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Speaker 1 (00:19):
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Speaker 3 (00:46):
At the sound of the beeB, Hi Cheeky's, I wanted
to ask you on what you think I should do
with the little problem I have. My sister and my
boyfriend don't talk. She is my older sister, my only sister,
and he is my boyfriend of four years. Prior to
me and my boyfriend becoming a couple, him and my
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dad had an argument and thankfully they were able to
stomp it out make amends, and now they have a
beautiful relationship together that I love and appreciate. However, my
sister is, in my opinion, holding on to a problem
that doesn't really correspond to her. And when I first
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confronted her on why she doesn't talk to him, she
stated that it was because of that, it was because
of the problem that he had had with my dad.
And she also explained to me that my brother in
law is mainly the one telling her, you know, not
to forgive my boyfriend and not to have a relationship
with him. But it causes a lot of problems. It
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causes me a lot of pain. My sister recently got
married and my boyfriend wasn't invited, you know, and it
made us feel some type of way. Definitely. I know
it definitely made him feel some type of way. And
I just don't want to have this tension when my
sister and my boyfriend can't be around each other. So
what do you advise me to do?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Jenny, Jenny, Jenny, Look, anyone that loves you, your boyfriend,
your dad, he made amends with your boyfriend, your sister.
They want you to be happy, so and they need
to respect whatever decision you make. With that being said,
I definitely feel that you need to speak up. I
think you need to tell your sister, Look, I love
this guy and I want it to work and I
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love you and I want you guys to get along,
So set something up where you guys can meet together,
all three of you, and just squash it, because, like
you said, it's going to cause the only person that's
causing pain to is yourself. And if your sister loves
you and this is your only sister, I can just
imagine how you feel. She needs to put whatever resentment
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to the side, for it to dissipate, to disappear, because
that's also causing her pain. She doesn't realize it, but
it's also causing her a weight that she is caring,
that she is not allowing her to move forward in
any way, you know what I mean, especially with you,
and it's just what's going to happen. If she doesn't,
you know, want to fix things with your boyfriend, it's
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going to push you away and I don't think she
wants that. So I definitely advise you to speak up
and have the meat. It's time. If your dad already
forgave him, if they're good, then your sister needs to
let it go. And I'm sorry, but your sister's husband
needs to mind his own business because this is this
is a situation between you and your sister, and your
sister needs to be able to make her own decisions.
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So I really, really really hope that you guys can
talk Jenny, because I'm telling you, I've been through that
and it sucks. It sucks so bad, and you feel
uncomfortable and you feel caught between a hard place and
a rock, and I just really pray that you guys
are able to fix this. Okay, So that is my advice.
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Do it sooner rather than later, girl, because this is
this is no way to live.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Okay, thank you so much for your question. Now we're
going to move on to jess Hi Cheeky's. Thank you
so much for having this option for us to communicate
with you. I love listening to you. You've taught me
so much, and I've learned how to incorporate certain tips
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and tricks that you give to us into my life.
And just to kind of give you a short story
of what's happened the last eighteen months, I've been admitted
to the hospital about six times. I've had a surgery,
and I've been on nine rounds of antibiotics. So as
you can tell, it's put I like a strain on
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my mental health, my physical health. I had lost sixty
five pounds naturally, and then I got this condition called
diverticulitis and now I'm suffering with PCOS. I feel like
my health has always been challenging, just because I feel
like in the Mexican community, not a lot of people
take their health very shares until like they're like dying
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or get admitted. So I'm just like, what can I do?
Like how do I stay motivated? And I know I
have so much hospital there, I have so many medications
that I have to take. I have to go to
so many specialists to get my health back on track.
But how do you stay motivated through all these things?
Like I have support from my boyfriend fortunately, but it's
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hard when you don't have your family to be there
for you. I appreciate you. Thank you so much for
listening to my story.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Oh Jess, Well, first of all, you're very welcome. It
is my absolute pleasure to have this option for you guys,
and it makes me feel good to help you guys.
So thank you for your question. And you do have
a lot going on, a lot on your plate, and
the fact that you're reaching out, I know that you
are like ready, you want to make this change. I
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get it. Not having the support from your family. You know,
I have this war from my siblings, but like like
my extended family that hurt me a long time ago.
Until you learn to accept, you know what, I need
to focus on the people that do love me, the
people that are there for me. So thank goodness you
have a partner that loves you and supports you. So
make sure that's the first thing I want to tell
you is instead of like being sad about those that
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don't support you, like really, just try to focus and
be grateful for you for whoever does, whoever's there for you. Honestly,
having an attitude of gratitude goes a very, very long way.
So that's one thing I think every day you should
wake up and say, God, I am here, what am
I grateful for today? I woke up, I am finding
a solution to my health. And don't worry about the
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debt right now as far as like you know, I
know that that's a lot, but don't worry about that
right now. Just focus on doing what you got to
do to get your health straight, to get your health
back on track, like you said, and do whatever you can.
I always tell you guys, meditate, prayer, that just helps
you so much. Reading a positive book. Reading just takes
your mind somewhere else. So if you can find a
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good book that just helps you just get your mind
off of everything, that's going to help. If you're able
and you have the energy to work out, get girl,
get that start sweating. That's going to help you. Walk
on the treadement. You don't have to run, you don't
have to do anything strenuous, just stuff to start moving
your body to get that energy flowing through your body
is going to also help a lot. So those are
the three things that I recommend, like nine to one
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one because I get it. I totally understand, especially with
the whole family thing. But girl, you got your man
and he loves you, so make sure you just tell
him every day that you are grateful. And the more
that we say that we're grateful, the better we feel.
