May 19, 2025 • 20 mins
Hello, hello! Thank you for taking some time out of your day to listen to this week’s episode of Chiquis and Chill. Today, it’s just me and the mic and I’m talking all about using social media – and other platforms – to spread goodness into the world. Tune in to hear why I think that’s important – and why I’ve gone as far as unfollowed a few people who refuse to do the same.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hello everyone, and welcome to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill.
Thank you so much for taking some time out of
your day to listen to my podcast. It means so
much to me, so thank you. I'm so happy that
you're here. Like all my platforms, including social media and
even through my music, I tried to use it for good.
Doesn't matter what it is, music, my books, my skincare
(00:28):
anything and everything. I always wanted to have some type
of meaning behind it, a message for you guys, to
inspire you to be your best self. And of course,
if you follow me on social media, I'm always posting devotionals,
quote anything that helps me. So I want to help you,
(00:50):
and I know it could be hard because with social media,
I've noticed myself that people want drama or sexiness. I
have noticed in the past few years that the more
positive things I post, the less likes or views. It's
(01:14):
always the more sexy stuff or the drama that gets
more attention. So I wanted to talk about that and
how to use your platform for good. All right, So
where do I start? The reason why I wanted to
talk about this social media and the responsibility that we
(01:37):
have because social media is everything that's how we get
our news, our current events. We know what's going on
in people's lives. There really isn't any more privacy unless
you're very intentional about it and adamant about being more private.
And I have tried to be a little bit more
private now, especially with my relationship or certain things. I'm like,
(01:58):
I'm trying not to share as much on social media,
and not even because I'm trying, it just has happened.
I think being with someone like a media who's a
little bit more reserved, who isn't so much on social
media has helped me out and being a little bit
more present, not having that need to record everything and
share everything. And if I do share it secretly, you guys,
(02:23):
I do it one or two days after, not in
like the moment, and I feel better. I feel better.
I did go through like a little sour sweet and
sour I should say time or moment with social media
because I felt a little disappointed, for the lack of
a better word, I wasn't really jiving with it because
(02:48):
I felt like the things that I was posting. I
don't know if it's the algorithm, especially on Instagram, guys,
but things are changing and I was like, you know what,
I'm gonna stop post as much. I'm going to stop
sharing because I felt that I wasn't getting the feedback,
I guess, or the reaction or even the engagement that
(03:11):
I had been getting. But I think it's because I'm
also changing. I'm becoming more of my authentic self. But
at that time, I was disappointed because I'm like, what
is going on? Am I losing my mojo sort of thing?
But I had to just kind of switch my mind
and say, you know what, my social media is my
(03:33):
social media, it is a blessing. I have never bought
one follower, you guys. I've never bought any likes. I've
never bought any views. And that started making me feel
really good because I know that a lot of people
do that, and that is their prerogative, that is their business.
But I take a lot of pride in not even
on YouTube, you guys, Have I ever said, Okay, I'm
(03:54):
gonna buy for one hundred I know, one hundred million views.
I've never gotten a hundred million views. But you know,
I feel I like things to grow organically, and I
want to know that the people that are liking myself
and viewing my stuff are the people that want to,
that want to consume what I'm giving, And that makes
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me feel good. If people have muted me or unfollowed
me because I'm too positive or I'm this or I'm that,
and maybe it comes off as fake to them because
I post my God mornings, and trust me, if I
don't feel like posting a God Morning, I won't post it.
If I don't feel like a quote hits my heart
or I feel like I want to share it because
it's so good, I want people to know I won't
(04:37):
do it. Everything is very organic on my social media.
That's a promise that I've made to myself because again,
I want the people that are following me to be
organic followers. And if they were used to the way
I ran my social media before and they don't like
me anymore or want to follow me, I'm totally fine
with that. I came to peace with that because it
(04:58):
was affecting me and I was like, why am I
letting numbers affect me? Like, oh, I'm not getting as
many likes or I'm not getting as many views, or
you know, the retention isn't there anymore? Who cares? Like,
as long as I'm helping one person because that is
what I that is my mission, and so be it.
Mind you, this is just a side note because the
(05:20):
reason I really wanted to talk about social media was
because when everything was happening with the fires, I was
very disappointed. It was very disheartening for me to see
people that I support, that I care about, that live
in my same city, that have a lot of influence,
that they did not care at all, and it just
(05:42):
really turned me off. I even unfollowed a few people
because of it. I'm just very passionate about certain things.
