November 6, 2023 • 21 mins
Chiquis recently started couples therapy and tells us about a key lesson she learned about the aspects of being human, or what she calls “the pie of life.” She explains all the slices that make up the pie, including physical, emotional, and social, and why she added a new section to hers. Chiquis also talks about what she does to balance these aspects of her life, how it could help her become a better fiancée and why it should be something that everybody practices.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
I like to call it the Pie of life. I
just started couple's therapy and it's helped me a lot,
because this is what helps us as individuals become our
best selves. Those are the five physical, emotional, social, spiritual,
and intellectual. And I like to add rest. That's something
that I learned in twenty eighteen, the importance of rest.
(00:23):
Even if you don't have someone in your life right now,
I think it's good to get yourself ready for that person,
for you to become the person that you want to attract.
What up, guys, Happy Monday to everyone listening to the
podcast on a Monday. I hope you all had a
(00:43):
really safe and fun Halloween. I definitely did. I had
a great time, and I'm looking forward to the next
big holiday, Thanksgiving, my favorite holiday. So I'm so excited
to spend some quality time with the people who matter
the most to me. Anyway, on today's episode, we're going
to be talking about something I learned about in therapy.
It's called the Pie of a life. That's what I
call it. It's really the aspects of being human. I
(01:06):
thought it'd be really interesting and it's helped me a lot,
so I wanted to share it with you, guys, So
let's get into it. This is Cheeky's and chill, Okay,
So I like to call it the Pie of Life,
but it is really aspects of being human. They gave
(01:26):
me this chart or this It literally looks like a
pie and it's sliced in five pieces and I'll explain
to you what each section is. I just started a
couple's therapy with a medium and it's really helped me.
It's helped me a lot because this is what helps
us as individuals become our best selves. And it's crazy
(01:48):
because before knowing about this Pie of life or this
aspects of being human, I was already doing it. So
it's just confirmation to me that I am very intuitive.
I am a person that listens to her body and
I know what's going on and I know what makes
me feel good. So it made me very very happy
to know that this exists out there, that there is
(02:11):
a chart for it, and so I wanted to share
it with you guys, because I think it's super important.
I'm going to make this episode as short and sweet
as possible because I just want to give you the
information and for you to go out in the world
and try your best to use it on a daily
basis so that you can find balance in your life.
That's what it's all about, finding balance. I always talk
(02:31):
about balance because it is so important. So with that
being said, so the aspects of being human and this
pie of life that I like to call it, it's
the physical part, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual. I would
like to recreate the pie of life the aspects of
being human in six parts. I feel like rest is
(02:52):
a very important and essential part of living and becoming
a successful best version of yourself. Rest. So in my
pie of life and the one I just invented right now,
it has all these things I just mentioned, but also
it has rest. So I wish I could show you
guys what it looks like. But basically the physical aspect,
for instance, I always tell you guys, this working out
(03:14):
sweating on a daily basis is very very important. This
is stuff that you guys are going to do as
an individual. So what my therapist said was, I need
you guys to work and to strengthen yourself as an
individual so that you guys can come together in Medio
and I and have a good partnership. It's all about
strengthening yourself as an individual. So this is for you
(03:35):
as a person, okay, and then you put it into
your relationship and so on and so forth. So physical aspect.
The physical aspect is working out, is sweating, is taking
the time to exercise your body, to move your body
as much as possible. I try to do three to
five times a week. Sometimes I don't even do one
because I'm so busy or I'm just so exhausted. But
(03:55):
I then feel the difference when I don't work out,
because yes, I want to look better, I want to
lose weight, but also it makes me feel better mentally physically, emotionally,
you're releasing endorphins, You're releasing toxins when you sweat. So
physical activity is very important, at least twenty minutes a day,
twenty to thirty forty five minutes. It's important and essential
(04:17):
for the balance, emotional balance more than anything. Then you
have the emotional aspect. What is that that is I
would say going to therapy, you know what I mean,
Doing something that is connecting you to your emotions, not
ignoring your emotions. A lot of people want to go
through life and ignore I'm feeling this, I'm feeling that
(04:38):
I'm sad. Some people don't even want to say the
word depressed or anxiety because that's a sign of quote
unquote weakness. But that's not the truth. That is absolutely false.
