May 29, 2025 • 35 mins
Sharelle, Alexis & Ashley react to teens going overboard with Prom proposals, answer fan-submitted questions, and respond to one of the wildest Humble Baddies Mailbags yet!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Like getting my way, never out of my name. It's
been like you one in the more one so is
gonna be baby squad? All right, haven't y'all seen?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
You know?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Prom season has just hass.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
They aren't getting outrageous from posals or pressure. Are teenagers
doing too much? Pro proposals have officially turned into a
full on production. Think billboards, exotic cars, rented animals, and
inflorencer level videography. What used to be a sweet high
(00:34):
school tradition is now a viwel performance.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
But here's the real question.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Are these teams celebrating love or are they then pulled
into a cloud chasing culture too early? Have y'all do
y'all it gets it's your each year, your entertainment.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I look forward to it because it is a show.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
The proposals all the way into these extravag against send
off parties and musical we.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I mean, I saw camels, I saw.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I've seen the topics a vehicles by the way, I've
seen runway collection pieces from Louis Vauton, and I mean,
you name it, all the diamonds and the dancing and
I'm trying to see what they and it's money from
that's another thing. I don't know if this is just
prom is the end all beyond celebration, Like are.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
The parents the ones that are like, let's do this,
because it's like.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Trying to make sure they they kids have the best
the time, Like they trying to make it to the
shade room your goal. I heard my daughter talking. She
was like, oh, I should be this extra. I'm trying
to make it to the I said, girl.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
No, you great with what money. This is your this
is your budget. And that's it.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Like we're not going like whole like free prom parties
and yeah, that's what I'm like, they have a whole
I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Pre party for the adults to take the kids whatever.
Everybody just met at somebody house and.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Then it's like for cars, we had that extended.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Live up right by the way and not uber and
then we all with the dress.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
The dress came from the dress was wasn't no custom
aide dress. It came from dealers and their problem.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Mine was custom but not this this level of custom.
This is over the time.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I'm from the pastry. We ain't have no custom ship
where I'm from. A celebration this you know, like, let
me tell you something that is the end of the
year party, like they're everyone's dressed up to the nines.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
When else are you gonna dress up?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Now?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I'm not.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
I've been blessed at Deuce and a raised problem is
very manageable. I think that's just how it is over here,
just trying to keep it manageable. And we have fun
because the after problem is the most fun anyway.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
The problem is is I you know what's happening? Yeah,
I I already had went to the after party. She's
at the party.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Some of the teenagers parents or whoever the parent is
that the teenager, who ever sponsoring the parents of that teenager,
who's sponsoring throwing it?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Where a where is the money coming from?
Speaker 1 (03:41):
It's a lot.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
It's too much for me and we're not doing it is.
Zeus was very smart. He was like, no graduation party
for me, none of that. I just want this car, thanks, okay.
I told ari Yama, I said, you're gonna get yourn yo.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
She nail bagged. That's your graduation gets. She wanted her.
She nail bag.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
I love that your car that you got, that Tesla
that you got for Christmas.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
That was your Christmas gift.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Your graduation gift, you're going off to school gift, gonna
ask nothing else.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
In the car, she can have that forever. Take care
of it, all right, that's a burdergard for me.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
Blessed they are. I was like, girl, I ain't getting no.
I had to buy my old car. Once I to
the military, I had to buy my old car. Like
I didn't get all this that y'all get. Y'all haven't
made they do. Our kids live a life. But you
know what, it's better. I look at it like this.
The whole point is to improve right and do better
for your your family. So I sit back sometimes I'm like, wow,
(04:42):
we're so blessed, Like look at this, but I had this,
this car they're getting with their literally their dream cars,
Like look at that. But you know what, it's kind
of it's like a it's a gift in a curse
because I know this is what with my kids. They
are so spoiled. Like I always said, you know, I
(05:04):
want them to have a better life than how I had,
and I gave them that life. But now it's to
a point where I feel like I have to remind them,
like you have to work. Fundy doll fall from a tree.
You have to work for what you want, and I
feel like a lot of times they turn into spoil
brats and it kisses yeah, very very coll and I
(05:26):
don't like that.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
So I have to pull myself back in and remind myself.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Like eventually they're going to be a dogs and you're
creating monsters. So everything that they ask for, don't feel
bad that you don't give it.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Give it to them, make them work for it.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
So that's what I have to remind myself because I
feel guilty when I can't. When I don't, I'll say no.
And I don't stand on business. But that.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Is tough.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
But it's it's hard because I'm like I'm raising and
she's an adult, like she's basically and I have to
make sure that you know how to make decisions. It's
not going to be giving. You can't call me every
time now because you got to find a job.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
She didn't want to work. It's like, I want to
focus on school.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
I want to do this, Like girl, when I was sixteen,
I had a job, or when I wasn't going to school,
I was working double shifts at Taco Bell, Like need
you to have that same drive that I had yes,
at least something, at least where you can balance, Like, look,
I have X, Y and Z, so at least meet
me halfway. That's why I like to it's selling my
children too, Like meet me halfway. I was like, girl,
(06:34):
I had put up a Twitter post. I was like,
you haven't made Like your credit is amazing. I made
sure when you were sixteen. I put her on my
as an authorized user on my AMA. She don't know,
but I put the car in her name and O
co signed for her and I paid that sometime three
times a month, going two times. Going to the principal
like you haven't made you I basically said success, Like.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Now do something with it. Don't feel she won't. I
know she's going, but it's just hard.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
It's so hard because you know they can make the
just one wrong decision, or their their mentality because they're
so school can ruin everything. So it's just like I reinforce,
like now it's go time. It's the ball is in
your court. Now now you've got to make decisions. Go on.
You'all be here to support you. But they realize how
(07:27):
adulting is not fun. It's not Yeah, my kids are
a little younger than y'all. But I'm a little worried
because you know, they are around other kids who you
know they are like, you know, I know they're gonna
be driving the nice cars and getting like, you know,
(07:49):
whatever they want really and it's that's that ain't happening
over here, you know what I'm saying. So I don't know,
I don't know how does go work out, how it's
go play out, you know what I mean. Like we
are very much, you know, trying to you know, keep
them humble and like make them work for everything, and
like they about to be.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Getting no brand new.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
BMW already blah blah blah, all these cars these kids
out here driving that's not happening. Like you're gonna work
for your car, like it's gonna be a nice get
you from point A to point B. These type of situation,
you know what I'm saying. And so I don't know
how Like I don't know what I'm in for, Chiad.
