July 3, 2024 • 15 mins
Our anonymous guest shares her story of an office romance which means she wants to be anonymous. In this first part our guest describes all the highs and lows of her 6 year relationship. All this leads to the shocking cliffhanger at the end of part one for this episode.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time went by and this turned into six years. What
there's a lot of time. Welcome to cheaters and backstabbers.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
I'm shot Eass, New York City stand up comedian, and
I'm from the Bronx.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
And I'm Kate Robarts and I'm from Texas Louisiana border,
but i live in New York City, where I'm also
a comedian.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
That's how I met this one.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
We are stand up comedians looking to share the most
outrageous and shocking cheating stories. We're here to sability, laugh, cry,
but also show support and hopefully.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Learn enough along the way so that none of us
make these same mistakes. I want to know all the
red flags and how to see them. Yeah, make sure
someone can help us see all the signs. Like you said,
all the red flags, maybe someone can relate. We love
(00:56):
sharing stories of crazy things that have happen to people
because it's happened to everybody.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Yes, so every week you.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Should tune in and listen in to all the hot
tea that we're gonna have. We're gonna have anonymous folks
coming in telling us are their stories about infidelity, and
sometimes it'll be funny.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Our first story is full of office intrigue. You know, they say,
don't where you eat. Yes, that's right, and they were
just eating a lot in this person's life.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So let's get into it. Hi, how are you.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Thank you so much for coming on, cheeters and backstabbers.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I'm a little bit nervous.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
No, don't be, because we are too for you.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Oh, thank you well, I thank you for having me on.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
And the reason that I decided to.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Tell my story right now, even though it happened a
while ago, is because I feel that I wish someone
had told me what some of the signs were to
look for in a relationship when you think you're happy
and everything is going perfect. My relationship started very innocently. Actually,
(02:15):
I had graduated from graduate school and I got a
great job in this big corporate firm. And there it
was a very white firm. About four hundred lawyers work there,
and it was very isolating.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
So when I.
Speaker 5 (02:35):
Saw okay, just since since our listeners and yours can't
see you, and it was a very white firm, I
just want to, you know, speaking about my people.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
So what how do you identify?
Speaker 4 (02:51):
I do want to identify identify as a second generation Latina.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Who was raised and grew up in this country, So.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
I wanted to share my story because I felt that
when I went through my experience with cheating in my relationship,
I wish that I had heard stories of other people
so that I knew what signs to look for, so
that I knew how to prepare myself and how not
to expose my heart and my life to the experiences
(03:25):
that I went through. And that's why I felt like
I wanted to share with other people, not just women,
but men as well who had experiences like this and
wanted to know what to do. So my story is
really simple. It started with an office romance. The office
romance was not illegal. I was not his supervisor. I
(03:48):
was not in any way controlling his paycheck or his
reviews or any of that. We were colleagues, we were equal,
so we were not violating any kind of law.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
I want to start by saying that. And secondly, I
want to.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Say that I worked in a very corporate, I have
to say, very white, Anglow environment, and as a second
generation Latina, I found myself isolated. So when I saw
this tall, dark, oh Choka chocolate walking down the hallway.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I was like, what do we have over there?
Speaker 4 (04:26):
So yeah, I don't feel that girls, you know already, Yes,
oh my goodness, tall six ' three.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
I thought it was a basketball player, and I thought
it was a client.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
I was like, that must be a client, because that
cannot be a you know, and a turney up in here.
