July 17, 2025 • 38 mins
This episode of Calm Down with Erin and Charissa wastes no time because Erin is starting pickleball and Charissa has some issues with what she’s been noticing on social media recently. They also dive deep on starting therapy again, why the beginning is always the hardest but why it’s so important to do it anyway. Striving for toned legs, banning the word “obsessed” and childhood stories about going to class with your underwear around your ankles… this week has it all!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Start at the beginning. Okay, I've all the way back
to the beginning.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
So in kindergarten, my mom sent me to school with
the underpants when the elastic band was shot, and as
I was walking off the bus, they slowly started creeping down.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
I didn't want to pull them up because I was like,
everyone will.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
See my bum So I just watched into class with
the underpants around my ankles.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Calm Down with Erin and Chrissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Welcome everybody to the Calm Down Podcast mid July.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
My Gal's looking a little Lebron's there with a beautiful backdrop.
If you listen to the pregame show this week, we
have got a lot to discuss. My gal already had
a busy day today as well in the big show.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Lots to discuss here.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
I am back on Instagram and I'm not sure my
love hate relationship with it because I have to talk
about people saying the word obsess.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I got to talk about things.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
This one video that I saw that I sent to you,
actually I think I sent it off the Calm Down
Podcast about how you know if your spouse or significant
other is mad at you.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I never see it.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Oh my god, it's so funny, and it got me
thinking about how we know if Jared or Steve's mad
atess we'll talk about that. Aaron is taking up a
new sport and also starts therapy. So everyone settle in
the bag week favorite beverage, your coffee, whatever it is
that you do while you're listening to the podcast, because
we're going to get into it. So, my darling, start
(01:33):
us off. What would you like to talk about first?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
I just noticed from one of our friends who was
in a tennis skirt last week that our legs look fire.
I have a totally different body shape than hers. But listen, like,
I'm in a real hit cardio slash pilates era in
my life, which I'm enjoying, but I also want to
be out in the elements. I want to be adorable.
(01:57):
I want to like try different things. I know I'm
late to the pickleball experience. There's been a couple of
times this week I wanted to try beginner lessons, but
I just didn't have the courage to do it. So
I looked at my better half and I said, will
you please take me to the pickleball courts? And we
could try to get a little rally going.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
So I went.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
I didn't love my outfit I showed up with, so
I went right down to the pro shop and I
bought a full fledged off it and I don't care
who's looking, and I did, and I even put the
balls like up my short so I didn't have to
run around and get them, you.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Know, the one that they do.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
I just watched Wimbledon yesterday and I was thinking of
myself about, like, how's cool that move is And they
hold like walls and they put in the skirt and
the whole thing and then you bend over and you
tap tap tap and serve.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Okay, their legs are a fire. They're cardio like what
they're able to do cardio. So here's the thing I
am going to take a lesson this week. I'm a
little nervous about. But man, so many things to take
from it. First of all, I haven't showered since I went.
I threw this on because I had another meeting before this,
so I am ripe and disgusting. I can't wait the
shower after this cute. I don't know where the weight
(03:09):
placement is like when I'm like bouncing around, I know,
like I'm supposed to stay back in the middle so
you can run up. I can also see why people
get really really injured such bursts breaking running.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
I want to kind of get good.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I won't have any time during this season to do this,
but I'm not gonna lie to you. Every five seconds,
I kept looking down at my legs, being like, how's
the tonis going any better?
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Getting better? The kitchen.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
You've got that whole area in the front that's known
as the kitchen. But yeah, there's a lot of and
you're probably gonna wake up tomorrow and be sore and
like small little like pitch muscles that you're not.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Used to using.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
But you're very active. You are like the most disciplined
person I know. When it comes to working out. I
go through spurts where I'm like, I'm either really into
it or not. And when I'm at the ranch, I
don't like have a like I don't have a gym here,
but I'm like, I don't need a gym because it's
all manual labor, So like that's my workout. But yeah,
I'm into the idea of pick aball as soon as
(04:08):
I mean, I'll play with you anytime.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
I'm not good.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
I think, well, I mean every now and then, I
think that's the appeal of pickleball because you don't have
to be Look, I don't want to paint ourselves with
this brush. But we are athletic, so this is going
to be not that athletic. I'm not you are you are?
You know, A ball, change, one, two, step, all the things.
(04:32):
So I think that that's something that we could do together.
I'm happy to go find some courts near us when
we come back. And here's the issue that I have
now that we're like, hey, we're in on pickleball, but
now people are talking about this padel or paddle or.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
How is that? I'm looking it up real quick. What
is it?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
It's it's basically like a rich person's pickleball, I think,
or or a version because they have like you have
to have, like pickle ball. I feel like you can
play on a tennis court if you really needed to,
you would like tape off the you know, the difference
in size. But padel or paddle, whatever the fuck they
want to call it, has walls and so you have
to like that's a very specific setup and you I
(05:12):
think it's like a hybrid between racketball.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
I don't know. I'm probably getting it wrong. Anyways, people
now that I'm a going at it, what's so different
about it? I don't you wall? You don't.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Yeah, there's like it's in a like your like walled situation,
so you can play off the walls.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
How many times can I say wall from the window
to the wall? I never know?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
It's the window over here or is the wall over
here backside of the wall.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
So if anyone listening plays this sport, tell me which
pronunciation we're using, and also why it's better or.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
Becoming like a more I don't know. Fancy wow.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Seventy eight countries worldwide, thirty thousand courts worldwide.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
I'm looking at this. What is padel get pidell certified today?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Oh yeah, just when we got into pickleball, now they're
changing it on us. So here's love some pickleball. That guy, oh,
I'm Chris Maers. I can't wait to see him at
the Fox Gallery. We're about to have what a tone
and everybody at that that'll be great. Use me, don't
(06:20):
put your phone on silent during a podcast. This is
the first time anyone ring tone. I don't know what
that ringtone is? Can someone tell me your phone?
Speaker 3 (06:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
It sounds like a UFO someone took over. I don't
know why. I got a pretty good uh no, that's
just a spam call. I don't know how to get
off this fucking spam list.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
I swear to god.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I mean it's like I know everyone on a rant
about this before, but it's worth saying again. Every time
you go and buy something, it's like, we need your
phone number, and it's like oh, and then they like
shame me. It's like, oh, you don't want to save
twenty percent today by giving us your phone?
Speaker 3 (06:55):
No, I don't.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
And I don't want the credit card. I don't want
any of that. I want to not give you my
phone number. I want to not give you my email. Okay,
well then you can't.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Get a receipt.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
It's like you're holding the receipt hostage. Well you can't
take it back without the receipt, so now I'm screwed.
So if I don't give you all my information, fun,
I'm just going to make up the number. I'm going
to make up my email. I'm going to make up
my number, and now you're going to be pissed because
now I'm just giving you a bunch of bullshit.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
So which one do you want? Just print out the
receipt or I'm never coming back to the store.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
It's crazy. I hate these spam calls. That was an
incredible monologue. These scammers are getting really good. I don't
have Guyic insurance. Okay, never had guy Co insurance. I've
gotten these like print like these things in the mail
that look exactly like bills that are guy Co insurance.
It says like, oh, you're overdue on your payments. So
then I call my insurance guy. I'm like, are we
(07:40):
sure I don't have Geico? He's like, you don't have
Geico for anything? And I'm like, the scammers are getting incredible.
And then there's the one eight hundred number on there.
So then I call the one eight hundred number and
there's actually like a customer service person and then it's
like they're just like, oh, well, just give us your
credit card over the phone. I'm not stupid, so I
know not to give my credit card over the phone.
But what happens to these four innocent people that are like, Okay,
(08:01):
well my bill's overdue, so here's my information. The scammers
are getting really good with the information they are and
with that, we are all out of time today.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
I'm sorry, but like I feel that was amazing. They're
getting really good.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
The whole thing where they're praying on elders, Like that's
so sad. It is because it's like I think about
I mean, I'm almost in the elder category and I
know not to do it, but it's like, there's gonna
come a point.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Did I ever tell you about the time that someone
called me. This is when I was really young and
they're like, oh my god, you haven't paid your taxes.
You have to get to a target and you have
to go to the counter and you have to pay.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
And yeah, it was like they.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Say, go to target, I swear to God, And I
was like, wait, what I know.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
That's when scammers were bad. Now scammers are good.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Now they're sending me Geico bills that look exactly like
it with the get go on it and everything.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
No, No, I'm a state farm gal. AnyWho.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
So that's what's going on in my neck of the woods.
I was playing pickleball. Oh okay, so I'm back on
Instagram and I've gotta okay something I need to bring
up here go obsessed, I'm obsessed. You're back on Instagram.
