June 20, 2024 • 43 mins
Main dater this week, féi, is looking for that unidentifiable, “je ne sais quoi” swagger in a potential love match. féi brings a telenovela main character energy and is hoping to find “the homie you get to explore life with”. Abuelita and féi bond over being 310 girls. She shares with Abuelita Liliana the impact of growing up queer and undocumented and wanting to honor Inglewood in her artistry now. We meet 3 very different contestants; a Montana raised suitor who brings a little country swag to the table, a grandma's boy, and another multi-hyphenate artist who has a very grounded view of love. The contestants play a round of “Assumptions” and “Swagger Like Us: Telenovela Edition” for Abuelita Liliana to see who has what it takes. Will Abuelita Liliana find someone to compliment féi’s mami energy?
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
If you had to define swag or swagger, what would
you say to our listeners are Awalita's definitions of.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
That mainly is that Jones sequa, you know that particular
style groove, just how that person defines themselves in a
way that when they walk into a room, I mean,
they take everyone's breath away.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Do you think I have swag?
Speaker 2 (00:34):
You have total swag? I mean, I know those doors
are locked so nobody busts in. But I'm gonna tell
that is so funny that you would say that. Because
I was thinking to myself, I said, Alita, do you
still have swag?
Speaker 1 (00:45):
I have seen you sprut this studio. I have seen
you stand up next to me and show your swagger.
You definitely have that. I think we're both swaggy people
for sure. I say this because our main data today
has a lot of thoughts on the topic as she
is looking for someone swaggy to flank her. I wonder
(01:07):
if anyone with that hella swag as they say in
Northern California, is going to come into Aulita's house today
and see if they can win your.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Heart, and that would be so nice.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Welcome listeners, This is Dave Alita First, we our cupid
Awilitalilana plays matchmaker for one hopeful main dater. She'll meet
three lucky contestants before sending one of them off on
a one on one date with our incredible main dater.
I'm your host, the Vico Ortiz, joined by the ever
(01:41):
stunning Auilita.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Ever stunning. Oh my goodness, gracious, love love love love love.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Okay, So who's coming to Alilita's house today?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Our main data this week is Fay. Fay is thirty
and very thoughtful, very funny, and famously defines herself as
a hood so we'll of course be asked the question
answer her later. Absolutely. They is a self employed artist
of varying strokes. We got writing, visual arts and clothing designing.
(02:17):
She also does coaching and reiki. Oh Fay loves hood
and swag energy, back to that swagger and they want
to find a bobby. Oh what's up to watch her
mommy vibe? Yes please. They are described by close friends
as having Belen Awena main character energy and Faye is
(02:38):
looking for the home and you'll get to explore life
with what. I don't think we'll run out of things
to talk about today. I think we got it going.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Well, that sounds absolutely like a shining start. So we
need to find her somebody really really nice.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Oh yeah, and we will. Let's go ahead. They come
on Ina Salah to join us. Say hello, oh my god,
we are so glad to have you here on day
my Alida first. So we know a bit about your
obviously we were at a little bio, but nothing like
(03:13):
hearing it from yourself. Tell us what myself and that
need to know about you to find that perfect match.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
Yeah, for sure. So I'm you know, I've always just
been trying to be real perfect and really polished, but
I'm breaking free and just being like my true self.
I've been doing a lot of work with unmasking, and
you know, I feel this fiery energy in me around
like being seen receiving what I know I deserve. It's
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really important for my person to be able to like
keep up and you know, have their own thing going, like,
you know, be independent. You know, I'm trying to not
be the only light, like I really just want to
shine with somebody else.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I want to know a little bit more of what
started that journey of wanting to unmap and what drew
you to just be more honest with yourself and also
wanting other people in your life that are in that
same wavelength so they can see you and celebrate you
and witness you as who you are and you can
do the same thing for them.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Yeah, So regarding unmasking, like I mentioned, my life is
a telenovela, and so I was in a really crappy
car accident that left me with the concussion, and along
the way of my healing, which took like about a
year and a half, my mom was like, hey, your
behavior is shifting a little bit to how you would
act as a kid. We were undocumented, so we didn't
(04:36):
have access to insurance and healthcare. She's like, you should
go get checked out. And I was like, checked out?
What do you mean? So she was implying that she
felt like I was probably on the spectrum and maybe
the concussion put down my walls, like literally my threshold
could no longer perform. So like I was putting on
a show of who I thought Fay was. And so
(04:58):
upon this car accident lo and behind, oh, I'm a
high functional autistic person. And that's where my journey began,
taking off my mask, all of those layers of who
I thought I had to be for my family, for
my friends, in partnerships, et cetera. And I was able
to just get to this like raw space of like
this is who I am, right, Like I don't have
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to keep performing, I don't have to be anything I
don't want to be. And so it's literally changed my life.
I feel like I'm alive for the first time. This
all happened two years ago, and so it's been this
gorgeous unfurling. I feel like a mystery to myself and
it's exciting.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Now, when was your last relationship?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
It's been a minute, a man, and what's a minute?
What's a minute?
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Like four years before the accident.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
How long was that relationship for It was sure.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
I mean we were just dating at the time, and
dating is a concept that's challenging for me. But yeah,
so that was the last main, main relationship. But the
longest relationships I've been in have been like two years,
but that was way way back.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
What are some things that you have learned from those
relationships that you want to be like, no, I want
to continue that, And what are some things that you're like, actually,
I did that that didn't really work for.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Me obviously, Like the unmasking. I know my faults in
not being honest and how that created tensions that were
probably unnecessary. There's no tin, no shade on any of
my exes. I feel very grateful that I was able
to experience them. The good things from those relationships were
the closeness that we experienced, Like there was, like you know,
a lot of intimacy that I think could have conqutized
(06:32):
into a friendship, which I think was lacking because of
the masking. So I think it's a two way answer,
right where I crave that intimacy and that closeness, and
now I have the tools to be able to build
a friendship with the person that I want to be
with so that we can be real, so that we're
not kind of dictated by these expectations. Like we're in
a relationship now, so this is what I have to do,
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and this is what you need to do. It's like
let's dance, you know what I mean, Like I really
want to dance with somebody.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Well, since you are so adventurous and like so many things,
you're a pretty busy bee. You are doing a lot
of stuff. Do you want your partner to have all
those same attributes? And join in with you. Would you
like them to be different?
Speaker 4 (07:15):
I like difference. I think difference is striking to me.
It stimulates me, and I think that's really important for me.
But I've dated people that are on similar realms as
I am, and I mean I feel equally stimulated. So
I think it's more about that swag, right, or like
the energy of like, oh I can learn from this person,
Like that's really exciting to me.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Well, that swag word has come up one more time again,
and with it comes the hooda what is the hood?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Creatura? You belonged to the hood.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
Yeah, so actually the title of my first full length
poetry collection, and I titled it that because I grew
up in the hood. But I'm such a dork and
I'm such this that has a We's just been this
queer little essence, like, you know, walking up and down
these little tolitos with their long shorts and their high
socks and their slides, and it's just me with my
(08:09):
bang and like piercings and just you know, being super
emo and tagging on the walls. You know, there was
this beautiful, gorgeous contrast that I wanted to emulate in
my experiences growing up and documented growing up queer in
Inglewood specifically, And so I think this title is just
the perfect combination.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Did I just hear you say Inglewood?
Speaker 4 (08:32):
The three one oh? Look at my necklace?
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Oh yeah, I'm a three one oh girl too. So
that must have been tough, and your poetry got you
right out of it.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
Yeah. Literally, it was my saving grace and it was
my way of also commemorating the city that built me,
you know, like I wouldn't be who I am without Inglewood.
So there's always so much gratitude for black folks to
other immigrant folks who I grew up with, you know,
not just Mexican immigrants, but like from all over.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
We are all over exactly.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
It's my little love letter.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
We know.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
We talked about navigating dating from the lens of unmasking
when it comes to our mental health, and the things
have shifted right As a fellow you know, trans, non binary, dender,
expansive person, my transness has also been a big influence
in how I have been able to access what my
needs are and what my wants are, both for myself
(09:24):
and in relationship. And I want to learn more about
how that has been for you.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
So I started hormones last year and I feel amazing,
thank you, thank you. So I feel great. I just
recently started t blockers, so my body is changing, shifting, adapting,
and I feel more embodied than ever before. Literally, I
feel like I see the world and color and it's phenomenal. So,
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you know, my autism and my transness and being in
this conjunct experience of unmasking and unfurling has been, oh
my god, a gift from the universe. And so I
think in the context of relationships, right, like you know,
I'm talking about the hood and the swagger, and that's
also like, in a way, like a normative experience, right,
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and I'm not existing in that. And so I think
what I look for or what I hope to just
be able to connect with folks around is like being
able to hold multitudes. Like, you know, a lot of
men who I know wanted me, you know, but couldn't
do it was because their perception of me was like, oh,
you're not a woman, you're not enough, you're not this.
