August 13, 2025 • 23 mins
Hey y'all, wussup! In this episode we get an update to a story y'all were really invested in. Jess may have tried to fix this girl's mess, but fate may have done the work for her! Tap in!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Can'tflee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and
the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back with
yet another Cathley Reckless episode with your girl Jess.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hilarious.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
What I'll be doing, I'll be fixed in mess and
I'm here with my girl Taylor again.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Today's y'all say hi to Taylor. Taylor's see how do y'all?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Hey? All right, that's what's up. So you're gonna jump
right and we have an update. Okay, So remember the
woman who had the childhood friend who was her best friend,
and you know, they were on and off for fifteen years.
The guy went to jail when she met a fiance.
You know, she met somebody knew and got engaged to
the guy. And then the guy came home. Her ex
boyfriend came home and the nigga changed his life around
(00:48):
and everything. He was trying to get her back. All right,
So here, oh Amalika is with her. That's a new
guy name Ghost is the other guy.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I said, Canaan.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Yea, we named him Canaan, the ex convict boyfriend. The
ex convict boyfriend name was Canaan. And we named her
new fiance Malica Okay, so this is an update.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
We're just gonna call her Tasha, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
So she said, hey, Jas, So I'm back, and guess what.
My ex was being relentless, stopping at nothing to get
me back.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
But we said he was going to do that.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
He kept coming around to my job and for that
I had to get a restraining onner. Okay, good, so
you got a restrain in order. I ended up telling
my fiance about him, and we've gotten past that. That
took some time, though, because he felt as if I
was planning my exit at one point in our relationship.
For talking to my ex without him knowing, he felt
like I have betrayed him in a sense. But we
(01:48):
are currently working past that now, although we're having other problems.
Oh lord, girl, what the fuck you did? Don't tell
me you don't fuck this nigga Jess. Three weeks ago,
X was killed outside. Oh wow, my ex was killed
outside of his grandmother's house, and it's been taking a
toll on me.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Long story short.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I really wanted to attend the funeral, but my fiance
was against it.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I went anyway.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Oh wow, I went anyway, but I felt I owed
that to him. I even spoke at the funeral, I bitch,
come on, Gail, Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Why the fuck is you an Come on?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
I even spoke at the funeral, and it ended up
being all over social media from his family posting it.
And I'm upset because they never asked if they could
post me and they all know I'm engaged, Like what
the fuck?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
They were trying to be messy? Know what minute?
Speaker 3 (02:45):
How did you know she even spoke at like, yeah,
what family members would be there?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Well, she probably they were together.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Wow, they probably you know, yeah, that was our childhood friend,
so we probably she probably know everybody in the family,
and the family probably was gunning for them to be
together too. When he came home, he probably did speak
to the family like and she may have told her
ax that she was engaged, and he probably went and
told them like, man, this bitch engaged. I'm trying to
get a bat yo shorty engaged though, like you know
(03:15):
what I'm saying. So that's probably one of those things
they were trying to be messy. So there's that, and
I'm in the fucking doghouse. Just help again, No no, no, no, no,
ain't no goddamn just help again. I mean I'm like,
I don't because it's the thing your fiance told you
(03:36):
not to go, right, The thing.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Is too on another stuff. I don't think it's necessarily fair.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
That he told her not to go. Yeah, because at
the end of the day, he's dead.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
They look at it from his point of view, right,
So look, this is the thing. This nigga just died,
you know. But before he died, you come to me
and you tell me, I understand that my ex just
came home from your extras, came home from jail, and
you've been talking to this nigga. You actually want to
go meet with this nigga and shit. And it's like,
you know, yeah, I feel betrayed. I felt like at
one point, like she said, he said to her, at
(04:09):
one point, I feel like you was like you didn't
want this.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
You were planning your exit.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
So was I just a feeler while your ex guys
shit together all that? But and then now the nigga died,
that nigga probably jumping for joy. But now you're talking
about you want to go to a screening room being
around his family.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Shit.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
The nigga coming back to life. No like a Jada
Pinkett where she oh my god.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Yes, yes, oh my god, lust and over a short
lived god.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Yes, like you know, lusting over a person that's not
coming back. Yes, oh my god.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Jada is still infatuated with Tupot.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Yeah. Well even if it doesn't, even.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
If that's not what he worried about, I still feel
like it's betrayal somewhere it is getting it, like she.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Said, they're currently working past it. And I feel like
I feel like he didn't know.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yo, he was uncertain, like, bitch, you ain't telling me
none of the ship before I got down on one
knee and proposed to you. You let me this, you
let me know this ship later and he told a
nigga you was you would wait for him to get it,
to get his life together.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
If I was heard too, though, especially how he meant
he meant to her, though, I probably wouldn't listen to
him either.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
I'm gonna go.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
I'm gonna go, but I'm not gonna go if I
give a speech, I'm not about to speak. And I
wonder what she said in the speech, because she said
the ship ended up all over social media.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Yeah, yeah, also so it probably so what she's saying
when what she means by all over social media is
it probably went locally viral, like all over the place.
