November 6, 2024 • 12 mins
I’m ready to answer a new batch of your questions! This week, Roxanne has a question about one of Emilio’s tattoos; an anonymous listener has a tough decision to make as her husband is asking to move to California; Juliette needs tips for first-time home buyers; and Tina took in her formerly incarcerated sister’s five children and now that she’s out she doesn’t want them back.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business,
whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now, go ahead and leave
your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hi, Teekys, I just wanted to drop in and leave
you a question. I am a big follower of yours,
from reality TV, your music, your podcasts, and now watching
your docu series. I love it. I love that it's raw, real,
and your vibe has always just been so uplifting and
(01:10):
you're just like the big sister I never had. But
my question for you today is Emilio's tattoo, the Dolores tattoo.
What is the meaning behind it? Is it a coincidence
because I know that's your mother's legal name. Tell me
about it. How do you feel about it? Is it
like a sign that your mother left imprinted on him?
(01:32):
Let me know.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I love that question, Roxanne, and I love it. Oh.
First of all, thank you so much for supporting all
that I do. It means the world to me. You
have no idea. And in regards to your question, yes,
when I saw it on his chest, I was like, Okay,
who is this? Hopefully it's one of your family members
and not an ex girlfriend. And thank goodness, it was
not an ex girlfriend. It's actually his grandmother, who I
(01:55):
absolutely love. I love his grandma. We call her Amma,
and her name is Dolores. We call her Lola. But
it's crazy because yes, that was my mom's first name.
She very much disliked the name, but it was her name.
So when I saw it on him, I said, oh
my gosh, this is so crazy, like it's I don't
(02:17):
know I did. I did take it as a sign.
I know my mom would absolutely love a medio. I
just those are things that I'm like, Damn, I wish
she was here. She she would love him, she would
love him so much. But yes, I did take it
as a sign, and yes, thank goodness, it wasn't an
ex girlfriend, so I'd be like, cover it up and
I'm just kidding. But it's his grandma, So yes, that yeah,
(02:38):
that's that's the answer. So thank you so much for asking,
miss Roxanne. I appreciate that. Okay, cool, Let's move on
to the next listener, and it's from an anonymous listener. Okay,
let's see.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Hi Cheeky's So. I want to keep this post on
anonymous only because I have people they listen to your podcast.
I'm gonna try and make this short because my last
recording was too long. But anyways, I have a partner.
We've been together for four years. We have a daughter together.
I have three kids from a previous marriage. He moved
(03:12):
to Minnesota from California and he has three kids in
California himself. He wants to move to California. I want
to move to California. But the only thing that's stopping
me from wanting to move, of like one hundred percent,
is my three kids. I don't want to take them
from a stable home here in Minnesota, like a stable
(03:32):
support system, all the good things that they have here,
to go to California with nothing and like be living
in a they get so expensive out there. You can't
find nothing nice, nothing decent if you're not making like good,
good money, And that really scares me. What do you
think I should do? Do you think I should make
a move? Do you think I should risk it? I
(03:54):
want to move? Is I just don't want to put
them in a predicament where they my kids are just
not I'm gonna be happy over there.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Ooh, okay, this one's a toughie. Okay. First of all,
you don't have peace with the decision, because if you
had peace and you knew this is what I want
to do, you wouldn't be asking me. So that to
me is already a sign an indication that you're obviously
not sure. And when you don't have peace with the decision,
then in my opinion, it's best not to make a
(04:26):
decision and just stay where you are. In my heart,
as I was hearing you, I thought if this was
my sister, I would definitely tell her don't move California.
I love California. I love it. It's a beautiful state.
We have the mountains, the beach, the desert like it's amazing.
(04:48):
The weather's great. But girl, it is very expensive. And
if you don't have a job lined up. If you
don't want to leave Minnesota without your children that's not
an option, then don't. I'm assuming your children are still
very young. I think that you should just stay and
do what's best for your kids right now, because they
(05:10):
need you, especially if they're young, they still need you.
And I know me moving as much as I did
when we were little, it really does affect you. It does,
so that's that's important. I mean, if it was like
within the same state, but it's like a whole other state,
it's just I feel like a lot. I don't know
if this will be a deal breaker with your man,
(05:31):
but I think that if you guys can compromise and say, hey,
let's just wait a few more years and really just
line things up and get all your ducks in a
row out here in California, then maybe. And then he
has kids in California, So I get it. Okay, now, okay,
now I get it. Sorry, I was remembering the other
part of your of your question. So yes, oh, it's
(05:54):
a tough one. It's a tough one. He has kids
out here. Just ask him for a few more years. Yeah,
maybe his kids can move to Minnesota. I don't know, man,
I don't know. I'm stuck on that one. But go
with what your heart is telling you. He wants to
come for his children, and you want to say for
your children. Maybe you guys can make it work. Try it.