(10:33):
And you know, I'm just always looking for brave souls
who are willing to just say like nah, love comes first,
like whatever it is that you look like whether you
look like how I look right now.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Or which is gorgeous?
Speaker 2 (10:46):
High you.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Serving some looks, just saying love the haircut?
Speaker 4 (10:52):
Yeah, guessing me up too much?
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Well, thank you so much, Fay. We are so excited
to find you a wonderful human being to shine alongside you.
With that said, let's go ahead and meet these contestants.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, Malani.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
The first Welcome.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Welcome contestant, all on my lovely, lovely contestants. I'm thrilled
to meet you all and let's have some fun.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Huh yes, absolutely, thank you for joining us today. Let's
start with James Zach. James is described as funny ones.
They defrost and there is incredibly solid calm and won't
activate your nervous system. I need you in my life, Jeames,
I activate my own nervous system.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Amen to that.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
They believe in making connections that fit the shape of
the container. I'm very curious about how that looks like,
and are interested in dating someone who understands the mind
body connection and has a good sense of humor. Hells Yas.
They're based in the Bay Area, but whenever they go
out to do karaoke for a friend's birthday, they'll pull
(12:08):
out a little country music and tribute up their home
state of Montana. We are so happy to have you, James.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Welcome James.
Speaker 6 (12:17):
Yeah good, thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Very nice having you.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Who's our next wonderful contestant?
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Our next wonderful special contestant is Saran. Saran is a
multi media artist which includes writing and photography, and they
are currently putting finishing touches on a short film script,
Hellsia and a multi media book project, Gosh Yes. They
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are passionate about reading hot and also love to sit
atop a big mountain and be in nature.
Speaker 7 (12:50):
Mmmm.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
That sounds so lovely. They grew up in d C
and because their parents separate it when they were young,
they learned from an early age that love is not enough.
I align with that. I don't. They want to know
what's the vibe, what's the material reality, and how does
it overlap with someone? Hell's the app I mean you
(13:12):
are filled with wisdom, Surna. I'm very excited to get
to know you. Yes, and finally meet Leo. Leo is
a self professed You're gonna love this. I would eat
that grandma's boy wow.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
His grandma lives in the Philippines and he wants to
get her blessing about any long term partner, so I
would eat that some tough competition. Yeah, Leo is attracted
to folks with what he would say is just enough softness,
just enough cowboy and also boss bitch fems I mean yes.
(13:57):
He works in an astrology app company, very intrigued so
knows enough to point to his mars libra as why
he loves to pine and long. He is also an
adult performance content maker.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
I want to know about that, I want to know
about that. I want to know about me too.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
And has a podcast where he interviews other Cuiti bipod.
We love to hear that. Absolutely say hello Leo and nice.
Speaker 4 (14:25):
To meet you.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Nice meeting you all, contestants. We're very excited to have
you here today and we're looking forward to seeing how
you do in these games and to see if one
of you could be a match for our main dater.
Is that exciting? Show me some excitement.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Now, I'm very very excited to start with our first game.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Choey. Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
All right, contestants. So for our first game, we want
to see how perceptive you are without having a lot
of information. This is a Wilita testing your intuition. And
while we believe in clarity and communication on date my
Alaia First, especially on this episode, we still choose to
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play with them with this game called assumptions. What we're
gonna ask you is to make an assumption of another contestant. So,
for example, I can make an assumption about Akalita.
Speaker 8 (15:30):
It me you love animals, and then Awalita would tell
me if I read her for filth or if I
got her totally wrong.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Well, I was married five times, so yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Do, so you do.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
I love that my assumption was pretty grated and you
just like took it to a whole other live. This
is also gonna help Awalita know how you interact with
each other and all that jazz, so you know, have fun,
be yourselves.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
Oh let's go the first Yeah, go for it.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Who do you want to start?
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Sarn? Can you make an assumption about Leo?
Speaker 7 (16:09):
Yes, I am going that Leo has just moved into
their place recently given back the art on the walls.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
You're right, very right, I love it.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Leo.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Make an assumption about James.
Speaker 5 (16:26):
Given your virtual background, I feel like you've definitely watched
Broke Back Mountain.
Speaker 6 (16:33):
Among many other great cowboy classics. But of course, yes, yes,
it kind of looks like they're kissing, doesn't it.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Oh yeah, James, background on this zoom call is a
beautiful icy mountain with two cowboys wearing hats right in
front of it, two thick mustachios, and they are so
close to touching lips. It's giving yearning.
Speaker 6 (16:55):
Yeah, the tens is palpable.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
James make an assumption about Saram.
Speaker 6 (17:00):
I mean, the easy thing is the lush plants in
the background. And then I'm also drawn to your clothing.
There's like a really like homegrown artistical approach to you overall.
Do you make your own clothes at all? You tailor anything?
Is there is that part of your life?
Speaker 7 (17:15):
I do not make my uncles. It is one of
the many hobbies I would.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
Like to start.
Speaker 7 (17:22):
But I did get you back from Vietnam where I
got close custom made.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Oh my gosh, okay, we gon story.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
How long were you there?
Speaker 7 (17:30):
I was on Vieta for two weeks.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
You like shopping up? We need to go shop Instagram.
Speaker 7 (17:35):
I will never tell you not to buy it.
Speaker 4 (17:36):
And that's ugly.
Speaker 7 (17:37):
If it's cute, I will tell you to buy it.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Alrighty, then well that's that first round. Now I want
all of y'all to make assumptions on a Wailita. Why
not make an assumption on Awelita first?
Speaker 7 (17:50):
Given as you said, she's been made five times, I'm
gonna assume she loves to have a good time.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
That's an amen. That's an amen. Absolutely, You're so right, James.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Make an assumption Aharita.
Speaker 6 (18:02):
You love to be sort of like the life of
a conversation. And I get that impression. You're just a
really sociable, fun happy person. I'm not just buttering you up.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
Thank you, James. I like that. And yes, I will
continue to be the life of the party and the
conversation until the day I die. That's a life commitment.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I love that. Okay, you are nailing it, Leo last,
but not Les. What's your assumption on a Wilita?
Speaker 5 (18:29):
All right? Well, I see that on your desk you
kind of have it disarray. There's maybe crumpled up tissue paper.
I see like paperwork everywhere. Their glasses are pretty quirky,
So you're giving me very artistic cookie vibes. I can
see you like in an art studio in the dark,
either painting away or writing a manuscript. I just see
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you as someone who's super fashionable and artistic.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Can I take them all home? That's what I wanted
to do main day to who No, thank you so much. Well,
I am an actor in a stand up comic and yeah,
I love anything that is beauty and creativity, So thank
you all for being so kind to me. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Right, So it's time to play another game before we
sadly have to let one of you go. So let's
do that next one.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Okay, So here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
Our main data today has been described by friends as
having the Lenovela main character energy, so yeah, very Importantante.
So for our second game, we're gonna throw out some
wild Lenovela situations at you and you will give us
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your swaggiest response, show off that swag. But Alita still
wants to make sure that you would behave well for
our main dater.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Bring it.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
It's about that balance, the balance. So let's your partner
had a clone evil twin very classic because of course
they do, and you didn't know about the clone, so
you have been accidentally sleeping with your partner's evil identical
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twin sibling. What do you do when you get confronted?
Speaker 2 (20:23):
How about you, Leo?
Speaker 1 (20:25):
What would you do? What's your swag? You response to this?
Speaker 5 (20:27):
Maybe you know I only have eyes for you. I
never took off their clones, so I couldn't see that
they didn't have the birthmark that only you have. But
truly I only have eyes for you.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Okay, okay, and in character, thank you.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
With y'all, thank you so much. Okay, Now, James, what
would you do?
Speaker 6 (20:46):
Your whole person may be duplicated, but our love cannot be.
Please forgive me and go on a big, you know,
reparations tour.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
I'm gonna use the hashtag reparations tour. Very nice. Yeah,
what's your swagger response to this wild scenario?
Speaker 7 (21:06):
I'm so sorry I should have done because you always
take sweeter.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Sweeter, oh my god, and it's like compliment and then
throwing shade on the evil twin. I'm obsessed.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
Okay, let's move on to our next telenove La scenario.
