November 17, 2025 • 31 mins
Hello, everyone! This week’s episode is one I’ve been meaning to share with you all for a while now. If you’re a regular listener of the podcast, you know I’ve been doing a lot of inner work – which includes healing my inner child. Press the play button to find out what that means and how it’s changed my life. I hope this episode inspires you to be more childlike.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Happy Monday everyone.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Thank you for joining me on this week's episode of
Cheeky's and Chill Podcast. This season, we've talked a lot
about personal growth and health and healing, and today I
really want to continue talking about those names. I wanted
to hop on the mic today to talk to you
guys about healing your inner child. This is something I've
been working through in therapy and it's honestly been life
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changing for me. And since I know that therapy isn't
always accessible to everyone, I wanted to hop on the
mic and share how I've been healing my inner child
and how it's helped me. So let's hop right into
this episode. So I've been on this healing my inner
child without really even realizing it since last year when
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I went to my psychedelics retreat in Las Jo da Mexico,
and I I did ninho santos, which are magical mushrooms,
and I saw myself as a little Asian girl. I
don't know for me, I saw China, and I think
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maybe because I've been to China, but I saw China
and I saw myself as a little Asian girl, and
I saw my dad in my visions and it's really
hard to explain because it's been so long. I'm like trying,
like if I really meditate and do my breath work,
I can get myself to that place. But I remember
specifically like feeling this incredible joy in my soul of
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like I have never felt this happy. And I was
a little girl. I was giggling, I was crying. I
felt my body healing. I saw my dad and I
understood everything that happened with him, and I not that
I'm excusing it, but I understood and I had compassion
for him, and I just saw myself as a little girl,
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like I felt like God was giving me the opportunity
in this experience to just feel what joy felt. And
I didn't see God. I felt God for me. God
has always been like a mel but now I'm starting
to like move into like God can be female. But anyway,
the point is in that moment, he was a total guy.
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So he was speaking to me and telling me, you
have been through so much and I am pouring your
heart in this moment with so much love. I want
you to be a kid. I want you to enjoy
and to feel what you should have felt when you
were little. But your innocence was taken from you. I'm
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allowing you to see and to feel this compassion for
your dad because that's going to allow you to fully
forgive him. And mind you these things that I'm telling you.
It wasn't a voice. It was my deepest intuition of
like I was connected to my highest self. I was
in bliss and I was in I think, the highest
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enlightenment of my life, so much so that I knew far, far,
far up because I felt like I was a little girl,
like in heaven. It just felt like heaven. I was like,
this is what heaven feels like. And that voice, that
feeling that I felt, was like, yes, this is what
you have to look forward to when you go because
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you have been through so much and if you obey
and if you continue to be a good person, this
is what you're going to feel. And it was crazy
because I was like, I want to stay here forever,
like I want to feel this happiness forever because I
didn't feel this for so long. But then in my
mind I was like, but wait, Emilio, like I don't
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want I feel bad I'm going to leave him. So
it was the craziest feeling I know it might sound crazy.
Only if you've experienced this, will you know that I'm
not crazy. But it's something I can't even like really
really explain. I'm trying my best to kind of like
set a little visual for you, a little you know,
so you can visualize what it is that I'm talking about.
But anyway, it started then and right after my retreat,
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I didn't really give myself time to integrate because I
had to work.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I had to do what I had to do.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
I think it's very important at least to give yourself
a week after something like that to just integrate, to
like come back to your body and you know, like
understand that you weren't crazy, that.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
That really happened.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
And I didn't really have that luxury because I had
to work, thank goodness. Twenty twenty four was a very
very successful year for me, thank God, but it took
everything out of me, especially after that experience, and I
was just trying to like live in my spirituality and
also in my physical body, and it was something very
difficult for me to understand. So it started then and
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I saw my dad and all that stuff happened where
I just forgave him and he asked me for forgiveness,
and I think that's because I went to the retreat
after Anyway, I'm not going to get into all that,
because the point is that that's when it started, when
I started to understand the importance of healing your inner
child and tapping into your inner child. We all have one,
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because we have all been children before we started off
as children. That's how we came into the world. And
now more than ever, I get it because I had
Moriy Fontanez on the podcast and she's now my life coach,
and I got her book even before I knew she
was even going to come onto the podcast, and I
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started reading her book, and she talks a lot about
your inner child and how we forget, and not only
do we forget, but sometimes actually a lot of the times,
our parents have a lot to do with it because
they're stressed and we could be in the backyard and
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we're pretending to be an airplane and we're just flying
around and being silly and just really just being ourselves
and being free and like you know, like not having
any boundaries, and then you bump into your mom because
your eyes are close right, and your mom's like stopping silly,
just sit down. So then our little selves just we
sit down and we're like, okay, just not going to
play anymore. I'm not going to use my imaginary friends.
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I don't know if you guys ever had an imaginary friend.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
I shared it.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I would talk to my dolls all the time, and
that was when I was younger. I remember doing that
when I was like six or seven. Mind you, when
I turned eight years old was when I first remember
my dad's sectually abusing me, and that I think was
a huge part of me forgetting about my inner child
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because my innocence was taken from me. My mom was
a single mother. I was the eldest. I had to
help her. I just had to grow up really fast,
and I was just programmed to forget about my inner child,
and I stopped playing and talking to my dolls. I
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had to put them to the side because there were
more important things that needed to be done, taking care
of my siblings, cleaning the house, helping my siblings with
their homework, and I was always left at the very
end of the day, and academically I wasn't the best
because I had so many responsibilities. For a long time,
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especially after my mom passed, I was very upset. Obviously
with my dad, I was like I had forgiven him,
But I think I was more upset with my mom
because I had lived so much more time with her.
When my dad left my life, I was twelve years old,
so I didn't really have a lot besides the fact
that he sexually abused me, and obviously that hurt me,
But I didn't spend a lot of time with Dad.
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I would go with that on the weekends, and he
was just more lenient and it was just fun. He
would make us Mackey Mouse pancake and we would watch
movies and at mom it was serious business. So that's
why I feel like I didn't have that much of
a hard time with my dad or forgiving him, because
I didn't have much to compare it to, Like I
just was like all I really knew was what had happened,
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and then you know, like all this fun stuff that
we would do on the weekends because he was a
weekend dad anyway. So now I can gladly say that
my relationship with my mom is so much better. And
I have a whole episode on it talking about how
in love I am with my mother and I don't care.