If you can't afford therapy, then it's reading a book,
it's being connected in some way with your emotions, expressing
to a friend, you know what I mean, Like releasing yourself,
(05:00):
releasing these emotions and not holding them inside. That's a
huge part of your mental health and your emotional health
by releasing and expressing your emotions. Okay. Spirituality it's another one. Praying, meditating,
whatever that means to you. Going to church, Catholic, Christian,
whatever church and religion you go to, is just having faith,
(05:22):
being connected on a daily basis. Spirituality is important. Spirituality okay,
So again this is stuff that we should try to
do every day. Okay, So we have the physical, emotional,
and spiritual. I'm not saying to go to therapy every
single day. What I'm saying is being connected with your emotions,
like tapping in with yourself is what I mean. Tapping in, Hey,
(05:43):
how do I feel today? I'm feeling this? Okay, cool,
I'm gonna put this to the side. I'm gonna focus
on this, but it's like tapping in with yourself and
then spirituality. I always say, start your day connecting to
the higher power, having faith. Social that's another thing, having
some type of social life. This is where the balance
comes in, where it's yes, you gotta work hard, but
(06:05):
also you have to balance your life with having being
connected socially with either a friend or your family or whatever.
Having that part of your life like saying, Okay, I
work Monday through Friday and then on the weekends, I'm
gonna spend time with my loved ones. I'm gonna go
see my mom, I'm gonna go whatever. It's having that
social aspect of your life, especially in a relationship you guys,
(06:26):
because that was a huge one because I'm more social
than Emilio is. I'm more of like, oh, I have
dinner with my friends. I plan that I thrive on
connecting with my friends, on having connections. That's where the
social part comes in. Emilio is not as social as
I am, and the therapist was saying, you know, you
really need to tap into your social like if she
goes out with her friends, it's okay for you to
go out with your friends. That's all healthy, you know
(06:47):
what I mean, Like being healthy and being our best
selves individually so that we can come back to each
other and appreciate each other even more. So then we
have intellectual reading a book, feeding your soul. I always
tell you guys, knowledge is power. Knowledge is power. That
(07:11):
can also mean taking courses on your craft, you know,
learning more about your craft or your job or whatever,
or even something that you want to learn in the future,
even if you have a job wherever. It may be
a nine to five, but at night you're like, Okay,
I'm going to take a little online course or I'm
going to read a book on something I'm interested in.
I don't know, like it could be anything, you know
what I mean. It's really tapping into being intentional with
(07:36):
you know, learning and growing and feeding your mind. You know.
That's something that I will admit I used to do
a lot more was reading books at night instead of
watching TV. I would read a book and Emilia and
I want to start that again. It's crazy because we're
doing couples therapy with my therapist that I see like
on my own and then her husband. They have like
(07:57):
this whole thing where they do couples therapy like restoring
relations and stuff, so it's premarital. I think it's super important,
you guys know. I'm a huge advocate for that. So
it's crazy because I've learned so much with her as
an individual individually like therapy, and now I'm learning so
much more now that it's like all of us in
one room. It's four of us, and we talk about
so many things and they share so many things. So
(08:17):
I had forgotten that side of myself, Like I'll read
like when I'm on an airplane and stuff like that.
Like I love to read, but before I used to
read so much more. Like when they say kids read
at least half an hour a day, like adults do
it too. We need to not forget to read books,
you guys, Like, it is so important to feed our
mind instead of just watching TV at night. The last
thing we should do is read something and not just
(08:39):
be on social media and look at all this other stuff.
It's read and like, really try to feed your mind
and your soul, you know. So those are the five right,
It's physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and intellectual. And I like
to add rest. That's something that I learned in twenty eighteen.
The importance of rest. Yes, you can work hard, but
(09:02):
you should also rest. Know what that is. I come
from a background with my family that it's the harder
you work, the more valuable you are, the cooler you are.
It's you gotta work, work, work, work, work, like to
the bone, and f vacations and f this and f that.
Like I don't know. With me, I feel like it changed.
(09:23):
Even my mom was like that. My mom was like,
I'm gonna wake up at five. She wouldn't really rest.
She would work till really late, and then again same thing.
And we would go on vacations and she didn't know
how to just turn off. And sometimes I find myself
doing that. And the one that brings me back is
in medio is like, hey, like put your phone down
for a second, like be present. And I'm like, oh shit,
you're right because I'm a hippie. You know, Jane's a hippie.
(09:43):
You guys. When it comes to Cheeky, Cheeky's is more
of like work work, like I gotta do videos, I
gotta do this. But like sometimes I feel like Cheeky's
will get into Janey's mind. You know, I know this
sounds weird, but it's the truth. I have to remind
myself and bring myself back. So I'm really grateful that
a media reminds me of that. And I I want
to remind you guys and let you guys know that
it is okay to just rest, even if you don't
(10:05):
go on a vacation. For you just to say I'm
not doing anything but going to church on Sunday and
relaxing at home and just taking time to recharge my batteries.