Imagine that you're sweetie is planning a huge party for
your birthday. It's slavish, it's fancy, all the things they
love but you hate. You've agreed to it because you
know it'll make them happy, and you like making them happy.
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Now it's the day of the party. But oh no,
on top of the party being so over the top,
you arrive early only to find out that to steer
some shit up, you're sweetie has invited all of your exes,
and I mean all of them, even the ones you
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never talked to anymore, All of your exes, James, what
are you going to do?
Speaker 6 (22:07):
My swaggy response would be like, uh, thank you, because
I don't know. I have nothing. There's nothing to hide there.
I have really good relationships with all of them. My
best friend is my ex and move through some repair
there and like transform the shape of it. And I
don't know. I think it'd be a fucking blast. Three friends.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
That's good for you, good for you? Well, I feel
mine would be in confidence. You know, I don't want
to bring them up.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
You need a hashtag resurrection tour.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
S N.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
What's your swaggy response.
Speaker 7 (22:42):
I'd walk in, I'd take off my sunglasses and I'd say,
is this my birthday or the rechext convention?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Oh my god, that is incredible. There are excess for
a reason, right, So Leo, what's going on?
Speaker 1 (22:58):
All right?
Speaker 5 (22:59):
Well, I very much appreciate transparency and also gratitude, so
I would start by saying, baby, this party is fucking amazing,
thank you so much. Also, why did you bring my
exes here? If you wanted spicy hot sex leader, we
could have just role played this.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
So oh, oh, my goodness, this is great, this is wonderful.
I have one more wild situation, so are you ready
for this? In this scenario, it's your one year anniversary
with you and your partner, and they have some big
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news to drop, and you've been waiting for this day
because you know they are the one. So at your
anniversary dinner, no big life changing question is pomped alas,
but you do learn something life changing. Your partner has
been hiding a secret bibet from you. How would you
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come back from such a monumental secret? Sarn, take us away?
Speaker 7 (24:06):
Maybe if we're at my one year anniversary dinner and
they revealed to me that they have a whole baby,
and the younger the baby, the more evils on me.
Added to that, chap, Okay, my goodness, James, how do
you come back from the secret baby?
Speaker 6 (24:29):
How could you do this to me? Literally? I want
to understand like the day to day, like how are
you raising a child? Like what we spend all our
time to I would literally want to know just like
what their schedule is, Like I'm actually kind of impressed,
first of all, the second of all, you know, just
get to the emotional truth of it, because if they
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can't share that with me, and what else can't they
share with me? Maybe we got some work to do
and we can't get out over a couple episodes, and
will they won't they get together again over a couple
of ultimately end up falling back in love and right
away to the sunset, this is amazing.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
You just like wrote a whole series.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
And on that note, we're going to Lei leil jellous.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
Well.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
To be honest, I would probably just start crying and
not say anything for a while, just straight up crying,
and they wouldn't know if I'm crying out of joy anger,
And after some time I would probably say, so you
kept this baby from me so I would fall in
love with you more slowly?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Right, Oh dang, dang keeping a secret for that long,
It's like you're trying to manipulate the outcome. Here, what's
going on? Wow? These were some fantastic responses. I would
watch all these spinoffs. I am so here for this.
So we played the games and we just could not
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get enough of all of you. So you want all
of you for the next round, which is going to
be a lot more intimate. Boy. So here's the deal
with the next round. Each of you is going to
have a one on one where she will ask you
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some more direct questions in which you can, you know,
go ahead and answer however you feel safe and comfortable with.
This is gonna help us see if at the end
of the day you align with our main dat. Let's
go ahead and start with staron. So, Saran, I'm gonna
go ahead and hand you over to a Wilita for
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a nice dive into the deepness of our soul.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
Ta get away.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
How are you, my love?
Speaker 7 (26:46):
I'm doing well, beautiful here.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
Oh there I go clean eggs. Talk to me about
your love life.
Speaker 7 (26:53):
My love life is basically non existence. I have someone
for whom work is very important. For me, life is
very important to me, and so for me, a relationship
is like the joy of life. It doesn't make life
joyful so for me, like I'm about having a good time, living, loving.
If I find a partner that comes to match that energy, great,
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But for me, like being in a relationship is not
going to be everything. For me, I think actually happy
alone first. So I've been focusing on me, looking forward
to relationship, looking forward to finding someone to honor my energy,
and I love, I just haven't found the right person yet.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
How long was your last relationship?
Speaker 7 (27:34):
I have been in that ship for forever.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
Oh you've never been on one? Just dating then all
the way through?
Speaker 7 (27:40):
I mean, yeah, exactly, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
And what are your biggest red flags something that you
do not want to bring into your relationship?
Speaker 7 (27:46):
I would say my biggest red flag is that I
feel like I'm always right, and so if there's an
argument and it's between being right and being connected, I
will most often choose being right.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
Definitely do work on good. And what is your biggest
green flag?
Speaker 7 (28:03):
I would say my biggest green flag is that I'm
very perceptive, Like I want to be able to like
preempt your need, preempt what you want or desire. So
I will try to listen to my partners, listen to
what they want, and you know, if they save the
likes of something, you know, then I'm make sure to
bake them that dessert. When they, you know, feel sad
or if they say something reminds them of something, then
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I'll like save that song and I'll play it for
them at very moment.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
You know.
Speaker 7 (28:29):
It's just about you know, the little things.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
So see, you're not always right. You do like to compromise,
so that's a beautiful thing. Thank you so much for
your time. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Thank you so much, Sean. Let's bring the next week
them into the one woice. Yeah, we're bringing this voice because.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
We want James needs to go meet.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
We want James to bring his his banano, you know
their energy.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
Come in.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Helloji, I am handling you over for a lit looka fish.
Take it away.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
How are you, James?
Speaker 4 (29:09):
I'm good. I'm having a blast.
Speaker 6 (29:11):
I'm also terrified and shaking in my boots not cowboy boots.
To keep it on Thame.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Yeah, your love life? What has that been about?
Speaker 6 (29:18):
My love life has just been a series of one
to three year relationships over the course of my twenties,
and then my last one was a two year thing
that ended kind of still fresh out of that.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
What is fresh about it in your mind still.
Speaker 6 (29:33):
I think just what I took away from it, which was, well,
the difference between like a romance and love that is
the result of like a nervous system roller coaster that
you get from just meeting someone new and feeling seen
and cared for, and the love that rises from like
mutual respect and trust and safety, which is very very
slow burned, but I think more longstanding and seaworthy.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Let me ask you, was this like a little pattern
that maybe you finally know notice since your relationships and
the bass had been again two three years and then
moving on to the next.
Speaker 6 (30:05):
Oh for sure. I've been spending most of my adult
life trying to find out where to be, where to
plant roots, and a lot of those relationships kind of
like happened as soon as I got somewhere, I would
just find somebody pin my whole like safety net reciprocal
well being on like a single person, which is just
too much for them and not safe for me. And
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since planting myself back in the Bay Area, I have
learned as a result of this last relationship, having that
social safety net your friends as a foundation is vital
and necessary for me to even want to think about
falling in love with anybody.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Yeah, now, James, and if the main data was sitting
right next to me, what would you say to them?
Speaker 3 (30:49):
One beautiful thing to look forward to with you?
Speaker 6 (30:52):
I think I just have like inherent curiosity and playfulness
and a lot of the stuff I'd like to do
or like do with people. I love is to get
in the car and go and just find a strange
small town with a corny art gallery and a bad
candy shop and just you know, delight in the odd
detail out in the world. I think, like what I
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love in a partner that I'm really close to is
how I see the world through them and vice versa,
and how that enriches us both. And I think like
just going on a tour that say it's our curiosity
and following that energy.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
James, I love your heart. Thank you, Thank you for
your time. I appreciate it.
Speaker 7 (31:30):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Yeah, thank you so much for that. James. Shall we
bring the Leo? Yeah, all right, Leo Calony, welcome to
Ahlitas Salita grunda fescdo take it away with Leo.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
How are you, my love?
Speaker 5 (31:47):
I'm good?
Speaker 4 (31:47):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (31:48):
I am doing great? Meeting amazing human beings like you,
so tell me a little bit about what love has
been like for you.
Speaker 5 (31:56):
To be honest, love has been pretty rocky for me,
which is why I started working with the Dating Coach
at the beginning of this year. I was realizing that
I was leading my dating life with chemistry rather than
with compatibility and relationships life style values. Maybe you might
know a little bit about that given how many times
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you've been married.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
To So absolutely I know one thousand percent about that.
So we move on from that and we learn, So
what are the biggest things you do want in a
relationship because you've learned about it.