I am in love with my mom. And I say
like that because one day she told me, She's like,
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I think you're in love with me, and I was like,
that's weird. So does she think I'm like because I
like I liked a girl, then like I'm like in
love with her, but like, you know, that's you know,
she didn't really. I think if my mom would be
here now, definitely she would have healed and things would
be so much better. But what I'm trying to get
to is that I learned that our parents are just
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trying to get through life as well, and having compassion
for them and not blaming them for everything, because I
would blame a lot and.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Be like it was my mom.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
My mom did this to me, and my mom made
me feel ashamed about my body because this and that,
and it's just like, yeah, I'm not saying she was right,
but she didn't know any better. And now people are
starting to wake up and we're more you know, we
talk about emotional intelligence and stuff like that in therapy.
My mom didn't really know any of those things. She
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was just I have five kids, I'm a single mother.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I gotta do what I gotta do. I gotta get
shit done.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
She was on survival mode till the very last day
of her life. So that's where I come in, and
I'm going to heal our lineage. And I really really
really feel that, I really feel like I am meant
to heal us, and as I'm healing myself, I'm also
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going to heal my future children and my future child,
my mother, her legacy. And that's why I wanted to
talk about this because I was one of those people
that I was just like, I'm just going to blame
my parents for everything. And although yes they played a
huge part, if not the biggest role in us forgetting
our inner child and how to tap into our inner child,
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we have to have understanding and compassion for them and
understand especially every situation is different. I didn't have the
luxury of having a mother that was present because she
had a work, because our dads weren't financially responsible. So
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now going back to Mori Fontinez's book, I read that
and then I was like, I want this woman to
be my life coach. So I took a few sessions
with her, and she actually emailed me the other day
said we need another session, And basically what you do
is it was all on zoom. I haven't had the
opportunity to have a session in person, but what this
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woman does is incredible. It is It inspired me so
much to really tap into my not only my inner child,
but really trust my intuition. And we talk a lot
about intuition here, because I call it the voice of God.
That's God speaking to me. God lives in me as me.
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That's my intuition. That feeling that you're like, Okay, this
isn't right, but we ignore it and then we're later
like damn, I wish I would have listened to that.
That's our intuition. When we practice meditation and prayer and
we take time in the morning to just really tap
into our higher self, our intuition is louder and louder.
It gets louder and louder. Now everything is making sense.
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That's all I can tell you, guys, is like, now
everything is making sense. And the more you get into
this journey of healing, of really wanting to understand what
life is about, You're gonna know what I'm talking about.
So when I took my first session with her, I
don't remember exactly what I was going through. I want
to say I had to do something with my relationship.
And oh, actually I had to do with abandonment because
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I was afraid to tell Amdial something that I wanted
to do and I didn't want to cause him anxiety
because I was going to go somewhere by myself. And
I was like, I don't even know how to bring
it up. It's not anything bad, it's just like, why
do I feel afraid to tell him? And so she's like, okay,
let's go back. Where did this start? And so she
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took me back. We did breath work, and she made
me close my eyes, and she made me tap into
my inner child, and we went to this place me
as an adult and met my inner child, and we
discovered where this whole thing happened. Not only am I
afraid to speak up, but I'm afraid of abandonment, or
was afraid of abandonment because girl, a bitch is healing. Okay,
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So anyway, she took me there. Dude, it was a
journey like and I'm talking about I was really there
because I was like, I'm going to do this, like
I really believe this.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
I believe in her. I believe in her work. And
that's what it takes. You need a believe.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
If you don't believe in, you're like, this is a
bunch of bs, it's not going to happen, Like it's
just not You're not going to be able to tap in.
So I completely leaned in. I surrendered. I did exactly
what she told me. I saw myself as a little
girl under a tree, sitting there playing with the little doll,
and here comes big Jane, and I said, like, ky,
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can I sit down with you? And I sat down
with little Janney and we just started talking and we
talked about all kinds of things, and we talked to
That's where it came up where I was afraid to
speak my mind because of what was happening to me
as a child. And I was afraid of ruining everything
around me because if I told mom that I was
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being sexually abused, Dad was going to go to jail
or dead because my mom probably would have killed them.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Then Mom's gone.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
And I thought about all these things in my little
eight year old mind. So I stayed quiet for years.
I didn't even talk about it or say anything. I
wasn't the first one to bring it up. Someone else
had to say it for me in order for me to.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
Tell my truth.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Imagine thinking all of these things at that age, thinking
about my siblings, about our household. It was just so much.
So I learned to internalize my pain. I internalized it
so much because I was afraid of abandonment. I was
afraid of everyone leaving me. So that's where it all
came from. And that's where we started to heal that,
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and I started to understand my inner child. Like I'm like,
oh my goodness, it all comes back to our inner child.
Anything you're feeling, insecurities, anything, literally anything, you just have
to like She's taught me to put my hand over
my heart and talk to that little girl and say,
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what is it that you need right now? What do
you want to do? Do you want to just lay
down today? Do you want to have cake? Do you
want to watch a movie? A Disney movie? Do you
want to go to Disneyland? And you ask yourself, like
what is it that you're feeling? And you just really
tap in with yourself and be like where is this
feeling coming from? And if you really dig deep, you
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will get an answer. And it's so crazy, guys, because
I've always heard about inner child, inner child, but it's
like we can all tap into our inner child. And
not only is it important to tap into our inner
child to understand why and how we became this human,
this adult, and why we act certain ways, but also.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
It is so.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
Imperative, guys, in order to function in this world, to
do things that bring joy, that child joy, we have
to like, that's the only way I think to survive,
especially now in this world, at least for me. Like
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now I'm like, oh no, I need to make time
for myself in a different way because I talk about
self love and self care.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Now.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
It's like my inner child is top priority, and Emilio
is really he's he wakes up happy and joyful and
everything all the time, and I usually wake up like
should I have so much to do? And I'm like,
I'm so rigid sometimes because I love feeling accomplished. I
love checking things off. I thrive off of that Big Jane,
older Jila Jane, adult Jane loves checking shit off.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
Of her to do list. It just I thrive.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
And that's where it was causing a little bit of
an imbalance between a million and I because he's just, hey,
you know, he's into Pokemon and he likes video games,
and he really taps into his inner child, and I'm
not gonna lie. That kind of annoyed me before. Now
I'm like, hell, yeah, dude, do you got to do?