I am sick. I'm banning the word obsessed. Tell me why,
because that's all people say. I'm obsessed with this. I'm
obsessed with that.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
So I'm obsessed with the latest trend over here. Let
me show you how I do it.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
I'm not obsessed with the voices people are using on
these Instagram.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
Hey, guys, let me just show you what I've been
up to in the kitchen today. I've whipped up this.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
No, I'm gonna whip you in the face if you
say this so seductive. It's so sedest. It's like the
even keel, Like, hey guys, so monotone. I'm over here,
and I decided to really ramp up my content by
recording what stop talking like that?
Speaker 3 (09:48):
No one talks like that because you guys.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Okay, So let's power rank annoying things that people do
on Instagram. Okay, do not post an attractive picture of
yourself and write some quote okay by a or to
say you know whatever, Oscar Wilde, It's like, you know, I.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Looked into the deep blue seat, bitch. No, you just
thought you looked good.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
So post the picture of yourself looking real good, and
the caption should say I look good. That's it, okay,
so good, Like enough of these deep seated quotes. I
think I probably used to do that back in the day,
where it was like I was like, oh, I'm.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Just going to be like so demir, no, just say
you look good?
Speaker 1 (10:25):
Okay, Like enough with this like ridiculous quote that accompanies
you in a bathing suit, Like you brought this up
last week and you had such a good point.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah, just say you know what, it took me forty
five pictures to find this one.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Forty five pictures. Yeah, and I look incredible. Say that, yeah,
because you know what, I will like that post. I'm
not gonna like it if you give me some inspiration.
Chicken Soup for the Soul? Is that still a book
that people are reading? Because I love those books. But
so that's my issue. You post a picture of yourself
and you look great, say you look great?
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Two.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Stop saying you're ups with everything, because now I don't know,
you're obsessed with literally everything, the food, the new pillow,
the new outfit. No, pick one thing to be obsessed with.
And that's where you get to use the word. The
other thing I don't like is these people doing tutorials
and they're tap tap tapping.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
On the product. Now here's what I mean. And they
do this.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
What is they They hold the product up, Nate, this
is my moisturizer. I use Why would tappen? And here's
the problem. This started with one influencer. Now all the
influencers think that they got to tap on the product.
You don't have to tap on it. Okay, tap the
link and I'll buy the product. But if you're tapping
on the product, I'm not gonna buy it. I'm not
gonna use the discount code. And your insights are going
(11:41):
to be really bad for that company that is paying.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
You to post that thing. Okay, so stop pupping. Hey,
I worked up other words for obsessed, the sourus.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
So your mom, I'm captivated, dominated, no strong, matches, bedeviled, beset, bewitch, controlled,
doctor I don't understand is working out.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Those are synonyms bewitch for obsessed.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Captivated, dominated, haunted, preoccupied, troubled.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
What are you sure we're on synonyms? Huh? Okay, Okay,
we'll keep looking.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yeah, I apologize if I have done any of these
things on Instagram. At any point in my fifteen years
on this platform, say the word obsessed, tap on the product,
and or post a picture and use some inspirational quote. No, no,
and not these times we are It's crazy anyways, That's
(12:38):
what I've been up to. It's just judging everybody on Instagram.
This is why I go off of it, is because
I just need to put my efforts into other things,
not judging other people. But right now it's like they're
giving me so much material to work with.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
I got it, sister, I get it all right.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Tapping pickleball, We've done that. I'm starting therapy this week.
I'm really excited. I don't know how about you, but
the first week is always top the first couple of
visits because that's the cry session.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
I feel like we got to really dig in there.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Okay, Well, as an expert in therapy, I'm obsessed with therapy.
I do not like the first few sessions with a
new therapist because you gotta go bring back all the
things right in therapy. Thinking I already have the answers,
I'm like, okay, no, it's not daddy issues. I literally
said it's to my therapist when I started. I go,
(13:38):
I love my dad, So pick a different category because
you're not gonna get anywhere with that one. And so
thats is like looking at me like, oh, this chick
thinks she has all the answers.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Why is she even here you need me for? Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
So the first few sessions are tough for me is
because it's just like, it's probably why I stay with
the same therapists we need.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
Yeah, you gotta go like, you know, deep in.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
The recesses and really sort of set the stage of
why and how you ended up here in this room
like a little waiting area that you have to wait in,
and you're like, do.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
We mine on zoom? I'm so excited you.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
I think that the room thing, Yeah, that's that'll be
good for you. I think you talk about the room thing.
What do you mean the room thing? Anyone that's been
to therapy, you know the room you go in and
you have to push the button and let the therapist
know that you're there, and you're like sitting in the
room by yourself, and it's just like feels like you're
about to like go into confessional or something, and it's
just like lonely and you feel sad and there's like
(14:33):
these magazines on like how to help your life and
are you depressed?
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Why? So I am excited for you.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
For the zoom thing because then you'll be in your
own element, you'll have your coffee, you won't feel like
it's sterile.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
True. True, Yeah, we'll see. I really want to keep
it up. I really do.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
I went with the rest while last time I went
was actually before my trial, kind of in the week.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
No, that's not true. It was after my dad. It
was after my trial.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
I think it was after my trial because I just, yeah,
felt like I had had a lot of stuff I
had to kind of unpack.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
It was.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Yeah, it was very, very helpful, and then my dad
got sick and I went again. I just need to
keep it up, and that's a hard thing to do,
especially with you know, after next month, it's going to
be like I don't really have time, but I want
to make time for it.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
I will say that. So is it somebody new that
you're going to? Okay?
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Was it a referral from somebody I don't have? Okay,
I'm ready for a new therapist, so we won't go
to the same one. I think that's too close to home.
But if anyone in the Greater Los Angeles actually doesn't
matter if it's on Zoom, it doesn't I would like
a new therapist too. I've tried out a few. I'm
not really clicking with anyone. But I will say for
your situation for therapy, I think because you're somebody that
(15:45):
is very dedicated, if you want to do something, you'll
stick with it. So I don't foresee this being a
problem for you. But I will also if you're not
asking me to, but hold you accountable because you will
be like very diligent about working out or doing certain
things that you want.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
So just make it up priority. What are you trying
to do? Yeah, I don't know. I'm gonna I'm gonna
ask the old doc what they think I should.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Do them the doc or what are they might I
tell you at the time that Steve and I went
to couple's therapy together, what even couples therapy was my
therapist and he was great.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
He was like, hey, I think that you should bring Steven.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
And this is like right when we first started like dating,
because a lot of my issues was from my past relationships,
and so Steve.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Had never been to therapy before.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Well, you can only imagine what Steve O was like
in the old therapist thing.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
So we go in.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
He's like, hey, Doc, how's it going, you know, just
like jumps in, all jovial. It's convened. He goes, which
cou should I sit on? Does it matter where I sit?
Do I put the pillow behind my back?
Speaker 3 (16:42):
Do I have it?
Speaker 1 (16:42):
I'm gonna The therapist is like cracking up things. He's
so funny, and now Steve's asking the therapist questions. Pretty
soon the session's over and I've gotten nothing out of it,
and Steve and the therapists are bonding and laughing hysterically.
And so then when I go to the next therapy
session and I start bitching about Steve, the therapist goes,
I don't think there's anything wrong with Steve. It seems
Steve seemed like a great guy. Well, now I've released
(17:03):
I've got a problem.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
It's me, Hi, I'm the problem. It's me because now
he thinks Steve is so great. Anytime I bitched about
He's like, yeah, I didn't get that. I'm like yeah,
because he was doing his whole stand up comedy routine. Okay, exactly,
So don't bring Jarrett to therapy.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Yeah, don't bring your significant other. It's about me, not
about how great they are.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
I know.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
But the woman asked me today, she was like, so,
what do you really want to focus on?
Speaker 3 (17:31):
And I said, well, I don't know. I got a
lot of stuff. Let me dive right in.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
So yeah, oh my god, this is so cathartic. Though,
I feel like it's like you, you know, I don't
hear from the start at the beginning, Okay, dive all
the way back to the beginning.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
So in kindergarten, my mom sent me to school with
underpants when the elastic band was shot, and as I
was walking off the bus, they slowly started creeping down.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
I didn't want to pull them off. I guess I
was like, everyone will see my bomb.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
So I just walked into class with the underpants around
my ankles.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
And my mom felt so bad.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Because, oh my god, we just moved from Maine to
San Antonio and the moving truck wasn't there yet. So
my mom's like, these were the last pair of undies.
They were shot for you. I threw them on. I
thought it a Merina dress. They fall down. I walked
to class underwear around the ankles kindergarten.
Speaker 3 (18:28):
Hey, I'm Aaron Andrews. It's my first day. How are
we doing? My god, you're adorable. All hold them up.
You're fine. You don't want any want to see my bomb?
Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (18:40):
You want to know what's funny that was? That was
you in kindergarten. I'm forty three, forty three years old,
and here's my therapy. Hi, I'm Carissa. Welcome to therapy.
