October 22, 2025 • 16 mins
This week on Dear Chiquis: Diana is marrying her high school sweetheart and wants my best advice for planning the wedding and make the most of their special day; an anonymous listener wants to stop hating the person her partner cheated on her with but doesn’t know how to do it; and Laly wants to know what I would do if someone close to me talks badly about a person I love.
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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Whether you're going.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Through a breakup or having issues with your family, or
maybe you have a question about my personal life. Whatever
the case is, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts in my opinions, and if you're
suffering from a serious issue or hardship, you should seek
help from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead
and leave your message at the sound of the beeB.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Hi tee keys.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
My name is Leanna, and I just want to say
I love you so much.
Speaker 5 (00:55):
I watched all your reality shows and I just to
admire you so much. I love how genuine and giving
and compassionate you are, and I just love you and
your family.
Speaker 6 (01:08):
So I was wanting to ask you.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
I recently got engaged to my boyfriend, like longtime high
school sweetheart, and we finally picked a date for the wedding.
I was just wondering, what advice do you give me
going forward for planning, any tips, what not to stress about,
maybe what to splurge on and what you don't have
(01:31):
to splurgeh thank you so much.
Speaker 5 (01:33):
I love you.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Hi Diana, I love your question, and thank you so
much for watching the reality shows. I think those have
just given everyone the opportunity to get to know us
on a different level.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
So I really appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
And Okay, this is a great question if I could
do anything different. You know I've had two weddings, right
for sure. The first wedding, well, I don't you want
to talk about it anyway. I simplified everything for the
second one because I wanted to just enjoy myself. So
you have to remember, the wedding is for you guys, yes,
but in reality it's for the guests. So I want
(02:12):
you to really get in the space of I want
to enjoy my wedding. What is going to make me
enjoy my wedding because people are going to say what
they want. Some people will like the food, some people won't.
And what I did with my wedding was I made sure.
I was like, if I'm going to spend on anything,
(02:33):
I'm going to splurge on good food, on food that
I like. Okay, So that's why we went to Havier
It is one of my very favorite Mexican restaurants here
in LA and they have one in Vegas, and I
was like, Okay, I want to make sure I enjoy
it before you're thinking of like everyone else, are they
gonna like it or the no, no, no, you have
to just think of Okay, the food.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Food is so important to me. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
To me, food is super important and you have to
feed people and it has to be something that you're
going to enjoy. Please make sure you eat. Of course
you're hosting, but you have to make sure that you
enjoy your day. Your wedding dress is important. You splurge
on your wedding dress. That's something you're gonna have forever
and hopefully God willing give it to your daughter, which,
by the way, congratulations on your engagement.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
I'm sorry I should have started with that. But you need.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
To spend as much as you'd like on your dress.
But also remember to be comfortable. Okay, there's no reason
in the world that you're gonna have this beautiful, magnificent
dress but you're not comfortable. You have to be comfortable.
You have to feel like I can be in this
dress all night long. Unless you want to change, that's
perfectly fine.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
I did.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
But the dress that I wore, I am in love
and I could probably cut it and make it short
and wear it today. Like that's how simple I wanted
it and how comfortable I wanted to fill in it
the material, So I spend mostly on the dress and
the food venue is important, but again, like you can
do that in a backyard. It's all the vibe that
you're going to bring, the music, the food that's going
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to really make all the difference. So that's the advice
that I can give you right now, like off the
top of my head. Remember this is your wedding vib
You have to enjoy it and just know that people
with an opinion, it is what it is. Don't let
it bother you, don't even mind it. And take a
deep breath while you're planning because it could be stressful,
(04:27):
but it could be a beautiful experience as long as
you set that tone when you are planning. If that
makes sense. But hopefully my advice helped. I'm so excited.
I can't wait to hear all about your wedding. When
are you getting married? Update us please on everything, Send
us pictures. We love updates here on your cheeky's all
of us, so I'm so happy, congratulations, Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
And we're something sexy for your husband that night.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Don't get so tired where you're like, oh, everyone gets
so tired and don't want to consummate the wedding at
the end of the night. So remember to just kind
of end it early because it's about you and your
man and you guys want to for sure make love
on that night. And that's all, thanks Diana. Okay, guys,
(05:12):
moving on to eh an anonymous listener.
Speaker 6 (05:14):
Let's see, hi, Chiki is My question is how do
you get over the side girl knowing about you and
your partner what my partner cheated. Me and my partner
are in a good place. It has been two years.
