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Speaker 1 (00:02):
This is Conversations with Olivia Jade and I Heart Radio Podcast.
Hi everybody, it's Olivia Jade. Welcome back to another episode
of Conversations. Today's episode is a little bit different considering
I'm solo and I won't be interviewing anybody, but I
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kind of wanted to take this chance in this UM
episode to have you guys interviewed me. So I took
it to Instagram and I asked you guys some questions
and I just want to give you a little life
update as well, so we can just hop right into it.
I don't have anybody else to introduce accept me, so
I hope you guys enjoy and I'm going to dive
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right into it first. By starting out, I want to
say I dyed my hair red. And I've been getting
so many questions about like, how do you decide to
die it? Read what inspoted you go to? And I
actually think it's really funny because I brought my mom's
photo from when she was on Full House to um
my hair stylist, and I was like, can you just
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make it look like that? And the reason for that
was is because I've never touched my hair before, I've
like highlighted it a little bit here and there, but
never like a full onde change new colors. So I
was really nervous, and I was thinking to myself, Um,
you know, I kind of look like my mom. I
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see a lot of differences, but everybody seems to think
we look alike. So I was like, everybody says I
look like her, so I'm going to dye my hair.
Maybe I should just diet of colors she's had, so
at least I know, like, okay, I could maybe possibly
pull it off, because it was like my biggest fear
I was going to diet and despise how I looked.
But I actually really like it. It's different, it's fun.
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I feel like I kind of feel like it's like
an alter ego of mine now, so I'm enjoying it. Um.
But that's like my little life update on that, which
is not super interesting. Um. And I also have seen
a lot of questions on my Instagram that some are
really really great questions that I think I think about
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often and things i'd love to talk about, but I'm
always kind of fearful to speak about just because I
never wanted to be misconstrued or taken the wrong way. Um,
but I also know that I've said this from the
very beginning of when I started this podcast, is that
it's like being vulnerable and open, and this is my
podcast after Also, the listeners hopefully are people that have
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either been with me for a while or care to
hear what I have to say. Um, but I want
to start out a little bit more general because I
got so many questions about like my workout routine and
how I lost all this weight and how many calories
and how I don't compare my body on social media
and some of these questions the way they're phrased, it
makes me realize, like how consumed all of us are
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in social media and comparing ourselves to other people. And
I us want to remind everybody that's listening that and
take it for me. Somebody who's on social media posting
their best moments getting the comments that are like, how
do you look like that? And sure, I have my
good days, but also you need to remember that these
are all angles and our best moments and our cutest photos,
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and my tennis moments and my favorite outfits and the
most flattering bikinis, and um, although I do love to
work out and eat right and take care of my
body more so for my mental at this point. Um,
I just I think it's really important that everybody reminds
themselves we're all kind of living in this fantasy world
where we see everybody every second of every day looking
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their best, and it gives us all these like false
ideas in our head that we're not good enough, which
is just so not the case. So if anybody can
preach it to you, I hope you can take it
from me, somebody who post my best moments. And then
also when I think about that, I feel guilty because
I'm like, well, I don't want people to get the
wrong idea that this is what I look like all
the time or I'm always feeling this good. Um. I
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also think that social media can dehumanize like a lot
of people sometimes and make you feel like the people
you're following aren't really real. And I remember when I
was on I had lost a bunch of weight, like
right before the summer of last year, and then throughout
the summer, I think I gave like ten or fifteen pounds,
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which really isn't a big deal to like most people,
i'd hope, Um, But I remember getting a brand deal
and it was like these bikini posts that I had
to do and I was freaking out because I was
so insecure about it. I was like, I don't want
to do this. I don't feel the best right now.