I'm a very passionate person, and when that was happening, guys,
it affected I mean, I saw a lot of crazy
shit that people were saying, a lot of really nasty
you know, like that's good la. People deserve it, you know,
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all the things that happen in Hollywood, and this is
why they're being punished. It's just so many things that
it was so sad, and still people are being affected
and have been affected by it. And anyway, my point
is there were people that did not post, that did
not care, that just went about their life because they
weren't being directly affected, and that pisses me. Off because
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I truly believe this is my opinion that if God
has given you this platform and has given you talents
or even the talent of people wanting to watch you
and listen to you, you could post whatever you want,
even if it is you and a thong. But also
there has to be some substance. In my opinion, there
(06:52):
has to be also a way of giving back to
the people that purchase or support your businesses, or support
your music, or support you by going to your concerts.
And yes, I'm talking about artists, I'm talking about influencers,
people that have a lot of following, people that sell
and sell and sell every single day on their social media.
And while we were going through this, didn't post one
(07:15):
thing about, hey, my prayers go out to the people
that are being affected. To me, that is a huge
no no for me, which is why I decided to
unfollow some people. And That's where I'm at right now, Like,
if your social media is not giving me something to
(07:35):
feel good about, I'm done. I'm done pretending. If I'm
not ready to unfollow you, I'm gonna mute you. And
now I'm more of like I'm just gonna unfollow because
I also want to make sure that what's on my
feed and what pops up on my feed is something
that's gonna make me feel good and make me want
to be a better person. And that's just my opinion.
(07:57):
That is just what I want to do. That is
my choice, And I just wanted to share this with
you guys because again, my podcast is my safe place,
and because I also want you guys to think about
what you're putting out there. What do you want to
be known for? What do you want to give back
with your platform. It's a huge responsibility. Social media isn't
(08:30):
all bad, and I don't want to say it because
it's helped me a lot, and I'm very grateful for
my platform. I'm grateful that I'm able to sell my skincare,
that I'm able to share my thoughts and my opinions
with you guys and the things that I'm passionate about.
And it's a blessing, which is why I do my
best to take care of what I have and what
(08:53):
I've been given and the blessing and give back in
any way that I possibly can. And I think it's
important to just keep things flowing and paying it forward
to do that, to keep that energy going. And it's
just it's kind of sad because I see that the
attention span is getting shorter and shorter, and I'm worried.
(09:16):
It kind of worries me a little bit for generations
to come, and which is why I'm like, I am
so adamant about being myself and sharing whatever the heck
I want to share that is going to help other people.
And I do a lot of notes to myself on
there as well, because I'm like, Okay, I need to
remember this and this is not just for other people
(09:37):
or saying I'm perfect, Like no, A lot of the
things that I post are to remind myself. And when
I'm having a bad day, guys, I freaking say it,
I'm like, you know what, I'm not feeling good. Have
you guys been feeling the same energy, or I'm in
a bad mood or someone piss me off. Like I
want to be completely organic and one hundred percent honest
with you guys, in transparent and anything that I do,
especially on my social media, because that's how you guys
get to know me. But also I do feel like
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I need to hold on to the little substance that
there is, which is why I've been trying to consume
and follow different type of people. And if I've unfollowed you,
please don't get offended. And if you have a question,
ask me. I am praying you, guys for someone to
send me a DM that iun followed, Like, Hey, you
unfollowed me? Is there a reason? I want to have
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a discussion about it, Like I want to be able
to tell them. Maybe they haven't even noticed, maybe they
don't even care, but I want to be able to
tell people. Some people I stop them following because they
don't post or I haven't they haven't come across my
feed in a long time, and I'm like, okay, well
maybe we're just not meshing, so I'll unfollow. But there
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are other people where I'm like, there's a huge reason
why I unfollowed, and I would love for them to
ask me. I would love it because I want to
have these deep conversations with people and hopefully wake them
up and say hey, like, this can be taken away
from you at any time. Right now, you feel like
you're on top of the world, and you know you're
thriving and your business is doing amazing, but dude, show
(11:06):
some love, even if it hadn't happened in La Guys,
I'm still the type of person anything that happens in
the world that I'm aware of, because there's some things
that happened and I don't even know. But I'm like,
I'm going to use my platform to help people, to
help small businesses, to uplift women and men, to help
in relationships, to show you, guys that I understand. You know,
(11:27):
even when the fires happened in MAUI like, I was
devastated because I'm like, oh my goodness, guys, like this
this is going to affect us in so many ways
that maybe people don't even realize. It was such a
crazy time and it felt so heavy in my heart,
and I appreciate everyone that posted and reached out and helped.
