October 29, 2025 • 13 mins
This week on Dear Chiquis: Things have been going well for Cesar but he’s afraid that could all change and needs advice on how to be more present and keep negative thoughts away; Catherine recently went through a very traumatic experience involving the father of her children and her sister and needs some words of encouragement to keep moving forward; and Irma is a beekeeper who wants to know if I’ve ever gone into a bee box.
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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with, whether you're going through a breakup or having
issues with your family, or maybe you have a question
about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want
to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in
(00:39):
my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue
or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the Beabhi, Cheeky's.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
My name's sasad IgE School too reach out, you know,
like you actually you just got back from Paris about
two months three months ago, and for me it was
a great time, like you kind of mentioned to like
slow down, kind of focus on you know, being present,
being in the moment and all of that good stuff.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
And I think for me it was very eye opening
too about like my life here back home and all
that stuff. And you know, for the last like year
or so, I think there's been just kind of a
lot of drama in my life, whether it be like
family stuff, work, stuff. You know, it's just been kind
of a lot. And with that be inside. Once I
kind of came back, I was inspired to kind of
(01:27):
make some changes in my life and kind of you know,
start a new job. Things of my family are going
great and whatnot in the last couple of months. However,
I think for me, over the last couple of weeks,
you know, since things have been going so well, I
kind of find myself waiting for like, you know, the
other shoe to drop, something bad, to kind of start
happening and stuff like that. So my question to you
(01:49):
is number one, kind of have you ever found yourself
in kind of a similar situation. But number two, also
if you have, like any advice to kind of how
to be present in the moment and kind of not
focus on kind of like the best things that can
maybe happen, not necessarily going to happen, and stuff like that,
any advice would be appreciated. Thank you so much, cessad.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Oh my goodness, Paris so beautiful. I was just talking
about it with Emilio yesterday and how much we miss
it and how delicious the food was. So that's awesome.
It's a blessing to be able to see different sides
of the world and experience different cultures, and I'm very
happy for you. I get it. I understand because when
(02:34):
we're used to drama and traumatic situations that happened to
us and we don't even cause them, it's difficult not
to wait for the other shoot drop. Like you said,
it is a process. So I want you to be
patient with yourself, Okay. I do want you to understand that,
(02:54):
and I'm sure you do. Life is like a roller coaster.
There's ups and downs, and we're constantly evolving and changing
and the world is changing, and there's so much happening
around us that we have no control over, and that
on top of what we have is a lot. So
I get it. It's a roller coaster and things are
(03:16):
going to happen. I think really reminding yourself take it
day by day, babe. That's all you can do is
wake up, set the tone and set your intentions and
be like, today will be a good day. And if
there's anything that's going to happen that is going to
make me upset or frustrate me or hurt my feelings,
(03:37):
God give me the courage and the wisdom to face it,
to fix it to not let it bother me and
consume me as much as it has in the past.
That's how I'm living right now. I of course plan,
but right now I need to figure out what I'm
going to do with my twenty four hours that I
have right now, because that's all I have. I don't
(03:58):
know if tomorrow will come and I can't think about yesterday.
I'm like, okay. Every day I'm like, okay, I wash off,
I cleanse myself from yesterday. Thank you for that day.
Now I'm let me focus on today and God, if
something happens out of my control, let me just breathe
and figure it out. Because I want to be present
and I want to appreciate the gift that you're giving
me right now and it helps me. And the law
(04:21):
of attraction is real, and also the power of the
tongue is real. So you have to change your thoughts
and speak words of positivity. And that doesn't mean that
you're living la la land. No, it's just I want
to attract this, So I'd rather be positive, even if
it sounds silly in it annoys people, versus being this
dark cloud and being negative, and no, what good does
(04:44):
that do? So I'd rather be this, you know. So
that's my advice for you, and I hope it helps
because I get it. I understand one hundred thousand percent.
It still happens to me and we just have to
get ourselves back on track. Okay, so Caesar says, actually,
I hope you have a beautiful day, and thank you
for your question. Baby. Okay, guys, next question from Catherine.
