July 3, 2025 • 46 mins
Sharelle, Ashley & Porsha react the WILDEST Humble Baddies Mailbag yet, that sparks a debate about cheating! Later, they debate the definition of "a girls’ girl" and much more!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
I think it's making people lazy.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
But I also feel like the algorithm is just making
people extremely biased because it feeds you what you want
to see. So at times, me and Andrea, we will
be talking about the Diddy case and he'd be like, man,
everybody's going in on Cassie. Man, everybody's saying this, everybody's
saying that. Everybody's saying that's.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
What she wanted and she was complicit and blah blah
blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
And I'm like, what are you talking about, Because on
my algorithm, on my phone, everyone's supporting a victim. Everyone
is saying like they're champing her, they're cheering for her.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
But I'm a woman, you know what I'm saying. So
it's like up to see, Like we.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Look at all the same stuff, we follow all the
same people, but I bet you the stuff that's being
fed to him is completely different from what's being fed
to me. And it's biased, and they're showing you what
either you want to see or what you engage with
the most. And it was crazy how we both had
this perspective of like overwhelming support for opposite sides or
(01:00):
just like, you know, he's basically just a bunch of
men just saying, you know, you know what men say, Oh,
you can't do anything.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
They're gonna put you in jail for this, and they're
gonna put you on jail for that.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
And then my side is just like, Oh, she's a woman,
he's a he's a beater, he's an user. And we
were both right, that's what we were seeing. All he
saw was that, and all it looks like it just
I don't know if it's making you lazy or if
it's just validating you, but not for the right reasons.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Just dating every thought.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
The album, talking about anything, and then it just pops
up on your phone. I don't like that. It's kind
of scary.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
It's very scary, you know what I like to do
Sometimes Sometimes I like to think about something and I
don't say it because I want to see it.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
Who gonna say it? Who's gonna say I want.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
To see if it pops up on my phone? I
swear they go, oh yeah, yeah, running through our brains
with something. I'm a conspiracy there's y'all.
Speaker 5 (01:57):
Because the thing about it, every time you say something,
it's crazy, you pick up your phone and it's there.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
You could talk about something.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
I feel like no, but it is a setting on
the phone. They tell you they're open about it. Listening
to microphone is.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
On listening, and the way there is in the information
is just kind of I know it's helpful when we
need it because I'd be chatting the hell out of
my shit, but you know what I'm saying, the whole
listening to everything is a little creepy.
Speaker 5 (02:28):
My last question, have y'all ever canceled somebody based on
something viral then found out it wasn't even true?
Speaker 4 (02:36):
Let's be real.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
No, I don't think I've canceled anybody.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
I don't know that I have canceled anybody.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I feel like if I did, it would take me
a lot to cancel somebody because I generally don't care.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
About other people's lives that much.
Speaker 5 (02:58):
I feel like everybody did care. So r Kelly, I
did all that was for our generation. I feel like
that was the first.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Big like no, no, like he messed up.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
I feel like everybody we listening, we listen to maybe
I was still playing chocolate Factory.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
No, no, no, what's so crazy?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
The stuff that he was accused of when we were
kids is worse than what he actually got locked up
for and nobody nobody cared.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
So it's like everybody should a hardcore cared back then,
our older siblings, our parents.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I he should have really cared back then when it
was video evidence and he was.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
Doing them, he was public, especially with it lit.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
And I'm just like, like, I'm in a very unpopular
and I don't say this to people anymore, but like,
prior to all this stuff happening, I would have told
you that R. Kelly is hands down my favorite artist ever.
I was raised on his music. I was raised on
it like he's a musical genius to me, obviously a
(04:06):
very disturbed individual, but.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Don't.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I don't put that much weight into my into celebrities
like man, I like his music. When I thought about
when I sang his music, I had not once ever
thought about what he was doing.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
What was your favorite song hit at one time?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Nope?
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Say they you think you for to trip me up
and have me on here singing art chilly.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
They just try to get me canceled.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Cancel girl, will cancel me. You know.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I don't think I ever canceled him because I was
not checking for him like that. I didn't think about
him like that, and I wasn't just I don't know.
I wasn't publicly, I don't know. I just wasn't like
I thought it was. It was it was sad and
it was wrong. But I was not one of those
people with a pitchfork with the.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Fire and you know what, cut out his CDs, come
on and be like, okay, now step in the name
of love.
Speaker 6 (05:05):
I was.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I just wasn't. I wasn't thinking about But I'm also,
he ain't babysitting my kids. I ain't spend no time
with them.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
I don't think.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
I feel like, yeah, I don't think we canceled anybody.
But that's like the only person I can think of that.
I feel like collectively everybody was like, oh, yeah, we're
on the same page. Don't play his music anymore but
a lot, but we all really wanted to be down.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
I think they canceled him. I have never been to
a party. We didn't play a little.
Speaker 6 (05:33):
R Kelly and your other you met your other side,
my other side, okay.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Get it right, share.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
I am. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:52):
I can't think of anyone else that was to that
point as as R Kelly think for our time, I
can't think of anyone else.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Did you guys cancel Kanye?
Speaker 3 (06:07):
I never like he should. Definitely I feel like he
should be on the cancel list. But for some reason,
I feel like I have hope for him, Like one
day he's gonna wake up and, like I thought, apologize
and go back to being old Kanye. I don't know.
I just for some reason, I'm holding a spot for
him to just come back and redeem himself.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
Once Kanye got with Kim, it just went the other way.
I just thought the now the old old Kanye.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Before, before he was.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
In relationships, I was listening to Kanye, but then it
wasn't his. I had I stopped, you know, listening to
Kanye way before he started going on his creak Little Friends.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I still listen to his gospel album. I don't care
if TikTok say he is a fake Christian.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
I like it. What's your favorite song?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Every hour? And I ain't gonna go hill right, You're
a mess.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Look, speaking of public perception, let's talk about when your
actual relationship becomes part of the storyline. We're getting getting
into now Portia Nelly in a shanty, love on camera
or reality TV curse Nelly and a Shanty are giving
us love goals and now they're dropping a reality show.
But let's be honest, Well they dropped the reality show
(07:28):
reality TV and love is. It's a tricky combo, definitely tricky.
My question to y'all, would y'all do a just just
You and your Man a couple's reality TV show?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
MM? I don't know. I feel like if I had
complete control over there, it is the narrative, then I
would be comfortable. I would, but given that most times
you don't in these situations, I would not. I think
(08:07):
in this day and age where reality TV is, although
it has grown a lot, I still feel like there's
not really a space. They haven't made a space for
black love to really shine and be great. And I
am not. You know, I have to protect my family,
my relationship, and being on TV is not worth it
(08:31):
to me. And I don't care you know how great
you know, even if you know we're good at home
and what's showing on TV may not be true, I
still feel like I want if I'm putting my family,
you know, on the spotlight like that, I want them
to see what we truly are, because what's the point,
(08:52):
you know, what I mean, if the show really truly
is about you know, your relationship and your family, and
y'are I'm going to show it in that light, then no,
I wouldn't. I wouldn't do it.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
You know what, even if like you do have an
amazing relationship and you have a great home life, what
you can always count on is that everybody is not
going to agree with you. You'll be having to back
and forth with your husband, and y'all just be joking
about something. It goes on TV, and then all of
a sudden, the entire world, you know, perceives the situation
(09:23):
not the way that you guys would, and convinces him
or convinces you that you should be offended by something
that he said, or he should be offended by something
you said. And I could easily easily see something like
that happening, you know what I mean, if that's just
how y'all talk, or that's just how y'all joke. And
next thing you know, they on the internet. Oh she
disrespectful to him, Oh he disrespected her? Oh my man,
(09:43):
would never you send that looking at him?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Like, but what happened?
Speaker 4 (09:47):
But we ain't do nothing? This does every day.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Like should I be mad, But that's what happens when
you open up your home to to everyone, basically because
they don't they don't know you intimately, they don't know
how you got are and you're trying to do something
positive and share your world.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
But that's not what they're watching for. I don't care
what anybody says.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
They can say they want positivity, they want this, they
want that, But the only thing that they cling to
and the only thing that they willingly make content about
is the bad stuff. Even when wags came out, the
only thing they willingly wanted to talk about was.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
The stuff that was controversial.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Mmm.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
It's the only thing that was willingly given to the
Walks was the bad stuff, and they ate it up
and we would post good stuff. There'll be good stuff
on the show.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
You think anybody talks about that?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
No, they didn't, not that there was enough of it,
but they didn't talk about it, and they wouldn't have anyway.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Honestly, that's true.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
So I don't think. I don't think I would do it.
Maybe if I had control, but that don't happen.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
But then again maybe not because I I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
I like my marriage and I'm happy and I feel
like that might make it unhappy.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
It ain't, no, Mike, it will.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
I feel the same way, like I would not do
a honestly, I wouldn't do a relationship type show ever again.
And I wouldn't put do a spouse because they want
to get the bad things. It's like people, there's people
out there in that world that live off of breaking
up happy homes or even exposing like you said before, Portia,
(11:31):
like people will take how y'all communicate with each other
and say and basically say, oh, you're disrespecting. Oh I
would never or this, that and the third, and it
have you sometime not even knowing that you're questioning, like damn.