Speaker 5 (32:31):
Something that is very important for me is that we
both feel truly seen as people, as human beings.
Speaker 2 (32:38):
You know.
Speaker 5 (32:38):
I feel like we go through life playing so many roles,
for example, my day job VP of Engineering or adult performer.
But at the end of the day, I just want
to be able to share quiet, small moments with somebody
who can be themselves around me and vice versa.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
Okay, I'm crying because I am.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
The heart is so manding of the things that we want,
and a lot of times there's a little blinders that
go with it. So now that you've taken those blinders off.
What do you tell the main data about what your
life would be like?
Speaker 5 (33:13):
My life would be pretty much the same as it
is now, except with like the cherry on top of
being able to share it with somebody, being able to
make plans in the future together. I want my partner
to feel that they have full freedom to pursue their purpose,
their goals, have their community and their hobbies, and my
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role would be to support them in those goals and
making sure they have a full life. And that's what
I would expect as well from my partner.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Are you an adventurous person?
Speaker 5 (33:44):
Yeah? I am. I like to travel. Part of what
makes my job so exciting is I get to do
different projects and have different challenges day to day. I
love art, so I like going to new art galleries.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
And you are ready to settle down and have one
person in your life?
Speaker 3 (33:59):
Yes, I am all right. Well, thank you so so much, Leo.
You have a beautiful heart. Thank you, thank you, Thank
you to.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
All of you for having these one on one that
you have all gone in and have shown your heart.
You honestly are all phenomenal.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
But look, honesty, really, honesty, don't we have a secret.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
Speaking of honestly, because y'all really we were super vulnerable.
We have kept a little something from y all, telenovela
twist this whole dime. Well, you have been boring your
hearts to a wili since we have had the main
data listening in this whole time. Alita might have an
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idea of who she likes for our main dater. But
before we have the verdict, me and I willed to
have a little one on one, have a little chats
and processing, and then we'll bring him again to share
the verdict.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
We'll be back after the break.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Welcome back today, am I wily the first?
Speaker 2 (35:06):
Oh my goodness, gracious, Wolita. You know, I think that
we have learned a lot more about each of our contestants.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
For sure. I think it's definitely a Leo James battle
at all. Really, I'm leaning Leo.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Leo has a beautiful, beautiful heart. But you have to
admit James opened up a lot.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
James did open up a lot. I don't know, maybe, Fae,
what are your thoughts?
Speaker 2 (35:29):
Talk to us?
Speaker 4 (35:30):
Oh my god, this is under wrecking. But I think
Leo's final response like assumed me, like I've literally said
what they've said verbatim when talking about what I'm looking for,
Like you do you, I'm aa do me and we
can have fun and go on adventures, but like I
want to be supportive, I see you.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
Also, I'm very curious about their background as an adult
content creator because I feel like there's so much exploration
and curiosity about physical pleasure, and they're so much knowledge
from what I'm understanding. I mean, I'm like, oh, yeah,
it seems like you definitely understand a lot of like
wordying and a lot of communication that helps in being
able to feel comfortable in your body and being able
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to feel celebrated and seen by everybody else in that experience.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
What did you think about James opening up?
Speaker 4 (36:20):
I thought it was sweet. I think there was a
lot of words that were used before getting to the point,
which is fine. I know they were processing, but I
think that slow processing also emulated to me that they're
kind of on their way to being a little bit
more whole in themselves and still kind of finding that
groundedness within them. But yeah, I mean, great person.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
It's a bit more cautious things about his responses, a
little bit more does not want to be wrong, and
sometimes there's nothing wrong with just saying it.
Speaker 4 (36:48):
It reminds me a lot of where I'm coming from,
which I think is why I think Leo's so refreshing,
because they're just like, it is what it is.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
You know.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
Well, Fay, let's do this all right, Welcome back, Alita?
Speaker 2 (37:07):
Oh yeah, okay, listen, you are amazing human beings, each
of you. At the end of the show, we do
have to think about our main dater and who is
just a little bit closer to what our main dater
hopes to have in a new partnership. For that reason alone,
the person dating our main data is.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
Leo. Leo. Congratulations. With that said, James and sarn you
both are absolutely delightful. Thank you so much for playing.
Thank you for pouring your hearts and really just being
so genuine and earnest with Alita and myself.
Speaker 2 (37:50):
Thank you, Stay well and happy.
Speaker 3 (37:55):
Alright, alright, alright.
Speaker 2 (37:57):
Are you excited?
Speaker 4 (37:58):
Leo? I'm so excited.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
Remember just be your true is they okay, and enjoy
the ride.
Speaker 1 (38:04):
So without further Ado, Fay, Hello.
Speaker 5 (38:09):
I'm Fay.
Speaker 4 (38:09):
Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too, Leo in.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
Incredible Fay, any first impressions, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
You're like so real, and I just kept repeating like
you're just like, this is who I am and I'm honest,
and you sound really fun and adventurous and you know, expansive.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Yes, Leo, any first impressions.
Speaker 5 (38:30):
On Fay, You're very cute. I love your style. I
like your room. You seem very creative and also organized,
which I really appreciate.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
So yes, yes, all right, So now we're going to
send our contestants away for a little virtual many dates.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
Stay true to yourselves, be real, open up your hearts
and your minds, and stay in touch.
Speaker 4 (38:52):
This is my first time doing something like this, so
I feel a little like nervous and how are you
feeling same?
Speaker 5 (38:57):
Yeah, you know, I'm not really used to dating being monitored,
so it was a good experience and that you know,
I'm adventurous, so are you. So it was it was
cool for the novelty of it and just to have
the experience.
Speaker 3 (39:12):
What do you like to do for fun?
Speaker 4 (39:14):
I feel very like spontaneous these days, like Hella hella
more than usual. So I literally just pook tickets for
my mom and I to go to this string Quarta
performance with candles and flowers. I'm very simple, so I
go to a bookstore, I'm happy. I go to the
meat I'm happy. But I'm trying to, like, you know,
turn out and like experience life a little differently. So yeah,
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I'm very very open to new things. What about you.
Speaker 5 (39:39):
I'm very on when it comes to my work, so
when it comes to my downtime. Also, simple things. I
like a good meal. I like to sunbathe with my dog.
Speaker 4 (39:48):
I have a pug.
Speaker 5 (39:50):
I like to Yeah, lion Hammicks if there's one around,
kick it with friends. Yeah, just the simple things.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (39:57):
Nice.
Speaker 4 (39:57):
I have a puppy too. His name's Cosmo, and he's
so adorable. He's not with me right now, he's getting groomed.
But yeah, my mom's dog lives with us too, so
he's my little brother. His name. They're so cute.
Speaker 5 (40:11):
Cometa and Cosmo.
Speaker 4 (40:13):
What they're both spoke with k K and then so Cosmo.
Speaker 5 (40:21):
Ah, oh cool, I love that so much.
Speaker 4 (40:24):
That's so cute. This is interesting. This is cool. It's
also super cool that you're doing like adult content. When
I heard about that, I was like, Oh, that's amazing.
How is that actually tell me a little bit more?
Speaker 5 (40:36):
Okay, yes, so I spent most of my twenties doing
adult work. I was you name it, like a stripper.
I was a porn performer, but I was doing that
all as a femme presenting person. I realized halfway through
that I'm trans, but you know, because of the nature
of my job, I was like, I don't know how
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often trans dudes get work here, so let me just
write out my fem drag performance until I'm ready to transition.
So I did that for four years, and I always
had an idea of coming back as my true gender.
So now I get to do that. You know, I
work on mostly queer production shoots.
Speaker 4 (41:16):
It's super fun to you. I feel like I'm working
on that, like sexual liberation part I just recently started
my transition, and so I'm going through my second pubertyes
I'm feeling like, oh my god, like I'm you know,
I guess I am ace, but I'm like, there is
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so much more to explore, right Like, there's so much
that my body is just kind of waking up to.
So it was really refreshing to hear like, you know
where you're at in that respect, and yeah, I just
feel inspired and you know, just grateful, like via just
knowing you or like meeting you so.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Well. Wow wow wow. I hope those sweeties hit it off.
Find us back here next week as Lena and I
make some more matches.
Speaker 2 (42:11):
Good work today, Ali, Oh, we did good. I like
what I'm looking at.