I did love seeing how people came together when I
(11:50):
went out and helped and volunteered. I saw how the
community came together and they were helping each other and
didn't even know one another. It was beautiful. But then again,
there's always another side to things, which is why I'm
doing this podcast because I did see that a lot
of people that I admire, that I again, that I admire,
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that I care about, that I support, did not give
an f and they were just going about their business
like nothing was happening in the world. And I'm like, hello,
so many people lost their homes. Imagine God forbid it
would have been them. I don't know, huge turn off.
And you know, guys, I've been thinking does this have
(12:34):
to do with my age and the place that I'm in?
And I thought about it, and I always do these
heart checks. I'm like, Okay, where is my heart? Where's
my mind? I do this thing right? But no, if
I think back, I think it's just part of my personality.
My brother Mikey always makes fun of me. He's like, oh,
here you go with your positive shit. But even though
he's joking, but I think there must be people out
there that think that way, and that's fine. And again,
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maybe my social media isn't for everyone. We talked about
this on an episode with Dramas guys about finding your
life purpose. My life purpose, I have it very clear.
It really is changing the world one harder at a time.
And that's why I use my platform the way I
use it. And maybe that's not your you don't feel
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like that's your purpose, and that's okay, But it just
feels so much better. Guys, to give more light and
more love and more light content, even funny stuff. I
love watching comedian stuff. I'm not saying that everything on
social media is bad, but if there's constantly someone that's
in drama and fighting and all this stuff, I'm just like, dude,
there's just for me, too much darkness there. I'm gonna
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mute you because I like you as a person, but
I don't really like what you post on social media because,
believe it or not, there are people that I like
in real life but I don't like on social media,
and I won't say who. But I'm like, dude, the
person that I see and that I talk to and
that I enjoy in real life, I don't know if
that's really you or you're portraying your real self or
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your true authentic self on social media. And that's one
thing that I have told myself. I want to be
myself in person on social media. I want people to
know me for me, and I want people to love
me for me, for my good or for my bad
or if I annoy you, then I annoy you, and
it is what it is. But I think this has
been me since forever. I mean. I remember driving my
little Scion, one of my first cars, and I was
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so into recycling and I would write on my car reduce, reuse, recycle,
save the world, save the planet, and I would drive
around the city and Corona okay with these colorful ass markers.
Although for my car, my mom thought I was crazy.
But I've always been this person that I'm like, okay
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if I have, even if people didn't know who I was.
Back then, i was just little Jane living in Corona,
helping her mom out, and I felt very passionate about
helping the earth and saving the earth. So I've always
been this person. Now I just have this platform, and
now even more so, I feel I want to help
in any way that I possibly can. So it doesn't
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matter if you're this popular person or influencer or not.
I just think you need to know what you want
to leave in this world, what you want to leave behind,
and let that show through your social media whatever that is.
If it is booty shaking videos, so be it. I've
done it too. I do it too. I love shaking
my booty, I love dancing. I'm not saying that I'm
like this perfect angel. I cuss, I mess up sometimes,
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but ninety percent of the time, I'm like, I want
to be a light in the world and I want
to shine my light in the world and help other people.
And if I make a mistake, I'll say it too.
But I think we just need to have that clear
and that comes with part of finding your life purpose,
whatever that may be. So if you haven't heard that
episode of the Dramas, it was amazing, listen to that
(15:58):
episode here chi chill, guys, and maybe that'll help you
a little bit. Again, I'm not trying to make anyone
feel bad at all, but I'm just again, We've been
talking about this whole shifting thing since last year, in
like November October, and I really just want to be
a little bit more vocal without offending people or without
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having the need to say names, but talk about things
that I'm very passionate about, things that I'm realizing myself,
so that I can share them with you guys and
hopefully inspire you. You know, this podcast is all about
helping you become your best self and inspiring you to
become your best self, because that's the journey I'm on.
Every single day. I try my best. Some days are
(16:45):
better than others. But I do feel that social media
is taking over everything and it's a good thing and
it could be a bad thing, but also the choice
is yours. So now I notice a bunch of motivational
stuff comes up on my popular page, because that's what
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I've been like wanting, I've been searching, you know, So
it's just fruit for thought, guys, and nothing more than that.