This is my therapy session. I'm in a dress, and
don't worry, I wear shorts underneath them.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
You do want a horrible You want to know.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Why I wear shorts on me, because that's from my
trauma in elementary school when I was on the bar
and you'd remember the bar that you go on and
you'd flip over it, and I flipped and then my
skirt went up because I thought I was gonna flip
back over and it wasn't gonna be an issue. No,
it went up and everyone saw my underwear and I
was so embarrassed. And so to this day, if I'm
(19:20):
wearing a no one's even here at the ranch.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
No one's here.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
It's just me. But I'm also like on the ranch,
no one needs to just be like in a thong
underneath you, underneath your dress as there's like bugs going
up my dress. But I'm like, I'm gonna wear boys
shorts on anytime there's like a like a really short skirt.
So that's what I'm up to, is still being traumatized
from the Friday flip up Day, you know.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Pressure with us?
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Do you think it all started there Friday flip up
Day in kindergarten?
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Your undieser shot? I mean, have I thought about them?
Speaker 2 (19:50):
You know the rubber band that kind of comes out
of the elastic, like they were like, yeah, I remember it,
like yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Couldn't stay up my little skinny bomb. Oh my god.
So when they're like, oh, is it daddy issues? No,
it was underwearing underwear issues?
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Oh my god. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
But did there peer pants in school when you were younger?
Did you ever peer pants in school when you were younger?
Speaker 3 (20:20):
In school?
Speaker 1 (20:21):
I peed my pants like five years ago when I
was drinking too much.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I usually keep my pants when I'm with you, So
that's an issue.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
I peed my pants when Here we Go.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
When we were filming that show with Ken Jong, like
we were just laughing so hard and so tired like
I peed my pants.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
I was just like, it is what it is.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
I know, and I'm never I've never birthed a child,
so I can only imagine I don't have a strong bladder,
as we've discussed it later on this show, hence the UTIs.
But anyone struggling with UTIs. Guys, by the way, if
you're listening, you're welcomed. I've found out why I was
getting them all the time is because I don't go
to the bathroom.
Speaker 3 (21:00):
I have to go to the bathroom because it's like
I don't want to have to go to that.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
So now when I feel like I have to go,
I go to the bathroom like a big girl. And
I don't get uts anymore because my bladder was weakening.
And that is why not a medical term, but that
is what ended up happening. So you're welcome, everybody. If
you're having excessive UTIs, and it's not from having sex
and not going to the bathroom, it's probably because you're
holding your pee and you're being lazy and not going
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to the bathroom.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
You know, we're just in your pants. Sure do what?
I peed my pants in first grade, I think, and
I'll never forget it.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Okay, you can tell Brian is really into these stories
that you've reminding of remaining topics. Sorry, Ry, we're just
talking about peeing our pants remaining topics when your boyfriend
husband knows your mouth.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Okay, So I saw I thought I sent it to
you on Instagram, maybe from the Calm Down thing because
it's worth it's worth revisiting.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
But maybe not. Maybe not? Maybe not? Maybe not? Did
I not? I don't know another account?
Speaker 1 (22:04):
Okay, anyways, here on, I finally got logged into the
old Instagram account for us calm Down?
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Did I not send it to you? Because it's really funny?
Hold on, hold on on, hold on, hold.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
On, Oh yeah, here it is. Okay. Four signs that
your girlfriend's got into you. Strength increases by ninety percent.
We'll put it up on the uh show me okay,
hold on, I'll start it over. Hold on, hold on,
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strength increases by ninety percent. Oh yeah, that's valid, fifty percent,
desire to be touched decreases eighty percent, and her ability
to listen or to me as zero. So it made
me laugh. If you guys were listening to that and
it was ambient noise. I'll explain it this guy's in
the grocery store and he's basically just outlining how he
knows his girlfriend's like pissed him. And it's so true
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because I was anytime I'm mad at Steve, and like
then I'm like, I'm just going to do everything myself
where it's like if my thumb's even like hurting and
broken right now, and I'm.
Speaker 3 (23:10):
Like, I don't give the fuck.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I'm going to lift up that cooler. I'm going to
do everything I want like to do without asking for
his helf. I got it exactly, and I got it's
like talking to me, I definitely heard him, and I'll
pretend like I don't hear him, and he's like, did
you hear me?
Speaker 3 (23:22):
I'll wait for him to say did you hear me?
The third time?
Speaker 1 (23:24):
Then finally I'm like, yeah, I heard you, So I'll
ignore him. And I was trying to think about some
of the other things that he oh, like if he
texts and I'm mad at him, I'll wait all day
to respond to the point where like he's then called,
he's put a question mark on the text, and I'll
just completely ignore him. And I'm trying to think of
some of the other things I do. So what do
you do when Jared's mad at or you're mad at Jared?
I just give a look.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
Like, oh the look. Okay, are you a.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Silent treatment person, because I'll also give the silent treatment.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
I wish I was a silent treatment person. I think
that would help my life a little bit more. Unfortunately,
I think you need to hear what I'm thinking, and
that's not great.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
I'm both Actually, I'll give you the silent treatment, but
then once that silent treatment's over, I just unleash. And
I actually am trying to be better hence therapy on
my communication. So like, if I'm mad at him for something,
I don't want to keep it silent.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
I'll say to him, like I walked.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
In the room the other night and I was like,
so the reason why I was acting like that was
because da da da, And I was like, in an
effort and this is how I started, in an effort
to over communicate, this is why I was acting like that,
Da da da. And then give him a chance to respond,
and I think it's helpful, But yeah, I don't want
to have the same bad habits that I've had in
my past. And I like Steve enough to want to
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resolve them, but I go through phases where I want
to be really mature about it, and then other times
I want to just be like and that's not good either.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
I want and this also goes back to the therapy
session or therapy that I'm going to start doing. I
want to be able to communicate better. I know that
I'm not dragging you into this, but you are dragged
into this right now.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
You and I carry a lot.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
We are doing a lot, probably more than a normal
person should do responsibility wise. We just have a lot
going on, and I feel like when I am kind
of carrying a little too much, doing a little too much,
my patience is way too thin and my communication isn't fantastic.
That's not his fault that I've decided to juggle seventeen
(25:30):
things at once. I also get really not frustrated with
the baby, but I just I wanted to go so
well because I know my time is so limited with him.
Like today we got up and Jarrett was sleeping in
and so I got up with the baby and I
was trying to help feed him and so forth. He's
not even a baby anymore. I just say that, and
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he's just in a phase right now. I heard this
happens when you turn two.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
No, no, and union new a lot. We don't want
to eat.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
I want to eat because we're going to kids camp like,
and we just don't want to eat, and nothing's making
us happy and we don't want to put a new
diaper on and we don't and I'm like, okay, buddy,
and I hear myself and I would say no to
me too. No, mom, you're annoying as hell. And I
just want him to come downstairs and help. It's not
like we don't have help, but I love, like, can
you help me with this too? And today I kind
(26:23):
of did a little bit of a silent treatment and
look on the way out, and he I just said,
how can we get through this easier, like without me
getting mad at you in the morning, because I understand,
I'm sure that's not a fun place to live.
Speaker 3 (26:36):
And He's like, just come up and get me.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
I can't come up and get with you because I'm
trying to change a pissed diaper.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
You know that's a good but your awareness to say like, hey,
I don't want to be like that.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
I don't want to be frustrated because you guys.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Are a team, and your goal and objective is always
to put Mac first and foremost and to win together
with him. So it's like even acknowledging that, like you
don't want to be like that, I think is appreciated
by Jared. I mean I know him well enough to
know that him just even saying you even saying that,
he's probably like thank you instead of just getting mad.
Speaker 3 (27:10):
Is there.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
I know this is maybe cheesy, and this is maybe
something you can bring up with your therapist, but like
that code word or like yeah, exactly something, but like
I don't know, I find and I know I've talked
to you know far too well about our nickname Steve
and I with Tommy and Linda, But like it does
(27:33):
help to have either a nickname for one another or
a code word like if all hell's breaking loose with
Mac and you really need help, where it is something
like mistletoe or something where it's like kind of that
code word where you guys notice sort of like arm,
like the temperatures rising, the temperatures rising, George Bush, like
I need help on something I don't know, because then
(27:56):
that way at least you know you're not we aren't
in each other like heads, Like we don't know what
significant others thinking. But if you have a common word
or a common phrase or a sentence or something, at
least there's commonality in that phrase where at least you
can be on the same page, If that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
I feel like right, Steve, I mean we were Steve
and I were talking yesterday about dog daycare and getting
frustrated because I was like, well, I need to have
your schedule and I need to figure out what's like.
I can't only imagine the conversations that you have to
have when you have a child. When our conversation all
Steve and I have to argue about is who's watching
Willis and Daisy when we're not home. So for you guys,
(28:35):
it's only understandable and for anyone at home that has kids,
like how you communicate, because it's all new to you too.
I know.
