August 21, 2024 • 30 mins
Cheating, backstabbing and now wigging out! Comedian Riley Lassin takes having a bad hair day to a whole new level.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Cheating, backstabbing.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And now we have one more secret subject on our podcast,
wigging Out. Sometimes wigs can be more of a secret
than sharing your Wi Fi password.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
But our next guest has.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Quite the reveal about a hairy situation that happened.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
While she was wearing a wig. Let's get into it.
Pardon me? Is like, you know, you want to laugh
during sex, and there's like a time to have fun
and there's a time to not have to be serious.
And in that moment, I was like, man, this was
the wrong time.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
This was not it. Hey, guys, this is Shoddy.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Diaz and I'm Kay Robarts.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
And this is cheaters and backstabbers.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
And we're so excited for this episode because one of
our friends is here.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Yeah, so excited.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Is writing Lasson, who is the New York City stand
up comedian, actress, writer, a great friend.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Her nails are always done, they gotta be.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Yeah, you're living in Brooklyn right now?
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Is not just move back to Washington Heights, washing it?
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Okay, so you're closer to the Bronx because.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
I'm happy you are.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Really I love it.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
I love it.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
Oh man, I remember the Bronx salon you sent all
the female comics to go out there today.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
I sent him six six comics and everyone has left. Yeah,
and I still go and no, I am toxic, And.
Speaker 5 (01:33):
How come I never got the salon hookup with my
one hairstyle.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Because this is just nails with nail salon, nail sal
And I love him dearly, but he has made a
lot of people.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Yeah, he made me cry. I even had to tell him, listen,
I suffer from severe anxiety. Please don't talk to me
this way. And he was like, just sit down, let
me finish it.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
You love him, but I've grown to adore him. I
wanted almond shaped nails. One time he said my hands
were too fat. But I respect the honesty. So I
she goes back to he's toxic, and I love my toxic.
Speaker 5 (02:12):
You are you trying to change? Like I think I
could change him. You think you're the one that's gonna
be normal.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I think he's coming at like we talk about his
family and like we talk about that she's changed him,
so for sure, because you're the nicest person in the world.
I know. Ratley's just like, I'm gonna get him.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
It's been four years. I didn't have a backstabbing story.
I believe have you have both, right, I have.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Well, the backstabbing one you think isn't like a typical backstabbing.
I just felt very vulnerable at the time and I
felt like very wronged at the time. So that's why
I want to bring it so much. Yeah, that's what
I like. I mean, I feel like no story is
too petty, right, like, oh, this is very petty, very
(02:57):
on his end, very petty, and I still think about
it to this.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
We start start us from the beginning. How'd you meet
this person who is well, don't say the name because
in the industry. Oh wow, right, Well that's the thing.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Too, after the industry, after a show, after after the show,
you can tell us after the show. I'll tell you
after the show. Yes, but he we met during COVID
and you know, got very close, very sweet, very nice.
Speaker 5 (03:28):
Plus COVID for comics was a bleak time, yes, our shows.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
You know, we met at a club. We met at
a club.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
Yes, they're shut down. We're in the streets and everyone's sad.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Everyone's just like thinking about the future and is there
going to be a future for comedy And everybody was united, right,
And I think that's why we even got even closer
because we'll starts the there it is. We were vulnerable,
We were vulnerable. I opened up to him, he opened
up to me. And around this it sounds like at
the beginning though, that sounds like a really good thing.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Yes, and this is like a good friend at first, right, I.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Known him for how long? A couple of years I guess,
on and off. But during COVID, that's when we started
to like actually hang.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
Out, which was great.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
And what was so appealing about like hanging out?
Speaker 5 (04:16):
Like I want to feel because I.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Did not have a boot during COVID.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
You didn't have a boot during COVID.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
No, So I want to know, like what that with
those little butterflies were.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
So horny away because I was so horny during COVID.
This it's a side effect. My friend's little brother like
someone I would never do, you know.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
That's like I wouldn't say horny, I would say desperate, right, but.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Desperate. I'm still desperate. That's comfort. I want to know
about the comfort you must have been feeling. I think
that's what it is too. It was whatever you're opening
up right, opening up, I think you know, being scared,
being scared together, you know, talk about families and friends.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Also, you couldn't touch, you couldn't we that's kind of high.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Okay, I was courted. I was courted for like two
three months. I was like, is this what it was like?
Speaker 3 (05:09):
So you were ask and comms at the same time.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Okay, we double b right, but we didn't touch or anything.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
We did the six feet.
Speaker 5 (05:19):
We did a s fee and do you think about
this like old timey days when you're just like.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
It's Bridgerton, I get it. I we want on walks.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Wow that and I did the walks like I know
a lot of people can relate to this. And during COVID,
we all when you want to go on a date,
you did a park date. I know a lot of
people that went on park dates. I have some good
friends who've been on park dates. Now they're still together.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
Like so, I I thought the courting part was very
sweet because like, it's so different than anything at our
fast paced so this forced you to slow.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
It down, which made you even more vulnerable. That's why
they're always crying away. Yeah, okay, so I'm not gonna lie.
We were like, let's let's hug.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
Oh and hugging there a mask wore a mask and
he hugged me from behind me.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
Wow, that's I never talked about this.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I've never been so turned on in my entire life
from a hug. Like that's crazy. I remember going home
and I was like like all in like a like
a like I was. I was staying with my parents.
I was all in aff My mom's like, are you okay?
I'm like yeah, I had.
Speaker 5 (06:33):
To go in my room like I was so mom
new mom had to have She's gott a known and
she thought he was such a nice dude that she's like, oh,
this is nice.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
So you brought him around the family.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, he was around. I to go around his family.
She very sweet. We're friends and it was very nice.
Were you trying to resist it? It was like no, no,
it was fun. It was fun. It was fun.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
He's a sweet guy. It was all good. It was
all good.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
That's so romantic. It was all and I was very blessed.
I was grateful to have a boo Oh, I hated it.
I never mind. I don't want to say boo have
someone during COVID because it was a lonely time and
it was nice to share that with somebody at least,
you know, So the backstabbing part was was the part
(07:18):
where I was like, damn and it wasn't even that bad,
but in the moment it felt very intense. We don't
want to hear about now.
