May 5, 2025 • 38 mins
Sharelle and Ashley react to the opening of the 2025 Met Gala and former NFL Star Steve Smith Sr. being sued for an alleged affair. Later, the ladies share advise for small business owners, answer mailbag questions, and much more!
01:38 - Intro
07:30 - 2025 Met Gala Reaction
19:46 - Baddie Business Advice: Business Credit
23:42 - Steve Smith Sr. Sued for Affair
33:00 - Humble Baddies Mailbag
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Like, get in my way, never out of my name's
been like you one and the more one? So is
gonna be baby squad? What's up? What's that? What's that? Okay?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Girl?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Maya listen.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I just dogged my tacos. That's the only thing I
have to represent for sick of divids.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
My Garita asked, I want you know, I'm trying to
get fined. So meanwhile, I'm trying to get fined. But
I just dark a can of soda.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I'm taking a break from alcohol right now because I
feel like yesterday I went to Charlotte.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
I surprised my vestor, you know, Christina. I surprised her.
She just closed on her house and Congratulationsina, and we celebrated.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
I mean, we bought bottles, like we had three bottles
of what is.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
It nineteen forty? Is it nineteen forty two?
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I coun't even think of that doom and we finished everything,
and I'm like, I can't.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
How am I? How am I here right now? I
had a flight to catch at six o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
You had a flight to catch. Well, you don't look
like once you've been through. Amen, Listen, I got back
y'all see him. Well, I'm gonna step on my migrator
for the both of us. Yeah, drink from me and
I got me some chips and dips to be celebrating. Okay,
(01:36):
y'all doing y'all a big one over there? Sure weekend?
What you got going on?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Girl? You know? Month? The month of May is crazy?
You know.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I feel like it's like the beginning of like the summer,
the end of like the school year. You know, the
kids died games. My mama graduating. I gotta go to
her graduation. Philip love Philip graduating from the fifth grade.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I got a middle schooler. You know.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
It's just so much going on Mother's Day, my wedding anniversary.
So I'm like, I'm just trying to keep up, honestly,
you know what I mean. Every day is something. But girl,
I feel you, what about you?
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
It's crazy? So all right on a graduation. I just
finished her prom. That was crazy, so beautiful. How did
y'all get her dress?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Did you have that made? Or what? She had it
custom made? Let her tell it. My dress was custom
made and dobai okay, good bye.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
So she had her dress, she picked out her dress.
That was the I have the baseball season. It's crazy.
Then a place for a travel team and we're going
to be troubling all over this summer, so he's going
to keep me occupied. Serenity want to start gymnastics. I
have a huge project. So I don't know it was discussed.
It was showed on the show a little bit. We
(03:12):
did the groundbreaking, but.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
We actually are are starting the process of building our
affordable homes joining us. So that has been crazy. We've
been going, it's been putting, We've been putting in work.
So by next year I'll be having five town homes
put up in Tampa and Okay, so that's gonna be good.
(03:36):
I'm excited for that. And then just trying to get
Ariana off to college. It's just it's a lot, that's it.
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Well, I look forward to seeing you sing your daughter
off to college, Like for me, like I want to
come if I can't, Oh, are you going to do
a Trump party?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
That's like the new thing, isn't that? Yes? Yes, the
Trump Party? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Okay, so that means like we just bring stuff for
her dorm, right, Why wouldn't do that?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
When I went to go like, well me, I went
off to the military. But shit, I still could have
had a Trump party going off to the military.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
But I'm glad whoever started that tradition. I'm glad y'all
started it because I could have. Absolutely I needed some
stuff because that little Rundown dring room I had. I
needed everything. So that's exciting. And you got to bring
them down to hang out with the kids.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yes, it's basic. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I it's like baseball has its It takes something, you know,
it takes up everything. Though the sports safety acting like
this is the end of the world, and I'm like, child,
They only eleven, they only ten?
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Why why?
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Why is it so serious at this age. I don't
understand all the sports moms out there. I know y'all
feel us. Okay, it's a lie.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
The practices, like the parents are crazy too.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Some of the are that crazy. I don't seen Phil
get into it with some of the parents. Some of
the coaches in y'all know, hell, don't even He ain't
even that kind of prosing. And you know, if Phil
say something, it's a problem.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
But these sports, these days, with these kids, it's crazy.
I haven't seen some crazy stuff. They've been trying to
fight being violent at the games, need the police and stuff.
They've been trying to live through their kids.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
They do, don't they And they swear that little ten
year rold who can't hardly catch the ball throw the
ball now, they swear he gonna go pro.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
But like baby, y'all just want to go Hell yeah,
he's like relaxed, just let them have fun.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
It's crazy. Well let's get into it. Have you been
watching the met Galla? Have you been all on my
phone checking an These looks funny because this theme this
year is everything.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Okay, what's the theme? Super fun? Tailor and black style.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
I love it, and you know I love it because
I tend to lean more on the masculine side.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Like you know, I'm very tomboyish.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I love a good I don't really have a chance
to wear like a good tailored suit anywhere, but you know,
I love, you know, very masculine looks like I love
me a cargo Jean and I love a good sneakers
look like. I'm very much into the like I lean
more masculine. So this theme I just really feel like,
you know, I you know, you would kill it. You
(06:43):
would have killed it because it's dapping into the style
of the legacy of black men. So yeah, you probably
you definitely would have killed it. And I think that's
beautiful that they are, you know, celebrating first of all
black men. Like how often do we get to see
black men uplifted in a way and in our culture
(07:03):
uplifted on a platform in this way, Like yeah, we
get it through music and stuff like this, but fashion,
you know, we don't always get to be in the forefront,
in the limelight on this big stage like the MET
Gala is the met Gala, Like there's nothing bigger than
the MET Gala when it comes to fashion.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
So I just love the theme. Yes, the theme is nice.
So what was your favorite so far? So far? I
always have to give it to my girl, Tiana Taylor.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
The detail in her cake, I don't even before I
even saw the details on the cap, I was just
like blown away by the tailoring.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Of her suit.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Then she has this beautiful cake and then on the
cap there's a rolls in Harlem stitched onto it, and
then there's like roses on there. Like it's the details
for me, because anybody can you know, throw on her
tailored suit, you know what I mean. But it's the
detailing for me, right, my favorite, My favorite was Louis Hamilton.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Louis Hambleton did do it for the guys, yeah he did.
He did his big one. But he's a very pretty man.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
I never knew he was slow gorgeous, like very gorgeous
in the face.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
He is he you know, yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Like it's like what he wore he could get married
in that like that is I don't know if he
married or not, but it just gave like a royal wedding,
a royal groom, like that's what it was given.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Who was your least favorite boom? My least favorite? Let
me go back and look, oh Tyler. Ain't that her name?
