September 2, 2024 • 20 mins
Happy Monday – and happy Labor Day, everyone! Today, we’re going to keep it short, sweet and to the point. We’re going to talk about why it’s so important to never think you’re above anyone. We all know life works in mysterious ways and so one minute you can be on top of the world, and the next minute you can hit rock-bottom. So be kind to everyone and be kind to yourselves!
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hello guys, Happy Monday and Happy Labor Day. I hope
some of you are enjoying an extra long weekend because
you deserve it. We work so hard and it's so
important to make time to rest and take care of
ourselves too. Hashtag note to self. Okay, So I was
doing some thinking the other day and self reflecting about
(00:23):
how we should never feel like we're better than anyone
else or above anyone else, and so I wanted to
unpack that here on the podcast. So that's what we're
going to talk about today on Jeez and Joe. Are
you ready? Here we go? So what do I mean
by never feeling like you're above others? And why does
it matter? I've seen a lot of things in my life.
(00:46):
I've experienced quite a bit, a lot of disappointment. I
have disappointed others, and a lot of those things helped
me grow and learn. And I was sitting at my
desk and this whole idea came up because I was
dealing with some stuff with some people on my team.
(01:07):
I'm not going to say any names, it's not worth it.
We've already talked it out. But I just felt very
sad because I don't like when people feel like they
are indispensable. When people don't take accountability and responsibility. We've
talked about this so many times because it's a huge
(01:27):
pet peep. One day we're going to do an episode
of my pet peeves, because I have quite a bit. Anyways,
one of my pet peeves is when people can't humble
themselves and apologize and take accountability and their ego. And
we've talked about the ego because ego is not your amigo.
How it gets in the way of you becoming who
you are meant to be because you're afraid to be
(01:49):
vulnerable and to show your real feelings. So anyways, it's
a whole other episode. My point is, guys, that I
was in a situation where someone felt like, oh, they'll
come back, and she can't find anyone else. I cannot
with that. Like, when you give me that energy, I
will do anything, in everything to find someone else and
(02:09):
someone better. And that's just a small part of it,
because there's so much more to that story, and I
don't want to get into it because again, we talked
about things and things are not resolved, but I guess
we clear the air. I think it's just important that
we realize that anything can happen at any time. We
can be on top today and you turn around and
(02:33):
things have changed. And I've seen it with my own
two eyes, with people around me, with maybe certain family members, friendships,
where people are on top and they have all the
money in the world and the power to buy whatever
(02:54):
they want and the power to destroy people with the
money that they have and the power and the positions,
and they think that they are invincible, and then something happens.
Life shakes you up. God sits you on your ass
and everything is taken away, and all those people that
(03:16):
you treated bad along the way turn their back and say, well,
you were very mean to me. Why should I help
you when you need it, when you're on the floor.
I have seen it freaking happen, guys, I can tell you,
and you guys know, I'm very honest. I have never
in my life felt that I am better than anyone
(03:40):
or less than anyone. I like to treat people the
way I want to be treated. I will treat the president,
the CEO of the company the same exact way I
would treat the janitor that I see that's cleaning the
restroom that I just used. I promise you because I
have learned and I have seen it, and I never
(04:03):
want to go through that. I want to be able
to say I was nice to everyone, and not because
it's forced, not because I'm pretending, but because it's really
who I am. Because I know right now I can
live in this beautiful home that God has given me,
and I swear you, guys. I pray and I'm like, God,
thank you for helping me make ends meet every month,
(04:28):
because when I moved here it was a huge fucking risk.
It was like I'm taking a huge leap of faith
right now and I don't know how I'm going to
do it, but God will provide and he has provided.
And I've been in this home for three years. I
don't know how long I'm going to be here. I
don't know because the job that I have it's a career.
But it's not like this is why you, guys, I'm
so passionate about school or about learning some type of trait,
(04:49):
something that no one can ever take from you. Because
I just have my high school diploma. I didn't go
to college, and it's never too late to go to
college if I want to go and become a psychologist.
I can probably do it. It's just gonna take me
like for years or whatever. But anyways, like my job is,
so I guess the word is unreliable. I don't know
if I'm people are still gonna love me next year,
(05:11):
and if brands are still gonna want to work with me,
or you guys are still gonna want to buy my products. Like,
I don't know what happens with the entertainment world. Things
are changing so rapidly. It's getting harder and harder to
fill up these venues, and not just with me with
huge artists. Like a lot of people were in a recession.