That is also a part of my job now. It
is an essential part of my job. For me. It's
like now I'm starting to unwind. It's the end of
the year, Like I want to unwind. I want to
work less, but the days that I work make them
(10:26):
count because I want to prepare myself for the new
year that's coming. So a lot of people don't understand that.
It's kind of like, well, you got to work, work, work.
It's like, yes, like don't lose a momentum. Yes, I
don't want to lose a momentum. But I also in
order to have momentum in order for me to be
my best self, I need to slow my freaking breaks.
You know, I need to wait, pop my breaks, let
me enjoy the moment, let me enjoy my home, Let
(10:49):
me get myself aligned again in order to give you
my best. So some people don't understand that. People that
I work with and I think slowly, I always tell
them like, hey, you need to rest, like turn off
your phone. Don't answer me like it's okay, Like take
a weekend, go hang out with your family, because that
is so important, you guys. So I've learned that yes,
(11:10):
it's good to work hard and to be a hustler, absolutely,
but also to enjoy your life and what you work
so hard for. So now my motto is I want
to work smarter, not harder. And I grew up learning
work as hard as you can to the bone because
that is what people respect. And yes, I respect that,
(11:31):
but I also don't want to miss everything else, like
my family. And like when they say stop and smell
the roses, you guys, really like it's like, wait, take
a moment. You're busy, busy, busy on your phone, working
work and working, but wait, stop, put your phone down
and look at the sky and literally smell the roses.
Stop and just admire what's around you. It's all about balance.
(11:52):
And that's what this episode is all about. It's finding
the balance in your life and doing a little bit
of this, a little bit of that in order for
you to feel that's how you're going to feel whole.
Then it's going to take time, you guys. It's not
something that's going to happen from one day to another.
It takes practice, it takes you. Being intentional. That's another
word that I love on the podcast. It's being intentional
doing things with intent for you. It's like not just
(12:15):
by accident or by chance. No, it's I choose to
do this. I choose to want to do this, you
know what I mean. It's choosing. It's being intentional. Going
back to the pie of life that I like to
call it, Emilia and I. He has one and I
(12:35):
have one. It's the same one, but they gave us
one each. And I think it's super important. Even if
you don't have someone in your life right now, I
think it's good to get yourself ready for that person,
for you to become the person that you want to attract.
And this is a huge part of it. It's having
all these pieces that are essential in order for you
(12:55):
to have the best future. By yourself and with someone else.
Not feeling like you need someone else to come and
complete this pie. You complete it yourself, and then that
person that comes into your life is just what my
mom used to call it dessert, you know what I mean,
Like you have your full course meal, which is what
all these things that I just mentioned, and the person
(13:15):
that comes into your life is hopefully also whole in
these things, which is why it's important for Amilia and
I to really just be as healthy as we possibly
can individually by ourselves, so that that way we can
be our best selves together for each other. And I
think that if you can do this, a little bit
of it every day would be great, if not throughout
(13:37):
the week. There's seven days in a week, so it's
just really figuring out what works best for you and
trying to do a little bit of it every day,
if not throughout the seven days of the week that
makes sense, and making the seventh day your rest day,
you know what I mean, where it's like I'm gonna rest,
I'm gonna detox whatever however it looks. It's not right
or wrong. It's whatever works best for your lifestyle, for
(13:59):
your job, but always keeping in mind, Okay, I'm feeling
a little and easy. I'm feeling I have a little anxiety,
maybe jumping on the treadmill. You haven't done that for
a few days, Try doing that. Like that happened to me,
you guys, Like I was so busy, I've been so
busy for the past like two months, that I felt
like I was becoming a little lazy with my meditation,
you know, not waking up early enough to really do
(14:20):
my meditation the way I like. And it was I
felt very imbalanced, and I started feeling very irritable, like
very overwhelmed. And when I have my shit together, when
I'm doing all these things that I just mentioned as
often as I possibly can, I feel aligned. I feel
like I am connected to the earth and to the sky,
to the heavens, you know. And that's what it's about.
It's like really being grounded and grounding yourself and praying
(14:46):
and being spiritually connected, and you just feel better in
every single way. And when I do this and I
follow this the aspects of being human, I feel balanced,
and I feel happier, and I feel more joyful, more hopeful.
And I'm telling you and I'm sharing this because it's
also something that I want to this episode, I want
to also listen back to and remind myself. And hopefully
(15:09):
while I'm reminding myself, I'm helping some of you guys
as well. So if you are feeling antsy, irritable, overwhelmed, stressed, depressed,
really try to implement these things that I just told you,
which is physical, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual and adding
rest the social part. I think it's also some people
(15:29):
are very introverted and they don't really want to go
out or really don't feel comfortable. It gives them anxiety.