Speaker 5 (07:31):
We want to hear about when you started seeing those
red signs, like when you got to the intensity of
the moment, like oh, heals all wounds, right, but yes,
let's get us there fresh right method acting take us
where you go from like hugging where you're like on
cloud nine to what was the beginning of like oh,
(07:52):
maybe this isn't.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
The best thing in the world. Oh, the backstabbing part.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
And I don't know if it was when we got
out of.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
COVID where it's like like, oh, we're just it was different.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
So it was different. COVID was tough.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
For everyone, and for most people like Riley Post, COVID
was a big sure for.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Her love life.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
It was out of COVID now we're back in real life,
in the streets, in this streets, out of the streets,
on the streets, and I think we both felt it.
We both felt it. It was but we still we're
still you know, getting together once in a while, right,
it's safe, it's nice and I went over one time
(08:32):
and we're hooking up and it's great because now like
we're in a house, and it was nice because it
was like, this is great.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
So this is a huge red flag because I have
found in our experience doing this when the bar is
low and you just do a little bit extra. Look
how excited you are for a like a that's regular,
that is very regular to have.
Speaker 6 (08:55):
Oh my gosh, an air mattress. Love, he has an
air mattress on wheels.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
There's no bad frame, but that's okay, that's okay. He
has a bed. It's a sheet, you know, just a sheet.
Speaker 5 (09:14):
I was just like so happy to be there, and
a big red flag to our listeners. That's what you
want to You want to make sure they start out like,
don't set the barlow.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Something set it high. I've grown since then, but no,
take us there were in this we're in the house. Yes,
so we're in the house and we're we're kind of house.
What is that an apartment? It was an apartment. Did
he have a candle? Going?
Speaker 3 (09:41):
No candles?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
It was there like soap and like a hand towel.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
I can't already know. Are you creative with it? I
was like, my man, don't got that either, Like, what's happening.
That's a big problem for me.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I'm like, it was. It was a fine apartment. It
was a nice apartment or Bnbach, Manhattan, and it was
a nice apartment with the bed on the floor. And
I was blowing him. Yeah, okay, of course, okay, I
can say that being a fan.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
You're being a blowing him in the air mattress.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Your listeners are gonna be like, this is the worst representation.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
She's like, right, flag gold.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I was.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
I was doing my thing down there, this kind of
sound effects myself and.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Then said, wait, what is that that sounding like?
Speaker 3 (10:34):
I thought she was making out like one more you know,
it's oh my gosh, do it. Do it? Just do
it for the audience and then get to it.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
You're killing my mom. We're like, probably just do it.
Speaker 5 (10:47):
And the way you just held the microphone to like,
does that give us any indication of she.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Had a good grip on the mic and go? That's
all I'm saying. She had a good grip.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
I try, I try, but okay, So during COVID, right
before I started wearing wigs for my pcos and this
is my sister right here with the sea.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
There's sisters with the.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Sea and with PCOS symptoms. Can you like, yeah, it's hormonal.
I know this from you, but I just I don't
know if our listen right? It so and symptoms can
come from it's polycystic ovarian syndrome. And one of my
main symptoms is hair loss. I've been losing my hair
and thinning hair for the last maybe like seven to
(11:35):
ten years. And right before COVID, I had a guy
friend who wanted to go on a date with me.
We went on a date and I remember him saying
to me, what are you gonna do about your hair?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Oh no?
Speaker 1 (11:48):
And it hurt me so much because I trusted this
guy who I went on a date with. This was
right before this was like January twenty twenty, and it's
stuck with me.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
And I'm remember one of.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
My girlfriends was like, Riley, get a wig, like maybe
they'll make you feel confident. Yeah, And I remember putting
on a wig and I was like, oh, like I remember,
I cried, Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
I just like most beautiful weeks too. Oh they get
the most big. I'd like through this, you know, throw
it on.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
But like I was just like I felt like myself again,
like I know because you two I love so much
and I know I can be like open and comfortable
with you. I felt like, oh my god, I was
the hat. I was so happy. I will always remember
that feeling. And since then, I've been like wearing wigs
on it off. In the last maybe two years. I
wear them every day. It makes me feel good. So
(12:39):
I started wearing wigs during COVID, practicing with them, buying
the synthetic real hair lace not there at the time.
I was buying like the like nineteen ninety nine on Amazon.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
I mean, they look really some of them look good.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Something really looked good. And the guy who I was blowing.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
Trusted, who trusted trusted?
Speaker 5 (13:03):
Yes, you're confident you are the man who was courting
you throughout some of the darkest times in all cities.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
He just makes it's so intense.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It was like this is like an episode of people Waiting.
I would show him my wigs and he was very
sweet because he would send me, you know, your your
hair looks fot like he enjoyed my natural hair. It
was like curly. He's like, I love it.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
He goes either way, I love it, which is like
very sweet, and I felt very.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
Very confident, very like it was very respectful.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
But I loved wearing the wigs.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
And when we got back to New York, I remember
trying all these wigs all these ways, and I remember
going to his house that one night. So I'm at
his house and we're we're getting you're hugging up. We're
back to the night, back to that night night, and
it's feeling good. Now we're now we've jumped, we've jumped
to the night, and we're thank you and we're, uh,
(13:56):
we're hooking up. Described the wig to us, it was
like it was like my hair. It was this hair
color with a little shorter like a brunette, like a
dark chestnut, and I was shorter. But I didn't know
then how to glue on wigs to make them stay.
I was just clipping them in, just like clip clip.
And I was at his house and it's summertime and
(14:21):
it's hot.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
He didn't have his aird.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
Girl, wait, another red flat.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Think about it.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
I don't remember saying no red flat.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
We're seeing red flags everywhere. Maybe I think he turned
it on later in the night.
Speaker 3 (14:39):
He's saving electricity. He's like, kind of it.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
And cheap all here. It was kind of hot then
I think about it. It's a little hot. And I
was down there doing my thing and he takes his
hand and he grabs my hair, and I just remember
being like, oh, he knows, he knows it's a wake.
He's known this now, you know, hes told him. He's
(15:05):
seen me with hair with the wake, without the wake.
He's seen me talk about the way he's.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Hold on to it.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
And I'm like, come man, he's not like and I'm
down there still because I'm in the moment, you know
what I mean. But in my I'm like, he's not
gonna do it. He he pulled that off, and I
went my heart betrayal. Oh like the least sex if
(15:32):
you think of the time he felt the most sexy.
And then like like interestn't an instant, just like like
I felt so and he's laughing like and you know
now like looking back, Oh no, no, no, we're looking
back yet.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
We're not looking back yet. We're not looking back.
Speaker 5 (15:54):
Stay and stay in the moment, in the bubble of
because like we've this was someone you trusted, like, especially
because you said he is a friend, like you told
me about that. You like, it's like such a.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Believable thing when you tell somebody that, Like you pulled
that right off.