So yes, it was, except that even though I was
younger by a year or two, I was still a
little more senior.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I'd been there a couple of years.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
So I knew that it probably wasn't a good idea
to let him.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Know exactly how good looking I thought he was.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
So I kind of stayed away, but I noticed the glances,
and you know, I kind of made sure that my hey,
it was dead the next day, and I knew I
had my skirt was a bit shorter, and all those
good things. But it was fun. We got to know
each other, and he was such a gentleman. This is
(05:23):
the kind of person that when you first meet them,
you go, wow, what a nice person.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I could be so nice.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
It was just smart, handsome, tall, generous, chivalry. I mean,
everything was there right, good, too good to be true,
one of those, but it was true.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
It really was.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
I really believed that at first, you know, I was skeptical,
and I was taught by my mother, you know, be
careful what you see.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You got to know. And I let some time go by.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
And I also knew we worked together, so that was
not a good idea to get together with someone you
work with. So I let some time go by, and
we went to a couple of lunches, and every time
we went to lunch, I wanted it to turn into dinner.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
What did you eat? I don't remember, That's not what
she wanted to eat.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
And we went to the movies one day, and then
I oh, I grew up in New York, so I
wanted the kind of date that would take me to bbq's.
I wanted to eat the ribs and I was like,
if I could eat a rib in front of a man,
you know, he's the one. I did not order the
salad girl. I did not, and he was cool, uncomfortable. Yeah,
(06:37):
I ordered the jumble soda.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
I got money.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
He had perfect gentleman is code for cheater.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
He was so cool in the fact that we started
spending a lot of time together. And when we started
spending this much time together, I sort of assumed a
lot of things, and I started assuming that we were
exclusive because we were spending the week together, and out
of seven days, he would spend like.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Four nights in my house.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Yeah, but there's plenty of trouble to get into on
those other three nights.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
So a lot of time, but there's a lot of
time right to the point that he started bringing in
my apartment. He started bringing some suits and we would
go to work together and he.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Would enter one door and I would enter the other door.
So it sounds like you must have had a really
nice apartment.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Though she's a lawyer, she's a little bit better off
than me, like a little bit more senior, even though
she's a little younger.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
I'm like, I get it.
Speaker 5 (07:36):
It was a.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
Season environment and started bringing up the apartment situation. He
lived about twenty minutes away in another part of the
same borough, and so I would call him in the evening, Ky,
what you do, and he was like nothing, and he
would just come over his bike and then we would
spend time together. So to me, this was someone that
was available, had no restraints, had absolutely no reason not
(07:59):
to over whenever I called, and so we would spend
that kind of time together. So again time went by,
months went by, we had a great relationship we had.
We were at this place in our careers where we
were growing in different directions.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
So he was growing in the firm.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
I was trying to expand my horizons and eventually left
the firm, but we continued in the relationship.
Speaker 6 (08:26):
And you would not believe what our guest says.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Next and time went by, and this turned into six years.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
What there's a lot of time. Six years. Were you
guys saying you loved each other? Yes, we were saying
we loved each other.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
It took a while, though, because we both were shy
about saying it, but we did say it, except that
we were saying it, but we weren't showing it.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And I'll give you an example of that.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
And while she's talking, I'm thinking, what possible example can
you give me? Something is not right? And here it comes.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I never met his family in the six years. Six years.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That's a long effan time to not meet the family.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
You would never stand for it. Never He lived.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
With his grandmother, and he lived in a brownstone with
a lot of family, and so there was a lot
of family there, and so there was really no reason.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Whereas I had my place, it was.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
Easier for me to stay where I am have him
visit me instead of me visiting him with this whole
family situation going on, So no, I was never really invited,
and it did hurt my feelings that I didn't meet
his people.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
But what could possibly be her reason not to meet
the family? That's what my mother will call a sagnana.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Although let me just say that for me, if I'm like,
I don't have to meet your family, part of me
might be relieved. It's a lot of effort to be
like putting your best foot forward, just playing Devil's at.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
A kid, I could understand that.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
But I think personally, coming from a Latino household and
we are super family oriented, like we know everybody. We
call our neighbors, cousins and bias and aunts, uncles all that,
so it would be hard for me not to make
the family because it's like, why are you hiding me?
Or what are you hiding again?
