September 8, 2025 • 30 mins
Hello, everyone! Welcome to a brand-new episode of Chiquis and Chill. This week, we’re talking all about what it means to be a good wife. I’m sharing what it means to me, what I’m currently doing in my marriage and I’ll even share some of the things I’ve stopped doing.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hello, everyone, Welcome to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill,
the podcast where you come to listen to learn, to
grow and too glow. I hope you all are having
a fabulous day and you're feeling great because you deserve it.
I I'm feeling good. I'm not feeling one hundred today.
I'm probably like at eighty. I'm not necessarily sad. I
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think I'm just pensive. I have a lot on my mind.
But I'm happy to be here and talking to you
because my podcast always does make me feel better, So
thank you for that. And talking about thinking. I was
thinking the other day how I am seriously in the
best relationship with my life. I have a great husband,
a husband that cares about me, that values me, and
I'm in the healthiest relationship I've ever been in, and
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that makes me want to be the best wife I
can possibly be for him. But what does it mean
to be a good wife. I'm sure everyone has their
own definition, but I wanted to hop on the mic
and explain to you guys what my definition of being
a good wife looks like in my situation, because I
think it is situational. So I thought this would be
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a good episode because people have asked me what I'm
doing different, So I want to share that with you, guys,
because I'm definitely doing things differently this time. So let's
get this episode started, shall we. Okay, guys, So I
wrote a few things down, but I kind of just
want to let my heart speak right now. I have
learned quite a bit in the relationships I've been in.
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I am so grateful for every relationship I've been in
because I have learned. I've learned to be a better
version of myself through the pain. And now I'm in
a relationship where my partner puts in the same amount
of effort and that has just helped me thrive as
a girlfriend as now a wife. And I had to
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unlearn a few things. I had to learn a few things,
and I had to unlearn a few things. And I
can tell you confidently that I am a good wife
because I'm very intentional. I know, I'm very busy, and
I listen to my partner. Here's one thing, guys, listen
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to your partner. Listen to understand, not to just react.
And I used to do that a lot. I would
listen to defend myself instead of listening and reading between
the lines. And now when he's telling me something, I
am listening and I'm like, Okay, I want to be
my best self for this person, for this relationship, because
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he's worth it, and because he also does and gives
the same right. Another thing that I've done differently is
I don't talk about the issues that I have in
my relationship, not with my sisters, not with my friends.
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I have found that I am talking less and less
about my issues with other people. Joyce Meyer one of
my favorite pastors pastorettes. She says, go to the throne,
not to the phone, and I feel that that has
helped me a lot in my life, especially in my relationship.
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Why why do I tell you this Because I have
done and I have made that mistake in my past
where I overshare and then I make up with my
partner because that's just what happens. And then the person
that I shared it with, being my sister, being my grandmother,
or being my friend, they have a sour taste in
their mouth of my partner, and it makes things harder
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for me. So I've learned to just pray about it
or talk to my therapist about it and not overshare.
I don't think it's necessary and it's really helped my relationship.
So that's just a piece of an I said I'll
give you guys, off the top, try not to share
those things with people because it will affect your relationship,
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I promise you, especially with family members, people that love
you and write hard for you. When someone's hurting you,
and sometimes it's unintentional, guys, Like things happen in a relationship.
You're mad and you say things that you don't mean,
or you act a certain way when you're just not
being your best self that day, and shit happens, you know,
So it's best not to tell your loved ones because
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they want the best for you, and your partner is
probably the best person for you, but in that situation,
in that moment, they're not, and it goes. It's vice versa,
it goes both ways, guys. So those are the two
things listen, especially when we're arguing. Okay, I have learned
to argue. I know that sounds weird, but I have
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learned to argue, and I've learned to not raise my
voice and try to speak in a way that I
want to be spoken to. And there are times when
I raise my voice and things get a little crazy,
so I have to just excuse myself and take a
breather and then come back and apologize. Being in a
relationship is difficult because you have to put your ego
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to the side. And before in my past relationships, I
used to love to argue. I wanted to have the
last word. I wanted to be right, and that doesn't work.
If you want a long lasting relationship, you have to compromise.
You both have to learn to argue and know how
to speak to each other. You're not always going to
be on the same page, and that's okay. You are
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two different human beings and you're coming together, and that's
difficult because you have your own beliefs, you have your
own thoughts, your own opinions, and so does that person.
And also you need to because I had to do this,
learn that that person doesn't have to think like you.
I had to stop trying to control situations and my
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partner and I had to learn that it's not necess
necessarily control the way your partner can see it, because
sometimes it's control in wanting to protect, and we call
it control, but it's not that. It's just they want
to protect you from Sometimes yourself you know, and I've
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had to understand that and also ask questions guys like
let me ask my partner, hey, I don't understand this.
Are you trying to control me? Or sometimes I'll tell
the media or like I'm like hey, like I am
still my own person. Like I understand that it makes
you a little uncomfortable that I go out with my friends,
but you can do the same, and I'm okay with that.
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I have to be okay. We have to be fair
with one another, and you also have to trust me,
like this is who I am. I still want to
be myself. I still want to honor that and honor
my friendships and the relationships that I had before you
came into my life, and you're a part of those relationships.
And sometimes I also want to just do me and
that is a okay. I just talked to this lady
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the other day, and I always like to ask, what's
your secret for your relationship? You know, they were together
or they are together, it's been like fifteen years or
something like that, and she told me that they set
the tone early on in their relationship about them not
going out with their friends or anywhere without each other.
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And I feel the complete opposite, Like I'm like, I
still want to be me again. I think you have
to figure out what works best for you, and your
definition of being a good wife is going to be
very different from mine. But I'm just telling you from
my personal experiences and how I was doing things for
so long that didn't necessarily work. Because obviously I'm not
with them anymore, and I take responsibility for what I
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did and didn't do in that relationship to make it work.