Speaker 7 (16:10):
And I was like, sorry, hold on to your wings
what and like it was it was remember if it
was like dark or not?
Speaker 3 (16:21):
But man, I was like, where did it go? Was
it a nice one?
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Was it like an expensive one too? It was a
nice one. It was a nice one. And like he
knew not to do that. And I was like, dude,
like you didn't have to pull off the wig. That's
not it's not okay.
Speaker 5 (16:36):
So also editing this story of like that is risk disrespectful.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
So you're down there and you're doing.
Speaker 4 (16:42):
Your things, my thing, that's my Riley, that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
You've never heard that. No, no, you know you heard that.
You want some? He was like, is that a house?
Speaker 1 (16:57):
No?
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Nondeless? Or is that some?
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Is That's why I say I've in the heights now
I go around where I'm dead.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
It's such a good like code.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Yeah, I learned that from your stand up, Riley.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
That's what you taught me.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Is I'm like, I'm so gold, I'm teaching such Yeah,
this is great. I need great words to be vulgar
back in Texas, you know, so you're down there, and
then he takes the wig holding on to it. I'm like,
oh no, and he yanks it off. He yanks the
(17:34):
wig off, and I'm like, oh, come on, man.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
My heart dropped.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
I was like, I think of the time that you
felt the most sexy when I give head, Oh, I
feel so sexy. I feel even though I feel the
most sexy I do. And I had my wig on,
I felt so cute and he just yanked it off,
and I was like, come on, like, that's the that's
the worst time.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
That's the worst time because it's.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Also it's like you're doing something for them.
Speaker 5 (18:03):
But I think sometimes guys get it twisted that we do,
like we dress up for them, and it's like, if
I enjoy this, if you know this makes me feel
feminine or powerful or sexy.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Like and I'm doing this for you, let me have that,
like right right, And like, granted, maybe it was an accident,
so I'm saying like, sound like no, when you're in
in a moment, you know, in the moment, it could
be a it could be I was like, come on,
like this is the next but he started laughing and
I eventually was like his laughter. I started laughing because
you're just like I want to cry. It was like
(18:38):
a cry laughter, like I can't believe this. And then
the back of my head, I'm like, this is a
fucking bit. This is a bit. I'm telling everyone this
because it was like I can't believe this was happening,
because I just honestly, the emotions were so high. You
feel so sexy, and then you're like, no.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Like the lowest of below.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
But you know, I've part of me is like, you know,
you want to laugh during sex, and there's like a
time to have fun and there's a time to not
have it going to be serious, And in that moment,
I was like, man, this was the wrong time. This
was not it was he trying to use bodily fluid
as glue.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
Oh my gosh, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
I'm just saying in such a way that was.
Speaker 5 (19:22):
Like did hear Walters? You know, I'm playing with my
babaaah where I'm just like, I'm just like, how.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
Do I catch people off guard?
Speaker 5 (19:31):
You?
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Well, he definitely if we want to give him a
benefit of the doubt, you know, that's I think he
came out of like.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
This is betrayal. This is betrayal.
Speaker 5 (19:41):
I love how you can in hindsight like you're such
a forgiving person, right, like, how did you make peace
with it?
Speaker 1 (19:46):
All? That was probably one of the last times we
hooked up. I don't think it was the wig that's it.
I think we just fell out of it and I
think we got used to being back in the real world.
I don't know if we were used to it. And no,
we're buddies now, cordial and it's fine. But it was
nice having it during having someone during COVID when it
(20:09):
was like you felt very lonely, and it was nice
to have that. But that was the way. But that
was that was the wig that broke the I don't
know if this is backstabbing. I don't know betrayal. I
don't know if this is a big ass joke. But
to this day, I will never forget wig coming off
(20:29):
during my favorite time of day.
Speaker 4 (20:30):
I'm giving him some well, I think to end all this,
I know it's safe to say that now for the future,
you just have to glue your wigs before you So
let's do that.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
That's what lesson learn or don't don't men, don't pull
those wegs. But that's not the end of Riley's stories.
She's got one more zinger of betrayal to share.
Speaker 4 (20:51):
And also, so I know that you also have a
cheating story.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
I do, and it's and it's weird because I tell
people to this day. I'm thirty and I've never been
in a relationship. But the only relationship that I considered
like being serious and on that verge was in college.
And I feel like in college everyone's like hanging out
having fun.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
But I met this dude. He was in a fraternity.
I was in a sorority, and we clicked.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
We clicked, and I hung out with this dude like
five times a week.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
I would sleep over his house.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
We were together every single day, Like I really like
this guy. True love, like first love, That's where I
was going. I was like, is this it love? Is
this where I'm not going to be in love?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
I'm not going to be going to be in love? Like,
how did marry is your college sweetheart? Yeah? Now talk
about flags?
Speaker 1 (21:45):
Did your parents do that? No, my parents met through
an ad OG tender.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
Okay, go to the red flag.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
I know we were talking about red flags before with
the with the other story, but I didn't really. There
was no really red flags with that guy. This guy
I was like a walking red flag. This he got
me for my birthday Starburst, and I remember my mom
being like, oh, maybe like.
Speaker 5 (22:11):
Like a starbar olledge budget, a Starburst, a Starburst diamond necklace,
or like a Starbars snow.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
And cherry strawberry orange yellow.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Taste, the rain taste the rainbow, I guess. And I
remember he was like, oh, it's gluten free because I
have ciliac. And every time I was romantic but romantic,
it's like, this will make you poop non GMO, and
i'ld go.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
I would go over his house like every night.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
He had a house off campus, and I would always
stay over. But he never had gluten free snacks, so
he thought it was like such a cute thing to
be like, I got you for your birthday a gluten
free is this gluten free on it? I was like,
he's like, I know your dad's a dentist, so we
don't have to worry about cavity right right, free dental,
free dental.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
He was just like.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
I would drive him home after the bar. I didn't
really drink. The year we met, I was on a
medication and I didn't really drink, so that would drive a
lot of the time from the bars, and he would
just like yell at the people at McDonald He was
just like always angry at McDonald's. And he would like
yell at the lady and he's like, she's like, what
the what the heck.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
I remember being like, man.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
This guy kind of sucks. He would just yeah, he
would yelled at them. I make he was drunk to
wear at my friends. He's just angry, and I was like, man,
what is going on? My friend did not like him.
When you're all your friends don't like him, that's a sign.
He gets a sign when all my friends but I
know my guys, but it's just fun. You still have them.
