July 10, 2025 • 39 mins
The Big Show edition of Calm Down with Erin and Charissa has arrived recapping the 4th of July weekend! The ladies reminisce on their holiday weekend together and why it might be time to stop using the f-word so casually. Charissa admits she refuses to make the bed when Steve is out of town while Erin explains why she needs to start prioritizing sleep. They also try to figure out why everyone is talking about “Utah curls”.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I learned real quick.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
I couldn't leave my drunk night jeans with the yundies
and I'm next to my bedside for more than a day,
or he'd be like the old Aeron and Chris, Hey,
what's going on over here? You know the quick I'm
like getting I'm I've.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Had a.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Just like throw yourself in bed and it all comes
off in one kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Calm Down with Erin and Chrissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
And Welcome to the College. I just found out, yeah, welcome,
Sorry to interrupt. I just found out, as we talked
about it in our pregame show your battery right now
is at a seventy.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I am at.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
I just spent forty eight hours with you, I would say,
and I didn't want you to leave. By the way,
it felt too short. I felt like I met. I'm
I'm at a thirty two.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Really, I okay, we're not in the red.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
We're not in the red yet hot down to twenty
five where we're or twenty percent where it's blinking low battery.
But yeah, I'm met a seventy only because I'm someone
And actually Tony Gonzalez brought this up to me. He
said that I get energy from being around other people
because his wife Toby's like this. He goes, if I'm
around a lot of people, my battery gets strained. You
(01:15):
and Toby, the minute you're around more people, you guys
like get filled with energy. So since I just left
you and we had, even in albeit a short amount
of time, had such a great time great yess. I
was tired physically, but like I'm like emotionally and like spiritually.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Full of happiness. Like yeah, that also leads me too.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
When I was with Aaron, I kept being like, I
just feel so connected to you, and She's like what
So when we had this great trip as we talked
about on last week's podcast, and it was so much
fun and it's hard, Like, let's be honest, when you
go on a trip with a girlfriend and there's Zick
Nick Fick and other there could be couple trips that
get like oh fuck, like what we've had enough of
these people, or like do we have to do enough?
(01:58):
We're out of things to talk about, or like they're
trying to plan stuff we don't want to.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Do things who booked this restaurant?
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Jared, It's like it could get like and even if
you love the person, it could get like nitpicky and
you're like, okay, I'm ready for a break. Our time
together was the perfect amount of time. We did the
perfect amount of stuff. It was like, I don't know,
I just left our vacation feeling really I don't know,
like wait for it connected to you.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
And so then when I saw you again, I was
just missing you. So I don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
I just kept looking at Aaron the last couple of
days and being like, I'm just like, you know, so happy.
And all relationships and friendships go through like different things
where you're like, eh, they're annoying me or whatever. But
I'm really into Aeron right now. So that's the moral
of the story.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
But I got to tell you, and I'm sure this
will be a headline. Aeron Andrews tells Carissia fuck off.
I felt so bad about that that night we were
having a conversation and I was being like, oh, fuck off.
And I had said that to Jared a couple of
days before too, And I thought to myself at three am,
as I woke up from the sweats, probably the alcohol
and things I was I was going over in my mind,
(03:01):
that's a Sex in the City movie. I was like,
oh my god, I think it's too much of not
hanging out with guys, but more of like using the
using the F word and like being so much like
a guy all the time, like stop, don't say that.
Because when I said it to my husband, he was
like whoa. And then when you said I said it
to you, you were like whoa. And I was like, no,
(03:21):
not like that, like I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
So you're be I love you. You're being sensitive about that,
but I can completely understand. We were just having a
conversation and I said to me to Error and she's.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Like, oh, fuck off, and I was like, whoa.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
But I said to Steve shut the fuck up the
other day and I didn't mean it. We were in
our Tommy Linda liked it, and I was like, you
heard it, and I was like, shut the fuck up, Tommy,
and it was like and then later he said to me,
He's like, don't say that to me, and I was like,
I didn't mean it, Like we were in characters. So
I think you and I actually think that's something that's
(03:54):
good to be mindful of, because even if we were
not sensitive people, especially like towards each other. We can
know like when yeah, that's true, I'll take that back.
I am sensitive. Que the number of times I've cried
in the back seat on the way home from events
with you.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
No, it's it.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Woke up with sweats and her palpitations at three am
after saying that to you.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
You know, I think that we're sensitive if we, I
don't know. I don't want to, like, you know, overly
diagnose the situation. I think that in general, we could
probably just be mindful of, yes, that we are that
locker room kind of chitter chatty selves and it's like
it's kind of gross sometimes. But that was not the
case in the referenced story above. All right, but I
(04:37):
got to clean up my act, cleaning up our act,
and also just thinking how it sounds like to other people,
because then when I said that to Steve, I was like,
oh my god, people are probably like that's how they
talk to each other, and it does matter, even if
it's joking around. It's kind of nasty to tell, like
your partner in a joking way, shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
That's weird. If I heard that, I'd.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Be like, these two are rude, all right, So we'll
work on it, no problem. But I never felt closer,
never fell closer. So holiday weekend, fourth of July, I
was up in Seattle celebrating my mom's birthday. Still on
the fifth, I got to see my whole family, which
they always have a celebration for my mom's birthday. They
(05:16):
I have not been up there, and this is completely
my fault. Don't not make any excuses for like the
last six years. And I was like, this year, I'm
going up And it was so much fun. And my
nieces and nephews. I know I've talked about this before
when they came to the ranch. There ones going to college,
one's already, one just graduated college, one's a senior in
high school. Like I'm just crazy, so much fun with
(05:37):
this age with them. And I have to say, when
I left, they all sent me separately, and I know
it's not because their parents told them to. They all
individually sent me separate texts that said how much they
enjoyed spending time with me and how much they loved
talking to me, and how they can appreciate that they
can confide in me, and I just again, I'm not
going to be a mother, so for me, to feel
(05:58):
like I can be there and maybe be that like
I don't know where you can't tell your parents, but like, yeah,
you can tell me things, and like, look, I'm not
going to keep stuff from your parents, but I'm also
not going to tell them everything because I think you
need to have a safe space that's not your parents,
you know. So I just left there with a full
heart thinking about how excited I am to be in
(06:21):
their lives, because I wasn't as much as I should
have been the last couple of years. Like life gets
busy and they're busy, and they're also we're in a
teenage phase that where they probably weren't into me anyways.
But I feel like there's a new season with them
and I'm really excited to foster those relationships.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
But yeah, we had a great time.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
And let me just tell you what the fireworks show
that my brother and my brother in law put on.
It was like Macy's Fourth of July Parade in New York.
I was like, this went on from I mean it
doesn't get dark in Seattle into like ten thirty. It
went on from ten thirty to like three in the morning,
like to the point where like I had to go
to bed. I was like, cause we were flying out
(06:57):
the next day and I was like, Steve, we got
to go to bed three o'clock in the morning. These
fireworks are still going off because they are in an
area where they're totally.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Legal and people just go crazy.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
But yeah, so they bought up still setting them off
at three am.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
My brother and brother in law retired somewhere around twelve thirty.
But like the neighborhood because where my parents are at
is like on the water, so there's like all these
other surrounding neighborhoods that you can see, like from.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Across the water. So yeah, they're wild. But it was
so fun.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
And I've said this before about any holiday that has
to do with, like, you know, America, I just love it.
And we played you know, Fourth of July playlist off
Spotify and the barbecue and it's just, I don't know,
it was really fun and it's such a great holiday.
That made me really happy. So I know you were
in Montana, so tell me, Yeah, I was in Montana.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
We were. It was fun. We went to a barbecue
out here. It was a good time. Saw a bunch
of friends. No drone show or fireworks. We can't have
fireworks out there because of the rain or rain. They
don't want fires drought drone show. There was a lot
of rain, so it couldn't do it. But listen, it
was a great time. It felt like Fourth of July
(08:03):
when my little firecracker walked through the door on July fifth,
meaning you and that was me and then no and
Steve walked in and uh, yeah, that was a good time.
This is uh, this is an interesting I know it's
not part of our rundown, sorry, Ryan, but this is
an interesting thing to add to the equation. So you
(08:25):
guys like have come over, you know my son, but
we've done a lot of trips without him, because it's
like it's adult time and hosting people. When you have
a child that wakes up at seven am and wakes
up and is like la la la la la la,
and you know that you and your friends probably didn't
(08:46):
shut her d till about two, it's like it's another level.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
You're like, oh god, I feel so bad right.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Now, Like now I want to start providing people with
noise machines in their rooms so they really he's.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
The noise outside. She's being dramatic.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
I heard mac one time, and that was like his
excitement and enthusiasm for life. And I was so excited
to see Aim. Although I got to tell you, I know,
I wasn't there that long because we had to leave,
but I was hoping to spend more time with Mac.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
No social calendar is so busy.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Every time I came upstairs, he's off on doing this,
he's off doing this, he's off doing that. I'm like,
he's so busy, where's my nephew. I didn't even get
to see him. This guy is like the mayor over there.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
We just tried to set up like a mini playdate
for him if you listen, he doesn't have time, like
if you're he's got things. So playdate didn't happen. And
it was like, yeah, sorry, I mean, I'm busy, busy.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
So busy.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
But he's in such a great, fun little age and
like walking around with his little Mickey Mouse T shirt
and his Nikes, and he's always styled out. This kid
always has a whole vibe going. But yeah, do you
need to stop it? Your kid was not Also, he's
a child. He could hit his house.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Yes, yes, Still you feel you're very cognizant of who
else is in your house and you're like, sorry, please
went to bed three hours ago.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I'm so sorry. Please, You're the most gracious host.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
I also it's so bad that, like, because you are
so generous and I'm there a lot, I just act
like it's my house. I had you want to start
on your conpectations. I had multiple times that I said
things to you on this trip and I was like, Carissa,
shut your mouth. Are you like saying?
