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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having
issues with your family, or maybe you have a question
about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want
to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in
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my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue
or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the beeB, Hi.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Cheeky's, I hope that you're doing well, kerporal podcast person,
so keep it up. Midas. I love him, he loves
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me Backjos. He has good qualities. He also has an ego.
Of course, it with ups and downs. The nemos ya
it was yours helps.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Ya.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
He's given me the run around, and I need to
give him an ultimatum because as a woman I need that.
Influen sayss. I don't know how to bring it up
in a way that won't hurt his ego and just
say that as a woman, I need that and plus
my daughter has asked me about it too. We're all
growing up and have different needs, so it's gonna be
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a hard thing to have to make decisions. But I'm
at that point right now.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I'm muge. Well, first of all, thank you, thank you
for listening, and thank you for saying that. My biggest
hope is that my podcast helps you all grow and
want to become the best versions of yourself, So thank
you so much for that. Look, there is absolutely nothing
wrong with you wanting to get married. Quite frankly, there
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isn't anything wrong with him not wanting to get married.
It all depends on what you're willing to do and
not willing to do. That makes sense. If you are
willing to stay with him because you want to have
your family and set an example for your children, or
whatever the case may be, stay with him but not
get married, then that's okay. And if not, that's okay too.
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What I'm saying, basically is that you need to make
the decision because, like you just said, your daughter has asked,
and I think it's a beautiful thing. Marriage is definitely
a beautiful thing, and I'm not saying it's going to
be better or worse than it is now because in
reality relationships, I've learned that it's just like you said,
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ups and downs. So don't do it because you feel
like it's going to fix something. Do it because that's
what you really truly want. I think you should talk
to him and tell him, Look, I love you, I
want to be with you for the rest of my life.
I want to set an example for my children, especially
my daughter, and as a woman, as your partner, I
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would like to get married. And you have to be
okay if he says no, are you okay with staying
or are you okay with saying okay, I'm going to
walk away because I am not getting what I want
out of this relationship. So first you need to stay
with yourself and ask yourself if he says no, what
am I going to do? Because if you stay and
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he says no, I don't want to get married, You're
going to start tarboring resentment towards him and it's just
going to cause a lot of issues. So first determine that.
I definitely think that it's worth bringing up and asking
him or telling him must be in like, hey, Mikeiro
Casa Rosa, am I not worthy? Of marriage? Are you afraid? Like,
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can we do couple's therapy? Maybe, Like that'll for sure help,
so you guys can talk about your differences and see
what it is that he's really afraid of or what's
going on there, you know, because a lot of men
do think like, oh, we've already been together for so long,
like we have kids already.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Pa like for what?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
But if that's what you want, girl, like you deserve
it and you have to make the decision because there
is a possibility he'll say no, And are you okay
with that? You get me? So I hope that helps, yosakay,
let chingle well us. But I just wanted to make
sure that I was explaining everything correctly. So I'm sending
you a big hug. You are worthy of marriage. You
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are worthy of love and being loved the way that
you want to be loved. That is all I'm going
to say. Okay girl, alrighty them Okay, guys, moving on
to Debbie.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Hi, Ticky's how do you overcome a hard day of work,
especially when everybody is giving you a hard day? Just
want to know your opinion, since I own a small
business and sometimes you have those days where not everybody
as cooperative.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
How do you overcome those days? Oh my goodness, Debbie,
do I understand I've had businesses. I have businesses now,
I've had employees. It's just I get it. Oh my gosh, girl,
this just happened to me the other day, so I
feel you what I did the other day. I do
different things, it all depends. But what I did the
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other day was I got in my car, I listened
to a song that I know was going to make
me cry, because there are certain songs that I'm like, Okay,
this song is going to make me cry, like, for instance,
the Adele do you remember song? Or Jack Johnson Adrift,
or just any type of song like that that just
like causes you like, ah, I'm good, I need a purge.
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And I just cried and cried and cried and just
kept listening to sad songs. And then after I was like, okay,
I feel better. I'm gonna yell, and I yelled loud
like ah, like I yelled, I just let it out
and I took deep breaths and then I said, okay,
I'm gonna shake it off. And I literally shook it off.