(06:17):
But if I were you, I wouldn't move there. Boom done.
I love you, Okay, send you a big hug. All right,
we're gonna move on to the next question. The next
question comes from Juliette. Hello, miss clean Bee.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
I'm from Texas. I admire you, and I think you're
a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I was wondering do you have any tips for first
home buyers? And that's it.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Oh, Juliette, very nice, short and sweet and to the point.
I love it. Thank you so much for those beautiful words.
And the good thing is you live in Texas, so
in Texas you get more bang for your book. That's
great for first time buyers. I would just make sure
that you get the right loan for yourself. Get yourself
a very good real estate agent that knows what they're doing,
(07:12):
and a good loan officer, someone that's going to tell
you everything and all the options that you have because
as a first time buyer. There are a lot of
programs and you don't have to put down twenty percent.
I believe it's like three percent, five percent something like that.
I'm not entirely sure, but make sure you do your
research and make sure you find someone that will answer
all of your questions because of course I'm not a
(07:33):
real estate agent or a loan broker or loan officer.
But you definitely have a lot of options because you
are a first time buyer, and definitely make sure that
you have your down to payment. You know, save some money.
Good thirty forty fifty thousand dollars you know would be great.
And again in Texas, there's a lot of great options
(07:54):
the property. The properties out there are there. You get
a lot for your money, so that's a great thing.
Hopefully that helps and thank you for your question. Juliette Okay.
Last question comes from Tina.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
I want your advice on a personal topic. A year ago,
I was one month in of being nearly wed. My
sister and her baby daddy were very addicted to drugs.
They have five children. They both got incarcerated. We took
in the five children so that they wouldn't go to state.
(08:31):
She got out three months after. He is still incarcerated.
He will be out soon. Throughout this time, when she
got out, I told her, I will take care of
the kids for a few months until you can get
back on your feet, get us, get yourself a place,
a job, take your kids back in. She has not
even tried. I'm starting to have problems with my husband
because it's emotionally, physically, mentally, financially, it's straining. It's five children.
(08:56):
We went from just him and I just one month
recently married to having five children in the household. So
it takes a toll. So what do you advise I do.
I've tried to communicate with her to have her get
her children back. It's been a year and she's still
like wishy washy. She's not in her children, like her
(09:18):
children's life. She doesn't look for them. So I don't
know what else to do.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Oh my gosh, Tina, I'm so sorry to hear that
about your sister, because I just I can't. I can't
even understand why a mom wouldn't look for her children.
Hopefully she's not back on drugs, I'm hoping, and I'm
(09:46):
sorry to hear that it's causing issues in your in
your relationship. I think what you're doing is a beautiful thing.
First of all, taking in children that aren't yours for
love for them and love for your sister of course.
So I think that's a beautiful thing. I can understand
(10:06):
how difficult it may be in every aspect of your life.
Like you mentioned, I would maybe look into to help
you a little financially, like there's you know, the government
can help with a lot of things, you know, and
definitely maybe become like a foster parent. I believe that can.
I mean, I don't know the details. I'm just saying.
(10:27):
As I was listening to your question, I thought about that.
I was like, what have you become like a foster parent?
Like you can get some support from from from the
from the state, you know, So I'm hoping that helps
a little bit. But then again, like it's I get
it's five kids. I think in reality, like these kids
need you. I I don't know, these these questions today
(10:49):
are so tough, guys, because I'm like, damn, it's like
I want to give you the best advice, but then
I put myself in your shoes and I know it's difficult,
But I just know that what you're doing is amazing
and you're gonna make a huge difference in these children's lives.
They're going to appreciate it so much. And I know
right now it's very heavy, but just know that that
that is just wow. Like I admire you and and
(11:12):
I'm hoping that things get better. Just look into programs,
look into to like there's a lot of help. You
just have to like really research and find it to
help you financially, to get some support. Can your family
help you anyone else that maybe you guys can like
you know, help with the kids. I don't know. And
(11:33):
hopefully your sister's okay, man, I just hopefully she's okay. Okay.
So we have Roxanne, an anonymous listener, Juliet and Tina.
I hope that I was able to help. These questions
kind of got me today because it's like I want
to give you guys the best advice, and it's like
I want to think, oh, this is what I would do,
but I know it's a lot easier than done. So
hopefully I was able to help you and give you
(11:55):
some advice and give you some peace of mind. And
thank you guys for listening and watching and If you
have a question, please feel free to leave it at
speakpipe dot com. Slash Cheeks and Chill Podcasts, This is
Dear Cheeky's and we love you and we appreciate you.
