July 21, 2025 • 52 mins
Sharelle and Alexis react to a new relationship hack or is it just a big red flag, how to navigate when business meets friendship, and Tyler Perry revealed he had to fire his own aunt, and much more!
Timeline:
00:00 - Introduction
04:21 - Sleep Divorce
15:23 - Business meets friendship
30:07 - Tyler Perry
39:31 - HOA put someone in jail
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I get in my weight, never out of my lane.
It's been like you one in the mon one.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
So what is gonna be?
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Baby Squada?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
We's been to go, d you running on us?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
God? What you need? Baby? Won't you keep me company?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Give me something to do and I get only I
just someone for you when we get home, if you
let me put it when I at the time, my legs.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Hey, alexis hi. It's been forever you've been traveling and
doing in your bag, doing your big things. I've been
watching clapping from a farm.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
I appreciate it. I had to go step to Vegas.
It was around summer league time, so it was there
with my daughters and my sister met me from La.
Shout out to them for making the trip. It was
a girl's trip. It was like a sister's trip. And
just spoke on a panel for She's Got Time Swim Cash.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
From the Olympian.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
The w NBA player has a platform for women in sports.
And it was a summit, a two day summit, so
four hundred, four hundred ladies and gents and we were there,
you know, just spreading some love and giving some confidence boosters.
So shout out to all the ladies that attended and
(01:20):
the ladies.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
That I were on the panel with. It just was
a good time. It was just you know, refreshing. And
I haven't been to Vegas, especially for Summer League and
like over ten plus years, and I just to go
back full circle and to run into people that I
haven't seen in a long time and just be there
(01:41):
as a Lexus.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Was like really humbling and very much fulfilling for me.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
And then to see my daughters, to see me their
mom and her light, you know, spreading joy and speaking
on behalf of just like you know, elevation and your
journey as well as I hadn't seen her and she's
expecting my nephew coming soon, so it just was good
for her to get a little break too from her
(02:07):
little family. So it was just a beautiful time. I'm
happy to be back. So here we are.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
You look well rested, Thank you, Queen. I feel I'm
very much in a great healthy space. Yes, yes, madam,
and you too. You were you've been off and running. Listen.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
The business is going amazing. I was in Houston. My
team leader in Houston put on a big event for
my agents there recruited so it was an amazing event
that went well. I fly back to doubt, I fly
to Texas, Dallas. Next we're opening it up a sales office,
so I'm gonna go there and support the team there.
(02:48):
So it's complain. And then.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
You were in La. You did to La?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Oh? Yes, I went to l A. I love that
here the way, thank you. Yeah, listen, my Glamb Squad
did what it needs to do. They showed up and
showed out just black minute for me. So shout out
to Micha Lamb Squad for it taking care of me.
I had a good time. Now I'm suffering because my
(03:19):
aunt can't sit down. Now I'm sick, trying to hold
it together. But you know what, I can't complain because
I'm truly blessed.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Yeah, we were just talking a little bit before we
got started.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
How we're just like happy.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
You know, we're just in a blessed life of living
this beautiful life that we have. You know, we're just
things are flowing, things are vibrant.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yeah, you know, we're just in a great space, right,
That's what we are.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
We definitely are. I'm living life. I travel in two weeks.
I'm going back to my other home home to go
see my man, me and my man.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Oh updating to do offline.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
So I'll be in Legos for two weeks and then
I come back and then I go to Dubai.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
But before I go to Dubai, shut my daughter off
to college, so we got to get her room together.
It's a lot.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Yes, yes, well, I mean you know it's number noine
stop and speaking of rooms, that leads us into.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Our first segments. Oh, bedrooms to be specific, Yes, what's
going on? Are you going to sleep divorce? I never
heard of sleep divorce? Okay, so sleep divorce the new
relationship hack or red flag. I have recently heard of it,
but let me break it down to you.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
More couples are turning to sleep divorce where partners sleep
in separate beds or even separate rooms, which is different.
You know, it's not very traditional to improve the rest
and reduce nighttime conflicts.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Celebs like Care praise it as a game changer, but.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Is it a smart Is it a smart solution or
a slippery slope? The science poor sleep can lead to irritability,
weight gain, lord livedo, and relationship tension. What are your
thoughts like? Have you or anyone that you know prefers
to have separate quarters when they sleep. I know, actually,
(05:24):
when you think about it, I know a few people,
my close friend, I know some people who prefer to
have their own room so and they love it. I
think it's weird because if we're staying in the same household,
I like to sleep next to my man like we
both but nagga, we cuddled together like you ain't gonna
(05:46):
be in no other room? What the hell like ring
your behind over here? But a lot of people love
it well.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
To be honest with you, where I'm at now, in
my next relationship, I would love separate orders just because
one I was married for a long time and slept
next to someone for a long.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Time, so I get that. Excuse me.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Moving forward to me, it's I have like a different schedule.
It can be different schedules. And also you can spend
the night in my room. It's okay to you know,
have a slumber party.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Okay, so it's not like you're not but I would
prefer this is my space. And in this day age
of like dating and really getting to know somebody, they
might not live in the same city and they have
already established themselves and like, for example, this is my
children's home, so like low key, there's no space for
somebody else to come living up in here.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
We can go have another spot down the street.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Somewhere you know you feel me or to go visit,
and wherever they live, they might have the same situation,
who knows. So it's just like I in this day
and age now understand it again.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
With work schedules and timing and children and other lives,
you want to have your space, you know. I think
it's fair.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
I think you know what. I agree with you in
regards to it. I don't think it's not a bad thing.
I know when it's like I like to cuddle, but
when I'm sleep on sleep, I don't care where you're at.
But I'm nocturnal, so a lot of times I do
a lot of work at night. I'm working at night,
and I don't want my person my mate to think,
(07:32):
oh what you're doing late at night on your like
on your computer or on your phone. Like I'm always
thinking of new ideas, so I'll be searching the craziest
things at night time. It's like my mind just started
wondering how to make more money. So I feel like,
you know, it's not a bad idea to have that
when you look at overall, but a lot of couples,
(07:53):
a lot of relationships. Of my friends who do do this,
they they have, their relationships are great, they have they
don't have any problems. Well, I'm sure most people if
they did have another bedroom. Most couples, they especially if
you're a spouse, snores or they sweat at night, you
know what I mean. Yeah, they got the machine, like
(08:17):
you know, so like I'm ain't having their own space
if they could afford it too. That's another thing I
feel like, you know, sometimes we get stuck in there.
What if there's like a newborn baby and they're crying, and.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
You know, it's just a lot. So it's just like
you space.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
You never know, it could be we could be healing
couples around here, because I feel like that might be
helpful because to your point, like the work schedules, you know,
your international phone calls that are coming in and just
like all these different things. So it's just like, you know,
respectfully for the person to get their sleep because sleep
is extremely important.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
You're almost like, Okay, go.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
Be in your room and I'll see you on I
see you, and that's that's more fun and sexy anyway,
you know, make it sound proof.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
And but you know what, when I think about it,
older people do it too. A lot of older people
have their like when they get to that point where
they're not sexually active anymore, they.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Oh did you put that on that? Wait a minute,
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Let me take let me take that. Let me tell you,
I know some eighty year eighty year old still getting
it in right. M Well maybe if one of their
partners ain't sexually active one of them. But I noticed
a lot of elders do have their own rooms and
they're still married, but they have their own quarters. So yeah,
(09:44):
it's a thing. I mean, I mean if you take
it all the way back to even like Royalty, remember
there was like the male dressing room, like and he
had his bedroom and then she had her dressing room
in her room and her quarters.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
That's a real thing, you know, since it's just it's
just a lot. You have choice, that's the that's the
beautiful thing. We have choice. Now, we got options, We
have options.
Speaker 4 (10:10):
Yes, it's intimacy still a priority. If you don't share
a bed at night.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Yes, yeah, you would almost like set up some dates, right,
like okay, maybe in my room or you hear that not, you.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Know, like set up some special Yeah. I think it
might be sexier too.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Maybe come here, let me show you something and you know, yeah,
you know, we've got options. No, I think it definitely
can be more fun. And then also when you have
someone that's not as clean as you, that's a good point.
(10:55):
So I think it definitely can keep the tension down.
I like that.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
I like that that makes that makes a lot of
sense actually for it.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
So you might be for it now, I would be.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Welcome, welcome on over. I'm down for it.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
But I know it's probably just not traditional and people,
you know, again to me on rules, it's they have
to live with each other, they have.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
To be with each other.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
So it's whatever your rules are in the bedroom at
your house.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
That you pay for your relationship, you know. So if
it's if other people.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Think, honestly, I think I think more people should adapt
to it. I think it would make the relationship. It
was spice the relationships back up that you know, the
normal dude, everybody, you both get in big, you both
lay down. Do you want to you get complacent when
you have one two steps.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Well, yeah, you know.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
The boom boom boom, roll over fall asleep. Oh I
think it would spice it up.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I think so too.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Actually, get a little role playing on.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Some outfit.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
I can hide a little toys, places mean exactly, everything
is shared. You can't hide nothing.
Speaker 4 (12:20):
Right right right. I'm an advocate for it. So yeah,
that's what's gonna happen.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I'm down with it.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Yes, yes, I love that.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Yeah, that's chilling sleep overnight into all. You already said that,
is this a sign of a healthy boundary or quiet disconnection?
I think we both agreed that it's it's definitely a
healthy boundary. Yeah, but you know some people ain't like that.
Some people won't. They partner and that's twenty four seven,
and that's.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Fine, that's fine.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Hell you or you know someone who tried to sleep divorce?