But the way it's working now and what I'm doing
now works. Another thing that is being submissive. I wasn't
necessarily submissive before. And I don't mean submissive like in
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a religious way because people interpret it differently. I mean
like I enjoy making my partner happy, and there are
things that I am not necessarily willing to change, Like
if you were to tell me, oh, you can't hang
out with your friends anymore, Like that's something that I'd
be like, hey, like, I don't want to do that.
I think it's important that we keep our individuality. But
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then there are other things that I'm willing to compromise
or completely lean into, like whatever is going to make
him happy, for instance, not getting home too late. You
know when I go out with my friends. He's totally
fine with me going out with my friends. He's like, yeah,
go have a good time, but please try not to
get home too late. Because in the beginning of our relationship,
I would go out with my friends or out to
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a meeting and I would forget to check my phone
and check in with him, and that would really upset
him and cause a fight, and I would get in
at two in the morning. I wasn't doing anything bad.
I mean, if he called me, I would answer, but
I was just so engrossed in the conversation or having
fun that I just would forget to say hey, I'm
almost done, or I would just it would just take
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a long time. Now I'm more mindful when I go
out with my friends, I'm like, okay, cool, I can
go out. I'm going to be home at a decent time,
and I check in. And it's not that he's trying
to control it's just I'm communicating with my partner. Hey, babe,
I just got here. Okay, babe, we're about to order, Like,
I don't mind doing that. Before it was like, oh
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my god, they're trying to control me. And I used
to ask that of my old partners, and they felt
that I was being controlling, but in reality, it was like,
I just want to make sure you're okay, and you're
checking in with me because you're not forgetting about me.
I think that that's okay. Like I've learned, I'm growing
to learn that that in media, it's not like he's
trying to control my every move. It's just being considerate
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of his feelings because he's at home or he's working,
and he just wants to make sure his partner is okay.
And those are things and changes that I've made because
I love this person and because again, I think what
has made me flourish in this way is the fact
that he brings us out in me, Like he doesn't
ask for anything that he's not willing to give, and
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vice versa, Like I do my best even though I'm busy,
I have a busy schedule. It's let me be present,
let me look at him in his eyes, put my
phone down and be like, hey, babe, how are you doing,
how are you feeling? Let me hug you, and that
one little hug that lasts two seconds, guys, three seconds,
it's just like, hey, I'm here with you. Makes him
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feel so good and so wanted and seeing that it
changes everything. He could be having a bad day, or
he could be feeling like he's disconnected from me, because
he also has told me that, like, hey, I feel
little disconnected from you because I'm so busy and I'm like,
I'm a person that focuses and i just focus and
I'm all in and I've learned He's taught me to
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just like be present. I'm like, hey, work is there,
it's gonna get done. Let me just take a few
minutes to speak to my partner and to be with
them in like minutes. Guys. Like, even when we kiss,
we do this thing, and I think I've probably shared
it briefly with you guys, but I'll tell him, like,
it's not just a kiss, like I I'll tell him, hey,
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I need a six second kiss. It's not just a
little peck like Okay, bye, I see you later. I'm like,
I want I need six seconds. Six seconds we're counting.
It doesn't even have to be with tongue like making out.
It's just six seconds of connecting and it makes a
world of a difference, you guys. It's crazy how it
just connects you with your partner. It's not just like
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a routine thing where it's like okay, kiss No, it's
like hey, six seconds and he knows and it feels great.
I've been telling him like I'm good at communicating, like hey,
I we're not doing this enough. Like I'm like, hey,
I want to like make out while we're making love. TMI.
I know, TMI, but kissing and making out is just
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I don't know, especially with your person of course, and
when you're making love it's something crazy. I don't know,
And I'm like, I need you to kiss me. I
need a little bit more for place. So I'm very
I communicate my needs and he also does as well,
because life happens, guys. And I know that we are
a little over a year in in our marriage, but
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I think if we keep this thought process of staying intentional,
of knowing like okay, things are getting a little stagnant,
what can we do to light the fire again so
it doesn't become this routine thing like I'm with a roommate,
you know, like I don't want that type of relationship.
I've been in that type of relationship and it goes
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both ways. It's not just the other person it's me
as well, Like I leave him notes. I'll leave him
a note randomly like hey, I love you, babe, have
a good day. The other day he sent me flowers
randomly and sent me like my favorite Macha drink and
my favorite tuna toast and things like that that just
keep things exciting. And I again, he makes me want
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to do the same for him, to cook for him,
to say, you know what, like I'm going to carve
out two hours of my day and maybe I don't
even have those two hours, but I'm gonna make the
time because he's important to me to cook for him
because that connects us, and I'm going to sit down
and eat with him. And even like taking care of
myself guys, like physically emotionally, because not only do I
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want to be my best self for myself and feel good,
but if I feel good and I'm connected and I'm
taking care of my body, my mind's soul and spirit.
My mind body and soul, there you go and spirit.
It just it's attractive to your partner. Like when I
see him going to the gym and I see his
muscles growing and he's taking care of himself, and like
there's discipline that that shit makes me horny guys like,
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and I don't mean just horny, like horny like sexually,
but I mean like it excites me for like I'm like, wow,
he looks great, and instead of thinking, oh, he's getting
handsome for other people like like no, I got to
keep up with him, Like I'm going to go to
the gym too. I want to look great because my partner,
like that's what he tells me all the time. He's like,
I'm getting sexy and I'm getting muscular because I want
you to look at me and be like, that's my man.
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And it's true. Like when we were in Hawaii and
we were on the beach and I was just like
gazing at him, looking at him, and I'm like, damn,
he looks fine as heck right now, and it made
me want to get up. The next day, I'm like,
I'm going to go to the gym. I want to
take care of myself because I just do. And I
don't know if it's just this like thing that I'm
on that I'm like really wanting to treat my body
better because this is the only body that I have,
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but it's also because I do I want to love
myself enough and for my husband not to want anyone else.
Of course, he's gonna look. There are a beautiful women
everywhere at the gym. Guy's the gym that we go to.
There are some really hot women that I even stare at.
