May 28, 2025 • 12 mins
Thank you all for sending in such good questions for this episode of Dear Chiquis! This week, Kree is having trouble maintaining friendships and needs my advice on how to make them last; Josue wants to know which of my songs I identify with most; and Isarah says she recently tried buying some of my shapewear but couldn't find my website -- I explain why I had to quietly close the company.
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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having
issues with your family, or maybe you have a question
about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want
to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in
(00:39):
my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue
or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
beeB, Hi Teeky's. I wanted to ask a question about friendships.
I am going into my late thirties and I actually
don't really have a lot of women friends at all,
and I want to know how do you cultivate friendships
(01:14):
and keep them for years. I kind of find myself
befriending people and then after maybe about a good six months,
it's like we drift apart, and I'm just not understanding how.
(01:34):
I'm a stay at home mom, I'm a married woman,
and you know, it's very hard to find friendships. But
I wanted to know what you thought, and just wanted
to let you know that I do love all of
your music, all of your work. I love your mom,
your family. I am just so proud of you and
(01:58):
everything that you have. A scomplished and congratulations on your
marriage and on your future endeavors. Kre.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
You are so sweet. Thank you so much for that.
I really appreciate it, and thank you for listening, and
thank you for your question. I do have very few
friends now. I think once we get older, I really
do feel that our circle gets smaller. So I think
(02:30):
that's normal, at least for me. I do have a
friend that is, you know, a little older than me,
and she has a lot of friends. She's like social butterfly.
I'm more introverted. I'd prefer to stay home when I
have the choice. But anyway, get into your question. I
think you might be the type of woman that gets
along more with meles and that's okay. You are married,
(02:51):
so if your husband's okay with it, then I mean,
why not, you know, but it might also be that
you are looking for friends that are necessarily on your
same page. Are these friends married and also have husbands.
I've noticed that now that I'm married, I hang out more. Actually, no,
(03:17):
my best friend is you know, doesn't have a boyfriend
right now and has children and stuff. So I don't know.
That's actually a great question. You got me on this one.
But I do think you got to ask yourself. Is
it me, Am I the one? Yeah, I'm the one
pushing them away? Or do they just drift off on
their own? I think it's I need to have a
little more information. But I don't think you should be
(03:40):
so hard on yourself. I'd rather have two friends than
a bunch, you know, like two friends that I really
really trust. Then ten you get me like, that's a
lot of noise as well. So again, you have to
protect your inner peace, your home, your children, so they
have to be quality human beings. So maybe that's what
is happening. You're not finding quality human beings that are
(04:01):
on your same wavelength. And I think that'll come with time.
I don't know. Church is a great place to find
new friends. Do you go to church or are your
kids in like soccer or sports? You know, that's another
way as well, But that I think is just a
thing of the people that they are, or if they're
on the same page. If that makes sense, and you
(04:23):
know what create. I also think it's important to equally
put in the effort. What I love about my friendships
right now is that I don't have to speak to
my friends every single day, like we just pick up
wherever we left off. There's a friend that I don't
see for weeks and weeks and weeks I don't even
speak to her, but when I do, it's like with love,
I know that she's busy. I'm busy. There isn't any
(04:46):
room at this stage in our lives to be too
sensitive and take things too personally. And then I have
another friend that's a little bit more needy, but she's
very honest about it. So I think if you have
that friend that says, hey, I'm needy, I need you
to call me and you to respond to me like,
it's kind of like I also tell her, hey, girl,
I'm busy. I can't respond all the time, but I
will do my part in calling you more, because she's
(05:09):
more of pick up the phone and call me instead
of sending voice notes because I'm the queen of voice notes,
and I'm like, okay, cool. I love and value this friendship,
so I'm going to do my part. I'm going to
try calling at least once a week or once a month,
and she's happy with that because she sees my effort.
I think she appreciates it because the other day she
told me she says that as long as I see
(05:30):
your effort and that you're trying, even if it's something
you're not used to, it makes me love you more.
So I do want you to keep that in mind.