Speaker 3 (28:42):
And I feel like there's this pressure right now.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
And we've discussed this before because I have such a
limited time with him that I want my time to
be great. My kid's teething, like he was super pissed
off last night. We tried to do a fun family
dinner with our friends that were in town with their kids.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
I'm like, Mac just wasn't having it. It's like I
need to.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Learn and I don't get my panties in a wad.
It's more or less like I'm just like, damn it,
this isn't working out. He's teething, nothing's making him happy.
It's not on you, girl, like get over yourself. But
I just like I build it up in my head.
The other day, we were out with our friends. We
were doing some stuff and the kids were at a
camp and it was like, okay, when we get back, like,
(29:22):
let's take them to dinner. And the kids were pissed
and the dinner like went up and smokes like. Mac
was like, I'm over it. I want to go home,
and so we brought him home and it was like
damn it. And it was so funny because I was
being so hard on myself in the morning, being like,
what are we giving the kids for dinner?
Speaker 3 (29:38):
What are we doing? And then the dinner didn't even
freaking end up happening. We came back and had macaroni
and cheese.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
It's like that, well, that's but that's your desire because
you I'm not a therapist, but I'm just listening to you.
You have such high expectations for yourself and your life
and everyone, and that's what's made you wildly successful. But
with kids, and again I don't mean to speak out
a turn not having one, but it's like they don't
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the rules don't apply to them.
Speaker 3 (30:06):
Like you said, like everything's going out the window.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
So what have you learned about yourself though in those
moments where like you have to devate plans or you
have to adjust and not everything is going to be
exactly how you had envisioned it, Like it's just.
Speaker 3 (30:18):
Not going to be perfect.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
And I think, like and during football, I think this
is another reason why I have to go to therapy,
is like because I have such limited time, Like I
want this lunch and this school drop off to go
perfect because I'm not going to see you for three days. Girl,
it's not you have to relax.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
But you know that. But I'm not executing it. Okay,
I'm third and four and I'm fumbling. Man.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
Yeah, but guess what you've called the right play You
just haven't executed it, so you're on the right track.
That's way different than just being like, fuck, this whole
playbook needs to go out the window.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
I have no idea what I'm doing, and we're going
to lose the game.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Like, you just have to find that one little thing
in you that goes goes quote with the flow quote unquote,
like all right, fine, yeah, I don't know if it's
like you're big on levity, find something that's funny, like
that's where I think like you and Jeri having that
thing that can make you laugh in those stressful situations.
That's a good point, really good because you once your
(31:19):
turn from frustrated to laughter, like now we're good.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
Now you're fine, right, all.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
Right, Well, if your therapist is unavailable for zoom, let's
just get your gun here and work through our problems.
But no, it's always easier to diagnose somebody else's problems
than look at your own. But I'm really proud of you.
I think therapy is going to be amazing, and it's
a reminder for me to get back out there as well,
because we don't have all the answers. Even though I'd
like to think that I am the self help guru,
but I.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
Want to be.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
I want to be easier to live with than married
too as well. I'm wound so tight anyways that I
just know, with everything coming up in the season and
all these extra things, I just don't want to be.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
Like, ah, that's right, that's very good self awareness, and
I'm with you because I can work on that too.
I think that my issue is, like, I'm very self
aware of what my strengths and weaknesses are, but I
just need to find the solution instead of continuing to
make the same mistake.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Over and over again.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
So all right, well we'll give ourselves some grace. Anyone
that's listening out there, we love you thirty years ago.
You's your house on fire.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
Real quick. Have you watched the quarterback at all? I
have not. I have not. I am excited to watch
it though.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
On this season we've got Jared Goff, Kirk Cousins is back,
and then who else is on.
Speaker 2 (32:38):
It Joe Burrow. Joe Burrow wonderful. So you don't know
much about We don't get to cover him really. We
do have a Bengals Bills game this year, which I'm
excited about. But yeah, it's kind of cool to I
watched him with his stylist pick out his outfits. That
was very interesting, very cute.
Speaker 3 (32:57):
There was this part where Jared Goff.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
They were talking about the tree and so forth, and
he got a little teary, and I thought it was
so nice.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
He's a good guy.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
And there's just something about Kirk Cousins that's just like
the dad next door.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
It's very so likable. Yeah, that's on Netflix. I'm excited
to see that. I feel like, especially on the Joe
Burrow part, because he is so private and does you
don't get to see like a lot of him. So yeah, okay, okay,
watching right now HGTV. Right, Oh yeah, I mean, you
know me and my design shows. I'm watching one right now.
(33:30):
That's this couple in England and they're restoring a manner
they bought this place and it's this time about this Yeah,
King Henry the thirteenth I think was the only other
person who lived in it and they're gutting it and
every now that I'm done with renovations, because I've been
on a three year even with house and homes, it
was like in a minute, two year full in on
(33:53):
like fifty projects for anyone that's wondering, No one's wondering.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
Corisa.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
That's the other thing. That's the other thing that just
made me think about it when people on Instagram go, oh,
for all of you that have been asking, No, no
one's been asking. Okay, no, show me the receipts of
all the people that have been asking for your skincare
of potages you paid for and that are everyone's been asking.
I need some receipts. Show that better be a CBS
(34:18):
sized receipts of all the people that have been asking
for you. To jump on here and be so self righteous.
I know I sound like I'm being a hater on
these people. I think it is wild that this like,
oh yeah, everyone cares.
Speaker 3 (34:30):
I'm gonna tell you back I received. Oh my god,
I'm obsessed.
Speaker 2 (34:35):
Hey, CHRISA went down a real tutorial for me one
night in the French Riviera when we were having some
songs from Mama's Wall. He was showing me how you
can tell people have paid for follower Yes, yes, my god,
I had no idea.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
So I had somebody that I dated back in the
day and they have millions of followers. There ain't no way,
okay that this has millions of followers. And I called
this person out on it one time and I was like, bro,
we know you bought your followers, and.
Speaker 3 (35:08):
They got so all these followers. Where do you buy anyone?
Speaker 1 (35:13):
But this is like the dead giveaway when people buy followers.
You could have like millions of followers and then you
have like five likes on your posts. It's like, well, okay,
and then Steve mister marketing, Steve who knows everything, He's like, yeah,
but then you can pay people to comment, you can
pay people to like, And I'm like, I would be
so deathly afraid of being caught in this, Like you
buy followers, you buy comments, you buy likes, like how embarrassing.
(35:36):
Forget you in your underwear falling down at the bus
stop in kindergarten.
Speaker 3 (35:41):
I would be caught.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
And literally be like, oh my god, I've just been
exposed that I buy followers, Like yeah, but that's a thing,
And I'm like, how do these I don't understand how
these brands hire these people to whatever promote stuff, and
they're not looking at like the correlation of the likes
versus the followers. So if any people know on how
this all were, I just know that you can buy them,
(36:04):
and I would. I would rather lose all my followers
than buy one and be exposed for that be like,
this bitch is buying some likes.
Speaker 3 (36:13):
Where do you buy them?
Speaker 2 (36:15):
I don't know, but by followers dot com, boat dot com?
Speaker 3 (36:20):
Are you buying this? I am such a loser. I
don't know anything.
Speaker 1 (36:26):
No, you don't need to know this because you have
real followers, and look, I lose that.
Speaker 3 (36:32):
If that's important, well, I'm gonna tell you why I'm losing.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
I lose followers by the day because if you're not
active on Instagram, there's so much pressure.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
You got to stay active. You got to respond to
the comment.
Speaker 1 (36:42):
Steve goes, you better start responding to some of these
comments on here, but you rather nolde yeah, he goes.
Speaker 3 (36:48):
If you don't respond, then they take it. They doc
you on that.
Speaker 1 (36:50):
And I'm like, is this an uber rating where it's
like I don't know what my Instagram rating is and
it's like because my engagement is not there and I
don't follow up on.
Speaker 3 (36:59):
Things, It's like, oh my god, this is so much pressure.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Oh my god, I just want to post madelon down
in kindergarten and buying followers. I don't know what to do,
and I've got a cold in the middle of July.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
All hell's breaking loose. I love you.
Speaker 1 (37:20):
We don't even need to get to the headlines. Oh literally,
okay my goal. Well, I'm very proud of you. I
love you very much.
Speaker 3 (37:28):
Thank you. Guys, train with me. Come on, let's do
this again.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
I'm going to I actually would love any referrals. Uh,
they don't have to be anonymous on a good therapist,
somebody I have only Oh fun fact, I've only had
men therapists, So maybe I should try a woman.
Speaker 3 (37:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (37:45):
I'm open to all things, but I will definitely get
back on the therapy train because I could use a
little fine too.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
Hey, what do you think the headlines are going to
be on? You and I talking about therapy?