(05:09):
Hi g ks.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
So this last year I went through something really traumatic
in my life. My kids's dad went behind my back
and was with my sister. She gave him some stuff
and ultimately killed him. So I had to start my
life over. So it's been really challenging for me, to
(05:35):
say the least, with all that stuff going on. I
had was six months pregnant, I just had a baby,
and so just wanting to figure out how to go
about life and start a new life and things like that.
I know you went through something like that in a
different way, but I know if you can do it,
(05:56):
I can do it. Any advice that you could give
me could be very helpful. So I would love to
hear from you. So yeah, any advice would be great.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Oh my Catherine, I felt the pain in your voice.
And I also heard you holding back your tears, and
I want you to let them flow first and foremost.
You have to let those tears flow. You have to
cry it out. That's the only way you have to release,
not hold it in. If you don't want to cry
(06:31):
in front of your kids, in front of your family,
your friends, that's okay. You can go into a room
and cry it out and scream and yell if you
have to, but you have to release. And I'm so
sorry that you went through that. That is I got
emotional my heart and my chest. I feel it in
my chest. I'm so sorry that you went through that.
(06:53):
And I'm praying for you. I'm going to pray for
you and your baby. It's going to take time, and
just know that it's not something that you can get
over tomorrow or the next day or in a year.
It's going to take some time and it's going to
take some effort on your part, and it's going to
take for you to be intentional every single day. And
the way I just told Cessa, I want you to
(07:15):
take it day by day. You need to take it
day by day. Don't force anything, don't get ahead of yourself,
be in the moment, and if you feel like crying,
you cry, and if you feel like smiling, you do that.
Listen to happy music, listen to healing music, worship, go
to church, babe or not. You can do church at
(07:35):
home in any way that fits your life best. I
don't know what your religion is or if you're religious,
but having faith in a higher power than ourselves is
the only thing that got me through those dark moments,
the only thing. Not a loved one, not my siblings,
they helped, but in those times when I'm alone in
(07:58):
my bed, crying, feeling like the world is falling on
top of me, and it was my faith got me through.
And going to church and being in that presence and
worshiping and listening to things that were feeding my soul
good things, and reading good books and taking walks and
loving myself and caring for myself and hugging myself is
(08:21):
what got me through. And that's all God, and that's
what I think that's going to help you and help
you get through this and also your child. It's a blessing.
I'm sorry that your husband did that to you. I'm
sorry that he's not here for your child, that your sister,
I can't even imagine. Uh, I can't even imagine. So
(08:43):
I'm so sorry. I don't know why this happened. And
I know that God has a plan for all of us,
and sometimes we don't understand and we want to question God.
And I wouldn't even blame you, And I'm sure he
won't even blame you if you do it and ask
him why. But I promise you, if you lean into
God and you give him all of yourself, he will
(09:06):
give you clarity, and he will give you and put
you on the right path and show you why this happened.
And I know it might sound crazy right now, but
I promise you, if you have faith in Him, in
a higher power, it's going to get you through. I promise.
I'm telling you because that's the only thing that has
helped me each and every single time. I'm sending you
(09:28):
a big hug, you and your baby. It's going to
be all right. It's going to be alright. You see,
you will see it's gonna be fine. You listen to me,
Please do some of the things, if not all of
the things I told you, and you will see how
you feel different and how your life will turn around. Catherine.
I can't wait to hear when you tell me I'm
happy and I'm in a good place because I know
(09:49):
it's going to happen. You got this girl. Okay, guys,
last question from.
Speaker 5 (10:01):
Good Morning Cheekies. Thank you for everything you do for us.
I love listening to your podcast. I have one question
for you. I'm a small little bee keeper in Sulliness
and I love bees just the same way you love bees.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
And I was thinking about this question.
Speaker 6 (10:21):
Have you ever gone into a bee box with a
suit and explore and looking at the bees and the
feeling of how they feel.
Speaker 5 (10:32):
You know, there's like a different smell, you know, even
with the glove on your hand, and you can sense
all that you know, vibration that they release, and the
scent you know, of opening a box.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
It's so amazing. I love bees.
Speaker 5 (10:50):
I love working with them. I'm writing a small book.
