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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
What arever the cases I want to hear from you.
Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're
(00:40):
suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help
from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and
leave your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
My Cheekyes, I absolutely love your podcast as well as Jennica's. Recently,
I listened to your podcasts with you, your sister, Jackie,
and Mike and how they talk about therapy for their
problems that they had. So me and my boyfriend, we've
been together for two years. We had been constantly finding
(01:12):
these past three months, and we finally came to an
agreement that we either worked things out or you know,
we need to figure out what's going to happen with
our relationship. We had both came to an agreement that
we're going to try and see how things go. Lately,
we've been doing very great. I came up with this concept.
(01:34):
I guess you could say that every day we have
a Question of the day and we just ask questions
that could better our relationship. So I just want to
know what else we could possibly do to like improve
our relationship, and I guess just get past this rough
patch that we're having. Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
I really appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
I love y'all, And hopefully you're to answer my question.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Elizabeth, look at this, you're the first one, and yes,
I'm gonna answer your question because I think it's already
a beautiful thing that you are going as far as
asking a question on't your cheeky's because you are actively
wanting and intentionally wanting to do your part in this relationship.
So I'm very proud of you. Okay, round of applause
(02:22):
to you, homegirl. And I love that you guys are
doing a question of the day. I think it's important
also to have date nights, Okay, at least once a month.
I know it can get expensive, but at least once
a month where you guys are just enjoying each other's presence. Okay, don't.
That's a thing that happens in relationships. Something I learned
as well my past relationships is that we get comfortable.
(02:44):
There's nothing worse than anyone. It can be a friendship,
it can be at your job. Anyone that gets comfortable,
it just starts ruining everything, especially in a relationship. So
date nights, step out of your comfort zone. Do things
that maybe I don't know, I don't know. Do you
dress up him? Do you I don't put on a wig,
like just to spice things up. Anything that's maybe doesn't
(03:06):
make you comfortable, but you know he likes. So ask him.
Is there something in our intimacy that I can do
differently that you would want me to try? Of course
you both have to be open to it, but have
those conversations and just be intentional. I think you guys
are doing the right thing. I think it's a great
sign that he is already willing to do all of
these things. That shows me that he wants to be
in this relationship with you and he wants it to work.
(03:28):
So again, therapy, couples therapy. You guys know, I'm a
huge advocate. I don't know. Spiritually, that always helps. Having
God in the middle of your relationship, so meditate, pray together,
go to church together, stuff like that. You know, but
you guys are on the right track, so be proud.
Thank you for your question, Elizabeth, and thank you for
listening to the pod. Okay, guys, our next question comes
(03:51):
from Diana.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Hi Cheekyes, I'm a huge fan of yours and your mom's.
My mom was also a very huge fan of your mom,
and she read both of your books. I gifted them
both to her. My mom, like your mom, was a
single mom and left Mexico to bring my brother and
I here to give us a better life. And despite
our disagreements like you had with your mom and our
(04:16):
difficult relationship, at times, she was my world. I lost
her on my eighth and on that same day, I
found out that I was pregnant with my first child
with my now partner. I have two beautiful daughters from
my previous marriage, but this was our first child with
my current partner. Four days later, I lost my pregnancy
and then I had two ten funeral services and masks
(04:39):
for my mom. I'm having a really hard time dealing
with all of it and making sure that my kids
are also taking care of because they lost their grandma,
and she supported me through everything. She watched them. She
was a very big part of her life. I don't
know how I'm gonna go on without her guidance, without
her support, without her presence, and without her love. And
(05:00):
I feel like I am trying, but I'm very scared. I
want to ask you how you did it, because I
know you had to be there for your siblings, sisters,
my brother and I. She was our only parent and
I miss her with all my heart.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
My goodness, Diana, I am so sorry for your loss,
for your baby, for your mom. That's a lot. I'm
sending you a big hug, like honestly, with healing energy.
How did I do it? Sometimes? I don't even know
how I did it? Twenty thirteen was I always say
(05:35):
it was one of the worst years of my life.
I was learning to relive without my mom and then
her and I hadn't talked. It was just so hard.
I think the only thing that got me through was
was my faith, honestly, like not letting go of God's
hand and praying every single day when I was sad,
I would just embrace my feelings like and you have
(05:56):
to embrace the pain. You have to know that, yes,
I feel this and it's going to be difficult, but
you will. You will get through it. This too shall pass.
