July 31, 2024 • 24 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Canfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and
the Black Effect. Oh shit me on the air, Welcome
back to you got another carefully Reckless episode with your
girl Jess hilarious. I am alone today because Tailaw is
(00:24):
not going to read with me. I'm actually on maternity
leave a little bit, a little some something something like that.
And I can't say maternity leave because I wouldn't be
doing this maternitally mean you are off period, but I'm
still working or whatever. But I'm just working remotely. So
I'm back at my residents recording my podcast. All, so
let's get into it. These are some long ass stories.
(00:47):
I cannot stress enough that y'all can send voice memos.
I know y'all hate doing it, but I hate reading
this shit right now until I have this baby, my nigga,
I'm not trying to read a Validorian speech like that's
exactly what this is. This is crazy, And y'all know
I've been getting I've been getting good. We're reading stories
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for just with the mess on Breakfast Club. Y'all want
to wish to read whole like Bible chapters, like this
is crazy, this is this is all so long and
I know y'all hate the way Taylor read. A couple
of y'all already told me y'all hate the way she read.
I get it, but she was good for the job
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because I didn't have to read when I was up there.
So now y'all gotta deal with me, and I will
cut you out if y'all not using proper grammar, because
don't nobody won't read no fucked up shit shit all right?
My man was married for twenty seven years. Wait a minute,
first sentence is crazy what my man was married for
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twenty seven years? But not to you? Basically, Okay, let
me just let me just go. His ex was extremely
controlling and secure and disrespectful. He is very patient and loving.
Family friends have told me countless stories about her. How
she would talk shit to him in front of people.
You ain't shit, you thank you the shit are just
(02:10):
some of the examples of how she used to talk
to him. The marriage ended by her cheating on him
and feeling like she wasn't in love with him anymore,
so he was forced to leave. Just to interject, I mean,
if you're talking to a man like a man like that,
you're walking all over him. I don't doubt that she
was cheating on asas anyway, Okay, back to it. So
he was forced to leave, Okay, and then why the
(02:32):
fuck you forced if a bitch talking to you like
that married twenty seven years or no, I don't give
fuck if y'all was married for twenty seven days. Bitch,
don't play with me because I will not mind shit.
I'm incriminate my damn self. Anyway, Cut a long story short.
They have been divorced since twenty fifteen. We have been
happily together since twenty eighteen, absolutely in love with each
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other and are really excuse me, see they go that
fucking heartburn, y'all. I told yall that's why I don't
like to read. Are really healthy together? Okay, so y'all
two are healthy alright, this is after the divorce. We
do have a fifteen year age difference, all right. He
is fifty four, I am thirty nine. He has two
grown adult kids thirty two and twenty eight, and I
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have a seventeen and fifteen year old. He and his
ex also took guardianship of her niece and her nephew
fifteen and fourteen years old, who used to attend school,
with my youngest and have even been in the same class.
In the beginning of our relationship, the two young kids
will come over and hang out with my kids. Since
she found out about us, she's been disrespectful and has
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talked shit about me to mutual friends and his family members.
She has instructed her two minor kids to stay away
from my kids anytime they see my kids. When the
little girl had our birthday party, my daughter made cupcakes
and a gift. My best friend took her to drop
it off. She basically told my daughter her gifts were
not welcomed. She told my man we all need to
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stay away from her and her kids, and stopped allowing
him to see the kids on the weekends. Damn. She
ended up needing a babysitter and asked him to watch them.
He planned to bring the kids over to my house
and I put a stop to it. I do not
blame you. I called her to demand consistency. Them kids
ain't coming over here, staying one way and one way only.
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I have tried to meet with her and talk over coffee,
but she got nobody with a mother fucking coffee. But
she declined and told me she didn't trust my intentions.
How do you think you're gonna have after even the
little bit that you told me about this bitch make
me want to slap my head around. Why would you
ever even offer a conversation over coffee? You know fucking well,
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you know way better than that. Yeah, she declined, and
she told Joys she don't trust you. That is what
it is. Since then, she has texted him messages like
come back home, pictures of her throwing kisses, etc. Now
she knows some petty shit. Okay, he ended up having
to block her. Now she just emails him asking him
to call her for different stupid shit. Can you call
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me to talk about our debt? I would like to
visit our son, who is thirty two, together so we
can show him that we love him and can put
our differences aside, because he is struggling with our divorce.
I know what that's like because I'm thirty two and
both of my parents are divorced as well, and I
struggle with it at first, just for a few months.
She also said our daughter needs new tires. So these
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are the emails that she sent to him. Okay, she
also said, I see you have a new family. You
can't be there for our kids, but I see your
supporting your ladies kids. She usually reaches out to him
around special occasions. He never responds. He doesn't entertain it.