I don't look like how I was posting on social
media the last like three months anymore. And it's like
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you get so in your head about everything, and I
just want people to be reminded constantly that like everybody
has um I don't know, just their sensitivities and stuff
that you're so consumed with and concerned about that other
people don't get to see. And I remember also, I
was going on Dancing with the Stars right after all
of this, and I was like, people are going to
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think I'm like lying all my social media because again
it was posting my best moments when I felt like
my hottest version, really really good. And I don't want
this to get twisted. It's not to say if you
gain weight that you're not hot. That's not at all
what I'm saying. But it is like I'm going on
National TV in one version of myself and then all
my Instagram I look like a different version of myself,
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and that can be really really tricky for a for
somebody who's doing it themselves because you feel guilt and
you feel bad for portraying this image, but also to
my followers, it's also not fair. So I just want
to remind you that, um, you're seeing everybody's best moments
and you really do mean that. But um, in terms
of the workout questions and how many calories I eat
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and stuff like that, it's really not for me about
counting my calories or pushing myself in the gym to
where I feel like I'm going to throw up and die.
If you want to know my real secret, this is
what I've seen do wonders for my body. This is
how I got in probably like the best shape of
my life, um, about a year ago, and this is
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what I've been doing for the last month again, and
I really see a difference. And I've talked about it
on my YouTube a little bit before, but it's this
exercise called twelve three thirty which was created by Lauren
Giraldo and she's awesome, But basically, you just put your
treadmill at an incline of twelve, you walk at a
speed of three for thirty minutes. I sometimes will do
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like a ten minute app work out, I'll do like
a ten minute but workout after it. But that's pretty
much all I do. I also love Sammy Clark's workouts
on her app called form Um. You just sign up,
but they're all like thirty minute workouts and you normally
just need like a band or five pound weights and
you can just do it in your house and those
are really great and easy. Um, just little things, because
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I feel like the most important thing with working out
and um like staying consistent with it is finding stuff
you actually like doing. If you're just working out and
thinking of it as like, oh, I just want to
be in this like certain body type or this like whatever,
you're never going to stick with it because it's going
to become tortuous, you're going to create negative feelings towards it,
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You're going to correlate it with bad habits and kind
of unhealthy habits. So I think finding stuff that you like.
I also really like pilates, which I don't do enough,
but I do enjoy it. So I think stuff like that. Okay,
enough about that, now that I got that whole spiel
out of the way. UM, I think this is another
great question, and I also want to answer it because
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I have no idea what the answer is, but I
think we can all relate a little bit, and it's
best advice for young adults who are struggling to figure
out what to do career wise. Oh sis, you're telling me, Um,
I don't know. I don't know, like the opper answer
to it, I think something that when I talk to people,
because I feel I feel you, it's really scary, especially
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like for me at least, like just I can only
speak for myself. I think I started social media and
YouTube at such a young age before it was really
a job, and then obviously going through everything um with
the whole college thing and everything in the media, and
I feel like after all of that, I'm I'm a
just I feel like entirely different, but I don't have
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that same like I don't even want to say connection
with my audience. But I think because I took so
much time off, it's like I don't even remember what
like it was like to be that invested in it.
And I think I'm still struggling to figure that out.
So I get it, like I do understand being at
this age where you kind of feel the pressure to
figure it out and having no idea what the next
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best move is. I think some advice that I hold
very close to my heart that's been given to me
is just be patient with yourself. I know that's really afical.
I also know everybody's in different circumstances, but I think
just remembering that, like the key word in that question
is as a young adult, we're still young and we
have time. And Um, last week's episode I had, or
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maybe it was a few weeks ago now, I had
Katie Austin on and she was telling me a story
about her dad where I think it was her dad. Yeah,
he like figured out what he wanted to do at
some crazy age like way later in life, he like
finally figured it out and went back to school. And
you guys should listen to that episode if you haven't already.
But um, I think just knowing that, like, you're on
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this path and it's not going to be the same,
and you've got to not compare yourself to the people
you see online or the people in your friend groups
or other family members, because everybody's on their own journey
and you're going to figure it out at your own time.
