January 22, 2025 • 10 mins
Welcome back to a new episode of Dear Chiquis! This week, an anonymous listener needs my advice on how to deal with her husband’s gambling addiction; Jessica wants to know what the most memorable moment of my recent tour was; and Adri is frustrated because her family treats her kid with autism differently and is wondering if she should speak up.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box board. Dear Cheeky's, I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave
your question. At the sound of the.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Beat, Hello, Cheeky's, how are you? I just want to
tell you that I love you. I love your family.
You're such a big role model motivation. You look amazing.
Congrats on the new marriage. I wish nothing but the
best for you. I do want to remain anonymous, but
I do have a question for you. My husband of
(01:08):
twelve years recently developed an addiction for betting. He puts
on sports all the apps. I was wondering what you
thought about that, because it's getting to the point where
it's now a financial burden. His accounts have been in
the negatives twice and I've had to help him once
(01:31):
to get out of the overdraft fees. And it's just
so unlike him. He's always been really good with his
money and here we are now. I don't know what
to do. I am looking into getting an addictions therapist
for him, but he said he's not quite ready for that.
What do you suggest? What is your advice? Thank you
(01:51):
so much?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Ooh Mamasita, Well you gotta nip this in the bud
real quick.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
First of all, thank you so much for everything you said.
I appreciate you. You're so cute, think you think you
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
I was just like kind of like thrown back with
what you were telling me because it's been twelve years.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
It's not like him. He just developed this.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
And he definitely needs to see an addiction specialist a SAP,
because this is going to affect your life, especially guys
like we're in a recession, like we have no business betting.
That's just my personal opinion, and like, you can't, you
can't support this, especially if he's like not winning, you know.
I'm like, he's obviously like not winning, so in his
(02:33):
accounts around negative it is going to affect your livelihood,
and as a woman, we need to feel secure and
safe and he's not making you feel that. So that's
going to cause a lot of issues in your marriage.
If he's not willing to do this for you. It's
not even if he's not ready, it's you either do
this or I need to walk away. And I know
(02:54):
that sounds crazy, but this is a huge situation. This
is a real addiction, and it will only get worse
because what happens they're trying to play catch up, like, oh,
you know, I lost and for sure I'm gonna win
and now, and then they don't, and it's it's it's
like a never ending thing. So if he's not like
counting cards and stuff like that, which is illegal, he
needs to stop because it's obviously not working. So I
(03:15):
think you need to put your foot down and you
need to take control and.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
Tell him this is what it is.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Either you do this, because you're affecting not only yourself
but our home, me and it's only going to get
worse if not, then I need to make a choice.
So let me know what you decide. Keep me updated, please,
because yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I want to know.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
I'm wishing you all the best and now we have Jessica.
Let's hear from Jessica.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Hey, Keys, what is one of your most memorable parts
of your tour?
Speaker 4 (03:51):
What would you say was the best part?
Speaker 3 (03:53):
What would you say was the worst part?
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Ooh, Jessica, Okay, that's a good question. Well, the worst part,
for sure, I know was like starting the tour in
May and being pregnant and being excited and being confused
all at the same time, and then really accepting that
I was pregnant, I was going to be on tour pregnant,
and then visualizing myself with the big old belly and
then losing the baby.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
So I feel like that was really hard.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
So I guess I want to say that's like the
worst experience in a way, because then it turned out
to be something really beautiful. But anyways, that's like one
thing that I'm like, oh my gosh, crazy. And the
most memorable thing I want to say was being at
the al you know, November third in Mexico. There were
(04:39):
a lot of people that didn't believe that people were
going to show up for me, and they did. And
when I walked out on that stage and I saw
the amount of people that were there, and it wasn't
sold out, but I didn't need it to be sold
out because maybe it is too soon, because someone in
Mexico said Chigus is not ready and she's not there
to have a so alit, and I was like, maybe
(05:03):
there's some truth there. Maybe I still have a lot
of work to do in Mexico. Yes, but the people
that were there and the amount of people, it was
just so overwhelming, Like I was like in a good way, obviously,
Like it was so beautiful, Like I didn't know whether
to cry, just sit down and cry like out of joy,
or sing, but I had a sing So I was
singing the first two songs. My eyes were tearing up,
(05:24):
my voice was cracking. It was just beautiful to feel
the energy, to feel and see that Mexico showed up
for me. So I'm never gonna forget that concert. Ever,
it was so stressful, it was like to get to
that point, and I know the whole team was stressed
and it was just a lot, but it was worth it.