She is putting in the work, She's giving me the communication, reassurance,
passwords and everything. I am trying to get pregnant by
an eui. Sadly, I had two fellas attempts, but I
(05:38):
still have that hatred towards that person she cheated on
me with because she knew about me and didn't care.
Please give me some advice on how to get over
because I feel like that hatred and stress is still
affecting me and maybe blocking my way of getting pregnant.
I have forgave my girlfriend only because she has put
in the work and she still was by me, But
(06:00):
I still cannot get over the girl. Please help me.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Oh my gosh, baby, I get it. I totally totally understand.
And you said it yourself. You said it, so you
know that if you don't forgive and let go of
this resentment that you feel and forgive, truly forgive from
the root, it's going to be very difficult for you
to get pregnant. Because when we're trying to get pregnant,
we need to be relaxed. We need to cleanse ourselves
(06:26):
of any bad energy, of anything that we're carrying, like
resentment and unforgiveness, etc. But you are well aware. It
seems like you're a very connected girl, So I definitely
think that, especially if your partner is giving you her
all and showing you that she's all in and she's
all about you. I do believe in forgiveness, and I
(06:49):
do believe that people can change, and sometimes people need
to experience certain things like that in order to make
the relationship stronger and to appreciate their partner. Well, honestly,
I admire you, and I think it's great that you
forgave her. Now you really have to dig deep. Now
it's about you. Now you have to let go, because
if you keep bringing it up, or you're holding this resentment,
(07:11):
you're going to cause more tension in the relationship when
it doesn't there. It doesn't have to be any especially
if your partner is trying, and then you don't want
to get to the point where your partner feels unappreciated
and undervalued and you're just constantly bringing this up. I
don't know if you're doing this, but I'm just telling you,
don't do it. If you forgive, we have to try
to forget and move on. I would definitely say to
(07:35):
try therapy, read a book on it. I'm trying to
think if there's a book that can help. Ooh, I
mean my Life Coaches book. It's like that's the one,
Like I just finished reading. The book is called Higher
Self by Mariy Fontanez. There's another part of the book,
but I can't remember right now. Either way, look it
(07:56):
up and that can also help you. I think you
just need to really tell yourself if my person. If
my girl is still with me, it's because she loves me.
And that was just a moment thing. And I understand
it could be hard.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
I have been there.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
I get it, and you start thinking all kinds of things,
but it's thinking, and overthinking is our worst enemy.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Guys like overthinking. I used to do that so much.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Now I'm just like literally Mesakuro and I'm just like,
I move my body. I'm like, okay, I'm releasing and
I'm surrendering.
Speaker 6 (08:29):
This.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Actually, a better book for you for this situation would
be Letting Go The Pathway to Surrender. Okay, look it up, police.
This book will help you and show you how to
release and how to surrender emotions and pass traumas. Oh
my gosh, it's amazing. But literally surrendering, babe and releasing it.
It does not belong to you. That is in the past.
(08:51):
Don't keep living in the past. That's what causes depression
and it doesn't allow you to move forward. So I
know it's easier said than done. But you have to
be intentional with this. You have to constantly when you
feel that these thoughts are coming in your mind, you
need to visualize like it's a rock that you're holding
this person, this situation is a rock and you're holding
it around everywhere.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
It's the rock.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
It's heavy, and the more you hold it around, it's
going to weigh you downe It's gonna make your hand hurt.
You're not gonna be able to do other things because
your hand is occupied with holding this rock. Then visualize
you letting it go, putting it on the grass, giving
it back to the earth. Thank you for the experience,
for what I needed to learn from this. I'm gonna
leave this rock right here because I need this hand
(09:32):
to do what I need to do. I need it
free because I need to love, I need to create life.
I can't hold this rock around, So I'm gonna leave
this damn rock right here. You have to do it
like visually, maybe even go grab a real rock honestly,
like it probably sounds crazy, but go grab a real rock,
something that's heavy, and visualize and leave it there and
put all of this anger and sadness and hate because
(09:55):
that's not good to hate this person. Yes, we're upset
with her, and she knew you know what a yay. Yeah,
let her learn her lesson and visualize it and put
all this energy in this rock and then you're gonna
go and leave it somewhere or throw it in the ocean.
It's gonna help so much. Try it and please let
me know if it works. Okay, and read the book
and I'm sure that's going to help you a lot.