Speaker 5 (23:36):
You're still like, no, I'm.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Still having a good time because of the Star Wars.
The Star Wars kept me for another month. The Star
Wars kept it going.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
But what it was like the best things that he
was doing for you was it like it.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Was like I never had that in my life. I
was nineteen twenty and I never had a like I
never had a boyfriend really and I never really had
someone that like, hey want to sleep all it was
night after night, like the cuddles. He would help me
with my lines for the play.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
And it was just fun.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
It was fun theater and nerd too. No, he wasn't theater,
but he enjoyed. He enjoyed when I talked about it,
and like we had just had you know when you
feel like a sexual promistry. We just had that, like
and like I tried. I tried having sex with him too.
My first time I want to try was my well,
we tried. We tried. I vagin this miss and I
didn't know at the time. So it was so painful
(24:30):
what vaginismus. And it's so painful to have.
Speaker 5 (24:33):
Sexag missed this badge and missed this baga.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
I'm like, I'm like, it sounds like a Harry Potter.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
I like a spell down there.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
I almost I passed out from the pain from having
sex with him. And he was like he was a
gentleman about it. He was like, are you good? Like
we you know what I mean? Like it was that
was I was grateful for that because that was very nice.
And I just was like, well, this guy's cool. This
guy we're not and so that we're not kind, you
know what, we're not having sex, but you're still but
you're still together. You're still you're still together, You're still
like a couple. Yeah, we're a couple. But now that
(25:08):
I think about it, we were together for like a
couple of months and we weren't having sex. And now
that I look back at it, but he was like
twenty one twenty two, and we're sleeping together and we're
not having sex.
Speaker 3 (25:22):
We're doing everything else. YEA a lot of that's where
you got good I.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Got That's where I got good at it.
Speaker 3 (25:29):
I can thank him for that. You had a degree
in them.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
But we weren't having sex, and the red flags were
getting redder, it was getting dark red, and I but
I still was like in it, we're getting closer. And
I was leaving for a study abroad for the second
semester Nice and we were going, I was going in London,
(25:55):
and I was so excited and he was so excited
for me, and you know what, pardon me was like
nervous leaving him just because I knew of how much
of a Dicky was, Like deep down, I knew this
guy was like kind of a douchebag. But I was
still like, oh no, it's getting better, Like it's getting better.
(26:15):
This is like I'm gonna go away. I'm only going
for like three months. I'll come back and we'll still
be together. And the night before I left, we were
on FaceTime. He lived back in mass and I lived Connecticut,
and I was in Jersey with my family and I
was going to Scotland with my family right before I
(26:36):
went to London, and we all decided to do a.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
Family trip before I studied abroad.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
It was very cute. I was on the phone with
him and he was like, oh, man, I love you,
like you're great. And I'm like I knew this was
going to get better, Like I was gonna tell all
my friends like, guys, I told you liked him, Yeah,
look at he loves me, Like this is great. And
I'm like so high off of that, and I told
(27:01):
my mom. My mom was like, oh, that's cute.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Good for you, Like, tell you to sick starbirds.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Right, She's like, come on, Riley, enough enough. But the
next day was New Year's Day and we were leaving
to go to the airport and because my mom, my dad,
and my brother and we're in the car driving to
the airport and I get a text message from one
of my sorority sisters and she goes, oh my god, Riley,
I'm so sorry to hear about you and gonna know.
(27:30):
And I was like, no, no one one, this is
the yes. And I was like wait what and I'm
I'm thinking he just told me he loved me last night.
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (27:39):
Like sorry?
Speaker 1 (27:40):
And she sent me a screenshot at my heart. I
was in the car and my heart dropped. I was
like what and it was him. It was from this
girl's instagram. It was him and his ex girlfriend and
the picture was taken New Year's Day, so that day,
and the caption said New Years, New Beginning. And I
(28:02):
was like, wait what because it was on Facebook Instagram
this week.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
I think it was an Instagram and I was like what.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I kind of believe he liked it. I remember, I
think he liked it. I was like wait, wait, wait,
and I texted him. I was like what the heck,
Like what is this. He's like, oh, I wanted to
tell you. I was like, sure, you told me you
loved me last night. I'm out to board a plane
to Scotland. I'm crying in the backseat. My brother's like
(28:32):
it's it's okay, it's Okay. My mom's like I never
liked him anyway. I'm like, and yeah, he he fully
just And I don't know if it's if it's a
cheating so much of a story, but it was in
a way I was blindside emotional cheating. I was blindsided
by it. I was excited. I was so happy. I
(28:52):
was like, oh my god, am I falling in love
with this man? Is this gonna be my first I
was making a light and then he.
Speaker 5 (28:59):
I was like, yeah, dude, you haven't been in a
relationship since.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And I feel like we've heard a similar story with
someone else where. I feel like if that experience is bad.
Speaker 5 (29:07):
Like of course you're not gonna want to jump into
something again, Like you had a traumatic that's traumatic, and
you're I think a lot of like especially comedians, our
ability to laugh at something and be like positive people
right can protect us from saying or from having can
protect us from having an open heart.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
And you still have an open heart for friends.
Speaker 5 (29:25):
But I just want you to know that you are
the most amazing person and I want you to have
an open heart for love, like somebody needs who is
somebody amazing will end up with you and they will
give you starbars.
Speaker 4 (29:36):
That are not the candy right, Oh my god, They'll
buy you a car that you can.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
Call Star Wars.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
You'll be seeing Star Wars when they blow your mind. Yes, guys,
I love this manifestation for myself. Thank you.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
You deserve it, and I'm really happy.
Speaker 4 (29:51):
I'm really happy you came by and you shared your stories,
and I hope, I.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
Hope it was so good. I'm over here now.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I'm not getting serious with anybody. I'm like, you know what, No,
I have some some things to dig up. But you
know what, I'm grateful for all the experiences, bad and good,
and I'm grateful to I'm sure them, especially with you two.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Your audience is gonna I love you, guys.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
But I love these two so much.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
Thank you too, and thank you so much for being here.
Speaker 4 (30:20):
Really appreciate it, and hopefully we'll have you back with
more stories.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
But good one, good one.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
I don't want to get cheated on again by.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Someone from me in the heights and I'm not come back.
Speaker 4 (30:28):
You're not going to come back with a good story
if you stay there. No, but I appreciate it. We
appreciate it, guys. This is great. I hope you guys
enjoyed her just as much as we do. My name
is Shady Diaz and I'm Kate Robarts. And this is
Cheaters and Backstabbers.
