September 16, 2024 • 17 mins
Hello, hello! Today, we’re talking about being nice and whether that pays off. We cover why it ultimately pays to be nice, why I believe in Karma and I open up about something I’ve struggled with in romantic relationships.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
What up, y'all? Happy Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday,
whatever day that you are listening to this episode. Thank you,
Thank you for listening in. If you are a new listener, welcome.
I'm very happy to have you all here and I
hope that you enjoyed Cheeky's in Chill. So today I
want to talk about something you've probably heard of. Do
(00:24):
nice guys finish last? Do they really finish last? Well,
let's get into this episode of Cheeky's and Chill, your
favorite podcast. Alrighty guys, I'm going to make this short
and to the point, very precise, very very demure, very mindful.
(00:45):
I'm sure you guys have all seen that on Instagram.
It's like my favorite word right now. But anyways, the
other day, and I'm not going to say who, but
the other day I was having a conversation and this
particular person, who I am very fond of, who I
have always loved with the way that they carry themselves,
in the way that they are very ethical in their work, said,
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you know, I'm just tired. I'm fucking tired of being
the nice guy and people taking advantage and I'm just
fucking tired of it. I'm done. I'm not gonna be
nice anymore, like I'm going to be an asshole. It
almost seemed forced. I'm like, this isn't who you are,
Like you are genuinely a nice person, and sometimes it
takes us a little longer to get to the finish line.
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It really made me sad because I saw a difference
and it was happening right before my eyes, and I
was just like, what is happening, Like there's a different
energy about this person, and it was confirmation. And I
remember telling this person I'm like, don't don't ever get
tired of being nice. Trust me. I have the moments
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actually where I'm like, I'm just so sick of it.
People take my kindness for weakness, like and they do
a lot of people do. But I don't want to
change my essence because I know, at the end of
the day, guys, it will take you further than you know. Yes,
it might take you a little longer than people that
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push people out of the way. Imagine imagine us running
right on a track, okay, and we're all running to
the finish line. Okay. Just imagine come with me, okay,
and we're running and there's people that are pushing you
out of the way and tripping you and because they
want to make it to the finish line before you.
But then you turn around and someone you like may
not even know, but they fell and they're struggling to
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get back up. Are you going to say f that
person and keep going because you want to get to
the finish line, or are you going to go back
and say, you know what, let me help that person.
Let me help them just get back up and help
them get to the finish line. Even if I don't
make it, but at least I wasn't that other person
tripping people and pushing people and all these nasty things
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that happen in life just to get to the finish line.
I'd much rather be a person to help others, to
be there for them. I'm just that person that can
never leave a soldier behind. That's just my mentality of like,
I'm here for the people, I'm not here for myself.
And there's a lot of people that are like that.
I'm not one of them, and I suggest that you
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aren't either, because it's kind of like that whole mentality
of every man for themselves. I truly and in my heart,
don't believe that. I feel like if the more united
we are, the stronger we stand. If we give up
on the world because the world is just a lost
cause and and blah blah blah, like it's never gonna
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get better. If you want to see a change in
the world, that has to start with you, Yes, But also,
how can I help, even if it's a little bit.
This is why I talk about recycling and all this stuff,
because even if I do it in my household, it's helping.
Imagine if I give up and I'm just you know,
adding to the problem, it's better for us to say
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I'm gonna do what I can and help others for
the better good of everyone. So that's kind of what
I mean. And it made me really sad when this
person told me that, because I really really love this
person and I really enjoyed being around them more when
they were nice, when they were like not being a
holes and very like confrontational and just trying to hey,
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this is my voice. I'm gonna show you that I'm
here and that I'm not gonna let you fuck with me.
And I'm just like, oh, it's kind of like not
cool energy to be around, and the more and more
that I saw that, the less and less that I
wanted to be around that person, And it just made
me want to talk about this and just more than anything,
to encourage you, guys, to continue to be nice. Don't
get tired of being nice and doing good in the world.
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It will pay off. I promise you it will pay
I guarantee it, it will pay off. Don't give up.
It's not that the nice guy finishes last. It just
takes a little longer because there's a lot of assholes
in the world that just think about themselves and want
want for themselves. Me me, me, me me, and they
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get there a lot faster. But then what you're alone.
No one wants to be around you. You're a pest.
I can't with opportunists, with leeches. I just that's a
whole other episode, guys. But like, don't get tired of
being a nice person, of doing good. It feels better.
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Life is watching the universes listening. One way or the other.