Speaker 1 (37:59):
Irish Sharp, Aaron and Carissa in a deep dark depression
seek therapy. Carissa piece her pants, seeks therapy. Carissa mean
to her word, can keep her pants on. Aaron can't
keep her pants on, Carissa can't keep a man seeks therapy.
He's not the one seeks therapy. I mean, I don't
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know the headlines right themselves. It's so good Erin and
Carissa buying followers question Mark, Nope, don't know how bye.
Speaker 3 (38:31):
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Speaker 2 (00:04):
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I was walking off the bus, they slowly started creeping down.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
I didn't want to pull them up because I was like,
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
See my bum So I just watched into class with
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Welcome everybody to the Calm Down Podcast mid July.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
My Gal's looking a little Lebron's there with a beautiful backdrop.
If you listen to the pregame show this week, we
have got a lot to discuss. My gal already had
a busy day today as well in the big show.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Lots to discuss here.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
I am back on Instagram and I'm not sure my
love hate relationship with it because I have to talk
about people saying the word obsess.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I got to talk about things.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
This one video that I saw that I sent to you,
actually I think I sent it off the Calm Down
Podcast about how you know if your spouse or significant
other is mad at you.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I never see it.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Oh my god, it's so funny, and it got me
thinking about how we know if Jared or Steve's mad
atess we'll talk about that. Aaron is taking up a
new sport and also starts therapy. So everyone settle in
the bag week favorite beverage, your coffee, whatever it is
that you do while you're listening to the podcast, because
we're going to get into it. So, my darling, start
(01:33):
us off. What would you like to talk about first?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
I just noticed from one of our friends who was
in a tennis skirt last week that our legs look fire.
I have a totally different body shape than hers. But listen, like,
I'm in a real hit cardio slash pilates era in
my life, which I'm enjoying, but I also want to
be out in the elements. I want to be adorable.
(01:57):
I want to like try different things. I know I'm
late to the pickleball experience. There's been a couple of
times this week I wanted to try beginner lessons, but
I just didn't have the courage to do it. So
I looked at my better half and I said, will
you please take me to the pickleball courts? And we
could try to get a little rally going.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
So I went.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
I didn't love my outfit I showed up with, so
I went right down to the pro shop and I
bought a full fledged off it and I don't care
who's looking, and I did, and I even put the
balls like up my short so I didn't have to
run around and get them, you.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Know, the one that they do.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
I just watched Wimbledon yesterday and I was thinking of
myself about, like, how's cool that move is And they
hold like walls and they put in the skirt and
the whole thing and then you bend over and you
tap tap tap and serve.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Okay, their legs are a fire. They're cardio like what
they're able to do cardio. So here's the thing I
am going to take a lesson this week. I'm a
little nervous about. But man, so many things to take
from it. First of all, I haven't showered since I went.
I threw this on because I had another meeting before this,
so I am ripe and disgusting. I can't wait the
shower after this cute. I don't know where the weight
(03:09):
placement is like when I'm like bouncing around, I know,
like I'm supposed to stay back in the middle so
you can run up. I can also see why people
get really really injured such bursts breaking running.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
I want to kind of get good.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I won't have any time during this season to do this,
but I'm not gonna lie to you. Every five seconds,
I kept looking down at my legs, being like, how's
the tonis going any better?
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Getting better? The kitchen.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
You've got that whole area in the front that's known
as the kitchen. But yeah, there's a lot of and
you're probably gonna wake up tomorrow and be sore and
like small little like pitch muscles that you're not.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Used to using.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
But you're very active. You are like the most disciplined
person I know. When it comes to working out. I
go through spurts where I'm like, I'm either really into
it or not. And when I'm at the ranch, I
don't like have a like I don't have a gym here,
but I'm like, I don't need a gym because it's
all manual labor, So like that's my workout. But yeah,
I'm into the idea of pick aball as soon as
(04:08):
I mean, I'll play with you anytime.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
I'm not good.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
I think, well, I mean every now and then, I
think that's the appeal of pickleball because you don't have
to be Look, I don't want to paint ourselves with
this brush. But we are athletic, so this is going
to be not that athletic. I'm not you are you are?
You know, A ball, change, one, two, step, all the things.
(04:32):
So I think that that's something that we could do together.
I'm happy to go find some courts near us when
we come back. And here's the issue that I have
now that we're like, hey, we're in on pickleball, but
now people are talking about this padel or paddle or.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
How is that? I'm looking it up real quick. What
is it?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
It's it's basically like a rich person's pickleball, I think,
or or a version because they have like you have
to have, like pickle ball. I feel like you can
play on a tennis court if you really needed to,
you would like tape off the you know, the difference
in size. But padel or paddle, whatever the fuck they
want to call it, has walls and so you have
to like that's a very specific setup and you I
(05:12):
think it's like a hybrid between racketball.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
I don't know. I'm probably getting it wrong. Anyways, people
now that I'm a going at it, what's so different
about it? I don't you wall? You don't.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Yeah, there's like it's in a like your like walled situation,
so you can play off the walls.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
How many times can I say wall from the window
to the wall? I never know?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
It's the window over here or is the wall over
here backside of the wall.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
So if anyone listening plays this sport, tell me which
pronunciation we're using, and also why it's better or.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
Becoming like a more I don't know. Fancy wow.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Seventy eight countries worldwide, thirty thousand courts worldwide.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
I'm looking at this. What is padel get pidell certified today?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Oh yeah, just when we got into pickleball, now they're
changing it on us. So here's love some pickleball. That guy, oh,
I'm Chris Maers. I can't wait to see him at
the Fox Gallery. We're about to have what a tone
and everybody at that that'll be great. Use me, don't
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put your phone on silent during a podcast. This is
the first time anyone ring tone. I don't know what
that ringtone is? Can someone tell me your phone?
Speaker 3 (06:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
It sounds like a UFO someone took over. I don't
know why. I got a pretty good uh no, that's
just a spam call. I don't know how to get
off this fucking spam list.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
I swear to god.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I mean it's like I know everyone on a rant
about this before, but it's worth saying again. Every time
you go and buy something, it's like, we need your
phone number, and it's like oh, and then they like
shame me. It's like, oh, you don't want to save
twenty percent today by giving us your phone?
Speaker 3 (06:55):
No, I don't.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
And I don't want the credit card. I don't want
any of that. I want to not give you my
phone number. I want to not give you my email. Okay,
well then you can't.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Get a receipt.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
It's like you're holding the receipt hostage. Well you can't
take it back without the receipt, so now I'm screwed.
So if I don't give you all my information, fun,
I'm just going to make up the number. I'm going
to make up my email. I'm going to make up
my number, and now you're going to be pissed because
now I'm just giving you a bunch of bullshit.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
So which one do you want? Just print out the
receipt or I'm never coming back to the store.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
It's crazy. I hate these spam calls. That was an
incredible monologue. These scammers are getting really good. I don't
have Guyic insurance. Okay, never had guy Co insurance. I've
gotten these like print like these things in the mail
that look exactly like bills that are guy Co insurance.
It says like, oh, you're overdue on your payments. So
then I call my insurance guy. I'm like, are we
(07:40):
sure I don't have Geico? He's like, you don't have
Geico for anything? And I'm like, the scammers are getting incredible.
And then there's the one eight hundred number on there.
So then I call the one eight hundred number and
there's actually like a customer service person and then it's
like they're just like, oh, well, just give us your
credit card over the phone. I'm not stupid, so I
know not to give my credit card over the phone.
But what happens to these four innocent people that are like, Okay,
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well my bill's overdue, so here's my information. The scammers
are getting really good with the information they are and
with that, we are all out of time today.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
I'm sorry, but like I feel that was amazing. They're
getting really good.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
The whole thing where they're praying on elders, Like that's
so sad. It is because it's like I think about
I mean, I'm almost in the elder category and I
know not to do it, but it's like, there's gonna
come a point.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Did I ever tell you about the time that someone
called me. This is when I was really young and
they're like, oh my god, you haven't paid your taxes.
You have to get to a target and you have
to go to the counter and you have to pay.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
And yeah, it was like they.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Say, go to target, I swear to God, And I
was like, wait, what I know.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
That's when scammers were bad. Now scammers are good.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Now they're sending me Geico bills that look exactly like
it with the get go on it and everything.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
No, No, I'm a state farm gal. AnyWho.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
So that's what's going on in my neck of the woods.
I was playing pickleball. Oh okay, so I'm back on
Instagram and I've gotta okay something I need to bring
up here go obsessed, I'm obsessed. You're back on Instagram.
I am sick. I'm banning the word obsessed. Tell me why,
because that's all people say. I'm obsessed with this. I'm
obsessed with that.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
So I'm obsessed with the latest trend over here. Let
me show you how I do it.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
I'm not obsessed with the voices people are using on
these Instagram.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
Hey, guys, let me just show you what I've been
up to in the kitchen today. I've whipped up this.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
No, I'm gonna whip you in the face if you
say this so seductive. It's so sedest. It's like the
even keel, Like, hey guys, so monotone. I'm over here,
and I decided to really ramp up my content by
recording what stop talking like that?
