June 25, 2025 • 20 mins
I’m so happy to get the chance to answer more of your questions. This week, I try to comfort Claudia who tells me she’s been on edge following ICE raids in her city and across the country; Maria asks me how I took care of my mental health before I went on my weight loss journey; and an anonymous listener has an interesting question about a particular boyfriend/fiancé I had before my mom Jenni passed away.
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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky Podcast. I'm here
to give you a device on anything and everything you
need help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or
having issues with your family, or maybe you have a
question about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I
want to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts
(00:39):
and my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious
issue or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the beeB.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
He kiss, Clauvia and Los Angeles, he contay and Ada
posa hel conboy, the the Eyes, the to Cano Puertas
(01:18):
and Las Plasas Moss compar Coma familiar see est triste
porque and cancer the column St Lospitalian jul pass out
to the Aura see Para connect me in Testino, pos
(01:48):
Exita po list and more important param Commune, Colomente mis
(02:10):
Sfa cancellar.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Im Claudia is the Premierramentem de Mando, ven viraserte Jose,
momentous movie files in Medel Porch mass possibly lost uhl
(02:39):
canse no cross important momentos jo mas facil loko or
oslo por new existe jose more it maas facil the
closets bien do to the kasa his movie ficile. It
(03:05):
was youngest as bibendo tambien te mando much lousy, much
to communa and Latinos in the opinion, sant mas Latinos
and b and i dotspces immigrant is not it Alio
(03:31):
lomas important techys start informata shost your lives in Instagram
the parts the sepan see the jasa sal and Almercaalo Yeah,
Yestan is still the pending tense and silencio you know
(03:54):
mass number con the start or racosa croquette is more
important them a consulta catless they alivio no mass mass
past master d it a been is the and then
Instagram the Michael tura aesta on post and elfed gesta
(04:18):
pend on the pole a mass information on it is
Maria Mendosa Judo and los and los and bibos para
d armas information. It was na Joe mis la montag
(04:40):
los momentostan diritees perou and la fell racion is in
algoas are you that called care formatras Coma and all
of the and guys just quickly, Claudia was just telling
(05:21):
me how afraid she's been, that she has been living
in fear because she has seen ice outside of her
door in her community, and she is also going through
treatments because she has colon cancer and she wasn't able
to go to her doctor's appointment because she was so afraid.
And she was just expressing her fear, and I was
just telling her that the best thing to do is
(05:44):
to be informed and to know what your rights are
as a human being, as a person, as a human
from I mean, I always say this, this land does
not belong to anyone. It belongs to all of us,
you know. So I was just telling her and and
sending her love and light and and a hug, and
telling her that if she needs anything that she can
definitely reach out to us. And I'm willing to help
(06:05):
to send food to her home or whatever it is
that I can help with. It's the least I can do, guys.
And and also if you guys want more information on
the podcast Instagram, there is a post pin that has
information about your rights, So you guys can go ahead
and check that out and speak to a lawyer so
that you know what your rights are and you feel
a little bit more confident in that it's very important. Okay, guys.
(06:38):
Next question comes from Mariatro.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Post tristes and usta pero male roporti saper kend no
keros como pero solamente keoske and miro pola persona keres
(07:14):
Yso you quarentaiso e yosu from the press of the
p ropa rasa como too is super to the press
poke fu Gordita por Ke jr.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Sec and.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
The press proget some o. The press proget morrita rasa
como to supera pressa gordita parao look to medigas podigant
projecto andolok acid uh pi the rake Steven Diiga isla
(07:57):
super are sold comoto patrimonio to Familia to.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Bend him Maria Curvy power grdita power entre MASc so.