But it's just really stepping out of your comfort zone
and saying, you know what, I'm going to try something different.
Maybe it don't make me feel good, little by little,
taking baby steps. It doesn't have to be something like,
oh I'm going to go to a freaking concert and
I'm going to be around so many people. It's like
little by little, like start off with a cousin, going
(15:51):
out and having a coffee and just having that connection
with someone else, you know, and I'm going to find
a way. I'm going to say if I can post
it on socials, you guys, you guys could see the
pie of life, so that you guys can print it out.
You can find a way for you guys to print
it out. I have this cabinet that I open every
day and that's where I have all my spiritual stuff
(16:11):
and my books and everything that I do, like my
morning meditation, morning routine thing, and I have it there.
I like to keep it there so that it reminds
me every day. I think it's a good thing for
you to place it somewhere where you could see it.
Maybe in your closet when you're getting dressed, on your mirror,
when you're doing with brushing your teeth. In a little
place you know, you can have your spiritual sanctuary, you
can have it there. Anything that'd be like, okay, cool,
(16:33):
what am I missing? I haven't really like tapped into
my spirituality. Maybe I'm gonna go to church this Sunday
or you know what, I'm feeling a little like sad.
I'm gonna call my sister. Hey, sister, I just need
to talk. Let me just express myself. If you don't
have a therapist, physical man, I haven't worked out in
a few days. You know what, I'm gonna jump on
the damn treadmill. I'm going to do twenty minutes. Little
by little, you know, oh you know, I haven't read
a book. I haven't picked up a book in a
(16:54):
long time. You know what, let me join a book club.
I don't know, you know, like start like little by little.
Just it'll help. It'll remind you. And if you're feeling
like overactive, then you need a rest. Then you need
to be like, you know what, I need to just
close out the world. Just stay home, listen to Chiggy's
and chill, or watch a Netflix and chill where you
(17:14):
could just relax and be It's very important. Get in
the bathtub. I always tell you guys, that's such an
I need to actually do that. I need to get
in the bathtub. I haven't used my bathtub in a minute.
So yes, like you know, keep it somewhere where you
can see it, and it's a reminder for you. And
again I fall off the wagon as well. I get
off track as well. It's okay, be patient and be
compassionate with yourself because life happens. There's so much going on.
(17:37):
We are being pulled in so many different directions, and
it is okay. It's always coming back and tapping into
yourself and aligning yourself and telling yourself, you know what, wait,
let me take a deep breath, let me center myself,
let me do these things that make me feel good,
and also make a list of things that make you
feel good, What makes you feel good, what makes your
soul excited to live? Write those things down and when
(17:57):
you're feeling all these things that we feel that I
feel as well, say, you know what, what makes me
feel good is going to my grandma's house. I don't know,
it could be anything. For me. I like spending time
with my nieces and nephews. I'll be like, you know what,
I need a little bit of that. This month, I'm
going to do my best to go and spend some time,
some quality time with my nieces and nephews because that
(18:19):
makes me so happy. So it's different for all of us. Anyways,
I want to make the short and sweet and hopefully
this episode can help you guys. It's something that means
a lot to me because I feel that we all
have the tools within ourselves to be happy and have
a happy life, even if we don't necessarily have everything
(18:39):
we think we need to have materialistically to be happy.
Because some people feel if I don't have a big
house or an extravagant car, or this close and that clothes,
all these material things, I will never be happy. But
that is so false, you guys. All that stuff is materialistic,
it's exterior. It's when you are balanced within yourself and
(19:01):
you're happy within yourself that you find this joy that
I can't even explain, where all those things don't even
matter anymore. You start seeing life in a different way
where you just feel like you feel whole. And in
order to feel whole, I truly believe and I feel
and I have practice. And this is just my opinion
and my advice that these things, all these things that
(19:22):
I mentioned in this episode have helped me become a
successful person, is really finding that balance. So anyways, that
is it. And I do want to leave you guys
with a motivational quote. Although this entire episode was to
motivate you. I hope here it is. Balance is not
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something you find. It is something you create. Ooh, bring
it back. Balance is not something you find, it is
something you create. We are creating ourselves every single day.
We have to be intentional, have to want to be different,
We have to choose every day to do something different
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in order to see a difference, to feel a difference.
It's tapping in to your inner authentic self and centering yourself.
So thank you for listening. I hope that I was
able to help. I love you guys so much. You
guys are definitely a very happy part of my life.
I love doing my podcast. I love listening to you
guys on Dear Cheeky's as well. You have no idea.