And we go to the same gym, and it is
what it is like, I'm like, there are going to
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be beautiful women everywhere he can look. But if he stares,
and then I'm like, okay, wait, I want him to stare
at me. He can look a bit. All that girl's cute,
all right, cool, look away. I used to be like jealous,
like oh my god, like I want to be perfect
all the time. And it's like, oh my god, if
he looks at girls even on television, Like how ridiculous
is that? Like, no, there are beautiful women everywhere their
way that there are good looking guys. I'm not going
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to be disrespectful to my husband. I'm always going to
respect myself first and foremost. But I'm not blind, and
neither is he, you know, And I have to be
realistic and that has helped me so much where I'm like, well,
you know, I used to do this, guys. I used
to think and drive myself nuts where I'm like, oh
my gosh, like does my ex you know, like this
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type of girl, and maybe I need to become this
type of girl and dress like this girl. And no, no,
that is the worst thing that we can do is
compare ourselves to other people and want to be other
people and not ourselves. Like the way I've been dressing
lately has been a little funky, and I used to
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do that a lot, like before, and then just society
got to me, and I just, you know, you get
kind of lost, and that's okay. I came back, and
I don't I dress for myself. I want him to
think I'm cute, of course, and he thinks I'm cute, thankfully,
he thinks that when I wear the headbands. He loves
anything in my hair, he loves what I'm dressed like
a hippie. So I'm so grateful for that. But I
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used to dress myself for my partner, and I used
to even change my sense of style for my partner,
and we do that, like I want to obviously make
my husband happy and I want him to like what
he's looking at. But now I'm like, I'm going to
wear what I want and what makes me happy, and
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that's what's going to ultimately attract him the most me
is when I'm being myself, being my authentic self. Anyway,
I went on like a whole tangent, but the point
being that there's finding this balance between pleasing yourself and
obviously being your best self, because I think when people
say you can't love another person unless you love yourself,
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I really do believe that. I believe that until you
come to terms with who you are, what you want
to change the things, you can't change your flaws. You know.
I don't know. I've never been this confident in a relationship,
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and I think it has to do with where I
am and how I've gone through, like the healing process
of just healing certain wounds that has helped. That has helped,
for sure, but also it's the partner that I'm with
that I think also helps that out in me. And
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now that I know and can recognize the difference, there's
no way I can go back to any relationship I've
ever had or go back to something similar. Obviously, I'm married.
I want this relationship to last forever. But I'm saying,
like I don't know, I've come to terms with who
I am and I like myself and I think that
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also has helped my relationship. And again, it wasn't just
a perfect relationship from the jump. Guys. No, Emilio did
his work, his therapy, I've done mine, We've done couple's therapy,
We've were learning to communicate. I think it's going to
be like this forever. But now I want to be
a good wife. And everything I just mentioned and so
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many other things as well, like are what I think
are making me a good wife? Like he just told
me today this morning, He's like, you are an amazing wife.
And I don't remember what it is that I did.
What did I do that made him say that? Oh?
I made him a shake, you know. I was like, hey,
you're going to the gym. I got you. I'm gonna
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help you with your drink, and little things like that
where it's like, hey, you care about me, like you
care about my well being. You take care of me.
I think all of those things go a long way.
And it's not about financial things, guys, about your partner
buying you things or me buying him stuff. It's just
really those small little things that go a long way,
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like leaving a note or making his shake or steaming
his shirt for him, Like I didn't realize maybe before
in relationships, I was a little bit selfish and it
was more about me, Like you made me unhappy, you
did this to me, so now you have to kind
of kiss my butt. And that's not fair either. You know,
if you're going to forgive someone for what they did,
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then you just kind of have to clean the slate
and not punish the person. And I think I used
to do that and that's exhausting for the other person.
Now I'm like, Okay, I got to pick and choose
my battles. I'm not going to fight over this. Like
he left his socks on the side of the bed.
He does that a lot. I'm learning to just be
like I'm not going to pick them up either. Like
I'm just like, okay that those are your socks, those
are your shoes, that's your side of the bed. If
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you want to keep it messy, I'm not gonna let
it bother me. I'm not going to make it a
fight because I love other things about you, But I'm
also like not going to pick up after you, Like
I have come like there's a balance there because I
also don't want to become his mom. Now that we're
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talking about mothering, I had to learn that I am
an older sister. I am very used to taking care of,
to controlling situations, and it's not even again. One of
my ex partners took it as me controlling, wanting to like,
not that they were my property. Because that's another thing
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I've had to learn is that we're not each other's property,
you know, And that's something where it's like they are
their own person. I love this person for who they are.
They're going to make their own decisions and I have
to trust that they're going to be smart enough to
make the right decisions that aren't going to ultimately hurt
me and hurt our relationship. It's all about trust, literally,
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just trusting and having faith blindly and having faith that
if there's anything that I need to know, it will
be revealed to me in one way or another. And
that has saved me so many headaches and so much
mental torment, guys, and emotional torment that you have no idea,
So I highly recommend that. But going back to the
mothering part of it, when I met Emilio, I was
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certain that I wasn't going to date anyone younger than
myself and not my age, not younger. I was like,
I need an older man because I'm very mature for
my age. Blah blah blah, very wise, all this stuff. Right,
of course, God set me what I needed. But getting
back to the point, I would mother him, although in
my defense, I will say he did act very childish
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in certain situations, and he wasn't very disciplined, and there
were things that didn't make me admire him. And I
think it is important for you to admire your partner,
Like for me, it's important that I admire my partner.
That there is something that they're doing with their life,
for how they conduct themselves, and that just makes you
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admire them and it makes you want to be a
better person. I didn't have that experience in my in
one of my past relationships, and I would catch myself
speaking to him in a way of like, that's not cool.
It was a little condescending, and yes, it was something
I had to work on and something I had to unlearned,
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but also it was the way that he was acting.
I did feel like I had to be financially responsible
and financially and not only financially responsible, but of the
home and telling him what he needed to do, and
and it was just too much, you know. It was
like it was very heavy on me. And that's not sexy.
That doesn't make me want to have sex with you.