And a lot of people were asking, and we're very
curious to know who I was talking about during that
time in January when the fires were happening, about who
I had n't followed and who had disappointed me. But again,
(17:28):
I don't think it's necessary to say any names, Like
I have love for these people, but I choose to
love them from afar and just kind of cup ties
and just say, hey, it is what it is and
we're just not the same people anymore, and that's okay too.
And someone also asked me if I had reached out
to anyone that I had unfollowed or that weren't necessarily
(17:50):
posting or you know, let's just you know, talking about
the fires, because that's what we've been talking about on
this on this episode. But I I did not reach
out to anyone personally. I did notice that they watched
my video and then posted, and I was happy about that,
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but I did not reach out to anyone personally. I
probably should have. Maybe I want to get better at that, guys.
I do want to get better at telling people in
a respectful way if something bothers me, to let them
know and also give them the opportunity to respond and
not necessarily defend themselves, but defend their point of view.
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I do want to get better with that, because it's fair,
it's only fair. Maybe I will, maybe I will send
them a message and let them know. Hey, I don't
know if you've noticed, but I unfollowed you because of
X Y and Z, and you know, maybe there will
be some healing and some realization on both of our
parts with having that conversation. And yeah, so that's all.
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That's it for this episode, guys. I I hope that
this resonates with you and also gives you some clarity
on maybe some questions or concerns that you guys had.
I don't like drama. I don't want drama, and I'm
not trying to cause any issues with anyone. This is
just again my personal opinion and what I want to
do with my social media because I have it very
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clear what my mission in this world is and what
my purpose in life is, and that with time. You guys,
that's another thing I wanted to mention. Your purpose doesn't
have to stay the same forever. Things can change or
they can look a little different. I mean, I don't
know if we mentioned that in the episode with Dramas,
but again, listen to it. It's a really good one.
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And yeah, that's it. Thank you guys so much for listening.
So since I just get on here and I just
want to talk to you guys, and things just flow
out of my heart and I don't even really prepare
and I feel like this was one of those episodes
where I'm just speaking to you from my heart to
yours and hopefully it just inspires you to do things
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differently or or not. Whatever the case, I still love
you and I appreciate you. So thank you for listening
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Hello everyone, and welcome to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill.
Thank you so much for taking some time out of
your day to listen to my podcast. It means so
much to me, so thank you. I'm so happy that
you're here. Like all my platforms, including social media and
even through my music, I tried to use it for good.
Doesn't matter what it is, music, my books, my skincare
(00:28):
anything and everything. I always wanted to have some type
of meaning behind it, a message for you guys, to
inspire you to be your best self. And of course,
if you follow me on social media, I'm always posting devotionals,
quote anything that helps me. So I want to help you,
(00:50):
and I know it could be hard because with social media,
I've noticed myself that people want drama or sexiness. I
have noticed in the past few years that the more
positive things I post, the less likes or views. It's
(01:14):
always the more sexy stuff or the drama that gets
more attention. So I wanted to talk about that and
how to use your platform for good. All right, So
where do I start? The reason why I wanted to
talk about this social media and the responsibility that we
(01:37):
have because social media is everything that's how we get
our news, our current events. We know what's going on
in people's lives. There really isn't any more privacy unless
you're very intentional about it and adamant about being more private.
And I have tried to be a little bit more
private now, especially with my relationship or certain things. I'm like,
(01:58):
I'm trying not to share as much on social media,
and not even because I'm trying, it just has happened.
I think being with someone like a media who's a
little bit more reserved, who isn't so much on social
media has helped me out and being a little bit
more present, not having that need to record everything and
share everything. And if I do share it secretly, you guys,
(02:23):
I do it one or two days after, not in
like the moment, and I feel better. I feel better.
I did go through like a little sour sweet and
sour I should say time or moment with social media
because I felt a little disappointed, for the lack of
a better word, I wasn't really jiving with it because
(02:48):
I felt like the things that I was posting. I
don't know if it's the algorithm, especially on Instagram, guys,
but things are changing and I was like, you know what,
I'm gonna stop post as much. I'm going to stop
sharing because I felt that I wasn't getting the feedback,
I guess, or the reaction or even the engagement that
(03:11):
I had been getting. But I think it's because I'm
also changing. I'm becoming more of my authentic self. But
at that time, I was disappointed because I'm like, what
is going on? Am I losing my mojo sort of thing?
