May 13, 2025 • 48 mins
Sharelle, Ashley & Alexis discuss the differences between generous lovers and "sugar daddies," give advices to all the delusional daters, and much more!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Get in my way, never out of my lad It's
been like you one and the more one.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
So it is gonna be b squad. All right, y'all.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
It's been spreading on Twitter. Sugar Daddy season is has started.
Not sugar Daddy. It's still sugar added. It's given, tuition paid,
it's getting roof top brunt every Sunday.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
It's given.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
I've never seen a bill in my life. Ladies, Welcome
to sugar Daddy Season. The sun is out, the wallets
are open, look and the girls are choosing. But let's
be clear, I did not go to season not all
sugar sweet. So tonight we're breaking down the art, rules
and the red flasks of the sugar Daddy game. So
we're gonna start off five questions before we go into
(00:48):
sugar Daddy season.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
The parts. Okay, okay, what's the difference.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Between a sugar daddy, a trick and a generous man?
I think the sugardaddy when you when a man just
really gets off on giving a lady whatever she wants,
like money wise, and she don't.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Have to do anything. Older man, No, I disagree, I
mean I don't.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I feel like it's a older it's an older gentleman
with a younger lady, or since we're talking about shouldn't
that I appreciate her company?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Correct though?
Speaker 1 (01:36):
They just whatever you think, whatever you need to be heart,
whatever you're gonna want, want something in return. It can
be a long term relationship. But all my friends who
I know who have a it can be a date.
For all my friends who know who have a sugar added,
they're they're given things in exchange for either companionship or
some type of loving whether it's being correct yeah ship,
(02:00):
or whether it's being chrissed or you know, making sure
he's good for the night, for the week, for the month,
you never know, making sure whatever it is he got
going on.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
And that's called prostitution. I was just thinking of it.
I was like, is he a John? No?
Speaker 1 (02:16):
No, because they both are integrants and they both they
both are benefiting from it.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Okay, Yeah, that's called prostitution. So to me, a trip.
So the trick, like if you're tricking, that is more
to me, Like, yeah, I'm gonna get.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Sick, I'm gonna give you, I'm gonna give you the money,
and I'm gonna give you some loving back.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
That's that's tricking. And what you're talking about, shar I
know people who have sugar Daddy.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Well, yeah, and they have like the whole Sugar Sugar
Babies website and stuff where they literally are just like
talking on the phone to them or like it's really
like a companion that has a lot of money and
just will send you money.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
You know.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
The restitution is with different you have different But when
you have a sugar Daddy, somebody that you're building a
relationship with that you're either an exchange for it's just
like having a boyfriend or whatever. They're taking care of you.
You're doing things that's generous. No, generous is somebody that
just wants to yield. But if y'all both are in
exchange for something, and he's an old guy, like transactional.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Yes, I ain't got dark go ahead totally mm hmm.
So yeah, I hear you, though.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
No, maybe maybe sugar Daddy's and tricking is two of
the same. It's just sugar Daddy is like usually an
older gentleman maybe and again that companionship that that time
spent and it might not be as much as an
exchange of fluids.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
To me, tricking is like, you know, almost saying I'm gonna,
I'm like give you this money for you. It's transactional,
like for you to come and do something for me,
or for you to show up, for you to be here,
for you to like it's more of a control thing.
The I feel like sugar daddy situation is more like
the lady is saying, you know, I need this taken
(04:20):
care of, you know, and he's like, all right, cool,
whatever I got you now. Generous is the man who
doesn't is not asking for nothing in return. He is
literally at being generous, yeah, and not.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
For anything in return. That's what I think. That's my definition.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Those are how I break down A three because I
would date a generous man. I would not date a
sugar daddy. And I wouldn't get you a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Just bry it one time and see you might like
it just one time.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
I'm from just for my energy. I don't even give
off my age, you know what I'm saying. Like one
two just I couldn't fix my face, nor my my
time away from like my kids and just my what
my friends, things I want to do. I would never
do that. And three yeah, no, I don't need I
(05:23):
don't need I don't I don't need a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
I don't want one either. Having a sugar dad. Now
generous man is different if.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
You ain't got no man, I don't want to be
I don't want to fake it.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
No, it's not faking. It's nothing to fake. I don't
around someone to get a check. Like, to me, that's
just a waste of time.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Oh you don't want to fake, they say, like you
for for you being you, You don't have to fake.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I'm still gonna have to go to dinner, I'm still
have to show up somewhere. I'm gonna still have to do.
It's whatever you want it to be. Mm hmm. I
think I feel like it's.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Whatever you want it to be. You don't have to
fake or whatever anything. I think it's just whatever the
relationship is. Just I don't need you necessarily, h.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You know, not every dollar you know, it's not it's
not worth it for me.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
It's really not worth it for me to be again generous,
what about your shirl?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Would you date a sugar daddy or I don't know,
is it dating or you?
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Just like I would have a sugar daddy. I mean,
I wouldn't have a sugar dad. I'm gonna be honest.
I would I before, but I mean I would be
open to I'm single, or I would be open to
having a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
I find sugar daddy. And what would age range be?
Speaker 1 (06:49):
When you say sugar daddy, would he be in your
your age range or would he be older? You know?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
I think sugar Daddy, though, doesn't fly like an older me.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
And though that's what I feel it is, he has
to be older. So like fifty fifty five, I'm staying
older than that. I feel like sugar Daddy is a
way older than that. What the sugar daddy is? What sixty? Yeah,
because I mean I still date in my my age
range of ten years.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I won't go higher. And that's fifties.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Fifty five for me. I would consider a sugar daddy
fifty five and open for you. Yeah, because they called
coolers in the age limit for Cooper's there's age categories.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I'm a cougar auntie. I did see. Yeah, Coober, I'm like,
I feel disrespected. We are cooper utsies. Yeah, we're getting
up there. Honestly, we are getting up there.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Loud I actually had this conversation with cougars and then yeah,
y'all feel cougars. I'm aunt Yeah the cooglar. I will
be half a century in eight years. I don't want
to buy the calling on Auntie yet.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
They will am I kid? I want to be big sis?
Can I be right now? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Yeah, I'm big Sis. I ain't Auntie yet. I got
I still got a couple of big I'm big sis.
When I am not interested, I'm like, hey, hey, what's up?
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Brother?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
You know when you call him brother, like, hey, what's up?
Then we not We're just gonna be you know, homies.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Yeah, well, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I feel like there's definitely a difference between a sugar
Daddy and a trick. And I feel like the tricks
are like it's very like, you know, for show you
giving up the puss transaction, you know what I'm saying.
I feel like with sugar Daddy's it could be but yes,
(08:50):
it could be time, but it could be Look at
your toes. He might you want to go. Yeah, he
might just want to go to the movies. He might
just need a companion, Like he might just want you
to go to church with him. Like you just never
know because men and the little weird finishing this or whatever.
I feel like sugar Daddy's is kind of a more broader,
(09:13):
you know situation, whereas trick for sure is.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Y'all gonna be you know what I'm saying. But and
then a generous man.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
We were saying, it's just a man who doesn't expect
to receive something back. He's just as a natural giver
because that's what he wants to do and it makes
him feel good to make you feel good in that way.
If if I'm not for sugar Daddy, what's the bare minimum?
And sugar Daddy shouldn't be providing in twenty twenty five,
(09:49):
you're talking, we're talking for the masters that we're talking
for us, because that means okay, speak on it, hair, nails, lunch, dinner. No, No,
I'm trying to be your average man. And he's yes,
sugar Daddy, he needs to be left. You said the masses.
(10:14):
It doesn't matter the sugar. It can be do your hair, yeah, yeah,
it gotta be something like the bills having a sugar
Daddy for it. I mean I could do my hair
and nails and that, but the bare minimum for sugar
Daddy and you daddy the trips to Dubai on the yachts,
but you don't see him in the pictures type of thing, right,
(10:35):
it's that of the sugar daddy's be doing. You said,
I said, for the mask, Okay, for the masses.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Lets, we're not going twenty because I had dy. I
got taxes.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
You know there's taxes, there's you know, vehicles can tell
you never had a sugar daddy before. Because you talk
about some hair and nails and lunch.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
I brought it down as far as you know.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Everybody wants, like, you know, their mortgage paid or they're
like something that's gonna make a difference.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
You know what I'm saying, getting your hair done and Jesus,
I'm gonna waste my time having a spot day.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
No sugar daddy. No, that's like a piece of candy.
