August 28, 2025 • 35 mins
Erin and Charissa kick things off this week answering questions about spying on Instagram stories and having a 20-year age gap in dating. They discuss a survey about the hottest hobbies for men and why woodworking should be higher on the list. Charissa also explains why she’s going to test a new theory to see if her boyfriend Steve is telling her the truth.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So handy Man number one, Woodworking number two. Yeah, fuck
reading Yeah, Calm Down with Aeron and Carissa is a
production of iHeartRadio. Hey now, Hey, Aaron needs to go
(00:22):
on name that tune. I would love to You are phenomenal,
like one or two notes, you like know it and
it's like obscure stuff. It's not even like I don't
know popular music. You just are very quick on the
draw with the old song scal I wi everybody start
(00:43):
listening to like current music, because you know, I'll listen
to our faves and like that's all I'll listen to.
I don't know any music out there right now, current stuff.
I did a Spotify like now like today's hits? Sure
I know none of these. I'm like, I'm turning into
our parents where it's like, what is this music? I
don't know this music? My music consists of Taylor Swift
(01:03):
country music and mixing a little justin Timberlake for old
times sake or new stuff Love his new album How
are we doing? Gal? What podcast? Everybody? Let's jump into
some questions. Gal First Love an anonymous any advice for
a single thirty six year old girl who's truly fifty
to fifty on if I want kids. So she's singles,
(01:28):
she's thirty six, and she doesn't know if she wants kids. Yep.
I would say, if you have the money right now,
go freeze your eggs real quick. Yep. So you don't
have to have that pressure on yourself and you don't
have to worry about it for right now. YEP. I
like I'd done that in my twenties. I wish I
had done it all through my twenties. I didn't even
(01:49):
know about it. It wasn't a hot topic to do.
I would have done it, and man, things would be
really different. It just wasn't something we talked about. It
wasn't and then it was always like if it was,
it was you only did if you had issues or
you knew that maybe you were going to have a
problem having kids. Like now it's like, you're perfectly healthy,
you should do it. I mean it's not. There's not
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like a caveat for it. And now there's different ways
to pay for it. Certain companies do provide you insurance,
you can get a loan for it. There's like all
these different ways to do it. Now. If you don't
want to do that, you don't have the means to
do it. Whatever your situation is. Egg freezing isn't an
option I would worry about, now, are you planning on
(02:30):
being with someone, because if you're not, that's a whole
other ball of woes. But I would worry about having
a strong relationship before you have kids. It puts a
strain on your relationship. We were talking about somebody we
know that is pregnant, that doesn't want to be pregnant.
The relationship isn't great, this was whatever. So I just
was saying to my husband, I can't imagine being in
(02:51):
a place where you knew you were going to break up,
but then you have a kid and you're like, this
just adds so much more pressure. It's so hard even
when you do have a good relationship. Yeah, it is,
so I would worry about that before you worry about
a kid. Be honest, if you start dating someone and
say I'm interested in having babies, but again, if it's possible,
(03:11):
I would do egg freezing because that takes a lot
of pressure off you. I think that is all very
sound and sage advice. Yeah, especially the part where it's
like make sure that you like the person that you're
with and not just rushing into having a kid, because
to your point, that never makes anything better or easier.
I don't even know if I like myself anymore after
having a kid. WHOA sometimes does this me or you good?
(03:34):
This is me? Kayleie kimber one. Do you believe in
the seven year itch? Yes? I do? I do? Okay, yeah,
what you're you one? We're on eight Okay, I do.
I think things get more serious, like that's when people
usually have had kids. That's when the kids are old
enough to be pains in the asses and we're in
the terrible twos and all the things and like things
(03:57):
start wearing on you. It's not the honeymoon phase any
emil more. You've got job shit, you've got house shit,
you've got appliances that have water saints on them. I
totally believe in it. I do. Yeah, I was thinking
about that today. Actually, Steve and I have been together
for three years. Oh my god, that flu right, it did.
But then at the same time it's still only three
(04:18):
years and how important it is, and we talk about
this where it's like you guys, stn't make sure that
like you have the like the sexy part, you have
the dating part, like you can't just like forfeit all
that shit, like just because you guys are best friends
and it's easy and it's fun and you can get
i don't know, lazy if you want to like, oh,
(04:38):
we're just in a routine. We're in a routine. And
it's like I've got to remind myself of that too,
especially now with football starting, where it's like I always like, oh, well,
it's my football season. So even Steven texts me the
other day and he was like, uh, it's Linda's seasons.
Tom's time is up, and it's like, but I don't
want to do I've got to remember that, Like I
still need to surprise him. And like we were, we
(05:00):
were very good. We haven't done it a lot lately.
We're like leaving each other notes when we like go
out of town or like hiding and home in the
luggage or doing things like that. And I should initiate
it because he is the one that always does it.
But yeah, just making sure that you don't get complacent,
because really he's like sometimes it's just easy to be
like okay, eh, you get it. I love you, you love me,
(05:22):
We're great. But then it's like I don't know. Oh yeah,
I like caution that. It's like if you're doing if
I'm already thinking that way. Sometimes at three years, it's like, well,
where's it at thirty years? And I get it. My
dad and mom have been together since they were eighteen
years old, and your parents have been together for a
long time, and it is and my dad goes the
key to a lasting relationship is make sure that when
the road starts to go too far from one another,
(05:44):
that you intersect quickly, like because if you don't and
you don't catch that, like departure off the exit, win
get back on that freeway, and now we are going
a completely different route and it's not so easy to
get back on track. I think. A good thing to remember,
and if you ever need, like whatever, a good thing
for us to remember is we have a We have
(06:05):
a set of friends who are dating and they've been
dating for two years, and when they're around each other,
they're always kissing, they're always touching. You saw it on
the podcast and it's like you and I after hanging
out with them, are like, wait, we're not making out.
That is a tailor And Travis and Jeff and Lauren
(06:25):
are two sets of friends I have who are obsessed
with each other, and every time I leave them, I'm like,
I look at Steve and I go, you need to
love me more. He's like, you need to love me more.
I'm a good reminder, like when we find with them,
it's like I find myself And it's not that I'm
not grabbing for my husband's hand, but sometimes you just
get so used to being like, let's go, let's go,
let's go. We're not as We're not like that. No,
(06:47):
we're not like that, and it's we love exactly like
we love our people, but we definitely like they're magnets
with each other. And it is a good reminder to like, yeah,
it's very cy you did we answer your Haley Kimber,
anonymous guy I went out with one time doesn't follow
me but watches all my instant stories. Why oh I
(07:12):
I love this conversation of the like who's watching your stories?
Who is it?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Like?
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Do you look at who watches your stories? So I
knew how I used to you just you flip you
like when you're like on your own story, you just
push up on it and then it shows who watches
I used to because I had somebody that I wanted
to ensure wasn't looking at my ship because I hated
(07:37):
them so much. So I came up with fifty bird
and then yeah exactly, and then made fake accounts.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
I used to look a lot, but now I don't
really pay attention to it. I mean every now and
then it's like if you have to give like insights
up an ad thing, you'll look and I don't know,
but now it just doesn't really. I mean, if you look,
you look, you don't. Who cares why? In this case? Yeah,
this is one where it's like a guy she went
out with it doesn't follow me. That's always where you're
(08:07):
like time out. If you don't follow me, then how
you are you looking at it? I like it. I
think it's like a good like you got him girl.
I feel like, if I'm you, I'm thinking keep in tabs.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Uh huh.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
He wants to know what you're doing, but he doesn't
want you to know that he knows that you know,
I know that you I know. Oh yeah. And that's
where this is, to quote Aaron sub Kid, that's where
you do. That's that's where if you see him in
the streets next time, he's like, oh my god, how
have you been? Be like, you know you've watched all
my Ship, sub Kid, next cue and just moon walk Away.