Yes I do. Oh wait, it's called sleep divorce though,
but yeah, it's just we'll just say sleeping in separate
quarters or something, because it's not a divorce. Maybe no,
(13:19):
no more from booming. You got options, We.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Got options, Yeah, yeah, we got options.
Speaker 4 (13:26):
I remember, like even just like in Europe to how
the beds are like separated and then you have to
and they're smaller. But it used to be where everyone
just would sleep separately but in the same room too.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
See, I can't do that, so times have changed.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
It has. But you know when you go to your
when you're not married, and you go to your your parents'
home until you're married, until you yes, until you got through,
ain't no shocking up in my hand. That's but you're
still sneaking in the other room.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
I would you know what, No, because I'm like scared,
like I don't want to be like I could wait
the best part.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
I could wait. But here's the deal. I'm like, y'all
staying with me. It's different roles over here. Okay, that's true.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Well you got to you gotta sneak into it. That's
the best part.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Yeah, that is actually fun.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Well, shout out to the to the what they call
it sleep divorce people. I think more people should give
it a try.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Walking on the side of the road. I like it.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
I can dig with it. But see the thing, my
man is far so it's different for us. But even
when you go see him, it's still like exciting. We
ain't sleeping into different.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Yeah exactly, I get it.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
But that's temporary, but that makes it even into different households,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I like that though. I like so
it's a long distance relationship. It works out great. I
can focus on my business. I can focus on my job.
It's healthy, it's very healthy.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
All right.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Have you been seeing the tea that's been going on
on the share room. The girls are fighting and you
know what, I love Porsche and Shamiel friendship. They had
an amazing friendship that they've been going back And did
I say it wrong? Yes, shemill like I do feel
(15:49):
like you know, when when you come on a platform,
especially with reality TV, it can affect your friendships. It
definitely can. So the line between loyalty and opportunity can
blur blur quickly when friends work together. A lot of
(16:09):
people probably let's see, you know, they were saying, oh,
Porscha didn't want Shamil on there, but Shamil, but Porscha
showed Porsche, showed you know, her love, and she was like,
you know, welcome to you know, you got the peach.
She sent her flowers. But it's just like, I don't
(16:29):
know if I would work with my best friend on
TV because I know how reality TV can affect a
relationship of friendship, it's not worth it. Yeah, it's a
lot of pressure when you are on the spotlight, especially
for national concerns, and so your friendship really does stand
in a test of it's a test and.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
Really low key. And that's why you see, like a
lot of marriages or.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Not, they don't they don't make it through and relationships
don't make it through reality TV too, because now it's
so much exposure from each other.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
So I just look at it like.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
It can be bittersweet because now you have other people
in your business and everybody's in your relationship.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
But at the same time, if that lets you know that.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
The roots of that friendship weren't strong from the beginning,
you know, and then to the point where they're just
now it's coming out and airing out for us to see,
it's kind.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Of sad, you know. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
So I just I hope they can get it together,
you know what I mean, And maybe off camera when
they're not filming really like porn back into each other,
because you know, that's when you have like children involved.
I'm sure they're friends, you know, they're daughters, their children
are friends and they've been hanging out, and you know,
this world is very small, so if there's a few
(17:50):
people that you can bond with and really connect with,
you should try to make it work.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
You know. It's it's just unfortunate, that's true.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
You know. I feel like I'm not going to say
all of it, but a portion of Like that's why
I said I probably would never post my relationship.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
You know, on social media or do.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Anything involving TV with with you know, in a relationship,
because it does it's like.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Painted you get to.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Yes, it is, and you feel like you get to
a point where you got to prove the world. You know,
you know, I'm not gonna stand for this. I'm gonna
show it's so many things that you're you're fighting for
that really is irrelevant, you know, because you're not there
to to basically make them happy, make the world happy.
(18:45):
And I feel like, you know, social media and the
reality TV camera and a lot of a lot of things.
So you just have to take in consideration. Is it
really worth it.
Speaker 4 (18:56):
Yeah, I don't think it's worth it at all. It
just it's already tough, you know, being in the public eye.
It's already tough being in a relationship without being in
the public eye. So when you're adding all these levels
and all these factors, it just becomes heavy. And to
already find someone in this world just to be in
(19:17):
a relationship in general is already hard enough. So the
fact that you want to you know, that it gets
kind of like highlighted and then really like you know,
talked about and ripped apart is devastating and heart It
just makes it the task of already trying to bond
two people together into one already hard.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
And like just makes it harder. I would I had
gone forward.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
I could be married right now and people wouldn't know
except for the ones that needs you.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Done, Got you done, got married on this lisk, you.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Know what I'm just saying. I would just keep it
very private.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
It would be not for public consumption, and it would
be one hundred percent, like you know, just a private
matter amongst.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
People who who know what's up. Yeah, that's a need
to know basis.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Yeah, yes, girl, The less they know, the less you
have to worry about.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:19):
Yeah, because people don't want you really too happy. And
that's tough situation too, because you know, I don't know
if this happened for you. But like even when people
break up or when they're like on television like how
We Were, you get these envious and jealous and this
(20:39):
extra energy of just like competition and just heavy.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
You know, it's just a lot.
Speaker 4 (20:44):
So we you know, friends are coming out the woodwork
and then like the ones that you've been hold the
been holding your time, you changed or oh my goodness
that so it's just like you like, what do what
do you?
Speaker 2 (20:57):
You can't win for loser?
Speaker 3 (21:00):
And I was like, I definitely get that a lot.
I get that a lot from the friends. I get
people still now watching the show coming at me on Twitter.
I had to clap back at somebody this weekend and
I said I was gonna work on it. Lex I
said I was gonna work on it, but I had time.
That night. I was laying in bed, minding my own business,
and this lady just came out.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
I don't know where you know, you know what?
Speaker 4 (21:22):
You don't wanna teach you real quick. I don't appreciate
what you said. You're entitled to what you know, your opinion,
but that was me.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
You know what I told her to? No, I know
what what? What? Get your old ass off? As and
go back over the Facebook where you belong.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Of course. Okay, I'm confusing this. Okay, we're not doing this.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Lex I can't these people because these people be telling
they I know, we get upset. These people be telling
you about your life that you don't even know about.
They know your life better than you.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
I'm trying to tell you. The main thing we got
to do is just tell me. It's not me. I mean,
every now and then, somebody if you know, I.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Was doing it, but I feel like I needed to
telling us. Yes, I feel like I needed you know,
we're all human.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Yes, we are the Lord in progress.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
The Lord knows my heart. You know I'm trying. Change
don't come overnight.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
No, it doesn't. It doesn't.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Slow and steady wind a race, and I'm slowly and
steady changing. Well, I'm happy for you, but I'm still
gonna be pity every.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Now, nobody gonna catch you, catch you at that right
or wrong time that was the right, and then catch
it on behalf of everybody else.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
You let slide exactly the wrath the wrath of rail,
beware hellrail. Oh they maybe it's so visible, you're visible
now you this, I'm living my bead life.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
But they don't know that either.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
That's true. It's just it's just what people don't know.
Just it's just it's better. Sometimes you got to give
them a friendly reminder Noah.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Sometimes you know they'll feel it.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
You always on the power journey. You always on this
piece journey. I need you to turn up one time.
I'll turn up if I need to know you know that,
I need you to be on my side one time
and say real, yeah, talk that ship, talk that stuff real,
you know, just people take things and run with it.
(23:43):
We're on a healing journey right now. Yeah. Sometimes I've
been healing for so long. Sometimes I just want to
you know, we're happy right now. We're happy and healthy
and were vibrant. That's what we're just going to keep manifesting.
I hear you.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
Let okay, who side baby.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Have you ever worked with a close friend and you
felt like you're like the friendship during business with that friend,
It can cause some turmoil in the friendship.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
I feel like it is a tough space to be.
Speaker 4 (24:20):
You want people that are really low key looking out
for you, that have your back, that supports you. So
I haven't had anyone personally that I worked with because
it's been very like I respect everyone's laying because I
know I'm not great at everything and I need help,
so respectfully, if it's a friendship, it becomes a partnership.
(24:41):
So and I don't ever want to like, you know,
make my friends feel cheated or you know less then
so I feel like I'm always you know, given my
best foot for it.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
So that way we have that rapport.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
And if it's if it's money involved obviously and it's
reputation on the line, I want the best peace people
there to represent me as I'm representing them.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
So I haven't had any of those issues, but I
have seen it.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
It's tough because it's like now you have to show
up and be your your work. I'm just using me
as an example, your work alexis compared to like now,
your friend alexis. And again and if your foundation isn't
like solid and they don't really really know you and
it's more of a competitive nature, then it's gonna be
some issues because now those cracks will be revealed and
(25:30):
you know, now that foundation is going to start to
like shift a little bit.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
So its it takes two.
Speaker 4 (25:35):
Strong people that really respect each other and understand what
that friendship is from the beginning, like it's a partnership.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
And you're supposed to respect your friends, you know, like
you're supposed to love on them. You're supposed to talk
love into them.
Speaker 4 (25:49):
You're supposed to write or staring back in the right
direction and if you mean well, it'll flow well.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
For me.
Speaker 3 (25:58):
I actually my friend for over seventeen years, Christina. She
we work together. She runs the you know, she's a
co partner with me on the Lore. I brought her on.