Speaker 1 (10:25):
I was like, who do you think you are? I
was like, what, this is not your house?
Speaker 3 (10:37):
All right? We got a lot to talk about on
this here show. Obviously, we just recapped our fourth of
July activities.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Aaron.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
I can't not get enough of her. I just need
to spend time with her all the time. But I'm
going to talk or we're going to talk about a
few things on this show. Aaron's gonna need to get
some more sleep, so we're gonna to talk about what
I mean by that. Also, I have this thing that
I think about a lot, and I've sort of mentioned
it on here before so as eron on various podcasts.
But I'm going to get into what I do when
(11:03):
Steve's not around at home, and.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
It's I don't know.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
I just need to know if anyone else is doing
the same things. We also have some fun headlines that
we're going to get to and let's just jump right
into it. Yeah. So so starting with Aaron getting sleep. Yeah,
we're going to piggyback right off of the Matt conversation
because you do have a child that wakes up early,
and you're a very good mom and you want to
get up with your child.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
You're not sleeping in and letting somebody else get up
with your kid. You are up. But then also you
don't go to bed until later. And so here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
He gets up at seven, So that's not really that
early if you think about, like, I'm just not sleeping
in it anymore. I'm not sleeping in anymore unless we
go on vacation, which is this is when it alarmed you.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
You still didn't sleep in con vication. What's the latest
you slept in when we were gone? Honestly, maybe nine. Okay,
that's not enough time. I don't think that's enough time.
And I'm somebody who I used to now at the ranch,
I would do wake up a lot earlier because I
want to I want to hear an animals. I want
to let them out, Like there's different gates. I need
(12:11):
to let them out. I feel bad like if I
don't if I'm sleeping in, like there's certain things, but
that's not I'm not here all the time. The reason
why I'm so like on you about this sleep situation
is because we talk all the time. We do all
these things for her house. You work out like a
crazy person. You take all of your supplements. You do
all these things for your health the number one thing.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
And I'm not a.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Doctor, but I'll see all the articles on sleep, and
I saw this article on Dakota Johnson actually talking about
how she needs like ten to twelve hours of sleep
but really loves to sleep, and I was like, good.
I was like, I never used to be someone that
would want to sleep. I feel like, oh, I'm missing stuff.
I need to be up, I need to be doing things.
(12:52):
My ass was asleep on this couch last night. I'm
not Stee's not here, but he will be. And I
was asleep by maybe nine thirty, I think I was.
And I was so happy going to bed early, waking
up refreshed. I just want that for you because I
know like you make everybody else a priority, and you
think too much before you go to bed. Yep, So
(13:14):
since we don't have a lot of time before football
season starts, and then football is like, you know, you're
on the hamster wheel and there's a lot of reasons
why you're not gonna get sleep, and you're on planes
and your this and that. I want you to try
to make that a point of emphasis. I'm not a doctor, Cindy,
but I want that for you. So I love you. No,
I have to I Yeah, I just couldn't.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Sometimes too, like when we were out on our vacation
and we're drinking like a lot the night before, it's
like I cannot sleep in After I do that, I
feel like the sugar gets me. I don't know, I'm
making excuses.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
I need to go to bed a lot earlier than
I do, and I need to you know.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Yeah, that's like the key right now with Mackie doodle
Doo is that I've got to go to bed a
lot earlier.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
So I will. I gotta do it.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
You could, I there's anything you want me to work on,
let me know. This is in a one way stre
my God. Ryan just wrote in our chat. Dakota Johnson
likes to sleep four fourteen hours a night. I'm not
functional if I get less than ten.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
My number one part is that why her skin looks
that way and her body? Yeah, I'm telling you, yeah,
But then think about it. You're also not making bad choice.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
You're not making as many bad choices if you're going
to bed earlier, not staying up now, I'll be at
vacation's fine, or like our little rendezvus are fine.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
But like if you the earlier you go to bed,
to bed.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Less, you're eating shitty food, the less you're drinking drinking
sleep is that's my new that's my new hobby. When
people ask your hobby is my new thing is sleeping.
And I'm not going to feel bad about it.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
I'm sick of waking up with bags under my eyes
and looking like I'm tired. I have to drink more water,
I am. This is so whatever. I'm sure everybody may
be listening to this. Feels like I should drink more
water too. I don't like doing things that everybody else does,
those fucking cups that everyone carry around, and it's like, uh, exactly,
And so I was like, I'm not going to carry
(15:04):
around a cup. Okay, I'm gonna tell you what I
am doing carrying around again now because it'll let me
drink more water. And if I don't do it, and
I don't want to have a water bottle, and then
I have drink one ounce out of the water bottle
and it's wasteful. The plastic bottles are everywhere. Just fill
up the cup and drink out of it. I'm gonna
get better about that, because like my skin is looking
(15:25):
dry a high high.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
It's not. It's not, but I get it.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Yeah, Hey, Ryan, since you're our stats guy right now,
is there something on Jennifer Aniston in the amount of
water she drinks?
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I feel like she's a big water gal. The only
thing is having to peel lot. But I don't care.
I have to still do it because there's time. Oh
my god.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
The other day I went to the end of the
when I was with you. It was the whole day
when I was like, I haven't Pete, like, this is
a problem. If you're going all day and you haven't
stopped use the bathroom, you think you're doing No.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
It was the I got to your house.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
I believe this is a quote from our favorite Yeah
ja as I like to say, don't know or would
love to drink so much water.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
It's painful, painful, wear like in your stomach. Oh no,
feeling bloated. I don't know. But it's just a day.
Speaker 3 (16:14):
So you need sleep and you're good about water hydration
packets and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
I am all right. So so you just mentioned Steve
is not there. He's going to be not there. Yeah,
he's on his way. Yes, by the time this hairs,
he will be here.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
So I have this thing that when he's gone, I
do things that I wouldn't normally do if he was around.
Nothing crazy and outlandish, but just like I won't make
my bed, and I am a stickler for making the
bed like I was raised every morning before I left
for school, Like my dad made me make my bed,
(16:53):
like I was just ingrained, like you have to do it.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
So when I started to take that stead away, he would.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Not always make the bed, and I'm like, oh my god,
you have to make the bed every single day.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Well, when he's not around, I don't make the bed.
And he knows this.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
No, he's gonna find out because I my psychology is
if he thinks that I do it every day, then
he should be doing it every day as well, because
I guarantee you when I go out of town for
Thursday night football, that bed is not made Wednesday night
Thursday night, and he fucking scrambles to make that bed
on Friday morning because and.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
I go, do you make the bets?
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Like yeah, but I just so I don't do it either,
And I feel like we should just both come clean
with each other because he's hiding it from me, and
I bet you he doesn't do it, and he just
says that he does. So things like that were like
I'll let the dishes pile up in the sink, I'll
leave shit all around on my shoes. Yeah, just the
whole place looks like a disaster. And then five minutes
(17:48):
before I know he's coming home. It was like when
my garage, when my dad came home from work in
the garage door opened, I was like shit and like
cleaned up everything along the house. Yeah. But I have
this thing where I don't know, like, what's the longest
stint that you've lived by yourself, like before you were
oh pre Jarrett. Yeah, because I feel like, I mean,
(18:10):
I've always sort of been until Jarrett. Really yeah, he
was the first guy you lived with. Yes, how was
that transition? Because that is that right? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Yeah, that's pretty much right, because I didn't have a
long distance Yeah, okay, okay, transition.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
I learned real quick.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
I couldn't leave my drunk night jeans with the yundies
and I'm next to my bedside for more than a day,
or he'd be like the old Aaron and Chris. I
hate what's going on over here? You know the quick
I'm like getting I'm I've had a throw yourself in
bed and it all comes off in one kind of thing,
not beform. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Yeah, because I've always i mean,
(19:01):
I'm a relationship person, so like I've lived with a
lot of different I've lived with a lot of different guys.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
I lived with a lot of men, and I have.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
I've lived I mean, if I really was like I mean,
I was married twice and then I had long term
boyfriends like I lived you know, one with five years
lived with him, one.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Was two years, basically lived with him.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
But anyways, so I've just always had someone in the space.