So it's like it's best just to keep keep it away,
(11:51):
keep your relationship sacred, keep it with you and your spouse,
and y'all love each other quietly in your home.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
That TV should is really not worth it. And it
didn't really create any problems in my home life at all,
but I could see it just wasn't worth it. I
don't know it just if anything did happen, if anything
were to come out, and it would have us arguing
it absolutely would not be worth not even the Pettis argument,
not even for a second.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
It wouldn't be you know that's true, but good luck
to them.
Speaker 5 (12:28):
Yeah, would you ever go public with your relationship for
the world to judge? I'm never going public with my
relationship ever again.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
Ever.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Ever.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
All y'all gonna see is a hand.
Speaker 5 (12:46):
Y'all would not know who it is, y'all would.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Versus the hand, and then it's the sleeve and then
you get a little little half of a face. How
it starts frand but it's because when you and love,
you want to tell everybody.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
Yeah, I'm gonna tell y'all my friends, the people that
I know love me and support me. World the world
care about They ready to see?
Speaker 7 (13:12):
Oh she did, she had, she did, she cheated on
her hust and she.
Speaker 8 (13:20):
Ah.
Speaker 5 (13:22):
Y'all take little clips and create y'all all, damn narrator,
I y'all barely y'all gonna see which watch you went
in today, y'all go see.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
I mean, I think that's that's smart for you.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
It's very smart.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I think that's smart for you, which is also I
don't know why anybody thought the shoes with jeez, you
would never just post up no picture just.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
On my page.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I can't give the juice like that, Like even if
you was, why would you give them the juice like that?
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Once you make it a little bit more dramatic, a
little bit more epic.
Speaker 5 (14:03):
Exactly, if I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it now.
If I'm gonna come out, I'm gonna come out.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
The people don't know your friends, I don't know who are.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Not posted because you can't do nothing on social media
right now. I don't even post his arm, his hand,
whatever you said, his the risk.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Oh my gosh, they're.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
Gonna doom me. And then they're gonna like, I don't know.
Speaker 4 (14:25):
They are never never right well ever ever.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Speaking of ships, speaking of relationships and how they don't
be what they see online.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Do y'all ever have those friends that are kind of
like not really friends, specifically girls like girls girls girls, Yeah,
you do, girls who kind of like, you know, like
on the internet, like very supportive and like fiery emojis
and gas queen and you know, do the whole thing,
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but they're low key like not really.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
It's given fake, Yeah, it's it's let's let's talk about that.
Like girls who don't clap for you when you win.
Girls who move funny around.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
You are you know, publicly supportive, but privately just kind
of like not the vibe.
Speaker 5 (15:21):
I think a lot of women, it's said a lot
of women are surrounded by those type and it's not
just women as men as well.
Speaker 4 (15:29):
Those type of individuals.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
I call them frenemies.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Frenemies definitely, they're frenemies.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
You know.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
It's like they play nice, you know, in front of everybody,
but really they have I don't want to say ulterior motives,
because sometimes it's just that they don't really fuck with you.
And it's not even that they have a problem with you.
It's just they have a problem with themselves. But you know,
they don't know how to be a friend because whatever
(15:59):
it is that's eating them up, they can't even be
a friend.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
First, let me say, what is a girl's girl?
Speaker 5 (16:06):
Like?
Speaker 2 (16:06):
By definition? What do you think of? Like when you
meet a girl's girl and you know that she's one,
what do you think she is?
Speaker 3 (16:13):
How was you?
Speaker 4 (16:14):
I feel like?
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Girl makes you feel good? Like it makes when you're
around them, you feel like you can be yourself and
you can have a good time. You're not worried about
saying the right thing. Or saying the wrong thing, or
you know, are they gonna, you.
Speaker 5 (16:31):
Know, talk about you when you walk out the room
like they they you feel you leave feeling better than
you you can. I feel like their energy y'all reciprocate
energy like it just it matches. You're reciprocating the energy,
You're reciprocating the love like it just feels good.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
I feel like it shouldn't even be complicated. I'm having
a hard time explaining it because I really feel like
it's a feeling more so than anything, you know what
I mean, Like you just know when you meet a
girl's girl and you just know when like she's for you,
you know what I mean, It's just a feeling.
Speaker 5 (17:08):
I feel like a girl girl, yes, that Ashley, and
also someone that's not looking for something in return, like
a friend that's gonna be there for you, support you
and not look for nothing for benefits.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Like if I if.
Speaker 5 (17:25):
I'm doing something for you, it's because I'm doing it
out of the kindness of my heart. I'm supporting you
because I'm supporting I'm not looking for something back or
a girl's girl. They're gonna support you regardless whatever it is.
They have your back. That's what a girl's girl.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
It's me.
Speaker 5 (17:40):
Now.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
When I hear you two say that, all I'm thinking
of is that just sounds like a friend.
Speaker 5 (17:47):
Like.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
That's how I expect my friends to treat me, and
that's how I want to treat my friends.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
When I hear girls, girl, I think about somebody that does.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
That, like with everyone, even if they're not really your friend.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
You know what I mean, like.
Speaker 4 (18:03):
Me, like and I just like me like. I'm gonna
support women.
Speaker 5 (18:06):
I'm gonna support I'm gonna put them on like I'm
gonna give.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
You the the book.
Speaker 5 (18:12):
I'm gonna give you the whole play sheet. I'm gonna
give you the whole play sheet, whether you're my friend
or not. If you if a stranger reach out to me,
and people know because strangers have reached out to me
and they ask for I don't even charge them. I
don't do any of that because I see that they
have that drive. They want they want change. I'm not
gonna do things for the benefit for it to benefit
(18:34):
me or to get clout. I have done a lot
of things and I don't look for, you know, announcements
on it or something out of it.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
That's what a girl's girl's A girl's girl.
Speaker 5 (18:47):
Is like they they help their next sister to that
next level. If somebody reach out to you and help you,
not just a friend, A girl's girl gonna support women
regardless of who you are.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
I think that sometimes people want to have the title
of being a girl's girl, but they don't do stuff
like that. But then also there's a lot of people
who are a girl's girl but then kind of get
miss labeled because they're.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Just not in everybody's face and they just not for everybody.
Because I think that you.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Can be a girl's girl, but then also just not
want to be fooled up with every damn body.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Yeah that's true. I think that's.
Speaker 4 (19:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
I think that that can be okay.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
But I feel like you can tell, like what's a
red flag when you meet a girl and you just
know she I saw.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
This post today that reminds me of this. So she
was basically like when she meets.
Speaker 5 (19:45):
The girl, she and she wants to see, like she
wants to gauge, like are they a girl's girl?
Speaker 3 (19:51):
If this is my type of girl? She'll ask them
do you like Beyonce? And she gauges there, you know,
sponts off of it.
Speaker 5 (20:01):
So she's like if they're like, oh, I love Beyonce, like,
you know, she's amazing, she's a super talented girl, blah
blah blah blah blah, and of course like she's a
girls girl, right, But if she says like, oh, well,
you know, I'm not really like into her like that,
but you know she has cool songs, like, it doesn't
mean she's not a girl's girl.
Speaker 3 (20:19):
It might be that she's like one of the girls
you're talking about Porsha, Like she's a girl's girl, but
she everybody. She ain't for everybody, and everybody ain't for
her type of girl. Right.
Speaker 5 (20:28):
And then if she says she doesn't like Beyonce, she
don't see why people like her so much.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Everybody on her day Da da da da a girl's girl.
Because it's like you got to give Beyonce pops whether
you like her or not. You know what I'm saying,
You can't downplay Beyonce. I don't care, you just can't.
I feel like that's kind of like a cute way
to like think about you know what you were talking
(20:54):
about Porsha and that question, Cheryl, I don't know that analogy.
Speaker 9 (21:00):
I like.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
I like that one because if you get up there,
she can't even saying that good, she won't even be
girls shut up, go to get it.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
Because so if you go up there bashing Beyonce, then girl,
come on, you can't get that girl her props, then
you might you can't be a girl's girl. You know
what I'm saying, Like there's it's not even might be delusional.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Yeah, I mean you know what I think it is.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Sometimes you've ever been around the girl who like especially oh,
you can always tell when girls like if you're around
the girl and you're around guys.
Speaker 8 (21:36):
Too, the girl that like wants all the attention or
either wants all the attention or like like pokes fun
at you to get like guys to you.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Know, you understand what I'm saying, call out all the
about your little stuff and be like, you know, tell
people that you know.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Those are my shoes, or like just like that.
Speaker 4 (21:59):
Girl, my dress, little good on you today? You wearing
in my dress? Girl like.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Rud ass or just stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Just get away.
Speaker 5 (22:14):
I've done, I've done been around a lot of women
who are not girls girls, and it's like it got
to a point where it was like they envy successful
women so bad that they want to be in their lives.
It was sickening and I had to like really pray
and ask God to remove Like I started putting something
(22:37):
notn one in my office everywhere, like in my car, everywhere,
because it was like.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
At one one point in my time.
Speaker 5 (22:44):
That's all I was attracting was like women who were
not girls girls, And it was just it's a nasty
feeling because.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
You tell you, you know, when you attract stuff like
that is when and it's not really them, it's really you.
Fat girls like that when you are not fully like
realizing what you are you are, when you don't realize
how pretty you are, when you don't realize how nice
your personality is, when you're just being yourself but you're
(23:16):
a little bit naive to what you have to offer.
Because then you're around these other women and they might
be strong willed or they have like these strong personalities,
but you realize that they low key kind of hate
your guts and.