I was like, everyone's problems their attitudes are not my problems.
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Sometimes I feel like we absorb people's feelings and emotions,
and especially me because I'm a cancer and I'm an EmPATH,
but like we need to learn to just say, okay,
I release feelings and emotions that do not belong to me.
It is okay. Not everyone is going to have the
same opinion, and not everyone is always going to be
on the same page, and we have to understand that
that's business. I mean, that's the world that we live in.
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But I get it. There are days that are harder
than others. And what I do, especially, I try my
best to separate work from my home life. And it's
like I'm wearing a coat, right, I'm wearing my business coat,
and before I walk into my house, I hang it
outside like obviously not literally, but just you know, visual,
like in your mind, imagine that, and it's kind of like, Okay,
I'm not bringing the outside issues problems from my job
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or my business's home. I'm gonna leave it there and
I'm gonna do something that makes me happy. Get in
the bathtub, whatever it is that makes you happy, have
an ice cream, whatever it may be that just makes
you forget about everything and brings you back to yourself
and gives you some ease. Oh, just do that. That's
what I did the other day, So I feel you.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
The other day was tough, so I hope it gets better.
DEBI but that that's what I do, so hopefully it
works for you. Okay, So next question comes from rainw.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
Hi Cheek is I love asking you Cheek my questions girl,
because I love how you are so honest with your fans.
And my question to you and I don't I hope
you don't find it invasive, but I want to know
if you're ever planning on bringing your dad to one
of your shows. That's just my question to you. And
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I hope you find yourself well. And I love listening
to you girl. Keep it up. You are an inspiration
and motivation ry take care.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Oh thank you, Queen Raina, thank you so much. I
appreciate you. Okay, So one of my shows, I'm assuming
like one of my podcast shows or maybe one of
my performances. Either way, I would be open to it
one hundred percent. I just don't know if he would
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be open to it. The communication is a little off
right now, but I think he's trying to acclimate a
little bit, so I'm just giving him his space and
just letting things be. I would definitely be open to
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having an open conversation with him here on the podcast
or I mean, I think it'd be pretty cool for
him to see me perform on stage as well, although
I don't have any plans right now to do it,
you know, a tour, but I don't know. I'd be
open to it, but I don't think he wouldn't. I
think it's it's a lot for a lot of people.
A lot of people won't understand. But you right now
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already know, like because it seems like you know me
very well and you listen to the podcast. I am
very honest, very transparent. I have no issue. I don't
want to hide things, you know. I'm just I don't know.
I'm at that point in my life where I'm like,
you know what this is who I am, and whoever
doesn't like it, well whatever, you know, So people are
gonna have opinions and it is what it is. But
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I went on a tangent. But but yeah, the answer
is yes, I'd be open to it. Think you're right, yup.
Our next question comes from another anonymous listener. Okay, let's
see what's.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Up, HATCHI geese, just really quick.
Speaker 5 (10:11):
I've been going through a certain situation going on with
supposedly friends that all of a sudden turned on me,
and I'm a friend to a fault, and now all
of a sudden, they are talking yell about me, mystery
to me, and just not making true sense about everything
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that we have gone through. And not only that, but
they have been trying to get me divorced from my husband.
Then my husband keeps telling me that it's because they're
not happy in the relationship, and I keep trying to
make excuses. But at the same time, I realize that
maybe they are right or he is right, and this
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is the reason why we're going through a certain situation
of a center relationship. But my husband pretty much feels
like they're jealous of our relationship because we did everything
right and all of a sudden they're just not happy
in their relationships or on their husbands or with their
husbands or with their now divorces and whatever.
Speaker 4 (11:18):
And what do I need to do? Should I stay?
Should I go?
Speaker 5 (11:24):
Should I listen to my friends?