Speaker 4 (10:25):
I think it worked for me because I was being
superwoman in New York City, trying to live the life
and trying to build something. And I think when you
watch Sex and the City and when you watch all
those independent women shows, you know that New York is
a place where you have to.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Put in the time no matter what career.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
I'm sure you guys know a standard comedians that you
have to be out at night, you have to be
out in the day, you have to hustle, you have
to network, and so that's what I was doing. So
it worked for me to not have the kind of
partner that was putting demands on my time.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Yeah, and I.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
Say, and I say, I have to say that I'm
seeing this in hindsight, because when you're going.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Through the moment, you just living your life. You're young,
you're you're living in a fast paced city.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
And you are not really tracking time. Right, You're doing
what you got to do. He's doing what he's got
to do. You're meeting together. And so in my mind,
I think I made a lot of assumptions and I
was fine. I was exclusively dating him, and so I
thought that eventually we would take it to the next level.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
We might even get married. And we didn't.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
Talk about getting married, but we sure were being exclusive.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
And so that is why.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
And folks, what comes next should come as no shock
at all.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Dundune done. After all that.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Time, I was shocked to learn that there was someone
in the picture until my aunt came to visit me.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
From Puerto Rico.
Speaker 4 (12:05):
Wasn't And she said, what's your boyfriend? And I said, oh,
he sent his grandmother's house. He's gonna come over soon
and say hello to you. And she said, have you
ever taken a little car and driven past his grandmother's house?
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Have you ever done that?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Well, we should all listen to our tt especially when
she's older or maybe even your same age.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
She knows it all.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
And I was horrified that my teity was asking me that,
because I was like.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Why should I do that? Why should I.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
Not trust this man that I've given him no reason
not to trust me.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
I haven't seen anything. She goes, I'd recommend you take
a little car and drag over. I'll go with you.
You know, I was saying, you trying to start some shit.
You just came from Puerto Rico. You trying to stir
some stuff. And she was like, m mm hmm. You
keep just keep doing what you're doing.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
And so here's my elder tea trying to give me
some school me and I didn't believe her.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
I was like, oh my gosh, she's so old school.
Speaker 4 (13:05):
She's trying to start some mess, and I can't believe
she's telling me to go drive past his house, which
I thought was so ghetto.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
That's how I saw it because that's where I grew up,
and that's what the women I grew up with did.
They went and checked on that. They checked out every statement.
Speaker 4 (13:20):
And here I was miseducated going out with a guy,
and I'd forgotten, like the poor lessons.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
That I learned from my mother and my aunts.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
They were like, don't you be trusting no man, they'd
be doing all kinds of things.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
And I'm going, but that's not true.
Speaker 4 (13:35):
You know, we're both grown and we want to be
in this because we want to.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
So I have to give you a little preview. My
aunt was right, I.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
Should have gotten in that car and driven past that
house and found out what was actually happening.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
Yeah, so how did you actually find out the revealed in.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
The car with her?
Speaker 5 (13:56):
No.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
I found out through a professional organization where I hired
two young interns to.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Go with me to it. US. It was us. We
were in Washington, d C. And a big gala luncheon.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
And I bought a table and so there was this
table of ten people. He was there, My two young interns,
and then many other professional people who knew me and
knew us from the industry, and the young intern, I said,
you know, this is an opportunity for you to network
meet as many people as you can, because you may
find jobs.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
In this industry if you're interested in doing this. So
let me introduce you to everyone at the table.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
And I introduced everyone, and then when I got to him,
I said, and this is so and so, and the
young intern looks at me and says, I know him.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
And I said, well, how do you know him?
Speaker 4 (14:48):
And she says, well, my mother is friends with his girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
So at that moment, everything stopped.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
It was a cinematic moment, I have to tell you,
because everything froze and my heart felt to the bottom
of my stomach and I had to stop because I
was very corporate at the time.
Speaker 6 (15:11):
So we have all been here, the heartbreak moment where
time stops and everything hangs in the balance. But here's
where the similarity stops, because what happens next is all
about the choices you make. And our guest makes a
move you would not believe, and.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
That's our cue to say, stay tuned for part two
of our episode, where you will hear what shocking reveal
happens next.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
Thank you for listening.