That doesn't like, it's not cute, you know, Like I
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don't know. And it doesn't even matter if I make
more money or he does. It's more of just on
a life level of like we're sharing these responsibilities. It
just doesn't fall on me because I'm the woman and
I'm supposed to wash your dishes and cook and make
the bed and also I'm working. It's like, no, we
need to help each other. And that's the kind of
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relationship I want. Now. If you're a type of woman
that stays home and you do everything, your husband works,
and that's what you guys have, I think that's great,
that's awesome, Like whatever works for you right for me,
It's like I do want a partner that's willing to
do his part without me having to ask. And that's
one thing I've had to talk to Amelia about is
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I don't want to have to tell you to take
out the trash or what to do to take care
of our home. Because this is our home. There are
times when I have to point things out because as women,
we see everything. We're very detailed. Men are more of like,
very focused and logical. So there are things that I've
had to point out, like hey, can you I don't know,
clean up the backyard or something I don't know, something
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like that. And it's a of course, the way I
say it and ask. If i'm demanding it, I'm not
going to get a good response. But if I'm asking
and saying, hey babe, do you mind whenever you have
a chance, can you please, you know, pick up the
trash outside or something? And that has helped a lot
because before I didn't communicate that as well. It was
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more of like you're so damn lazy, like you're not
doing anything. I have to do everything, Like I feel
like the mother. You're acting like a kid. You need
to grow up. I would say all of those things
that made him feel worse and maybe emasculated him, and
I've learned not to do that because I don't want
to do that. Even if a medial is acting a
little immature in certain situations, I am very careful with
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how I say it, and I am very clear with
I want a partner. It doesn't matter if you're seven
years younger than me. I'm not your mama. I don't
want to be your mom. It makes you very sexy
to me if you are doing what you need to
do in the relationship and for yourself and taking care
of your bills, and I don't have to remind you
like that is very sexy to me. And I need
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that in my relationship. So I communicated that from the
very beginning. And there are times when maybe he forgets
certain things and I remind him gently, and also where
sometimes I catch myself saying things in a way that
isn't cool that I'm like, I have to correct myself
and be vulnerable enough and humble enough to say, Babe,
I'm sorry, that wasn't cool. I shouldn't have said it
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that way. I do apologize. I'm a different woman, and
I think it's because of everything that I've gone through
and I've learned and I've grown and I've matured, and
I told myself, I don't want to go through this
heartache again, and I need to really look internally, and
I did that, and it's so different now, guys, and
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I know I've talked about so many different things, so
many different topics, and I'm hoping it all made sense
because I didn't know where to start with this episode
because there's so much to unpack here, which is why
I always just let my heart lead. But I think
when we set the intention of wanting to be our
best selves in anything that we do, and just saying
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I want to be a good wife, a good girlfriend,
a good employee, a good mother, a good friend. Like,
when you set that intention, like, I feel like something
in the universe opens up and allows you and gives
you signs and gives you opportunity to be that. So
this is my opportunity. I'm not telling you my relationship
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is perfect, because it's not. We have our ups and
our downs. We have rough patches as well. But also
it's how we argue very differently. Now, I communicate differently.
I take space. I say, hey, I think we're not
going to get anywhere right now with this conversation. I'm
going to excuse myself. I'll come back, give me a
little bit, I gotta go, just do me real quick,
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and I'll come back to this conversation. All those little
things have made a big difference in my life, in
my relationship as a wife. And I think that's why
I can say I'm a good wife because I'm willing,
I am open. I want to be a good wife,
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and I don't care what anyone else thinks. That's another thing.
I don't care if my friends think, oh my god,
it's when I'm Onnelona or she always has to like
communicate or call him. I don't care if my friends
have never told me this. They might think it. They
haven't told me this, but even if they did, I'd
be like, look, I get it, but like I want
this relationship to work, and this is the way that
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I'm going to do it, and if you don't agree
with it, then maybe you're not meant to be in
my life. Like that's where I'm at now, and I'm
going to do what I need to do to make
my relationship work. Whether people agree with it or not,
or how if they do things differently, that's totally fine.
I don't want to compare my relationship to anyone else's.
We're doing our thing and we're doing it the way
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that works for us. You know, we do a lot
of date nights. That's another thing. Like I want to
get dressed up for my man, I want to put
on something nice at night, like because I will be
that girl that I'm like funky at night. I just
want to put on anything that's comfortable, and I'll do that,
but then I'll surprise him like Okay, I'm gonna put
on this little nightie, like I just want to look
cute for you. It's all about keeping that, like you know,
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the flame on. Anyway, Guys, that's that. That's this episode,
and I hope that you've enjoyed it and that it
also inspires you to be your best self and not
even if you're not a wife yet, for you as
a future wife or just in anything, you know. I
think it's just being intentional guys, and living with intent
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and not just half assing things. You know. It's like
I am very like that. I like to finish what
I start. I want to be good at what I do,
and I'm going to try until trying is no longer
an option. And yeah, I mean I want my husband
to look at me and and remember why he fell
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in love with me without feeling so much pressure. I
don't want it to feel like work. It's just when
you are stepping into who you really are and you
are in your authentic self, you don't even have to pretend.
And that's the thing, Like that can only last for
so long. And I feel like one of my ex
partners did that, like they pretended to be someone that
they weren't and then the mask falls off. And that's
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why I felt so bamboozled because I was like, this
is not the person that I thought I had been with,
or you know what I mean. Like, so I think
when you're just working and living and moving from your
authentic self, like it just works as a wife, as
a friend, as an employee, as an influencer, as an artist, whatever,
it's just moving from your authentic self, from like the
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core of your being, and it just saves you a
lot of headaches. So anyway, I did want to just
share all of this. It just became so many different
things in one episode. But this is what I love
about my podcast, what I love about you guys, because
you guys come and listen to all of my things.
So thank you for listening, thank you for being here,
thank you for checking in with me each and every week.