Buy all the Pokemon stuff I bought him, even Pokemon crocs. Like,
I'm like, that's freaking amazing.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
And you know what I did.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I bought myself a cabbage Patch doll. Actually I didn't
buy myself, and Medio bought it for me because I
was like, what made me happy? I sat down, I
was like, what made me happy when I was little?
It was like I used to talk to my dolls,
to my cabbage Patch dolls, and I said, bab, can
you find me one? Because he's been on eBay a lot,
you know, buying a bunch of Pokemon stuff. And I
was like, I really want a cabbage Patch doll. And
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he bought me one. And it's from my here nineteen
eighty five, I know, I know, nineteen eighty five and
he bought it for me and I just got it.
I just got it a few days ago, and it
made me really happy and I just look at it.
I don't even I haven't even taken it out of
the box because he's like, don't take it out of
the box, like maybe we can keep it for our
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baby girl.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
But I look at it.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Just by looking at it, I smile and I'm like, oh,
I'm healing my inner child. Like I have to remember
those things that make me happy because because the world
gets heavy. Guys, the world is a lot of stuff
that we can't control. And I'm an EmPATH and sometimes
I'm like, damn, I wish I didn't care, but I
do care, and you know what, I need to just
appreciate that, because there are people that don't give a
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crap about anyone else but themselves.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
That is not me.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Today I woke up with like a heavy heart because
just reading so many things that are happening in the
world that I'm like, how can I help? And I
wish that I was able to help more. And I
see billionaires and I love that. Billie Eilish just said
this in one of her speeches where she's like, hey, like,
there's billionaires in this room. I really hope that you
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guys share some of your money to help the world,
because she was donating eleven million dollars, which is a
crazy amount of money, but she's like, I'm not a billionaire.
But you guys are so you guys should share your billions.
Like that would be me if I was a billionaire
at y'all.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
Like you have no idea.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Maybe God will make me a billionaire going to help
the world, but anyway.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
I will go with the heavy heart.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
So I was like, oh, like I'm feeling some type
of way. And then guess who calls me my amazing
husband and he's like, Babe, let's put on costumes.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
I'm gonna go buy some costumes.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
And let's just go like let's go freaking like go
out and be silly. And I was like, you're freaking right, Yes,
that's why he's the perfect person for me, Like he
is just I could cry because I'm like, he reminds
me of like not forgetting because he loves Disney. He
loves anything that has to do with like us just
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being kids. And I think that's why I like he
came into my life so that I don't forget that
and to tap into my inner child more.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
And I was so hard on.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Myself because I'm like, why is it so hard? But
because I was I was taught to be a grown
up since I was little, I had no other choice,
like I had to do and get things done. And
not until now at forty years old, am I really
realizing I can go to Disney if I want to
freaking wear ears, because I will, like I'll wear little
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ears at the airport and like a little fuzzy backpack
like and I like people might be like she's crazy.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
I'm like, no.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
Now I see people that dress like that and are older,
have their hair dyed and they have rainbow socks on.
I'm like, that's freaking awesome. Like be yourself. Everyone wants
everything just to be perfect, and I have to always
like you know, what's trendy and like that's not cool,
and like I don't even I don't give up.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
I don't give a shit.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Like I'm like, I am gonna wear my Disney stuff
even if I'm not going to Disney, like I am
gonna watch a movie that's gonna make me laugh, and
all those movies that I would watch when I was little.
I would watch Pocahontas at Dad's house and Ariel like
it was always Disney at my dad's house. If I
love Disney, I think it's because of my dad, because
he was I'm telling you he would make us Mickey
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Mouse pancakes and put little chocolate chips in them. And
that's why it was so hard to be mad at him,
because I was like, you did this and.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
That's not cool.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
But like then he would turn around and like we
would have so much fun, Like he would take us
to the moon, guys. I remember we would listen to
music and cross a bridge in Long Beach and he's like,
all right, guys, we're going We're going to the moon.
Sing and the more you sing, we're going to get there.
And I was like, I really thought I was going
to the moon. And I remembered all of these things
and I'm like, oh my gosh, like he took my innocence.
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But also I was a child with him, Like I
was like I was able to be a child because
at mom's house, I had I had to do things,
I had a lot of responsibilities. So it was just
so confusing. It was such a mind f But now
doing my work with Maury and really understanding my inner child,
like now I get it. And I think that's why
when I did the psychedelics, he was so present because
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I didn't see my mom other than like butterflies, but
I didn't feel her, I felt my dad's presence a lot,
and I was like, really understand a lot of things.
And I think it's because he helped me tap in
or stay as a child. And it sounds weird because again,
at night, it was a different story. So anyway, all
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this to say that it is absolutely imperative.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Guys.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Doesn't matter how old you are, it doesn't matter how
silly it is. If people are going to laugh at you,
if you are happy, if it makes you happy to
buy Pokemon cards and unpack them or open them, unpackage
them or you know, a medio's all into that right now.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
I look at him and I'm like, oh, he's so
happy and that's freaking awesome. And it used to irritate
me because I'm like, babe, like why are you playing
video games with? Then I'm like, who cares, dude, if
you want to play a video game for an hour? Cool,
Like he still gets shit done. Now I'm like, I
want a video game. I want a cabbage patch doll.
Like I am like going back to all the things
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that made me happy. So I just want to inspire you,
guys and encourage you to think of those things that
you weren't able to do after a while, or you
never were able to do or experience as a child,
or things you forgot because we become adults and all
we gotta do is just the bills, and you got
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to pay the bills, and you got to go to work,
and there's just so much to do, Like you need
to find time. That's part of self care for sure,
is going to Disney if you're able to, or just
watching a movie that reminds you of your childhood, Like
I used to watch Matilda. I loved Matilda. What is
the other one I used to dress up as for Halloween?