You will get compensated. I promise you. It's always better
to kill people with kindness, genuine kindness, than to kill
them with f fed up actions and doing things that
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yes will get you bigger and better opportunities, but you're
screwing people over like it's just I don't know. I
hope I'm making sense, but I just wanted to encourage you, guys,
as I had this in my heart, to continue to
do good in the world, to do your part, to
do what you can to Yes, think of yourself, but
always think of others as well and keep them in mind.
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And always remember, united, we stand, Divided we fall. And
that's just the freaking truth, no matter how you look
at it, that is what it is, guys. And even
in relationships, I'm telling you, I have been very tough
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in loving relationships with partners. And finally when I put
the gloves down, when I let my guards down, things
got so much better. It's so exhausting to be on
defense mode because in every other area of my life
I have no problem with implementing all of this that
(07:03):
I'm telling you. It had just been in relationships because
of what I grew up seeing, because of situations that
I put myself in, or whatever the case may be.
So I always felt like I had to have, you know,
my gloves up in the air, like ready to fight,
like you know, and I was like no, I'm gonna
leave you before you leave me, or yeah, you want
(07:24):
to be mean, I'm gonna be meaner. No, it's so
fucking tiring. Like I'm just like no, I'm gonna do
my best. I'm gonna try until trying is no longer
an option. I'm gonna do my part. I'm gonna love
you the way I want to love you, the way
I hope that you love me, and if you don't
appreciate it and you take me for granted, then I'll
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walk away. It took me a long time to understand that,
and it feels so damn good to say, you know what,
I'm gonna love the shit out of you. I'm gonna
treat you good even if you're not doing it, because
I'm gonna do my part, and if you lose me,
then you're gonna miss me. That's on you. And once
I did that, girl, I'm happy, I'm like, whoop. It
feels good to be nice, It feels good to do good.
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It feels just feels fucking good. It just feels great.
I don't know how I'll explain it, like I, yes,
I want to smile and even if you're mean, like
even when dude, road rage, it's a whole other thing.
I swear to you. Someone cuts me off, I'm like,
I'm not even gonna fight with you. I'm not gonna hunk.
I'm not gonna flip you off. I swear. I'm like,
let them talk shit, whatever the case may be. I
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just blow them a kiss. I'm like, you know what, No,
takes too much energy to be mean, too much fucking
energy to be mean. Why No? Like No, life is
hard and I want to fucking I'm here for a
good time, you know. And I'm gonna be nice and
that's that's it. And I don't care even if people
are mean to me. I'm gonna defend myself. I'm not
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gonna be dumb, but I'm not gonna like. You know
how they say an eye for an eye. Who said this?
I think Gandhi said this. If we do an eye
for an eye, the whole world is gonna be blind.
I think that's the quote. Don't quote me, but look
it up. I'm not that type of person. Don't be
that type of person of like, Okay, you do this
to me, I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna do it worse. No,
Why let God take care of them, You do your part,
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You be good, love the world, Radiate love, radiate light,
and I promise you it will pay off. Guaranteed it
will pay off. Do not have that mentality of the
nice guy ends last. It's not true. We end stronger,
we in whole, we end victorious, and I've seen it
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in my life. Trust me. I don't know if you
guys believe in karma. I definitely believe in good karma,
bad karma. I believe in the ying and the yang.
I believe in what you give comes back. I believe
in paying forward. I do. I believe in treating people
the way I want to be treated. I really do.
I feel like the more positive energy you put out
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in the world, the more good you put out in
the world, the more you will receive. I'm not saying
that because you keep pouring out good, you're not going
to get bad situations. You're not going to get mean
people in your way. That's just life. Those are called obstacles.
Those are things that we can't prevent. Those things are
going to happen. But if you keep giving good and
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you keep paying it forward, and you keep doing good,
and you don't give up and you have faith in
the universe, and whatever it is you have faith in
in God, you will receive good. It's just a circle.
It's how it works. It's energetic. We are energy. The
entire world is made up of energy. So even if
you feel like, oh my god, I've been doing like
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I've been trying and life is just kicking in the ass, like,
don't lose hope, do not lose faith, you will. You
will come out on top. Keep your eye on the
light at the end of the tunnel. And I know
I say that a lot, but I really really see
my life like that. Sometimes sometimes I'm in a dark
ass place, you guys, and I've thought, honestly, I thought, okay,
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it's fine. I really thought twenty twenty four it was
gonna be different for me. I thought, oh shit, things
are just settling, the dust is settling. Like been through
so much. I look back and I'm like, damn, it's
been a lot, but I feel like everything's gonna be
all right. And just when I think that, life teaches
me something else and I'm like damn, And I have
those dark moments where I'm just like, oh my God,
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everything is caving in, like, oh my gosh, like I
just I don't know, and I'm like, Okay, the light
looks smaller and further and further away, But I don't
lose my faith. I'm like, it's okay. I've been through
these moments. I've seen stuff like this, I have felt
this before. I know that I will get out of this.