(20:28):
I'm just grateful. And even when I'm having a bad
day and I'm feeling overwhelmed and I do my podcast,
I feel so much better. So you guys, thank you. Anyways,
I love you guys. Have a beautiful rest of your week.
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I like to call it the Pie of life. I
just started couple's therapy and it's helped me a lot,
because this is what helps us as individuals become our
best selves. Those are the five physical, emotional, social, spiritual,
and intellectual. And I like to add rest. That's something
that I learned in twenty eighteen, the importance of rest.
(00:23):
Even if you don't have someone in your life right now,
I think it's good to get yourself ready for that person,
for you to become the person that you want to attract.
What up, guys, Happy Monday to everyone listening to the
podcast on a Monday. I hope you all had a
(00:43):
really safe and fun Halloween. I definitely did. I had
a great time, and I'm looking forward to the next
big holiday, Thanksgiving, my favorite holiday. So I'm so excited
to spend some quality time with the people who matter
the most to me. Anyway, on today's episode, we're going
to be talking about something I learned about in therapy.
It's called the Pie of a life. That's what I
call it. It's really the aspects of being human. I
(01:06):
thought it'd be really interesting and it's helped me a lot,
so I wanted to share it with you, guys, So
let's get into it. This is Cheeky's and chill, Okay,
So I like to call it the Pie of Life,
but it is really aspects of being human. They gave
(01:26):
me this chart or this It literally looks like a
pie and it's sliced in five pieces and I'll explain
to you what each section is. I just started a
couple's therapy with a medium and it's really helped me.
It's helped me a lot because this is what helps
us as individuals become our best selves. And it's crazy
(01:48):
because before knowing about this Pie of life or this
aspects of being human, I was already doing it. So
it's just confirmation to me that I am very intuitive.
I am a person that listens to her body and
I know what's going on and I know what makes
me feel good. So it made me very very happy
to know that this exists out there, that there is
(02:11):
a chart for it, and so I wanted to share
it with you guys, because I think it's super important.
I'm going to make this episode as short and sweet
as possible because I just want to give you the
information and for you to go out in the world
and try your best to use it on a daily
basis so that you can find balance in your life.
That's what it's all about, finding balance. I always talk
(02:31):
about balance because it is so important. So with that
being said, so the aspects of being human and this
pie of life that I like to call it, it's
the physical part, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual. I would
like to recreate the pie of life the aspects of
being human in six parts. I feel like rest is
(02:52):
a very important and essential part of living and becoming
a successful best version of yourself. Rest. So in my
pie of life and the one I just invented right now,
it has all these things I just mentioned, but also
it has rest. So I wish I could show you
guys what it looks like. But basically the physical aspect,
for instance, I always tell you guys, this working out
(03:14):
sweating on a daily basis is very very important. This
is stuff that you guys are going to do as
an individual. So what my therapist said was, I need
you guys to work and to strengthen yourself as an
individual so that you guys can come together in Medio
and I and have a good partnership. It's all about
strengthening yourself as an individual. So this is for you
(03:35):
as a person, okay, and then you put it into
your relationship and so on and so forth. So physical aspect.
The physical aspect is working out, is sweating, is taking
the time to exercise your body, to move your body
as much as possible. I try to do three to
five times a week. Sometimes I don't even do one
because I'm so busy or I'm just so exhausted. But
(03:55):
I then feel the difference when I don't work out,
because yes, I want to look better, I want to
lose weight, but also it makes me feel better mentally physically, emotionally,
you're releasing endorphins, You're releasing toxins when you sweat. So
physical activity is very important, at least twenty minutes a day,
twenty to thirty forty five minutes. It's important and essential
(04:17):
for the balance, emotional balance more than anything. Then you
have the emotional aspect. What is that that is I
would say going to therapy, you know what I mean,
Doing something that is connecting you to your emotions, not
ignoring your emotions. A lot of people want to go
through life and ignore I'm feeling this, I'm feeling that
(04:38):
I'm sad. Some people don't even want to say the
word depressed or anxiety because that's a sign of quote
unquote weakness. But that's not the truth. That is absolutely false.
