July 2, 2025 • 22 mins
Erin and Charissa are back, baby! And on this Pregame edition of the Calm Down podcast, they talk about how to be a good host for the 4th of July, how to deal with a misbehaving child on a plane, a 95-year-old mom with a rude boyfriend (!), a listener's plea for Charissa and much more!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
For the wedding.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
If we did it with the six top, we could
ask Taylor to bring that guitar like she did it
tight end you and be like.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hey, the band's here. What do you have for users?
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Hit it?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hi, this is my first time talking to you in
probably like a week. We know where you were at
the wedding of the Century, of the year, the wedding,
the Royal wedding, and we will get into that on
the big show. I don't think there is a big
enough show for all the details that I can't wait
(00:42):
to ask you on and offline.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
But fine, goodness, gracious.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Yeah, we're going to get through this pregame here and
this segment is brought to you by Macy's and Hell
is going to kick it off. She said, I know
we feel like we're not great hosts, but what are
we doing to get ready for the fourth of July.
We're gonna be apart and I hate that, but then
I hope you're coming on down my way later on.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I am. We're not gonna be together on the actual fourth,
but I'm gonna see you right after that, which I
cannot wait. So Fourth of July is one of my
favorite holidays. Everyone knows I love America as to you
give me some red, white, and blue. I'm not kidding
any holiday that. Like when I go into a Macy's
and I just see or even see the commercials or anything,
(01:27):
and it's like Fourth of July sale, I get excited
because you know we can do one stop shopping there.
I also love and I'm gonna do this at the ranch.
I'm at the ranch a little bit later in the week.
But I like decorating my outdoor pillows. So like, for example,
Maggie said, you're looking for ideas for hosting for the
fourth of July, swap out your outdoor pillows easy, red, white,
(01:49):
or blue just already makes it a festive little pop.
Any sort of outdoor little shift or change makes it
feel festive again. Your outfits are an easy go. I
love a pinstripe. I think red and white. Then you
could do like a cute blue bow. Macy's has all
the things that you need for that. But yeah, I
love dressing like I am.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
When we were younger, my mom.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
Used to dress us up for all these holidays, right Easter,
fourth of July, Christmas, all this stuff, and I was
begrudgingly doing it right.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I was like, I don't want to wear these now.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
As a forty three year adult old adult, I'm like,
give me that pin stripe, red and white dress, give
me that blue and white polka dot number. I love
dressing in themes, so I would definitely suggest Maggie's. Start
with Macy's. They have everything you need. But yeah, swimwear.
Who doesn't love a stars and stripes bikini? Nothing says
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holiday like that. I've got three.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
We got to talk about some of the bikinis we
saw in the French Riviera.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
I'm writing it down, but yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Matt, Macy's they have a fourth of July sale, so
you want to hit that. I love what you talked
about with dressing up and your mom dressing you up.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
That's kind of my thing with mac It's like, Okay,
I need the red blue, I need the red way
and blue T shirt.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
My man's got glasses, So you can check all of
that out Maggie on Macy's dot com and hit their
fourth of July sale.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
So cute, Kendramy.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
When did it become okay to let your child act up.
Oh my god, Kendra May, you're speaking my language. We
have been on planes, trains, and automobiles the last couple
of weeks. And I've got a story for the big
show about something with traveling and kids. And I know
I don't have kids, but guess what I really did
at one time, and I know how to act. Finishing
the question, she says, wanted to be okay, become okay
(03:35):
to let your child act up the entire flight from
DFW to MSP. I'm assuming that's your that's Dallas to Minneapolis.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Oh yeah, you know those initials.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Yeah, kicking my seat, banging the trade table. Me and
the person next to me tried to be polite the
third time, less nights. The kids started crying and the
mom still did nothing. What else were we supposed to do?
I'm gonna okay, you start on this show so you're.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Really good at this, and then I'll give them position
of it all.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Okay, so we've talked about this before. Poke your head
between the sea. You know obviously you tried to do that.
Try to be nice, try to be cute, make it
a game. If you have done that twice and the
kid is still acting up, this is no longer the
kid's fault. This is one thousand percent the parents fault.
All conversations need to be directed to the adult in
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the situation and say, excuse me, ma'am or sir, your
child is kicking my seat repeatedly, what are we doing here?
And if the adult doesn't respond to that, then I
would honestly see if you could move, like if there's
another seat that's available, like even if it's midflight, and
if there's not, then I would just say to the
flight attendant, is there any way I can move? That
(04:44):
would be my last resort because why do you have
to suffer or endure any of that?