Speaker 5 (23:28):
You know you're right because I was just going through
a big breakup my ex husband.
Speaker 4 (23:32):
It was it was horrible, like it was.
Speaker 5 (23:34):
It was the worst, one of the worst times in
my life, so I wasn't thinking clearly, like my life
was not together out.
Speaker 9 (23:41):
You're not like super secure and you're trying to figure
things out, and they come into your life and you
feel like they want friendship, when really they want to
be close to you so they can pick out what's
wrong with you so they can.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Feel better about themselves.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
Because there's a lot of times you're like, people will
put you on a pedestal, right, and then when they
talk to you, they want to see every hole they
want to then they just start pointing out those little
things and making those little jokes and those little backhanded
compliments and stuff like that. That's because it makes them
feel better, because Loki, you make them feel a way
(24:14):
about themselves. And I noticed that anytime I was like,
I get, you know, fooled up with a friend and
she low KEI wouldn't be my friend, it was always
because I just did.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Not realize what I had and she thought more.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Of me than what even I thought of myself, and
she was basically punishing me for it. And it's just
really weird how that happens. That once you start to
feel better about yourself, you attract other women who also
feel that way about themselves, and y'all just vibe and
it's easy and nobody's insecure, and everybody's pretty and everybody's smiling,
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and it's like it's a completely different I've lived in
both worlds.
Speaker 5 (24:54):
It's sickening. And then the other thing I hate, like
when I see a beautiful well, I'm not gonna say
that because but y'all know, y'all see a woman that
don't want to be around other beautiful women. They got
to be the They gotta be the finest one in
the crew. If another woman come that's cute, oh, they
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gonna find any reason not to be around that girl.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
Yeah, I've seen that. I've seen. Yeah, I've been around
friends and.
Speaker 5 (25:24):
They like and the man might be around, and they
don't want you to be like close, like just weird,
just weird stuff like girl.
Speaker 4 (25:35):
Oh, what do you think you want me?
Speaker 3 (25:38):
You're like what, Yeah, that's the weirdest thing. Honestly, I don't,
I mean to be honest with y'all, like the whole
girl's girl thing, Like I don't necessarily like resonate with
being a girl's girl myself, only because I feel like
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I've had it so hard with girls and friendships like
my whole life, so I've always only had, like you know,
one or two good friends, and like, you know, I
kind of I'm not the friendliest girl when you first
meet me. You know, you gotta warm up, you know,
and I got to warm up to you, and you
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got to warm up to me. Like, so I don't
fully resonate with being a girl's girl, but I mean
I do feel like I know how to be a
good friend, and I know I am a good friend,
and so I take it really hard when I meet
or I'm around girls who aren't that way, you know
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what I mean, Like I really be offended. Oh yeah,
we know you do, Eshley, don't reciprocate the friendship, you
know what I mean. Like I have a big home
with it, and it's hard for me sometimes to just
let them be them, because that's ultimately what you got
to do. You can't change anybody. But like, if I'm
offering you, you know, this type of friendship, and especially
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if we've known each other for years and I am
continuously being a good friend to you and I am
vocal about the kind of friendship that I would like
to have, and you continuously don't do it it? Really,
I really be offended, you know what I mean. So
I don't know, I'm just that's something that I personally,
I guess, have to work on. That's like leaving people
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where they act. Because there's a lot of girls around
here who try to, you know, act like they.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Like it's super So that's you. Hefa social, say like
she's super social. She if you gonna be ohell, let's
gonna be for drinks. She's gonna bring eight people.
Speaker 9 (27:44):
And they all have friends and they.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
And I'm like, who is that?
Speaker 9 (27:51):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (27:51):
So I feel what i'd be like to give them
a plea.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
But I feel what you're saying is is you actually
are because you're extremely generous like you Honestly, I get
so much from my conversations with you guys like y'all
are very very much poured into your friend check on
your friends, super generous, always either one of y'all. Anytime
I'm around you, y'all always are taking care of me,
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taking care of me all the time, checking in on me,
like like you are a girl's girl.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
But I feel what you're saying because you're just not
like sometimes girls girls just like the hay girl. Hey,
but to everybody, And it's not always like that. You
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
Some times that should be fraudulent, right, and that's.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
But you're not there.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
So girls, it's different. You got your Charelle type, who
is literally the most.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
Sociable he for.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
She's good at networking all the things that I'm like, sucky.
I'm I don't remember people name, I'm bad at following up.
I do not be networking. I will go in that
devil place with my friends, won't talk nobody but my friends.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Shara is, come on, come off, everybody, let's all connect,
Let's do business, Let's have fun. Let's barbecue.
Speaker 4 (29:09):
That's right, let's have our Sunday dinners. Everybody coming over you, welcome.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
You and your ash is just like, I'm gonna keep
these people right here because they're not gonna stab me
in the back.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
I'm gonna keep these little people over here because these are.
Speaker 4 (29:25):
Now I have.
Speaker 5 (29:25):
I have different areas where I'll put them in my
friendship in my life. But I mean when it comes
to like I sincerely love living women in real life,
like I sincerely love helping women, and if I have it,
no matter who it is, I'm gonna give it to you, yeah,
who it is. And like you said, Ashley, some people
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are not like that. Some people like to say things
and do things or bragging your face, but they don't.
They just like to tell you what they got and
and carry on. And meanwhile, you could do everything for them,
but as a friend, you want those things reciprocated as
a female, like I'm not.
Speaker 4 (30:09):
Trying to take your spot.
Speaker 5 (30:10):
I'm not trying to do this, but I don't want
some I'll need some help, like hell yeah.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
But that's the part of friendship, you know, I think
helping each other out, Like I have weaknesses that you're
strong at and you always step in and be like,
hey girl, pot is numbered, you know, like that's what
you're supposed to do, Like you're supposed to be around
people who want to see you do better, and you
should be around people who can help you. Otherwise, what's
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the point I got.
Speaker 4 (30:36):
This benefit off you?
Speaker 3 (30:38):
Exactly. And that's the thing. There's takers, takers, just takers.
Speaker 5 (30:44):
Don't have anything to give, don't have anything to offer,
just takers. But you know, they try to come off
as like, you know.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Just friendly and loving and goodbye and positive and it's
all just a fart. It's just it's not true, you know.
But here you get down to it. When you get
down to it, and I'm telling you, I've been in
so many situations when you get down to the nitty
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gritty and you really need somebody to show up for you.
Those people they don't because it's fake. They just want
to look the partner. Mm hmmm.
Speaker 4 (31:25):
It's a lot of them out there. It's a lot
of them.
Speaker 3 (31:29):
Yeah, I'm gonna just keep you in my I'm a
girl's girl.
Speaker 5 (31:33):
But how do how do you deal with somebody who's
who you consider a friend and you find out that
they're not a girl's girl? How do you navigate with
that person?
Speaker 3 (31:44):
I'm still learning because normally I would probably confront them,
you know, I would bring up my issue and like
I said, I cant offend it when my friends don't
show up how they should or how I would for them,
you know what I mean. So I would like confront
them and be like, girl, what's up? Like why did
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you do X.
Speaker 5 (32:07):
Y and Z?
Speaker 3 (32:08):
And you know, we would talk it out and normally
I feel like they would hear me, but nothing really
changes because at the end of the day. People are
who they are, and they're going to do what they
want to do, and they're going to show up how
they want to show up, and I got to stop
expecting them to show up how.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
I'm This might not be the right thing to do,
but I feel like I have this habit of like,
kind of just letting things go on and on and
on and on until one day I'm just done with
you and you don't know.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Why, Like I have a really bad habit of like.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
But I'm also the person of like unlimited chances, and
I just I My husband always jokes that I'm like
everyone's biggest cheerleader, and I cheer for my friends real loud,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
I'm so proud of my friends.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
I show up to the events, I do their stuff,
I walk in they fashion.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
I take their pictures, I buy the stuff, I do
the stuff. I do all the stuff right.
Speaker 2 (33:04):
And sometimes, depending on who the friend is, he'll be like,
you know, like she really don't. She really don't return
that energy like she loves to take it. She loves
to ask you for favors. She loves to ask you
to come over and hold her hand and pray with
her and come to her event and do this and
do that, but she doesn't really show up for you
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and your special moments. And she's not posting your stuff
on Instagram, and she's not commenting, and she's not mentioning
your name in rooms and hooking, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
And he is always and.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
I hate it when he's right right, always the person
to point it out to me, and then you know,
I gotta see it more and I just let it
just go on and on and on until one day
I'm just like, all right, Dan, girl, it is what
it is.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
And I will really just I disappear on people. I'll
fade into.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
I would go like this, like Homer behind the thing, look.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
Like I'm done.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
My cut off game is strong and surell no, I
would stop talking to people.
Speaker 4 (34:07):
I'll be like Porsche.
Speaker 5 (34:08):
I'd be feeling bad for because I'm because I'm nice, bro,
I'm nice to people.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
So when people try me, I'm like, no, what the
hell did I do to you? And I because life
is sure, I don't have time. I don't have time
for people.
Speaker 5 (34:22):
I think I think I used to be like that,
but now I deal with people accordingly, like Okay.
Speaker 4 (34:29):
This is how you are.
