August 27, 2025 • 11 mins
On this week’s episode of Dear Chiquis: An anonymous listener needs help getting over a toxic relationship with a guy who is now on Grindr; Arlen asks me what I do to stay looking so young (thank you, Arlen!); and Mayra noticed my protection necklace and is wondering where I got it.
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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having
issues with your family, or maybe you have a question
about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want
to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in
(00:39):
my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue
or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the beeB.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Hi Cheekys. Just want to start off by saying I
love you and your family and super proud of you.
Thank you for this platform. My question is I'm having
a tough time dealing with the breakup. It's been four
months since we'd broken up. We had a three year relationship.
(01:12):
We were constantly fighting. There was no intimacy. Come to
find out, he had ed never wanted to talk about
it or deal with it. He didn't want to go
anywhere and he would tell me for me just to
go on my own. But I wanted us to have
and share these memories. So it was this toxic he
(01:37):
was calling me names and constantly criticizing me. So but
I still miss him. I so cry over it. And
I recently find out he's on dating maps and one
of them is Grinder. So he was always animant that
he was straight, so that when I'm just having a
(01:58):
hard time accepting that or dealing with it, I just
I'm a loss of what to do because I'm just
constantly crying and I don't know what to do. So
thank you for your time.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Oh mama, see Die, I want to give you a hug.
I hear it. I hear it in your voice, and
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Breakups are hard.
You have to give yourself some grace. You have to
lean into this pain. I know it's hard. I know
it hurts, but we always learn something valuable about ourselves
(02:40):
about what we want and what we don't want in
a relationship when we have breakups and when we're in pain.
So this is a time to really sit and sit
with that pain and just know that it's going to
go away. It will. You have to do the work, though,
like you have to be willing to do the work,
(03:02):
and that means cry it out. When you want to cry,
hang out with people that make you feel good. Don't
just stay in your house all day, work out, read
a book, do things that are going to make you
feel better, and when you want to cry crying, when
you want to dance, do that too. I don't like
this guy for you at all. If he's on grinder baby,
(03:23):
he's most likely gay, he's confused, and he was probably
very mean to you because he's upset with himself because
he probably can't live his truth. So that's not your fault,
and don't be upset with him. He probably comes from
a family that can accept gay people. I don't know,
but pray for him, wish him well, and know that
(03:45):
this is not your fault, and know that the best
thing that could have happened to you is for you
guys to break up, because if you were fighting and
he was toxic and he was calling you names and
not being intimate, that's probably because he's struggling with his
sexuality and it has nothing to do with you. I
would be more hurt if I saw him on dating
(04:06):
apps with like chicks. That to me would be like, okay,
then it's me and maybe I wasn't enough. But if
he's on grinder, that's stuff he needs to deal with
and he needs to figure that out. And you just
need to do your work and you need to focus
on yourself, shake it off and know that this too
will pass. It will pass, This too shall pass. I
(04:27):
promise you. Pain does not last forever. We are meant
to grow and to learn, and I know it hurts
right now, but you need to shake that shit off.
You need to and you will little by little. I'm
not telling you to do it right now because I've
been there. It took me a long time. But do
things that make you feel good, whatever that may be.
And I'm not talking about going and drinking because drinking
(04:49):
makes us feel good and we're like, okay, I just
want to figure it about my pain and don't suppress
the pain. You have to feel it. I'm talking about
doing things that are good for you, you know. And
also an episode we just had an episode about healing
from heartbreak on Chiki's and chill listen to it. Give
it a listen. There's a lot of gems there, so
I hope it helps and I'm hoping it gets better.
(05:10):
And just know not the man for you. Rejection is
God's protection. Remember that. Okay, guys, next question comes from Arlen.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Ola tikis parte ho mad trin when.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
What the same? And honest ah Arlen, which is grass. Yes,
they chuck out the complete quarinta and complete mui three
day polo guarenta, mescientos, croquet sporge a ju dado nar
(06:11):
meaning interior, rapiaquid much apiel, tomo agua mequidos nago her
cicio magmuchas lassers lass lass whatever lasers and la caa
is the siencaa clam esperma, salmon a sike joago istantem
(06:45):
called comantes quiero event not called para pero siempre metomo
al go para a jud co last toxinas, carlas, toxinas,
viario del cuerpo, plastocina jes no suplementos my toxina in alcohol.
(07:12):
It wass the looes you guys. Ireland was just saying
that how do I do it to look so young,
which is a great compliment, and I was just telling
her that I just turned forty, As you guys know,
I think now I feel better about saying it because
(07:33):
I just I feel young. I'm very proud of how
far I've come, and I was just telling her that
I've been doing boat talks for a while for a
long time. I do a lot of facials. My skincare
routine is important. I drink a lot of water, I sleep.
I try not to drink as much alcohol as before.
