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February 28, 2024 14 mins

It’s time for another episode of Dear Chiquis! This week, an anonymous caller asks for help because her family won’t believe she was abused; Christine has had enough of toxic family and needs advice on how to cut them off; Omar wants to become an artist but doesn’t know where to start and Kass has a question about growing her podcast.

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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
What arever the cases I want to hear from you.
Remember these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're

(00:40):
suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help
from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and
leave your question at the sound of the beeB.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hi, Cheeky's. My name is Omar, and I am a
huge fan of you of your mother since Cheeky's and Roxy.
I was like eleven or twelve at the time, and
I remember just loving you guys, and I still currently do.
I am not twenty five, so Mahina's an amount of
love I have for the both of you. Pollosa's empowering woman.

(01:10):
I love you guys that much. But my first question, girl,
is how do I go about becoming an antista. I
know there's a lot of self promoting involved, but there's
also a lot more to it. Who do I go to,
who do I pay? What do I do? That's my
first question. The next one would be, would you see

(01:32):
Cheeky signing her own artists in the future, Sacandosta Salelante.
If so, you have a prototype right here. His name
is Wimar. If not, it's cool, I get it. But yeah,
that advice would really help me. Cheeky's thank you.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
Oh you're so cute, Omar, thank you so much. I
love your question. I actually have sweet sound records and
I'm trying to convince John to let me sign him.
So you never know, maybe you'll be the next artist.
And thank you for watching me on I love Jenny
and Cheese and Roxy. That means a lot to me.
Think you think you? Thank you? Okay, So here's the
thing now with social media, it makes me so much easier,

(02:10):
you guys, so you have to put yourself out there, YouTube, Instagram,
TikTok is huge, TikTok, especially using the right hashtags, you guys.
That'll help you a little more. And finding yourself a
good publicist I think that was the first thing to do. Obviously,
someone to manage you, someone that you trust. I can
give you advice on that later on, once you have
found someone, I'll tell you exactly what you need to

(02:30):
ask and what you need to carve out or having
your contract because it's very important. Okay, good lawyer's wealth
that's going to review your contracts, you guys, please, I
learned my lesson the hard way. So anyways, going back
to that, a publicists because of publicist, I think is
a great investment, especially when you're starting out, because they're
going to be able to put you everywhere you need
an entertainment publicist. Okay, remember that, and yeah, just post

(02:53):
a bunch of videos. I mean a lot of these
new artists are being discovered on TikTok. So put yourself
out there. Be willing. And you sound very handsome, so
I don't know you got that going for you. I
don't know what you look like, but anyways, but yes,
put yourself out there, put up a video, and if
you can tag me, I'd love to hear what you
sound like and what you're sing and yeah, so that

(03:14):
is my advice. Omar, thank you so much for your question.
I really appreciate it. Now we're going to move on
to the next question from Christine Hi chiky.

Speaker 3 (03:26):
I'm reaching out because I need help and figure out
how to go about this. I've been dealing with toxic
family members for a long time. Now that I'm an
adult and I have a daughter, I'm like trying to
heal and have more of a positive and loving and
caring environment for her. She's only a year old, almost two,

(03:50):
and I just realized, like it's time to stop pretending
or stop letting them, you know, be this way and
have this hold on our family in general, Like I
want to step away, respectfully, leave the I guess, leave
the door open for possible reconciliation. Before now, I don't

(04:10):
want to give in anymore. I don't want to give
in to their tops of behavior, their disrespect, and their selfishness.
So you know, what can I do or how can
I go about this? Thank you so.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Much, Christine, you are preaching to the choir girl. It's tough.
It's tough because it's family and we love them. But
I say this a lot on the podcast. You guys
that if someone is not good for your soul, if
someone's causing you more pain than good, it is okay
for you to set boundaries. Boundaries. They're healthy, it's okay

(04:42):
to love people from Afar. Don't feel guilty about that.
You are protecting your daughter now and you want the
best for her, and you want to break generational curses,
which I get because I felt I needed to do
that for my little family, my siblings and their kids.
It's not to say that they won't change, so that
you keep your keeping that door open for the possibility

(05:03):
of you know, reconciliation. But for now, if you feel
this way, it's okay for you, Like I said, for
you to love them from Afar and wish them the best,
and if they need something one day, then you can
go ahead and do it. Look at the Nasca. You
have to go with what feels right in your heart,
but you don't have to make it or try to

(05:24):
make it work because they're your family. Because we were
taught blood is thicker than water, and sometimes we create
this false narrative in our mind that well, we have
to put up with everything because that's our family. That's
our grandma, that's our uncle, that's our cousin, that's and
even with parents, sometimes you have to create boundaries. That's
being respectful to yourself and being good, a good steward

(05:46):
of what God has given you and you have a
daughter that you're trying to protect, So that is my advice.
I hope it works out, and I hope that they
realize what they're losing and once you, you know, once
they see that space that you're creating between you and
the other person or the other people, that they appreciate
and value who you are, and they change. I'm hoping

(06:07):
that's what I'm hoping. So thank you so much for
your question, and I hope it works out. I'm going
to send you a big, big hug because I know,
I know, girl, I feel you. Our next question comes
from cass Hi.

