December 18, 2025 • 53 mins
Amanda Seyfried (The Housemaid, The Testament of Ann Lee) joins Chelsea to talk about auditioning for Wicked, mucking stalls on her farm in the Catskills, and why she’ll never do a stage play again. Then: A wedding in Bali threatens to go off the rails when an evil stepmother needs to be disinvited.
And a florist falls in love with an Ecuadorian rose merchant and wrestles with following her head or her heart.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I just announced all my tour dates. It's called the
High and Mighty Tour. I'm coming to Washington, d c Norfolk, Virginia, Madison, Wisconsin, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Detroit, Michigan, Cleveland, Columbus,
and Cincinnati, Ohio, Denver, Colorado, Portland, Maine, Providence, Rhode Island, Springfield, Massachusetts, Chicago,
of Course, Indianapolis, Indiana, Louisville, Kentucky, Albuquerque, Masa, Arizona, Kansas City, Missouri,
(00:27):
Saint Louis, Missouri, Minneapolis, Minnesota, Nashville, Tennessee, Charlotte, North Carolina, Durham,
North of Carolina, Saratoga, California, Monterey, California, Modeesto, California, and
port Chester, New York, Boston, Massachusetts, Portland, Oregon, and Seattle, Washington.
(00:48):
I will be touring from February through June, So go
get your tickets now. If you want to come see
me perform, I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Hi, Catherine, Hi, Chelsea.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Is it still raining and Whistler.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Well, it's raining in the valley. It snowed.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I got up at midnight because Doug woke me up
because he had diarrhea, so he woke me up at midnight,
I went out took him.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
It was a winter wonderland. There was snow everywhere.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I was like, oh my god, and it was so beautiful.
And then I woke up this morning and it was raining.
I've really this climate change is now. It's the situation
of like the valley and then like mid mountain. You
have to see where the freezing level is.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
So have you been able to ski it all yet?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Or no, Yeah, I skied, I've skied. I've skied.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
I've got When you go up top, it's fine, but
it's just kind of hard to get on the mountain
in the rain and then go all the way up
and then you're like, oh, it's snow so but you know,
I just have to stay focused.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
So what are you doing in this last couple of
weeks of the year. Are you chilling? Are people visiting?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
People are visiting? People? Are My niece and her boyfriend
arrive tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I have another friend coming from that I met on
my cruise to Antarctica. That's the new pronunciation of Antarctica.
I was forgetting the second t or the first one.
And then yeah, I have some people coming, And then oh,
I've been watching all the movies. I have my link
for my Critics Choice because I'm hosting the Critics' Choice
Awards on January fourth, So I have to get all
(02:08):
of those movies in my brain to come up with
my jokes and monologue and la la la. I mean,
I have writers that are also working on it, so
hopefully they're working harder than I. Hopefully they're watching those movies.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Now.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
Okay, I don't know if you're allowed to say, but
do you have any favorites so far?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Well? I watched Hamnet yesterday, which made me balla.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
I really want to watch it. I'm very I.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Mean, I love that.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
I love crying like a baby on my couch alone
with Doug and then Doug comes over to console me.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
It's really cute.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, Hamnet was beautiful, Jay Kelly, I just started.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
I have to watch that. Adam Sandler is so good
when he's like.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Acting acting, and I don't know, yeah, I've seen so
many that it's really Oh yeah, Train Dreams with is
really good with Joel Edgerton and what's that actually Edgerton?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Is it? Edgerton?
Speaker 3 (02:52):
I think it's I think it's your brain though. Okay,
I'm going we'll look at it.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Let's let's make a bet.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Okay, all right, what should we bet? What should we bet?
Speaker 1 (03:03):
If I'm right, you can't sing sing song words anymore?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
You can't go okay, And if you're right, what can't
I do anymore?
Speaker 3 (03:16):
Be mad at me for singing songing?
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Okay, all right, that's fair. Okay, look it up.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Look it up right now, in real time, looking it up.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
Okay, Edgerton or Edgerton, you're gonna be right. And now
I'm like you are going to be right. Okay, it's
coming back to the show our friend Joel Edgerton.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Oh shit, shit, fuck.
Speaker 5 (03:41):
See now you have to love my sing songing. I
do try to rain it in sometimes, but you should.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You should try to rain it in. It doesn't really
match this podcast. Well I guess it doesn't match the
podcaus it doesn't match me. It's like a nice balance, right, hopefully, hopefully.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
I was actually afraid it was going to make your
head explode, Kevin.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
It'd be like holding in a sneeze.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Yeah, exactly. Save it for the bedroom you two. Okay,
saved the singing for the bedrooms, please, Okay. Today was
one of my favorite people We've had so many great
actresses on lately, and this is another one. She's an
Academy Award nominated actress, a Golden Globe winner for her
work in The Dropout, and she has a second Golden
Globe nomination for her new movie, The Testament of Ann Lee.
(04:19):
So please welcome Amanda Seifred.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Welcome.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Amanda Seifred is on the podcast today. She's on Dear Chelsea.
She's coming to us live from her farm. I think
in the Catskills. I want to say, is that right?
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Are you gonna audibly respond or are you just going
to do thumbs up for this interview?
Speaker 3 (04:38):
You know what this is?
Speaker 4 (04:40):
This is zoom culture.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Yeah, well, Amanda, we've been in zoom culture since fucking
twenty twenty. You've had five years to get a head start.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
No, it's because I'm used to it. Last night I
was on an hour long call on mute given you know,
thumbs ups and aoks.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
You know what is nice about zoom culture is sometime
you just pretend that you can't get on so that
you don't have to. Like I've done that before when
I've had like a business zoom I'm like, I can't
make it work. I'm on mute and then I just
can't and then I just click off, and then the
meeting's over without me, I mean the meeting.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
Person that does that. And now I'm going to question
and every.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Time, right right, So we have a lot to celebrate.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Amanda was just nominated for You've been nominated for Golden
Globes before? Right for mam and Mia. You got nominated
and I think you won. Oh whoops, Okay, you were
snubbed that year. So she was nominated this year. We're
gonna she's lip syncing again. She was nominated for It's
called the Testament of Ann Lee and this is a move.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
So congratulations, Amanda.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Why don't you take your flowers for a second, say
thank you.
Speaker 4 (05:48):
Thank you so much, double double time. It's been great.
I did not get a Golden Globe nomination from Mom
and Mia, but that was okay.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Did you get another Golden Globe nomination before?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
I got a nomination and I won for the dropout
and I wasn't there.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Oh wow, that's pretty tricky. Where were you on your farm?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
No, I had to work.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You said that in quotes, like you put quotes up
like you didn't really have to work.
Speaker 6 (06:18):
I totally had to work. It was it was it
would have been impossible. It probably would have been impossible,
but it was it felt like too tricky to get
all the way to LA that.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
The night from working, where were you?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
I was so actually, do I have a workshop of
a musical? And it felt like everybody's schedule had to
align for so long that we finally got them all
to a line in this one week and it just
happened to be that golden glow week, so like it
was the first thing I had won, and then I couldn't.
(06:54):
I didn't get to accept it, which I guess, you know,
maybe that's a blessing.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Well, listen, and I'm aware of your anxiety.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You've talked a lot about your anxiety, and I think
it is a blessing because if you had to get
up on that stage, who knows which way the wind
would have blown, you know what I mean, Because you're
a little bit like you don't know what's.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Going to happen. X factor, man, Yeah, it's.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
An X factor, which I fucking I mean, listen, we
all fucking love it. But probably for your personal well being,
it was better for you to be in a workshop
and that's also very professional that you were able to
say I'm not going to go to the first nomination
I got, then win and then come back to your
group of actors.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
They must have even respected you more after that.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Yeah, okay, well I'll follow up with all of those people,
I think.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
So there was a lot of celebration. Actually, yeah, it
was nice.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
So you were nominated for Critics Choice Award this year.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Just so you know, I'm hosting the Critics Choice, so
I know that I I am definitely going to single
you out and do something funny for you or about you,
because you know how I feel about you, and I
just think that you deserve that.
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Thank you in any way, shape or form. I would
be happy to join you.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Maybe we will do something cute together. That's actually a
great idea. But I am very excited that you got
nominated because, first of all, I just want to be
in total seriousness. This is one of the most talented
people in this industry. She can do fucking anything. She
can do anything, demonstrated by her two movies that are
out right now. I think Housemaid comes out tomorrow and
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the Testament of Ann Lee is going to come out
shortly after so, and these are two completely different movies.
One is about the Quaker movement and this woman let's
talk about the Testament of Ann Lee because this is
I had to watch this movie twice.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
The first time I was stoned.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
We watching it stone This is a enhanced experience.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
It was I didn't understand which religion we were in.
I understood, like, there's a lot of singing and dancing,
which I all hope turns into TikTok dances because they're
in ten and Amanda's an incredible singer. I heard you
sing that Carol King song I don't know on Who's
Late night show recently because you were joney Jony Oh, yeah,
Joni Mitchell, Sorry, not Carol King, No love Joni Mitchell.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Which what was a song called California.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
Yeah, it was like a quick little I know.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
But but you were talking about your voice and your
singing voice and saying that you don't really believe like
I guess you. Uh, what was the movie you auditioned
for that you didn't get where you had to sing?
Speaker 4 (09:30):
You want me to say it out loud? Well, if
you've only I'm kidding, no, no, it's a joke. I'm
over it.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
At Wicked Wicked right, Oh right, so that's even a
double whammy, so all of it.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
But look see, look at this, no exactly.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
It's all happened exactly like I. I truly believe that
it was for the best, for sure, for everyone involved,
because I got to do this too.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
You were talking on this interview that I saw about
your singing voice, and you were saying how how much
you've worked on your singing voice since lay Miss, and
in lay Miss we all thought you fucking nailed it,
and you were saying that you have become a better
singer since then, and that you weren't at the level
or at the place you wanted to be when you
filmed lay Miss.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Do you still agree with that assessment?
Speaker 4 (10:21):
Boy, I agree with that assessment. I also but I
also completely let go of the need to access something
that I might not ever be able to access in
terms of like the control of the vibrato and the
stamina and the breath work. I understand that I'm not
gonna be starring in a musical on Broadway where I
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need the kind of stamina that I that I was
I've been trying to build. I'm I'm you know, my voices,
specifically because I ended up doing something like ann Lee,
where it wasn't about how it sounded, it was about
where it came from. It was about how it was felt,
not just by me but by the audience right, but
by her followers. And it's like I finally stopped listening
(11:04):
to myself in the way that kind of made it
not fun to sing. I mean, I listen. I will
say during my wicked auditions, I sang better than I
thought I would.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
I felt I was.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
I think it came with the excitement, the momentum of
how much I was training for it, and I was
very proud of myself. For sure, that will never go away.
But I also realized maybe I'm just not that kind
of singer and I don't need to sound like anyone else.
It took me four years, but at least I'm here,
and you know when I listen, if I were to
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listen to the songs and lame is, it was exactly
how it needed to be for that time. And ann
Lee came and I was able to be The opportunity
was amazing and it was perfect for where my voice
was in that it's a human voice, not a trained voice.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Yeah, Yeah, I like what you just said.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
That's perfectly sad because you are singing for like your followers,
and you are.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Leading these this group of people.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
And then I love midway through the movie, she gives herself,
she becomes christ, she becomes like the female christ As,
and then uses that as an excuse to stop having
sex with her husband, which I think is really a
tale as old as time.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Yeah, and you know what everybody was like, Oh, for Jesus,
for peace, for communion with God. Sure, listen, I don't
think any of us would announce or you know, eliminate
fornication nowadays, because even though it's tricky, it's still incredibly pleasurable.
(12:49):
But they weren't up for pleasure. They wanted peace, and
it was it made sense to her in her trauma. Yes,
in her trauma woman, you know, losing these children. The
direct you know, the direct line between sex and pain
was too clear for her.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
It had to be painful. Everything had to be painful.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
Yeah, and it makes sense. It made sense for her.
But the fact that, you know, almost six thousand people
at one one point were like, yeah, I can do
that too, right, lose my mind. I would love to
know how many people were hiding.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
And control there was earth control, so you know kind
of there's a giveaway at the end of that.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Yeah, right, right, exactly. So how is this because you
had a female director? So I mean, and there's a
lot of nudity. There's a lot of sex in this movie.
There's a lot of childbirth, child yes, a lot of childbirth,
a lot of like bearing, I mean birthing positions that
I hadn't been familiar with prior to watching them.
Speaker 4 (13:54):
It's it's a lesson for a lot of people that
childbirth is a tramatic for most people. And there's nothing
like a scene in a movie where you can see
it from where it's all happening and necessary, I think necessary.