Speaker 1 (04:48):
That's where I would be at. Yeah, no, I see
this twofold.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I feel bad for parents because just yesterday I was
flying back DFW to Lax and there was a little
boy I think he was probably maybe a year and
a half or two older than Mac. He had a
voice that could carry My man's gonna have pipes for broadcasting,
and it was it was cute. He had a little
bit like he was calling Dorito's burritos.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
I go, I got burritos.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
His voice carried, and I thought to myself, oh boy,
I've had four hours sleep. I love to get a
little nighty night action on this. But you know what,
once the plane went up, he started watching his shows.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
The only thing was he just he.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Kept talking, talking, talking, So I just turned my volume
up a little bit. I thought the parents were really
good at managing it. But I like what you said.
If it got to a point where it's just obnoxious,
turn around, say something, because here's the thing. I get
so paranoid of my kid in a restaurant pissing people off.
I feel like it is up to the parents to
really rein it in. But it's about sometimes and then,
(05:52):
you know me, my kid's being an asshole or something's
going on.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm so yeah, you
are sorry, you're going to drink. Your kid doesn't do anything,
and you're like, I'm sorry, I have a baby.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
You're like, your kid's perfect, Like you're the extreme, and
that's like a great thing because you try to put
yourself in other people's positions.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
But yeah, Kendra, I may. I don't know what you're.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Supposed to do in this situation other than try to
be fun with the kid and then address their parents
and then at that point just asked to be moved
because obviously what you weren't alone in this. Your seat
mate was also feeling the same way. Here's one for you,
Keza J two eight three five.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
I'm quoting, for God's sake, Chris, marry your man, Aaron,
organize it for her.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I see both sides of this argument. I am listen.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I was living vicariously through Chris's Instagram and Steve's Instagram
this week for the wedding of the of the royal
wedding of the century. Would I love the Candarry Thompson
ceremony and to be a.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Part of it.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yes, But I also have learned that she is going
to do what she wants and if this is what
makes her happy, we're here for it. Here's the other thing.
I just want the party. I want the I want
the dance floor, I want the PJ party, I want
all of that. But I can get that pretty much
(07:19):
anytime that we hang out. I just, in the end,
have seen this woman go through a lot, and I'm
gonna say this. I quickly quickly got a voice text
from you today before we did this, and you were
talking about who I call Steve your husband anyways busy.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
But you made a comment about him and you're like,
he's great.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
I love him, And I thought to myself, oh my god,
they got off the road being together with eight thousand
pieces of luggage and they still love each other.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
That's a win.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
You don't need the ring, you don't need the marriage
like they already are.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
But I don't want a wedding my goal.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
So I appreciate everything you just said formultiple reasons because
we've had this conversation. I don't want to say it
not because that's not that's not fair. I love love,
and again we'll talk about the wedding and all that
kind of stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
I love watching people be in love love.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
I mean, it's just it's like I'm in love, like
for the first time in my life. Like I'm like
so happy, like yes, every day perfect. No, that's not reality. No,
Like I'm Steve and I've been together for three years
now and I adore this then I adore him like
I just love him. If there was if there was
a crystal ball, and like or not a crystal ball,
if there was like a magic eraser, and I could
(08:34):
go back in my life and erase, erase, the shitty marriages.
Then I would have done that and I would marry
Steven a heartbeat. Steve is not the issue. The word
marriage is the issue. And so then I always have
you know, people that are like, you know, go to therapy, girl.
I've been to so much therapy. That's why I can
even be in another relationship. So for me, the blockage
is the word marriage. It like, it makes me break
(08:57):
out in hives. It may work blockage, blockage, beta blocker.
There is just this aversion that I have to the
actual marriage part, not to the individual that is Stephen Kinderry.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
He's great.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
So now I will not marry Steve. And it's not
because I don't love him. It's because I don't like
me in a marriage. And that is the end of that.
But I have not not ruled out the idea of
having a big party at some point in our lives.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I just you know, I don't like planning these things.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
And then there's so much pressure someone Yeah, but there's
so much pressure. Who are we inviting, who are we
not inviting, who's left out? We want the party to
be great. I don't want to spend a trillion dollars.
But then It's like, if we don't spend a trillion dollars,
are we really getting? Like I don't want to backyard
barbecue either, So like, I don't know. There's just like
more headaches with marriage than not when it comes to
the party planning part. So anyways, kez A Jay twenty
(09:51):
eight to thirty five, I appreciate that you want Steve
and I to get married. We are very happy without
the paper, but not mistake Dan, I.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Want you to get drunk enough in the French riviera.
Who French riviera that we could pull it off. But listen,
they're basically married. So I'm happy with that.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Ruling out that on.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Any sort of vacation, whether it's a six top, whether
it's a French riviera, whatever it is, imagine nobody wants
to officiate and we randomly just do it. That's more
my style than it would be. Look, my dad's already
walked me down the aisle one time, because when you
get married multiple times, you at least get that one.
That's all I wanted was my dad and I to
have that one moment. I had it, So now it
(10:35):
is what it is, and.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
This time around for the wedding, if we did it
with the sixth top. We could ask Taylor to bring
that guitar like she did it tight end you and
be like.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Hey, the band's here, what do you have for us? Seriously?