But I had to just kind of switch my mind
and say, you know what, my social media is my
(03:33):
social media, it is a blessing. I have never bought
one follower, you guys. I've never bought any likes. I've
never bought any views. And that started making me feel
really good because I know that a lot of people
do that, and that is their prerogative, that is their business.
But I take a lot of pride in not even
on YouTube, you guys, Have I ever said, Okay, I'm
(03:54):
gonna buy for one hundred I know, one hundred million views.
I've never gotten a hundred million views. But you know,
I feel I like things to grow organically, and I
want to know that the people that are liking myself
and viewing my stuff are the people that want to,
that want to consume what I'm giving, And that makes
(04:16):
me feel good. If people have muted me or unfollowed
me because I'm too positive or I'm this or I'm that,
and maybe it comes off as fake to them because
I post my God mornings, and trust me, if I
don't feel like posting a God Morning, I won't post it.
If I don't feel like a quote hits my heart
or I feel like I want to share it because
it's so good, I want people to know I won't
(04:37):
do it. Everything is very organic on my social media.
That's a promise that I've made to myself because again,
I want the people that are following me to be
organic followers. And if they were used to the way
I ran my social media before and they don't like
me anymore or want to follow me, I'm totally fine
with that. I came to peace with that because it
(04:58):
was affecting me and I was like, why am I
letting numbers affect me? Like, oh, I'm not getting as
many likes or I'm not getting as many views, or
you know, the retention isn't there anymore? Who cares? Like,
as long as I'm helping one person because that is
what I that is my mission, and so be it.
Mind you, this is just a side note because the
(05:20):
reason I really wanted to talk about social media was
because when everything was happening with the fires, I was
very disappointed. It was very disheartening for me to see
people that I support, that I care about, that live
in my same city, that have a lot of influence,
that they did not care at all, and it just
(05:42):
really turned me off. I even unfollowed a few people
because of it. I'm just very passionate about certain things.
I'm a very passionate person, and when that was happening, guys,
it affected I mean, I saw a lot of crazy
shit that people were saying, a lot of really nasty
you know, like that's good la. People deserve it, you know,
(06:06):
all the things that happen in Hollywood, and this is
why they're being punished. It's just so many things that
it was so sad, and still people are being affected
and have been affected by it. And anyway, my point
is there were people that did not post, that did
not care, that just went about their life because they
weren't being directly affected, and that pisses me. Off because
(06:30):
I truly believe this is my opinion that if God
has given you this platform and has given you talents
or even the talent of people wanting to watch you
and listen to you, you could post whatever you want,
even if it is you and a thong. But also
there has to be some substance. In my opinion, there
(06:52):
has to be also a way of giving back to
the people that purchase or support your businesses, or support
your music, or support you by going to your concerts.
And yes, I'm talking about artists, I'm talking about influencers,
people that have a lot of following, people that sell
and sell and sell every single day on their social media.
And while we were going through this, didn't post one
(07:15):
thing about, hey, my prayers go out to the people
that are being affected. To me, that is a huge
no no for me, which is why I decided to
unfollow some people. And That's where I'm at right now, Like,
if your social media is not giving me something to
(07:35):
feel good about, I'm done. I'm done pretending. If I'm
not ready to unfollow you, I'm gonna mute you. And
now I'm more of like I'm just gonna unfollow because
I also want to make sure that what's on my
feed and what pops up on my feed is something
that's gonna make me feel good and make me want
to be a better person. And that's just my opinion.
(07:57):
That is just what I want to do. That is
my choice, And I just wanted to share this with
you guys because again, my podcast is my safe place,
and because I also want you guys to think about
what you're putting out there. What do you want to
be known for? What do you want to give back
with your platform. It's a huge responsibility. Social media isn't
(08:30):
all bad, and I don't want to say it because
it's helped me a lot, and I'm very grateful for
my platform. I'm grateful that I'm able to sell my skincare,
that I'm able to share my thoughts and my opinions
with you guys and the things that I'm passionate about.
And it's a blessing, which is why I do my
best to take care of what I have and what
(08:53):
I've been given and the blessing and give back in
any way that I possibly can. And I think it's
important to just keep things flowing and paying it forward
to do that, to keep that energy going. And it's
just it's kind of sad because I see that the
attention span is getting shorter and shorter, and I'm worried.
(09:16):
It kind of worries me a little bit for generations
to come, and which is why I'm like, I am
so adamant about being myself and sharing whatever the heck
I want to share that is going to help other people.