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And don't forget about Dear Cheeky's. We have a new
episode coming on Wednesday and anyway, I love you. I
love you, and I hope you enjoyed it. Thank you
guys so much. I appreciate you, and I'll catch you
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Hello, everyone, Welcome to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill,
the podcast where you come to listen to learn, to
grow and too glow. I hope you all are having
a fabulous day and you're feeling great because you deserve it.
I I'm feeling good. I'm not feeling one hundred today.
I'm probably like at eighty. I'm not necessarily sad. I
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think I'm just pensive. I have a lot on my mind.
But I'm happy to be here and talking to you
because my podcast always does make me feel better, So
thank you for that. And talking about thinking. I was
thinking the other day how I am seriously in the
best relationship with my life. I have a great husband,
a husband that cares about me, that values me, and
I'm in the healthiest relationship I've ever been in, and
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that makes me want to be the best wife I
can possibly be for him. But what does it mean
to be a good wife. I'm sure everyone has their
own definition, but I wanted to hop on the mic
and explain to you guys what my definition of being
a good wife looks like in my situation, because I
think it is situational. So I thought this would be
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a good episode because people have asked me what I'm
doing different, So I want to share that with you, guys,
because I'm definitely doing things differently this time. So let's
get this episode started, shall we. Okay, guys, So I
wrote a few things down, but I kind of just
want to let my heart speak right now. I have
learned quite a bit in the relationships I've been in.
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I am so grateful for every relationship I've been in
because I have learned. I've learned to be a better
version of myself through the pain. And now I'm in
a relationship where my partner puts in the same amount
of effort and that has just helped me thrive as
a girlfriend as now a wife. And I had to
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unlearn a few things. I had to learn a few things,
and I had to unlearn a few things. And I
can tell you confidently that I am a good wife
because I'm very intentional. I know, I'm very busy, and
I listen to my partner. Here's one thing, guys, listen
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to your partner. Listen to understand, not to just react.
And I used to do that a lot. I would
listen to defend myself instead of listening and reading between
the lines. And now when he's telling me something, I
am listening and I'm like, Okay, I want to be
my best self for this person, for this relationship, because
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he's worth it, and because he also does and gives
the same right. Another thing that I've done differently is
I don't talk about the issues that I have in
my relationship, not with my sisters, not with my friends.
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I have found that I am talking less and less
about my issues with other people. Joyce Meyer one of
my favorite pastors pastorettes. She says, go to the throne,
not to the phone, and I feel that that has
helped me a lot in my life, especially in my relationship.
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Why why do I tell you this Because I have
done and I have made that mistake in my past
where I overshare and then I make up with my
partner because that's just what happens. And then the person
that I shared it with, being my sister, being my grandmother,
or being my friend, they have a sour taste in
their mouth of my partner, and it makes things harder
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for me. So I've learned to just pray about it
or talk to my therapist about it and not overshare.
I don't think it's necessary and it's really helped my relationship.
So that's just a piece of an I said I'll
give you guys, off the top, try not to share
those things with people because it will affect your relationship,
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I promise you, especially with family members, people that love
you and write hard for you. When someone's hurting you,
and sometimes it's unintentional, guys, Like things happen in a relationship.
You're mad and you say things that you don't mean,
or you act a certain way when you're just not
being your best self that day, and shit happens, you know,
So it's best not to tell your loved ones because
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they want the best for you, and your partner is
probably the best person for you, but in that situation,
in that moment, they're not, and it goes. It's vice versa,
it goes both ways, guys. So those are the two
things listen, especially when we're arguing. Okay, I have learned
to argue. I know that sounds weird, but I have
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learned to argue, and I've learned to not raise my
voice and try to speak in a way that I
want to be spoken to. And there are times when
I raise my voice and things get a little crazy,
so I have to just excuse myself and take a
breather and then come back and apologize. Being in a
relationship is difficult because you have to put your ego
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to the side. And before in my past relationships, I
used to love to argue. I wanted to have the
last word. I wanted to be right, and that doesn't work.
If you want a long lasting relationship, you have to compromise.
You both have to learn to argue and know how
to speak to each other. You're not always going to
be on the same page, and that's okay. You are
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two different human beings and you're coming together, and that's
difficult because you have your own beliefs, you have your
own thoughts, your own opinions, and so does that person.
And also you need to because I had to do this,
learn that that person doesn't have to think like you.
I had to stop trying to control situations and my
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partner and I had to learn that it's not necess
necessarily control the way your partner can see it, because
sometimes it's control in wanting to protect, and we call
it control, but it's not that. It's just they want
to protect you from Sometimes yourself you know, and I've
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had to understand that and also ask questions guys like
let me ask my partner, hey, I don't understand this.
Are you trying to control me? Or sometimes I'll tell
the media or like I'm like hey, like I am
still my own person. Like I understand that it makes
you a little uncomfortable that I go out with my friends,
but you can do the same, and I'm okay with that.
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I have to be okay. We have to be fair
with one another, and you also have to trust me,
like this is who I am. I still want to
be myself. I still want to honor that and honor
my friendships and the relationships that I had before you
came into my life, and you're a part of those relationships.
And sometimes I also want to just do me and
that is a okay. I just talked to this lady
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the other day, and I always like to ask, what's
your secret for your relationship? You know, they were together
or they are together, it's been like fifteen years or
something like that, and she told me that they set
the tone early on in their relationship about them not
going out with their friends or anywhere without each other.
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And I feel the complete opposite, Like I'm like, I
still want to be me again. I think you have
to figure out what works best for you, and your
definition of being a good wife is going to be
very different from mine. But I'm just telling you from
my personal experiences and how I was doing things for
so long that didn't necessarily work. Because obviously I'm not
with them anymore, and I take responsibility for what I
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did and didn't do in that relationship to make it work.
But the way it's working now and what I'm doing
now works. Another thing that is being submissive. I wasn't
necessarily submissive before. And I don't mean submissive like in
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a religious way because people interpret it differently. I mean
like I enjoy making my partner happy, and there are
things that I am not necessarily willing to change, Like
if you were to tell me, oh, you can't hang
out with your friends anymore, Like that's something that I'd
be like, hey, like, I don't want to do that.