Do you know, Like apparently this is a rumor. I
(14:16):
don't know if it's for sure, but I believe it
to be true that in Venice fifteen men walked out
after that scene.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Oh I read that. I read that. Oh that's so.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
And I'm like, men, men, these are your babies.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah, you increase your seed, Your seed created this baby exactly.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
The seed is from you.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
I posted this thing on Instagram the other day where
I was like, uh, it was a quote from share
about you know what men, If men knew if men
had to give up and interrupt their career and give
up nine months of their physical life and breast for them, Yeah,
all of the things like that, they would want to
have a say in it. And I posted it and
like credited share and like there's like fifty guys on
(15:02):
there going. You don't think this affects our life too?
Like this is so sexist to say it only impacts women.
It's like, oh, shut up, just shut up.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
You're missing the whole fucking point.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
But how was it working doing all of that, all
those sex scenes, all those birthing scenes, Like how was
it working with a female director versus a male director?
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Was there a big difference for you?
Speaker 4 (15:23):
Well, there's no question with Mona, she and I have lived.
We can relate on things that I can relate to
with men. And that's just a fact. There's a trust,
there's an innate trust in how it's going to be
shot and why it's important. There are no questions at
a certain point when you go on a set, you
(15:43):
have you know, we've got our DP, who's a man
who I've loved and trust and like a family member.
We have these male crew members. But when there's a
woman who's in charge of how it's being shot and
what's being seen and how the story is going to unfold,
it just feels heavier, it feels more empowered, and it
(16:04):
feels more truthful when it especially when it comes to
to that kind of content, to that that kind of
situation and experience. And I'm not saying a mail director
couldn't have done it beautifully. I'm just saying my perspective
and the way I felt in that room, that tiny
little room, I was empowered as well. And I probably
(16:24):
would have been empowered like I worked with Adam mcgoy
and I was super naked in a movie I did
when I was twenty more called Chloe, and I didn't
question much because there was a lot of there's a
lot of discussion around the whole thing. For a while,
it felt, it felt the way it needed that, you know,
we were doing everything right. But I'm just saying, like
(16:45):
with Mona, and I don't know, she's just got a
sensitivity to these things. And I'm not saying you've have
you have to have gone through childbirth to understand it.
They's just just's a sensibility that we have and an
instinct that we have as women that for me, when
I'm working, especially in with that kind of subject matter,
I just feel a little closer to it. I feel
(17:06):
a little bit more, it's read more reachable. I just
feel like I'm being taken care of as well. Long
story short, No, No, I like.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
To hear you talk about it because I'm curious about
what kind of actor you are? You a method actor
because these two projects you're not ny not not because
these two projects are so different, Like Housemaid, I can't
imagine that that's a method acting role, right, that's more
of like camp and like you know, crazy kind of
(17:38):
like thriller, and it's based on all these books. And
then this one is real serious, like you've got to
do your research, research, research, So how do you approach
two different roles like this?
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Like what do you do as an actor?
Speaker 4 (17:50):
The thing about Aileen is that she's a real iconic
person whose story has not been told in really any
rand way that she so deserves, I think, and so
like there's a lot of responsibility because to know everything
I could possibly know about her, and also to learn
(18:11):
everything because there's so much collaboration. Obviously it was like
eighteenth century. We don't know what those dances really look like.
We don't know exactly how she's sang. Like, there's so
many things that we had the freedom to explore and
change and design. So with those designs, I had to
like completely embody the like I had to move. I
(18:31):
don't hate dancing, but I had to learn the choreography.
I had to understand why each move was happening from
a spiritual point of view, from from a necessity point
of view. Because she was so committed and so devoted.
I just had to embody someone in a way that
I haven't before because of because of the nature of
like what treat what she created, and she was only
(18:54):
able to create that because she's so believed that she
was the Messiah. And I just had toll in love
with her, Like like with Elizabeth Holmes, I had to
fall in love with her. I just have to somehow
find it in my you know, find the sisterhood created
which comes from compassion and all that stuff, you know,
human to human stuff, like you know, being able to
(19:14):
relate to the character you're playing. But I also had to,
like I mean, I just had to. There was so
much pre production, so much preparation because there was a
Manchester accent too.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Oh yeah, that was really good.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
Yeah, that was a great hill.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
And is that you narrating the whole film?
Speaker 4 (19:28):
No, that's Thomas and Mackenzie with her accent and she's
from New Zealand.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Oh okay, because I was confused because I was like,
this sounded like you sometimes, and then it was watched
its Stone, I know, and that's why I went back
and I watched you and yeah, but also it's okay,
Like I think the experience you had watching Desmond Manley's
Stone must have been somewhat confusing, but also maybe enlightening
in a different way.
Speaker 4 (19:53):
I think it's wonderful. I actually told my caretaker of
my farm who's not here today, to you know, have
like a shot of rum.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Yeah, for sure, you should have a shot of something, absolutely,
because it's a lot to take in, and it's something
that's so foreign to modern day like you know, what
we believe in, like modern day culture. Like you really
have to get into it. And the good thing about
being stoned is that you kind of just drop judgment
and you're just kind of taking something in.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
That's what I like about it. Sometimes when I'm I
watch a movie and I'm not stoned. I'm like right away, like, oh.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Like you know this is this is not necessary, this
is gratuitous, or this is too much sex, or this
is what I want to.
Speaker 4 (20:32):
Drop, like for watching all these Academy movies.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Yeah, it's it's first of all, some of it's homework,
and I hate things that feel like homework.
Speaker 4 (20:42):
But but I should be stoned. I'm I'm I think
I bought gummies I like CBD, but I haven't taken
them yet because I'm afraid to get stoned because the
times I've been really stone have been people. I'm sure
I've told you some of these stories before. It's bad,
but I think I should do that because when I
was watching another movie the night, I'm like, ugh, why
(21:04):
are they shooting it at that well? Why are we
watching it from this direction? Why do they say that?
Like okay too, Like I'm just judging everything exactly.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
And that's that's that's the best gift that cannabis gives me,
is to drop the judgment.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
I just can be and enjoy something.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
So we need to just find you the right concoction
because I know your personality is a little bit tricky
with drugs and stuff.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
There's like a two point five THHC gummy that has
like a lot more CBD in it as Charlotte's Web.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
It can have a lot more CBD in it because
it's two point five milligrams, so whatever it has to see.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yeah, but it doesn't.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
That's two point It's like that's nothing anyway, So two
point five.
Speaker 4 (21:39):
I'm not a scientist.
Speaker 5 (21:41):
I am.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
I am a scientist. Soy scientist stuff, soy.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Astronauta soy, so askedro Glida. Let's talk about what's happening
on this farm that you live on.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
I love that you live in the cat Skills on
a farm with your two kids and your husband.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
Is it's so night. Tell us about your life and
my mom and your mom. Yeah, she'd right over there.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Hi mom, I.
Speaker 4 (22:05):
Can't hear you because you put maybe put headphones. Else
is here, decrepit sixteen year old dog.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
She's waving, Oh your poor dog.
Speaker 4 (22:16):
I know. And I saw him yesterday. I was on
I was on his zoom and I saw him whip
by so fast from the barn to the house, and
I saw car backing up, and I was like, this
might be the woman no, it might be the woman.
He gets it or falls because of the ice. And
he's an idiot. He's sixteen, and he keeps running, tries
to eat everything. Anyway, The farm's great, it's it's great.
(22:39):
It's great. I'm leaving again right after I talk to you,
and I gotta go to the city and do some
concerts tonight. I don't even want to. I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
Are you singing?
Speaker 4 (22:47):
Singing some some stuff from the a lead?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
And so your mom's there to hold down the fort
while you.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
Go with Tommy. And then although he's in the city
right now, because he also had a life, it's really tricky.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Yeah, where why does he get to have a life?
Speaker 4 (23:03):
No, the no, it's great. It's it's just it was
six degrees when we got up today, and so all
the animals are walking on ice, and when they have
four feet, right, four legs, all of them have four legs,
four wheel drive. It's great. And there are a lot
of them in the barn, and so it's it's we
got a lot of heat lamps up, and I always
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think about fires, and you know, it's it's managing a lot.
And I understand that I chose this life so I
can't whine about it. But it's tricky. I like the
word tricky.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
I do too, I'm cos yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
And it's also you have to keep an eye on
It's not that you're complaining about it. You just have
a lot, a bigger set of responsibilities.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
This morning, I drop the kids off and said goodbye
and cried because I should be getting my period eighty second.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Did they cry?
Speaker 7 (23:52):
No?
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Yeah, I cry.
Speaker 4 (23:55):
And and their classrooms are next to each other. It's
it's a nice life. And and then I got back
and I decided to go with the time. I had
to help the person who's feeding right now and do
the stalls and do the take the horseshit out of
the stalls and put new shavings in the stalls and
do the buckets and stuff. And that is my least
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favorite chore. But I did it because I wanted to
feel productive and like I was being helpful.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Yeah, I get that feeling all that.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
I always feel like what am I really contributing, you know,
other than my personality, because I don't make a ton
of contributions, like I can't do cook.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I mean I'm trying to.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
But last night I tried to take out these sweet
potatoes from the oven, and the pan fell out of
my hands, and then all the sweet potatoes fell into
the crease of the oven.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
So I had nailed it.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
I had made a turkey burger with cheese, grilled onions,
and a poached egg on top. I was like, fuck
me right now, I'm the ruler of all kitchens.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
And then I.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Went to go take out the sweet potatoes as a
nice little accent, and then everything went sideways.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
So I declared victory too early.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
So that's as like sophisticated as I've ever gotten in
the kitchen was last night's turkey burger.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
I don't even know how to poach an egg.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
Oh, oh, well great. I love being one step ahead
of you in the kitchen. Oh you're seventy thousand steps
out of me in the kitchen. I don't know anything.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
Well, it sounds like you know how to farm a
little bit.
Speaker 4 (25:16):
Yeah, but that's not in the kitchen.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
No, but it sounds like you're making a contribution, like, yeah, yes,
you're right.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Can you clean? Like are you good at cleaning up messes?
Speaker 4 (25:25):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Okay, I can't do that either. No I can't. I
just guess you can. I could, I guess, but I
don't ever heard.
Speaker 4 (25:31):
Of a cloroxoide.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
I don't like to just I don't like any sort
of like stain removal. I have to get someone else involved.
Speaker 4 (25:38):
All the Really, if you're all alone and one of
the dogs is two, right, there's one now? Yeah, snack, yeah, snack,
and a snack takes a giant dump on your.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Carpet, Snack will get put down. If he did something
like that, that would make he's.
Speaker 4 (25:51):
Gone up because he's going to get old.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
No, no, no, no, no, no, he's First of all,
he's not going to get old.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I will clone him before that happens. Secondly, he's two
and a half. So don't get ahead of yourself and
project about your sixteen year old dog.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Okay to my two and a half.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
I said, Demanda, picture of snack of dog the other day,
and she goes, that's a snack. What's your dog's name again, Ben?
Oh yeah, yeah, Finn's been around forever. Finn has these
crazy eyes too. Doesn't he have two different color eyes?
Speaker 4 (26:21):
Nope, you're getting that confused with somebody else's dog. M interesting,
But I do have a horse with two different color eyes.
Oh yeah, you're such a farmer. I love it, Amanda.
Tell me why you decided to move to a farm.
You know why not?
Speaker 1 (26:38):
But do you think that it helps I think it
probably helps you when you go away a ton, right,
like for your work and career, it's so nice to
be removed from all of that.
Speaker 4 (26:50):
It's it's that you it's so basic here. It's not
it's not basic like basic meaning nature is bigger than
you here, like you in the mountains, like you're inside
of this giant world and you in some ways you've
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be protected because nature is very powerful. But it's it's
not trying to fuck with you. It's not judging you.
It's not trying to take your job or belittle you
or manipulate you. It's just there. And when all the
noise is gone, there's probably a frequency, a lower frequency
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that you're operating on, which is probably really healthy. And
also like you get to worry about real things. And
I'm not saying that like living in Hollywood or living
in New York City is bad for me. I'm just saying, like,
I mean, take it a chunk of it and really
enjoy myself, you know, getting in an uber and going
from one place in the next and then walking from
one block to the next and getting a Starbucks and
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a day bar bagel and a pedicure, always an hour.
It's dreamy, but it's you know, it's for a good
temporary fix.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
It can be taxing.