I think though starting and actually actively doing stuff is
a really good first step. I think if you're just
sitting around hoping that things are just gonna like fall
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into your lap and come your way, it's probably very
rare that that will happen. I think you actually have
to start and pursue something, and if you don't know
what that is yet, that's okay. But trying different things,
trying to find your passion, I think is really cool. Um,
trying to make your passion into some sort of job
that can create like a reliable income, I think it
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is probably a good first step as well. But I
think also taking a little pressure off yourself because you're
young and you're going to figure it out and you're
not gonna be jobless forever, I promise, UM, So try
to take a little pressure off yourself. I like this
question a lot. It says what something people seem to
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misunderstand about you. I'm hesitant to talk about this type
of stuff because I feel like every time I do,
and this is not meant to sound arrogant, because it's
going to come across that way, but I don't mean
it that way, I swear, but I feel like it
ends up in the media anytime I talk about this
quote unquote scandal. Um. But I think one thing people
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misunderstand is that they think that like just unfazed by it,
like never affected me, no problems, And I sit here
sometimes and I'm like, hmm, I don't know how to
convey to people that like this was the most like
life changing like wake up call ever. I also feel
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like people, a lot of people don't know like all
the details and the ins and outs of like the
real things. So I think people hold a lot of
anger towards me that maybe necessarily isn't entirely like supposed
to be put on me. And I don't know how
to say that without walking on eggshells. But um, I
think one day I will or somebody hopefully and my
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family will cover what happened. Um. But I do think
that it's a big misunderstanding that like, oh, how dare
you just move on with your life and like you
don't care and it's like, no, this, I think about
this every day. It completely changed who I am. I
everything I do is like that's in the back of
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my mind. Um, I feel awful. I feel terrible about it,
and like me posting and trying to come back to
social media, I always see the comments of like, oh,
this girl, like she's just coming back again, and it's like, well,
I have to live my life, and like I know
for myself that I'm not a terrible person, like I
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want to go back out and do what I'm passionate about.
But at the same time, I hate that people think
that I'm just like I don't care, I'm moving on.
Um and like so much of the time I feel
like I'm not talking about like what I'm doing to
give back or do certain things because I can already
foresee those comments is like, oh, you're just doing this
to talk about it. So I'd rather just do it
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privately and just know why I'm doing it, and then
who cares if people figure it out or not. Um.
But I just I think that's a big misunderstanding that
people think that like it doesn't affect me and I
don't care and I can just go back to my
normal life because I can even begin to explain like
how much it has affected and how much I just
want to make things better and I would do anything
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to go back in time to make this all go away,
like believe me, um, but I can't. Unfortunately, and I
think all of us at some point in our life
have regrets and mistakes, and we all wish we could
go back in time and fix those things. And I
think when I'm trying to learn as I get a
little bit older, is being a little bit more forgiving
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of yourself and understanding that you know, just because one
thing happens in your life, that doesn't mean you deserve
to hate yourself for it, even though it's really hard
not to sometimes. But I think, just um, I just
want people to know, like me posting me trying to
move on and put a smile on my face isn't
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because I don't care. It's just because I, for my
own mental I just can't live in this for forever. Um,
what keeps you motivated? M M? I think what keeps
me motivated is the people I surround myself with. Is
something that's really important, which I'm just figuring out now
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in my life. But it's so true. It's like you
kind of are who you're surrounding yourself with. So if
you're surrounding yourself with people that are, um, maybe just
on a different journey or path than you are, just
maybe doing certain things that like aren't benefiting you in
or like not doing stuff for you. But you know
what I mean, Like if they're doing stuff and you're
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doing it with them and that's not benefiting you in
your career life or your personal life or whatever it is,
I think that you could take a step back and
look kind of inward and see, like, Okay, like I
love these people, and I love this at a distance,
or this works for me and this time, but like
I also need to find people that are going to
motivate me to you know, really focus on my work
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or my health habits or whatever it is. Like I
think for me, it's like a perfect examp up. What
I can give is one of my best friends, Natasha,
who has been on the podcast before, has been in
my YouTube um. But she and I have very similar careers,
like just mindsets. I think we both like love the
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same things, and so it's she's like a really great
friend to have because she keeps me really motivated. Whether
it's like she text me this morning, Yo, we're working
out today, no questions. I'm like, Okay, I kind of
needed that because I didn't want to, you know what
I mean. So I think it's people that are just
like around you that like motivate you, I think is
something that's really important, and also holding yourself accountable is
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obviously very important as well. How to deal with friends
never replying to you or not feeling valued by your friends. Um,
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I think that, well, I'm really sorry to hear that,
because that's not a good feeling. I also know what
that feels like, and it's like super painful. And I
know what it feels like to just want people to
like you and to feel like, oh my god, does
this person find me annoying? Or am I like a
bother to them? And I think it's I wish I
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would even take my own advice sometimes, but it's easier
said than done as well. But also remembering like if
those people aren't valuing you as a person and who
you are, and you can't be your authentic self in
front of them and around them, like are those really
good friends anyway? Like do you want them? I think
something that's also really important to learn as we get
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older is being okay with being alone, which is really
hard and something that I'm still working through all the time,
but it's it's it's so important to like know that
you can be on your own and that you enjoy
your own company because at the end of the day,
that's like you're one constant, you will always have yourself.