If he was a big time drug dealer, niggas know
him probably And it's a small city, you know, Saint
Louis is still a small city, so it's like everybody
knows that, niggas know somebody like this person.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Social is like lg find out just because of social media.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Yeah, yeah, that's that's that's how Yeah, that's that's that's
well she didn't clarify that's the only reason how he
found out, But I think that's how you because somebody could.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Have sent it to him.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
He engaged to this girl, you think, you know, he
told his friends and family and ship and they probably
saw that, send that to him, sent that to him,
Like yo, she like, I mean it depends on what
she said, right, Oh yeah, yeah, because to get.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Her back, that was I think he was doing, was
trying to get her back.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
So and what if one of the messy as sisters
or cousins caught her up there, like and we have
his first love sit right there in the first few
right there.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Come on up here and tell him.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Yeah, because he was beside our house every day, crying
to us, telling us that he was gonna get you back,
so period, and you up there with your fucking engagement
ring on speaking crying over this nigga more than likely
dressed up with the family looking like a without crazy.
Hold up, hold up, I know the ship getting good,
(07:03):
but listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial.
If you love me, you'll listen.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
In the dog house.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
They're getting past the first ship she did, and then
now this nigga hit with a viral video of.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
You fuck yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
But at a certain point, I think they can't get
past it because I said, it's he's he got killed now.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
But.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Even it sounds horrible. Yeah, I think he.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Should look back to the times where he probably had
that was someone.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
Yeah. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
I just feel like in part he should feel like regardless, like.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Because that was still her childhood friend.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Like, but although they did love each other, he was
still in love with her. I'm not going to say
she was in love with him.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
But is show him. I don't know, show him, but like, you.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Know what, I think she had to tell him about
She had to tell her X about him because she
got a restraining no, her from the Yeah, he kept
popping up at the job, so she was doing right,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Like but also like let him know, like, no, you're
my person and everything else.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
That's gonna come with a lot of reassurance.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Because I'm gonna say, show him the first letter you
sent to sent to you.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
But yeah, yeah, maybe switch it up a little bit,
switch it up, but yeah, that's how I feel about it.
And then look, but we gave her this scenario the
last episode. We did say, yo, what if his past
comes back to haunt him? What if what if she
had gotten back with him and she was coming out
of his grandmother's house with him, they just sprayed him
(08:35):
up and her you feel me, So we did give
her that scenario.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
You know, what if that happens.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Although it was, you know, hypothetical, these are the outcomes
unfortunately sometimes when you're dealing with a nigga that was
in the streets, you know, and that was in the
streets for so long, you know.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
So I got Yeah, but in the sense she could
because I wonder if well, no, I guess now, it
kind of gives you really.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
To move on. But she's already trying to.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
She was because she got the restrain in order, she said.
You know, she ended up telling the fiance about him,
and you know, she said, we're working to be stronger
than ever.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
We're getting past that.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
But now she's in the doghouse after him saying this
video of her speaking at the funeral.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I really would love to see.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
So look, if you're listening, send us the video of
you speaking at the funeral, because I want to know
what you say it honey, Obviously it wasn't. It was
a little inappropriate for you to be an engaged woman,
whether your ex is deceased or not.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
And then for you to say.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
You know, the family was trying to be messy. No,
because your part wasn't only the part. Now it would
be a messy thing if her part was the only
part from the that was the only part from the
funeral that went that they burst it like, because I
would the whole for in the rule would be posted,
not just what you said, right, You know, I don't
think that, well, she she know their family more than
(10:08):
we know the family, so maybe she does know that
they were being messy. But you kind of did kind
of sort of bring this on yourself a little bit.