(10:18):
Surrender and release, babe, Sending you a big hug. You
got this, and good luck with the process of having
a baby. Our next and last question is from Lally
Hi Tikis.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
I want to say I'm a huge fan of yours
and I have two questions for you. So I'm watching
I Love Johnny right now, and I have to know
are you guys still friends like you and Mikey or
do you guys still talk to high boy like after
your mom passed and everything. My second question for you
is how would you go about like someone that you
(10:59):
used to be really really close to talk bad about
someone you love? Because my old best friend, my ex
best friend, who I stopping her friend because I found
out she was talking bad mommy saying she was pissed
how I have other friends. And then I found out
that she is talking bad about my dad because he
(11:20):
is in prison right now for her drugs and I
found out that he that she is talking bad about,
how he's a drug addict and all of this until
he's talking bad. And my question for you is, how
would you go about this? How would you deal with this?
Because it really makes me so mad and my family
(11:43):
just told me to ignore it, but I want to
know how you would go about this and how you
would handle something like that. Thank you, I love you.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Oh Lalie, thank you for watching. I love Jenny, I
love it. Look at this. Okay, So I don't remember
who Hi boy is thought, remember, I have to rewatch
the episode myself. I was trying to remember as I
was listening to your voice memo. I can't remember, but
I'll get back to you on that. I owe you.
(12:12):
I'm sure I'll call Johnny or any of my siblings
actually and they'll remember. But pertaining to your second question,
like Mama, people are always going to talk bad about us,
and I know that it hurts more when it comes
from someone that you love. It happened to me and
I had to let go of a friend because I
had concrete evidence of her speaking bad about me. I
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saw a text message and it broke my heart. Because
sometimes we put expectations on people that aren't realistic, and
that's one of the mistakes that we make as human beings,
is expecting people to be like us, or expecting certain
things from people and they're not capable of it. But
I know your family's telling you to ignore them. And
at this point of my life, I don't know how
(12:54):
old you are. You sound a little young, I'm not sure,
but at this point of my life, ignoring is the
best thing I could do for sure. Like there's so
much noise happening right now in my life that I
have no control over, and I'm like, well, a lot
of them are lies, if not all of them, and
it's people that I once loved, and it sucks now
(13:16):
I just ignore it. I'm like, you know what, I'm
gonna go about my day. I know who I am,
I know the truth. I wish I would have known
this when I was younger, so I know it's a
lot harder. I don't know if you're getting this information
from other people, if you have concrete evidence of her
saying it. But I think it all depends if she
said it and you know for sure she said it.
If you know for sure she said it, you have
(13:36):
to ignore it.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
Babe.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
You don't want that in your life anyway. I know
it's hard, but if you know it's not true, then
you don't want those people in your life. It's not
even worth you giving that person your attention. Now you
just know, and you have to thank God that you
know how this person is and they're no longer in
your life. So it's a blessing in disguise. Now, if
someone else is telling you she said these things and
(13:58):
you don't really know and there's no huncrete evidence, then
you need to toughen up and face it and ask her,
are you saying these things in a way that's not
confrontational through a text message, maybe not to fight, but
just to get clarity. So it all depends. Those are
my two ways of helping you. But really, babe, people
(14:19):
are gonna talk and say so many things about us,
and unfortunately that's just the way life is. But as
long as you know who you are in your heart
and in your mind, and you know who your dad is,
whether some of it may be true, half of it
is true or not, you know what other people think
about you is not your business. And I mean it
in the way of like you don't even know me.
(14:41):
I don't want you in my life anyway. So whatever
you say about me, okay, cool, that's your opinion. You're
entitled to your opinion and by.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
So hopefully all of that made sense, and hopefully my
advice can help you. But I wouldn't worry too much, Mama.
You focus on your dad, on being there for him,
and focus on yourself. And if there are some things
that she's saying about you that you feel, you know,
trigger something inside of you, try to figure out what
it is so that you because it's bothering you for
a reason. It all depends what she's saying, and say, Okay,
(15:12):
where do I have room to change? Look within yourself
so that this doesn't happen again with another friend.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
You get me.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
So we have to learn from these situations. So that
is my advice, and I wish you well. Okay, keep
me updated, keep us updated, guys.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Oh my gosh. I love you guys.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
All the questions and to know that you guys still
love I love Jenny. I love it too. I need
to watch it. Actually I need to figure out who
Hi Boy is. But thank you guys, Thank you guys,
so much. I love seeing clips on TikTok and just
reliving those moments, and so I just want to say
thank you guys. And yeah, if you have a question,
please leave it at speakpipe dot com slash Cheeks and
(15:51):
Chill podcast. I'd love to hear from you, and I'd
love to give you advice from the bottom of my heart. Okay.