(08:41):
He's watching because he cares, That's the why. And girl
you good. Megan O'Connell favorite workout song, Oh God, I
got so many. I will go to my playlist that
me too. Is this one? Anything? P D Pablo Sierra?
(09:04):
You put that song on, You're gonna tell me that
you ain't gonna drop that s like, yeah, that's a
good one. I got this one also, get Big Bang.
It sounds like mom talk, but you know what I mean.
It's just I've got a whole playlist of just real good. Yeah, yeah,
h blow the whistle. I'm into anything Drake anything like
(09:26):
I like. I like the remixes that they have for
tailor stuff that's good. I like. I like when they
have eighties remixes like they have like some depeche Mode
remixes and stuff like that. I love that shit. Yep
t I has a lot of them. Bring them out.
You tell me this song comes on, you ain't gonna
start running faster? I do this when so when we
(09:47):
do a Super Bowl so casual to say that when
we have to do a Super Bowl. We go to
four years, I know, two players practices and you get
to stand there and you know what, whatever, do your thing.
Watch the guys come back in, talk to them. They
always play their music. And so the last several years,
(10:08):
Stray has always been there when I'm there because the
pregame goes too, and so the the guy they you know,
they go to different drills, they go to different plays,
and they're playing music to keep the guys hyped and
crowd noise and blah blah blah. The music's fantastic. I
sit there and I look at straight and I'm like,
I'm justzaming. I'm jaxaming. I'm just zaming. So half the
like explicit shit I have is from being at certain practices,
(10:32):
and I'm like, oh, said ship is inarental advisory. Yeah,
but Aaron, you and I also has this thing, have
this thing because you've been at stadiums for the last
twenty years. I had that little moment where I was
only in studio and since Amazon's on the road now
I'm back in stadium. Do you know the like Carolina
(10:54):
on the Low, Oh, incredible Atlanta, great music in Atlanta.
Does well go has great, like you know the ones
where you're like, oh, I'm so excited to go work
this game because the DJ bangers anonymous. I'm a twenty
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seven year old man. Thank you for listening. We appreciate it.
And I recently have met and developed feelings with a
forty seven year old woman. Okay, do I navigate? I
love this go. I think that you and obviously she
has confidence to date a younger man and she's not
(11:42):
worried about that. Who is this woman? She's something. He's
great dating a younger man because you're obviously very mature
and that you don't act like a child. This would
be my guess is that because as forty year olds ourself.
Waitinne got no time for that shit. I'm not here
to babysit you. I'm not here to change diaper, you're
already doing that with Mac. I'm not here to handhold.
(12:03):
I need a man, and I want a man that
knows who he is. Like Steve's six years younger than
I am, and so I I usually date guys what's
that Jared's four years Yeah, and in my past, like
I would date guys that were similar ages. I've never
dated someone that's not that it's that much younger, but
it is six years is still six years, and especially
(12:24):
with guys, as they say, like arn A's mature as one.
So I would say, for you, twenty seven year old man,
good on you. But also she knows who she is.
Just continued to like give her her space if she
needs that, be confident in who you are. But also
she wants you to take charge. She wants you to
like show that you're a man, but not like dictate
(12:46):
her life because she's very probably set in who she
is at this point. That's my take on it.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
You.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yeah, I would just and I love all of that. Yes,
I would just enjoy the ride where it takes you.
I know stories like this, and I think once you
start talking about real life stuff and like I think
that's when I'm not saying it all collapses, but it
(13:13):
starts getting real. Go have fun. Who cares? Okay, So
you don't think this is gonna last. I have no clue.
I have zero clue. I watched mom talk. I mean
that stuff seems to last, but who knows, you know,
who knows? Who knows? Just go have fun, enjoy yourself,
be a man. Though. I like that Chris, and that's like,
(13:34):
and especially I don't know, I'll speak for myself. I
love like one of the things I'm most attracted to
with Steve is that like he is a dude, like
he knows who he is, but then he also like
lets me be me, so I think, and especially if
she's forty seven, like did she already have kids? Did not? Like,
there's a lot of questions there, and there's a lot
of in between. So yeah, have fun and have confidence
(13:58):
in this whole situation. You and I on this podcast,
Oh you holding up your merit. Well, I was gonna say,
if you want to get give her a great gift,
I would have gass getting her either a gift certificate
or a couple glosses glow serum from Merit. We I
guess we're going to start working with them with the podcast, right, Yeah,
(14:19):
And how funny is it that Aaron and I didn't
even plan this. We both had our merit lip gloss
on hand. What color do you have there been? I
can't read uh blarets? Okay, mind you have j E
T E something French. I can't pronounce it. They make
it super easy on their website. The colors their packaging
(14:40):
is beautiful, and when I pulled this out, I was like, oh,
is this going to be like this orange color? I'm
not sure if that will look good? No, if not
anyone like I wish I could put h Yeah, it's
like kind of a pinky, rainy orange color, but then
it goes on really smooth. I wish I had other
products down here, but they're great, and I use their
mass care. I gotta say, Chris has said it their
(15:02):
website this is not an AD, but I guess it is.
They didn't ask as it is, but it isn't on it.
They have this whole thing where you you if you're
trying to pick your shade of your foundation, you just
tell them the shade of your other stuff that you
use and they pair it. Genius. Genius because also, you
know what, So when I used to work at Nordstrom
back in the day my retail life, I'd go down
(15:23):
to the mac counter or Chanelle. I couldn't Affordunatee, but
like all these other counters, and I'd go to use
the makeup, but that overhead lighting and I'd always walk
over to the natural light to like see, it's so
hard to pick the color and then you get home
and it's the wrong shade. So this website, I love
that they offer that because then at least you know
that they're the ones that are color maccing. You're not
(15:43):
trying to figure it out. So yeah, good, twenty seven
year old, you get your old lady some merit, and
not that she's an old lady. But no, I'm saying
that because I'm proud of being older. I am. There's
always these conversations about like, oh, if you could go,
you know, back in time, I don't want to go back.
I'm I would have a frozen my eggs earlier. That's
(16:05):
the way thing I would have done. Okay, that's fair,
I feel, and like that's why you're so good about
advocating for you know, women to do it when they're
younger and stuff. And I totally understand that. I just am.
I'm very happy with getting older and the lessons that
I've learned and the person that I've become. And I
could always get better. I'm always trying to learn and
(16:25):
you know, be a better version of myself. But who
wants to go back to your twenties. Steve and I
were talking about that because we were talking about like
really shitty places that you live in, right, like when
you were like your college roommates, or different things and
places that you've had, And he was talking about living
with Tom's. Shout out to Tom's and Haley He's cuties.
(16:47):
Tom's was like living in a closet, and like Steve,
it's like right when they graduated college and all you
wanted to do is still feel like an adult. You
don't want to go back home. You want to maintain
your independence. And my girlfriend Megan and I shared a
studio apartment. We had mattresses on the floor and it
was only we each only paid five hundred dollars a month,
but we got to live in la We got to
couch off the side of the road, and it was
(17:08):
so gross and disgusting, but we made it like cute
and we were so proud of ourselves. We like having
an apartment in after graduating college. And then now I
look back on it and I'm like, oh my god,
But like at the time, who cares, Yeah, totally, you know,
So why would I on that tangent Because we were saying,
I don't want to go back and I'm proud where
(17:29):
I am. I'll tell you it makes me proud? Is
science like what they're doing, like again with nad peptides.
I mean, bad stuff continues. I'm crue getting older. There's
so many potions and lotions too that really taking care
of our skin. You know, the sunscreen thing and the
water thing I'm still not great about. I'm gonna be honest.
(17:49):
It's like I still like getting a tan and I
don't do as much water, and like those are things
I can get better at, for sure. Prey Inniston says,
you got to drink some water, so I'll have what
she's having, No kidding. We've got some fun headlines. Shall
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we go through some of them? Bab let's do it?
Do you want to do the awkward high school thing now?