Cheating, backstabbing.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And now we have one more secret subject on our podcast,
wigging Out. Sometimes wigs can be more of a secret
than sharing your Wi Fi password.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
But our next guest has.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Quite the reveal about a hairy situation that happened.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
While she was wearing a wig. Let's get into it.
Pardon me? Is like, you know, you want to laugh
during sex, and there's like a time to have fun
and there's a time to not have to be serious.
And in that moment, I was like, man, this was
the wrong time.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
This was not it. Hey, guys, this is Shoddy.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Diaz and I'm Kay Robarts.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
And this is cheaters and backstabbers.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
And we're so excited for this episode because one of
our friends is here.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Yeah, so excited.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Is writing Lasson, who is the New York City stand
up comedian, actress, writer, a great friend.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Her nails are always done, they gotta be.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Yeah, you're living in Brooklyn right now?
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Is not just move back to Washington Heights, washing it?
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Okay, so you're closer to the Bronx because.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
I'm happy you are.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Really I love it.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
I love it.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
Oh man, I remember the Bronx salon you sent all
the female comics to go out there today.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
I sent him six six comics and everyone has left. Yeah,
and I still go and no, I am toxic, And.
Speaker 5 (01:33):
How come I never got the salon hookup with my
one hairstyle.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Because this is just nails with nail salon, nail sal
And I love him dearly, but he has made a
lot of people.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Yeah, he made me cry. I even had to tell him, listen,
I suffer from severe anxiety. Please don't talk to me
this way. And he was like, just sit down, let
me finish it.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
You love him, but I've grown to adore him. I
wanted almond shaped nails. One time he said my hands
were too fat. But I respect the honesty. So I
she goes back to he's toxic, and I love my toxic.
Speaker 5 (02:12):
You are you trying to change? Like I think I
could change him. You think you're the one that's gonna
be normal.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I think he's coming at like we talk about his
family and like we talk about that she's changed him,
so for sure, because you're the nicest person in the world.
I know. Ratley's just like, I'm gonna get him.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
It's been four years. I didn't have a backstabbing story.
I believe have you have both, right, I have.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Well, the backstabbing one you think isn't like a typical backstabbing.
I just felt very vulnerable at the time and I
felt like very wronged at the time. So that's why
I want to bring it so much. Yeah, that's what
I like. I mean, I feel like no story is
too petty, right, like, oh, this is very petty, very
(02:57):
on his end, very petty, and I still think about
it to this.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
We start start us from the beginning. How'd you meet
this person who is well, don't say the name because
in the industry. Oh wow, right, Well that's the thing.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Too, after the industry, after a show, after after the show,
you can tell us after the show. I'll tell you
after the show. Yes, but he we met during COVID
and you know, got very close, very sweet, very nice.
Speaker 5 (03:28):
Plus COVID for comics was a bleak time, yes, our shows.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
You know, we met at a club. We met at
a club.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
Yes, they're shut down. We're in the streets and everyone's sad.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Everyone's just like thinking about the future and is there
going to be a future for comedy And everybody was united, right,
And I think that's why we even got even closer
because we'll starts the there it is. We were vulnerable,
We were vulnerable. I opened up to him, he opened
up to me. And around this it sounds like at
the beginning though, that sounds like a really good thing.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Yes, and this is like a good friend at first, right, I.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Known him for how long? A couple of years I guess,
on and off. But during COVID, that's when we started
to like actually hang.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
Out, which was great.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
And what was so appealing about like hanging out?
Speaker 5 (04:16):
Like I want to feel because I.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Did not have a boot during COVID.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
You didn't have a boot during COVID.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
No, So I want to know, like what that with
those little butterflies were.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
So horny away because I was so horny during COVID.
This it's a side effect. My friend's little brother like
someone I would never do, you know.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
That's like I wouldn't say horny, I would say desperate, right, but.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Desperate. I'm still desperate. That's comfort. I want to know
about the comfort you must have been feeling. I think
that's what it is too. It was whatever you're opening
up right, opening up, I think you know, being scared,
being scared together, you know, talk about families and friends.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Also, you couldn't touch, you couldn't we that's kind of high.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Okay, I was courted. I was courted for like two
three months. I was like, is this what it was like?
Speaker 3 (05:09):
So you were ask and comms at the same time.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Okay, we double b right, but we didn't touch or anything.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
We did the six feet.
Speaker 5 (05:19):
We did a s fee and do you think about
this like old timey days when you're just like.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
It's Bridgerton, I get it. I we want on walks.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Wow that and I did the walks like I know
a lot of people can relate to this. And during COVID,
we all when you want to go on a date,
you did a park date. I know a lot of
people that went on park dates. I have some good
friends who've been on park dates. Now they're still together.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
Like so, I I thought the courting part was very
sweet because like, it's so different than anything at our
fast paced so this forced you to slow.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
It down, which made you even more vulnerable. That's why
they're always crying away. Yeah, okay, so I'm not gonna lie.
We were like, let's let's hug.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
Oh and hugging there a mask wore a mask and
he hugged me from behind me.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
Wow, that's I never talked about this.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I've never been so turned on in my entire life
from a hug. Like that's crazy. I remember going home
and I was like like all in like a like
a like I was. I was staying with my parents.
I was all in aff My mom's like, are you okay?
I'm like yeah, I had.
Speaker 5 (06:33):
To go in my room like I was so mom
new mom had to have She's gott a known and
she thought he was such a nice dude that she's like, oh,
this is nice.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
So you brought him around the family.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, he was around. I to go around his family.
She very sweet. We're friends and it was very nice.
Were you trying to resist it? It was like no, no,
it was fun. It was fun. It was fun.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
He's a sweet guy. It was all good. It was
all good.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
That's so romantic. It was all and I was very blessed.
I was grateful to have a boo Oh, I hated it.
I never mind. I don't want to say boo have
someone during COVID because it was a lonely time and
it was nice to share that with somebody at least,
you know, So the backstabbing part was was the part
(07:18):
where I was like, damn and it wasn't even that bad,
but in the moment it felt very intense. We don't
want to hear about now.
Speaker 5 (07:31):
We want to hear about when you started seeing those
red signs, like when you got to the intensity of
the moment, like oh, heals all wounds, right, but yes,
let's get us there fresh right method acting take us
where you go from like hugging where you're like on
cloud nine to what was the beginning of like oh,
(07:52):
maybe this isn't.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
The best thing in the world. Oh, the backstabbing part.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
And I don't know if it was when we got
out of.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
COVID where it's like like, oh, we're just it was different.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
So it was different. COVID was tough.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
For everyone, and for most people like Riley Post, COVID
was a big sure for.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Her love life.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
It was out of COVID now we're back in real life,
in the streets, in this streets, out of the streets,
on the streets, and I think we both felt it.