You have to believe it. Another thing that made me
feel better as well was I had my siblings. You
have your children. You have to be an example to
them and show them what God forbid if something were
(06:18):
to happen to you, how you want them to be,
you know. And that's what kept me going. My siblings
were my motor Johnny and Jenica. They were little and
they kept me going. And I'm like, I want to
be an example. I want to be strong. I need
to heal through this so that they're okay, you know.
And you're gonna cry, and it's gonna be a rollercoaster
of emotions. The first year is the hardest, but little
(06:39):
by little it will get better. So do anything and
everything that makes your heart feel good. And know that
your mom wants you to be happy, and she wants
you to be okay for your kids. Just know that.
And she's happier wherever she is. She is so happy
and doesn't have to deal with this world. So that
should give you some peace for sure. And that's what
(07:00):
has helped me to know my mom is having a
great old time in heaven, and when God thinks it's
time for me to see her, it's gonna happen. I
know she's here in spirit, so just know she's with you.
She hasn't left you, and you're you're gonna be able
to feel it in certain situations. But I know it's
a lot easier s than done. So I am sending
you a big hug and I'm going to be praying
(07:21):
for you and your family because I hear the pain
in your voice and I could just I know you're
feeling and what you're going through. But you got this.
We got this, Okay the Diana Okay. So our next
(07:41):
question comes from Crystal.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
Hijikis love your podcast and I'm a big kind of
you and your mom. I just had a question. I
have a guy that I've been talking to for about
two months, and sometimes it's been a little bit hard.
We have a seven year age gap. He has a kid.
I have no kids, but I don't know if I'm
getting myself into something that is a little messy. I've
(08:04):
listened to your advice and I asked him the questions
of like how he feels for me and this, and
that he just tells me that, you know, I check
off all his boxes like he enjoys my company. But
he feels like it would take about six months to
know if he wants a serious relationship or not. And
he's brought me around his family. He's brought me around
his son, and from what I was told by his
(08:25):
other family members that he doesn't typically do that. But
then I have seen sometimes some shady shit where it
looks like it could be that he's talking to their girls.
I've asked him if he talks to their girls. He
told me no, And I try not to overthink, and
I try to just let it be because it's only
been two months. But do you think I'm getting myself
into something messy or should I just play it out
(08:48):
and just see what happens and hope that maybe with
more time he will see and feel his feelings more.
He's also not very vocal about his feelings, so he's
more from in his words. He's not a kid, and
he's more of an action's over words. But gulpiness, Okay.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I'm not mad at that. CHRISTI I'm not mad at
him saying that he's more of like actions. I like
that because a lot of guys are words words, words, words,
and other actions don't meet their words. So I think
you need to just slow your role. It's only been
two months. If he's straight up telling you I need
six months to know if I want this to be serious,
then you should also like see if you want to
(09:30):
be with him like in these six months. You know,
like right now, don't worry if he's talking to other
girls or not. Like it's good. I'm not saying don't worry,
but of course you don't want him to talk to
other girls. I think you should be very like upfront
and say I want to be exclusive. Now if you
find him talking to other girls, and that's obviously a
red flag and you just you know, shake that or
blow that popsicle stand, you know what I mean. But
(09:51):
I think you should just take it slow. I think
if he's introduced you to his family, that's an action,
And if his family tells you that he doesn't do that,
then I think you should take that as a Okay,
there we go. He's showing me with his actions. Don't
ignore that gut feeling. But I think just take it
day by day, enjoy if you enjoy his company, enjoy
(10:14):
it like, have some fun, and give yourself six months
to see if you even want to be with this person.
And you should also say I want this and I
want that. By the six month, I want to know. Okay,
is this official and absolutely exclusive and we are together?
And am I the girl or you even the guy?
You feel me? Just chill right now? Chill. I don't
(10:34):
see any red flags right now. I think he's being
very straight up and if his actions are showing that,
then I think you have nothing to worry about. Unless
his actions are showing something negative, then you know what
you gotta do. Okay. I hope that helped you. Don't
say that, but I think you're good right now, Crystal.
I think you're good, and just give it some time.
(10:54):
Let me know what happens. Okay, all right, guys. Our
last and final question comes from for this episode anyways,
from Maria.