If the prom is the y'all have free prom parties
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and after parties and all.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
This stuff to worry about.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
I'm glad you got the dress budgets like you just
support the powerful words and budget and no a coming handy,
and my thing is this, this is what I ask for.
I need my diploma, I need my grades, I need
my eligibility, and then the world is yours. Like obviously,
we set our children up to go to the best
schools and to be taught by the best, so we're like, look,
(09:00):
we are invested in your education for them to be
good humans. So the work ethic, time management, keep your
room clean, be organized, check in. Those things are equal
value to me of like, you know, giving them that
that rearing that they need to be.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Good, good kids.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
So I feel like it's a balance with all of it,
because they do have abundance. The blessing is we can
give them, you know, good food, dining experiences, traveling, exposure
to the world, all these things. But I think we
we're doing a great job of really you know, raising
good kids that are well rounded and can talk to
adults and show up and be themselves and be confident.
(09:41):
So I think that's that's that's a testament to us too. Yeah,
going back, okay, going back to the problem. I just
feel like we are setting our kids up for failure.
And it's mainly you don't see this in the other
culture communities. Like it's us Like, while we got spend
so much, you know what we can we can put
(10:02):
that towards a trust fund, it can go towards the
savings account. Like when you howe is expensive nightly spending money.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
And half half the kids look like they ain't going
to damn college. Yeah, all that's the problem. Like this
is the end all be all, Like this is it
that made it?
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Why are we doing the bank? But why are we
creating this for our you know, for our kids. Like
it's not that I don't like it. I mean it's
cute and everything, but when you think about it financial
financially from a financially stampoint, it makes no sense. And
that's what we got to get get out of. Stop
(10:41):
spending money on materialistic things for show. We're teaching our
kids like this is okay, yeah, and it's and we're
not going to break that cycle of the the the
generational curse of being broke, living paycheck to paycheck, trying
to stunt for Instagram and not really doing it in
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real life.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Because we're everything.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
We're teaching them that everything is and we're basically we're
we're enabling it down and it's not good I don't
like it.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
It's it's an excess.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
It's really just to me, it's mimicky of like just
culture in a way.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
You know, like I saw stacks of money, like what
are we doing?
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Like?
Speaker 1 (11:25):
What are we doing?
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Everyone's stunting like it's a video shoot very much. I mean,
at least one thing I know is we're putting money
back into our neighborhoods.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Is it the white kids to or is it just
our people doing that? I haven't you know, kids, it's
just us. It's a lot of them in Florida. Florida.
The King, the King of love it. Oh, no, their rival.
(11:57):
They have just changed the whole culture. I mean it's
like a big competition. It's for time.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
It's for that that one shining moment, the end all
like you know, the graduation from we were dressing up.
I mean I saw I saw some gowns. I saw
one this one guy had a tie that was like
extremely long, like all the way across the room.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Some country and ship. It's just I saw it all like.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
And maybe don't know, it's a lot. I guess the
parents need to chill. I really feel like it's parents. Yeah, listen, they.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Stands kind offord all that mess. Yeah, why are the parents?
They don't have no life. Y'all don't have no life
if y'all do it. Yeah, y'all are wearing these When
are you gonna wear it again? I feel like they're
living through their children.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
They want to be influencers, they want to be famous,
they want to go viral.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
So they're doing it through their kids.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
And that's weird to be out there use them in
that way, like, because one you're you know, you're setting
them up for not failure, but you know, an unrealistic
thing for them life, trying to keep up, you know.
So I don't know, it's just it's just all bad.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
All bad.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
What do they say, keeping up with the Joneses. Yeah,
that's exactly what's going on. Yeah, well that won't be
happening over here at the wheelerhousehold.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
We're going to talk regular degulars send.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
Off to the problem. That's how I will two out
of four for me. So yeahs, that's how it was.
I took ari Yama. I drove she didn't she didn't
want to go with anywhere. I mean her her boy
friend graduated early. He played for University of Georgia. So
she didn't want she just wanted to show up, and
I drove for her and we can't got her.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
She's said a swap. Yeah that's fine. Mm hmm. So
I was good.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
She was so beautiful too. She did she did her
big one. The only they fait the most money on
was her dress. And that wasn't I mean, that was
like two thousand dollars. It wasn't bad. My mama would't
buy me, no damn two thousand dollars dress.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
I think I had. I think my mama gave me
like I think three hundred dollars and that was a splurge.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Yeah, I listen we had did you have the little
the water, the vanilla falls?
Speaker 1 (14:44):
How the up through? What is it like a corn roll?
Not a corn French roll? French roll? The big girls girls? No,
I didn't. I didn't do the pincross. I've always in
the fresh press, silk pressed. The girl you got that loan.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
Yeah. I went shopping to go look for a prom
dressed and I didn't really see anything I liked. So
I did go to the fabric store with a seamstress
and then we picked down fabric and a pattern and
I did a couple of fittings, but it wasn't any
It wasn't like overpriced. I had a budget with my
mom and and so was able to get it done.
(15:23):
I think I had my I don't I have to
pull up some pictures, but we might need to show
our pictures. I went to the I only went to
the prom once. I went my eleventh grade year and
the guy who was missed the HS asked me to
go with him.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
Oh this is pressure, y'all know. We went up. I
missed the school asked you to go. It's like, oh,
I got a little bit.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
I was like, Ma, I need to go to the
prum and I got to look good because I'm going
with but prom misr Oh no, it was the prom king.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
I'm going with the prom kick. I need to be
looking cute or whatever.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
So I begged my grandparents and my grandma is a
faithful dealer shopper.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Uh the go to the go to.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
My grandma took me to dealers did Chris was cute
though it was spitted she you know, she tightened it in.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
A little bit. My grandma got my little dealer stress
said I was cute.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
M Deuce had me write his proposal on the old
fashioned poster board. He took his day, his date, his
potential date Chick fil A for lunch and it was
like in that whole like Chick fil A theme.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
And that was on a Wednesday, and Prime was on
that Friday. Okay, and he has.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
And it was easier with him because he had a
suit already which we have. And then we just went
and got him to new shoes. Well, I took him
to some brand new shoes to match her dress that
she already had because they were gonna go separate.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
So I do proposals, we didn't. Did y'all have that back?