Daddy a generous man looking a spotty Yeah. I don't
even know the sugar daddy is paying the mortgage the
Cardinal and ain't not no typical car. No, I mean
(11:40):
we're talking about you in a luxury luxury builicals. Sure
your daddy is paying for you and your homegirls to
go to Europe for the summer.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Yeah, that is not for the masses, y'all. This is nice,
is the massive sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
No, a sugar daddy can't just be given five I
was here and there.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
That's not a sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
Wasting your time for having a sugar daddy. The whole
meaning of a sugar daddy is to take.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
You to another money to the mask. Does that matter?
Get your boys off your mindset? Mass, what is this mad, y'all?
For anyone? Anyone who have a sugar daddy. The main
reason why they have a sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Is to they don't have to do something style to
enhance their lifestyle. Yeah, in my lifestyle is it's taking
me on trip, taking me on trips on a private jet,
like doing stuff you can't afford.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
You well, what we would do.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
No, it's not anybody who have a sugar daddy. All right,
we got we gotta get the PJ.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
That's normal day sugar that money.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Okay, we gotta find a lectus of sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
We're gonna find your sugar daddy so you can.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
I'm gonna I'm gonna make you a profile on sugar
babies dot com. I mean, I'm gonna make you one
y'all funny. Yeah, all right, we don't get you experience
thirty thirty K for some toes, some to pick my
toe now polish, that's my going rate.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Okay, come in the pay that mm hmm. Men are nasty.
They will pay for anything. Honey.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
It's man that will pay you bring your toes and
rubbing them together and twitter chocolate on your toes, and
you know, like there's websites where you can send in
your dirty draws.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
You know, you can nail them. They sometimes you can
nail them. That's what I'm saying. That's nasty, but they
pay for it. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
I mean, if somebody say they're gonna send me one
hundred K for my my pety, maybe they gonna be
overnight first overnight express delivery.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
I mean, I'm with it.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
And you want that, okay, you want you want me
to put some chocolate on these souls?
Speaker 2 (14:27):
And you know right, I got a questions.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
So is it ever emotional or is the game always transactional?
Speaker 2 (14:36):
It depends. It depends on.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
The relationship because some people can come in as transaction,
you know, but the longer they theyll Because I know
someone from example, someone used to have like I wouldn't
say a sugar daddy because he wasn't at the age
of a sugar daddy. But they were never together and
he would take care of everything.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Do I know who he's talking about.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
But now it's like emotions are involved, so it's like.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Transition to that.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
So you never, yeah, from time being spend energy and
you could sugar daddy could burn.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
In your next Oh you never know, don't don't, don't
knock it.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
I prefer generous. I mean I can have a little generous.
I can have a little sugar daddy. I can weigh
out my options. So would y'all be jealous if you
have sugar daddy had other sugar babies. No, it would
just take more money from him, so he won't we
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have other sugar sugar.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Like my feet went up, Dad, I mean my fe up.
I need more, buddy, he said, that's in this business.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
I don't think it's a jealous thing, just because as
long as they're doing what they you know, what y'all
agreed upon. You know, it's just whatever. If he has
it like that, what do they say? It ain't tricking
if you got it.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
I don't even know.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I don't know I'll probably I don't care because I
ain't get it emotionally attached. Just give me my funds.
It's transitional, yeah, because like what if you have a
guy and he like does the exact same thing for
you that he does for another girl, Like you're good.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
With that if if you have other women.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
I need to be at the top of the check
mm hmm okay, yeah, Charrelle said, I need to be
at the top of the chack.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
So how do you a fake baller or someone trying
to finesse the finesse? Oh?
Speaker 2 (17:02):
I know.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
They so they I'm not calling on the the They
talk about it, but they always around people with clown
but they're never doing anything on their own. They always
they dry, like talking about somebody else.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
What are you doing?
Speaker 1 (17:25):
They always say they got this and they got there,
but you never see it. Yeah, it's like what do
you do? Yeah, it's always the ones for me that
like are in a section. It's like twenty guys all
in one section. Oh, I don't like that.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Like, first of all, this section ain't that much. It's
twenty of y'all.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
And y'all got two bottles ship and all y'all acting
like y'all the man.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
And no ladies, No and no ladies exactly, that's not
day give away lady. I'll go to the club. He
like trying to holler at you, and it's like twenty
of them in there. He don't talk to him. He's
not he's not a bowler, he's not a boler. No,
(18:17):
I don't think so. That's I just it's not like
he's not a boler. He's note a dollar. I don't
think so.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
That's an easy way to spot him, or you know,
the one in the passenger side might not be like
the look like a starter kit, like you have the watch,
you got the this, you got the you know, you
got the stack and you want it, you know, you know,
it's just very much cookie cutter, nothing, nothing special, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Is there a difference.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Between being spoiled and being kept its exact Yes, I
think it's a difference. What's the difference spoiled is is
basically saying this is my level, this is what I expect,
and you have to If you don't meet me at
this expectation, I'm gonna whine about it, bitch about it,
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complain about it, nag about it.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
And let you know.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Until I get my way, and then someone giving them
giving you what you wanted because of you know, the
effect of them saying no first and then saying yes afterwards.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
That's spoiled. Being kept is taken care of.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
Being kept is like, Okay, this is the standard, this
is what's expected, this is consistent.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
This is what I feel like I'm going to do
to take care of you.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Not the sense of entitlement, it's almost the sense of
relaxation and discomfort.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
That's yeah. I say being being can lead to dance pool.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
Because you're setting a standard for something that you're not
used to, and that basically someone said a standard and
that's what you're used to, so you get into something
else or.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
They can't do it anymore.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Now. It's like, this is what I'm used to, this
is what I expect, this is and then you start
nagging about it because you're not an idiot. Interesting, So
would you want to be spoiled or would you want
to be kept?
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Or neither or both? I won't be kept, well, I mean.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Both spoiled A yeah, I mean it falls in the
same That's why I would say both. Like and if
you say you're in a relationship or something and you
just like, you know, being kept in a relationship is
a different thing to me, you know, like, hey, this
is Lizier expenses. I'm going to relieve this stress from you.
I got you, you know. But the spoiled part is
(20:51):
like you know, when you go shopping or she's spoiled,
she likes this, you know, I know what she likes,
I know what she's into.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
So you know, it's a fine line of that.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
I think it's when you start to just become like
ungrateful for it or just like entitled, like expecting it, that's.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
When you can kind of you know, teeter tight of
the line.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
But I think it's you want to be spoiled by
someone that's you're in a relationship with her that you like,
as well as being kept by them.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
If they can do that, you know, I could do
both yea, like m exactly, Like.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
Like someone's traveling and they're like, oh, she likes this,
you know, yeah, bring that on me, you know.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
What I mean? I love that.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
It's just a time exactly get treated how you want to, baby,
Just take care of the meat.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Mm hmm. The sky is the limit.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
So so then like if you got a sugar daddy. Well, no,
I guess you don't have to like do anything back
if it's a sugar daddy. But I was just thinking,
like that spoil you costanqution. No, we can move on
because I think I answered my own question my head. Yeah,
(22:14):
all right, let's move on to our first scenario.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
Flight wrist. So I met this man at a lounge
in Miami.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
He's forty seven, salt and pepper beard, owns a couple
of card dealerships. First date, he advites me to Atlanta
for dinner. I'm thinking I hit the jackpot. By the
third trip, he's telling me he wants to invest in
my dreams. But I tell him I want to start
a business, and he goes me was I moving too fast?
Or was he never a real sugar daddy?
Speaker 2 (22:46):
To beget it?
Speaker 1 (22:51):
When she started talking big, big cash money things, I
feel like that's more normal than we give off just
because you know, some people will talk a big game
just to get you there and will fly you out.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
They can afford that, they can handle that.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
But when they know you about your business and you're like, look,
my time is taking me. If I'm here, it's taken
me away from X, Y, and Z or what attracted
you to me in the first place?