This too shall pass, it will get better. I have
put in more good in the world. God knows that
I live my best with trying to help, with being
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a good person. I'm not trying to f anyone over.
I don't. I don't. I feel so proud guys to
say that there is no one that has said I
have fucked them over. And if I did, and I've
made mistakes, I will apologize and I admit to it,
because you know, no one's perfect. But for someone to
say that I stole from them, that I did anything
negative to try to stop their career or stop them
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from becoming like never, Because I'm like, there is a
God and I want good karma. So I do believe
in karma, guys. And I know we keep saying about
you know, men and guys do they finish last? I
mean I mean that as men and women but let
me talk about women now that we're here as a woman,
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as a woman in my industry that's mainly dominated by men,
and even in corporate America, you guys, it's you know,
it's ran by the man. And you know, I'm not
a feminist just a little. But anyways, I'm a woman,
and I'm a strong woman. I have a strong character.
I consider myself to be a person that is very
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strong and very strong willed and vocal when need be
in a very respectful way. I have run into other
women that, because they are in a man's world quote unquote,
they feel the need to put forward this very like
hard shell because they want to be taken seriously. And
I just feel that there's nothing more beautiful than a
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woman that can still be tender and still be very
strong in her position without being disrespectful. There's a very
fine line, because yes, we want to be taken seriously,
especially because for me, in the beginning of my career,
I felt like I needed to be this tough, strong
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type of woman on stage and in my interviews, and
I'm just like, dude, it got exhausting. I'm like, that's
not really who I am. If that's really who you are,
then so be it. But I'm saying, like, if it's
not really who you are, don't put up a front.
Because I did. I felt like I needed that because
I wanted people to be like, no, I'm tough and like,
you know, my mom was tough, and I wanted to
be I guess respected. But I don't think I was
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doing it in the right way. You know. I wasn't disrespectful,
but it wasn't really who I genuinely am. It's not
my real, authentic self. So I had to find the
balance of just being a nice, respectful, cordial woman but
still holding my ground and holding my own and being
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very direct but always respectful, you know, and mindful and demure.
So I think that there's a fine line, and I
think that us as women, my only advice is to
always have a tender heart because it is it is tougher.
I feel like the world can be tougher on women.
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Not can I really I believe it. But it's important
to always keep our essence and keep our heart soft
and our shell hard, like just you know, hold our
own and find that balance between being too nice and
being naive and gullible. Because I've been there as well,
and finding our voice, but also always being respectful and
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cordial and not having to overcompensate because of the position
that we're in to prove something to a man. So
I hope that made sense. But I do think that
it is very important to always be a lady, be
a strong woman with our head held high in a
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world that men feel that they run. But in reality, guys,
if it wasn't for women, there would be no life.
There is life, and there are men on this earth
because of women, whether they want to admit it or not.
And in that there's a lot of strength. But again,
don't feel like you're better than anyone else, you know
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what I mean. AnyWho, I just wanted to clear that
up because I know we keep thinking about, you know,
talking about guys. It's a person does a nice person
and last is basically what I'm talking about. I hope
you enjoyed this episode, and I hope that you understood
me with all the things that I talked about, and
it was short and quick and to the point the
way we like it. Boom boom boom. I hope something
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resonated with you. And all I want to do in
this world is help and better people's lives, for all
of us to become the better versions of ourselves and
who we are meant to be. So I hope I'm
doing that. So thank you so much for listening. I
really really appreciate you. I can't even tell you how
excited and how great it feels when I see you
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guys on the streets get a restaurant, or when I
see you out in the world in the real world,
or I see you guys at my meeting greets and
you tell me I listen to your podcast. Thank you
so much Cheeky's Like, I love it, Like makes me
feel so good. I feel like, ah, I'm doing good
in the world, and that's all I want to do.
So thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
I'm never going to get tired of saying thank you.
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whatever day that you are listening to this episode. Thank you,
Thank you for listening in. If you are a new listener, welcome.