So I feel this freedom when they leave and I'm like,
oh my god, I just get to do whatever I want.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
I just eat whatever I.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
Want because also too, like Steve like loves cooking. So
every night, so what do you want for dinner? And
I'm like, I want top Rahmen. Like last night, you
know I had I had the tuna fish packets that
are like you basically have for earthquakes because they will
last forever, the tuna fish packet and rice and I
ninety seconds, Yeah your rice?
Speaker 1 (19:54):
You like bos Maddy. I love Bosmody that.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
When we were in France, everything had Bosmody rice and
I was like, I love Bosmody, but yeah, ninety seconds
in the old microwave. I'm a I am a bachelor,
I am a full dude. When it comes to he
wasn't in my life. I would be malnutrition. I wouldn't
eat like because I don't like cooking. So and it
was the ninety second meal. It was the cores light
(20:23):
and the plastic tupperware on the couch while watching my
HGTV shows last night. And I'm excited again to do
it tonight. And then he's going to come strolling in
here and he's going to go, oh, what do you
want to eat for dinner? And I'm like, why is
every meal need to be a conversation? Like I could
just have some chips and in athletic greens and I'd
be fine. I don't need to have a meal every
five seconds. So anyways, I just love I love my
(20:46):
man so much, irish Are.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
I love him.
Speaker 3 (20:49):
But I like when he goes out of town because
then I just here's a bachelor.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
That would be the same for me when Jarrett was
playing hockey or any like hockey trips he goes on now,
or golf for that matter.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Yeah, it's like you kind of let your hair.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
Down a little bit and you have a good you know,
not a good time, but you don't have to clean
up everything. I mean, I got a whole situation right
now in the bathroom where I've got like four different
outfits hanging not hanging, but they're like laying over the tub.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Girl, girl, put those on the I love the tob move.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
I do the to move, but it's ye messy right now,
I'm messy. Yeah, I like the tob move because then
you throw because it's stuff that you know, either needs
to go to dry cleaning, so that's a sember area
or like dirty closes, right there. The hamper's fine, but
it's stuff that, like you, doesn't need to be dry cleaned.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
And it's the jackets. You just throw that over because
we're not hanging that up.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Oh yeah, I like the.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Bathtub move okay, yeah, and then it was on my way.
I work my way into the side of the bathtub
one where it's like then it now it can't make
the hamper. It's the undies, the socks, the workout closes.
It's like, girl, put it in the hamper. It's right
there in the hamper. Yeah, that's what I do when
he's not in town. Absolutely, and it's a crap TV.
It's like the stuff I wouldn't watch with him, Like
(22:00):
I am I catching up on a housewives?
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Am I not? Yeah, stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
I did the Mormon housewife reunion the other day. He
comes walking in and I go, I paused it. I go, uhh,
I go. I'm going to tell you right now, you're
not going to like this. And if you come in
here and you want to hang out with me, that's great,
and I appreciate that. But there's no questions and there's
no noises because this is the other thing he'll do.
He'll go oh god, what Yeah, no noises. No, no
(22:25):
no noises. You you are zipping. Put that hostage shape
back on the mouth, and you can sit next to
me and be quiet. There's no questions, there's no noises
because I'm going to tell you right now, I don't
come strolling in to your documentaries that you like to
watch and start asking all these questions about the history
of advertising or your marketing or your golf stuff or
(22:47):
whatever it is that you're watching.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
No.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
So this is my space. You want to come into it.
Zip it and no judging.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
Hey, speaking of Mormon Wives, this show which I need
to get up on, Yeah, I want to watch it
when I'm alone. I went to a girl to help
fix the nonsense that went on with my roots a
week and a half ago, and she was telling me
that a real big trend right now for gals that
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are coming in is I want the Mormon wave.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Oh you know when curl? You know who asked me
to do that?
Speaker 3 (23:23):
The other day, my sweet niece, she goes, can you
curl my hair like the Mormon Housewives. It's just it's
it's just so there's the one that they have that
three like crimping, curling, idea like the Mermaid hair.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Yeah, the Mermaid thing, that's what it is. I mean
all the hair.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
I feel like they all I mean they don't all
look alike, but there's a lot of the same hair,
and they're getting Jesse's hair salon all one length and
then they're doing the curl and then the ends are
real straight. Yeah right, it's not the Yeah, it's not
the curl. It's just like a little bend and you
leave thekh So wait, well, I actually do I have
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it here, this curling around here, and you go back
like this, and then you're going to hold it there,
hold it there, one, two, three, and then you just
pull the end straight. So it's just a way. It's
how you do your hair. It's not any different. But yeah,
my needs hasks for that.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
No, I don't have hair. It's all gone.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
It's like, oh, you need to stop it. I've had
a real thing. And this isn't me being mean to myself.
Over the last year and a half, I've had a
real you know how you clean it like, yeah, I've
had a real situation. So I'm really looking forward to
the new growth, the new me, and because I have
a lot of hair.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
But you do.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
So it's damaged right now, It's just damage. It's over processed,
it's damaged, it's.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
The whole thing. So I'm getting on a real kick
about that. What are we doing it?
Speaker 3 (24:47):
Maybe it is a lack of sleep, I'm not kidding. No,
what are you doing at night? Like are you putting
like a hair mask on it? Because at this point,
like what are we doing to fix it? Because I
don't know, but I can respect what's going on because
I've had a hair journey for my whole friendship with you.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
I'm on a real journey.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
I'm going to tell you a product you know about
that Rose Roz stuff. They've got a treatment oil that
I just ordered it waiting for it to come because
it may or may not have opened up in my suitcase.
Knock great. So yeah, that's going to start going on
the ends. The problem with that is, and sorry to
any guys that are listening, because I know you guys
don't care.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
We will talk about football in like a month and
a half.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
I'm gonna, like, I know, put it on when you
go to bed, But then I don't want it on
the side of my hair because then my face is
there on the pillow.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
I worry about it, also staying, oh, yeah, I did
that last night. I sprayed in that ten minute miracle
stuff that I really like. But then I came down
to the couch, I brought a towel down. I put
the towel on the back of the pillow and then
laid it down. Because this is this is the whole thing.
We don't want to dry our hair every night, but
then if we don't dry, everyone's supposed to go to bed.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
So what are we supposed to do.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
There's a whole line called K eighteen. That stuff's amazing
as well. I'm going to get on a whole journey.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
With them too.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
That's expensive. Oh, speaking of it, I was did you
get my voice note that? I said, I sure did, Oh,
I sure did. I was going to buy one for
you and I, and then I was like you and
I t y, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
We're going to use that.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
No, but I don't. I don't know what the name
of it is. I'm just worried about my back name
right now. Hey, if anyone out there I've been having,
it's not acne. I talked to you about this the
other day. It's and Ken and I were talking about this.
It is these little bump bumps. Yeah, and it's not
it's not all. I've been dry brushing, I've been exfoliating.
I went and got one of those body scrubs. I
(26:38):
did you thought it was a rose Shaw going on
back there? You can, I think that's it. Rosees is red,
isn't it? But this is like rail back here like
you are. You could find out what hotel room you're
in real quick if you just rubbed this back and
it's gross because it's not z it's it's just like texture.
And I love I proud of myself on having smooth skin,
(27:00):
like like my coconut WI like the whole thing. Yea,
And right now we got a lot of texture back there,
and I'm not interested. So if anyone has any suggestions,
that's all.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
I gotta say about that. Hey, you want to throw
fly through some headlines here? Sys I do, I do?
I do. We love Sarah Jessica Parker. We always have.
Here's the headline.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
Sarah Jessica Parker on navigating cruel critics on her appearance
since SATC began, of course, Sex and the City. In
the interview with caller Daddy Parker admitted that she wasn't
prepared for the level of scrutiny she received while starring
on the hit series, and called it a real test
of my coping mechanisms.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
There was no chatter about me before the series.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
There was just my work, discussions of my physical my
physical person stuff that I couldn't change and wouldn't change
and had never considered changing or even still no interest
in changing it. I was sobbing because it felt so purposeful,
which is so sad. So I know that she's went
on record, I think it was on Howard Stern talking
about how she's now by botox.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Yeah, yeah, no botox.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
And I think that, you know, she's not the only
one too, from that show that's mentioned, uh that, you know,
people being critical of appearance and things like that. It's
just everyone gets to say anything they want about people, right,
And so it makes me sad that she was like,
I hadn't even thought about changing anything until now all
(28:29):
of a sudden, people say stuff and I don't know,
I mean to I think that you and I, you know,
definitely being on television, not I know, we're not Sarah
Jessica Parker, but being on television for twenty plus years
we have. You know, I've definitely been vocal about I
did too much stuff, too much, fillered too much botox,
went to the wrong person sometimes, and started to like
(28:51):
look a little bit different because I did feel pressure
when TV goes from three D to four D to
twelve K and you're like basically like up close and
personal or just feeling like you need to keep up.
I hate that she feels that way, but I also
really respect that she's Like I mean, I don't know
if she's changed her tune that she's going to do anything,
but I don't think she is.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
I just think that she's her being honest about it. Is.
Speaker 3 (29:14):
I like hearing that because fuck you, Fuck everybody who
wants to say something like.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
You are so successful.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
To you, you are so loved, so because you can't win,
because if you go do a bunch of stuff then
you've done too much. And if you don't do anything,
then it's like, oh God, why haven't you done anything?