(05:32):
A lot of people are saving their money. I see
it on e commerce, Like things are constantly changing. So
for me, I can have this position and I can
have all the things that I'm doing and you know,
Chiky Sinfield throw and my music and my books and
my podcast, but I never know what's gonna happen. So
I want to be able to be okay with knowing, Hey,
I was there and I treated people well, and those
(05:54):
people that I treated well on my way up quote unquote,
if I turn around, I need their help later or
I need to sleep on someone's couch they're not gonna say, no,
you were a bitch to me. They're probably gonna say, hey,
don't even worry, here's my couch, here's this extra room.
Let me feed you, Let me feed you and your husband. Like,
you don't have to have a high position in the
(06:16):
world to be nicer, to be mean to people. It's
just we're human beings. At the end of the day.
We are all made of bones, flesh, blood, tendons, like
we're all made the same. We all are born and
then we die. What we do in the middle of
that determines so much. So with this whole situation that happened,
(06:41):
and I was thinking, and I was feeling sad and
just disappointed with certain things and certain people just got
me thinking of just so many things and how important
it is never to feel like you are more than
anyone else, and also how important it is for you
not to feel like you're less than anyone else. Don't
feel like you're any less. Then even the President of
(07:02):
the United States, guys like I could probably be in
the same room with the guy, and it was like,
I'm going to be respectful and I'm gonna be cordial,
but you're still human at the end of the day,
you still deserve respect because of thee because you're a human.
Do I agree with everything that you do? Maybe not,
but I'm still going to be respectful. But I don't
(07:23):
feel less. I don't feel like you are better than me.
Like we have to understand like the value of being
alive and what we bring to the world and do
it every single day, like intentionally. There goes the word
intentional of being just good humans and treating people well
(07:43):
and doing good even when people aren't watching, especially when
people aren't watching. That shows if you are a person
of integrity, when you do things good things when people
aren't watching, never think like, oh, I have this position,
(08:07):
it's never gonna be taken away from me. I don't
have to help you because you're less than me. You're
lower than me. I cannot with that, and I have
experienced it with even other artists, other female artists, that
feel because they've been in the game longer than I have,
(08:28):
because maybe they don't like my voice, they've accomplished more
than I have, they have more streams than I do.
They feel like, oh, she's less or I don't want
to do a duet with her because she's not on
my level. What I honestly, I used to let that
(08:49):
stuff get to me. Now I'm just like, hmmm, feels
so bad for you. I have given people opportunities because
God has given me this platform and any way that
I can help someone and they can help me and
we can help each other. Why the hell wouldn't I
do it. I never have thought that I'm too good
for anyone where it's like, I can't do this song
with her because she doesn't have a lot of followers,
(09:11):
and what is she gonna do for me. I've had
that happen to me a lot where people that I
have admired and I've wanted to do collabse with and
they have said no, and it's hurt my feelings and
I'm like, damn, that sucks. But now I look back
and it's not to make fun and it's not to
say ha ha ha, that's what you get. But they're
(09:34):
not filling up stadiums the way they used to. People
don't believe they're little acts anymore. They're not the cool
kids on the block anymore. Meanwhile, thank God, thank you guys.
Little by little things are getting better for me in
my career. And if they were to come and ask
me if they wanted to do a duet. Let's say,
(09:55):
in a year. I am fucking killing it. My streams
are crazy, like I'm filling up stadium. And they came
and said, hey, I know I said no to you before,
but would you be willing to do a duet with
me or a collab? I'd probably say yes, guys, even
though they closed the door on my face, because at
the end of the day, it's not my place to
(10:20):
judge anyone unless they did really something really messed up
to me. But all they did was say no, Yeah,
they did it hurt my feelings? Yes? Do I think
it's messed up when I do that? No, But at
least I can say, well, they'll never be able to
say that my career became what it is or what
it will be because they gave me the opportunity. Would
(10:42):
I have loved to do something with them, Yes, but
they thought they were too good for me. And that's okay.