See you on the next one. This is a production
of iHeartRadio and Mike Withura podcast Network. Follow us on
(12:18):
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you get your favorite shows.
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business,
whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now, go ahead and leave
your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hi, Teekys, I just wanted to drop in and leave
you a question. I am a big follower of yours,
from reality TV, your music, your podcasts, and now watching
your docu series. I love it. I love that it's raw, real,
and your vibe has always just been so uplifting and
(01:10):
you're just like the big sister I never had. But
my question for you today is Emilio's tattoo, the Dolores tattoo.
What is the meaning behind it? Is it a coincidence
because I know that's your mother's legal name. Tell me
about it. How do you feel about it? Is it
like a sign that your mother left imprinted on him?
(01:32):
Let me know.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I love that question, Roxanne, and I love it. Oh.
First of all, thank you so much for supporting all
that I do. It means the world to me. You
have no idea. And in regards to your question, yes,
when I saw it on his chest, I was like, Okay,
who is this? Hopefully it's one of your family members
and not an ex girlfriend. And thank goodness, it was
not an ex girlfriend. It's actually his grandmother, who I
(01:55):
absolutely love. I love his grandma. We call her Amma,
and her name is Dolores. We call her Lola. But
it's crazy because yes, that was my mom's first name.
She very much disliked the name, but it was her name.
So when I saw it on him, I said, oh
my gosh, this is so crazy, like it's I don't
(02:17):
know I did. I did take it as a sign.
I know my mom would absolutely love a medio. I
just those are things that I'm like, Damn, I wish
she was here. She she would love him, she would
love him so much. But yes, I did take it
as a sign, and yes, thank goodness, it wasn't an
ex girlfriend, so I'd be like, cover it up and
I'm just kidding. But it's his grandma, So yes, that yeah,
(02:38):
that's that's the answer. So thank you so much for asking,
miss Roxanne. I appreciate that. Okay, cool, Let's move on
to the next listener, and it's from an anonymous listener. Okay,
let's see.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Hi Cheeky's So. I want to keep this post on
anonymous only because I have people they listen to your podcast.
I'm gonna try and make this short because my last
recording was too long. But anyways, I have a partner.
We've been together for four years. We have a daughter together.
I have three kids from a previous marriage. He moved
(03:12):
to Minnesota from California and he has three kids in
California himself. He wants to move to California. I want
to move to California. But the only thing that's stopping
me from wanting to move, of like one hundred percent,
is my three kids. I don't want to take them
from a stable home here in Minnesota, like a stable
(03:32):
support system, all the good things that they have here,
to go to California with nothing and like be living
in a they get so expensive out there. You can't
find nothing nice, nothing decent if you're not making like good,
good money, And that really scares me. What do you
think I should do? Do you think I should make
a move? Do you think I should risk it? I
(03:54):
want to move? Is I just don't want to put
them in a predicament where they my kids are just
not I'm gonna be happy over there.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Ooh, okay, this one's a toughie. Okay. First of all,
you don't have peace with the decision, because if you
had peace and you knew this is what I want
to do, you wouldn't be asking me. So that to
me is already a sign an indication that you're obviously
not sure. And when you don't have peace with the decision,
then in my opinion, it's best not to make a
(04:26):
decision and just stay where you are. In my heart,
as I was hearing you, I thought if this was
my sister, I would definitely tell her don't move California.
I love California. I love it. It's a beautiful state.
We have the mountains, the beach, the desert like it's amazing.
(04:48):
The weather's great. But girl, it is very expensive. And
if you don't have a job lined up. If you
don't want to leave Minnesota without your children that's not
an option, then don't. I'm assuming your children are still
very young. I think that you should just stay and
do what's best for your kids right now, because they
(05:10):
need you, especially if they're young, they still need you.
And I know me moving as much as I did
when we were little, it really does affect you. It does,
so that's that's important. I mean, if it was like
within the same state, but it's like a whole other state,
it's just I feel like a lot. I don't know
if this will be a deal breaker with your man,
(05:31):
but I think that if you guys can compromise and say, hey,
let's just wait a few more years and really just
line things up and get all your ducks in a
row out here in California, then maybe. And then he
has kids in California, So I get it. Okay, now, okay,
now I get it. Sorry, I was remembering the other
part of your of your question. So yes, oh, it's
(05:54):
a tough one. It's a tough one. He has kids
out here. Just ask him for a few more years. Yeah,
maybe his kids can move to Minnesota. I don't know, man,
I don't know. I'm stuck on that one. But go
with what your heart is telling you. He wants to
come for his children, and you want to say for
your children. Maybe you guys can make it work. Try it.