And if you do feel that the friendship is fizzling out,
I think that it's where, hey, let's communicate. I always
say this. People need to talk about things, which means
(05:51):
if you talk, you will understand the other person. So
I think it's just having that open communication and honesty
and saying, hey, is this relationship really worth this to me?
I want to make sure that I make time for
it or or not, you know, that's ultimately your choice.
So I think just keeping that in mind and not
being too sensitive and not taking things too personally. I
(06:13):
had to learn that and unlearn it, so just that's
another little thing. So I hope that makes sense. Sending
you a big hug creat thank you so much. I
hope to hear from you again. Okay, we're gonna move
on to.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
It too, fun, mutual respect. The last too, just coliatient.
It's just me consumed. It's loca in co locate, locate
joys quale is uh is a consume.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Oh menarium and Elie Case has fun. Even the mis
cancion is da is a cancion s condola ca guando
(07:16):
lascuccoendera cancionarios. You know, look represento beca manteo perrena. So
(07:41):
you guys always asking that, you know, he's a fan.
He's a fan of my mother's as well. He wanted
to know which song of mine I identify with the
most that like represents who I am and what I'm about,
and I told him Hena, and I love a lot
of my songs. I feel like, for instance, the amante
also represents me very well, and Aura because I've gone
(08:05):
through so many things, but is just very very special
to me because my boss Bees gave me that name
Queen Bee, and then we translated it to Spanish, which
is Arena, and it talks about my siblings, it talks
about my mother. It just really expresses what I'm about
and what I've had to live. And I don't know,
(08:27):
I mean, I wrote it, you know, so I love it.
It comes from my heart. So yeah, if you haven't
heard it, you guys, you guys should listen to it.
Betrouena it's better. Okay ta mando. Okay. We are going
with our last question and it comes from Isara. Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 4 (08:52):
First of all, before I want to go and asking
my question is, I just want to let you know
that you're such a beautiful, strong person. Ever like, I
honestly have been listening to your broadcast like since the beginning,
and let me tell you, I look forward every Monday
and Wednesday. But my question is what happened to your
business about the shape?
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Where?
Speaker 4 (09:13):
Like what happened to it the other day I was
trying to find and buy something. Then I'm like, oh,
I can't find it anymore. Can you please give us
some update update on that, like I need to find
I need to know.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
Well.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
I hope you're doing well and I'm wishing you a
blessed day.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Oh it Sada, thank you so much. I love that
you are a loyal listener of Dear Cheekies and Chiki's
in Chill. I appreciate it so so much. And that
is a great question, something I wasn't expecting. But well,
shape Or and Co. We quietly on the DL try
(09:53):
to just close it. Not because it didn't do well,
because the truth is that it doing amazing. It was
one of my most lucrative businesses. The partnership just was
not the right fit. And I am a person that
(10:17):
does her best to stay true to myself and not
do things for dollar signs, because when you do that,
that's when I feel you're selling your soul to the devil.
I'm sure you guys have heard that. Maybe we can
do a whole episode on that, but I just didn't
feel comfortable. We were trying to make it work and
(10:38):
it just was not working. So I thought the best
thing to do was to just part ways, as hard
as it was, because again it was a very successful
business and I love the shapewear, very great quality and everything,
but it just was not worth the heartache and the headache.
So that's what happened. Without getting too much into the details,
(10:59):
but thank you so much for your question, and I'm
so sorry.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
I know a lot of you love the shape Our
and Co. And maybe I don't know. I don't have plans,
to be honest, but maybe I'll start a new one
I don't know well right now my focus is Blantita's
my haircare and be Flawless my skincare. So but thank
you guys, Thank you all for your questions. I really
appreciate you guys leaving them and listening all the time.
(11:23):
It means so much to me. And if you have
a question about anything you guys heard it here. Could
be personal question, it could be about advice that you
need in regards to love and finances and whatever it
may be. I am here, I am willing, I am open,
and I would love to so leave your question at
speakpipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast as Proxima Bye.