Like I know Cameron Diaz has even been vocal about
like not wanting to do a lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
It's like, oh well, why botox is not that much?
Just go do that. It's like well, she doesn't want
to do that.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
I just feel like you can't win in that situation,
and anyone's allowed to say whatever they want without repercussion.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
So Sarah Jessica do you girl? Yeah? I just I
find it.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
I never would think somebody like Sarah Jessica Parker or
Carrie Bradshaw would would hear or see some of the
things that people are saying.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
But she did.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
And that makes me sad that, you know, she took
it the way she did, and I love that she's
being so honest that no, I'm not doing it. I
don't think you have to do it. Like I said,
you will always be Carrie Bradshaw. You will always be
this beautiful woman running down the streets of New York
making a run in high heels, look so fabulous.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
And those Fendy bags. I remember I wanted to saving
up my money. It was when I was in college
and I was working like multiple restaurant jobs, and I
was like, I just want to buy a Fendy bag
like Carrie Bradshaw has. And it was like I run
into it. There was I'll never forget it. There was
a sax in Santa Barbara, which is since closed. Which
makes me so sad. And I walked in and I
(30:37):
was like, do you guys have Fendy bags? And they're
like no, And I was like, and I wasn't anywhere else.
There wasn't like another department store in Santa Barbara, so
I'd have to wait to go down down lay to
buy it. But I was like, oh, I was so
excited to buy my first designer bag because of her
next headline girl, all.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
Right, I'm a pediatrician and a dad. Here's my number
one tip to raise happy, successful kids. Having your child
help around the house could be a perfect place to start,
according to doctor Williams. He told Today dot Com this,
when children feel involved in shared responsibilities, they realize they're
contributing to a part of a larger, larger ecosystem, and
(31:12):
there's a real sense of self worth that comes from that.
I love this. We are pushing on our kid. I mean,
if you saw my Instagram post one time. His vacuum
cleaner is his favorite toy that comes from his dad.
But every morning it's like, hey, put your Tony's away,
let's put your books away, put your levies away.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
And it's so cute because he's like walking around like
it's his job, his business.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
So yeah, I've seen a lot of this on Instagram
about how it's so important to give them responsibility.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
Hey, can you put this in the fridge for me?
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Like, you know, it's obviously a small amount that he's
doing right now, but it's so so important.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
Yeah, I remember growing up. I mean, I sit here
and I look at outside right now, like the chores
that I have here at the ranch every time i'm here,
and the responsibilities, and it's not a burden because I
want to do it because it's your house and it's
something you want to take pride in. It's your animals
that you want to take care of. But I remember
growing up and every day in the summertime when we
(32:07):
had my parents were very reasonable about this, Like when
we had sports in school, our chores were very minimal
because we had other responsibilities, Like your emphasis was on
school and your emphasis was on your sports. But when
it was summertime, my mom and dad would go to
work and we would get a list. We'd wake up
to it my chores, my brother, my sister, and if
those chores were not done by the time they got home,
(32:28):
there was consequences. Now, we would procrastinate and we would
wait and do them at the very last second. But
the point is is that we had to do chores,
and it wasn't we didn't get money for them. It
was like, hey, guess what, that's your rent for living here.
We put a roof over your head, We feed you,
we buy those basketball shoes that you're going to play in.
So you're going to do these chores as a contribution,
(32:48):
your contribution to this household. And to me, it's as
I'm now well into my adulthood, it doesn't feel like
a burden to have to clean up my house only
when Steve's not here, because that is your home, and
taking pride in your things is paramount because if you
don't care, then who is going to care.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
About your shit?
Speaker 3 (33:08):
When you're oh and you're just you're incomes so expendable
that you're just going to buy a new thing if
it gets ruined. Like the other day, Oh my god,
it was so funny. I just saw my childhood flash
before my eyes. Or in my parents yard and they
have a really big yard area or whatever, and my
niece's out there and she's in her socks, and I
go ooh, I didn't say anything, but I was like, ooh,
(33:29):
this is going to be a problem if my dad
sees this growing up, if my dad saw that you
were in the grass or outside with just your socks
and not your shoes, he would rip us a new
one that you are too lazy that you can't even
just put your shoes on, that you want to walk
around in your socks and you just expect us to
buy you new socks because you're too late. So my
dad walks around the corner and he goes, hey, y,
(33:50):
you don't have any shoes. She goes what and he goes,
why are you out here in your socks? And I
was like, oh, here we go. And I was so
happy that it wasn't me. And I looked over at Steve,
because Steve will walk around outside with just his socks on,
and I'm always like, you're going to ruin your socks,
Just put shoes on. I buy you seven hundred pairs
of slippers, just slip your slippers on.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Whatever.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
And I looked at Steve and he started laughing and goes, well,
we know you where you get it from. But I'm like,
it's stuff like that, Like it's just something small and
remedial like a pair of socks, but like it was
ingrained in my head growing up, like, no, we treat
our things with respect. And it's a long story to
illustrate the point that my future children that I'm not
having are probably so happy that I'm not their mother,
because I would be a dictator. I'd be like, you're
(34:33):
doing this, you're doing this, you're doing this a drill sergeant,
But whatever, I love it. You got it from Scott.
It's perfect. Speaking of men and doing household things. Men's
daily household contribution hits all time high in two thousand
and three, when I worked an hour more than men
on the home. In twenty twenty four, women worked forty
(34:54):
minutes more. At this rate, housework will be equal sometime
around your twenty sixty six and an NBC News analysis
Bureau of Statistics blah blah blah data shows met in
the US are spending a record high amount of time
on household activities. Great, great, I mean perfect. Yeah, I
gotta tell you. Steve is such. I mean, I have
no problem with this guy. He is like, he'll run
(35:16):
the vacuum before I do.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
We have dogs.
Speaker 3 (35:18):
We have dogs that are inside like that vacuum needs
to be run at least once a day, Like we're
not having hair all over the place, Like yeah, I
never have to worry about that with him, like laundry
any of that stuff, like you live too.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
And by the way, and here's where the compromise is.
Steve hates folding laundry. So the other days in launder
room and I was folding it and he's like, you
don't have to do that. I go, well, I know
you don't like to do it, so I'll do that
for you. It's just like finding compromise, Like I don't
take out the trash. He does that. That's like a
boy job, I think, so like divide and conquer. So yeah, good,
I love it.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
Hey, there is no great way to get into this,
but you and I were together the other day and
we were we had the news on, and how could
you not have the news on and just sit and
watch and just get so emotional about what's happening in Texas?
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Right now?
Speaker 2 (36:05):
You and I were watching a press conference and I
don't know the exact quote, but it was like today
is hard and this week is going to be harder.
Cannot wrap my head around, much like a lot of
people that weren't in La at the time during the
fires what they are going through after the flooding there.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
But man, that's tough to see.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
And yesterday my kid was throwing an absolute fit after
we got we kept him out too late at a
restaurant and he was throwing a fit at in the
bathtub and I just sat and I looked at him
and I didn't even react, and it was just like,
you're okay, You're okay. And we went upstairs and Jarrett
was like, God, Mackie was so pissed off, and I said,
you know what, think about all those families that won't
(36:44):
have their babies ever to give a bag again. And
that shit was just so hard to look at. So yeah,
oh man, my heart and my dogs and my thoughts
go out to those people.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
Everybody in Texas going through what you're going through. It
is unimaginable, It is beyond comprehension. And I just think
that it is so important to help in any way
that you can. Much like you said, when these natural
disasters hit, whether it was fires or it's you know,
tsunamis or earthquakes or anything, these people what they're going
through in Texas is just beyond understanding.
Speaker 1 (37:18):
And we just know that we hope that you know
that we're thinking of you and praying for you.
Speaker 3 (37:22):
And you know, the community, whether it's JJ Watt or
whether it's the Cowboys or whether it's you know, the
NBA and everybody in the community that is Texas rallying around.
And I listen to your friend Jenna talk about it
on the Today Show and her mom, of course, was
a camp counselor there and talking about this magical camp
and what it means to so many families, but also
(37:43):
Jenna talking about the resiliency of the state of Texas
and the community. So our thoughts and prayers are with
each and every one of you. And I know that
doesn't seem like anything, because thoughts and prayers can only
do so much, But we are thinking about you and
anything that you can do to help those people.
Speaker 1 (37:58):
I highly encourage our lists to do so.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
And the first responders the stories about just this selfless,
selfless act and you and I think we were looking
at some of the first pictures coming out and like
they're not even more proper clothing for it to get in.
You know, these waist high chest high waters and they're
just you know, doing what they can to try to
get to anyone or help everyone.
Speaker 1 (38:20):
It was just.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
The stories of what people do as first responders is
just so inspirational and so selfless and just wonderful. I'm
so grateful for people like that that choose to do
that with their life.
Speaker 1 (38:33):
Absolutely so.
Speaker 3 (38:34):
If we can take anything away from something like this,
it's perspective, gratitude, and make sure you hold your loved
ones a little extra tighter.