Or you're over it? Which one's that? That is right
after the anonymous question, Oh yeah, let's do it? Okay.
So we talked about awkward high school moments or breakups.
Chrisa talked about making a mixtape asking her ex boyfriend
to get back together after breaking up with her. So
we asked for your awkward high school moments or breakups
(18:34):
and here's some of the responses. Hit it my freshman year,
A girl asked me to go backstage during a She
went in to kiss me and I wasn't ready. My
mouth was closed the entire time, and she was just
licking my lips. Tough. That's a tough sounds like a
John Hughes movie. Yeah, that one's step. Do you remember
(18:55):
your first kiss? Who was your first kiss? I'm having
a memory thing right now. I don't know what's going on.
I need sinky. Mine was Kai Scheidelman, and I remember
it was a game of telephone. We were sitting on
a bench outside my sixth grade classroom. Was it sixth
grade or fifth grade? And do you remember telephone? And okay,
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and for those of you kids out there that don't
know what it is, you say something you whispered in
the ear of the person next to you, and then
they're supposed to repeat it to the next person, and
you hope that it ends up down the line of
actually being what the intention of the first comment was,
and sometimes it isn't. But anyways, he said I want
to kiss you, and then it came down to me
and then it came out and kissed me and it
was like, I thought, it was like so cool my
first kiss. I think mine was to a guy named
(19:39):
Wesley Jones, which, by the way, great name.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Wow, Wow, you're middle linebacker for this evening. Wesley Jones,
number fifty in your program, number one in Aaron's Hearty.
And then before leaving for college, my boyfriend gave me
(20:03):
a Hickey then dump me.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Oh no, no, actually good. I'm a firm believer in like,
we don't bring sand to the beach. If you're going
off to college, we are not doing those relationship break
up Go live a little bit because and again this
ain't coming from no relationship ship expert over here. I
know who I am in life, but I'm gonna tell
you I don't think it's a recipe for success if
(20:26):
you've only been with the same person for your whole life,
Because I'm sorry, are you gonna have the same meal
your whole life? Like, oh, every night I just order pizza. No,
one night you're gonna want Chinese, one night, you're gonna
want Mexican. You're gonna want a variety of food, So
you should try all the items on the menu before
you settle in on the one entree that you are
your parents one stop shop though. Yeah, but that's like there,
(20:48):
I mean that that's eighteen. That was forty something years ago.
Like this is my dad tried to give me advice
one time on dating. This is like when I was
in my like pit of misery that like I hate
all men, and I was like, it's so hard to
meet people. My dad goes, well, you know, you just
do this, and I looked at him and I go,
you can give me advice on anything in life, anything
except for dating, because you've never dated. You married her
(21:11):
when you were eighteen years old or nineteen, like you
never had to date. And he looks at me, to
his credit, and he goes, you're right, You're right. I'm
like that you have no idea what it's like to date,
especially in today's today's age. Yeah, it's hat. I have
girlfriends who are you know, single, and like it's fucking hard.
I remember part of the reason, and I've said this before.
(21:32):
I mean, God, I do anything to get a divorce
because that was priority number one and no matter what,
I was going to get one. But I remember thinking, God,
this sucks. God, this sucks. I got to go back
out there and bring it again. Me. I remember you
were like, how am I going to do this again?
Of course, And I mean I would do it one
hundred times over and twice on Sundays, as they say,
(21:54):
because then it's like, look at what I ended up
with the dream that is Steve. So it's like anybody
that feels discovers, I'm like, keep going, you good plus
one forever. I threw away the left shoe of every
pair of shoes he owned after a breakup. Yes, I
was a psycho. That's good. I kind of like that. Oh,
that's really saying something when I was saying something, Yeah,
(22:16):
that's good. Last one is instead of replying, I told
him my phone died and I couldn't find my charger
for over a week. That's funny. Wait, we missed. After
my first kiss with the hot senior, I opened the
car door into my nose and got a huge nose blean.
Jake Ryan, Jake Ryan. He's a senior. He's so hot
(22:39):
Ryan Ryan, And even that doesn't know we're talking about
sixteen candles. In Molly Ringwold's character is in love with
the senior boy named Jake Ryan, and he drives a
red Porsche and he has that gray sweater vest thing
on and the dark hair. Oh Jake Ryan mm hmm,
all right, we've got some headlines. I love some headlines.
All right, I'm going to if you're a boomer, if
(23:03):
you wear leggings. The rise of big workout pants over
twenty years. As the reigning workout wear, stretchy fitted bottoms
are losing ground to bag baggy styles favored by gen Z.
I still love a legging. I mean I wear them. Yeah,
I don't like baggy pants. I think those are like fine,
I don't know, like in like a trendy fun way.
But I still love a little legging situation. So so
(23:31):
oh says you, thank you? Same, okay. Survey most attractive
hobbies for men according to women. We did this with Jenna.
The number one thing is reading number two, earning a
foreign language number three, playing instruments number four, cooking And
here's when I couldn't keep a straight face on when
she said it working. That would be my number one.
(23:55):
Because all these HGTV shows I watch, they always have
these contractors that are like the husband's right where it's
like fix her upper and it's Chip and Joanna Gaines
and he's like, she's like I would love this bookshelf,
and he's like, no problem, honey, and he like makes
her a bookshelf. And I look at Steve and I'm like,
can you make a bookshelf? And He's like, OK, relax, lady.
But I'm like, I think that's so hot. As a designer,
(24:16):
I could have him whittles some you know, dining room table.
Who reminds me of the line in Wedding Crashers. Where
is it weddings? Yeah? No, it's it's shit. I can't
remember now meet the parents and Owen Wilson's character, He's like,
I was lucky enough to salvage this from an old
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seaman's chaplain Nantucket. I think it works well here. This
is Kevin's new home. There are so many one liners
in that movie I just die for. But yeah, woodworking
would be number one for me. I like that. I mean, like,
what's you McCall? Gosh, I have no memory either. A
guy like he does everything? What kind of guy? Yeah?
Fix it, mister fix it? Like a handyman. Yeah, I
(24:56):
gotta say handyman. Good. So many redeeming I sometimes when
it's like there's stuff around the house and I'm like,
shall we just hire someone? Oh my god, I didn't
tell you the story our TV went out. Okay, this
TV right there? Okay, I was gone, and all sudden
Steve goes, the TV just shit out, and I'm like, well, okay,
this house is like eight years old. That's okay, that's
(25:18):
a long time for TVs. Yeah, agreed. So he's like,
I go, well, world, just call someone, and goes, no, no, no, no.
You got that tcl one out there. We'll just hang
that up. I go, you're gonna you're gonna just hang
that up while I'm gone, this seventy two inch television.
You're just gonna prop that bad boy up by yourself.
I go, no, why don't you wait till I come
home and we can do it together. As soon as
I said it, I was like, fuck, I do not
(25:39):
want to do this task together. It's going to be
a fight. Someone's gonna because ultimately I am a measure
gonna end up crying. I'm a measure twice cut one person.
This is totally what I get from my dad. Where
we open up the box, Okay, take the TV out.
Steve got shit just flying everywhere. The screws are going here. No, dame,
you got to take all the screw you got to
(26:00):
him in the same spot. You got to get organized.
We're not ripping stuff off the wall unless we know
how it goes back. So already I'm like this, and
it is taking everything I have in me to just
bite my fucking tongue and not say something. I'm like, Grissa,
just let him be a man, let him put the
new TV up. So I say nothing. He gets up
there and he thinks he's going to just jam this
thing on the existing hook. Thing, other stuffs, the direct
(26:22):
TV box is falling out the back. There's all this stuff,
and then he goes, well, we don't need this, and
I go, do you even know what that's for? Turns
out it's for the electric shades, so it's like then
he takes that out, says we don't need it now
the shades don't work. I go, okay, I go, this
is such a guy thing. Yep. And I tried. I
tried to let him be in the man of the situation.