I'm doing my thing. It's taking a little longer than others,
but a candle that burns twice as bright burns twice
as fast. The faster you get somewhere. I feel like
(11:03):
the faster the fall. It's not about getting there, it's
about sustaining yourself. And I have seen it where people
will step on anyone. These are called opportunists to get
to a place, to achieve something, and they'll screw anyone
over to get there. And they get there because again
they've screwed a lot of people over, but they don't
(11:26):
last a long time up there, and the fall, unfortunately,
is very hard. Again, I've seen it so many times,
which is why I wanted to tell you guys, be careful.
You don't have to be an artist. You don't have
to be on television to listen to what I'm saying.
(11:46):
Even in your office, if you have a higher position
than someone else, be nice, be respectful, be friendly, give
someone a smile. You never know what people are going through,
and you never know if that janitor that you are
littling freakin works his ass off for her ass off
and surpasses you. It's happened. There are so many stories
(12:09):
like that of people that started off at the lowest
position in their company and they become the chairman. Like
it happens. Guys, Be nice to everyone, Be nice to
the lady on the on the corner selling flowers. There's
nothing more beautiful than a person that is spreading and
radiating love and respecting others. And I don't know how
(12:34):
this all even started with just that little conversation that
we had, because I feel like it had nothing to
do with the issue that I was having, but it
was just I didn't get into details with you guys.
That's why as well. But I just I don't know.
I felt it in my heart and I just see
it so much, especially in my industry, especially in my industry,
you guys, it's so fucking sad. It's so depleting. It's
so I can cry about it right now, because people
(12:57):
can be so mean, Like it's so mean, and I'm
just so happy. I'm so proud to say that no
matter what, no one can never say that I was
mean to them and that I felt like I was
better than them. Granted, I'm not perfect. I'm sure I've
had an attitude or whatnot, but I always am very
(13:17):
intentional of treating people right because I am so grateful
to have everything that I have, But I also know
and I'm wise enough to know that it can be
taken away from me, and I want to treat people well,
and I want them to have this good feeling about
me when they think about Cheeky's. That's part of my legacy.
One day when I'm gone, I want people to be
able to say, she was very nice to me. She
(13:39):
gave me a smile. She didn't have to say hello
to me when I walk into a room because I'm
quote unquote no one, but she did. Like That's what
I just want to just leave in your guys's hearts
and imprint it in your mind and in your heart
is for you guys to just be fucking nice, because
it's something that I have to deal with a lot
being a woman in the industry and dealing with other women.
(14:01):
Because they asked me to interview the other day, what
do you think needs to change Cheeky's for women to
become more successful and to have a better position in
your genre. And my answer was women that are in
important positions in the industry to give us women the opportunity.
(14:21):
There's so much jealousy and the women instead of supporting women,
they support the men and they won't even give us
the time of day, and they are in high positions,
and as a woman, it makes me proud to see. Wow,
that girl got there, but she won't take the time
to look down at me or at us and say, hey,
(14:42):
let me give you an interview, let me play your music,
let me whatever the case may be. And not only that,
other artists, other women, female artists, for them to also
give us the opportunity, the ones that came before us,
to say, hey, is there any type of advice that
I can give you? Like something? And that's what I
feel is missing in the world in general. But anyways,
(15:07):
I feel like I've talked about so many different things
on this episode, but it's just I'm just talking. I
haven't even looked at my note to you guys. I
am just letting my heart speak. And this is what
I love about my podcast, that I'm able to just
talk and express myself. And it's like a form of
therapy for me. That I am out here in the
world learning and dealing with a lot of things and
a lot of people in a lot of shitty situations.
But I can turn around and talk to you guys
(15:30):
and hopefully help you and for you to learn something
from my experiences. And that's what this episode is about, really,
And now that I'm thinking about it. I mean, we
learn as children or as people. We learn a lot
(15:54):
of the things that we're passionate about, or just our
traits and how we are from our par parents and
a lot of things I didn't learn. I learned along
the way, and I learned from reading books and stuff
like that. But if I really think about it, that's
something that my mom did. My mom, even if she
had a very strong attitude, my mother was very respectful
(16:17):
and very cordial to everyone. She would also put you
in your place real quick and say some pretty mean things,
but she was straight up. She wouldn't like run around
the bush. But I think that that's definitely where I
saw it. And I saw how my mom treated everyone equally,
(16:38):
and I just thought it was just such a beautiful thing,
you know, And I thank her for that because I
see it in my siblings, and my siblings are the
same way, and that's something I guess I learned from her.