(11:52):
This is a production of iHeartRadio and the micro Dura
podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael Dura Podcasts,
then follow me Cheeky's That's c h I q.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
U I s.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite podcast.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
H
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having
issues with your family, or maybe you have a question
about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want
to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in
(00:39):
my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue
or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
beeB, Hi Teeky's. I wanted to ask a question about friendships.
I am going into my late thirties and I actually
don't really have a lot of women friends at all,
and I want to know how do you cultivate friendships
(01:14):
and keep them for years. I kind of find myself
befriending people and then after maybe about a good six months,
it's like we drift apart, and I'm just not understanding how.
(01:34):
I'm a stay at home mom, I'm a married woman,
and you know, it's very hard to find friendships. But
I wanted to know what you thought, and just wanted
to let you know that I do love all of
your music, all of your work. I love your mom,
your family. I am just so proud of you and
(01:58):
everything that you have. A scomplished and congratulations on your
marriage and on your future endeavors. Kre.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
You are so sweet. Thank you so much for that.
I really appreciate it, and thank you for listening, and
thank you for your question. I do have very few
friends now. I think once we get older, I really
do feel that our circle gets smaller. So I think
(02:30):
that's normal, at least for me. I do have a
friend that is, you know, a little older than me,
and she has a lot of friends. She's like social butterfly.
I'm more introverted. I'd prefer to stay home when I
have the choice. But anyway, get into your question. I
think you might be the type of woman that gets
along more with meles and that's okay. You are married,
(02:51):
so if your husband's okay with it, then I mean,
why not, you know, but it might also be that
you are looking for friends that are necessarily on your
same page. Are these friends married and also have husbands.
I've noticed that now that I'm married, I hang out more. Actually, no,
(03:17):
my best friend is you know, doesn't have a boyfriend
right now and has children and stuff. So I don't know.
That's actually a great question. You got me on this one.
But I do think you got to ask yourself. Is
it me, Am I the one? Yeah, I'm the one
pushing them away? Or do they just drift off on
their own? I think it's I need to have a
little more information. But I don't think you should be
(03:40):
so hard on yourself. I'd rather have two friends than
a bunch, you know, like two friends that I really
really trust. Then ten you get me like, that's a
lot of noise as well. So again, you have to
protect your inner peace, your home, your children, so they
have to be quality human beings. So maybe that's what
is happening. You're not finding quality human beings that are
(04:01):
on your same wavelength. And I think that'll come with time.
I don't know. Church is a great place to find
new friends. Do you go to church or are your
kids in like soccer or sports? You know, that's another
way as well, But that I think is just a
thing of the people that they are, or if they're
on the same page. If that makes sense, and you
(04:23):
know what create. I also think it's important to equally
put in the effort. What I love about my friendships
right now is that I don't have to speak to
my friends every single day, like we just pick up
wherever we left off. There's a friend that I don't
see for weeks and weeks and weeks I don't even
speak to her, but when I do, it's like with love,
I know that she's busy. I'm busy. There isn't any
(04:46):
room at this stage in our lives to be too
sensitive and take things too personally. And then I have
another friend that's a little bit more needy, but she's
very honest about it. So I think if you have
that friend that says, hey, I'm needy, I need you
to call me and you to respond to me like,
it's kind of like I also tell her, hey, girl,
I'm busy. I can't respond all the time, but I
will do my part in calling you more, because she's
(05:09):
more of pick up the phone and call me instead
of sending voice notes because I'm the queen of voice notes,
and I'm like, okay, cool. I love and value this friendship,
so I'm going to do my part. I'm going to
try calling at least once a week or once a month,
and she's happy with that because she sees my effort.
I think she appreciates it because the other day she
told me she says that as long as I see
(05:30):
your effort and that you're trying, even if it's something
you're not used to, it makes me love you more.
So I do want you to keep that in mind.
And if you do feel that the friendship is fizzling out,
I think that it's where, hey, let's communicate. I always
say this. People need to talk about things, which means
(05:51):
if you talk, you will understand the other person. So
I think it's just having that open communication and honesty
and saying, hey, is this relationship really worth this to me?