Speaker 3 (10:48):
I could have And by the way, we also have
a cake that she would make, so we'd have the cake,
we'd have the band, and we'd have Jared officiating the ceremony.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Perfect. Danny s j good question.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
It gives me anxiety. What's left on your off season
to do list? Everything so much, so much. I was
talking to my sweet al Michaels yesterday out for our
vacation and wanted the tea on that wedding. My man
loves some God. We had a great catch up session
(11:31):
and I just love him so much. But he goes,
you know what I see right now? I see a
train coming through the tunnel and I see the lights
and I'm like what, And He's like, our season is
going to be here before we know.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
It, that is going to come.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
And I had as only al Michaels can illustrate the
Polar Express coming through the tunnel, and I.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Was like, it's true.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Because August we've got preseason games, We've got seminars, got whatever. Like,
we are just starting July and we I already feel
like so with that, which is why we're going to
do last second trips and last second things to make
the most of it. But I also, in unpacking yesterday realized,
and this is a great fortune in life, is to
(12:13):
have an excessive amount of stuff.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I don't know why I need all of this.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
This is as I was folding Steve's laundry, because that's
how much I love him, I was like, why do
you need fifteen pairs of black shorts? Everything is in excess.
I need to purge, I need to donate. I need
to do so many like open up the random cupboard
drawer and just clean stuff out, because if I start
this season and have the guest bedroom full of just
(12:40):
shit piling over and the racks aren't cleaned off and
all that stuff, I'm going to have a real panic attack.
So yes, it's a luxury to have excessive stuff, but
not necessary. It just feels gluttonous, it feels gross, and
it's like I can be donating this and doing something
better with it. So that is my off season goal
is clean up on Aisle four and then spend as
(13:03):
much time at the ranch as I can, because then
one second season comes around, I don't get there, and
I feel like a bad mother already to my animals.
So that those are my two priorities.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
What are you up to? Same?
Speaker 2 (13:13):
When I was putting my clothes away from our vaka,
I was kind of ripping old stuff off and like,
if I didn't take this on the trip, why do
I have? Why do I have the ten pairs of
jean shorts that not only are too short for a
mom in almost her fifties and that are too tight.
I'm not wearing these. There's no reason to hang on
to them. If I'm not bringing them to the front Riviera.
(13:33):
I'm not wearing them ever again. Take them out, girl.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
With the jeene shorts. That's actually really Ineslu. But I've
got to tell you, the cute ones I like.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Right now are the ones that go down to your
knees that all these fashionable girls are wearing with the
belt sports shorts.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Adorable.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
But I don't have the balls to wear them because
my mom made me wear them in third grade and
it makes me think of PTSD of being called minut
having really skinny legs and elastic waistbands.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Were We were at a Zara in Monaco before everyone's
at everyone's at these you know, Cardier, these high end
stores in Erin, and I are like, give us Zara
Mona so great stuff over there. They had Jeane Shorts
there and I don't know you were somewhere else in
the store, but I wanted to yell, what about these?
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Well, now I know you like those.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
They got them, They're they're really making a comeback. So
I took those down. I want to finish this Good
Vibes book that I started to read once you left
the Yeah, I think, I mean like, there's nothing to
brag about how far I got in that book, but
I want to finish it.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
I'm going to start therapy.
Speaker 3 (14:39):
Again, Aaron Jill Andrews. I am so I gotta proud
of you. There's so many reasons why, but oh today,
wait for it. I started a little meditation you know
this about me. I'm I wake up for a leak
and I'm like, I gotta go. I can't just sit
in bed and flip through my phone.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Got up and decided to go downstairs, started my girl
Chelsea on the Peloton app and did a ten minute
like breathing thing.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Got to do it.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Let's just have to good for you and we'll get
into that more on the Big Show. Aaron getting up early,
that's all. That's a whole session. I've found out so bad.
I feel like I know a lot about you. But
that was one thing. But we'll talk about that later.
But I am very and we'll talk about the therapy
part later because that's what that's worth expanding upon. I'm
writing it down, as you like to say, write it down. Okay, great,
(15:30):
write it down. Here's what also Aaron's very good at
and I'm not is lists. So let's hold each other accountable. Yep,
mine's cleaning out ranch time. Yours is therapy and throwing
away geene short. Let's check that in with each other
before our first preseason game and see where we end up.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yes, we've got this is one of the things I
want to talk about on the Big Show. I'm in it.
I am in it.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Okay, great, So you know what we're gonna do. Let's
bring back is colder for the Big Show and just
answer it that. Yeah, yesber Holder are going to have
to wait until Thursday until the big episode comes out.
A big show, the big episode because Aaron wants to
answer that it's all about Dallas Cowboy cheerleader.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
He is back.