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Is I am a businesswoman. I'm anna go get her.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
So if you don't see the vision, that lets you
know that he's not into it like that. He's more
it's more like this could be temporary. This is this
is very much like in and out. He's dating other women,
he's flying them.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
In and out. It's not a big deal. When you
got to.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Invest in someone and I'm talking about a business, usually
we talking about six six figures, you know, and up,
and that's a big deal.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
That's a commitment, and that's an investment.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
So that lets me know you're not really invested in me,
you know, if we're gonna be talking these numbers, if
we're gonna be talking like this, And I think that
comes with time too, just like you know, getting to
know someone, understanding who they are and low key. If
you're a business person, you want to know where your
return is coming into. Also if that's the case, you know,
(24:06):
So I just think you know, with investing, especially like that,
with depending on someone, he's not really serious.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
This is very much just like I flew you out,
you got fleut out.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
We had a good time, but then you started getting
a little serious with me, then let me fall back.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
You know that's why he ghosted, Oh girl, just because.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
He's I wouldn't say he's not serious. I would just
say maybe he's not ready for all that yet. Maybe
you know he he wants to take it slow and
he feels like she's moving too fast. I mean, it's
Okadie world Goman to go feel like the man is
moving to too fast? So why can't he feel like, okay,
(24:47):
maybe let me pull back? So I don't well, but
the thing is her her response was, was he never
a real sugar daddy? And my thing is what made
I don't think he would be sugar daddy just because
he flew you out to Atlanta and y'all like that,
give a sugar daddy vites. Yeah, so that was your mistake, booboo,
(25:10):
like that shouldn't have never given you because I hot,
I hit the JACKPI girl, Erna, was it the third
date or something? She was talking about investing the first
date she got fluid out to Atlanta. You didn't get
carried out, she asked her. She's asking what the second?
(25:31):
The second in her dreams mm hmm, that's not a
sugar that's not giving that.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Yeah, see if you make my hair looking for a
sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Not that I know, but I'm just saying, if you're
gonna be out here, look for a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Booboo getting fluid out to Atlanta, don't give sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
God, Okay, he just was flying you out to you know,
I'm saying, feel you out, really, because come on, that's it.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
So that was he was a sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
So you need to take care and figure out what
you're looking for, Like are you looking for somebody to
be a sugar daddy or are you interested in somebody
who's going to be interested in getting to know you?
Because maybe that's what he was trying to do and
you came off acting like a sugar raby and he like, yeah, No.
(26:25):
I feel like they really do be misjudging men sometimes
when like a man actually goes out of their way
to show interest. Like, sometimes I feel like women misinterpret
situations because I feel like, you know, you're supposed to
handle people accordingly, you can't handle everybody the same. So like,
if a man is genuinely like trying to get to
(26:46):
know you, he flies you to Atlantic. He wants to
spend time with you, like I feel like that feels
different than somebody that's trying to trick off on you
or somebody that's trying to be a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
You know what I'm saying. You gotta like the wrong.
You can't just be out here become unless you're on
the website.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I feel like a lot of read the room, Yeah,
read the wrong Booboo kitty all right. And the emotional sponsor.
I've been talking to this guy for six months. He
pays my rent, sends me random cash apps, and even
bought my mama birthday gift. But now he's catching feelings,
(27:28):
wanting to do FaceTime dates, meet my friends, talk about us.
And I'm not into him like that. But he's paying
for everything. Am I wrong for saying in it? That's
a ask yourself, honey? Can you you got you only
you know what you can say? And yeah, so, I mean,
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if it's gonna affect you he wants something in return,
then yes, you're wrong because he's doing all this going
up above and the young for you, your mama friends,
and you can't give him a little, you know, a little.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
I know, she said, all he want to do is
FaceTime dates and stuff like that. I mean, see, this
is when women been getting it, like, come on, he's
probably a nice guy.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Hit and watch your mama agift and you ready to
just be like I don't like him like that?
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Like yeah, like what, girl? I don't know what's fine
with y'all. Sometimes y'all be getting on my nerves.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
Really, But then they got a little you know, both
keep a little.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Right right on the side. Who can't call answer? He
don't answer the phone, He don't he don't even know
what Samama.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Names in your car around I'm in your car, yes, girl,
eating your food exactly, playing the game all day, ain't
paying no attention.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
But you got the nerve to not like this guy.
Mmm mm hmmm. I don't know. Some of y'all just
got it backwards. All right, we got a bonus.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
You just met a guy, right, and he offers you,
I don't know, lex what what do you want?
Speaker 2 (29:16):
A trip? You want some money? What is it? Yeah?
I like trips, let's say trips. Okay. He offers you a.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Summer traveling from Europe to Africa, wherever you want to go.
He offering you wherever you want to go and he's
sending you his MX login. Which would you say? He
offers you a trip to Dubai? He give you five
for lunch, send you his amax? Wait, say send it again?
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It was how much for lunch?
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Five hundred for lunch?
Speaker 1 (29:54):
No? Okay, no five thousand, let's say five thousand trip
for forever all over?
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Or his MX logging? Which one you take them login to?
Like be able to make? No, he made me give
me making an authorized you because you can't. Oh yeah,
let me just go get go and get me the
black man.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
I can't do nothing with that. But see what you're spending. Yeah,
I was gonna say, I can't do nothing with the
log in. And I was like, if I'm an author,
I got titanium this way.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
Listen to that black car, Baby, that's what I'll take. Yeah,
that's it. I'll take that and book my own.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Trick, all right, because its authorized and cats for my own.
He authorized that. He's like, baby, this is your limit.
I will go go to the limit. Okay, so yes,
all right, all right. Now, then we were talking about
the sugar Daddy roles. Would you reconsider having the sugar Daddy? No,
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I already made your I'm looking for I'm looking for
a generous man.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
How about that? Okay, someone that I like and that
likes me, you know, and that is generous.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
That that's what That's what I'm That's what it's out
there in the in the in the universe, like.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
Your shirt, your day.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
No, are you with in date because it's already transactional before.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
I'm not just I'm that.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Space right now and that everything is transitional. I'm just
an intentional space. Let's be realistic, all jokes. So everything,
every relationship is transaction, whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
I agree, I think I disagree with that. It's the truth.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
Every relationship is what's the meaning of transaction, whether whether
if it's emotional, whether it's physical, whether it's spiritual, whether
it's time.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
What do you mean like all of that?
Speaker 1 (32:02):
Yo? Every every every relationship? Yes, hold on, let me
give you this the definition transaction.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
Mm hm.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Even friendships related or interaction between people. Yes, everything is
transaction and you want something in return? Yeah, I think
so I agree with that. Okay, I agree, Well yeah,
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but I don't know. I still think we could find
you a little shun today. Let me see, y'all, let
me see as she says she's gonna make me a profile.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
It's already made, dying sugar baby stuff car, that's such
thing that sugar. That's when I heard. I'm sure that's
what That's what I had.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
Break. Fine, you know exactly what you get into? Do
they I wonder if do they put on there? This
is the level of what I expect.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
I don't know. We're gonna find outn't worry, we're gonna
find out. Less you're the single one, less you the
one who? Oh I know I'm the only one. No more.
I ain't saying I was it.
Speaker 1 (33:36):
I'm the only one I'm dating. And so you you
can't have a sugar daddy right now?
Speaker 2 (33:44):
Need a sugar daddy? Okay? But did you have one?
Was my question?
Speaker 1 (33:52):
I mean, I was in the situation that I was
in with who I was, and then I I mean,
I wouldn't mind if I needed a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
But the way you.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
Know, everything's so, can you have a sugar daddy right now?
Or not?
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Can I make you?
Speaker 1 (34:11):
And I make you a profile right now?
Speaker 2 (34:17):
Puts it on me? And then in back and I'm
thinking that, I.
Speaker 3 (34:26):
Mean, I feel like, let's get into our last segment
of the night, and it's the Lulu dating, the safe,
the new safety net.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
We've all done it, and that's in the wedding after
one date, giving our man a whole personality he never
actually displayed or stayed in a situationship because you just.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
Know he's gonna get it together soon.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Welcome to the the Lulu era where the bots are
actually the men are med and our race are buffering.
What does be optimistic? And they didn't turn into full
blown delusion? When does being optimistic? And they didn't turned
into full blown delusion? Hm hmm. Listen, I ain't gonna
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lie sometimes at these women and they are real delusional
and I just be like that must be lovely to
be that delusional because they just be seeming so like ignorant, ignorant.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
Yeah, I'm just.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Like, damn, I'm alwaysh I could be that damn delusional
sometimes because girl, what the hell?
Speaker 2 (35:40):
What the helly? What the hell? They just be hello
are you here?
Speaker 1 (35:46):
Are you in the room with us? Like he's clearly
like not the one, like you know what I mean
I have. I think I think some women are choosing
to be that delusion. I was, like you said, I
have friends and you can get it litteral see that
this man ain't gonna change and he's it's just going
to marry your sis ship.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
I'm delusional at one point.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Yeah, I mean everybody go through that guilty Like you
enjoy being optimistic though you know you want to go
into it with optimism. But then if there's flags and
then there's certain scenarios and it becomes a pattern of
some certain you know, things that you're not going to
tolerate or don't want to or makes you feel some
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kind of way, then definitely that's delusion.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
You're definitely delusional.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Maybe yeah, once you start getting once you're in you know,
a pattern of a delusion where it's harmful and abusive
and it's not a good situation website of everything, then
obviously like you need help, you know what I'm saying.