Ask how did you get asked to go to prom
My just asked me and one not thought enjoyed. He
was just going together like, oh, I had a good one.
I had a good one.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
It was it was when I would who It was
the big rival game. It was Desert Vista versus Mountain
Point High School. And the girls will go first like
varsity and then varsity boys will go right after.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
So the.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
The our gym is packed and halftime of the boys,
uh the boys game.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
For at the time, Jeremy was like, asked me the
problem over the loud speaker with the.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I forgot about it was embarrassing, but I was like, yeah,
let's let's go.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
But it was just like I'm all sweaty from the
post game and like it's a rival game.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Probably dropped. I liked the double on them one time,
but it was fun and ended up having a good talk.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
So well.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Phil went the problem with Charille cousin.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
That's not actually had Phil had my cousin and another girl.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Phil was late.
Speaker 3 (18:28):
He had two women. Oh at the same prop and wow,
big Pippins. I had my cousin. Don't want or is
it was her friend on the up.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
That's fun. He's a nice guy.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
Bill was a little lamb. Yeah, that was funny though,
I said, Ashley, you know my cousin went to to
the problem with your husband.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Such a small world. It's such a small world. Yes.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
I met her at the airport in Turks and she
told me. She said, Hey, I'm the cousin that with us,
the problem with your husband. I was like, you, you know,
she's so country. Anybody from feeding City or clubbish Georgia. Listen,
they gonna be straight up, they a't gonna sugar coat.
(19:25):
Then they go just the greeting was his.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
And a dang, you can't say, hey, hey girl, I
know you know she went straight to it, straight to.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
This Maranda you hey girl, Yeah, I'm the one who
went to the problem with your husband.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Girl. Uh I love her.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Yes, the parents, y'all have to get it together. We
can't be spending all this money on these teens.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
They have so much, there's so much more and life then,
you know, splurging on these teams for these prom tuition,
falling to the pressure and trying to like do better
than somebody else, Like it's oh, it's a competition. I
wonder if it is more about the parents than the kids.
(20:21):
They putting the gas, the living through their kids. They
living through their kids, because what else I would like
to see more money and more thought put in. I
love saying, you know when they do the little TikTok
trends of what college they pick.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Have y'all seen those like.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
That theamm of the like went to Alabama State, the
dad went to Alabama and them, and it's like a
or fam you and it's like a competition of which
parent is trying to force their child to pick the
school to at you.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
It's a lot of those trending als are real cute.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
I like that.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
Put your emphasis saying stuff like that. No, damn.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
I have heard of like trunk parties where like, you know,
everybody at the party and they bring stuff for them
to take.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
A trun party for Ari. Okay, I'm coming, I'll bring something. Yeah,
that's cute. I like that. All right, now it's time
to get into Segment four. Ladies.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
Questions from our humble batty fans, Ashley, you want to Okay,
what's one thing people get wrong about you? Just from
your social media? I think people think I'm like a
very girly girl, like suck up, and I think I'm
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very much the opposite, Like I'm pretty goofy and friendly
and tomboy ish, like I want to go outside and play,
except if it's a you know something degrees outside like
it was today. But but yeah, I feel like people
look at, you know, my social media and then when
they meet me, they're like, oh, okay, I didn't think
(22:12):
you were you know, so chill or whatever. I think
that's the same with me, like people look at from
you know, TV or from social media.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Because I don't know why, I never really smell on
my pictures.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I hate taking pictures, but when they really get down,
sit down, or meet me or talk to me, then
you're like, are you the same person? I'm like, you know,
that's TV, right, that's just entertainment right now. On TV,
you do come off, but that's not me. Everybody who
know me, who meet me in real life. No, I'm
(22:46):
just on TV though, No, but we're talking about life.
We're talking about in real life, real life, even from
social media. Like people, I guess they assume it from TV,
but in real life, when you really get when you
get to know me, it's like you can't help but
love me.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
M h.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
I don't really, I can't say.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
I was trying to think and see if there's anything
I feel like people get wrong from my social media
because I feel like I'm.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
I'm very authentic. What you see is what you get.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
I'm very intentional about my post and what I'm putting
out there. And other than that, I just I know
one thing I could post and be in a total
different place in the world and no one would know. Yeah,
I don't post in real time, so maybe that, But like,
other than that, I like to show pictures from back
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in the day, I like.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
To rere you are the flash back dah you got.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
I gotta let them know, you know what I mean.
I'd been that a friendly humble reminder. You know that
this humble is my life, you know what I mean?
I do stand on being a lifestyle creator and this
is a lifestyle that people attained to, whatever that might be.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
But I'm showing you my work.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
I'm showing you play, I'm showing you philanthropy, just showing
you really my authentic self.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
So come along for the ride, Charrelle. How do you
stay grounded while leveling up?
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Ooh?
Speaker 1 (24:21):
How do I stay grounded while leveling up?
Speaker 3 (24:23):
I mean I basically I remind myself that quiet confidence
lasts longer than loud validation. You know, I still celebrate
my wins, but I don't let them define me as
a person. I stay grateful, stay humble, and it's okay
to you know, to celebrate, but at the end of
the day, loudness fades away. Yeah, yeah, I love that. Okay,
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what's one thing you've had to unlearned to grow into
the woman that.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
You are now?
Speaker 3 (24:57):
Hm, I will say to me, will be the power
of no and not over exerting myself and then really
showing up for those who show it for me.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
So I'm really just in that.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
Space of awareness and discernment and very much just like
understanding value that you bring as well as vice versa
to the people you surround yourself with. I like to
be in rooms that people are doing better than me,
that are you know, that are are just really showing
me that I could be in this space with them.
I think that is also something that resonates with me.
(25:29):
So other than those those, those would be my big ones.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
That I could identify with.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
Okay, what's your guilty pleasure song? Show or snack? That's
not very baddy. Well being right here, I'd be snacking
on these. I don't know if y'all notice, but he's
got me in a choke hold. These are all beneath
gummy bears, and I don't know there are women owned Okay, supporter,
(26:03):
these got me in the chocolate, and I don't think
they're very baddy because I've been going to the gym
at five o'clock in the morning the past couple of
weeks and this is the only things holding me back
from having it.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
That's my problem.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
My problem is I'm gonna y'all know the donuts. I
forgot what brand they are, but they have the chocolate,
the powder white and the cake donut. Then the box
and start with the eat and is it it's something
(26:40):
they chocolate, white, sugar, white powder and playing cake once
maybe so moist you gotta eat them with it as
soon as you open the box.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Listen, alcohol.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
When I go to Public's and I get ox of those,
the mob a thing in one night.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
Yeah, it's bad.
