May 8, 2024 • 12 mins
Welcome to a new episode of Dear Chiquis, where I answer questions from you, my lovely listeners. This week, Chelita’s relationship is stuck in a routine and she wants to know how to get out of it; Marcela is curious about what I do with my old clothes and shoes; an anonymous listener is wondering what I do to my hair and Maria asks me how I deal with people who bring up past arguments with my mom.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
What arever the cases I want to hear from you.
Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're
(00:40):
suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help
from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and
leave your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
My question is what do you do in a relationship
when you feel that you are now in an a
routine and you might love this person, however it's not
the same.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
No more straight to the point, Cilita, I like that. Okay, Look,
I don't think I've ever been in a relationship that long.
I don't know how many years you've been with your
person where I could be like, oh, you know, you
fall into a routine. I think it is important on
both ends for each person to really be intentional with
(01:25):
wanting to spice things up, with having constant conversations with
having date nights, talking, communicating with each other like Okay,
I'm missing this. I want a little bit more of this.
I think it's important to explain to your partner what
it is that you're missing. Communication solves everything, you guys,
well most of everything, not everything, or it can help
(01:46):
you discover things. You know, maybe you guys fell out
of love. Maybe there is a chance try couples therapy.
I think it's super important to have therapy. You guys know,
I love therapy as an individual and also for couples therapy,
premarital counseling, all that stuff. So I would suggest you
having a deep conversation and talking to your partner and saying, hey,
I feel like something's missing. What can we do? Can
(02:07):
we save this? Can we I don't know, spice things up,
Like there's so many different things that you guys can
do before you say let's cut this off, you know
what I mean, Like, because there's nothing worse than just
being like, okay, like we're in a routine. It's just
every day like you gotta like gotta spice it up
one way or another. So that is my advice to you.
(02:27):
Definitely communicating with your partner and both of you finding
a way to make each other happy again, you know,
because there's a reason why you, guys fell in love
in the first place, So don't forget that, all right,
So we're going to move on to our next question,
and that is from Marcella all.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
A Chiki's.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Persona m this tempo tengo pensando.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
Asses conto contoso kias is conto camp closet, quias is
c las bends last dona reglas kaiases algasi for our contest.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
All Marcella pregnda is.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Mira.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Well, guys, for those of you that don't speak Spanish,
Marcella is asking me. She says she loves my style,
that she loves like my sense of fashion. So she's
just wondering what I do with like shoes and how
I go about cleaning my closet.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Do I donate?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Do I have garage shells? She's suggesting for me to
have garage shells and stuff like that. So that is
what Marcella is asking, So I'm gonna answer her now, Okay,
Marcella h muchos garage cells h venas don ropa the
missapatos LOMASI param regular crece las bolas lomasi parasa car
(04:13):
pero amp gross those versus a lano para importante. OHI
olympr soa tea flu as calls us lesbian das lesband
and I am the real rio and misca rap simo
(04:37):
to It was loke locusta in pire alfindlano tomas s
the candles cos poco poco, you know with boy comprando
menos cosas mukaras in vitoma pato and las bols a
(04:59):
ropa a.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
A cique.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
And I just answered, Marcella, you guys. I just told
her that I've had a lot of garage shells actually,
and that I love to donate. It's a huge part
of what I love doing. At the end of the year,
I clean out my closet once or twice a year.
It's like a whole project. And what's most difficult for
me to get rid of are purses for some reason.
But I'm i this last time that I cleaned my closet,
(05:32):
I cleaned out a lot of purses and I sold
them on the real reel and they sold super quick.
And now what I'm doing so that I don't have
to like make it this huge project because it takes
like days to clean out my closet because I have
different like it's it's it's not an easy process, you guys.
I'm just like I put it on, I'm like, oh
my god, it'll fit me one day. Oh my god,
Like I remember this. I was wearing this like on
this day when this happened.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
So it's it's like a whole thing.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
So now what I'm doing is not spending so much
on clothes. I'm buying different type of clothes now and
not like that expensive clothes. I'm investing more in like
shoes and purses versus like clothes. So now like just
I'm just cleaning out my closet as I go. I'm like, okay,
I'm not gonna wear this again. I can't wear it again,
so I'm just gonna go ahead and donate it and
I'm cleaning it out little by little. So that was
(06:15):
Marcella's question and that was my response, and Marcella STANDO
me me fashion. Okay, guys, So we have a next
(06:35):
question from an anonymous listener.