Speaker 3 (16:13):
Okay, we'll answer that then. So moving on to the
next one, We've got Cohler Cindy ninety five year old
mother has a boyfriend I do not like. Oh no,
Do I let her know he is rude and disrespectful
to me?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Oh no, There's two ways to look at this.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
She's ninety five. Let her live her life. But you
don't want to be around a jerk? Yeah? Oh no. Also,
I love that your mother has a boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
Yeah at nine or five? Yeah, exactly. So let's start
with the positive, but the negative go.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
I was just about to call this guy an asshole,
but after watching again Binging DCC, which we'll talk about
in the big show, that's Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader for sure,
I'm like, what would Charlotte Jones do not have a
mouth like me?
Speaker 1 (16:59):
What would the al?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
What would Kelly and Judy do not have a mouth
like me? So I'm really kind of try and clean
it up.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
Wait time out, so they don't swear? Now there are
proper women.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Well I'm not.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
I'm trying to clean up my act too. But then
I saw Charlie's Starren talking and I she was really
driving her point home with them, and I was like, see,
there's a time in a place, because when she started
letting those fly, I was like, Oh, she's serious. So
maybe we just work on using them with the right time,
not just right aphazardly checking those bad boys around. When
(17:39):
I hear women swear sometimes I'm always like, oh, clean
it up. Meanwhile, I'm like, what the fuck do you
think you are? Lady?
Speaker 1 (17:46):
What are we going to do with your your mother?
Speaker 3 (17:48):
Let's take the age part out of it for a second,
because yes, we love that she is finding happiness at
any age, but it still does not mean that he
gets a pass an asshole and being rude, especially to you.
So cooler, Cindy, I would say this to your mother.
I would say, Mom, first and foremost, your happiness is
(18:09):
all I want, but I also want you to be
treated respectfully. Does he do that? Because maybe he's just
being mean to you. And if he's being mean to you,
then maybe you can just overlook that for your mom's happiness.
But if this guy is a jerk to you, then
something tells me that he might be a little bit
sassafras to your mom as well, and maybe ask some
preliminary questions that like how he treats her, and then
(18:32):
if she's like, well, sometimes he's not very nice, to
be like, I'm noticing that as well, and how he
treats me, So then it opens up the door for
you to let in your opinion of him as opposed
to just being like, I don't like your boyfriend, because
she's going.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
To get defensive of that. So start with her happiness.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Work backwards from there, and keep us posted because we
don't need any asshole guys.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
No matter what.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Age, your mother is agreed, agreed, you want her happiness,
but you want to make sure he is cousin to
be around treating your mother right. That's really hard to navigate.
Families are tough. Last, but not least, girl is laid low.
My two and a half year old wants to live
a pants free life.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Help. My two year old.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Is really into He's really big into asking everybody where
their belly buttons are. And not only is he not asking,
he'll just go right up to you and lift your shirt.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Up, so I didn't know he's doing this. Yeah, here's
here's where I'm concerned.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
We start school in September, and how's that going to
go over to.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
His teacher or the other girls in class? Everyone, Hey,
I'm max old, let me lift up your shirt. No,
miss Andrews, we have an issue. Mac is lifting up
the girl's shirt again. Please give us a call.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Oh God, I don't know how to navigate this, but listen,
I would live a pants free world as well if
I had a Chris's highting.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
I don't, but.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Yeah, I've learned, like I haven't learned anything.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
I don't. I don't have advice on dealing with the kid. Okay,
I don't have a two and a half year old,
but I would. I would. This would be my advice.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
My advice would be incentivize him right where it's like
you don't want to reward, like, Okay, he gets, you know,
a gummy bear for everyone to keep his pants on,
because that's like, no, we just keep our pants on.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
That's what we're doing. But it's more of like a
who's his favorite?
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Lesson Lauren and Jeff's wedding, and then Chris will go
to Charriissa for more. No, I'm joking, there's no headline.
She took her pants off. Knock it off, there.
Speaker 3 (20:38):
Is I wore next to nothing most nights and guess
that I saw the picture every pretty else go today.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
Do you think the bridecareed not at all? She approved
the outfits?
Speaker 3 (20:49):
Oh yeah, no, I think that For this situation, it's like,
does he have a favorite superhero, who's his favorite cartoon characters?
Things like that, And fine, cartoon character is wearing pants?
Be like, oh, look, I don't know who they are
these days. Uh, you know, give me a cartoon character,
Woody from Toy Story.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Lying Guard.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Great, look at wood he's wearing pants. And then be like,
you can take your pants off when we're at home,
because he takes his pants off when he's in How
we're out in public and we're around other people, Woody,
and you are going to leave your pants on. Elmo
is naked, so he doesn't. He doesn't work in this scenario.