Tyler Tylo? So what was the worst out of her
or the meg Meg? I would say, wasn't one thing?
(08:54):
I feel like Tyler's you know why. It wasn't a
thing she wore A Michael cor.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Michel course when it comes to a tour, I think
he can do what it needs to do. But it
just wasn't given. It wasn't on theme.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
She had on like a white fur, like a silvery
color down.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
And the boobs were just sitting up. It's like all
I've seen in the hair and the makeup. I don't know,
it is the thing. It didn't It wasn't on theme
for me. It just it didn't give It didn't give dandyism.
It didn't give tailored. I had liked some of Bowels
outfit someon Boughs. Yeah, but you know, she's so petite
(09:40):
and so like.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Muscular.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
You know, maybe she didn't want to go to masculine
with her outfit. So maybe that's why she wore like
a short mini dress thinking okay, I would have passed
on that one. Diana rosss oh, Diana Ross did it.
I loved it, and I felt like it was so hard,
(10:04):
like very true to who she is, because I feel
like she too often dresses kind of masculine, like she's
not super like uh, you know, feminine and girly like
you know, she does wear dresses and stuff, but like
it also has like a very masculine flair. But the
fact that she brought out like the pinks, because everybody's
wearing like black and white and darker colors, she pulled
out like the colors, the pinks and the reds, and
(10:27):
I thought that was beautiful.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
She looked great. Yeah, well, the looks are still coming in.
So y'all tell us who who did they do? Who didn't?
Who needs help with their styles? Who needs a fire
their stylist? Let us know, Yeah, we're missing out girla Lexus.
We know lex went to the MET gala some years
(10:49):
ago and she looked amazing.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
I know she could have gave us some insight on
her experience being there, but she'll be back next week fabling.
So it's just me and real today holding it down. Okay,
my question, Ashley, are things like this a real celebration
of black culture or curated, curated marketing moments for the
(11:13):
MET to feel inclusive?
Speaker 1 (11:16):
I think where we are now as far as.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Being more open and receptive to black culture, I think
this felt natural.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
You know.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
I think we've seen a lot of other types of
cultures and styles and art, and I think it was
about time to uplift like the black men and the
black culture.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
And I don't know, it feels it does.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
To feel forced to me, And I'm usually the person
to be like now, they just doing this to get
a reaction. But to be honest with you, I really
feel like this felt very natural, very one time, very needed,
and it's like I feel like the conversations around it
have been very positive and we love to see it.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
So I'm here for it. Yeah, I feel like everyone
did their big one.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
It was there was much needed the recognition of black contributions.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
So I'm I'm loving it. Everyone showed up and showed out.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
They didn't make it like a costume type event, like
everyone put there all in. A lot of people, not everyone,
A lot of people did put their all into, you know,
and they killed it. They slanted. Okay, now I will
say or let me ask you, what do you think
do you think the white celebrities are really going on
theme with their looks or they just showing up? You know?
(12:41):
So from what I've seen, From what I've seen, they're
they're killing it. It's still going on. Just doing a
quick glimpse. What was her name, Emma, Emma Chamberlain.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Let me look her up? Who you said? Look?
Speaker 2 (13:00):
I did like her look, Emma. She had on some
like a pinstripe. I just saw Sabrina Carpenter pop up.
She looks very Sabrina killed that too. Sabrina is cute,
you know. I didn't think it was one thing and
half away. I felt like she looked like she was
going to dinner. I didn't see her. You gotta send
(13:20):
me her. She just got on a white button up
and a skirt.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
That's it. Fell Yeah, but yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I think I think they understood everyone understot us majority
underset that Simon and mad she just popped up. I
don't know what to say about that. Look what about asap?
Let me see you've seen him already. Rihanna is pregnant. Girl,
(13:51):
he doesn't knock up? Read what her third baby on
the way.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
We ain't getting no album when we getting a third baby?
Oh my, what are we going? Alb? Because they been
over there making music in the baby. Oh what a
way to announce it on the way to the mac gala.
But girl, re read.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Read come on, baby, just take up halls a step.
All we asked is let.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Our girl make some apple. Now.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
I gotta go over here and join the bee house.
Can't even go to no concerts, no more. Not to
take a drink.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Child, We ain't up.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Don't get an alb a lot anyways, Let me fine
cat what he had on?
Speaker 1 (14:39):
You saw his look already? I didn't see that. I
see it. Oh yeah, he always looked is known for
his fashion. But yeah. But honestly though, it's not like,
oh he looks nice.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
He just always looks good like that. I expect this
look at him, you know, all right, you know it's
disappointed me though. Now that I'm looking at it, then yeah,
I think, yeah, I don't. I remember lips, but a
white tailored suit and a hat that looked like somebody
grandy beach hat.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
I don't like that hat. But the suit, the suit
is very well tailored. A thing. She's one thing, but
it's kind of boring, y'all. No, I can't. Fashion is
not me. I throw on some anything and keep it moving.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
It's pretty, and you can just throw on whatever you
want to.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
Luckily you're blessed in that way. She's not for me,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
But Lizendaya, I feel like she's I would give her
like I don won't say she's a fashion icon, but
she always they dressed her like her styless law roach like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Blessing her, damn, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
And she she says that she used fashion to like help,
you know, propel her career. You know, she wasn't standing
out as much as an actor, and she used like
fashion to get to where she is. So I don't
know what she was because I just expected more from her.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
But it's cute. It's not a bad look. It's just yeah,
you would have thought. Come on now, Yeah, I gotta
look at hers. All right, enough, let's keep on. We're
gonna keep on watching door.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Dor want to say hey to y'all, say hey, say hey,
so cute.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
I So let's get into it, y'all, so we keep
on watching these looks, y'all, let us know what y'all think.
We gotta still be critiquing as we go along our way. Yeah,
we're gonna get into the business segment.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Y'all know, we included a business segment and people are
loving it. So each week we're gonna talk about business,
some humble batty's business. And this week I decided to
talk about business.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Credit.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Yeah, a lot of credit. Everybody got everybody else credit.
Y'all got, they got credits. You can get your plastic surgeries.
But y'all get out enough y'alln't know credit. Yeah, you
have to get into the business credit because what you
can do and a lot of people don't know. You
can put bill post in your business credit and you
you don't become a liability to that. Like my may
(17:36):
bag is in my business name, not my name, I
don't have any it doesn't touch my personal credit. So
today we're gonna make grown women moves, humble Baddy moves,
humble Daddy moves.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
And you can a lot serious funding, better terms, and
boss level opportunities for your brand.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Because then a humble batty doesn't mean they can small,
it means they can smart gas Why business credit credit matters.
So here's the deal. Business credit is like your business
financial resume. Just like personal credit helps you get loans, apartments,
or a card, business credit helps your company get approved
(18:16):
for lines of credit, lease, it's vendor accounts, and it
protects your personal credit while doing it.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
How to start business credit?