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But if you're in a place where it's like you're delusional,
like I don't know, like your man, like you take
care of your man or something, and you're just a
girl who's always like he's gonna make it, you know,
and he's not doing anything to change his situation, like financially,
but you've just setty paying the bills and I'm gonna
support him.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
And you know, to me, you like sis. But hey,
if you work it out, love it, you know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (37:25):
But that's a delusional type of situation that I'm talking about.
It's like, you know, it's not necessarily unhealthy, but it's
definitely Yeah, what I mean the delusion out of witness
is women other people tell them something and they just.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
No, I know, he wouldn't do that, He on this
that and I just know him. The man was shipped up.
Speaker 1 (37:52):
They got pictures, you showing them pictures everything the other
person respect receipts.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
The receipts are there and you still just no, I
just know.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
And he tells you one thing, you just believe it
after you've got seen the all the receipts.
Speaker 2 (38:08):
That's sick, the loom that's sick. You need help.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
But maybe that's the way they survive, you know, maybe
it's a survival tactic.
Speaker 2 (38:21):
You know, some women just you know.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
And also we don't know what's going on at home
behind closed doors.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
So maybe for them that's how they are able to
get through life.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
It's by living in this a delusional state, and that's
how they make it because I don't know the reason why,
you know, you would really just choose to live in
a fantasy land.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Some people do live in that.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
That ignorance is bliss, you know, they rather just not
know or you know, live in that just space of comfort.
You know. Yeah, that isn't okay to stay to Lulu.
If it's keeping you hopeful and happy, how does it
keep me.
Speaker 2 (39:10):
I gotta definitely give yourself a parme limit.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
I mean, you know, it's good to be optimistic and hopeful.
But like I said, when it gets to where like
it's an unhealthy pattern and you know, it's not progressive,
it's just not a good situation, that's when I think
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it becomes a problem.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
You know. Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
I've looked forward to our little scenarios, soft lunch fantasy.
I went on thirty days with this guy, guy three.
I'm posted a soft lunch pic of our hands at dinner.
He didn't repost it. I got mad crazy. My girl said, yeah,
but I already picked out what we were wearing for
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our first vacation. In my mind, it was already given
power couple. Was I being the Lulu or just excited
delusional Lulu and over excited, slow down, getting mad, getting
mad that he didn't repost the hand is crazy. We
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don't need to be doing.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
That excited the Lulu probably is invited.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
She claiming him like full blown after that or something
I don't know, and then picking out vacation. Every post
fits already and the vacation outfits. I thought she was
changing the relationship is for the grand and for her,
that that post is for her. That was not a them,
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prove a point to everyone. Yeah, sis, focus on you,
focus on you and what y'all got. Get everyone else.
He didn't text yah the journal, So this guy like
didn't text me back for three days. Instead of blocking him,
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I convinced myself he was just emotionally overwhelmed by how real.
Speaker 2 (41:27):
Our connection was.
Speaker 1 (41:28):
I even journal, No, I'm getting told to us and
journal about about how I helped, about how I'd help
him open up. Then I saw him at ranch with
his girlfriend. The worst part. I still felt like we
had something special occusion the Lulu.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
Yeah yeah, no.
Speaker 1 (41:54):
First of all, after three days of him not texting
and they had time together whatever, Okay, that's so to
have a little you know, little hesitation and trying to
see making sure someone is not like obviously ghosting, and
he did. But he made a choice. Obviously he's either
with this lady and you were just on the side,
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or he chose her and not you. We have to
normalize like people. We don't really know people until we're
really committed to them and we're really trying to live
with them and learn them and understand who they are. Like,
that was just very much. You know, she just got
into her head a lot quicker.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
Than she should have. Yeah, you know, how did you
just dating? How did you help?
Speaker 1 (42:41):
Because I have some friends that are are just what
are like more ways to help like get through that
because sometimes I feel like that can affect your friendship. Well,
if they asked me a question, I'm gonna give him
the real, undlusional answer. If they don't ask you, I don't.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
Yeah, I'm just gonna mind my business.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
You know what I'm saying. I'm gonna let you be
you know, and let's unless it affects me. I'm gonna
let you live in a little delusional world.
Speaker 2 (43:15):
Now.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
If it gets no point where I feel like it's
hurting you and as a friend, I can't you know,
sit back and not say anything. Then of course I
feel like I would say something, but ultimately they're grown,
especially if it's like has to do with men.
Speaker 2 (43:34):
I don't know. I feel like they're gonna do what
they want to do anyway.
Speaker 1 (43:38):
Yeah, so I'm gonna just say how I feel about
them and then leave it at that. How do you
deal with someone that continues to bring up situations and
it's like you get tired of it, but they're your friend,
and it's like, Okay, I don't want to hear nothing else.
Like I say that, I'd be like, I don't already
told you ten times he can't the one you crazy?
Speaker 2 (44:02):
Hell he is, and I don't want to talk about
it no more.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
And we have to again normalize listening to our people
and are listening to them, listen to what they have
to say. You don't necessarily have to hear them, just
listen and understand where they're coming from, and not understanding
that it's not personal. It's not a personal attack. It's
an observation and they're looking out for you, you know.
Speaker 2 (44:23):
It's not like That's what I think.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
We have to understand when our friends are telling us
something and that means they see something we don't and
we and they know us longer they know us, you know,
so I would listen to it.
Speaker 2 (44:35):
That's true. Well, let's I have some friends.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
I'm gonna have to have a talk with them. Yeah,
and you should be has its definitely given off diluted?
Speaker 2 (44:50):
So you ain't told them already one time?
Speaker 1 (44:53):
I just.
Speaker 2 (44:55):
You can't do it. You can't tell them You've just
been too hard, they tell them, should.
Speaker 1 (44:58):
I had just made it changing the subject like or
be like, oh girl, let me call you back. You
never called back because you already know what you already
know what it is.
Speaker 2 (45:08):
Well, let me take it's called Oh it's a business card,
I call you.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
I feel like I'm the type of person that I
have to hold back what I truly think and feel
about situations. So I never am in that Like I'm
always pretty up front, Like as soon as I see.
Speaker 2 (45:22):
Something a little off, I'm like, oh girl, I don't
know about that one. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
And so if they don't listen or and also I'm
not just I'm gonna say this to a friend that
I feel like is receptive to of course my advice
and how I give advice or whatever. I'm not the
like I'm kind, I'm a little brutally honest sometimes I
know that, so I don't just do it to everybody,
but somebody I'm close enough with that I know I
can like share my true feelings about them, and I
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feel like they're a little delulu in this situation. I
would say it up front, and then if I've said
it like once or twice and it seems like they're
not being receptive to that, that's when I'm like, oh, okay, girl,
you just got to keep it to yourself and just
let them go through that, because clearly and when I
say I'm brutally honest, like I'm just gonna say it,
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like girl, no, like it's not the one something gets
wrong on you know, I'm gonna say you know what
I mean. So if they don't listen like the first
couple of times, then I ain't saying that else.
Speaker 2 (46:21):
That's just how I am with the situation.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
But help your friends if you can't eage, y'all. But
sometimes when I feel like when people are delusional, it
really is like they have to see it for themselves,
you know, they have to get to a point of
understanding and realization and reality, you know.
Speaker 2 (46:46):
That's true. That's definitely true. Well, we hope we answer
some of y'all questions.
Speaker 1 (46:53):
If y'all are like me, and y'all have some delut
little friends, you know Ashley and list if some great
advices on how to deal with them and snap them
back into reality, because we all have been there. Some
have not overcame there the Lulu stage and some have.
But if you have a friend that's going through that
the Lulu stage, help asis South, help a brother out
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because it's give me a little nudge, let him know
what's up. All right, Yeah, you're gonna take offense to
That is it for Humble Batty Tonight.
Speaker 2 (47:28):
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Get in my way, never out of my lad It's
been like you one and the more one.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
So it is gonna be b squad. All right, y'all.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
It's been spreading on Twitter. Sugar Daddy season is has started.
