September 17, 2025 • 11 mins
On this episode of Dear Chiquis, Tony has a really interesting question about toxic comparisons in Latino households; Nancy wants to know who my favorite preacher is at the moment; and an anonymous listener asks me how I feel about my brother Johnny supporting my ex-fiancé in court.
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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemail box for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm
here to give you advice on anything and everything you
need help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or
having issues with your family, or maybe you have a
question about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I
want to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts
(00:39):
in my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious
issue or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Of the beeB.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Hie Cheeky's. I hope you're doing well. It's been great
to see you like shining and thriving and succeeding in
your career and on your current life trajectory. Congratulations on
all your milestones. My question for you is what is
your take on how you know toxic growing up in
(01:15):
a Latino household could be. What I'm asking is in
a scenario where there's like a lot of comparison, like oh,
like puprima, is you know making this match or so
and so has this career and so and so does
things this way and la la la. It's like a
constant compare and contrast type of dynamic, and I think
(01:40):
it's just silly, you know. I think that we should
all be proud of each other and celebrate our wins, right,
and there shouldn't be a lot of like competition. We
should uplift and motivate each other, Like do you ever
feel a sense of responsibility now, like to kind of
change things and break those generational curses, because I think
(02:03):
it's pretty strong and prevalent in Latino culture where we
tear each other down instead of celebrating each other, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
I absolutely know what you mean, Tony.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I think this is a great topic for Cheege's and Chill,
so we can talk about it a little more because
it is something that I see that happens in Latino
families and just with Latinos in general. There's like a
lot of cellos, like a lot of jealousy and instead
of us celebrating uplifting other Latinos, like it's kind of
(02:39):
like he thinks he's all bad ass because he made
it and he changed and it's always that you know, narrative,
and and that's not cool. Some people do change. I
get that, but in reality like it's I don't know.
I see that a lot, and that makes me sad,
and I do feel when it comes to me personally
and my family. I did feel that when I was young.
(03:01):
My mom is obviously not here to defend herself, and
I feel like I don't want to make her look bad,
but she did compare me a lot to my cousin,
who I love very much. It was kind of like a, Oh,
why aren't you like your cousin Karina who's grade at
school and gets straight a's and she's reading at a
level I don't know what. And I was always behind
in school. I had other things that I was dealing with,
(03:23):
you know that I think affected it. And that stayed
with me for so long, and it did affect me
until I had to shake it off and do therapy
and do all the things that I do to be
okay with it. But I do feel that, not responsibility,
but that desire in my heart to change that, especially
even with my siblings and not compare them to one another,
because I do and I've seen that a lot in
(03:44):
my family, and I think it is a Latino thing,
and that's why it's up to us to break those
generational curses so that hopefully the generations to come aren't
like that. And there's not It's not about competition. It's
about how can I grow? How can I learn from
this person and uplift them? And if someone's not doing
something correctly or I think they're going in the wrong path,
(04:06):
how can I help them get on the right track?
Speaker 4 (04:08):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (04:09):
And I totally understand, and I uh, it's something that
bugs me. And we do need to be better, I
think just as a culture, just be better in every
way in that sense when it comes to that, and
not see it as competition.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Oh my gosh, I see that so much.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
That is so that is such a good episode, just
because I was just talking to someone about this. In
regard to other I see like Latina influencers and how
there's like Selitos amongst It's just so much. Anyway, I'm
not gonna go there. We'll talk about that in another episode,
but thank you. That was a great, great question, Tony,
and I hope I answered it. But yeah, we're gonna
(04:51):
change things in this world, Yes we are. It starts
with us, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Okay, guys, moving on to Nancy question.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
Hi, Cheeky's. My name is Nancy. I'm from Phoenix, Arizona.
I admire you so much for everything you've gone through.
We have similarities when it comes to your favorite preacher.
Who do you get inspired by hearing the Word of
God through?
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Ooh girl, these questions, I love them. Okay, so I
love Joyce Meyer, I love Joel Olstein, but my favorite
those are like the ones that I started listening to,
because you know, Joe Olstein is in Houston and Joyce
Meyer is I don't know where, I think in Texas.