Speaker 2 (18:26):
So before I'll give you an example of how I
started my business credit.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Wells Fargo stopped doing it, but when I open up
my business.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Opened up my business back in twenty nineteen, I went
to Wells Fargo and back then they had a secured
credit card for business credit, not your personal So I
put five thousand dollars into an account to open up
a secure card for my business credit. Once I did that,
(18:57):
I made little small payments for the office, did what
I needed to do, and after six months they opened
it up to a unsecured line. That's how I started
building my business credit. Then I opened up an AMEX
card business amex card.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Then I opened up I went to go get the
truck in my business credit.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
So after just doing things, I don't even have to
use my personal credit because I have my business credit.
So all you need to do to start up your
business you have to have a business first, AI in number,
an address for your business and register your business went
(19:36):
done in Bradstreet and you can start like putting like
if you have a lease, just start putting things in
there too.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Basically so I can report to your business credit. OK.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
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and staying good stand Humble Batty's tip of the week.
Start small or start right, even if you're just freelancing
or stop hustling right now. Set the foundation like you're
running a million dollar brand, because one day you just
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might be.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
That.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
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It's about ownership. When your business saying stands on its
own name, you're not just hustling, You're building a legacy.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Hey, that was good.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I guess we got to buy business credit so we
can get these businesses going. Stop using your own money,
use credit, build your credit.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Yes, okay, now we got to get into it because
the tea is hot.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Our good old boy Steve smith Singer and his lawsuit
when Love and log Collide, it's the topic of this segment.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Have you heard about what's going on? Ashley?
Speaker 2 (20:58):
I had to catch up on it because I think, wow,
why was everybody business in the streets?
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Wow? Well, pro chat? But I want to know well,
I think it went viral.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
I think the husband got in his feelings and he
posted he recorded the conversation when when he called Steve
and he was like, basically, you're cheating.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
You're sleeping with my wife. He found the messages.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
Girl, it was some crazy messages and he was like,
I'm sorry, man.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
They hug up the phone or something like that. Fast forward.
He's being so because in some states, if basically if you.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
Are the person cheating with the person, you can you
can sue him.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Mm. Hmm. It's called what is it, the home? It's
called the home.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Yes, and unfortunately, North Carolina is one of those states.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
So we've got to break it down the allegations.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Steve Smiths Senior is been by Antonio Martinez, who allegis
that Smith had a month long affair with his wife, Nicole.
The lasso claims that this affair led to the breakdown
of the Martinez marriage. So he basically said, you don
reason you was over here laying this tight. Now you
the reason why me and my wife are getting a divorce.
(22:22):
Martinez is seeking over one hundred thousand in damages citing
alienation of affection. Alienation of affection, that's what Martinez said.
He wants ae hundred thousand dollars for that, intentional infliction
of emotional distress and other claims.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Let's break down the home wreck of law.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
North Carolina is one of the few states that still
recognizes alienation of affection lawsuits. Now, how can you approve
that because I mean it if she cheated on or
her husband, it had to be something else, which really
(23:08):
and you can't prove it. Say he got text messages
to her and he like, baby, come on, I want
to you know, I want to take you on to
dinner tonight, and she like no, or she just denying
him whatever.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
You know what I'm saying, that's you can prove that.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
My question is, okay, what if you know, he sues them,
wears the lawsuit or whatever, and they get back together. Well,
that's fine because she still had an affair. He still
could have possibly messed up their marriage, le divorce and
get back together all the time.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
That's crazy. It is okay.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
This law allows a stout to see a third party
who is believed to have interfere in their marriage into
its dissolution. To succeed, the planner must prove that genuine
love and affection existed in the marriage, and that and
that the defendant's actions led to its erosions erosion. Yeah,
(24:16):
like what if what if the other man was like
doing the most like buying her real expensive gifts or something,
or like doing something that maybe the husband couldn't do.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Well.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
The thing about it is, and you hear a lot
of guys that for the right one that will cheat.
I mean, Steve wasn't like a basic football player. He
was like one of the top football players in the
league during his era.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
So maybe she was a.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Fan and she was like, this is the once in
a lifetime opportunity, let me go step out.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
But they were telling each other they love it.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
The girl that you got to read them text messages, sho,
I got to read the text.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I didn't see the text, Okay.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
So I mean I feel like this is something he
should probably probably just like settle outside of court, like
go to mediation, settle, you.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
Know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (25:13):
Do you feel like do you feel like I'm on
record lawsuit should be honored in every state?
Speaker 1 (25:26):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (25:28):
I just feel like you the person you should be
mad at is the person that you are in a
relationship with.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
I wouldn't punish the other person.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
It's really because you still got to deal with that person,
you know what I mean, whether y'all end up divorcing
or not, especially if you have kids, like, you still
have to deal with that person and the repercussions of
whatever happened, you know what I mean. So I just
feel like adding in that other person, it's just you
being bitter and trying to get something out of it,
(26:00):
trying to hurt another person. But really, the person that
you should be upset with is the person that you're
married to.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
I under staying, Like when you're mad.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
And you're going through it, you're like, yeah, let me
hit this man up for however much.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
But at the end of the day, it's whoever you're
dealing with that I feel like you need to deal with.
That's true. I have I know someone who's who's going
through who went through a situation like that. But I
feel like some people take it, you know, take advantage
of this law because it's like you are you was
(26:36):
out here cheating, cheating, cheating, and now that your husband,
you know, got fed up, he stepped out, and now
you see this person have money, the wife is swing
the other woman. It's like you're taking advantage of this. Yeah,
the relationship was already used up. That's why I said,
the other person don't need money. Y'all deal with y'all issues,
(27:01):
because clearly y'all got issues, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
Instead of adding a whole other person into it, adding
another lawsuit, the worces already cost a lot of money,
you know, So for you to like bring in a
whole third person into it, I think it's just extra.
It's a lot.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
I don't know if it's the smartest thing to make
that like a lot everywhere they need to.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
And you gotta be careful because people are scammers.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
You got couples out here that will go out and
seek people with money just to get a little I.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Ain't even think about that. That's true.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
But you gotta be careful with with all this. Oh,
there's a lot of scammers these days. People will find
a way to scam the girl. People will right right,
you're behind and story and you'll be driving and somebody
behind and they'll just glem my brakes so you can
hit them. It's all types of stuff. Yeah, yeah, Well
(27:58):
we hope our boy come out.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Well. You know, when you when you.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Play those types of games, you never know what we
don't play. Praise for your STU, smell that it he
don't hurt your pockets. I pray for this marriage that
it works. And he's also a public figure, so that's
why I'm like, I just feel like you should quietly settle,
you know what I'm saying, Like, don't let this keep going,
don't don't. I don't think I don't think he knew
(28:24):
that he was gonna get suitor like this. Just came
out a couple of days ago that he was actually
the guy was following the lawsuit.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
So I mean, if you gonna cheat, why.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
That Usually when they do this and it's for money,
they ask for it first upfront, and then if you
don't agree to set like give the money, then they sue,
you know what I'm saying. So people, maybe he did
already say like, look, give me some money or I'm
gonna sue you for the money.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
Damn.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
So I feel like he probably had a chance to
settle privately.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
You actually people do.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
Maybe if it's if it had to be set up quietly,
you would have got two hundred thousand if I had
no sublet. So maybe Stee's willing to fight and be
like hell no, you know, but maybe maybe they knew something,
maybe yeah, a proof that they wasn't on a y'all
don't know.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
It's just a bad situation all around. It is. It is.