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Pippylong Stocking. I love that cartoon. I love Popeye, all
those things that I'm like, oh my gosh, I forgot
about all that, And it's so important, guys. And also
tapping into your inner child and listening to her, listening
to him, and ask that little person inside of you
that's still there, what's going on?
Speaker 1 (24:04):
What do you need?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
What are you missing? What would make you happy today?
It is so powerful, guys. Just try it. Like I
always hug little Janee ever since my psychedelic retreat, I
will literally go like this, I will hug myself around
my shoulders, and I just like, it's okay, Jane, You're
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gonna be fine. And I cry. I let myself cry
before I was like, no, I'm a bad ass. Bite like,
I don't need to cry.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I'm strong.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I got this. That is so bad. That is the
hustle mentality. Guys, that just takes us further and further
and further from our inner child. It is okay for
men to cry. It is beautiful that men cry.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Cry.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Ladies, let it out like a baby. Hug yourself, yell
outside if you want to run around. Guys, we forget
to move our body.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
Now.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Dancing is part of my meditating and prayer time. I
will just put on a song that I feel like
makes me feel good or sexy, and I'm just I
start moving my hips, I start moving my body, and
I'm like, I need to move this energy inside of me.
It's stagnant, like no, like move it around like that's playing.
That's playing around, that's having fun. I'll go and barefoot outside.
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I've been spending so much time in my backyard, stepping
on the grass, touching the grass, sitting on the grass,
filling the sun, taking those moments when I'm feeling overwhelmed,
to just go outside and do that. That is me
healing my inner child. That is like what my inner
child wants to do. My inner child does not want
to pay the bills, the property taxes, doesn't want like no,
I'm like, what is gonna make me happy right now?
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I'm gonna go sit my ass outside for five minutes
and let the sun hit me and touch the grass
and remember that everything's gonna be okay.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Everything's gonna be okay.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
And that's child like thinking. When you're a child, you're
not thinking about bills, you're not thinking about what's gonna
go wrong. You get on that roller coaster because you're
like it's fun and I don't care, and you're not scared,
and you're just heck, yeah, everything's great. Then you get
older and we think, damn, I'm not going to get
on this roller coaster because it's not good for my
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brain because I read this book and it probably isn't.
I'm sure it isn't, but I'm like, I'm not going
to stop myself. I'm not going to get on every
roller coaster next time I go to six Lags, but
I'm going to get on a roller coaster because you
know what, I want to be happy right now.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
Because right now is the only thing that matters.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
And I'm going to get on that damn roller coaster
because when I was younger, I love them, But now
that i'm adult, I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm scared
that I'm going to get some like. We can't think
that way, guys, Like we have to really just live
in the present. And that's what children do. They live
in the moment and that's all they know. So we
have to remember that because it's life changing. And I'm
telling you firsthand, it is life changing. And it's so
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beautiful to be able to learn all of these things
and share them with you, guys, because I love to learn,
and I think at a point, my, oh, I think
I know everything. I think I got this, you know,
finally I learned almost everything. No, well, there's so much
more the world, not even the world. No, it's not
even the world, it's the universe is so infinite. There
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is so much for us to expand mentally, emotionally. It's
so beautiful, guys. I'm going to share it all with you,
everything that I'm learning and this journey I'm on I'm
going to share it with you guys, because how can
I not. And I hope that this episode made sense.
And I know I kind of jumped everywhere like I
always do, but I am just on the fly. I'm
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not looking at my notes, and I just wanted to
talk from my heart because I'm telling you it is
life changing. Please take the time, take the time, make
the time to take care of that inner child. Even
if you're eighty years old, or when we're eighty years
old and you're fifty five and you think certain things
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are silly, go back to some of the happiest moments
of your life and do them and not worry about
what people are going to say, because it's something you're
doing for yourself. I remember matching socks with like my
sixteen year old little boyfriend, and when I first met Amilio,
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he used to think that was silly. I was like,
let's match and he's like, uh, He's like, that's kind
of silly. I don't know if that's like really my thing.
I'm like, okay, now we're matching. Now we're gonna go
wear costumes apparently tonight and like go walk around. I'm
so excited for it. I found my person. I found
this person that reminds me, and I guess it's no
coincidence that he's seven years younger than me, because it's
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working out, and that doesn't even bother me anymore. I'm like,
who cares, dude, Let's go be kids, Let's go play
in the sand, Let's just jump off of a freaking
cliff into the water, like I want to do all
those things. I want to just live my life as
if it was the last day, because that's what kids do.
Kids don't know and don't worry about tomorrow. They don't
even worry about what happened yesterday. They're like, all right, cool,
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and we have to take care of that in our children, guys.
That's an other part before I let you guys go.
If you have little children, please let them use their imaginations,
let them play, let them explore like things and ideas.
And if they have an imaginary friend, put the damn
chair at the kitchen table at dinner and sit the
imaginary friend. Please don't stifle their imagination. Tap into it,
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play with them, run around with them. Take the time
that is actually going to help your inner child is
when you tap in with them and take the time
to really get into what they're into. It's going to
be life changing for your children and for when they
become adults to know that they have that with their parents.
So I don't have any kids, but when I do,
because it's going to happen, God is good, I'm going
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to do that and I think it's going to help
me so much. I'm going to continue to heal my
inner child when I have a baby. So I am excited.
So yeah, that's all I wanted to tell you.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Guys.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
I know there was a lot said here, so I
think you're going to have to press rewind on this one.
Come back to all the episodes. There's a lot of
like Easter eggs and little nuggets that you can write
down and share this this episode with someone that you
think will need it and it'll help them because we
can all benefit from tapping into our inner child and
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not letting the world and the pressures of the world
and the opinions of others keep us from being our
true selves, our truest essence. It lies in our inner child,
so don't forget that. Thank you again, Thank you guys
for listening. This felt like a little therapy session. For me,
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I feel like when I'm just talking to you guys,
I'm able to just be myself and talk about anything
and everything.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
And I'm grateful that you.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Guys allow this space because if you guys don't listen,
then I don't have a job. So thank you for listening,
Thank you for tuning in.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Every week.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
I will catch you on the next episode of Cheekys
and Chill. I love you, and remember you have the power.
You are the medicine and we'll talk about that one day.