You could have went set with the family, done everything up,
you know, except going up there or if you were
going to speak. Still, keep in mind you are engaged
my friends her emotions. Yeah, yeah, because I know Lang there,
(10:33):
you know, looking at him laying in that casket.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
That could not have been easy for her. I already
know that.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I know that you said all your feelings came back,
or so you thought when he got out of jail,
when he y'all, you know, y'all had that conversation. So
I only can imagine how you felt walking down that
aisle in that church, seeing him laying in that casket.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I know that was very, very hard for you, and
I'm very sorry that you had.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Her.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Man should definitely understanding the type of some type of
sympathy for her, you know, because he's ultimately going to
be the one to help her get out of the front,
you know what I mean, Because I was still her friend.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Because regardless say she didn't even if you know, she's
still going to feel.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
That, she's still going to feel that.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Yeah, yep, yeah, but it will take a lot of
the pressure off of him being upset. But still he's dead,
he's gone. I'm sorry, but it ain't like you could
have to get back with him. You know, it ain't
like she can never get back with him. So you know,
Malika just going to you know, get over that soon,
sooner than later, because this shouldn't be a strain on
(11:38):
their ship. They not even walk, they ain't even down
the out yet, they're not even married yet. But you
know what's good for ship like this to happen before
they actually do tie to not because this could either
solidify them or let them know right there, I ain't
the person for you, or you ain't ready.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
Like he's he's putting more. He might be also putting
more stuff with in his head like well, well I
was just a reap out like all this other ship.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Yeah, she chose you, she chose you, She chose you.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Yeah she did, because a lot that's what a lot
of guys get mixed up to, man like thinking that
they choose no woman like she had to say yes
when you proposed, She had to see us. You know,
you can't he came, melic, I came and swept her
off her feet. However, she still had a choice to
be like I'm not fucking with you, you.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
So yeah, women are by primary Uh, they are primarily
the chooser.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Yo.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
That fucking green Jews got me about to ship my
fucking life. I don't know how you can be doing this.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
I had to pee all the time.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
God, that's good. Damn yeah, I get it, but I
don't care. So we'll be right bick after this.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
The most interesting thing about this episode, right, was the
fact that there was so much any people that like
wrote me and like DMed me, and even emails coming
through off of this woman's story, you know, with you
know her saying that they were giving her bad feedback.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
They were giving her good feedback.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Some people were even sharing their experiences that they went
through a similar situation just like she did.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
And I had this lady.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
I picked one of the stories, and I didn't want
to pick one that where they went too hard on
her because it was honestly, surprisingly, it was a lot
of people that went in on her, and I definitely
was not about to read some of them. I have
no idea, but I'm gonna just pick. I just picked
two of them, but we only got time for one.
This is the thing, all right. So this was somebody
that responded, this person don't want me to fix their mess.
(13:44):
This is just a feedback of you know, what they
thought about her story and everything.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Jess.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I heard the story of the woman who loved her
ex childhood boyfriend and he ended up dying, and her
fiance didn't want him to go, didn't want her to
go to the funeral.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
He was doing too fucking much.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
She needed him the most in that moment, and he
dropped the fucking ball.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
That was corny.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Oh, that was corny for the family to only post
the speech from the funeral. But like you said, that's
her friend, somebody she grew up with. Something like this
happened to me. I had an ex like that who
was in the streets for a long time most of
his fucking life, and he got it together and came
back and now we're married. Okay, congratulations, says I'm pregnant
(14:32):
with my third child, and I've never been more happier.
My husband is paralyzed from being shot multiple times.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
God damn, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Well, my husband is paralyzed from being shot multiple times. Oh,
but it wasn't for him. The shooting was mistaken identity.
They thought he was his brother. His brother was the
violent twin, not him. I'm just writing this to you
to let you know. Not all situations like that end
up like it did for.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Her almost motherfucker barely. The fuck is this nigga sitting
up there?
Speaker 1 (15:05):
He can't even walk now, whether it was for him
or not, goofy, but ass exactly, he still got shot
because he was in that life. He was living that life.
You just said, exactly, So he got it together. Oh,
because there was a mistaken identity. If they both identical,
who the fuck cow the fuck.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Jesus Christ is the brother alive? Where are your pair
of life from? I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
She was like, he is paralyzed, but it wasn't for him,
like she thought. She ate with that one. And you're
gonna heying talking about her fiance, Did you fucking much
because he ain't.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Want her to go to the funeral?
Speaker 1 (15:38):
I do, I do, as dumb as she fucking ended
up sounding. I do agree with her when she said, uh,
she needed him the most in that moment. Uh, and
he dropped the fucking ball. I will say, I do understand. Yeah,
I need you, I need you the most right now. Yes,
(15:58):
I did lose my friend I love. Yes, I lost
my ex boyfriend. But I lost my childhood friend who
I grew up with, you know what I'm saying, And
I didn't. I didn't want to be with him. I
got a restraining order on him. I talked to you
about this. I didn't know he was going to be killed,
you know. But I could have left you and went
back with him. That's what I was contemplating, landing down
next to you every night. I was contemplating that, but
(16:20):
I didn't. I made the better decision, and it just happened. Unfortunately,
he lost his life. Somebody took his life leaving out
of his grandmother's house. That's his past, catching up with him.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
You feel me. So she still needed you in that moment.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
I do understand only and only that part that this
lady who gave the feedback put out there. That's fucking crazy,
because it's weird that she said that we can go
to her. I do need to fix your fucking mess.