He doesn't feel the need to even put her in
her place. My concern is that my best friend works
with his daughter, so something makes me believe she is
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the messenger and keeps her parents updated on each other. Well,
let's pause right there real quick, because if your best
friend works with the daughter, the information will be coming
from your best friend. Like you got to think about that.
Is your best friend going to work running on my mouth?
Or are you on the phone every day with the
best friend while she at work and shit like that?
Like you know what I'm saying. This is think about it.
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This is your best friend who works with this woman's child,
your husband's child. If she finding out shit that only
your best friend know, your best friend saying shit, You
get what I'm saying. So if you gotta be careful,
what's your best friend or your best friend gotta be
careful being on the phone around you know what I'm saying,
because y'all probably talk at work and all of that,
and she'd be around a girl, you know, So just
keep that tight, keep that whole tight. Oh yeah, I
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mean not keep the whole tight. Sorry, keep that keep
an eye on that shit. She also has manipulated their
grown adult kids to dislike me. H, that's not a surprise.
So the relationship between his biological kids and I hasn't
really progressed. They are good and respectful, but you can
tell that they set a boundary. He also has a
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grandbaby who I absolutely love. I treat her like my grandbaby.
She even slips up and calls me grandma, but always
gets corrected like that is not grandma, as you are not.
So just don't be surprised at anything that this lady did.
I mean, she's very vindictive. Of course, she's spiteful. She's bitter,
you know. So it has caused me to pull back,
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so I don't do as much as I want to
to protect my feelings the accent. I have recently seen
each other at the grand baby's events. She has tried
to greet me, and I have ignored her. I do
not verbally respond. I look straight in her eyes. I
feel really disrespected over the course of time, and I
don't really fuck with fake people, and I need consistent behavior.
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She has told their daughter that she is trying to
be cool and I have been better. Hmm. I have
in con front of her because I don't want my
man to experience issues which I feel she wants. She
wants us to funk so she can be favored over
the situation. I don't know what that means. That's because
you're married to that goddamn fifty four year old man.
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What do you mean she wants us to funk so
she can be favored over the situation. Okay, I think
she wants us to fight, Is that what you're saying?
Or fake the funk? She wants us to fake the
funk so she can be favored over the situation. I
don't know what you mean. The latest thing is, after
six years being divorced, she put the home they bought
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together on the market on his birthday this year. Do
you think these actions mean she's still in love with
him and wants him back. I try to think like
a controlling woman being able to control every single thing
in a marriage and home of kids, to not being
able to control shit. Oh wow, their kids are grown,
he is in a new relationship, and life has moved on.
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In my mind, I don't understand why anyone would keep
pestering someone who is in a relationship. It's ugly and shameful.
What are your thoughts? If you love me, you'll listen
to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Well,
my first thought is you never cut a long story short.
That is not a short story to to even fucking
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begin with, like you, you lied about that, But I understand.
I understand how you feel. First of all, I do
want to apologize because you've been going through a lot.
This baby mama slash ex wife seems like the baby
mama from Hell, the spawn of Satan. And this ain't
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my first time helping somebody with this type of mess.
It's not my first time hearing about crazy baby mom's
ex wives, ex girlfriends you know like this. It may
be your first time dealing with it. Though I am
absolutely sympathetic towards you. I do understand your situation, but
I think your conversations shouldn't be with her, They should
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be with your husband. You clearly let me know that
he don't even defend himself, He don't even try to
put her in her place, and shit like that. Maybe
that's that that would be okay. If he was a
single man, you know what I'm saying, he probably don't
give a fuck. He knew how crazy she was when
he was in the twenty seven year marriage with her.
He knew it well before she cheated. You ain't wanna
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tell me that the gain no nothing, that man was
unaware of how crazy this lady was way before a divorce.
You can see something going downhill before it actually gets
to the bottom of the hill. But he's married, so
he has to have a certain level of concern about
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the well being of his wife, your mental how you feel.
He has to take an account. He's not just living
for him no more. You chose to remarry, sir, so
you have to protect your wife's feelings, whether that's from
your ex wife or from whatever, like from your kids,
who is obviously been I don't want to say brainwashed,
but fed a bunch of bullshit by ther mom. I
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don't know. I think this is something that you and
your husband should talk about. I mean, I know you've
made several attempts of talking to her. You wanted to
meet this lady fuck coffee. She told you know, because
she don't trust you. Then turn around and be talking
shit about you to the family and then the kids,
and that's why things can't move forward and progress with
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your step kids and things like that. And you know,
it sounds like you're dealing with a whole lot and
that's the whole world of bullshit that you have been
putting up with for the sake of your marriage. Have
you ever thought about leaving at some point? Have you
ever thought about I just I'm just asking. I'm not
telling you that's what you should do. I'm not suggesting
that's what you should do. I just want to know
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your thoughts, because a lot of women wouldn't be able
to take that shit. You get what I'm saying. A
lot of women would be like, Yo, get a fucking backbone.