And I've led by example with my siblings and they've
seen and I love that, like I love to see
that we really really, none of them, not one of us,
(17:01):
thinks that we're better than anyone else, or we've wanted
to get out of situations or into situations because we
are the children of its like we treat people the
way we want to be treated. And I think that
that's one of the most beautiful things people can do.
And I don't mean to boast and like, you know,
to my own horn, but sometimes you just got toot it,
(17:21):
you know, tooto Lulu. You know. So I'm just very proud,
I guess, of my siblings and and I never want
to forget this. And that's why I want to like
leave it here on this podcast so that there is
a record of it and it keeps me accountable that guys,
maybe I could be like the next Beyonce. I don't know.
And I want to remember this podcast in this episode
(17:42):
and remember that I said this saying and this is
a whole other thing again, this episode is everywhere, guys.
But anyways, I choose to bend the knee to kneel
at night because that's my way of humbling myself, of
reminding myself, Yes, I did all these things all day long.
I was on television, I went on stage, whatever. But
at the end of the day, I need to humble
(18:04):
myself before a higher power and remind myself that there
is something someone higher and bigger than I am, and
that just keeps me grounded. And that's why I do it,
because I'm like, Okay, doesn't matter what I do in
the world, what position I have, at the end of
(18:26):
the day, I have someone that I need to respect.
Hopefully that makes sense. But anyways, again, guys, I appreciate
you listening to me and allowing me to express myself
and pour my heart out and allow me to be
vulnerable and cry. And this is just such a beautiful
space for me. And I'm so grateful for my podcast.
(18:48):
I'm so grateful for you guys, for my listeners, and
I just I'm out here just trying to do my thing,
do my part, and this is part of it, a
huge part of it, and I'm just grateful that you
take the time time to listen. So if you like
this podcast and you like this episode, share it, share
it with someone that you feel needs to hear this,
(19:09):
because it's never too late to change, it's never too
late to correct. So yeah, guys, I love you, and
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(19:32):
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to your favorite podcast
Hello guys, Happy Monday and Happy Labor Day. I hope
some of you are enjoying an extra long weekend because
you deserve it. We work so hard and it's so
important to make time to rest and take care of
ourselves too. Hashtag note to self. Okay, So I was
doing some thinking the other day and self reflecting about
(00:23):
how we should never feel like we're better than anyone
else or above anyone else, and so I wanted to
unpack that here on the podcast. So that's what we're
going to talk about today on Jeez and Joe. Are
you ready? Here we go? So what do I mean
by never feeling like you're above others? And why does
it matter? I've seen a lot of things in my life.
(00:46):
I've experienced quite a bit, a lot of disappointment. I
have disappointed others, and a lot of those things helped
me grow and learn. And I was sitting at my
desk and this whole idea came up because I was
dealing with some stuff with some people on my team.
(01:07):
I'm not going to say any names, it's not worth it.
We've already talked it out. But I just felt very
sad because I don't like when people feel like they
are indispensable. When people don't take accountability and responsibility. We've
talked about this so many times because it's a huge
(01:27):
pet peep. One day we're going to do an episode
of my pet peeves, because I have quite a bit. Anyways,
one of my pet peeves is when people can't humble
themselves and apologize and take accountability and their ego. And
we've talked about the ego because ego is not your amigo.
How it gets in the way of you becoming who
you are meant to be because you're afraid to be
(01:49):
vulnerable and to show your real feelings. So anyways, it's
a whole other episode. My point is, guys, that I
was in a situation where someone felt like, oh, they'll
come back, and she can't find anyone else. I cannot
with that. Like, when you give me that energy, I
will do anything, in everything to find someone else and
(02:09):
someone better. And that's just a small part of it,
because there's so much more to that story, and I
don't want to get into it because again, we talked
about things and things are not resolved, but I guess
we clear the air. I think it's just important that
we realize that anything can happen at any time. We
can be on top today and you turn around and
(02:33):
things have changed. And I've seen it with my own
two eyes, with people around me, with maybe certain family members, friendships,
where people are on top and they have all the
money in the world and the power to buy whatever
(02:54):
they want and the power to destroy people with the
money that they have and the power and the positions,
and they think that they are invincible, and then something happens.