And I do a lot of notes to myself on
there as well, because I'm like, Okay, I need to
remember this and this is not just for other people
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or saying I'm perfect, Like no, A lot of the
things that I post are to remind myself. And when
I'm having a bad day, guys, I freaking say it,
I'm like, you know what, I'm not feeling good. Have
you guys been feeling the same energy, or I'm in
a bad mood or someone piss me off. Like I
want to be completely organic and one hundred percent honest
with you guys, in transparent and anything that I do,
especially on my social media, because that's how you guys
get to know me. But also I do feel like
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I need to hold on to the little substance that
there is, which is why I've been trying to consume
and follow different type of people. And if I've unfollowed you,
please don't get offended. And if you have a question,
ask me. I am praying you, guys for someone to
send me a DM that iun followed, Like, Hey, you
unfollowed me? Is there a reason? I want to have
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a discussion about it, Like I want to be able
to tell them. Maybe they haven't even noticed, maybe they
don't even care, but I want to be able to
tell people. Some people I stop them following because they
don't post or I haven't they haven't come across my
feed in a long time, and I'm like, okay, well
maybe we're just not meshing, so I'll unfollow. But there
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are other people where I'm like, there's a huge reason
why I unfollowed, and I would love for them to
ask me. I would love it because I want to
have these deep conversations with people and hopefully wake them
up and say hey, like, this can be taken away
from you at any time. Right now, you feel like
you're on top of the world, and you know you're
thriving and your business is doing amazing, but dude, show
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some love, even if it hadn't happened in La Guys,
I'm still the type of person anything that happens in
the world that I'm aware of, because there's some things
that happened and I don't even know. But I'm like,
I'm going to use my platform to help people, to
help small businesses, to uplift women and men, to help
in relationships, to show you, guys that I understand. You know,
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even when the fires happened in MAUI like, I was
devastated because I'm like, oh my goodness, guys, like this
this is going to affect us in so many ways
that maybe people don't even realize. It was such a
crazy time and it felt so heavy in my heart,
and I appreciate everyone that posted and reached out and helped.
I did love seeing how people came together when I
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went out and helped and volunteered. I saw how the
community came together and they were helping each other and
didn't even know one another. It was beautiful. But then again,
there's always another side to things, which is why I'm
doing this podcast because I did see that a lot
of people that I admire, that I again, that I admire,
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that I care about, that I support, did not give
an f and they were just going about their business
like nothing was happening in the world. And I'm like, hello,
so many people lost their homes. Imagine God forbid it
would have been them. I don't know, huge turn off.
And you know, guys, I've been thinking does this have
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to do with my age and the place that I'm in?
And I thought about it, and I always do these
heart checks. I'm like, Okay, where is my heart? Where's
my mind? I do this thing right? But no, if
I think back, I think it's just part of my personality.
My brother Mikey always makes fun of me. He's like, oh,
here you go with your positive shit. But even though
he's joking, but I think there must be people out
there that think that way, and that's fine. And again,
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maybe my social media isn't for everyone. We talked about
this on an episode with Dramas guys about finding your
life purpose. My life purpose, I have it very clear.
It really is changing the world one harder at a time.
And that's why I use my platform the way I
use it. And maybe that's not your you don't feel
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like that's your purpose, and that's okay, But it just
feels so much better. Guys, to give more light and
more love and more light content, even funny stuff. I
love watching comedian stuff. I'm not saying that everything on
social media is bad, but if there's constantly someone that's
in drama and fighting and all this stuff, I'm just like, dude,
there's just for me, too much darkness there. I'm gonna
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mute you because I like you as a person, but
I don't really like what you post on social media because,
believe it or not, there are people that I like
in real life but I don't like on social media,
and I won't say who. But I'm like, dude, the
person that I see and that I talk to and
that I enjoy in real life, I don't know if
that's really you or you're portraying your real self or
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your true authentic self on social media. And that's one
thing that I have told myself. I want to be
myself in person on social media. I want people to
know me for me, and I want people to love
me for me, for my good or for my bad
or if I annoy you, then I annoy you, and
it is what it is. But I think this has
been me since forever. I mean. I remember driving my
little Scion, one of my first cars, and I was
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so into recycling and I would write on my car reduce, reuse, recycle,
save the world, save the planet, and I would drive
around the city and Corona okay with these colorful ass markers.