Speaker 4 (28:08):
It can be taxing. Yeah, I don't need all that energy.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
I'm with you. I listen.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I spend about forty five days a year max in
Los Angeles because I love to just be out and
about in different places.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
So I can relate to what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Let's as Catherine you said, we have a caller, right,
We're gonna take a quick break. We're gonna be back
with Amanda Seyphred, and we're gonna take a caller because
a man, I think you should be.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Giving advice to people.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
That's the obvious next step, and this is an advice
call in show.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
So we're gonna take a break. We'll be right back.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
And we're back with Amanda Ceiphred and we're taking our
first caller, Amanda.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
Okay, so lock in.
Speaker 5 (28:44):
I'm really excited about this question. So Angela, I'm not
gonna read the subject line because it kind of gives
it away. It's fairy don't great, she says, Dear Chelsea,
I'm a thirty four year old child free woman in
what feels like a full blown real life plot twist.
Two years I left my job and finally chased my dream,
starting my own floral business specializing in senior assisted living centers.
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Since then, I've been piecing a living together with part
time gigs until one of those just ended. And now
it's go big or go broke. But also it's terrifying
but also a little thrilling. Here's where it gets messy.
Seven months ago, at a giant flower conference, I met
a man who owns a rose business in Ecuador. We
spent six hours talking and surprisingly fell into a long
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distance whirlwind romance.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
I love it already.
Speaker 5 (29:32):
I've never been known as a hopeless romantic, but he's
turned out to be my exception. Since then, we've seen
each other about every six weeks Ecuador, Spain, Rome, the
whole Montage. It's dreamy but draining my bank account. And
while he hopes I'll eventually join him in Ecuador, I'm
still trying to keep my business alive. Here do I
double down on my business plan or go full eat
prey love Florist Edition, Sincerely a confused Realist.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
Angela.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Hi Angela.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
First of all, yeh, fucking go for it. First, you
should the look in Amanda's eyes. She's in love. Now
look at her. She's looking at Fault and her husband
the first time they fell in love. We all have
love in our eyes. You have to go for this adventure.
That is my passionate opinion about life. Anytime there's a
time to take a jump, and you've been given some
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proof that that's the right jump, you don't even need
the proof. You just need to trust your instincts and
go for it. What's stopping you?
Speaker 8 (30:25):
Yeah, I mean, I guess, I just I've built my
life here. I live in Buffalo. I'm not from Buffalo,
and I came here eight years ago, and I've like
built my life here, and so it just feels so
I guess, almost wrong to let it go after I
put so much work in to it for a man.
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But then again, it's like like I said, he's kind
of my exception.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
It's so different letting it go. It's still there. I mean,
first of all, Buffalo.
Speaker 8 (30:55):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 4 (30:56):
Again, I get out just very little.
Speaker 8 (31:00):
I lovely too, but it's.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
It's coming from a woman on a farm in the snow.
Is there anyone that can watch your business while your
you go in gallivant around with your guy from Ecuador?
Speaker 8 (31:12):
I mean, not fully yet, just because it's such a
small business. I've been running it pretty much by myself.
But I am going for a month on the nineteenth,
So I'm going to stay there for a month just
to kind of give it a little bit of a
trial run then, I guess, just to see how it
will all work out.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
It's just so, is there anyone in that month that
you can have, like try and run the business for
you while you're gone, just to give someone a test run?
Speaker 8 (31:39):
A woman I haven't like, Yeah, obviously I haven't like
set anyone up to do that yet, So I guess
that would be something that I would I'd probably think
of that doing that before after, like if I go again.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
I know, but just to but to give someone a
trial run would give you a lot more like confidence
in maintaining your business. You go and do this just
in case you need to, Like I understand, giving up
everything that you've built is more of a harder period
to swallow in search of romance. But like if you
go and you go down to Ecuador and live with
this guy, are you guys going to be working together
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down there?
Speaker 7 (32:15):
No?
Speaker 8 (32:15):
I would have to like find probably a remote job
or a job down there where it's English speaking, because
even though dueling go's great, it's just not doing it
for me right now.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Well, you have to be on Are you on a streak?
Are you on to do a lingo streak?
Speaker 9 (32:28):
Oh?
Speaker 8 (32:29):
Yeah, I'm over two hundred days. Like I metam Like,
oh okay.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
Much better than me. What am I talking about, Amanda?
What do you have to say about this?
Speaker 4 (32:39):
Well, listen, yeah, it's no small thing. But I don't
see it as you leave in your life for good forever.
It's not like you have a one way ticket and
you can't come back. It's like you life is so sure,
it's like what are we doing? I mean, if you
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feel something like that, like that you have that kind
of fire in you. This for this experience. It's not
for a guy. It's for the experience of being in
love and like traveling the world. It's it's a big
it's bigger than a guy. So it's like when you
characterize it as leaving your life for a guy, that's
not really what's happening. I mean, I think you trust
yourself in some ways. You're already going for a month.
It's true that you could hire somebody to take care
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of it, or you can shut it down for a
month and see and see how it goes. But I
think you take this opportunity to find someone who's willing
to maybe keep it, keep it alive for you, because
if you also have that connection back to your business
while you're there, as stressful as it could possibly be,
it would still make you feel like you can do both.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
And then you have a little income.
Speaker 4 (33:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
And also when you say yes to life, life says
yes to you. That's just what happens. When you take
big risks, you get big rewards most of the time.
And like you've met this guy, I trust that you're
a sensible person. Just in the short time that you've
been talking, you don't seem unstable or off balance.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
Or in you know.
Speaker 1 (34:02):
And and I loved what Amanda just said. It's bigger
than a guy. It's about being in love and about
the experience of love. It doesn't matter who the person is.
So I think that you really do have to go
down and listen. You're gonna go down for a month
and you're gonna have your answer anyway.
Speaker 8 (34:16):
Yeah, yeah, I would just plan that after I wrote
in So, yeah, I guess that will be a big tell.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (34:24):
There is no better feeling than falling in love. It
is the best feeling.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Yeah, the texting, the flirting, the phone calls. If you're
into phone calls, I'm not, but all of it is
so fun.
Speaker 8 (34:35):
You Yeah, I have to be into phone calls now.
Speaker 1 (34:38):
So yeah, face times that's the yeah what I really
get to me?
Speaker 2 (34:42):
Yeah, time I got.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
I got two face times yesterday. And my new policy
is say yes, answer the call. Answer the call, because
I always just put it to voicemail. I'm like no, no, no,
and I answer both calls. And both of them were
really like great, fun, high vibe, like thirty minute phone calls.
I'm like, I'm glad I did that. I'm going to
to start, you know, doing this more often. It's a
nice way to connect to people.
Speaker 8 (35:04):
Yeah, yeah, I feel better after after the fact.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
Okay, well, go live your life, sister. You're fine, you
don't need us.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
You're gonna have a great time and let us know
what happens after a month and report back to Catherine
so we can stay tuned.
Speaker 8 (35:17):
Okay, yeah, okay, sounds good. Thanks guys.
Speaker 4 (35:20):
All right, and have fun and Ecuador and write about it.
Speaker 8 (35:23):
Yeah right, make sure you're journaling about it, yeah, every day,
Like I'm going to do at least like a couple sentences.
I decided while I'm there, just to kind of keep
track of where my mind's at.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
So yeah, that's a good habit to get into, you know.
All right, thank you, Okay, thanks, take care. Thanks, that's exciting.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
So funny, how I know.
Speaker 5 (35:44):
Sometimes people are like, it's so excited and thrilled for something,
and then they hold themselves back because they're like, do
I really I don't know if it's a deserve this thing,
but it's like should I should?
Speaker 4 (35:53):
I like, yes, you should.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
But people are scared they're gonna because it's like listen,
as a woman, you give up your whole thing, your
business that you built for a man. Like we if
the guy lived here and was like, okay, you have
to I don't want you working, we would say no,
get run as fast as you can away from that guy.
So it is hard as a woman when you've built
something to say like, oh, I'm going to abandon it.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
I understand that.
Speaker 5 (36:15):
I'm glad you encourage her to, like have somebody else
run it while you're while you're gone, so.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
She's got a little give it away.
Speaker 4 (36:21):
Yeah. Also there's airplanes exist, Buffalo will still be there.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
Buffalo to Ecuador, Yeah, I choose it sucks.
Speaker 4 (36:30):
But also can he come here?
Speaker 3 (36:33):
Want to?
Speaker 2 (36:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (36:34):
It doesn't sound like it's a good time for anyone
from Ecuador to be coming here.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
But anyway, Oh, you.
Speaker 4 (36:39):
Know what, sometimes I'm living in the you know.
Speaker 2 (36:47):
In that farm will do it to you. I don't
I don't blame you.
Speaker 3 (36:51):
It's just idelic were well. Our next color is Lindsay.
Speaker 5 (36:55):
She is thirty three, and she says, Dear Chelsea, sorry,
this is long. I I met my fiance Bryden almost
twelve years ago when we were about twenty one, working
at the same restaurant. We quickly started dating. When we
first hooked up, I knew he was a keeper. On
top of that, he's respectful, hilarious, and incredible listener, devoted
to me and lets me know about it every single day.
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I genuinely feel that I found one of the good ones.
We're just now embarking on this new adventure of getting married.
The time is now officially here, and I'm freaking out.
My parents' marriage was rough. My dad, a white American,
moved to Indonesia after college to work as an accountant
for an oil company, where my mom, a native Indonesian,
was a secretary. I think they were happily married for
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some time, but my dad says he had a midlife
crisis in his early forties and had an affair with
a woman nearly half his age. I don't exactly know
when this crisis started, but it's really all I remember
of their marriage. I never witnessed any affection or kindness
between my parents. In the rare times my dad was home,
we all walked on eggshells. He frequently took so called
business trips, which we eventually realized were excuses to spend
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time with his mistress. When he wasn't with her, she
would turn her focus on us, harassing us with relentless
phone calls and public outbursts, causing scenes. Side note, my
mom nicknamed her the Bee since we weren't allowed to curse.
They even had a child together before my parents divorce
was finalized. And these are just some of the many
painful experiences that I can't fully capture in a single email.
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When I was eight, my mom finally saved enough of
her own money to flee to the US and access
the protections and writes granted to her under the American
justice system as the spouse of a US citizen. For
whatever reason, my dad and the Bee are still together
to this day, and my dad frankly seems unhappy, if
not miserable. To put it lightly, the Bee is a
nuisance of family gatherings. She's impulsive, acts in appropriately, and
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gives irrelevant commentary. She's not the most socially adept person
and could possibly suffer from mental health issues, which I
completely understand and can relate to, but there's no indication
she's sought professional help. Despite this, my siblings and I
have done our best to tolerate the discomfort of being
civil towards her for the sake of our family. Yes,
our dad is arguably a POS, but at least my brother, sister,
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and I have an amazing.
Speaker 3 (39:05):
Superhuman mom.
Speaker 5 (39:06):
It's important for me to keep a positive relationship with
my half siblings and offer any guidance or advice if
they ever need it. But this all brings me to
my dilemma. My fiance and I do not want the
Bee at our wedding. So how do we navigate the situation?
Speaker 4 (39:19):
Love?
Speaker 3 (39:19):
Lindsay?
Speaker 1 (39:20):
Oh okay, Hi Lindsay, how are you Hi?
Speaker 2 (39:24):
This is our special guest Amanda Ceipher today.
Speaker 9 (39:27):
Sorry, Hi, nice to see you.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
I'm sorry, that's a really difficult, crappy situation. I'm so
happy that you're getting married though, And just know that,
like you know, our parents don't define us at all.
I couldn't be more opposite than both of my parents.
Sometimes they give you like a roadmap of what not
to do, you know, and so like your marriage will
be completely different than the ones than the one your
parents had, just from the how insightful you are because
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of this.
Speaker 2 (39:53):
Now your half siblings are from the Bee?
Speaker 9 (39:56):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (39:56):
And how many are there?
Speaker 9 (39:58):
I have two half siblings and then one step brother
as well that she had from a previous relationship.
Speaker 4 (40:05):
Do they love the Bee?
Speaker 9 (40:08):
Yeah? I think so?
Speaker 4 (40:09):
Ah.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
No, no, no, that's a fair question. So they love her?
And do they know how you feel about her?
Speaker 9 (40:16):
We've never spoken about it directly. I think there's always
some I can tell that they also feel uncomfortable at times,
you know, when she acts out.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
Well, I think like you have to be prepared if
you disinvite her, which you totally have every right to do,
your father is probably gonna not come either. There's a
chance that that happens, right.
Speaker 9 (40:36):
Right, And I actually do have an update. Since I
initially wrote the email, we really needed to get going
on the wedding planning. And honestly, Chelsea, I knew what
you were going to say to me, probably to just
do it, to have a conversation with him, and he
actually was really receptive and agreed to not have her
come to the Balie wedding. He is also still committed
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to contribute financially despite that.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
So wow, it's great. Yeah, this is a great update.