It was worth every tear, every night that we didn't sleep,
every early morning, So that was definitely a highlight and
(05:47):
so many others, but those are the two that stand out,
so thank you so much, Eesica for your question. Oh
my gosh, damn on this tour. Now we have to
plan the next one. I'm excited. Next question comes from
adri Hi Tikies.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
How are you? Many blessings to you and your husband
and your family. My question for your podcast is I
grew up in a Mexican family, on a Mexican household.
I am an only child, but I am now a
mom of two. My oldest is foreign, my youngest is two.
My oldest was recently diagnosed or prediagnosed actually with autism.
(06:26):
But I see a difference, a difference in my family
side of how they treat my son and my daughter.
They always go towards my daughter since she's more, you know,
opened and more. I guess better to communicate and all
this and it hurts me as a mom, as a
person and as a mom. And I know your mom
was a very strong woman. What would you recommend me?
(06:46):
It hurts me to let go of my family, but
it also hurts me not to defend my children. And
how can I help myself and my children because it's draining,
it's straining to see this go on, and you know,
I wouldn't want to see this forever my life for
them to misteret and make my son feel less, and
I love you. I'm such a fan. Thank you for always,
(07:08):
you know, making podcasts and all these things too, for
us women and not just woman men, just to feel
better and open ourselves to our stories.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Thank you, kikiS oh Audrey. Thank you for that. That
means a lot.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
It means a lot because I love doing this and
I love helping in any way that I possibly can.
And I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm sorry that
you're going through this. Not sorry that your child, your
son is autistic, because I have Anissa is autistic. They
are beautiful human beings. They are so smart. They just
learn in a different way, and that's all it is.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
You know. Here's the thing with your family.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I don't think if they're being see Lisa say the
Fuci La Fuci, it's different. But if they don't interact
with him as much, it's probably because they still don't
understand this is still something very new, especially in the
Latin community. They don't really understand it much. We still
need to educate our people about autism. So sometimes it
(08:03):
makes them feel a little uncomfortable, and it's not that
they love him less, it's just they don't know what
to do. So I would need more details, you know,
as to like, oh, if they're being mean to him,
then that's different. If they're being mean, if they're mistreating him,
they're calling him names or anything like that, absolutely one
hundred percent sit out at this, separate yourself from your family.
(08:23):
But if they're just not interacting as much as they
are with your daughter, just try to understand as well,
maybe have a conversation with them and say, hey, you're
making me feel this way. When you talk, you guys
will understand each other. Maybe hear them out, and I
guarantee you it's more than likely they don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
They they don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
If they're going to do something to upset him and
they feel a little uncomfortable just because they don't understand,
you know, maybe it would be nice to do like
a family therapy that they can give more insight on autism.
I looked online. I did my research because I wanted
to really communicate with my niece and understand what it was.
I didn't know what autism. I mean, I knew, but
(09:05):
I didn't know firsthand. So that's what I did, and
I suggest that before separating yourself, because your family can
be there and they can help you. It's it's gonna
take up a little bit of time for everyone to
get used to your son learning in a different way
and not being like other children. And that's okay, we're
all still like figuring.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
It out, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
So I think having a conversation is what you should do,
like let them know, communicate with them how you're feeling.
So Adrie, I hope that I helped you, and I'm
sending you a big hug you and your son and
your daughter, and hope everything gets better. Well, okay, guys,
that's the end of this episode. Thank you guys so
much for listening to your Cheeky's and if you have
a question, please leave your question at speakpipe dot com.