Has a lot of toxins, which brings me to toxins.
Doing a daily cleanse is important because the more toxins
(07:55):
we have in our body, the quicker our body ages.
So more toxins our organs don't work the way they should,
and then that makes us age faster. So I do
that a lot of green tea. I also just recently
did for the first time the salmon sprim facial ooh,
girl bomb, I'm so happy. And lasers, so I do
(08:18):
lasers amorpheus. I share everything because I mean, it's worked
for me, and I like sharing what works for me,
so I'm not shy about it. But yeah, I'm really happy.
I love that she thought I was just a little
bit over thirty. Love that for us. Grata. Arlene is
Bemosorda Okay, guys, hi chikis.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Is La tries posta protection sila manga parte is the presciosa.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Hi gracias Maidra. So Mara's asking about my bracelet, that
I wear my protection bracelet. She's asking where I got
it from. She loves it. I love that she notices
was one of my fan the Houston, Texas. Yeah, is
(09:25):
the oro in in estem and loo and the ebo.
I pero josi jo perro I think, But yes, guys,
(09:49):
I was just telling her that a fan gave it
to me, A fan gave it to me from Houston, Texas.
And before then I had one that my friend Delia
Halterer gave me, who I love very much. But then
I miss placed it unfortunately, and it made its way
back to me.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
You know.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
And a lot of people don't believe in the evil eye,
but I do. It's a symbol and I just feel
like maybe it's mental, but I do believe that evil
eye and jealousy and envy exists. So I just like
to protect myself even if I don't have a protection
bracelet on. I protect myself like I put like a
little mental shield around me. I'm like I am protected.
I am protected from the top of my head to
the bottom of my feet every day I do this. Okay,
(10:23):
Well that finalizes this episode, guys, madam which has asked, yes,
is this.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Well?
Speaker 1 (10:31):
No? You guys, thank you so much. I am am
grateful for you. Thank you for listening. Thank you for
letting me help you and trusting me with advice. I
promise I will always give you, guys, the best advice
from the bottom of my heart, as if I was
giving it to my best friend, to my sister, to
my siblings. So yes, sometimes life does throw us curveball.
So it's really nice to just have someone to talk to, right,
(10:51):
So talk to me all right, guys, So if you
have any questions and you haven't yet send one, send
one to speakpipe dot com slash Cheeks in Chill podcast
Have a great weekend. This is a production of iHeartRadio
and the Micaeldura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at
(11:13):
Michael Doura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c h
I q U i s. For more podcasts from iHeart,
visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen
to your favorite podcast.
Hello everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having
issues with your family, or maybe you have a question
about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want
to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in
(00:39):
my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue
or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the beeB.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Hi Cheekys. Just want to start off by saying I
love you and your family and super proud of you.
Thank you for this platform. My question is I'm having
a tough time dealing with the breakup. It's been four
months since we'd broken up. We had a three year relationship.
(01:12):
We were constantly fighting. There was no intimacy. Come to
find out, he had ed never wanted to talk about
it or deal with it. He didn't want to go
anywhere and he would tell me for me just to
go on my own. But I wanted us to have
and share these memories. So it was this toxic he
(01:37):
was calling me names and constantly criticizing me. So but
I still miss him. I so cry over it. And
I recently find out he's on dating maps and one
of them is Grinder. So he was always animant that
he was straight, so that when I'm just having a
(01:58):
hard time accepting that or dealing with it, I just
I'm a loss of what to do because I'm just
constantly crying and I don't know what to do. So
thank you for your time.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Oh mama, see Die, I want to give you a hug.
I hear it. I hear it in your voice, and
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Breakups are hard.
You have to give yourself some grace. You have to
lean into this pain. I know it's hard. I know
it hurts, but we always learn something valuable about ourselves
(02:40):
about what we want and what we don't want in
a relationship when we have breakups and when we're in pain.
So this is a time to really sit and sit
with that pain and just know that it's going to
go away. It will. You have to do the work, though,
like you have to be willing to do the work,
(03:02):
and that means cry it out. When you want to cry,
hang out with people that make you feel good. Don't
just stay in your house all day, work out, read
a book, do things that are going to make you
feel better, and when you want to cry crying, when
you want to dance, do that too. I don't like
this guy for you at all. If he's on grinder baby,
(03:23):
he's most likely gay, he's confused, and he was probably
very mean to you because he's upset with himself because
he probably can't live his truth. So that's not your fault,
and don't be upset with him. He probably comes from
a family that can accept gay people. I don't know,
but pray for him, wish him well, and know that
(03:45):
this is not your fault, and know that the best
thing that could have happened to you is for you
guys to break up, because if you were fighting and
he was toxic and he was calling you names and
not being intimate, that's probably because he's struggling with his
sexuality and it has nothing to do with you. I
would be more hurt if I saw him on dating
(04:06):
apps with like chicks. That to me would be like, okay,
then it's me and maybe I wasn't enough. But if
he's on grinder, that's stuff he needs to deal with
and he needs to figure that out. And you just
need to do your work and you need to focus
on yourself, shake it off and know that this too
will pass. It will pass, This too shall pass. I
(04:27):
promise you. Pain does not last forever. We are meant
to grow and to learn, and I know it hurts
right now, but you need to shake that shit off.