Speaker 5 (34:30):
You're not gonna change, Especially if I've spoken to you
about the situation over and over and you still do
the same give the same results, then I just deal
with you on a associate type situation. I'm not gonna
press myself on you. I'm not going to force you
to change. If that's what it is, that's what it is,
and move accordingly, because I mean, at this big, big gage,
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you should know how how it feels to be you know,
to be treated. So why are you if I, if
we don't do that to you, if I don't do
that to you, why would you do that to me?
Speaker 2 (35:05):
You know, y'all be unfollowing people on Instagram, like when
you got a friend, but y'all ain't have no falling out.
It was there was no falling out, but you're just like, yeah,
this is't that.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Y'all un following I'm mute or you keep a purdency.
Speaker 3 (35:18):
Follow until I don't know. I got a couple of.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
People follow like, not because they did anything wrong, but
because like we're not friends. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
Like we know each other, we may have had we
may have been cool at one point, but like we
don't communicate over DM. You don't like my stuff, I
don't like your stuff.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
We in common.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
We don't hang, we don't text, we don't call. We
just know each other. Why are we following each other?
Speaker 3 (35:57):
Why do I follow you?
Speaker 4 (35:59):
We're not trying because they want to be.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
But I'm following them too, and I'm just like, you know,
it's almost like there is no problem. But if we
don't follow each other, then there might be a problem,
or you might think there's a problem and there's not.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
I just don't need to follow.
Speaker 4 (36:12):
Because some people take social media.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
I guess I'm one of those people. Why can't I
just don't follow these people? I gotta some balls.
Speaker 3 (36:23):
People, I mean people all the time. And then sometimes
I go through my meet and looks like you, it's crazy.
Speaker 4 (36:35):
It's crazy. That's what we gotta deal with. We got
to move on.
Speaker 5 (36:38):
You know, you can't teach your friend to be a
girl's girl. You can't teach your friend to be a
good friend. You just move accordingly. And that's the conversation.
I think we spoke about this Ashley before. You can't
expect yourself out of people. So that's what it is.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
Learning. Lord Jesus but.
Speaker 5 (36:57):
Y'all, now it's time to get into humble Baddy's mail
and we got some ooh, juicy, juicy juice coming in.
Speaker 4 (37:05):
It's a little it's a little missy.
Speaker 3 (37:09):
Okay, let's go.
Speaker 4 (37:11):
It happened in the bathroom, and he's married. They're humble batties.
I've been holding this in and it's eating me alive.
Speaker 5 (37:23):
I need space to be honest, because I don't even
recognize myself right now. I was at a party a
few weekends ago. The energy was fun, the drinks were flowing,
and everyone was vibbing. At some point during the night,
this guy started flirting with me. I wasn't sure what
was happening at first. I've never looked at a.
Speaker 4 (37:44):
Man that way.
Speaker 5 (37:45):
But he was bold, he was charming, and before I
knew it, we ended up in the bathroom and things
went further than I imagine.
Speaker 4 (37:55):
It was quick, messy, confusing, and it was over.
Speaker 5 (38:01):
I felt sick, not because of what I did, but
because I found out he was married. His wife later
came to the party that day, and that's how I
found out. Since that night, I've been spiraling. I don't
know if it was curiosity, suppressed feelings or just a
stupid mistake. All I know is I feel disgusted with myself,
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not because of the guy, but because I crossed a
line in his marriage. So now I'm stuck with this question.
Do I tell his wife the truth and risk breaking
everything or do I carry this guilt in silence try
to better move or try to be better moving forward?
Speaker 10 (38:47):
Sign Chris, okay.
Speaker 3 (38:58):
Ra that's a lot And because how you just end
up in the bathroom.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
Chris said.
Speaker 4 (39:10):
Chris said, it was messy, like.
Speaker 5 (39:15):
Oh, like meeting people and going in the bathroom. And
I have a lot of I have a lot of
male gay friends, and they are very spontaneous when it
comes to.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Want to know why, because even though they're gay, there's
still men And what man, do you know that if
you just walked up to him and was just like.
Speaker 5 (39:40):
It's going But so the husband was the cover because
the husband had a wife and the wife was at
the party.
Speaker 1 (39:49):
This is what I want to know, Chris, As you said,
should you should you tell or should you just with
the guilt.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
I just want to know, are you still going to
feel guilty even if you tell her? Like, how does
that take the guilt away?
Speaker 5 (40:08):
It sounds like, Chris want that man, Uh, why would
you tell the wife? Like that's not his his responsibility.
Speaker 1 (40:16):
It's not his responsibility.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
I would dare say that he would be doing the
lord's work because if he's under cover, you better tell
that lady.
Speaker 5 (40:25):
Yeah, but that's that's gonna change up everybody's world, you
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (40:32):
And I feel like.
Speaker 4 (40:34):
That's just messy.
Speaker 3 (40:37):
I think he should tell the wife.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
I think us need to.
Speaker 4 (40:40):
Come come, come out that closet.
Speaker 5 (40:43):
And stop playing around like that because it's so many
especially in Texas.
Speaker 4 (40:48):
Did y'all see the rights of HIV?
Speaker 1 (40:50):
Did you repost that? Who posted that?
Speaker 4 (40:56):
Because it's sad.
Speaker 5 (40:57):
It's like people need to know, y'all need to go
get y'all need to stop fooding around like this.
Speaker 4 (41:02):
Chris and and the husband.
Speaker 3 (41:04):
In the clothes, I'm this situation, that's a lie. I
don't think. I just I don't know.
Speaker 5 (41:10):
I don't I don't think that he should tell the wife,
but the wife needs to know.
Speaker 3 (41:18):
The husband needs to just tell his wife because the
husband is this.
Speaker 4 (41:24):
This couldn't have been his first time missing.
Speaker 3 (41:26):
With all too was a look and May was in
the bathroom. Two seconds later he then did this a
few times and the.
Speaker 2 (41:33):
Men's the testosterone be going okay, they'd.
Speaker 4 (41:38):
Be ready to go, and.
Speaker 1 (41:41):
They said, we don't need to do all that chat.
Speaker 4 (41:45):
Any means, let's go.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
I don't know. I'm torn. I feel like I feel
bad for her. I feel like somebody need to tell her.
Speaker 4 (41:53):
She might not y'all think she knows. She gotta know?
Speaker 3 (41:59):
Then what the you do with that information? Like, oh
my god, I stomach, I'm like, you don't like me?
Bro blows up everything, like your whole world.
Speaker 2 (42:13):
Like I just I just be grateful that I knew,
so then I could go find me somebody who liked
what I got.
Speaker 7 (42:23):
Because maybe he liked what you Maybe he liked what
you've got, but it's in the bank.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Sh oh, sure, real.
Speaker 3 (42:39):
A lie. But shamee one husband.
Speaker 5 (42:42):
Husband is in the wrong, and the husband should be
feeling guilty because I'm sure Chris this is not his
first time doing this. He probably take advantage of a
lot of these males, and he wants his cake and
eadie too, and he needs to come out the closet
and face reality that he like boys.
Speaker 1 (43:03):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (43:04):
Chris was in a bathroom at a party that's your life.
Speaker 1 (43:10):
Is that? Like, you gotta be more careful baby.
Speaker 5 (43:14):
More than him just being down love. Like he has
a problem if he has to go.
Speaker 3 (43:18):
And have sex in the bathroom at a party that
his wife is currently in, Like, that's sex addiction or something.
It's like, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (43:25):
A lot of men have that problem.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
What the problem with the problem with just random hookups
with people irresponsible ass You just want to put their thingthing.
Speaker 5 (43:39):
You can't control yourself, you can't control your urges.
Speaker 3 (43:42):
I think that's sex addiction. M hmm. So he needed
to go to the d L therapists and the sex
addiction therapist.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
Well, I said, Chris probably should go see somebody too,
because he went in there enough.
Speaker 4 (43:58):
He went to Yeah, I was trying to find my
little little booo boo boo. I was. I was gonna
option it on all Live. What are them things?
Speaker 11 (44:11):
Moves alreadyly got fifteen said that the le booos might
be the minic Oh, they got to get the hell
up out of here.
Speaker 4 (44:21):
They are going for sale.
Speaker 5 (44:22):
I am optioning the option option in all the boo
boos tomorrow, kids.
Speaker 2 (44:28):
What was the ones that we had to look like
little grimlins? Was the Ferby's. It was the Ferbie Dolls
because I thought them little things were scary too.
Speaker 5 (44:43):
Well, Chris, we don't know what to tell you, honey child,
y'all need to get y'all lives together over there. I say,
tell that lady. You you think he should tell them that?
What tell that lady? Okay?
Speaker 1 (44:58):
Ba, people, no nonsense.
Speaker 4 (45:06):
Conflicted and crumbling.
Speaker 5 (45:07):
Ain't nothing conflicted and crumbling, Chris.
Speaker 2 (45:13):
Chris, sometimes your soulmate is married to somebody else, go
get yours.
Speaker 4 (45:22):
I don't want that type of stuff.
Speaker 1 (45:23):
I don't either.
Speaker 2 (45:25):
If you catch my soulmate in the bathroom, you damn
sure better tell me you can, like Chris, Okay, let
me know, all.
Speaker 4 (45:40):
Right, you guys, Chris Chris. There ru the night for us.
Speaker 5 (45:44):
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Speaker 4 (46:45):
Until next time. Guys, We love y'all.