(09:47):
Slash Cheekys and Chill podcast. This is the production of
iHeartRadio and the Micuda podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram
at michaela Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
That's c h I q U i s.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite podcast, and check
us out on YouTube.
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box board. Dear Cheeky's, I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave
your question. At the sound of the.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Beat, Hello, Cheeky's, how are you? I just want to
tell you that I love you. I love your family.
You're such a big role model motivation. You look amazing.
Congrats on the new marriage. I wish nothing but the
best for you. I do want to remain anonymous, but
I do have a question for you. My husband of
(01:08):
twelve years recently developed an addiction for betting. He puts
on sports all the apps. I was wondering what you
thought about that, because it's getting to the point where
it's now a financial burden. His accounts have been in
the negatives twice and I've had to help him once
(01:31):
to get out of the overdraft fees. And it's just
so unlike him. He's always been really good with his
money and here we are now. I don't know what
to do. I am looking into getting an addictions therapist
for him, but he said he's not quite ready for that.
What do you suggest? What is your advice? Thank you
(01:51):
so much?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Ooh Mamasita, Well you gotta nip this in the bud
real quick.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
First of all, thank you so much for everything you said.
I appreciate you. You're so cute, think you think you
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
I was just like kind of like thrown back with
what you were telling me because it's been twelve years.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
It's not like him. He just developed this.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
And he definitely needs to see an addiction specialist a SAP,
because this is going to affect your life, especially guys
like we're in a recession, like we have no business betting.
That's just my personal opinion, and like, you can't, you
can't support this, especially if he's like not winning, you know.
I'm like, he's obviously like not winning, so in his
(02:33):
accounts around negative it is going to affect your livelihood,
and as a woman, we need to feel secure and
safe and he's not making you feel that. So that's
going to cause a lot of issues in your marriage.
If he's not willing to do this for you. It's
not even if he's not ready, it's you either do
this or I need to walk away. And I know
(02:54):
that sounds crazy, but this is a huge situation. This
is a real addiction, and it will only get worse
because what happens they're trying to play catch up, like, oh,
you know, I lost and for sure I'm gonna win
and now, and then they don't, and it's it's it's
like a never ending thing. So if he's not like
counting cards and stuff like that, which is illegal, he
needs to stop because it's obviously not working. So I
(03:15):
think you need to put your foot down and you
need to take control and.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
Tell him this is what it is.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Either you do this, because you're affecting not only yourself
but our home, me and it's only going to get
worse if not, then I need to make a choice.
So let me know what you decide. Keep me updated, please,
because yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I want to know.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
I'm wishing you all the best and now we have Jessica.
Let's hear from Jessica.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Hey, Keys, what is one of your most memorable parts
of your tour?
Speaker 4 (03:51):
What would you say was the best part?
Speaker 3 (03:53):
What would you say was the worst part?
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Ooh, Jessica, Okay, that's a good question. Well, the worst part,
for sure, I know was like starting the tour in
May and being pregnant and being excited and being confused
all at the same time, and then really accepting that
I was pregnant, I was going to be on tour pregnant,
and then visualizing myself with the big old belly and
then losing the baby.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
So I feel like that was really hard.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
So I guess I want to say that's like the
worst experience in a way, because then it turned out
to be something really beautiful. But anyways, that's like one
thing that I'm like, oh my gosh, crazy. And the
most memorable thing I want to say was being at
the al you know, November third in Mexico. There were
(04:39):
a lot of people that didn't believe that people were
going to show up for me, and they did. And
when I walked out on that stage and I saw
the amount of people that were there, and it wasn't
sold out, but I didn't need it to be sold
out because maybe it is too soon, because someone in
Mexico said Chigus is not ready and she's not there
to have a so alit, and I was like, maybe
(05:03):
there's some truth there. Maybe I still have a lot
of work to do in Mexico. Yes, but the people
that were there and the amount of people, it was
just so overwhelming, Like I was like in a good way, obviously,
Like it was so beautiful, Like I didn't know whether
to cry, just sit down and cry like out of joy,
or sing, but I had a sing So I was
singing the first two songs. My eyes were tearing up,
(05:24):
my voice was cracking. It was just beautiful to feel
the energy, to feel and see that Mexico showed up
for me. So I'm never gonna forget that concert. Ever,
it was so stressful, it was like to get to
that point, and I know the whole team was stressed
and it was just a lot, but it was worth it.