Speaker 1 (42:17):
Date Maori. The First is a production from WV Sound
and I Heard Media's Mike Utura podcast network, hosted by
me Vico Ortis joined by the fabulous Lenna Montenegro bit
May Houri. The First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel,
and Sophie Spencer Zavos. Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama,
Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel w V Sound. This episode
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was edited by Sean Tracy and Sophie Spencer Zavos and
features original music by Alvara Morello and gave Lopez special
thanks to our team of cupits at w V Entertainment
Special things. Also to our hopeful romantics this week, Fay, Sarn,
James and Leo. Additional thanks to Salt Online Media. For
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more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. See you
next week, and in the meantime, don't do anything Awalita
wouldn't do.
Speaker 2 (43:12):
Just do it better, Okay, besitos
If you had to define swag or swagger, what would
you say to our listeners are Awalita's definitions of.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
That mainly is that Jones sequa, you know that particular
style groove, just how that person defines themselves in a
way that when they walk into a room, I mean,
they take everyone's breath away.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Do you think I have swag?
Speaker 2 (00:34):
You have total swag? I mean, I know those doors
are locked so nobody busts in. But I'm gonna tell
that is so funny that you would say that. Because
I was thinking to myself, I said, Alita, do you
still have swag?
Speaker 1 (00:45):
I have seen you sprut this studio. I have seen
you stand up next to me and show your swagger.
You definitely have that. I think we're both swaggy people
for sure. I say this because our main data today
has a lot of thoughts on the topic as she
is looking for someone swaggy to flank her. I wonder
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if anyone with that hella swag as they say in
Northern California, is going to come into Aulita's house today
and see if they can win your.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Heart, and that would be so nice.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Welcome listeners, This is Dave Alita First, we our cupid
Awilitalilana plays matchmaker for one hopeful main dater. She'll meet
three lucky contestants before sending one of them off on
a one on one date with our incredible main dater.
I'm your host, the Vico Ortiz, joined by the ever
(01:41):
stunning Auilita.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Ever stunning. Oh my goodness, gracious, love love love love love.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Okay, So who's coming to Alilita's house today?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Our main data this week is Fay. Fay is thirty
and very thoughtful, very funny, and famously defines herself as
a hood so we'll of course be asked the question
answer her later. Absolutely. They is a self employed artist
of varying strokes. We got writing, visual arts and clothing designing.
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She also does coaching and reiki. Oh Fay loves hood
and swag energy, back to that swagger and they want
to find a bobby. Oh what's up to watch her
mommy vibe? Yes please. They are described by close friends
as having Belen Awena main character energy and Faye is
(02:38):
looking for the home and you'll get to explore life
with what. I don't think we'll run out of things
to talk about today. I think we got it going.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Well, that sounds absolutely like a shining start. So we
need to find her somebody really really nice.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Oh yeah, and we will. Let's go ahead. They come
on Ina Salah to join us. Say hello, oh my god,
we are so glad to have you here on day
my Alida first. So we know a bit about your
obviously we were at a little bio, but nothing like
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hearing it from yourself. Tell us what myself and that
need to know about you to find that perfect match.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
Yeah, for sure. So I'm you know, I've always just
been trying to be real perfect and really polished, but
I'm breaking free and just being like my true self.
I've been doing a lot of work with unmasking, and
you know, I feel this fiery energy in me around
like being seen receiving what I know I deserve. It's
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really important for my person to be able to like
keep up and you know, have their own thing going, like,
you know, be independent. You know, I'm trying to not
be the only light, like I really just want to
shine with somebody else.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I want to know a little bit more of what
started that journey of wanting to unmap and what drew
you to just be more honest with yourself and also
wanting other people in your life that are in that
same wavelength so they can see you and celebrate you
and witness you as who you are and you can
do the same thing for them.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Yeah, So regarding unmasking, like I mentioned, my life is
a telenovela, and so I was in a really crappy
car accident that left me with the concussion, and along
the way of my healing, which took like about a
year and a half, my mom was like, hey, your
behavior is shifting a little bit to how you would
act as a kid. We were undocumented, so we didn't
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have access to insurance and healthcare. She's like, you should
go get checked out. And I was like, checked out?
What do you mean? So she was implying that she
felt like I was probably on the spectrum and maybe
the concussion put down my walls, like literally my threshold
could no longer perform. So like I was putting on
a show of who I thought Fay was. And so
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upon this car accident lo and behind, oh, I'm a
high functional autistic person. And that's where my journey began,
taking off my mask, all of those layers of who
I thought I had to be for my family, for
my friends, in partnerships, et cetera. And I was able
to just get to this like raw space of like
this is who I am, right, Like I don't have
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to keep performing, I don't have to be anything I
don't want to be. And so it's literally changed my life.
I feel like I'm alive for the first time. This
all happened two years ago, and so it's been this
gorgeous unfurling. I feel like a mystery to myself and
it's exciting.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Now, when was your last relationship?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
It's been a minute, a man, and what's a minute?
What's a minute?
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Like four years before the accident.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
How long was that relationship for It was sure.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
I mean we were just dating at the time, and
dating is a concept that's challenging for me. But yeah,
so that was the last main, main relationship. But the
longest relationships I've been in have been like two years,
but that was way way back.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
What are some things that you have learned from those
relationships that you want to be like, no, I want
to continue that, And what are some things that you're like, actually,
I did that that didn't really work for.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Me obviously, Like the unmasking. I know my faults in
not being honest and how that created tensions that were
probably unnecessary. There's no tin, no shade on any of
my exes. I feel very grateful that I was able
to experience them. The good things from those relationships were
the closeness that we experienced, Like there was, like you know,
a lot of intimacy that I think could have conqutized
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into a friendship, which I think was lacking because of
the masking. So I think it's a two way answer,
right where I crave that intimacy and that closeness, and
now I have the tools to be able to build
a friendship with the person that I want to be
with so that we can be real, so that we're
not kind of dictated by these expectations. Like we're in
a relationship now, so this is what I have to do,
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and this is what you need to do. It's like
let's dance, you know what I mean, Like I really
want to dance with somebody.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Well, since you are so adventurous and like so many things,
you're a pretty busy bee. You are doing a lot
of stuff. Do you want your partner to have all
those same attributes? And join in with you. Would you
like them to be different?
Speaker 4 (07:15):
I like difference. I think difference is striking to me.
It stimulates me, and I think that's really important for me.
But I've dated people that are on similar realms as
I am, and I mean I feel equally stimulated. So
I think it's more about that swag, right, or like
the energy of like, oh I can learn from this person,
Like that's really exciting to me.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Well, that swag word has come up one more time again,
and with it comes the hooda what is the hood?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Creatura? You belonged to the hood.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
Yeah, so actually the title of my first full length
poetry collection, and I titled it that because I grew
up in the hood. But I'm such a dork and
I'm such this that has a We's just been this
queer little essence, like, you know, walking up and down
these little tolitos with their long shorts and their high
socks and their slides, and it's just me with my
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bang and like piercings and just you know, being super
emo and tagging on the walls. You know, there was
this beautiful, gorgeous contrast that I wanted to emulate in
my experiences growing up and documented growing up queer in
Inglewood specifically, And so I think this title is just
the perfect combination.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Did I just hear you say Inglewood?
Speaker 4 (08:32):
The three one oh? Look at my necklace?
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Oh yeah, I'm a three one oh girl too. So
that must have been tough, and your poetry got you
right out of it.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
Yeah. Literally, it was my saving grace and it was
my way of also commemorating the city that built me,
you know, like I wouldn't be who I am without Inglewood.
So there's always so much gratitude for black folks to
other immigrant folks who I grew up with, you know,
not just Mexican immigrants, but like from all over.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
We are all over exactly.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
It's my little love letter.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
We know.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
We talked about navigating dating from the lens of unmasking
when it comes to our mental health, and the things
have shifted right As a fellow you know, trans, non binary, dender,
expansive person, my transness has also been a big influence
in how I have been able to access what my
needs are and what my wants are, both for myself
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and in relationship. And I want to learn more about
how that has been for you.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
So I started hormones last year and I feel amazing,
thank you, thank you. So I feel great. I just
recently started t blockers, so my body is changing, shifting, adapting,
and I feel more embodied than ever before. Literally, I
feel like I see the world and color and it's phenomenal. So,
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you know, my autism and my transness and being in
this conjunct experience of unmasking and unfurling has been, oh
my god, a gift from the universe. And so I
think in the context of relationships, right, like you know,
I'm talking about the hood and the swagger, and that's
also like, in a way, like a normative experience, right,
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and I'm not existing in that. And so I think
what I look for or what I hope to just
be able to connect with folks around is like being
able to hold multitudes. Like, you know, a lot of
men who I know wanted me, you know, but couldn't
do it was because their perception of me was like, oh,
you're not a woman, you're not enough, you're not this.