But find a person a character that he he or
she likes, and then use them as an example.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Because you know, Mickey Mouse keeps his making mouth, dies
Donald not so much. No pants dance there but and with.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
That, join us on the Big Show for four ridiculous
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For the wedding.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
If we did it with the six top, we could
ask Taylor to bring that guitar like she did it
tight end you and be like.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hey, the band's here. What do you have for users?
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Hit it?
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Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hi, this is my first time talking to you in
probably like a week. We know where you were at
the wedding of the Century, of the year, the wedding,
the Royal wedding, and we will get into that on
the big show. I don't think there is a big
enough show for all the details that I can't wait
(00:42):
to ask you on and offline.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
But fine, goodness, gracious.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Yeah, we're going to get through this pregame here and
this segment is brought to you by Macy's and Hell
is going to kick it off. She said, I know
we feel like we're not great hosts, but what are
we doing to get ready for the fourth of July.
We're gonna be apart and I hate that, but then
I hope you're coming on down my way later on.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I am. We're not gonna be together on the actual fourth,
but I'm gonna see you right after that, which I
cannot wait. So Fourth of July is one of my
favorite holidays. Everyone knows I love America as to you
give me some red, white, and blue. I'm not kidding
any holiday that. Like when I go into a Macy's
and I just see or even see the commercials or anything,
(01:27):
and it's like Fourth of July sale, I get excited
because you know we can do one stop shopping there.
I also love and I'm gonna do this at the ranch.
I'm at the ranch a little bit later in the week.
But I like decorating my outdoor pillows. So like, for example,
Maggie said, you're looking for ideas for hosting for the
fourth of July, swap out your outdoor pillows easy, red, white,
(01:49):
or blue just already makes it a festive little pop.
Any sort of outdoor little shift or change makes it
feel festive again. Your outfits are an easy go. I
love a pinstripe. I think red and white. Then you
could do like a cute blue bow. Macy's has all
the things that you need for that. But yeah, I
love dressing like I am.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
When we were younger, my mom.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
Used to dress us up for all these holidays, right Easter,
fourth of July, Christmas, all this stuff, and I was
begrudgingly doing it right.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I was like, I don't want to wear these now.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
As a forty three year adult old adult, I'm like,
give me that pin stripe, red and white dress, give
me that blue and white polka dot number. I love
dressing in themes, so I would definitely suggest Maggie's. Start
with Macy's. They have everything you need. But yeah, swimwear.
Who doesn't love a stars and stripes bikini? Nothing says
(02:42):
holiday like that. I've got three.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
We got to talk about some of the bikinis we
saw in the French Riviera.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
I'm writing it down, but yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Matt, Macy's they have a fourth of July sale, so
you want to hit that. I love what you talked
about with dressing up and your mom dressing you up.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
That's kind of my thing with mac It's like, Okay,
I need the red blue, I need the red way
and blue T shirt.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
My man's got glasses, So you can check all of
that out Maggie on Macy's dot com and hit their
fourth of July sale.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
So cute, Kendramy.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
When did it become okay to let your child act up.
Oh my god, Kendra May, you're speaking my language. We
have been on planes, trains, and automobiles the last couple
of weeks. And I've got a story for the big
show about something with traveling and kids. And I know
I don't have kids, but guess what I really did
at one time, and I know how to act. Finishing
the question, she says, wanted to be okay, become okay
(03:35):
to let your child act up the entire flight from
DFW to MSP. I'm assuming that's your that's Dallas to Minneapolis.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Oh yeah, you know those initials.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Yeah, kicking my seat, banging the trade table. Me and
the person next to me tried to be polite the
third time, less nights. The kids started crying and the
mom still did nothing. What else were we supposed to do?
I'm gonna okay, you start on this show so you're.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Really good at this, and then I'll give them position
of it all.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Okay, so we've talked about this before. Poke your head
between the sea. You know obviously you tried to do that.
Try to be nice, try to be cute, make it
a game. If you have done that twice and the
kid is still acting up, this is no longer the
kid's fault. This is one thousand percent the parents fault.
All conversations need to be directed to the adult in
(04:22):
the situation and say, excuse me, ma'am or sir, your
child is kicking my seat repeatedly, what are we doing here?
And if the adult doesn't respond to that, then I
would honestly see if you could move, like if there's
another seat that's available, like even if it's midflight, and
if there's not, then I would just say to the
flight attendant, is there any way I can move? That
(04:44):
would be my last resort because why do you have
to suffer or endure any of that?
Speaker 1 (04:48):
That's where I would be at. Yeah, no, I see
this twofold.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I feel bad for parents because just yesterday I was
flying back DFW to Lax and there was a little
boy I think he was probably maybe a year and
a half or two older than Mac. He had a
voice that could carry My man's gonna have pipes for broadcasting,
and it was it was cute. He had a little
bit like he was calling Dorito's burritos.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
I go, I got burritos.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
His voice carried, and I thought to myself, oh boy,
I've had four hours sleep. I love to get a
little nighty night action on this. But you know what,
once the plane went up, he started watching his shows.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
The only thing was he just he.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Kept talking, talking, talking, So I just turned my volume
up a little bit. I thought the parents were really
good at managing it. But I like what you said.