You inspired me of writing a book about bees as well.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
I loved your book as well, so I just had
that question.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
Irma.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Thank you so much. No, I have never done that.
Can you believe it? I've seen it in movies and documentaries,
but I've never experienced it myself, not yet, because I
want to. I can just imagine the energy in those
boxes with all of the bees. Bees are so wonderful,
you guys. Bees are so wonderful, and I feel like
(11:29):
people don't appreciate them as much as we should. I
know that they're a little scary. People like just you know,
like always swish them away, which I understand, But they're
so beautiful. So I would love to feel the energy
and end the buzz and I could just imagine like
what I would feel, so absolutely. Maybe you can invite
me to your place. You can send us your information,
(11:51):
and I would gladly go. I think that would be
so awesome. I just haven't found a place, so if
you're inviting me, irma, I would love to, Like that'd
be so awesome. And you guys, if you were to
see the amount of honey that one bee makes, it's
a very tiny amount. And that's what we just need
to appreciate them. They're so important to the ecosystem, guys.
(12:12):
They represent prosperity and sweetness and life and abundance and
they're just amazing and I feel like they're well, all creatures,
all living creatures, are from God. But that's a whole
other story. Anyway, save the bees. That's all I have
to say. Irma thank you for reminding us too. And
you guys, I love your cheekies just because this is
(12:34):
a place that even if I'm not feeling good, you
guys always make me feel good because I'm able to
give you advice and get myself out of my own
thoughts and my own feelings. And you guys trust me
and that is huge for me. So thank you so
much for trusting me with your questions and with your life.
There's always so many different questions and it just I
don't know. I'm going to go home and pray. I
(12:55):
always do. I always pray for like certain situations that
I learn here onto your cheekys. But anyway, hey guys,
thank you for listening. And if you have a question
about anything, it could be a personal question about me,
about my life, about my career, or about your life,
your finances, your friendships, your relationships, anything and everything. I
am here like a big sister to answer your questions
(13:17):
with love and respect.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Of course.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
All right, guys, until next Wednesday, I'll catch you here
on dear Cheeky's and don't forget Cheeky's and chill every Monday.
Okay Hi. This is a production of iHeartRadio and the
micro Dura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael
Dura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c h i
(13:40):
q u i s. For more podcasts from iHeart, visit
the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to
your favorite podcast.
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with, whether you're going through a breakup or having
issues with your family, or maybe you have a question
about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want
to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in
(00:39):
my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue
or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the Beabhi, Cheeky's.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
My name's sasad IgE School too reach out, you know,
like you actually you just got back from Paris about
two months three months ago, and for me it was
a great time, like you kind of mentioned to like
slow down, kind of focus on you know, being present,
being in the moment and all of that good stuff.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
And I think for me it was very eye opening
too about like my life here back home and all
that stuff. And you know, for the last like year
or so, I think there's been just kind of a
lot of drama in my life, whether it be like
family stuff, work, stuff. You know, it's just been kind
of a lot. And with that be inside. Once I
kind of came back, I was inspired to kind of
(01:27):
make some changes in my life and kind of you know,
start a new job. Things of my family are going
great and whatnot in the last couple of months. However,
I think for me, over the last couple of weeks,
you know, since things have been going so well, I
kind of find myself waiting for like, you know, the
other shoe to drop, something bad, to kind of start
happening and stuff like that. So my question to you
(01:49):
is number one, kind of have you ever found yourself
in kind of a similar situation. But number two, also
if you have, like any advice to kind of how
to be present in the moment and kind of not
focus on kind of like the best things that can
maybe happen, not necessarily going to happen, and stuff like that,
any advice would be appreciated. Thank you so much, cessad.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Oh my goodness, Paris so beautiful. I was just talking
about it with Emilio yesterday and how much we miss
it and how delicious the food was. So that's awesome.
It's a blessing to be able to see different sides
of the world and experience different cultures, and I'm very
happy for you. I get it. I understand because when
(02:34):
we're used to drama and traumatic situations that happened to
us and we don't even cause them, it's difficult not
to wait for the other shoot drop. Like you said,
it is a process. So I want you to be
patient with yourself, Okay. I do want you to understand that,
(02:54):
and I'm sure you do. Life is like a roller coaster.