I don't know what part of Texas she's in, But anyway,
(05:39):
the point is that I started listening to sermons with
them years ago. But right now, my favorite is Steven Fertik.
I don't know if I'm like pronouncing his last name correctly,
but it's f R T I c K. He's amazing.
His wife is great. I have a friend named Andro
(06:01):
who sends me links all the time, and I love
listening to the Word through him. He's I think he
explains it so nicely, like it's just so easy to
comprehend and not it's not too long. It's awesome and
then of course my spiritual parents, the Boilnas that I
haven't gone to their church in a long time, shout
(06:23):
out to them.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
But I love them.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
And they're also really good because you do English, they
do English and Spanish. But the one that I'm listening
to the most right now is Steepid right now for sure.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
But thank you. I appreciate that question. That's awesome. Wow.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah, I like these questions. Okay, next question, Angela.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Let's see, hello chickies. I just want to know if
how do you feel actually about the whole situation with
your brother Johnny and being there for your ex on
court supporting him, And how did your ex react as
well as your husband feels about him doing so, And
(07:09):
has this been a situation that has affected you. And
also just want to make sure that you know that
I love your shows, your mother and you guys and everything,
and I hope the situation with you and your siblings
is going well or is getting better.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
Love you, Thank you, Angela. It is getting better.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
The situation with my siblings little by little, you know,
everyone's growing up and everyone's doing their own thing. And
I have, I think, come to a place where I
finally feel at peace with it and I'm accepting it.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
But thank you so much for that.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
And Okay, Johnny and my ex Angel, I don't talk
too much about the situation because it happened so long ago.
But yes, this whole situation that you know, court and everything,
it's a whole thing.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
People.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
No, but and I don't want to get into the
nitty gritty or they details of it because I feel
like it's not necessary. But my brother, Johnny was basically raised.
Of course I raised him, but the only male figure
in his life was my ex, who was my partner
and fiance at the time. I think he came into
(08:20):
his life when he was ten years old, and then
when my mom passed away, he was eleven, and anyway,
they got really close and they've been close ever since.
Even when we broke up, Johnny would go and see
him and as soon as he was able to drive,
they've just stayed in contact. And I think it's a
beautiful thing. And I'm very grateful with Angel because he's
(08:44):
never turned his back on him. That's one thing I
can say about that man is that he's a great father,
a very present father, and Johnny calls him Dad, and
with Emidio, my husband. Now, I told him that from
the very beginning. I learned that I needed to be
open about that right away so that he was aware
(09:06):
and it didn't catch him off guard. So he's totally fine.
We've talked about the situation. We don't talk about the
situation amongst ourselves, Emilia and I, but I've talked to
Johnny in front of Emilia about the situation and going
to court and supporting him Angel, and Emilio doesn't say anything.
He's totally fine with it. I don't hide it from
(09:27):
him either, and he's fine with it. I think it's
just it happened so long ago, and it's something that
I spoke to him from the very beginning, and he's
okay with the relationship that he has with Angel, kind
of like looke, you know, sort of thing. But it
does make my heart hurt for Angel, for his children.
(09:49):
I think of his children. I'm very good friends with
his ex wife as well, and we're really cool. I
just text her a couple of days ago, and I
stay in contact with his kids. However, I can whenever
I see that, you know, it's it's a very nice hello,
but it hurts me obviously it is someone that I
cared about. But it hurts me for Johnny. It hurts
me for his kids, it hurts me for him, you know,
(10:09):
the whole situation that he's going through, and it's tough.
But I'm glad that Johnny was there. He went to
I think every court date with him, so I appreciate
the relationship that they have. And yeah, I hopefully I
was like, without getting into details, it's a little hard
because some people might not understand what I'm talking about.