Your ex wife is a clown, like you need to
get that under control some type of fucking way. I
don't know how you can do it. I don't know
if you will do it. Whatever. You may not pay
her no mind, but it bothers me. She bothers me,
She bothers my kids. She makes her kids. Y'all kids
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bother my kids, like by telling them not to not
you know, how the fuck you're gonna reject the baby's
birthday gift. These are kids, so she's obviously just a
bitter ass woman. It's ridiculous, and I actually hope that
she listens to carefully reckless a clown. Well listen, if
she don't, your best friend, your best friend gonna tell
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her daughter at work so her daughter can tell us,
so she'll be able to listen. But yeah, I think
I think this is deeper than just a bitter ax.
They were married for twenty seven years, so they had
property together. Like you said, she put the house that
they owned together when they were married on the market,
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and I'm guessing that was what I was consent you
said on his birthday. Does that mean she's still in
love with him? I mean, I don't know. If I
don't know, if I'll say she's still in love with
him because she cheated on him and he was forced
to leave. But I think she just know her partly.
That seemed like somebody who liked to have power over
a situation. She likes to have things in her control,
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and she probably knows from being in a relationship with
this man, being in a marriage with him for twenty
seven years, he ain't gonna do nothing to her, you
know what I mean? They don't give a fuck. He
ain't defend herself when he was with her. He ain't
gonna defend herself now, you know. So I think she
just do what she wants because she knows she can,
you know what I'm saying, and bitter. Yeah, she's better
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for sure. But I guarantee you it's probably not that
she's in love with this man, because if you can
walk all over somebody, that's not the person for you.
A man has to lead you for you to be
in love, like I feel like you have to be
led at some point. She seems like a dictator. She
wore to pass in a relationship for so long, and
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she knows she can get away with certain shit with
this man. You get what I mean. You get where
I'm going with that. So I don't even think it's
about being in love. It's just about her stressing her
power and flexing like, man, I'm never going to be
in trouble for this, Like you can't stop nothing. That's
probably why she don't pay you no mine. You know,
you don't respond to her. You know, she felt like
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she could be phony at outdoor events, you know, and
then behind closed doors. She's a bitch if she has
very sinister ways. But your problem starts with your man.
You need to talk to your man. Look at the screen,
Look at the screen. This is your man, and you're
gonna stick beside him, you know what I mean. So
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while you sticking beside him, you need to stick it
to him and sit down and be like, yo, shit
needs to change the man. He let her walk all
over him, Get some balls, get a backbone and shit,
and you sit down and talk to him and be like,
if you don't take charge or be the fucking man,
I need you to be. You get what I'm saying.
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Like your family, we have children, Like now we have
a family. You're in a new relationship. Yeah, you blocked
and all that shit. Yeah, but come on, that's high
school shit. If somebody want to get in contact with you,
they can't get in contact with you. Can't block him up.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Fucker.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
No, I think you can. But he hasn't. He hasn't
done that. She can get in touch with him as
the fuck she want. Like believe, she knows where y'all live,
she know where he works, she know where you work.
She you know what I mean. She's never gonna go away,
So I don't know if he need to go through
the courts get a restraining order. I don't know what
the fuck he needs to do, but you you don't
need to be taking the responsibility for none of it,
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because that ain't your problem. That's his problem, you know,
So talk to him. If not, I would give him
an ultimatum, don't nobody wanted. This sounds very miserable for you,
and you have to put you first at some point,
like nah, and then you're raising kids and shit like nah,
that's because they're gonna see that that creates havoc in
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your household, the ship that that y'all going through with her,
and she home chilling, sleeping good at night. Believe me,
trust me, Hold up, Hold up, I know this shit
getting good, But listen to just a couple seconds of
a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Sociopaths they
don't feel shit, they don't care. Believe me, It'll only
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get worse, you know what I'm saying. So I just
want to send you some healing energy, sister, And if
you feel like nobody else does or you're not seen,
I'm letting you know you're not the only one that's
going through this shit. Right now, there's so many other women.
It's men going through this shit, you know, just hanging
there though, but definitely open that line of communication. And
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then therapy could be something as well. And the reason
why I say therapy is because it may be it
may be a reason, like a deeply rooted reason that
goes back to like childhood or something for him why
he does not respond to our negativity like hers, or
the negativity that you get from it, or anything. It
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may be a reason that he does not, you know
what I'm saying, So try to get to the bottom
of that, you know, because it's a lot of unhealed
people who has gone through traumatic experiences in their childhood.