I think it's important that we keep our individuality. But
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then there are other things that I'm willing to compromise
or completely lean into, like whatever is going to make
him happy, for instance, not getting home too late. You
know when I go out with my friends. He's totally
fine with me going out with my friends. He's like, yeah,
go have a good time, but please try not to
get home too late. Because in the beginning of our relationship,
I would go out with my friends or out to
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a meeting and I would forget to check my phone
and check in with him, and that would really upset
him and cause a fight, and I would get in
at two in the morning. I wasn't doing anything bad.
I mean, if he called me, I would answer, but
I was just so engrossed in the conversation or having
fun that I just would forget to say hey, I'm
almost done, or I would just it would just take
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a long time. Now I'm more mindful when I go
out with my friends, I'm like, okay, cool, I can
go out. I'm going to be home at a decent time,
and I check in. And it's not that he's trying
to control it's just I'm communicating with my partner. Hey, babe,
I just got here. Okay, babe, we're about to order, Like,
I don't mind doing that. Before it was like, oh
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my god, they're trying to control me. And I used
to ask that of my old partners, and they felt
that I was being controlling, but in reality, it was like,
I just want to make sure you're okay, and you're
checking in with me because you're not forgetting about me.
I think that that's okay. Like I've learned, I'm growing
to learn that that in media, it's not like he's
trying to control my every move. It's just being considerate
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of his feelings because he's at home or he's working,
and he just wants to make sure his partner is okay.
And those are things and changes that I've made because
I love this person and because again, I think what
has made me flourish in this way is the fact
that he brings us out in me, Like he doesn't
ask for anything that he's not willing to give, and
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vice versa, Like I do my best even though I'm busy,
I have a busy schedule. It's let me be present,
let me look at him in his eyes, put my
phone down and be like, hey, babe, how are you doing,
how are you feeling? Let me hug you, and that
one little hug that lasts two seconds, guys, three seconds,
it's just like, hey, I'm here with you. Makes him
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feel so good and so wanted and seeing that it
changes everything. He could be having a bad day, or
he could be feeling like he's disconnected from me, because
he also has told me that, like, hey, I feel
little disconnected from you because I'm so busy and I'm like,
I'm a person that focuses and i just focus and
I'm all in and I've learned He's taught me to
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just like be present. I'm like, hey, work is there,
it's gonna get done. Let me just take a few
minutes to speak to my partner and to be with
them in like minutes. Guys. Like, even when we kiss,
we do this thing, and I think I've probably shared
it briefly with you guys, but I'll tell him, like,
it's not just a kiss, like I I'll tell him, hey,
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I need a six second kiss. It's not just a
little peck like Okay, bye, I see you later. I'm like,
I want I need six seconds. Six seconds we're counting.
It doesn't even have to be with tongue like making out.
It's just six seconds of connecting and it makes a
world of a difference, you guys. It's crazy how it
just connects you with your partner. It's not just like
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a routine thing where it's like okay, kiss No, it's
like hey, six seconds and he knows and it feels great.
I've been telling him like I'm good at communicating, like hey,
I we're not doing this enough. Like I'm like, hey,
I want to like make out while we're making love. TMI.
I know, TMI, but kissing and making out is just
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I don't know, especially with your person of course, and
when you're making love it's something crazy. I don't know,
And I'm like, I need you to kiss me. I
need a little bit more for place. So I'm very
I communicate my needs and he also does as well,
because life happens, guys. And I know that we are
a little over a year in in our marriage, but
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I think if we keep this thought process of staying intentional,
of knowing like okay, things are getting a little stagnant,
what can we do to light the fire again so
it doesn't become this routine thing like I'm with a roommate,
you know, like I don't want that type of relationship.
I've been in that type of relationship and it goes
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both ways. It's not just the other person it's me
as well, Like I leave him notes. I'll leave him
a note randomly like hey, I love you, babe, have
a good day. The other day he sent me flowers
randomly and sent me like my favorite Macha drink and
my favorite tuna toast and things like that that just
keep things exciting. And I again, he makes me want
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to do the same for him, to cook for him,
to say, you know what, like I'm going to carve
out two hours of my day and maybe I don't
even have those two hours, but I'm gonna make the
time because he's important to me to cook for him
because that connects us, and I'm going to sit down
and eat with him. And even like taking care of
myself guys, like physically emotionally, because not only do I
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want to be my best self for myself and feel good,
but if I feel good and I'm connected and I'm
taking care of my body, my mind's soul and spirit.
My mind body and soul, there you go and spirit.
It just it's attractive to your partner. Like when I
see him going to the gym and I see his
muscles growing and he's taking care of himself, and like
there's discipline that that shit makes me horny guys like,
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and I don't mean just horny, like horny like sexually,
but I mean like it excites me for like I'm like, wow,
he looks great, and instead of thinking, oh, he's getting
handsome for other people like like no, I got to
keep up with him, Like I'm going to go to
the gym too. I want to look great because my partner,
like that's what he tells me all the time. He's like,
I'm getting sexy and I'm getting muscular because I want
you to look at me and be like, that's my man.
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And it's true. Like when we were in Hawaii and
we were on the beach and I was just like
gazing at him, looking at him, and I'm like, damn,
he looks fine as heck right now, and it made
me want to get up. The next day, I'm like,
I'm going to go to the gym. I want to
take care of myself because I just do. And I
don't know if it's just this like thing that I'm
on that I'm like really wanting to treat my body
better because this is the only body that I have,
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but it's also because I do I want to love
myself enough and for my husband not to want anyone else.
Of course, he's gonna look. There are a beautiful women
everywhere at the gym. Guy's the gym that we go to.
There are some really hot women that I even stare at.