But can you imagine what if Steve.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
Cat somebody he was dealing with, and then this came out,
you know, and now you got to pay somebody one
hundred thousand dollars. I couldn't deal with you no more
Like now I'm with you, but you gotta pay it.
Somebody on hundred that because you broke up their marriage, ill,
I can't be with you no more. It's just bad. Like,
it's just bad. It's a bad look. We're gonna pray
(29:59):
for him today. It's gonna be it's gonna be a
short Steve. But we got to get into the Humble
Batty Batty's mail, and we're gonna let you go have
your fun and drink your Margarita's baby. If Phil is
waiting on me, he just walked by, y'all.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Listen, y'all might be like, were ya a South after Wild? No,
we not. We be done by the babies.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Okay, we like to practice, but we ain't having number
all right.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
I got the Humble Batty's mail day.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
It says, Hey, Humble Batty, I need y'all's real, unfiltered
advice on this one because my head is spinny. So
I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now
and things have been mostly solid. We've had our ups
and downs like everyone, but I really thought we were
in a good place anyway. Last weekend we were having
(30:57):
a chill night, just sipping wine and having one of
those deep combos about boundaries and insecurities. Out of nowhere,
he tells me he's attracted to my best friend.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
But oh, okay, yes, my best friend.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
He said he'd never act on it and that he
just wanted to be honest while wouldn't ever feel blindsided.
He even said he respects me too much to ever
cross that line. But ever since that combo, I can't
unhear it, Like, why did he even need to say that?
Should I be thankful he was honest? Or was that
some low key disrespect? This disguised and transparency. Now I
(31:36):
feel weird whenever the three of us are around each other,
and I can't help but feel like I'm in competition?
Am I tripping? Or is this a serious red flag?
I would say that's a red flag, like, don't tell
me that you'll trade it's to my best friend. Yes,
I can't even like you basically as women, even if
(32:03):
you not insecure. You just made this lady feel so
insecure about herself by telling so every time two things
gonna happen, she's gonna start mistreating her friend, which happens
a lot, or you know, she's gonna feel like she
has to go above and beyond and start being like
her friend just so she can get in. You know,
(32:24):
it's just it's a mind thing, Like it's crazy. Don't
tell me no shit like that. Yeah, I first of
all think that this is a red flag just on
him and his character, because like, if this is your man.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
Did she say they was married or no? It don't
matter either way.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
If this is your boo, this is your man, like
you're supposed to like protect your heart, protect your eyes,
protect your mind like you're supposed to like, of course,
there's are attracted people in the world. You're never gonna
like not be attracted to other people, right, But like
for him to have to voice it means like it's
(33:09):
like eating him up inside or some shit.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Because I can look at him in and be like,
oh he cute, you know what I'm saying, and like
can't be moved, keep a moving, But for him to
feel like he needed to bring it up and say
it to me, why.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
You on your mind? Like what that's weird?
Speaker 1 (33:29):
And you know, I just think that.
Speaker 2 (33:37):
I don't know, I don't know that it would bother
me about him liking her, Like I don't. I wouldn't
I personally wouldn't feel like I need to be in competition.
It wouldn't mind fuck me, It would just really mess
with me in a way of like he has eyes
for other women in a way that he can't control.
Because what was it about her that made you feel
(34:02):
like you needed to tell me? Like I get being
honest and transparent, but to me, it just feels a
little like it would end up going further and being
a problem in the future. Yeah, because what if one day,
you know, y'all out together and then you have you
feel like you can't go to the bathroom or leave
(34:23):
them alone. It's just it's just it's cast so many confusions, like.
Speaker 1 (34:28):
I wouldn't, I wouldn't, I wouldn't even want to stay
with anyone like that exactly, And it wouldn't and it
honestly wouldn't have nothing to do with her. It would
really just have everything to do with him.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Because it's now I'm looking at you at every finance
woman that walks back, because I'm like, but even if
they don't have to do with her, he may he
can create confusion between them two. Like I've seen a
lot of women who who treated their friends a certain
way because they felt like their man wanted them, and
(35:00):
they didn't even go to the stream of saying like, oh,
you know, I'm attracted to your friend.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
It's just they'll see they're very sad.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
You shouldn't be with a man who would make you
treat your friends weird because your friend weird. You know
what I'm saying, Like, that's a whole another problem. But
that's a problem with you, and yeah, you need to
dig into. But if we're talking about like how this
humble batty's saying the man just came and said I
(35:29):
got a problem and it's because he said that she fine,
I feel like that's a hymn problem. But if you
automatically like treat your friends weird because you think your
man might think she fine, then that might be a
problem where we got to look with them.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
But all of the situations is like you need to
be with a man who makes you feel confident. You
can leave him in a room full of baddies and
you know it ain't nothing finish your down period. That's
the kind of man that you need to be with.
You need to be with a man who only got
eyes for you, not saying that he can't acknowledge another
fine woman. But but to get your friend and say, oh,
(36:08):
I'm a tracked.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
Maybe a strong word, because you.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Can acknowledge it, you can acknowledge even the sexiness of
a woman. But to say I'm attracted to her means
that there's something in you that wants it, like I
want her to me. That's what attracted means, And that
would yeah, And so I would tell that humble baddy
she might need.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
To take a step back with him, you know, really,
because there might be other signs and other foods and
things that he might be doing that might show you
he may not be the one because but I mean,
I guess he can appreciate his transparency.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
But just because it's TRANSPARENTI is, don't mean you need
to look through that ship. Okay, you keep it moving.
That's a tough one. I can't imagine the girl. You
are not sure, But you need to get up at
the relationship because it sounds like either he had tracked
to it and he want her, or he trying to
bring her in and have a little.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
Yeah, he trying to test you and see what you
thought about that, Like you like her too, like her type? Shit?