Speaker 3 (27:05):
That's why I can't get rid of my little love
handles in it and my little back back.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I've just decided it's just it's just here I think
it would be.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
And then when it gets stuck up there you know
it's good and moist, you know when you in it
and it gets stuck up at the top of yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
Yeah, so yeah, oh my.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
Goodness, it will definitely be deserves for me, Like I
just be too snacking, that would be it.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
Yeah, Coddler, my favorites. The last one is for you, Ashley.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Ashley, do you feel pressure to always look the part
of a baddy in real life?
Speaker 1 (27:49):
In real life, I feel the pressure to look the
part of a baddy.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
I mean, they basically said asking you even when you
ain't trying to still look good girl?
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Yeah, period? Is it pressure?
Speaker 3 (28:02):
No? I don't feel pressure, but I think, you know,
the social media does make you feel like you're supposed
to look put together all the time.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
And I do find myself sometimes being like, you know what,
fuck it.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
I don't look that good today my hearing all that,
but I'm still gonna post it because this is who
I really am. But I do like consciously have to
say that, like, girl, don't matter if you're here out
of place, you know. So I do think there is
I want to say pressure, but I do think there
is this new societal norm of like you need to
always look put together for social media when that's not true.
(28:37):
And sometimes I do have to remind myself, like, girl,
dish your life like you at home and these dirty
ass swets you just got done.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Clean up chicken shit, and it just it is what
it is.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
It's what you look like right now, post it, you know,
Because sometimes I'll be like, no, I can't make content
today because I'm covered in chicken shit, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
But I gotta make a content and I need to
just be authentic.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
So I don't think there's pressure, but I do have
to remind myself, like it's okay to not be always
every here in place, and you know.
Speaker 1 (29:07):
Understand that. Sure, yeah, that's.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
I mean, I just don't care like I at one
point I did it, but now it's just like whatever,
y'all gonna see these sparkles my hair.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
The most beautiful things.
Speaker 3 (29:23):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
I used to, but now I love them.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 3 (29:28):
Yeah. I saw one one comment somebody was like, let's
wear your lashes. I'm like in the drawer like they are.
You know, I can put mascar on if I need to,
or get some lashes.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
It just is what it is. This is me at home.
Speaker 3 (29:46):
Because that's where they are, you know, all the time.
And so you know, like to give her a skin
of break.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Everyone need to. It's okay, you're so to be. Oh
I love my skin. Love it. You got that skin
and you got good.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Looked like a baby, but that scan it feels like
one two Yes, it's so soft and butter butter.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Lax, what we got for the humble babies. Mail about
that time? All right, here you go? Should I still
go on this vacation with his daddy?
Speaker 2 (30:29):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (30:29):
My god one daddy his daddy meaning, here we go,
let's let's get into it. Hey baddies, heany girl, So
I need your advice and please don't judge me, but
if you do, make it cute.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
I was dating this guy, let's call him Marcus, for
like six months.
Speaker 3 (30:49):
We had a vacation plan to Toulon, all inclusive, everything paid.
But two weeks before the trip, I found out he
was cheating with his baby mama and his gym trainer,
and yes, both knew about me, So of.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Course I answer here no, So of course I broke
up with him. But here's where it gets insane.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Two days after we split, his dad dn me on
IG saying he respected how I handled myself and that
Marcus never deserves me. At first I ignored it, but
then he kept checking in. He sent flowers cash at
me five hundred dollars just for a peace of mind.
(31:36):
It's a lot of quotes, guys, stick with me. Long
story short. We've been texting for three weeks now. He's fine,
owns two car dealerships, divorced, and when I told him
I was still going into loan, he offered to come
with me so I wouldn't go alone.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
Here's the question, should I still go.
Speaker 3 (31:58):
With his dad? I'm not playing anything wild yet. I
just don't want to waste the ticket. But my bestie
says this is the ultimate revenge and energy and that
I might need therapy. Am I toxic or just reclaiming
my piece in first class seat? Keisha friend Houston, Kisha,
(32:20):
you toxic girl?
Speaker 1 (32:23):
Daddy that appletof fall off from Honey.
Speaker 3 (32:27):
If you see what Daddy is doing, you don't think
he gonna be twenty times worse than his son?
Speaker 1 (32:35):
My girl, did, daddy? Tisha, go do it talking to somebody.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
Daddy, I'm actually entertaining that too, Like in the DMS,
accept enough the money, the flowers, and then now the
sitter is going on the trip.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
Keisha, Oh.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
You make this.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
You need to make this a therapeutic solo trip by yourself.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
Get in that room, go to the beach and and
and forget about both of them, the senior and the junior.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
Yeah there, and then there's other men out there.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
That's the helly moment. Like, Keisha, girl, really time to
play this? Tell us now the call for you be
cute girl. We ain't about to be cute with that nonset.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
No, that is not being a Humble Baddy.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Sure, one of them type of females that if you
do her wrong, she's gonna put your Yeah, yees, you
can feel it. He should don't do it. Reconsider it's enough.
It's enough girl. Yes, you're toxic. She's sharing. You're trying
(34:01):
to kick out some dirt right now. And can you imagine.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
Both of y'all toxic daddy talk all y'all toxic all
y'all all, y'all is nasty age vacation to Harvard? Yeah no,
we not done that.
Speaker 3 (34:17):
Yeah, anyway, that's it's for all of us, you know
from Houston with your toxic as.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Thank you for writing now.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
If you have questions are concerns, please feel free to
write us at contact at Humblebatties dot com. We would
love to give you advice and answer your questions. Thanks
again for tuning in and watching this episode of Humble Batties.