If you can't afford therapy, then it's reading a book,
it's being connected in some way with your emotions, expressing
to a friend, you know what I mean, Like releasing yourself,
(05:00):
releasing these emotions and not holding them inside. That's a
huge part of your mental health and your emotional health
by releasing and expressing your emotions. Okay. Spirituality it's another one. Praying, meditating,
whatever that means to you. Going to church, Catholic, Christian,
whatever church and religion you go to, is just having faith,
(05:22):
being connected on a daily basis. Spirituality is important. Spirituality okay,
So again this is stuff that we should try to
do every day. Okay, So we have the physical, emotional,
and spiritual. I'm not saying to go to therapy every
single day. What I'm saying is being connected with your emotions,
like tapping in with yourself is what I mean. Tapping in, Hey,
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how do I feel today? I'm feeling this? Okay, cool,
I'm gonna put this to the side. I'm gonna focus
on this, but it's like tapping in with yourself and
then spirituality. I always say, start your day connecting to
the higher power, having faith. Social that's another thing, having
some type of social life. This is where the balance
comes in, where it's yes, you gotta work hard, but
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also you have to balance your life with having being
connected socially with either a friend or your family or whatever.
Having that part of your life like saying, Okay, I
work Monday through Friday and then on the weekends, I'm
gonna spend time with my loved ones. I'm gonna go
see my mom, I'm gonna go whatever. It's having that
social aspect of your life, especially in a relationship you guys,
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because that was a huge one because I'm more social
than Emilio is. I'm more of like, oh, I have
dinner with my friends. I plan that I thrive on
connecting with my friends, on having connections. That's where the
social part comes in. Emilio is not as social as
I am, and the therapist was saying, you know, you
really need to tap into your social like if she
goes out with her friends, it's okay for you to
go out with your friends. That's all healthy, you know
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what I mean, Like being healthy and being our best
selves individually so that we can come back to each
other and appreciate each other even more. So then we
have intellectual reading a book, feeding your soul. I always
tell you guys, knowledge is power. Knowledge is power. That
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can also mean taking courses on your craft, you know,
learning more about your craft or your job or whatever,
or even something that you want to learn in the future,
even if you have a job wherever. It may be
a nine to five, but at night you're like, Okay,
I'm going to take a little online course or I'm
going to read a book on something I'm interested in.
I don't know, like it could be anything, you know
what I mean. It's really tapping into being intentional with
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you know, learning and growing and feeding your mind. You know.
That's something that I will admit I used to do
a lot more was reading books at night instead of
watching TV. I would read a book and Emilia and
I want to start that again. It's crazy because we're
doing couples therapy with my therapist that I see like
on my own and then her husband. They have like
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this whole thing where they do couples therapy like restoring
relations and stuff, so it's premarital. I think it's super important,
you guys know. I'm a huge advocate for that. So
it's crazy because I've learned so much with her as
an individual individually like therapy, and now I'm learning so
much more now that it's like all of us in
one room. It's four of us, and we talk about
so many things and they share so many things. So
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I had forgotten that side of myself, Like I'll read
like when I'm on an airplane and stuff like that.
Like I love to read, but before I used to
read so much more. Like when they say kids read
at least half an hour a day, like adults do
it too. We need to not forget to read books,
you guys, Like, it is so important to feed our
mind instead of just watching TV at night. The last
thing we should do is read something and not just
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be on social media and look at all this other stuff.
It's read and like, really try to feed your mind
and your soul, you know. So those are the five right,
It's physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and intellectual. And I like
to add rest. That's something that I learned in twenty eighteen.
The importance of rest. Yes, you can work hard, but
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you should also rest. Know what that is. I come
from a background with my family that it's the harder
you work, the more valuable you are, the cooler you are.
It's you gotta work, work, work, work, work, like to
the bone, and f vacations and f this and f that.
Like I don't know. With me, I feel like it changed.
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Even my mom was like that. My mom was like,
I'm gonna wake up at five. She wouldn't really rest.
She would work till really late, and then again same thing.
And we would go on vacations and she didn't know
how to just turn off. And sometimes I find myself
doing that. And the one that brings me back is
in medio is like, hey, like put your phone down
for a second, like be present. And I'm like, oh shit,
you're right because I'm a hippie. You know, Jane's a hippie.
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You guys. When it comes to Cheeky, Cheeky's is more
of like work work, like I gotta do videos, I
gotta do this. But like sometimes I feel like Cheeky's
will get into Janey's mind. You know, I know this
sounds weird, but it's the truth. I have to remind
myself and bring myself back. So I'm really grateful that
a media reminds me of that. And I I want
to remind you guys and let you guys know that
it is okay to just rest, even if you don't
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go on a vacation. For you just to say I'm
not doing anything but going to church on Sunday and
relaxing at home and just taking time to recharge my batteries.
That is also a part of my job now. It
is an essential part of my job. For me. It's
like now I'm starting to unwind. It's the end of
the year, Like I want to unwind. I want to
work less, but the days that I work make them
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count because I want to prepare myself for the new
year that's coming. So a lot of people don't understand that.