If I can't fix your mess, I can't need to
fix your mindset. Some of I had an ex just
like that who was in the streets for a long time,
(16:53):
most of his fucking life, but he got it together,
came back, and now we're married. I wonder if he
did get it together after he I don't think got
paralyzed or what, because the world's gonna put up with
the ship.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
But this doesn't make sense.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
So she said that he.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Was in the streets most of his life, but then
it got mistaken, mistaken identity. So he and his brother
probably yeah, both of them, but but she said that.
But she said his brother was the most violent one.
He wasn't the one violent, but he was still pushing
a weight. You're still a part of it in the streets.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Know that that wasn't a mistaken It was like whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Especially if the nigga's identical because they twins. Also, you
know they ain't want both of them exactly. Also showed
is exactly his brother still live.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
That's what I'm saying. But also clearly his past caught up,
caught up exactly.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
And while I understand you're saying, I'm writing this to
you to let you know that not all situations like
that end up like it did for her, but he
but it came pretty damn close for the same results.
Just like I guess he died like he got killed
well before she wrote back with that update of the
(18:09):
ex dying, we gave her that scenario like, yo, what
if his past comes back to hunt him and you
with him and you lose your life or he loses
his life, or just anything happens like that. And so
I think that's what she's speaking to, this lady here,
speaking to that part, like not all situations like that
end up like he did for you know her, But
(18:29):
either way, I don't want no paralyze their husband.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
If you paralyze, you.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Paralyzed from work, from doing something at your job. I'm
not talking about in the fucking streets. You're not paralyzed
because now, because now that's even crazy.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
You paralyzed looking over your shoulder.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
You can't get away if somebody be like, hey, yo,
what if they try to come back and finish the job.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
You got to pick him up, put them on your
back and rute and run to safety.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
And you're pregnant, so you can't even do that. Goofy ass.
Some people need to just mine their business and kid
they ship today else because I wouldn't even have put
all this shit out there, and one breath, she told
us he was in there, he was in the streets,
He was in the life for most of his life.
But then the next breath he did get shot up
and he paralyzed, but it wasn't for him. It was
a mistake of identity. Who the fuck told y'all that
(19:15):
shot him say my badom, I'm a bed I met
that for other Yeo.
Speaker 4 (19:19):
That wasn't.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
That.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
We was looking for your brother, the fuck bitch. That's
why I said. Some people are just goofy. They don't
realize how fucked up they sound until the ship is
being played on this podcast. And I guarantee you her
ass she gonna come back and say something because she
was actually listening. Her response came from the store, one
of the stories from Jess fix my Mess. So so yeah,
(19:42):
she be like, first of all, like the fuck I see, No,
stay your dumb ass over there unless you come back
providing some information that's going to justify or back up
what you said, because that don't make no damn sense.
We want to know, how do you know that it
was mistaken identity who told jaw that are she.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
Was your butting against what we said?
Speaker 1 (20:06):
No, not really, she was just like how rebuttal was
well for once, she got mad at the girls and
she got mad at Malika. She got mad like because
remember he was upset, he didn't want his ex to
go to the funeral. So she was like, he was
doing too fucking much. She had clown, he dropped the
ball whatever whatever. Not too much on him though, But
I do understand what she's saying, because she did need
her fiance in that moment to help her get through
(20:26):
the loss of a friend rather right, But then she
gave she ain't even have to throw this part in.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
She could have just left it dead.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
But then she gave us the testimony of her fiance,
I mean, yeah, of her husband, like, yeah, he's been.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
In the streets.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
So it was no rebuttal, it was just a bunch
of unnecessary information that we're going to judge her off
her now. You know we're going to judge her off
of that now. So she bought that on herself. But
we need to know who told you that it was
a mistaken identity? Are is the other twins still alive?
Is your brother in law still alive? Are they fraternal
or identical? And did this happend? Did the shooting happen
(21:07):
prior to y'all getting married, prior to him spending the block,
y'all spending the block or did did he get shot
up after y'all were already married with kids or whatever?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I need to know them three questions, jes this. Yes,
it's still.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
It's still a very very heavy example and very true
of a true example of how your your past can
come back to fucking haunt you.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
So be careful, ladies. All right, drugs don't do now.
They not doing drugs. They selling drugs.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Tailors still for the people. Yeah, because without Craig kids,
we wouldn't have any drug dealers. So you're right, don't
do drugs. So these niggas ain't got to get killed
over selling it. All right, we've come to the end
of yet another carefully recors podcast with your Girl Just
Hilarious and your Girl Tailor.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Y'all say by to Tailor. Peace in the.