You are the medicine. That's another episode. Anyway, have a
beautiful day. Bye. This is a production of iHeartRadio and
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Happy Monday everyone.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Thank you for joining me on this week's episode of
Cheeky's and Chill Podcast. This season, we've talked a lot
about personal growth and health and healing, and today I
really want to continue talking about those names. I wanted
to hop on the mic today to talk to you
guys about healing your inner child. This is something I've
been working through in therapy and it's honestly been life
(00:30):
changing for me. And since I know that therapy isn't
always accessible to everyone, I wanted to hop on the
mic and share how I've been healing my inner child
and how it's helped me. So let's hop right into
this episode. So I've been on this healing my inner
child without really even realizing it since last year when
(00:53):
I went to my psychedelics retreat in Las Jo da Mexico,
and I I did ninho santos, which are magical mushrooms,
and I saw myself as a little Asian girl. I
don't know for me, I saw China, and I think
(01:16):
maybe because I've been to China, but I saw China
and I saw myself as a little Asian girl, and
I saw my dad in my visions and it's really
hard to explain because it's been so long. I'm like trying,
like if I really meditate and do my breath work,
I can get myself to that place. But I remember
specifically like feeling this incredible joy in my soul of
(01:40):
like I have never felt this happy. And I was
a little girl. I was giggling, I was crying. I
felt my body healing. I saw my dad and I
understood everything that happened with him, and I not that
I'm excusing it, but I understood and I had compassion
for him, and I just saw myself as a little girl,
(02:02):
like I felt like God was giving me the opportunity
in this experience to just feel what joy felt. And
I didn't see God. I felt God for me. God
has always been like a mel but now I'm starting
to like move into like God can be female. But anyway,
the point is in that moment, he was a total guy.
(02:26):
So he was speaking to me and telling me, you
have been through so much and I am pouring your
heart in this moment with so much love. I want
you to be a kid. I want you to enjoy
and to feel what you should have felt when you
were little. But your innocence was taken from you. I'm
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allowing you to see and to feel this compassion for
your dad because that's going to allow you to fully
forgive him. And mind you these things that I'm telling you.
It wasn't a voice. It was my deepest intuition of
like I was connected to my highest self. I was
in bliss and I was in I think, the highest
(03:11):
enlightenment of my life, so much so that I knew far, far,
far up because I felt like I was a little girl,
like in heaven. It just felt like heaven. I was like,
this is what heaven feels like. And that voice, that
feeling that I felt, was like, yes, this is what
you have to look forward to when you go because
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you have been through so much and if you obey
and if you continue to be a good person, this
is what you're going to feel. And it was crazy
because I was like, I want to stay here forever,
like I want to feel this happiness forever because I
didn't feel this for so long. But then in my
mind I was like, but wait, Emilio, like I don't
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want I feel bad I'm going to leave him. So
it was the craziest feeling I know it might sound crazy.
Only if you've experienced this, will you know that I'm
not crazy. But it's something I can't even like really
really explain. I'm trying my best to kind of like
set a little visual for you, a little you know,
so you can visualize what it is that I'm talking about.
But anyway, it started then and right after my retreat,
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I didn't really give myself time to integrate because I
had to work.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I had to do what I had to do.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
I think it's very important at least to give yourself
a week after something like that to just integrate, to
like come back to your body and you know, like
understand that you weren't crazy, that.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
That really happened.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
And I didn't really have that luxury because I had
to work, thank goodness. Twenty twenty four was a very
very successful year for me, thank God, but it took
everything out of me, especially after that experience, and I
was just trying to like live in my spirituality and
also in my physical body, and it was something very
difficult for me to understand. So it started then and
(04:59):
I saw my dad and all that stuff happened where
I just forgave him and he asked me for forgiveness,
and I think that's because I went to the retreat
after Anyway, I'm not going to get into all that,
because the point is that that's when it started, when
I started to understand the importance of healing your inner
child and tapping into your inner child. We all have one,
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because we have all been children before we started off
as children. That's how we came into the world. And
now more than ever, I get it because I had
Moriy Fontanez on the podcast and she's now my life coach,
and I got her book even before I knew she
was even going to come onto the podcast, and I
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started reading her book, and she talks a lot about
your inner child and how we forget, and not only
do we forget, but sometimes actually a lot of the times,
our parents have a lot to do with it because
they're stressed and we could be in the backyard and
(06:02):
we're pretending to be an airplane and we're just flying
around and being silly and just really just being ourselves
and being free and like you know, like not having
any boundaries, and then you bump into your mom because
your eyes are close right, and your mom's like stopping silly,
just sit down. So then our little selves just we
sit down and we're like, okay, just not going to
play anymore. I'm not going to use my imaginary friends.
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I don't know if you guys ever had an imaginary friend.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
I shared it.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I would talk to my dolls all the time, and
that was when I was younger. I remember doing that
when I was like six or seven. Mind you, when
I turned eight years old was when I first remember
my dad's sectually abusing me, and that I think was
a huge part of me forgetting about my inner child
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because my innocence was taken from me. My mom was
a single mother. I was the eldest. I had to
help her. I just had to grow up really fast,
and I was just programmed to forget about my inner child,
and I stopped playing and talking to my dolls. I
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had to put them to the side because there were
more important things that needed to be done, taking care
of my siblings, cleaning the house, helping my siblings with
their homework, and I was always left at the very
end of the day, and academically I wasn't the best
because I had so many responsibilities. For a long time,
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especially after my mom passed, I was very upset. Obviously
with my dad, I was like I had forgiven him,
But I think I was more upset with my mom
because I had lived so much more time with her.
When my dad left my life, I was twelve years old,
so I didn't really have a lot besides the fact
that he sexually abused me, and obviously that hurt me,
But I didn't spend a lot of time with Dad.
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I would go with that on the weekends, and he
was just more lenient and it was just fun. He
would make us Mackey Mouse pancake and we would watch
movies and at mom it was serious business. So that's
why I feel like I didn't have that much of
a hard time with my dad or forgiving him, because
I didn't have much to compare it to, Like I
just was like all I really knew was what had happened,
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and then you know, like all this fun stuff that
we would do on the weekends because he was a
weekend dad anyway. So now I can gladly say that
my relationship with my mom is so much better. And
I have a whole episode on it talking about how
in love I am with my mother and I don't care.