And then finally, which is I couldn't take it anymore.
(26:44):
I literally bit through my tongue. I go, this is
why we don't do projects together. This is why I
wanted to hire someone. Fine, if you want to do it,
your way. You do it your way, and I stepped
off the goddamn step stool and he goes, well, that's
not a very nice thing to say. And now I go, okay,
well now I'm the jerk. Now I'm the jerk because
you didn't want to follow the instructions and we didn't
want to hire someone. It would have cost one hundred
bucks to hire someone. Now we're in a fight because
(27:06):
it's stupid TV. And anyways, we ended up putting it
up together after I took a break, and I go,
do you want to try this again? We can't put
down the sheades and now I can't watch televison. Yes.
I'm like, well, you don't know what all this stuff.
I don't know what all this stuff is back here,
but let's figure it out together. And then he rips
off the sonos like the big huge speaker thing, goes,
(27:27):
we don't need that on there. I'm like, okay, okay, okay,
we don't need this on there. We don't need on there.
So handy man number one, woodworking number two, yeah, fuck reading, yeah,
buck playing that piano that that we have behind does
don't care about playing instruments? Oh, Ryan just sent us
(27:58):
to headline on Oh, this is the headline I was
actually gonna ak Steve about but we ran out of
time and patients with televisions. Okay, So David Beckham was
giving himself a buzz cut when he accidentally gave himself
a bald patch. Victoria Beckham was brutally honest about the outcome, saying,
I'm going to always be honest with you. It looks terrible.
(28:20):
So I thought this headline was interesting because I am weird,
not shy about my opinions on things. So if Steve,
who always wears T shirts and like jeans and it's
pretty standard in the way he dresses, he's not like
he doesn't like go rogue that often, but when he does,
I'm like, WHOA, what is that? And I'll say it.
But he never says anything about what I'm wearing. And
(28:41):
I know he's thinking it, but like, they can't say it.
It's a fight if they do. But I kind of
want him too. I kind of want to test him
and like, just wear the ugliest shit I can come
up with, and like walk downstairs and be serious and
see if he'll say something like, what like why you
can't like if I this is like a random Sure,
(29:01):
I'm not worried about that. I'm saying. If I'm actually gonna,
like go out to dinner and I come down in
some crazy outfit, do you think he'll say something. I'm
in these god awful Jean shorts. I've born him the
last few days and my husband has swallowed it. He
hasn't said one vegging thing. But if he needs to
blow his nose, I'm like, blow your nose. They don't
(29:25):
say anything. They're so much Oh my god, I know.
But then it's like this is how we end up
in therapy and they're like, I can't say a goddamn
thing to before she loses her shit. I'm gonna wear
I'm gonna test my theory out. I'm gonna wear some
tacky shit and see if he says anything. Take a
picture of that moment. You know I'm going to I'm
going to I'll test it out tonight. Actually, if I
(29:46):
ever get out of this takyo first, all right, it's great.
Next headlines, sister. Okay, So that was it. Goodbye gentle parenting. Hello,
f around and find out. I think this is the
new book that's out and I really should read it.
Parents are ditching the softer approach to child rearing that
has dominated the culture and taking a harder line. That's me.
(30:09):
We were having a big discussion yesterday with our friends
who as a baby three weeks older than mac. One parent.
The wife and Jared are very much like, hey, let's
talk this out, and the dad and me shout out
to Teddy and me are very much like, hey, no,
I'm not doing this. And this is another thing I
(30:29):
feel strongly about. We had our baby late in life.
I'm fully aware, but we had an opportunity to be
around a lot of kids that really behaved badly, and
I always looked at my husband and said, I don't
want my kid to be like that. I want my
kid to be like this. Shout out to the Olsen
shout out to Ogden and Ashley Fixed Like I appreciate
(30:51):
their parenting styles, I also feel like, Listen, like we
live in a small town. There's pressure on my kid
to not be an a hole, and I don't want
him to be an a hole. And like, you know,
I just I am very My parents were hard on me, Listen.
We had an incredible relationship, but my mom didn't tolerate
(31:11):
much and I appreciate that now, and now that is
how I am. I not that I won't let him
get away with things, but I want to talk through it.
I want to tell you why this isn't the thing.
You shouldn't be doing this, and this is the what
we're going to do to correct it. I'm not into
the gentle approach, but Jared's aligned with you on that.
Oh he's softer on him. Yeah, yeah, okay, So how
(31:34):
do you guys handle that?
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Well?
Speaker 1 (31:35):
What kind of convers it is? It just creates tension
because we have to have good communication because right now,
I'm not a dummy Mac for Mac. Jareded is the
end all be all. He sees NBA on TV, Dad dad, Nope,
your dad doesn't play in the NBA MLB Dad, Dad, Nope,
the Dodgers. Jared is it in his life. And that's fine.
(31:57):
I get it. So when we are banging our shit
on the table, I look at Jared and I'm like,
you got to say something because he is not. He
looks at me and he's like, yeah, and it can't
always be you who's the disciplinarian. Yeah, so we're getting there. Yeah, yeah,
that's at so Steve and I. One of the conversations
(32:19):
we had on this podcast when you were gone was
about when people ask us all the time about having kids,
and we're obviously, you know, we're we've made the decision
that we're not going to have kids, and so some
of the benefits of that is, Yeah, there's obviously some
negatives as well, like we won't ever be able to
see what our kid looks like, we won't even have
these you know, can memories, all these different things. But
(32:40):
the positive that him and I have both talked about
is that it eliminates a lot of things that you
would have thought about because all or the stress or
all of the things that you and Jared or any
parent goes through with their partner. Is like, that is
a lot of things that you guys have to work
through and so which can strain in your marriage too. Right,
(33:01):
you learn a lot and you become good, you better
teammates or all these things. But let's not fucking sugarcoat it,
like the amount of stress that comes from having a child,
or like all of the worry. I mean, that's a
lot of stuff. So I commend you guys because you
said it, both of you guys have. You have to
be good communicators, and you might not always like communicat
My dad growing up, was had one very big rule
(33:24):
and I always I'm sure you've heard me say it
a million times. He goes, ain't my job to be
your friend. It's my job to your parent. And when
you turn eighteen, if you want to be friends with me,
then cool. We can be friends at eighteen, but until then,
it's my job to not raise an asshole. And my
mom was a little bit more forgiving, just because you
can't have both of them be so like sure. But
(33:45):
my dad, oh my god, my dad, to this day,
if he gives me a look, I'm still like ah,
Like he was like so hard on us, but I
appreciate it. And there was I told you this. Over
the weekend. There was this wonderful director who I had
a chance to interview, Joseph Kasinski. He is the top
Gun Maverick director. He's the f one director and he
(34:07):
was fascinating. But I my biggest takeaway was not what
he has done professionally, but what he has done personally.
He brought his son, who was twelve years old, named Alex,
and Alex started walking down the stairs and then he
stopped and he looked at me and he goes after
you and let me walk in front of him. And
I looked back at his father and I said, wow,
you guys have done an amazing job as parents. And
(34:28):
then he was so sweet and gave all the credit
to his wife. But I sat there and I was like,
the gifts that you are giving your kid to go
out into the world with manners, with kindness, with chivalry,
like all of these things, Like if that young man
at twelve years old has that imagine being I was like,
I'm excited for this guy's first girlfriend because you are amazing.
But yeah, those are a lot of skills that you're
(34:51):
not always going to be popular when you're trying to
implement them with your child, but they'll remember it for
the rest of their life. So with that parenting, Ted
talks he probably doesn't have kids, But I love you.
You're doing great. Mac is an amazing young man, and
you're an amazing mother. I love you. Now stays where
(35:12):
he's at the bottom of the stand stairs, going mama, mommy.
Oh that's cute. Yeah, yeah, it's like stewie mom, mom, mommy,
mom what Hi? He doesn't hi hie hi, You're like okay,
(35:34):
I love you so much. Bye, guys, see you next.