Speaker 4 (22:05):
Past. Tame Name.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
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Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hilarious.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
What I'll be doing, I'll be fixed in mess and
I'm here with my girl Taylor again.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Today's y'all say hi to Taylor. Taylor's see how do y'all?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Hey? All right, that's what's up. So you're gonna jump
right and we have an update. Okay, So remember the
woman who had the childhood friend who was her best friend,
and you know, they were on and off for fifteen years.
The guy went to jail when she met a fiance.
You know, she met somebody knew and got engaged to
the guy. And then the guy came home. Her ex
boyfriend came home and the nigga changed his life around
(00:48):
and everything. He was trying to get her back. All right,
So here, oh Amalika is with her. That's a new
guy name Ghost is the other guy.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I said, Canaan.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Yea, we named him Canaan, the ex convict boyfriend. The
ex convict boyfriend name was Canaan. And we named her
new fiance Malica Okay, so this is an update.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
We're just gonna call her Tasha, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
So she said, hey, Jas, So I'm back, and guess what.
My ex was being relentless, stopping at nothing to get
me back.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
But we said he was going to do that.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
He kept coming around to my job and for that
I had to get a restraining onner. Okay, good, so
you got a restrain in order. I ended up telling
my fiance about him, and we've gotten past that. That
took some time, though, because he felt as if I
was planning my exit at one point in our relationship.
For talking to my ex without him knowing, he felt
like I have betrayed him in a sense. But we
(01:48):
are currently working past that now, although we're having other problems.
Oh lord, girl, what the fuck you did? Don't tell
me you don't fuck this nigga Jess. Three weeks ago,
X was killed outside. Oh wow, my ex was killed
outside of his grandmother's house, and it's been taking a
toll on me.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Long story short.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I really wanted to attend the funeral, but my fiance
was against it.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I went anyway.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Oh wow, I went anyway, but I felt I owed
that to him. I even spoke at the funeral, I bitch,
come on, Gail, Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Why the fuck is you an Come on?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
I even spoke at the funeral, and it ended up
being all over social media from his family posting it.
And I'm upset because they never asked if they could
post me and they all know I'm engaged, Like what
the fuck?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
They were trying to be messy? Know what minute?
Speaker 3 (02:45):
How did you know she even spoke at like, yeah,
what family members would be there?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Well, she probably they were together.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Wow, they probably you know, yeah, that was our childhood friend,
so we probably she probably know everybody in the family,
and the family probably was gunning for them to be
together too. When he came home, he probably did speak
to the family like and she may have told her
ax that she was engaged, and he probably went and
told them like, man, this bitch engaged. I'm trying to
get a bat yo shorty engaged though, like you know
(03:15):
what I'm saying. So that's probably one of those things
they were trying to be messy. So there's that, and
I'm in the fucking doghouse. Just help again, No no, no, no, no,
ain't no goddamn just help again. I mean I'm like,
I don't because it's the thing your fiance told you
(03:36):
not to go, right, The thing.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Is too on another stuff. I don't think it's necessarily fair.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
That he told her not to go. Yeah, because at
the end of the day, he's dead.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
They look at it from his point of view, right,
So look, this is the thing. This nigga just died,
you know. But before he died, you come to me
and you tell me, I understand that my ex just
came home from your extras, came home from jail, and
you've been talking to this nigga. You actually want to
go meet with this nigga and shit. And it's like,
you know, yeah, I feel betrayed. I felt like at
one point, like she said, he said to her, at
(04:09):
one point, I feel like you was like you didn't
want this.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
You were planning your exit.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
So was I just a feeler while your ex guys
shit together all that? But and then now the nigga died,
that nigga probably jumping for joy. But now you're talking
about you want to go to a screening room being
around his family.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Shit.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
The nigga coming back to life. No like a Jada
Pinkett where she oh my god.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Yes, yes, oh my god, lust and over a short
lived god.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Yes, like you know, lusting over a person that's not
coming back. Yes, oh my god.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Jada is still infatuated with Tupot.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Yeah. Well even if it doesn't, even.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
If that's not what he worried about, I still feel
like it's betrayal somewhere it is getting it, like she.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Said, they're currently working past it. And I feel like
I feel like he didn't know.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yo, he was uncertain, like, bitch, you ain't telling me
none of the ship before I got down on one
knee and proposed to you. You let me this, you
let me know this ship later and he told a
nigga you was you would wait for him to get it,
to get his life together.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
If I was heard too, though, especially how he meant
he meant to her, though, I probably wouldn't listen to
him either.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
I'm gonna go.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
I'm gonna go, but I'm not gonna go if I
give a speech, I'm not about to speak. And I
wonder what she said in the speech, because she said
the ship ended up all over social media.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Yeah, yeah, also so it probably so what she's saying
when what she means by all over social media is
it probably went locally viral, like all over the place.