Maybe it wasn't as far as back as childhood. It
could be anything. Maybe he had had an ex girlfriend
before this twenty seven year marriage, and you know, maybe
there was an incident that happened. Anything. You don't know
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unless you ask questions, you know. So therapies, I mean therapists,
I think that's the word. If it's not, I like
the way it's saying off, rolling off my tongue. Therapy
is the situation, should you know what I'm saying. Counsel
the situation. Girl, Listen, this sounds like a whole fucking
lifetime movie. But I understand lifetime movies are made from
true stories, real stories, you know, and this is this
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is very dramatic. So talk to your husband, y'all. Go
talk to somebody professional, figure out what's going on. If
that don't work, that, leave that, leave get your Breadgod
day at leitest like now. But I love you, and
I just want to say I'm sorry for the and girl,
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i'ms already to head this fucking baby, I'm over here
playing around high off pregnancy. I know that's right, but yeah, y'all,
since that story took up like minutes, we're gonna end
this right here. That that was crazy, wasn't it. And
then she gonna say in the beginning, after the first
two paragraphs, I'm gonna just keep a long story short, bitch, way,
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when when it didn't even start off short, you said
that after two paragraphs, I'm telling you, it was like
reading a fucking convincement speech. I'm like, yo, this shit
is wow. But she can spell, and her grandma was
there punctuation marks. Everything was good as long as y'all
write me like that. I honestly, don't care how long
it is. I'm going to complain just because that's just
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my number one thing. But as long as you spell
the words right, take your time, proofread just story. I mean,
she threw me for a loop with the funk. You know.
I ain't know what she meant, you know, by the funk,
but I think she was trying to say fake the
funk or whatever. So the ex wife would be favored
in this situation. But that's a shitty situation. Give me
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feedback on this though, y'all. I want to start doing
feed I'm going to start getting like live feedback from
my listeners whol tunes into Carefully Reckless of each and
every Wednesday. So what I'll be doing, I'll be going
live after the podcast is released on the Carefully Reckless page,
not just hilarious page. I'm gonna be going live from
(19:17):
Carefully Reckless just so y'all can ask me questions, give
me feedback on the stories and all that type of stuff,
and then you never know, maybe the person who the
story is about may pop up in the live to
answer questions. Because I can't answer more than what they
give me. That's why I ask them questions back. Sometimes
they update you with stories and response, sometimes they don't.
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But yeah, I want to start doing a live where
I actually get feedback from the listeners and any suggestions
going forward on how I can perfect my craft and
how you know, my methods of how I give advice
or don't try to give me no motherfucking advice on
(19:59):
how to read because I don't need that, Okay. I'm
just like y'all know right now, like that's not what
we read there. I'm talking about different stories, how to
pick them, all of that things that y'all want to
see more of and all that because some people send
me things that I'd rather not ya. If y'all see
the shit that people send me, sometimes I'd be like, mm,
(20:21):
I'd rather not tell this person's story. This is crazy.
They need a professional. Like if I know I can't
help you, I'm not even gonna just exploit your story
for no reason, like I mean, exposure story just just
so people can hear it. People be going through shit. Man,
It's tough. It's tough out there. I just say that.
So just keep everybody in your prayers, check on your
fucking family members and your friends, and make sure they're
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doing good, and I'm gonna leave y'all with this. Don't
just settle for oh I'm good, Like you know, how
you checking somebody'sbody be like, well, I'm good, how you doing?
That's so generic. That is like even when people doing bed,
they're just they're getting it. We get in the habit
of saying, oh, I'm good and be lying like a bitch. Okay,
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so ask somebody, like like with my boyfriend always asks
me how are you doing? Mentally? What are you thinking about?
Anything you want to talk about that you've been thinking about?
Like he can definitely look at me and tell what
mood I'm in or something just upset me. I don't
care if it's charlamagne or envy at work or anything
my job or touring or one of my agents or
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one of my family members, Like it could be anything
that's bothering me, like even down to pain that I'm
feeling anything, it don't matter. Well, if I'm pondering for
too long, is what's something you want to talk about?
Something or you know, And most of the time, well
sometimes I'm not always ready. But he creates that safe
space for me, that healthy environment where I can come
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and talk to him about anything, even if it's about him.
You get what I'm saying. So just provide healthy environments
for people to come and speak to you and talk
to you and feel safe. Don't expose people. You know
what I'm saying, because we do need each other and
we're better together. So if we stick together, you get
what I'm saying. So I love y'all, And on that note,
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catch me next Wednesday again, I will be going live
after the episode drops for Carefully Reckless each and every
Wednesday where you find your podcast at and am I
all right? Just by? I don't know, y'all. Also give
me suggestions on how to close out because I don't
be having time. That's why I just need to add
this baby. I'm really I'm really irritated.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
So yeah, bye, you see y'all next week.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
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Welcome to Canfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and
the Black Effect. Oh shit me on the air, Welcome
back to you got another carefully Reckless episode with your
girl Jess hilarious. I am alone today because Tailaw is
(00:24):
not going to read with me. I'm actually on maternity
leave a little bit, a little some something something like that.
