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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here
to give you a device on anything and everything you
need help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or
having issues with your family, or maybe you have a
question about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I
want to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts
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in my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious
issue or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
beeB, Hi Cheeky's, I just want to say that your
new podcast pictures are beautiful. You look so gorgeous. You
are glowing. I love the podcast. I've been following you
since it started and I keep up. I love them
so much. I relate to you so much. I also
lost my mom. It's going to be twelve years this year.
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It feels like yesterday. But every time you talk about
family and your mom, it always I'm such an impact,
but I always get super emotional. I'll be listening to
your podcast on my way to work and I'll be
in tears. Sometimes, you know, but it's all good. It's
all good. I love it, love it. I just wanted
to bring up something. You know, I have a group
of girlfriends. They're all divorced, single, don't have a boyfriend,
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or they've always had issues with dating. And in my
life and my relationship, everything is it's so good. I
love my hobby and he's always so good to me,
and we just have such a great relationship. And it
always kind of feels uncomfortable to talk about it when
they want to catch up. I know they all they
have is love for me and for us, but I
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can't help it to feel a little bit uncomfortable, where
like it feels like if I'm bragging, you know, like, oh,
I have such a great relationship, and then knowing they don't.
So how should I.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Go about that? Should I care?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Should I continue, you know, talking about how amazing it
is when they ask me, or tone it down a notch?
I don't know, what do you think? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh? I love this question. Thank you, Mama, sit Mosa,
thank you for all you guys. Oh my gosh, I
love that you guys love my podcast. It just keeps
me so inspired. AnyWho, Okay, so in regards to your question,
you know what, I don't think there's anything wrong with
you talking about your man and how good he is
to you. I mean, maybe it'll inspire them. One thing
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I do suggest is when I go out with my
friends as well, I will bring it up when they ask,
and if they ask, hey, how are you in Amidio doing?
Or I don't just talk about it, or if I'm
even if I'm having an issue with him, if he's
kind of like if it's been a little rough patch
which we've had, then I'm like, okay, guys, I need
to say something and we talk about it. But there
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is nothing wrong with you talking about how happy you are,
especially if you know it's with the right people. There
are certain people in my life that are acquaintances that
I'm very just surface. When it comes to my relationship.
I'm very selective with what I say to them because
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I just don't vibe there's like something's off. So you'll
know that. Listen to your gut feeling, listen to your intuition.
If it just feels like it's flowing, and they ask
why not. If they're good friends, you're gonna be happy
for you and they're not gonna wish anything bad. You
have a good man. God has blessed you with that,
and all you can do is yes, show your friends
that good guys are still out there and that they
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can find someone that treats them well as well, you know,
and you can be like an example. So girl, do it?
Just know with who? If these are your real friends,
then boast all you want, girl, girly girl, thank you
for your question. Okay, We're gonna move on to Jasmin.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Let's see the Chiquese commas espert and countries, then Cosa,
the two passa petente esa pork programm raia.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Okay has mean? Okay, So Jasmine is asking or has
mean if there was anything in my past that I
would like to relive redo and have a different result.
And I'm gonna answer in Spanish and then I came
back to you in English. Okay, okay has mean persona
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espara in Sarno's album No Perosia una cosa and Jodi
Ya lavees kekay prim no como com lh the the
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libro Nolo Mama medeo la lures. If we know semi research,
then Manera momento loria complet Pitos, Socio Primeroo, Nolo pez
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Melo com com on not so I think the ok
bdofe Lori lament So. I was telling Jasmine guys that
out of everything that I've been through, I'm type of
person that doesn't really like to regret things or I
don't know, I feel like everything that we go through.
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And if you listen to my podcast, you know this
there's always a lesson behind it. But one thing is
I was listening to her question. One thing that came up.
The first thing was my first tattoo at eighteen. My
mom said, yes, go ahead and do it. I was
the first in my family to get a tattoo, and
I didn't even think about it. I went down the
street to my local tattoo shop, no research whatsoever. I
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picked the damn tattoo out of a book and I
regretted it, and especially the placement too. I got the
tram stamp. Guys. It was very hot in those days,
and I don't mean hot as't like I mean it
was like sexy supposedly, and that's one thing I'm like, Damn.
I wish I would have done my research because I
didn't really like how it looked and then I got
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it removed and it hurt a lot. So I think,
out of everything, that's the first thing. I mean, I'm
sure there's other things, but I can't really think about
it right now. But that was my answer to her question.
Becausmin notice it's your okay. Next question comes from stephania
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Hi Tikies.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
First off, I just wanted to say that I really
love your podcast. I really love you as a person.
I think you're a great inspiration and I've always loved
seeing what you do. But I've been listening to your
podcast for a while now. I'm a long time listener,
first time caller. But I was just saying if you
could give me some advice on friendship, just because that's
something that I've been struggling with a lot recently. The
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situation is that about two years ago, I had a
really bad falling out with my two best friends, and
with that falling out, I gained a lot of issues.
I think I gained abandonment issues and just I became
very close off and I dealt with a lot of
hurt from both the friendship and the falling out, and
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I find that it still sticks with me and I
still struggle with today, especially in the way that I
make friendships and how I maintain them. And so currently,
what I want to ask you about is I have
a super close, almost best friend. We hang out almost
every day, we talk all the time. And my issue
is that I feel that I am self sabotaging this
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friendship just because I let a lot of my personal
things get in the way, especially I guess my past traumas,
and I want to know here's some advice on what
you think about that and what you think I should do,
and also how I should communicate that. And I guess
another issue is that I also get jealous when my
friends have other friends.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Stephanie, I hope I'm pronouncing your name correctly. I get it.