Thanks for bringing one.
Speaker 3 (41:08):
Now are your your half siblings? They're all gonna come as.
Speaker 9 (41:11):
Well, or some can't make it just because of other obligations.
But yes that I have extended the invites to them. Yeah.
So right now, it's the holidays and I'm going to
have to face everyone in person pretty soon, including the Bee.
So it is a little bit, you know, nerve wracking.
Speaker 2 (41:32):
But you know what, hold your ground. You made a boundary.
You stood up for what you want at your wedding
on your wedding day. That is the most important. The
most important person on any wedding day is the bride.
Fuck the groom. Okay, so the bride, it's your day.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
You created a boundary, you're self respecting, your self preserving.
All of these things are really strong choices that you've made.
You did this all on your own, so like you're
already a g Like this is all good stuff, and
you can look at her in the eye with dignity
because at least you were upfront and honest about what
you want.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
You know what I mean, and now, and just take
the hot air out of it. There's only tension if
you allow tension to be if there's two people creating tension.
If there's no tension coming from you, she has no
one to have tension with in the first place.
Speaker 9 (42:18):
Totally, totally. Yeah, I hear you, and it's going to
be uncomfortable for me too, but I just have to
deal with it.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
Yeah, you just have to deal with it, and that's okay.
But you know what, you don't have to deal with
her at your wedding, So that's raactly and I'm like,
I'm so so many women are going to be listening
to this and be inspired by you and taking charge
of the situation in the ways that in which you did.
Speaker 2 (42:39):
And also giving hope to other people's fathers.
Speaker 1 (42:41):
Like, I'm so pleased to hear that your dad was
so receptive that he's still contributing financially.
Speaker 2 (42:45):
Your dad is probably miserable in his marriage. He probably is.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
I mean, she sounds, you know, not ideal. So yeah,
so congrats on everything. You already crushed it. You're calling
in basically just doing a victory dance.
Speaker 9 (43:00):
Definitely, No, I mean I still wanted to. I thought
it would still be a good conversation to have with you. Absolutely, yeah,
I'm super excited. Also, Chelsea, you're more than welcome to
join us when Bali.
Speaker 2 (43:12):
Y Yeah, I love Bally. Next August is it in
Ubud or is it on the beach?
Speaker 9 (43:18):
Actually a little bit southeast of Ubud in a city
called Mangus. It's more like old Bali, they say, just
like a little less crowded and less traffic.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
Okay, well, why don't you Catherine follow up with her?
Because if I'm traveling in August, I'll totally swing By.
I love Balie. I need an excuse to go. There'd
be so event I don't know. Listen, I got invited
to a lot of weddings, but I will only go
to someone I just met.
Speaker 9 (43:43):
Oh my god, that would be a dream, I know.
Speaker 1 (43:46):
But don't get your hopes up. I mean, I can't commit,
but you never know. With me, I could show up.
Speaker 9 (43:50):
I could just this conversation is everything, So I love it.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
I love it. Thank you so much for calling in, Lindsay.
Speaker 9 (43:56):
Of course, thank you so much for taking time.
Speaker 7 (43:58):
Great.
Speaker 2 (43:59):
Yeah, this is that's awesome. I hope I make it.
Speaker 3 (44:01):
Yeah, have so much fun, Lindsey.
Speaker 4 (44:03):
Oh my gosh, kay grists.
Speaker 9 (44:05):
Thank you. And can I just say, Chelsea, I've been
following you for a long time. I used to watch
Chelsea Lately every single night, and you know, sometimes we
kind of live in a dark world. So I really
appreciate you for bringing laughter and joy to the world.
Speaker 8 (44:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (44:21):
I love your comedy and what you do, so keep
at it.
Speaker 2 (44:24):
Thank you, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
You know what, Also, Catherine hook her up with two
tickets for next year's tour. Sure, because I'm doing a tour,
the High Mighty Tour we're gonna and I'm sure I'm
coming to a city near you. If I haven't announced
it yet, I'll be announcing more dates. But we're gonna
hook you up with tickets so you can come and
say hi.
Speaker 9 (44:39):
Oh my god, thank you so much. I know you're
coming to Denver and I haven't been able to make
it to one of your shows. I really wanted to
go to the Red Rocks one, but I just couldn't
make it happen. So I really appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
That's okay, we'll make it happen at the Paramount in Denver.
I'm coming there. Yes, absolutely, we're going to make it happen. Okay, fun,
I love it, I love it.
Speaker 4 (44:59):
Thanks, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (45:00):
A fun Okay.
Speaker 7 (45:02):
Bye.
Speaker 4 (45:03):
Oh you're fucking Santa Claus.
Speaker 1 (45:05):
Oh my god, I feel like Santa Claus. It's the
Christmas season, you guys.
Speaker 4 (45:09):
Isn't it nice though, to know that you're gonna be
like in different cities, like if you know specifically where
you're gonna be, and like you can offer that to
people and it's just like and you're giving access with
this with this show, people can call it's just you
also two for two, like some pretty badass women just
called in like uhhh, I'm here for it.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
All Right, we're gonna take a break and we're gonna
come back and wrap.
Speaker 2 (45:35):
Up with Amanda. And we're back with Amanda Ceiphred.
Speaker 1 (45:43):
One of my favorite people I really ever since I
first interviewed it Amanda, it was probably on Chelsea lately
it was I've loved her.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
She is so fucking funny.
Speaker 1 (45:52):
She's weird, and she says things that are inappropriate.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (45:59):
And you're not like an actor actor, even though you're
a great actor, you're you don't take yourself seriously. And
I think that is really the ingredient that makes people
the most likable is when they don't take themselves so seriously.
Speaker 4 (46:13):
Thanks. And it was like like I reached out to
you after the shit a shit storm, recent shit storm,
which I'm not used to, used to operating in a
ship storm, but it happened, and like I reached out
to you.
Speaker 3 (46:25):
I don't know why.
Speaker 4 (46:26):
I felt like you were were similar that we don't
take ourselves very seriously, and you are actually a comedian
and but you actually know your you know your shit,
and it was like it made me feel so much better.
Thanks for for like at least like you're like, you're fine.
I don't know why, you know what I mean, it's
something that you had posted. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (46:45):
No, no, no, I understand.
Speaker 1 (46:47):
But before we close, I just want to ask you,
how did you meet your husband on stage? I mean,
I I did a stage play the last time, the
first and last time I will ever.
Speaker 4 (46:58):
Do that to myself and my psyche.
Speaker 2 (47:02):
Did you know, right?
Speaker 4 (47:03):
Did you?
Speaker 2 (47:03):
What was it like when you, like, when you guys
locked in?
Speaker 4 (47:07):
I mean, I guess it was like a kind of
a long you know, when that happens, like we were
both involved with other people, but like, and I also
didn't know, like I I just assumed he thought I
was a loser, because that's kind of how I, you know,
viewed myself when it came to men. I worked on it.
(47:28):
I no longer feel that way, but thank god. But
I was, you know, like thirty or twenty nine, and
I was in a like a dead end relationship, and
I think that part of me had opened at that
point because I was so done with feeling like shit.
Speaker 2 (47:43):
Because of relationships.
Speaker 4 (47:44):
You mean, I was in relationship where I was completely
just like not seen. But I was also like, ooh,
I want to settle down. You know. I had the
dream of the kids, you know, very early on, but
so I part of me was kind of opened up.
And when I'm when I met him, I was just
like I really liked his voice, and I like the
fact that he like salt and pepper hair. He's only
(48:05):
like nine years older than me, but for some reason,
and he was like a he's a feeder guy, so
he his feet were so solidly on the ground when
it came to that kind of work, and I was
so scared. I was like floating, and I felt like
he kind of in some way figuratively pulled me down
and helped me through and supported me and had this
like unconditional support of me in that new realm that
(48:27):
I was in, and I had this amazing director, Lee Silverman,
and I just felt really safe and seen and it
was a new, wild, new experience that scared me. And
I think when you're really scared and you have someone
who's like here, take my hand, you kind of can't
help but fall in love with something about them, whether
they're a man from a woman, you feel safe. And
(48:47):
I felt safe with him and then the show was over,
he went back to La. My relationship ended, thank god, mercifully,
like immediately even before the show ended. And then we
talked a little bit. But then come January that next year,
he was out of his relationship, and uh, it was
so scary though. It was so scary to commit to
(49:09):
somebody because I was like, I'd been kind of burned
in my last relationship, so committing with him as a
person who was free, like a real because when I
was with him in the show, he wasn't a real
He wasn't an opportunity he was there was no opportunity there.
He was with somebody. I just was like, oh, I
know how this feels. This is where I want. It
doesn't have to be him, but I know how this feels.
(49:31):
And then of course it was so messy that summer,
just like dealing with like the the like ongoing just
like ongoing trauma of a breakup and then talking and
then and then like keeping the break. It was just
like uck. And then I crucheted myself into oblivion here
on the farm because I had already bought the farm
and I was all alone watching Felicity.
Speaker 10 (49:53):
I watched Felicity she's another fan of mine. Car four days,
I watched the entire four scene with four Seasons, and
I was crocheting fucking Christmas stockings. And I had my friend,
my best friend, Peter, who I'm sure you know from
Netflix now he's at Amazon, came to see me and was.
Speaker 4 (50:13):
Like, are you okay out of here? I'm like, I'm
fired of just getting ready for the Christmas season. And
he was October, so I was, I was great. I
was single. I wasn't great, so like that was. And
then going through all that and being alone and being
like out here in the woods with nobody for an
(50:35):
extended period of time. I went back to LA for
Christmas because my sister was out there and we all
went to LA for Christmas, and then like started like
meditating and cause I was just so lost, really like
horrible breakup, extended breakup. And then in January I was like,
I was like meditating with Alan Market like it was
(50:56):
in January. Oh dear, we met up his place in
La Dear, so.
Speaker 2 (51:03):
Many deer you need to take or something? Did you
take your vance today?
Speaker 4 (51:10):
My god, I forgot to take let's oh my god.
Speaker 7 (51:12):
He just reminded me, Okay, you can take it last night.
Speaker 2 (51:18):
Okay, take it, go take it right now.
Speaker 4 (51:21):
You saved my day.
Speaker 2 (51:23):
You don't understand, but anyway, it was great.
Speaker 4 (51:26):
That's how I met him. Long story short, that I
met him.
Speaker 1 (51:30):
What was the moment where you guys decided to be together?
Did you call him or did he call you?
Speaker 7 (51:36):
I berated him because I saw him like a like
like another person's Instagram and I was like, oh, so
you're gonna like like now you're free.
Speaker 4 (51:48):
Like I was an asshole to him and then we
you know, reconnected. But I was an asshole to him
and he understood that. That meant I cared about him, yes,
And I was like, oh you to go live in
fucking sty for claw can't do the accent. I was like,
good luck and he was like, Oh, she really likes
(52:09):
me and she's jealous.
Speaker 2 (52:11):
That's how.
Speaker 1 (52:11):
That's how damaged women show affection is by berating a
man when we're that's how you know we've been bruised.
Speaker 4 (52:18):
But you know what also about damaged women, We can
fucking fix ourselves and then we can be whole again.
Speaker 3 (52:25):
We don't know, we can hold it down.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Once we fix ourselves, we can hold it down. Yeah,
but it's nice that he held you down on the theater.
In the theater during the play, he held you down,
and then you held it down for yourself.
Speaker 2 (52:38):
So there we go.
Speaker 7 (52:39):
Now.
Speaker 4 (52:39):
Yeah, and then like cut two a your litter, he
held me to and I got pregnant.
Speaker 2 (52:47):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (52:48):
On that note, we want you to go take your
lexapro go take it right now, get off this lock,
go take it.
Speaker 4 (52:53):
This never happens. I fell asleep with my son last
night and I forgot to take my meds.
Speaker 2 (52:57):
Your son is a great rapper. By the way, I
loved that video.
Speaker 1 (53:00):
I love you, Amanda. Did you want to say something?
Speaker 4 (53:05):
I love you too. There's always something more to say,
is there. I'm gonna go take my medicine now.
Speaker 2 (53:12):
Okay, bye, honey, you have a great time.
Speaker 4 (53:14):
Love you guys.
Speaker 1 (53:15):
I just announced all my tour dates. That's called the
High and Mighty Tour. I will be touring from February
through June, so go get your tickets now. If you
want good seats and you want to come see me perform,
I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.
Speaker 3 (53:30):
Do you want advice from Chelsea?