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So I think that's crucial in life. Um But in
terms of that specific question, I would say trying to
find new friends is probably a good step. I also
know that's really tricky because like, where where do I
meet new friends? How do I meet new friends? I
don't have all the answers to everybody's like different situations
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and circumstances, But I know that for me, in my
experience with friendships, it's it feels a lot better to
remove the people that don't make me feel good and
that I'm always questioning, like should I be around them?
Is this annoying to them? Whatever? Like, it feels so
much better for me now to just be on my own.
And I think as you focus on yourself and you
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remove those negative people from your life, and you're focusing
on your career and you're focusing on things that make
you genuinely happy, like other things will fall into place. Um,
But I know it can be so difficult. So I'm
really sorry to hear that top five skin care products.
Let's get into beauty, Okay, I think I have m hmm,
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it's hard to choose just five. I think for face wash,
we'll start there. I saw this in an Alicia Keys
skincare video and I've used it and it made my
skin beautiful. It's called Osmosis. It's like a facial cleanser.
It's gorgeous. Ten out of ten would recommend. I think
another skincare product I love is Supergroup super Goops glows screen.
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If you don't like the way like glowy skin looks though,
maybe not for you, but I love that. Um Okay,
that's two. I think. Three would be Oh, the one
one skin hydro gel moisturizer. It's a little bit expensive
or a lot of it defensive, but it is one
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of the best things I've ever used in my life.
Four I would say the one one skin eye patches. Amazing.
They feel so good. I love putting them in a
beauty fridge. Oh and five this ice roller that you
can get from Amazon and you stick it in your
freezer and it's the best thing and I highly recommend it.
And if you're tired when you're waking up, boom, it
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wakes you up. If your puffy wakes you up. I
had a laser appointment recently, and you're not supposed to
go in the sun if you laser, like laser hair removal,
so don't do that if you didn't know that and
you laser. But I was in the sun and the
woman asked me like, hey, have you been in the
Have you been in the sun? And I was like no,
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because I really wanted her to do the laser appointment.
But I shouldn't have done that my whole skin on
my face like because I laser like above my lip
and like my sideburned area and I completely broke out
into like a bunch of little dots everywhere, and I
was Coali, this is karma. This is what you get
for lying to the laser lady because you want to
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get the appointment out of the way. And they asked
for a reason. Um, but I had this ice roller
and I was just rolling it on my face like
constantly after and it did wonders. So I think it
has a lot of different purposes and good uses. And yeah,
I would just ten out of ten recommend that will
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you do more collective and designer halls in the future,
and missed them so much. I actually think my next
YouTube video is going to be a collective try on hall.
I think I've decided recently for my YouTube because I've
been feeling a little bit lost on like what to
do on my channel. I feel like I go back
and forth between vlogs that I love and then I'm like, no,
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as the vlogs annoying, Like it just looks like I
do nothing all day, and I think people don't realize
that making filming doing nothing, it's like kind of my job,
Like I don't know, it's really bizarre. But um, I
think I kind of want to go back to like
my o G YouTube videos kind of like collective halls,
like remember that one. If you guys are o G subscribers,
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you would remember I used to do like these blinging
on a budget videos and I do all these like
different jewelry collections that were like pretty inexpensive or like
medium to Um yeah, I'd say it's like moderately expensive
but nothing crazy. And I loved those videos. Um, I
just didn't get ready with me for my last one,
which is really fun. I also think for me, something
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I'm noticing is and something I want to just remind
myself is like it's so easy to get caught up
and like start feeling kind of bad when I'm like,
my views used to be like this and now they're
like this, and I forget that that's not why I
started my YouTube at all, and that's not something that
should keep me motivated. And it's like I started my
YouTube channel and I was posting every week whatever I
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felt at the time was like what I liked and
enjoyed to talk about, and um, I would get one
view or two view or I had ten subscribers, and
I literally didn't care at all. And so I think
that's a something I need to get back to, is
just being like you do this channel because you love it,
not because you care about a number on a screen.