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And you know, I'm just always looking for brave souls
who are willing to just say like nah, love comes first,
like whatever it is that you look like whether you
look like how I look right now.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Or which is gorgeous?
Speaker 2 (10:46):
High you.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Serving some looks, just saying love the haircut?
Speaker 4 (10:52):
Yeah, guessing me up too much?
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Well, thank you so much, Fay. We are so excited
to find you a wonderful human being to shine alongside you.
With that said, let's go ahead and meet these contestants.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, Malani.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
The first Welcome.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Welcome contestant, all on my lovely, lovely contestants. I'm thrilled
to meet you all and let's have some fun.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Huh yes, absolutely, thank you for joining us today. Let's
start with James Zach. James is described as funny ones.
They defrost and there is incredibly solid calm and won't
activate your nervous system. I need you in my life, Jeames,
I activate my own nervous system.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Amen to that.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
They believe in making connections that fit the shape of
the container. I'm very curious about how that looks like,
and are interested in dating someone who understands the mind
body connection and has a good sense of humor. Hells Yas.
They're based in the Bay Area, but whenever they go
out to do karaoke for a friend's birthday, they'll pull
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out a little country music and tribute up their home
state of Montana. We are so happy to have you, James.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Welcome James.
Speaker 6 (12:17):
Yeah good, thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Very nice having you.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Who's our next wonderful contestant?
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Our next wonderful special contestant is Saran. Saran is a
multi media artist which includes writing and photography, and they
are currently putting finishing touches on a short film script,
Hellsia and a multi media book project, Gosh Yes. They
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are passionate about reading hot and also love to sit
atop a big mountain and be in nature.
Speaker 7 (12:50):
Mmmm.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
That sounds so lovely. They grew up in d C
and because their parents separate it when they were young,
they learned from an early age that love is not enough.
I align with that. I don't. They want to know
what's the vibe, what's the material reality, and how does
it overlap with someone? Hell's the app I mean you
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are filled with wisdom, Surna. I'm very excited to get
to know you. Yes, and finally meet Leo. Leo is
a self professed You're gonna love this. I would eat
that grandma's boy wow.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
His grandma lives in the Philippines and he wants to
get her blessing about any long term partner, so I
would eat that some tough competition. Yeah, Leo is attracted
to folks with what he would say is just enough softness,
just enough cowboy and also boss bitch fems I mean yes.
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He works in an astrology app company, very intrigued so
knows enough to point to his mars libra as why
he loves to pine and long. He is also an
adult performance content maker.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
I want to know about that, I want to know
about that. I want to know about me too.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
And has a podcast where he interviews other Cuiti bipod.
We love to hear that. Absolutely say hello Leo and nice.
Speaker 4 (14:25):
To meet you.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Nice meeting you all, contestants. We're very excited to have
you here today and we're looking forward to seeing how
you do in these games and to see if one
of you could be a match for our main dater.
Is that exciting? Show me some excitement.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Now, I'm very very excited to start with our first game.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Choey. Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
All right, contestants. So for our first game, we want
to see how perceptive you are without having a lot
of information. This is a Wilita testing your intuition. And
while we believe in clarity and communication on date my
Alaia First, especially on this episode, we still choose to
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play with them with this game called assumptions. What we're
gonna ask you is to make an assumption of another contestant. So,
for example, I can make an assumption about Akalita.
Speaker 8 (15:30):
It me you love animals, and then Awalita would tell
me if I read her for filth or if I
got her totally wrong.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Well, I was married five times, so yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Do, so you do.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
I love that my assumption was pretty grated and you
just like took it to a whole other live. This
is also gonna help Awalita know how you interact with
each other and all that jazz, so you know, have fun,
be yourselves.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
Oh let's go the first Yeah, go for it.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Who do you want to start?
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Sarn? Can you make an assumption about Leo?
Speaker 7 (16:09):
Yes, I am going that Leo has just moved into
their place recently given back the art on the walls.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
You're right, very right, I love it.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Leo.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Make an assumption about James.
Speaker 5 (16:26):
Given your virtual background, I feel like you've definitely watched
Broke Back Mountain.
Speaker 6 (16:33):
Among many other great cowboy classics. But of course, yes, yes,
it kind of looks like they're kissing, doesn't it.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Oh yeah, James, background on this zoom call is a
beautiful icy mountain with two cowboys wearing hats right in
front of it, two thick mustachios, and they are so
close to touching lips. It's giving yearning.
Speaker 6 (16:55):
Yeah, the tens is palpable.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
James make an assumption about Saram.
Speaker 6 (17:00):
I mean, the easy thing is the lush plants in
the background. And then I'm also drawn to your clothing.
There's like a really like homegrown artistical approach to you overall.
Do you make your own clothes at all? You tailor anything?
Is there is that part of your life?
Speaker 7 (17:15):
I do not make my uncles. It is one of
the many hobbies I would.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
Like to start.
Speaker 7 (17:22):
But I did get you back from Vietnam where I
got close custom made.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Oh my gosh, okay, we gon story.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
How long were you there?
Speaker 7 (17:30):
I was on Vieta for two weeks.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
You like shopping up? We need to go shop Instagram.
Speaker 7 (17:35):
I will never tell you not to buy it.
Speaker 4 (17:36):
And that's ugly.
Speaker 7 (17:37):
If it's cute, I will tell you to buy it.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Alrighty, then well that's that first round. Now I want
all of y'all to make assumptions on a Wailita. Why
not make an assumption on Awelita first?
Speaker 7 (17:50):
Given as you said, she's been made five times, I'm
gonna assume she loves to have a good time.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
That's an amen. That's an amen. Absolutely, You're so right, James.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Make an assumption Aharita.
Speaker 6 (18:02):
You love to be sort of like the life of
a conversation. And I get that impression. You're just a
really sociable, fun happy person. I'm not just buttering you up.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
Thank you, James. I like that. And yes, I will
continue to be the life of the party and the
conversation until the day I die. That's a life commitment.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I love that. Okay, you are nailing it, Leo last,
but not Les. What's your assumption on a Wilita?
Speaker 5 (18:29):
All right? Well, I see that on your desk you
kind of have it disarray. There's maybe crumpled up tissue paper.
I see like paperwork everywhere. Their glasses are pretty quirky,
So you're giving me very artistic cookie vibes. I can
see you like in an art studio in the dark,
either painting away or writing a manuscript. I just see
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you as someone who's super fashionable and artistic.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Can I take them all home? That's what I wanted
to do main day to who No, thank you so much. Well,
I am an actor in a stand up comic and yeah,
I love anything that is beauty and creativity, So thank
you all for being so kind to me. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Right, So it's time to play another game before we
sadly have to let one of you go. So let's
do that next one.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Okay, So here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
Our main data today has been described by friends as
having the Lenovela main character energy, so yeah, very Importantante.
So for our second game, we're gonna throw out some
wild Lenovela situations at you and you will give us
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your swaggiest response, show off that swag. But Alita still
wants to make sure that you would behave well for
our main dater.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Bring it.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
It's about that balance, the balance. So let's your partner
had a clone evil twin very classic because of course
they do, and you didn't know about the clone, so
you have been accidentally sleeping with your partner's evil identical
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twin sibling. What do you do when you get confronted?
Speaker 2 (20:23):
How about you, Leo?
Speaker 1 (20:25):
What would you do? What's your swag? You response to this?
Speaker 5 (20:27):
Maybe you know I only have eyes for you. I
never took off their clones, so I couldn't see that
they didn't have the birthmark that only you have. But
truly I only have eyes for you.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Okay, okay, and in character, thank you.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
With y'all, thank you so much. Okay, Now, James, what
would you do?
Speaker 6 (20:46):
Your whole person may be duplicated, but our love cannot be.
Please forgive me and go on a big, you know,
reparations tour.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
I'm gonna use the hashtag reparations tour. Very nice. Yeah,
what's your swagger response to this wild scenario?
Speaker 7 (21:06):
I'm so sorry I should have done because you always
take sweeter.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Sweeter, oh my god, and it's like compliment and then
throwing shade on the evil twin. I'm obsessed.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
Okay, let's move on to our next telenove La scenario.
Imagine that you're sweetie is planning a huge party for
your birthday. It's slavish, it's fancy, all the things they
love but you hate. You've agreed to it because you
know it'll make them happy, and you like making them happy.
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Now it's the day of the party. But oh no,
on top of the party being so over the top,
you arrive early only to find out that to steer
some shit up, you're sweetie has invited all of your exes,
and I mean all of them, even the ones you
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never talked to anymore, All of your exes, James, what
are you going to do?