Speaker 1 (38:42):
Stanning, all right, well, I love you so much, love you.
Speaker 3 (38:46):
I'm sending you a hug from Afar and thank you
guys for listening. We appreciate our community here on the
Calm Down podcast.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
Every single week Arah.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
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Speaker 3 (39:00):
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I learned real quick.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
I couldn't leave my drunk night jeans with the yundies
and I'm next to my bedside for more than a day,
or he'd be like the old Aeron and Chris, Hey,
what's going on over here? You know the quick I'm
like getting I'm I've.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Had a.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Just like throw yourself in bed and it all comes
off in one kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Calm Down with Erin and Chrissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
And Welcome to the College. I just found out, yeah, welcome,
Sorry to interrupt. I just found out, as we talked
about it in our pregame show your battery right now
is at a seventy.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I am at.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
I just spent forty eight hours with you, I would say,
and I didn't want you to leave. By the way,
it felt too short. I felt like I met. I'm
I'm at a thirty two.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Really, I okay, we're not in the red.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
We're not in the red yet hot down to twenty
five where we're or twenty percent where it's blinking low battery.
But yeah, I'm met a seventy only because I'm someone
And actually Tony Gonzalez brought this up to me. He
said that I get energy from being around other people
because his wife Toby's like this. He goes, if I'm
around a lot of people, my battery gets strained. You
(01:15):
and Toby, the minute you're around more people, you guys
like get filled with energy. So since I just left
you and we had, even in albeit a short amount
of time, had such a great time great yess. I
was tired physically, but like I'm like emotionally and like spiritually.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Full of happiness. Like yeah, that also leads me too.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
When I was with Aaron, I kept being like, I
just feel so connected to you, and She's like what
So when we had this great trip as we talked
about on last week's podcast, and it was so much
fun and it's hard, Like, let's be honest, when you
go on a trip with a girlfriend and there's Zick
Nick Fick and other there could be couple trips that
get like oh fuck, like what we've had enough of
these people, or like do we have to do enough?
(01:58):
We're out of things to talk about, or like they're
trying to plan stuff we don't want to.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Do things who booked this restaurant?
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Jared, It's like it could get like and even if
you love the person, it could get like nitpicky and
you're like, okay, I'm ready for a break. Our time
together was the perfect amount of time. We did the
perfect amount of stuff. It was like, I don't know,
I just left our vacation feeling really I don't know,
like wait for it connected to you.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
And so then when I saw you again, I was
just missing you. So I don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
I just kept looking at Aaron the last couple of
days and being like, I'm just like, you know, so happy.
And all relationships and friendships go through like different things
where you're like, eh, they're annoying me or whatever. But
I'm really into Aeron right now. So that's the moral
of the story.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
But I got to tell you, and I'm sure this
will be a headline. Aeron Andrews tells Carissia fuck off.
I felt so bad about that that night we were
having a conversation and I was being like, oh, fuck off.
And I had said that to Jared a couple of
days before too, And I thought to myself at three am,
as I woke up from the sweats, probably the alcohol
and things I was I was going over in my mind,
(03:01):
that's a Sex in the City movie. I was like,
oh my god, I think it's too much of not
hanging out with guys, but more of like using the
using the F word and like being so much like
a guy all the time, like stop, don't say that.
Because when I said it to my husband, he was
like whoa. And then when you said I said it
to you, you were like whoa. And I was like, no,
(03:21):
not like that, like I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
So you're be I love you. You're being sensitive about that,
but I can completely understand. We were just having a
conversation and I said to me to Error and she's.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Like, oh, fuck off, and I was like, whoa.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
But I said to Steve shut the fuck up the
other day and I didn't mean it. We were in
our Tommy Linda liked it, and I was like, you
heard it, and I was like, shut the fuck up, Tommy,
and it was like and then later he said to me,
He's like, don't say that to me, and I was like,
I didn't mean it, Like we were in characters. So
I think you and I actually think that's something that's
(03:54):
good to be mindful of, because even if we were
not sensitive people, especially like towards each other. We can
know like when yeah, that's true, I'll take that back.
I am sensitive. Que the number of times I've cried
in the back seat on the way home from events
with you.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
No, it's it.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Woke up with sweats and her palpitations at three am
after saying that to you.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
You know, I think that we're sensitive if we, I
don't know. I don't want to, like, you know, overly
diagnose the situation. I think that in general, we could
probably just be mindful of, yes, that we are that
locker room kind of chitter chatty selves and it's like
it's kind of gross sometimes. But that was not the
case in the referenced story above. All right, but I
(04:37):
got to clean up my act, cleaning up our act,
and also just thinking how it sounds like to other people,
because then when I said that to Steve, I was like,
oh my god, people are probably like that's how they
talk to each other, and it does matter, even if
it's joking around. It's kind of nasty to tell, like
your partner in a joking way, shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
That's weird. If I heard that, I'd.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Be like, these two are rude, all right, So we'll
work on it, no problem. But I never felt closer,
never fell closer. So holiday weekend, fourth of July, I
was up in Seattle celebrating my mom's birthday. Still on
the fifth, I got to see my whole family, which
they always have a celebration for my mom's birthday. They
(05:16):
I have not been up there, and this is completely
my fault. Don't not make any excuses for like the
last six years. And I was like, this year, I'm
going up And it was so much fun. And my
nieces and nephews. I know I've talked about this before
when they came to the ranch. There ones going to college,
one's already, one just graduated college, one's a senior in
high school. Like I'm just crazy, so much fun with
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this age with them. And I have to say, when
I left, they all sent me separately, and I know
it's not because their parents told them to. They all
individually sent me separate texts that said how much they
enjoyed spending time with me and how much they loved
talking to me, and how they can appreciate that they
can confide in me, and I just again, I'm not
going to be a mother, so for me, to feel
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like I can be there and maybe be that like
I don't know where you can't tell your parents, but like, yeah,
you can tell me things, and like, look, I'm not
going to keep stuff from your parents, but I'm also
not going to tell them everything because I think you
need to have a safe space that's not your parents,
you know. So I just left there with a full
heart thinking about how excited I am to be in
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their lives, because I wasn't as much as I should
have been the last couple of years. Like life gets
busy and they're busy, and they're also we're in a
teenage phase that where they probably weren't into me anyways.
But I feel like there's a new season with them
and I'm really excited to foster those relationships.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
But yeah, we had a great time.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
And let me just tell you what the fireworks show
that my brother and my brother in law put on.
It was like Macy's Fourth of July Parade in New York.
I was like, this went on from I mean it
doesn't get dark in Seattle into like ten thirty. It
went on from ten thirty to like three in the morning,
like to the point where like I had to go
to bed. I was like, cause we were flying out
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the next day and I was like, Steve, we got
to go to bed three o'clock in the morning. These
fireworks are still going off because they are in an
area where they're totally.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Legal and people just go crazy.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
But yeah, so they bought up still setting them off
at three am.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
My brother and brother in law retired somewhere around twelve thirty.
But like the neighborhood because where my parents are at
is like on the water, so there's like all these
other surrounding neighborhoods that you can see, like from.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Across the water. So yeah, they're wild. But it was
so fun.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
And I've said this before about any holiday that has
to do with, like, you know, America, I just love it.
And we played you know, Fourth of July playlist off
Spotify and the barbecue and it's just, I don't know,
it was really fun and it's such a great holiday.
That made me really happy. So I know you were
in Montana, so tell me, Yeah, I was in Montana.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
We were. It was fun. We went to a barbecue
out here. It was a good time. Saw a bunch
of friends. No drone show or fireworks. We can't have
fireworks out there because of the rain or rain. They
don't want fires drought drone show. There was a lot
of rain, so it couldn't do it. But listen, it
was a great time. It felt like Fourth of July
(08:03):
when my little firecracker walked through the door on July fifth,
meaning you and that was me and then no and
Steve walked in and uh, yeah, that was a good time.
This is uh, this is an interesting I know it's
not part of our rundown, sorry, Ryan, but this is
an interesting thing to add to the equation. So you
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guys like have come over, you know my son, but
we've done a lot of trips without him, because it's
like it's adult time and hosting people. When you have
a child that wakes up at seven am and wakes
up and is like la la la la la la,
and you know that you and your friends probably didn't
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shut her d till about two, it's like it's another level.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
You're like, oh god, I feel so bad right.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Now, Like now I want to start providing people with
noise machines in their rooms so they really he's.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
The noise outside. She's being dramatic.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
I heard mac one time, and that was like his
excitement and enthusiasm for life. And I was so excited
to see Aim. Although I got to tell you, I know,
I wasn't there that long because we had to leave,
but I was hoping to spend more time with Mac.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
No social calendar is so busy.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Every time I came upstairs, he's off on doing this,
he's off doing this, he's off doing that. I'm like,
he's so busy, where's my nephew. I didn't even get
to see him. This guy is like the mayor over there.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
We just tried to set up like a mini playdate
for him if you listen, he doesn't have time, like
if you're he's got things. So playdate didn't happen. And
it was like, yeah, sorry, I mean, I'm busy, busy.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
So busy.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
But he's in such a great, fun little age and
like walking around with his little Mickey Mouse T shirt
and his Nikes, and he's always styled out. This kid
always has a whole vibe going. But yeah, do you
need to stop it? Your kid was not Also, he's
a child. He could hit his house.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Yes, yes, Still you feel you're very cognizant of who
else is in your house and you're like, sorry, please
went to bed three hours ago.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I'm so sorry. Please, You're the most gracious host.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
I also it's so bad that, like, because you are
so generous and I'm there a lot, I just act
like it's my house. I had you want to start
on your conpectations. I had multiple times that I said
things to you on this trip and I was like, Carissa,
shut your mouth. Are you like saying?