Speaker 3 (46:47):
We out this y
I think it's making people lazy.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
But I also feel like the algorithm is just making
people extremely biased because it feeds you what you want
to see. So at times, me and Andrea, we will
be talking about the Diddy case and he'd be like, man,
everybody's going in on Cassie. Man, everybody's saying this, everybody's
saying that. Everybody's saying that's.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
What she wanted and she was complicit and blah blah
blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
And I'm like, what are you talking about, Because on
my algorithm, on my phone, everyone's supporting a victim. Everyone
is saying like they're champing her, they're cheering for her.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
But I'm a woman, you know what I'm saying. So
it's like up to see, Like we.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Look at all the same stuff, we follow all the
same people, but I bet you the stuff that's being
fed to him is completely different from what's being fed
to me. And it's biased, and they're showing you what
either you want to see or what you engage with
the most. And it was crazy how we both had
this perspective of like overwhelming support for opposite sides or
(01:00):
just like, you know, he's basically just a bunch of
men just saying, you know, you know what men say, Oh,
you can't do anything.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
They're gonna put you in jail for this, and they're
gonna put you on jail for that.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
And then my side is just like, Oh, she's a woman,
he's a he's a beater, he's an user. And we
were both right, that's what we were seeing. All he
saw was that, and all it looks like it just
I don't know if it's making you lazy or if
it's just validating you, but not for the right reasons.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Just dating every thought.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
The album, talking about anything, and then it just pops
up on your phone. I don't like that. It's kind
of scary.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
It's very scary, you know what I like to do
Sometimes Sometimes I like to think about something and I
don't say it because I want to see it.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
Who gonna say it? Who's gonna say I want.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
To see if it pops up on my phone? I
swear they go, oh yeah, yeah, running through our brains
with something. I'm a conspiracy there's y'all.
Speaker 5 (01:57):
Because the thing about it, every time you say something,
it's crazy, you pick up your phone and it's there.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
You could talk about something.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
I feel like no, but it is a setting on
the phone. They tell you they're open about it. Listening
to microphone is.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
On listening, and the way there is in the information
is just kind of I know it's helpful when we
need it because I'd be chatting the hell out of
my shit, but you know what I'm saying, the whole
listening to everything is a little creepy.
Speaker 5 (02:28):
My last question, have y'all ever canceled somebody based on
something viral then found out it wasn't even true?
Speaker 4 (02:36):
Let's be real.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
No, I don't think I've canceled anybody.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
I don't know that I have canceled anybody.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I feel like if I did, it would take me
a lot to cancel somebody because I generally don't care.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
About other people's lives that much.
Speaker 5 (02:58):
I feel like everybody did care. So r Kelly, I
did all that was for our generation. I feel like
that was the first.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Big like no, no, like he messed up.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
I feel like everybody we listening, we listen to maybe
I was still playing chocolate Factory.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
No, no, no, what's so crazy?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
The stuff that he was accused of when we were
kids is worse than what he actually got locked up
for and nobody nobody cared.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
So it's like everybody should a hardcore cared back then,
our older siblings, our parents.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I he should have really cared back then when it
was video evidence and he was.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
Doing them, he was public, especially with it lit.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
And I'm just like, like, I'm in a very unpopular
and I don't say this to people anymore, but like,
prior to all this stuff happening, I would have told
you that R. Kelly is hands down my favorite artist ever.
I was raised on his music. I was raised on
it like he's a musical genius to me, obviously a
(04:06):
very disturbed individual, but.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Don't.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I don't put that much weight into my into celebrities
like man, I like his music. When I thought about
when I sang his music, I had not once ever
thought about what he was doing.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
What was your favorite song hit at one time?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Nope?
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Say they you think you for to trip me up
and have me on here singing art chilly.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
They just try to get me canceled.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Cancel girl, will cancel me. You know.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I don't think I ever canceled him because I was
not checking for him like that. I didn't think about
him like that, and I wasn't just I don't know.
I wasn't publicly, I don't know. I just wasn't like
I thought it was. It was it was sad and
it was wrong. But I was not one of those
people with a pitchfork with the.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Fire and you know what, cut out his CDs, come
on and be like, okay, now step in the name
of love.
Speaker 6 (05:05):
I was.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I just wasn't. I wasn't thinking about But I'm also,
he ain't babysitting my kids. I ain't spend no time
with them.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
I don't think.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
I feel like, yeah, I don't think we canceled anybody.
But that's like the only person I can think of that.
I feel like collectively everybody was like, oh, yeah, we're
on the same page. Don't play his music anymore but
a lot, but we all really wanted to be down.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
I think they canceled him. I have never been to
a party. We didn't play a little.
Speaker 6 (05:33):
R Kelly and your other you met your other side,
my other side, okay.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Get it right, share.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
I am. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:52):
I can't think of anyone else that was to that
point as as R Kelly think for our time, I
can't think of anyone else.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Did you guys cancel Kanye?
Speaker 3 (06:07):
I never like he should. Definitely I feel like he
should be on the cancel list. But for some reason,
I feel like I have hope for him, Like one
day he's gonna wake up and, like I thought, apologize
and go back to being old Kanye. I don't know.
I just for some reason, I'm holding a spot for
him to just come back and redeem himself.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
Once Kanye got with Kim, it just went the other way.
I just thought the now the old old Kanye.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Before, before he was.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
In relationships, I was listening to Kanye, but then it
wasn't his. I had I stopped, you know, listening to
Kanye way before he started going on his creak Little Friends.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I still listen to his gospel album. I don't care
if TikTok say he is a fake Christian.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
I like it. What's your favorite song?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Every hour? And I ain't gonna go hill right, You're
a mess.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Look, speaking of public perception, let's talk about when your
actual relationship becomes part of the storyline. We're getting getting
into now Portia Nelly in a shanty, love on camera
or reality TV curse Nelly and a Shanty are giving
us love goals and now they're dropping a reality show.
But let's be honest, Well they dropped the reality show
(07:28):
reality TV and love is. It's a tricky combo, definitely tricky.
My question to y'all, would y'all do a just just
You and your Man a couple's reality TV show?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
MM? I don't know. I feel like if I had
complete control over there, it is the narrative, then I
would be comfortable. I would, but given that most times
you don't in these situations, I would not. I think
(08:07):
in this day and age where reality TV is, although
it has grown a lot, I still feel like there's
not really a space. They haven't made a space for
black love to really shine and be great. And I
am not. You know, I have to protect my family,
my relationship, and being on TV is not worth it
(08:31):
to me. And I don't care you know how great
you know, even if you know we're good at home
and what's showing on TV may not be true, I
still feel like I want if I'm putting my family,
you know, on the spotlight like that, I want them
to see what we truly are, because what's the point,
(08:52):
you know, what I mean, if the show really truly
is about you know, your relationship and your family, and
y'are I'm going to show it in that light, then no,
I wouldn't. I wouldn't do it.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
You know what, even if like you do have an
amazing relationship and you have a great home life, what
you can always count on is that everybody is not
going to agree with you. You'll be having to back
and forth with your husband, and y'all just be joking
about something. It goes on TV, and then all of
a sudden, the entire world, you know, perceives the situation
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not the way that you guys would, and convinces him
or convinces you that you should be offended by something
that he said, or he should be offended by something
you said. And I could easily easily see something like
that happening, you know what I mean, if that's just
how y'all talk, or that's just how y'all joke. And
next thing you know, they on the internet. Oh she
disrespectful to him, Oh he disrespected her? Oh my man,
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would never you send that looking at him?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Like, but what happened?
Speaker 4 (09:47):
But we ain't do nothing? This does every day.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Like should I be mad, But that's what happens when
you open up your home to to everyone, basically because
they don't they don't know you intimately, they don't know
how you got are and you're trying to do something
positive and share your world.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
But that's not what they're watching for. I don't care
what anybody says.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
They can say they want positivity, they want this, they
want that, But the only thing that they cling to
and the only thing that they willingly make content about
is the bad stuff. Even when wags came out, the
only thing they willingly wanted to talk about was.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
The stuff that was controversial.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Mmm.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
It's the only thing that was willingly given to the
Walks was the bad stuff, and they ate it up
and we would post good stuff. There'll be good stuff
on the show.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
You think anybody talks about that?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
No, they didn't, not that there was enough of it,
but they didn't talk about it, and they wouldn't have anyway.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Honestly, that's true.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
So I don't think. I don't think I would do it.
Maybe if I had control, but that don't happen.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
But then again maybe not because I I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
I like my marriage and I'm happy and I feel
like that might make it unhappy.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
It ain't, no, Mike, it will.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
I feel the same way, like I would not do
a honestly, I wouldn't do a relationship type show ever again.
And I wouldn't put do a spouse because they want
to get the bad things. It's like people, there's people
out there in that world that live off of breaking
up happy homes or even exposing like you said before, Portia,
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like people will take how y'all communicate with each other
and say and basically say, oh, you're disrespecting. Oh I
would never or this, that and the third, and it
have you sometime not even knowing that you're questioning, like damn.
So it's like it's best just to keep keep it away,
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keep your relationship sacred, keep it with you and your spouse,
and y'all love each other quietly in your home.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
That TV should is really not worth it. And it
didn't really create any problems in my home life at all,
but I could see it just wasn't worth it. I
don't know it just if anything did happen, if anything
were to come out, and it would have us arguing
it absolutely would not be worth not even the Pettis argument,
not even for a second.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
It wouldn't be you know that's true, but good luck
to them.