And I can't say maternity leave because I wouldn't be
doing this maternitally mean you are off period, but I'm
still working or whatever. But I'm just working remotely. So
I'm back at my residents recording my podcast. All, so
let's get into it. These are some long ass stories.
(00:47):
I cannot stress enough that y'all can send voice memos.
I know y'all hate doing it, but I hate reading
this shit right now until I have this baby, my nigga,
I'm not trying to read a Validorian speech like that's
exactly what this is. This is crazy, And y'all know
I've been getting I've been getting good. We're reading stories
(01:07):
for just with the mess on Breakfast Club. Y'all want
to wish to read whole like Bible chapters, like this
is crazy, this is this is all so long and
I know y'all hate the way Taylor read. A couple
of y'all already told me y'all hate the way she read.
I get it, but she was good for the job
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because I didn't have to read when I was up there.
So now y'all gotta deal with me, and I will
cut you out if y'all not using proper grammar, because
don't nobody won't read no fucked up shit shit all right?
My man was married for twenty seven years. Wait a minute,
first sentence is crazy what my man was married for
(01:49):
twenty seven years? But not to you? Basically, Okay, let
me just let me just go. His ex was extremely
controlling and secure and disrespectful. He is very patient and loving.
Family friends have told me countless stories about her. How
she would talk shit to him in front of people.
You ain't shit, you thank you the shit are just
(02:10):
some of the examples of how she used to talk
to him. The marriage ended by her cheating on him
and feeling like she wasn't in love with him anymore,
so he was forced to leave. Just to interject, I mean,
if you're talking to a man like a man like that,
you're walking all over him. I don't doubt that she
was cheating on asas anyway, Okay, back to it. So
he was forced to leave, Okay, and then why the
(02:32):
fuck you forced if a bitch talking to you like
that married twenty seven years or no, I don't give
fuck if y'all was married for twenty seven days. Bitch,
don't play with me because I will not mind shit.
I'm incriminate my damn self. Anyway, Cut a long story short.
They have been divorced since twenty fifteen. We have been
happily together since twenty eighteen, absolutely in love with each
(02:53):
other and are really excuse me, see they go that
fucking heartburn, y'all. I told yall that's why I don't
like to read. Are really healthy together? Okay, so y'all
two are healthy alright, this is after the divorce. We
do have a fifteen year age difference, all right. He
is fifty four, I am thirty nine. He has two
grown adult kids thirty two and twenty eight, and I
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have a seventeen and fifteen year old. He and his
ex also took guardianship of her niece and her nephew
fifteen and fourteen years old, who used to attend school,
with my youngest and have even been in the same class.
In the beginning of our relationship, the two young kids
will come over and hang out with my kids. Since
she found out about us, she's been disrespectful and has
(03:35):
talked shit about me to mutual friends and his family members.
She has instructed her two minor kids to stay away
from my kids anytime they see my kids. When the
little girl had our birthday party, my daughter made cupcakes
and a gift. My best friend took her to drop
it off. She basically told my daughter her gifts were
not welcomed. She told my man we all need to
(03:56):
stay away from her and her kids, and stopped allowing
him to see the kids on the weekends. Damn. She
ended up needing a babysitter and asked him to watch them.
He planned to bring the kids over to my house
and I put a stop to it. I do not
blame you. I called her to demand consistency. Them kids
ain't coming over here, staying one way and one way only.
(04:17):
I have tried to meet with her and talk over coffee,
but she got nobody with a mother fucking coffee. But
she declined and told me she didn't trust my intentions.
How do you think you're gonna have after even the
little bit that you told me about this bitch make
me want to slap my head around. Why would you
ever even offer a conversation over coffee? You know fucking well,
(04:40):
you know way better than that. Yeah, she declined, and
she told Joys she don't trust you. That is what
it is. Since then, she has texted him messages like
come back home, pictures of her throwing kisses, etc. Now
she knows some petty shit. Okay, he ended up having
to block her. Now she just emails him asking him
to call her for different stupid shit. Can you call
(05:02):
me to talk about our debt? I would like to
visit our son, who is thirty two, together so we
can show him that we love him and can put
our differences aside, because he is struggling with our divorce.
I know what that's like because I'm thirty two and
both of my parents are divorced as well, and I
struggle with it at first, just for a few months.
She also said our daughter needs new tires. So these
(05:24):
are the emails that she sent to him. Okay, she
also said, I see you have a new family. You
can't be there for our kids, but I see your
supporting your ladies kids. She usually reaches out to him
around special occasions. He never responds. He doesn't entertain it.
He doesn't feel the need to even put her in
her place. My concern is that my best friend works
with his daughter, so something makes me believe she is
(05:47):
the messenger and keeps her parents updated on each other. Well,
let's pause right there real quick, because if your best
friend works with the daughter, the information will be coming
from your best friend. Like you got to think about that.