It's kind of like, well, you got to work, work, work.
It's like, yes, like don't lose a momentum. Yes, I
don't want to lose a momentum. But I also in
order to have momentum in order for me to be
my best self, I need to slow my freaking breaks.
You know, I need to wait, pop my breaks, let
me enjoy the moment, let me enjoy my home, Let
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me get myself aligned again in order to give you
my best. So some people don't understand that. People that
I work with and I think slowly, I always tell
them like, hey, you need to rest, like turn off
your phone. Don't answer me like it's okay, Like take
a weekend, go hang out with your family, because that
is so important, you guys. So I've learned that yes,
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it's good to work hard and to be a hustler, absolutely,
but also to enjoy your life and what you work
so hard for. So now my motto is I want
to work smarter, not harder. And I grew up learning
work as hard as you can to the bone because
that is what people respect. And yes, I respect that,
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but I also don't want to miss everything else, like
my family. And like when they say stop and smell
the roses, you guys, really like it's like, wait, take
a moment. You're busy, busy, busy on your phone, working
work and working, but wait, stop, put your phone down
and look at the sky and literally smell the roses.
Stop and just admire what's around you. It's all about balance.
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And that's what this episode is all about. It's finding
the balance in your life and doing a little bit
of this, a little bit of that in order for
you to feel that's how you're going to feel whole.
Then it's going to take time, you guys. It's not
something that's going to happen from one day to another.
It takes practice, it takes you. Being intentional. That's another
word that I love on the podcast. It's being intentional
doing things with intent for you. It's like not just
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by accident or by chance. No, it's I choose to
do this. I choose to want to do this, you
know what I mean. It's choosing. It's being intentional. Going
back to the pie of life that I like to
call it, Emilia and I. He has one and I
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have one. It's the same one, but they gave us
one each. And I think it's super important. Even if
you don't have someone in your life right now, I
think it's good to get yourself ready for that person,
for you to become the person that you want to attract.
And this is a huge part of it. It's having
all these pieces that are essential in order for you
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to have the best future. By yourself and with someone else.
Not feeling like you need someone else to come and
complete this pie. You complete it yourself, and then that
person that comes into your life is just what my
mom used to call it dessert, you know what I mean,
Like you have your full course meal, which is what
all these things that I just mentioned, and the person
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that comes into your life is hopefully also whole in
these things, which is why it's important for Amilia and
I to really just be as healthy as we possibly
can individually by ourselves, so that that way we can
be our best selves together for each other. And I
think that if you can do this, a little bit
of it every day would be great, if not throughout
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the week. There's seven days in a week, so it's
just really figuring out what works best for you and
trying to do a little bit of it every day,
if not throughout the seven days of the week that
makes sense, and making the seventh day your rest day,
you know what I mean, where it's like I'm gonna rest,
I'm gonna detox whatever however it looks. It's not right
or wrong. It's whatever works best for your lifestyle, for
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your job, but always keeping in mind, Okay, I'm feeling
a little and easy. I'm feeling I have a little anxiety,
maybe jumping on the treadmill. You haven't done that for
a few days, Try doing that. Like that happened to me,
you guys, Like I was so busy, I've been so
busy for the past like two months, that I felt
like I was becoming a little lazy with my meditation,
you know, not waking up early enough to really do
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my meditation the way I like. And it was I
felt very imbalanced, and I started feeling very irritable, like
very overwhelmed. And when I have my shit together, when
I'm doing all these things that I just mentioned as
often as I possibly can, I feel aligned. I feel
like I am connected to the earth and to the sky,
to the heavens, you know. And that's what it's about.
It's like really being grounded and grounding yourself and praying
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and being spiritually connected, and you just feel better in
every single way. And when I do this and I
follow this the aspects of being human, I feel balanced,
and I feel happier, and I feel more joyful, more hopeful.
And I'm telling you and I'm sharing this because it's
also something that I want to this episode, I want
to also listen back to and remind myself. And hopefully
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while I'm reminding myself, I'm helping some of you guys
as well. So if you are feeling antsy, irritable, overwhelmed, stressed, depressed,
really try to implement these things that I just told you,
which is physical, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual and adding
rest the social part. I think it's also some people
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are very introverted and they don't really want to go
out or really don't feel comfortable. It gives them anxiety.
But it's just really stepping out of your comfort zone
and saying, you know what, I'm going to try something different.
Maybe it don't make me feel good, little by little,
taking baby steps. It doesn't have to be something like,
oh I'm going to go to a freaking concert and
I'm going to be around so many people. It's like
little by little, like start off with a cousin, going
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out and having a coffee and just having that connection
with someone else, you know, and I'm going to find
a way. I'm going to say if I can post
it on socials, you guys, you guys could see the
pie of life, so that you guys can print it out.