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And I think that's also a bigger message in general,
is just like when we all die, what does it
even mean the number on the screen? Does it really
mean anything at all? No? And that's so much easier
to like say out loud, and then you know, harder
to live by and really believe. But it's really true,
like if you do take a step back, basically with
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anything in life. I always think about this too, with
like stress, if you're under so much stress and pressure,
and I always felt this way in high school, if
I was going to get like a bad test grade
or I didn't complete an assignment on time, I would
get so anxious and so stressed about it, and I
would always try and remind myself, and I would always
say this like grand scheme of life, Like, am I
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going to be thinking about this in a few months
down the line? If you years down the line, probably not?
And if I am, then like maybe you should figure
that out and assess it, but probably not. So just
constantly reminding yourself like brand scheme of life, I think
is it's pretty important because it puts a lot into
perspective and also to think about, like what you're really
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stressing about? Is it that big of a deal in
comparison to like everything else we have going on in
our world? Who knows? How have you changed during the pandemic?
This is an interesting question, Um, how have I changed
during the pandemic? I think that I've become way more
antisocial for starters. That's also what I've discovered is my body.
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Not that I'm old by any means. I'm still really
young and I know that, but I feel like my
body has aged so much, like I can only drink
one day. You cannot catch me drinking two days in
a row. I am not equipped for that. My body
gives out on me, it hates me. I don't know
what's happening. I also think hangovers, though, are genetics, and
you can't convince me otherwise. Like my brother gets the
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worst hangovers, I get the worst hangovers, and then all
my best friends no hangovers. Everybody's fine, So I don't know.
I think that's one thing I changed with is I
can't rally, and I don't like being a social um.
But I also think that I've gotten a lot more
comfortable being by myself. I think that I've learned I
really enjoy like my downtime. I really enjoy like treating
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myself in a way that's not materialistic by any means,
but more so like self care. I think that's something
I've really prioritized in the pandemic, especially because in the
beginning that's like all there was to do was just
stay home and like do a face mask. So oh,
I also discovered in the pandemic I really love to
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cook and bake a lot. So yeah, how do I
deal with my insecurities? It's ruining me day after day,
and honestly, I am so tired. I'm so sorry, because
that's just the worst feeling ever. I often feel like
when i'm insecure too, I'm like the most depressed, like anxious,
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like kind of just angry version of myself. So I
know what that feels like, and I know how tiring
it can feel. Hey, I think you need to be
a little bit easier on yourself. I need you to
remind yourself that the insecurities you're focusing on, I can
promise you nobody else is thinking twice about like I
can actually promise you. We make this like story up
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in our head that everybody's watching us, And the truth is,
everybody's kind of selfish, is what I've discovered in life,
and not even if you're a good or a bad person, nothing.