If it got to a point where it's just obnoxious,
turn around, say something, because here's the thing. I get
so paranoid of my kid in a restaurant pissing people off.
I feel like it is up to the parents to
really rein it in. But it's about sometimes and then,
(05:52):
you know me, my kid's being an asshole or something's
going on.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm so yeah, you
are sorry, you're going to drink. Your kid doesn't do anything,
and you're like, I'm sorry, I have a baby.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
You're like, your kid's perfect, Like you're the extreme, and
that's like a great thing because you try to put
yourself in other people's positions.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
But yeah, Kendra, I may. I don't know what you're.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Supposed to do in this situation other than try to
be fun with the kid and then address their parents
and then at that point just asked to be moved
because obviously what you weren't alone in this. Your seat
mate was also feeling the same way. Here's one for you,
Keza J two eight three five.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
I'm quoting, for God's sake, Chris, marry your man, Aaron,
organize it for her.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I see both sides of this argument. I am listen.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I was living vicariously through Chris's Instagram and Steve's Instagram
this week for the wedding of the of the royal
wedding of the century. Would I love the Candarry Thompson
ceremony and to be a.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Part of it.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yes, But I also have learned that she is going
to do what she wants and if this is what
makes her happy, we're here for it. Here's the other thing.
I just want the party. I want the I want
the dance floor, I want the PJ party, I want
all of that. But I can get that pretty much
(07:19):
anytime that we hang out. I just, in the end,
have seen this woman go through a lot, and I'm
gonna say this. I quickly quickly got a voice text
from you today before we did this, and you were
talking about who I call Steve your husband anyways busy.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
But you made a comment about him and you're like,
he's great.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
I love him, And I thought to myself, oh my god,
they got off the road being together with eight thousand
pieces of luggage and they still love each other.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
That's a win.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
You don't need the ring, you don't need the marriage
like they already are.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
But I don't want a wedding my goal.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
So I appreciate everything you just said formultiple reasons because
we've had this conversation. I don't want to say it
not because that's not that's not fair. I love love,
and again we'll talk about the wedding and all that
kind of stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
I love watching people be in love love.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
I mean, it's just it's like I'm in love, like
for the first time in my life. Like I'm like
so happy, like yes, every day perfect. No, that's not reality. No,
Like I'm Steve and I've been together for three years
now and I adore this then I adore him like
I just love him. If there was if there was
a crystal ball, and like or not a crystal ball,
if there was like a magic eraser, and I could
(08:34):
go back in my life and erase, erase, the shitty marriages.
Then I would have done that and I would marry
Steven a heartbeat. Steve is not the issue. The word
marriage is the issue. And so then I always have
you know, people that are like, you know, go to therapy, girl.
I've been to so much therapy. That's why I can
even be in another relationship. So for me, the blockage
is the word marriage. It like, it makes me break
(08:57):
out in hives. It may work blockage, blockage, beta blocker.
There is just this aversion that I have to the
actual marriage part, not to the individual that is Stephen Kinderry.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
He's great.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
So now I will not marry Steve. And it's not
because I don't love him. It's because I don't like
me in a marriage. And that is the end of that.
But I have not not ruled out the idea of
having a big party at some point in our lives.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I just you know, I don't like planning these things.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
And then there's so much pressure someone Yeah, but there's
so much pressure. Who are we inviting, who are we
not inviting, who's left out? We want the party to
be great. I don't want to spend a trillion dollars.
But then It's like, if we don't spend a trillion dollars,
are we really getting? Like I don't want to backyard
barbecue either, So like, I don't know. There's just like
more headaches with marriage than not when it comes to
the party planning part. So anyways, kez A Jay twenty
(09:51):
eight to thirty five, I appreciate that you want Steve
and I to get married. We are very happy without
the paper, but not mistake Dan, I.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Want you to get drunk enough in the French riviera.
Who French riviera that we could pull it off. But listen,
they're basically married. So I'm happy with that.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Ruling out that on.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Any sort of vacation, whether it's a six top, whether
it's a French riviera, whatever it is, imagine nobody wants
to officiate and we randomly just do it. That's more
my style than it would be. Look, my dad's already
walked me down the aisle one time, because when you
get married multiple times, you at least get that one.
That's all I wanted was my dad and I to
have that one moment. I had it, So now it
(10:35):
is what it is, and.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
This time around for the wedding, if we did it
with the sixth top. We could ask Taylor to bring
that guitar like she did it tight end you and
be like.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Hey, the band's here, what do you have for us? Seriously?