I am in love with my mom. And I say
like that because one day she told me, She's like,
(08:34):
I think you're in love with me, and I was like,
that's weird. So does she think I'm like because I
like I liked a girl, then like I'm like in
love with her, but like, you know, that's you know,
she didn't really. I think if my mom would be
here now, definitely she would have healed and things would
be so much better. But what I'm trying to get
to is that I learned that our parents are just
(08:58):
trying to get through life as well, and having compassion
for them and not blaming them for everything, because I
would blame a lot and.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Be like it was my mom.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
My mom did this to me, and my mom made
me feel ashamed about my body because this and that,
and it's just like, yeah, I'm not saying she was right,
but she didn't know any better. And now people are
starting to wake up and we're more you know, we
talk about emotional intelligence and stuff like that in therapy.
My mom didn't really know any of those things. She
(09:31):
was just I have five kids, I'm a single mother.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I gotta do what I gotta do. I gotta get
shit done.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
She was on survival mode till the very last day
of her life. So that's where I come in, and
I'm going to heal our lineage. And I really really
really feel that, I really feel like I am meant
to heal us, and as I'm healing myself, I'm also
(09:57):
going to heal my future children and my future child,
my mother, her legacy. And that's why I wanted to
talk about this because I was one of those people
that I was just like, I'm just going to blame
my parents for everything. And although yes they played a
huge part, if not the biggest role in us forgetting
our inner child and how to tap into our inner child,
(10:18):
we have to have understanding and compassion for them and
understand especially every situation is different. I didn't have the
luxury of having a mother that was present because she
had a work, because our dads weren't financially responsible. So
(10:41):
now going back to Mori Fontinez's book, I read that
and then I was like, I want this woman to
be my life coach. So I took a few sessions
with her, and she actually emailed me the other day
said we need another session, And basically what you do
is it was all on zoom. I haven't had the
opportunity to have a session in person, but what this
(11:03):
woman does is incredible. It is It inspired me so
much to really tap into my not only my inner child,
but really trust my intuition. And we talk a lot
about intuition here, because I call it the voice of God.
That's God speaking to me. God lives in me as me.
(11:26):
That's my intuition. That feeling that you're like, Okay, this
isn't right, but we ignore it and then we're later
like damn, I wish I would have listened to that.
That's our intuition. When we practice meditation and prayer and
we take time in the morning to just really tap
into our higher self, our intuition is louder and louder.
It gets louder and louder. Now everything is making sense.
(11:48):
That's all I can tell you, guys, is like, now
everything is making sense. And the more you get into
this journey of healing, of really wanting to understand what
life is about, You're gonna know what I'm talking about.
So when I took my first session with her, I
don't remember exactly what I was going through. I want
to say I had to do something with my relationship.
And oh, actually I had to do with abandonment because
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I was afraid to tell Amdial something that I wanted
to do and I didn't want to cause him anxiety
because I was going to go somewhere by myself. And
I was like, I don't even know how to bring
it up. It's not anything bad, it's just like, why
do I feel afraid to tell him? And so she's like, okay,
let's go back. Where did this start? And so she
(12:36):
took me back. We did breath work, and she made
me close my eyes, and she made me tap into
my inner child, and we went to this place me
as an adult and met my inner child, and we
discovered where this whole thing happened. Not only am I
afraid to speak up, but I'm afraid of abandonment, or
was afraid of abandonment because girl, a bitch is healing. Okay,
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So anyway, she took me there. Dude, it was a
journey like and I'm talking about I was really there
because I was like, I'm going to do this, like
I really believe this.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
I believe in her. I believe in her work. And
that's what it takes. You need a believe.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
If you don't believe in, you're like, this is a
bunch of bs, it's not going to happen, Like it's
just not You're not going to be able to tap in.
So I completely leaned in. I surrendered. I did exactly
what she told me. I saw myself as a little
girl under a tree, sitting there playing with the little doll,
and here comes big Jane, and I said, like, ky,
(13:38):
can I sit down with you? And I sat down
with little Janney and we just started talking and we
talked about all kinds of things, and we talked to
That's where it came up where I was afraid to
speak my mind because of what was happening to me
as a child. And I was afraid of ruining everything
around me because if I told mom that I was
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being sexually abused, Dad was going to go to jail
or dead because my mom probably would have killed them.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Then Mom's gone.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
And I thought about all these things in my little
eight year old mind. So I stayed quiet for years.
I didn't even talk about it or say anything. I
wasn't the first one to bring it up. Someone else
had to say it for me in order for me to.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
Tell my truth.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Imagine thinking all of these things at that age, thinking
about my siblings, about our household. It was just so much.
So I learned to internalize my pain. I internalized it
so much because I was afraid of abandonment. I was
afraid of everyone leaving me. So that's where it all
came from. And that's where we started to heal that,
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and I started to understand my inner child. Like I'm like,
oh my goodness, it all comes back to our inner child.
Anything you're feeling, insecurities, anything, literally anything, you just have
to like She's taught me to put my hand over
my heart and talk to that little girl and say,
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what is it that you need right now? What do
you want to do? Do you want to just lay
down today? Do you want to have cake? Do you
want to watch a movie? A Disney movie? Do you
want to go to Disneyland? And you ask yourself, like
what is it that you're feeling? And you just really
tap in with yourself and be like where is this
feeling coming from? And if you really dig deep, you
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will get an answer. And it's so crazy, guys, because
I've always heard about inner child, inner child, but it's
like we can all tap into our inner child. And
not only is it important to tap into our inner
child to understand why and how we became this human,
this adult, and why we act certain ways, but also.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
It is so.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
Imperative, guys, in order to function in this world, to
do things that bring joy, that child joy, we have
to like, that's the only way I think to survive,
especially now in this world, at least for me. Like
(16:11):
now I'm like, oh no, I need to make time
for myself in a different way because I talk about
self love and self care.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Now.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
It's like my inner child is top priority, and Emilio
is really he's he wakes up happy and joyful and
everything all the time, and I usually wake up like
should I have so much to do? And I'm like,
I'm so rigid sometimes because I love feeling accomplished. I
love checking things off. I thrive off of that Big Jane,
older Jila Jane, adult Jane loves checking shit off.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
Of her to do list. It just I thrive.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
And that's where it was causing a little bit of
an imbalance between a million and I because he's just, hey,
you know, he's into Pokemon and he likes video games,
and he really taps into his inner child, and I'm
not gonna lie. That kind of annoyed me before. Now
I'm like, hell, yeah, dude, do you got to do?