I'm asking Nicole you can find me and Ashley Nicole
on Instagram.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
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Speaker 3 (34:50):
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Speaker 1 (35:10):
Much love to all of you guys, be saved and
good night. We love y'all. Keisha, stay away from that
daddy girl. Bye bye
Like getting my way, never out of my name. It's
been like you one in the more one so is
gonna be baby squad? All right, haven't y'all seen?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
You know?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Prom season has just hass.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
They aren't getting outrageous from posals or pressure. Are teenagers
doing too much? Pro proposals have officially turned into a
full on production. Think billboards, exotic cars, rented animals, and
inflorencer level videography. What used to be a sweet high
(00:34):
school tradition is now a viwel performance.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
But here's the real question.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Are these teams celebrating love or are they then pulled
into a cloud chasing culture too early? Have y'all do
y'all it gets it's your each year, your entertainment.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I look forward to it because it is a show.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
The proposals all the way into these extravag against send
off parties and musical we.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I mean, I saw camels, I saw.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I've seen the topics a vehicles by the way, I've
seen runway collection pieces from Louis Vauton, and I mean,
you name it, all the diamonds and the dancing and
I'm trying to see what they and it's money from
that's another thing. I don't know if this is just
prom is the end all beyond celebration, Like are.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
The parents the ones that are like, let's do this,
because it's like.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Trying to make sure they they kids have the best
the time, Like they trying to make it to the
shade room your goal. I heard my daughter talking. She
was like, oh, I should be this extra. I'm trying
to make it to the I said, girl.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
No, you great with what money. This is your this
is your budget. And that's it.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Like we're not going like whole like free prom parties
and yeah, that's what I'm like, they have a whole
I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Pre party for the adults to take the kids whatever.
Everybody just met at somebody house and.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Then it's like for cars, we had that extended.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Live up right by the way and not uber and
then we all with the dress.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
The dress came from the dress was wasn't no custom
aide dress. It came from dealers and their problem.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Mine was custom but not this this level of custom.
This is over the time.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I'm from the pastry. We ain't have no custom ship
where I'm from. A celebration this you know, like, let
me tell you something that is the end of the
year party, like they're everyone's dressed up to the nines.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
When else are you gonna dress up?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Now?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I'm not.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
I've been blessed at Deuce and a raised problem is
very manageable. I think that's just how it is over here,
just trying to keep it manageable. And we have fun
because the after problem is the most fun anyway.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
The problem is is I you know what's happening? Yeah,
I I already had went to the after party. She's
at the party.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Some of the teenagers parents or whoever the parent is
that the teenager, who ever sponsoring the parents of that teenager,
who's sponsoring throwing it?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Where a where is the money coming from?
Speaker 1 (03:41):
It's a lot.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
It's too much for me and we're not doing it is.
Zeus was very smart. He was like, no graduation party
for me, none of that. I just want this car, thanks, okay.
I told ari Yama, I said, you're gonna get yourn yo.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
She nail bagged. That's your graduation gets. She wanted her.
She nail bag.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
I love that your car that you got, that Tesla
that you got for Christmas.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
That was your Christmas gift.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Your graduation gift, you're going off to school gift, gonna
ask nothing else.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
In the car, she can have that forever. Take care
of it, all right, that's a burdergard for me.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
Blessed they are. I was like, girl, I ain't getting no.
I had to buy my old car. Once I to
the military, I had to buy my old car. Like
I didn't get all this that y'all get. Y'all haven't
made they do. Our kids live a life. But you
know what, it's better. I look at it like this.
The whole point is to improve right and do better
for your your family. So I sit back sometimes I'm like, wow,
(04:42):
we're so blessed, Like look at this, but I had this,
this car they're getting with their literally their dream cars,
Like look at that. But you know what, it's kind
of it's like a it's a gift in a curse
because I know this is what with my kids. They
are so spoiled. Like I always said, you know, I
(05:04):
want them to have a better life than how I had,
and I gave them that life. But now it's to
a point where I feel like I have to remind them,
like you have to work. Fundy doll fall from a tree.
You have to work for what you want, and I
feel like a lot of times they turn into spoil
brats and it kisses yeah, very very coll and I
(05:26):
don't like that.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
So I have to pull myself back in and remind myself.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Like eventually they're going to be a dogs and you're
creating monsters. So everything that they ask for, don't feel
bad that you don't give it.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Give it to them, make them work for it.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
So that's what I have to remind myself because I
feel guilty when I can't. When I don't, I'll say no.
And I don't stand on business. But that.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Is tough.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
But it's it's hard because I'm like I'm raising and
she's an adult, like she's basically and I have to
make sure that you know how to make decisions. It's
not going to be giving. You can't call me every
time now because you got to find a job.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
She didn't want to work. It's like, I want to
focus on school.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
I want to do this, Like girl, when I was sixteen,
I had a job, or when I wasn't going to school,
I was working double shifts at Taco Bell, Like need
you to have that same drive that I had yes,
at least something, at least where you can balance, Like, look,
I have X, Y and Z, so at least meet
me halfway. That's why I like to it's selling my
children too, Like meet me halfway. I was like, girl,
(06:34):
I had put up a Twitter post. I was like,
you haven't made Like your credit is amazing. I made
sure when you were sixteen. I put her on my
as an authorized user on my AMA. She don't know,
but I put the car in her name and O
co signed for her and I paid that sometime three
times a month, going two times. Going to the principal
like you haven't made you I basically said success, Like.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Now do something with it. Don't feel she won't. I
know she's going, but it's just hard.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
It's so hard because you know they can make the
just one wrong decision, or their their mentality because they're
so school can ruin everything. So it's just like I reinforce,
like now it's go time. It's the ball is in
your court. Now now you've got to make decisions. Go on.
You'all be here to support you. But they realize how
(07:27):
adulting is not fun. It's not Yeah, my kids are
a little younger than y'all. But I'm a little worried
because you know, they are around other kids who you
know they are like, you know, I know they're gonna
be driving the nice cars and getting like, you know,
(07:49):
whatever they want really and it's that's that ain't happening
over here, you know what I'm saying. So I don't know,
I don't know how does go work out, how it's
go play out, you know what I mean. Like we
are very much, you know, trying to you know, keep
them humble and like make them work for everything, and
like they about to be.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Getting no brand new.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
BMW already blah blah blah, all these cars these kids
out here driving that's not happening. Like you're gonna work
for your car, like it's gonna be a nice get
you from point A to point B. These type of situation,
you know what I'm saying. And so I don't know
how Like I don't know what I'm in for, Chiad.
If the prom is the y'all have free prom parties
(08:33):
and after parties and all.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
This stuff to worry about.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
I'm glad you got the dress budgets like you just
support the powerful words and budget and no a coming handy,
and my thing is this, this is what I ask for.