Life shakes you up. God sits you on your ass
and everything is taken away, and all those people that
(03:16):
you treated bad along the way turn their back and say, well,
you were very mean to me. Why should I help
you when you need it, when you're on the floor.
I have seen it freaking happen, guys, I can tell you,
and you guys know, I'm very honest. I have never
in my life felt that I am better than anyone
(03:40):
or less than anyone. I like to treat people the
way I want to be treated. I will treat the president,
the CEO of the company the same exact way I
would treat the janitor that I see that's cleaning the
restroom that I just used. I promise you because I
have learned and I have seen it, and I never
(04:03):
want to go through that. I want to be able
to say I was nice to everyone, and not because
it's forced, not because I'm pretending, but because it's really
who I am. Because I know right now I can
live in this beautiful home that God has given me,
and I swear you, guys. I pray and I'm like, God,
thank you for helping me make ends meet every month,
(04:28):
because when I moved here it was a huge fucking risk.
It was like I'm taking a huge leap of faith
right now and I don't know how I'm going to
do it, but God will provide and he has provided.
And I've been in this home for three years. I
don't know how long I'm going to be here. I
don't know because the job that I have it's a career.
But it's not like this is why you, guys, I'm
so passionate about school or about learning some type of trait,
(04:49):
something that no one can ever take from you. Because
I just have my high school diploma. I didn't go
to college, and it's never too late to go to
college if I want to go and become a psychologist.
I can probably do it. It's just gonna take me
like for years or whatever. But anyways, like my job is,
so I guess the word is unreliable. I don't know
if I'm people are still gonna love me next year,
(05:11):
and if brands are still gonna want to work with me,
or you guys are still gonna want to buy my products. Like,
I don't know what happens with the entertainment world. Things
are changing so rapidly. It's getting harder and harder to
fill up these venues, and not just with me with
huge artists. Like a lot of people were in a recession.
(05:32):
A lot of people are saving their money. I see
it on e commerce, Like things are constantly changing. So
for me, I can have this position and I can
have all the things that I'm doing and you know,
Chiky Sinfield throw and my music and my books and
my podcast, but I never know what's gonna happen. So
I want to be able to be okay with knowing, Hey,
I was there and I treated people well, and those
(05:54):
people that I treated well on my way up quote unquote,
if I turn around, I need their help later or
I need to sleep on someone's couch they're not gonna say, no,
you were a bitch to me. They're probably gonna say, hey,
don't even worry, here's my couch, here's this extra room.
Let me feed you, Let me feed you and your husband. Like,
you don't have to have a high position in the
(06:16):
world to be nicer, to be mean to people. It's
just we're human beings. At the end of the day.
We are all made of bones, flesh, blood, tendons, like
we're all made the same. We all are born and
then we die. What we do in the middle of
that determines so much. So with this whole situation that happened,
(06:41):
and I was thinking, and I was feeling sad and
just disappointed with certain things and certain people just got
me thinking of just so many things and how important
it is never to feel like you are more than
anyone else, and also how important it is for you
not to feel like you're less than anyone else. Don't
feel like you're any less. Then even the President of
(07:02):
the United States, guys like I could probably be in
the same room with the guy, and it was like,
I'm going to be respectful and I'm gonna be cordial,
but you're still human at the end of the day,
you still deserve respect because of thee because you're a human.
Do I agree with everything that you do? Maybe not,
but I'm still going to be respectful. But I don't
(07:23):
feel less. I don't feel like you are better than me.
Like we have to understand like the value of being
alive and what we bring to the world and do
it every single day, like intentionally. There goes the word
intentional of being just good humans and treating people well
(07:43):
and doing good even when people aren't watching, especially when
people aren't watching. That shows if you are a person
of integrity, when you do things good things when people
aren't watching, never think like, oh, I have this position,
(08:07):
it's never gonna be taken away from me. I don't
have to help you because you're less than me. You're
lower than me. I cannot with that, and I have
experienced it with even other artists, other female artists, that
feel because they've been in the game longer than I have,
(08:28):
because maybe they don't like my voice, they've accomplished more
than I have, they have more streams than I do.