Although for my car, my mom thought I was crazy.
But I've always been this person that I'm like, okay
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if I have, even if people didn't know who I was.
Back then, i was just little Jane living in Corona,
helping her mom out, and I felt very passionate about
helping the earth and saving the earth. So I've always
been this person. Now I just have this platform, and
now even more so, I feel I want to help
in any way that I possibly can. So it doesn't
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matter if you're this popular person or influencer or not.
I just think you need to know what you want
to leave in this world, what you want to leave behind,
and let that show through your social media whatever that is.
If it is booty shaking videos, so be it. I've
done it too. I do it too. I love shaking
my booty, I love dancing. I'm not saying that I'm
like this perfect angel. I cuss, I mess up sometimes,
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but ninety percent of the time, I'm like, I want
to be a light in the world and I want
to shine my light in the world and help other people.
And if I make a mistake, I'll say it too.
But I think we just need to have that clear
and that comes with part of finding your life purpose,
whatever that may be. So if you haven't heard that
episode of the Dramas, it was amazing, listen to that
(15:58):
episode here chi chill, guys, and maybe that'll help you
a little bit. Again, I'm not trying to make anyone
feel bad at all, but I'm just again, We've been
talking about this whole shifting thing since last year, in
like November October, and I really just want to be
a little bit more vocal without offending people or without
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having the need to say names, but talk about things
that I'm very passionate about, things that I'm realizing myself,
so that I can share them with you guys and
hopefully inspire you. You know, this podcast is all about
helping you become your best self and inspiring you to
become your best self, because that's the journey I'm on.
Every single day. I try my best. Some days are
(16:45):
better than others. But I do feel that social media
is taking over everything and it's a good thing and
it could be a bad thing, but also the choice
is yours. So now I notice a bunch of motivational
stuff comes up on my popular page, because that's what
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I've been like wanting, I've been searching, you know, So
it's just fruit for thought, guys, and nothing more than that.
And a lot of people were asking, and we're very
curious to know who I was talking about during that
time in January when the fires were happening, about who
I had n't followed and who had disappointed me. But again,
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I don't think it's necessary to say any names, Like
I have love for these people, but I choose to
love them from afar and just kind of cup ties
and just say, hey, it is what it is and
we're just not the same people anymore, and that's okay too.
And someone also asked me if I had reached out
to anyone that I had unfollowed or that weren't necessarily
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posting or you know, let's just you know, talking about
the fires, because that's what we've been talking about on
this on this episode. But I I did not reach
out to anyone personally. I did notice that they watched
my video and then posted, and I was happy about that,
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but I did not reach out to anyone personally. I
probably should have. Maybe I want to get better at that, guys.
I do want to get better at telling people in
a respectful way if something bothers me, to let them
know and also give them the opportunity to respond and
not necessarily defend themselves, but defend their point of view.
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I do want to get better with that, because it's fair,
it's only fair. Maybe I will, maybe I will send
them a message and let them know. Hey, I don't
know if you've noticed, but I unfollowed you because of
X Y and Z, and you know, maybe there will
be some healing and some realization on both of our
parts with having that conversation. And yeah, so that's all.
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That's it for this episode, guys. I I hope that
this resonates with you and also gives you some clarity
on maybe some questions or concerns that you guys had.
I don't like drama. I don't want drama, and I'm
not trying to cause any issues with anyone. This is
just again my personal opinion and what I want to
do with my social media because I have it very
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clear what my mission in this world is and what
my purpose in life is, and that with time. You guys,
that's another thing I wanted to mention. Your purpose doesn't
have to stay the same forever. Things can change or
they can look a little different. I mean, I don't
know if we mentioned that in the episode with Dramas,
but again, listen to it. It's a really good one.
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And yeah, that's it. Thank you guys so much for listening.
So since I just get on here and I just
want to talk to you guys, and things just flow
out of my heart and I don't even really prepare
and I feel like this was one of those episodes
where I'm just speaking to you from my heart to
yours and hopefully it just inspires you to do things
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differently or or not. Whatever the case, I still love
you and I appreciate you. So thank you for listening
to Cheeky's and chill and also remember we have Dear Cheeky's.
The questions have been so lit, so good, a variety
of questions on Dear Cheeky, so definitely listen in and
Nada ros Quiro Muco. Thank you so much and remember
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radiate love and peace and everything that you want to attract.
Give that to the world in order for you to
receive it. And that's all. I love you, Besitos. This
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