Not sugar Daddy. It's still sugar added. It's given, tuition paid,
it's getting roof top brunt every Sunday.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
It's given.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
I've never seen a bill in my life. Ladies, Welcome
to sugar Daddy Season. The sun is out, the wallets
are open, look and the girls are choosing. But let's
be clear, I did not go to season not all
sugar sweet. So tonight we're breaking down the art, rules
and the red flasks of the sugar Daddy game. So
we're gonna start off five questions before we go into
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sugar Daddy season.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
The parts. Okay, okay, what's the difference.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Between a sugar daddy, a trick and a generous man?
I think the sugardaddy when you when a man just
really gets off on giving a lady whatever she wants,
like money wise, and she don't.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Have to do anything. Older man, No, I disagree, I
mean I don't.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I feel like it's a older it's an older gentleman
with a younger lady, or since we're talking about shouldn't
that I appreciate her company?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Correct though?
Speaker 1 (01:36):
They just whatever you think, whatever you need to be heart,
whatever you're gonna want, want something in return. It can
be a long term relationship. But all my friends who
I know who have a it can be a date.
For all my friends who know who have a sugar added,
they're they're given things in exchange for either companionship or
some type of loving whether it's being correct yeah ship,
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or whether it's being chrissed or you know, making sure
he's good for the night, for the week, for the month,
you never know, making sure whatever it is he got
going on.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
And that's called prostitution. I was just thinking of it.
I was like, is he a John? No?
Speaker 1 (02:16):
No, because they both are integrants and they both they
both are benefiting from it.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Okay, Yeah, that's called prostitution. So to me, a trip.
So the trick, like if you're tricking, that is more
to me, Like, yeah, I'm gonna get.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Sick, I'm gonna give you, I'm gonna give you the money,
and I'm gonna give you some loving back.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
That's that's tricking. And what you're talking about, shar I
know people who have sugar Daddy.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Well, yeah, and they have like the whole Sugar Sugar
Babies website and stuff where they literally are just like
talking on the phone to them or like it's really
like a companion that has a lot of money and
just will send you money.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
You know.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
The restitution is with different you have different But when
you have a sugar Daddy, somebody that you're building a
relationship with that you're either an exchange for it's just
like having a boyfriend or whatever. They're taking care of you.
You're doing things that's generous. No, generous is somebody that
just wants to yield. But if y'all both are in
exchange for something, and he's an old guy, like transactional.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Yes, I ain't got dark go ahead totally mm hmm.
So yeah, I hear you, though.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
No, maybe maybe sugar Daddy's and tricking is two of
the same. It's just sugar Daddy is like usually an
older gentleman maybe and again that companionship that that time
spent and it might not be as much as an
exchange of fluids.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
To me, tricking is like, you know, almost saying I'm gonna,
I'm like give you this money for you. It's transactional,
like for you to come and do something for me,
or for you to show up, for you to be here,
for you to like it's more of a control thing.
The I feel like sugar daddy situation is more like
the lady is saying, you know, I need this taken
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care of, you know, and he's like, all right, cool,
whatever I got you now. Generous is the man who
doesn't is not asking for nothing in return. He is
literally at being generous, yeah, and not.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
For anything in return. That's what I think. That's my definition.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Those are how I break down A three because I
would date a generous man. I would not date a
sugar daddy. And I wouldn't get you a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Just bry it one time and see you might like
it just one time.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
I'm from just for my energy. I don't even give
off my age, you know what I'm saying. Like one
two just I couldn't fix my face, nor my my
time away from like my kids and just my what
my friends, things I want to do. I would never
do that. And three yeah, no, I don't need I
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don't need I don't I don't need a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
I don't want one either. Having a sugar dad. Now
generous man is different if.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
You ain't got no man, I don't want to be
I don't want to fake it.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
No, it's not faking. It's nothing to fake. I don't
around someone to get a check. Like, to me, that's
just a waste of time.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Oh you don't want to fake, they say, like you
for for you being you, You don't have to fake.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I'm still gonna have to go to dinner, I'm still
have to show up somewhere. I'm gonna still have to do.
It's whatever you want it to be. Mm hmm. I
think I feel like it's.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Whatever you want it to be. You don't have to
fake or whatever anything. I think it's just whatever the
relationship is. Just I don't need you necessarily, h.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You know, not every dollar you know, it's not it's
not worth it for me.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
It's really not worth it for me to be again generous,
what about your shirl?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Would you date a sugar daddy or I don't know,
is it dating or you?
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Just like I would have a sugar daddy. I mean,
I wouldn't have a sugar dad. I'm gonna be honest.
I would I before, but I mean I would be
open to I'm single, or I would be open to
having a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
I find sugar daddy. And what would age range be?
Speaker 1 (06:49):
When you say sugar daddy, would he be in your
your age range or would he be older? You know?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
I think sugar Daddy, though, doesn't fly like an older me.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
And though that's what I feel it is, he has
to be older. So like fifty fifty five, I'm staying
older than that. I feel like sugar Daddy is a
way older than that. What the sugar daddy is? What sixty? Yeah,
because I mean I still date in my my age
range of ten years.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I won't go higher. And that's fifties.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Fifty five for me. I would consider a sugar daddy
fifty five and open for you. Yeah, because they called
coolers in the age limit for Cooper's there's age categories.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I'm a cougar auntie. I did see. Yeah, Coober, I'm like,
I feel disrespected. We are cooper utsies. Yeah, we're getting
up there. Honestly, we are getting up there.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Loud I actually had this conversation with cougars and then yeah,
y'all feel cougars. I'm aunt Yeah the cooglar. I will
be half a century in eight years. I don't want
to buy the calling on Auntie yet.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
They will am I kid? I want to be big sis?
Can I be right now? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Yeah, I'm big Sis. I ain't Auntie yet. I got
I still got a couple of big I'm big sis.
When I am not interested, I'm like, hey, hey, what's up?
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Brother?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
You know when you call him brother, like, hey, what's up?
Then we not We're just gonna be you know, homies.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Yeah, well, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I feel like there's definitely a difference between a sugar
Daddy and a trick. And I feel like the tricks
are like it's very like, you know, for show you
giving up the puss transaction, you know what I'm saying.
I feel like with sugar Daddy's it could be but yes,
(08:50):
it could be time, but it could be Look at
your toes. He might you want to go. Yeah, he
might just want to go to the movies. He might
just need a companion, Like he might just want you
to go to church with him. Like you just never
know because men and the little weird finishing this or whatever.
I feel like sugar Daddy's is kind of a more broader,
(09:13):
you know situation, whereas trick for sure is.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Y'all gonna be you know what I'm saying. But and
then a generous man.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
We were saying, it's just a man who doesn't expect
to receive something back. He's just as a natural giver
because that's what he wants to do and it makes
him feel good to make you feel good in that way.
If if I'm not for sugar Daddy, what's the bare minimum?
And sugar Daddy shouldn't be providing in twenty twenty five,
(09:49):
you're talking, we're talking for the masters that we're talking
for us, because that means okay, speak on it, hair, nails, lunch, dinner. No, No,
I'm trying to be your average man. And he's yes,
sugar Daddy, he needs to be left. You said the masses.
(10:14):
It doesn't matter the sugar. It can be do your hair, yeah, yeah,
it gotta be something like the bills having a sugar
Daddy for it. I mean I could do my hair
and nails and that, but the bare minimum for sugar
Daddy and you daddy the trips to Dubai on the yachts,
but you don't see him in the pictures type of thing, right,
(10:35):
it's that of the sugar daddy's be doing. You said,
I said, for the mask, Okay, for the masses.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Lets, we're not going twenty because I had dy. I
got taxes.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
You know there's taxes, there's you know, vehicles can tell
you never had a sugar daddy before. Because you talk
about some hair and nails and lunch.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
I brought it down as far as you know.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Everybody wants, like, you know, their mortgage paid or they're
like something that's gonna make a difference.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
You know what I'm saying, getting your hair done and Jesus,
I'm gonna waste my time having a spot day.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
No sugar daddy. No, that's like a piece of candy.
Daddy a generous man looking a spotty Yeah. I don't
even know the sugar daddy is paying the mortgage the
Cardinal and ain't not no typical car. No, I mean
(11:40):
we're talking about you in a luxury luxury builicals. Sure
your daddy is paying for you and your homegirls to
go to Europe for the summer.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Yeah, that is not for the masses, y'all. This is nice,
is the massive sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
No, a sugar daddy can't just be given five I
was here and there.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
That's not a sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
Wasting your time for having a sugar daddy. The whole
meaning of a sugar daddy is to take.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
You to another money to the mask. Does that matter?