I want to make sure that I make time for
it or or not, you know, that's ultimately your choice.
So I think just keeping that in mind and not
being too sensitive and not taking things too personally. I
(06:13):
had to learn that and unlearn it, so just that's
another little thing. So I hope that makes sense. Sending
you a big hug creat thank you so much. I
hope to hear from you again. Okay, we're gonna move
on to.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
It too, fun, mutual respect. The last too, just coliatient.
It's just me consumed. It's loca in co locate, locate
joys quale is uh is a consume.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Oh menarium and Elie Case has fun. Even the mis
cancion is da is a cancion s condola ca guando
(07:16):
lascuccoendera cancionarios. You know, look represento beca manteo perrena. So
(07:41):
you guys always asking that, you know, he's a fan.
He's a fan of my mother's as well. He wanted
to know which song of mine I identify with the
most that like represents who I am and what I'm about,
and I told him Hena, and I love a lot
of my songs. I feel like, for instance, the amante
also represents me very well, and Aura because I've gone
(08:05):
through so many things, but is just very very special
to me because my boss Bees gave me that name
Queen Bee, and then we translated it to Spanish, which
is Arena, and it talks about my siblings, it talks
about my mother. It just really expresses what I'm about
and what I've had to live. And I don't know,
(08:27):
I mean, I wrote it, you know, so I love it.
It comes from my heart. So yeah, if you haven't
heard it, you guys, you guys should listen to it.
Betrouena it's better. Okay ta mando. Okay. We are going
with our last question and it comes from Isara. Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 4 (08:52):
First of all, before I want to go and asking
my question is, I just want to let you know
that you're such a beautiful, strong person. Ever like, I
honestly have been listening to your broadcast like since the beginning,
and let me tell you, I look forward every Monday
and Wednesday. But my question is what happened to your
business about the shape?
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Where?
Speaker 4 (09:13):
Like what happened to it the other day I was
trying to find and buy something. Then I'm like, oh,
I can't find it anymore. Can you please give us
some update update on that, like I need to find
I need to know.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
Well.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
I hope you're doing well and I'm wishing you a
blessed day.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Oh it Sada, thank you so much. I love that
you are a loyal listener of Dear Cheekies and Chiki's
in Chill. I appreciate it so so much. And that
is a great question, something I wasn't expecting. But well,
shape Or and Co. We quietly on the DL try
(09:53):
to just close it. Not because it didn't do well,
because the truth is that it doing amazing. It was
one of my most lucrative businesses. The partnership just was
not the right fit. And I am a person that
(10:17):
does her best to stay true to myself and not
do things for dollar signs, because when you do that,
that's when I feel you're selling your soul to the devil.
I'm sure you guys have heard that. Maybe we can
do a whole episode on that, but I just didn't
feel comfortable. We were trying to make it work and
(10:38):
it just was not working. So I thought the best
thing to do was to just part ways, as hard
as it was, because again it was a very successful
business and I love the shapewear, very great quality and everything,
but it just was not worth the heartache and the headache.
So that's what happened. Without getting too much into the details,
(10:59):
but thank you so much for your question, and I'm
so sorry.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
I know a lot of you love the shape Our
and Co. And maybe I don't know. I don't have plans,
to be honest, but maybe I'll start a new one
I don't know well right now my focus is Blantita's
my haircare and be Flawless my skincare. So but thank
you guys, Thank you all for your questions. I really
appreciate you guys leaving them and listening all the time.
(11:23):
It means so much to me. And if you have
a question about anything you guys heard it here. Could
be personal question, it could be about advice that you
need in regards to love and finances and whatever it
may be. I am here, I am willing, I am open,
and I would love to so leave your question at
speakpipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast as Proxima Bye.
(11:52):
This is a production of iHeartRadio and the micro Dura
podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael Dura Podcasts,
then follow me Cheeky's That's c h I q.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
U I s.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite podcast.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
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