We both felt it. It was but we still we're
still you know, getting together once in a while, right,
it's safe, it's nice and I went over one time
(08:32):
and we're hooking up and it's great because now like
we're in a house, and it was nice because it
was like, this is great.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
So this is a huge red flag because I have
found in our experience doing this when the bar is
low and you just do a little bit extra. Look
how excited you are for a like a that's regular,
that is very regular to have.
Speaker 6 (08:55):
Oh my gosh, an air mattress. Love, he has an
air mattress on wheels.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
There's no bad frame, but that's okay, that's okay. He
has a bed. It's a sheet, you know, just a sheet.
Speaker 5 (09:14):
I was just like so happy to be there, and
a big red flag to our listeners. That's what you
want to You want to make sure they start out like,
don't set the barlow.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Something set it high. I've grown since then, but no,
take us there were in this we're in the house. Yes,
so we're in the house and we're we're kind of house.
What is that an apartment? It was an apartment. Did
he have a candle? Going?
Speaker 3 (09:41):
No candles?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
It was there like soap and like a hand towel.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
I can't already know. Are you creative with it? I
was like, my man, don't got that either, Like, what's happening.
That's a big problem for me.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I'm like, it was. It was a fine apartment. It
was a nice apartment or Bnbach, Manhattan, and it was
a nice apartment with the bed on the floor. And
I was blowing him. Yeah, okay, of course, okay, I
can say that being a fan.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
You're being a blowing him in the air mattress.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Your listeners are gonna be like, this is the worst representation.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
She's like, right, flag gold.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I was.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
I was doing my thing down there, this kind of
sound effects myself and.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Then said, wait, what is that that sounding like?
Speaker 3 (10:34):
I thought she was making out like one more you know,
it's oh my gosh, do it. Do it? Just do
it for the audience and then get to it.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
You're killing my mom. We're like, probably just do it.
Speaker 5 (10:47):
And the way you just held the microphone to like,
does that give us any indication of she.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Had a good grip on the mic and go? That's
all I'm saying. She had a good grip.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
I try, I try, but okay, So during COVID, right
before I started wearing wigs for my pcos and this
is my sister right here with the sea.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
There's sisters with the.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Sea and with PCOS symptoms. Can you like, yeah, it's hormonal.
I know this from you, but I just I don't
know if our listen right? It so and symptoms can
come from it's polycystic ovarian syndrome. And one of my
main symptoms is hair loss. I've been losing my hair
and thinning hair for the last maybe like seven to
(11:35):
ten years. And right before COVID, I had a guy
friend who wanted to go on a date with me.
We went on a date and I remember him saying
to me, what are you gonna do about your hair?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Oh no?
Speaker 1 (11:48):
And it hurt me so much because I trusted this
guy who I went on a date with. This was
right before this was like January twenty twenty, and it's
stuck with me.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
And I'm remember one of.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
My girlfriends was like, Riley, get a wig, like maybe
they'll make you feel confident. Yeah, And I remember putting
on a wig and I was like, oh, like I remember,
I cried, Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
I just like most beautiful weeks too. Oh they get
the most big. I'd like through this, you know, throw
it on.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
But like I was just like I felt like myself again,
like I know because you two I love so much
and I know I can be like open and comfortable
with you. I felt like, oh my god, I was
the hat. I was so happy. I will always remember
that feeling. And since then, I've been like wearing wigs
on it off. In the last maybe two years. I
wear them every day. It makes me feel good. So
(12:39):
I started wearing wigs during COVID, practicing with them, buying
the synthetic real hair lace not there at the time.
I was buying like the like nineteen ninety nine on Amazon.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
I mean, they look really some of them look good.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Something really looked good. And the guy who I was blowing.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
Trusted, who trusted trusted?
Speaker 5 (13:03):
Yes, you're confident you are the man who was courting
you throughout some of the darkest times in all cities.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
He just makes it's so intense.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It was like this is like an episode of people Waiting.
I would show him my wigs and he was very
sweet because he would send me, you know, your your
hair looks fot like he enjoyed my natural hair. It
was like curly. He's like, I love it.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
He goes either way, I love it, which is like
very sweet, and I felt very.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
Very confident, very like it was very respectful.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
But I loved wearing the wigs.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
And when we got back to New York, I remember
trying all these wigs all these ways, and I remember
going to his house that one night. So I'm at
his house and we're we're getting you're hugging up. We're
back to the night, back to that night night, and
it's feeling good. Now we're now we've jumped, we've jumped
to the night, and we're thank you and we're, uh,
(13:56):
we're hooking up. Described the wig to us, it was
like it was like my hair. It was this hair
color with a little shorter like a brunette, like a
dark chestnut, and I was shorter. But I didn't know
then how to glue on wigs to make them stay.
I was just clipping them in, just like clip clip.
And I was at his house and it's summertime and
(14:21):
it's hot.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
He didn't have his aird.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
Girl, wait, another red flat.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Think about it.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
I don't remember saying no red flat.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
We're seeing red flags everywhere. Maybe I think he turned
it on later in the night.
Speaker 3 (14:39):
He's saving electricity. He's like, kind of it.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
And cheap all here. It was kind of hot then
I think about it. It's a little hot. And I
was down there doing my thing and he takes his
hand and he grabs my hair, and I just remember
being like, oh, he knows, he knows it's a wake.
He's known this now, you know, hes told him. He's
(15:05):
seen me with hair with the wake, without the wake.
He's seen me talk about the way he's.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Hold on to it.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
And I'm like, come man, he's not like and I'm
down there still because I'm in the moment, you know
what I mean. But in my I'm like, he's not
gonna do it. He he pulled that off, and I
went my heart betrayal. Oh like the least sex if
(15:32):
you think of the time he felt the most sexy.
And then like like interestn't an instant, just like like
I felt so and he's laughing like and you know
now like looking back, Oh no, no, no, we're looking
back yet.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
We're not looking back yet. We're not looking back.
Speaker 5 (15:54):
Stay and stay in the moment, in the bubble of
because like we've this was someone you trusted, like, especially
because you said he is a friend, like you told
me about that. You like, it's like such a.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Believable thing when you tell somebody that, Like you pulled
that right off.