And I don't like that. Mm hmm, girl, get about that.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
That's a crazy situation to be in, but I feel
like that probably happens often. I'm sure it does. Yeah,
it does. The's sick thing. Well, you guys, we want
y'all to enjoy. Y'all sink on the mayoga and have
some fun. We're gonna end it short today. If y'all
have any questions or concern so y'all want to send
(37:48):
us some Humble Baby mail, y'all can reach us at
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(38:10):
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Speaker 1 (38:31):
Babe,
Like, get in my way, never out of my name's
been like you one and the more one? So is
gonna be baby squad? What's up? What's that? What's that? Okay?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Girl?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Maya listen.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I just dogged my tacos. That's the only thing I
have to represent for sick of divids.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
My Garita asked, I want you know, I'm trying to
get fined. So meanwhile, I'm trying to get fined. But
I just dark a can of soda.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I'm taking a break from alcohol right now because I
feel like yesterday I went to Charlotte.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
I surprised my vestor, you know, Christina. I surprised her.
She just closed on her house and Congratulationsina, and we celebrated.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
I mean, we bought bottles, like we had three bottles
of what is.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
It nineteen forty? Is it nineteen forty two?
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I coun't even think of that doom and we finished everything,
and I'm like, I can't.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
How am I? How am I here right now? I
had a flight to catch at six o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
You had a flight to catch. Well, you don't look
like once you've been through. Amen, Listen, I got back
y'all see him. Well, I'm gonna step on my migrator
for the both of us. Yeah, drink from me and
I got me some chips and dips to be celebrating. Okay,
(01:36):
y'all doing y'all a big one over there? Sure weekend?
What you got going on?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Girl? You know? Month? The month of May is crazy?
You know.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I feel like it's like the beginning of like the summer,
the end of like the school year. You know, the
kids died games. My mama graduating. I gotta go to
her graduation. Philip love Philip graduating from the fifth grade.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I got a middle schooler. You know.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
It's just so much going on Mother's Day, my wedding anniversary.
So I'm like, I'm just trying to keep up, honestly,
you know what I mean. Every day is something. But girl,
I feel you, what about you?
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
It's crazy? So all right on a graduation. I just
finished her prom. That was crazy, so beautiful. How did
y'all get her dress?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Did you have that made? Or what? She had it
custom made? Let her tell it. My dress was custom
made and dobai okay, good bye.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
So she had her dress, she picked out her dress.
That was the I have the baseball season. It's crazy.
Then a place for a travel team and we're going
to be troubling all over this summer, so he's going
to keep me occupied. Serenity want to start gymnastics. I
have a huge project. So I don't know it was discussed.
It was showed on the show a little bit. We
(03:12):
did the groundbreaking, but.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
We actually are are starting the process of building our
affordable homes joining us. So that has been crazy. We've
been going, it's been putting, We've been putting in work.
So by next year I'll be having five town homes
put up in Tampa and Okay, so that's gonna be good.
(03:36):
I'm excited for that. And then just trying to get
Ariana off to college. It's just it's a lot, that's it.
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Well, I look forward to seeing you sing your daughter
off to college, Like for me, like I want to
come if I can't, Oh, are you going to do
a Trump party?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
That's like the new thing, isn't that? Yes? Yes, the
Trump Party? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Okay, so that means like we just bring stuff for
her dorm, right, Why wouldn't do that?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
When I went to go like, well me, I went
off to the military. But shit, I still could have
had a Trump party going off to the military.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
But I'm glad whoever started that tradition. I'm glad y'all
started it because I could have. Absolutely I needed some
stuff because that little Rundown dring room I had. I
needed everything. So that's exciting. And you got to bring
them down to hang out with the kids.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yes, it's basic. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I it's like baseball has its It takes something, you know,
it takes up everything. Though the sports safety acting like
this is the end of the world, and I'm like, child,
They only eleven, they only ten?
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Why why?
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Why is it so serious at this age. I don't
understand all the sports moms out there. I know y'all
feel us. Okay, it's a lie.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
The practices, like the parents are crazy too.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Some of the are that crazy. I don't seen Phil
get into it with some of the parents. Some of
the coaches in y'all know, hell, don't even He ain't
even that kind of prosing. And you know, if Phil
say something, it's a problem.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
But these sports, these days, with these kids, it's crazy.
I haven't seen some crazy stuff. They've been trying to
fight being violent at the games, need the police and stuff.
They've been trying to live through their kids.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
They do, don't they And they swear that little ten
year rold who can't hardly catch the ball throw the
ball now, they swear he gonna go pro.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
But like baby, y'all just want to go Hell yeah,
he's like relaxed, just let them have fun.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
It's crazy. Well let's get into it. Have you been
watching the met Galla? Have you been all on my
phone checking an These looks funny because this theme this
year is everything.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Okay, what's the theme? Super fun? Tailor and black style.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
I love it, and you know I love it because
I tend to lean more on the masculine side.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Like you know, I'm very tomboyish.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I love a good I don't really have a chance
to wear like a good tailored suit anywhere, but you know,
I love, you know, very masculine looks like I love
me a cargo Jean and I love a good sneakers
look like. I'm very much into the like I lean
more masculine. So this theme I just really feel like,
you know, I you know, you would kill it. You
(06:43):
would have killed it because it's dapping into the style
of the legacy of black men. So yeah, you probably
you definitely would have killed it. And I think that's
beautiful that they are, you know, celebrating first of all
black men. Like how often do we get to see
black men uplifted in a way and in our culture
(07:03):
uplifted on a platform in this way, Like yeah, we
get it through music and stuff like this, but fashion,
you know, we don't always get to be in the forefront,
in the limelight on this big stage like the MET
Gala is the met Gala, Like there's nothing bigger than
the MET Gala when it comes to fashion.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
So I just love the theme. Yes, the theme is nice.
So what was your favorite so far? So far? I
always have to give it to my girl, Tiana Taylor.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
The detail in her cake, I don't even before I
even saw the details on the cap, I was just
like blown away by the tailoring.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Of her suit.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Then she has this beautiful cake and then on the
cap there's a rolls in Harlem stitched onto it, and
then there's like roses on there. Like it's the details
for me, because anybody can you know, throw on her
tailored suit, you know what I mean. But it's the
detailing for me, right, my favorite, My favorite was Louis Hamilton.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Louis Hambleton did do it for the guys, yeah he did.
He did his big one. But he's a very pretty man.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
I never knew he was slow gorgeous, like very gorgeous
in the face.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
He is he you know, yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Like it's like what he wore he could get married
in that like that is I don't know if he
married or not, but it just gave like a royal wedding,
a royal groom, like that's what it was given.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Who was your least favorite boom? My least favorite? Let
me go back and look, oh Tyler. Ain't that her name?
Tyler Tylo? So what was the worst out of her
or the meg Meg? I would say, wasn't one thing?