She runs the northwest coast of a Loure, and we
worked so great together. And I don't take the position
(26:20):
like because I built the lore. I don't take the
position like it's my mama man. I like to stand
behind and you know, let her be the faith sometimes
and speak on it because it's I feel like our
friendship comes before any money, any business anything, as long
as we're good. She's a great business partner, and I
respect her opinion, and you know, I respect what she
(26:43):
brings to the table. So I will not allow notoriety
or just fame or whatever to take over, you know,
our friendship.
Speaker 4 (26:52):
And that's good leadership on your your into you know,
when we are able to like give the reins to
someone else and really be like, that's that, you know,
even though you did build something, or we build, we're founders.
We do all these things to let somebody like go
ahead and step before you and represent.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
You, but lets you know that you trust trust too,
you know. So it's like you built trust. There's a
loyalty between it, and you want the business to be better.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
You want you.
Speaker 4 (27:19):
Again respect her space and you respect her lane, and
that's trust. So it's a nice mutual respect and trust.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
So I think it's dope.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
And I say unofficially Sapple with us, like we may
we work together, we do things, you myself and Ashley.
We argue at times, but we still know how to
respect each other and bring it back in. And I
think that's the biggest thing. When you have respect and
you you know, like my friendship is worth more than
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this little caddye stuff. We talk it out. You may
argue one day, but we talk it out and it's like, oh,
nothing never happened. Yeah, But when when you allow it
to hit public, and you got to really rear it
back in before it gets out of contract, because.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
It definitely can get motion in the wrong direction. For sure.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Yeah, yep, that's true. Can friendship truly survived when money
and opportunity are involved? I think the money thing is tough,
just because I'm sure, but we both get in positions
where people.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
Have asked for money, and most of the time we don't.
They're not asking for the exact amount. Everything's got rounded up,
you know. On my end, it's never been like twenty
four dollars and ninety two cents, you know what I mean.
So I think we just we Even when money comes involved,
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that's when it becomes a little tricky because when you're
giving somebody something and loaning them something, it's just very much.
Speaker 2 (28:57):
You don't expect it that, you know.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
But then when it's a lot of money involved and
you're like expecting things to come back and return, that's
when if the financial part becomes tricky, just because you're
just like I need that back, you know, I got
I got kids to feed, and they just expect that maybe,
oh no, you got it, you could take the lot,
you got it.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
It's the principle, you know what I mean of.
Speaker 3 (29:18):
Like and then you see them going out.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
This money at bottles everything.
Speaker 3 (29:27):
I've lost some friends over some things like that because
it's like your part, I helped you when you needed help,
and it's not like I'm if you're gonna it's a difference.
Hey I need this, Hey I want to borrow this,
and I promise I'll pay back. Don't if you know
you ain't gonna pay it back, don't say just can
I get this? But when you saying you're gonna pay
something back, I expect my money to be paid back.
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I don't care if this. Yeah, it's still the principle.
And as business women, that's that's what we expect exactly,
just as speaking the money what Tyler Perry ultimatums and
family entitlement. Woo, this is a good one. So Tyler
Perry did do a He recently revealed he had to
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fire his own aunt after she stopped showing up for
the job he gave her. He also mentioned setting strict
financial boundaries with his family, and not everyone liked it.
Let's talk about how important it is to protect your peace,
even if it's from the blood. Oh my goodness, I
think we all can tell these, Yes we can.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
I mean I'm low key dealing with it now with
my children. You know, it's two different households now and
they're getting older, so the bills are getting larger, meaning
tuitions and meaning cars and insurances and all these things.
And at the end of the day, I'm teaching them
financial literacy and also financial responsibility of budgeting. Like you
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guys have cars and you have an allowance, and it's
eighteenth of the month, you asking for our money.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Where did your money go? You know?
Speaker 3 (31:06):
You if you have vehicles, that means you have to
budget for gas.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
If you have.
Speaker 4 (31:13):
You know, if you're you go training and you need food,
you have to budget for that.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
So you know, it's it's it's it's about.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
That time where they understand the meaning of you know,
your Mam and I, your mom and daddy got it.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
But y'all have we paying for school.
Speaker 4 (31:29):
We've invested, you know, all this money into your education
and rearing you and molding you.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
And we are.
Speaker 4 (31:36):
Setting you guys up for success. So go be great,
and you need to budget like a student should.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Like a you know, so because you know, I feel you.
Speaker 3 (31:49):
Yeah, my daughter is my daughter, my daughter's shop. She
has shopping bags and everything coming in here. I had
to look at the damn aments. I had to freeze
a card, like, what is you doing? You just shopping
away panting because I did add her as an authorized user.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
But she she can't.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
You. That got to a point where it's like, okay,
mama gonna be busy, so let me like she got
the times of which she knows she can shop and
try to get them bags in here before the wait, wait,
where is your job?
Speaker 2 (32:23):
Where are they going?
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Exactly? She get an allowance. But the thing about it is,
you are a young adult. Now, I can't just be
spending money thinking because you think mommy got it and
I'm gonna always know I cut it off, go find
a job.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
And they're very capable.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
Yeah, but you know what, I blame it on myself
because I growing up as a child, I didn't have
it all. And I always said, you know, I don't
want my kids to go through what I went through,
you know, like having to not having things. But I
feel like it's a gift in a curse because now
it's making them feel especially it's.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
So entitled, so entitled.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
The Christmas lists get crazy and crazier each year. It's like, no,
y'all got to work for this. Now, I wish I
would have had them working. I was working at the
age of fifteen, I will I give this girl one
hundred dollars. She's like, what is this?
Speaker 4 (33:26):
And they're almost like that's not enough for nothing, Like
we would make that stretch for the whole week, like
more than that low key like you, that was movies,
that was hanging out, that was everything. Now they're just like,
one hundred is for what what I'm.
Speaker 3 (33:45):
Gonna do with this? What you mean, what you're gonna do?
What kind of lifestyle you live in that they feel
like you need more than one hundred dollars to go
eat somewhere.
Speaker 4 (33:54):
I've definitely turned into my mom. We have all that
food at home.
Speaker 3 (33:59):
Exactly. I'm not giving y'all no money. Y'all ain't putting
off the cars no more. Uber eats. Eat what's in
this house? Yeah, and it's and it's a lot of them.
They have to realize it's not just them either. You know,
it's just not a lot. It's just it's for you know,
it's just we gotta do this a long time. So
you guys are old enough to get a job, to
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budget and to figure it out. And it's it's not
even just the kids, it's your parents.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Your parents. It's your own goodness, your dad what your
dad say? The baby needs some what is your baby?
Speaker 1 (34:37):
Look?
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Oh he got it down pack. Boy, he'd be hustling
Chad and he got it down pack. I'll be like,
He'll be like, yeah, the baby, he can't say. He
can't say, pull up snowball that that's been going out
the door, Serenity pottage, the baby want to go to
the water park.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
The baby the water park, Serenity to pull out pack.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
What you mean she want to go to the water park?
You just want to waste money, Keen. You sent some
money for this, I said, when the last time you
asked Chad for some money? He'll go ghosts.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
Then he'll have.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
Serenity call me.
Speaker 2 (35:14):
Oh then oh, then she calls you.
Speaker 3 (35:16):
Then she'll call. Then then I'm a call. We want
to go to the water park. Oh, Papa said it.
You see his shadow. You see his shadow by the kids.
And I said, oh, I said, he got he got them,
He got him train very well. So I have to
put him on a budget.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
Everyone else being put on a budget.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
I just sent you five hundred dollars. Yeah, and the
water park is not five hundred dollars.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
That part.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
It's like it's like you're raising kids again. Stay with
my mom, order this for me from from this place,
Send me money for this. Nope, I decline. Nope, nope.
Y'all need to learn how to budget y'all money. It's
like we become the parents. Absolutely, it's crazy. But back
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to Tyler, Back to Tyler parents, you know who else
it's strict to even though they are billionaires, they had
to put a limit on, you know, letting their their
family borrow. Jay Z spoke about it as well. Do
you remember that when it was one of his family
members asked for like I think, like forty five hundred
(36:34):
for a business opportunity and they was going to bring
back two million or something, and he turned it down. No,
that's not how I operate. But that is why the
most powerful word is no. And that's how you keep
money because the more like, I feel like people, especially
family members, can take advantage of those things, and they
always feel like, oh, they got it, they got it. No,
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you got to work for it. We both have the
same forty hours.
Speaker 4 (37:00):
And and you know, people don't realize that, you know,
you wanted to last like you want to you want
to keep generating it, and you want it to be
you know, for the children.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
You want everyone to be comfortable.
Speaker 3 (37:15):
So when you start exceeding it and like overdoing it,
and that's when you start to really get in trouble
with it.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
You know what I mean. I want it for a
long time. You want it for no.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
That that's definitely true. I think family see they just
see you have all this money coming in, or they
look at see what your network is, think see how
you're living, but they don't understand, like what you have
in alsehold all the things that you have to take
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care in the emergencies and everything.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Everything.
Speaker 3 (37:50):
The same with my daughter, I break it down to her.
I said, you know, I don't just pay my mortgage,
my cardinal, your car note, my two car notes, your
car notes. I don't just pay that the enture. I
still have a business to round. I'll play employees. You
gotta play exactly male slone. It's crazy, I'll say, y'all
don't see y'all may see what's coming in. You may
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see that, but you don't see what's going on. Like
y'all have to understand that money just don't fall from
the tree. Yeah, and again, if they have support they
have to understand that if we're there to support them
for the long run. We've been doing this long enough
to where we are like making you comfortable enough to
like you can come to us when there's some those emergencies.