If he was a big time drug dealer, niggas know
him probably And it's a small city, you know, Saint
Louis is still a small city, so it's like everybody
knows that, niggas know somebody like this person.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Social is like lg find out just because of social media.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Yeah, yeah, that's that's that's how Yeah, that's that's that's
well she didn't clarify that's the only reason how he
found out, But I think that's how you because somebody could.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Have sent it to him.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
He engaged to this girl, you think, you know, he
told his friends and family and ship and they probably
saw that, send that to him, sent that to him,
Like yo, she like, I mean it depends on what
she said, right, Oh yeah, yeah, because to get.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Her back, that was I think he was doing, was
trying to get her back.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
So and what if one of the messy as sisters
or cousins caught her up there, like and we have
his first love sit right there in the first few
right there.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Come on up here and tell him.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Yeah, because he was beside our house every day, crying
to us, telling us that he was gonna get you back,
so period, and you up there with your fucking engagement
ring on speaking crying over this nigga more than likely
dressed up with the family looking like a without crazy.
Hold up, hold up, I know the ship getting good,
(07:03):
but listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial.
If you love me, you'll listen.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
In the dog house.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
They're getting past the first ship she did, and then
now this nigga hit with a viral video of.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
You fuck yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
But at a certain point, I think they can't get
past it because I said, it's he's he got killed now.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
But.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Even it sounds horrible. Yeah, I think he.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Should look back to the times where he probably had
that was someone.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
Yeah. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
I just feel like in part he should feel like regardless, like.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Because that was still her childhood friend.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Like, but although they did love each other, he was
still in love with her. I'm not going to say
she was in love with him.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
But is show him. I don't know, show him, but like, you.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Know what, I think she had to tell him about
She had to tell her X about him because she
got a restraining no, her from the Yeah, he kept
popping up at the job, so she was doing right,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Like but also like let him know, like, no, you're
my person and everything else.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
That's gonna come with a lot of reassurance.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Because I'm gonna say, show him the first letter you
sent to sent to you.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
But yeah, yeah, maybe switch it up a little bit,
switch it up, but yeah, that's how I feel about it.
And then look, but we gave her this scenario the
last episode. We did say, yo, what if his past
comes back to haunt him? What if what if she
had gotten back with him and she was coming out
of his grandmother's house with him, they just sprayed him
(08:35):
up and her you feel me, So we did give
her that scenario.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
You know, what if that happens.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Although it was, you know, hypothetical, these are the outcomes
unfortunately sometimes when you're dealing with a nigga that was
in the streets, you know, and that was in the
streets for so long, you know.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
So I got Yeah, but in the sense she could
because I wonder if well, no, I guess now, it
kind of gives you really.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
To move on. But she's already trying to.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
She was because she got the restrain in order, she said.
You know, she ended up telling the fiance about him,
and you know, she said, we're working to be stronger
than ever.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
We're getting past that.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
But now she's in the doghouse after him saying this
video of her speaking at the funeral.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I really would love to see.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
So look, if you're listening, send us the video of
you speaking at the funeral, because I want to know
what you say it honey, Obviously it wasn't. It was
a little inappropriate for you to be an engaged woman,
whether your ex is deceased or not.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
And then for you to say.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
You know, the family was trying to be messy. No,
because your part wasn't only the part. Now it would
be a messy thing if her part was the only
part from the that was the only part from the
funeral that went that they burst it like, because I
would the whole for in the rule would be posted,
not just what you said, right, You know, I don't
think that, well, she she know their family more than
(10:08):
we know the family, so maybe she does know that
they were being messy. But you kind of did kind
of sort of bring this on yourself a little bit.