They feel like, oh, she's less or I don't want
to do a duet with her because she's not on
my level. What I honestly, I used to let that
(08:49):
stuff get to me. Now I'm just like, hmmm, feels
so bad for you. I have given people opportunities because
God has given me this platform and any way that
I can help someone and they can help me and
we can help each other. Why the hell wouldn't I
do it. I never have thought that I'm too good
for anyone where it's like, I can't do this song
with her because she doesn't have a lot of followers,
(09:11):
and what is she gonna do for me. I've had
that happen to me a lot where people that I
have admired and I've wanted to do collabse with and
they have said no, and it's hurt my feelings and
I'm like, damn, that sucks. But now I look back
and it's not to make fun and it's not to
say ha ha ha, that's what you get. But they're
(09:34):
not filling up stadiums the way they used to. People
don't believe they're little acts anymore. They're not the cool
kids on the block anymore. Meanwhile, thank God, thank you guys.
Little by little things are getting better for me in
my career. And if they were to come and ask
me if they wanted to do a duet. Let's say,
(09:55):
in a year. I am fucking killing it. My streams
are crazy, like I'm filling up stadium. And they came
and said, hey, I know I said no to you before,
but would you be willing to do a duet with
me or a collab? I'd probably say yes, guys, even
though they closed the door on my face, because at
the end of the day, it's not my place to
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judge anyone unless they did really something really messed up
to me. But all they did was say no, Yeah,
they did it hurt my feelings? Yes? Do I think
it's messed up when I do that? No, But at
least I can say, well, they'll never be able to
say that my career became what it is or what
it will be because they gave me the opportunity. Would
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I have loved to do something with them, Yes, but
they thought they were too good for me. And that's okay.
I'm doing my thing. It's taking a little longer than others,
but a candle that burns twice as bright burns twice
as fast. The faster you get somewhere. I feel like
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the faster the fall. It's not about getting there, it's
about sustaining yourself. And I have seen it where people
will step on anyone. These are called opportunists to get
to a place, to achieve something, and they'll screw anyone
over to get there. And they get there because again
they've screwed a lot of people over, but they don't
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last a long time up there, and the fall, unfortunately,
is very hard. Again, I've seen it so many times,
which is why I wanted to tell you guys, be careful.
You don't have to be an artist. You don't have
to be on television to listen to what I'm saying.
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Even in your office, if you have a higher position
than someone else, be nice, be respectful, be friendly, give
someone a smile. You never know what people are going through,
and you never know if that janitor that you are
littling freakin works his ass off for her ass off
and surpasses you. It's happened. There are so many stories
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like that of people that started off at the lowest
position in their company and they become the chairman. Like
it happens. Guys, Be nice to everyone, Be nice to
the lady on the on the corner selling flowers. There's
nothing more beautiful than a person that is spreading and
radiating love and respecting others. And I don't know how
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this all even started with just that little conversation that
we had, because I feel like it had nothing to
do with the issue that I was having, but it
was just I didn't get into details with you guys.
That's why as well. But I just I don't know.
I felt it in my heart and I just see
it so much, especially in my industry, especially in my industry,
you guys, it's so fucking sad. It's so depleting. It's
so I can cry about it right now, because people
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can be so mean, Like it's so mean, and I'm
just so happy. I'm so proud to say that no
matter what, no one can never say that I was
mean to them and that I felt like I was
better than them. Granted, I'm not perfect. I'm sure I've
had an attitude or whatnot, but I always am very
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intentional of treating people right because I am so grateful
to have everything that I have, But I also know
and I'm wise enough to know that it can be
taken away from me, and I want to treat people well,
and I want them to have this good feeling about
me when they think about Cheeky's. That's part of my legacy.
One day when I'm gone, I want people to be
able to say, she was very nice to me. She
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gave me a smile. She didn't have to say hello
to me when I walk into a room because I'm
quote unquote no one, but she did. Like That's what
I just want to just leave in your guys's hearts
and imprint it in your mind and in your heart
is for you guys to just be fucking nice, because
it's something that I have to deal with a lot
being a woman in the industry and dealing with other women.