I'm very happy to have you all here and I
hope that you enjoyed Cheeky's in Chill. So today I
want to talk about something you've probably heard of. Do
(00:24):
nice guys finish last? Do they really finish last? Well,
let's get into this episode of Cheeky's and Chill, your
favorite podcast. Alrighty guys, I'm going to make this short
and to the point, very precise, very very demure, very mindful.
(00:45):
I'm sure you guys have all seen that on Instagram.
It's like my favorite word right now. But anyways, the
other day, and I'm not going to say who, but
the other day I was having a conversation and this
particular person, who I am very fond of, who I
have always loved with the way that they carry themselves,
in the way that they are very ethical in their work, said,
(01:09):
you know, I'm just tired. I'm fucking tired of being
the nice guy and people taking advantage and I'm just
fucking tired of it. I'm done. I'm not gonna be
nice anymore, like I'm going to be an asshole. It
almost seemed forced. I'm like, this isn't who you are,
Like you are genuinely a nice person, and sometimes it
takes us a little longer to get to the finish line.
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It really made me sad because I saw a difference
and it was happening right before my eyes, and I
was just like, what is happening, Like there's a different
energy about this person, and it was confirmation. And I
remember telling this person I'm like, don't don't ever get
tired of being nice. Trust me. I have the moments
(01:53):
actually where I'm like, I'm just so sick of it.
People take my kindness for weakness, like and they do
a lot of people do. But I don't want to
change my essence because I know, at the end of
the day, guys, it will take you further than you know. Yes,
it might take you a little longer than people that
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push people out of the way. Imagine imagine us running
right on a track, okay, and we're all running to
the finish line. Okay. Just imagine come with me, okay,
and we're running and there's people that are pushing you
out of the way and tripping you and because they
want to make it to the finish line before you.
But then you turn around and someone you like may
not even know, but they fell and they're struggling to
(02:35):
get back up. Are you going to say f that
person and keep going because you want to get to
the finish line, or are you going to go back
and say, you know what, let me help that person.
Let me help them just get back up and help
them get to the finish line. Even if I don't
make it, but at least I wasn't that other person
tripping people and pushing people and all these nasty things
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that happen in life just to get to the finish line.
I'd much rather be a person to help others, to
be there for them. I'm just that person that can
never leave a soldier behind. That's just my mentality of like,
I'm here for the people, I'm not here for myself.
And there's a lot of people that are like that.
I'm not one of them, and I suggest that you
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aren't either, because it's kind of like that whole mentality
of every man for themselves. I truly and in my heart,
don't believe that. I feel like if the more united
we are, the stronger we stand. If we give up
on the world because the world is just a lost
cause and and blah blah blah, like it's never gonna
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get better. If you want to see a change in
the world, that has to start with you, Yes, But also,
how can I help, even if it's a little bit.
This is why I talk about recycling and all this stuff,
because even if I do it in my household, it's helping.
Imagine if I give up and I'm just you know,
adding to the problem, it's better for us to say
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I'm gonna do what I can and help others for
the better good of everyone. So that's kind of what
I mean. And it made me really sad when this
person told me that, because I really really love this
person and I really enjoyed being around them more when
they were nice, when they were like not being a
holes and very like confrontational and just trying to hey,
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this is my voice. I'm gonna show you that I'm
here and that I'm not gonna let you fuck with me.
And I'm just like, oh, it's kind of like not
cool energy to be around, and the more and more
that I saw that, the less and less that I
wanted to be around that person, And it just made
me want to talk about this and just more than anything,
to encourage you, guys, to continue to be nice. Don't
get tired of being nice and doing good in the world.
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It will pay off. I promise you it will pay
I guarantee it, it will pay off. Don't give up.
It's not that the nice guy finishes last. It just
takes a little longer because there's a lot of assholes
in the world that just think about themselves and want
want for themselves. Me me, me, me me, and they
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get there a lot faster. But then what you're alone.
No one wants to be around you. You're a pest.
I can't with opportunists, with leeches. I just that's a
whole other episode, guys. But like, don't get tired of
being a nice person, of doing good. It feels better.
(05:31):
Life is watching the universes listening. One way or the other.
You will get compensated. I promise you. It's always better
to kill people with kindness, genuine kindness, than to kill
them with f fed up actions and doing things that
(05:52):
yes will get you bigger and better opportunities, but you're
screwing people over like it's just I don't know. I
hope I'm making sense, but I just wanted to encourage you, guys,
as I had this in my heart, to continue to
do good in the world, to do your part, to
do what you can to Yes, think of yourself, but
always think of others as well and keep them in mind.