Buy all the Pokemon stuff I bought him, even Pokemon crocs. Like,
I'm like, that's freaking amazing.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
And you know what I did.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I bought myself a cabbage Patch doll. Actually I didn't
buy myself, and Medio bought it for me because I
was like, what made me happy? I sat down, I
was like, what made me happy when I was little?
It was like I used to talk to my dolls,
to my cabbage Patch dolls, and I said, bab, can
you find me one? Because he's been on eBay a lot,
you know, buying a bunch of Pokemon stuff. And I
was like, I really want a cabbage Patch doll. And
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he bought me one. And it's from my here nineteen
eighty five, I know, I know, nineteen eighty five and
he bought it for me and I just got it.
I just got it a few days ago, and it
made me really happy and I just look at it.
I don't even I haven't even taken it out of
the box because he's like, don't take it out of
the box, like maybe we can keep it for our
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baby girl.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
But I look at it.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Just by looking at it, I smile and I'm like, oh,
I'm healing my inner child. Like I have to remember
those things that make me happy because because the world
gets heavy. Guys, the world is a lot of stuff
that we can't control. And I'm an EmPATH and sometimes
I'm like, damn, I wish I didn't care, but I
do care, and you know what, I need to just
appreciate that, because there are people that don't give a
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crap about anyone else but themselves.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
That is not me.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Today I woke up with like a heavy heart because
just reading so many things that are happening in the
world that I'm like, how can I help? And I
wish that I was able to help more. And I
see billionaires and I love that. Billie Eilish just said
this in one of her speeches where she's like, hey, like,
there's billionaires in this room. I really hope that you
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guys share some of your money to help the world,
because she was donating eleven million dollars, which is a
crazy amount of money, but she's like, I'm not a billionaire.
But you guys are so you guys should share your billions.
Like that would be me if I was a billionaire
at y'all.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
Like you have no idea.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Maybe God will make me a billionaire going to help
the world, but anyway.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
I will go with the heavy heart.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
So I was like, oh, like I'm feeling some type
of way. And then guess who calls me my amazing
husband and he's like, Babe, let's put on costumes.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
I'm gonna go buy some costumes.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
And let's just go like let's go freaking like go
out and be silly. And I was like, you're freaking right, Yes,
that's why he's the perfect person for me, Like he
is just I could cry because I'm like, he reminds
me of like not forgetting because he loves Disney. He
loves anything that has to do with like us just
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being kids. And I think that's why I like he
came into my life so that I don't forget that
and to tap into my inner child more.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
And I was so hard on.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Myself because I'm like, why is it so hard? But
because I was I was taught to be a grown
up since I was little, I had no other choice,
like I had to do and get things done. And
not until now at forty years old, am I really
realizing I can go to Disney if I want to
freaking wear ears, because I will, like I'll wear little
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ears at the airport and like a little fuzzy backpack
like and I like people might be like she's crazy.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
I'm like, no.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
Now I see people that dress like that and are older,
have their hair dyed and they have rainbow socks on.
I'm like, that's freaking awesome. Like be yourself. Everyone wants
everything just to be perfect, and I have to always
like you know, what's trendy and like that's not cool,
and like I don't even I don't give up.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
I don't give a shit.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Like I'm like, I am gonna wear my Disney stuff
even if I'm not going to Disney, like I am
gonna watch a movie that's gonna make me laugh, and
all those movies that I would watch when I was little.
I would watch Pocahontas at Dad's house and Ariel like
it was always Disney at my dad's house. If I
love Disney, I think it's because of my dad, because
he was I'm telling you he would make us Mickey
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Mouse pancakes and put little chocolate chips in them. And
that's why it was so hard to be mad at him,
because I was like, you did this and.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
That's not cool.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
But like then he would turn around and like we
would have so much fun, Like he would take us
to the moon, guys. I remember we would listen to
music and cross a bridge in Long Beach and he's like,
all right, guys, we're going We're going to the moon.
Sing and the more you sing, we're going to get there.
And I was like, I really thought I was going
to the moon. And I remembered all of these things
and I'm like, oh my gosh, like he took my innocence.
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But also I was a child with him, Like I
was like I was able to be a child because
at mom's house, I had I had to do things,
I had a lot of responsibilities. So it was just
so confusing. It was such a mind f But now
doing my work with Maury and really understanding my inner child,
like now I get it. And I think that's why
when I did the psychedelics, he was so present because
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I didn't see my mom other than like butterflies, but
I didn't feel her, I felt my dad's presence a lot,
and I was like, really understand a lot of things.
And I think it's because he helped me tap in
or stay as a child. And it sounds weird because again,
at night, it was a different story. So anyway, all
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this to say that it is absolutely imperative.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Guys.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Doesn't matter how old you are, it doesn't matter how
silly it is. If people are going to laugh at you,
if you are happy, if it makes you happy to
buy Pokemon cards and unpack them or open them, unpackage
them or you know, a medio's all into that right now.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
I look at him and I'm like, oh, he's so
happy and that's freaking awesome. And it used to irritate
me because I'm like, babe, like why are you playing
video games with? Then I'm like, who cares, dude, if
you want to play a video game for an hour? Cool,
Like he still gets shit done. Now I'm like, I
want a video game. I want a cabbage patch doll.
Like I am like going back to all the things
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that made me happy. So I just want to inspire you,
guys and encourage you to think of those things that
you weren't able to do after a while, or you
never were able to do or experience as a child,
or things you forgot because we become adults and all
we gotta do is just the bills, and you got
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to pay the bills, and you got to go to work,
and there's just so much to do, Like you need
to find time. That's part of self care for sure,
is going to Disney if you're able to, or just
watching a movie that reminds you of your childhood, Like
I used to watch Matilda. I loved Matilda. What is
the other one I used to dress up as for Halloween?
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Pippylong Stocking. I love that cartoon. I love Popeye, all
those things that I'm like, oh my gosh, I forgot
about all that, And it's so important, guys. And also
tapping into your inner child and listening to her, listening
to him, and ask that little person inside of you
that's still there, what's going on?
