Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch

Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week we’re in a mother-daughter couples session with Carol and Michelle, who have a long history of tension in their relationship. We help them explore the deeper issues underlying Carol’s sense of having done her best for her daughter despite suffering from depression, and Michelle’s sense of not being seen and heard by her mom.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week we’re in session with Nicole, whose parents are getting divorced after nearly 40 years of marriage and is surprised to find that she has a lot of feelings about this, despite being an adult with a husband and kids of her own. We help her to see that her role as the unofficial family mediator is holding her back--and has been for many years.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers! This week we're in session with Diane, who has been struggling with pregnancy loss and infertility as she and her husband try to have a second child. She wonders how to deal with her grief, the envy and guilt she feels about friends' and family's pregnancy announcements, and what it means that she and her husband are dealing with this rollercoaster of emotions so differently.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week we’re in session with Jason, who still carries emotional scars from an alcoholic father who tormented him when he was a child. Now married and with children of his own, Jason is aware that his parents are aging, and wonders how to navigate these relationships while also freeing himself to enjoy the adulthood he worked so hard to create. 

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. Jennifer caught her fiance sending flirtatious messages to his previous girlfriend on Instagram, and feels stuck about how to address this. We help her see how her own narrative about her life is keeping her in the passenger seat and preventing her from taking charge of her decisions. 

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. When Savannah first met her husband, she knew he had a chronic illness but didn't think it would affect their lives as a young couple in love. But soon after she and her husband married, his symptoms got worse, and now she struggles to be both his caregiver and wife. We help Savannah get the support she needs and initiate the hard, honest conversations that she and her husband had both been avoiding.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. Shannon spent her childhood holiday seasons listening to her divorced parents fight about who would get more time with their kids. Now 32 and a year out from her own divorce, she's dreading her first holiday season without her spouse and managing her parents' disappointment if she doesn't travel to their respective homes during COVID. We help her to see the connection between issues in her marriage and her ho...

Hey, Fellow Travelers. After Scott discovered his wife's affair, he wanted to save their marriage and was heartbroken when she wanted a divorce. But months later, much to Scott'ssurprise, his wife asked to come back. Now that they're together again, Scott is struggling to trust her, and we help him to ask the hard questions that he's been afraid to address.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. Danica and her two brothers grew up with parents who weren't very present, leaving the three of them to fend for themselves. But Danica and her older brother could be painfully cruel to their younger brother Blake, and as adults, Blake still feels hurt and excluded. We help Danica to revise her story about their relationship, and to begin the process of healing and repair.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. We’re dipping into our inbox to answer several of your questions this week, but we’re not doing it alone! For this special episode we’re joined by Jay Shetty, host of the On Purpose podcast and author of the New York Times #1 Bestseller “Think Like A Monk.” And because we couldn't resist, Jay also brings us an issue in his own life, tries out our advice, and lets us know how it all went. Consider this speed t...

This week, Molly has always had a critical mother, but even she was shocked when her mom blamed her for her father's recent suicide. We help Molly take the steps to separate truth from fiction and to set boundaries in her life that will free her from her mother's shackles.

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This week, a high school student struggles to manage the pressure to achieve without losing her sense of self. We help her to see that when you have balance in your life, it doesn't make you less productive. It actually makes you function better as a whole, and that this will be even more true as she grows into adulthood.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. Maria doesn't want to interfere in her kids' lives, but when she hears that her son wants to have children but his wife doesn't, she wonders if her son will have regrets later if she doesn't say something now. But what should she say, and how? We help her to see that her fears about her son's lack of a voice in his marriage is something she's familiar with herself, and that acknowledging the unspoken will ope...

Hey, Fellow Travelers. Liam has just come out to his family as a transgender man and begun hormone replacement therapy. His sister is getting married soon and he promised to be her Maid of Honor, and while he no longer feels comfortable wearing a dress, he also doesn't want to make things awkward for his sister and the rest of the family. We discuss his struggle over his gender expression and help him to see that being true to hims...

Hey, Fellow Travelers. In Haley's mind, her sister Jill has always been the "perfect" one. When Jill visits their aging parents, she's like Mary Poppins, bringing sunshine and rainbows and even labeling their antiques. Haley is tired of never measuring up to Jill, but we help her to see that her problem is different from what she believes it to be—and that it's actually her greatest strength.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. It's been two decades since Lenny's daughter cut off contact with him after he and her mother divorced. Lenny has thought about his daughter and the grandchildren he has never met every single day and has tried to make peace with the situation, but his wife Patricia sees his pain and asked for our guidance. She and Lenny join us together as we help them to consider a new approach to Lenny's parental alienatio...

Hey, Fellow Travelers. After seven years of marriage, Elena recently discovered that her husband has been having affairs—plenty of them. They are in couples counseling and he has vowed to change, but this hasn't gone so well. We help her to explore her own reluctance to change, and encourage her to prioritize her own feelings, stop falling prey to manipulation, and take action that will move her forward.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. Jeff's parents have always been critical--making negative comments about everything from his appearance and intelligence to his being "too sensitive"—and as an adult, Jeff has tried not to let these hurtful words get to him. But now that he's a new father, he's worried about the impact that his parents' constant criticism will have on his child. We help him move past his fear of confronting his parents in his...

Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week, a dedicated young teacher deals with the guilt of not being able to connect with her students while being physically separated from them during the pandemic. But it isn’t just her students who are craving connection. We help Allison navigate through her own loss as well.

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