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And always remember, united, we stand, Divided we fall. And
that's just the freaking truth, no matter how you look
at it, that is what it is, guys. And even
in relationships, I'm telling you, I have been very tough
(06:39):
in loving relationships with partners. And finally when I put
the gloves down, when I let my guards down, things
got so much better. It's so exhausting to be on
defense mode because in every other area of my life
I have no problem with implementing all of this that
(07:03):
I'm telling you. It had just been in relationships because
of what I grew up seeing, because of situations that
I put myself in, or whatever the case may be.
So I always felt like I had to have, you know,
my gloves up in the air, like ready to fight,
like you know, and I was like no, I'm gonna
leave you before you leave me, or yeah, you want
(07:24):
to be mean, I'm gonna be meaner. No, it's so
fucking tiring. Like I'm just like no, I'm gonna do
my best. I'm gonna try until trying is no longer
an option. I'm gonna do my part. I'm gonna love
you the way I want to love you, the way
I hope that you love me, and if you don't
appreciate it and you take me for granted, then I'll
(07:44):
walk away. It took me a long time to understand that,
and it feels so damn good to say, you know what,
I'm gonna love the shit out of you. I'm gonna
treat you good even if you're not doing it, because
I'm gonna do my part, and if you lose me,
then you're gonna miss me. That's on you. And once
I did that, girl, I'm happy, I'm like, whoop. It
feels good to be nice, It feels good to do good.
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It feels just feels fucking good. It just feels great.
I don't know how I'll explain it, like I, yes,
I want to smile and even if you're mean, like
even when dude, road rage, it's a whole other thing.
I swear to you. Someone cuts me off, I'm like,
I'm not even gonna fight with you. I'm not gonna hunk.
I'm not gonna flip you off. I swear. I'm like,
let them talk shit, whatever the case may be. I
(08:28):
just blow them a kiss. I'm like, you know what, No,
takes too much energy to be mean, too much fucking
energy to be mean. Why No? Like No, life is
hard and I want to fucking I'm here for a
good time, you know. And I'm gonna be nice and
that's that's it. And I don't care even if people
are mean to me. I'm gonna defend myself. I'm not
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gonna be dumb, but I'm not gonna like. You know
how they say an eye for an eye. Who said this?
I think Gandhi said this. If we do an eye
for an eye, the whole world is gonna be blind.
I think that's the quote. Don't quote me, but look
it up. I'm not that type of person. Don't be
that type of person of like, Okay, you do this
to me, I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna do it worse. No,
Why let God take care of them, You do your part,
(09:11):
You be good, love the world, Radiate love, radiate light,
and I promise you it will pay off. Guaranteed it
will pay off. Do not have that mentality of the
nice guy ends last. It's not true. We end stronger,
we in whole, we end victorious, and I've seen it
(09:31):
in my life. Trust me. I don't know if you
guys believe in karma. I definitely believe in good karma,
bad karma. I believe in the ying and the yang.
I believe in what you give comes back. I believe
in paying forward. I do. I believe in treating people
the way I want to be treated. I really do.
I feel like the more positive energy you put out
(09:54):
in the world, the more good you put out in
the world, the more you will receive. I'm not saying
that because you keep pouring out good, you're not going
to get bad situations. You're not going to get mean
people in your way. That's just life. Those are called obstacles.
Those are things that we can't prevent. Those things are
going to happen. But if you keep giving good and
(10:14):
you keep paying it forward, and you keep doing good,
and you don't give up and you have faith in
the universe, and whatever it is you have faith in
in God, you will receive good. It's just a circle.
It's how it works. It's energetic. We are energy. The
entire world is made up of energy. So even if
you feel like, oh my god, I've been doing like
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I've been trying and life is just kicking in the ass, like,
don't lose hope, do not lose faith, you will. You
will come out on top. Keep your eye on the
light at the end of the tunnel. And I know
I say that a lot, but I really really see
my life like that. Sometimes sometimes I'm in a dark
ass place, you guys, and I've thought, honestly, I thought, okay,
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it's fine. I really thought twenty twenty four it was
gonna be different for me. I thought, oh shit, things
are just settling, the dust is settling. Like been through
so much. I look back and I'm like, damn, it's
been a lot, but I feel like everything's gonna be
all right. And just when I think that, life teaches
me something else and I'm like damn, And I have
those dark moments where I'm just like, oh my God,
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everything is caving in, like, oh my gosh, like I
just I don't know, and I'm like, Okay, the light
looks smaller and further and further away, But I don't
lose my faith. I'm like, it's okay. I've been through
these moments. I've seen stuff like this, I have felt
this before. I know that I will get out of this.