Speaker 7 (16:10):
And I was like, sorry, hold on to your wings
what and like it was it was remember if it
was like dark or not?
Speaker 3 (16:21):
But man, I was like, where did it go? Was
it a nice one?
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Was it like an expensive one too? It was a
nice one. It was a nice one. And like he
knew not to do that. And I was like, dude,
like you didn't have to pull off the wig. That's
not it's not okay.
Speaker 5 (16:36):
So also editing this story of like that is risk disrespectful.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
So you're down there and you're doing.
Speaker 4 (16:42):
Your things, my thing, that's my Riley, that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
You've never heard that. No, no, you know you heard that.
You want some? He was like, is that a house?
Speaker 1 (16:57):
No?
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Nondeless? Or is that some?
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Is That's why I say I've in the heights now
I go around where I'm dead.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
It's such a good like code.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Yeah, I learned that from your stand up, Riley.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
That's what you taught me.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Is I'm like, I'm so gold, I'm teaching such Yeah,
this is great. I need great words to be vulgar
back in Texas, you know, so you're down there, and
then he takes the wig holding on to it. I'm like,
oh no, and he yanks it off. He yanks the
(17:34):
wig off, and I'm like, oh, come on, man.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
My heart dropped.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
I was like, I think of the time that you
felt the most sexy when I give head, Oh, I
feel so sexy. I feel even though I feel the
most sexy I do. And I had my wig on,
I felt so cute and he just yanked it off,
and I was like, come on, like, that's the that's
the worst time.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
That's the worst time because it's.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Also it's like you're doing something for them.
Speaker 5 (18:03):
But I think sometimes guys get it twisted that we do,
like we dress up for them, and it's like, if
I enjoy this, if you know this makes me feel
feminine or powerful or sexy.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Like and I'm doing this for you, let me have that,
like right right, And like, granted, maybe it was an accident,
so I'm saying like, sound like no, when you're in
in a moment, you know, in the moment, it could
be a it could be I was like, come on,
like this is the next but he started laughing and
I eventually was like his laughter. I started laughing because
you're just like I want to cry. It was like
(18:38):
a cry laughter, like I can't believe this. And then
the back of my head, I'm like, this is a
fucking bit. This is a bit. I'm telling everyone this
because it was like I can't believe this was happening,
because I just honestly, the emotions were so high. You
feel so sexy, and then you're like, no.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Like the lowest of below.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
But you know, I've part of me is like, you know,
you want to laugh during sex, and there's like a
time to have fun and there's a time to not
have it going to be serious, And in that moment,
I was like, man, this was the wrong time. This
was not it was he trying to use bodily fluid
as glue.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
Oh my gosh, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
I'm just saying in such a way that was.
Speaker 5 (19:22):
Like did hear Walters? You know, I'm playing with my
babaaah where I'm just like, I'm just like, how.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
Do I catch people off guard?
Speaker 5 (19:31):
You?
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Well, he definitely if we want to give him a
benefit of the doubt, you know, that's I think he
came out of like.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
This is betrayal. This is betrayal.
Speaker 5 (19:41):
I love how you can in hindsight like you're such
a forgiving person, right, like, how did you make peace
with it?
Speaker 1 (19:46):
All? That was probably one of the last times we
hooked up. I don't think it was the wig that's it.
I think we just fell out of it and I
think we got used to being back in the real world.
I don't know if we were used to it. And no,
we're buddies now, cordial and it's fine. But it was
nice having it during having someone during COVID when it
(20:09):
was like you felt very lonely, and it was nice
to have that. But that was the way. But that
was that was the wig that broke the I don't
know if this is backstabbing. I don't know betrayal. I
don't know if this is a big ass joke. But
to this day, I will never forget wig coming off
(20:29):
during my favorite time of day.
Speaker 4 (20:30):
I'm giving him some well, I think to end all this,
I know it's safe to say that now for the future,
you just have to glue your wigs before you So
let's do that.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
That's what lesson learn or don't don't men, don't pull
those wegs. But that's not the end of Riley's stories.
She's got one more zinger of betrayal to share.
Speaker 4 (20:51):
And also, so I know that you also have a
cheating story.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
I do, and it's and it's weird because I tell
people to this day. I'm thirty and I've never been
in a relationship. But the only relationship that I considered
like being serious and on that verge was in college.
And I feel like in college everyone's like hanging out
having fun.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
But I met this dude. He was in a fraternity.
I was in a sorority, and we clicked.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
We clicked, and I hung out with this dude like
five times a week.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
I would sleep over his house.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
We were together every single day, Like I really like
this guy. True love, like first love, That's where I
was going. I was like, is this it love? Is
this where I'm not going to be in love?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
I'm not going to be going to be in love? Like,
how did marry is your college sweetheart? Yeah? Now talk
about flags?
Speaker 1 (21:45):
Did your parents do that? No, my parents met through
an ad OG tender.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
Okay, go to the red flag.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
I know we were talking about red flags before with
the with the other story, but I didn't really. There
was no really red flags with that guy. This guy
I was like a walking red flag. This he got
me for my birthday Starburst, and I remember my mom
being like, oh, maybe like.
Speaker 5 (22:11):
Like a starbar olledge budget, a Starburst, a Starburst diamond necklace,
or like a Starbars snow.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
And cherry strawberry orange yellow.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Taste, the rain taste the rainbow, I guess. And I
remember he was like, oh, it's gluten free because I
have ciliac. And every time I was romantic but romantic,
it's like, this will make you poop non GMO, and
i'ld go.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
I would go over his house like every night.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
He had a house off campus, and I would always
stay over. But he never had gluten free snacks, so
he thought it was like such a cute thing to
be like, I got you for your birthday a gluten
free is this gluten free on it? I was like,
he's like, I know your dad's a dentist, so we
don't have to worry about cavity right right, free dental,
free dental.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
He was just like.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
I would drive him home after the bar. I didn't
really drink. The year we met, I was on a
medication and I didn't really drink, so that would drive a
lot of the time from the bars, and he would
just like yell at the people at McDonald He was
just like always angry at McDonald's. And he would like
yell at the lady and he's like, she's like, what
the what the heck.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
I remember being like, man.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
This guy kind of sucks. He would just yeah, he
would yelled at them. I make he was drunk to
wear at my friends. He's just angry, and I was like, man,
what is going on? My friend did not like him.
When you're all your friends don't like him, that's a sign.
He gets a sign when all my friends but I
know my guys, but it's just fun. You still have them.
Speaker 5 (23:36):
You're still like, no, I'm.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Still having a good time because of the Star Wars.