Speaker 3 (09:48):
No one talks like that because you guys.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Okay, So let's power rank annoying things that people do
on Instagram. Okay, do not post an attractive picture of
yourself and write some quote okay by a or to
say you know whatever, Oscar Wilde, It's like, you know, I.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Looked into the deep blue seat, bitch. No, you just
thought you looked good.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
So post the picture of yourself looking real good, and
the caption should say I look good. That's it, okay,
so good, Like enough of these deep seated quotes. I
think I probably used to do that back in the day,
where it was like I was like, oh, I'm.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Just going to be like so demir, no, just say
you look good?
Speaker 1 (10:25):
Okay, Like enough with this like ridiculous quote that accompanies
you in a bathing suit, Like you brought this up
last week and you had such a good point.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah, just say you know what, it took me forty
five pictures to find this one.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Forty five pictures. Yeah, and I look incredible. Say that, yeah,
because you know what, I will like that post. I'm
not gonna like it if you give me some inspiration.
Chicken Soup for the Soul? Is that still a book
that people are reading? Because I love those books. But
so that's my issue. You post a picture of yourself
and you look great, say you look great?
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Two.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Stop saying you're ups with everything, because now I don't know,
you're obsessed with literally everything, the food, the new pillow,
the new outfit. No, pick one thing to be obsessed with.
And that's where you get to use the word. The
other thing I don't like is these people doing tutorials
and they're tap tap tapping.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
On the product. Now here's what I mean. And they
do this.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
What is they They hold the product up, Nate, this
is my moisturizer. I use Why would tappen? And here's
the problem. This started with one influencer. Now all the
influencers think that they got to tap on the product.
You don't have to tap on it. Okay, tap the
link and I'll buy the product. But if you're tapping
on the product, I'm not gonna buy it. I'm not
gonna use the discount code. And your insights are going
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to be really bad for that company that is paying.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
You to post that thing. Okay, so stop pupping. Hey,
I worked up other words for obsessed, the sourus.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
So your mom, I'm captivated, dominated, no strong, matches, bedeviled, beset, bewitch, controlled,
doctor I don't understand is working out.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Those are synonyms bewitch for obsessed.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Captivated, dominated, haunted, preoccupied, troubled.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
What are you sure we're on synonyms? Huh? Okay, Okay,
we'll keep looking.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yeah, I apologize if I have done any of these
things on Instagram. At any point in my fifteen years
on this platform, say the word obsessed, tap on the product,
and or post a picture and use some inspirational quote. No, no,
and not these times we are It's crazy anyways, That's
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what I've been up to. It's just judging everybody on Instagram.
This is why I go off of it, is because
I just need to put my efforts into other things,
not judging other people. But right now it's like they're
giving me so much material to work with.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
I got it, sister, I get it all right.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Tapping pickleball, We've done that. I'm starting therapy this week.
I'm really excited. I don't know how about you, but
the first week is always top the first couple of
visits because that's the cry session.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
I feel like we got to really dig in there.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Okay, Well, as an expert in therapy, I'm obsessed with therapy.
I do not like the first few sessions with a
new therapist because you gotta go bring back all the
things right in therapy. Thinking I already have the answers,
I'm like, okay, no, it's not daddy issues. I literally
said it's to my therapist when I started. I go,
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I love my dad, So pick a different category because
you're not gonna get anywhere with that one. And so
thats is like looking at me like, oh, this chick
thinks she has all the answers.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Why is she even here you need me for? Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
So the first few sessions are tough for me is
because it's just like, it's probably why I stay with
the same therapists we need.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
Yeah, you gotta go like, you know, deep in.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
The recesses and really sort of set the stage of
why and how you ended up here in this room
like a little waiting area that you have to wait in,
and you're like, do.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
We mine on zoom? I'm so excited you.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
I think that the room thing, Yeah, that's that'll be
good for you. I think you talk about the room thing.
What do you mean the room thing? Anyone that's been
to therapy, you know the room you go in and
you have to push the button and let the therapist
know that you're there, and you're like sitting in the
room by yourself, and it's just like feels like you're
about to like go into confessional or something, and it's
just like lonely and you feel sad and there's like
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these magazines on like how to help your life and
are you depressed?
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Why? So I am excited for you.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
For the zoom thing because then you'll be in your
own element, you'll have your coffee, you won't feel like
it's sterile.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
True. True, Yeah, we'll see. I really want to keep
it up. I really do.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
I went with the rest while last time I went
was actually before my trial, kind of in the week.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
No, that's not true. It was after my dad. It
was after my trial.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
I think it was after my trial because I just, yeah,
felt like I had had a lot of stuff I
had to kind of unpack.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
It was.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Yeah, it was very, very helpful, and then my dad
got sick and I went again. I just need to
keep it up, and that's a hard thing to do,
especially with you know, after next month, it's going to
be like I don't really have time, but I want
to make time for it.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
I will say that. So is it somebody new that
you're going to? Okay?
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Was it a referral from somebody I don't have? Okay,
I'm ready for a new therapist, so we won't go
to the same one. I think that's too close to home.
But if anyone in the Greater Los Angeles actually doesn't
matter if it's on Zoom, it doesn't I would like
a new therapist too. I've tried out a few. I'm
not really clicking with anyone. But I will say for
your situation for therapy, I think because you're somebody that
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is very dedicated, if you want to do something, you'll
stick with it. So I don't foresee this being a
problem for you. But I will also if you're not
asking me to, but hold you accountable because you will
be like very diligent about working out or doing certain
things that you want.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
So just make it up priority. What are you trying
to do? Yeah, I don't know. I'm gonna I'm gonna
ask the old doc what they think I should.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Do them the doc or what are they might I
tell you at the time that Steve and I went
to couple's therapy together, what even couples therapy was my
therapist and he was great.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
He was like, hey, I think that you should bring Steven.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
And this is like right when we first started like dating,
because a lot of my issues was from my past relationships,
and so Steve.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Had never been to therapy before.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Well, you can only imagine what Steve O was like
in the old therapist thing.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
So we go in.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
He's like, hey, Doc, how's it going, you know, just
like jumps in, all jovial. It's convened. He goes, which
cou should I sit on? Does it matter where I sit?
Do I put the pillow behind my back?
Speaker 3 (16:42):
Do I have it?
Speaker 1 (16:42):
I'm gonna The therapist is like cracking up things. He's
so funny, and now Steve's asking the therapist questions. Pretty
soon the session's over and I've gotten nothing out of it,
and Steve and the therapists are bonding and laughing hysterically.
And so then when I go to the next therapy
session and I start bitching about Steve, the therapist goes,
I don't think there's anything wrong with Steve. It seems
Steve seemed like a great guy. Well, now I've released
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I've got a problem.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
It's me, Hi, I'm the problem. It's me because now
he thinks Steve is so great. Anytime I bitched about
He's like, yeah, I didn't get that. I'm like yeah,
because he was doing his whole stand up comedy routine. Okay, exactly,
So don't bring Jarrett to therapy.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Yeah, don't bring your significant other. It's about me, not
about how great they are.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
I know.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
But the woman asked me today, she was like, so,
what do you really want to focus on?
Speaker 3 (17:31):
And I said, well, I don't know. I got a
lot of stuff. Let me dive right in.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
So yeah, oh my god, this is so cathartic. Though,
I feel like it's like you, you know, I don't
hear from the start at the beginning, Okay, dive all
the way back to the beginning.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
So in kindergarten, my mom sent me to school with
underpants when the elastic band was shot, and as I
was walking off the bus, they slowly started creeping down.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
I didn't want to pull them off. I guess I
was like, everyone will see my bomb.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
So I just walked into class with the underpants around
my ankles.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
And my mom felt so bad.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Because, oh my god, we just moved from Maine to
San Antonio and the moving truck wasn't there yet. So
my mom's like, these were the last pair of undies.
They were shot for you. I threw them on. I
thought it a Merina dress. They fall down. I walked
to class underwear around the ankles kindergarten.
Speaker 3 (18:28):
Hey, I'm Aaron Andrews. It's my first day. How are
we doing? My god, you're adorable. All hold them up.
You're fine. You don't want any want to see my bomb?
Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (18:40):
You want to know what's funny that was? That was
you in kindergarten. I'm forty three, forty three years old,
and here's my therapy. Hi, I'm Carissa. Welcome to therapy.