Speaker 5 (12:28):
Yeah, would you ever go public with your relationship for
the world to judge? I'm never going public with my
relationship ever again.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
Ever.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Ever.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
All y'all gonna see is a hand.
Speaker 5 (12:46):
Y'all would not know who it is, y'all would.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Versus the hand, and then it's the sleeve and then
you get a little little half of a face. How
it starts frand but it's because when you and love,
you want to tell everybody.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
Yeah, I'm gonna tell y'all my friends, the people that
I know love me and support me. World the world
care about They ready to see?
Speaker 7 (13:12):
Oh she did, she had, she did, she cheated on
her hust and she.
Speaker 8 (13:20):
Ah.
Speaker 5 (13:22):
Y'all take little clips and create y'all all, damn narrator,
I y'all barely y'all gonna see which watch you went
in today, y'all go see.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
I mean, I think that's that's smart for you.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
It's very smart.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I think that's smart for you, which is also I
don't know why anybody thought the shoes with jeez, you
would never just post up no picture just.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
On my page.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I can't give the juice like that, Like even if
you was, why would you give them the juice like that?
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Once you make it a little bit more dramatic, a
little bit more epic.
Speaker 5 (14:03):
Exactly, if I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it now.
If I'm gonna come out, I'm gonna come out.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
The people don't know your friends, I don't know who are.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Not posted because you can't do nothing on social media
right now. I don't even post his arm, his hand,
whatever you said, his the risk.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Oh my gosh, they're.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
Gonna doom me. And then they're gonna like, I don't know.
Speaker 4 (14:25):
They are never never right well ever ever.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Speaking of ships, speaking of relationships and how they don't
be what they see online.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Do y'all ever have those friends that are kind of
like not really friends, specifically girls like girls girls girls, Yeah,
you do, girls who kind of like, you know, like
on the internet, like very supportive and like fiery emojis
and gas queen and you know, do the whole thing,
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but they're low key like not really.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
It's given fake, Yeah, it's it's let's let's talk about that.
Like girls who don't clap for you when you win.
Girls who move funny around.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
You are you know, publicly supportive, but privately just kind
of like not the vibe.
Speaker 5 (15:21):
I think a lot of women, it's said a lot
of women are surrounded by those type and it's not
just women as men as well.
Speaker 4 (15:29):
Those type of individuals.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
I call them frenemies.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Frenemies definitely, they're frenemies.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
You know.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
It's like they play nice, you know, in front of everybody,
but really they have I don't want to say ulterior motives,
because sometimes it's just that they don't really fuck with you.
And it's not even that they have a problem with you.
It's just they have a problem with themselves. But you know,
they don't know how to be a friend because whatever
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it is that's eating them up, they can't even be
a friend.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
First, let me say, what is a girl's girl?
Speaker 5 (16:06):
Like?
Speaker 2 (16:06):
By definition? What do you think of? Like when you
meet a girl's girl and you know that she's one,
what do you think she is?
Speaker 3 (16:13):
How was you?
Speaker 4 (16:14):
I feel like?
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Girl makes you feel good? Like it makes when you're
around them, you feel like you can be yourself and
you can have a good time. You're not worried about
saying the right thing. Or saying the wrong thing, or
you know, are they gonna, you.
Speaker 5 (16:31):
Know, talk about you when you walk out the room
like they they you feel you leave feeling better than
you you can. I feel like their energy y'all reciprocate
energy like it just it matches. You're reciprocating the energy,
You're reciprocating the love like it just feels good.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
I feel like it shouldn't even be complicated. I'm having
a hard time explaining it because I really feel like
it's a feeling more so than anything, you know what
I mean, Like you just know when you meet a
girl's girl and you just know when like she's for you,
you know what I mean, It's just a feeling.
Speaker 5 (17:08):
I feel like a girl girl, yes, that Ashley, and
also someone that's not looking for something in return, like
a friend that's gonna be there for you, support you
and not look for nothing for benefits.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Like if I if.
Speaker 5 (17:25):
I'm doing something for you, it's because I'm doing it
out of the kindness of my heart. I'm supporting you
because I'm supporting I'm not looking for something back or
a girl's girl. They're gonna support you regardless whatever it is.
They have your back. That's what a girl's girl.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
It's me.
Speaker 5 (17:40):
Now.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
When I hear you two say that, all I'm thinking
of is that just sounds like a friend.
Speaker 5 (17:47):
Like.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
That's how I expect my friends to treat me, and
that's how I want to treat my friends.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
When I hear girls, girl, I think about somebody that does.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
That, like with everyone, even if they're not really your friend.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
You know what I mean, like.
Speaker 4 (18:03):
Me, like and I just like me like. I'm gonna
support women.
Speaker 5 (18:06):
I'm gonna support I'm gonna put them on like I'm
gonna give.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
You the the book.
Speaker 5 (18:12):
I'm gonna give you the whole play sheet. I'm gonna
give you the whole play sheet, whether you're my friend
or not. If you if a stranger reach out to me,
and people know because strangers have reached out to me
and they ask for I don't even charge them. I
don't do any of that because I see that they
have that drive. They want they want change. I'm not
gonna do things for the benefit for it to benefit
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me or to get clout. I have done a lot
of things and I don't look for, you know, announcements
on it or something out of it.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
That's what a girl's girl's A girl's girl.
Speaker 5 (18:47):
Is like they they help their next sister to that
next level. If somebody reach out to you and help you,
not just a friend, A girl's girl gonna support women
regardless of who you are.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
I think that sometimes people want to have the title
of being a girl's girl, but they don't do stuff
like that. But then also there's a lot of people
who are a girl's girl but then kind of get
miss labeled because they're.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Just not in everybody's face and they just not for everybody.
Because I think that you.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Can be a girl's girl, but then also just not
want to be fooled up with every damn body.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Yeah that's true. I think that's.
Speaker 4 (19:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
I think that that can be okay.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
But I feel like you can tell, like what's a
red flag when you meet a girl and you just
know she I saw.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
This post today that reminds me of this. So she
was basically like when she meets.
Speaker 5 (19:45):
The girl, she and she wants to see, like she
wants to gauge, like are they a girl's girl?
Speaker 3 (19:51):
If this is my type of girl? She'll ask them
do you like Beyonce? And she gauges there, you know,
sponts off of it.
Speaker 5 (20:01):
So she's like if they're like, oh, I love Beyonce, like,
you know, she's amazing, she's a super talented girl, blah
blah blah blah blah, and of course like she's a
girls girl, right, But if she says like, oh, well,
you know, I'm not really like into her like that,
but you know she has cool songs, like, it doesn't
mean she's not a girl's girl.
Speaker 3 (20:19):
It might be that she's like one of the girls
you're talking about Porsha, Like she's a girl's girl, but
she everybody. She ain't for everybody, and everybody ain't for
her type of girl. Right.
Speaker 5 (20:28):
And then if she says she doesn't like Beyonce, she
don't see why people like her so much.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Everybody on her day Da da da da a girl's girl.
Because it's like you got to give Beyonce pops whether
you like her or not. You know what I'm saying,
You can't downplay Beyonce. I don't care, you just can't.
I feel like that's kind of like a cute way
to like think about you know what you were talking
(20:54):
about Porsha and that question, Cheryl, I don't know that analogy.
Speaker 9 (21:00):
I like.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
I like that one because if you get up there,
she can't even saying that good, she won't even be
girls shut up, go to get it.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
Because so if you go up there bashing Beyonce, then girl,
come on, you can't get that girl her props, then
you might you can't be a girl's girl. You know
what I'm saying, Like there's it's not even might be delusional.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Yeah, I mean you know what I think it is.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Sometimes you've ever been around the girl who like especially oh,
you can always tell when girls like if you're around
the girl and you're around guys.
Speaker 8 (21:36):
Too, the girl that like wants all the attention or
either wants all the attention or like like pokes fun
at you to get like guys to you.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Know, you understand what I'm saying, call out all the
about your little stuff and be like, you know, tell
people that you know.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Those are my shoes, or like just like that.
Speaker 4 (21:59):
Girl, my dress, little good on you today? You wearing
in my dress? Girl like.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Rud ass or just stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Just get away.
Speaker 5 (22:14):
I've done, I've done been around a lot of women
who are not girls girls, and it's like it got
to a point where it was like they envy successful
women so bad that they want to be in their lives.
It was sickening and I had to like really pray
and ask God to remove Like I started putting something
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notn one in my office everywhere, like in my car, everywhere,
because it was like.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
At one one point in my time.
Speaker 5 (22:44):
That's all I was attracting was like women who were
not girls girls, And it was just it's a nasty
feeling because.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
You tell you, you know, when you attract stuff like
that is when and it's not really them, it's really you.
Fat girls like that when you are not fully like
realizing what you are you are, when you don't realize
how pretty you are, when you don't realize how nice
your personality is, when you're just being yourself but you're
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a little bit naive to what you have to offer.
Because then you're around these other women and they might
be strong willed or they have like these strong personalities,
but you realize that they low key kind of hate
your guts and.
Speaker 5 (23:28):
You know you're right because I was just going through
a big breakup my ex husband.
Speaker 4 (23:32):
It was it was horrible, like it was.
Speaker 5 (23:34):
It was the worst, one of the worst times in
my life, so I wasn't thinking clearly, like my life
was not together out.