Everybody's just consumed with themselves. I think that's just how
humans are born. And so you just need to remind
yourself like somebody else next to you is probably focused
on their insecurity rather than yours. I've never looked at
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somebody and been like this about them, or like I
don't even think that before for that, I'm focusing on myself,
you know what I mean? So I think that's a
very important thing to remind yourself. I think if it's
something that you can I don't want to say fix
or change, but if it's something you're insecure about that
you're just letting yourself be insecure about, I think that
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it's important you start to figure out ways to I
don't know the right way to say this. I want
to say, do something about like it, because I think
also I'm trying to be like sensitive with the way
I word things, But I also think a lot of
people feel these insecurities sometimes and then we just because
I'm guilty of it too, and then I just sit
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in them and I don't really try and do anything
to like fix it or help myself. And so I
think if it's something specific that you can do little
things to start to help yourself a little bit, like
try it. What's there to lose? Like um? And I
think also if it's just so much in your head
at this point and you're just constantly convincing yourself and
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building this insecurity in your head and it's becoming like monstrous,
you need to talk to somebody about it. Like I
often suggest therapy to all of my friends because I
think that's like the one thing that's helped me astronomically
in my life. And um, it sometimes just feels really
good to talk things through. Even if you think it
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sounds so dumb, it's really not, because everybody's feelings are relative,
everybody's problems are relative. Like sometimes it's really good to
just let it out and have somebody listening to you.
It's a really good feeling. And I also think that
sometimes we go to like our friends or our moms
or our dads or our siblings, and you want like
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a certain response from them, and if they don't give
it to you, it can be really heartbreaking, and you
keep going back for this advice and it's like not
the advice you want to hear, but you keep doing
it because it's like, well, they're my family or that's
my best friend, Like I I want to tell them.
But I think what I've learned with therapy is that
some things are better to just talk to somebody else
about that doesn't really have like such a close relationship
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with you, or it doesn't have like a bias opinion
on something in your life. Um, sorry, that was kind
of about insecurities, and then it kind of took it
somewhere else after I started talking about therapy, because I
could talk about therapy for hours. But I think it's
just important to let somebody hear you and to feel
like your feelings are really validated, because that's a real thing. Okay,
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I'm gonna answer two more questions and then I'm gonna bounce,
so I don't bore you guys too much. How to
get over your first heartbreak? I won't even ramble. Just time.
Just give yourself time. That's like the key. Okay, last question,
ever have days where you don't work out, clean or
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do anything. Really, I've been feeling super low lately. I
think I've seen a bunch of different questions like phrase
differently um from this, so I think it's very relatable.
And my answer is yeah, of course. I think sometimes
it's really hard to get up and motivate yourself. I
think something that somebody once told me, which is a
really good tip, and I think helps me get out
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of bed without feeling so lazy and then entering like
a YouTube or TikTok hole and then I'm stuck there
and then I'm really unmotivated. Is not checking your phone
when you wake up none of that is literally waking
up and going straight into the shower, like just getting up,
walking your shower, starting your day. Don't even look at
your phone. I think that's so important. I also think
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in terms of cleaning, if you can clean a little
bit every day instead of letting things pile up and
then you're like, oh, now I have to clean everything
and it looks like super overwhelming, that's a really good
start too, is like little by little, and like if
you make yourself breakfast, just clean it up right away.
Don't leave it in the sink and then wait for
lunch to leave in the sink, and then dinner leave
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it in the sink and then put it all away
at night, Like that's just annoying. Just throw your plate
in the dishwasher, do a little hand wash if you
don't have a dishwasher, and carry on. I think little
things like that are helpful and we'll motivate you to
um I want to keep things clean as well. In
terms of working out, sometimes I don't feel like it
at all, but I know that it's important to move
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my body, not even physically, but well physically too, but
especially mentally. So if you want to go for a
walk a nice long walk that's always really nice outside.
If you want to turn on like a no equipment
fifteen minute pilates that you can just do on your
floor while you watch some TV like that counts too.
So I think it's just starting to do little things
to make yourself feel okay, like I did that. That's progress.
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And then the more you start to do things like that,
it's going to start to change and you're gonna start
getting a little bit control back and you're gonna feel
a lot better, at least in my experience, and I
really hope that works for you. Um. Okay, Well, I
feel like this was long enough, and I hope that
you guys enjoyed this podcast and that I didn't completely
bore you because I didn't have a guest and I
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know that's not super normal for this UM show. But
I want to say thank you so much for listening,
and I hope this helped somebody out there in the world. UM.
Please make sure to message me on Instagram. I love
hearing your guys feedback and thoughts on this podcast so much,
and please make sure to send me suggestions of people
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you really want to hear on because that helps me
a ton, and with all that being said, I'll see
you guys next week. Bye.