Get your boys off your mindset? Mass, what is this mad, y'all?
For anyone? Anyone who have a sugar daddy. The main
reason why they have a sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Is to they don't have to do something style to
enhance their lifestyle. Yeah, in my lifestyle is it's taking
me on trip, taking me on trips on a private jet,
like doing stuff you can't afford.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
You well, what we would do.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
No, it's not anybody who have a sugar daddy. All right,
we got we gotta get the PJ.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
That's normal day sugar that money.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Okay, we gotta find a lectus of sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
We're gonna find your sugar daddy so you can.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
I'm gonna I'm gonna make you a profile on sugar
babies dot com. I mean, I'm gonna make you one
y'all funny. Yeah, all right, we don't get you experience
thirty thirty K for some toes, some to pick my
toe now polish, that's my going rate.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Okay, come in the pay that mm hmm. Men are nasty.
They will pay for anything. Honey.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
It's man that will pay you bring your toes and
rubbing them together and twitter chocolate on your toes, and
you know, like there's websites where you can send in
your dirty draws.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
You know, you can nail them. They sometimes you can
nail them. That's what I'm saying. That's nasty, but they
pay for it. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
I mean, if somebody say they're gonna send me one
hundred K for my my pety, maybe they gonna be
overnight first overnight express delivery.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
I mean, I'm with it.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
And you want that, okay, you want you want me
to put some chocolate on these souls?
Speaker 2 (14:27):
And you know right, I got a questions.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
So is it ever emotional or is the game always transactional?
Speaker 2 (14:36):
It depends. It depends on.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
The relationship because some people can come in as transaction,
you know, but the longer they theyll Because I know
someone from example, someone used to have like I wouldn't
say a sugar daddy because he wasn't at the age
of a sugar daddy. But they were never together and
he would take care of everything.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Do I know who he's talking about.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
But now it's like emotions are involved, so it's like.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Transition to that.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
So you never, yeah, from time being spend energy and
you could sugar daddy could burn.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
In your next Oh you never know, don't don't, don't
knock it.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
I prefer generous. I mean I can have a little generous.
I can have a little sugar daddy. I can weigh
out my options. So would y'all be jealous if you
have sugar daddy had other sugar babies. No, it would
just take more money from him, so he won't we
(15:56):
have other sugar sugar.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Like my feet went up, Dad, I mean my fe up.
I need more, buddy, he said, that's in this business.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
I don't think it's a jealous thing, just because as
long as they're doing what they you know, what y'all
agreed upon. You know, it's just whatever. If he has
it like that, what do they say? It ain't tricking
if you got it.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
I don't even know.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I don't know I'll probably I don't care because I
ain't get it emotionally attached. Just give me my funds.
It's transitional, yeah, because like what if you have a
guy and he like does the exact same thing for
you that he does for another girl, Like you're good.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
With that if if you have other women.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
I need to be at the top of the check
mm hmm okay, yeah, Charrelle said, I need to be
at the top of the chack.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
So how do you a fake baller or someone trying
to finesse the finesse? Oh?
Speaker 2 (17:02):
I know.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
They so they I'm not calling on the the They
talk about it, but they always around people with clown
but they're never doing anything on their own. They always
they dry, like talking about somebody else.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
What are you doing?
Speaker 1 (17:25):
They always say they got this and they got there,
but you never see it. Yeah, it's like what do
you do? Yeah, it's always the ones for me that
like are in a section. It's like twenty guys all
in one section. Oh, I don't like that.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Like, first of all, this section ain't that much. It's
twenty of y'all.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
And y'all got two bottles ship and all y'all acting
like y'all the man.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
And no ladies, No and no ladies exactly, that's not
day give away lady. I'll go to the club. He
like trying to holler at you, and it's like twenty
of them in there. He don't talk to him. He's
not he's not a bowler, he's not a boler. No,
(18:17):
I don't think so. That's I just it's not like
he's not a boler. He's note a dollar. I don't
think so.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
That's an easy way to spot him, or you know,
the one in the passenger side might not be like
the look like a starter kit, like you have the watch,
you got the this, you got the you know, you
got the stack and you want it, you know, you know,
it's just very much cookie cutter, nothing, nothing special, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Is there a difference.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Between being spoiled and being kept its exact Yes, I
think it's a difference. What's the difference spoiled is is
basically saying this is my level, this is what I expect,
and you have to If you don't meet me at
this expectation, I'm gonna whine about it, bitch about it,
(19:16):
complain about it, nag about it.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
And let you know.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Until I get my way, and then someone giving them
giving you what you wanted because of you know, the
effect of them saying no first and then saying yes afterwards.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
That's spoiled. Being kept is taken care of.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
Being kept is like, Okay, this is the standard, this
is what's expected, this is consistent.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
This is what I feel like I'm going to do
to take care of you.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Not the sense of entitlement, it's almost the sense of
relaxation and discomfort.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
That's yeah. I say being being can lead to dance pool.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
Because you're setting a standard for something that you're not
used to, and that basically someone said a standard and
that's what you're used to, so you get into something
else or.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
They can't do it anymore.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Now. It's like, this is what I'm used to, this
is what I expect, this is and then you start
nagging about it because you're not an idiot. Interesting, So
would you want to be spoiled or would you want
to be kept?
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Or neither or both? I won't be kept, well, I mean.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Both spoiled A yeah, I mean it falls in the
same That's why I would say both. Like and if
you say you're in a relationship or something and you
just like, you know, being kept in a relationship is
a different thing to me, you know, like, hey, this
is Lizier expenses. I'm going to relieve this stress from you.
I got you, you know. But the spoiled part is
(20:51):
like you know, when you go shopping or she's spoiled,
she likes this, you know, I know what she likes,
I know what she's into.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
So you know, it's a fine line of that.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
I think it's when you start to just become like
ungrateful for it or just like entitled, like expecting it, that's.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
When you can kind of you know, teeter tight of
the line.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
But I think it's you want to be spoiled by
someone that's you're in a relationship with her that you like,
as well as being kept by them.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
If they can do that, you know, I could do
both yea, like m exactly, Like.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
Like someone's traveling and they're like, oh, she likes this,
you know, yeah, bring that on me, you know.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
What I mean? I love that.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
It's just a time exactly get treated how you want to, baby,
Just take care of the meat.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Mm hmm. The sky is the limit.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
So so then like if you got a sugar daddy. Well, no,
I guess you don't have to like do anything back
if it's a sugar daddy. But I was just thinking,
like that spoil you costanqution. No, we can move on
because I think I answered my own question my head. Yeah,
(22:14):
all right, let's move on to our first scenario.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
Flight wrist. So I met this man at a lounge
in Miami.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
He's forty seven, salt and pepper beard, owns a couple
of card dealerships. First date, he advites me to Atlanta
for dinner. I'm thinking I hit the jackpot. By the
third trip, he's telling me he wants to invest in
my dreams. But I tell him I want to start
a business, and he goes me was I moving too fast?
Or was he never a real sugar daddy?
Speaker 2 (22:46):
To beget it?
Speaker 1 (22:51):
When she started talking big, big cash money things, I
feel like that's more normal than we give off just
because you know, some people will talk a big game
just to get you there and will fly you out.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
They can afford that, they can handle that.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
But when they know you about your business and you're like, look,
my time is taking me. If I'm here, it's taken
me away from X, Y, and Z or what attracted
you to me in the first place?
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Is I am a businesswoman. I'm anna go get her.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
So if you don't see the vision, that lets you
know that he's not into it like that. He's more
it's more like this could be temporary. This is this
is very much like in and out. He's dating other women,
he's flying them.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
In and out. It's not a big deal. When you
got to.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Invest in someone and I'm talking about a business, usually
we talking about six six figures, you know, and up,
and that's a big deal.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
That's a commitment, and that's an investment.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
So that lets me know you're not really invested in me,
you know, if we're gonna be talking these numbers, if
we're gonna be talking like this, And I think that
comes with time too, just like you know, getting to
know someone, understanding who they are and low key. If
you're a business person, you want to know where your
return is coming into. Also if that's the case, you know,
(24:06):
So I just think you know, with investing, especially like that,
with depending on someone, he's not really serious.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
This is very much just like I flew you out,
you got fleut out.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
We had a good time, but then you started getting
a little serious with me, then let me fall back.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
You know that's why he ghosted, Oh girl, just because.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
He's I wouldn't say he's not serious. I would just
say maybe he's not ready for all that yet. Maybe
you know he he wants to take it slow and
he feels like she's moving too fast. I mean, it's
Okadie world Goman to go feel like the man is
moving to too fast? So why can't he feel like, okay,
(24:47):
maybe let me pull back? So I don't well, but
the thing is her her response was, was he never
a real sugar daddy? And my thing is what made
I don't think he would be sugar daddy just because
he flew you out to Atlanta and y'all like that,
give a sugar daddy vites. Yeah, so that was your mistake, booboo,
(25:10):
like that shouldn't have never given you because I hot,
I hit the JACKPI girl, Erna, was it the third
date or something? She was talking about investing the first
date she got fluid out to Atlanta. You didn't get
carried out, she asked her. She's asking what the second?