Speaker 6 (22:07):
My swaggy response would be like, uh, thank you, because
I don't know. I have nothing. There's nothing to hide there.
I have really good relationships with all of them. My
best friend is my ex and move through some repair
there and like transform the shape of it. And I
don't know. I think it'd be a fucking blast. Three friends.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
That's good for you, good for you? Well, I feel
mine would be in confidence. You know, I don't want
to bring them up.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
You need a hashtag resurrection tour.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
S N.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
What's your swaggy response.
Speaker 7 (22:42):
I'd walk in, I'd take off my sunglasses and I'd say,
is this my birthday or the rechext convention?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Oh my god, that is incredible. There are excess for
a reason, right, So Leo, what's going on?
Speaker 1 (22:58):
All right?
Speaker 5 (22:59):
Well, I very much appreciate transparency and also gratitude, so
I would start by saying, baby, this party is fucking amazing,
thank you so much. Also, why did you bring my
exes here? If you wanted spicy hot sex leader, we
could have just role played this.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
So oh, oh, my goodness, this is great, this is wonderful.
I have one more wild situation, so are you ready
for this? In this scenario, it's your one year anniversary
with you and your partner, and they have some big
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news to drop, and you've been waiting for this day
because you know they are the one. So at your
anniversary dinner, no big life changing question is pomped alas,
but you do learn something life changing. Your partner has
been hiding a secret bibet from you. How would you
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come back from such a monumental secret? Sarn, take us away?
Speaker 7 (24:06):
Maybe if we're at my one year anniversary dinner and
they revealed to me that they have a whole baby,
and the younger the baby, the more evils on me.
Added to that, chap, Okay, my goodness, James, how do
you come back from the secret baby?
Speaker 6 (24:29):
How could you do this to me? Literally? I want
to understand like the day to day, like how are
you raising a child? Like what we spend all our
time to I would literally want to know just like
what their schedule is, Like I'm actually kind of impressed,
first of all, the second of all, you know, just
get to the emotional truth of it, because if they
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can't share that with me, and what else can't they
share with me? Maybe we got some work to do
and we can't get out over a couple episodes, and
will they won't they get together again over a couple
of ultimately end up falling back in love and right
away to the sunset, this is amazing.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
You just like wrote a whole series.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
And on that note, we're going to Lei leil jellous.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
Well.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
To be honest, I would probably just start crying and
not say anything for a while, just straight up crying,
and they wouldn't know if I'm crying out of joy anger,
And after some time I would probably say, so you
kept this baby from me so I would fall in
love with you more slowly?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Right, Oh dang, dang keeping a secret for that long,
It's like you're trying to manipulate the outcome. Here, what's
going on? Wow? These were some fantastic responses. I would
watch all these spinoffs. I am so here for this.
So we played the games and we just could not
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get enough of all of you. So you want all
of you for the next round, which is going to
be a lot more intimate. Boy. So here's the deal
with the next round. Each of you is going to
have a one on one where she will ask you
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some more direct questions in which you can, you know,
go ahead and answer however you feel safe and comfortable with.
This is gonna help us see if at the end
of the day you align with our main dat. Let's
go ahead and start with staron. So, Saran, I'm gonna
go ahead and hand you over to a Wilita for
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a nice dive into the deepness of our soul.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
Ta get away.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
How are you, my love?
Speaker 7 (26:46):
I'm doing well, beautiful here.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
Oh there I go clean eggs. Talk to me about
your love life.
Speaker 7 (26:53):
My love life is basically non existence. I have someone
for whom work is very important. For me, life is
very important to me, and so for me, a relationship
is like the joy of life. It doesn't make life
joyful so for me, like I'm about having a good time, living, loving.
If I find a partner that comes to match that energy, great,
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But for me, like being in a relationship is not
going to be everything. For me, I think actually happy
alone first. So I've been focusing on me, looking forward
to relationship, looking forward to finding someone to honor my energy,
and I love, I just haven't found the right person yet.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
How long was your last relationship?
Speaker 7 (27:34):
I have been in that ship for forever.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
Oh you've never been on one? Just dating then all
the way through?
Speaker 7 (27:40):
I mean, yeah, exactly, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
And what are your biggest red flags something that you
do not want to bring into your relationship?
Speaker 7 (27:46):
I would say my biggest red flag is that I
feel like I'm always right, and so if there's an
argument and it's between being right and being connected, I
will most often choose being right.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
Definitely do work on good. And what is your biggest
green flag?
Speaker 7 (28:03):
I would say my biggest green flag is that I'm
very perceptive, Like I want to be able to like
preempt your need, preempt what you want or desire. So
I will try to listen to my partners, listen to
what they want, and you know, if they save the
likes of something, you know, then I'm make sure to
bake them that dessert. When they, you know, feel sad
or if they say something reminds them of something, then
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I'll like save that song and I'll play it for
them at very moment.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
You know.
Speaker 7 (28:29):
It's just about you know, the little things.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
So see, you're not always right. You do like to compromise,
so that's a beautiful thing. Thank you so much for
your time. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Thank you so much, Sean. Let's bring the next week
them into the one woice. Yeah, we're bringing this voice because.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
We want James needs to go meet.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
We want James to bring his his banano, you know
their energy.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
Come in.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Helloji, I am handling you over for a lit looka fish.
Take it away.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
How are you, James?
Speaker 4 (29:09):
I'm good. I'm having a blast.
Speaker 6 (29:11):
I'm also terrified and shaking in my boots not cowboy boots.
To keep it on Thame.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Yeah, your love life? What has that been about?
Speaker 6 (29:18):
My love life has just been a series of one
to three year relationships over the course of my twenties,
and then my last one was a two year thing
that ended kind of still fresh out of that.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
What is fresh about it in your mind still.
Speaker 6 (29:33):
I think just what I took away from it, which was, well,
the difference between like a romance and love that is
the result of like a nervous system roller coaster that
you get from just meeting someone new and feeling seen
and cared for, and the love that rises from like
mutual respect and trust and safety, which is very very
slow burned, but I think more longstanding and seaworthy.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Let me ask you, was this like a little pattern
that maybe you finally know notice since your relationships and
the bass had been again two three years and then
moving on to the next.
Speaker 6 (30:05):
Oh for sure. I've been spending most of my adult
life trying to find out where to be, where to
plant roots, and a lot of those relationships kind of
like happened as soon as I got somewhere, I would
just find somebody pin my whole like safety net reciprocal
well being on like a single person, which is just
too much for them and not safe for me. And
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since planting myself back in the Bay Area, I have
learned as a result of this last relationship, having that
social safety net your friends as a foundation is vital
and necessary for me to even want to think about
falling in love with anybody.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Yeah, now, James, and if the main data was sitting
right next to me, what would you say to them?
Speaker 3 (30:49):
One beautiful thing to look forward to with you?
Speaker 6 (30:52):
I think I just have like inherent curiosity and playfulness
and a lot of the stuff I'd like to do
or like do with people. I love is to get
in the car and go and just find a strange
small town with a corny art gallery and a bad
candy shop and just you know, delight in the odd
detail out in the world. I think, like what I
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love in a partner that I'm really close to is
how I see the world through them and vice versa,
and how that enriches us both. And I think like
just going on a tour that say it's our curiosity
and following that energy.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
James, I love your heart. Thank you, Thank you for
your time. I appreciate it.
Speaker 7 (31:30):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Yeah, thank you so much for that. James. Shall we
bring the Leo? Yeah, all right, Leo Calony, welcome to
Ahlitas Salita grunda fescdo take it away with Leo.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
How are you, my love?
Speaker 5 (31:47):
I'm good?
Speaker 4 (31:47):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (31:48):
I am doing great? Meeting amazing human beings like you,
so tell me a little bit about what love has
been like for you.
Speaker 5 (31:56):
To be honest, love has been pretty rocky for me,
which is why I started working with the Dating Coach
at the beginning of this year. I was realizing that
I was leading my dating life with chemistry rather than
with compatibility and relationships life style values. Maybe you might
know a little bit about that given how many times
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you've been married.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
To So absolutely I know one thousand percent about that.
So we move on from that and we learn, So
what are the biggest things you do want in a
relationship because you've learned about it.
Speaker 5 (32:31):
Something that is very important for me is that we
both feel truly seen as people, as human beings.
Speaker 2 (32:38):
You know.
Speaker 5 (32:38):
I feel like we go through life playing so many roles,
for example, my day job VP of Engineering or adult performer.
But at the end of the day, I just want
to be able to share quiet, small moments with somebody
who can be themselves around me and vice versa.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
Okay, I'm crying because I am.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
The heart is so manding of the things that we want,
and a lot of times there's a little blinders that
go with it. So now that you've taken those blinders off.
