances
in their lives. But like I look at him now
in such a different eye or light or whatever.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
That Yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Probably wasn't the easiest on him, but I wouldn't know
how to do with it.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
How did that happen?
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Did you say, like there's always been tension with us?
And because yeah, so finally like we're at such a
good point of our relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
It was great.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
And he said to me, which I really appreciated. He said,
I knew I would break you, like I knew you
would like me. You just had to give me a chance.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Yeah, yeah, Well it sounds like you both are stubborn.
I mean, I know, like we're stubborating. Yeah, we don't
like something, But I also like having a change. I
like an opportunity to change someone's opinion where it's like
I'm in a real place of like full transparency. I
haven't had a situation where I like went straight to
(05:58):
the source and I was like, look, you have not
been very nice to me since I've met you, and
I don't know what your deal is, but what what
is it? Have I done something to you? You know whatever?
And then once we hashed it out like it was
actually so nice. Now I have a different opinion of
the person too.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
I can't wait to hear who this is. Oh yeah,
you're gonna like this story.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Oh okay, yeah, click on the link, swipe up for more.
But yeah, I think in general there's something to be
said because I like directness as I've gotten older, like
don't I always say, don't waste my time, don't make
me do the mask. So if you've got a problem
with the best friend, I actually think your boyfriend too
will respect this. If you say to your boyfriend, do
(06:37):
you mind if I talk to Ted Billy and you
go straight to Ted or Billy Bill and Ted's excellent adventure.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Here's an adventure.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
You go, Hey, I know you don't like me. I
don't like you, but we both love the same person.
So how can we make this work? Because it's not
fair to him. It's not fair to your boyfriend to
as a referee between two people he cares about. And
I said this, Thank god, thank god, my best friend
(07:07):
on this podcast here and my boyfriend are closer than
her and I even are, because it makes my life.
I learned so much, so much easier to have that relationship.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Because advice Eartha that you and Garrett are close.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Yeah, I've never had a relationship where you have liked
the other person is actually a word disdain. Don't come
to my side of my town and come to my
fucking instaurant. Ever, you got a lot of her, a
lot of nerve. Griswold, missus Stormer. Are Steve and Jarrett
against throwing pillows on the bed? Seems like all husbands are.
(07:44):
Oh no, you can't be with us if you don't
if you can't handle the pillows. You know what I
got Steve for Christmas last year was pillows.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Pillows. I actually bought Steve pillows.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
He sleeps with six fucking pillows, Okay, two on the head,
one in front, one in back, one on his knees.
I'm like, you met the right girl then, because we
are Macy's Home store with as many pillows.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
As we're there. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
No, Sarrett loves a good fluffy situation. He's into it. Yep,
he loves us at least. Okay, Anonymous about to be
roommates with my best friend. Any tips to make sure
we stay friends. All I've been watching here is Friends
because it makes me miss home, don't I know.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I was just going to say it, don't do it?
Do it.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
I love you so much. I would never want to
live with you. No, I don't want to live with me.
There's stuff No I'm saying like this about there would
be stuff that I do that I don't even know
I'm doing that's going to annoy you, and.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
It's not fair. Don't do it. Do it. But but
since you already are on the least, go to Macy's
to furnish your new apartment. Go to Macy's to furnish
your new apartment.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
But also I would say this, it's all about managing expectations.
And as my father says, which I did not adhere
to have the divorce before the wedding. So you need
to sit down with your best friend now roommate and say, hey,
let's do some non negotiables here. What are things that
I'm going to do that's going to drive you nuts,
(09:22):
Like don't clean up around the sink, don't do this,
don't write down all the things that you know already
are going to just drive you fucking nuts, so that
you can go okay. She doesn't like if I leave
you dishes in the sink, so try to get in
front of any potential arguments. And then I would also
say this too, make sure that you guys like have
(09:44):
your own alone time in the house, because if you're
on top of each other, you're going to resent the person.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
They're not going to be your best friend. So good luck.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I would love a follow up in six months, say
to reach out and touch someone, and reach out and
go to Macy's dot com.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
This singer was dropt to.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
You by Macy shotmasons dot com for all your knees,
whether it's Father's Day, whether it's home decor, or whether
it's an I'm sorry gift. Because you and your roommate
are now not best friends, we love you Macy's and
I love you. Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is
a production of iHeartRadio. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit
(10:21):
the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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