This is my therapy session. I'm in a dress, and
don't worry, I wear shorts underneath them.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
You do want a horrible You want to know.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Why I wear shorts on me, because that's from my
trauma in elementary school when I was on the bar
and you'd remember the bar that you go on and
you'd flip over it, and I flipped and then my
skirt went up because I thought I was gonna flip
back over and it wasn't gonna be an issue. No,
it went up and everyone saw my underwear and I
was so embarrassed. And so to this day, if I'm
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wearing a no one's even here at the ranch.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
No one's here.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
It's just me. But I'm also like on the ranch,
no one needs to just be like in a thong
underneath you, underneath your dress as there's like bugs going
up my dress. But I'm like, I'm gonna wear boys
shorts on anytime there's like a like a really short skirt.
So that's what I'm up to, is still being traumatized
from the Friday flip up Day, you know.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Pressure with us?
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Do you think it all started there Friday flip up
Day in kindergarten?
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Your undieser shot? I mean, have I thought about them?
Speaker 2 (19:50):
You know the rubber band that kind of comes out
of the elastic, like they were like, yeah, I remember it,
like yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Couldn't stay up my little skinny bomb. Oh my god.
So when they're like, oh, is it daddy issues? No,
it was underwearing underwear issues?
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Oh my god. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
But did there peer pants in school when you were younger?
Did you ever peer pants in school when you were younger?
Speaker 3 (20:20):
In school?
Speaker 1 (20:21):
I peed my pants like five years ago when I
was drinking too much.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I usually keep my pants when I'm with you, So
that's an issue.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
I peed my pants when Here we Go.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
When we were filming that show with Ken Jong, like
we were just laughing so hard and so tired like
I peed my pants.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
I was just like, it is what it is.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
I know, and I'm never I've never birthed a child,
so I can only imagine I don't have a strong bladder,
as we've discussed it later on this show, hence the UTIs.
But anyone struggling with UTIs. Guys, by the way, if
you're listening, you're welcomed. I've found out why I was
getting them all the time is because I don't go
to the bathroom.
Speaker 3 (21:00):
I have to go to the bathroom because it's like
I don't want to have to go to that.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
So now when I feel like I have to go,
I go to the bathroom like a big girl. And
I don't get uts anymore because my bladder was weakening.
And that is why not a medical term, but that
is what ended up happening. So you're welcome, everybody. If
you're having excessive UTIs, and it's not from having sex
and not going to the bathroom, it's probably because you're
holding your pee and you're being lazy and not going
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to the bathroom.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
You know, we're just in your pants. Sure do what?
I peed my pants in first grade, I think, and
I'll never forget it.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Okay, you can tell Brian is really into these stories
that you've reminding of remaining topics. Sorry, Ry, we're just
talking about peeing our pants remaining topics when your boyfriend
husband knows your mouth.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Okay, So I saw I thought I sent it to
you on Instagram, maybe from the Calm Down thing because
it's worth it's worth revisiting.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
But maybe not. Maybe not? Maybe not? Maybe not? Did
I not? I don't know another account?
Speaker 1 (22:04):
Okay, anyways, here on, I finally got logged into the
old Instagram account for us calm Down?
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Did I not send it to you? Because it's really funny?
Hold on, hold on on, hold on, hold.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
On, Oh yeah, here it is. Okay. Four signs that
your girlfriend's got into you. Strength increases by ninety percent.
We'll put it up on the uh show me okay,
hold on, I'll start it over. Hold on, hold on,
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strength increases by ninety percent. Oh yeah, that's valid, fifty percent,
desire to be touched decreases eighty percent, and her ability
to listen or to me as zero. So it made
me laugh. If you guys were listening to that and
it was ambient noise. I'll explain it this guy's in
the grocery store and he's basically just outlining how he
knows his girlfriend's like pissed him. And it's so true
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because I was anytime I'm mad at Steve, and like
then I'm like, I'm just going to do everything myself
where it's like if my thumb's even like hurting and
broken right now, and I'm.
Speaker 3 (23:10):
Like, I don't give the fuck.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I'm going to lift up that cooler. I'm going to
do everything I want like to do without asking for
his helf. I got it exactly, and I got it's
like talking to me, I definitely heard him, and I'll
pretend like I don't hear him, and he's like, did
you hear me?
Speaker 3 (23:22):
I'll wait for him to say did you hear me?
The third time?
Speaker 1 (23:24):
Then finally I'm like, yeah, I heard you, So I'll
ignore him. And I was trying to think about some
of the other things that he oh, like if he
texts and I'm mad at him, I'll wait all day
to respond to the point where like he's then called,
he's put a question mark on the text, and I'll
just completely ignore him. And I'm trying to think of
some of the other things I do. So what do
you do when Jared's mad at or you're mad at Jared?
I just give a look.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
Like, oh the look. Okay, are you a.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Silent treatment person, because I'll also give the silent treatment.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
I wish I was a silent treatment person. I think
that would help my life a little bit more. Unfortunately,
I think you need to hear what I'm thinking, and
that's not great.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
I'm both Actually, I'll give you the silent treatment, but
then once that silent treatment's over, I just unleash. And
I actually am trying to be better hence therapy on
my communication. So like, if I'm mad at him for something,
I don't want to keep it silent.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
I'll say to him, like I walked.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
In the room the other night and I was like,
so the reason why I was acting like that was
because da da da, And I was like, in an
effort and this is how I started, in an effort
to over communicate, this is why I was acting like that,
Da da da. And then give him a chance to respond,
and I think it's helpful, But yeah, I don't want
to have the same bad habits that I've had in
my past. And I like Steve enough to want to
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resolve them, but I go through phases where I want
to be really mature about it, and then other times
I want to just be like and that's not good either.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
I want and this also goes back to the therapy
session or therapy that I'm going to start doing. I
want to be able to communicate better. I know that
I'm not dragging you into this, but you are dragged
into this right now.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
You and I carry a lot.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
We are doing a lot, probably more than a normal
person should do responsibility wise. We just have a lot
going on, and I feel like when I am kind
of carrying a little too much, doing a little too much,
my patience is way too thin and my communication isn't fantastic.
That's not his fault that I've decided to juggle seventeen
(25:30):
things at once. I also get really not frustrated with
the baby, but I just I wanted to go so
well because I know my time is so limited with him.
Like today we got up and Jarrett was sleeping in
and so I got up with the baby and I
was trying to help feed him and so forth. He's
not even a baby anymore. I just say that, and
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he's just in a phase right now. I heard this
happens when you turn two.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
No, no, and union new a lot. We don't want
to eat.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
I want to eat because we're going to kids camp like,
and we just don't want to eat, and nothing's making
us happy and we don't want to put a new
diaper on and we don't and I'm like, okay, buddy,
and I hear myself and I would say no to
me too. No, mom, you're annoying as hell. And I
just want him to come downstairs and help. It's not
like we don't have help, but I love, like, can
you help me with this too? And today I kind
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of did a little bit of a silent treatment and
look on the way out, and he I just said,
how can we get through this easier, like without me
getting mad at you in the morning, because I understand,
I'm sure that's not a fun place to live.
Speaker 3 (26:36):
And He's like, just come up and get me.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
I can't come up and get with you because I'm
trying to change a pissed diaper.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
You know that's a good but your awareness to say like, hey,
I don't want to be like that.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
I don't want to be frustrated because you guys.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Are a team, and your goal and objective is always
to put Mac first and foremost and to win together
with him. So it's like even acknowledging that, like you
don't want to be like that, I think is appreciated
by Jared. I mean I know him well enough to
know that him just even saying you even saying that,
he's probably like thank you instead of just getting mad.
Speaker 3 (27:10):
Is there.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
I know this is maybe cheesy, and this is maybe
something you can bring up with your therapist, but like
that code word or like yeah, exactly something, but like
I don't know, I find and I know I've talked
to you know far too well about our nickname Steve
and I with Tommy and Linda, But like it does
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help to have either a nickname for one another or
a code word like if all hell's breaking loose with
Mac and you really need help, where it is something
like mistletoe or something where it's like kind of that
code word where you guys notice sort of like arm,
like the temperatures rising, the temperatures rising, George Bush, like
I need help on something I don't know, because then
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that way at least you know you're not we aren't
in each other like heads, Like we don't know what
significant others thinking. But if you have a common word
or a common phrase or a sentence or something, at
least there's commonality in that phrase where at least you
can be on the same page, If that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
I feel like right, Steve, I mean we were Steve
and I were talking yesterday about dog daycare and getting
frustrated because I was like, well, I need to have
your schedule and I need to figure out what's like.
I can't only imagine the conversations that you have to
have when you have a child. When our conversation all
Steve and I have to argue about is who's watching
Willis and Daisy when we're not home. So for you guys,
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it's only understandable and for anyone at home that has kids,
like how you communicate, because it's all new to you too.
I know.
Speaker 3 (28:42):
And I feel like there's this pressure right now.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
And we've discussed this before because I have such a
limited time with him that I want my time to
be great. My kid's teething, like he was super pissed
off last night. We tried to do a fun family
dinner with our friends that were in town with their kids.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
I'm like, Mac just wasn't having it. It's like I
need to.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Learn and I don't get my panties in a wad.