Speaker 3 (10:48):
I could have And by the way, we also have
a cake that she would make, so we'd have the cake,
we'd have the band, and we'd have Jared officiating the ceremony.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Perfect. Danny s j good question.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
It gives me anxiety. What's left on your off season
to do list? Everything so much, so much. I was
talking to my sweet al Michaels yesterday out for our
vacation and wanted the tea on that wedding. My man
loves some God. We had a great catch up session
(11:31):
and I just love him so much. But he goes,
you know what I see right now? I see a
train coming through the tunnel and I see the lights
and I'm like what, And He's like, our season is
going to be here before we know.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
It, that is going to come.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
And I had as only al Michaels can illustrate the
Polar Express coming through the tunnel, and I.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Was like, it's true.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Because August we've got preseason games, We've got seminars, got whatever. Like,
we are just starting July and we I already feel
like so with that, which is why we're going to
do last second trips and last second things to make
the most of it. But I also, in unpacking yesterday realized,
and this is a great fortune in life, is to
(12:13):
have an excessive amount of stuff.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I don't know why I need all of this.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
This is as I was folding Steve's laundry, because that's
how much I love him, I was like, why do
you need fifteen pairs of black shorts? Everything is in excess.
I need to purge, I need to donate. I need
to do so many like open up the random cupboard
drawer and just clean stuff out, because if I start
this season and have the guest bedroom full of just
(12:40):
shit piling over and the racks aren't cleaned off and
all that stuff, I'm going to have a real panic attack.
So yes, it's a luxury to have excessive stuff, but
not necessary. It just feels gluttonous, it feels gross, and
it's like I can be donating this and doing something
better with it. So that is my off season goal
is clean up on Aisle four and then spend as
(13:03):
much time at the ranch as I can, because then
one second season comes around, I don't get there, and
I feel like a bad mother already to my animals.
So that those are my two priorities.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
What are you up to? Same?
Speaker 2 (13:13):
When I was putting my clothes away from our vaka,
I was kind of ripping old stuff off and like,
if I didn't take this on the trip, why do
I have? Why do I have the ten pairs of
jean shorts that not only are too short for a
mom in almost her fifties and that are too tight.
I'm not wearing these. There's no reason to hang on
to them. If I'm not bringing them to the front Riviera.
(13:33):
I'm not wearing them ever again. Take them out, girl.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
With the jeene shorts. That's actually really Ineslu. But I've
got to tell you, the cute ones I like.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Right now are the ones that go down to your
knees that all these fashionable girls are wearing with the
belt sports shorts.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Adorable.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
But I don't have the balls to wear them because
my mom made me wear them in third grade and
it makes me think of PTSD of being called minut
having really skinny legs and elastic waistbands.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Were We were at a Zara in Monaco before everyone's
at everyone's at these you know, Cardier, these high end
stores in Erin, and I are like, give us Zara
Mona so great stuff over there. They had Jeane Shorts
there and I don't know you were somewhere else in
the store, but I wanted to yell, what about these?
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Well, now I know you like those.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
They got them, They're they're really making a comeback. So
I took those down. I want to finish this Good
Vibes book that I started to read once you left
the Yeah, I think, I mean like, there's nothing to
brag about how far I got in that book, but
I want to finish it.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
I'm going to start therapy.
Speaker 3 (14:39):
Again, Aaron Jill Andrews. I am so I gotta proud
of you. There's so many reasons why, but oh today,
wait for it. I started a little meditation you know
this about me. I'm I wake up for a leak
and I'm like, I gotta go. I can't just sit
in bed and flip through my phone.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Got up and decided to go downstairs, started my girl
Chelsea on the Peloton app and did a ten minute
like breathing thing.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Got to do it.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Let's just have to good for you and we'll get
into that more on the Big Show. Aaron getting up early,
that's all. That's a whole session. I've found out so bad.
I feel like I know a lot about you. But
that was one thing. But we'll talk about that later.
But I am very and we'll talk about the therapy
part later because that's what that's worth expanding upon. I'm
writing it down, as you like to say, write it down. Okay, great,
(15:30):
write it down. Here's what also Aaron's very good at
and I'm not is lists. So let's hold each other accountable. Yep,
mine's cleaning out ranch time. Yours is therapy and throwing
away geene short. Let's check that in with each other
before our first preseason game and see where we end up.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yes, we've got this is one of the things I
want to talk about on the Big Show. I'm in it.
I am in it.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Okay, great, So you know what we're gonna do. Let's
bring back is colder for the Big Show and just
answer it that. Yeah, yesber Holder are going to have
to wait until Thursday until the big episode comes out.
A big show, the big episode because Aaron wants to
answer that it's all about Dallas Cowboy cheerleader.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
He is back.