Speaker 4 (06:23):
Cheeky's Love Your Podcast. I recently started watching it because
I would watch your sister's podcast, and you know you
mentioned it not you had mentioned on there that you
had one as well, and I really like your podcast
as well, and I guess I want some advice on
the podcast. I started mine recently and I am tracking

(06:44):
our journey. My husband's a nice journey because he recently
got deported and I also made the move to Mexico
because I didn't want to be in the United States
without him, and I wanted to track our journey. But
I didn't want the podcast only to be about that,
you know, I wanted it to be a space for me,
a space where I can talk about anything I want to,

(07:07):
you know, La coma Latina and all of that. And
I recently had a conversation with somebody and they kind
of were telling me that they didn't understand why I
named the podcast the way I did, and for me,
it was something meaningful related to, you know, the situation
that I am now. I am in now, and they

(07:28):
were just like, I don't understand what you named it
if it's not just going to be about that, And
I feel kind of like it wasn't really much of
a support. It was kind of more bringing me down,
you know, And I feel like, you know, all podcasts
don't really relate to what the name is about, and
I just, you know, I want some advice on how

(07:49):
to deal with stuff like that or and as well
as you know, being consistent on your podcast, growing the
podcast and making it a better podcast for myself and
working on it.

Speaker 1 (08:03):
Cass, you forgot to tell me the name of your podcast.
I wish I knew, so I can give you a
little bit more advice on that. But regardless, it doesn't
matter what the name of your podcast is and what
anyone else thinks. At the end of the day, it's
what is coming out of your heart and what you're
trying to do, not only for yourself and for your relationship,
but also to help other people. So don't worry too

(08:23):
much about what that person said, or you know you
didn't feel that it was they're being supportive. At the
end of the day, just know that it'll grow slowly, maybe,
but surely. Don't worry if, like right now, you don't
have a lot of listeners, or maybe you do, that's awesome.
I'm just saying, like, don't worry much. Don't worry too
much about that about numbers. I think in the society
that we live in right now, we worry so much

(08:43):
about numbers. And I'm telling you because sometimes it does
affect me until I remember I'm like, Okay, if one
person is watching, if one person is listening, if five
people are going to go to my show, those five
people are meant to be there, and I'm going to
give them the best of me. So as long as
what you're doing is coming from your heart and for
the right reasons, don't worry about anything else, and I
think the best thing right now. Podcasting is like huge

(09:05):
and it's so fun. So congratulations on that. By the way.
Just keep at it, you know, and make sure you're
staying true to yourself and putting it out there. I mean,
YouTube is a great place as well to promote it.
And you know, we have all these different platforms, so
just be patient and always be willing to talk about
things that people aren't willing to talk about. Like a

(09:27):
podcast is where you can be transparent. It's your platform.
It's your way for people to hear you and to
change the world. So I hope everything goes well, and
don't worry about the naysayers. Girl like, just stay focused, focused. Okay, guys,
that goes for all of us. All right, Cas, thank
you so much for your question, and I'm wishing you

(09:48):
all the best. Next time, tell me please tell me
the name of your podcast. Our next question comes from
an anonymous listener.

Speaker 5 (09:57):
Ome ky keys Cool had a question for you. I
wanted to say fri Us that I am hire everything
you do and your strength to keep going forward after
everything you went through is amazing. I was just wondering
if you have any advice. I don't know if you
ever dealt with nobody like family members not believing your abuse,

(10:25):
and if you did, how did you go on without,
like with them not believing you, or if you didn't,
if you have any advice on how to keep going
forward when certain family members don't believe the abuse that
happened to you. That's the advice I wanted, And I

(10:50):
just had one more thing. It's just a question for you.
Do you ever plan on trying to buy your mom's
own house?

Speaker 1 (11:01):
Hi, anony misused listener. I understand why you probably didn't
leave your name, and that's fine. Let me start backwards.
I'm going to answer your question in regards to my
mom's house. I get that question a lot. I would
love to one day. Now it's millions and millions of dollars.
I think that it would be awesome if I could.
I would, But then I'm like, do I really want
to live in that house without my mom? I've thought

(11:22):
about that too, and I'm like, I don't know, something
I got to pray about because I don't know. I
think it'd be hard for not only me, but all
my siblings. You know what I mean. So, now going
to your initial question, Yes, there are people that didn't
believe me and probably still don't believe me till this
day about my abuse, especially like my dad's side of

(11:44):
the family, which, to be honest, I understand, you know,
because that's his family and they're going to have his back,
and I'm not upset about it anymore. If anything, I
still I actually now talk to some of my dad's family.
Another one is my grandpa's my grandpa's sister. She didn't
believe me and said a lot of things, and that
really hurt me. I was like, what the heck, But

(12:05):
you know what, I started understanding that there are gonna
be people that are not going to believe a lot
of things. And as long as I know in my
heart what the truth is and I forgive the person,
I think more than anything, it's you forgiving the person.
I know it's and I'm sure I think you're asking

(12:25):
about for yourself, I think, but if not, I think
it's just forgiving the person and people that don't believe you,
like you just got to let it be and probably
stay away from those people. And I don't know who
the people are, but it's painful, and I think it's
just going to take time to heal that wound, and
you're gonna have to be okay with just putting up

(12:46):
a wall and a shield of you know what. I'm
going to protect my heart, my mind, and my body.
And if these people don't believe me, it's maybe they
have issues that they're working through. I don't know, but
it's for you to stay away because you still have
You're going through your healing process. It's something that's gonna
take a while, so I hope that helps. It's really

(13:08):
tough because I wish I had more to tell you,
but I understand it. It can be very painful, but
stay away from those people because people that love you.
That's one thing I think my mom for that. She
never questioned me. She believed me and had my back,
and that feels good. Stay close to the people that
have your back and believe you, you know. So I'm

(13:31):
wishing you all the best. You guys, thank you so
much for listening to another episode of Dear Cheekys and
watching as well. Now we have a set and it's
so beautiful and I'm so happy. So thank you guys
for listening and watching, and I will catch you on
the next episode of Dear Cheekys. If you guys have
any questions concerns about anything and everything, I am willing
to answer, even if they're kind of weird questions or

(13:53):
not necessarily weird, but I don't know, just anything, honestly
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