Maria is telling me, guys that she's very proud of
me for the weight that I've lost and that she
(08:26):
is a curvy woman and wants to know not exactly
how I lost weight. But what I did when I
was heavier to feel better, because she says that she
feels depressed a lot, and she just wants to feel
better and feel good in her own skin. So I'm
gonna answer, and then I'll come back to you. Per
(08:46):
Maria jo guando est josentia masa the lomonas no and
pa ya know yaura porge la piels flacida yes kmotra
(09:08):
in segura and ten ideas and the er por tantas
cosas no las hormoness mascenda portmos p the vers de
serta manera tolke mimos and so manera is as much
a person and tiendo pero joe simprementido la persona so
(09:35):
and my corrasson and mimente ma dado ajor porf okay
you know cor masquerpo pero josec and so como and
tranquil por and corras burt yes so cooke j opar
and for carme mass and my corason e me and
(09:57):
my relation condos maju dado as a mass segura in
comom express so in como mio pork i muchocha loxplico
and tre mascar massa roo because it does the sa
Okays see maas mass to malo tropero joo alopecial prop louse,
(10:24):
jomo pes cosas, look at what you are poco poco
as reference and like mindora as algo parquet sin as
por cando cando the Sienese da pression to the premier
(10:44):
or and m masser a perame no toya param querpong
marme mass yemen tarver poccus has buenos comberduras concos verdes
saladas compnoasupojori my poco po my parabene libres poco poco
(11:19):
lento paso passo, compassimo maria endo mores yeah, like like
like its beja telo por ro mano esbjo cretes primero, yeah,
(11:45):
marte yes resa cosas came reflectionan e la more as
yea timism okay, guys. So I told her a lot
of things. I told know a lot of things, but basically,
Hanna na Shell, I was just telling her that giving
yourself positive affirmations and it might sound silly to some people,
but it really does help, and it helps at least
to say something positive out loud than something negative, because
(12:09):
saying something negative is going to bring more darkness to you.
So I'd rather be look like, Okay, you know, she's
just this positive, little hippie person, you know, So say
something beautiful to yourself, and not only that, but choose
to say I want to love myself enough to feed
my body and move my body and sweat and release
toxins and feed my body so that it functions better
(12:34):
in every way, so that I feel better, so that
I have more clarity. I'm focusing more on the inner work,
on your heart and knowing who you are and working
on that so you radiate confidence and beauty on the outside.
Because yes, there's always going to be more beautiful women
or more fit women and this and that, and if
we focus on that, we're not focusing on ourselves. And
the work is inner. It's inner work in order to
(12:55):
radiate differently on the outside. I told her so many things.
I don't even remember. I was just setting my heart speak,
but that's what I told her, you know. So Maria
is perke chik is Okay, it's the animal animal. Okay, guys,
(13:19):
we have one last question from an anonymous listener.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
Hi, chikies, you can answer this question in English, and
I'll just say it in Spanish because I feel more
comfortable sitting in Spanish. OPI colla persona, conna esta microstal
and distance even torment i s o aligin q los
(13:52):
pas no prevan la paja peroson wells.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Gon hmm, we went listeners is de primero. So this
s anonymous listener is asking about the relationship I was
in when my mom was here, like the last year
(14:24):
of her life, and then after she passed, and if
I felt obligated in some way to stay in that relationship,
and if I could give her some advice on what
I think regarding parents not approving of a significant other.
So that's a pretty heavy question. I talked about this
(14:49):
in my book Forgiveness. I thought it was very important
to to express this because I did get a lot
of backlash because my mother and you know this ex
boyfriend actually ex fiance, we were engaged. They had a
very public argument. It got very nasty, and he said
(15:10):
some very not nice things in my defense because he
was trying to defend me. He was very upset with
how my mom was handling certain things at that time,
and at that time I felt very alone. I felt
like everyone had turned their back on me, and what
was being said was not only not true, but ridiculous
(15:35):
in my eyes. And I just couldn't believe that my
mom would even for a second think that I would
do something like that. So I was upset. I went
through so many different emotions, and so he was my
partner at that time, and he heard me cry, and
he saw me cry, and he saw how depressed I was,
so he was upset. He said some very not nice
things to my mom publicly. He was drunk. That's not
(15:56):
an excuse, and I don't excuse what he said, but
in that moment, I felt like, Wow, at least someone's
defending me, someone's on my side, and someone's standing up
to her in a way. So anyway, that's a whole
that's a whole other story. But I will say that
even despite that, and I did feel after, I think
because I had stayed with him and then my mom
(16:17):
passed away. And I don't know if I ever said
this in my book. I don't remember, but him and
I were actually fighting when my mom passed away, and
we started talking again because my mom passed away and
he was there for me, not physically because he wasn't
really allowed around my family and I had to be
there for my siblings. But he was there for me,
and I did feel in some way like, Wow, he
(16:39):
was there for me when no one else was. I'm
going to try to make this relationship work. And people
didn't like that, and people I got a lot of backlash,
and I get it. I totally understand that. But I
can say confidently now that no matter what, even if
I don't agree with certain things my mom did and
how she handled things, I think she was right when
(17:00):
she said, I don't want this type of man for you.