Speaker 1 (24:04):
What do you need?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
What are you missing? What would make you happy today?
It is so powerful, guys. Just try it. Like I
always hug little Janee ever since my psychedelic retreat, I
will literally go like this, I will hug myself around
my shoulders, and I just like, it's okay, Jane, You're
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gonna be fine. And I cry. I let myself cry
before I was like, no, I'm a bad ass. Bite like,
I don't need to cry.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I'm strong.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I got this. That is so bad. That is the
hustle mentality. Guys, that just takes us further and further
and further from our inner child. It is okay for
men to cry. It is beautiful that men cry.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Cry.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Ladies, let it out like a baby. Hug yourself, yell
outside if you want to run around. Guys, we forget
to move our body.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
Now.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Dancing is part of my meditating and prayer time. I
will just put on a song that I feel like
makes me feel good or sexy, and I'm just I
start moving my hips, I start moving my body, and
I'm like, I need to move this energy inside of me.
It's stagnant, like no, like move it around like that's playing.
That's playing around, that's having fun. I'll go and barefoot outside.
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I've been spending so much time in my backyard, stepping
on the grass, touching the grass, sitting on the grass,
filling the sun, taking those moments when I'm feeling overwhelmed,
to just go outside and do that. That is me
healing my inner child. That is like what my inner
child wants to do. My inner child does not want
to pay the bills, the property taxes, doesn't want like no,
I'm like, what is gonna make me happy right now?
(25:39):
I'm gonna go sit my ass outside for five minutes
and let the sun hit me and touch the grass
and remember that everything's gonna be okay.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Everything's gonna be okay.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
And that's child like thinking. When you're a child, you're
not thinking about bills, you're not thinking about what's gonna
go wrong. You get on that roller coaster because you're
like it's fun and I don't care, and you're not scared,
and you're just heck, yeah, everything's great. Then you get
older and we think, damn, I'm not going to get
on this roller coaster because it's not good for my
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brain because I read this book and it probably isn't.
I'm sure it isn't, but I'm like, I'm not going
to stop myself. I'm not going to get on every
roller coaster next time I go to six Lags, but
I'm going to get on a roller coaster because you
know what, I want to be happy right now.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
Because right now is the only thing that matters.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
And I'm going to get on that damn roller coaster
because when I was younger, I love them, But now
that i'm adult, I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm scared
that I'm going to get some like. We can't think
that way, guys, Like we have to really just live
in the present. And that's what children do. They live
in the moment and that's all they know. So we
have to remember that because it's life changing. And I'm
telling you firsthand, it is life changing. And it's so
(26:47):
beautiful to be able to learn all of these things
and share them with you, guys, because I love to learn,
and I think at a point, my, oh, I think
I know everything. I think I got this, you know,
finally I learned almost everything. No, well, there's so much
more the world, not even the world. No, it's not
even the world, it's the universe is so infinite. There
(27:09):
is so much for us to expand mentally, emotionally. It's
so beautiful, guys. I'm going to share it all with you,
everything that I'm learning and this journey I'm on I'm
going to share it with you guys, because how can
I not. And I hope that this episode made sense.
And I know I kind of jumped everywhere like I
always do, but I am just on the fly. I'm
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not looking at my notes, and I just wanted to
talk from my heart because I'm telling you it is
life changing. Please take the time, take the time, make
the time to take care of that inner child. Even
if you're eighty years old, or when we're eighty years
old and you're fifty five and you think certain things
(27:50):
are silly, go back to some of the happiest moments
of your life and do them and not worry about
what people are going to say, because it's something you're
doing for yourself. I remember matching socks with like my
sixteen year old little boyfriend, and when I first met Amilio,
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he used to think that was silly. I was like,
let's match and he's like, uh, He's like, that's kind
of silly. I don't know if that's like really my thing.
I'm like, okay, now we're matching. Now we're gonna go
wear costumes apparently tonight and like go walk around. I'm
so excited for it. I found my person. I found
this person that reminds me, and I guess it's no
coincidence that he's seven years younger than me, because it's
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working out, and that doesn't even bother me anymore. I'm like,
who cares, dude, Let's go be kids, Let's go play
in the sand, Let's just jump off of a freaking
cliff into the water, like I want to do all
those things. I want to just live my life as
if it was the last day, because that's what kids do.
Kids don't know and don't worry about tomorrow. They don't
even worry about what happened yesterday. They're like, all right, cool,
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and we have to take care of that in our children, guys.
That's an other part before I let you guys go.
If you have little children, please let them use their imaginations,
let them play, let them explore like things and ideas.
And if they have an imaginary friend, put the damn
chair at the kitchen table at dinner and sit the
imaginary friend. Please don't stifle their imagination. Tap into it,
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play with them, run around with them. Take the time
that is actually going to help your inner child is
when you tap in with them and take the time
to really get into what they're into. It's going to
be life changing for your children and for when they
become adults to know that they have that with their parents.
So I don't have any kids, but when I do,
because it's going to happen, God is good, I'm going
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to do that and I think it's going to help
me so much. I'm going to continue to heal my
inner child when I have a baby. So I am excited.
So yeah, that's all I wanted to tell you.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Guys.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
I know there was a lot said here, so I
think you're going to have to press rewind on this one.
Come back to all the episodes. There's a lot of
like Easter eggs and little nuggets that you can write
down and share this this episode with someone that you
think will need it and it'll help them because we
can all benefit from tapping into our inner child and
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not letting the world and the pressures of the world
and the opinions of others keep us from being our
true selves, our truest essence. It lies in our inner child,
so don't forget that. Thank you again, Thank you guys
for listening. This felt like a little therapy session. For me,
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I feel like when I'm just talking to you guys,
I'm able to just be myself and talk about anything
and everything.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
And I'm grateful that you.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Guys allow this space because if you guys don't listen,
then I don't have a job. So thank you for listening,
Thank you for tuning in.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Every week.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
I will catch you on the next episode of Cheekys
and Chill. I love you, and remember you have the power.
You are the medicine and we'll talk about that one day.
You are the medicine. That's another episode. Anyway, have a
beautiful day. Bye. This is a production of iHeartRadio and
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