Speaker 1 (10:25):
I was like, who do you think you are? I
was like, what, this is not your house?
Speaker 3 (10:37):
All right? We got a lot to talk about on
this here show. Obviously, we just recapped our fourth of
July activities.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Aaron.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
I can't not get enough of her. I just need
to spend time with her all the time. But I'm
going to talk or we're going to talk about a
few things on this show. Aaron's gonna need to get
some more sleep, so we're gonna to talk about what
I mean by that. Also, I have this thing that
I think about a lot, and I've sort of mentioned
it on here before so as eron on various podcasts.
But I'm going to get into what I do when
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Steve's not around at home, and.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
It's I don't know.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
I just need to know if anyone else is doing
the same things. We also have some fun headlines that
we're going to get to and let's just jump right
into it. Yeah. So so starting with Aaron getting sleep. Yeah,
we're going to piggyback right off of the Matt conversation
because you do have a child that wakes up early,
and you're a very good mom and you want to
get up with your child.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
You're not sleeping in and letting somebody else get up
with your kid. You are up. But then also you
don't go to bed until later. And so here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
He gets up at seven, So that's not really that
early if you think about, like, I'm just not sleeping
in it anymore. I'm not sleeping in anymore unless we
go on vacation, which is this is when it alarmed you.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
You still didn't sleep in con vication. What's the latest
you slept in when we were gone? Honestly, maybe nine. Okay,
that's not enough time. I don't think that's enough time.
And I'm somebody who I used to now at the ranch,
I would do wake up a lot earlier because I
want to I want to hear an animals. I want
to let them out, Like there's different gates. I need
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to let them out. I feel bad like if I
don't if I'm sleeping in, like there's certain things, but
that's not I'm not here all the time. The reason
why I'm so like on you about this sleep situation
is because we talk all the time. We do all
these things for her house. You work out like a
crazy person. You take all of your supplements. You do
all these things for your health the number one thing.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
And I'm not a.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Doctor, but I'll see all the articles on sleep, and
I saw this article on Dakota Johnson actually talking about
how she needs like ten to twelve hours of sleep
but really loves to sleep, and I was like, good.
I was like, I never used to be someone that
would want to sleep. I feel like, oh, I'm missing stuff.
I need to be up, I need to be doing things.
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My ass was asleep on this couch last night. I'm
not Stee's not here, but he will be. And I
was asleep by maybe nine thirty, I think I was.
And I was so happy going to bed early, waking
up refreshed. I just want that for you because I
know like you make everybody else a priority, and you
think too much before you go to bed. Yep, So
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since we don't have a lot of time before football
season starts, and then football is like, you know, you're
on the hamster wheel and there's a lot of reasons
why you're not gonna get sleep, and you're on planes
and your this and that. I want you to try
to make that a point of emphasis. I'm not a doctor, Cindy,
but I want that for you. So I love you. No,
I have to I Yeah, I just couldn't.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Sometimes too, like when we were out on our vacation
and we're drinking like a lot the night before, it's
like I cannot sleep in After I do that, I
feel like the sugar gets me. I don't know, I'm
making excuses.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
I need to go to bed a lot earlier than
I do, and I need to you know.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Yeah, that's like the key right now with Mackie doodle
Doo is that I've got to go to bed a
lot earlier.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
So I will. I gotta do it.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
You could, I there's anything you want me to work on,
let me know. This is in a one way stre
my God. Ryan just wrote in our chat. Dakota Johnson
likes to sleep four fourteen hours a night. I'm not
functional if I get less than ten.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
My number one part is that why her skin looks
that way and her body? Yeah, I'm telling you, yeah,
But then think about it. You're also not making bad choice.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
You're not making as many bad choices if you're going
to bed earlier, not staying up now, I'll be at
vacation's fine, or like our little rendezvus are fine.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
But like if you the earlier you go to bed,
to bed.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Less, you're eating shitty food, the less you're drinking drinking
sleep is that's my new that's my new hobby. When
people ask your hobby is my new thing is sleeping.
And I'm not going to feel bad about it.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
I'm sick of waking up with bags under my eyes
and looking like I'm tired. I have to drink more water,
I am. This is so whatever. I'm sure everybody may
be listening to this. Feels like I should drink more
water too. I don't like doing things that everybody else does,
those fucking cups that everyone carry around, and it's like, uh, exactly,
And so I was like, I'm not going to carry
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around a cup. Okay, I'm gonna tell you what I
am doing carrying around again now because it'll let me
drink more water. And if I don't do it, and
I don't want to have a water bottle, and then
I have drink one ounce out of the water bottle
and it's wasteful. The plastic bottles are everywhere. Just fill
up the cup and drink out of it. I'm gonna
get better about that, because like my skin is looking
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dry a high high.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
It's not. It's not, but I get it.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Yeah, Hey, Ryan, since you're our stats guy right now,
is there something on Jennifer Aniston in the amount of
water she drinks?
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I feel like she's a big water gal. The only
thing is having to peel lot. But I don't care.
I have to still do it because there's time. Oh
my god.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
The other day I went to the end of the
when I was with you. It was the whole day
when I was like, I haven't Pete, like, this is
a problem. If you're going all day and you haven't
stopped use the bathroom, you think you're doing No.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
It was the I got to your house.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
I believe this is a quote from our favorite Yeah
ja as I like to say, don't know or would
love to drink so much water.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
It's painful, painful, wear like in your stomach. Oh no,
feeling bloated. I don't know. But it's just a day.
Speaker 3 (16:14):
So you need sleep and you're good about water hydration
packets and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
I am all right. So so you just mentioned Steve
is not there. He's going to be not there. Yeah,
he's on his way. Yes, by the time this hairs,
he will be here.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
So I have this thing that when he's gone, I
do things that I wouldn't normally do if he was around.
Nothing crazy and outlandish, but just like I won't make
my bed, and I am a stickler for making the
bed like I was raised every morning before I left
for school, Like my dad made me make my bed,
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like I was just ingrained, like you have to do it.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
So when I started to take that stead away, he would.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Not always make the bed, and I'm like, oh my god,
you have to make the bed every single day.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Well, when he's not around, I don't make the bed.
And he knows this.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
No, he's gonna find out because I my psychology is
if he thinks that I do it every day, then
he should be doing it every day as well, because
I guarantee you when I go out of town for
Thursday night football, that bed is not made Wednesday night
Thursday night, and he fucking scrambles to make that bed
on Friday morning because and.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
I go, do you make the bets?
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Like yeah, but I just so I don't do it either,
And I feel like we should just both come clean
with each other because he's hiding it from me, and
I bet you he doesn't do it, and he just
says that he does. So things like that were like
I'll let the dishes pile up in the sink, I'll
leave shit all around on my shoes. Yeah, just the
whole place looks like a disaster. And then five minutes
(17:48):
before I know he's coming home. It was like when
my garage, when my dad came home from work in
the garage door opened, I was like shit and like
cleaned up everything along the house. Yeah. But I have
this thing where I don't know, like, what's the longest
stint that you've lived by yourself, like before you were
oh pre Jarrett. Yeah, because I feel like, I mean,
(18:10):
I've always sort of been until Jarrett. Really yeah, he
was the first guy you lived with. Yes, how was
that transition? Because that is that right? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Yeah, that's pretty much right, because I didn't have a
long distance Yeah, okay, okay, transition.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
I learned real quick.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
I couldn't leave my drunk night jeans with the yundies
and I'm next to my bedside for more than a day,
or he'd be like the old Aaron and Chris. I
hate what's going on over here? You know the quick
I'm like getting I'm I've had a throw yourself in
bed and it all comes off in one kind of thing,
not beform. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Yeah, because I've always i mean,
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I'm a relationship person, so like I've lived with a
lot of different I've lived with a lot of different guys.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
I lived with a lot of men, and I have.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
I've lived I mean, if I really was like I mean,
I was married twice and then I had long term
boyfriends like I lived you know, one with five years
lived with him, one.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Was two years, basically lived with him.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
But anyways, so I've just always had someone in the space.
So I feel this freedom when they leave and I'm like,
oh my god, I just get to do whatever I want.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
I just eat whatever I.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
Want because also too, like Steve like loves cooking. So
every night, so what do you want for dinner? And
I'm like, I want top Rahmen. Like last night, you
know I had I had the tuna fish packets that
are like you basically have for earthquakes because they will
last forever, the tuna fish packet and rice and I
ninety seconds, Yeah your rice?