Is your best friend going to work running on my mouth?
Or are you on the phone every day with the
best friend while she at work and shit like that?
Like you know what I'm saying. This is think about it.
(06:09):
This is your best friend who works with this woman's child,
your husband's child. If she finding out shit that only
your best friend know, your best friend saying shit, You
get what I'm saying. So if you gotta be careful,
what's your best friend or your best friend gotta be
careful being on the phone around you know what I'm saying,
because y'all probably talk at work and all of that,
and she'd be around a girl, you know, So just
keep that tight, keep that whole tight. Oh yeah, I
(06:31):
mean not keep the whole tight. Sorry, keep that keep
an eye on that shit. She also has manipulated their
grown adult kids to dislike me. H, that's not a surprise.
So the relationship between his biological kids and I hasn't
really progressed. They are good and respectful, but you can
tell that they set a boundary. He also has a
(06:54):
grandbaby who I absolutely love. I treat her like my grandbaby.
She even slips up and calls me grandma, but always
gets corrected like that is not grandma, as you are not.
So just don't be surprised at anything that this lady did.
I mean, she's very vindictive. Of course, she's spiteful. She's bitter,
you know. So it has caused me to pull back,
(07:16):
so I don't do as much as I want to
to protect my feelings the accent. I have recently seen
each other at the grand baby's events. She has tried
to greet me, and I have ignored her. I do
not verbally respond. I look straight in her eyes. I
feel really disrespected over the course of time, and I
don't really fuck with fake people, and I need consistent behavior.
(07:37):
She has told their daughter that she is trying to
be cool and I have been better. Hmm. I have
in con front of her because I don't want my
man to experience issues which I feel she wants. She
wants us to funk so she can be favored over
the situation. I don't know what that means. That's because
you're married to that goddamn fifty four year old man.
(07:59):
What do you mean she wants us to funk so
she can be favored over the situation. Okay, I think
she wants us to fight, Is that what you're saying?
Or fake the funk? She wants us to fake the
funk so she can be favored over the situation. I
don't know what you mean. The latest thing is, after
six years being divorced, she put the home they bought
(08:19):
together on the market on his birthday this year. Do
you think these actions mean she's still in love with
him and wants him back. I try to think like
a controlling woman being able to control every single thing
in a marriage and home of kids, to not being
able to control shit. Oh wow, their kids are grown,
he is in a new relationship, and life has moved on.
(08:40):
In my mind, I don't understand why anyone would keep
pestering someone who is in a relationship. It's ugly and shameful.
What are your thoughts? If you love me, you'll listen
to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Well,
my first thought is you never cut a long story short.
That is not a short story to to even fucking
(09:01):
begin with, like you, you lied about that, But I understand.
I understand how you feel. First of all, I do
want to apologize because you've been going through a lot.
This baby mama slash ex wife seems like the baby
mama from Hell, the spawn of Satan. And this ain't
(09:22):
my first time helping somebody with this type of mess.
It's not my first time hearing about crazy baby mom's
ex wives, ex girlfriends you know like this. It may
be your first time dealing with it. Though I am
absolutely sympathetic towards you. I do understand your situation, but
I think your conversations shouldn't be with her, They should
(09:45):
be with your husband. You clearly let me know that
he don't even defend himself, He don't even try to
put her in her place, and shit like that. Maybe
that's that that would be okay. If he was a
single man, you know what I'm saying, he probably don't
give a fuck. He knew how crazy she was when
he was in the twenty seven year marriage with her.
He knew it well before she cheated. You ain't wanna
(10:07):
tell me that the gain no nothing, that man was
unaware of how crazy this lady was way before a divorce.
You can see something going downhill before it actually gets
to the bottom of the hill. But he's married, so
he has to have a certain level of concern about
(10:29):
the well being of his wife, your mental how you feel.
He has to take an account. He's not just living
for him no more. You chose to remarry, sir, so
you have to protect your wife's feelings, whether that's from
your ex wife or from whatever, like from your kids,
who is obviously been I don't want to say brainwashed,
but fed a bunch of bullshit by ther mom. I
(10:51):
don't know. I think this is something that you and
your husband should talk about. I mean, I know you've
made several attempts of talking to her. You wanted to
meet this lady fuck coffee. She told you know, because
she don't trust you. Then turn around and be talking
shit about you to the family and then the kids,
and that's why things can't move forward and progress with
(11:12):
your step kids and things like that. And you know,
it sounds like you're dealing with a whole lot and
that's the whole world of bullshit that you have been
putting up with for the sake of your marriage. Have
you ever thought about leaving at some point? Have you
ever thought about I just I'm just asking. I'm not
telling you that's what you should do. I'm not suggesting
that's what you should do. I just want to know
(11:33):
your thoughts, because a lot of women wouldn't be able
to take that shit. You get what I'm saying. A
lot of women would be like, Yo, get a fucking backbone.