You can find a way for you guys to print
it out. I have this cabinet that I open every
day and that's where I have all my spiritual stuff
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and my books and everything that I do, like my
morning meditation, morning routine thing, and I have it there.
I like to keep it there so that it reminds
me every day. I think it's a good thing for
you to place it somewhere where you could see it.
Maybe in your closet when you're getting dressed, on your mirror,
when you're doing with brushing your teeth. In a little
place you know, you can have your spiritual sanctuary, you
can have it there. Anything that'd be like, okay, cool,
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what am I missing? I haven't really like tapped into
my spirituality. Maybe I'm gonna go to church this Sunday
or you know what, I'm feeling a little like sad.
I'm gonna call my sister. Hey, sister, I just need
to talk. Let me just express myself. If you don't
have a therapist, physical man, I haven't worked out in
a few days. You know what, I'm gonna jump on
the damn treadmill. I'm going to do twenty minutes. Little
by little, you know, oh you know, I haven't read
a book. I haven't picked up a book in a
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long time. You know what, let me join a book club.
I don't know, you know, like start like little by little.
Just it'll help. It'll remind you. And if you're feeling
like overactive, then you need a rest. Then you need
to be like, you know what, I need to just
close out the world. Just stay home, listen to Chiggy's
and chill, or watch a Netflix and chill where you
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could just relax and be It's very important. Get in
the bathtub. I always tell you guys, that's such an
I need to actually do that. I need to get
in the bathtub. I haven't used my bathtub in a minute.
So yes, like you know, keep it somewhere where you
can see it, and it's a reminder for you. And
again I fall off the wagon as well. I get
off track as well. It's okay, be patient and be
compassionate with yourself because life happens. There's so much going on.
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We are being pulled in so many different directions, and
it is okay. It's always coming back and tapping into
yourself and aligning yourself and telling yourself, you know what, wait,
let me take a deep breath, let me center myself,
let me do these things that make me feel good,
and also make a list of things that make you
feel good, What makes you feel good, what makes your
soul excited to live? Write those things down and when
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you're feeling all these things that we feel that I
feel as well, say, you know what, what makes me
feel good is going to my grandma's house. I don't know,
it could be anything. For me. I like spending time
with my nieces and nephews. I'll be like, you know what,
I need a little bit of that. This month, I'm
going to do my best to go and spend some time,
some quality time with my nieces and nephews because that
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makes me so happy. So it's different for all of us. Anyways,
I want to make the short and sweet and hopefully
this episode can help you guys. It's something that means
a lot to me because I feel that we all
have the tools within ourselves to be happy and have
a happy life, even if we don't necessarily have everything
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we think we need to have materialistically to be happy.
Because some people feel if I don't have a big
house or an extravagant car, or this close and that clothes,
all these material things, I will never be happy. But
that is so false, you guys. All that stuff is materialistic,
it's exterior. It's when you are balanced within yourself and
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you're happy within yourself that you find this joy that
I can't even explain, where all those things don't even
matter anymore. You start seeing life in a different way
where you just feel like you feel whole. And in
order to feel whole, I truly believe and I feel
and I have practice. And this is just my opinion
and my advice that these things, all these things that
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I mentioned in this episode have helped me become a
successful person, is really finding that balance. So anyways, that
is it. And I do want to leave you guys
with a motivational quote. Although this entire episode was to
motivate you. I hope here it is. Balance is not
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something you find. It is something you create. Ooh, bring
it back. Balance is not something you find, it is
something you create. We are creating ourselves every single day.
We have to be intentional, have to want to be different,
We have to choose every day to do something different
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in order to see a difference, to feel a difference.
It's tapping in to your inner authentic self and centering yourself.
So thank you for listening. I hope that I was
able to help. I love you guys so much. You
guys are definitely a very happy part of my life.
I love doing my podcast. I love listening to you
guys on Dear Cheeky's as well. You have no idea.
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I'm just grateful. And even when I'm having a bad
day and I'm feeling overwhelmed and I do my podcast,
I feel so much better. So you guys, thank you. Anyways,
I love you guys. Have a beautiful rest of your week.
Kick ass, and I'm sending you a big kiss. Okay,
love you guys. Do you need advice on love, relationships,
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health emails. I'm so excited to share with you that
my Cheekys and Chill podcast will have an extra episode
drop each week. I'll be answering all your questions. Just
leave me a voice message first day. All you have
to do is go to speak pipe dot com slash
Cheeky's and Chill podcast and record your questions. I can't
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