Speaker 3 (16:13):
Okay, we'll answer that then. So moving on to the
next one, We've got Cohler Cindy ninety five year old
mother has a boyfriend I do not like. Oh no,
Do I let her know he is rude and disrespectful
to me?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Oh no, There's two ways to look at this.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
She's ninety five. Let her live her life. But you
don't want to be around a jerk? Yeah? Oh no. Also,
I love that your mother has a boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
Yeah at nine or five? Yeah, exactly. So let's start
with the positive, but the negative go.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
I was just about to call this guy an asshole,
but after watching again Binging DCC, which we'll talk about
in the big show, that's Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader for sure,
I'm like, what would Charlotte Jones do not have a
mouth like me?
Speaker 1 (16:59):
What would the al?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
What would Kelly and Judy do not have a mouth
like me? So I'm really kind of try and clean
it up.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
Wait time out, so they don't swear? Now there are
proper women.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Well I'm not.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
I'm trying to clean up my act too. But then
I saw Charlie's Starren talking and I she was really
driving her point home with them, and I was like, see,
there's a time in a place, because when she started
letting those fly, I was like, Oh, she's serious. So
maybe we just work on using them with the right time,
not just right aphazardly checking those bad boys around. When
(17:39):
I hear women swear sometimes I'm always like, oh, clean
it up. Meanwhile, I'm like, what the fuck do you
think you are? Lady?
Speaker 1 (17:46):
What are we going to do with your your mother?
Speaker 3 (17:48):
Let's take the age part out of it for a second,
because yes, we love that she is finding happiness at
any age, but it still does not mean that he
gets a pass an asshole and being rude, especially to you.
So cooler, Cindy, I would say this to your mother.
I would say, Mom, first and foremost, your happiness is
(18:09):
all I want, but I also want you to be
treated respectfully. Does he do that? Because maybe he's just
being mean to you. And if he's being mean to you,
then maybe you can just overlook that for your mom's happiness.
But if this guy is a jerk to you, then
something tells me that he might be a little bit
sassafras to your mom as well, and maybe ask some
preliminary questions that like how he treats her, and then
(18:32):
if she's like, well, sometimes he's not very nice, to
be like, I'm noticing that as well, and how he
treats me, So then it opens up the door for
you to let in your opinion of him as opposed
to just being like, I don't like your boyfriend, because
she's going.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
To get defensive of that. So start with her happiness.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Work backwards from there, and keep us posted because we
don't need any asshole guys.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
No matter what.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Age, your mother is agreed, agreed, you want her happiness,
but you want to make sure he is cousin to
be around treating your mother right. That's really hard to navigate.
Families are tough. Last, but not least, girl is laid low.
My two and a half year old wants to live
a pants free life.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Help. My two year old.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Is really into He's really big into asking everybody where
their belly buttons are. And not only is he not asking,
he'll just go right up to you and lift your shirt.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Up, so I didn't know he's doing this. Yeah, here's
here's where I'm concerned.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
We start school in September, and how's that going to
go over to.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
His teacher or the other girls in class? Everyone, Hey,
I'm max old, let me lift up your shirt. No,
miss Andrews, we have an issue. Mac is lifting up
the girl's shirt again. Please give us a call.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Oh God, I don't know how to navigate this, but listen,
I would live a pants free world as well if
I had a Chris's highting.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
I don't, but.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Yeah, I've learned, like I haven't learned anything.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
I don't. I don't have advice on dealing with the kid. Okay,
I don't have a two and a half year old,
but I would. I would. This would be my advice.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
My advice would be incentivize him right where it's like
you don't want to reward, like, Okay, he gets, you know,
a gummy bear for everyone to keep his pants on,
because that's like, no, we just keep our pants on.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
That's what we're doing. But it's more of like a
who's his favorite?
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Lesson Lauren and Jeff's wedding, and then Chris will go
to Charriissa for more. No, I'm joking, there's no headline.
She took her pants off. Knock it off, there.
Speaker 3 (20:38):
Is I wore next to nothing most nights and guess
that I saw the picture every pretty else go today.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
Do you think the bridecareed not at all? She approved
the outfits?
Speaker 3 (20:49):
Oh yeah, no, I think that For this situation, it's like,
does he have a favorite superhero, who's his favorite cartoon characters?
Things like that, And fine, cartoon character is wearing pants?
Be like, oh, look, I don't know who they are
these days. Uh, you know, give me a cartoon character,
Woody from Toy Story.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Lying Guard.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Great, look at wood he's wearing pants. And then be like,
you can take your pants off when we're at home,
because he takes his pants off when he's in How
we're out in public and we're around other people, Woody,
and you are going to leave your pants on. Elmo
is naked, so he doesn't. He doesn't work in this scenario.
But find a person a character that he he or
she likes, and then use them as an example.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Because you know, Mickey Mouse keeps his making mouth, dies
Donald not so much. No pants dance there but and with.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
That, join us on the Big Show for four ridiculous
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