Speaker 1 (19:54):
You like bos Maddy. I love Bosmody that.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
When we were in France, everything had Bosmody rice and
I was like, I love Bosmody, but yeah, ninety seconds
in the old microwave. I'm a I am a bachelor,
I am a full dude. When it comes to he
wasn't in my life. I would be malnutrition. I wouldn't
eat like because I don't like cooking. So and it
was the ninety second meal. It was the cores light
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and the plastic tupperware on the couch while watching my
HGTV shows last night. And I'm excited again to do
it tonight. And then he's going to come strolling in
here and he's going to go, oh, what do you
want to eat for dinner? And I'm like, why is
every meal need to be a conversation? Like I could
just have some chips and in athletic greens and I'd
be fine. I don't need to have a meal every
five seconds. So anyways, I just love I love my
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man so much, irish Are.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
I love him.
Speaker 3 (20:49):
But I like when he goes out of town because
then I just here's a bachelor.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
That would be the same for me when Jarrett was
playing hockey or any like hockey trips he goes on now,
or golf for that matter.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Yeah, it's like you kind of let your hair.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
Down a little bit and you have a good you know,
not a good time, but you don't have to clean
up everything. I mean, I got a whole situation right
now in the bathroom where I've got like four different
outfits hanging not hanging, but they're like laying over the tub.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Girl, girl, put those on the I love the tob move.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
I do the to move, but it's ye messy right now,
I'm messy. Yeah, I like the tob move because then
you throw because it's stuff that you know, either needs
to go to dry cleaning, so that's a sember area
or like dirty closes, right there. The hamper's fine, but
it's stuff that, like you, doesn't need to be dry cleaned.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
And it's the jackets. You just throw that over because
we're not hanging that up.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Oh yeah, I like the.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Bathtub move okay, yeah, and then it was on my way.
I work my way into the side of the bathtub
one where it's like then it now it can't make
the hamper. It's the undies, the socks, the workout closes.
It's like, girl, put it in the hamper. It's right
there in the hamper. Yeah, that's what I do when
he's not in town. Absolutely, and it's a crap TV.
It's like the stuff I wouldn't watch with him, Like
(22:00):
I am I catching up on a housewives?
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Am I not? Yeah, stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
I did the Mormon housewife reunion the other day. He
comes walking in and I go, I paused it. I go, uhh,
I go. I'm going to tell you right now, you're
not going to like this. And if you come in
here and you want to hang out with me, that's great,
and I appreciate that. But there's no questions and there's
no noises because this is the other thing he'll do.
He'll go oh god, what Yeah, no noises. No, no
(22:25):
no noises. You you are zipping. Put that hostage shape
back on the mouth, and you can sit next to
me and be quiet. There's no questions, there's no noises
because I'm going to tell you right now, I don't
come strolling in to your documentaries that you like to
watch and start asking all these questions about the history
of advertising or your marketing or your golf stuff or
(22:47):
whatever it is that you're watching.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
No.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
So this is my space. You want to come into it.
Zip it and no judging.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
Hey, speaking of Mormon Wives, this show which I need
to get up on, Yeah, I want to watch it
when I'm alone. I went to a girl to help
fix the nonsense that went on with my roots a
week and a half ago, and she was telling me
that a real big trend right now for gals that
(23:16):
are coming in is I want the Mormon wave.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Oh you know when curl? You know who asked me
to do that?
Speaker 3 (23:23):
The other day, my sweet niece, she goes, can you
curl my hair like the Mormon Housewives. It's just it's
it's just so there's the one that they have that
three like crimping, curling, idea like the Mermaid hair.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Yeah, the Mermaid thing, that's what it is. I mean
all the hair.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
I feel like they all I mean they don't all
look alike, but there's a lot of the same hair,
and they're getting Jesse's hair salon all one length and
then they're doing the curl and then the ends are
real straight. Yeah right, it's not the Yeah, it's not
the curl. It's just like a little bend and you
leave thekh So wait, well, I actually do I have
(23:59):
it here, this curling around here, and you go back
like this, and then you're going to hold it there,
hold it there, one, two, three, and then you just
pull the end straight. So it's just a way. It's
how you do your hair. It's not any different. But yeah,
my needs hasks for that.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
No, I don't have hair. It's all gone.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
It's like, oh, you need to stop it. I've had
a real thing. And this isn't me being mean to myself.
Over the last year and a half, I've had a
real you know how you clean it like, yeah, I've
had a real situation. So I'm really looking forward to
the new growth, the new me, and because I have
a lot of hair.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
But you do.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
So it's damaged right now, It's just damage. It's over processed,
it's damaged, it's.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
The whole thing. So I'm getting on a real kick
about that. What are we doing it?
Speaker 3 (24:47):
Maybe it is a lack of sleep, I'm not kidding. No,
what are you doing at night? Like are you putting
like a hair mask on it? Because at this point,
like what are we doing to fix it? Because I
don't know, but I can respect what's going on because
I've had a hair journey for my whole friendship with you.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
I'm on a real journey.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
I'm going to tell you a product you know about
that Rose Roz stuff. They've got a treatment oil that
I just ordered it waiting for it to come because
it may or may not have opened up in my suitcase.
Knock great. So yeah, that's going to start going on
the ends. The problem with that is, and sorry to
any guys that are listening, because I know you guys
don't care.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
We will talk about football in like a month and
a half.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
I'm gonna, like, I know, put it on when you
go to bed, But then I don't want it on
the side of my hair because then my face is
there on the pillow.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
I worry about it, also staying, oh, yeah, I did
that last night. I sprayed in that ten minute miracle
stuff that I really like. But then I came down
to the couch, I brought a towel down. I put
the towel on the back of the pillow and then
laid it down. Because this is this is the whole thing.
We don't want to dry our hair every night, but
then if we don't dry, everyone's supposed to go to bed.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
So what are we supposed to do.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
There's a whole line called K eighteen. That stuff's amazing
as well. I'm going to get on a whole journey.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
With them too.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
That's expensive. Oh, speaking of it, I was did you
get my voice note that? I said, I sure did, Oh,
I sure did. I was going to buy one for
you and I, and then I was like you and
I t y, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
We're going to use that.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
No, but I don't. I don't know what the name
of it is. I'm just worried about my back name
right now. Hey, if anyone out there I've been having,
it's not acne. I talked to you about this the
other day. It's and Ken and I were talking about this.
It is these little bump bumps. Yeah, and it's not
it's not all. I've been dry brushing, I've been exfoliating.
I went and got one of those body scrubs. I
(26:38):
did you thought it was a rose Shaw going on
back there? You can, I think that's it. Rosees is red,
isn't it? But this is like rail back here like
you are. You could find out what hotel room you're
in real quick if you just rubbed this back and
it's gross because it's not z it's it's just like texture.
And I love I proud of myself on having smooth skin,
(27:00):
like like my coconut WI like the whole thing. Yea,
And right now we got a lot of texture back there,
and I'm not interested. So if anyone has any suggestions,
that's all.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
I gotta say about that. Hey, you want to throw
fly through some headlines here? Sys I do, I do?
I do. We love Sarah Jessica Parker. We always have.
Here's the headline.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
Sarah Jessica Parker on navigating cruel critics on her appearance
since SATC began, of course, Sex and the City. In
the interview with caller Daddy Parker admitted that she wasn't
prepared for the level of scrutiny she received while starring
on the hit series, and called it a real test
of my coping mechanisms.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
There was no chatter about me before the series.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
There was just my work, discussions of my physical my
physical person stuff that I couldn't change and wouldn't change
and had never considered changing or even still no interest
in changing it. I was sobbing because it felt so purposeful,
which is so sad. So I know that she's went
on record, I think it was on Howard Stern talking
about how she's now by botox.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Yeah, yeah, no botox.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
And I think that, you know, she's not the only
one too, from that show that's mentioned, uh that, you know,
people being critical of appearance and things like that. It's
just everyone gets to say anything they want about people, right,
And so it makes me sad that she was like,
I hadn't even thought about changing anything until now all
(28:29):
of a sudden, people say stuff and I don't know,
I mean to I think that you and I, you know,
definitely being on television, not I know, we're not Sarah
Jessica Parker, but being on television for twenty plus years
we have. You know, I've definitely been vocal about I
did too much stuff, too much, fillered too much botox,
went to the wrong person sometimes, and started to like
(28:51):
look a little bit different because I did feel pressure
when TV goes from three D to four D to
twelve K and you're like basically like up close and
personal or just feeling like you need to keep up.
I hate that she feels that way, but I also
really respect that she's Like I mean, I don't know
if she's changed her tune that she's going to do anything,
but I don't think she is.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
I just think that she's her being honest about it. Is.
Speaker 3 (29:14):
I like hearing that because fuck you, Fuck everybody who
wants to say something like.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
You are so successful.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
To you, you are so loved, so because you can't win,
because if you go do a bunch of stuff then
you've done too much. And if you don't do anything,
then it's like, oh God, why haven't you done anything?
Like I know Cameron Diaz has even been vocal about
like not wanting to do a lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
It's like, oh well, why botox is not that much?