Speaker 5 (11:07):
Hi Cheeky's I hope you're having an amazing day. My
question is going to be quick and to the point.
I'm just wondering, do you ever watch I Love Jenny
because I'm watching it right now, and the episode with
you and your mom when you went to Sundance. It
just showcases your guys love in such a beautiful way,
(11:28):
Like you know, you guys are just so close and affectionate,
and you could just see on your face the love
you have for your mother. So you know, if you
don't watch it at all, I think you should at
least watch that episode. I think it will really warm
your heart if you're ever missing her. But yeah, that's
my question. I hope you have a good day.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Goodbye all Maria. You're so cute. I don't know if
I'm about to get my period, you guys, but I
was like, I want to cry. Anyways, thank you so much.
It's crazy that you bring up that episode of I
Love Jenny because I was looking at a picture it
came across on my feed of that time at Sundance
when we went to Utah and I was her assistant
and I was kind of like on my phone. I
(12:10):
was behind her, I was just handling business, she was
just being a superstar, and it was one of my
favorite places to be was by her side. And definitely,
my mom was my whole world, you guys for a
long time, and even though things ended the way they did,
I wouldn't change anything. Because we had beautiful moments and
(12:33):
she definitely taught me a lot and I was able
to experience a lot by her side. But I do
miss her, and you're right, I should probably watch I
Love Jenny a little bit more because it's a blessing
to be able to see her and hear her voice
in that way, you know. So thank you, Maria. That's
a great reminder. But yes, there was a lot of
(12:53):
beautiful love between my mom and I and I'm so
glad you're able to see it because people want to
come in and try to talk shit and like make
it look like it was but it wasn't. We had
issues like any mother and daughter did, but the love
was very special and it still is. We're still a
power tea. So thank you, Maria, to all of you, actually, Elizabeth, Diana, Crystal, Maria,
thank you guys for your questions, Thank you guys for
(13:14):
listening and watching. Thank you from the bottom of my
heart for being here and supporting my podcast. And hopefully
you learn something as you listen and as you watch
los kiro Mucho, And if you have a question, please
leave it at speakpipe dot com. Slash Cheeky's and Chill
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(13:35):
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your favorite shows.
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
What arever the cases I want to hear from you.
Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're
(00:40):
suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help
from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and
leave your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
My Cheekyes, I absolutely love your podcast as well as Jennica's. Recently,
I listened to your podcasts with you, your sister, Jackie,
and Mike and how they talk about therapy for their
problems that they had. So me and my boyfriend, we've
been together for two years. We had been constantly finding
(01:12):
these past three months, and we finally came to an
agreement that we either worked things out or you know,
we need to figure out what's going to happen with
our relationship. We had both came to an agreement that
we're going to try and see how things go. Lately,
we've been doing very great. I came up with this concept.
(01:34):
I guess you could say that every day we have
a Question of the day and we just ask questions
that could better our relationship. So I just want to
know what else we could possibly do to like improve
our relationship, and I guess just get past this rough
patch that we're having. Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
I really appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
I love y'all, And hopefully you're to answer my question.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Elizabeth, look at this, you're the first one, and yes,
I'm gonna answer your question because I think it's already
a beautiful thing that you are going as far as
asking a question on't your cheeky's because you are actively
wanting and intentionally wanting to do your part in this relationship.
So I'm very proud of you. Okay, round of applause
(02:22):
to you, homegirl. And I love that you guys are
doing a question of the day. I think it's important
also to have date nights, Okay, at least once a month.
I know it can get expensive, but at least once
a month where you guys are just enjoying each other's presence. Okay, don't.
That's a thing that happens in relationships. Something I learned
as well my past relationships is that we get comfortable.
(02:44):
There's nothing worse than anyone. It can be a friendship,
it can be at your job. Anyone that gets comfortable,
it just starts ruining everything, especially in a relationship. So
date nights, step out of your comfort zone. Do things
that maybe I don't know, I don't know. Do you
dress up him? Do you I don't put on a wig,
like just to spice things up. Anything that's maybe doesn't
(03:06):
make you comfortable, but you know he likes. So ask him.
Is there something in our intimacy that I can do
differently that you would want me to try? Of course
you both have to be open to it, but have
those conversations and just be intentional. I think you guys
are doing the right thing. I think it's a great
sign that he is already willing to do all of
these things. That shows me that he wants to be
in this relationship with you and he wants it to work.