You need to and you will little by little. I'm
not telling you to do it right now because I've
been there. It took me a long time. But do
things that make you feel good, whatever that may be.
And I'm not talking about going and drinking because drinking
(04:49):
makes us feel good and we're like, okay, I just
want to figure it about my pain and don't suppress
the pain. You have to feel it. I'm talking about
doing things that are good for you, you know. And
also an episode we just had an episode about healing
from heartbreak on Chiki's and chill listen to it. Give
it a listen. There's a lot of gems there, so
I hope it helps and I'm hoping it gets better.
(05:10):
And just know not the man for you. Rejection is
God's protection. Remember that. Okay, guys, next question comes from Arlen.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Ola tikis parte ho mad trin when.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
What the same? And honest ah Arlen, which is grass. Yes,
they chuck out the complete quarinta and complete mui three
day polo guarenta, mescientos, croquet sporge a ju dado nar
(06:11):
meaning interior, rapiaquid much apiel, tomo agua mequidos nago her
cicio magmuchas lassers lass lass whatever lasers and la caa
is the siencaa clam esperma, salmon a sike joago istantem
(06:45):
called comantes quiero event not called para pero siempre metomo
al go para a jud co last toxinas, carlas, toxinas,
viario del cuerpo, plastocina jes no suplementos my toxina in alcohol.
(07:12):
It wass the looes you guys. Ireland was just saying
that how do I do it to look so young,
which is a great compliment, and I was just telling
her that I just turned forty, As you guys know,
I think now I feel better about saying it because
(07:33):
I just I feel young. I'm very proud of how
far I've come, and I was just telling her that
I've been doing boat talks for a while for a
long time. I do a lot of facials. My skincare
routine is important. I drink a lot of water, I sleep.
I try not to drink as much alcohol as before.
Has a lot of toxins, which brings me to toxins.
Doing a daily cleanse is important because the more toxins
(07:55):
we have in our body, the quicker our body ages.
So more toxins our organs don't work the way they should,
and then that makes us age faster. So I do
that a lot of green tea. I also just recently
did for the first time the salmon sprim facial ooh,
girl bomb, I'm so happy. And lasers, so I do
(08:18):
lasers amorpheus. I share everything because I mean, it's worked
for me, and I like sharing what works for me,
so I'm not shy about it. But yeah, I'm really happy.
I love that she thought I was just a little
bit over thirty. Love that for us. Grata. Arlene is
Bemosorda Okay, guys, hi chikis.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Is La tries posta protection sila manga parte is the presciosa.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Hi gracias Maidra. So Mara's asking about my bracelet, that
I wear my protection bracelet. She's asking where I got
it from. She loves it. I love that she notices
was one of my fan the Houston, Texas. Yeah, is
(09:25):
the oro in in estem and loo and the ebo.
I pero josi jo perro I think, But yes, guys,
(09:49):
I was just telling her that a fan gave it
to me, A fan gave it to me from Houston, Texas.
And before then I had one that my friend Delia
Halterer gave me, who I love very much. But then
I miss placed it unfortunately, and it made its way
back to me.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
You know.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
And a lot of people don't believe in the evil eye,
but I do. It's a symbol and I just feel
like maybe it's mental, but I do believe that evil
eye and jealousy and envy exists. So I just like
to protect myself even if I don't have a protection
bracelet on. I protect myself like I put like a
little mental shield around me. I'm like I am protected.
I am protected from the top of my head to
the bottom of my feet every day I do this. Okay,
(10:23):
Well that finalizes this episode, guys, madam which has asked, yes,
is this.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Well?
Speaker 1 (10:31):
No? You guys, thank you so much. I am am
grateful for you. Thank you for listening. Thank you for
letting me help you and trusting me with advice. I
promise I will always give you, guys, the best advice
from the bottom of my heart, as if I was
giving it to my best friend, to my sister, to
my siblings. So yes, sometimes life does throw us curveball.
So it's really nice to just have someone to talk to, right,
(10:51):
So talk to me all right, guys, So if you
have any questions and you haven't yet send one, send
one to speakpipe dot com slash Cheeks in Chill podcast
Have a great weekend. This is a production of iHeartRadio
and the Micaeldura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at
(11:13):
Michael Doura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c h
I q U i s. For more podcasts from iHeart,
visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen
to your favorite podcast.
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