It was worth every tear, every night that we didn't sleep,
every early morning, So that was definitely a highlight and
(05:47):
so many others, but those are the two that stand out,
so thank you so much, Eesica for your question. Oh
my gosh, damn on this tour. Now we have to
plan the next one. I'm excited. Next question comes from
adri Hi Tikies.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
How are you? Many blessings to you and your husband
and your family. My question for your podcast is I
grew up in a Mexican family, on a Mexican household.
I am an only child, but I am now a
mom of two. My oldest is foreign, my youngest is two.
My oldest was recently diagnosed or prediagnosed actually with autism.
(06:26):
But I see a difference, a difference in my family
side of how they treat my son and my daughter.
They always go towards my daughter since she's more, you know,
opened and more. I guess better to communicate and all
this and it hurts me as a mom, as a
person and as a mom. And I know your mom
was a very strong woman. What would you recommend me?
(06:46):
It hurts me to let go of my family, but
it also hurts me not to defend my children. And
how can I help myself and my children because it's draining,
it's straining to see this go on, and you know,
I wouldn't want to see this forever my life for
them to misteret and make my son feel less, and
I love you. I'm such a fan. Thank you for always,
(07:08):
you know, making podcasts and all these things too, for
us women and not just woman men, just to feel
better and open ourselves to our stories.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Thank you, kikiS oh Audrey. Thank you for that. That
means a lot.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
It means a lot because I love doing this and
I love helping in any way that I possibly can.
And I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm sorry that
you're going through this. Not sorry that your child, your
son is autistic, because I have Anissa is autistic. They
are beautiful human beings. They are so smart. They just
learn in a different way, and that's all it is.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
You know. Here's the thing with your family.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I don't think if they're being see Lisa say the
Fuci La Fuci, it's different. But if they don't interact
with him as much, it's probably because they still don't
understand this is still something very new, especially in the
Latin community. They don't really understand it much. We still
need to educate our people about autism. So sometimes it
(08:03):
makes them feel a little uncomfortable, and it's not that
they love him less, it's just they don't know what
to do. So I would need more details, you know,
as to like, oh, if they're being mean to him,
then that's different. If they're being mean, if they're mistreating him,
they're calling him names or anything like that, absolutely one
hundred percent sit out at this, separate yourself from your family.
(08:23):
But if they're just not interacting as much as they
are with your daughter, just try to understand as well,
maybe have a conversation with them and say, hey, you're
making me feel this way. When you talk, you guys
will understand each other. Maybe hear them out, and I
guarantee you it's more than likely they don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
They they don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
If they're going to do something to upset him and
they feel a little uncomfortable just because they don't understand,
you know, maybe it would be nice to do like
a family therapy that they can give more insight on autism.
I looked online. I did my research because I wanted
to really communicate with my niece and understand what it was.
I didn't know what autism. I mean, I knew, but
(09:05):
I didn't know firsthand. So that's what I did, and
I suggest that before separating yourself, because your family can
be there and they can help you. It's it's gonna
take up a little bit of time for everyone to
get used to your son learning in a different way
and not being like other children. And that's okay, we're
all still like figuring.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
It out, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
So I think having a conversation is what you should do,
like let them know, communicate with them how you're feeling.
So Adrie, I hope that I helped you, and I'm
sending you a big hug you and your son and
your daughter, and hope everything gets better. Well, okay, guys,
that's the end of this episode. Thank you guys so
much for listening to your Cheeky's and if you have
a question, please leave your question at speakpipe dot com.
(09:47):
Slash Cheekys and Chill podcast. This is the production of
iHeartRadio and the Micuda podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram
at michaela Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
That's c h I q U i s.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite podcast, and check
us out on YouTube.
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