Speaker 5 (53:31):
Right into Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com. Find
full video episodes of Dear Chelsea on YouTube by searching
at Dear Chelsea pod.
Speaker 3 (53:40):
Dear Chelsea is
Speaker 5 (53:41):
Edited and engineered by Brad Dickert executive producer Catherine Law
And be sure to check out our merch at Chelseahandler
dot com
I just announced all my tour dates. It's called the
High and Mighty Tour. I'm coming to Washington, d c Norfolk, Virginia, Madison, Wisconsin, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Detroit, Michigan, Cleveland, Columbus,
and Cincinnati, Ohio, Denver, Colorado, Portland, Maine, Providence, Rhode Island, Springfield, Massachusetts, Chicago,
of Course, Indianapolis, Indiana, Louisville, Kentucky, Albuquerque, Masa, Arizona, Kansas City, Missouri,
(00:27):
Saint Louis, Missouri, Minneapolis, Minnesota, Nashville, Tennessee, Charlotte, North Carolina, Durham,
North of Carolina, Saratoga, California, Monterey, California, Modeesto, California, and
port Chester, New York, Boston, Massachusetts, Portland, Oregon, and Seattle, Washington.
(00:48):
I will be touring from February through June, So go
get your tickets now. If you want to come see
me perform, I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Hi, Catherine, Hi, Chelsea.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Is it still raining and Whistler.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Well, it's raining in the valley. It snowed.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I got up at midnight because Doug woke me up
because he had diarrhea, so he woke me up at midnight,
I went out took him.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
It was a winter wonderland. There was snow everywhere.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I was like, oh my god, and it was so beautiful.
And then I woke up this morning and it was raining.
I've really this climate change is now. It's the situation
of like the valley and then like mid mountain. You
have to see where the freezing level is.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
So have you been able to ski it all yet?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Or no, Yeah, I skied, I've skied. I've skied.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
I've got When you go up top, it's fine, but
it's just kind of hard to get on the mountain
in the rain and then go all the way up
and then you're like, oh, it's snow so but you know,
I just have to stay focused.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
So what are you doing in this last couple of
weeks of the year. Are you chilling? Are people visiting?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
People are visiting? People? Are My niece and her boyfriend
arrive tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I have another friend coming from that I met on
my cruise to Antarctica. That's the new pronunciation of Antarctica.
I was forgetting the second t or the first one.
And then yeah, I have some people coming, And then oh,
I've been watching all the movies. I have my link
for my Critics Choice because I'm hosting the Critics' Choice
Awards on January fourth, So I have to get all
(02:08):
of those movies in my brain to come up with
my jokes and monologue and la la la. I mean,
I have writers that are also working on it, so
hopefully they're working harder than I. Hopefully they're watching those movies.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Now.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
Okay, I don't know if you're allowed to say, but
do you have any favorites so far?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Well? I watched Hamnet yesterday, which made me balla.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
I really want to watch it. I'm very I.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Mean, I love that.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
I love crying like a baby on my couch alone
with Doug and then Doug comes over to console me.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
It's really cute.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, Hamnet was beautiful, Jay Kelly, I just started.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
I have to watch that. Adam Sandler is so good
when he's like.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Acting acting, and I don't know, yeah, I've seen so
many that it's really Oh yeah, Train Dreams with is
really good with Joel Edgerton and what's that actually Edgerton?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Is it? Edgerton?
Speaker 3 (02:52):
I think it's I think it's your brain though. Okay,
I'm going we'll look at it.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Let's let's make a bet.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Okay, all right, what should we bet? What should we bet?
Speaker 1 (03:03):
If I'm right, you can't sing sing song words anymore?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
You can't go okay, And if you're right, what can't
I do anymore?
Speaker 3 (03:16):
Be mad at me for singing songing?
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Okay, all right, that's fair. Okay, look it up.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Look it up right now, in real time, looking it up.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
Okay, Edgerton or Edgerton, you're gonna be right. And now
I'm like you are going to be right. Okay, it's
coming back to the show our friend Joel Edgerton.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Oh shit, shit, fuck.
Speaker 5 (03:41):
See now you have to love my sing songing. I
do try to rain it in sometimes, but you should.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You should try to rain it in. It doesn't really
match this podcast. Well I guess it doesn't match the
podcaus it doesn't match me. It's like a nice balance, right, hopefully, hopefully.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
I was actually afraid it was going to make your
head explode, Kevin.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
It'd be like holding in a sneeze.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Yeah, exactly. Save it for the bedroom you two. Okay,
saved the singing for the bedrooms, please, Okay. Today was
one of my favorite people We've had so many great
actresses on lately, and this is another one. She's an
Academy Award nominated actress, a Golden Globe winner for her
work in The Dropout, and she has a second Golden
Globe nomination for her new movie, The Testament of Ann Lee.
(04:19):
So please welcome Amanda Seifred.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Welcome.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Amanda Seifred is on the podcast today. She's on Dear Chelsea.
She's coming to us live from her farm. I think
in the Catskills. I want to say, is that right?
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Are you gonna audibly respond or are you just going
to do thumbs up for this interview?
Speaker 3 (04:38):
You know what this is?
Speaker 4 (04:40):
This is zoom culture.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Yeah, well, Amanda, we've been in zoom culture since fucking
twenty twenty. You've had five years to get a head start.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
No, it's because I'm used to it. Last night I
was on an hour long call on mute given you know,
thumbs ups and aoks.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
You know what is nice about zoom culture is sometime
you just pretend that you can't get on so that
you don't have to. Like I've done that before when
I've had like a business zoom I'm like, I can't
make it work. I'm on mute and then I just
can't and then I just click off, and then the
meeting's over without me, I mean the meeting.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
Person that does that. And now I'm going to question
and every.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Time, right right, So we have a lot to celebrate.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Amanda was just nominated for You've been nominated for Golden
Globes before? Right for mam and Mia. You got nominated
and I think you won. Oh whoops, Okay, you were
snubbed that year. So she was nominated this year. We're
gonna she's lip syncing again. She was nominated for It's
called the Testament of Ann Lee and this is a move.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
So congratulations, Amanda.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Why don't you take your flowers for a second, say
thank you.
Speaker 4 (05:48):
Thank you so much, double double time. It's been great.
I did not get a Golden Globe nomination from Mom
and Mia, but that was okay.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Did you get another Golden Globe nomination before?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
I got a nomination and I won for the dropout
and I wasn't there.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Oh wow, that's pretty tricky. Where were you on your farm?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
No, I had to work.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You said that in quotes, like you put quotes up
like you didn't really have to work.
Speaker 6 (06:18):
I totally had to work. It was it was it
would have been impossible. It probably would have been impossible,
but it was it felt like too tricky to get
all the way to LA that.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
The night from working, where were you?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
I was so actually, do I have a workshop of
a musical? And it felt like everybody's schedule had to
align for so long that we finally got them all
to a line in this one week and it just
happened to be that golden glow week, so like it
was the first thing I had won, and then I couldn't.
(06:54):
I didn't get to accept it, which I guess, you know,
maybe that's a blessing.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Well, listen, and I'm aware of your anxiety.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You've talked a lot about your anxiety, and I think
it is a blessing because if you had to get
up on that stage, who knows which way the wind
would have blown, you know what I mean, Because you're
a little bit like you don't know what's.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Going to happen. X factor, man, Yeah, it's.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
An X factor, which I fucking I mean, listen, we
all fucking love it. But probably for your personal well being,
it was better for you to be in a workshop
and that's also very professional that you were able to
say I'm not going to go to the first nomination
I got, then win and then come back to your
group of actors.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
They must have even respected you more after that.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Yeah, okay, well I'll follow up with all of those people,
I think.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
So there was a lot of celebration. Actually, yeah, it
was nice.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
So you were nominated for Critics Choice Award this year.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Just so you know, I'm hosting the Critics Choice, so
I know that I I am definitely going to single
you out and do something funny for you or about you,
because you know how I feel about you, and I
just think that you deserve that.
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Thank you in any way, shape or form. I would
be happy to join you.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Maybe we will do something cute together. That's actually a
great idea. But I am very excited that you got
nominated because, first of all, I just want to be
in total seriousness. This is one of the most talented
people in this industry. She can do fucking anything. She
can do anything, demonstrated by her two movies that are
out right now. I think Housemaid comes out tomorrow and
(08:27):
the Testament of Ann Lee is going to come out
shortly after so, and these are two completely different movies.
One is about the Quaker movement and this woman let's
talk about the Testament of Ann Lee because this is
I had to watch this movie twice.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
The first time I was stoned.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
We watching it stone This is a enhanced experience.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
It was I didn't understand which religion we were in.
I understood, like, there's a lot of singing and dancing,
which I all hope turns into TikTok dances because they're
in ten and Amanda's an incredible singer. I heard you
sing that Carol King song I don't know on Who's
Late night show recently because you were joney Jony Oh, yeah,
Joni Mitchell, Sorry, not Carol King, No love Joni Mitchell.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Which what was a song called California.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
Yeah, it was like a quick little I know.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
But but you were talking about your voice and your
singing voice and saying that you don't really believe like
I guess you. Uh, what was the movie you auditioned
for that you didn't get where you had to sing?
Speaker 4 (09:30):
You want me to say it out loud? Well, if
you've only I'm kidding, no, no, it's a joke. I'm
over it.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
At Wicked Wicked right, Oh right, so that's even a
double whammy, so all of it.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
But look see, look at this, no exactly.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
It's all happened exactly like I. I truly believe that
it was for the best, for sure, for everyone involved,
because I got to do this too.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
You were talking on this interview that I saw about
your singing voice, and you were saying how how much
you've worked on your singing voice since lay Miss, and
in lay Miss we all thought you fucking nailed it,
and you were saying that you have become a better
singer since then, and that you weren't at the level
or at the place you wanted to be when you
filmed lay Miss.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Do you still agree with that assessment?
Speaker 4 (10:21):
Boy, I agree with that assessment. I also but I
also completely let go of the need to access something
that I might not ever be able to access in
terms of like the control of the vibrato and the
stamina and the breath work. I understand that I'm not
gonna be starring in a musical on Broadway where I
(10:44):
need the kind of stamina that I that I was
I've been trying to build. I'm I'm you know, my voices,
specifically because I ended up doing something like ann Lee,
where it wasn't about how it sounded, it was about
where it came from. It was about how it was felt,
not just by me but by the audience right, but
by her followers. And it's like I finally stopped listening
(11:04):
to myself in the way that kind of made it
not fun to sing. I mean, I listen. I will
say during my wicked auditions, I sang better than I
thought I would.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
I felt I was.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
I think it came with the excitement, the momentum of
how much I was training for it, and I was
very proud of myself. For sure, that will never go away.
But I also realized maybe I'm just not that kind
of singer and I don't need to sound like anyone else.
It took me four years, but at least I'm here,
and you know when I listen, if I were to
(11:39):
listen to the songs and lame is, it was exactly
how it needed to be for that time. And ann
Lee came and I was able to be The opportunity
was amazing and it was perfect for where my voice
was in that it's a human voice, not a trained voice.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Yeah, Yeah, I like what you just said.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
That's perfectly sad because you are singing for like your followers,
and you are.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Leading these this group of people.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
And then I love midway through the movie, she gives herself,
she becomes christ, she becomes like the female christ As,
and then uses that as an excuse to stop having
sex with her husband, which I think is really a
tale as old as time.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Yeah, and you know what everybody was like, Oh, for Jesus,
for peace, for communion with God. Sure, listen, I don't
think any of us would announce or you know, eliminate
fornication nowadays, because even though it's tricky, it's still incredibly pleasurable.
(12:49):
But they weren't up for pleasure. They wanted peace, and
it was it made sense to her in her trauma. Yes,
in her trauma woman, you know, losing these children. The
direct you know, the direct line between sex and pain
was too clear for her.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
It had to be painful. Everything had to be painful.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
Yeah, and it makes sense. It made sense for her.
But the fact that, you know, almost six thousand people
at one one point were like, yeah, I can do
that too, right, lose my mind. I would love to
know how many people were hiding.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
And control there was earth control, so you know kind
of there's a giveaway at the end of that.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Yeah, right, right, exactly. So how is this because you
had a female director? So I mean, and there's a
lot of nudity. There's a lot of sex in this movie.
There's a lot of childbirth, child yes, a lot of childbirth,
a lot of like bearing, I mean birthing positions that
I hadn't been familiar with prior to watching them.
Speaker 4 (13:54):
It's it's a lesson for a lot of people that
childbirth is a tramatic for most people. And there's nothing
like a scene in a movie where you can see
it from where it's all happening and necessary, I think necessary.