Whye bye. Calm Down with Aeron and Carissa is a
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So handy Man number one, Woodworking number two. Yeah, fuck
reading Yeah, Calm Down with Aeron and Carissa is a
production of iHeartRadio. Hey now, Hey, Aaron needs to go
(00:22):
on name that tune. I would love to You are phenomenal,
like one or two notes, you like know it and
it's like obscure stuff. It's not even like I don't
know popular music. You just are very quick on the
draw with the old song scal I wi everybody start
(00:43):
listening to like current music, because you know, I'll listen
to our faves and like that's all I'll listen to.
I don't know any music out there right now, current stuff.
I did a Spotify like now like today's hits? Sure
I know none of these. I'm like, I'm turning into
our parents where it's like, what is this music? I
don't know this music? My music consists of Taylor Swift
(01:03):
country music and mixing a little justin Timberlake for old
times sake or new stuff Love his new album How
are we doing? Gal? What podcast? Everybody? Let's jump into
some questions. Gal First Love an anonymous any advice for
a single thirty six year old girl who's truly fifty
to fifty on if I want kids. So she's singles,
(01:28):
she's thirty six, and she doesn't know if she wants kids. Yep.
I would say, if you have the money right now,
go freeze your eggs real quick. Yep. So you don't
have to have that pressure on yourself and you don't
have to worry about it for right now. YEP. I
like I'd done that in my twenties. I wish I
had done it all through my twenties. I didn't even
(01:49):
know about it. It wasn't a hot topic to do.
I would have done it, and man, things would be
really different. It just wasn't something we talked about. It
wasn't and then it was always like if it was,
it was you only did if you had issues or
you knew that maybe you were going to have a
problem having kids. Like now it's like, you're perfectly healthy,
you should do it. I mean it's not. There's not
(02:10):
like a caveat for it. And now there's different ways
to pay for it. Certain companies do provide you insurance,
you can get a loan for it. There's like all
these different ways to do it. Now. If you don't
want to do that, you don't have the means to
do it. Whatever your situation is. Egg freezing isn't an
option I would worry about, now, are you planning on
(02:30):
being with someone, because if you're not, that's a whole
other ball of woes. But I would worry about having
a strong relationship before you have kids. It puts a
strain on your relationship. We were talking about somebody we
know that is pregnant, that doesn't want to be pregnant.
The relationship isn't great, this was whatever. So I just
was saying to my husband, I can't imagine being in
(02:51):
a place where you knew you were going to break up,
but then you have a kid and you're like, this
just adds so much more pressure. It's so hard even
when you do have a good relationship. Yeah, it is,
so I would worry about that before you worry about
a kid. Be honest, if you start dating someone and
say I'm interested in having babies, but again, if it's possible,
(03:11):
I would do egg freezing because that takes a lot
of pressure off you. I think that is all very
sound and sage advice. Yeah, especially the part where it's
like make sure that you like the person that you're
with and not just rushing into having a kid, because
to your point, that never makes anything better or easier.
I don't even know if I like myself anymore after
having a kid. WHOA sometimes does this me or you good?
(03:34):
This is me? Kayleie kimber one. Do you believe in
the seven year itch? Yes? I do? I do? Okay, yeah,
what you're you one? We're on eight Okay, I do.
I think things get more serious, like that's when people
usually have had kids. That's when the kids are old
enough to be pains in the asses and we're in
the terrible twos and all the things and like things
(03:57):
start wearing on you. It's not the honeymoon phase any
emil more. You've got job shit, you've got house shit,
you've got appliances that have water saints on them. I
totally believe in it. I do. Yeah, I was thinking
about that today. Actually, Steve and I have been together
for three years. Oh my god, that flu right, it did.
But then at the same time it's still only three
(04:18):
years and how important it is, and we talk about
this where it's like you guys, stn't make sure that
like you have the like the sexy part, you have
the dating part, like you can't just like forfeit all
that shit, like just because you guys are best friends
and it's easy and it's fun and you can get
i don't know, lazy if you want to like, oh,
(04:38):
we're just in a routine. We're in a routine. And
it's like I've got to remind myself of that too,
especially now with football starting, where it's like I always like, oh, well,
it's my football season. So even Steven texts me the
other day and he was like, uh, it's Linda's seasons.
Tom's time is up, and it's like, but I don't
want to do I've got to remember that, Like I
still need to surprise him. And like we were, we
(05:00):
were very good. We haven't done it a lot lately.
We're like leaving each other notes when we like go
out of town or like hiding and home in the
luggage or doing things like that. And I should initiate
it because he is the one that always does it.
But yeah, just making sure that you don't get complacent,
because really he's like sometimes it's just easy to be
like okay, eh, you get it. I love you, you love me,
(05:22):
We're great. But then it's like I don't know. Oh yeah,
I like caution that. It's like if you're doing if
I'm already thinking that way. Sometimes at three years, it's like, well,
where's it at thirty years? And I get it. My
dad and mom have been together since they were eighteen
years old, and your parents have been together for a
long time, and it is and my dad goes the
key to a lasting relationship is make sure that when
the road starts to go too far from one another,
(05:44):
that you intersect quickly, like because if you don't and
you don't catch that, like departure off the exit, win
get back on that freeway, and now we are going
a completely different route and it's not so easy to
get back on track. I think. A good thing to remember,
and if you ever need, like whatever, a good thing
for us to remember is we have a We have
(06:05):
a set of friends who are dating and they've been
dating for two years, and when they're around each other,
they're always kissing, they're always touching. You saw it on
the podcast and it's like you and I after hanging
out with them, are like, wait, we're not making out.
That is a tailor And Travis and Jeff and Lauren
(06:25):
are two sets of friends I have who are obsessed
with each other, and every time I leave them, I'm like,
I look at Steve and I go, you need to
love me more. He's like, you need to love me more.
I'm a good reminder, like when we find with them,
it's like I find myself And it's not that I'm
not grabbing for my husband's hand, but sometimes you just
get so used to being like, let's go, let's go,
let's go. We're not as We're not like that. No,
(06:47):
we're not like that, and it's we love exactly like
we love our people, but we definitely like they're magnets
with each other. And it is a good reminder to like, yeah,
it's very cy you did we answer your Haley Kimber,
anonymous guy I went out with one time doesn't follow
me but watches all my instant stories. Why oh I
(07:12):
I love this conversation of the like who's watching your stories?
Who is it?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Like?
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Do you look at who watches your stories? So I
knew how I used to you just you flip you
like when you're like on your own story, you just
push up on it and then it shows who watches
I used to because I had somebody that I wanted
to ensure wasn't looking at my ship because I hated
(07:37):
them so much. So I came up with fifty bird
and then yeah exactly, and then made fake accounts.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
I used to look a lot, but now I don't
really pay attention to it. I mean every now and
then it's like if you have to give like insights
up an ad thing, you'll look and I don't know,
but now it just doesn't really. I mean, if you look,
you look, you don't. Who cares why? In this case? Yeah,
this is one where it's like a guy she went
out with it doesn't follow me. That's always where you're
(08:07):
like time out. If you don't follow me, then how
you are you looking at it? I like it. I
think it's like a good like you got him girl.
I feel like, if I'm you, I'm thinking keep in tabs.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Uh huh.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
He wants to know what you're doing, but he doesn't
want you to know that he knows that you know,
I know that you I know. Oh yeah. And that's
where this is, to quote Aaron sub Kid, that's where
you do. That's that's where if you see him in
the streets next time, he's like, oh my god, how
have you been? Be like, you know you've watched all
my Ship, sub Kid, next cue and just moon walk Away.
(08:41):
He's watching because he cares, That's the why. And girl
you good. Megan O'Connell favorite workout song, Oh God, I
got so many. I will go to my playlist that
me too. Is this one? Anything? P D Pablo Sierra?