Speaker 9 (23:41):
You're not like super secure and you're trying to figure
things out, and they come into your life and you
feel like they want friendship, when really they want to
be close to you so they can pick out what's
wrong with you so they can.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Feel better about themselves.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
Because there's a lot of times you're like, people will
put you on a pedestal, right, and then when they
talk to you, they want to see every hole they
want to then they just start pointing out those little
things and making those little jokes and those little backhanded
compliments and stuff like that. That's because it makes them
feel better, because Loki, you make them feel a way
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about themselves. And I noticed that anytime I was like,
I get, you know, fooled up with a friend and
she low KEI wouldn't be my friend, it was always
because I just did.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Not realize what I had and she thought more.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Of me than what even I thought of myself, and
she was basically punishing me for it. And it's just
really weird how that happens. That once you start to
feel better about yourself, you attract other women who also
feel that way about themselves, and y'all just vibe and
it's easy and nobody's insecure, and everybody's pretty and everybody's smiling,
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and it's like it's a completely different I've lived in
both worlds.
Speaker 5 (24:54):
It's sickening. And then the other thing I hate, like
when I see a beautiful well, I'm not gonna say
that because but y'all know, y'all see a woman that
don't want to be around other beautiful women. They got
to be the They gotta be the finest one in
the crew. If another woman come that's cute, oh, they
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gonna find any reason not to be around that girl.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
Yeah, I've seen that. I've seen. Yeah, I've been around
friends and.
Speaker 5 (25:24):
They like and the man might be around, and they
don't want you to be like close, like just weird,
just weird stuff like girl.
Speaker 4 (25:35):
Oh, what do you think you want me?
Speaker 3 (25:38):
You're like what, Yeah, that's the weirdest thing. Honestly, I don't,
I mean to be honest with y'all, like the whole
girl's girl thing, Like I don't necessarily like resonate with
being a girl's girl myself, only because I feel like
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I've had it so hard with girls and friendships like
my whole life, so I've always only had, like you know,
one or two good friends, and like, you know, I
kind of I'm not the friendliest girl when you first
meet me. You know, you gotta warm up, you know,
and I got to warm up to you, and you
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got to warm up to me. Like, so I don't
fully resonate with being a girl's girl, but I mean
I do feel like I know how to be a
good friend, and I know I am a good friend,
and so I take it really hard when I meet
or I'm around girls who aren't that way, you know
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what I mean, Like I really be offended. Oh yeah,
we know you do, Eshley, don't reciprocate the friendship, you
know what I mean. Like I have a big home
with it, and it's hard for me sometimes to just
let them be them, because that's ultimately what you got
to do. You can't change anybody. But like, if I'm
offering you, you know, this type of friendship, and especially
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if we've known each other for years and I am
continuously being a good friend to you and I am
vocal about the kind of friendship that I would like
to have, and you continuously don't do it it? Really,
I really be offended, you know what I mean. So
I don't know, I'm just that's something that I personally,
I guess, have to work on. That's like leaving people
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where they act. Because there's a lot of girls around
here who try to, you know, act like they.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Like it's super So that's you. Hefa social, say like
she's super social. She if you gonna be ohell, let's
gonna be for drinks. She's gonna bring eight people.
Speaker 9 (27:44):
And they all have friends and they.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
And I'm like, who is that?
Speaker 9 (27:51):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (27:51):
So I feel what i'd be like to give them
a plea.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
But I feel what you're saying is is you actually
are because you're extremely generous like you Honestly, I get
so much from my conversations with you guys like y'all
are very very much poured into your friend check on
your friends, super generous, always either one of y'all. Anytime
I'm around you, y'all always are taking care of me,
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taking care of me all the time, checking in on me,
like like you are a girl's girl.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
But I feel what you're saying because you're just not
like sometimes girls girls just like the hay girl. Hey,
but to everybody, And it's not always like that. You
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
Some times that should be fraudulent, right, and that's.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
But you're not there.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
So girls, it's different. You got your Charelle type, who
is literally the most.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
Sociable he for.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
She's good at networking all the things that I'm like, sucky.
I'm I don't remember people name, I'm bad at following up.
I do not be networking. I will go in that
devil place with my friends, won't talk nobody but my friends.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Shara is, come on, come off, everybody, let's all connect,
Let's do business, Let's have fun. Let's barbecue.
Speaker 4 (29:09):
That's right, let's have our Sunday dinners. Everybody coming over you, welcome.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
You and your ash is just like, I'm gonna keep
these people right here because they're not gonna stab me
in the back.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
I'm gonna keep these little people over here because these are.
Speaker 4 (29:25):
Now I have.
Speaker 5 (29:25):
I have different areas where I'll put them in my
friendship in my life. But I mean when it comes
to like I sincerely love living women in real life,
like I sincerely love helping women, and if I have it,
no matter who it is, I'm gonna give it to you, yeah,
who it is. And like you said, Ashley, some people
(29:48):
are not like that. Some people like to say things
and do things or bragging your face, but they don't.
They just like to tell you what they got and
and carry on. And meanwhile, you could do everything for them,
but as a friend, you want those things reciprocated as
a female, like I'm not.
Speaker 4 (30:09):
Trying to take your spot.
Speaker 5 (30:10):
I'm not trying to do this, but I don't want
some I'll need some help, like hell yeah.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
But that's the part of friendship, you know, I think
helping each other out, Like I have weaknesses that you're
strong at and you always step in and be like,
hey girl, pot is numbered, you know, like that's what
you're supposed to do, Like you're supposed to be around
people who want to see you do better, and you
should be around people who can help you. Otherwise, what's
(30:36):
the point I got.
Speaker 4 (30:36):
This benefit off you?
Speaker 3 (30:38):
Exactly. And that's the thing. There's takers, takers, just takers.
Speaker 5 (30:44):
Don't have anything to give, don't have anything to offer,
just takers. But you know, they try to come off
as like, you know.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Just friendly and loving and goodbye and positive and it's
all just a fart. It's just it's not true, you know.
But here you get down to it. When you get
down to it, and I'm telling you, I've been in
so many situations when you get down to the nitty
(31:15):
gritty and you really need somebody to show up for you.
Those people they don't because it's fake. They just want
to look the partner. Mm hmmm.
Speaker 4 (31:25):
It's a lot of them out there. It's a lot
of them.
Speaker 3 (31:29):
Yeah, I'm gonna just keep you in my I'm a
girl's girl.
Speaker 5 (31:33):
But how do how do you deal with somebody who's
who you consider a friend and you find out that
they're not a girl's girl? How do you navigate with
that person?
Speaker 3 (31:44):
I'm still learning because normally I would probably confront them,
you know, I would bring up my issue and like
I said, I cant offend it when my friends don't
show up how they should or how I would for them,
you know what I mean. So I would like confront
them and be like, girl, what's up? Like why did
(32:06):
you do X.
Speaker 5 (32:07):
Y and Z?
Speaker 3 (32:08):
And you know, we would talk it out and normally
I feel like they would hear me, but nothing really
changes because at the end of the day. People are
who they are, and they're going to do what they
want to do, and they're going to show up how
they want to show up, and I got to stop
expecting them to show up how.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
I'm This might not be the right thing to do,
but I feel like I have this habit of like,
kind of just letting things go on and on and
on and on until one day I'm just done with
you and you don't know.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Why, Like I have a really bad habit of like.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
But I'm also the person of like unlimited chances, and
I just I My husband always jokes that I'm like
everyone's biggest cheerleader, and I cheer for my friends real loud,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
I'm so proud of my friends.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
I show up to the events, I do their stuff,
I walk in they fashion.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
I take their pictures, I buy the stuff, I do
the stuff. I do all the stuff right.
Speaker 2 (33:04):
And sometimes, depending on who the friend is, he'll be like,
you know, like she really don't. She really don't return
that energy like she loves to take it. She loves
to ask you for favors. She loves to ask you
to come over and hold her hand and pray with
her and come to her event and do this and
do that, but she doesn't really show up for you
(33:24):
and your special moments. And she's not posting your stuff
on Instagram, and she's not commenting, and she's not mentioning
your name in rooms and hooking, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
And he is always and.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
I hate it when he's right right, always the person
to point it out to me, and then you know,
I gotta see it more and I just let it
just go on and on and on until one day
I'm just like, all right, Dan, girl, it is what
it is.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
And I will really just I disappear on people. I'll
fade into.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
I would go like this, like Homer behind the thing, look.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
Like I'm done.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
My cut off game is strong and surell no, I
would stop talking to people.
Speaker 4 (34:07):
I'll be like Porsche.
Speaker 5 (34:08):
I'd be feeling bad for because I'm because I'm nice, bro,
I'm nice to people.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
So when people try me, I'm like, no, what the
hell did I do to you? And I because life
is sure, I don't have time. I don't have time
for people.
Speaker 5 (34:22):
I think I think I used to be like that,
but now I deal with people accordingly, like Okay.
Speaker 4 (34:29):
This is how you are.
Speaker 5 (34:30):
You're not gonna change, Especially if I've spoken to you
about the situation over and over and you still do
the same give the same results, then I just deal
with you on a associate type situation. I'm not gonna
press myself on you. I'm not going to force you
to change. If that's what it is, that's what it is,
and move accordingly, because I mean, at this big, big gage,
(34:54):
you should know how how it feels to be you know,
to be treated. So why are you if I, if
we don't do that to you, if I don't do
that to you, why would you do that to me?
Speaker 2 (35:05):
You know, y'all be unfollowing people on Instagram, like when
you got a friend, but y'all ain't have no falling out.