This too shall pass, it will get better. I have
put in more good in the world. God knows that
I live my best with trying to help, with being
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a good person. I'm not trying to f anyone over.
I don't. I don't. I feel so proud guys to
say that there is no one that has said I
have fucked them over. And if I did, and I've
made mistakes, I will apologize and I admit to it,
because you know, no one's perfect. But for someone to
say that I stole from them, that I did anything
negative to try to stop their career or stop them
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from becoming like never, Because I'm like, there is a
God and I want good karma. So I do believe
in karma, guys. And I know we keep saying about
you know, men and guys do they finish last? I
mean I mean that as men and women but let
me talk about women now that we're here as a woman,
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as a woman in my industry that's mainly dominated by men,
and even in corporate America, you guys, it's you know,
it's ran by the man. And you know, I'm not
a feminist just a little. But anyways, I'm a woman,
and I'm a strong woman. I have a strong character.
I consider myself to be a person that is very
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strong and very strong willed and vocal when need be
in a very respectful way. I have run into other
women that, because they are in a man's world quote unquote,
they feel the need to put forward this very like
hard shell because they want to be taken seriously. And
I just feel that there's nothing more beautiful than a
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woman that can still be tender and still be very
strong in her position without being disrespectful. There's a very
fine line, because yes, we want to be taken seriously,
especially because for me, in the beginning of my career,
I felt like I needed to be this tough, strong
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type of woman on stage and in my interviews, and
I'm just like, dude, it got exhausting. I'm like, that's
not really who I am. If that's really who you are,
then so be it. But I'm saying, like, if it's
not really who you are, don't put up a front.
Because I did. I felt like I needed that because
I wanted people to be like, no, I'm tough and like,
you know, my mom was tough, and I wanted to
be I guess respected. But I don't think I was
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doing it in the right way. You know. I wasn't disrespectful,
but it wasn't really who I genuinely am. It's not
my real, authentic self. So I had to find the
balance of just being a nice, respectful, cordial woman but
still holding my ground and holding my own and being
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very direct but always respectful, you know, and mindful and demure.
So I think that there's a fine line, and I
think that us as women, my only advice is to
always have a tender heart because it is it is tougher.
I feel like the world can be tougher on women.
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Not can I really I believe it. But it's important
to always keep our essence and keep our heart soft
and our shell hard, like just you know, hold our
own and find that balance between being too nice and
being naive and gullible. Because I've been there as well,
and finding our voice, but also always being respectful and
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cordial and not having to overcompensate because of the position
that we're in to prove something to a man. So
I hope that made sense. But I do think that
it is very important to always be a lady, be
a strong woman with our head held high in a
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world that men feel that they run. But in reality, guys,
if it wasn't for women, there would be no life.
There is life, and there are men on this earth
because of women, whether they want to admit it or not.
And in that there's a lot of strength. But again,
don't feel like you're better than anyone else, you know
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what I mean. AnyWho, I just wanted to clear that
up because I know we keep thinking about, you know,
talking about guys. It's a person does a nice person
and last is basically what I'm talking about. I hope
you enjoyed this episode, and I hope that you understood
me with all the things that I talked about, and
it was short and quick and to the point the
way we like it. Boom boom boom. I hope something
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resonated with you. And all I want to do in
this world is help and better people's lives, for all
of us to become the better versions of ourselves and
who we are meant to be. So I hope I'm
doing that. So thank you so much for listening. I
really really appreciate you. I can't even tell you how
excited and how great it feels when I see you
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guys on the streets get a restaurant, or when I
see you out in the world in the real world,
or I see you guys at my meeting greets and
you tell me I listen to your podcast. Thank you
so much Cheeky's Like, I love it, Like makes me
feel so good. I feel like, ah, I'm doing good
in the world, and that's all I want to do.
So thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
I'm never going to get tired of saying thank you.
I love you, guys, and I will see you here
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on the next episode of Cheekys and Chill. Oh and
don't forget dear Cheeky's on Wednesdays, Love you peace out.
Do you need advice on love, relationships, health emails? I'm
so excited to share with you that my Cheekies and
Chill podcast will have an extra so drop each week,
I'll be answering all your questions. Just leave me a
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voice message. All you have to do is go to
speak pipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and Chill podcasts and
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