(06:17):
But if I were you, I wouldn't move there. Boom done.
I love you, Okay, send you a big hug. All right,
we're gonna move on to the next question. The next
question comes from Juliette. Hello, miss clean Bee.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
I'm from Texas. I admire you, and I think you're
a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I was wondering do you have any tips for first
home buyers? And that's it.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Oh, Juliette, very nice, short and sweet and to the point.
I love it. Thank you so much for those beautiful words.
And the good thing is you live in Texas, so
in Texas you get more bang for your book. That's
great for first time buyers. I would just make sure
that you get the right loan for yourself. Get yourself
a very good real estate agent that knows what they're doing,
(07:12):
and a good loan officer, someone that's going to tell
you everything and all the options that you have because
as a first time buyer. There are a lot of
programs and you don't have to put down twenty percent.
I believe it's like three percent, five percent something like that.
I'm not entirely sure, but make sure you do your
research and make sure you find someone that will answer
all of your questions because of course I'm not a
(07:33):
real estate agent or a loan broker or loan officer.
But you definitely have a lot of options because you
are a first time buyer, and definitely make sure that
you have your down to payment. You know, save some money.
Good thirty forty fifty thousand dollars you know would be great.
And again in Texas, there's a lot of great options
(07:54):
the property. The properties out there are there. You get
a lot for your money, so that's a great thing.
Hopefully that helps and thank you for your question. Juliette Okay.
Last question comes from Tina.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
I want your advice on a personal topic. A year ago,
I was one month in of being nearly wed. My
sister and her baby daddy were very addicted to drugs.
They have five children. They both got incarcerated. We took
in the five children so that they wouldn't go to state.
(08:31):
She got out three months after. He is still incarcerated.
He will be out soon. Throughout this time, when she
got out, I told her, I will take care of
the kids for a few months until you can get
back on your feet, get us, get yourself a place,
a job, take your kids back in. She has not
even tried. I'm starting to have problems with my husband
because it's emotionally, physically, mentally, financially, it's straining. It's five children.
(08:56):
We went from just him and I just one month
recently married to having five children in the household. So
it takes a toll. So what do you advise I do.
I've tried to communicate with her to have her get
her children back. It's been a year and she's still
like wishy washy. She's not in her children, like her
(09:18):
children's life. She doesn't look for them. So I don't
know what else to do.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Oh my gosh, Tina, I'm so sorry to hear that
about your sister, because I just I can't. I can't
even understand why a mom wouldn't look for her children.
Hopefully she's not back on drugs, I'm hoping, and I'm
(09:46):
sorry to hear that it's causing issues in your in
your relationship. I think what you're doing is a beautiful thing.
First of all, taking in children that aren't yours for
love for them and love for your sister of course.
So I think that's a beautiful thing. I can understand
(10:06):
how difficult it may be in every aspect of your life.
Like you mentioned, I would maybe look into to help
you a little financially, like there's you know, the government
can help with a lot of things, you know, and
definitely maybe become like a foster parent. I believe that can.
I mean, I don't know the details. I'm just saying.
(10:27):
As I was listening to your question, I thought about that.
I was like, what have you become like a foster parent?
Like you can get some support from from from the
from the state, you know, So I'm hoping that helps
a little bit. But then again, like it's I get
it's five kids. I think in reality, like these kids
need you. I I don't know, these these questions today
(10:49):
are so tough, guys, because I'm like, damn, it's like
I want to give you the best advice, but then
I put myself in your shoes and I know it's difficult,
But I just know that what you're doing is amazing
and you're gonna make a huge difference in these children's lives.
They're going to appreciate it so much. And I know
right now it's very heavy, but just know that that
that is just wow. Like I admire you and and
(11:12):
I'm hoping that things get better. Just look into programs,
look into to like there's a lot of help. You
just have to like really research and find it to
help you financially, to get some support. Can your family
help you anyone else that maybe you guys can like
you know, help with the kids. I don't know. And
(11:33):
hopefully your sister's okay, man, I just hopefully she's okay. Okay.
So we have Roxanne, an anonymous listener, Juliet and Tina.
I hope that I was able to help. These questions
kind of got me today because it's like I want
to give you guys the best advice, and it's like
I want to think, oh, this is what I would do,
but I know it's a lot easier than done. So
hopefully I was able to help you and give you
(11:55):
some advice and give you some peace of mind. And
thank you guys for listening and watching and If you
have a question, please feel free to leave it at
speakpipe dot com. Slash Cheeks and Chill Podcasts, This is
Dear Cheeky's and we love you and we appreciate you.
See you on the next one. This is a production
of iHeartRadio and Mike Withura podcast Network. Follow us on
(12:18):
Instagram at Mike Utura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's
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