You know, he has five children. I don't want you
to have baby mama drama. And I did have baby
mama drama. Now his ex and I are super good friends.
She's my homie. We go to dinner and stuff. I
love his kids. His kids are still like I talk
to them, I see them once in a while. They're great.
(17:23):
But at that time it was very sticky, and so
now I could say, yeah, my mom, she was right.
And parents have this special gift of feeling things. They're
your parents, they had you, you know, and if they
tell you, hey, I don't know about this person's doesn't
feel right. I would definitely listen. I'd be like, Okay,
(17:44):
that's a red flag for me. I'm just going to
keep it there now. If you were to ask me,
i'd probably say, Mom, you know what, there's something here. Okay,
I'm probably going to try to detangle myself from the
situation as best as I can. Although we are humans
and we need to go through our process and learn,
I've always been very nest ya. I've always had to
learn the hard way. I've been hard headed. I don't
(18:05):
want to be anymore, but I was for a long time,
and you grow out of that with time. So to
my anonymous listener, I definitely would say that if your
parent does it, like your significant other, there's a reason.
There has to be something there. I can't obviously pinpoint
it because I don't know the situation, but it is
something that I would consider and take it either as
(18:27):
a red flag or a yellow flag something as a
warning to say, Okay, let me just have a little
bit of a guard up. Because parents, most of the time,
I want to say at least ninety five percent of
the time, are usually right, especially our mothers. They have
this special bond with us, So I would definitely listen
to that in some way. That doesn't mean you have
to make a decision right now, but just have that
(18:51):
in the back of your mind and save it, you know,
because I definitely every time my mom said something about
a friend, most of the time she was right. So
that's just my experience. But thank you so much for
your question. Thank you all for your question. I love
you guys, and trust me, this has been so heavy
on me. The raids and how this is being handled,
(19:13):
how this administration is handling things. I don't agree with it.
I think it's very inhumane. I think it's incompassionate. I
think it's not bringing anything good to the world. It's
actually bringing a lot of tension. But this is where
our power comes in and our prayers and coming together
because unity is power and there's a lot of strength
(19:33):
in that. So just remember that and be kind in
the world. Please just radiate your light and be kind
and don't be the one to add more fuel to
the fire. And if you don't have anything nice to say,
don't say anything at all. That's just my personal opinion,
But thank you guys. This is a safe place for
you guys to always ask me whatever you want to
ask me. I will always give you the best advice
I can possibly give you. I love you, guys, I
(19:55):
appreciate you and thank you for your question. And if
you have a question about anything and everything, go ahead
and leave it at speakpipe dot com, Slash Cheeky's and
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Hello everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky Podcast. I'm here
to give you a device on anything and everything you
need help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or
having issues with your family, or maybe you have a
question about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I
want to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts
(00:39):
and my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious
issue or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the beeB.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
He kiss, Clauvia and Los Angeles, he contay and Ada
posa hel conboy, the the Eyes, the to Cano Puertas
(01:18):
and Las Plasas Moss compar Coma familiar see est triste
porque and cancer the column St Lospitalian jul pass out
to the Aura see Para connect me in Testino, pos
(01:48):
Exita po list and more important param Commune, Colomente mis
(02:10):
Sfa cancellar.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Im Claudia is the Premierramentem de Mando, ven viraserte Jose,
momentous movie files in Medel Porch mass possibly lost uhl
(02:39):
canse no cross important momentos jo mas facil loko or
oslo por new existe jose more it maas facil the
closets bien do to the kasa his movie ficile. It
(03:05):
was youngest as bibendo tambien te mando much lousy, much
to communa and Latinos in the opinion, sant mas Latinos
and b and i dotspces immigrant is not it Alio
(03:31):
lomas important techys start informata shost your lives in Instagram
the parts the sepan see the jasa sal and Almercaalo Yeah,
Yestan is still the pending tense and silencio you know
(03:54):
mass number con the start or racosa croquette is more
important them a consulta catless they alivio no mass mass
past master d it a been is the and then
Instagram the Michael tura aesta on post and elfed gesta
(04:18):
pend on the pole a mass information on it is
Maria Mendosa Judo and los and los and bibos para
d armas information. It was na Joe mis la montag
(04:40):
los momentostan diritees perou and la fell racion is in
algoas are you that called care formatras Coma and all
of the and guys just quickly, Claudia was just telling
(05:21):
me how afraid she's been, that she has been living
in fear because she has seen ice outside of her
door in her community, and she is also going through
treatments because she has colon cancer and she wasn't able
to go to her doctor's appointment because she was so afraid.