And we go to the same gym, and it is
what it is like, I'm like, there are going to
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be beautiful women everywhere he can look. But if he stares,
and then I'm like, okay, wait, I want him to stare
at me. He can look a bit. All that girl's cute,
all right, cool, look away. I used to be like jealous,
like oh my god, like I want to be perfect
all the time. And it's like, oh my god, if
he looks at girls even on television, Like how ridiculous
is that? Like, no, there are beautiful women everywhere their
way that there are good looking guys. I'm not going
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to be disrespectful to my husband. I'm always going to
respect myself first and foremost. But I'm not blind, and
neither is he, you know, And I have to be
realistic and that has helped me so much where I'm like, well,
you know, I used to do this, guys. I used
to think and drive myself nuts where I'm like, oh
my gosh, like does my ex you know, like this
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type of girl, and maybe I need to become this
type of girl and dress like this girl. And no, no,
that is the worst thing that we can do is
compare ourselves to other people and want to be other
people and not ourselves. Like the way I've been dressing
lately has been a little funky, and I used to
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do that a lot, like before, and then just society
got to me, and I just, you know, you get
kind of lost, and that's okay. I came back, and
I don't I dress for myself. I want him to
think I'm cute, of course, and he thinks I'm cute, thankfully,
he thinks that when I wear the headbands. He loves
anything in my hair, he loves what I'm dressed like
a hippie. So I'm so grateful for that. But I
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used to dress myself for my partner, and I used
to even change my sense of style for my partner,
and we do that, like I want to obviously make
my husband happy and I want him to like what
he's looking at. But now I'm like, I'm going to
wear what I want and what makes me happy, and
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that's what's going to ultimately attract him the most me
is when I'm being myself, being my authentic self. Anyway,
I went on like a whole tangent, but the point
being that there's finding this balance between pleasing yourself and
obviously being your best self, because I think when people
say you can't love another person unless you love yourself,
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I really do believe that. I believe that until you
come to terms with who you are, what you want
to change the things, you can't change your flaws. You know.
I don't know. I've never been this confident in a relationship,
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and I think it has to do with where I
am and how I've gone through, like the healing process
of just healing certain wounds that has helped. That has helped,
for sure, but also it's the partner that I'm with
that I think also helps that out in me. And
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now that I know and can recognize the difference, there's
no way I can go back to any relationship I've
ever had or go back to something similar. Obviously, I'm married.
I want this relationship to last forever. But I'm saying,
like I don't know, I've come to terms with who
I am and I like myself and I think that
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also has helped my relationship. And again, it wasn't just
a perfect relationship from the jump. Guys. No, Emilio did
his work, his therapy, I've done mine, We've done couple's therapy,
We've were learning to communicate. I think it's going to
be like this forever. But now I want to be
a good wife. And everything I just mentioned and so
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many other things as well, like are what I think
are making me a good wife? Like he just told
me today this morning, He's like, you are an amazing wife.
And I don't remember what it is that I did.
What did I do that made him say that? Oh?
I made him a shake, you know. I was like, hey,
you're going to the gym. I got you. I'm gonna
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help you with your drink, and little things like that
where it's like, hey, you care about me, like you
care about my well being. You take care of me.
I think all of those things go a long way.
And it's not about financial things, guys, about your partner
buying you things or me buying him stuff. It's just
really those small little things that go a long way,
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like leaving a note or making his shake or steaming
his shirt for him, Like I didn't realize maybe before
in relationships, I was a little bit selfish and it
was more about me, Like you made me unhappy, you
did this to me, so now you have to kind
of kiss my butt. And that's not fair either. You know,
if you're going to forgive someone for what they did,
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then you just kind of have to clean the slate
and not punish the person. And I think I used
to do that and that's exhausting for the other person.
Now I'm like, Okay, I got to pick and choose
my battles. I'm not going to fight over this. Like
he left his socks on the side of the bed.
He does that a lot. I'm learning to just be
like I'm not going to pick them up either. Like
I'm just like, okay that those are your socks, those
are your shoes, that's your side of the bed. If
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you want to keep it messy, I'm not gonna let
it bother me. I'm not going to make it a
fight because I love other things about you, But I'm
also like not going to pick up after you, Like
I have come like there's a balance there because I
also don't want to become his mom. Now that we're
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talking about mothering, I had to learn that I am
an older sister. I am very used to taking care of,
to controlling situations, and it's not even again. One of
my ex partners took it as me controlling, wanting to like,
not that they were my property. Because that's another thing
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I've had to learn is that we're not each other's property,
you know, And that's something where it's like they are
their own person. I love this person for who they are.
They're going to make their own decisions and I have
to trust that they're going to be smart enough to
make the right decisions that aren't going to ultimately hurt
me and hurt our relationship. It's all about trust, literally,
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just trusting and having faith blindly and having faith that
if there's anything that I need to know, it will
be revealed to me in one way or another. And
that has saved me so many headaches and so much
mental torment, guys, and emotional torment that you have no idea,
So I highly recommend that. But going back to the
mothering part of it, when I met Emilio, I was
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certain that I wasn't going to date anyone younger than
myself and not my age, not younger. I was like,
I need an older man because I'm very mature for
my age. Blah blah blah, very wise, all this stuff. Right,
of course, God set me what I needed. But getting
back to the point, I would mother him, although in
my defense, I will say he did act very childish
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in certain situations, and he wasn't very disciplined, and there
were things that didn't make me admire him. And I
think it is important for you to admire your partner,
Like for me, it's important that I admire my partner.
That there is something that they're doing with their life,
for how they conduct themselves, and that just makes you
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admire them and it makes you want to be a
better person. I didn't have that experience in my in
one of my past relationships, and I would catch myself
speaking to him in a way of like, that's not cool.
It was a little condescending, and yes, it was something
I had to work on and something I had to unlearned,
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but also it was the way that he was acting.
I did feel like I had to be financially responsible
and financially and not only financially responsible, but of the
home and telling him what he needed to do, and
and it was just too much, you know. It was
like it was very heavy on me. And that's not sexy.
That doesn't make me want to have sex with you.