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Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Whether you're going.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Through a breakup or having issues with your family, or
maybe you have a question about my personal life. Whatever
the case is, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts in my opinions, and if you're
suffering from a serious issue or hardship, you should seek
help from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead
and leave your message at the sound of the beeB.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Hi tee keys.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
My name is Leanna, and I just want to say
I love you so much.
Speaker 5 (00:55):
I watched all your reality shows and I just to
admire you so much. I love how genuine and giving
and compassionate you are, and I just love you and
your family.
Speaker 6 (01:08):
So I was wanting to ask you.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
I recently got engaged to my boyfriend, like longtime high
school sweetheart, and we finally picked a date for the wedding.
I was just wondering, what advice do you give me
going forward for planning, any tips, what not to stress about,
maybe what to splurge on and what you don't have
(01:31):
to splurgeh thank you so much.
Speaker 5 (01:33):
I love you.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Hi Diana, I love your question, and thank you so
much for watching the reality shows. I think those have
just given everyone the opportunity to get to know us
on a different level.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
So I really appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
And Okay, this is a great question if I could
do anything different. You know I've had two weddings, right
for sure. The first wedding, well, I don't you want
to talk about it anyway. I simplified everything for the
second one because I wanted to just enjoy myself. So
you have to remember, the wedding is for you guys, yes,
but in reality it's for the guests. So I want
(02:12):
you to really get in the space of I want
to enjoy my wedding. What is going to make me
enjoy my wedding because people are going to say what
they want. Some people will like the food, some people won't.
And what I did with my wedding was I made sure.
I was like, if I'm going to spend on anything,
(02:33):
I'm going to splurge on good food, on food that
I like. Okay, So that's why we went to Havier
It is one of my very favorite Mexican restaurants here
in LA and they have one in Vegas, and I
was like, Okay, I want to make sure I enjoy
it before you're thinking of like everyone else, are they
gonna like it or the no, no, no, you have
to just think of Okay, the food.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Food is so important to me. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
To me, food is super important and you have to
feed people and it has to be something that you're
going to enjoy. Please make sure you eat. Of course
you're hosting, but you have to make sure that you
enjoy your day. Your wedding dress is important. You splurge
on your wedding dress. That's something you're gonna have forever
and hopefully God willing give it to your daughter, which,
by the way, congratulations on your engagement.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
I'm sorry I should have started with that. But you need.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
To spend as much as you'd like on your dress.
But also remember to be comfortable. Okay, there's no reason
in the world that you're gonna have this beautiful, magnificent
dress but you're not comfortable. You have to be comfortable.
You have to feel like I can be in this
dress all night long. Unless you want to change, that's
perfectly fine.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
I did.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
But the dress that I wore, I am in love
and I could probably cut it and make it short
and wear it today. Like that's how simple I wanted
it and how comfortable I wanted to fill in it
the material, So I spend mostly on the dress and
the food venue is important, but again, like you can
do that in a backyard. It's all the vibe that
you're going to bring, the music, the food that's going
(04:05):
to really make all the difference. So that's the advice
that I can give you right now, like off the
top of my head. Remember this is your wedding vib
You have to enjoy it and just know that people
with an opinion, it is what it is. Don't let
it bother you, don't even mind it. And take a
deep breath while you're planning because it could be stressful,
(04:27):
but it could be a beautiful experience as long as
you set that tone when you are planning. If that
makes sense. But hopefully my advice helped. I'm so excited.
I can't wait to hear all about your wedding. When
are you getting married? Update us please on everything, Send
us pictures. We love updates here on your cheeky's all
of us, so I'm so happy, congratulations, Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
And we're something sexy for your husband that night.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Don't get so tired where you're like, oh, everyone gets
so tired and don't want to consummate the wedding at
the end of the night. So remember to just kind
of end it early because it's about you and your
man and you guys want to for sure make love
on that night. And that's all, thanks Diana. Okay, guys,
(05:12):
moving on to eh an anonymous listener.
Speaker 6 (05:14):
Let's see, hi, Chiki is My question is how do
you get over the side girl knowing about you and
your partner what my partner cheated. Me and my partner
are in a good place. It has been two years.
She is putting in the work, She's giving me the communication, reassurance,
passwords and everything. I am trying to get pregnant by
an eui. Sadly, I had two fellas attempts, but I
(05:38):
still have that hatred towards that person she cheated on
me with because she knew about me and didn't care.