But I'm answering your question, Angela, So it's all good,
(10:32):
all right, guys. So that's it for this episode of
Dear Cheeky's. Thank you guys for your questions. I really
enjoyed them, and I'm here for you. If you have
a question for me. It could be about anything, as
you could see my personal life, anything about your life,
any advice that I could give you, I will be
more than happy to do so. And yeah, leave it
at speakpipe dot com, Slash Cheekys and Chill Podcast. Y'all,
(10:55):
let's get a mucho and yeah, I'll see you on
the next one. This is a production of iHeartRadio and
the Microldura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael
Dura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
H i q u i s.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite podcast
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemail box for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm
here to give you advice on anything and everything you
need help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or
having issues with your family, or maybe you have a
question about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I
want to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts
(00:39):
in my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious
issue or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Of the beeB.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Hie Cheeky's. I hope you're doing well. It's been great
to see you like shining and thriving and succeeding in
your career and on your current life trajectory. Congratulations on
all your milestones. My question for you is what is
your take on how you know toxic growing up in
(01:15):
a Latino household could be. What I'm asking is in
a scenario where there's like a lot of comparison, like oh,
like puprima, is you know making this match or so
and so has this career and so and so does
things this way and la la la. It's like a
constant compare and contrast type of dynamic, and I think
(01:40):
it's just silly, you know. I think that we should
all be proud of each other and celebrate our wins, right,
and there shouldn't be a lot of like competition. We
should uplift and motivate each other, Like do you ever
feel a sense of responsibility now, like to kind of
change things and break those generational curses, because I think
(02:03):
it's pretty strong and prevalent in Latino culture where we
tear each other down instead of celebrating each other, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
I absolutely know what you mean, Tony.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I think this is a great topic for Cheege's and Chill,
so we can talk about it a little more because
it is something that I see that happens in Latino
families and just with Latinos in general. There's like a
lot of cellos, like a lot of jealousy and instead
of us celebrating uplifting other Latinos, like it's kind of
(02:39):
like he thinks he's all bad ass because he made
it and he changed and it's always that you know, narrative,
and and that's not cool. Some people do change. I
get that, but in reality like it's I don't know.
I see that a lot, and that makes me sad,
and I do feel when it comes to me personally
and my family. I did feel that when I was young.
(03:01):
My mom is obviously not here to defend herself, and
I feel like I don't want to make her look bad,
but she did compare me a lot to my cousin,
who I love very much. It was kind of like a, Oh,
why aren't you like your cousin Karina who's grade at
school and gets straight a's and she's reading at a
level I don't know what. And I was always behind
in school. I had other things that I was dealing with,
(03:23):
you know that I think affected it. And that stayed
with me for so long, and it did affect me
until I had to shake it off and do therapy
and do all the things that I do to be
okay with it. But I do feel that, not responsibility,
but that desire in my heart to change that, especially
even with my siblings and not compare them to one another,
because I do and I've seen that a lot in
(03:44):
my family, and I think it is a Latino thing,
and that's why it's up to us to break those
generational curses so that hopefully the generations to come aren't
like that. And there's not It's not about competition. It's
about how can I grow? How can I learn from
this person and uplift them? And if someone's not doing
something correctly or I think they're going in the wrong path,
(04:06):
how can I help them get on the right track?
Speaker 4 (04:08):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (04:09):
And I totally understand, and I uh, it's something that
bugs me. And we do need to be better, I
think just as a culture, just be better in every
way in that sense when it comes to that, and
not see it as competition.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Oh my gosh, I see that so much.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
That is so that is such a good episode, just
because I was just talking to someone about this. In
regard to other I see like Latina influencers and how
there's like Selitos amongst It's just so much. Anyway, I'm
not gonna go there. We'll talk about that in another episode,
but thank you. That was a great, great question, Tony,
and I hope I answered it. But yeah, we're gonna
(04:51):
change things in this world, Yes we are. It starts
with us, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Okay, guys, moving on to Nancy question.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
Hi, Cheeky's. My name is Nancy. I'm from Phoenix, Arizona.
I admire you so much for everything you've gone through.
We have similarities when it comes to your favorite preacher.
Who do you get inspired by hearing the Word of
God through?
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Ooh girl, these questions, I love them. Okay, so I
love Joyce Meyer, I love Joel Olstein, but my favorite
those are like the ones that I started listening to,
because you know, Joe Olstein is in Houston and Joyce
Meyer is I don't know where, I think in Texas.
I don't know what part of Texas she's in, But anyway,
(05:39):
the point is that I started listening to sermons with
them years ago. But right now, my favorite is Steven Fertik.