It's more or less like I'm just like, damn it,
this isn't working out. He's teething, nothing's making him happy.
It's not on you, girl, like get over yourself. But
I just like I build it up in my head.
The other day, we were out with our friends. We
were doing some stuff and the kids were at a
camp and it was like, okay, when we get back, like,
(29:22):
let's take them to dinner. And the kids were pissed
and the dinner like went up and smokes like. Mac
was like, I'm over it. I want to go home,
and so we brought him home and it was like
damn it. And it was so funny because I was
being so hard on myself in the morning, being like,
what are we giving the kids for dinner?
Speaker 3 (29:38):
What are we doing? And then the dinner didn't even
freaking end up happening. We came back and had macaroni
and cheese.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
It's like that, well, that's but that's your desire because
you I'm not a therapist, but I'm just listening to you.
You have such high expectations for yourself and your life
and everyone, and that's what's made you wildly successful. But
with kids, and again I don't mean to speak out
a turn not having one, but it's like they don't
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the rules don't apply to them.
Speaker 3 (30:06):
Like you said, like everything's going out the window.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
So what have you learned about yourself though in those
moments where like you have to devate plans or you
have to adjust and not everything is going to be
exactly how you had envisioned it, Like it's just.
Speaker 3 (30:18):
Not going to be perfect.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
And I think, like and during football, I think this
is another reason why I have to go to therapy,
is like because I have such limited time, Like I
want this lunch and this school drop off to go
perfect because I'm not going to see you for three days. Girl,
it's not you have to relax.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
But you know that. But I'm not executing it. Okay,
I'm third and four and I'm fumbling. Man.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
Yeah, but guess what you've called the right play You
just haven't executed it, so you're on the right track.
That's way different than just being like, fuck, this whole
playbook needs to go out the window.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
I have no idea what I'm doing, and we're going
to lose the game.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Like, you just have to find that one little thing
in you that goes goes quote with the flow quote unquote,
like all right, fine, yeah, I don't know if it's
like you're big on levity, find something that's funny, like
that's where I think like you and Jeri having that
thing that can make you laugh in those stressful situations.
That's a good point, really good because you once your
(31:19):
turn from frustrated to laughter, like now we're good.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
Now you're fine, right, all.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
Right, Well, if your therapist is unavailable for zoom, let's
just get your gun here and work through our problems.
But no, it's always easier to diagnose somebody else's problems
than look at your own. But I'm really proud of you.
I think therapy is going to be amazing, and it's
a reminder for me to get back out there as well,
because we don't have all the answers. Even though I'd
like to think that I am the self help guru,
but I.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
Want to be.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
I want to be easier to live with than married
too as well. I'm wound so tight anyways that I
just know, with everything coming up in the season and
all these extra things, I just don't want to be.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
Like, ah, that's right, that's very good self awareness, and
I'm with you because I can work on that too.
I think that my issue is, like, I'm very self
aware of what my strengths and weaknesses are, but I
just need to find the solution instead of continuing to
make the same mistake.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Over and over again.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
So all right, well we'll give ourselves some grace. Anyone
that's listening out there, we love you thirty years ago.
You's your house on fire.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
Real quick. Have you watched the quarterback at all? I
have not. I have not. I am excited to watch
it though.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
On this season we've got Jared Goff, Kirk Cousins is back,
and then who else is on.
Speaker 2 (32:38):
It Joe Burrow. Joe Burrow wonderful. So you don't know
much about We don't get to cover him really. We
do have a Bengals Bills game this year, which I'm
excited about. But yeah, it's kind of cool to I
watched him with his stylist pick out his outfits. That
was very interesting, very cute.
Speaker 3 (32:57):
There was this part where Jared Goff.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
They were talking about the tree and so forth, and
he got a little teary, and I thought it was
so nice.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
He's a good guy.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
And there's just something about Kirk Cousins that's just like
the dad next door.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
It's very so likable. Yeah, that's on Netflix. I'm excited
to see that. I feel like, especially on the Joe
Burrow part, because he is so private and does you
don't get to see like a lot of him. So yeah, okay, okay,
watching right now HGTV. Right, Oh yeah, I mean, you
know me and my design shows. I'm watching one right now.
(33:30):
That's this couple in England and they're restoring a manner
they bought this place and it's this time about this Yeah,
King Henry the thirteenth I think was the only other
person who lived in it and they're gutting it and
every now that I'm done with renovations, because I've been
on a three year even with house and homes, it
was like in a minute, two year full in on
(33:53):
like fifty projects for anyone that's wondering, No one's wondering.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
Corisa.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
That's the other thing. That's the other thing that just
made me think about it when people on Instagram go, oh,
for all of you that have been asking, No, no
one's been asking. Okay, no, show me the receipts of
all the people that have been asking for your skincare
of potages you paid for and that are everyone's been asking.
I need some receipts. Show that better be a CBS
(34:18):
sized receipts of all the people that have been asking
for you. To jump on here and be so self righteous.
I know I sound like I'm being a hater on
these people. I think it is wild that this like,
oh yeah, everyone cares.
Speaker 3 (34:30):
I'm gonna tell you back I received. Oh my god,
I'm obsessed.
Speaker 2 (34:35):
Hey, CHRISA went down a real tutorial for me one
night in the French Riviera when we were having some
songs from Mama's Wall. He was showing me how you
can tell people have paid for follower Yes, yes, my god,
I had no idea.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
So I had somebody that I dated back in the
day and they have millions of followers. There ain't no way,
okay that this has millions of followers. And I called
this person out on it one time and I was like, bro,
we know you bought your followers, and.
Speaker 3 (35:08):
They got so all these followers. Where do you buy anyone?
Speaker 1 (35:13):
But this is like the dead giveaway when people buy followers.
You could have like millions of followers and then you
have like five likes on your posts. It's like, well, okay,
and then Steve mister marketing, Steve who knows everything, He's like, yeah,
but then you can pay people to comment, you can
pay people to like, And I'm like, I would be
so deathly afraid of being caught in this, Like you
buy followers, you buy comments, you buy likes, like how embarrassing.
(35:36):
Forget you in your underwear falling down at the bus
stop in kindergarten.
Speaker 3 (35:41):
I would be caught.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
And literally be like, oh my god, I've just been
exposed that I buy followers, Like yeah, but that's a thing,
And I'm like, how do these I don't understand how
these brands hire these people to whatever promote stuff, and
they're not looking at like the correlation of the likes
versus the followers. So if any people know on how
this all were, I just know that you can buy them,
(36:04):
and I would. I would rather lose all my followers
than buy one and be exposed for that be like,
this bitch is buying some likes.
Speaker 3 (36:13):
Where do you buy them?
Speaker 2 (36:15):
I don't know, but by followers dot com, boat dot com?
Speaker 3 (36:20):
Are you buying this? I am such a loser. I
don't know anything.
Speaker 1 (36:26):
No, you don't need to know this because you have
real followers, and look, I lose that.
Speaker 3 (36:32):
If that's important, well, I'm gonna tell you why I'm losing.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
I lose followers by the day because if you're not
active on Instagram, there's so much pressure.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
You got to stay active. You got to respond to
the comment.
Speaker 1 (36:42):
Steve goes, you better start responding to some of these
comments on here, but you rather nolde yeah, he goes.
Speaker 3 (36:48):
If you don't respond, then they take it. They doc
you on that.
Speaker 1 (36:50):
And I'm like, is this an uber rating where it's
like I don't know what my Instagram rating is and
it's like because my engagement is not there and I
don't follow up on.
Speaker 3 (36:59):
Things, It's like, oh my god, this is so much pressure.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Oh my god, I just want to post madelon down
in kindergarten and buying followers. I don't know what to do,
and I've got a cold in the middle of July.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
All hell's breaking loose. I love you.
Speaker 1 (37:20):
We don't even need to get to the headlines. Oh literally,
okay my goal. Well, I'm very proud of you. I
love you very much.
Speaker 3 (37:28):
Thank you. Guys, train with me. Come on, let's do
this again.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
I'm going to I actually would love any referrals. Uh,
they don't have to be anonymous on a good therapist,
somebody I have only Oh fun fact, I've only had
men therapists, So maybe I should try a woman.
Speaker 3 (37:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (37:45):
I'm open to all things, but I will definitely get
back on the therapy train because I could use a
little fine too.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
Hey, what do you think the headlines are going to
be on? You and I talking about therapy?
Speaker 1 (37:59):
Irish Sharp, Aaron and Carissa in a deep dark depression
seek therapy. Carissa piece her pants, seeks therapy. Carissa mean
to her word, can keep her pants on. Aaron can't
keep her pants on, Carissa can't keep a man seeks therapy.
He's not the one seeks therapy. I mean, I don't
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know the headlines right themselves. It's so good Erin and
Carissa buying followers question Mark, Nope, don't know how bye.
Speaker 3 (38:31):
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