What do you tell the main data about what your
life would be like?
Speaker 5 (33:13):
My life would be pretty much the same as it
is now, except with like the cherry on top of
being able to share it with somebody, being able to
make plans in the future together. I want my partner
to feel that they have full freedom to pursue their purpose,
their goals, have their community and their hobbies, and my
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role would be to support them in those goals and
making sure they have a full life. And that's what
I would expect as well from my partner.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Are you an adventurous person?
Speaker 5 (33:44):
Yeah? I am. I like to travel. Part of what
makes my job so exciting is I get to do
different projects and have different challenges day to day. I
love art, so I like going to new art galleries.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
And you are ready to settle down and have one
person in your life?
Speaker 3 (33:59):
Yes, I am all right. Well, thank you so so much, Leo.
You have a beautiful heart. Thank you, thank you, Thank
you to.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
All of you for having these one on one that
you have all gone in and have shown your heart.
You honestly are all phenomenal.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
But look, honesty, really, honesty, don't we have a secret.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
Speaking of honestly, because y'all really we were super vulnerable.
We have kept a little something from y all, telenovela
twist this whole dime. Well, you have been boring your
hearts to a wili since we have had the main
data listening in this whole time. Alita might have an
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idea of who she likes for our main dater. But
before we have the verdict, me and I willed to
have a little one on one, have a little chats
and processing, and then we'll bring him again to share
the verdict.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
We'll be back after the break.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Welcome back today, am I wily the first?
Speaker 2 (35:06):
Oh my goodness, gracious, Wolita. You know, I think that
we have learned a lot more about each of our contestants.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
For sure. I think it's definitely a Leo James battle
at all. Really, I'm leaning Leo.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Leo has a beautiful, beautiful heart. But you have to
admit James opened up a lot.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
James did open up a lot. I don't know, maybe, Fae,
what are your thoughts?
Speaker 2 (35:29):
Talk to us?
Speaker 4 (35:30):
Oh my god, this is under wrecking. But I think
Leo's final response like assumed me, like I've literally said
what they've said verbatim when talking about what I'm looking for,
Like you do you, I'm aa do me and we
can have fun and go on adventures, but like I
want to be supportive, I see you.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
Also, I'm very curious about their background as an adult
content creator because I feel like there's so much exploration
and curiosity about physical pleasure, and they're so much knowledge
from what I'm understanding. I mean, I'm like, oh, yeah,
it seems like you definitely understand a lot of like
wordying and a lot of communication that helps in being
able to feel comfortable in your body and being able
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to feel celebrated and seen by everybody else in that experience.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
What did you think about James opening up?
Speaker 4 (36:20):
I thought it was sweet. I think there was a
lot of words that were used before getting to the point,
which is fine. I know they were processing, but I
think that slow processing also emulated to me that they're
kind of on their way to being a little bit
more whole in themselves and still kind of finding that
groundedness within them. But yeah, I mean, great person.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
It's a bit more cautious things about his responses, a
little bit more does not want to be wrong, and
sometimes there's nothing wrong with just saying it.
Speaker 4 (36:48):
It reminds me a lot of where I'm coming from,
which I think is why I think Leo's so refreshing,
because they're just like, it is what it is.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
You know.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
Well, Fay, let's do this all right, Welcome back, Alita?
Speaker 2 (37:07):
Oh yeah, okay, listen, you are amazing human beings, each
of you. At the end of the show, we do
have to think about our main dater and who is
just a little bit closer to what our main dater
hopes to have in a new partnership. For that reason alone,
the person dating our main data is.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
Leo. Leo. Congratulations. With that said, James and sarn you
both are absolutely delightful. Thank you so much for playing.
Thank you for pouring your hearts and really just being
so genuine and earnest with Alita and myself.
Speaker 2 (37:50):
Thank you, Stay well and happy.
Speaker 3 (37:55):
Alright, alright, alright.
Speaker 2 (37:57):
Are you excited?
Speaker 4 (37:58):
Leo? I'm so excited.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
Remember just be your true is they okay, and enjoy
the ride.
Speaker 1 (38:04):
So without further Ado, Fay, Hello.
Speaker 5 (38:09):
I'm Fay.
Speaker 4 (38:09):
Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too, Leo in.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
Incredible Fay, any first impressions, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
You're like so real, and I just kept repeating like
you're just like, this is who I am and I'm honest,
and you sound really fun and adventurous and you know, expansive.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Yes, Leo, any first impressions.
Speaker 5 (38:30):
On Fay, You're very cute. I love your style. I
like your room. You seem very creative and also organized,
which I really appreciate.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
So yes, yes, all right, So now we're going to
send our contestants away for a little virtual many dates.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
Stay true to yourselves, be real, open up your hearts
and your minds, and stay in touch.
Speaker 4 (38:52):
This is my first time doing something like this, so
I feel a little like nervous and how are you
feeling same?
Speaker 5 (38:57):
Yeah, you know, I'm not really used to dating being monitored,
so it was a good experience and that you know,
I'm adventurous, so are you. So it was it was
cool for the novelty of it and just to have
the experience.
Speaker 3 (39:12):
What do you like to do for fun?
Speaker 4 (39:14):
I feel very like spontaneous these days, like Hella hella
more than usual. So I literally just pook tickets for
my mom and I to go to this string Quarta
performance with candles and flowers. I'm very simple, so I
go to a bookstore, I'm happy. I go to the
meat I'm happy. But I'm trying to, like, you know,
turn out and like experience life a little differently. So yeah,
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I'm very very open to new things. What about you.
Speaker 5 (39:39):
I'm very on when it comes to my work, so
when it comes to my downtime. Also, simple things. I
like a good meal. I like to sunbathe with my dog.
Speaker 4 (39:48):
I have a pug.
Speaker 5 (39:50):
I like to Yeah, lion Hammicks if there's one around,
kick it with friends. Yeah, just the simple things.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (39:57):
Nice.
Speaker 4 (39:57):
I have a puppy too. His name's Cosmo, and he's
so adorable. He's not with me right now, he's getting groomed.
But yeah, my mom's dog lives with us too, so
he's my little brother. His name. They're so cute.
Speaker 5 (40:11):
Cometa and Cosmo.
Speaker 4 (40:13):
What they're both spoke with k K and then so Cosmo.
Speaker 5 (40:21):
Ah, oh cool, I love that so much.
Speaker 4 (40:24):
That's so cute. This is interesting. This is cool. It's
also super cool that you're doing like adult content. When
I heard about that, I was like, Oh, that's amazing.
How is that actually tell me a little bit more?
Speaker 5 (40:36):
Okay, yes, so I spent most of my twenties doing
adult work. I was you name it, like a stripper.
I was a porn performer, but I was doing that
all as a femme presenting person. I realized halfway through
that I'm trans, but you know, because of the nature
of my job, I was like, I don't know how
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often trans dudes get work here, so let me just
write out my fem drag performance until I'm ready to transition.
So I did that for four years, and I always
had an idea of coming back as my true gender.
So now I get to do that. You know, I
work on mostly queer production shoots.
Speaker 4 (41:16):
It's super fun to you. I feel like I'm working
on that, like sexual liberation part I just recently started
my transition, and so I'm going through my second pubertyes
I'm feeling like, oh my god, like I'm you know,
I guess I am ace, but I'm like, there is
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so much more to explore, right Like, there's so much
that my body is just kind of waking up to.
So it was really refreshing to hear like, you know
where you're at in that respect, and yeah, I just
feel inspired and you know, just grateful, like via just
knowing you or like meeting you so.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Well. Wow wow wow. I hope those sweeties hit it off.
Find us back here next week as Lena and I
make some more matches.
Speaker 2 (42:11):
Good work today, Ali, Oh, we did good. I like
what I'm looking at.
Speaker 1 (42:17):
Date Maori. The First is a production from WV Sound
and I Heard Media's Mike Utura podcast network, hosted by
me Vico Ortis joined by the fabulous Lenna Montenegro bit
May Houri. The First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel,
and Sophie Spencer Zavos. Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama,
Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel w V Sound. This episode
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was edited by Sean Tracy and Sophie Spencer Zavos and
features original music by Alvara Morello and gave Lopez special
thanks to our team of cupits at w V Entertainment
Special things. Also to our hopeful romantics this week, Fay, Sarn,
James and Leo. Additional thanks to Salt Online Media. For
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more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. See you
next week, and in the meantime, don't do anything Awalita
wouldn't do.
Speaker 2 (43:12):
Just do it better, Okay, besitos
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