That doesn't like, it's not cute, you know, Like I
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don't know. And it doesn't even matter if I make
more money or he does. It's more of just on
a life level of like we're sharing these responsibilities. It
just doesn't fall on me because I'm the woman and
I'm supposed to wash your dishes and cook and make
the bed and also I'm working. It's like, no, we
need to help each other. And that's the kind of
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relationship I want. Now. If you're a type of woman
that stays home and you do everything, your husband works,
and that's what you guys have, I think that's great,
that's awesome, Like whatever works for you right for me,
It's like I do want a partner that's willing to
do his part without me having to ask. And that's
one thing I've had to talk to Amelia about is
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I don't want to have to tell you to take
out the trash or what to do to take care
of our home. Because this is our home. There are
times when I have to point things out because as women,
we see everything. We're very detailed. Men are more of like,
very focused and logical. So there are things that I've
had to point out, like hey, can you I don't know,
clean up the backyard or something I don't know, something
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like that. And it's a of course, the way I
say it and ask. If i'm demanding it, I'm not
going to get a good response. But if I'm asking
and saying, hey babe, do you mind whenever you have
a chance, can you please, you know, pick up the
trash outside or something? And that has helped a lot
because before I didn't communicate that as well. It was
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more of like you're so damn lazy, like you're not
doing anything. I have to do everything, Like I feel
like the mother. You're acting like a kid. You need
to grow up. I would say all of those things
that made him feel worse and maybe emasculated him, and
I've learned not to do that because I don't want
to do that. Even if a medial is acting a
little immature in certain situations, I am very careful with
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how I say it, and I am very clear with
I want a partner. It doesn't matter if you're seven
years younger than me. I'm not your mama. I don't
want to be your mom. It makes you very sexy
to me if you are doing what you need to
do in the relationship and for yourself and taking care
of your bills, and I don't have to remind you
like that is very sexy to me. And I need
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that in my relationship. So I communicated that from the
very beginning. And there are times when maybe he forgets
certain things and I remind him gently, and also where
sometimes I catch myself saying things in a way that
isn't cool that I'm like, I have to correct myself
and be vulnerable enough and humble enough to say, Babe,
I'm sorry, that wasn't cool. I shouldn't have said it
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that way. I do apologize. I'm a different woman, and
I think it's because of everything that I've gone through
and I've learned and I've grown and I've matured, and
I told myself, I don't want to go through this
heartache again, and I need to really look internally, and
I did that, and it's so different now, guys, and
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I know I've talked about so many different things, so
many different topics, and I'm hoping it all made sense
because I didn't know where to start with this episode
because there's so much to unpack here, which is why
I always just let my heart lead. But I think
when we set the intention of wanting to be our
best selves in anything that we do, and just saying
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I want to be a good wife, a good girlfriend,
a good employee, a good mother, a good friend. Like,
when you set that intention, like, I feel like something
in the universe opens up and allows you and gives
you signs and gives you opportunity to be that. So
this is my opportunity. I'm not telling you my relationship
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is perfect, because it's not. We have our ups and
our downs. We have rough patches as well. But also
it's how we argue very differently. Now, I communicate differently.
I take space. I say, hey, I think we're not
going to get anywhere right now with this conversation. I'm
going to excuse myself. I'll come back, give me a
little bit, I gotta go, just do me real quick,
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and I'll come back to this conversation. All those little
things have made a big difference in my life, in
my relationship as a wife. And I think that's why
I can say I'm a good wife because I'm willing,
I am open. I want to be a good wife,
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and I don't care what anyone else thinks. That's another thing.
I don't care if my friends think, oh my god,
it's when I'm Onnelona or she always has to like
communicate or call him. I don't care if my friends
have never told me this. They might think it. They
haven't told me this, but even if they did, I'd
be like, look, I get it, but like I want
this relationship to work, and this is the way that
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I'm going to do it, and if you don't agree
with it, then maybe you're not meant to be in
my life. Like that's where I'm at now, and I'm
going to do what I need to do to make
my relationship work. Whether people agree with it or not,
or how if they do things differently, that's totally fine.
I don't want to compare my relationship to anyone else's.
We're doing our thing and we're doing it the way
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that works for us. You know, we do a lot
of date nights. That's another thing. Like I want to
get dressed up for my man, I want to put
on something nice at night, like because I will be
that girl that I'm like funky at night. I just
want to put on anything that's comfortable, and I'll do that,
but then I'll surprise him like Okay, I'm gonna put
on this little nightie, like I just want to look
cute for you. It's all about keeping that, like you know,
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the flame on. Anyway, Guys, that's that. That's this episode,
and I hope that you've enjoyed it and that it
also inspires you to be your best self and not
even if you're not a wife yet, for you as
a future wife or just in anything, you know. I
think it's just being intentional guys, and living with intent
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and not just half assing things. You know. It's like
I am very like that. I like to finish what
I start. I want to be good at what I do,
and I'm going to try until trying is no longer
an option. And yeah, I mean I want my husband
to look at me and and remember why he fell
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in love with me without feeling so much pressure. I
don't want it to feel like work. It's just when
you are stepping into who you really are and you
are in your authentic self, you don't even have to pretend.
And that's the thing, Like that can only last for
so long. And I feel like one of my ex
partners did that, like they pretended to be someone that
they weren't and then the mask falls off. And that's
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why I felt so bamboozled because I was like, this
is not the person that I thought I had been with,
or you know what I mean. Like, so I think
when you're just working and living and moving from your
authentic self, like it just works as a wife, as
a friend, as an employee, as an influencer, as an artist, whatever,
it's just moving from your authentic self, from like the
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core of your being, and it just saves you a
lot of headaches. So anyway, I did want to just
share all of this. It just became so many different
things in one episode. But this is what I love
about my podcast, what I love about you guys, because
you guys come and listen to all of my things.
So thank you for listening, thank you for being here,
thank you for checking in with me each and every week.
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And don't forget about Dear Cheeky's. We have a new
episode coming on Wednesday and anyway, I love you. I
love you, and I hope you enjoyed it. Thank you
guys so much. I appreciate you, and I'll catch you
on the next episode of your favorite podcast. Cheek is
in Chill. This is a production of iHeartRadio and the
Micaeldora podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael Doura Podcasts,
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