Your ex wife is a clown, like you need to
get that under control some type of fucking way. I
don't know how you can do it. I don't know
if you will do it. Whatever. You may not pay
her no mind, but it bothers me. She bothers me,
She bothers my kids. She makes her kids. Y'all kids
(11:54):
bother my kids, like by telling them not to not
you know, how the fuck you're gonna reject the baby's
birthday gift. These are kids, so she's obviously just a
bitter ass woman. It's ridiculous, and I actually hope that
she listens to carefully reckless a clown. Well listen, if
she don't, your best friend, your best friend gonna tell
(12:17):
her daughter at work so her daughter can tell us,
so she'll be able to listen. But yeah, I think
I think this is deeper than just a bitter ax.
They were married for twenty seven years, so they had
property together. Like you said, she put the house that
they owned together when they were married on the market,
(12:37):
and I'm guessing that was what I was consent you
said on his birthday. Does that mean she's still in
love with him? I mean, I don't know. If I
don't know, if I'll say she's still in love with
him because she cheated on him and he was forced
to leave. But I think she just know her partly.
That seemed like somebody who liked to have power over
a situation. She likes to have things in her control,
(13:00):
and she probably knows from being in a relationship with
this man, being in a marriage with him for twenty
seven years, he ain't gonna do nothing to her, you
know what I mean? They don't give a fuck. He
ain't defend herself when he was with her. He ain't
gonna defend herself now, you know. So I think she
just do what she wants because she knows she can,
you know what I'm saying, and bitter. Yeah, she's better
(13:22):
for sure. But I guarantee you it's probably not that
she's in love with this man, because if you can
walk all over somebody, that's not the person for you.
A man has to lead you for you to be
in love, like I feel like you have to be
led at some point. She seems like a dictator. She
wore to pass in a relationship for so long, and
(13:43):
she knows she can get away with certain shit with
this man. You get what I mean. You get where
I'm going with that. So I don't even think it's
about being in love. It's just about her stressing her
power and flexing like, man, I'm never going to be
in trouble for this, Like you can't stop nothing. That's
probably why she don't pay you no mine. You know,
you don't respond to her. You know, she felt like
(14:05):
she could be phony at outdoor events, you know, and
then behind closed doors. She's a bitch if she has
very sinister ways. But your problem starts with your man.
You need to talk to your man. Look at the screen,
Look at the screen. This is your man, and you're
gonna stick beside him, you know what I mean. So
(14:25):
while you sticking beside him, you need to stick it
to him and sit down and be like, yo, shit
needs to change the man. He let her walk all
over him, Get some balls, get a backbone and shit,
and you sit down and talk to him and be like,
if you don't take charge or be the fucking man,
I need you to be. You get what I'm saying.
(14:46):
Like your family, we have children, Like now we have
a family. You're in a new relationship. Yeah, you blocked
and all that shit. Yeah, but come on, that's high
school shit. If somebody want to get in contact with you,
they can't get in contact with you. Can't block him up.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Fucker.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
No, I think you can. But he hasn't. He hasn't
done that. She can get in touch with him as
the fuck she want. Like believe, she knows where y'all live,
she know where he works, she know where you work.
She you know what I mean. She's never gonna go away,
So I don't know if he need to go through
the courts get a restraining order. I don't know what
the fuck he needs to do, but you you don't
need to be taking the responsibility for none of it,
(15:20):
because that ain't your problem. That's his problem, you know,
So talk to him. If not, I would give him
an ultimatum, don't nobody wanted. This sounds very miserable for you,
and you have to put you first at some point,
like nah, and then you're raising kids and shit like nah,
that's because they're gonna see that that creates havoc in
(15:42):
your household, the ship that that y'all going through with her,
and she home chilling, sleeping good at night. Believe me,
trust me, Hold up, Hold up, I know this shit
getting good, But listen to just a couple seconds of
a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Sociopaths they
don't feel shit, they don't care. Believe me, It'll only
(16:03):
get worse, you know what I'm saying. So I just
want to send you some healing energy, sister, And if
you feel like nobody else does or you're not seen,
I'm letting you know you're not the only one that's
going through this shit. Right now, there's so many other women.
It's men going through this shit, you know, just hanging
there though, but definitely open that line of communication. And
(16:23):
then therapy could be something as well. And the reason
why I say therapy is because it may be it
may be a reason, like a deeply rooted reason that
goes back to like childhood or something for him why
he does not respond to our negativity like hers, or
the negativity that you get from it, or anything. It
(16:44):
may be a reason that he does not, you know
what I'm saying, So try to get to the bottom
of that, you know, because it's a lot of unhealed
people who has gone through traumatic experiences in their childhood.