(09:04):
You put that song on, You're gonna tell me that
you ain't gonna drop that s like, yeah, that's a
good one. I got this one also, get Big Bang.
It sounds like mom talk, but you know what I mean.
It's just I've got a whole playlist of just real good. Yeah, yeah,
h blow the whistle. I'm into anything Drake anything like
(09:26):
I like. I like the remixes that they have for
tailor stuff that's good. I like. I like when they
have eighties remixes like they have like some depeche Mode
remixes and stuff like that. I love that shit. Yep
t I has a lot of them. Bring them out.
You tell me this song comes on, you ain't gonna
start running faster? I do this when so when we
(09:47):
do a Super Bowl so casual to say that when
we have to do a Super Bowl. We go to
four years, I know, two players practices and you get
to stand there and you know what, whatever, do your thing.
Watch the guys come back in, talk to them. They
always play their music. And so the last several years,
(10:08):
Stray has always been there when I'm there because the
pregame goes too, and so the the guy they you know,
they go to different drills, they go to different plays,
and they're playing music to keep the guys hyped and
crowd noise and blah blah blah. The music's fantastic. I
sit there and I look at straight and I'm like,
I'm justzaming. I'm jaxaming. I'm just zaming. So half the
like explicit shit I have is from being at certain practices,
(10:32):
and I'm like, oh, said ship is inarental advisory. Yeah,
but Aaron, you and I also has this thing, have
this thing because you've been at stadiums for the last
twenty years. I had that little moment where I was
only in studio and since Amazon's on the road now
I'm back in stadium. Do you know the like Carolina
(10:54):
on the Low, Oh, incredible Atlanta, great music in Atlanta.
Does well go has great, like you know the ones
where you're like, oh, I'm so excited to go work
this game because the DJ bangers anonymous. I'm a twenty
(11:18):
seven year old man. Thank you for listening. We appreciate it.
And I recently have met and developed feelings with a
forty seven year old woman. Okay, do I navigate? I
love this go. I think that you and obviously she
has confidence to date a younger man and she's not
(11:42):
worried about that. Who is this woman? She's something. He's
great dating a younger man because you're obviously very mature
and that you don't act like a child. This would
be my guess is that because as forty year olds ourself.
Waitinne got no time for that shit. I'm not here
to babysit you. I'm not here to change diaper, you're
already doing that with Mac. I'm not here to handhold.
(12:03):
I need a man, and I want a man that
knows who he is. Like Steve's six years younger than
I am, and so I I usually date guys what's
that Jared's four years Yeah, and in my past, like
I would date guys that were similar ages. I've never
dated someone that's not that it's that much younger, but
it is six years is still six years, and especially
(12:24):
with guys, as they say, like arn A's mature as one.
So I would say, for you, twenty seven year old man,
good on you. But also she knows who she is.
Just continued to like give her her space if she
needs that, be confident in who you are. But also
she wants you to take charge. She wants you to
like show that you're a man, but not like dictate
(12:46):
her life because she's very probably set in who she
is at this point. That's my take on it.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
You.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yeah, I would just and I love all of that. Yes,
I would just enjoy the ride where it takes you.
I know stories like this, and I think once you
start talking about real life stuff and like I think
that's when I'm not saying it all collapses, but it
(13:13):
starts getting real. Go have fun. Who cares? Okay, So
you don't think this is gonna last. I have no clue.
I have zero clue. I watched mom talk. I mean
that stuff seems to last, but who knows, you know,
who knows? Who knows? Just go have fun, enjoy yourself,
be a man. Though. I like that Chris, and that's like,
(13:34):
and especially I don't know, I'll speak for myself. I
love like one of the things I'm most attracted to
with Steve is that like he is a dude, like
he knows who he is, but then he also like
lets me be me, so I think, and especially if
she's forty seven, like did she already have kids? Did not? Like,
there's a lot of questions there, and there's a lot
of in between. So yeah, have fun and have confidence
(13:58):
in this whole situation. You and I on this podcast,
Oh you holding up your merit. Well, I was gonna say,
if you want to get give her a great gift,
I would have gass getting her either a gift certificate
or a couple glosses glow serum from Merit. We I
guess we're going to start working with them with the podcast, right, Yeah,
(14:19):
And how funny is it that Aaron and I didn't
even plan this. We both had our merit lip gloss
on hand. What color do you have there been? I
can't read uh blarets? Okay, mind you have j E
T E something French. I can't pronounce it. They make
it super easy on their website. The colors their packaging
(14:40):
is beautiful, and when I pulled this out, I was like, oh,
is this going to be like this orange color? I'm
not sure if that will look good? No, if not
anyone like I wish I could put h Yeah, it's
like kind of a pinky, rainy orange color, but then
it goes on really smooth. I wish I had other
products down here, but they're great, and I use their
mass care. I gotta say, Chris has said it their
(15:02):
website this is not an AD, but I guess it is.
They didn't ask as it is, but it isn't on it.
They have this whole thing where you you if you're
trying to pick your shade of your foundation, you just
tell them the shade of your other stuff that you
use and they pair it. Genius. Genius because also, you
know what, So when I used to work at Nordstrom
back in the day my retail life, I'd go down
(15:23):
to the mac counter or Chanelle. I couldn't Affordunatee, but
like all these other counters, and I'd go to use
the makeup, but that overhead lighting and I'd always walk
over to the natural light to like see, it's so
hard to pick the color and then you get home
and it's the wrong shade. So this website, I love
that they offer that because then at least you know
that they're the ones that are color maccing. You're not
(15:43):
trying to figure it out. So yeah, good, twenty seven
year old, you get your old lady some merit, and
not that she's an old lady. But no, I'm saying
that because I'm proud of being older. I am. There's
always these conversations about like, oh, if you could go,
you know, back in time, I don't want to go back.
I'm I would have a frozen my eggs earlier. That's
(16:05):
the way thing I would have done. Okay, that's fair,
I feel, and like that's why you're so good about
advocating for you know, women to do it when they're
younger and stuff. And I totally understand that. I just am.
I'm very happy with getting older and the lessons that
I've learned and the person that I've become. And I
could always get better. I'm always trying to learn and
(16:25):
you know, be a better version of myself. But who
wants to go back to your twenties. Steve and I
were talking about that because we were talking about like
really shitty places that you live in, right, like when
you were like your college roommates, or different things and
places that you've had, And he was talking about living
with Tom's. Shout out to Tom's and Haley He's cuties.
(16:47):
Tom's was like living in a closet, and like Steve,
it's like right when they graduated college and all you
wanted to do is still feel like an adult. You
don't want to go back home. You want to maintain
your independence. And my girlfriend Megan and I shared a
studio apartment. We had mattresses on the floor and it
was only we each only paid five hundred dollars a month,
but we got to live in la We got to
couch off the side of the road, and it was
(17:08):
so gross and disgusting, but we made it like cute
and we were so proud of ourselves. We like having
an apartment in after graduating college. And then now I
look back on it and I'm like, oh my god,
But like at the time, who cares, Yeah, totally, you know,
So why would I on that tangent Because we were saying,
I don't want to go back and I'm proud where
(17:29):
I am. I'll tell you it makes me proud? Is
science like what they're doing, like again with nad peptides.
I mean, bad stuff continues. I'm crue getting older. There's
so many potions and lotions too that really taking care
of our skin. You know, the sunscreen thing and the
water thing I'm still not great about. I'm gonna be honest.
(17:49):
It's like I still like getting a tan and I
don't do as much water, and like those are things
I can get better at, for sure. Prey Inniston says,
you got to drink some water, so I'll have what
she's having, No kidding. We've got some fun headlines. Shall
(18:11):
we go through some of them? Bab let's do it?
Do you want to do the awkward high school thing now?
Or you're over it? Which one's that? That is right
after the anonymous question, Oh yeah, let's do it? Okay.