Speaker 4 (06:39):
Let's see system to coverage Jose from Baby Lies. Okay, people.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
On a commistance is ra Is Crisca mas miko or
natural rubiotato rubioendo i como.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
St i note you look too and put in the clipping.
Is the clipping mass different? Melo no, yeah, Pisma.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Make riscas on como baby lights do como.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
Ja intermelos much.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Plantita's hair care loke on tes Ken, which resport to
Punta and you guys. Then and amos listener was asking
what do I do to my hair because she really
likes the color. She's asking if I do like highlights
or baby lights or low lights. So I just explained
to her that what I've been doing is just kind
(08:12):
of like letting like rocking my own hair. It's been
a little hard because I have like a little bit
of like white hairs coming out, but you know, I'm
embracing them, you know, And I'm just trying to just
use a lot of clipping extensions to make my hair
look different so that I can allow my hair to grow.
Because being under anesthesia as much as I have, you know,
the beginning of this year, it affects the growth of
your hair, and your hair starts falling out, so it's
(08:33):
like a whole thing. So I'm just like letting my
root grow and letting my hair do its things. So
it's like old color baby lights. I love baby lights,
and I just have to just accept the fact that
I can't be blonde, you know, like I just have
to like my hair doesn't do well with it. So
I'm just chilling. So that's what I was answering, and
that's what I answered. So the last question comes from Maria.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
How do you feel when people bring up the past,
the arguments between you and your mom? How do you
handle that? I am very pond of you, and I
am proud of who you have become. And I have
to say, you look one like your mom on stage.
I admire you, and I feel for you. I'm always
praying for you and your brothers and sisters.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Ah, Maria, You're so sweet.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
You're gonna make me cry. Thank you so much. Thank
you for your prayers. Thank you for praying for me
and my siblings. You have no idea how much that
means to me.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
For so many reasons.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
You know, I pray for my siblings all the time
because I feel like if my mom was here, she'd
be praying for them, and so all the prayers you
guys send me. Maria, thank you send my family, and
I appreciate it, you know what. I've learned to accept
the fact that, you know, people have an opinion. People
are going to bring up things, and I'm okay with it,
(09:55):
Like I know who I am, I know what I'm not,
and if people ask me, I'm okay with it because
I feel like I'm healed from that part of my life.
If you would have asked me this, like I don't know,
eight years ago, i'd probably answer differently. But I've gone
through a lot of therapy, a lot of healing. I've
read a lot of books. I've let go of a
(10:16):
lot of things. So now when people bring things up,
I'm like, well, I can't necessarily blame them because they
have this negative connotation of me and they've heard certain things,
and I'm like, they need to get to know me
for who I am. That I need to be able
and willing to speak about my past and that's the
only way. And this is why I have dear Cheekis
(10:36):
and this is why I have Cheeky's and chill because
I want to be able to express the things that
I've done in my life that I'm not necessarily proud of,
or things that have happened in my life that aren't
necessarily true and help people through the things that I've
been through, and talking about my past is part of that.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
It's a huge part of it. Actually.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
In order to change lives the way that I feel
I meant to change lives, I need to be willing
to talk about certain things that maybe at one time
we're very uncomfortable, but now I'm not as uncomfortable anymore
because I know who I am, you feel me, So
I really appreciate that question, and thank you so much,
and I hope that answered the question that you had.
(11:16):
And again, Maria, thank you so much. I'm sending you
a big hug and I'm also going to be praying
for you. Thank you for your love and guys. This
concludes our episode of Dear Cheeky's Again, Thank you guys
so much for your questions.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
Dear cheekis Itami and Cheeky's and.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Chill los Qiro Mucho ELO's boo. Next episode of Dear
Cheeky's See you guys next Wednesday. This is a production
of iHeartRadio and Mike wa podcast Network. Follow us on
Instagram at mike Wura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's
c h i Q Who I Ask. For more podcasts
(11:56):
from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple pod cast, or
wherever you get your favorite shows.