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But at the same time, you're very much capable. We
have invested very heavily in our friends and our family,
you know, really our family, our core family. We've invested
in them, you know, for them the opportunities to be
good humans. So go be great.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
We got your fact. We're going to be great. It's tough.
Speaker 3 (38:54):
Love.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
That word no is very powerful. I've been saying that
a lot lately, and I love it. I feel great.
It took me.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
It took me a long time to be able.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
To see it.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
Feels so good.
Speaker 2 (39:10):
No, I'm sorry. No, I can't do it. No, not
this time.
Speaker 3 (39:15):
No no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Yes, we
got to stop enabling our family members.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Yes, listen, we're doing it.
Speaker 3 (39:31):
Next subject, Oh my goodness, I was hot. Did you
hear about the h way put a lady in jail
for ten days?
Speaker 2 (39:40):
Right here? Oh? Really?
Speaker 3 (39:43):
So? I mean, is it an advantage to have an
hay or disadvantage to have an h a.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
I hate h Okay, so it's because one is feet.
I hate it.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
I remember that, and then they think that they are
pretty much public service that they can really they have
that like this power, you know, like oh if you're
if your shrubs are this high, then you're going to
be or if your fence is too low or the
grass is not cut. But I mean esthetically for the neighborhood,
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you's good. But yeah, because your property values and your
home is your most expensive purchase, so you want to
take the neighborhood to be up to part it is.
But I feel like some hoa's. So before we get
into it, So what happened was basically a lady was
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had to spend ten days in jail Lune due to
her HOA. Yes, jail hoas were created to maintain neighborhood standards,
but some have become many dictatorships. Are they helping homeowners
or harassing them? I feel like with this situation, she
she did, I did watch the she did report an
(41:01):
interview with one of the reporters, and she basically fixed
everything that needed to be fixed. I think it was
some of her grass that was messed up, her mailbox fixed.
I guess they had a court date for the HOA
had sent. Something was she didn't get the notification that
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she had to go to court, and they ruled that
she go to jail because she failed to go to
that court date. But to go to that extent to
put somebody in jail, this lady have kids, like you
don't know people's financial situations to be because I mean,
it costs a lot shooting. I gotta. I got a
(41:43):
letter saying, my grat I need to put some old
Saint Augustine out in my front yard because I have
little dry spots. Said daddy, can you go get the
Saint Augustine grass and redo it? I'm not buying that.
We could go get some seeds. So his behind thought
he was in the grass and I had to call
the people out here to get most I just stin
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grass out there. But it's like it's crazy because it's
it's like, do y'all have something else better to do?
Like it could be a little tiny little patch and
they tripping. Yeah, And I understand, but to go as
far as put somebody in jail, that's crazy.
Speaker 4 (42:21):
And you can get the wrong one that is basically
the tyrant that's going around being extremely picky, Like we
have a cold enforcement that goes around the city here
where I am, but that's for construction and that's for them,
not because I look up.
Speaker 2 (42:39):
You know, you can start construction.
Speaker 3 (42:40):
In my neighborhood at seven am and it's from like
seven to seven, which is insane. And I'm just like you.
Speaker 2 (42:47):
Hearing nothing but like you know, hammering. But I'm like,
that should be more of a cold enforcement.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
Let's less building and you know, it's a noise ordinance
and things like that.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
But I don't have an h u A.
Speaker 4 (43:00):
I used to have one and they weren't as strict.
But everyone I love the static of everyone's grass was cut,
everyone's homes were taken care of, because it is. It's
great for the you know, just for the what you're
paying for essentially, you know.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
I wanted to I'll be fly.
Speaker 3 (43:22):
It comes to a point where y'all, y'all get rid.
I think, you know, I have a beautiful neighborhood that
everybody stay up to part with, you know, how their
yards are. But to go to that point, it should
be some Yeah, it should be at some point where okay,
enough is enough, because y'all are volunteers, y'all got y'all
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need to find something else to do.
Speaker 2 (43:46):
Volunteers.
Speaker 3 (43:49):
They are volunteers.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
They don't get paid.
Speaker 3 (43:53):
Yeah, everybody wanted to be power struck, like chill, chill, chill, chill.
They'll get to a point if so, I have the pavers,
if you have a spring of grass growing out of it,
you getting a letter from nature, oh man, And what
if you just don't see it?
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Then fine glass.
Speaker 3 (44:19):
Y'all running around the with just get your ass off
the damn golf course. A couple of pluck the damn
grass that's growing out of there. It's three three little
strings coming up out the pavement.
Speaker 4 (44:33):
That I would be heartbroken if I had to go
to jail off of my paint being chipped or something
like that would be devastating.
Speaker 3 (44:44):
I felt bad for like baby, it would have been
World War three in that neighborhood. Yeah, because then.
Speaker 4 (44:52):
You're coming back out and you're like, I'm coming right
after you. Now now it's like animosity in the neighborhood,
which is even worse.
Speaker 3 (44:58):
But you know what someone was saying that they try
to do that to try to weed certain people out
of neighborhoods, to force you to sell because believe that
it's like you did pick on certain people. It could
be a certain certain type of people. You're trying to
force them to sell, so you're gonna keep on nagging
at them, nagging at them like I had enough and
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some people can't take that. Yeah, but it's not right.
And I hope she don't sell her home. Don't let
nobody force you up out of your place. Do what
you gotta do. But ho A have so many it's
like they can even fore clothes on you.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 4 (45:35):
It's a lot of fine print when you get that
thick stack of papers when you're signing over for your
largest purchase of your life, the home, your livelihood.
Speaker 2 (45:45):
You know, it's it's it's can be tough. I the
only the only good thing, you know. I watched you
have you ever watched the show Hoarders. I would be
I would be living if I had a neighbor that
had like trash and.
Speaker 3 (46:00):
All of that extra broke down car. Yeah, so like
low key like that would be the my those the noise,
the construction of that and really, like you know, if
there's any any kind of like violence going on in
any crime, that's the only kind of protection I would need,
you know, like it would be the hoarders, and that's
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spilling out to like you know, animals, all of that stuff.
Speaker 2 (46:27):
That's when we would need some coding force. But other
than that, I don't want anybody being.
Speaker 3 (46:31):
A tyrant, like telling us about paint, telling them about
the grass, or telling you. I mean, I feel like
it should be a standard. But the fact that you
got to go through the HIO to submit for your
pool plans, all your privacy, it's just a point where
I bought this house. Y'all didn't put money in on
this house to do in my backyard.
Speaker 2 (46:55):
Or add to or subtract from.
Speaker 3 (46:58):
Yes, it's it's it has its pros and its cons,
but I feel like there should be a some places,
some neighborhoods just take it too serious, Like you got
to pull back because for her to be to go
to jail for ten days for that bull crap, it's
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it's insane. Well that's something to look at, you know,
when you're looking at properties, like to ask the neighbors
what do you think about your hoa before you get
to that purchase.
Speaker 2 (47:29):
I think that would be avoided for.
Speaker 4 (47:32):
Me if I am riding around and I'm looking for
a property in a neighborhood when I'm raising children and
I'm paying for it.
Speaker 2 (47:40):
I best believe.
Speaker 3 (47:41):
I don't want to be harassed leaving my house every day.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
That's just too much.
Speaker 3 (47:47):
The camera and the golf cart run around taking pictures.
Speaker 2 (47:55):
Let me write you up right behind. I'll threat you.
Speaker 3 (47:58):
Up, not too much, but it's crazy. Yes, real estate insights.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
You know what.
Speaker 3 (48:09):
There was another neighborhood and I, you know, I was
happy to hear that because I sell a lot in
that neighborhood. Where they were taken on when the interest
rates was was low. It was companies going around purchasing
a lot of a lot of homes. And at one
point it was they probably bought like a hundred homes
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from this developer. And at one point they started opening
beautiful neighborhood. They started opening up, opening opening it up
to section eight. And the homes, the other homes in
the in the neighborhood are like eight hundred thousand, you know,
seven hundred thousand.
Speaker 2 (48:51):
And then you had.
Speaker 3 (48:52):
An area where another builder came in there and the
homes probably went for three hundred thous And now when
you bring in that you know section eight into there,
you got the crime went up in there everything, so
HOA had to come in and it forced like after this,
no more section eight because you're basically bringing the value
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down with the crime that's going up. People you know,
renters are not taking care of their yards. It's just
it was so I feel like, you know, it does
have it, it's pros and its couns. But when some
people are on a power power, I can't talk. They
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sprung out and trying to just be in how demand
because they probably was bullied so much in school and
they feel like they suffer from the little man syndrome.
They just get carried away. Yeah, I agree, Hoa's y'all
got to get better.
Speaker 2 (49:53):
I can't.
Speaker 3 (49:53):
I ain't gonna complain though. I like my HOA, but
they do be pissing me off when they send a
picture talking about you got three little streng you got
three little strains coming out your ground. But overall, I
can't complain. We don't have Humble Batty's mail tonight, all right?
Speaker 2 (50:13):
You got it? No, I don't humble mail tonight. Well
then that's that.
Speaker 3 (50:22):
No humble Humble Batty's all right, all right, you guys,
were done for today. I don't want to get y'all
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Speaker 2 (51:07):
Have a good all right, you guys? Well and what
you what you coughing like that?
Speaker 3 (51:10):
You definitely should be in the other bedroom, okay, not
getting it. Ain't nobody here with me? Boo boom my man.
Speaker 2 (51:19):
Indeed, all right, have a good night.
Speaker 3 (51:22):
Yea, I'm about to go make me a hot toddy,
hot toddy. All right, you guys, have a good one.