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Ooh, I need more details, girl, I don't need to
know your name. I mean, I'd like to know your name,
but I don't need to know your name. I just
need more details. I need to know what your friends
are saying about your man, Like are they telling you, oh,
they saw him with another girl or you know what
I mean? Like, those little details are very important. But
I will tell you this, real friends, good friends are
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going to be able to tell you the truth and
let you make your decision without pressuring you and getting
upset with you. If you don't follow their advice or
listen to what they want. They're going to respectfully say, hey,
I found this out or this is what I think
about your man. But hey, it's your betto it's your problem.
I love you. Maybe she doesn't want to be around
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your man. You guys could be friends outside of your relationship,
but she's not going to be pushy, and they're not
going to be rude and make you feel bad and
belittle you because you decided to stay. You get me.
I will tell you that if these friends are causing
you more issues, more bad than good, then I would saybye.
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But again, it all depends what they're saying, and maybe
they are unhappy. Maybe they do want you all to theirselves.
But that's also not healthy girl, Like we're grown like
we are grown like we cannot like you know, control
people like we're I don't know. It's all about respecting
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people's decisions and everyone is. Believe me, I am trying
and learning this right now with my own siblings. Or
I have to step back and be like, look, I
can't save everyone. All I could do is pray and
that's it, you know, But I don't know. I it's
hard to tell you because again I need more details.
But that is my advice. You just gotta have to
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balance it out. And I don't know what the issues
are between you and your man and what's exactly happening,
what issues you guys are having, But leave me another
voice to note and give me a little bit more details. Okay,
so I can tell you, But listen to that whole
part about the friends thing. They should give me more
peace for real, friend should just give you peace somewhere
where you can go and talk and just be yourself
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and there isn't any pressure and shit, you know. Oh Okay,
I hope that helped. Oh And this week we also
have a listener update from omar I Love Updates guys,
let's hear it hi tikis.
Speaker 6 (13:48):
I am a huge fan of yours. I love the
way you sing me problema and sint.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
You get down.
Speaker 6 (13:56):
I love when you sing with Banna. You're Holadaan daviantas As.
I've been a fan of your since Chiki's and Roxy
and I don't know if you remember me from the
last question, but I asked on how to become a singer.
I want to give you feedback because your advice really helped.
You told me to look into an entertainment publicist. You
told me to be willing and to post more on
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social media. So I put those tips into use and
I actually came into contact with Jane. I'm sure that
name rings about. We had lunch together. I went from
Fresno area to Ali to have lunch with her and
her husband. I met her and her husband, Walter, they
were both there and we spoke business. We spoke the
music career. But I have everything on pause, nothing set
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in Stoniet. I just wanted to share it with you
that through your podcast, you're actually helping me with your advice.
I'm me and Mayula, so thank you. Thank you from
the bottom of my heart for that cheeky's and I'm
hoping to see if you can give me some more
advice and give me more tips. Hopefully you can help
me become somebody through your podcast. Thank you, Thank you
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Chiki's you got your number one fan here and supporter.
Thank you for your help.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Oh my gosh, my heart. I love this. I love
updates you guys, Omar, you are somebody. Okay, first of all,
you are already somebody. But if you want to be,
you know, a famous singer or something like that, I
get it. But you are already someone very special.
Speaker 4 (15:25):
So just know that.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
And thank you so much again for your update. Thank
you for all the beautiful things you said. And yes
I absolutely remember Janete and Walter. I haven't seen them
in so long. Tell them I said hello, please, And
I'm proud of you. See, those are the things that
you need to do. You were willing to go from
Fresno to La I mean, you're already on the right track,
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and that's what you have to do. You have to
take risks. You have to be okay with even some
people saying no to you, and being open to change
and learning and growing and taking vocal lessons. All that
is going to take you a long way. And being
consistent that's another thing as well. So I'm very very
happy that my advice helped. And I'm here for you
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and I appreciate you very very much. I appreciate you all.
I appreciate all of you very very much, and thank
you for your questions. Guys, and if you have a
question about anything and everything, I am here to answer
from the bottom of my heart. And you can go
ahead and leave a voicemail at speakpipe dot com, slash
Cheeky's and Chill podcast los Amom, I'll see you next week.
Speaker 6 (16:32):
Have a beautiful week.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
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