The Star Wars kept me for another month. The Star
Wars kept it going.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
But what it was like the best things that he
was doing for you was it like it.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Was like I never had that in my life. I
was nineteen twenty and I never had a like I
never had a boyfriend really and I never really had
someone that like, hey want to sleep all it was
night after night, like the cuddles. He would help me
with my lines for the play.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
And it was just fun.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
It was fun theater and nerd too. No, he wasn't theater,
but he enjoyed. He enjoyed when I talked about it,
and like we had just had you know when you
feel like a sexual promistry. We just had that, like
and like I tried. I tried having sex with him too.
My first time I want to try was my well,
we tried. We tried. I vagin this miss and I
didn't know at the time. So it was so painful
(24:30):
what vaginismus. And it's so painful to have.
Speaker 5 (24:33):
Sexag missed this badge and missed this baga.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
I'm like, I'm like, it sounds like a Harry Potter.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
I like a spell down there.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
I almost I passed out from the pain from having
sex with him. And he was like he was a
gentleman about it. He was like, are you good? Like
we you know what I mean? Like it was that
was I was grateful for that because that was very nice.
And I just was like, well, this guy's cool. This
guy we're not and so that we're not kind, you
know what, we're not having sex, but you're still but
you're still together. You're still you're still together, You're still
like a couple. Yeah, we're a couple. But now that
(25:08):
I think about it, we were together for like a
couple of months and we weren't having sex. And now
that I look back at it, but he was like
twenty one twenty two, and we're sleeping together and we're
not having sex.
Speaker 3 (25:22):
We're doing everything else. YEA a lot of that's where
you got good I.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Got That's where I got good at it.
Speaker 3 (25:29):
I can thank him for that. You had a degree
in them.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
But we weren't having sex, and the red flags were
getting redder, it was getting dark red, and I but
I still was like in it, we're getting closer. And
I was leaving for a study abroad for the second
semester Nice and we were going, I was going in London,
(25:55):
and I was so excited and he was so excited
for me, and you know what, pardon me was like
nervous leaving him just because I knew of how much
of a Dicky was, Like deep down, I knew this
guy was like kind of a douchebag. But I was
still like, oh no, it's getting better, Like it's getting better.
(26:15):
This is like I'm gonna go away. I'm only going
for like three months. I'll come back and we'll still
be together. And the night before I left, we were
on FaceTime. He lived back in mass and I lived Connecticut,
and I was in Jersey with my family and I
was going to Scotland with my family right before I
(26:36):
went to London, and we all decided to do a.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
Family trip before I studied abroad.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
It was very cute. I was on the phone with
him and he was like, oh, man, I love you,
like you're great. And I'm like I knew this was
going to get better, Like I was gonna tell all
my friends like, guys, I told you liked him, Yeah,
look at he loves me, Like this is great. And
I'm like so high off of that, and I told
(27:01):
my mom. My mom was like, oh, that's cute.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Good for you, Like, tell you to sick starbirds.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Right, She's like, come on, Riley, enough enough. But the
next day was New Year's Day and we were leaving
to go to the airport and because my mom, my dad,
and my brother and we're in the car driving to
the airport and I get a text message from one
of my sorority sisters and she goes, oh my god, Riley,
I'm so sorry to hear about you and gonna know.
(27:30):
And I was like, no, no one one, this is
the yes. And I was like wait what and I'm
I'm thinking he just told me he loved me last night.
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (27:39):
Like sorry?
Speaker 1 (27:40):
And she sent me a screenshot at my heart. I
was in the car and my heart dropped. I was
like what and it was him. It was from this
girl's instagram. It was him and his ex girlfriend and
the picture was taken New Year's Day, so that day,
and the caption said New Years, New Beginning. And I
(28:02):
was like, wait what because it was on Facebook Instagram
this week.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
I think it was an Instagram and I was like what.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I kind of believe he liked it. I remember, I
think he liked it. I was like wait, wait, wait,
and I texted him. I was like what the heck,
Like what is this. He's like, oh, I wanted to
tell you. I was like, sure, you told me you
loved me last night. I'm out to board a plane
to Scotland. I'm crying in the backseat. My brother's like
(28:32):
it's it's okay, it's Okay. My mom's like I never
liked him anyway. I'm like, and yeah, he he fully
just And I don't know if it's if it's a
cheating so much of a story, but it was in
a way I was blindside emotional cheating. I was blindsided
by it. I was excited. I was so happy. I
(28:52):
was like, oh my god, am I falling in love
with this man? Is this gonna be my first I
was making a light and then he.
Speaker 5 (28:59):
I was like, yeah, dude, you haven't been in a
relationship since.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And I feel like we've heard a similar story with
someone else where. I feel like if that experience is bad.
Speaker 5 (29:07):
Like of course you're not gonna want to jump into
something again, Like you had a traumatic that's traumatic, and
you're I think a lot of like especially comedians, our
ability to laugh at something and be like positive people
right can protect us from saying or from having can
protect us from having an open heart.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
And you still have an open heart for friends.
Speaker 5 (29:25):
But I just want you to know that you are
the most amazing person and I want you to have
an open heart for love, like somebody needs who is
somebody amazing will end up with you and they will
give you starbars.
Speaker 4 (29:36):
That are not the candy right, Oh my god, They'll
buy you a car that you can.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
Call Star Wars.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
You'll be seeing Star Wars when they blow your mind. Yes, guys,
I love this manifestation for myself. Thank you.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
You deserve it, and I'm really happy.
Speaker 4 (29:51):
I'm really happy you came by and you shared your stories,
and I hope, I.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
Hope it was so good. I'm over here now.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I'm not getting serious with anybody. I'm like, you know what, No,
I have some some things to dig up. But you
know what, I'm grateful for all the experiences, bad and good,
and I'm grateful to I'm sure them, especially with you two.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Your audience is gonna I love you, guys.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
But I love these two so much.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
Thank you too, and thank you so much for being here.
Speaker 4 (30:20):
Really appreciate it, and hopefully we'll have you back with
more stories.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
But good one, good one.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
I don't want to get cheated on again by.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Someone from me in the heights and I'm not come back.
Speaker 4 (30:28):
You're not going to come back with a good story
if you stay there. No, but I appreciate it. We
appreciate it, guys. This is great. I hope you guys
enjoyed her just as much as we do. My name
is Shady Diaz and I'm Kate Robarts. And this is
Cheaters and Backstabbers.
Hosts And Creators
Shari Diaz
Kate Robards
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