I get in my weight, never out of my lane.
It's been like you one in the mon one.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
So what is gonna be?
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Baby Squada?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
We's been to go, d you running on us?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
God? What you need? Baby? Won't you keep me company?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Give me something to do and I get only I
just someone for you when we get home, if you
let me put it when I at the time, my legs.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Hey, alexis hi. It's been forever you've been traveling and
doing in your bag, doing your big things. I've been
watching clapping from a farm.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
I appreciate it. I had to go step to Vegas.
It was around summer league time, so it was there
with my daughters and my sister met me from La.
Shout out to them for making the trip. It was
a girl's trip. It was like a sister's trip. And
just spoke on a panel for She's Got Time Swim Cash.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
From the Olympian.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
The w NBA player has a platform for women in sports.
And it was a summit, a two day summit, so
four hundred, four hundred ladies and gents and we were there,
you know, just spreading some love and giving some confidence boosters.
So shout out to all the ladies that attended and
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the ladies.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
That I were on the panel with. It just was
a good time. It was just you know, refreshing. And
I haven't been to Vegas, especially for Summer League and
like over ten plus years, and I just to go
back full circle and to run into people that I
haven't seen in a long time and just be there
(01:41):
as a Lexus.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Was like really humbling and very much fulfilling for me.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
And then to see my daughters, to see me their
mom and her light, you know, spreading joy and speaking
on behalf of just like you know, elevation and your
journey as well as I hadn't seen her and she's
expecting my nephew coming soon, so it just was good
for her to get a little break too from her
(02:07):
little family. So it was just a beautiful time. I'm
happy to be back. So here we are.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
You look well rested, Thank you, Queen. I feel I'm
very much in a great healthy space. Yes, yes, madam,
and you too. You were you've been off and running. Listen.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
The business is going amazing. I was in Houston. My
team leader in Houston put on a big event for
my agents there recruited so it was an amazing event
that went well. I fly back to doubt, I fly
to Texas, Dallas. Next we're opening it up a sales office,
so I'm gonna go there and support the team there.
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So it's complain. And then.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
You were in La. You did to La?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Oh? Yes, I went to l A. I love that
here the way, thank you. Yeah, listen, my Glamb Squad
did what it needs to do. They showed up and
showed out just black minute for me. So shout out
to Micha Lamb Squad for it taking care of me.
I had a good time. Now I'm suffering because my
(03:19):
aunt can't sit down. Now I'm sick, trying to hold
it together. But you know what, I can't complain because
I'm truly blessed.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Yeah, we were just talking a little bit before we
got started.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
How we're just like happy.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
You know, we're just in a blessed life of living
this beautiful life that we have. You know, we're just
things are flowing, things are vibrant.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yeah, you know, we're just in a great space, right,
That's what we are.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
We definitely are. I'm living life. I travel in two weeks.
I'm going back to my other home home to go
see my man, me and my man.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Oh updating to do offline.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
So I'll be in Legos for two weeks and then
I come back and then I go to Dubai.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
But before I go to Dubai, shut my daughter off
to college, so we got to get her room together.
It's a lot.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Yes, yes, well, I mean you know it's number noine
stop and speaking of rooms, that leads us into.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Our first segments. Oh, bedrooms to be specific, Yes, what's
going on? Are you going to sleep divorce? I never
heard of sleep divorce? Okay, so sleep divorce the new
relationship hack or red flag. I have recently heard of it,
but let me break it down to you.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
More couples are turning to sleep divorce where partners sleep
in separate beds or even separate rooms, which is different.
You know, it's not very traditional to improve the rest
and reduce nighttime conflicts.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Celebs like Care praise it as a game changer, but.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Is it a smart Is it a smart solution or
a slippery slope? The science poor sleep can lead to irritability,
weight gain, lord livedo, and relationship tension. What are your
thoughts like? Have you or anyone that you know prefers
to have separate quarters when they sleep. I know, actually,
(05:24):
when you think about it, I know a few people,
my close friend, I know some people who prefer to
have their own room so and they love it. I
think it's weird because if we're staying in the same household,
I like to sleep next to my man like we
both but nagga, we cuddled together like you ain't gonna
(05:46):
be in no other room? What the hell like ring
your behind over here? But a lot of people love
it well.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
To be honest with you, where I'm at now, in
my next relationship, I would love separate orders just because
one I was married for a long time and slept
next to someone for a long.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Time, so I get that. Excuse me.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Moving forward to me, it's I have like a different schedule.
It can be different schedules. And also you can spend
the night in my room. It's okay to you know,
have a slumber party.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Okay, so it's not like you're not but I would
prefer this is my space. And in this day age
of like dating and really getting to know somebody, they
might not live in the same city and they have
already established themselves and like, for example, this is my
children's home, so like low key, there's no space for
somebody else to come living up in here.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
We can go have another spot down the street.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Somewhere you know you feel me or to go visit,
and wherever they live, they might have the same situation,
who knows. So it's just like I in this day
and age now understand it again.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
With work schedules and timing and children and other lives,
you want to have your space, you know. I think
it's fair.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
I think you know what. I agree with you in
regards to it. I don't think it's not a bad thing.
I know when it's like I like to cuddle, but
when I'm sleep on sleep, I don't care where you're at.
But I'm nocturnal, so a lot of times I do
a lot of work at night. I'm working at night,
and I don't want my person my mate to think,
(07:32):
oh what you're doing late at night on your like
on your computer or on your phone. Like I'm always
thinking of new ideas, so I'll be searching the craziest
things at night time. It's like my mind just started
wondering how to make more money. So I feel like,
you know, it's not a bad idea to have that
when you look at overall, but a lot of couples,
(07:53):
a lot of relationships. Of my friends who do do this,
they they have, their relationships are great, they have they
don't have any problems. Well, I'm sure most people if
they did have another bedroom. Most couples, they especially if
you're a spouse, snores or they sweat at night, you
know what I mean. Yeah, they got the machine, like
(08:17):
you know, so like I'm ain't having their own space
if they could afford it too. That's another thing I
feel like, you know, sometimes we get stuck in there.
What if there's like a newborn baby and they're crying, and.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
You know, it's just a lot. So it's just like
you space.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
You never know, it could be we could be healing
couples around here, because I feel like that might be
helpful because to your point, like the work schedules, you know,
your international phone calls that are coming in and just
like all these different things. So it's just like, you know,
respectfully for the person to get their sleep because sleep
is extremely important.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
You're almost like, Okay, go.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
Be in your room and I'll see you on I
see you, and that's that's more fun and sexy anyway,
you know, make it sound proof.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
And but you know what, when I think about it,
older people do it too. A lot of older people
have their like when they get to that point where
they're not sexually active anymore, they.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Oh did you put that on that? Wait a minute,
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Let me take let me take that. Let me tell you,
I know some eighty year eighty year old still getting
it in right. M Well maybe if one of their
partners ain't sexually active one of them. But I noticed
a lot of elders do have their own rooms and
they're still married, but they have their own quarters. So yeah,
(09:44):
it's a thing. I mean, I mean if you take
it all the way back to even like Royalty, remember
there was like the male dressing room, like and he
had his bedroom and then she had her dressing room
in her room and her quarters.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
That's a real thing, you know, since it's just it's
just a lot. You have choice, that's the that's the
beautiful thing. We have choice. Now, we got options, We
have options.
Speaker 4 (10:10):
Yes, it's intimacy still a priority. If you don't share
a bed at night.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Yes, yeah, you would almost like set up some dates, right,
like okay, maybe in my room or you hear that not, you.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Know, like set up some special Yeah. I think it
might be sexier too.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Maybe come here, let me show you something and you know, yeah,
you know, we've got options. No, I think it definitely
can be more fun. And then also when you have
someone that's not as clean as you, that's a good point.
(10:55):
So I think it definitely can keep the tension down.
I like that.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
I like that that makes that makes a lot of
sense actually for it.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
So you might be for it now, I would be.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Welcome, welcome on over. I'm down for it.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
But I know it's probably just not traditional and people,
you know, again to me on rules, it's they have
to live with each other, they have.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
To be with each other.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
So it's whatever your rules are in the bedroom at
your house.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
That you pay for your relationship, you know. So if
it's if other people.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Think, honestly, I think I think more people should adapt
to it. I think it would make the relationship. It
was spice the relationships back up that you know, the
normal dude, everybody, you both get in big, you both
lay down. Do you want to you get complacent when
you have one two steps.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Well, yeah, you know.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
The boom boom boom, roll over fall asleep. Oh I
think it would spice it up.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I think so too.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Actually, get a little role playing on.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Some outfit.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
I can hide a little toys, places mean exactly, everything
is shared. You can't hide nothing.
Speaker 4 (12:20):
Right right right. I'm an advocate for it. So yeah,
that's what's gonna happen.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I'm down with it.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Yes, yes, I love that.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Yeah, that's chilling sleep overnight into all. You already said that,
is this a sign of a healthy boundary or quiet disconnection?
I think we both agreed that it's it's definitely a
healthy boundary. Yeah, but you know some people ain't like that.
Some people won't. They partner and that's twenty four seven,
and that's.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Fine, that's fine.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Hell you or you know someone who tried to sleep divorce?
Yes I do. Oh wait, it's called sleep divorce though,
but yeah, it's just we'll just say sleeping in separate
quarters or something, because it's not a divorce. Maybe no,
(13:19):
no more from booming. You got options, We.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Got options, Yeah, yeah, we got options.