And she was just expressing her fear, and I was
just telling her that the best thing to do is
(05:44):
to be informed and to know what your rights are
as a human being, as a person, as a human
from I mean, I always say this, this land does
not belong to anyone. It belongs to all of us,
you know. So I was just telling her and and
sending her love and light and and a hug, and
telling her that if she needs anything that she can
definitely reach out to us. And I'm willing to help
(06:05):
to send food to her home or whatever it is
that I can help with. It's the least I can do, guys.
And and also if you guys want more information on
the podcast Instagram, there is a post pin that has
information about your rights, So you guys can go ahead
and check that out and speak to a lawyer so
that you know what your rights are and you feel
a little bit more confident in that it's very important. Okay, guys.
(06:38):
Next question comes from Mariatro.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Post tristes and usta pero male roporti saper kend no
keros como pero solamente keoske and miro pola persona keres
(07:14):
Yso you quarentaiso e yosu from the press of the
p ropa rasa como too is super to the press
poke fu Gordita por Ke jr.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Sec and.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
The press proget some o. The press proget morrita rasa
como to supera pressa gordita parao look to medigas podigant
projecto andolok acid uh pi the rake Steven Diiga isla
(07:57):
super are sold comoto patrimonio to Familia to.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Bend him Maria Curvy power grdita power entre MASc so.
Maria is telling me, guys that she's very proud of
me for the weight that I've lost and that she
(08:26):
is a curvy woman and wants to know not exactly
how I lost weight. But what I did when I
was heavier to feel better, because she says that she
feels depressed a lot, and she just wants to feel
better and feel good in her own skin. So I'm
gonna answer, and then I'll come back to you. Per
(08:46):
Maria jo guando est josentia masa the lomonas no and
pa ya know yaura porge la piels flacida yes kmotra
(09:08):
in segura and ten ideas and the er por tantas
cosas no las hormoness mascenda portmos p the vers de
serta manera tolke mimos and so manera is as much
a person and tiendo pero joe simprementido la persona so
(09:35):
and my corrasson and mimente ma dado ajor porf okay
you know cor masquerpo pero josec and so como and
tranquil por and corras burt yes so cooke j opar
and for carme mass and my corason e me and
(09:57):
my relation condos maju dado as a mass segura in
comom express so in como mio pork i muchocha loxplico
and tre mascar massa roo because it does the sa
Okays see maas mass to malo tropero joo alopecial prop louse,
(10:24):
jomo pes cosas, look at what you are poco poco
as reference and like mindora as algo parquet sin as
por cando cando the Sienese da pression to the premier
(10:44):
or and m masser a perame no toya param querpong
marme mass yemen tarver poccus has buenos comberduras concos verdes
saladas compnoasupojori my poco po my parabene libres poco poco
(11:19):
lento paso passo, compassimo maria endo mores yeah, like like
like its beja telo por ro mano esbjo cretes primero, yeah,
(11:45):
marte yes resa cosas came reflectionan e la more as
yea timism okay, guys. So I told her a lot
of things. I told know a lot of things, but basically,
Hanna na Shell, I was just telling her that giving
yourself positive affirmations and it might sound silly to some people,
but it really does help, and it helps at least
to say something positive out loud than something negative, because
(12:09):
saying something negative is going to bring more darkness to you.
So I'd rather be look like, Okay, you know, she's
just this positive, little hippie person, you know, So say
something beautiful to yourself, and not only that, but choose
to say I want to love myself enough to feed
my body and move my body and sweat and release
toxins and feed my body so that it functions better
(12:34):
in every way, so that I feel better, so that
I have more clarity. I'm focusing more on the inner work,
on your heart and knowing who you are and working
on that so you radiate confidence and beauty on the outside.
Because yes, there's always going to be more beautiful women
or more fit women and this and that, and if
we focus on that, we're not focusing on ourselves. And
the work is inner. It's inner work in order to
(12:55):
radiate differently on the outside. I told her so many things.