Do you know, Like apparently this is a rumor. I
(14:16):
don't know if it's for sure, but I believe it
to be true that in Venice fifteen men walked out
after that scene.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Oh I read that. I read that. Oh that's so.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
And I'm like, men, men, these are your babies.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah, you increase your seed, Your seed created this baby exactly.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
The seed is from you.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
I posted this thing on Instagram the other day where
I was like, uh, it was a quote from share
about you know what men, If men knew if men
had to give up and interrupt their career and give
up nine months of their physical life and breast for them, Yeah,
all of the things like that, they would want to
have a say in it. And I posted it and
like credited share and like there's like fifty guys on
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there going. You don't think this affects our life too?
Like this is so sexist to say it only impacts women.
It's like, oh, shut up, just shut up.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
You're missing the whole fucking point.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
But how was it working doing all of that, all
those sex scenes, all those birthing scenes, Like how was
it working with a female director versus a male director?
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Was there a big difference for you?
Speaker 4 (15:23):
Well, there's no question with Mona, she and I have lived.
We can relate on things that I can relate to
with men. And that's just a fact. There's a trust,
there's an innate trust in how it's going to be
shot and why it's important. There are no questions at
a certain point when you go on a set, you
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have you know, we've got our DP, who's a man
who I've loved and trust and like a family member.
We have these male crew members. But when there's a
woman who's in charge of how it's being shot and
what's being seen and how the story is going to unfold,
it just feels heavier, it feels more empowered, and it
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feels more truthful when it especially when it comes to
to that kind of content, to that that kind of
situation and experience. And I'm not saying a mail director
couldn't have done it beautifully. I'm just saying my perspective
and the way I felt in that room, that tiny
little room, I was empowered as well. And I probably
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would have been empowered like I worked with Adam mcgoy
and I was super naked in a movie I did
when I was twenty more called Chloe, and I didn't
question much because there was a lot of there's a
lot of discussion around the whole thing. For a while,
it felt, it felt the way it needed that, you know,
we were doing everything right. But I'm just saying, like
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with Mona, and I don't know, she's just got a
sensitivity to these things. And I'm not saying you've have
you have to have gone through childbirth to understand it.
They's just just's a sensibility that we have and an
instinct that we have as women that for me, when
I'm working, especially in with that kind of subject matter,
I just feel a little closer to it. I feel
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a little bit more, it's read more reachable. I just
feel like I'm being taken care of as well. Long
story short, No, No, I like.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
To hear you talk about it because I'm curious about
what kind of actor you are? You a method actor
because these two projects you're not ny not not because
these two projects are so different, Like Housemaid, I can't
imagine that that's a method acting role, right, that's more
of like camp and like you know, crazy kind of
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like thriller, and it's based on all these books. And
then this one is real serious, like you've got to
do your research, research, research, So how do you approach
two different roles like this?
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Like what do you do as an actor?
Speaker 4 (17:50):
The thing about Aileen is that she's a real iconic
person whose story has not been told in really any
rand way that she so deserves, I think, and so
like there's a lot of responsibility because to know everything
I could possibly know about her, and also to learn
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everything because there's so much collaboration. Obviously it was like
eighteenth century. We don't know what those dances really look like.
We don't know exactly how she's sang. Like, there's so
many things that we had the freedom to explore and
change and design. So with those designs, I had to
like completely embody the like I had to move. I
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don't hate dancing, but I had to learn the choreography.
I had to understand why each move was happening from
a spiritual point of view, from from a necessity point
of view. Because she was so committed and so devoted.
I just had to embody someone in a way that
I haven't before because of because of the nature of
like what treat what she created, and she was only
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able to create that because she's so believed that she
was the Messiah. And I just had toll in love
with her, Like like with Elizabeth Holmes, I had to
fall in love with her. I just have to somehow
find it in my you know, find the sisterhood created
which comes from compassion and all that stuff, you know,
human to human stuff, like you know, being able to
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relate to the character you're playing. But I also had to,
like I mean, I just had to. There was so
much pre production, so much preparation because there was a
Manchester accent too.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Oh yeah, that was really good.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
Yeah, that was a great hill.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
And is that you narrating the whole film?
Speaker 4 (19:28):
No, that's Thomas and Mackenzie with her accent and she's
from New Zealand.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Oh okay, because I was confused because I was like,
this sounded like you sometimes, and then it was watched
its Stone, I know, and that's why I went back
and I watched you and yeah, but also it's okay,
Like I think the experience you had watching Desmond Manley's
Stone must have been somewhat confusing, but also maybe enlightening
in a different way.
Speaker 4 (19:53):
I think it's wonderful. I actually told my caretaker of
my farm who's not here today, to you know, have
like a shot of rum.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Yeah, for sure, you should have a shot of something, absolutely,
because it's a lot to take in, and it's something
that's so foreign to modern day like you know, what
we believe in, like modern day culture. Like you really
have to get into it. And the good thing about
being stoned is that you kind of just drop judgment
and you're just kind of taking something in.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
That's what I like about it. Sometimes when I'm I
watch a movie and I'm not stoned. I'm like right away, like, oh.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Like you know this is this is not necessary, this
is gratuitous, or this is too much sex, or this
is what I want to.
Speaker 4 (20:32):
Drop, like for watching all these Academy movies.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Yeah, it's it's first of all, some of it's homework,
and I hate things that feel like homework.
Speaker 4 (20:42):
But but I should be stoned. I'm I'm I think
I bought gummies I like CBD, but I haven't taken
them yet because I'm afraid to get stoned because the
times I've been really stone have been people. I'm sure
I've told you some of these stories before. It's bad,
but I think I should do that because when I
was watching another movie the night, I'm like, ugh, why
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are they shooting it at that well? Why are we
watching it from this direction? Why do they say that?
Like okay too, Like I'm just judging everything exactly.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
And that's that's that's the best gift that cannabis gives me,
is to drop the judgment.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
I just can be and enjoy something.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
So we need to just find you the right concoction
because I know your personality is a little bit tricky
with drugs and stuff.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
There's like a two point five THHC gummy that has
like a lot more CBD in it as Charlotte's Web.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
It can have a lot more CBD in it because
it's two point five milligrams, so whatever it has to see.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yeah, but it doesn't.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
That's two point It's like that's nothing anyway, So two
point five.
Speaker 4 (21:39):
I'm not a scientist.
Speaker 5 (21:41):
I am.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
I am a scientist. Soy scientist stuff, soy.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Astronauta soy, so askedro Glida. Let's talk about what's happening
on this farm that you live on.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
I love that you live in the cat Skills on
a farm with your two kids and your husband.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
Is it's so night. Tell us about your life and
my mom and your mom. Yeah, she'd right over there.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Hi mom, I.
Speaker 4 (22:05):
Can't hear you because you put maybe put headphones. Else
is here, decrepit sixteen year old dog.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
She's waving, Oh your poor dog.
Speaker 4 (22:16):
I know. And I saw him yesterday. I was on
I was on his zoom and I saw him whip
by so fast from the barn to the house, and
I saw car backing up, and I was like, this
might be the woman no, it might be the woman.
He gets it or falls because of the ice. And
he's an idiot. He's sixteen, and he keeps running, tries
to eat everything. Anyway, The farm's great, it's it's great.
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It's great. I'm leaving again right after I talk to you,
and I gotta go to the city and do some
concerts tonight. I don't even want to. I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
Are you singing?
Speaker 4 (22:47):
Singing some some stuff from the a lead?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
And so your mom's there to hold down the fort
while you.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
Go with Tommy. And then although he's in the city
right now, because he also had a life, it's really tricky.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Yeah, where why does he get to have a life?
Speaker 4 (23:03):
No, the no, it's great. It's it's just it was
six degrees when we got up today, and so all
the animals are walking on ice, and when they have
four feet, right, four legs, all of them have four legs,
four wheel drive. It's great. And there are a lot
of them in the barn, and so it's it's we
got a lot of heat lamps up, and I always
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think about fires, and you know, it's it's managing a lot.
And I understand that I chose this life so I
can't whine about it. But it's tricky. I like the
word tricky.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
I do too, I'm cos yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
And it's also you have to keep an eye on
It's not that you're complaining about it. You just have
a lot, a bigger set of responsibilities.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
This morning, I drop the kids off and said goodbye
and cried because I should be getting my period eighty second.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Did they cry?
Speaker 7 (23:52):
No?
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Yeah, I cry.
Speaker 4 (23:55):
And and their classrooms are next to each other. It's
it's a nice life. And and then I got back
and I decided to go with the time. I had
to help the person who's feeding right now and do
the stalls and do the take the horseshit out of
the stalls and put new shavings in the stalls and
do the buckets and stuff. And that is my least
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favorite chore. But I did it because I wanted to
feel productive and like I was being helpful.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Yeah, I get that feeling all that.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
I always feel like what am I really contributing, you know,
other than my personality, because I don't make a ton
of contributions, like I can't do cook.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I mean I'm trying to.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
But last night I tried to take out these sweet
potatoes from the oven, and the pan fell out of
my hands, and then all the sweet potatoes fell into
the crease of the oven.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
So I had nailed it.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
I had made a turkey burger with cheese, grilled onions,
and a poached egg on top. I was like, fuck
me right now, I'm the ruler of all kitchens.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
And then I.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Went to go take out the sweet potatoes as a
nice little accent, and then everything went sideways.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
So I declared victory too early.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
So that's as like sophisticated as I've ever gotten in
the kitchen was last night's turkey burger.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
I don't even know how to poach an egg.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
Oh, oh, well great. I love being one step ahead
of you in the kitchen. Oh you're seventy thousand steps
out of me in the kitchen. I don't know anything.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
Well, it sounds like you know how to farm a
little bit.
Speaker 4 (25:16):
Yeah, but that's not in the kitchen.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
No, but it sounds like you're making a contribution, like, yeah, yes,
you're right.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Can you clean? Like are you good at cleaning up messes?
Speaker 4 (25:25):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Okay, I can't do that either. No I can't. I
just guess you can. I could, I guess, but I
don't ever heard.
Speaker 4 (25:31):
Of a cloroxoide.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
I don't like to just I don't like any sort
of like stain removal. I have to get someone else involved.
Speaker 4 (25:38):
All the Really, if you're all alone and one of
the dogs is two, right, there's one now? Yeah, snack, yeah, snack,
and a snack takes a giant dump on your.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Carpet, Snack will get put down. If he did something
like that, that would make he's.
Speaker 4 (25:51):
Gone up because he's going to get old.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
No, no, no, no, no, no, he's First of all,
he's not going to get old.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I will clone him before that happens. Secondly, he's two
and a half. So don't get ahead of yourself and
project about your sixteen year old dog.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Okay to my two and a half.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
I said, Demanda, picture of snack of dog the other day,
and she goes, that's a snack. What's your dog's name again, Ben?
Oh yeah, yeah, Finn's been around forever. Finn has these
crazy eyes too. Doesn't he have two different color eyes?
Speaker 4 (26:21):
Nope, you're getting that confused with somebody else's dog. M interesting,
But I do have a horse with two different color eyes.
Oh yeah, you're such a farmer. I love it, Amanda.
Tell me why you decided to move to a farm.
You know why not?
Speaker 1 (26:38):
But do you think that it helps I think it
probably helps you when you go away a ton, right,
like for your work and career, it's so nice to
be removed from all of that.
Speaker 4 (26:50):
It's it's that you it's so basic here. It's not
it's not basic like basic meaning nature is bigger than
you here, like you in the mountains, like you're inside
of this giant world and you in some ways you've
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be protected because nature is very powerful. But it's it's
not trying to fuck with you. It's not judging you.
It's not trying to take your job or belittle you
or manipulate you. It's just there. And when all the
noise is gone, there's probably a frequency, a lower frequency
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that you're operating on, which is probably really healthy. And
also like you get to worry about real things. And
I'm not saying that like living in Hollywood or living
in New York City is bad for me. I'm just saying, like,
I mean, take it a chunk of it and really
enjoy myself, you know, getting in an uber and going
from one place in the next and then walking from
one block to the next and getting a Starbucks and
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a day bar bagel and a pedicure, always an hour.
It's dreamy, but it's you know, it's for a good
temporary fix.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
It can be taxing.
Speaker 4 (28:08):
It can be taxing. Yeah, I don't need all that energy.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
I'm with you. I listen.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I spend about forty five days a year max in
Los Angeles because I love to just be out and
about in different places.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
So I can relate to what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Let's as Catherine you said, we have a caller, right,
We're gonna take a quick break. We're gonna be back
with Amanda Seyphred, and we're gonna take a caller because
a man, I think you should be.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Giving advice to people.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
That's the obvious next step, and this is an advice
call in show.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
So we're gonna take a break. We'll be right back.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
And we're back with Amanda Ceiphred and we're taking our
first caller, Amanda.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
Okay, so lock in.