(25:31):
The second in her dreams mm hmm, that's not a
sugar that's not giving that.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Yeah, see if you make my hair looking for a
sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Not that I know, but I'm just saying, if you're
gonna be out here, look for a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Booboo getting fluid out to Atlanta, don't give sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
God, Okay, he just was flying you out to you know,
I'm saying, feel you out, really, because come on, that's it.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
So that was he was a sugar daddy.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
So you need to take care and figure out what
you're looking for, Like are you looking for somebody to
be a sugar daddy or are you interested in somebody
who's going to be interested in getting to know you?
Because maybe that's what he was trying to do and
you came off acting like a sugar raby and he like, yeah, No.
(26:25):
I feel like they really do be misjudging men sometimes
when like a man actually goes out of their way
to show interest. Like, sometimes I feel like women misinterpret
situations because I feel like, you know, you're supposed to
handle people accordingly, you can't handle everybody the same. So like,
if a man is genuinely like trying to get to
(26:46):
know you, he flies you to Atlantic. He wants to
spend time with you, like I feel like that feels
different than somebody that's trying to trick off on you
or somebody that's trying to be a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
You know what I'm saying. You gotta like the wrong.
You can't just be out here become unless you're on
the website.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I feel like a lot of read the room, Yeah,
read the wrong Booboo kitty all right. And the emotional sponsor.
I've been talking to this guy for six months. He
pays my rent, sends me random cash apps, and even
bought my mama birthday gift. But now he's catching feelings,
(27:28):
wanting to do FaceTime dates, meet my friends, talk about us.
And I'm not into him like that. But he's paying
for everything. Am I wrong for saying in it? That's
a ask yourself, honey? Can you you got you only
you know what you can say? And yeah, so, I mean,
(27:50):
if it's gonna affect you he wants something in return,
then yes, you're wrong because he's doing all this going
up above and the young for you, your mama friends,
and you can't give him a little, you know, a little.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
I know, she said, all he want to do is
FaceTime dates and stuff like that. I mean, see, this
is when women been getting it, like, come on, he's
probably a nice guy.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Hit and watch your mama agift and you ready to
just be like I don't like him like that?
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Like yeah, like what, girl? I don't know what's fine
with y'all. Sometimes y'all be getting on my nerves.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
Really, But then they got a little you know, both
keep a little.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Right right on the side. Who can't call answer? He
don't answer the phone, He don't he don't even know
what Samama.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Names in your car around I'm in your car, yes, girl,
eating your food exactly, playing the game all day, ain't
paying no attention.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
But you got the nerve to not like this guy.
Mmm mm hmmm. I don't know. Some of y'all just
got it backwards. All right, we got a bonus.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
You just met a guy, right, and he offers you,
I don't know, lex what what do you want?
Speaker 2 (29:16):
A trip? You want some money? What is it? Yeah?
I like trips, let's say trips. Okay. He offers you a.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Summer traveling from Europe to Africa, wherever you want to go.
He offering you wherever you want to go and he's
sending you his MX login. Which would you say? He
offers you a trip to Dubai? He give you five
for lunch, send you his amax? Wait, say send it again?
(29:50):
It was how much for lunch?
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Five hundred for lunch?
Speaker 1 (29:54):
No? Okay, no five thousand, let's say five thousand trip
for forever all over?
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Or his MX logging? Which one you take them login to?
Like be able to make? No, he made me give
me making an authorized you because you can't. Oh yeah,
let me just go get go and get me the
black man.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
I can't do nothing with that. But see what you're spending. Yeah,
I was gonna say, I can't do nothing with the
log in. And I was like, if I'm an author,
I got titanium this way.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
Listen to that black car, Baby, that's what I'll take. Yeah,
that's it. I'll take that and book my own.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Trick, all right, because its authorized and cats for my own.
He authorized that. He's like, baby, this is your limit.
I will go go to the limit. Okay, so yes,
all right, all right. Now, then we were talking about
the sugar Daddy roles. Would you reconsider having the sugar Daddy? No,
(31:05):
I already made your I'm looking for I'm looking for
a generous man.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
How about that? Okay, someone that I like and that
likes me, you know, and that is generous.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
That that's what That's what I'm That's what it's out
there in the in the in the universe, like.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
Your shirt, your day.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
No, are you with in date because it's already transactional before.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
I'm not just I'm that.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Space right now and that everything is transitional. I'm just
an intentional space. Let's be realistic, all jokes. So everything,
every relationship is transaction, whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
I agree, I think I disagree with that. It's the truth.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
Every relationship is what's the meaning of transaction, whether whether
if it's emotional, whether it's physical, whether it's spiritual, whether
it's time.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
What do you mean like all of that?
Speaker 1 (32:02):
Yo? Every every every relationship? Yes, hold on, let me
give you this the definition transaction.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
Mm hm.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Even friendships related or interaction between people. Yes, everything is
transaction and you want something in return? Yeah, I think
so I agree with that. Okay, I agree, Well yeah,
(32:41):
but I don't know. I still think we could find
you a little shun today. Let me see, y'all, let
me see as she says she's gonna make me a profile.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
It's already made, dying sugar baby stuff car, that's such
thing that sugar. That's when I heard. I'm sure that's
what That's what I had.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
Break. Fine, you know exactly what you get into? Do
they I wonder if do they put on there? This
is the level of what I expect.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
I don't know. We're gonna find outn't worry, we're gonna
find out. Less you're the single one, less you the
one who? Oh I know I'm the only one. No more.
I ain't saying I was it.
Speaker 1 (33:36):
I'm the only one I'm dating. And so you you
can't have a sugar daddy right now?
Speaker 2 (33:44):
Need a sugar daddy? Okay? But did you have one?
Was my question?
Speaker 1 (33:52):
I mean, I was in the situation that I was
in with who I was, and then I I mean,
I wouldn't mind if I needed a sugar daddy.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
But the way you.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
Know, everything's so, can you have a sugar daddy right now?
Or not?
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Can I make you?
Speaker 1 (34:11):
And I make you a profile right now?
Speaker 2 (34:17):
Puts it on me? And then in back and I'm
thinking that, I.
Speaker 3 (34:26):
Mean, I feel like, let's get into our last segment
of the night, and it's the Lulu dating, the safe,
the new safety net.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
We've all done it, and that's in the wedding after
one date, giving our man a whole personality he never
actually displayed or stayed in a situationship because you just.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
Know he's gonna get it together soon.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Welcome to the the Lulu era where the bots are
actually the men are med and our race are buffering.
What does be optimistic? And they didn't turn into full
blown delusion? When does being optimistic? And they didn't turned
into full blown delusion? Hm hmm. Listen, I ain't gonna
(35:19):
lie sometimes at these women and they are real delusional
and I just be like that must be lovely to
be that delusional because they just be seeming so like ignorant, ignorant.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
Yeah, I'm just.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Like, damn, I'm alwaysh I could be that damn delusional
sometimes because girl, what the hell?
Speaker 2 (35:40):
What the helly? What the hell? They just be hello
are you here?
Speaker 1 (35:46):
Are you in the room with us? Like he's clearly
like not the one, like you know what I mean
I have. I think I think some women are choosing
to be that delusion. I was, like you said, I
have friends and you can get it litteral see that
this man ain't gonna change and he's it's just going
to marry your sis ship.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
I'm delusional at one point.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
Yeah, I mean everybody go through that guilty Like you
enjoy being optimistic though you know you want to go
into it with optimism. But then if there's flags and
then there's certain scenarios and it becomes a pattern of
some certain you know, things that you're not going to
tolerate or don't want to or makes you feel some
(36:33):
kind of way, then definitely that's delusion.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
You're definitely delusional.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Maybe yeah, once you start getting once you're in you know,
a pattern of a delusion where it's harmful and abusive
and it's not a good situation website of everything, then
obviously like you need help, you know what I'm saying.