Maybe it wasn't as far as back as childhood. It
could be anything. Maybe he had had an ex girlfriend
before this twenty seven year marriage, and you know, maybe
there was an incident that happened. Anything. You don't know
(17:05):
unless you ask questions, you know. So therapies, I mean therapists,
I think that's the word. If it's not, I like
the way it's saying off, rolling off my tongue. Therapy
is the situation, should you know what I'm saying. Counsel
the situation. Girl, Listen, this sounds like a whole fucking
lifetime movie. But I understand lifetime movies are made from
true stories, real stories, you know, and this is this
(17:28):
is very dramatic. So talk to your husband, y'all. Go
talk to somebody professional, figure out what's going on. If
that don't work, that, leave that, leave get your Breadgod
day at leitest like now. But I love you, and
I just want to say I'm sorry for the and girl,
(17:50):
i'ms already to head this fucking baby, I'm over here
playing around high off pregnancy. I know that's right, but yeah, y'all,
since that story took up like minutes, we're gonna end
this right here. That that was crazy, wasn't it. And
then she gonna say in the beginning, after the first
two paragraphs, I'm gonna just keep a long story short, bitch, way,
(18:11):
when when it didn't even start off short, you said
that after two paragraphs, I'm telling you, it was like
reading a fucking convincement speech. I'm like, yo, this shit
is wow. But she can spell, and her grandma was
there punctuation marks. Everything was good as long as y'all
write me like that. I honestly, don't care how long
it is. I'm going to complain just because that's just
(18:33):
my number one thing. But as long as you spell
the words right, take your time, proofread just story. I mean,
she threw me for a loop with the funk. You know.
I ain't know what she meant, you know, by the funk,
but I think she was trying to say fake the
funk or whatever. So the ex wife would be favored
in this situation. But that's a shitty situation. Give me
(18:55):
feedback on this though, y'all. I want to start doing
feed I'm going to start getting like live feedback from
my listeners whol tunes into Carefully Reckless of each and
every Wednesday. So what I'll be doing, I'll be going
live after the podcast is released on the Carefully Reckless page,
not just hilarious page. I'm gonna be going live from
(19:17):
Carefully Reckless just so y'all can ask me questions, give
me feedback on the stories and all that type of stuff,
and then you never know, maybe the person who the
story is about may pop up in the live to
answer questions. Because I can't answer more than what they
give me. That's why I ask them questions back. Sometimes
they update you with stories and response, sometimes they don't.
(19:38):
But yeah, I want to start doing a live where
I actually get feedback from the listeners and any suggestions
going forward on how I can perfect my craft and
how you know, my methods of how I give advice
or don't try to give me no motherfucking advice on
(19:59):
how to read because I don't need that, Okay. I'm
just like y'all know right now, like that's not what
we read there. I'm talking about different stories, how to
pick them, all of that things that y'all want to
see more of and all that because some people send
me things that I'd rather not ya. If y'all see
the shit that people send me, sometimes I'd be like, mm,
(20:21):
I'd rather not tell this person's story. This is crazy.
They need a professional. Like if I know I can't
help you, I'm not even gonna just exploit your story
for no reason, like I mean, exposure story just just
so people can hear it. People be going through shit. Man,
It's tough. It's tough out there. I just say that.
So just keep everybody in your prayers, check on your
fucking family members and your friends, and make sure they're
(20:42):
doing good, and I'm gonna leave y'all with this. Don't
just settle for oh I'm good, Like you know, how
you checking somebody'sbody be like, well, I'm good, how you doing?
That's so generic. That is like even when people doing bed,
they're just they're getting it. We get in the habit
of saying, oh, I'm good and be lying like a bitch. Okay,
(21:04):
so ask somebody, like like with my boyfriend always asks
me how are you doing? Mentally? What are you thinking about?
Anything you want to talk about that you've been thinking about?
Like he can definitely look at me and tell what
mood I'm in or something just upset me. I don't
care if it's charlamagne or envy at work or anything
my job or touring or one of my agents or
(21:26):
one of my family members, Like it could be anything
that's bothering me, like even down to pain that I'm
feeling anything, it don't matter. Well, if I'm pondering for
too long, is what's something you want to talk about?
Something or you know, And most of the time, well
sometimes I'm not always ready. But he creates that safe
space for me, that healthy environment where I can come
(21:50):
and talk to him about anything, even if it's about him.
You get what I'm saying. So just provide healthy environments
for people to come and speak to you and talk
to you and feel safe. Don't expose people. You know
what I'm saying, because we do need each other and
we're better together. So if we stick together, you get
what I'm saying. So I love y'all, And on that note,
(22:12):
catch me next Wednesday again, I will be going live
after the episode drops for Carefully Reckless each and every
Wednesday where you find your podcast at and am I
all right? Just by? I don't know, y'all. Also give
me suggestions on how to close out because I don't
be having time. That's why I just need to add
this baby. I'm really I'm really irritated.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
So yeah, bye, you see y'all next week.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
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