(08:54):
I feel like Tyler's you know why. It wasn't a
thing she wore A Michael cor.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Michel course when it comes to a tour, I think
he can do what it needs to do. But it
just wasn't given. It wasn't on theme.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
She had on like a white fur, like a silvery
color down.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
And the boobs were just sitting up. It's like all
I've seen in the hair and the makeup. I don't know,
it is the thing. It didn't It wasn't on theme
for me. It just it didn't give It didn't give dandyism.
It didn't give tailored. I had liked some of Bowels
outfit someon Boughs. Yeah, but you know, she's so petite
(09:40):
and so like.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Muscular.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
You know, maybe she didn't want to go to masculine
with her outfit. So maybe that's why she wore like
a short mini dress thinking okay, I would have passed
on that one. Diana rosss oh, Diana Ross did it.
I loved it, and I felt like it was so hard,
(10:04):
like very true to who she is, because I feel
like she too often dresses kind of masculine, like she's
not super like uh, you know, feminine and girly like
you know, she does wear dresses and stuff, but like
it also has like a very masculine flair. But the
fact that she brought out like the pinks, because everybody's
wearing like black and white and darker colors, she pulled
out like the colors, the pinks and the reds, and
(10:27):
I thought that was beautiful.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
She looked great. Yeah, well, the looks are still coming in.
So y'all tell us who who did they do? Who didn't?
Who needs help with their styles? Who needs a fire
their stylist? Let us know, Yeah, we're missing out girla Lexus.
We know lex went to the MET gala some years
(10:49):
ago and she looked amazing.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
I know she could have gave us some insight on
her experience being there, but she'll be back next week fabling.
So it's just me and real today holding it down. Okay,
my question, Ashley, are things like this a real celebration
of black culture or curated, curated marketing moments for the
(11:13):
MET to feel inclusive?
Speaker 1 (11:16):
I think where we are now as far as.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Being more open and receptive to black culture, I think
this felt natural.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
You know.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
I think we've seen a lot of other types of
cultures and styles and art, and I think it was
about time to uplift like the black men and the
black culture.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
And I don't know, it feels it does.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
To feel forced to me, And I'm usually the person
to be like now, they just doing this to get
a reaction. But to be honest with you, I really
feel like this felt very natural, very one time, very needed,
and it's like I feel like the conversations around it
have been very positive and we love to see it.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
So I'm here for it. Yeah, I feel like everyone
did their big one.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
It was there was much needed the recognition of black contributions.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
So I'm I'm loving it. Everyone showed up and showed out.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
They didn't make it like a costume type event, like
everyone put there all in. A lot of people, not everyone,
A lot of people did put their all into, you know,
and they killed it. They slanted. Okay, now I will
say or let me ask you, what do you think
do you think the white celebrities are really going on
theme with their looks or they just showing up? You know?
(12:41):
So from what I've seen, From what I've seen, they're
they're killing it. It's still going on. Just doing a
quick glimpse. What was her name, Emma, Emma Chamberlain.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Let me look her up? Who you said? Look?
Speaker 2 (13:00):
I did like her look, Emma. She had on some
like a pinstripe. I just saw Sabrina Carpenter pop up.
She looks very Sabrina killed that too. Sabrina is cute,
you know. I didn't think it was one thing and
half away. I felt like she looked like she was
going to dinner. I didn't see her. You gotta send
(13:20):
me her. She just got on a white button up
and a skirt.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
That's it. Fell Yeah, but yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I think I think they understood everyone understot us majority
underset that Simon and mad she just popped up. I
don't know what to say about that. Look what about asap?
Let me see you've seen him already. Rihanna is pregnant. Girl,
(13:51):
he doesn't knock up? Read what her third baby on
the way.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
We ain't getting no album when we getting a third baby?
Oh my, what are we going? Alb? Because they been
over there making music in the baby. Oh what a
way to announce it on the way to the mac gala.
But girl, re read.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Read come on, baby, just take up halls a step.
All we asked is let.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Our girl make some apple. Now.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
I gotta go over here and join the bee house.
Can't even go to no concerts, no more. Not to
take a drink.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Child, We ain't up.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Don't get an alb a lot anyways, Let me fine
cat what he had on?
Speaker 1 (14:39):
You saw his look already? I didn't see that. I
see it. Oh yeah, he always looked is known for
his fashion. But yeah. But honestly though, it's not like,
oh he looks nice.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
He just always looks good like that. I expect this
look at him, you know, all right, you know it's
disappointed me though. Now that I'm looking at it, then yeah,
I think, yeah, I don't. I remember lips, but a
white tailored suit and a hat that looked like somebody
grandy beach hat.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
I don't like that hat. But the suit, the suit
is very well tailored. A thing. She's one thing, but
it's kind of boring, y'all. No, I can't. Fashion is
not me. I throw on some anything and keep it moving.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
It's pretty, and you can just throw on whatever you
want to.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
Luckily you're blessed in that way. She's not for me,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
But Lizendaya, I feel like she's I would give her
like I don won't say she's a fashion icon, but
she always they dressed her like her styless law roach like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Blessing her, damn, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
And she she says that she used fashion to like help,
you know, propel her career. You know, she wasn't standing
out as much as an actor, and she used like
fashion to get to where she is. So I don't
know what she was because I just expected more from her.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
But it's cute. It's not a bad look. It's just yeah,
you would have thought. Come on now, Yeah, I gotta
look at hers. All right, enough, let's keep on. We're
gonna keep on watching door.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Dor want to say hey to y'all, say hey, say hey,
so cute.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
I So let's get into it, y'all, so we keep
on watching these looks, y'all, let us know what y'all think.
We gotta still be critiquing as we go along our way. Yeah,
we're gonna get into the business segment.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Y'all know, we included a business segment and people are
loving it. So each week we're gonna talk about business,
some humble batty's business. And this week I decided to
talk about business.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Credit.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Yeah, a lot of credit. Everybody got everybody else credit.
Y'all got, they got credits. You can get your plastic surgeries.
But y'all get out enough y'alln't know credit. Yeah, you
have to get into the business credit because what you
can do and a lot of people don't know. You
can put bill post in your business credit and you
you don't become a liability to that. Like my may
(17:36):
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humble Daddy moves.
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Speaker 2 (17:55):
Because then a humble batty doesn't mean they can small,
it means they can smart gas Why business credit credit matters.
So here's the deal. Business credit is like your business
financial resume. Just like personal credit helps you get loans, apartments,
or a card, business credit helps your company get approved
(18:16):
for lines of credit, lease, it's vendor accounts, and it
protects your personal credit while doing it.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
How to start business credit?