(03:28):
So again, therapy, couples therapy. You guys know, I'm a
huge advocate. I don't know. Spiritually, that always helps. Having
God in the middle of your relationship, so meditate, pray together,
go to church together, stuff like that. You know, but
you guys are on the right track, so be proud.
Thank you for your question, Elizabeth, and thank you for
listening to the pod. Okay, guys, our next question comes
(03:51):
from Diana.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Hi Cheekyes, I'm a huge fan of yours and your mom's.
My mom was also a very huge fan of your mom,
and she read both of your books. I gifted them
both to her. My mom, like your mom, was a
single mom and left Mexico to bring my brother and
I here to give us a better life. And despite
our disagreements like you had with your mom and our
(04:16):
difficult relationship, at times, she was my world. I lost
her on my eighth and on that same day, I
found out that I was pregnant with my first child
with my now partner. I have two beautiful daughters from
my previous marriage, but this was our first child with
my current partner. Four days later, I lost my pregnancy
and then I had two ten funeral services and masks
(04:39):
for my mom. I'm having a really hard time dealing
with all of it and making sure that my kids
are also taking care of because they lost their grandma,
and she supported me through everything. She watched them. She
was a very big part of her life. I don't
know how I'm gonna go on without her guidance, without
her support, without her presence, and without her love. And
(05:00):
I feel like I am trying, but I'm very scared. I
want to ask you how you did it, because I
know you had to be there for your siblings, sisters,
my brother and I. She was our only parent and
I miss her with all my heart.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
My goodness, Diana, I am so sorry for your loss,
for your baby, for your mom. That's a lot. I'm
sending you a big hug, like honestly, with healing energy.
How did I do it? Sometimes? I don't even know
how I did it? Twenty thirteen was I always say
(05:35):
it was one of the worst years of my life.
I was learning to relive without my mom and then
her and I hadn't talked. It was just so hard.
I think the only thing that got me through was
was my faith, honestly, like not letting go of God's
hand and praying every single day when I was sad,
I would just embrace my feelings like and you have
(05:56):
to embrace the pain. You have to know that, yes,
I feel this and it's going to be difficult, but
you will. You will get through it. This too shall pass.
You have to believe it. Another thing that made me
feel better as well was I had my siblings. You
have your children. You have to be an example to
them and show them what God forbid if something were
(06:18):
to happen to you, how you want them to be,
you know. And that's what kept me going. My siblings
were my motor Johnny and Jenica. They were little and
they kept me going. And I'm like, I want to
be an example. I want to be strong. I need
to heal through this so that they're okay, you know.
And you're gonna cry, and it's gonna be a rollercoaster
of emotions. The first year is the hardest, but little
(06:39):
by little it will get better. So do anything and
everything that makes your heart feel good. And know that
your mom wants you to be happy, and she wants
you to be okay for your kids. Just know that.
And she's happier wherever she is. She is so happy
and doesn't have to deal with this world. So that
should give you some peace for sure. And that's what
(07:00):
has helped me to know my mom is having a
great old time in heaven, and when God thinks it's
time for me to see her, it's gonna happen. I
know she's here in spirit, so just know she's with you.
She hasn't left you, and you're you're gonna be able
to feel it in certain situations. But I know it's
a lot easier s than done. So I am sending
you a big hug and I'm going to be praying
(07:21):
for you and your family because I hear the pain
in your voice and I could just I know you're
feeling and what you're going through. But you got this.
We got this, Okay the Diana Okay. So our next
(07:41):
question comes from Crystal.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
Hijikis love your podcast and I'm a big kind of
you and your mom. I just had a question. I
have a guy that I've been talking to for about
two months, and sometimes it's been a little bit hard.
We have a seven year age gap. He has a kid.
I have no kids, but I don't know if I'm
getting myself into something that is a little messy. I've
(08:04):
listened to your advice and I asked him the questions
of like how he feels for me and this, and
that he just tells me that, you know, I check
off all his boxes like he enjoys my company. But
he feels like it would take about six months to
know if he wants a serious relationship or not. And
he's brought me around his family. He's brought me around
his son, and from what I was told by his
(08:25):
other family members that he doesn't typically do that. But
then I have seen sometimes some shady shit where it
looks like it could be that he's talking to their girls.