Please give me some advice on how to get over
because I feel like that hatred and stress is still
affecting me and maybe blocking my way of getting pregnant.
I have forgave my girlfriend only because she has put
in the work and she still was by me, But
(06:00):
I still cannot get over the girl. Please help me.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Oh my gosh, baby, I get it. I totally totally understand.
And you said it yourself. You said it, so you
know that if you don't forgive and let go of
this resentment that you feel and forgive, truly forgive from
the root, it's going to be very difficult for you
to get pregnant. Because when we're trying to get pregnant,
we need to be relaxed. We need to cleanse ourselves
(06:26):
of any bad energy, of anything that we're carrying, like
resentment and unforgiveness, etc. But you are well aware. It
seems like you're a very connected girl, So I definitely
think that, especially if your partner is giving you her
all and showing you that she's all in and she's
all about you. I do believe in forgiveness, and I
(06:49):
do believe that people can change, and sometimes people need
to experience certain things like that in order to make
the relationship stronger and to appreciate their partner. Well, honestly,
I admire you, and I think it's great that you
forgave her. Now you really have to dig deep. Now
it's about you. Now you have to let go, because
if you keep bringing it up, or you're holding this resentment,
(07:11):
you're going to cause more tension in the relationship when
it doesn't there. It doesn't have to be any especially
if your partner is trying, and then you don't want
to get to the point where your partner feels unappreciated
and undervalued and you're just constantly bringing this up. I
don't know if you're doing this, but I'm just telling you,
don't do it. If you forgive, we have to try
to forget and move on. I would definitely say to
(07:35):
try therapy, read a book on it. I'm trying to
think if there's a book that can help. Ooh, I
mean my Life Coaches book. It's like that's the one,
Like I just finished reading. The book is called Higher
Self by Mariy Fontanez. There's another part of the book,
but I can't remember right now. Either way, look it
(07:56):
up and that can also help you. I think you
just need to really tell yourself if my person. If
my girl is still with me, it's because she loves me.
And that was just a moment thing. And I understand
it could be hard.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
I have been there.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
I get it, and you start thinking all kinds of things,
but it's thinking, and overthinking is our worst enemy.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Guys like overthinking. I used to do that so much.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Now I'm just like literally Mesakuro and I'm just like,
I move my body. I'm like, okay, I'm releasing and
I'm surrendering.
Speaker 6 (08:29):
This.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Actually, a better book for you for this situation would
be Letting Go The Pathway to Surrender. Okay, look it up, police.
This book will help you and show you how to
release and how to surrender emotions and pass traumas. Oh
my gosh, it's amazing. But literally surrendering, babe and releasing it.
It does not belong to you. That is in the past.
(08:51):
Don't keep living in the past. That's what causes depression
and it doesn't allow you to move forward. So I
know it's easier said than done. But you have to
be intentional with this. You have to constantly when you
feel that these thoughts are coming in your mind, you
need to visualize like it's a rock that you're holding
this person, this situation is a rock and you're holding
it around everywhere.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
It's the rock.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
It's heavy, and the more you hold it around, it's
going to weigh you downe It's gonna make your hand hurt.
You're not gonna be able to do other things because
your hand is occupied with holding this rock. Then visualize
you letting it go, putting it on the grass, giving
it back to the earth. Thank you for the experience,
for what I needed to learn from this. I'm gonna
leave this rock right here because I need this hand
(09:32):
to do what I need to do. I need it
free because I need to love, I need to create life.
I can't hold this rock around, So I'm gonna leave
this damn rock right here. You have to do it
like visually, maybe even go grab a real rock honestly,
like it probably sounds crazy, but go grab a real rock,
something that's heavy, and visualize and leave it there and
put all of this anger and sadness and hate because
(09:55):
that's not good to hate this person. Yes, we're upset
with her, and she knew you know what a yay. Yeah,
let her learn her lesson and visualize it and put
all this energy in this rock and then you're gonna
go and leave it somewhere or throw it in the ocean.
It's gonna help so much. Try it and please let
me know if it works. Okay, and read the book
and I'm sure that's going to help you a lot.