Just go do that. It's like well, she doesn't want
to do that.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
I just feel like you can't win in that situation,
and anyone's allowed to say whatever they want without repercussion.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
So Sarah Jessica do you girl? Yeah? I just I
find it.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
I never would think somebody like Sarah Jessica Parker or
Carrie Bradshaw would would hear or see some of the
things that people are saying.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
But she did.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
And that makes me sad that, you know, she took
it the way she did, and I love that she's
being so honest that no, I'm not doing it. I
don't think you have to do it. Like I said,
you will always be Carrie Bradshaw. You will always be
this beautiful woman running down the streets of New York
making a run in high heels, look so fabulous.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
And those Fendy bags. I remember I wanted to saving
up my money. It was when I was in college
and I was working like multiple restaurant jobs, and I
was like, I just want to buy a Fendy bag
like Carrie Bradshaw has. And it was like I run
into it. There was I'll never forget it. There was
a sax in Santa Barbara, which is since closed. Which
makes me so sad. And I walked in and I
(30:37):
was like, do you guys have Fendy bags? And they're
like no, And I was like, and I wasn't anywhere else.
There wasn't like another department store in Santa Barbara, so
I'd have to wait to go down down lay to
buy it. But I was like, oh, I was so
excited to buy my first designer bag because of her
next headline girl, all.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
Right, I'm a pediatrician and a dad. Here's my number
one tip to raise happy, successful kids. Having your child
help around the house could be a perfect place to start,
according to doctor Williams. He told Today dot Com this,
when children feel involved in shared responsibilities, they realize they're
contributing to a part of a larger, larger ecosystem, and
(31:12):
there's a real sense of self worth that comes from that.
I love this. We are pushing on our kid. I mean,
if you saw my Instagram post one time. His vacuum
cleaner is his favorite toy that comes from his dad.
But every morning it's like, hey, put your Tony's away,
let's put your books away, put your levies away.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
And it's so cute because he's like walking around like
it's his job, his business.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
So yeah, I've seen a lot of this on Instagram
about how it's so important to give them responsibility.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
Hey, can you put this in the fridge for me?
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Like, you know, it's obviously a small amount that he's
doing right now, but it's so so important.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
Yeah, I remember growing up. I mean, I sit here
and I look at outside right now, like the chores
that I have here at the ranch every time i'm here,
and the responsibilities, and it's not a burden because I
want to do it because it's your house and it's
something you want to take pride in. It's your animals
that you want to take care of. But I remember
growing up and every day in the summertime when we
(32:07):
had my parents were very reasonable about this, Like when
we had sports in school, our chores were very minimal
because we had other responsibilities, Like your emphasis was on
school and your emphasis was on your sports. But when
it was summertime, my mom and dad would go to
work and we would get a list. We'd wake up
to it my chores, my brother, my sister, and if
those chores were not done by the time they got home,
(32:28):
there was consequences. Now, we would procrastinate and we would
wait and do them at the very last second. But
the point is is that we had to do chores,
and it wasn't we didn't get money for them. It
was like, hey, guess what, that's your rent for living here.
We put a roof over your head, We feed you,
we buy those basketball shoes that you're going to play in.
So you're going to do these chores as a contribution,
(32:48):
your contribution to this household. And to me, it's as
I'm now well into my adulthood, it doesn't feel like
a burden to have to clean up my house only
when Steve's not here, because that is your home, and
taking pride in your things is paramount because if you
don't care, then who is going to care.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
About your shit?
Speaker 3 (33:08):
When you're oh and you're just you're incomes so expendable
that you're just going to buy a new thing if
it gets ruined. Like the other day, Oh my god,
it was so funny. I just saw my childhood flash
before my eyes. Or in my parents yard and they
have a really big yard area or whatever, and my
niece's out there and she's in her socks, and I
go ooh, I didn't say anything, but I was like, ooh,
(33:29):
this is going to be a problem if my dad
sees this growing up, if my dad saw that you
were in the grass or outside with just your socks
and not your shoes, he would rip us a new
one that you are too lazy that you can't even
just put your shoes on, that you want to walk
around in your socks and you just expect us to
buy you new socks because you're too late. So my
dad walks around the corner and he goes, hey, y,
(33:50):
you don't have any shoes. She goes what and he goes,
why are you out here in your socks? And I
was like, oh, here we go. And I was so
happy that it wasn't me. And I looked over at Steve,
because Steve will walk around outside with just his socks on,
and I'm always like, you're going to ruin your socks,
Just put shoes on. I buy you seven hundred pairs
of slippers, just slip your slippers on.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Whatever.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
And I looked at Steve and he started laughing and goes, well,
we know you where you get it from. But I'm like,
it's stuff like that, Like it's just something small and
remedial like a pair of socks, but like it was
ingrained in my head growing up, like, no, we treat
our things with respect. And it's a long story to
illustrate the point that my future children that I'm not
having are probably so happy that I'm not their mother,
because I would be a dictator. I'd be like, you're
(34:33):
doing this, you're doing this, you're doing this a drill sergeant,
But whatever, I love it. You got it from Scott.
It's perfect. Speaking of men and doing household things. Men's
daily household contribution hits all time high in two thousand
and three, when I worked an hour more than men
on the home. In twenty twenty four, women worked forty
(34:54):
minutes more. At this rate, housework will be equal sometime
around your twenty sixty six and an NBC News analysis
Bureau of Statistics blah blah blah data shows met in
the US are spending a record high amount of time
on household activities. Great, great, I mean perfect. Yeah, I
gotta tell you. Steve is such. I mean, I have
no problem with this guy. He is like, he'll run
(35:16):
the vacuum before I do.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
We have dogs.
Speaker 3 (35:18):
We have dogs that are inside like that vacuum needs
to be run at least once a day, Like we're
not having hair all over the place, Like yeah, I
never have to worry about that with him, like laundry
any of that stuff, like you live too.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
And by the way, and here's where the compromise is.
Steve hates folding laundry. So the other days in launder
room and I was folding it and he's like, you
don't have to do that. I go, well, I know
you don't like to do it, so I'll do that
for you. It's just like finding compromise, Like I don't
take out the trash. He does that. That's like a
boy job, I think, so like divide and conquer. So yeah, good,
I love it.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
Hey, there is no great way to get into this,
but you and I were together the other day and
we were we had the news on, and how could
you not have the news on and just sit and
watch and just get so emotional about what's happening in Texas?
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Right now?
Speaker 2 (36:05):
You and I were watching a press conference and I
don't know the exact quote, but it was like today
is hard and this week is going to be harder.
Cannot wrap my head around, much like a lot of
people that weren't in La at the time during the
fires what they are going through after the flooding there.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
But man, that's tough to see.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
And yesterday my kid was throwing an absolute fit after
we got we kept him out too late at a
restaurant and he was throwing a fit at in the
bathtub and I just sat and I looked at him
and I didn't even react, and it was just like,
you're okay, You're okay. And we went upstairs and Jarrett
was like, God, Mackie was so pissed off, and I said,
you know what, think about all those families that won't
(36:44):
have their babies ever to give a bag again. And
that shit was just so hard to look at. So yeah,
oh man, my heart and my dogs and my thoughts
go out to those people.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
Everybody in Texas going through what you're going through. It
is unimaginable, It is beyond comprehension. And I just think
that it is so important to help in any way
that you can. Much like you said, when these natural
disasters hit, whether it was fires or it's you know,
tsunamis or earthquakes or anything, these people what they're going
through in Texas is just beyond understanding.
Speaker 1 (37:18):
And we just know that we hope that you know
that we're thinking of you and praying for you.
Speaker 3 (37:22):
And you know, the community, whether it's JJ Watt or
whether it's the Cowboys or whether it's you know, the
NBA and everybody in the community that is Texas rallying around.
And I listen to your friend Jenna talk about it
on the Today Show and her mom, of course, was
a camp counselor there and talking about this magical camp
and what it means to so many families, but also
(37:43):
Jenna talking about the resiliency of the state of Texas
and the community. So our thoughts and prayers are with
each and every one of you. And I know that
doesn't seem like anything, because thoughts and prayers can only
do so much, But we are thinking about you and
anything that you can do to help those people.
Speaker 1 (37:58):
I highly encourage our lists to do so.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
And the first responders the stories about just this selfless,
selfless act and you and I think we were looking
at some of the first pictures coming out and like
they're not even more proper clothing for it to get in.
You know, these waist high chest high waters and they're
just you know, doing what they can to try to
get to anyone or help everyone.
Speaker 1 (38:20):
It was just.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
The stories of what people do as first responders is
just so inspirational and so selfless and just wonderful. I'm
so grateful for people like that that choose to do
that with their life.
Speaker 1 (38:33):
Absolutely so.
Speaker 3 (38:34):
If we can take anything away from something like this,
it's perspective, gratitude, and make sure you hold your loved
ones a little extra tighter.
Speaker 1 (38:42):
Stanning, all right, well, I love you so much, love you.
Speaker 3 (38:46):
I'm sending you a hug from Afar and thank you
guys for listening. We appreciate our community here on the
Calm Down podcast.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
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