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Because they asked me to interview the other day, what
do you think needs to change Cheeky's for women to
become more successful and to have a better position in
your genre. And my answer was women that are in
important positions in the industry to give us women the opportunity.
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There's so much jealousy and the women instead of supporting women,
they support the men and they won't even give us
the time of day, and they are in high positions,
and as a woman, it makes me proud to see. Wow,
that girl got there, but she won't take the time
to look down at me or at us and say, hey,
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let me give you an interview, let me play your music,
let me whatever the case may be. And not only that,
other artists, other women, female artists, for them to also
give us the opportunity, the ones that came before us,
to say, hey, is there any type of advice that
I can give you? Like something? And that's what I
feel is missing in the world in general. But anyways,
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I feel like I've talked about so many different things
on this episode, but it's just I'm just talking. I
haven't even looked at my note to you guys. I
am just letting my heart speak. And this is what
I love about my podcast, that I'm able to just
talk and express myself. And it's like a form of
therapy for me. That I am out here in the
world learning and dealing with a lot of things and
a lot of people in a lot of shitty situations.
But I can turn around and talk to you guys
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and hopefully help you and for you to learn something
from my experiences. And that's what this episode is about, really,
And now that I'm thinking about it. I mean, we
learn as children or as people. We learn a lot
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of the things that we're passionate about, or just our
traits and how we are from our par parents and
a lot of things I didn't learn. I learned along
the way, and I learned from reading books and stuff
like that. But if I really think about it, that's
something that my mom did. My mom, even if she
had a very strong attitude, my mother was very respectful
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and very cordial to everyone. She would also put you
in your place real quick and say some pretty mean things,
but she was straight up. She wouldn't like run around
the bush. But I think that that's definitely where I
saw it. And I saw how my mom treated everyone equally,
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and I just thought it was just such a beautiful thing,
you know, And I thank her for that because I
see it in my siblings, and my siblings are the
same way, and that's something I guess I learned from her.
And I've led by example with my siblings and they've
seen and I love that, like I love to see
that we really really, none of them, not one of us,
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thinks that we're better than anyone else, or we've wanted
to get out of situations or into situations because we
are the children of its like we treat people the
way we want to be treated. And I think that
that's one of the most beautiful things people can do.
And I don't mean to boast and like, you know,
to my own horn, but sometimes you just got toot it,
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you know, tooto Lulu. You know. So I'm just very proud,
I guess, of my siblings and and I never want
to forget this. And that's why I want to like
leave it here on this podcast so that there is
a record of it and it keeps me accountable that guys,
maybe I could be like the next Beyonce. I don't know.
And I want to remember this podcast in this episode
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and remember that I said this saying and this is
a whole other thing again, this episode is everywhere, guys.
But anyways, I choose to bend the knee to kneel
at night because that's my way of humbling myself, of
reminding myself, Yes, I did all these things all day long.
I was on television, I went on stage, whatever. But
at the end of the day, I need to humble
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myself before a higher power and remind myself that there
is something someone higher and bigger than I am, and
that just keeps me grounded. And that's why I do it,
because I'm like, Okay, doesn't matter what I do in
the world, what position I have, at the end of
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the day, I have someone that I need to respect.
Hopefully that makes sense. But anyways, again, guys, I appreciate
you listening to me and allowing me to express myself
and pour my heart out and allow me to be
vulnerable and cry. And this is just such a beautiful
space for me. And I'm so grateful for my podcast.
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I'm so grateful for you guys, for my listeners, and
I just I'm out here just trying to do my thing,
do my part, and this is part of it, a
huge part of it, and I'm just grateful that you
take the time time to listen. So if you like
this podcast and you like this episode, share it, share
it with someone that you feel needs to hear this,
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because it's never too late to change, it's never too
late to correct. So yeah, guys, I love you, and
I will catch you on the next episode of Cheekys
and Chill. I appreciate you. Have a beautiful rest of
your week. Okay, besitos. Do you need advice on love, relationships,
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health emails? I'm so excited to share with you that
my Cheekys and Chill podcast will have an extra episode
drop each week. I'll be answering all your questions. Just
leave me a voice message. All you have to do
is go to speak pipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and
Chill podcast and record your questions. I can't wait to
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