(10:18):
Surrender and release, babe, Sending you a big hug. You
got this, and good luck with the process of having
a baby. Our next and last question is from Lally
Hi Tikis.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
I want to say I'm a huge fan of yours
and I have two questions for you. So I'm watching
I Love Johnny right now, and I have to know
are you guys still friends like you and Mikey or
do you guys still talk to high boy like after
your mom passed and everything. My second question for you
is how would you go about like someone that you
(10:59):
used to be really really close to talk bad about
someone you love? Because my old best friend, my ex
best friend, who I stopping her friend because I found
out she was talking bad mommy saying she was pissed
how I have other friends. And then I found out
that she is talking bad about my dad because he
(11:20):
is in prison right now for her drugs and I
found out that he that she is talking bad about,
how he's a drug addict and all of this until
he's talking bad. And my question for you is, how
would you go about this? How would you deal with this?
Because it really makes me so mad and my family
(11:43):
just told me to ignore it, but I want to
know how you would go about this and how you
would handle something like that. Thank you, I love you.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Oh Lalie, thank you for watching. I love Jenny, I
love it. Look at this. Okay, So I don't remember
who Hi boy is thought, remember, I have to rewatch
the episode myself. I was trying to remember as I
was listening to your voice memo. I can't remember, but
I'll get back to you on that. I owe you.
(12:12):
I'm sure I'll call Johnny or any of my siblings
actually and they'll remember. But pertaining to your second question,
like Mama, people are always going to talk bad about us,
and I know that it hurts more when it comes
from someone that you love. It happened to me and
I had to let go of a friend because I
had concrete evidence of her speaking bad about me. I
(12:33):
saw a text message and it broke my heart. Because
sometimes we put expectations on people that aren't realistic, and
that's one of the mistakes that we make as human beings,
is expecting people to be like us, or expecting certain
things from people and they're not capable of it. But
I know your family's telling you to ignore them. And
at this point of my life, I don't know how
(12:54):
old you are. You sound a little young, I'm not sure,
but at this point of my life, ignoring is the
best thing I could do for sure. Like there's so
much noise happening right now in my life that I
have no control over, and I'm like, well, a lot
of them are lies, if not all of them, and
it's people that I once loved, and it sucks now
(13:16):
I just ignore it. I'm like, you know what, I'm
gonna go about my day. I know who I am,
I know the truth. I wish I would have known
this when I was younger, so I know it's a
lot harder. I don't know if you're getting this information
from other people, if you have concrete evidence of her
saying it. But I think it all depends if she
said it and you know for sure she said it.
If you know for sure she said it, you have
(13:36):
to ignore it.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
Babe.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
You don't want that in your life anyway. I know
it's hard, but if you know it's not true, then
you don't want those people in your life. It's not
even worth you giving that person your attention. Now you
just know, and you have to thank God that you
know how this person is and they're no longer in
your life. So it's a blessing in disguise. Now, if
someone else is telling you she said these things and
(13:58):
you don't really know and there's no huncrete evidence, then
you need to toughen up and face it and ask her,
are you saying these things in a way that's not
confrontational through a text message, maybe not to fight, but
just to get clarity. So it all depends. Those are
my two ways of helping you. But really, babe, people
(14:19):
are gonna talk and say so many things about us,
and unfortunately that's just the way life is. But as
long as you know who you are in your heart
and in your mind, and you know who your dad is,
whether some of it may be true, half of it
is true or not, you know what other people think
about you is not your business. And I mean it
in the way of like you don't even know me.
(14:41):
I don't want you in my life anyway. So whatever
you say about me, okay, cool, that's your opinion. You're
entitled to your opinion and by.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
So hopefully all of that made sense, and hopefully my
advice can help you. But I wouldn't worry too much, Mama.
You focus on your dad, on being there for him,
and focus on yourself. And if there are some things
that she's saying about you that you feel, you know,
trigger something inside of you, try to figure out what
it is so that you because it's bothering you for
a reason. It all depends what she's saying, and say, Okay,
(15:12):
where do I have room to change? Look within yourself
so that this doesn't happen again with another friend.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
You get me.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
So we have to learn from these situations. So that
is my advice, and I wish you well. Okay, keep
me updated, keep us updated, guys.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Oh my gosh. I love you guys.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
All the questions and to know that you guys still
love I love Jenny. I love it too. I need
to watch it. Actually I need to figure out who
Hi Boy is. But thank you guys, Thank you guys,
so much. I love seeing clips on TikTok and just
reliving those moments, and so I just want to say
thank you guys. And yeah, if you have a question,
please leave it at speakpipe dot com slash Cheeks and
(15:51):
Chill podcast. I'd love to hear from you, and I'd
love to give you advice from the bottom of my heart. Okay.
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