Speaker 4 (13:26):
I remember, like even just like in Europe to how
the beds are like separated and then you have to
and they're smaller. But it used to be where everyone
just would sleep separately but in the same room too.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
See, I can't do that, so times have changed.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
It has. But you know when you go to your
when you're not married, and you go to your your parents'
home until you're married, until you yes, until you got through,
ain't no shocking up in my hand. That's but you're
still sneaking in the other room.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
I would you know what, No, because I'm like scared,
like I don't want to be like I could wait
the best part.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
I could wait. But here's the deal. I'm like, y'all
staying with me. It's different roles over here. Okay, that's true.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Well you got to you gotta sneak into it. That's
the best part.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Yeah, that is actually fun.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Well, shout out to the to the what they call
it sleep divorce people. I think more people should give
it a try.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Walking on the side of the road. I like it.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
I can dig with it. But see the thing, my
man is far so it's different for us. But even
when you go see him, it's still like exciting. We
ain't sleeping into different.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Yeah exactly, I get it.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
But that's temporary, but that makes it even into different households,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I like that though. I like so
it's a long distance relationship. It works out great. I
can focus on my business. I can focus on my job.
It's healthy, it's very healthy.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
All right.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Have you been seeing the tea that's been going on
on the share room. The girls are fighting and you
know what, I love Porsche and Shamiel friendship. They had
an amazing friendship that they've been going back And did
I say it wrong? Yes, shemill like I do feel
(15:49):
like you know, when when you come on a platform,
especially with reality TV, it can affect your friendships. It
definitely can. So the line between loyalty and opportunity can
blur blur quickly when friends work together. A lot of
(16:09):
people probably let's see, you know, they were saying, oh,
Porscha didn't want Shamil on there, but Shamil, but Porscha
showed Porsche, showed you know, her love, and she was like,
you know, welcome to you know, you got the peach.
She sent her flowers. But it's just like, I don't
(16:29):
know if I would work with my best friend on
TV because I know how reality TV can affect a
relationship of friendship, it's not worth it. Yeah, it's a
lot of pressure when you are on the spotlight, especially
for national concerns, and so your friendship really does stand
in a test of it's a test and.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
Really low key. And that's why you see, like a
lot of marriages or.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Not, they don't they don't make it through and relationships
don't make it through reality TV too, because now it's
so much exposure from each other.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
So I just look at it like.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
It can be bittersweet because now you have other people
in your business and everybody's in your relationship.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
But at the same time, if that lets you know that.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
The roots of that friendship weren't strong from the beginning,
you know, and then to the point where they're just
now it's coming out and airing out for us to see,
it's kind.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Of sad, you know. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
So I just I hope they can get it together,
you know what I mean, And maybe off camera when
they're not filming really like porn back into each other,
because you know, that's when you have like children involved.
I'm sure they're friends, you know, they're daughters, their children
are friends and they've been hanging out, and you know,
this world is very small, so if there's a few
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people that you can bond with and really connect with,
you should try to make it work.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
You know. It's it's just unfortunate, that's true.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
You know. I feel like I'm not going to say
all of it, but a portion of Like that's why
I said I probably would never post my relationship.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
You know, on social media or do.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Anything involving TV with with you know, in a relationship,
because it does it's like.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Painted you get to.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Yes, it is, and you feel like you get to
a point where you got to prove the world. You know,
you know, I'm not gonna stand for this. I'm gonna
show it's so many things that you're you're fighting for
that really is irrelevant, you know, because you're not there
to to basically make them happy, make the world happy.
(18:45):
And I feel like, you know, social media and the
reality TV camera and a lot of a lot of things.
So you just have to take in consideration. Is it
really worth it.
Speaker 4 (18:56):
Yeah, I don't think it's worth it at all. It
just it's already tough, you know, being in the public eye.
It's already tough being in a relationship without being in
the public eye. So when you're adding all these levels
and all these factors, it just becomes heavy. And to
already find someone in this world just to be in
(19:17):
a relationship in general is already hard enough. So the
fact that you want to you know, that it gets
kind of like highlighted and then really like you know,
talked about and ripped apart is devastating and heart It
just makes it the task of already trying to bond
two people together into one already hard.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
And like just makes it harder. I would I had
gone forward.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
I could be married right now and people wouldn't know
except for the ones that needs you.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Done, Got you done, got married on this lisk, you.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Know what I'm just saying. I would just keep it
very private.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
It would be not for public consumption, and it would
be one hundred percent, like you know, just a private
matter amongst.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
People who who know what's up. Yeah, that's a need
to know basis.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Yeah, yes, girl, The less they know, the less you
have to worry about.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:19):
Yeah, because people don't want you really too happy. And
that's tough situation too, because you know, I don't know
if this happened for you. But like even when people
break up or when they're like on television like how
We Were, you get these envious and jealous and this
(20:39):
extra energy of just like competition and just heavy.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
You know, it's just a lot.
Speaker 4 (20:44):
So we you know, friends are coming out the woodwork
and then like the ones that you've been hold the
been holding your time, you changed or oh my goodness
that so it's just like you like, what do what
do you?
Speaker 2 (20:57):
You can't win for loser?
Speaker 3 (21:00):
And I was like, I definitely get that a lot.
I get that a lot from the friends. I get
people still now watching the show coming at me on Twitter.
I had to clap back at somebody this weekend and
I said I was gonna work on it. Lex I
said I was gonna work on it, but I had time.
That night. I was laying in bed, minding my own business,
and this lady just came out.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
I don't know where you know, you know what?
Speaker 4 (21:22):
You don't wanna teach you real quick. I don't appreciate
what you said. You're entitled to what you know, your opinion,
but that was me.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
You know what I told her to? No, I know
what what? What? Get your old ass off? As and
go back over the Facebook where you belong.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Of course. Okay, I'm confusing this. Okay, we're not doing this.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Lex I can't these people because these people be telling
they I know, we get upset. These people be telling
you about your life that you don't even know about.
They know your life better than you.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
I'm trying to tell you. The main thing we got
to do is just tell me. It's not me. I mean,
every now and then, somebody if you know, I.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Was doing it, but I feel like I needed to
telling us. Yes, I feel like I needed you know,
we're all human.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Yes, we are the Lord in progress.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
The Lord knows my heart. You know I'm trying. Change
don't come overnight.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
No, it doesn't. It doesn't.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Slow and steady wind a race, and I'm slowly and
steady changing. Well, I'm happy for you, but I'm still
gonna be pity every.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Now, nobody gonna catch you, catch you at that right
or wrong time that was the right, and then catch
it on behalf of everybody else.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
You let slide exactly the wrath the wrath of rail,
beware hellrail. Oh they maybe it's so visible, you're visible
now you this, I'm living my bead life.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
But they don't know that either.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
That's true. It's just it's just what people don't know.
Just it's just it's better. Sometimes you got to give
them a friendly reminder Noah.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Sometimes you know they'll feel it.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
You always on the power journey. You always on this
piece journey. I need you to turn up one time.
I'll turn up if I need to know you know that,
I need you to be on my side one time
and say real, yeah, talk that ship, talk that stuff real,
you know, just people take things and run with it.
(23:43):
We're on a healing journey right now. Yeah. Sometimes I've
been healing for so long. Sometimes I just want to
you know, we're happy right now. We're happy and healthy
and were vibrant. That's what we're just going to keep manifesting.
I hear you.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
Let okay, who side baby.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Have you ever worked with a close friend and you
felt like you're like the friendship during business with that friend,
It can cause some turmoil in the friendship.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
I feel like it is a tough space to be.
Speaker 4 (24:20):
You want people that are really low key looking out
for you, that have your back, that supports you. So
I haven't had anyone personally that I worked with because
it's been very like I respect everyone's laying because I
know I'm not great at everything and I need help,
so respectfully, if it's a friendship, it becomes a partnership.
(24:41):
So and I don't ever want to like, you know,
make my friends feel cheated or you know less then
so I feel like I'm always you know, given my
best foot for it.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
So that way we have that rapport.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
And if it's if it's money involved obviously and it's
reputation on the line, I want the best peace people
there to represent me as I'm representing them.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
So I haven't had any of those issues, but I
have seen it.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
It's tough because it's like now you have to show
up and be your your work. I'm just using me
as an example, your work alexis compared to like now,
your friend alexis. And again and if your foundation isn't
like solid and they don't really really know you and
it's more of a competitive nature, then it's gonna be
some issues because now those cracks will be revealed and
(25:30):
you know, now that foundation is going to start to
like shift a little bit.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
So its it takes two.
Speaker 4 (25:35):
Strong people that really respect each other and understand what
that friendship is from the beginning, like it's a partnership.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
And you're supposed to respect your friends, you know, like
you're supposed to love on them. You're supposed to talk
love into them.
Speaker 4 (25:49):
You're supposed to write or staring back in the right
direction and if you mean well, it'll flow well.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
For me.
Speaker 3 (25:58):
I actually my friend for over seventeen years, Christina. She
we work together. She runs the you know, she's a
co partner with me on the Lore. I brought her on.
She runs the northwest coast of a Loure, and we
worked so great together. And I don't take the position
(26:20):
like because I built the lore. I don't take the
position like it's my mama man. I like to stand
behind and you know, let her be the faith sometimes
and speak on it because it's I feel like our
friendship comes before any money, any business anything, as long
as we're good. She's a great business partner, and I
respect her opinion, and you know, I respect what she
(26:43):
brings to the table. So I will not allow notoriety
or just fame or whatever to take over, you know,
our friendship.