I've asked him if he talks to their girls. He
told me no, And I try not to overthink, and
I try to just let it be because it's only
been two months. But do you think I'm getting myself
into something messy or should I just play it out
(08:48):
and just see what happens and hope that maybe with
more time he will see and feel his feelings more.
He's also not very vocal about his feelings, so he's
more from in his words. He's not a kid, and
he's more of an action's over words. But gulpiness, Okay.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I'm not mad at that. CHRISTI I'm not mad at
him saying that he's more of like actions. I like
that because a lot of guys are words words, words, words,
and other actions don't meet their words. So I think
you need to just slow your role. It's only been
two months. If he's straight up telling you I need
six months to know if I want this to be serious,
then you should also like see if you want to
(09:30):
be with him like in these six months. You know,
like right now, don't worry if he's talking to other
girls or not. Like it's good. I'm not saying don't worry,
but of course you don't want him to talk to
other girls. I think you should be very like upfront
and say I want to be exclusive. Now if you
find him talking to other girls, and that's obviously a
red flag and you just you know, shake that or
blow that popsicle stand, you know what I mean. But
(09:51):
I think you should just take it slow. I think
if he's introduced you to his family, that's an action,
And if his family tells you that he doesn't do that,
then I think you should take that as a Okay,
there we go. He's showing me with his actions. Don't
ignore that gut feeling. But I think just take it
day by day, enjoy if you enjoy his company, enjoy
(10:14):
it like, have some fun, and give yourself six months
to see if you even want to be with this person.
And you should also say I want this and I
want that. By the six month, I want to know. Okay,
is this official and absolutely exclusive and we are together?
And am I the girl or you even the guy?
You feel me? Just chill right now? Chill. I don't
(10:34):
see any red flags right now. I think he's being
very straight up and if his actions are showing that,
then I think you have nothing to worry about. Unless
his actions are showing something negative, then you know what
you gotta do. Okay. I hope that helped you. Don't
say that, but I think you're good right now, Crystal.
I think you're good, and just give it some time.
(10:54):
Let me know what happens. Okay, all right, guys. Our
last and final question comes from for this episode anyways,
from Maria.
Speaker 5 (11:07):
Hi Cheeky's I hope you're having an amazing day. My
question is going to be quick and to the point.
I'm just wondering, do you ever watch I Love Jenny
because I'm watching it right now, and the episode with
you and your mom when you went to Sundance. It
just showcases your guys love in such a beautiful way,
(11:28):
Like you know, you guys are just so close and affectionate,
and you could just see on your face the love
you have for your mother. So you know, if you
don't watch it at all, I think you should at
least watch that episode. I think it will really warm
your heart if you're ever missing her. But yeah, that's
my question. I hope you have a good day.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Goodbye all Maria. You're so cute. I don't know if
I'm about to get my period, you guys, but I
was like, I want to cry. Anyways, thank you so much.
It's crazy that you bring up that episode of I
Love Jenny because I was looking at a picture it
came across on my feed of that time at Sundance
when we went to Utah and I was her assistant
and I was kind of like on my phone. I
(12:10):
was behind her, I was just handling business, she was
just being a superstar, and it was one of my
favorite places to be was by her side. And definitely,
my mom was my whole world, you guys for a
long time, and even though things ended the way they did,
I wouldn't change anything. Because we had beautiful moments and
(12:33):
she definitely taught me a lot and I was able
to experience a lot by her side. But I do
miss her, and you're right, I should probably watch I
Love Jenny a little bit more because it's a blessing
to be able to see her and hear her voice
in that way, you know. So thank you, Maria. That's
a great reminder. But yes, there was a lot of
(12:53):
beautiful love between my mom and I and I'm so
glad you're able to see it because people want to
come in and try to talk shit and like make
it look like it was but it wasn't. We had
issues like any mother and daughter did, but the love
was very special and it still is. We're still a
power tea. So thank you, Maria, to all of you, actually, Elizabeth, Diana, Crystal, Maria,
thank you guys for your questions, Thank you guys for
(13:14):
listening and watching. Thank you from the bottom of my
heart for being here and supporting my podcast. And hopefully
you learn something as you listen and as you watch
los kiro Mucho, And if you have a question, please
leave it at speakpipe dot com. Slash Cheeky's and Chill
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