Time went by and this turned into six years. What
there's a lot of time. Welcome to cheaters and backstabbers.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
I'm shot Eass, New York City stand up comedian, and
I'm from the Bronx.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
And I'm Kate Robarts and I'm from Texas Louisiana border,
but i live in New York City, where I'm also
a comedian.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
That's how I met this one.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
We are stand up comedians looking to share the most
outrageous and shocking cheating stories. We're here to sability, laugh, cry,
but also show support and hopefully.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Learn enough along the way so that none of us
make these same mistakes. I want to know all the
red flags and how to see them. Yeah, make sure
someone can help us see all the signs. Like you said,
all the red flags, maybe someone can relate. We love
(00:56):
sharing stories of crazy things that have happen to people
because it's happened to everybody.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Yes, so every week you.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Should tune in and listen in to all the hot
tea that we're gonna have. We're gonna have anonymous folks
coming in telling us are their stories about infidelity, and
sometimes it'll be funny.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Our first story is full of office intrigue. You know, they say,
don't where you eat. Yes, that's right, and they were
just eating a lot in this person's life.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So let's get into it. Hi, how are you.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Thank you so much for coming on, cheeters and backstabbers.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I'm a little bit nervous.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
No, don't be, because we are too for you.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Oh, thank you well, I thank you for having me on.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
And the reason that I decided to.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Tell my story right now, even though it happened a
while ago, is because I feel that I wish someone
had told me what some of the signs were to
look for in a relationship when you think you're happy
and everything is going perfect. My relationship started very innocently. Actually,
(02:15):
I had graduated from graduate school and I got a
great job in this big corporate firm. And there it
was a very white firm. About four hundred lawyers work there,
and it was very isolating.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
So when I.
Speaker 5 (02:35):
Saw okay, just since since our listeners and yours can't
see you, and it was a very white firm, I
just want to, you know, speaking about my people.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
So what how do you identify?
Speaker 4 (02:51):
I do want to identify identify as a second generation Latina.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Who was raised and grew up in this country, So.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
I wanted to share my story because I felt that
when I went through my experience with cheating in my relationship,
I wish that I had heard stories of other people
so that I knew what signs to look for, so
that I knew how to prepare myself and how not
to expose my heart and my life to the experiences
(03:25):
that I went through. And that's why I felt like
I wanted to share with other people, not just women,
but men as well who had experiences like this and
wanted to know what to do. So my story is
really simple. It started with an office romance. The office
romance was not illegal. I was not his supervisor. I
(03:48):
was not in any way controlling his paycheck or his
reviews or any of that. We were colleagues, we were equal,
so we were not violating any kind of law.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
I want to start by saying that. And secondly, I
want to.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Say that I worked in a very corporate, I have
to say, very white, Anglow environment, and as a second
generation Latina, I found myself isolated. So when I saw
this tall, dark, oh Choka chocolate walking down the hallway.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I was like, what do we have over there?
Speaker 4 (04:26):
So yeah, I don't feel that girls, you know already, Yes,
oh my goodness, tall six ' three.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
I thought it was a basketball player, and I thought
it was a client.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
I was like, that must be a client, because that
cannot be a you know, and a turney up in here.
So yes, it was, except that even though I was
younger by a year or two, I was still a
little more senior.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I'd been there a couple of years.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
So I knew that it probably wasn't a good idea
to let him.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Know exactly how good looking I thought he was.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
So I kind of stayed away, but I noticed the glances,
and you know, I kind of made sure that my hey,
it was dead the next day, and I knew I
had my skirt was a bit shorter, and all those
good things. But it was fun. We got to know
each other, and he was such a gentleman. This is
(05:23):
the kind of person that when you first meet them,
you go, wow, what a nice person.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I could be so nice.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
It was just smart, handsome, tall, generous, chivalry. I mean,
everything was there right, good, too good to be true,
one of those, but it was true.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
It really was.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
I really believed that at first, you know, I was skeptical,
and I was taught by my mother, you know, be
careful what you see.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You got to know. And I let some time go by.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
And I also knew we worked together, so that was
not a good idea to get together with someone you
work with. So I let some time go by, and
we went to a couple of lunches, and every time
we went to lunch, I wanted it to turn into dinner.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
What did you eat? I don't remember, That's not what
she wanted to eat.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
And we went to the movies one day, and then
I oh, I grew up in New York, so I
wanted the kind of date that would take me to bbq's.