There's ups and downs, and we're constantly evolving and changing
and the world is changing, and there's so much happening
around us that we have no control over, and that
on top of what we have is a lot. So
I get it. It's a roller coaster and things are
(03:16):
going to happen. I think really reminding yourself take it
day by day, babe. That's all you can do is
wake up, set the tone and set your intentions and
be like, today will be a good day. And if
there's anything that's going to happen that is going to
make me upset or frustrate me or hurt my feelings,
(03:37):
God give me the courage and the wisdom to face it,
to fix it to not let it bother me and
consume me as much as it has in the past.
That's how I'm living right now. I of course plan,
but right now I need to figure out what I'm
going to do with my twenty four hours that I
have right now, because that's all I have. I don't
(03:58):
know if tomorrow will come and I can't think about yesterday.
I'm like, okay. Every day I'm like, okay, I wash off,
I cleanse myself from yesterday. Thank you for that day.
Now I'm let me focus on today and God, if
something happens out of my control, let me just breathe
and figure it out. Because I want to be present
and I want to appreciate the gift that you're giving
me right now and it helps me. And the law
(04:21):
of attraction is real, and also the power of the
tongue is real. So you have to change your thoughts
and speak words of positivity. And that doesn't mean that
you're living la la land. No, it's just I want
to attract this, So I'd rather be positive, even if
it sounds silly in it annoys people, versus being this
dark cloud and being negative, and no, what good does
(04:44):
that do? So I'd rather be this, you know. So
that's my advice for you, and I hope it helps
because I get it. I understand one hundred thousand percent.
It still happens to me and we just have to
get ourselves back on track. Okay, so Caesar says, actually,
I hope you have a beautiful day, and thank you
for your question. Baby. Okay, guys, next question from Catherine.
(05:09):
Hi g ks.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
So this last year I went through something really traumatic
in my life. My kids's dad went behind my back
and was with my sister. She gave him some stuff
and ultimately killed him. So I had to start my
life over. So it's been really challenging for me, to
(05:35):
say the least, with all that stuff going on. I
had was six months pregnant, I just had a baby,
and so just wanting to figure out how to go
about life and start a new life and things like that.
I know you went through something like that in a
different way, but I know if you can do it,
(05:56):
I can do it. Any advice that you could give
me could be very helpful. So I would love to
hear from you. So yeah, any advice would be great.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Oh my Catherine, I felt the pain in your voice.
And I also heard you holding back your tears, and
I want you to let them flow first and foremost.
You have to let those tears flow. You have to
cry it out. That's the only way you have to release,
not hold it in. If you don't want to cry
(06:31):
in front of your kids, in front of your family,
your friends, that's okay. You can go into a room
and cry it out and scream and yell if you
have to, but you have to release. And I'm so
sorry that you went through that. That is I got
emotional my heart and my chest. I feel it in
my chest. I'm so sorry that you went through that.
(06:53):
And I'm praying for you. I'm going to pray for
you and your baby. It's going to take time, and
just know that it's not something that you can get
over tomorrow or the next day or in a year.
It's going to take some time and it's going to
take some effort on your part, and it's going to
take for you to be intentional every single day. And
the way I just told Cessa, I want you to
(07:15):
take it day by day. You need to take it
day by day. Don't force anything, don't get ahead of yourself,
be in the moment, and if you feel like crying,
you cry, and if you feel like smiling, you do that.
Listen to happy music, listen to healing music, worship, go
to church, babe or not. You can do church at
(07:35):
home in any way that fits your life best. I
don't know what your religion is or if you're religious,
but having faith in a higher power than ourselves is
the only thing that got me through those dark moments,
the only thing. Not a loved one, not my siblings,
they helped, but in those times when I'm alone in
(07:58):
my bed, crying, feeling like the world is falling on
top of me, and it was my faith got me through.
And going to church and being in that presence and
worshiping and listening to things that were feeding my soul
good things, and reading good books and taking walks and
loving myself and caring for myself and hugging myself is
(08:21):
what got me through. And that's all God, and that's
what I think that's going to help you and help
you get through this and also your child. It's a blessing.