(37:00):
But if you're in a place where it's like you're delusional,
like I don't know, like your man, like you take
care of your man or something, and you're just a
girl who's always like he's gonna make it, you know,
and he's not doing anything to change his situation, like financially,
but you've just setty paying the bills and I'm gonna
support him.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
And you know, to me, you like sis. But hey,
if you work it out, love it, you know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (37:25):
But that's a delusional type of situation that I'm talking about.
It's like, you know, it's not necessarily unhealthy, but it's
definitely Yeah, what I mean the delusion out of witness
is women other people tell them something and they just.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
No, I know, he wouldn't do that, He on this
that and I just know him. The man was shipped up.
Speaker 1 (37:52):
They got pictures, you showing them pictures everything the other
person respect receipts.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
The receipts are there and you still just no, I
just know.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
And he tells you one thing, you just believe it
after you've got seen the all the receipts.
Speaker 2 (38:08):
That's sick, the loom that's sick. You need help.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
But maybe that's the way they survive, you know, maybe
it's a survival tactic.
Speaker 2 (38:21):
You know, some women just you know.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
And also we don't know what's going on at home
behind closed doors.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
So maybe for them that's how they are able to
get through life.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
It's by living in this a delusional state, and that's
how they make it because I don't know the reason why,
you know, you would really just choose to live in
a fantasy land.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Some people do live in that.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
That ignorance is bliss, you know, they rather just not
know or you know, live in that just space of comfort.
You know. Yeah, that isn't okay to stay to Lulu.
If it's keeping you hopeful and happy, how does it
keep me.
Speaker 2 (39:10):
I gotta definitely give yourself a parme limit.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
I mean, you know, it's good to be optimistic and hopeful.
But like I said, when it gets to where like
it's an unhealthy pattern and you know, it's not progressive,
it's just not a good situation, that's when I think
(39:38):
it becomes a problem.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
You know. Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
I've looked forward to our little scenarios, soft lunch fantasy.
I went on thirty days with this guy, guy three.
I'm posted a soft lunch pic of our hands at dinner.
He didn't repost it. I got mad crazy. My girl said, yeah,
but I already picked out what we were wearing for
(40:05):
our first vacation. In my mind, it was already given
power couple. Was I being the Lulu or just excited
delusional Lulu and over excited, slow down, getting mad, getting
mad that he didn't repost the hand is crazy. We
(40:29):
don't need to be doing.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
That excited the Lulu probably is invited.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
She claiming him like full blown after that or something
I don't know, and then picking out vacation. Every post
fits already and the vacation outfits. I thought she was
changing the relationship is for the grand and for her,
that that post is for her. That was not a them,
(41:01):
prove a point to everyone. Yeah, sis, focus on you,
focus on you and what y'all got. Get everyone else.
He didn't text yah the journal, So this guy like
didn't text me back for three days. Instead of blocking him,
(41:22):
I convinced myself he was just emotionally overwhelmed by how real.
Speaker 2 (41:27):
Our connection was.
Speaker 1 (41:28):
I even journal, No, I'm getting told to us and
journal about about how I helped, about how I'd help
him open up. Then I saw him at ranch with
his girlfriend. The worst part. I still felt like we
had something special occusion the Lulu.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
Yeah yeah, no.
Speaker 1 (41:54):
First of all, after three days of him not texting
and they had time together whatever, Okay, that's so to
have a little you know, little hesitation and trying to
see making sure someone is not like obviously ghosting, and
he did. But he made a choice. Obviously he's either
with this lady and you were just on the side,
(42:15):
or he chose her and not you. We have to
normalize like people. We don't really know people until we're
really committed to them and we're really trying to live
with them and learn them and understand who they are. Like,
that was just very much. You know, she just got
into her head a lot quicker.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
Than she should have. Yeah, you know, how did you
just dating? How did you help?
Speaker 1 (42:41):
Because I have some friends that are are just what
are like more ways to help like get through that
because sometimes I feel like that can affect your friendship. Well,
if they asked me a question, I'm gonna give him
the real, undlusional answer. If they don't ask you, I don't.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
Yeah, I'm just gonna mind my business.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
You know what I'm saying. I'm gonna let you be
you know, and let's unless it affects me. I'm gonna
let you live in a little delusional world.
Speaker 2 (43:15):
Now.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
If it gets no point where I feel like it's
hurting you and as a friend, I can't you know,
sit back and not say anything. Then of course I
feel like I would say something, but ultimately they're grown,
especially if it's like has to do with men.
Speaker 2 (43:34):
I don't know. I feel like they're gonna do what
they want to do anyway.
Speaker 1 (43:38):
Yeah, so I'm gonna just say how I feel about
them and then leave it at that. How do you
deal with someone that continues to bring up situations and
it's like you get tired of it, but they're your friend,
and it's like, Okay, I don't want to hear nothing else.
Like I say that, I'd be like, I don't already
told you ten times he can't the one you crazy?
Speaker 2 (44:02):
Hell he is, and I don't want to talk about
it no more.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
And we have to again normalize listening to our people
and are listening to them, listen to what they have
to say. You don't necessarily have to hear them, just
listen and understand where they're coming from, and not understanding
that it's not personal. It's not a personal attack. It's
an observation and they're looking out for you, you know.
Speaker 2 (44:23):
It's not like That's what I think.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
We have to understand when our friends are telling us
something and that means they see something we don't and
we and they know us longer they know us, you know,
so I would listen to it.
Speaker 2 (44:35):
That's true. Well, let's I have some friends.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
I'm gonna have to have a talk with them. Yeah,
and you should be has its definitely given off diluted?
Speaker 2 (44:50):
So you ain't told them already one time?
Speaker 1 (44:53):
I just.
Speaker 2 (44:55):
You can't do it. You can't tell them You've just
been too hard, they tell them, should.
Speaker 1 (44:58):
I had just made it changing the subject like or
be like, oh girl, let me call you back. You
never called back because you already know what you already
know what it is.
Speaker 2 (45:08):
Well, let me take it's called Oh it's a business card,
I call you.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
I feel like I'm the type of person that I
have to hold back what I truly think and feel
about situations. So I never am in that Like I'm
always pretty up front, Like as soon as I see.
Speaker 2 (45:22):
Something a little off, I'm like, oh girl, I don't
know about that one. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
And so if they don't listen or and also I'm
not just I'm gonna say this to a friend that
I feel like is receptive to of course my advice
and how I give advice or whatever. I'm not the
like I'm kind, I'm a little brutally honest sometimes I
know that, so I don't just do it to everybody,
but somebody I'm close enough with that I know I
can like share my true feelings about them, and I
(45:50):
feel like they're a little delulu in this situation. I
would say it up front, and then if I've said
it like once or twice and it seems like they're
not being receptive to that, that's when I'm like, oh, okay, girl,
you just got to keep it to yourself and just
let them go through that, because clearly and when I
say I'm brutally honest, like I'm just gonna say it,
(46:11):
like girl, no, like it's not the one something gets
wrong on you know, I'm gonna say you know what
I mean. So if they don't listen like the first
couple of times, then I ain't saying that else.
Speaker 2 (46:21):
That's just how I am with the situation.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
But help your friends if you can't eage, y'all. But
sometimes when I feel like when people are delusional, it
really is like they have to see it for themselves,
you know, they have to get to a point of
understanding and realization and reality, you know.
Speaker 2 (46:46):
That's true. That's definitely true. Well, we hope we answer
some of y'all questions.
Speaker 1 (46:53):
If y'all are like me, and y'all have some delut
little friends, you know Ashley and list if some great
advices on how to deal with them and snap them
back into reality, because we all have been there. Some
have not overcame there the Lulu stage and some have.
But if you have a friend that's going through that
the Lulu stage, help asis South, help a brother out
(47:14):
because it's give me a little nudge, let him know
what's up. All right, Yeah, you're gonna take offense to
That is it for Humble Batty Tonight.
Speaker 2 (47:28):
We enjoyed y you all.
Speaker 1 (47:29):
Make sure you all subscribe to our Humble Batties podcast,
share like support us and we will be back on Wednesday.
And y'all without me, I'm actually traveling business. I gotta
go to Saint Martin. If you know anyone looking to
invest in Saint Martin. She hit me up and hit
(47:50):
up a lor LPT you know, and let's get this money.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
Until next time.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
You can follow me sure wherever's at the Score and
Hamma Baddies podcast on ig and you can find me
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Speaker 2 (48:19):
Thank y'all for tuning in, See you next time I've
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