Speaker 5 (28:44):
I'm really excited about this question. So Angela, I'm not
gonna read the subject line because it kind of gives
it away. It's fairy don't great, she says, Dear Chelsea,
I'm a thirty four year old child free woman in
what feels like a full blown real life plot twist.
Two years I left my job and finally chased my dream,
starting my own floral business specializing in senior assisted living centers.
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Since then, I've been piecing a living together with part
time gigs until one of those just ended. And now
it's go big or go broke. But also it's terrifying
but also a little thrilling. Here's where it gets messy.
Seven months ago, at a giant flower conference, I met
a man who owns a rose business in Ecuador. We
spent six hours talking and surprisingly fell into a long
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distance whirlwind romance.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
I love it already.
Speaker 5 (29:32):
I've never been known as a hopeless romantic, but he's
turned out to be my exception. Since then, we've seen
each other about every six weeks Ecuador, Spain, Rome, the
whole Montage. It's dreamy but draining my bank account. And
while he hopes I'll eventually join him in Ecuador, I'm
still trying to keep my business alive. Here do I
double down on my business plan or go full eat
prey love Florist Edition, Sincerely a confused Realist.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
Angela.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Hi Angela.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
First of all, yeh, fucking go for it. First, you
should the look in Amanda's eyes. She's in love. Now
look at her. She's looking at Fault and her husband
the first time they fell in love. We all have
love in our eyes. You have to go for this adventure.
That is my passionate opinion about life. Anytime there's a
time to take a jump, and you've been given some
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proof that that's the right jump, you don't even need
the proof. You just need to trust your instincts and
go for it. What's stopping you?
Speaker 8 (30:25):
Yeah, I mean, I guess, I just I've built my
life here. I live in Buffalo. I'm not from Buffalo,
and I came here eight years ago, and I've like
built my life here, and so it just feels so
I guess, almost wrong to let it go after I
put so much work in to it for a man.
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But then again, it's like like I said, he's kind
of my exception.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
It's so different letting it go. It's still there. I mean,
first of all, Buffalo.
Speaker 8 (30:55):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 4 (30:56):
Again, I get out just very little.
Speaker 8 (31:00):
I lovely too, but it's.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
It's coming from a woman on a farm in the snow.
Is there anyone that can watch your business while your
you go in gallivant around with your guy from Ecuador?
Speaker 8 (31:12):
I mean, not fully yet, just because it's such a
small business. I've been running it pretty much by myself.
But I am going for a month on the nineteenth,
So I'm going to stay there for a month just
to kind of give it a little bit of a
trial run then, I guess, just to see how it
will all work out.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
It's just so, is there anyone in that month that
you can have, like try and run the business for
you while you're gone, just to give someone a test run?
Speaker 8 (31:39):
A woman I haven't like, Yeah, obviously I haven't like
set anyone up to do that yet, So I guess
that would be something that I would I'd probably think
of that doing that before after, like if I go again.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
I know, but just to but to give someone a
trial run would give you a lot more like confidence
in maintaining your business. You go and do this just
in case you need to, Like I understand, giving up
everything that you've built is more of a harder period
to swallow in search of romance. But like if you
go and you go down to Ecuador and live with
this guy, are you guys going to be working together
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down there?
Speaker 7 (32:15):
No?
Speaker 8 (32:15):
I would have to like find probably a remote job
or a job down there where it's English speaking, because
even though dueling go's great, it's just not doing it
for me right now.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Well, you have to be on Are you on a streak?
Are you on to do a lingo streak?
Speaker 9 (32:28):
Oh?
Speaker 8 (32:29):
Yeah, I'm over two hundred days. Like I metam Like,
oh okay.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
Much better than me. What am I talking about, Amanda?
What do you have to say about this?
Speaker 4 (32:39):
Well, listen, yeah, it's no small thing. But I don't
see it as you leave in your life for good forever.
It's not like you have a one way ticket and
you can't come back. It's like you life is so sure,
it's like what are we doing? I mean, if you
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feel something like that, like that you have that kind
of fire in you. This for this experience. It's not
for a guy. It's for the experience of being in
love and like traveling the world. It's it's a big
it's bigger than a guy. So it's like when you
characterize it as leaving your life for a guy, that's
not really what's happening. I mean, I think you trust
yourself in some ways. You're already going for a month.
It's true that you could hire somebody to take care
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of it, or you can shut it down for a
month and see and see how it goes. But I
think you take this opportunity to find someone who's willing
to maybe keep it, keep it alive for you, because
if you also have that connection back to your business
while you're there, as stressful as it could possibly be,
it would still make you feel like you can do both.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
And then you have a little income.
Speaker 4 (33:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
And also when you say yes to life, life says
yes to you. That's just what happens. When you take
big risks, you get big rewards most of the time.
And like you've met this guy, I trust that you're
a sensible person. Just in the short time that you've
been talking, you don't seem unstable or off balance.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
Or in you know.
Speaker 1 (34:02):
And and I loved what Amanda just said. It's bigger
than a guy. It's about being in love and about
the experience of love. It doesn't matter who the person is.
So I think that you really do have to go
down and listen. You're gonna go down for a month
and you're gonna have your answer anyway.
Speaker 8 (34:16):
Yeah, yeah, I would just plan that after I wrote
in So, yeah, I guess that will be a big tell.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (34:24):
There is no better feeling than falling in love. It
is the best feeling.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Yeah, the texting, the flirting, the phone calls. If you're
into phone calls, I'm not, but all of it is
so fun.
Speaker 8 (34:35):
You Yeah, I have to be into phone calls now.
Speaker 1 (34:38):
So yeah, face times that's the yeah what I really
get to me?
Speaker 2 (34:42):
Yeah, time I got.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
I got two face times yesterday. And my new policy
is say yes, answer the call. Answer the call, because
I always just put it to voicemail. I'm like no, no, no,
and I answer both calls. And both of them were
really like great, fun, high vibe, like thirty minute phone calls.
I'm like, I'm glad I did that. I'm going to
to start, you know, doing this more often. It's a
nice way to connect to people.
Speaker 8 (35:04):
Yeah, yeah, I feel better after after the fact.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
Okay, well, go live your life, sister. You're fine, you
don't need us.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
You're gonna have a great time and let us know
what happens after a month and report back to Catherine
so we can stay tuned.
Speaker 8 (35:17):
Okay, yeah, okay, sounds good. Thanks guys.
Speaker 4 (35:20):
All right, and have fun and Ecuador and write about it.
Speaker 8 (35:23):
Yeah right, make sure you're journaling about it, yeah, every day,
Like I'm going to do at least like a couple sentences.
I decided while I'm there, just to kind of keep
track of where my mind's at.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
So yeah, that's a good habit to get into, you know.
All right, thank you, Okay, thanks, take care. Thanks, that's exciting.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
So funny, how I know.
Speaker 5 (35:44):
Sometimes people are like, it's so excited and thrilled for something,
and then they hold themselves back because they're like, do
I really I don't know if it's a deserve this thing,
but it's like should I should?
Speaker 4 (35:53):
I like, yes, you should.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
But people are scared they're gonna because it's like listen,
as a woman, you give up your whole thing, your
business that you built for a man. Like we if
the guy lived here and was like, okay, you have
to I don't want you working, we would say no,
get run as fast as you can away from that guy.
So it is hard as a woman when you've built
something to say like, oh, I'm going to abandon it.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
I understand that.
Speaker 5 (36:15):
I'm glad you encourage her to, like have somebody else
run it while you're while you're gone, so.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
She's got a little give it away.
Speaker 4 (36:21):
Yeah. Also there's airplanes exist, Buffalo will still be there.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
Buffalo to Ecuador, Yeah, I choose it sucks.
Speaker 4 (36:30):
But also can he come here?
Speaker 3 (36:33):
Want to?
Speaker 2 (36:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (36:34):
It doesn't sound like it's a good time for anyone
from Ecuador to be coming here.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
But anyway, Oh, you.
Speaker 4 (36:39):
Know what, sometimes I'm living in the you know.
Speaker 2 (36:47):
In that farm will do it to you. I don't
I don't blame you.
Speaker 3 (36:51):
It's just idelic were well. Our next color is Lindsay.
Speaker 5 (36:55):
She is thirty three, and she says, Dear Chelsea, sorry,
this is long. I I met my fiance Bryden almost
twelve years ago when we were about twenty one, working
at the same restaurant. We quickly started dating. When we
first hooked up, I knew he was a keeper. On
top of that, he's respectful, hilarious, and incredible listener, devoted
to me and lets me know about it every single day.
(37:16):
I genuinely feel that I found one of the good ones.
We're just now embarking on this new adventure of getting married.
The time is now officially here, and I'm freaking out.
My parents' marriage was rough. My dad, a white American,
moved to Indonesia after college to work as an accountant
for an oil company, where my mom, a native Indonesian,
was a secretary. I think they were happily married for
(37:37):
some time, but my dad says he had a midlife
crisis in his early forties and had an affair with
a woman nearly half his age. I don't exactly know
when this crisis started, but it's really all I remember
of their marriage. I never witnessed any affection or kindness
between my parents. In the rare times my dad was home,
we all walked on eggshells. He frequently took so called
business trips, which we eventually realized were excuses to spend
(37:59):
time with his mistress. When he wasn't with her, she
would turn her focus on us, harassing us with relentless
phone calls and public outbursts, causing scenes. Side note, my
mom nicknamed her the Bee since we weren't allowed to curse.
They even had a child together before my parents divorce
was finalized. And these are just some of the many
painful experiences that I can't fully capture in a single email.
(38:21):
When I was eight, my mom finally saved enough of
her own money to flee to the US and access
the protections and writes granted to her under the American
justice system as the spouse of a US citizen. For
whatever reason, my dad and the Bee are still together
to this day, and my dad frankly seems unhappy, if
not miserable. To put it lightly, the Bee is a
nuisance of family gatherings. She's impulsive, acts in appropriately, and
(38:42):
gives irrelevant commentary. She's not the most socially adept person
and could possibly suffer from mental health issues, which I
completely understand and can relate to, but there's no indication
she's sought professional help. Despite this, my siblings and I
have done our best to tolerate the discomfort of being
civil towards her for the sake of our family. Yes,
our dad is arguably a POS, but at least my brother, sister,
(39:04):
and I have an amazing.
Speaker 3 (39:05):
Superhuman mom.
Speaker 5 (39:06):
It's important for me to keep a positive relationship with
my half siblings and offer any guidance or advice if
they ever need it. But this all brings me to
my dilemma. My fiance and I do not want the
Bee at our wedding. So how do we navigate the situation?
Speaker 4 (39:19):
Love?
Speaker 3 (39:19):
Lindsay?
Speaker 1 (39:20):
Oh okay, Hi Lindsay, how are you Hi?
Speaker 2 (39:24):
This is our special guest Amanda Ceipher today.
Speaker 9 (39:27):
Sorry, Hi, nice to see you.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
I'm sorry, that's a really difficult, crappy situation. I'm so
happy that you're getting married though, And just know that,
like you know, our parents don't define us at all.
I couldn't be more opposite than both of my parents.
Sometimes they give you like a roadmap of what not
to do, you know, and so like your marriage will
be completely different than the ones than the one your
parents had, just from the how insightful you are because
(39:53):
of this.
Speaker 2 (39:53):
Now your half siblings are from the Bee?
Speaker 9 (39:56):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (39:56):
And how many are there?
Speaker 9 (39:58):
I have two half siblings and then one step brother
as well that she had from a previous relationship.
Speaker 4 (40:05):
Do they love the Bee?
Speaker 9 (40:08):
Yeah? I think so?
Speaker 4 (40:09):
Ah.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
No, no, no, that's a fair question. So they love her?
And do they know how you feel about her?
Speaker 9 (40:16):
We've never spoken about it directly. I think there's always
some I can tell that they also feel uncomfortable at times,
you know, when she acts out.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
Well, I think like you have to be prepared if
you disinvite her, which you totally have every right to do,
your father is probably gonna not come either. There's a
chance that that happens, right.
Speaker 9 (40:36):
Right, And I actually do have an update. Since I
initially wrote the email, we really needed to get going
on the wedding planning. And honestly, Chelsea, I knew what
you were going to say to me, probably to just
do it, to have a conversation with him, and he
actually was really receptive and agreed to not have her
come to the Balie wedding. He is also still committed
(40:59):
to contribute financially despite that.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
So wow, it's great. Yeah, this is a great update.
Thanks for bringing one.