Speaker 2 (18:26):
So before I'll give you an example of how I
started my business credit.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Wells Fargo stopped doing it, but when I open up
my business.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Opened up my business back in twenty nineteen, I went
to Wells Fargo and back then they had a secured
credit card for business credit, not your personal So I
put five thousand dollars into an account to open up
a secure card for my business credit. Once I did that,
(18:57):
I made little small payments for the office, did what
I needed to do, and after six months they opened
it up to a unsecured line. That's how I started
building my business credit. Then I opened up an AMEX
card business amex card.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Then I opened up I went to go get the
truck in my business credit.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
So after just doing things, I don't even have to
use my personal credit because I have my business credit.
So all you need to do to start up your
business you have to have a business first, AI in number,
an address for your business and register your business went
(19:36):
done in Bradstreet and you can start like putting like
if you have a lease, just start putting things in
there too.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Basically so I can report to your business credit. OK.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
So you want to moneto your business credit reports, you
can do it on a NAVA done in Bradstreet. That's
where your business credit lives. Keep track of what's reported
and staying good stand Humble Batty's tip of the week.
Start small or start right, even if you're just freelancing
or stop hustling right now. Set the foundation like you're
running a million dollar brand, because one day you just
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might be.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
That.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Set for our Humble Batty business. Remember, credit isn't about access.
It's about ownership. When your business saying stands on its
own name, you're not just hustling, You're building a legacy.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Hey, that was good.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I guess we got to buy business credit so we
can get these businesses going. Stop using your own money,
use credit, build your credit.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Yes, okay, now we got to get into it because
the tea is hot.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Our good old boy Steve smith Singer and his lawsuit
when Love and log Collide, it's the topic of this segment.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Have you heard about what's going on? Ashley?
Speaker 2 (20:58):
I had to catch up on it because I think, wow,
why was everybody business in the streets?
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Wow? Well, pro chat? But I want to know well,
I think it went viral.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
I think the husband got in his feelings and he
posted he recorded the conversation when when he called Steve
and he was like, basically, you're cheating.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
You're sleeping with my wife. He found the messages.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
Girl, it was some crazy messages and he was like,
I'm sorry, man.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
They hug up the phone or something like that. Fast forward.
He's being so because in some states, if basically if you.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
Are the person cheating with the person, you can you
can sue him.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Mm. Hmm. It's called what is it, the home? It's
called the home.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Yes, and unfortunately, North Carolina is one of those states.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
So we've got to break it down the allegations.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Steve Smiths Senior is been by Antonio Martinez, who allegis
that Smith had a month long affair with his wife, Nicole.
The lasso claims that this affair led to the breakdown
of the Martinez marriage. So he basically said, you don
reason you was over here laying this tight. Now you
the reason why me and my wife are getting a divorce.
(22:22):
Martinez is seeking over one hundred thousand in damages citing
alienation of affection. Alienation of affection, that's what Martinez said.
He wants ae hundred thousand dollars for that, intentional infliction
of emotional distress and other claims.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Let's break down the home wreck of law.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
North Carolina is one of the few states that still
recognizes alienation of affection lawsuits. Now, how can you approve
that because I mean it if she cheated on or
her husband, it had to be something else, which really
(23:08):
and you can't prove it. Say he got text messages
to her and he like, baby, come on, I want
to you know, I want to take you on to
dinner tonight, and she like no, or she just denying
him whatever.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
You know what I'm saying, that's you can prove that.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
My question is, okay, what if you know, he sues them,
wears the lawsuit or whatever, and they get back together. Well,
that's fine because she still had an affair. He still
could have possibly messed up their marriage, le divorce and
get back together all the time.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
That's crazy. It is okay.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
This law allows a stout to see a third party
who is believed to have interfere in their marriage into
its dissolution. To succeed, the planner must prove that genuine
love and affection existed in the marriage, and that and
that the defendant's actions led to its erosions erosion. Yeah,
(24:16):
like what if what if the other man was like
doing the most like buying her real expensive gifts or something,
or like doing something that maybe the husband couldn't do.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Well.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
The thing about it is, and you hear a lot
of guys that for the right one that will cheat.
I mean, Steve wasn't like a basic football player. He
was like one of the top football players in the
league during his era.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
So maybe she was a.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Fan and she was like, this is the once in
a lifetime opportunity, let me go step out.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
But they were telling each other they love it.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
The girl that you got to read them text messages, sho,
I got to read the text.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I didn't see the text, Okay.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
So I mean I feel like this is something he
should probably probably just like settle outside of court, like
go to mediation, settle, you.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
Know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (25:13):
Do you feel like do you feel like I'm on
record lawsuit should be honored in every state?
Speaker 1 (25:26):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (25:28):
I just feel like you the person you should be
mad at is the person that you are in a
relationship with.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
I wouldn't punish the other person.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
It's really because you still got to deal with that person,
you know what I mean, whether y'all end up divorcing
or not, especially if you have kids, like, you still
have to deal with that person and the repercussions of
whatever happened, you know what I mean. So I just
feel like adding in that other person, it's just you
being bitter and trying to get something out of it,
(26:00):
trying to hurt another person. But really, the person that
you should be upset with is the person that you're
married to.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
I under staying, Like when you're mad.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
And you're going through it, you're like, yeah, let me
hit this man up for however much.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
But at the end of the day, it's whoever you're
dealing with that I feel like you need to deal with.
That's true. I have I know someone who's who's going
through who went through a situation like that. But I
feel like some people take it, you know, take advantage
of this law because it's like you are you was
(26:36):
out here cheating, cheating, cheating, and now that your husband,
you know, got fed up, he stepped out, and now
you see this person have money, the wife is swing
the other woman. It's like you're taking advantage of this. Yeah,
the relationship was already used up. That's why I said,
the other person don't need money. Y'all deal with y'all issues,
(27:01):
because clearly y'all got issues, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
Instead of adding a whole other person into it, adding
another lawsuit, the worces already cost a lot of money,
you know, So for you to like bring in a
whole third person into it, I think it's just extra.
It's a lot.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
I don't know if it's the smartest thing to make
that like a lot everywhere they need to.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
And you gotta be careful because people are scammers.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
You got couples out here that will go out and
seek people with money just to get a little I.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Ain't even think about that. That's true.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
But you gotta be careful with with all this. Oh,
there's a lot of scammers these days. People will find
a way to scam the girl. People will right right,
you're behind and story and you'll be driving and somebody
behind and they'll just glem my brakes so you can
hit them. It's all types of stuff. Yeah, yeah, Well
(27:58):
we hope our boy come out.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Well. You know, when you when you.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Play those types of games, you never know what we
don't play. Praise for your STU, smell that it he
don't hurt your pockets. I pray for this marriage that
it works. And he's also a public figure, so that's
why I'm like, I just feel like you should quietly settle,
you know what I'm saying, Like, don't let this keep going,
don't don't. I don't think I don't think he knew
(28:24):
that he was gonna get suitor like this. Just came
out a couple of days ago that he was actually
the guy was following the lawsuit.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
So I mean, if you gonna cheat, why.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
That Usually when they do this and it's for money,
they ask for it first upfront, and then if you
don't agree to set like give the money, then they sue,
you know what I'm saying. So people, maybe he did
already say like, look, give me some money or I'm
gonna sue you for the money.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
Damn.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
So I feel like he probably had a chance to
settle privately.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
You actually people do.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
Maybe if it's if it had to be set up quietly,
you would have got two hundred thousand if I had
no sublet. So maybe Stee's willing to fight and be
like hell no, you know, but maybe maybe they knew something,
maybe yeah, a proof that they wasn't on a y'all
don't know.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
It's just a bad situation all around. It is. It is.