It was there was no falling out, but you're just like, yeah,
this is't that.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Y'all un following I'm mute or you keep a purdency.
Speaker 3 (35:18):
Follow until I don't know. I got a couple of.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
People follow like, not because they did anything wrong, but
because like we're not friends. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
Like we know each other, we may have had we
may have been cool at one point, but like we
don't communicate over DM. You don't like my stuff, I
don't like your stuff.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
We in common.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
We don't hang, we don't text, we don't call. We
just know each other. Why are we following each other?
Speaker 3 (35:57):
Why do I follow you?
Speaker 4 (35:59):
We're not trying because they want to be.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
But I'm following them too, and I'm just like, you know,
it's almost like there is no problem. But if we
don't follow each other, then there might be a problem,
or you might think there's a problem and there's not.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
I just don't need to follow.
Speaker 4 (36:12):
Because some people take social media.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
I guess I'm one of those people. Why can't I
just don't follow these people? I gotta some balls.
Speaker 3 (36:23):
People, I mean people all the time. And then sometimes
I go through my meet and looks like you, it's crazy.
Speaker 4 (36:35):
It's crazy. That's what we gotta deal with. We got
to move on.
Speaker 5 (36:38):
You know, you can't teach your friend to be a
girl's girl. You can't teach your friend to be a
good friend. You just move accordingly. And that's the conversation.
I think we spoke about this Ashley before. You can't
expect yourself out of people. So that's what it is.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
Learning. Lord Jesus but.
Speaker 5 (36:57):
Y'all, now it's time to get into humble Baddy's mail
and we got some ooh, juicy, juicy juice coming in.
Speaker 4 (37:05):
It's a little it's a little missy.
Speaker 3 (37:09):
Okay, let's go.
Speaker 4 (37:11):
It happened in the bathroom, and he's married. They're humble batties.
I've been holding this in and it's eating me alive.
Speaker 5 (37:23):
I need space to be honest, because I don't even
recognize myself right now. I was at a party a
few weekends ago. The energy was fun, the drinks were flowing,
and everyone was vibbing. At some point during the night,
this guy started flirting with me. I wasn't sure what
was happening at first. I've never looked at a.
Speaker 4 (37:44):
Man that way.
Speaker 5 (37:45):
But he was bold, he was charming, and before I
knew it, we ended up in the bathroom and things
went further than I imagine.
Speaker 4 (37:55):
It was quick, messy, confusing, and it was over.
Speaker 5 (38:01):
I felt sick, not because of what I did, but
because I found out he was married. His wife later
came to the party that day, and that's how I
found out. Since that night, I've been spiraling. I don't
know if it was curiosity, suppressed feelings or just a
stupid mistake. All I know is I feel disgusted with myself,
(38:23):
not because of the guy, but because I crossed a
line in his marriage. So now I'm stuck with this question.
Do I tell his wife the truth and risk breaking
everything or do I carry this guilt in silence try
to better move or try to be better moving forward?
Speaker 10 (38:47):
Sign Chris, okay.
Speaker 3 (38:58):
Ra that's a lot And because how you just end
up in the bathroom.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
Chris said.
Speaker 4 (39:10):
Chris said, it was messy, like.
Speaker 5 (39:15):
Oh, like meeting people and going in the bathroom. And
I have a lot of I have a lot of
male gay friends, and they are very spontaneous when it
comes to.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Want to know why, because even though they're gay, there's
still men And what man, do you know that if
you just walked up to him and was just like.
Speaker 5 (39:40):
It's going But so the husband was the cover because
the husband had a wife and the wife was at
the party.
Speaker 1 (39:49):
This is what I want to know, Chris, As you said,
should you should you tell or should you just with
the guilt.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
I just want to know, are you still going to
feel guilty even if you tell her? Like, how does
that take the guilt away?
Speaker 5 (40:08):
It sounds like, Chris want that man, Uh, why would
you tell the wife? Like that's not his his responsibility.
Speaker 1 (40:16):
It's not his responsibility.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
I would dare say that he would be doing the
lord's work because if he's under cover, you better tell
that lady.
Speaker 5 (40:25):
Yeah, but that's that's gonna change up everybody's world, you
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (40:32):
And I feel like.
Speaker 4 (40:34):
That's just messy.
Speaker 3 (40:37):
I think he should tell the wife.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
I think us need to.
Speaker 4 (40:40):
Come come, come out that closet.
Speaker 5 (40:43):
And stop playing around like that because it's so many
especially in Texas.
Speaker 4 (40:48):
Did y'all see the rights of HIV?
Speaker 1 (40:50):
Did you repost that? Who posted that?
Speaker 4 (40:56):
Because it's sad.
Speaker 5 (40:57):
It's like people need to know, y'all need to go
get y'all need to stop fooding around like this.
Speaker 4 (41:02):
Chris and and the husband.
Speaker 3 (41:04):
In the clothes, I'm this situation, that's a lie. I
don't think. I just I don't know.
Speaker 5 (41:10):
I don't I don't think that he should tell the wife,
but the wife needs to know.
Speaker 3 (41:18):
The husband needs to just tell his wife because the
husband is this.
Speaker 4 (41:24):
This couldn't have been his first time missing.
Speaker 3 (41:26):
With all too was a look and May was in
the bathroom. Two seconds later he then did this a
few times and the.
Speaker 2 (41:33):
Men's the testosterone be going okay, they'd.
Speaker 4 (41:38):
Be ready to go, and.
Speaker 1 (41:41):
They said, we don't need to do all that chat.
Speaker 4 (41:45):
Any means, let's go.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
I don't know. I'm torn. I feel like I feel
bad for her. I feel like somebody need to tell her.
Speaker 4 (41:53):
She might not y'all think she knows. She gotta know?
Speaker 3 (41:59):
Then what the you do with that information? Like, oh
my god, I stomach, I'm like, you don't like me?
Bro blows up everything, like your whole world.
Speaker 2 (42:13):
Like I just I just be grateful that I knew,
so then I could go find me somebody who liked
what I got.
Speaker 7 (42:23):
Because maybe he liked what you Maybe he liked what
you've got, but it's in the bank.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Sh oh, sure, real.
Speaker 3 (42:39):
A lie. But shamee one husband.
Speaker 5 (42:42):
Husband is in the wrong, and the husband should be
feeling guilty because I'm sure Chris this is not his
first time doing this. He probably take advantage of a
lot of these males, and he wants his cake and
eadie too, and he needs to come out the closet
and face reality that he like boys.
Speaker 1 (43:03):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (43:04):
Chris was in a bathroom at a party that's your life.
Speaker 1 (43:10):
Is that? Like, you gotta be more careful baby.
Speaker 5 (43:14):
More than him just being down love. Like he has
a problem if he has to go.
Speaker 3 (43:18):
And have sex in the bathroom at a party that
his wife is currently in, Like, that's sex addiction or something.
It's like, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (43:25):
A lot of men have that problem.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
What the problem with the problem with just random hookups
with people irresponsible ass You just want to put their thingthing.
Speaker 5 (43:39):
You can't control yourself, you can't control your urges.
Speaker 3 (43:42):
I think that's sex addiction. M hmm. So he needed
to go to the d L therapists and the sex
addiction therapist.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
Well, I said, Chris probably should go see somebody too,
because he went in there enough.
Speaker 4 (43:58):
He went to Yeah, I was trying to find my
little little booo boo boo. I was. I was gonna
option it on all Live. What are them things?
Speaker 11 (44:11):
Moves alreadyly got fifteen said that the le booos might
be the minic Oh, they got to get the hell
up out of here.
Speaker 4 (44:21):
They are going for sale.
Speaker 5 (44:22):
I am optioning the option option in all the boo
boos tomorrow, kids.
Speaker 2 (44:28):
What was the ones that we had to look like
little grimlins? Was the Ferby's. It was the Ferbie Dolls
because I thought them little things were scary too.
Speaker 5 (44:43):
Well, Chris, we don't know what to tell you, honey child,
y'all need to get y'all lives together over there. I say,
tell that lady. You you think he should tell them that?
What tell that lady? Okay?
Speaker 1 (44:58):
Ba, people, no nonsense.
Speaker 4 (45:06):
Conflicted and crumbling.
Speaker 5 (45:07):
Ain't nothing conflicted and crumbling, Chris.
Speaker 2 (45:13):
Chris, sometimes your soulmate is married to somebody else, go
get yours.
Speaker 4 (45:22):
I don't want that type of stuff.
Speaker 1 (45:23):
I don't either.
Speaker 2 (45:25):
If you catch my soulmate in the bathroom, you damn
sure better tell me you can, like Chris, Okay, let
me know, all.
Speaker 4 (45:40):
Right, you guys, Chris Chris. There ru the night for us.
Speaker 5 (45:44):
That is the Humble Baddies. We had an amazing time.
The chats are great. Until next time. We will be
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Speaker 3 (46:11):
I'm ash three now cold.
Speaker 1 (46:13):
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Speaker 4 (46:16):
Period and.
Speaker 2 (46:19):
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Speaker 1 (46:28):
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Speaker 5 (46:33):
Look, can I get ten dollars? Can I just get
ten dollars? If I sell a few, I just need
ten dollars.
Speaker 1 (46:38):
Sure, whatever you need, friend, I mean.
Speaker 4 (46:45):
Until next time. Guys, We love y'all.
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