I wanted to eat the ribs and I was like,
if I could eat a rib in front of a man,
you know, he's the one. I did not order the
salad girl. I did not, and he was cool, uncomfortable. Yeah,
(06:37):
I ordered the jumble soda.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
I got money.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
He had perfect gentleman is code for cheater.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
He was so cool in the fact that we started
spending a lot of time together. And when we started
spending this much time together, I sort of assumed a
lot of things, and I started assuming that we were
exclusive because we were spending the week together, and out
of seven days, he would spend like.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Four nights in my house.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Yeah, but there's plenty of trouble to get into on
those other three nights.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
So a lot of time, but there's a lot of
time right to the point that he started bringing in
my apartment. He started bringing some suits and we would
go to work together and he.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Would enter one door and I would enter the other door.
So it sounds like you must have had a really
nice apartment.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Though she's a lawyer, she's a little bit better off
than me, like a little bit more senior, even though
she's a little younger.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
I'm like, I get it.
Speaker 5 (07:36):
It was a.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
Season environment and started bringing up the apartment situation. He
lived about twenty minutes away in another part of the
same borough, and so I would call him in the evening, Ky,
what you do, and he was like nothing, and he
would just come over his bike and then we would
spend time together. So to me, this was someone that
was available, had no restraints, had absolutely no reason not
(07:59):
to over whenever I called, and so we would spend
that kind of time together. So again time went by,
months went by, we had a great relationship we had.
We were at this place in our careers where we
were growing in different directions.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
So he was growing in the firm.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
I was trying to expand my horizons and eventually left
the firm, but we continued in the relationship.
Speaker 6 (08:26):
And you would not believe what our guest says.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Next and time went by, and this turned into six years.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
What there's a lot of time. Six years. Were you
guys saying you loved each other? Yes, we were saying
we loved each other.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
It took a while, though, because we both were shy
about saying it, but we did say it, except that
we were saying it, but we weren't showing it.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And I'll give you an example of that.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
And while she's talking, I'm thinking, what possible example can
you give me? Something is not right? And here it comes.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I never met his family in the six years. Six years.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That's a long effan time to not meet the family.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
You would never stand for it. Never He lived.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
With his grandmother, and he lived in a brownstone with
a lot of family, and so there was a lot
of family there, and so there was really no reason.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Whereas I had my place, it was.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
Easier for me to stay where I am have him
visit me instead of me visiting him with this whole
family situation going on, So no, I was never really invited,
and it did hurt my feelings that I didn't meet
his people.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
But what could possibly be her reason not to meet
the family? That's what my mother will call a sagnana.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Although let me just say that for me, if I'm like,
I don't have to meet your family, part of me
might be relieved. It's a lot of effort to be
like putting your best foot forward, just playing Devil's at.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
A kid, I could understand that.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
But I think personally, coming from a Latino household and
we are super family oriented, like we know everybody. We
call our neighbors, cousins and bias and aunts, uncles all that,
so it would be hard for me not to make
the family because it's like, why are you hiding me?
Or what are you hiding again?