So we talked about awkward high school moments or breakups.
Chrisa talked about making a mixtape asking her ex boyfriend
to get back together after breaking up with her. So
we asked for your awkward high school moments or breakups
(18:34):
and here's some of the responses. Hit it my freshman year,
A girl asked me to go backstage during a She
went in to kiss me and I wasn't ready. My
mouth was closed the entire time, and she was just
licking my lips. Tough. That's a tough sounds like a
John Hughes movie. Yeah, that one's step. Do you remember
(18:55):
your first kiss? Who was your first kiss? I'm having
a memory thing right now. I don't know what's going on.
I need sinky. Mine was Kai Scheidelman, and I remember
it was a game of telephone. We were sitting on
a bench outside my sixth grade classroom. Was it sixth
grade or fifth grade? And do you remember telephone? And okay,
(19:16):
and for those of you kids out there that don't
know what it is, you say something you whispered in
the ear of the person next to you, and then
they're supposed to repeat it to the next person, and
you hope that it ends up down the line of
actually being what the intention of the first comment was,
and sometimes it isn't. But anyways, he said I want
to kiss you, and then it came down to me
and then it came out and kissed me and it
was like, I thought, it was like so cool my
first kiss. I think mine was to a guy named
(19:39):
Wesley Jones, which, by the way, great name.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Wow, Wow, you're middle linebacker for this evening. Wesley Jones,
number fifty in your program, number one in Aaron's Hearty.
And then before leaving for college, my boyfriend gave me
(20:03):
a Hickey then dump me.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Oh no, no, actually good. I'm a firm believer in like,
we don't bring sand to the beach. If you're going
off to college, we are not doing those relationship break
up Go live a little bit because and again this
ain't coming from no relationship ship expert over here. I
know who I am in life, but I'm gonna tell
you I don't think it's a recipe for success if
(20:26):
you've only been with the same person for your whole life,
Because I'm sorry, are you gonna have the same meal
your whole life? Like, oh, every night I just order pizza. No,
one night you're gonna want Chinese, one night, you're gonna
want Mexican. You're gonna want a variety of food, So
you should try all the items on the menu before
you settle in on the one entree that you are
your parents one stop shop though. Yeah, but that's like there,
(20:48):
I mean that that's eighteen. That was forty something years ago.
Like this is my dad tried to give me advice
one time on dating. This is like when I was
in my like pit of misery that like I hate
all men, and I was like, it's so hard to
meet people. My dad goes, well, you know, you just
do this, and I looked at him and I go,
you can give me advice on anything in life, anything
except for dating, because you've never dated. You married her
(21:11):
when you were eighteen years old or nineteen, like you
never had to date. And he looks at me, to
his credit, and he goes, you're right, You're right. I'm
like that you have no idea what it's like to date,
especially in today's today's age. Yeah, it's hat. I have
girlfriends who are you know, single, and like it's fucking hard.
I remember part of the reason, and I've said this before.
(21:32):
I mean, God, I do anything to get a divorce
because that was priority number one and no matter what,
I was going to get one. But I remember thinking, God,
this sucks. God, this sucks. I got to go back
out there and bring it again. Me. I remember you
were like, how am I going to do this again?
Of course, And I mean I would do it one
hundred times over and twice on Sundays, as they say,
(21:54):
because then it's like, look at what I ended up
with the dream that is Steve. So it's like anybody
that feels discovers, I'm like, keep going, you good plus
one forever. I threw away the left shoe of every
pair of shoes he owned after a breakup. Yes, I
was a psycho. That's good. I kind of like that. Oh,
that's really saying something when I was saying something, Yeah,
(22:16):
that's good. Last one is instead of replying, I told
him my phone died and I couldn't find my charger
for over a week. That's funny. Wait, we missed. After
my first kiss with the hot senior, I opened the
car door into my nose and got a huge nose blean.
Jake Ryan, Jake Ryan. He's a senior. He's so hot
(22:39):
Ryan Ryan, And even that doesn't know we're talking about
sixteen candles. In Molly Ringwold's character is in love with
the senior boy named Jake Ryan, and he drives a
red Porsche and he has that gray sweater vest thing
on and the dark hair. Oh Jake Ryan mm hmm,
all right, we've got some headlines. I love some headlines.
All right, I'm going to if you're a boomer, if
(23:03):
you wear leggings. The rise of big workout pants over
twenty years. As the reigning workout wear, stretchy fitted bottoms
are losing ground to bag baggy styles favored by gen Z.
I still love a legging. I mean I wear them. Yeah,
I don't like baggy pants. I think those are like fine,
I don't know, like in like a trendy fun way.
But I still love a little legging situation. So so
(23:31):
oh says you, thank you? Same, okay. Survey most attractive
hobbies for men according to women. We did this with Jenna.
The number one thing is reading number two, earning a
foreign language number three, playing instruments number four, cooking And
here's when I couldn't keep a straight face on when
she said it working. That would be my number one.
(23:55):
Because all these HGTV shows I watch, they always have
these contractors that are like the husband's right where it's
like fix her upper and it's Chip and Joanna Gaines
and he's like, she's like I would love this bookshelf,
and he's like, no problem, honey, and he like makes
her a bookshelf. And I look at Steve and I'm like,
can you make a bookshelf? And He's like, OK, relax, lady.
But I'm like, I think that's so hot. As a designer,
(24:16):
I could have him whittles some you know, dining room table.
Who reminds me of the line in Wedding Crashers. Where
is it weddings? Yeah? No, it's it's shit. I can't
remember now meet the parents and Owen Wilson's character, He's like,
I was lucky enough to salvage this from an old
(24:36):
seaman's chaplain Nantucket. I think it works well here. This
is Kevin's new home. There are so many one liners
in that movie I just die for. But yeah, woodworking
would be number one for me. I like that. I mean, like,
what's you McCall? Gosh, I have no memory either. A
guy like he does everything? What kind of guy? Yeah?
Fix it, mister fix it? Like a handyman. Yeah, I
(24:56):
gotta say handyman. Good. So many redeeming I sometimes when
it's like there's stuff around the house and I'm like,
shall we just hire someone? Oh my god, I didn't
tell you the story our TV went out. Okay, this
TV right there? Okay, I was gone, and all sudden
Steve goes, the TV just shit out, and I'm like, well, okay,
this house is like eight years old. That's okay, that's
(25:18):
a long time for TVs. Yeah, agreed. So he's like,
I go, well, world, just call someone, and goes, no, no, no, no.
You got that tcl one out there. We'll just hang
that up. I go, you're gonna you're gonna just hang
that up while I'm gone, this seventy two inch television.
You're just gonna prop that bad boy up by yourself.
I go, no, why don't you wait till I come
home and we can do it together. As soon as
I said it, I was like, fuck, I do not
(25:39):
want to do this task together. It's going to be
a fight. Someone's gonna because ultimately I am a measure
gonna end up crying. I'm a measure twice cut one person.
This is totally what I get from my dad. Where
we open up the box, Okay, take the TV out.
Steve got shit just flying everywhere. The screws are going here. No, dame,
you got to take all the screw you got to
(26:00):
him in the same spot. You got to get organized.
We're not ripping stuff off the wall unless we know
how it goes back. So already I'm like this, and
it is taking everything I have in me to just
bite my fucking tongue and not say something. I'm like, Grissa,
just let him be a man, let him put the
new TV up. So I say nothing. He gets up
there and he thinks he's going to just jam this
thing on the existing hook. Thing, other stuffs, the direct
(26:22):
TV box is falling out the back. There's all this stuff,
and then he goes, well, we don't need this, and
I go, do you even know what that's for? Turns
out it's for the electric shades, so it's like then
he takes that out, says we don't need it now
the shades don't work. I go, okay, I go, this
is such a guy thing. Yep. And I tried. I
tried to let him be in the man of the situation.
And then finally, which is I couldn't take it anymore.