It's crazy, but just you know, write down every day
three things that you're grateful for. Okay, And I'm hoping
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that everything gets better and I want to hear from
you again. Okay, Jess, I hope you feel better, And
thank you so much for your question. Again, I really
appreciate it. Okay, we're gonna go with Maria's question.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Hi Chikis. I am from India, California, and my question
to you is what does self love mean to you?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Oh, Maria, I like that question, just straight to the point. Huh,
So self love to me, some people get the wrong
idea of self love as being selfish. It's being self centered.
That is not the case. It's really putting yourself first.
There's nothing wrong with that because if you're not okay,
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how are you going to be able to be there
for other people? If you are emotionally not okay, if
you are not physically okay, then you're not able to
give your best to anyone. So for me, self love
is self care, taking care of yourself, taking a bath, honestly,
Like it's crazy, how just on a Sunday, turning on
some candles, reading a book, laying in the back with
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some EPs and salt, just detoxing your body and your mind.
It just helps like set the tone for the rest
of the week. You know, I usually like doing that
on Sundays, but just stuff like that, Like really, also
a part of self love and self care is setting boundaries.
That is huge, you guys and it's so difficult to do.
But setting boundaries with people that no longer serve your
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highest good, that are loving you for who you are,
who are judging or criticizing you. It could be anyone
where you're just like, you know what, ask that key,
I am not putting up with this mistreatment or with
the way you're acting, how you're making me feel. Boundaries
are amazing. That's part of self love, self care, anything
that's gonna make you feel better so that you are
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able to give yourself to people as your best self,
if that makes sense. So that is my definition. There's
so many other things, but to me, those are the
things that came to mind right now. So I hope
that helped. Okay, and thank you for your question, Maria,
And now we are going with Palmeliss question.
Speaker 4 (10:05):
Hi Tikis. I am a new business owner and entrepreneur.
I have a couple questions for you business related.
Speaker 5 (10:13):
I am struggling to find a work life balance and
kind of having like my own me time and separating
everything else from work because I'm so consumed with work.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
So my first question is how do you balance that?
My second and important question is I know that you
have a bunch of businesses, and I'm sure you might
have partnerships, So I was just wondering, what are some
tips with creating a partnership agreement? What are some of
your non negotiables? And my last question for you is
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kind of going back with the other question, like how
do you balance that work life relationship, especially with your partnership.
All right, that's basically it. Thank you so much, Tiki's.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Oh this is I'm gonna tell you because just the
other day, Emilio, my partner, was telling me that I'm
a bit of a workaholic, and I am, but I
feel that I am I do very well with balancing
my career and my personal life because it's super important
to me. I think the best thing and the best
advice that I can give you is really telling yourself, Okay,
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I'm going to work from ten to six pm, and
after that I am going to focus on my health,
on my partner as far as like a romantic partner.
I think it's super important to do that because if not,
you're going to get so consumed and you're going to
start resenting your business or your work. So you have
to really be adamant and intentional about just saying here
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on Sundays, I'm not doing anything that has to do
with work because I need to go see my family,
I need to spend time with whomever goes shopping, whatever's
going to make you feel happy. To find that balance. So,
first of all, that's on you, like it's on us.
And sometimes I do find myself going more onto like
the work where I'm like, I find myself being on
my phone a little bit too much. But I think
if you just vocalize that to the people around you,
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because you want to be present, that's another thing, Like
I want to be present. So sometimes I'm like, okay, wait,
hold on, let me put my phone down. You have
to remind yourself to do that. Okay, it's an everyday thing.
Every day will be different. But the more that you
tell yourself, I want to find balance. I need the balance.
I want to work and I want my business to
be successful. But you don't want to get to the
point where you get so exhausted you can't be therefore
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yourself or for anyone else. Okay, So really find that
timeframe where you're working and also a day where you're
just completely off, you know, And as far as partnerships. Yes,
I have partnerships. I'm so lucky to have great partners.
I'm very transparent. I think the main thing is being
very honest from the very beginning, setting the foundation with
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them and saying, here, this is a type of partner
I am, this is what I bring into the partnership,
and respect each other. And a lot of these people
are my friends. So it's like when we're speaking business,
it's business, and we don't let one thing bleed into
to the other, into the friendship, you know. So that
could be a little difficult to manage, but I think
once you just set it straight, it's like, this is something,
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for instance, a non negotiable for me is if you're
not going to show me and be transparent with me numbers,
I'm not having it. I should be able to ask
at any time, what do our numbers look like? What
are our sales looking like? And it should be given
to you right away. Every partnership is different. I'm just
I'm that type of partner that I'm the one that pushes.
I'm the marketing, I'm creative, and my partners take care
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of all the numbers and all like the real like
day to day things. Which I completely am so grateful for.
So it all just depends. It's just really setting down
the foundation from the very beginning, being one hundred percent
honest and saying, you know what, Like with one of
my really good friends, Vanessa, who I have a shampool
line with, it was, look, we're not going to ever
let the business affect our friendship, and if we ever
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find that happening, if that's starting to happen, then we're
gonna close the partnership on the business side and continue
with our friendship. So we set that down from the
very beginning. So I hope that made sense and I
hope that was able. You know, I was able to
help you. But congratulations, and I know that you said
that you are a business owner. So so you guys,
thank you so much, especially to Jenny, to Jess, to
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Maria and Sepamela for your questions and for helping us
kick off the third season of Dear Cheeky's with video.
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