I'm sorry that your husband did that to you. I'm
sorry that he's not here for your child, that your sister,
I can't even imagine. Uh, I can't even imagine. So
(08:43):
I'm so sorry. I don't know why this happened. And
I know that God has a plan for all of us,
and sometimes we don't understand and we want to question God.
And I wouldn't even blame you, And I'm sure he
won't even blame you if you do it and ask
him why. But I promise you, if you lean into
God and you give him all of yourself, he will
(09:06):
give you clarity, and he will give you and put
you on the right path and show you why this happened.
And I know it might sound crazy right now, but
I promise you, if you have faith in Him, in
a higher power, it's going to get you through. I promise.
I'm telling you because that's the only thing that has
helped me each and every single time. I'm sending you
(09:28):
a big hug, you and your baby. It's going to
be all right. It's going to be alright. You see,
you will see it's gonna be fine. You listen to me,
Please do some of the things, if not all of
the things I told you, and you will see how
you feel different and how your life will turn around. Catherine.
I can't wait to hear when you tell me I'm
happy and I'm in a good place because I know
(09:49):
it's going to happen. You got this girl. Okay, guys,
last question from.
Speaker 5 (10:01):
Good Morning Cheekies. Thank you for everything you do for us.
I love listening to your podcast. I have one question
for you. I'm a small little bee keeper in Sulliness
and I love bees just the same way you love bees.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
And I was thinking about this question.
Speaker 6 (10:21):
Have you ever gone into a bee box with a
suit and explore and looking at the bees and the
feeling of how they feel.
Speaker 5 (10:32):
You know, there's like a different smell, you know, even
with the glove on your hand, and you can sense
all that you know, vibration that they release, and the
scent you know, of opening a box.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
It's so amazing. I love bees.
Speaker 5 (10:50):
I love working with them. I'm writing a small book.
You inspired me of writing a book about bees as well.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
I loved your book as well, so I just had
that question.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
Irma.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Thank you so much. No, I have never done that.
Can you believe it? I've seen it in movies and documentaries,
but I've never experienced it myself, not yet, because I
want to. I can just imagine the energy in those
boxes with all of the bees. Bees are so wonderful,
you guys. Bees are so wonderful, and I feel like
(11:29):
people don't appreciate them as much as we should. I
know that they're a little scary. People like just you know,
like always swish them away, which I understand, But they're
so beautiful. So I would love to feel the energy
and end the buzz and I could just imagine like
what I would feel, so absolutely. Maybe you can invite
me to your place. You can send us your information,
(11:51):
and I would gladly go. I think that would be
so awesome. I just haven't found a place, so if
you're inviting me, irma, I would love to, Like that'd
be so awesome. And you guys, if you were to
see the amount of honey that one bee makes, it's
a very tiny amount. And that's what we just need
to appreciate them. They're so important to the ecosystem, guys.
(12:12):
They represent prosperity and sweetness and life and abundance and
they're just amazing and I feel like they're well, all creatures,
all living creatures, are from God. But that's a whole
other story. Anyway, save the bees. That's all I have
to say. Irma thank you for reminding us too. And
you guys, I love your cheekies just because this is
(12:34):
a place that even if I'm not feeling good, you
guys always make me feel good because I'm able to
give you advice and get myself out of my own
thoughts and my own feelings. And you guys trust me
and that is huge for me. So thank you so
much for trusting me with your questions and with your life.
There's always so many different questions and it just I
don't know. I'm going to go home and pray. I
(12:55):
always do. I always pray for like certain situations that
I learn here onto your cheekys. But anyway, hey guys,
thank you for listening. And if you have a question
about anything, it could be a personal question about me,
about my life, about my career, or about your life,
your finances, your friendships, your relationships, anything and everything. I
am here like a big sister to answer your questions
(13:17):
with love and respect.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Of course.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
All right, guys, until next Wednesday, I'll catch you here
on dear Cheeky's and don't forget Cheeky's and chill every Monday.
Okay Hi. This is a production of iHeartRadio and the
micro Dura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael
Dura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c h i
(13:40):
q u i s. For more podcasts from iHeart, visit
the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to
your favorite podcast.
Host
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