I used to be that way. I used to be
a jealous friend. How silly, like way back when and
where it's like, oh, I want to be the only friend.
So I get it. I think that comes with time
and understanding that what you bring to the tape, what
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you bring in the relationship, no one else can duplicate.
Like you have to know that your magic is your magic,
your energy is yours, and even if someone tries to
be like you, they can't. So what you give that friendship,
no one else can give that friendship. You get me,
So just know that. First off. Now I understand because
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I went through a really bad friendship breakup in twenty eighteen.
I lost two of my best friends.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
And.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Now looking back, I can accept where I was wrong.
It took me a while to get to that point
because I was so hurt by what they had done,
but it was the best thing that could have happened
to me, not only to me, but to them because
we were so codependent. That's also not healthy. Now I
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have grown up friendships where if I don't speak to
my best friend every day, we pick up right where
we left off before. It was why didn't she text me?
Why isn't she answering? Why does she want to hang
out with her? Not with me?
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Like?
Speaker 1 (10:07):
That is so toxic, babe like, and it's so draining.
You have to kind of unravel yourself from that in
order to have a healthy relationship, because in any relationship
really us having too much of a tight hold on
anything or anyone, you're going to suffocate the person and
the relationship is not going to be able to flourish
and breathe and become what it can be and become
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a forever friendship. So you need to stop self sabotaging.
The good thing is you're aware and you recognize it.
So since you recognize it and you're aware, you took
the first step. Now you've got to take your power
back and know, I love this person, I love this friend,
It is okay. If she has other friends, it is okay.
If I have other friends, it's healthy. If you have
other friends, you need to start just giving yourself therapy
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with that because you don't want to suffocate the friendship. Now,
my two best friends are back in my life and
it's different now, and I will tell you it will
take some time time for you to trust again. But
just know just the way that you can't compare every
man to your ex boyfriend. It's the same with friends.
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You also have to learn the lessons and also have
to realize what you've done to create these situations and
what you want to do differently because you want these
relationships to be long lasting. So no, probably won't ever
be the same the way it was. Like, my friendships
now are not anything near what my friendships were in
twenty eighteen with these girls, and it's okay. Because it
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wasn't again, it wasn't healthy, But it's okay. You live,
you learn, you grow, you mature and stop self stop
ataging like you need to stop. Like you just gotta
like shake that shit off and be like, Okay, it's fine.
I'm not going to overthink this. Don't overthink. Just let
it flow. Let it flow little by little, little by little,
and trust clean slate another person and if she shows
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her ass, then you know what to do. And you
just got to like separate yourself. But it's not fair
to her that you are subconsciously or consciously bringing up
the past or other people's mistakes and putting them onto her.
You get me. It's not fair to this friendship. So
that was a mouthful. I'm sorry, but I just needed
to explain it. Please keep us updated, you know we
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love updates. And I love that you finally left a
question after being a longtime listener. Thank you so much.
I appreciate that. Okay, so our last question comes from
Louis or Louis.
Speaker 5 (12:32):
Hi chie Keith. I have a question, what would you
think your mom's style would be now? Because you know,
just trendy with like really baggy jeans and like different
trends with like types of clothes, and I'm just wondering
what do you think her style would be an Also,
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what will you think how she would be on Instagram,
especially with posting stories, Like do you think she'll be
posting a stories every day like how you do every morning?
Or you think she was keep it low key and
won't really be posting as much.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Oh my god, I love this question. I'm gonna cry.
We were just talking about this the other day with Johnny.
Oh my eyes got watery. Thank you, Lewis, Thank you
so much for your question. I love it. See this
is what I love about the pod guys. You guys
can ask me personal questions, ask me anything. I love this. Okay,
So my mom was a Twitter She had Twitter fingers,
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she was a Twitter fan, and she was on there
every day all day. Sometimes we're like, Mom, put your
phone down. So I think eventually she would have gotten
used to Instagram and she for sure would have been
the type to post every day. For sure, she would
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not care about what's cool or not cool. She would
definitely dance to the beat of her own drum. And
as far as clothing, she was already very into like
baggy clothes when she was off stage or not in interviews.
So I think she totally thrive with the baggy clothes.
Not the sweats though, because one thing my mom, anytime
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I wore sweats or I was out in sweats, it
was just a no for her. She's like, ah, you
are why are you in sweats? Why are you going
to school in sweats? Like that is embarrassing. Don't tell
anyone you're my daughter. So I don't know if she
would completely be okay with like after the pandemic, you
know how we all just kind of got into like,
you know, the bummy look, which I love. I don't
think my mom would have. My mom would have been
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the wedges with the baggy pants and a cute little
like top showing her belly. She loves showing her belly.
So yeah, And I think she would probably do the
TikTok dances with my nieces for sure. Oh my god,
my heart, I miss her. I would love that. I
would love to do a TikTok dance with my mom.
Ah my eyes, But thank you so much. That was
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really nice for my heart to just imagine. Let me
just get myself together, guys, But thank you guys so
much for your questions. I love this, I love my podcast.
I love you guys. I appreciate you so much. And again,
this podcast is for anyone and everyone, men, women, you know,
any type of question that you may have, any advice
that I can give you. I am here and I
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thank you for listening and staying here with me and
making my heart feel happy. And if you have a
question and you have not felt inspired maybe yet, or
the courage to leave a question, Hey, there's no dumb question.
My mom always said, ask a question. That's how you're
going to learn. So leave your question at speakpipe dot com,
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