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
What arever the cases I want to hear from you.
Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're
(00:40):
suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help
from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and
leave your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
My question is what do you do in a relationship
when you feel that you are now in an a
routine and you might love this person, however it's not
the same.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
No more straight to the point, Cilita, I like that. Okay, Look,
I don't think I've ever been in a relationship that long.
I don't know how many years you've been with your
person where I could be like, oh, you know, you
fall into a routine. I think it is important on
both ends for each person to really be intentional with
(01:25):
wanting to spice things up, with having constant conversations with
having date nights, talking, communicating with each other like Okay,
I'm missing this. I want a little bit more of this.
I think it's important to explain to your partner what
it is that you're missing. Communication solves everything, you guys,
well most of everything, not everything, or it can help
(01:46):
you discover things. You know, maybe you guys fell out
of love. Maybe there is a chance try couples therapy.
I think it's super important to have therapy. You guys know,
I love therapy as an individual and also for couples therapy,
premarital counseling, all that stuff. So I would suggest you
having a deep conversation and talking to your partner and saying, hey,
I feel like something's missing. What can we do? Can
(02:07):
we save this? Can we I don't know, spice things up,
Like there's so many different things that you guys can
do before you say let's cut this off, you know
what I mean, Like, because there's nothing worse than just
being like, okay, like we're in a routine. It's just
every day like you gotta like gotta spice it up
one way or another. So that is my advice to you.
(02:27):
Definitely communicating with your partner and both of you finding
a way to make each other happy again, you know,
because there's a reason why you, guys fell in love
in the first place, So don't forget that, all right,
So we're going to move on to our next question,
and that is from Marcella all.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
A Chiki's.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Persona m this tempo tengo pensando.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
Asses conto contoso kias is conto camp closet, quias is
c las bends last dona reglas kaiases algasi for our contest.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
All Marcella pregnda is.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Mira.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Well, guys, for those of you that don't speak Spanish,
Marcella is asking me. She says she loves my style,
that she loves like my sense of fashion. So she's
just wondering what I do with like shoes and how
I go about cleaning my closet.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Do I donate?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Do I have garage shells? She's suggesting for me to
have garage shells and stuff like that. So that is
what Marcella is asking, So I'm gonna answer her now, Okay,
Marcella h muchos garage cells h venas don ropa the
missapatos LOMASI param regular crece las bolas lomasi parasa car
(04:13):
pero amp gross those versus a lano para importante. OHI
olympr soa tea flu as calls us lesbian das lesband
and I am the real rio and misca rap simo
(04:37):
to It was loke locusta in pire alfindlano tomas s
the candles cos poco poco, you know with boy comprando
menos cosas mukaras in vitoma pato and las bols a
(04:59):
ropa a.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
A cique.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
And I just answered, Marcella, you guys. I just told
her that I've had a lot of garage shells actually,
and that I love to donate. It's a huge part
of what I love doing. At the end of the year,
I clean out my closet once or twice a year.
It's like a whole project. And what's most difficult for
me to get rid of are purses for some reason.
But I'm i this last time that I cleaned my closet,
(05:32):
I cleaned out a lot of purses and I sold
them on the real reel and they sold super quick.
And now what I'm doing so that I don't have
to like make it this huge project because it takes
like days to clean out my closet because I have
different like it's it's it's not an easy process, you guys.
I'm just like I put it on, I'm like, oh
my god, it'll fit me one day. Oh my god,
Like I remember this. I was wearing this like on
this day when this happened.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
So it's it's like a whole thing.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
So now what I'm doing is not spending so much
on clothes. I'm buying different type of clothes now and
not like that expensive clothes. I'm investing more in like
shoes and purses versus like clothes. So now like just
I'm just cleaning out my closet as I go. I'm like, okay,
I'm not gonna wear this again. I can't wear it again,
so I'm just gonna go ahead and donate it and
I'm cleaning it out little by little. So that was
(06:15):
Marcella's question and that was my response, and Marcella STANDO
me me fashion. Okay, guys, So we have a next
(06:35):
question from an anonymous listener.