I need my diploma, I need my grades, I need
my eligibility, and then the world is yours. Like obviously,
we set our children up to go to the best
schools and to be taught by the best, so we're like, look,
(09:00):
we are invested in your education for them to be
good humans. So the work ethic, time management, keep your
room clean, be organized, check in. Those things are equal
value to me of like, you know, giving them that
that rearing that they need to be.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Good, good kids.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
So I feel like it's a balance with all of it,
because they do have abundance. The blessing is we can
give them, you know, good food, dining experiences, traveling, exposure
to the world, all these things. But I think we
we're doing a great job of really you know, raising
good kids that are well rounded and can talk to
adults and show up and be themselves and be confident.
(09:41):
So I think that's that's that's a testament to us too. Yeah,
going back, okay, going back to the problem. I just
feel like we are setting our kids up for failure.
And it's mainly you don't see this in the other
culture communities. Like it's us Like, while we got spend
so much, you know what we can we can put
(10:02):
that towards a trust fund, it can go towards the
savings account. Like when you howe is expensive nightly spending money.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
And half half the kids look like they ain't going
to damn college. Yeah, all that's the problem. Like this
is the end all be all, Like this is it
that made it?
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Why are we doing the bank? But why are we
creating this for our you know, for our kids. Like
it's not that I don't like it. I mean it's
cute and everything, but when you think about it financial
financially from a financially stampoint, it makes no sense. And
that's what we got to get get out of. Stop
(10:41):
spending money on materialistic things for show. We're teaching our
kids like this is okay, yeah, and it's and we're
not going to break that cycle of the the the
generational curse of being broke, living paycheck to paycheck, trying
to stunt for Instagram and not really doing it in
(11:02):
real life.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Because we're everything.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
We're teaching them that everything is and we're basically we're
we're enabling it down and it's not good I don't
like it.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
It's it's an excess.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
It's really just to me, it's mimicky of like just
culture in a way.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
You know, like I saw stacks of money, like what
are we doing?
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Like?
Speaker 1 (11:25):
What are we doing?
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Everyone's stunting like it's a video shoot very much. I mean,
at least one thing I know is we're putting money
back into our neighborhoods.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Is it the white kids to or is it just
our people doing that? I haven't you know, kids, it's
just us. It's a lot of them in Florida. Florida.
The King, the King of love it. Oh, no, their rival.
(11:57):
They have just changed the whole culture. I mean it's
like a big competition. It's for time.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
It's for that that one shining moment, the end all
like you know, the graduation from we were dressing up.
I mean I saw I saw some gowns. I saw
one this one guy had a tie that was like
extremely long, like all the way across the room.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Some country and ship. It's just I saw it all like.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
And maybe don't know, it's a lot. I guess the
parents need to chill. I really feel like it's parents. Yeah, listen, they.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Stands kind offord all that mess. Yeah, why are the parents?
They don't have no life. Y'all don't have no life
if y'all do it. Yeah, y'all are wearing these When
are you gonna wear it again? I feel like they're
living through their children.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
They want to be influencers, they want to be famous,
they want to go viral.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
So they're doing it through their kids.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
And that's weird to be out there use them in
that way, like, because one you're you know, you're setting
them up for not failure, but you know, an unrealistic
thing for them life, trying to keep up, you know.
So I don't know, it's just it's just all bad.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
All bad.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
What do they say, keeping up with the Joneses. Yeah,
that's exactly what's going on. Yeah, well that won't be
happening over here at the wheelerhousehold.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
We're going to talk regular degulars send.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
Off to the problem. That's how I will two out
of four for me. So yeahs, that's how it was.
I took ari Yama. I drove she didn't she didn't
want to go with anywhere. I mean her her boy
friend graduated early. He played for University of Georgia. So
she didn't want she just wanted to show up, and
I drove for her and we can't got her.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
She's said a swap. Yeah that's fine. Mm hmm. So
I was good.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
She was so beautiful too. She did she did her
big one. The only they fait the most money on
was her dress. And that wasn't I mean, that was
like two thousand dollars. It wasn't bad. My mama would't
buy me, no damn two thousand dollars dress.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
I think I had. I think my mama gave me
like I think three hundred dollars and that was a splurge.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Yeah, I listen we had did you have the little
the water, the vanilla falls?
Speaker 1 (14:44):
How the up through? What is it like a corn roll?
Not a corn French roll? French roll? The big girls girls? No,
I didn't. I didn't do the pincross. I've always in
the fresh press, silk pressed. The girl you got that loan.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
Yeah. I went shopping to go look for a prom
dressed and I didn't really see anything I liked. So
I did go to the fabric store with a seamstress
and then we picked down fabric and a pattern and
I did a couple of fittings, but it wasn't any
It wasn't like overpriced. I had a budget with my
mom and and so was able to get it done.
(15:23):
I think I had my I don't I have to
pull up some pictures, but we might need to show
our pictures. I went to the I only went to
the prom once. I went my eleventh grade year and
the guy who was missed the HS asked me to
go with him.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
Oh this is pressure, y'all know. We went up. I
missed the school asked you to go. It's like, oh,
I got a little bit.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
I was like, Ma, I need to go to the
prum and I got to look good because I'm going
with but prom misr Oh no, it was the prom king.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
I'm going with the prom kick. I need to be
looking cute or whatever.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
So I begged my grandparents and my grandma is a
faithful dealer shopper.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Uh the go to the go to.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
My grandma took me to dealers did Chris was cute
though it was spitted she you know, she tightened it in.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
A little bit. My grandma got my little dealer stress
said I was cute.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
M Deuce had me write his proposal on the old
fashioned poster board. He took his day, his date, his
potential date Chick fil A for lunch and it was
like in that whole like Chick fil A theme.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
And that was on a Wednesday, and Prime was on
that Friday. Okay, and he has.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
And it was easier with him because he had a
suit already which we have. And then we just went
and got him to new shoes. Well, I took him
to some brand new shoes to match her dress that
she already had because they were gonna go separate.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
So I do proposals, we didn't. Did y'all have that back?
Ask how did you get asked to go to prom
My just asked me and one not thought enjoyed. He
was just going together like, oh, I had a good one.