I don't know if I'm like pronouncing his last name correctly,
but it's f R T I c K. He's amazing.
His wife is great. I have a friend named Andro
(06:01):
who sends me links all the time, and I love
listening to the Word through him. He's I think he
explains it so nicely, like it's just so easy to
comprehend and not it's not too long. It's awesome and
then of course my spiritual parents, the Boilnas that I
haven't gone to their church in a long time, shout
(06:23):
out to them.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
But I love them.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
And they're also really good because you do English, they
do English and Spanish. But the one that I'm listening
to the most right now is Steepid right now for sure.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
But thank you. I appreciate that question. That's awesome. Wow.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah, I like these questions. Okay, next question, Angela.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Let's see, hello chickies. I just want to know if
how do you feel actually about the whole situation with
your brother Johnny and being there for your ex on
court supporting him, And how did your ex react as
well as your husband feels about him doing so, And
(07:09):
has this been a situation that has affected you. And
also just want to make sure that you know that
I love your shows, your mother and you guys and everything,
and I hope the situation with you and your siblings
is going well or is getting better.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
Love you, Thank you, Angela. It is getting better.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
The situation with my siblings little by little, you know,
everyone's growing up and everyone's doing their own thing. And
I have, I think, come to a place where I
finally feel at peace with it and I'm accepting it.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
But thank you so much for that.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
And Okay, Johnny and my ex Angel, I don't talk
too much about the situation because it happened so long ago.
But yes, this whole situation that you know, court and everything,
it's a whole thing.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
People.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
No, but and I don't want to get into the
nitty gritty or they details of it because I feel
like it's not necessary. But my brother, Johnny was basically raised.
Of course I raised him, but the only male figure
in his life was my ex, who was my partner
and fiance at the time. I think he came into
(08:20):
his life when he was ten years old, and then
when my mom passed away, he was eleven, and anyway,
they got really close and they've been close ever since.
Even when we broke up, Johnny would go and see
him and as soon as he was able to drive,
they've just stayed in contact. And I think it's a
beautiful thing. And I'm very grateful with Angel because he's
(08:44):
never turned his back on him. That's one thing I
can say about that man is that he's a great father,
a very present father, and Johnny calls him Dad, and
with Emidio, my husband. Now, I told him that from
the very beginning. I learned that I needed to be
open about that right away so that he was aware
(09:06):
and it didn't catch him off guard. So he's totally fine.
We've talked about the situation. We don't talk about the
situation amongst ourselves, Emilia and I, but I've talked to
Johnny in front of Emilia about the situation and going
to court and supporting him Angel, and Emilio doesn't say anything.
He's totally fine with it. I don't hide it from
(09:27):
him either, and he's fine with it. I think it's
just it happened so long ago, and it's something that
I spoke to him from the very beginning, and he's
okay with the relationship that he has with Angel, kind
of like looke, you know, sort of thing. But it
does make my heart hurt for Angel, for his children.
(09:49):
I think of his children. I'm very good friends with
his ex wife as well, and we're really cool. I
just text her a couple of days ago, and I
stay in contact with his kids. However, I can whenever
I see that, you know, it's it's a very nice hello,
but it hurts me obviously it is someone that I
cared about. But it hurts me for Johnny. It hurts
me for his kids, it hurts me for him, you know,
(10:09):
the whole situation that he's going through, and it's tough.
But I'm glad that Johnny was there. He went to
I think every court date with him, so I appreciate
the relationship that they have. And yeah, I hopefully I
was like, without getting into details, it's a little hard
because some people might not understand what I'm talking about.
But I'm answering your question, Angela, So it's all good,
(10:32):
all right, guys. So that's it for this episode of
Dear Cheeky's. Thank you guys for your questions. I really
enjoyed them, and I'm here for you. If you have
a question for me. It could be about anything, as
you could see my personal life, anything about your life,
any advice that I could give you, I will be
more than happy to do so. And yeah, leave it
at speakpipe dot com, Slash Cheekys and Chill Podcast. Y'all,
(10:55):
let's get a mucho and yeah, I'll see you on
the next one. This is a production of iHeartRadio and
the Microldura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael
Dura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
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Speaker 1 (11:13):
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