Speaker 4 (06:39):
Let's see system to coverage Jose from Baby Lies. Okay, people.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
On a commistance is ra Is Crisca mas miko or
natural rubiotato rubioendo i como.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
St i note you look too and put in the clipping.
Is the clipping mass different? Melo no, yeah, Pisma.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Make riscas on como baby lights do como.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
Ja intermelos much.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Plantita's hair care loke on tes Ken, which resport to
Punta and you guys. Then and amos listener was asking
what do I do to my hair because she really
likes the color. She's asking if I do like highlights
or baby lights or low lights. So I just explained
to her that what I've been doing is just kind
(08:12):
of like letting like rocking my own hair. It's been
a little hard because I have like a little bit
of like white hairs coming out, but you know, I'm
embracing them, you know, And I'm just trying to just
use a lot of clipping extensions to make my hair
look different so that I can allow my hair to grow.
Because being under anesthesia as much as I have, you know,
the beginning of this year, it affects the growth of
your hair, and your hair starts falling out, so it's
(08:33):
like a whole thing. So I'm just like letting my
root grow and letting my hair do its things. So
it's like old color baby lights. I love baby lights,
and I just have to just accept the fact that
I can't be blonde, you know, like I just have
to like my hair doesn't do well with it. So
I'm just chilling. So that's what I was answering, and
that's what I answered. So the last question comes from Maria.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
How do you feel when people bring up the past,
the arguments between you and your mom? How do you
handle that? I am very pond of you, and I
am proud of who you have become. And I have
to say, you look one like your mom on stage.
I admire you, and I feel for you. I'm always
praying for you and your brothers and sisters.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Ah, Maria, You're so sweet.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
You're gonna make me cry. Thank you so much. Thank
you for your prayers. Thank you for praying for me
and my siblings. You have no idea how much that
means to me.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
For so many reasons.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
You know, I pray for my siblings all the time
because I feel like if my mom was here, she'd
be praying for them, and so all the prayers you
guys send me. Maria, thank you send my family, and
I appreciate it, you know what. I've learned to accept
the fact that, you know, people have an opinion. People
are going to bring up things, and I'm okay with it,
(09:55):
Like I know who I am, I know what I'm not,
and if people ask me, I'm okay with it because
I feel like I'm healed from that part of my life.
If you would have asked me this, like I don't know,
eight years ago, i'd probably answer differently. But I've gone
through a lot of therapy, a lot of healing. I've
read a lot of books. I've let go of a
(10:16):
lot of things. So now when people bring things up,
I'm like, well, I can't necessarily blame them because they
have this negative connotation of me and they've heard certain things,
and I'm like, they need to get to know me
for who I am. That I need to be able
and willing to speak about my past and that's the
only way. And this is why I have dear Cheekis
(10:36):
and this is why I have Cheeky's and chill because
I want to be able to express the things that
I've done in my life that I'm not necessarily proud of,
or things that have happened in my life that aren't
necessarily true and help people through the things that I've
been through, and talking about my past is part of that.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
It's a huge part of it. Actually.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
In order to change lives the way that I feel
I meant to change lives, I need to be willing
to talk about certain things that maybe at one time
we're very uncomfortable, but now I'm not as uncomfortable anymore
because I know who I am, you feel me, So
I really appreciate that question, and thank you so much,
and I hope that answered the question that you had.
(11:16):
And again, Maria, thank you so much. I'm sending you
a big hug and I'm also going to be praying
for you. Thank you for your love and guys. This
concludes our episode of Dear Cheeky's Again, Thank you guys
so much for your questions.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
Dear cheekis Itami and Cheeky's and.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Chill los Qiro Mucho ELO's boo. Next episode of Dear
Cheeky's See you guys next Wednesday. This is a production
of iHeartRadio and Mike wa podcast Network. Follow us on
Instagram at mike Wura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's
c h i Q Who I Ask. For more podcasts
(11:56):
from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple pod cast, or
wherever you get your favorite shows.
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Chiquis
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