I had a good one.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
It was it was when I would who It was
the big rival game. It was Desert Vista versus Mountain
Point High School. And the girls will go first like
varsity and then varsity boys will go right after.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
So the.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
The our gym is packed and halftime of the boys,
uh the boys game.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
For at the time, Jeremy was like, asked me the
problem over the loud speaker with the.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I forgot about it was embarrassing, but I was like, yeah,
let's let's go.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
But it was just like I'm all sweaty from the
post game and like it's a rival game.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Probably dropped. I liked the double on them one time,
but it was fun and ended up having a good talk.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
So well.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Phil went the problem with Charille cousin.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
That's not actually had Phil had my cousin and another girl.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Phil was late.
Speaker 3 (18:28):
He had two women. Oh at the same prop and wow,
big Pippins. I had my cousin. Don't want or is
it was her friend on the up.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
That's fun. He's a nice guy.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
Bill was a little lamb. Yeah, that was funny though,
I said, Ashley, you know my cousin went to to
the problem with your husband.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Such a small world. It's such a small world. Yes.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
I met her at the airport in Turks and she
told me. She said, Hey, I'm the cousin that with us,
the problem with your husband. I was like, you, you know,
she's so country. Anybody from feeding City or clubbish Georgia. Listen,
they gonna be straight up, they a't gonna sugar coat.
(19:25):
Then they go just the greeting was his.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
And a dang, you can't say, hey, hey girl, I
know you know she went straight to it, straight to.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
This Maranda you hey girl, Yeah, I'm the one who
went to the problem with your husband.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Girl. Uh I love her.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Yes, the parents, y'all have to get it together. We
can't be spending all this money on these teens.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
They have so much, there's so much more and life then,
you know, splurging on these teams for these prom tuition,
falling to the pressure and trying to like do better
than somebody else, Like it's oh, it's a competition. I
wonder if it is more about the parents than the kids.
(20:21):
They putting the gas, the living through their kids. They
living through their kids, because what else I would like
to see more money and more thought put in. I
love saying, you know when they do the little TikTok
trends of what college they pick.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Have y'all seen those like.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
That theamm of the like went to Alabama State, the
dad went to Alabama and them, and it's like a
or fam you and it's like a competition of which
parent is trying to force their child to pick the
school to at you.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
It's a lot of those trending als are real cute.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
I like that.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
Put your emphasis saying stuff like that. No, damn.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
I have heard of like trunk parties where like, you know,
everybody at the party and they bring stuff for them
to take.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
A trun party for Ari. Okay, I'm coming, I'll bring something. Yeah,
that's cute. I like that. All right, now it's time
to get into Segment four. Ladies.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
Questions from our humble batty fans, Ashley, you want to Okay,
what's one thing people get wrong about you? Just from
your social media? I think people think I'm like a
very girly girl, like suck up, and I think I'm
(21:50):
very much the opposite, Like I'm pretty goofy and friendly
and tomboy ish, like I want to go outside and play,
except if it's a you know something degrees outside like
it was today. But but yeah, I feel like people
look at, you know, my social media and then when
they meet me, they're like, oh, okay, I didn't think
(22:12):
you were you know, so chill or whatever. I think
that's the same with me, like people look at from
you know, TV or from social media.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Because I don't know why, I never really smell on
my pictures.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I hate taking pictures, but when they really get down,
sit down, or meet me or talk to me, then
you're like, are you the same person? I'm like, you know,
that's TV, right, that's just entertainment right now. On TV,
you do come off, but that's not me. Everybody who
know me, who meet me in real life. No, I'm
(22:46):
just on TV though, No, but we're talking about life.
We're talking about in real life, real life, even from
social media. Like people, I guess they assume it from TV,
but in real life, when you really get when you
get to know me, it's like you can't help but
love me.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
M h.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
I don't really, I can't say.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
I was trying to think and see if there's anything
I feel like people get wrong from my social media
because I feel like I'm.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
I'm very authentic. What you see is what you get.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
I'm very intentional about my post and what I'm putting
out there. And other than that, I just I know
one thing I could post and be in a total
different place in the world and no one would know. Yeah,
I don't post in real time, so maybe that, But like,
other than that, I like to show pictures from back
(23:37):
in the day, I like.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
To rere you are the flash back dah you got.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
I gotta let them know, you know what I mean.
I'd been that a friendly humble reminder. You know that
this humble is my life, you know what I mean?
I do stand on being a lifestyle creator and this
is a lifestyle that people attained to, whatever that might be.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
But I'm showing you my work.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
I'm showing you play, I'm showing you philanthropy, just showing
you really my authentic self.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
So come along for the ride, Charrelle. How do you
stay grounded while leveling up?
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Ooh?
Speaker 1 (24:21):
How do I stay grounded while leveling up?
Speaker 3 (24:23):
I mean I basically I remind myself that quiet confidence
lasts longer than loud validation. You know, I still celebrate
my wins, but I don't let them define me as
a person. I stay grateful, stay humble, and it's okay
to you know, to celebrate, but at the end of
the day, loudness fades away. Yeah, yeah, I love that. Okay,
(24:50):
what's one thing you've had to unlearned to grow into
the woman that.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
You are now?
Speaker 3 (24:57):
Hm, I will say to me, will be the power
of no and not over exerting myself and then really
showing up for those who show it for me.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
So I'm really just in that.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
Space of awareness and discernment and very much just like
understanding value that you bring as well as vice versa
to the people you surround yourself with. I like to
be in rooms that people are doing better than me,
that are you know, that are are just really showing
me that I could be in this space with them.
I think that is also something that resonates with me.
(25:29):
So other than those those, those would be my big ones.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
That I could identify with.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
Okay, what's your guilty pleasure song? Show or snack? That's
not very baddy. Well being right here, I'd be snacking
on these. I don't know if y'all notice, but he's
got me in a choke hold. These are all beneath
gummy bears, and I don't know there are women owned Okay, supporter,
(26:03):
these got me in the chocolate, and I don't think
they're very baddy because I've been going to the gym
at five o'clock in the morning the past couple of
weeks and this is the only things holding me back
from having it.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
That's my problem.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
My problem is I'm gonna y'all know the donuts. I
forgot what brand they are, but they have the chocolate,
the powder white and the cake donut. Then the box
and start with the eat and is it it's something
(26:40):
they chocolate, white, sugar, white powder and playing cake once
maybe so moist you gotta eat them with it as
soon as you open the box.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Listen, alcohol.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
When I go to Public's and I get ox of those,
the mob a thing in one night.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
Yeah, it's bad.