You could have went set with the family, done everything up,
you know, except going up there or if you were
going to speak. Still, keep in mind you are engaged
my friends her emotions. Yeah, yeah, because I know Lang there,
(10:33):
you know, looking at him laying in that casket.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
That could not have been easy for her. I already
know that.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I know that you said all your feelings came back,
or so you thought when he got out of jail,
when he y'all, you know, y'all had that conversation. So
I only can imagine how you felt walking down that
aisle in that church, seeing him laying in that casket.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I know that was very, very hard for you, and
I'm very sorry that you had.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Her.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Man should definitely understanding the type of some type of
sympathy for her, you know, because he's ultimately going to
be the one to help her get out of the front,
you know what I mean, Because I was still her friend.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
Because regardless say she didn't even if you know, she's
still going to feel.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
That, she's still going to feel that.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Yeah, yep, yeah, but it will take a lot of
the pressure off of him being upset. But still he's dead,
he's gone. I'm sorry, but it ain't like you could
have to get back with him. You know, it ain't
like she can never get back with him. So you know,
Malika just going to you know, get over that soon,
sooner than later, because this shouldn't be a strain on
(11:38):
their ship. They not even walk, they ain't even down
the out yet, they're not even married yet. But you
know what's good for ship like this to happen before
they actually do tie to not because this could either
solidify them or let them know right there, I ain't
the person for you, or you ain't ready.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
Like he's he's putting more. He might be also putting
more stuff with in his head like well, well I
was just a reap out like all this other ship.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Yeah, she chose you, she chose you, She chose you.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Yeah she did, because a lot that's what a lot
of guys get mixed up to, man like thinking that
they choose no woman like she had to say yes
when you proposed, She had to see us. You know,
you can't he came, melic, I came and swept her
off her feet. However, she still had a choice to
be like I'm not fucking with you, you.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
So yeah, women are by primary Uh, they are primarily
the chooser.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Yo.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
That fucking green Jews got me about to ship my
fucking life. I don't know how you can be doing this.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
I had to pee all the time.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
God, that's good. Damn yeah, I get it, but I
don't care. So we'll be right bick after this.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
The most interesting thing about this episode, right, was the
fact that there was so much any people that like
wrote me and like DMed me, and even emails coming
through off of this woman's story, you know, with you
know her saying that they were giving her bad feedback.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
They were giving her good feedback.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Some people were even sharing their experiences that they went
through a similar situation just like she did.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
And I had this lady.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
I picked one of the stories, and I didn't want
to pick one that where they went too hard on
her because it was honestly, surprisingly, it was a lot
of people that went in on her, and I definitely
was not about to read some of them. I have
no idea, but I'm gonna just pick. I just picked
two of them, but we only got time for one.
This is the thing, all right. So this was somebody
that responded, this person don't want me to fix their mess.
(13:44):
This is just a feedback of you know, what they
thought about her story and everything.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Jess.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I heard the story of the woman who loved her
ex childhood boyfriend and he ended up dying, and her
fiance didn't want him to go, didn't want her to
go to the funeral.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
He was doing too fucking much.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
She needed him the most in that moment, and he
dropped the fucking ball.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
That was corny.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Oh, that was corny for the family to only post
the speech from the funeral. But like you said, that's
her friend, somebody she grew up with. Something like this
happened to me. I had an ex like that who
was in the streets for a long time most of
his fucking life, and he got it together and came
back and now we're married. Okay, congratulations, says I'm pregnant
(14:32):
with my third child, and I've never been more happier.
My husband is paralyzed from being shot multiple times.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
God damn, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Well, my husband is paralyzed from being shot multiple times. Oh,
but it wasn't for him. The shooting was mistaken identity.
They thought he was his brother. His brother was the
violent twin, not him. I'm just writing this to you
to let you know. Not all situations like that end
up like it did for.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Her almost motherfucker barely. The fuck is this nigga sitting
up there?
Speaker 1 (15:05):
He can't even walk now, whether it was for him
or not, goofy, but ass exactly, he still got shot
because he was in that life. He was living that life.
You just said, exactly, So he got it together. Oh,
because there was a mistaken identity. If they both identical,
who the fuck cow the fuck.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Jesus Christ is the brother alive? Where are your pair
of life from? I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
She was like, he is paralyzed, but it wasn't for him,
like she thought. She ate with that one. And you're
gonna heying talking about her fiance, Did you fucking much
because he ain't.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Want her to go to the funeral?
Speaker 1 (15:38):
I do, I do, as dumb as she fucking ended
up sounding. I do agree with her when she said, uh,
she needed him the most in that moment. Uh, and
he dropped the fucking ball. I will say, I do understand. Yeah,
I need you, I need you the most right now. Yes,
(15:58):
I did lose my friend I love. Yes, I lost
my ex boyfriend. But I lost my childhood friend who
I grew up with, you know what I'm saying, And
I didn't. I didn't want to be with him. I
got a restraining order on him. I talked to you
about this. I didn't know he was going to be killed,
you know. But I could have left you and went
back with him. That's what I was contemplating, landing down
next to you every night. I was contemplating that, but
(16:20):
I didn't. I made the better decision, and it just happened. Unfortunately,
he lost his life. Somebody took his life leaving out
of his grandmother's house. That's his past, catching up with him.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
You feel me. So she still needed you in that moment.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
I do understand only and only that part that this
lady who gave the feedback put out there. That's fucking crazy,
because it's weird that she said that we can go
to her. I do need to fix your fucking mess.