But can you imagine what if Steve.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
Cat somebody he was dealing with, and then this came out,
you know, and now you got to pay somebody one
hundred thousand dollars. I couldn't deal with you no more
Like now I'm with you, but you gotta pay it.
Somebody on hundred that because you broke up their marriage, ill,
I can't be with you no more. It's just bad. Like,
it's just bad. It's a bad look. We're gonna pray
(29:59):
for him today. It's gonna be it's gonna be a
short Steve. But we got to get into the Humble
Batty Batty's mail, and we're gonna let you go have
your fun and drink your Margarita's baby. If Phil is
waiting on me, he just walked by, y'all.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Listen, y'all might be like, were ya a South after Wild? No,
we not. We be done by the babies.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Okay, we like to practice, but we ain't having number
all right.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
I got the Humble Batty's mail day.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
It says, Hey, Humble Batty, I need y'all's real, unfiltered
advice on this one because my head is spinny. So
I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now
and things have been mostly solid. We've had our ups
and downs like everyone, but I really thought we were
in a good place anyway. Last weekend we were having
(30:57):
a chill night, just sipping wine and having one of
those deep combos about boundaries and insecurities. Out of nowhere,
he tells me he's attracted to my best friend.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
But oh, okay, yes, my best friend.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
He said he'd never act on it and that he
just wanted to be honest while wouldn't ever feel blindsided.
He even said he respects me too much to ever
cross that line. But ever since that combo, I can't
unhear it, Like, why did he even need to say that?
Should I be thankful he was honest? Or was that
some low key disrespect? This disguised and transparency. Now I
(31:36):
feel weird whenever the three of us are around each other,
and I can't help but feel like I'm in competition?
Am I tripping? Or is this a serious red flag?
I would say that's a red flag, like, don't tell
me that you'll trade it's to my best friend. Yes,
I can't even like you basically as women, even if
(32:03):
you not insecure. You just made this lady feel so
insecure about herself by telling so every time two things
gonna happen, she's gonna start mistreating her friend, which happens
a lot, or you know, she's gonna feel like she
has to go above and beyond and start being like
her friend just so she can get in. You know,
(32:24):
it's just it's a mind thing, Like it's crazy. Don't
tell me no shit like that. Yeah, I first of
all think that this is a red flag just on
him and his character, because like, if this is your man.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
Did she say they was married or no? It don't
matter either way.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
If this is your boo, this is your man, like
you're supposed to like protect your heart, protect your eyes,
protect your mind like you're supposed to like, of course,
there's are attracted people in the world. You're never gonna
like not be attracted to other people, right, But like
for him to have to voice it means like it's
(33:09):
like eating him up inside or some shit.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Because I can look at him in and be like,
oh he cute, you know what I'm saying, and like
can't be moved, keep a moving, But for him to
feel like he needed to bring it up and say
it to me, why.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
You on your mind? Like what that's weird?
Speaker 1 (33:29):
And you know, I just think that.
Speaker 2 (33:37):
I don't know, I don't know that it would bother
me about him liking her, Like I don't. I wouldn't
I personally wouldn't feel like I need to be in competition.
It wouldn't mind fuck me, It would just really mess
with me in a way of like he has eyes
for other women in a way that he can't control.
Because what was it about her that made you feel
(34:02):
like you needed to tell me? Like I get being
honest and transparent, but to me, it just feels a
little like it would end up going further and being
a problem in the future. Yeah, because what if one day,
you know, y'all out together and then you have you
feel like you can't go to the bathroom or leave
(34:23):
them alone. It's just it's just it's cast so many confusions, like.
Speaker 1 (34:28):
I wouldn't, I wouldn't, I wouldn't even want to stay
with anyone like that exactly, And it wouldn't and it
honestly wouldn't have nothing to do with her. It would
really just have everything to do with him.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Because it's now I'm looking at you at every finance
woman that walks back, because I'm like, but even if
they don't have to do with her, he may he
can create confusion between them two. Like I've seen a
lot of women who who treated their friends a certain
way because they felt like their man wanted them, and
(35:00):
they didn't even go to the stream of saying like, oh,
you know, I'm attracted to your friend.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
It's just they'll see they're very sad.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
You shouldn't be with a man who would make you
treat your friends weird because your friend weird. You know
what I'm saying, Like, that's a whole another problem. But
that's a problem with you, and yeah, you need to
dig into. But if we're talking about like how this
humble batty's saying the man just came and said I
(35:29):
got a problem and it's because he said that she fine,
I feel like that's a hymn problem. But if you
automatically like treat your friends weird because you think your
man might think she fine, then that might be a
problem where we got to look with them.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
But all of the situations is like you need to
be with a man who makes you feel confident. You
can leave him in a room full of baddies and
you know it ain't nothing finish your down period. That's
the kind of man that you need to be with.
You need to be with a man who only got
eyes for you, not saying that he can't acknowledge another
fine woman. But but to get your friend and say, oh,
(36:08):
I'm a tracked.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
Maybe a strong word, because you.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Can acknowledge it, you can acknowledge even the sexiness of
a woman. But to say I'm attracted to her means
that there's something in you that wants it, like I
want her to me. That's what attracted means, And that
would yeah, And so I would tell that humble baddy
she might need.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
To take a step back with him, you know, really,
because there might be other signs and other foods and
things that he might be doing that might show you
he may not be the one because but I mean,
I guess he can appreciate his transparency.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
But just because it's TRANSPARENTI is, don't mean you need
to look through that ship. Okay, you keep it moving.
That's a tough one. I can't imagine the girl. You
are not sure, But you need to get up at
the relationship because it sounds like either he had tracked
to it and he want her, or he trying to
bring her in and have a little.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
Yeah, he trying to test you and see what you
thought about that, Like you like her too, like her type? Shit?
And I don't like that. Mm hmm, girl, get about that.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
That's a crazy situation to be in, but I feel
like that probably happens often. I'm sure it does. Yeah,
it does. The's sick thing. Well, you guys, we want
y'all to enjoy. Y'all sink on the mayoga and have
some fun. We're gonna end it short today. If y'all
have any questions or concern so y'all want to send
(37:48):
us some Humble Baby mail, y'all can reach us at
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