Speaker 3 (41:08):
Now are your your half siblings? They're all gonna come as.
Speaker 9 (41:11):
Well, or some can't make it just because of other obligations.
But yes that I have extended the invites to them. Yeah.
So right now, it's the holidays and I'm going to
have to face everyone in person pretty soon, including the Bee.
So it is a little bit, you know, nerve wracking.
Speaker 2 (41:32):
But you know what, hold your ground. You made a boundary.
You stood up for what you want at your wedding
on your wedding day. That is the most important. The
most important person on any wedding day is the bride.
Fuck the groom. Okay, so the bride, it's your day.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
You created a boundary, you're self respecting, your self preserving.
All of these things are really strong choices that you've made.
You did this all on your own, so like you're
already a g Like this is all good stuff, and
you can look at her in the eye with dignity
because at least you were upfront and honest about what
you want.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
You know what I mean, and now, and just take
the hot air out of it. There's only tension if
you allow tension to be if there's two people creating tension.
If there's no tension coming from you, she has no
one to have tension with in the first place.
Speaker 9 (42:18):
Totally, totally. Yeah, I hear you, and it's going to
be uncomfortable for me too, but I just have to
deal with it.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
Yeah, you just have to deal with it, and that's okay.
But you know what, you don't have to deal with
her at your wedding, So that's raactly and I'm like,
I'm so so many women are going to be listening
to this and be inspired by you and taking charge
of the situation in the ways that in which you did.
Speaker 2 (42:39):
And also giving hope to other people's fathers.
Speaker 1 (42:41):
Like, I'm so pleased to hear that your dad was
so receptive that he's still contributing financially.
Speaker 2 (42:45):
Your dad is probably miserable in his marriage. He probably is.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
I mean, she sounds, you know, not ideal. So yeah,
so congrats on everything. You already crushed it. You're calling
in basically just doing a victory dance.
Speaker 9 (43:00):
Definitely, No, I mean I still wanted to. I thought
it would still be a good conversation to have with you. Absolutely, yeah,
I'm super excited. Also, Chelsea, you're more than welcome to
join us when Bali.
Speaker 2 (43:12):
Y Yeah, I love Bally. Next August is it in
Ubud or is it on the beach?
Speaker 9 (43:18):
Actually a little bit southeast of Ubud in a city
called Mangus. It's more like old Bali, they say, just
like a little less crowded and less traffic.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
Okay, well, why don't you Catherine follow up with her?
Because if I'm traveling in August, I'll totally swing By.
I love Balie. I need an excuse to go. There'd
be so event I don't know. Listen, I got invited
to a lot of weddings, but I will only go
to someone I just met.
Speaker 9 (43:43):
Oh my god, that would be a dream, I know.
Speaker 1 (43:46):
But don't get your hopes up. I mean, I can't commit,
but you never know. With me, I could show up.
Speaker 9 (43:50):
I could just this conversation is everything, So I love it.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
I love it. Thank you so much for calling in, Lindsay.
Speaker 9 (43:56):
Of course, thank you so much for taking time.
Speaker 7 (43:58):
Great.
Speaker 2 (43:59):
Yeah, this is that's awesome. I hope I make it.
Speaker 3 (44:01):
Yeah, have so much fun, Lindsey.
Speaker 4 (44:03):
Oh my gosh, kay grists.
Speaker 9 (44:05):
Thank you. And can I just say, Chelsea, I've been
following you for a long time. I used to watch
Chelsea Lately every single night, and you know, sometimes we
kind of live in a dark world. So I really
appreciate you for bringing laughter and joy to the world.
Speaker 8 (44:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (44:21):
I love your comedy and what you do, so keep
at it.
Speaker 2 (44:24):
Thank you, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
You know what, Also, Catherine hook her up with two
tickets for next year's tour. Sure, because I'm doing a tour,
the High Mighty Tour we're gonna and I'm sure I'm
coming to a city near you. If I haven't announced
it yet, I'll be announcing more dates. But we're gonna
hook you up with tickets so you can come and
say hi.
Speaker 9 (44:39):
Oh my god, thank you so much. I know you're
coming to Denver and I haven't been able to make
it to one of your shows. I really wanted to
go to the Red Rocks one, but I just couldn't
make it happen. So I really appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
That's okay, we'll make it happen at the Paramount in Denver.
I'm coming there. Yes, absolutely, we're going to make it happen. Okay, fun,
I love it, I love it.
Speaker 4 (44:59):
Thanks, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (45:00):
A fun Okay.
Speaker 7 (45:02):
Bye.
Speaker 4 (45:03):
Oh you're fucking Santa Claus.
Speaker 1 (45:05):
Oh my god, I feel like Santa Claus. It's the
Christmas season, you guys.
Speaker 4 (45:09):
Isn't it nice though, to know that you're gonna be
like in different cities, like if you know specifically where
you're gonna be, and like you can offer that to
people and it's just like and you're giving access with
this with this show, people can call it's just you
also two for two, like some pretty badass women just
called in like uhhh, I'm here for it.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
All Right, we're gonna take a break and we're gonna
come back and wrap.
Speaker 2 (45:35):
Up with Amanda. And we're back with Amanda Ceiphred.
Speaker 1 (45:43):
One of my favorite people I really ever since I
first interviewed it Amanda, it was probably on Chelsea lately
it was I've loved her.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
She is so fucking funny.
Speaker 1 (45:52):
She's weird, and she says things that are inappropriate.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (45:59):
And you're not like an actor actor, even though you're
a great actor, you're you don't take yourself seriously. And
I think that is really the ingredient that makes people
the most likable is when they don't take themselves so seriously.
Speaker 4 (46:13):
Thanks. And it was like like I reached out to
you after the shit a shit storm, recent shit storm,
which I'm not used to, used to operating in a
ship storm, but it happened, and like I reached out
to you.
Speaker 3 (46:25):
I don't know why.
Speaker 4 (46:26):
I felt like you were were similar that we don't
take ourselves very seriously, and you are actually a comedian
and but you actually know your you know your shit,
and it was like it made me feel so much better.
Thanks for for like at least like you're like, you're fine.
I don't know why, you know what I mean, it's
something that you had posted. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (46:45):
No, no, no, I understand.
Speaker 1 (46:47):
But before we close, I just want to ask you,
how did you meet your husband on stage? I mean,
I I did a stage play the last time, the
first and last time I will ever.
Speaker 4 (46:58):
Do that to myself and my psyche.
Speaker 2 (47:02):
Did you know, right?
Speaker 4 (47:03):
Did you?
Speaker 2 (47:03):
What was it like when you, like, when you guys
locked in?
Speaker 4 (47:07):
I mean, I guess it was like a kind of
a long you know, when that happens, like we were
both involved with other people, but like, and I also
didn't know, like I I just assumed he thought I
was a loser, because that's kind of how I, you know,
viewed myself when it came to men. I worked on it.
(47:28):
I no longer feel that way, but thank god. But
I was, you know, like thirty or twenty nine, and
I was in a like a dead end relationship, and
I think that part of me had opened at that
point because I was so done with feeling like shit.
Speaker 2 (47:43):
Because of relationships.
Speaker 4 (47:44):
You mean, I was in relationship where I was completely
just like not seen. But I was also like, ooh,
I want to settle down. You know. I had the
dream of the kids, you know, very early on, but
so I part of me was kind of opened up.
And when I'm when I met him, I was just
like I really liked his voice, and I like the
fact that he like salt and pepper hair. He's only
(48:05):
like nine years older than me, but for some reason,
and he was like a he's a feeder guy, so
he his feet were so solidly on the ground when
it came to that kind of work, and I was
so scared. I was like floating, and I felt like
he kind of in some way figuratively pulled me down
and helped me through and supported me and had this
like unconditional support of me in that new realm that
(48:27):
I was in, and I had this amazing director, Lee Silverman,
and I just felt really safe and seen and it
was a new, wild, new experience that scared me. And
I think when you're really scared and you have someone
who's like here, take my hand, you kind of can't
help but fall in love with something about them, whether
they're a man from a woman, you feel safe. And
(48:47):
I felt safe with him and then the show was over,
he went back to La. My relationship ended, thank god, mercifully,
like immediately even before the show ended. And then we
talked a little bit. But then come January that next year,
he was out of his relationship, and uh, it was
so scary though. It was so scary to commit to
(49:09):
somebody because I was like, I'd been kind of burned
in my last relationship, so committing with him as a
person who was free, like a real because when I
was with him in the show, he wasn't a real
He wasn't an opportunity he was there was no opportunity there.
He was with somebody. I just was like, oh, I
know how this feels. This is where I want. It
doesn't have to be him, but I know how this feels.
(49:31):
And then of course it was so messy that summer,
just like dealing with like the the like ongoing just
like ongoing trauma of a breakup and then talking and
then and then like keeping the break. It was just
like uck. And then I crucheted myself into oblivion here
on the farm because I had already bought the farm
and I was all alone watching Felicity.
Speaker 10 (49:53):
I watched Felicity she's another fan of mine. Car four days,
I watched the entire four scene with four Seasons, and
I was crocheting fucking Christmas stockings. And I had my friend,
my best friend, Peter, who I'm sure you know from
Netflix now he's at Amazon, came to see me and was.
Speaker 4 (50:13):
Like, are you okay out of here? I'm like, I'm
fired of just getting ready for the Christmas season. And
he was October, so I was, I was great. I
was single. I wasn't great, so like that was. And
then going through all that and being alone and being
like out here in the woods with nobody for an
(50:35):
extended period of time. I went back to LA for
Christmas because my sister was out there and we all
went to LA for Christmas, and then like started like
meditating and cause I was just so lost, really like
horrible breakup, extended breakup. And then in January I was like,
I was like meditating with Alan Market like it was
(50:56):
in January. Oh dear, we met up his place in
La Dear, so.
Speaker 2 (51:03):
Many deer you need to take or something? Did you
take your vance today?
Speaker 4 (51:10):
My god, I forgot to take let's oh my god.
Speaker 7 (51:12):
He just reminded me, Okay, you can take it last night.
Speaker 2 (51:18):
Okay, take it, go take it right now.
Speaker 4 (51:21):
You saved my day.
Speaker 2 (51:23):
You don't understand, but anyway, it was great.
Speaker 4 (51:26):
That's how I met him. Long story short, that I
met him.
Speaker 1 (51:30):
What was the moment where you guys decided to be together?
Did you call him or did he call you?
Speaker 7 (51:36):
I berated him because I saw him like a like
like another person's Instagram and I was like, oh, so
you're gonna like like now you're free.
Speaker 4 (51:48):
Like I was an asshole to him and then we
you know, reconnected. But I was an asshole to him
and he understood that. That meant I cared about him, yes,
And I was like, oh you to go live in
fucking sty for claw can't do the accent. I was like,
good luck and he was like, Oh, she really likes
(52:09):
me and she's jealous.
Speaker 2 (52:11):
That's how.
Speaker 1 (52:11):
That's how damaged women show affection is by berating a
man when we're that's how you know we've been bruised.
Speaker 4 (52:18):
But you know what also about damaged women, We can
fucking fix ourselves and then we can be whole again.
Speaker 3 (52:25):
We don't know, we can hold it down.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Once we fix ourselves, we can hold it down. Yeah,
but it's nice that he held you down on the theater.
In the theater during the play, he held you down,
and then you held it down for yourself.
Speaker 2 (52:38):
So there we go.
Speaker 7 (52:39):
Now.
Speaker 4 (52:39):
Yeah, and then like cut two a your litter, he
held me to and I got pregnant.
Speaker 2 (52:47):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (52:48):
On that note, we want you to go take your
lexapro go take it right now, get off this lock,
go take it.
Speaker 4 (52:53):
This never happens. I fell asleep with my son last
night and I forgot to take my meds.
Speaker 2 (52:57):
Your son is a great rapper. By the way, I
loved that video.
Speaker 1 (53:00):
I love you, Amanda. Did you want to say something?
Speaker 4 (53:05):
I love you too. There's always something more to say,
is there. I'm gonna go take my medicine now.
Speaker 2 (53:12):
Okay, bye, honey, you have a great time.
Speaker 4 (53:14):
Love you guys.
Speaker 1 (53:15):
I just announced all my tour dates. That's called the
High and Mighty Tour. I will be touring from February
through June, so go get your tickets now. If you
want good seats and you want to come see me perform,
I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.
Speaker 3 (53:30):
Do you want advice from Chelsea?
Speaker 5 (53:31):
Right into Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com. Find
full video episodes of Dear Chelsea on YouTube by searching
at Dear Chelsea pod.
Speaker 3 (53:40):
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Speaker 5 (53:41):
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