(26:44):
I literally bit through my tongue. I go, this is
why we don't do projects together. This is why I
wanted to hire someone. Fine, if you want to do it,
your way. You do it your way, and I stepped
off the goddamn step stool and he goes, well, that's
not a very nice thing to say. And now I go, okay,
well now I'm the jerk. Now I'm the jerk because
you didn't want to follow the instructions and we didn't
want to hire someone. It would have cost one hundred
bucks to hire someone. Now we're in a fight because
(27:06):
it's stupid TV. And anyways, we ended up putting it
up together after I took a break, and I go,
do you want to try this again? We can't put
down the sheades and now I can't watch televison. Yes.
I'm like, well, you don't know what all this stuff.
I don't know what all this stuff is back here,
but let's figure it out together. And then he rips
off the sonos like the big huge speaker thing, goes,
(27:27):
we don't need that on there. I'm like, okay, okay, okay,
we don't need this on there. We don't need on there.
So handy man number one, woodworking number two, yeah, fuck reading, yeah,
buck playing that piano that that we have behind does
don't care about playing instruments? Oh, Ryan just sent us
(27:58):
to headline on Oh, this is the headline I was
actually gonna ak Steve about but we ran out of
time and patients with televisions. Okay, So David Beckham was
giving himself a buzz cut when he accidentally gave himself
a bald patch. Victoria Beckham was brutally honest about the outcome, saying,
I'm going to always be honest with you. It looks terrible.
(28:20):
So I thought this headline was interesting because I am weird,
not shy about my opinions on things. So if Steve,
who always wears T shirts and like jeans and it's
pretty standard in the way he dresses, he's not like
he doesn't like go rogue that often, but when he does,
I'm like, WHOA, what is that? And I'll say it.
But he never says anything about what I'm wearing. And
(28:41):
I know he's thinking it, but like, they can't say it.
It's a fight if they do. But I kind of
want him too. I kind of want to test him
and like, just wear the ugliest shit I can come
up with, and like walk downstairs and be serious and
see if he'll say something like, what like why you
can't like if I this is like a random Sure,
(29:01):
I'm not worried about that. I'm saying. If I'm actually gonna,
like go out to dinner and I come down in
some crazy outfit, do you think he'll say something. I'm
in these god awful Jean shorts. I've born him the
last few days and my husband has swallowed it. He
hasn't said one vegging thing. But if he needs to
blow his nose, I'm like, blow your nose. They don't
(29:25):
say anything. They're so much Oh my god, I know.
But then it's like this is how we end up
in therapy and they're like, I can't say a goddamn
thing to before she loses her shit. I'm gonna wear
I'm gonna test my theory out. I'm gonna wear some
tacky shit and see if he says anything. Take a
picture of that moment. You know I'm going to I'm
going to I'll test it out tonight. Actually, if I
(29:46):
ever get out of this takyo first, all right, it's great.
Next headlines, sister. Okay, So that was it. Goodbye gentle parenting. Hello,
f around and find out. I think this is the
new book that's out and I really should read it.
Parents are ditching the softer approach to child rearing that
has dominated the culture and taking a harder line. That's me.
(30:09):
We were having a big discussion yesterday with our friends
who as a baby three weeks older than mac. One parent.
The wife and Jared are very much like, hey, let's
talk this out, and the dad and me shout out
to Teddy and me are very much like, hey, no,
I'm not doing this. And this is another thing I
(30:29):
feel strongly about. We had our baby late in life.
I'm fully aware, but we had an opportunity to be
around a lot of kids that really behaved badly, and
I always looked at my husband and said, I don't
want my kid to be like that. I want my
kid to be like this. Shout out to the Olsen
shout out to Ogden and Ashley Fixed Like I appreciate
(30:51):
their parenting styles, I also feel like, Listen, like we
live in a small town. There's pressure on my kid
to not be an a hole, and I don't want
him to be an a hole. And like, you know,
I just I am very My parents were hard on me, Listen.
We had an incredible relationship, but my mom didn't tolerate
(31:11):
much and I appreciate that now, and now that is
how I am. I not that I won't let him
get away with things, but I want to talk through it.
I want to tell you why this isn't the thing.
You shouldn't be doing this, and this is the what
we're going to do to correct it. I'm not into
the gentle approach, but Jared's aligned with you on that.
Oh he's softer on him. Yeah, yeah, okay, So how
(31:34):
do you guys handle that?
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Well?
Speaker 1 (31:35):
What kind of convers it is? It just creates tension
because we have to have good communication because right now,
I'm not a dummy Mac for Mac. Jareded is the
end all be all. He sees NBA on TV, Dad dad, Nope,
your dad doesn't play in the NBA MLB Dad, Dad, Nope,
the Dodgers. Jared is it in his life. And that's fine.
(31:57):
I get it. So when we are banging our shit
on the table, I look at Jared and I'm like,
you got to say something because he is not. He
looks at me and he's like, yeah, and it can't
always be you who's the disciplinarian. Yeah, so we're getting there. Yeah, yeah,
that's at so Steve and I. One of the conversations
(32:19):
we had on this podcast when you were gone was
about when people ask us all the time about having kids,
and we're obviously, you know, we're we've made the decision
that we're not going to have kids, and so some
of the benefits of that is, Yeah, there's obviously some
negatives as well, like we won't ever be able to
see what our kid looks like, we won't even have
these you know, can memories, all these different things. But
(32:40):
the positive that him and I have both talked about
is that it eliminates a lot of things that you
would have thought about because all or the stress or
all of the things that you and Jared or any
parent goes through with their partner. Is like, that is
a lot of things that you guys have to work
through and so which can strain in your marriage too. Right,
(33:01):
you learn a lot and you become good, you better
teammates or all these things. But let's not fucking sugarcoat it,
like the amount of stress that comes from having a child,
or like all of the worry. I mean, that's a
lot of stuff. So I commend you guys because you
said it, both of you guys have. You have to
be good communicators, and you might not always like communicat
My dad growing up, was had one very big rule
(33:24):
and I always I'm sure you've heard me say it
a million times. He goes, ain't my job to be
your friend. It's my job to your parent. And when
you turn eighteen, if you want to be friends with me,
then cool. We can be friends at eighteen, but until then,
it's my job to not raise an asshole. And my
mom was a little bit more forgiving, just because you
can't have both of them be so like sure. But
(33:45):
my dad, oh my god, my dad, to this day,
if he gives me a look, I'm still like ah,
Like he was like so hard on us, but I
appreciate it. And there was I told you this. Over
the weekend. There was this wonderful director who I had
a chance to interview, Joseph Kasinski. He is the top
Gun Maverick director. He's the f one director and he
(34:07):
was fascinating. But I my biggest takeaway was not what
he has done professionally, but what he has done personally.
He brought his son, who was twelve years old, named Alex,
and Alex started walking down the stairs and then he
stopped and he looked at me and he goes after
you and let me walk in front of him. And
I looked back at his father and I said, wow,
you guys have done an amazing job as parents. And
(34:28):
then he was so sweet and gave all the credit
to his wife. But I sat there and I was like,
the gifts that you are giving your kid to go
out into the world with manners, with kindness, with chivalry,
like all of these things, Like if that young man
at twelve years old has that imagine being I was like,
I'm excited for this guy's first girlfriend because you are amazing.
But yeah, those are a lot of skills that you're
(34:51):
not always going to be popular when you're trying to
implement them with your child, but they'll remember it for
the rest of their life. So with that parenting, Ted
talks he probably doesn't have kids, But I love you.
You're doing great. Mac is an amazing young man, and
you're an amazing mother. I love you. Now stays where
(35:12):
he's at the bottom of the stand stairs, going mama, mommy.
Oh that's cute. Yeah, yeah, it's like stewie mom, mom, mommy,
mom what Hi? He doesn't hi hie hi, You're like okay,
(35:34):
I love you so much. Bye, guys, see you next.
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