Speaker 4 (26:52):
And that's good leadership on your your into you know,
when we are able to like give the reins to
someone else and really be like, that's that, you know,
even though you did build something, or we build, we're founders.
We do all these things to let somebody like go
ahead and step before you and represent.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
You, but lets you know that you trust trust too,
you know. So it's like you built trust. There's a
loyalty between it, and you want the business to be better.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
You want you.
Speaker 4 (27:19):
Again respect her space and you respect her lane, and
that's trust. So it's a nice mutual respect and trust.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
So I think it's dope.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
And I say unofficially Sapple with us, like we may
we work together, we do things, you myself and Ashley.
We argue at times, but we still know how to
respect each other and bring it back in. And I
think that's the biggest thing. When you have respect and
you you know, like my friendship is worth more than
(27:48):
this little caddye stuff. We talk it out. You may
argue one day, but we talk it out and it's like, oh,
nothing never happened. Yeah, But when when you allow it
to hit public, and you got to really rear it
back in before it gets out of contract, because.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
It definitely can get motion in the wrong direction. For sure.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Yeah, yep, that's true. Can friendship truly survived when money
and opportunity are involved? I think the money thing is tough,
just because I'm sure, but we both get in positions
where people.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
Have asked for money, and most of the time we don't.
They're not asking for the exact amount. Everything's got rounded up,
you know. On my end, it's never been like twenty
four dollars and ninety two cents, you know what I mean.
So I think we just we Even when money comes involved,
(28:47):
that's when it becomes a little tricky because when you're
giving somebody something and loaning them something, it's just very much.
Speaker 2 (28:57):
You don't expect it that, you know.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
But then when it's a lot of money involved and
you're like expecting things to come back and return, that's
when if the financial part becomes tricky, just because you're
just like I need that back, you know, I got
I got kids to feed, and they just expect that maybe,
oh no, you got it, you could take the lot,
you got it.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
It's the principle, you know what I mean of.
Speaker 3 (29:18):
Like and then you see them going out.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
This money at bottles everything.
Speaker 3 (29:27):
I've lost some friends over some things like that because
it's like your part, I helped you when you needed help,
and it's not like I'm if you're gonna it's a difference.
Hey I need this, Hey I want to borrow this,
and I promise I'll pay back. Don't if you know
you ain't gonna pay it back, don't say just can
I get this? But when you saying you're gonna pay
something back, I expect my money to be paid back.
(29:50):
I don't care if this. Yeah, it's still the principle.
And as business women, that's that's what we expect exactly,
just as speaking the money what Tyler Perry ultimatums and
family entitlement. Woo, this is a good one. So Tyler
Perry did do a He recently revealed he had to
(30:12):
fire his own aunt after she stopped showing up for
the job he gave her. He also mentioned setting strict
financial boundaries with his family, and not everyone liked it.
Let's talk about how important it is to protect your peace,
even if it's from the blood. Oh my goodness, I
think we all can tell these, Yes we can.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
I mean I'm low key dealing with it now with
my children. You know, it's two different households now and
they're getting older, so the bills are getting larger, meaning
tuitions and meaning cars and insurances and all these things.
And at the end of the day, I'm teaching them
financial literacy and also financial responsibility of budgeting. Like you
(30:58):
guys have cars and you have an allowance, and it's
eighteenth of the month, you asking for our money.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Where did your money go? You know?
Speaker 3 (31:06):
You if you have vehicles, that means you have to
budget for gas.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
If you have.
Speaker 4 (31:13):
You know, if you're you go training and you need food,
you have to budget for that.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
So you know, it's it's it's it's about.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
That time where they understand the meaning of you know,
your Mam and I, your mom and daddy got it.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
But y'all have we paying for school.
Speaker 4 (31:29):
We've invested, you know, all this money into your education
and rearing you and molding you.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
And we are.
Speaker 4 (31:36):
Setting you guys up for success. So go be great,
and you need to budget like a student should.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Like a you know, so because you know, I feel you.
Speaker 3 (31:49):
Yeah, my daughter is my daughter, my daughter's shop. She
has shopping bags and everything coming in here. I had
to look at the damn aments. I had to freeze
a card, like, what is you doing? You just shopping
away panting because I did add her as an authorized user.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
But she she can't.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
You. That got to a point where it's like, okay,
mama gonna be busy, so let me like she got
the times of which she knows she can shop and
try to get them bags in here before the wait, wait,
where is your job?
Speaker 2 (32:23):
Where are they going?
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Exactly? She get an allowance. But the thing about it is,
you are a young adult. Now, I can't just be
spending money thinking because you think mommy got it and
I'm gonna always know I cut it off, go find
a job.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
And they're very capable.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
Yeah, but you know what, I blame it on myself
because I growing up as a child, I didn't have
it all. And I always said, you know, I don't
want my kids to go through what I went through,
you know, like having to not having things. But I
feel like it's a gift in a curse because now
it's making them feel especially it's.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
So entitled, so entitled.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
The Christmas lists get crazy and crazier each year. It's like, no,
y'all got to work for this. Now, I wish I
would have had them working. I was working at the
age of fifteen, I will I give this girl one
hundred dollars. She's like, what is this?
Speaker 4 (33:26):
And they're almost like that's not enough for nothing, Like
we would make that stretch for the whole week, like
more than that low key like you, that was movies,
that was hanging out, that was everything. Now they're just like,
one hundred is for what what I'm.
Speaker 3 (33:45):
Gonna do with this? What you mean, what you're gonna do?
What kind of lifestyle you live in that they feel
like you need more than one hundred dollars to go
eat somewhere.
Speaker 4 (33:54):
I've definitely turned into my mom. We have all that
food at home.
Speaker 3 (33:59):
Exactly. I'm not giving y'all no money. Y'all ain't putting
off the cars no more. Uber eats. Eat what's in
this house? Yeah, and it's and it's a lot of them.
They have to realize it's not just them either. You know,
it's just not a lot. It's just it's for you know,
it's just we gotta do this a long time. So
you guys are old enough to get a job, to
(34:22):
budget and to figure it out. And it's it's not
even just the kids, it's your parents.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Your parents. It's your own goodness, your dad what your
dad say? The baby needs some what is your baby?
Speaker 1 (34:37):
Look?
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Oh he got it down pack. Boy, he'd be hustling
Chad and he got it down pack. I'll be like,
He'll be like, yeah, the baby, he can't say. He
can't say, pull up snowball that that's been going out
the door, Serenity pottage, the baby want to go to
the water park.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
The baby the water park, Serenity to pull out pack.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
What you mean she want to go to the water park?
You just want to waste money, Keen. You sent some
money for this, I said, when the last time you
asked Chad for some money? He'll go ghosts.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
Then he'll have.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
Serenity call me.
Speaker 2 (35:14):
Oh then oh, then she calls you.
Speaker 3 (35:16):
Then she'll call. Then then I'm a call. We want
to go to the water park. Oh, Papa said it.
You see his shadow. You see his shadow by the kids.
And I said, oh, I said, he got he got them,
He got him train very well. So I have to
put him on a budget.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
Everyone else being put on a budget.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
I just sent you five hundred dollars. Yeah, and the
water park is not five hundred dollars.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
That part.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
It's like it's like you're raising kids again. Stay with
my mom, order this for me from from this place,
Send me money for this. Nope, I decline. Nope, nope.
Y'all need to learn how to budget y'all money. It's
like we become the parents. Absolutely, it's crazy. But back
(36:14):
to Tyler, Back to Tyler parents, you know who else
it's strict to even though they are billionaires, they had
to put a limit on, you know, letting their their
family borrow. Jay Z spoke about it as well. Do
you remember that when it was one of his family
members asked for like I think, like forty five hundred
(36:34):
for a business opportunity and they was going to bring
back two million or something, and he turned it down. No,
that's not how I operate. But that is why the
most powerful word is no. And that's how you keep
money because the more like, I feel like people, especially
family members, can take advantage of those things, and they
always feel like, oh, they got it, they got it. No,
(36:57):
you got to work for it. We both have the
same forty hours.
Speaker 4 (37:00):
And and you know, people don't realize that, you know,
you wanted to last like you want to you want
to keep generating it, and you want it to be
you know, for the children.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
You want everyone to be comfortable.
Speaker 3 (37:15):
So when you start exceeding it and like overdoing it,
and that's when you start to really get in trouble
with it.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
You know what I mean. I want it for a
long time. You want it for no.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
That that's definitely true. I think family see they just
see you have all this money coming in, or they
look at see what your network is, think see how
you're living, but they don't understand, like what you have
in alsehold all the things that you have to take
(37:45):
care in the emergencies and everything.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Everything.
Speaker 3 (37:50):
The same with my daughter, I break it down to her.
I said, you know, I don't just pay my mortgage,
my cardinal, your car note, my two car notes, your
car notes. I don't just pay that the enture. I
still have a business to round. I'll play employees. You
gotta play exactly male slone. It's crazy, I'll say, y'all
don't see y'all may see what's coming in. You may
(38:13):
see that, but you don't see what's going on. Like
y'all have to understand that money just don't fall from
the tree. Yeah, and again, if they have support they
have to understand that if we're there to support them
for the long run. We've been doing this long enough
to where we are like making you comfortable enough to
like you can come to us when there's some those emergencies.
(38:35):
But at the same time, you're very much capable. We
have invested very heavily in our friends and our family,
you know, really our family, our core family. We've invested
in them, you know, for them the opportunities to be
good humans. So go be great.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
We got your fact. We're going to be great. It's tough.
Speaker 3 (38:54):
Love.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
That word no is very powerful. I've been saying that
a lot lately, and I love it. I feel great.