Speaker 4 (10:25):
I think it worked for me because I was being
superwoman in New York City, trying to live the life
and trying to build something. And I think when you
watch Sex and the City and when you watch all
those independent women shows, you know that New York is
a place where you have to.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Put in the time no matter what career.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
I'm sure you guys know a standard comedians that you
have to be out at night, you have to be
out in the day, you have to hustle, you have
to network, and so that's what I was doing. So
it worked for me to not have the kind of
partner that was putting demands on my time.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Yeah, and I.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
Say, and I say, I have to say that I'm
seeing this in hindsight, because when you're going.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Through the moment, you just living your life. You're young,
you're you're living in a fast paced city.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
And you are not really tracking time. Right, You're doing
what you got to do. He's doing what he's got
to do. You're meeting together. And so in my mind,
I think I made a lot of assumptions and I
was fine. I was exclusively dating him, and so I
thought that eventually we would take it to the next level.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
We might even get married. And we didn't.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
Talk about getting married, but we sure were being exclusive.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
And so that is why.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
And folks, what comes next should come as no shock
at all.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Dundune done. After all that.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Time, I was shocked to learn that there was someone
in the picture until my aunt came to visit me.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
From Puerto Rico.
Speaker 4 (12:05):
Wasn't And she said, what's your boyfriend? And I said, oh,
he sent his grandmother's house. He's gonna come over soon
and say hello to you. And she said, have you
ever taken a little car and driven past his grandmother's house?
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Have you ever done that?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Well, we should all listen to our tt especially when
she's older or maybe even your same age.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
She knows it all.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
And I was horrified that my teity was asking me that,
because I was like.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Why should I do that? Why should I.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
Not trust this man that I've given him no reason
not to trust me.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
I haven't seen anything. She goes, I'd recommend you take
a little car and drag over. I'll go with you.
You know, I was saying, you trying to start some shit.
You just came from Puerto Rico. You trying to stir
some stuff. And she was like, m mm hmm. You
keep just keep doing what you're doing.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
And so here's my elder tea trying to give me
some school me and I didn't believe her.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
I was like, oh my gosh, she's so old school.
Speaker 4 (13:05):
She's trying to start some mess, and I can't believe
she's telling me to go drive past his house, which
I thought was so ghetto.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
That's how I saw it because that's where I grew up,
and that's what the women I grew up with did.
They went and checked on that. They checked out every statement.
Speaker 4 (13:20):
And here I was miseducated going out with a guy,
and I'd forgotten, like the poor lessons.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
That I learned from my mother and my aunts.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
They were like, don't you be trusting no man, they'd
be doing all kinds of things.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
And I'm going, but that's not true.
Speaker 4 (13:35):
You know, we're both grown and we want to be
in this because we want to.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
So I have to give you a little preview. My
aunt was right, I.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
Should have gotten in that car and driven past that
house and found out what was actually happening.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
Yeah, so how did you actually find out the revealed in.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
The car with her?
Speaker 5 (13:56):
No.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
I found out through a professional organization where I hired
two young interns to.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Go with me to it. US. It was us. We
were in Washington, d C. And a big gala luncheon.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
And I bought a table and so there was this
table of ten people. He was there, My two young interns,
and then many other professional people who knew me and
knew us from the industry, and the young intern, I said,
you know, this is an opportunity for you to network
meet as many people as you can, because you may
find jobs.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
In this industry if you're interested in doing this. So
let me introduce you to everyone at the table.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
And I introduced everyone, and then when I got to him,
I said, and this is so and so, and the
young intern looks at me and says, I know him.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
And I said, well, how do you know him?
Speaker 4 (14:48):
And she says, well, my mother is friends with his girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
So at that moment, everything stopped.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
It was a cinematic moment, I have to tell you,
because everything froze and my heart felt to the bottom
of my stomach and I had to stop because I
was very corporate at the time.
Speaker 6 (15:11):
So we have all been here, the heartbreak moment where
time stops and everything hangs in the balance. But here's
where the similarity stops, because what happens next is all
about the choices you make. And our guest makes a
move you would not believe, and.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
That's our cue to say, stay tuned for part two
of our episode, where you will hear what shocking reveal
happens next.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
Thank you for listening.
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