I don't even remember. I was just setting my heart speak,
but that's what I told her, you know. So Maria
is perke chik is Okay, it's the animal animal. Okay, guys,
(13:19):
we have one last question from an anonymous listener.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
Hi, chikies, you can answer this question in English, and
I'll just say it in Spanish because I feel more
comfortable sitting in Spanish. OPI colla persona, conna esta microstal
and distance even torment i s o aligin q los
(13:52):
pas no prevan la paja peroson wells.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Gon hmm, we went listeners is de primero. So this
s anonymous listener is asking about the relationship I was
in when my mom was here, like the last year
(14:24):
of her life, and then after she passed, and if
I felt obligated in some way to stay in that relationship,
and if I could give her some advice on what
I think regarding parents not approving of a significant other.
So that's a pretty heavy question. I talked about this
(14:49):
in my book Forgiveness. I thought it was very important
to to express this because I did get a lot
of backlash because my mother and you know this ex
boyfriend actually ex fiance, we were engaged. They had a
very public argument. It got very nasty, and he said
(15:10):
some very not nice things in my defense because he
was trying to defend me. He was very upset with
how my mom was handling certain things at that time,
and at that time I felt very alone. I felt
like everyone had turned their back on me, and what
was being said was not only not true, but ridiculous
(15:35):
in my eyes. And I just couldn't believe that my
mom would even for a second think that I would
do something like that. So I was upset. I went
through so many different emotions, and so he was my
partner at that time, and he heard me cry, and
he saw me cry, and he saw how depressed I was,
so he was upset. He said some very not nice
things to my mom publicly. He was drunk. That's not
(15:56):
an excuse, and I don't excuse what he said, but
in that moment, I felt like, Wow, at least someone's
defending me, someone's on my side, and someone's standing up
to her in a way. So anyway, that's a whole
that's a whole other story. But I will say that
even despite that, and I did feel after, I think
because I had stayed with him and then my mom
(16:17):
passed away. And I don't know if I ever said
this in my book. I don't remember, but him and
I were actually fighting when my mom passed away, and
we started talking again because my mom passed away and
he was there for me, not physically because he wasn't
really allowed around my family and I had to be
there for my siblings. But he was there for me,
and I did feel in some way like, Wow, he
(16:39):
was there for me when no one else was. I'm
going to try to make this relationship work. And people
didn't like that, and people I got a lot of backlash,
and I get it. I totally understand that. But I
can say confidently now that no matter what, even if
I don't agree with certain things my mom did and
how she handled things, I think she was right when
(17:00):
she said, I don't want this type of man for you.
You know, he has five children. I don't want you
to have baby mama drama. And I did have baby
mama drama. Now his ex and I are super good friends.
She's my homie. We go to dinner and stuff. I
love his kids. His kids are still like I talk
to them, I see them once in a while. They're great.
(17:23):
But at that time it was very sticky, and so
now I could say, yeah, my mom, she was right.
And parents have this special gift of feeling things. They're
your parents, they had you, you know, and if they
tell you, hey, I don't know about this person's doesn't
feel right. I would definitely listen. I'd be like, Okay,
(17:44):
that's a red flag for me. I'm just going to
keep it there now. If you were to ask me,
i'd probably say, Mom, you know what, there's something here. Okay,
I'm probably going to try to detangle myself from the
situation as best as I can. Although we are humans
and we need to go through our process and learn,
I've always been very nest ya. I've always had to
learn the hard way. I've been hard headed. I don't
(18:05):
want to be anymore, but I was for a long time,
and you grow out of that with time. So to
my anonymous listener, I definitely would say that if your
parent does it, like your significant other, there's a reason.
There has to be something there. I can't obviously pinpoint
it because I don't know the situation, but it is
something that I would consider and take it either as
(18:27):
a red flag or a yellow flag something as a
warning to say, Okay, let me just have a little
bit of a guard up. Because parents, most of the time,
I want to say at least ninety five percent of
the time, are usually right, especially our mothers. They have
this special bond with us, So I would definitely listen
to that in some way. That doesn't mean you have
to make a decision right now, but just have that
(18:51):
in the back of your mind and save it, you know,
because I definitely every time my mom said something about
a friend, most of the time she was right. So
that's just my experience. But thank you so much for
your question. Thank you all for your question. I love
you guys, and trust me, this has been so heavy
on me. The raids and how this is being handled,
(19:13):
how this administration is handling things. I don't agree with it.
I think it's very inhumane. I think it's incompassionate. I
think it's not bringing anything good to the world. It's
actually bringing a lot of tension. But this is where
our power comes in and our prayers and coming together
because unity is power and there's a lot of strength
(19:33):
in that. So just remember that and be kind in
the world. Please just radiate your light and be kind
and don't be the one to add more fuel to
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