Speaker 3 (27:05):
That's why I can't get rid of my little love
handles in it and my little back back.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I've just decided it's just it's just here I think
it would be.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
And then when it gets stuck up there you know
it's good and moist, you know when you in it
and it gets stuck up at the top of yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
Yeah, so yeah, oh my.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
Goodness, it will definitely be deserves for me, Like I
just be too snacking, that would be it.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
Yeah, Coddler, my favorites. The last one is for you, Ashley.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Ashley, do you feel pressure to always look the part
of a baddy in real life?
Speaker 1 (27:49):
In real life, I feel the pressure to look the
part of a baddy.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
I mean, they basically said asking you even when you
ain't trying to still look good girl?
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Yeah, period? Is it pressure?
Speaker 3 (28:02):
No? I don't feel pressure, but I think, you know,
the social media does make you feel like you're supposed
to look put together all the time.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
And I do find myself sometimes being like, you know what,
fuck it.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
I don't look that good today my hearing all that,
but I'm still gonna post it because this is who
I really am. But I do like consciously have to
say that, like, girl, don't matter if you're here out
of place, you know. So I do think there is
I want to say pressure, but I do think there
is this new societal norm of like you need to
always look put together for social media when that's not true.
(28:37):
And sometimes I do have to remind myself, like, girl,
dish your life like you at home and these dirty
ass swets you just got done.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Clean up chicken shit, and it just it is what
it is.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
It's what you look like right now, post it, you know,
Because sometimes I'll be like, no, I can't make content
today because I'm covered in chicken shit, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
But I gotta make a content and I need to
just be authentic.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
So I don't think there's pressure, but I do have
to remind myself, like it's okay to not be always
every here in place, and you know.
Speaker 1 (29:07):
Understand that. Sure, yeah, that's.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
I mean, I just don't care like I at one
point I did it, but now it's just like whatever,
y'all gonna see these sparkles my hair.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
The most beautiful things.
Speaker 3 (29:23):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
I used to, but now I love them.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 3 (29:28):
Yeah. I saw one one comment somebody was like, let's
wear your lashes. I'm like in the drawer like they are.
You know, I can put mascar on if I need to,
or get some lashes.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
It just is what it is. This is me at home.
Speaker 3 (29:46):
Because that's where they are, you know, all the time.
And so you know, like to give her a skin
of break.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Everyone need to. It's okay, you're so to be. Oh
I love my skin. Love it. You got that skin
and you got good.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Looked like a baby, but that scan it feels like
one two Yes, it's so soft and butter butter.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Lax, what we got for the humble babies. Mail about
that time? All right, here you go? Should I still
go on this vacation with his daddy?
Speaker 2 (30:29):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (30:29):
My god one daddy his daddy meaning, here we go,
let's let's get into it. Hey baddies, heany girl, So
I need your advice and please don't judge me, but
if you do, make it cute.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
I was dating this guy, let's call him Marcus, for
like six months.
Speaker 3 (30:49):
We had a vacation plan to Toulon, all inclusive, everything paid.
But two weeks before the trip, I found out he
was cheating with his baby mama and his gym trainer,
and yes, both knew about me, So of.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Course I answer here no, So of course I broke
up with him. But here's where it gets insane.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Two days after we split, his dad dn me on
IG saying he respected how I handled myself and that
Marcus never deserves me. At first I ignored it, but
then he kept checking in. He sent flowers cash at
me five hundred dollars just for a peace of mind.
(31:36):
It's a lot of quotes, guys, stick with me. Long
story short. We've been texting for three weeks now. He's fine,
owns two car dealerships, divorced, and when I told him
I was still going into loan, he offered to come
with me so I wouldn't go alone.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
Here's the question, should I still go.
Speaker 3 (31:58):
With his dad? I'm not playing anything wild yet. I
just don't want to waste the ticket. But my bestie
says this is the ultimate revenge and energy and that
I might need therapy. Am I toxic or just reclaiming
my piece in first class seat? Keisha friend Houston, Kisha,
(32:20):
you toxic girl?
Speaker 1 (32:23):
Daddy that appletof fall off from Honey.
Speaker 3 (32:27):
If you see what Daddy is doing, you don't think
he gonna be twenty times worse than his son?
Speaker 1 (32:35):
My girl, did, daddy? Tisha, go do it talking to somebody.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
Daddy, I'm actually entertaining that too, Like in the DMS,
accept enough the money, the flowers, and then now the
sitter is going on the trip.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
Keisha, Oh.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
You make this.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
You need to make this a therapeutic solo trip by yourself.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
Get in that room, go to the beach and and
and forget about both of them, the senior and the junior.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
Yeah there, and then there's other men out there.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
That's the helly moment. Like, Keisha, girl, really time to
play this? Tell us now the call for you be
cute girl. We ain't about to be cute with that nonset.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
No, that is not being a Humble Baddy.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Sure, one of them type of females that if you
do her wrong, she's gonna put your Yeah, yees, you
can feel it. He should don't do it. Reconsider it's enough.
It's enough girl. Yes, you're toxic. She's sharing. You're trying
(34:01):
to kick out some dirt right now. And can you imagine.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
Both of y'all toxic daddy talk all y'all toxic all
y'all all, y'all is nasty age vacation to Harvard? Yeah no,
we not done that.
Speaker 3 (34:17):
Yeah, anyway, that's it's for all of us, you know
from Houston with your toxic as.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Thank you for writing now.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
If you have questions are concerns, please feel free to
write us at contact at Humblebatties dot com. We would
love to give you advice and answer your questions. Thanks
again for tuning in and watching this episode of Humble Batties.
I'm asking Nicole you can find me and Ashley Nicole
on Instagram.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Where can they find you?
Speaker 3 (34:50):
I'm sure Resulto you can find me at Sharon Rosutta
Underscore on Instagram, Sure Resulta on Twitter and Charone doubt
resulta on Snapchat. Make sure you subscribe to Humble Baddy's podcast.
You can find us also on TikTok, Humble Batties podcast
and I Am Alexis Underscore Stardomer on Instagram.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
Much love to all of you guys, be saved and
good night. We love y'all. Keisha, stay away from that
daddy girl. Bye bye
Host
Shannon Sharpe
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