It took me.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
It took me a long time to be able.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
To see it.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
Feels so good.
Speaker 2 (39:10):
No, I'm sorry. No, I can't do it. No, not
this time.
Speaker 3 (39:15):
No no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Yes, we
got to stop enabling our family members.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Yes, listen, we're doing it.
Speaker 3 (39:31):
Next subject, Oh my goodness, I was hot. Did you
hear about the h way put a lady in jail
for ten days?
Speaker 2 (39:40):
Right here? Oh? Really?
Speaker 3 (39:43):
So? I mean, is it an advantage to have an
hay or disadvantage to have an h a.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
I hate h Okay, so it's because one is feet.
I hate it.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
I remember that, and then they think that they are
pretty much public service that they can really they have
that like this power, you know, like oh if you're
if your shrubs are this high, then you're going to
be or if your fence is too low or the
grass is not cut. But I mean esthetically for the neighborhood,
(40:19):
you's good. But yeah, because your property values and your
home is your most expensive purchase, so you want to
take the neighborhood to be up to part it is.
But I feel like some hoa's. So before we get
into it, So what happened was basically a lady was
(40:39):
had to spend ten days in jail Lune due to
her HOA. Yes, jail hoas were created to maintain neighborhood standards,
but some have become many dictatorships. Are they helping homeowners
or harassing them? I feel like with this situation, she
she did, I did watch the she did report an
(41:01):
interview with one of the reporters, and she basically fixed
everything that needed to be fixed. I think it was
some of her grass that was messed up, her mailbox fixed.
I guess they had a court date for the HOA
had sent. Something was she didn't get the notification that
(41:23):
she had to go to court, and they ruled that
she go to jail because she failed to go to
that court date. But to go to that extent to
put somebody in jail, this lady have kids, like you
don't know people's financial situations to be because I mean,
it costs a lot shooting. I gotta. I got a
(41:43):
letter saying, my grat I need to put some old
Saint Augustine out in my front yard because I have
little dry spots. Said daddy, can you go get the
Saint Augustine grass and redo it? I'm not buying that.
We could go get some seeds. So his behind thought
he was in the grass and I had to call
the people out here to get most I just stin
(42:04):
grass out there. But it's like it's crazy because it's
it's like, do y'all have something else better to do?
Like it could be a little tiny little patch and
they tripping. Yeah, And I understand, but to go as
far as put somebody in jail, that's crazy.
Speaker 4 (42:21):
And you can get the wrong one that is basically
the tyrant that's going around being extremely picky, Like we
have a cold enforcement that goes around the city here
where I am, but that's for construction and that's for them,
not because I look up.
Speaker 2 (42:39):
You know, you can start construction.
Speaker 3 (42:40):
In my neighborhood at seven am and it's from like
seven to seven, which is insane. And I'm just like you.
Speaker 2 (42:47):
Hearing nothing but like you know, hammering. But I'm like,
that should be more of a cold enforcement.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
Let's less building and you know, it's a noise ordinance
and things like that.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
But I don't have an h u A.
Speaker 4 (43:00):
I used to have one and they weren't as strict.
But everyone I love the static of everyone's grass was cut,
everyone's homes were taken care of, because it is. It's
great for the you know, just for the what you're
paying for essentially, you know.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
I wanted to I'll be fly.
Speaker 3 (43:22):
It comes to a point where y'all, y'all get rid.
I think, you know, I have a beautiful neighborhood that
everybody stay up to part with, you know, how their
yards are. But to go to that point, it should
be some Yeah, it should be at some point where okay,
enough is enough, because y'all are volunteers, y'all got y'all
(43:44):
need to find something else to do.
Speaker 2 (43:46):
Volunteers.
Speaker 3 (43:49):
They are volunteers.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
They don't get paid.
Speaker 3 (43:53):
Yeah, everybody wanted to be power struck, like chill, chill, chill, chill.
They'll get to a point if so, I have the pavers,
if you have a spring of grass growing out of it,
you getting a letter from nature, oh man, And what
if you just don't see it?
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Then fine glass.
Speaker 3 (44:19):
Y'all running around the with just get your ass off
the damn golf course. A couple of pluck the damn
grass that's growing out of there. It's three three little
strings coming up out the pavement.
Speaker 4 (44:33):
That I would be heartbroken if I had to go
to jail off of my paint being chipped or something
like that would be devastating.
Speaker 3 (44:44):
I felt bad for like baby, it would have been
World War three in that neighborhood. Yeah, because then.
Speaker 4 (44:52):
You're coming back out and you're like, I'm coming right
after you. Now now it's like animosity in the neighborhood,
which is even worse.
Speaker 3 (44:58):
But you know what someone was saying that they try
to do that to try to weed certain people out
of neighborhoods, to force you to sell because believe that
it's like you did pick on certain people. It could
be a certain certain type of people. You're trying to
force them to sell, so you're gonna keep on nagging
at them, nagging at them like I had enough and
(45:19):
some people can't take that. Yeah, but it's not right.
And I hope she don't sell her home. Don't let
nobody force you up out of your place. Do what
you gotta do. But ho A have so many it's
like they can even fore clothes on you.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 4 (45:35):
It's a lot of fine print when you get that
thick stack of papers when you're signing over for your
largest purchase of your life, the home, your livelihood.
Speaker 2 (45:45):
You know, it's it's it's can be tough. I the
only the only good thing, you know. I watched you
have you ever watched the show Hoarders. I would be
I would be living if I had a neighbor that
had like trash and.
Speaker 3 (46:00):
All of that extra broke down car. Yeah, so like
low key like that would be the my those the noise,
the construction of that and really, like you know, if
there's any any kind of like violence going on in
any crime, that's the only kind of protection I would need,
you know, like it would be the hoarders, and that's
(46:22):
spilling out to like you know, animals, all of that stuff.
Speaker 2 (46:27):
That's when we would need some coding force. But other
than that, I don't want anybody being.
Speaker 3 (46:31):
A tyrant, like telling us about paint, telling them about
the grass, or telling you. I mean, I feel like
it should be a standard. But the fact that you
got to go through the HIO to submit for your
pool plans, all your privacy, it's just a point where
I bought this house. Y'all didn't put money in on
this house to do in my backyard.
Speaker 2 (46:55):
Or add to or subtract from.
Speaker 3 (46:58):
Yes, it's it's it has its pros and its cons,
but I feel like there should be a some places,
some neighborhoods just take it too serious, Like you got
to pull back because for her to be to go
to jail for ten days for that bull crap, it's
(47:20):
it's insane. Well that's something to look at, you know,
when you're looking at properties, like to ask the neighbors
what do you think about your hoa before you get
to that purchase.
Speaker 2 (47:29):
I think that would be avoided for.
Speaker 4 (47:32):
Me if I am riding around and I'm looking for
a property in a neighborhood when I'm raising children and
I'm paying for it.
Speaker 2 (47:40):
I best believe.
Speaker 3 (47:41):
I don't want to be harassed leaving my house every day.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
That's just too much.
Speaker 3 (47:47):
The camera and the golf cart run around taking pictures.
Speaker 2 (47:55):
Let me write you up right behind. I'll threat you.
Speaker 3 (47:58):
Up, not too much, but it's crazy. Yes, real estate insights.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
You know what.
Speaker 3 (48:09):
There was another neighborhood and I, you know, I was
happy to hear that because I sell a lot in
that neighborhood. Where they were taken on when the interest
rates was was low. It was companies going around purchasing
a lot of a lot of homes. And at one
point it was they probably bought like a hundred homes
(48:32):
from this developer. And at one point they started opening
beautiful neighborhood. They started opening up, opening opening it up
to section eight. And the homes, the other homes in
the in the neighborhood are like eight hundred thousand, you know,
seven hundred thousand.
Speaker 2 (48:51):
And then you had.
Speaker 3 (48:52):
An area where another builder came in there and the
homes probably went for three hundred thous And now when
you bring in that you know section eight into there,
you got the crime went up in there everything, so
HOA had to come in and it forced like after this,
no more section eight because you're basically bringing the value
(49:15):
down with the crime that's going up. People you know,
renters are not taking care of their yards. It's just
it was so I feel like, you know, it does
have it, it's pros and its couns. But when some
people are on a power power, I can't talk. They
(49:35):
sprung out and trying to just be in how demand
because they probably was bullied so much in school and
they feel like they suffer from the little man syndrome.
They just get carried away. Yeah, I agree, Hoa's y'all
got to get better.
Speaker 2 (49:53):
I can't.
Speaker 3 (49:53):
I ain't gonna complain though. I like my HOA, but
they do be pissing me off when they send a
picture talking about you got three little streng you got
three little strains coming out your ground. But overall, I
can't complain. We don't have Humble Batty's mail tonight, all right?
Speaker 2 (50:13):
You got it? No, I don't humble mail tonight. Well
then that's that.
Speaker 3 (50:22):
No humble Humble Batty's all right, all right, you guys,
were done for today. I don't want to get y'all
sick because you don't. I don't looking at it until
next time. We'll see y'all Wednesday. But until then, make
(50:42):
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Speaker 2 (51:07):
Have a good all right, you guys? Well and what
you what you coughing like that?
Speaker 3 (51:10):
You definitely should be in the other bedroom, okay, not
getting it. Ain't nobody here with me? Boo boom my man.
Speaker 2 (51:19):
Indeed, all right, have a good night.
Speaker 3 (51:22):
Yea, I'm about to go make me a hot toddy,
hot toddy. All right, you guys, have a good one.
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