If I can't fix your mess, I can't need to
fix your mindset. Some of I had an ex just
like that who was in the streets for a long time,
(16:53):
most of his fucking life, but he got it together,
came back, and now we're married. I wonder if he
did get it together after he I don't think got
paralyzed or what, because the world's gonna put up with
the ship.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
But this doesn't make sense.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
So she said that he.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Was in the streets most of his life, but then
it got mistaken, mistaken identity. So he and his brother
probably yeah, both of them, but but she said that.
But she said his brother was the most violent one.
He wasn't the one violent, but he was still pushing
a weight. You're still a part of it in the streets.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Know that that wasn't a mistaken It was like whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Especially if the nigga's identical because they twins. Also, you
know they ain't want both of them exactly. Also showed
is exactly his brother still live.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
That's what I'm saying. But also clearly his past caught up,
caught up exactly.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
And while I understand you're saying, I'm writing this to
you to let you know that not all situations like
that end up like it did for her, but he
but it came pretty damn close for the same results.
Just like I guess he died like he got killed
well before she wrote back with that update of the
(18:09):
ex dying, we gave her that scenario like, yo, what
if his past comes back to hunt him and you
with him and you lose your life or he loses
his life, or just anything happens like that. And so
I think that's what she's speaking to, this lady here,
speaking to that part, like not all situations like that
end up like he did for you know her, But
(18:29):
either way, I don't want no paralyze their husband.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
If you paralyze, you.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Paralyzed from work, from doing something at your job. I'm
not talking about in the fucking streets. You're not paralyzed
because now, because now that's even crazy.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
You paralyzed looking over your shoulder.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
You can't get away if somebody be like, hey, yo,
what if they try to come back and finish the job.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
You got to pick him up, put them on your
back and rute and run to safety.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
And you're pregnant, so you can't even do that. Goofy ass.
Some people need to just mine their business and kid
they ship today else because I wouldn't even have put
all this shit out there, and one breath, she told
us he was in there, he was in the streets,
He was in the life for most of his life.
But then the next breath he did get shot up
and he paralyzed, but it wasn't for him. It was
a mistake of identity. Who the fuck told y'all that
(19:15):
shot him say my badom, I'm a bed I met
that for other Yeo.
Speaker 4 (19:19):
That wasn't.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
That.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
We was looking for your brother, the fuck bitch. That's
why I said. Some people are just goofy. They don't
realize how fucked up they sound until the ship is
being played on this podcast. And I guarantee you her
ass she gonna come back and say something because she
was actually listening. Her response came from the store, one
of the stories from Jess fix my Mess. So so yeah,
(19:42):
she be like, first of all, like the fuck I see, No,
stay your dumb ass over there unless you come back
providing some information that's going to justify or back up
what you said, because that don't make no damn sense.
We want to know, how do you know that it
was mistaken identity who told jaw that are she.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
Was your butting against what we said?
Speaker 1 (20:06):
No, not really, she was just like how rebuttal was
well for once, she got mad at the girls and
she got mad at Malika. She got mad like because
remember he was upset, he didn't want his ex to
go to the funeral. So she was like, he was
doing too fucking much. She had clown, he dropped the
ball whatever whatever. Not too much on him though, But
I do understand what she's saying, because she did need
her fiance in that moment to help her get through
(20:26):
the loss of a friend rather right, But then she
gave she ain't even have to throw this part in.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
She could have just left it dead.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
But then she gave us the testimony of her fiance,
I mean, yeah, of her husband, like, yeah, he's been.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
In the streets.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
So it was no rebuttal, it was just a bunch
of unnecessary information that we're going to judge her off
her now. You know we're going to judge her off
of that now. So she bought that on herself. But
we need to know who told you that it was
a mistaken identity? Are is the other twins still alive?
Is your brother in law still alive? Are they fraternal
or identical? And did this happend? Did the shooting happen
(21:07):
prior to y'all getting married, prior to him spending the block,
y'all spending the block or did did he get shot
up after y'all were already married with kids or whatever?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I need to know them three questions, jes this. Yes,
it's still.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
It's still a very very heavy example and very true
of a true example of how your your past can
come back to fucking haunt you.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
So be careful, ladies. All right, drugs don't do now.
They not doing drugs. They selling drugs.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Tailors still for the people. Yeah, because without Craig kids,
we wouldn't have any drug dealers. So you're right, don't
do drugs. So these niggas ain't got to get killed
over selling it. All right, we've come to the end
of yet another carefully recors podcast with your Girl Just
Hilarious and your Girl Tailor.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Y'all say by to Tailor. Peace in the.
Speaker 4 (22:05):
Past. Tame Name.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
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